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What to Do When a Girl Pulls Away (and Seems to Lose Interest)
By: Chase Amante (/users/chase-amante) (/users/chase-amante)
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Whether Whet her she's someone someone yo you're u're dang or just one you're one you're tal talking king to, you can go a lile crazy when a girl pulls p ulls away. away. In this guide I'll show yyo ou exactly how to de dea al with this situaon, including: How to understand understand why she pulls away Ways to troubleshoot troubleshoot the root cause A method to halt her pulling away Steps to keep her a her around round a long, long me me Let's begin.
When a girl pulls away, your first insnct will be to chase. Yet chasing only digs the hole deeper. Instead, stop her pulling away – then fix it.
Contents
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Why Did She Pull Away?
Stop Her Pulling Away
Fix Her Pulling Away
Why Did This Girl Pull Away?
Much of the me a woman starts to pull away from you, you may not know why. If you knew why, you could've avoided her pulling away in the first place, right? In fact, there are just a handful of consistent, common reasons women pull away from guys they like. Once you know what these reasons are, you're well on your way to correcng a girl's pull back.
Reasons Women Pull Back There are a handful of reasons women pull back from men they like. To understand them, we'll use the VAC system (value-aainability-compliance).
(you can also use the SAC model from my One Date System (//www.girlschase.com/onedate). However that is tailored to women you aren't yet dang. This guide deals with both women you'd like to date and women you're already together with) When a woman pulls away from you, it is because of one of three things: 1. She
feels like your value (//www.girlschase.com/content/book-ex (//www.girlschase.com/content/book-excerpts-value-and-aracon-and-using-it-girls) cerpts-value-and-aracon-and-using-it-girls) has
dropped and you're not worth her me 2. She
feels like your aainability (//www.girlschase.com/cont (//www.girlschase.com/content/book-ex ent/book-excerpts-being-aainable-women) cerpts-being-aainable-women) has dropped
and she can't have what she wants with you 3. She
feels non-compliant (//www.girlschase.com/co (//www.girlschase.com/content/how-get ntent/how-get-her-say-y -her-say-yes) es) with you, and that's caused her to feel
unaached to you There's also a fourth possible reason: That she has things going on in her life that have drained or depressed her. And these draining, depressive things have caused her to withdraw from her relaonships.
Resources:
Why Women Pull Away. 4 Reasons Why and How to Keep the Aracon! (hps://www.apolloniapon.com/why-womenpull-away-4-reasons-why-and-how-to-k pull-away-4-reasons-wh y-and-how-to-keep-the-aracon/): eep-the-aracon/): a good list of value-based reasons women pull away 4 Reasons Women Pull Away (And How To Keep Them HOOKED (hps://www.yourtango.com/experts/kate-spring/why(hps://www.yourtango.com/experts/kate-spring/whywomen-pull-away-and-how-keep-them-hooked): women-pull-away-and-how-k eep-them-hooked): a review of mostly aainability-based reasons women pull away Depression Traps: Social Withdrawal, Ruminaon, and More (hps://www.webmd.com/depression/featur (hps://www.webmd.com/depression/features/depressiones/depressiontraps-and-pialls): her pulling away won't always be because of you. Social withdraw is a #1 sign of depression, too
Asking Her (If You Can't Figure It Out) You won't always know right away why a woman pulls away. However, there's a simple thing you can do to deduce the reason: ask! The challenge is in how you frame the ask. A lot of the me when women start to pull away, men begin to chase. You do not want to do this. We'll talk about why in Chapter 3. When you ask her why she's pulling away from you, you need to do so in a non-chasey way. Like this for a girl you're not dang yet:
Hey, I noticed you've been kind of cool with me lately. What's going on with that? I really mean it, it , I'm not just asking. Or this for a girl you are dang:
I need to know what's going on with you. You've got to tell me. I know you're upset about something but I don't know what.
She might be annoyed with you. But she sll has ears and she hasn't totally wrien you off altogether yet.
How she responds will tell you a lot, even if she doesn't directly answer (at first): If she's confident and dismissive (confident, chipper voice: “I'm fine! I don't know what you mean”), either you have a value problem or she's so deep dee p in a auto-rejecon uto-rejecon (//www.girlschase.com/content/ (//www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-geng-girls-staying-out secrets-geng-girls-staying-out-auto-autorejecon) she's treang you like you have a value problem If she's angry or rude (angry, bier voice: “Like you actually care”) it's aainability If she's indifferent but busy (neutral voice: “Sorry, I've just been busy”) it's likely compliance (possibly mixed with value or aainability) If she's depressive (red, beaten-down voice: “[sigh] I'm fine. I just haven't had a lot of me lately”) it's likely depression or another mood disorder If she doesn't spell sp ell it out for you at first, don't worry. Oenmes once you've asked, if she didn't immediately answer, she will circle back later and tell you what the issue is. And if she doesn't? Ask again. Want to know how to get her to stop in her tracks and not pull pull away? Then keep reading...
