The Tinder Template

The Tinder Template Multiply Your Matches & Meet-Ups Today! By: Masculine Profiles ™ © All Rights Reserved – 9/2014

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The Tinder Template Table of Contents The Tinder Template ............................................................................................................................. 2 The Basics .................................................................................................................................................. 6 What Is Tinder? ....................................................................................................................................... 7 Why You Should Be Using Tinder ..................................................................................................... 9 How to Get Started on Tinder..................................................................................................... 13 Optimizing Your Tinder Profile ...................................................................................................... 14 A “Fake” Facebook .......................................................................................................................... 15 Creating Your Fake Facebook ..................................................................................................... 15 The “Facebook Liking Spree” Hack........................................................................................... 17 The Most Important Part.............................................................................................................. 20 Lust at First Sight ............................................................................................................................ 21 How to Select Which Photos to Use on Tinder .................................................................... 22 The “About” Section ............................................................................................................................ 32 Your Profile Is Complete............................................................................................................... 39 Swipe & Set Up ...................................................................................................................................... 40 How to Swipe .................................................................................................................................... 41 Age Range & Match Radius .......................................................................................................... 41 The Max Match Limit Hack .......................................................................................................... 42 Tinder Messaging ................................................................................................................................. 44 Opening Messages on Tinder...................................................................................................... 45 The Cheat Sheet ............................................................................................................................... 49 Qualifying When You Follow Up................................................................................................ 54 Switching Mediums ............................................................................................................................. 60 An Intro to Texting ......................................................................................................................... 61 Contacting Her Through Calling ................................................................................................ 67 Top 10 Tinder First Date Ideas .................................................................................................. 70

How to Use This Guide While there are numerous ways to skin a cat, this book was created for men who are looking to hook up with chicks on Tinder. This guide is not for: ● Men looking to get dates using Tinder ● Men looking to find a girlfriend on Tinder ● Men looking to find love on Tinder Forget all of that homoerotic bullshit—this book will teach you how to hook up with girls on Tinder. And fast! With this book you will find out how to: ● Get an attractive girl’s attention/attraction quickly. Simply put, your profile needs to be on point and optimized. You need to be matching with hot girls on a consistent basis. Once you have the matches, you need to have a reliable opening message that gets girls into a conversation. ● Get her number as soon as possible.

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Once you have a quick chat with a Tinder gal, you need to get her off the app. Thus, you need to exchange contact information ASAP. ● Get her to meet up, TODAY! You cannot hook up with her quickly if you do not meet up with her. Thus, when you get her number, engage her in a text conversation or phone call as soon as possible. Once you are communicating off the app, push for a meet-up within 24 hours. ● GET LAID within 24 hours of meeting on Tinder—ideally within 2 hours. We are NOT trying to get a date. We are NOT hoping to text a girl endlessly. We are NOT hoping to go on a multitude of dates with any one girl. Ideally, we are using Tinder to get laid TONIGHT!

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The Basics

The Basics: The Tinder Template

What Is Tinder? I’m sure you have already heard of Tinder. You might already be using the app—or maybe not. Either way, in simplified form, Tinder for men is this: I’ve got a penis. You’ve got a vagina. Let’s get drunk and see if there’s any possibility of doing something together that involves my penis and your vagina and/or mouth. I’m flexible when it comes to orifice selection… Tinder is changing the game when it comes to meeting women. It is a relatively new app that is blowing up across the world. It was initially released in the summer of 2012, but did not take off until the end of 2013. Initially, Tinder was created for American students. Now, however, Tinder is available in almost every single country in the world. So what is exactly is Tinder? Put simply, it is a new and exciting way to meet women. The app accesses your Facebook account and uses information such as your location, your interests, and your friends to suggest potential mates in your area— people who you may have a lot in common with. You are then presented with images of the people that Tinder thinks you could be interested in and that are close to where you are. You get to look through photographs the other person posts on Tinder and decide, based on those photographs, whether she gets a “thumbs up” or a “thumbs down.” Basically, whether you would want to hook up with her or not…

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The Basics: The Tinder Template While you are doing this, chicks will be looking at the photographs that you have put on Tinder and determining whether or not they could see themselves hooking up with you. The final outcome is that whenever you “like” some babe and she “likes” you back, Tinder opens up a chat between the two of you. You are then able to chat. The chat or messaging interface is quite similar to Facebook chat, giving you a stress-free environment to message the girl. It is then up to you to decide if or when you want to meet up, and whether the relationship could go any further. The best part about Tinder is how ridiculously easy it is! Tinder does all of the hard work that made traditional dating so exhausting. Tinder eliminates finding out if the girl is attracted to you and gets busy finding out whether you would get along with her. Tinder is simply convenient. In a world where many don’t have time to date or are simply looking for a hookup—or seven—Tinder is the solution!

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Why You Should Be Using Tinder The argument has been made that online dating is not good for men, or society as a whole. There is some to truth to these thoughts. Relying on online dating as the only way to meet women is not what a successful man should be doing. A successful man should be meeting women in all facets of his life. A man should meet women from his social circle, from nights out on the town with his buddies, from his trip to the local supermarket, and online (if he so chooses). A man should use online dating to supplement the ways he meets women in his day-to-day life. Using online dating as the only way to meet girls is not healthy. The above applies to Tinder as well. While Tinder is just an app, it is a form of online dating. With that being said, the benefits of online dating far outweigh the negatives. Here are a few reasons why you need to use Tinder: The Most Attractive Girls: Girls that would never use online dating are on Tinder—and this is the absolute best part of the app. See, normally women who have a variety of “alpha male” dating options in their lives would never use online dating. I’m talking about high-value women who can choose almost any men they want. But these types of women are on Tinder! Tinder is not seen as traditional online dating. Instead, it is socially acceptable. If you are single, chances are you have dabbled with Tinder. And no one judged you for it…

The Basics: The Tinder Template This allows Tinder to attract the hottest women. They know their peers will not judge them for using “online dating.” So attractive women download the app and pursue hooking up with vigor—just like their fugly counterparts. Time: The largest benefit Tinder offers to the single man is convenience. Tinder is the most efficient form of game ever. Think about this: Can you approach 20 attractive chicks in a bar? Maybe, but it’s fairly unlikely. Not only because it would take quite some time to make 20 approaches in a bar in one night, but also because it is hard to find a bar with 20 attractive chicks inside. With Tinder you can line up 20 attractive matches while you take your morning shit. Sure, you probably won’t meet up with all your matches. And yes, your chance of rejection on Tinder is higher—but you easily can compensate for these factors by casting a wider net. Money: Tinder provides the single man with huge financial savings. With Tinder a man could get a woman into his bed without spending any money at all. (While farfetched and rare, this does happen.) The equation is simple: Use Tinder to message girls for free, have them meet up with you at your place, and then proceed to escalate the interaction. No money has to be spent. Although you may want to mix her a strong drink… There are other features that save money too. The main cost savings associated with using Tinder is eliminating the need to go to bars and clubs to meet women. Lining up a Tinder date during your lunch break is free and easy. Meanwhile, a man who hits the bar a couple nights per weekend can easily spend over $100 on covers, drinks, and taxis. Access: Tinder gives men access to women they typically would not meet in their day-to-day lives. A typical male only interacts with a few types of women each week.

