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About the Author Introduction My Story Instant Gratification Why Text? What Kind of Results Can You Expect Texting Facts Texting Doctrine Texting vs. Calling Texting Mindset Attraction Comfort Things That Can Break Comfort When and How Often to Text When to Text vs. When to Call First Text Openers Same Night You Meet Her Random Text Openers Cocky Funny Bait and Switch Role Reversal Push-Pull Role Playing Games Random Negation Qualification Flirty Getting Her to Talk on the Phone Going For a Date Turning Things Sexual Responding to Congruency Tests (shit tests) If She Doesn’t Answer Back Flakes The 3-Day Formula What Next? Bonus #1: Answering Her Questions Bonus #2: Numbers That Have Gone Cold Bonus #3: Artisan’s Interview: “How to Be the Man Every Woman Wants Bonus #4: 1-Month of Free Coaching at Pick Up Artist Academy w/Top Dating Gurus Conclusion Action Plan Live Training
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR Matt Artisan, owner and founder of The Attractive Man - 1on1 Dating Coach Company, has been revolutionizing men’s dating lives for years. Artisan, proclaimed by Vince Kelvin (Seduction Coaching) as the “Texting Guru,” has been a featured speaker at numerous dating seminars and workshops including the 2009 and 2010 Pick Up Artist Academy, the 2010 Texting and Online Game Seminar, and the 2009 and 2010 PUA World Summit where he was granted the award for “Best Phone, Text, and Online Game”. Creator of the 2-Minute Chase Me Method for day game, The Ultimate Guide to Texting Girls, The Ultimate Guide to Calling Girls, and 10 Second Seduction, Artisan’s specialties range from advanced dating techniques, day game mastery and online game; to deep inner confidence, text game and speed seduction. Having taught thousands of students at numerous live events, day game boot camps, and 1-on-1 training sessions, Artisan has become a master in the art of texting women, building instant attraction through texts, and going from text to first date to sex faster than anyone else in the dating community. Having taught next to some of the top dating gurus, including Vince Kelvin, Adam Lyons, Sinn, Savoy, David Wygant, Braddock, Brad P, Speer, Bad Boy, Mehow, and many others; Artisan is extremely passionate about helping men achieve their dreams with women. He is determined that you get the success you want out of this guide, his exclusive 1-on-1 infield training and day game mastery boot camps only offered at www.1on1datingcoach.com and www.daygametraining.com
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INTRODUCTION This guide is many years in the making. It is an accumulation of principles, ideas, and actual text messages that have been compiled through the constant journey of self-improvement and discovery. My Story Many years ago, after getting dumped by my girlfriend for being too needy, I decided I never wanted that to happen to me again. I went online and started reading some dating tips (which weren’t very good), and I found these things called dating workshops - also known as boot camps. I thought, “what do I have to lose?” Live coaching seemed like a smart choice, so I took several weekend boot camps to increase my game. And let me tell you, they were not cheap! After completing my 5th boot camp, I got the honor of becoming a lead instructor for one of the top instructional dating companies in the world. Now, not only was I able to teach other guys, but I was attending dozens of boot camps per year. So naturally, I became pretty good at approaching women, building attraction and getting numbers from women. But there was a problem. I came to the realization that even though I could easily get a woman’s phone number, a lot of the numbers weren’t going anywhere. In fact, only about 1 out of every 10 numbers turned into an actual date. The problem was I didn’t know what to text to women. So, being the overly analytical guy that I am, I started really studying and analyzing what is now known in the dating world as the “text game”. Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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I started to apply my own knowledge of the “game” and everything I would do in “real life” to texting girls. I started sending women texts that I thought would get a good reaction, and recorded all of my results. Some of the texts were my own, some were from other dating gurus, and some were from friends, and yes…even women. I spent over two years tracking all my results, and came up with a list of over 160 texts that got the best responses and build the most attraction and sexual tension the quickest. I came up with a simple system that could turn almost any number into a solid date in 3 days or less. I started getting so good at turning numbers into dates, and dates into sex, that I hardly ever would called girls…. I would just use text messaging. Keep in mind I’m not saying you should rely solely on text to communicate with women, but if a girl isn’t compliant enough to answer your calls, you can definitely use the texting tactics in this guide to build attraction and get her on a date. You can even start to set a sexual tone through the text so the first date leads to sex a lot quicker. I went from having a mere 1 out of 10 numbers turn into a date, to having 9 out of 10 numbers turn into dates. During in-field training my students often asked, “What do I text her?” after they got a number. So I began teaching them some of my most powerful texting strategies…. and guess what? My students got the same success! Anyone can use these ideas and techniques to get any number of dates they want. Trust me, I know how frustrating it is to finally work up the courage to approach a beautiful woman and get her number, to find that then she never calls or texts you back.