Stop Her Pulling Away
The real aim is to fix a girl pulling away from you, of course, so it stops happening. The ulmate goal is to get the girl back (//www.girlschase.com/content/ulmate-guide-how-get-girl-back). (//www.girlschase.com/content/ulmate-guide-how-get-girl-back). Nevertheless, before you can fix her pulling away, first first you must stop her from f rom pulling away. In this chapter I'll give you a simple strategy you can use to stop a girl who's pulling away. This will give you some much needed breathing room with which to right the ship.
Getting Time to Breathe You need me to breathe with a woman who's pulling pul ling away. You also need to disrupt her pull-away and put her into a more recepve head space. The way you'll do this is with a paerninterrupt . A paern interrupt is something you do that is unexpected .
So unexpected the gears in the other person's brain grind to a halt and she stops and says, "Huh?" What sort of paern interrupts can you use? One I like for women who pull away once I'm already dang them is the blatant dismissal. When a woman pulls away, she does so without stang what she is doing. Typically she is not even fullyconsciou fullyconsciouss of what she's doing. If you one-up her and call her pull-away out in plain language, she will oen freezeinh freezeinhertracks ertracks to evaluate what's going on.
She's not ready for you to push her away... and so, it interrupts her paern.
That looks like this: Her: ...
[some pull-away behavior]
You: Eh,
go ahead. Keep pulling away. Might as well take this whole relationship and throw it in the trash.
This works best with women you're alreadyinarelaonshipwith. Women you're already in a relaonship with are invested enough they aren't ready ready to throw it all away at once (and instead, the pull back is a gradual process -- and they weren't finished yet). By jumping the gun, you rush their decision, which interrupts the paern. Here's one you can use with women you're dang and women women you aren't: The last gasp proposal.
Before you give up, propose one last thing.
You'll call the pull away out here too... yet rather than dismiss the relaonship, you'll propose one last hurrah. One final parng shot (//www.girlschase.com/content/parng-shot). Like so:
Her: ...
[some pull-away behavior]
You: Well,
I know you're pulling away. But I've got one last thing to do with you before you go. Come on.
Then lead her into some suitable acvity for where she's at. For instance, a long-term girlfriend you will probably be able to get to take a 'last gasp' day trip with you to some interesng locale. Then plan to do the next steps in this guide with her there. But a girl you've talked to for 45 minutes in a bar who's pulling away may not even move 10 feet with you if she's sufficiently far gone. So instead of propose a move with he herr, you'll play a lil lile e game with her, like the 3 favorite animals game (hps://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/three-favorite-animals-game-2010.46/).
Resources on pattern interrupts:
What Is A Paern Interrupt? (hps://www.salespreneurship.com/what-is-a-paern-interrupt/): (hps://www.salespreneurship.com/what-is-a-paern-interrupt/): a great overview of 2 types of paern interrupts and why they work.
The NLP Paern Interrupt Explained (hps://www.johnmclauchlan.com/nlp-paern-interrupt-explained-dramac-results(hps://www.johnmclauchlan.com/nlp-paern-interrupt-explained-dramac-resultsbusiness/): a former police officer details using paern interrupts to get accurate informaon in decepve situaons (much like what you'll be dealing with with an unhappy woman!).
A Reprieve, Not a Solution When you use the t he correct paern interrupt, you'll pause a girl from pulling away away.. However,, this pause is temporary However temporary.. It only gives you some space to think. It opens the woman's mind up to discussion and suggeson, but only for a me. Aer a certain window of me, the breathing room your paern interrupt created will close again, and she'll become a lot more resistant to future paern interrupts.
Once that window closes, you'll have a hard me geng it open for another interrupt.
When you use this to buy me, you need to make sure you use that me to fix her pulling away. What can you do to fix it? Read on...
How to Fix Her Pulling Away
Now that you've goen some breathing room with her her,, it's me to fix her pulling away. away. It's me to pull her back, and get her fully back aboard the 'you train'. In this secon, you'll receive the exact steps to follow to fix any 'girl is pulling away' situaon. Follow them, and you stand an excellent chance to make her yours again (and keep her).