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The Basics: The Tinder Template A man may work 40 hours per week and only meet a couple of girls at his workplace. That same man might also go to a few different bars and clubs each weekend. There he only interacts with the type of women that also frequent these types of establishments. Finally, this same man will probably only have a couple of girls in his social circle to chat with. But there are a variety of women out there! Think about all the different types of chicks. There are hipsters, fitness girls, women who are bookworms, party girls, and many more. No man has access to every single type of girl—at least not until he begins to use Tinder… Tinder gives men access to women he may have never had the chance to interact with before: ● The cute black chick that has a thing for accountants… ● That sexy librarian that lusts for musicians… ● The Christian schoolgirl that needs a release outside of her peer group… The list could go on forever. The different types of women you find on Tinder are never ending. Connection: Online dating is one of the easiest ways to build a fast connection with a woman. Studies have shown that online dating leads to a stronger connection on the first date than other forms of dating. See, Tinder gives women a low-pressure channel with which to explore dating. It gives them the opportunity to explore different types of men than they are accustomed to. It also gives them a level of control they don't typically possess in their lives. Thus, because they think they know a lot about you—by looking through your

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The Basics: The Tinder Template photos, your profile, and your online interactions—these women feel connected to you before you even meet up. Ease: Lastly, Tinder is easy. Once a man has his Tinder “game” down, there is no simpler way to meet women. A man can work full-time, hustle on the side with a small business, hit the gym consistently, and still have time to line up multiple dates each week with Tinder. In the cutthroat sexual marketplace, it can’t get much easier than that.

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: The Tinder Template

How to Get Started on Tinder To get started on Tinder, download the app if you have not already. Then, do NOT log in to your account…

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile

Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template

A “Fake” Facebook Before you log in to your Tinder account, you need to create a fake Facebook. While some men may have the perfect photos on their personal Facebook accounts, a majority of men will benefit from creating a fake Facebook account strictly to use on Tinder. See, Tinder does not provide men with many photo-editing options. All Tinder allows you to do is select a photo from your Facebook and then center it. You barely get any cropping options, and certainly no filtering choices. By creating a fake Facebook account, you allow yourself to tinker with your photos until everything is just right. You can upload photos of yourself that may not be on your personal Facebook—that you may not want on your personal Facebook. Your photos are your most important part of your Tinder profile and game. Creating a fake Facebook account gives you the flexibility to ensure that of all your best photos end up on your Tinder profile—not just the ones that happen to be on your personal Facebook account.

Creating Your Fake Facebook To create your fake Facebook account, go to Facebook and click the “Sign Up” button. There are two things to note when creating your fake Facebook: ● First, you want to use your real first name and a fake last name.

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● Second, you want to use an email for this Facebook account that you never use or check. Make sure you are the only person with access to this account. This email account will get blown up with notifications. Once you have signed up for your fake Facebook and verified your email, you are free to begin setting up your fake account. The first thing you will want to do is go to the Tinder Seduction Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/pages/TinderSeduction/1416986031894452). This page will help you add new “friends” to your fake Facebook. *Do not add any photos of yourself until you have completed the next few steps… To use Tinder, you must connect your Tinder profile with a Facebook account that has at least 50 friends. Tinder has determined that if you have less than 50 friends on Facebook, you are a fake or you’re too much of a loser to use Tinder. So the first step in getting your fake Facebook up and running is to get 50 friends. This is where the Tinder Seduction page comes into play. While logged into your fake Facebook account with zero photos posted, “Like” the Tinder Seduction page. Once you “Like” the page, go to the section of the page where you can “Post” comments. You should see numerous people posting there, asking people to add or “friend” them. These people are all doing the exact same thing you are. Quickly type something into the Posts/Comments section like, “Add for add!” Then scroll through all the people who have posted in that section of the page in the last few days. Open their profiles in new tabs and send them all friend requests.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template After 12–24 hours, you should have at least 50 new “Friends” on your fake Facebook. Once you do, you are almost ready to add your photos. But not yet…

The “Facebook Liking Spree” Hack Before you add photos, you are going to want to go on a “Liking” spree on your new Facebook account. We do this because girls use Tinder differently than guys do. With us it’s purely physical—especially on Tinder. If we see a girl we would bang, she gets a “Swipe Right,” plain and simple. But most girls actually read your profile and look through all your pictures. Weird, I know. But you need to remember… Tinder is a place where the comfort aspect of the game is almost always forgotten. If a girl finds herself highly physically attracted to a man’s photos on Tinder, she may desire to know a bit more about him. She may want to feel comfortable before she meets up with you. This is certainly not every girl. Many women on Tinder are doing the exact same thing as us guys. Still… These girls who desire a certain amount of comfort—the same girls that read your profile—also check to see if you have any common “Interests.” This is their way of creating comfort with you.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template When they look at your commonalities, the only “Interests” that are shown to her are the commonalities you two have both “Liked” on Facebook. She has no idea about your interests outside of the commonalities that the two of you share. Use this to your advantage! Sometimes the difference between getting the ever-coveted “Swipe Right” and getting the axe is your commonalities. Comfort game for the win! Now this is actually pretty rare, due to the superficiality of Tinder—but it does happen. But this doesn’t mean you go around “Liking” every single thing you see on Facebook. No, there is a strategy to this… When you go on your “Liking” spree on your fake Facebook, think of the random things hot girls “Like” on Facebook and in real life. Then begin “Liking” these same types of things. The only things you want to avoid “Liking” are things that may cause a girl to question if you’re a closeted homosexual. Sports, sporting teams, musicians, movies, animals (dogs!), foods, etc. are all great things to like—especially anything that is local. Next, begin “Liking” any and every restaurant, bar, and coffee shop within 5–10 minutes of your place. This is the most important part because you can easily transition into setting up a date near your place if she also “Likes” one of these places. Then, “Like” all of your favorite bars and clubs in your city.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template Next, “Like” every single place you have ever traveled. Finally, “Like” anywhere in the world you would like to travel. This should set you up to have some type of commonality with a majority of the women on Tinder. While not a huge deal, it’s the little things that count. Before you upload any photos to your fake Facebook account, you need to educate yourself on selecting the best photos for your Tinder profile…

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template

The Most Important Part On Tinder, your photos are by far the single most important aspect of your profile. If you do not have compelling photos, you will get zero attractive matches. Now I am not going to sit here and tell you that there is an exact method and order to selecting your photos on Tinder. There is not. You’re most attractive photo will probably be a completely different style of photo than my most attractive photo. While there is no single formula for determining the perfect Tinder photo, there are a few guidelines. The best photos for your Tinder profile communicate the following to girls: ● In shape/athletic ● Fun loving/social man ● Cleans up well At this point you should have some type of understanding of the importance of using your best photos on Tinder. And while your photos are the most important part of your profile, they are trumped by one thing on Tinder…

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template

Lust at First Sight While the combination of all your photos on Tinder is the most important aspect of your Tinder “game,” your initial profile picture is absolutely vital to getting any matches. When a girl initially sees your Tinder profile, the only thing see will see is your first picture. If she is not physically attracted to your first picture—or at least intrigued— she will not even look at your other photos, much less “Swipe Right” on you. Women experience “lust at first sight” just like we do. If she is not physically attracted your first picture, you will not get what you want from her. Thus, the first and most important hurdle in the Tinder game is your first picture. Selecting Your First Picture There are no absolute guidelines when selecting the first photo for your Tinder profile. This is because the absolute best first impression of you through a photograph will be completely unique to you. Your style, swagger, physique, posture, surroundings, and many other aspects all determine if you look great in a photograph or if it is a dud. There is no best answer here… What I can do is give you a few minor guidelines, then show you examples of some of the best photo types to use on Tinder. First, when selecting your first picture for Tinder, you want to make sure the photo is only of you. You can do this by selecting a photo of yourself where you are alone or by cropping a photo. Never use a group photo as your first picture!