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In this guide, you’ll learn the techniques and principles that I’ve used for years to attract women through text and turn any phone number into a solid date and more. Want Some Instant Gratification? Ok, who are we kidding? We live in a society of instant gratification. If you want to start seeing some results instantly, feel free to skip to the middle of this guide to get actual text messages you can send out to women in your phone book immediately. But, make sure you come back and read the other chapters so you can build a good foundation to achieve the best results. Without a foundation and understanding of basic principles and knowledge, texts can backfire and you can easily end up sending a text to a woman in the wrong situation. Why Text? Texting is another tool for your proverbial tool belt. Keep in mind that you don’t have to text girls. I’ve had plenty of interactions with women that went incredibly well where I just called the girl and asked her out. You’d be surprised at how often that can work if you made a great first impression. That being said, texting is the preferred communication for women in their 20’s. If you don’t learn how to properly flirt with women through text, you’ll be missing a huge opportunity and you won’t get the number of dates you want. Many women these days communicate solely through text. In order to get those types of women on dates, you have to adapt to their method of communication.
What Kind of Results Can You Expect? In a matter of minutes, you can use the texts in this guide to attract women and get dates.
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You can literally triple the amount of phone numbers that turn into dates, as well as reduce the likelihood of women deleting or blocking your number, flaking on you, and leaving you to the solitude of your hand and a box of kleenex at the end of a date. If you spend just 5 minutes a day using the material and principles in this guide, you will start turning numbers into dates in no time. If you don’t have enough quality numbers to text, then spend 10 minutes a day getting phone numbers from women. I can show you step-by-step how to quickly get a woman’s number in less than two minutes during your complimentary bonus phone session (time and date will be sent to your email in the next 60 days). Feel free to use any text that you like in this guide - but to truly master the art of texting women, I recommend using the texts as a way to better understand attraction and female psychology, then compose a list of your own texts. Why? Because your own material will be more congruent with your personality. Remember, it would be impossible to come up with a list of texts that work for every guy, on every woman, in every situation. If you have questions, or don’t understand something in the guide, feel free to ask during your phone session.
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TEXTING FACTS · People text more than they make actual phone calls. · Girls text almost two times as much as they talk on the phone. · Texting is the preferred method of communication for women in their 20’s. · Text messages are usually read within 15 minutes of being received and responded to within one hour. · Women text more than men · The peak hours for texting are between 9:30pm and 11:00pm. · 64% of U.S. mobile subscribers text message regularly; nearly 100% among teens, 85% among college students, 65-70% among young adults, 55% for those in their 30’s, and 14% of those 65 and older. · Text conversations are missing nearly 93% of the input as face-to-face interaction because of the lack of voice tonality, body language and facial expressions.