Don't Chase Humans are all wired with the same basic psychology: When something we want (be that a colorful ball or a desirable mate) starts to roll away, we reach out to grab it back. If it keeps drawing away, we get up and start to chase cha se it. It's unconscious, unthinking, and more or less automac. Yet when it's a person you're chasing, and she sees you're chasing, what does that make her do? It makes her pull away faster and more. You chase, she runs. You chase harder, she runs faster.
She runs, and you chase. You chase, and she runs.
Resist the urge to chase women. Instead, use the paern interrupt we talked about in the last secon to freezeawo freezeawomanwho'spullingaway manwho'spullingawayinhertracks inhertracks so you can deal with her on even terms. To learn more about chasing and its alternaves, check out these guides... Keeping Your Cool: Don't Chase Women (//www.girlschase.com/content/k (//www.girlschase.com/content/keeping-your-cool-dont eeping-your-cool-dont-chase-women) -chase-women) Why Chasing Women Doesn't Work and Why Persistence Does (//www.girlschase.com/content/why (//www.girlschase.com/content/why-chasing-women-chasing-womendoesn%E2%80%99t-work-and-why-persistence-does) How Long Do Women Pull Away For? Days? Months? Answer Revealed! (hps://www.developaracon.com/how-long(hps://www.developaracon.com/how-longwomen-pull-away-for/)
Address the Root Cause Remember earlier when we discussed the reasons women pull away and how to ask why she's pulling away if you're unsure? Here's where you put that informaon to use. For instance, if your problem is a value problem, you need to focus on showing her you are morevaluable than she realized. Or if your issue is an aainability problem, you need to show her you're a lot more within reach to her than she thought. Check out the resources below for guides on fixing each of the different causes for girls to pull away. Use this guide (//www.girlschase.com/content/pickup-catch-22-ambiguous-value) (//www.girlschase.com/content/pickup-catch-22-ambiguous-value) to fix value problems with a girl you're courng. Use this guide (//www.girlschase.com/content/why-relaonships-f (//www.girlschase.com/content/why-relaonships-fall-apart-part-2-long-term-v all-apart-part-2-long-term-value-unclear) alue-unclear) for value problems in an ongoing romanc relaonship. See this guide for aainability problems (//www.girlschase.com/content/aainability-woes-or-wh (//www.girlschase.com/content/aainability-woes-or-why-girls-who-you-reject y-girls-who-you-reject-you). -you). Or refer to this guide for help with a non-compliant woman (//www.girlschase.com/content/what-if-she-says-no). (//www.girlschase.com/content/what-if-she-says-no).
Make Permanent Tweaks If you don't want to deal with this same girl pulling away again 3 weeks or 3 months from now, you must fix whatever caused her to pull away the first me. For example, if your girlfriend pulls away because she does not feel cherished enough by you, you need to figure out her love language (//www.girlschase.com/content/your-girlfriends-love-language-might-be-diff (//www.girlschase.com/content/your-girlfriends-love-language-might-be-different-your erent-yours). s). Then, once you know it, make it a habit to rounely express affecon to her in the way she understands. It might be different than you, which is why she felt you didn't cherish her even if you do, and why you'll need to form a conscious habit of doing this thing she values every so oen. Or if your wife pulls away because she starts to doubt your value, and you realize she liked you more when you were younger and fier, get back to exercise again. Your body will thank you as well as your wife.
During a courtship, if you fix a reason a girl was pulling away, make a mental note not to do what you did that caused it again... or not to forget what you didn't do that caused it. e.g., if you quit qu it teasing her (//www.girlschase.com/c ( //www.girlschase.com/content/teasing-girl-right-way) ontent/teasing-girl-right-way) and she started to pull away because she needs more arousal, start teasing her again... and don't let up unl she's fallen into bed with you and you're too busy doing physical things to tease. By making permanent tweaks, you 'lock in' the fix, and make it so she won't pull away again.
Give It a Little Time It takes me for a woman to pull away from you. Just the same, it takes me to get her fully back aboard.
Women aren't Jack-in-the-boxes. It takes a moment for their emoons to reset. Don't get flustered if you use the techniques, and you can tell she's thinking, but she isn't her old chipper self yet. If you found the root cause, and you addressed it, and everything's going well again now, she'll come around. Just give it a lile me. Meanwhile, keep moving forward with things t hings as you shou should ld with her. And make those tweaks you made to get her back aboard permanent.
Conclusion Follow this guide, and I hope you'll discover yourself equipped to tackle any girl who's pulling away from you, no maer the root cause. How've you dealt with girls pulling away in the past? Has it been value, aainability, or other issues that caused women to pull away from you? Let me know in the comments. Chase
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