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template

*Bonus points if you crop a hot girl out of the picture, but you can still kind of tell she is attractive because you keep a tiny sliver of her in the shot. Your first picture should be from the waist or shoulders up. You should not show your full body from head-to-toe in your first picture on Tinder. Also, your first picture should a high quality photo, but should not look like a professional photographer staged it. You may have a photo in mind to use as your first picture on Tinder already. Or you may be looking for a bit more specific advice… Either way, below will help to clarify some of the best types of pictures to use on Tinder.

How to Select Which Photos to Use on Tinder Meeting single women on Tinder can take a little skill, but it is not complicated. With little to no introduction, a women will decide whether a man is worth her time or not—and your photos are the single biggest indicator of what she chooses. At the end of the day, your pictures will be doing the legwork for you. Two more keys with your photos: ● You need a minimum of three photos on your profile. I’ve found the sweet spot to be 3–5 photos, although I’ve occasionally had 6 photos on my Tinder profile.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template ● Also, make sure to diversify your funds. Don’t have three of the same photo types. One face selfie is great. Five of them makes you look like a narcissist with no friends. Just make sure to have a few different types of photos. Examples of the Best Types of Photos to Use on Tinder The Selfie: Yes I said it: a selfie. Specifically, a selfie that shows off your face. Tinder is a dating app where people choose if they are attracted to you strictly through your photos. Women typically rank facial features as the number one physical trait they are attracted to in a man. Thus, women want to see what your face looks like right off the bat. One of the best ways to do that is with a selfie. No matter how anti-selfie you are, you probably have one where you look good. Don’t be afraid to throw it on Tinder. A selfie that highlights your facial features can be a great first picture for men on Tinder. The “Man’s Best Friend” Photo: A photo with a cute puppy may be the absolute best picture to use on Tinder. While I have accepted this as fact, it makes absolutely no sense to me. Which makes sense, as these hoes make no sense… In short, a picture with a dog is a huge hit on Tinder. Seriously, these girls love puppies. If you have a decent picture with a puppy, use it. Also, if your facial features look good in this photo with a puppy, then this would be the best photo for your first picture.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template The “This Is What I Do” Photo: It’s never bad to throw a picture of you doing what you love to do on your profile. If you have a picture of you doing a favorite hobby or activity, throw it in your profile. Well, unless you love to run marathons or play videos games. Don’t put a picture of you running a marathon or playing video games—they are like anti-poon. The best types of photos featuring you doing something you love to do are typically athletic. These could be a photo of you surfing, playing basketball, lifting weights, etc. These photos are also a great way to show off your physique. If you have six-pack abs or are jacked, use a photo that shows off your body while you are doing something. Straight flexing mirror selfies are not a big hit on Tinder. A photo that shows off your physique (if you are in good shape) while doing something can be a great first picture on Tinder if your facial features are also prominent. The Smiler: Yeah, dating is supposed to be fun. Weird, right? So show some emotion in your pictures—these are not prison photos! Smile and look genuinely happy in at least a few of your pictures. What kind of girl wants to get to know, let alone date, a guy who looks depressed or emotionless? Please keep in mind: A smile or looking happy does not mean duck faces. These sorts of faces make men look immature and ridiculous.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template While a smiling photo or two are great, I would personally avoid them for your profile picture unless your physique looks incredible in the photo or you just have a great fucking smile. The Outdoorsman: Another great photo option for men on Tinder is to use a photo that features you in the outdoors. Women love to date men with a sense of adventure. Women love men who enjoy and appreciate the great outdoors. This could be a photo of you fishing, surfing, hiking, on the beach, at the lake, etc. There are thousands of different ways to enjoy the great outdoors. You can also use an outdoorsy photo to show off your physique. One important rule with outdoor photos is to never have a gun, an animal you killed, or a fish you caught in your hand. All these photo types are played out on Tinder. The Suit: This is where the “cleans up well” guideline comes into play. If you have a picture in a suit, use it. Chicks dig suits! Just make sure the suit is well fitting and stylish. Chicks love a man in suit, but not if the suit is hideous and/or does not fit you well. A photo of you dressed up in a blazer or a vest can work just as well on Tinder. The goal of the photo is to show your sophisticated side, all the while telling her you look great when dressed to the nines.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template Suit pictures can be good as your first picture on Tinder. While a suit picture is not my favorite first picture on Tinder, some men only look their absolute best in a suit. This all comes down to you. Final Thoughts on Photos Some men are at their peak in suits, while other men look better with their shirts off, standing on a surfboard. Some men have a perfect smile (shit-eating grins drive the ladies wild), while other men look better gazing off into the distance and exuding a mysterious vibe. The best photo of you for your Tinder first picture comes down to you! One key to remember: It is a lot harder to choose a “best” photo of yourself then to pick the best photo of someone else. If you struggle picking the best photo of yourself, ask an honest friend (maybe a girl, depending if you trust her judgment) and see what he or she thinks about your photo selections. Once You’ve Selected Your Photos After reading the previous chapter, you should have an understanding of what photos you should use on Tinder. Log in to your fake Facebook account on your computer and upload final versions of the 3–6 photos you have selected for your Tinder profile. Make sure these photos are cropped and edited exactly how you want them to be. Once you have the photos uploaded, keep them public for a few minutes. Then open your Tinder app and sign into Tinder with your fake Facebook account login information.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template Once logged in to the Tinder app, head over to edit your profile area. Select the 3–6 photos you placed on your fake Facebook page. Arrange the photos as you see fit. Then scroll through them after you exit out of “edit” mode on Tinder. Make sure you like the flow of your photo choices. Now head back to your computer and move the photos you uploaded on your fake Facebook account to private. Double check to make sure nothing shows up on your fake Facebook wall or in your “Newsfeed.” We want to remain as anonymous as possible. Head back to the Tinder app on your phone. Your photos should still be displaying normally. Once the photos are on Tinder, the app does not continue to verify your photos are public. If you try to edit these photos, you will find that your photos do not show up in the Tinder app anymore, as they are private on your fake Facebook account. Congrats! Your photos are all set up now. A Photo Hack for Ugly Dudes Over 80% of men can look very attractive in their online dating photos by learning to select the right photos and poses. Still, some men cannot come off as attractive in photos no matter what they do. And some men are just plain greedy. Deep down you know if you are not that attractive looking of a dude. One of the great things about being a man is the fact that our looks are not the only thing that can arouse a woman.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template If you are not a great looking guy, you know you need to leverage other things to attract the highest caliber of women. And what is the one trait that average looking to hideous men have been using for years to get laid…? Humor! Girls love to laugh and be entertained. While being a clown is never a good move, making a girl laugh certainly can get her naked. But how do we make her laugh with our photos on Tinder? Just like every man who has ever gotten laid does…through manipulation! The easiest way for ugly men to come across as attractive on Tinder is to tell a humorous story through their manipulated photos. And the best way to do that is by using Snapchat. See, all these hoes use Snapchat all day, every day. A majority of them could be considered Snapchat addicts. Let’s be honest here, snapping can be pretty fun… Snapchat Photo Game for Tinder First, if you decide to use this photo hack, you must create a fake Facebook like I have previously suggested. Then you can upload these Snapchat photos to your fake Facebook using the method from earlier. This photo hack works on Tinder because you are able to convey exactly what you want to with each picture. The girl does not have to guess what you are trying to show her, because you are not only showing her, but also telling her with your words.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template A picture may be worth a 1000 words, but a picture with words is worth more! Memes are popular for a reason… The added value comes in the ability to make a girl laugh through the words in your photos. You are telling her a “story” to make her laugh… Here’s how you do it: Quickly think of 4–6 snaps you could take. Then think of a way to create a humorous story around the photos. Write short, humorous snippets of the story on each photo. And that’s about it. Here’s an example to further clarify Snapchat game on Tinder: Picture 1 – Funny Image/Suited Up/Random Remember, you can draw and color in Snapchat. The whole point of this is to add text to your photos. The first photo should be of you either doing something funny or you dressed to the absolute nines. Even if you are an ugly dude, pick a picture where you look the best you can. Then you are going to add text. For example, if you picked a picture of yourself downing a shot, you could simply write, “Cheers!” If you choose a picture of you dressed up, you could write, “He cleans up nicely,” on the image.