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TEXTING DOCTRINE – Principles to Triple Your Text Life • What is the point of texting girls? Texting is used to reinitialize contact with a woman you just met; build more attraction and comfort; get her on the phone to have a “real” conversation; or to set up a date. Note: When I say “date” I am referring to any sort of meet up. By the way, dinner and/or movies are a bad idea for a first date! • Send your first text within 24hours of meeting her so she remembers as much as possible from the initial interaction. If I meet a woman during the day, I usually send a text about 5 minutes after the initial interaction so she gets used to me texting her. This creates a feeling that I’m apart of her life. This might seem too soon or too needy, but if you text her in a fun, non-needy way, it will work a lot better than waiting a day or two. The idea is to keep the emotional momentum going and to keep the attraction as high as possible - while avoiding the annoying, “Who is this?” text. See, attraction dissipates overtime. She might be extremely attracted to you when you first meet, but when you wait a few days to call or text, the attraction usually starts to decrease. This is why you should always text a girl within 24hours - so she still remembers why she liked you in the first place. • Use callback humor. Callback humor is when you refer to humorous topics or events that happened in the first interaction. Using callback humor will bring her back to the same emotional state she was in when you met. Let’s say you met a girl at a club and you text her the next day. Chances are she won’t be in the same emotionally charged state that she was in when you were hanging out with her at the club. But if you recall a conversational topic or something funny from the club, it will bring her back to the way she was feeling (and feeling about you) that night.
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Example: Let’s say you two were talking at the club and you pointed out some ugly girl with messed up teeth and said, “I need to get back to my girlfriend before she gets mad, haha.” You might text her the next day, “I decided to marry old snaggletooth….wanna be in the wedding?” This gives you an opportunity to text her later saying you divorced poor snaggletooth, and now you can go into a marriage role-play (refer to chapter on role-playing). The point is that it will make her laugh and feel the way she was feeling when she first met you. Another example: Let’s say you met a woman with a great sense of humor at a store and it turns out she’s a nanny from England, and you teased her and called her Mary Poppins. You could text her, “Hey Marry Poppins don’t forget to give the kids their spoon full of sugar today ;)” • Use nicknames. A great way to use callback humor is by using a playful name that you called her from the first interaction. This could be her stripper name, porn star name, boy name, etc. (all of these can be explained during your 1-on-1 session). Who is it that uses nicknames? It is usually family members and close friends, right? So, when you start to call her by a nickname, it actually creates a sense of comfort and familiarity. Girly nicknames: girly face, sassy pants, glitter princess, otterpop Teasing nicknames: queen nerd, dork, goober, nerdball, crazy pants Sexual nicknames: sex kitten, sex ninja, lil temptress You can even rhyme the end of your texts using a nickname. Examples of rhyming your goodbyes: Peace out girlscout! Cya later masturbater! (my personal favorite)
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An awesome way to really create a lot of intrigue and sexual tension is to save your name in her phone using a cocky or sexual nickname. After you get her number, call her phone and save your number in her phone as something creative and funny. Examples: Sex God, Sex Ninja, the new crush, man of your dreams, etc. • If she didn’t save your name in her phone, or you saved it for her using one of the above nicknames, then make sure you sign your name on the first text to avoid her wondering who you are. If she texts you, “Who is this?”, it can kill some of the emotional momentum. • When sending a text that could be misinterpreted as rude, mean or negative, use emoticons so she knows you are just joking around. Examples of emoticons: :) ;) :p :-) =) =} =] • Be fun, flirty, random and interesting from the start. Hot women get texts from guys all day long, so you have to stand out from the herd. Intrigue her and make her more curious about you from the very beginning. • Keep everything fun and playful, but also show different sides of your personality. Tease her, lead her, make jokes, and once in awhile - be more direct and genuine. • Don’t ask too many generic questions. Too many questions are annoying and what women are used to. When you do ask questions, ask them in a more interesting way. Example: Instead of, “hey whats up?”, you could text “hey goof, what are you doing…besides building my shrine? :p
