Descripción: Learn the secret of the five second flirt from Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger. In Become Your Own Ma...
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[email protected]. Designed by Rhea Braunstein Manufactured in the United States of America 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Stanger, Patti. Become your own matchmaker : eight easy steps for attracting your perfect mate / by Patti Stanger with Lisa Johnson Mandell. p. cm. 1. Man-woman relationships. 2. Love. I. Mandell, Lisa Johnson. II. Title. HQ801.S759 2009 646.7'7—dc22
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The Five-Second Flirt This is a sure man-catching technique that’s been passed down in our family for generations. It works every time. A great time to try it is when you already have a date, and I’ll tell you why: women feel the most content when they’re getting plenty of attention from men—they’re no longer in heat. If you already have a date, you feel more confident, even if that date is just with a friend. Because your vibration is content and confident, you’ll send off a very attractive signal to the opposite sex. There you are, sitting at the bar waiting for your date to arrive, you’re smiling, smelling good, and feeling sexy. There will probably be a lot of single men around you (men who are not wearing wedding rings). Notice the one guy in the room who you’d really like to meet, and make sure he’s not with another woman. Catch his eye and hold his gaze for five full seconds, while giving him your most radiant smile. Then flip your hair and turn away. This might seem awkward, but you can start by practicing in the mirror. If you still feel terrified, practice this on men you don’t find attractive—you have nothing to lose since there’s no risk. When you give a man the five second flirt he will either walk over to you to start a conversation, or he won’t. If he comes over to you and offers to buy or refresh your drink, you might have a potential mate on your hands. If he doesn’t offer to do this after ten minutes of chatting, he’s an inconsiderate narcissist. Move on. But what if he never comes over to you after the five second flirt? What’s that about? There are four reasons for this: 102
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1. He’s married or in a relationship. 2. He’s playing on the other team (he’s gay). 3. You’re not his type. You’re blonde, and he goes for brunettes; there’s nothing you can do about that. Forget about him. 4. He’s a Passive Aggressive and wants you to chase him. If you do talk to him, he’ll end up giving you his business card and asking you to call him. He’s not worth your time.
Where Your Future Husband Will Find You And now, the part you’ve been waiting for. Here’s a list of manly-man places where you can test these tactics and see just how well they work: Sports Bars: Most men don’t take dates to sports bars, but hang with their buddies to watch their favorite teams play on the big screen. If you go there alone and know the score and a little bit about the teams playing, you will get more attention than you ever believed possible. My friend Lily decided she was going to go out by herself to the most exclusive sports bar in LA, known as The Parlor. She was a big Lakers fan, and wanted to make the most of watching the NBA playoffs. She made a great move when she walked in. The place was swarming with men, and she walked right up to the hostess and asked who owned the joint. Turns out it belonged to the hottest guy in the place, a supersexy guy named Silas, who you might recognize from reality TV. He’d noticed Lily right away, but already had a girlfriend, so 103
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