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Optimizing Your Tinder Profile: The Tinder Template An example of a random photo would be a tall man using his absolute best photo with the text “He’s taller than you” on the photos. The key here would be that the man needs to be smiling so as not to come off as a douchebag. Picture 2 – An Active Photo You could be doing something outdoorsy. You could be lifting weights. You could be playing a sport. You just need to be doing an activity. Well, doing an activity and looking as attractive as possible. Once you select the photo you want, simply type the text, “He’s great at (insert activity your doing here)” or “He loves to (insert activity your doing here)” on the photo in Snapchat. Picture 3 – The Classy Ho Photo Take a picture of you with some decent food and a bottle of wine in your home. You do not need to be dressed up. Next, you simply type, “Is an awesome chef,” on the photo. Picture 4 – The Not-So-Classy Ho Photo Take a picture of yourself with some burnt food, Raman noodles, or even a frozen pizza. It is best to have a somewhat perplexed look on your face during this photo. Next, you simply type, “Well, occasionally…” on the photo. Pic 5 – Picture of You Having a Good Time You could be with friends. You could be drinking. You could be lying on a raft in the pool. You just need to look like you are having fun.

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Next, all you type is, “So if you are looking for a fun time…” You can throw in emojis of you doing your favorite activities if you want here. Of course, this depends on your age and if you are an emoji-using type of dude.

And that’s it… The above is simply an example of using Snapchat to hack your Tinder photos. I believe this technique is best suited for men who are not classically good looking. You are looking to tell a story with your photos while possibly making the girl laugh in the process. Again, this is just an example. You should create your own storyline to follow when using the Snapchat hack. Taking this approach to your Tinder photos also shows that you are not taking the app too seriously, while simultaneously helping you stand out from the crowd! If your photos blow, you need to give this Tinder photo hack a shot! *Pro Tip: If you begin to run out of matches in your area and want to get back in the action, simply switch all of your photos. This will put you back in the swiping mix for many new girls.

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The “About” Section: The Tinder Template

The “About” Section Some men consider the Tinder “About” section to be optional. Some men fill this section out, while some do not. Unless you look like a male model, you need to fill out your “About” section. While photos are certainly the most important part of your Tinder profile, if a girl is on the fence about your photos, the “About” section can get you over the hump. The key to the “About” section is to come off as normal without being boring. Humor is a plus as well, as long as you avoid coming off as a creeper. The “About” should be short, but give a brief and entertaining description of your life. Discussion of where you work/go to school, your goals, and your hobbies are fine. The “About” section is important for men who have gotten their Tinder pictures up to par and are still finding it difficult to attract and get matches. Many men just do not know how to start an “About” and end up turning women off instead of turning them on. Below are a few guidelines and examples to help you create the best “About” section you can. The Good News If a girl takes the time to read your “About” section, then she is intrigued by you to some extent. She may already be enthralled by your photo and is reading your “About” to make sure you’re a normal guy. Or she may be on the fence about whether or not she finds you attractive.

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The “About” Section: The Tinder Template

The Goal of the “About” Section The only reason you fill out your “About” section is to get more matches, more replies to your messages, and more girls messaging you first. The only other benefit to your “About” section is that it can serve as fodder when engaging in messaging conversations with girls. The best way to accomplish your goals using the “About” section is by creating a funny fact about yourself. Learning by Example Instead of elaborating too much on the “About” section, I am going to give you a brief “how-to” and then different examples of each aspect of your profile. Here are some good examples of a brief synopsis of who you are, followed by examples of funny facts and then examples of full “About” sections. *One item to note is that your “About” section should be short, sweet, and to the point. You should never, ever use over 200 words in your “About” section. Fewer than 50 words is preferable, but I know some of you creative fuckers are long-winded.

How to Write a Brief Synopsis of Who You Are ● Keep it simple: These chicks just want to see a bit of normalcy and humor in your profile. Nothing crazy is needed. Simply put in a bit about yourself. Avoid anything too quirky or corny. Quotes are also a big no-no unless done properly.

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● Displaying stability: Enjoying alcohol or partying is fine, but writing about liking to party and your drinking habits is lame. Most women desire a man who is not only stable, but also somewhat interesting. Nothing says I’m a fucking loser like your only hobby being drinking on the weekends. Men can write about their job or where they go to school, but only with brevity. ● Discuss hobbies and interests: You do not need to be too descriptive in your Tinder bio. There is nothing wrong with being a huge fan of the sushi place down the street, but chances are most women will have no clue where that is. Be broad when writing your profile. Instead of writing about that specific sushi place, a man could write about his affinity for sushi everywhere. This is much broader and chances are more women will be able to relate to loving sushi than loving one specific restaurant. A simple way to get this point across is “Sushi addict” or “Sushi is my favorite food group.”

Examples of “About” Section Synopsis Here are a few examples to clarify things for you: “London-based, 6'2", former professional athlete. Swedish. In Chicago for the weekend.”

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“Former pro MMA fighter in both Brazilian Jiu-jitsu and Thai boxing. Just recently moved to LA.” “6'5", something like an athletic accountant with a slight alcohol problem.” “Collector of moments, not things. Lover of adventure, sushi, and wine.” “Manhattan, Med School, Dog Lover.” “New York-based graphic designer. Surfing and traveling addict.” “Graphic designer. Yoga enthusiast. Sushi is my favorite food group.” “The least flexible guy in the yoga studio, but my downward dog is top-notch.” A few things to take note of in these examples: If you are above 6'2", it behooves you to list your height. Telling girls about your athletic prowess in a non-douche way is beneficial. Briefly describing your job is also good. Talk of relocation or travel sparks a girl’s curiosity. There are very small blocks of text here. Periods. Commas. Dashes. Break things up for these girls. They do not want to read a full paragraph. Using these examples as guidelines, any man should be able to come up with a brief synopsis that attractively portrays who he is. *If you are struggling to describe yourself, try this exercise: When you wake up in the morning, spend 15 minutes writing about yourself. You can write in a serious manner, a funny manner, whatever. Do this for a week. Then compile what you have written

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The “About” Section: The Tinder Template and see if you can select a sentence or two for your profile. You’ll find you’re the most creative right when you wake up in the morning. Brain fog is beneficial. A synopsis of your life can be all that you need in your Tinder “About” section. However, you can increase the response rate to your messages and the percentage of girls who message you first by using the methods below. Throwing a Funny Fact Into Your Profile Throwing a funny fact into your profile is a great way to get more matches, more responses, and more girls messaging you first. The key to using funny facts in your profile is to avoid coming off like a creeper. Instead of lecturing you on the in’s and out’s of the funny fact game, I am just going to show you some examples: “Professional pillow fighter.” “Ranked 4th in the world for thumb wrestling.” “Shakira told me my hips don’t lie.” “Runner-up at the world championship of snuggling.” “Naked & Afraid occasionally constitutes as foreplay for me.” “I’m a virgin.” “World champion of warm smiles.” “I typically Tinder on the toilet.”