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• Don't try to impress her through text. Trying to write a bunch of information that you assume will impress her usually has the opposite effect. Leave your long DHV (demonstrations of higher value) stories for when you are on the phone or face-toface. • Never write super long texts. The person contributing and putting in the most effort is the one that’s most invested in the interaction. So, if you write really long texts it shows that you are overly invested in her and often comes off as needy. • Exeption to the rule…foreign women. Don’t use a lot of slang, abbreviations or anything that has multiple interpretations with foreign women. Women that have trouble with the English language probably won’t understand what you are talking about. Tone things down, and be a lot more basic and to the point. • Reward good behavior and punish bad behavior. If she is complying to you, then you can be more kind and flattering (just don’t overdo it). If she is not complying or she’s giving you shit, then tease her. Example: Heidi: “I can’t make it Friday night sorry” (non compliance) Artisan: “ok dork well that’s minus 2 cool points for ya :p” (tease) Heidi: “seriously???ok I’ll have to make it up to you”(compliance) Artisan: “ok princess, u any good at backrubs?”(flattering nickname) So in the example, the girl is flaking out on me (and therefore being noncompliant). So I tease her (not in a mean way) by calling her a “dork” and telling her she’s losing “cool points”. Then she starts being compliant by saying she’ll make it up, so I reward her by calling her “princess”, but at the same time I’m still a challenge, “u any good at backrubs?”. Another way to punish bad behavior is with dead air. Dead air simply means you don’t reply back to invoke a feeling of loss. • Don’t use excessive caps or punctuation. Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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Example: “HEY!!! WHAT ARE YOU DOING????” Excessive caps and punctuation (particularly exclamation marks and question marks) make you seem overly excited and comes off as needy. Keep the caps and punctuation to a minimum. • Don’t multi-thread your text.
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Avg Guy: “what are you doing tonight? Btw how’s your dog?” Girl: “oh he’s back to his old self”
Notice how she ignored the first thread, “what are you doing tonight?”. Instead, ask one question, wait for an answer, then ask the next question. But remember, keep your “average” questions to a minimum. • Try to keep your texts short. An easy way to shorten your texts is to abbreviate. Why do this? Because it subcommunicates that you are a busy guy and that she’s not the most important thing in the world to you. Example: “by the way, you should meet me at Jim’s house tomorrow night he’s having a huge party you should come!” vs. “btw…Jims. 2morrow nite. Party. B there!” Popular abbreviations: WTF: what the fuck TMI: too much info SOL: shit out of luck OMG: oh my god LOL: laughing out loud BRB: be right back BTW: by the way Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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TEXTING VS. CALLING? One of the great things about texting is that you know she IS going to read whatever you send her. Whereas, if you call and don’t leave a message, then she’ll never know what it is you wanted or why you were calling. The reason women love texting is because there is no pressure on their part. A woman can simply respond to you when ever it’s most convenient for her. Where as in a phone call, she has to decide right then and there if she wants to talk to you at that exact moment. YOU also have the option to respond whenever you please. Texting gives you some time to think of clever or funny responses. You can also better manage your time because you can text her at anytime you want. You can literally set up a date with a woman while you are taking a crap! Plus you can send mass texts to multiple recipients. Instead of calling each girl to meet you at a bar tonight, you can just send a mass text to all the girls at once. With all that being said, it doesn’t mean you should never call girls. In fact, I highly recommend calling because often times it’s easier to set up a date through a phone conversation than it is through a text. If it’s “on”, then call her the next day and set up a date. If it’s not super “on”, then start off with a text to build attraction and then, in time, transition to calling her (or set up the date through text if necessary). You can get some amazing information on calling girls when you enroll in Pick Up Artist Academy at www.PickUpArtistAcademy.com.
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TEXTING MINDSET Have the attitude that she is having a boring day and it’s your job to cheer her up, make her smile and laugh, and just add value to her life. That being said, you don’t want to be overly nice or needy. Think: “What would I do if I had 10 gorgeous women in my life?” You wouldn’t stress out about texting her, that’s for sure! You’d just send a fun, playful text and then let it be. Just send it and forget it. Don’t keep checking your phone to see if she responded. Don’t keep checking your outbox to see if you spelled something wrong. This will drive you nuts. Just send the text and then move on to something else. Remember, she doesn’t have to respond. Don’t get worked up because she didn’t get back to you yet. You don’t know what kind of day she may have had, or what else is going on in her life. Don’t take it personally. If she doesn’t respond, then send her something else in a few days. Refer to the chapter on “When and How Often to Text and Numbers That Have Gone Cold”. Don’t give up. Like I said before, you never know what’s going on in her life. Maybe she has a boyfriend, so she can’t text back all the time. But, they may break up in a few months, and if you gave up too soon you probably would have missed out. Lastly, keep in mind she’s not the most important thing in the world. If you’re in the middle of something important and a woman you like texts you, don’t stop everything you’re doing just to text her back. Have other priorities and text her back when it’s convenient for you.
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ATTRACTION Why do you need to maintain attraction through text? Because attraction dissolves over time. The idea is to use text messaging to maintain the attraction that she felt for you during the initial interaction. Attraction can be maintained by using fun text messages that assume a level of comfort; contain humor; tease her in a playful, fun way; are challenging; demonstrate high value; and are flirty without being overly needy or nice. This is done by messages that include playful teasing, funny jokes, role-playing, randomness, unpredictability, reversing the frame and qualification. All of which will be shown to you in this guide. As with any principle in “pick up”, don’t overdo it. Anything that is used too often will get old and stale. For example, if you constantly tease her and bust her balls, it will lose the effect and she will actually start losing attraction for you. Once in a while is fine, but overdoing it may ruin your chances.
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COMFORT Unfortunately, you can’t build a tremendous amount of comfort through text. Comfort is established more in person or by talking on the phone. However, fun text messages that make her smile without making her feel like she has to respond will build comfort. One method that can establish some comfort is “mirroring”. Mirroring is the concept of matching her actions, without making it obvious or known. This generally makes people feel a sense of comfort because they can identify with the one mirroring them. You can mirror her through text by matching her texting style. You can use the same types of abbreviations, emoticons, acronyms, sense of humor, text frequency and length that she uses. When it comes to making women comfortable with you through text, the main objective is to make sure to avoid anything that will break comfort. Things that can break comfort: • Texting her too often if she has a slow or infrequent response. You are probably texting her too much if her response is always slow, she doesn’t engage, she seldom writes back and/or she never initiates the conversation. • Texting her too infrequently is not good either, especially if she is really attracted to you. If this is the case, she’ll likely lose interest and move on to someone else. You are probably texting her enough if she initiates conversation, responds quickly, engages back, and moves things forward. • Trying to make plans too early if she doesn’t have enough compliance or attraction. Comfort is built through time. If she doesn’t feel comfortable enough to go on a date with you, it’s better to wait and keep sending fun playful text messages and talk to her on the phone to build more comfort.
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• Responding negatively. Women will sometimes test you to see how you respond so they can decide if they want to go on a date with you. She might send a text to you that completely throws you off, is insulting and makes you mad. If you text her something angry or rude, it shows her that you are deeply affected by what she did and reveals that you are a weak man who can be easily affected by women. A woman wants a man who gets his self worth and happiness independently from her actions. • Being too predictable. If you always respond to her right away, you’ll probably come off as trying too hard or that you don’t have anything going on in your life. Instead, be more unpredictable by responding at different times. • Being overly nice. Being a nice guy isn’t a bad thing at all. But when guys seem overly nice and supplicating, it translates to women that they are just trying to please them, and women don’t want men they can walk all over. Don’t try to accommodate everything for her and don’t be apologetic or seek her approval. Be a strong man and a leader who has his own thing going for him. This alone will build a lot of comfort and attraction.