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The “About” Section: The Tinder Template

These funny facts are supposed to be humorous and kind of weird. The best topics/activities to use are pillow fighting, thumb wrestling, snuggling, and petting dogs. When coming up with your own, think along those lines. Do not sexualize these any more than they already are. Anything past this level of sexualization will come off as creepy in your profile. Along these lines, only use the “I’m a virgin” line if you are not a virgin. Make sure you look like a sexually active male—bordering on douchebaggery—if you decide to test it out. In addition, the best way to start these is by stating you are either a professional or “ranked.” Examples:

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Professional thumb wrestler.

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Professional dog petter.

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Professional snuggler. Or

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Ranked 7th in the world for dog petting.

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Ranked 3rd in the world for pillow fighting.

By inserting a funny fact into your profile, you make girls laugh while giving them something to talk about—whether it be in the conversation you have or when she messages you out of the blue because you’re such a fucking stud muffin! Completed Tinder “About” Sections When you put these two aspects of your Tinder profile together, your “About” section is completed. Here are a few examples of great completed “About” sections. Make sure to keep the punctuation and spacing the same, but use your own quotes:

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“Collector of moments, not things. Lover of adventure, sushi, and wine. Professional pillow fighter.” “Former pro MMA fighter in both Brazilian Jiu-jitsu and Thai boxing. Just recently moved to LA. Shakira told me my hips don’t lie.” “Manhattan, Med School, Dog Lover. Ranked 4th in the world for thumb wrestling.” These examples all make for great Tinder “About” sections. You give the girl a glimpse of what you are about, combined with something that may make her laugh or cause her to message you first. Make sure to avoid copying anything in this chapter. Take bits and pieces of the examples, but focus on creating your own “About” section—something that is congruent with who you are as a person. Just follow the guidelines above and you’ll be set.

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Your Profile Is Complete Now that every aspect of your Tinder profile is complete, it’s time to start interacting with the ladies. One thing to keep in mind with regards to your Tinder profile is to always be experimenting. You need to be continually experimenting with your photos and bio until you have optimized your Tinder game to its fullest. Find out what works best for you—then find something that works better.

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Swipe & Set Up: The Tinder Template

Swipe & Set Up

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Swipe & Set Up: The Tinder Template

How to Swipe When swiping girls on Tinder, you need to have a strategy—and that strategy should be simple. You want to maximize your time when swiping through potential matches on Tinder. We use Tinder to line up dates in the fastest way possible. We do not use Tinder to mentally masturbate about the 6 different pictures your dream girl decided to throw on her profile. Don’t waste time deciding if you are going to swipe right or swipe left. Don’t waste time looking at a girl’s pictures. There is a decent chance this girl will not even swipe back at you, so why would you invest any time into looking at her pictures? The Tinder Template Endorses #TeamSwipeRight On Tinder, you should swipe right on every single girl you come across. This is the quickest possible way to swipe and gives you the most bangs for your Tinder buck. You’ll end up with more matches this way. Then you can go back and unmatch with any of the chicks you are not attracted too. No harm, no foul—just efficiency. * You’ll also find that girls just barely outside of your message-first radius will end up messaging you first. While this will be irrelevant to you in bountiful times, these opportunities matter when you’re in a dry spell.

Age Range & Match Radius Depending on your personal preference, you can set your age range and match radius to suit your needs. You’ll want to set your age range and match radius in a flexible manner, as it is something you set up and then forget about.

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Swipe & Set Up: The Tinder Template

As for age range, set it to your personal tastes. In huge cities, you can be as precise as you can about the age of your ideal woman. In second- and third-tier cities, you’ll want to broaden your horizons. Personally, I usually set my age radius between 18–50 unless I am in a huge metropolitan area like NYC, LA, or Chicago. This is the widest age range Tinder allows. Whatever age range you choose, the game preached in this book will work for you. Now, match radius is a whole different ball game. Depending on your situation, you will select the match radius that works best for you. In a huge city, you will have better luck with a smaller match radius. In a rural area, you will want to widen your match radius as far as possible to give yourself the most match opportunities. If you are confused about how to set your match radius, a general rule of thumb is to use 20 miles as your starting point. Then add 4 miles for every point you are below an “8” (in a classically good-looking male type of way). If you are a “6” man, then a match radius of 28 should work well for you.

The Max Match Limit Hack While we want to “Swipe Right” on every girl, you can only engage with so many girls at one time. Thus, when you find 10 matches on Tinder that you are highly attracted to and want to talk with, stop swiping until you have exhausted all possibilities with them. You do not want to burn through all the girls in your area and end up with 200 hot matches, when practically speaking you can only interact with 10 or so of them.

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Swipe & Set Up: The Tinder Template

Use Tinder in batches. Get 10 hot matches and begin messaging with them. Try to meet up with as many of these chicks as possible. Once you have exhausted your options with those 10 matches, get another 10 and start the process again. Tinder matches are only good when they are fresh… Tinder matches go stale if you let them sit too long in your queue. As mother would say, “Don’t be wasteful! There are starving kids in Africa who would kill to get what you leave on your plate each night!” Or maybe more like… “Don’t be wasteful! There are thirsty simps worldwide who would kill to bang one of those unmessaged matches on your Tinder!” Of course, my mother wouldn’t say that…

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Tinder Messaging: The Tinder Template

Tinder Messaging

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Tinder Messaging: The Tinder Template

Opening Messages on Tinder You might have a lot of matches, but do you know what to do with them? Tinder can be confusing, and not knowing how to proceed after you get a match is normal. The key is to take advantage of the situation right away. The first thing you need to do is turn on Tinder notifications on your phone. You’ll want to know when a girl matches with you. If possible, you want to send her a message exactly 5 minutes after you match. This shows her you are not sitting by your phone on Tinder all day, but ensures that your message reaches her while she is still active. If you cannot get to her quickly, it’s no big deal. Simply wait until you have your 10 new matches and spam away! Always remember: Tinder moves fast. These women find a multitude of guys to chat with, so you need to make your move quickly. Rather than wasting precious time thinking of the perfect opening messages to send to that smokeshow you just matched with, this section will do it for you. Here are some ideas and tips about what opening messages on Tinder should look like. We have also included a list of the absolute best opening messages to use on Tinder!