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WHEN AND HOW OFTEN TO TEXT Believe me, I know how easy it is to get all worked up about texting a girl you really like. The problem is that type of mindset is already on a fast track to needy behavior. There’s no need to worry too much about when and how often to text her. Just don’t overdo it. That’s right - even if she always texts you back every single time, don’t keep texting her and responding to her every text. You don’t want to be texting a girl non-stop every day, all day! Even if she keeps responding, it lowers your value because you’ll seem like you have nothing else going on in your life. As a general rule, don’t always text back in the exact same duration. Sometimes text back right away, sometimes wait 10 minutes, sometimes wait a day and sometimes don’t text her back at all. Another rule of thumb is to follow her timeline and then add a few minutes. So, if she responded in 3 minutes wait 4 or 5 minutes to respond. If she waited 45 minutes then wait about 50 minutes. Don’t always have the last text. About half the time (or more) you should let her send the last text. Why? Because it keeps you in control of the interaction and gives you a reason to text her the next day. As a general note, don’t text women between the hours of 8 p.m. and 1 a.m. on Friday and Saturday because it will make you seem like you don’t have anything better to do on the weekend. Remember, anything after 1 a.m. will probably seem like a booty-call text. The first text you send a woman you’ve just met should be within 24hours of meeting her. If you wait longer than 24hours, the attraction she felt for you in the initial interaction may begin to decrease. If she doesn’t respond to a text, you can use the following rule:
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Wait a day then text her again Still no response: wait two days then text her again Still no response: Wait three days then text her again *Note: once you are more advanced then you can break this rule! And so forth. If the number goes cold after a few days remember you can always reengage in the future with one of the texts from the “Numbers That Have Gone Cold” section. When to Text vs. When to Call Not everything works for every situation so you need to know when it might be better to call or better to text. If she had high compliance (i.e. gave her number without hesitation, was eager to meet you, etc.) during the initial interaction then it is ok to call right away. If she didn’t have high compliance (i.e. gave you a shit text, was hesitant when giving out her number, etc.) when you met her then its usually better to text first. You can use text to build some attraction through fun, playful, flirty texts and then call her. When you call she’ll be more likely to pickup, because if you’re fun over text she’ll assume you’ll be fun on the phone. A great time to call is after you’ve been texting for a few minutes because you’ll know that she’s near her phone and more likely to pickup the call. When she picks up you could say “how good are you at finger massage because my fingers hurt from all the texting?” Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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***The following text messages are examples of what to text. You are welcome to use them word for word but it is better to come up with your own material so it’s congruent with your own personality.
FIRST TEXT OPENERS These are meant to be sent within 24hrs of meeting her. Hey cutie so random meeting you just now….are you always so friendly to strangers? Note: This came from Adam Lyons and works great for women you meet during the day. Make sure to text this within 10 minutes of meeting her. “something naughty” ;) Note: Ok let me explain. After you get her number say “I’m gonna text you something naughty, so you have my number” and then 5 minutes after you’ve walked away you text her “something naughty” ;) This works great for women you meet at bars and clubs or women that appear a little more sexually adventurous. Are you textually active? Are you textually active?….bc I’m thinking about making you my new text partner haha Note: Works better if you’ve already set a sexual frame. Do you speak text? Note: Just a cute way of asking if she texts. Wait, did I just say “cute”? Hey it’s [your name] I’ve decided to make you my new texting buddy….congrats ;) Note: “congrats” makes it slightly cocky-funny