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Tinder Messaging: The Tinder Template The last thing to keep in mind is to not get too hung up on the opening message. There is no set of magical words that will get any girl to sleep with you from the first message. So just chill and enjoy the process. Keep It Simple: It may seem obvious, but many men really do over-think something that does not need to be overthought. You could try a simple: Hey my name is John. It’s nice to “meet” you. This is an ok way to open the girl on Tinder. This type of introduction gives the girl a sense of genuineness and can make her feel like the man is trying to get to know her rather than rushing into a hookup. Girls will typically continue messaging back and forth with these types of openers, so it is a good way to get a girl chatting with you. The Humorous Opening: Men looking to meet women on Tinder can use humor when it comes to conversation openers. The best thing to do is use their interests as a way to introduce humor. For example, if the woman’s interests show she likes a sports team a lot, you could open her like this: Hey you seem cool, but the Heat…really?! This is humorous and will likely get a response from the girl. The key is to not call her out on something she could get offended by, like her religion: Hey you seem cool, but you’re a Jew…really?!

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Tinder Messaging: The Tinder Template That is not going to work. You will offend her and she will most likely not reply. Stick to subjects that are not controversial and you should be good. The “Down for Hookup” Opening: Many guys get the idea that they can simply ask a girl if she is down to hook up from the start. Regardless of how hard it is to believe, most girls are that not easy and won’t hook up with a guy off the first message. Typically, if a guy were to ask for a hookup right off the bat, the girl would just block him. The best advice I can give you here is just do not do it. It is possible to get a phone number or even possibly a date within a few messages, but no way will a girl be that easy right off the bat—unless you are a male model with large muscles. If you insist on using a “hooking up” opening message, here is one I have had limited success with: Why haven’t we had sex yet? While this approach is decent, there are much better ways to open a girl you just matched with on Tinder. Here are the absolute best Tinder opening messages: ● Hey hey. ● Oh hey Lauren. ● Hey I’m new in town. ● Heyy what’s up? Dang! You are cute!

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● Cute pics… What are you up to? ● You seem cool. What are you up to? ● Serious question…how good of a cook are you? ● I would soo steal your dog and never talk to you again… ● Oh boy…
 You look like trouble! (or simply: “You look like trouble!”) ● Whoaaa you’re almost as attractive as me. ● Sweet baby Jesus! Tell your parents good job ;) ● Sweet baby Jesus! You are stunning. Tell your parents good job lol. ● Clearly you have great taste lol what’s up? ● Looks like we both at least have one good thing going for us…great taste ha. ● We like each other’s faces. Let’s do something about it. ● Serious question: Would you rather give up coffee or orgasms? ● Are you one of those girls who takes forever to do her hair and makeup, or does it just look that way? ● I’m not sure how the Tinder dating protocol works so I’m assuming this is the part where I say, “So where are you from? What do you do? What’s your favorite color?”

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● Should we start the quiz of interview questions to get to know each other so one day we can meet in person? Soooo, what’s your favorite color? Where are you from? And what do you do? ;) ● Are you into guys who are tall, dark, and handsome? / Are you into guys who are handsome, athletic, and charming? / Are you into guys who are intelligent, sexy, and funny? Some of these openers are situational. Some will work better for some men, while others will work better for different men. You have to experiment to find out which opener works best for you! While using these copy and paste openers for Tinder is the best way to save time and optimize your Tinder game, there are other ways to open girls on Tinder. Instead of copying and pasting one of the above, you can play off a profile or use moments to open a girl.

The Cheat Sheet For me, the best aspect of Tinder is the amount of time you can save—yet the only way you save time is by optimizing your Tinder game for efficiency. You will never be efficient at using Tinder if you type paragraphs to every girl you find attractive. Typing can be time consuming. In order to maximize your time while using Tinder, you must create a cheat sheet. To begin, open an app on your smartphone that you can take notes in.

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Tinder Messaging: The Tinder Template Instead of searching through old messages you’ve sent, searching online for an opener you want to use, or trying to remember the exact wording of an opener you want to send, you want to have any potential opening message easily accessible to you. You need to have everything in one place. Thus, when you want to message a girl you just open your cheat sheet, then copy and paste—making minor edits if necessary. To create this cheat sheet, here is what you do: Whenever you find an opening message that you could see yourself wanting to use in the future, copy it into your cheat sheet on your computer and/or smartphone. Start by looking through the opening messages listed above. Select 5–10 you like and that you think might work for you. Next, when you decide to message one of your matches, quickly open up your cheat sheet and copy the message of your choice. Next, flip back to Tinder and paste the message to your match. Modify the message if necessary and then press send. This will save you hours and hours of time by eliminating the need to type openers or search for openers. You can also have many other types of messages saved on your cheat sheet. I typically have a multitude of gambits saved on my cheat sheet, including: ● Opening messages ● Follow-up messaging sequences ● Number close messages ● Text messages

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● Restart texts While your cheat sheet may not be as evolved as mine at the start, you will certainly save yourself a decent amount of time by simply avoiding typing out opening messages. Tinder “Moments” Game In June 2014, Tinder decided to update it’s dating app. In doing so, Tinder introduced a new feature called “Moment.” At first this feature seemed like a bootleg version of Snapchat. But, “Moments” is a fucking goldmine, gentlemen! Let me explain: “Moments” is basically Tinder’s version of Snapchat. You can post pictures of whatever you like. You can place text on then, or do whatever you please to the photo. Then the photo expires in 24 hours. No one can see it anymore. You are probably thinking “Who gives a flying fuck?” and I get that. I initially thought the same thing too… Then I came to realize that no dudes are spamming out “Moments” on Tinder. None. Seriously, I bet maybe 1 in every 25 or so men is utilizing the “Moments” feature in his Tinder game. And girls love it! So here is how to optimize your success using the “Moments” feature: First, you need to post cool “Moments” on the regular. And not just at anytime. When you upload “Moments,” you want to upload them in batches. I’m talking 3–6 pictures at a time.

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In a perfect world you can do this anytime you are working a new set of 10 matches (you’re using the number of matches hack properly, right?). This would ideally be around every 3 days, say 2–3 times per week. These “Moments” should be similar to the types of photos you use for Instagram— but you can be more selfie and meme heavy with the “Moments” feature. Pictures of you doing cool things, pictures of you having fun and living an exciting life, pictures of you working out, the occasional selfie, and funny/inspirational memes are all great things to post to “Moments.” If you need to find good memes, search on Instagram. There are tons out there. Now here is the fun part: Uploading “Moments” in batches will not only make it easy to open your new matches—some of your old matches will come out the woodwork too. By posting cool, attractive “Moments” of yourself, you effectively re-open every single one of your matches. You’ll find matches that never responded to your opener sending you something out of the blue. You’ll also have girls who the conversation seemed to have died out with—suddenly interested in you again! You’ll also be able to use “Moments” to open up your new matches. See, we upload these “Moments” in batches for a reason. This is because girls can like them—and when they do, it shows up in the log of the messaging conversation between the two of you. So when you upload a fresh batch of “Moments” and one of your new matches likes 3 or more of them, she is practically begging you to open her!

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Tinder Messaging: The Tinder Template Once a match goes on a liking spree, you can send her one of the following opening messages: ● You’re outta control! ● You think you can just go on a rampant liking spree of my moments?! ● You need to settle down! All of the above will net you high response rates when using “Moments” game properly! You can also use these openers to reopen old matches when they begin to excessively like your awesome “Moments.”

When She Responds Once she responds to your opening message, you are in business. Now you can begin having a messaging conversation with the girl. You should already have some type of knowledge about how to engage a girl while messaging her. I assume you have texted and Facebook chatted with numerous girls throughout your life. A Tinder conversation is really no different than messaging through any of these other mediums. But, we need to remember why we are here… We want to meet up with this girl in real life as fast as possible. We want to find out if she is able to meet up that day. We want to find out if she is looking to hook up—if she is truly DTF. A typical conversation on Tinder should be anywhere from 3—10 back and forth messages. This means that, including your opening messages, you should send 3— 10 messages. If she is going back and forth with you for days on end with no meet up in sight, then she is wasting your time.

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Tinder Messaging: The Tinder Template The conversation ends on Tinder when contact info has been exchanged or a date has been set in stone. You should strive to have natural conversations that are playful and flowing. Tinder is a somewhat relaxed form of online dating, yet it moves quickly. Typically, you should strive to always type less than the girl is typing. Typically, Tinder conversations are short, sweet, and to the point. You maintain a façade of interest, but don’t act too interested until it is time to exchange contact information. When messaging on Tinder, less is more! If for some reason you find your messaging conversations consistently dying on Tinder, try out some of these conversational messaging tips:

Qualifying When You Follow Up When following up with girls who respond to you, one way to increase their interest in you is by using qualifying techniques. By attempting to qualify a girl, you flip the script on her. Instead of her trying to find reasons why she doesn’t want to meet up with you, you are showing her that you may disqualifier her if she is not up to your standards. While your qualifying may be true or completely faked, the strategy is sound. The key when qualifying girls online is to make sure that you are to the point, but also playful. Here are a few easy qualifying questions to send a girl during a messaging conversation:

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● So what would you say makes you different from other girls? ● Hmmm, so what would you say makes you unique? What makes you “you?” You get the idea. You are asking the girl a question about her. Her response indicates that she is qualifying herself to you. Whether she is doing so on a conscious level or not is irrelevant. Compliments When Following Up Now when I talk about complimenting girls while messaging, I do not mean gushing over them and telling them how beautiful they are, how much you already like (love) them, etc. I am talking about giving them a small compliment. Something along these lines: ● You seem pretty cool. ● Cute pics. ● You’re cute. ● What’s up cutie? You may have noticed there was no “Hi Jennifer, you are so beautiful. I hope you respond to my intro message. Thanks.” No, we are not placating these whores. Their egos are already big enough due to losers and borderline homosexuals blowing them up on the daily.

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Tinder Messaging: The Tinder Template We can acknowledge the reason why we messaged them, which was because they are attractive. You can throw these types complements in after the initial opener, perhaps in the 2nd or 3rd message, while including short banter that pertains to the conversation you're having. Being Cute Follow Up Another way to follow up with a girl is by being humorous and almost “cute” with her. Personally I am not a fan of this type of follow-up, as I think it comes off as pretty gay. But it works for many men. Here are a couple examples: ● Should we start the quiz of interview questions to get to know each other so one day we can meet in person? Soooo what’s your favorite color? ;) ● I’m not sure how the Tinder dating protocol works, so I’m assuming this is the part where I say, “So where are you from? What do you do? What’s your favorite color?” With this type of follow-up you are simply extending the conversation in a witty and charming manner before you attempt to get her off the site.

These are just a few ways to continue conversations on Tinder. Once you begin matching and messaging with more girls, you will get the hang of it. Less is always more!

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Getting Her off the Site: The Tinder Template

Getting Her off the Site Getting a girl to communicate with you outside of Tinder can be one of the hardest parts of Tinder life for many men. This is due to the nature of Tinder, and the fact that every guy out there is asking for her number. To bypass any bullshit girls may give you about your quest to get her off the app, here is what you do: Give Her Your Number *Pro Tip: If she gives you her phone number completely out the blue (i.e. you didn’t request it), she wants the D! Proceed accordingly… The reasoning behind giving a girl your number instead of asking for hers is to weed out time wasters and girls who are just not that into you. By not requesting their contact info, you put the onus of moving the interaction forward directly on the girl. Thus, if she truly wants to see you, she will either promptly reply with her number or she will shoot you a quick intro text. When you reach a point in the conversation where you think it is time to exchange contact information, you can use one of the examples below to get her texting you: ● So listen, I’m not on here very often…drop me a text at xxx-xxx-xxxx, make me laugh ;)

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Getting Her off the Site: The Tinder Template ● Hey—text me, it’s much easier xxx-xxx-xxxx. ● Lol—I feel you. Text me xxx-xxx-xxxx. Easier! ● Hey my cell is xxx-xxx-xxx—I neglect Tinder sometimes. ● If it makes things easier, xxx-xxx-xxx  ● Here’s my cell xxx-xxx-xxx. Text me and we can chat a bit more.  ● Cool, let’s iron out the details over text. Text me xxx-xxx-xxxx. ● So I’m kinda an old fashioned type of guy who prefers texting over Tindering…here’s my cell xxx-xxx-xxxx.

You can also run a quick sequence on these girls to get them to text you. In a messaging conversation on Tinder you can say: You seem cool, let’s get drinks sometime. When they reply positively, you follow up with: Cool, give me a text at xxx-xxx-xxxx and we’ll sort something out.

The only issue with giving your number out is that it does not allow you to be proactive in contacting her if she doesn’t contact you quickly or give you her number while still on the site.

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Getting Her off the Site: The Tinder Template Still, I have found that this eliminates any girl who is playing games, thus saving your most valuable resource as a man—your time!

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Switching Mediums: The Tinder Template

Switching Mediums

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Switching Mediums: The Tinder Template

An Intro to Texting Once contact information has been exchanged on Tinder, you want to switch to the phone. When contacting women with your phone, you can text or call them. We will cover both methods. Texting: Less Is More! With regards to texting, less is more. Always remember this, but always keep the interaction playful! This section is meant to be a brief guide on texting girls to set up a “date” after you give them your number online. This is not the holy grail of texting. These tips will help, but texting, like Tindering, can be an art form. There have been numerous books written specifically about texting girls. If you find yourself struggling with text game even after reading this guide, check out: The Player’s Guide to Text Game by Christian McQueen Magnetic Messaging By Rob Judge

Texting Keys In order to quickly iron out the details of the date, stick to these tips for texting a girl you just “met” online:

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● Keep your text messages short, concise, and to the point. Less is more. ● Avoid trying too hard to make a connection over the phone. That happens in person. A quick joke before setting the date is fine, but texting her all day is wasting your time. ● Your only goal when texting girls is to set up dates. That's it! ● When texting, think of how Brad Pitt or James Bond would text a girl. (Hint: They would set up a meeting ASAP and would avoid bantering with a girl over text.) The Rules There are three major rules to follow when texting girls from Tinder: 1. Never send more than three texts without proposing a meet-up. 2. Send mostly statements when texting. Avoiding asking too many questions. This is especially true when proposing a meet-up or date. 3. Avoid making plans too far in advance. Your goal is to set up a “date” that day. Setting the Date Through Text Once both parties have sent the introductory texts, you move on to ironing out the details of a date.

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Switching Mediums: The Tinder Template Every text conversation will be different, as each and every girl is different. The key is to be playful but keep the banter to a minimum while proposing a meet-up. After your initial intro text, a girl may ask you “what you are doing” or “how you are.” Reply to either question in a manner that portrays you in a good light. Even if you are vigorously masturbating in your parent’s basement, you do not tell her this. Tell her you just got a workout in ;) If you want to banter quickly, you can—but often you can get straight to the point. This depends on how much banter you had while messaging on Tinder. The easiest way to banter while texting with a girl you just “met” on Tinder is to ask her for a recommendation. Ask her to recommend a restaurant, bar, club, store, whatever… Just get her to do something for you. Anyway, here are a few examples of beginning texts to set up a date for tonight. After the intro texts and the recommendation texts, you can pass “Go” and proceed to set the date: ● You should come over for a drink when you get off work. ● Thinking of downing a bottle of wine or three tonight. You should join.  ● Ughh just sitting here in gridlock…this city has the worst traffic ever! How’s your day looking? ● Just finished at the gym…thinking we need to get together some time soon. What’s your evening looking like? ● So I know of this new place with great mango sake…if you can handle it, let’s do drinks tonight.

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● Just got done at the gym. Anything exciting on your agenda today? ● Doing good. Do you want to hang later today? ● Just relaxin’…Let’s grab drinks tonight. There’s a new place I want to try downtown. After sending a text like one of the above, the girl will either be available that day or she will not. If she is available and interested in meeting, iron out a plan with her to meet and then stop texting her once the date is confirmed. If she denies your initial suggestion and offers no counteroffer, she is probably not as interested in meeting you as you once thought. You should propose one more time, and if she rejects it again and doesn’t propose something else, move on. She is not interested… Confirmation Texting: The Art of Avoiding the Flake By setting the date or meet-up for the day of, you almost assure yourself of avoiding the flake. Still, there is a possibility she could flake. The only way to counter this is to text her once she agrees to the time and place of the date: Sounds good. Text you when I’m on the way. Then do not text again, in case you are… Dealing with a Serial Rapist, I Mean Serial Texter Some girls like to text. A. Fucking. Lot!

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Switching Mediums: The Tinder Template This is probably not a surprise to many of you. While having a text convo with a girl is fine, you usually will do yourself more harm than good if you haven’t actually met yet. Once you have the date set, try to eliminate texting as much as possible. So how do you deal with a girl who is continually texting you prior to your date? A girl who continues to text you question upon question…? You have to slow her roll. If you run into this situation, throw this text at her before she gets too carried away: That sounds like a great first date topic to me. I’ll tell you more on tonight. This should slow her roll and allow you to avoid texting again until after you’ve actually met. Catfish Occasionally, you might have reservations about a certain girl. You will want to ask her to send you a picture to confirm her identity (and weight). Now I am not talking about a nude photo, I am simply talking about a picture to verify that she is a real person. The easiest way to ask for this is by playing off the TV show Catfish about fake people using online dating. To ask for a pic of her after your quick intro text(s), say something along these lines: Send me a pic or three so I know I’m not being Catfished lol

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Switching Mediums: The Tinder Template Most girls will get the joke and have no issue sending you a few photos. Just don’t push for nudes before you meet up, gents. We are here to get laid, not create a nude photo scrapbook of chicks we never got to bang.

Final Thoughts on Texting Never sit around waiting for her text. You should genuinely not care if she replies. Never make it seem like you were sitting around waiting for her text. To do this, you need timing. If she takes 10 minutes to reply, you take 15. If she takes an hour, you take 2 hours. If she takes 3 hours, you take 4. Always one-up her on the bullshit and you’ll stay in the game. You’ll also cherish the times a bitch can text you back every 15 minutes when you’re trying to set up a date.

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Contacting Her Through Calling Calling a girl’s phone is an underutilized way to set up a date with her. Most of you reading this will completely avoid this section, as phone calls are a foreign concept to you. But, for the 5% or so of men who read this book and decide to call girls whose numbers they get from Tinder, you may see lower flake rates and a higher number of numbers turned into dates. To each their own—but if you are bold enough to call a girl in 2014, you set yourself apart from the pack. Calling is awesome because you quickly eliminate girls who are not serious about meeting up. If they cannot answer or return a phone call, they do not want to meet you. If they are not interested in you, you will be able to tell on the phone. Using a phone call is more efficient at screening girls than text messaging. Since we are giving our number to girls online, when they text you, immediately respond with something like this: ● Hey Teresa, is it a good time to call? ● Hey Jane, nice “meeting” you! I’ll give u a call soon. If she says it’s a good time to call, then call her. If not, give her a ring within 24 hours of getting her number. If you don’t want to wait for her to reply, just call her immediately anyway…

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When on the Phone When they pick up, enthusiastically say “hi” or “hey” to set the tone of the conversation. Next, ask them how their weekend or week was/is while acting like it’s the most important thing to you in the world! From there, make a bit of small talk and banter with them. Then break this chain of conversation and ask them what the rest of their day looks like. As she telling you her plans for the rest of the day, determine if there is any possibility of meeting up with her that day. If so, pitch the date to her with gusto. She will say yay or nay. If nay, she may suggest another. If she does, you are golden. If she does not, try one more suggestion. If she goes with nay and no counter offer, politely exit the convo, as she does not want to meet up with you. Once the date is set tell her you have to go, but you look forward to meeting her tonight. Going on a Tinder Date Look at you, you stud muffin! Scoring a date through Tinder! Now what… Well, Tinder first dates are no different than a “normal” first date. You are still dealing with a female, a girl, a woman, and a rationalization hamster. The only difference is that you have not actually met this woman in real life before…

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Switching Mediums: The Tinder Template It does not matter. You treat a girl you met on Tinder like any other girl you meet. Why? Because you are going to fuck her just like any other girl too! The first few minutes may be a bit slower paced than a first date with someone you already met and know, but any awkwardness quickly fades to the background after 10–15 minutes if there is any chemistry whatsoever between the two of you.

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Top 10 Tinder First Date Ideas If you have trouble coming up with good first date ideas, have no fear! Here is a list of the 10 best first date ideas when meeting up with that cutie you got off Tinder: 1. Drinks at a bar near your place 2. Drinks at a bar near her place 3. Drink at your place 4. Drinks at her place 5. Coffee at a coffee shop near your place 6. Drinks at a bar with a secluded back alley 7. Coffee at a coffee shop near her place 8. Smoke at your place (weed/hookah) 9. Mini golf followed by drinks at your place 10. Bowling followed by drinks at your place Logistics You may have noticed “dinner and a movie” wasn’t on that list. You may have also noticed that getting drinks may be a pretty decent first date option. See, “dinner and a movie” is possibly the absolute worst first date idea, while grabbing drinks is the absolute best. Grabbing drinks on a first date is a great option for numerous reasons. First, getting drinks is easy and low pressure. You both throw on a casual outfit and converse for an hour or two. Second, the greatest thing getting drinks provides first daters is the ability to talk with one another. When you are grabbing drinks with

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Switching Mediums: The Tinder Template someone there is nothing else to do but have a conversation. And third, by having a couple alcoholic beverages, both parties will be able to open up a bit. Venue Changing When you are getting drinks with your date, you may want to speed “things” up a bit. One easy way to do this is to change venues on your first date. Simply grab a drink or two at one bar for an hour or so. Then, if you sense the vibe is good, suggest heading somewhere close for another. If the next drink goes down easy and the vibe is still right, make an excuse to try out one more place. By being all over the place with your date, she “feels” like you have been around each other and known each other for longer than you have. And remember, women only care about how they “feel”—reality is irrelevant. By venue changing, you increase her feeling and connection with you. You can use this however you see fit. I typically prefer the third venue to be back at her place or mine…

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In Conclusion… I hope you have picked up some information in this guide that will help you achieve your “dating” goals through Tinder. Always remember that Tinder is a numbers game. Never give a flying fuck about any one girl in particular. As well, keep experimenting and figuring out what works best for you. Experimenting is the only way to truly find out what works best for you on Tinder. Cheers, Masculine Profiles

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