I have a confession… or I have a secret… Note: You can follow up with “you kind of impressed me tonight” or “you’re kinda cute...but don’t get any ideas :)” Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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SAME NIGHT YOU MEET HER A lot of women aren’t able to go home with you that night because of logistics. She was there with her friends, she was the designated driver, she doesn’t want to look slutty, etc. but now she’s home by herself and can come over without fear of judgment by her friends. Use these texts to reinitiate the communication and then see if she wants to meet up. Sweet dreams, cutie. :-) [Your name] Note: Use this only if you had a more intimate conversation that built a lot of comfort Hope you got home safe. [Your name] Note: This is more generic and won’t set you apart. But I included it as an option because it does work to initiate conversation. So bottom line you kinda impressed me tonight...and I don't get impressed very often. Keep up the good work ;) Note: It shows that you’re a bit of a challenge. Milk shakes at 2am rock! Note: Credit Zar and Hydro from Casanova Crew. It works great because it is non needy and who the hell doesn’t love milkshakes? A typically response might be “mmm I love milkshakes!” in which you could follow up with something like “come get one….just don’t try anything on me :p”
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RANDOM TEXT OPENERS These can be used as first text openers or as random text messages that you send at any time. How's my favorite little brat doing? Note: Teasing nicknames like “brat”, “punk”, “playa”, “flaya” (female-playa), “nerd”, “geek” are great because people that have nicknames for each other are typically very close such as best friends or family. How’s my 3rd favorite little brat doing? Note: This demonstrates pre-selection in that you have other “favorite brats” in your life besides her. I just made you open your phone for no reason...looks like I got you in check =p Note: This is a great teasing text and demonstrates dominance. Hey nerd [or other nickname] I just saw the funniest X and thought of you Note: X = pit-bull, show, movie, etc. The idea is that X is call back humor from your initial interaction. Its me, your cell that is, not wanting anything in particular right now, just wanted to get out of your pocket, it stinks down there :p Note: Great teasing text. Use this only if she has a good sense of humor I hope you are smiling. If not just think of me! If you're not smiling, then you're not thinking of me ;) Note: These are slightly cocky so it’s a good idea to use an emoticon at the end =P me sticking my tongue out at you
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What sort of trouble are you causing? Note: Great way of finding out what she is doing at the moment, or that night, or that weekend. A lot better than just asking “what are you doing” Hey evil little temptress… Note: This is a great nickname that switches the roll of her being the aggressor instead of the guy. You can say whatever you want after the “…..” such as what kind of trouble are you causing tonight?
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COCKY FUNNY These are great random text messages that can be used at any time. Women know that cocky guys are usually confident. However cockiness alone can come off as arrogant and rude and most women don’t want to date that type of guy. When you mix humor with a touch of cockiness, the woman won’t know if you are serious or joking and the effect is typically very positive and will set you apart from the average (needy) guys. Hey! My friend just called me and said he saw a goofball running down the street in her shit stained underwear. Call me if you need a ride ;) Note: This text, and some of the ones below, works better if you already teased her during the initial interaction. If you were nice and charming when you first met her, and then you send something like this, it may not be congruent and probably won’t have the right effect. I heard on the news someone checked into the pysch ward wearing only a thong and riding a goat. I'll come & get u.... BUT THIS SHIT HAS 2 STOP!!!! So I felt you should know the snapple fact of the day....Your eye expands up to 45% when looking at something pleasing. Now I know why you are all bug eyed when I'm around! I'm having the worst day... I've already lost 4 retards. I lost 2 at Chuck-ECheese... one at the Wal-Mart...Where the hell are you!?" Hey…do me a favor and text me right back. Just hi or something. Wait for her response then text her: My friends don’t believe retards can text. We sure did show’em lil buddy lol Note: She has to know you have a very playful personality or it could come off as mean.
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What are you doing……besides missing me and doodling hearts on a piece of paper? ;) Note: This can bring her back to an emotional state of when she was a little girl and had her first crush and used to draw hearts on her notebook. I know you're thinking about me. So I thought I would say hi! OMG this guy is so hot check it out….facebook.com/(yourname) So are you in love with me yet? Follow up with: Wow your lasting longer than I thought, give it a few more minutes :) Congratulations! She’ll respond, then follow up with: I was just thinking of you. Congratulations =) Today is HOLY SHIT YOUR HOT DAY, send this to someone you know who is HOT, just not to me, I’ve been getting this text all day!
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BAIT AND SWITCH I call this a bait and switch because you are baiting her to think you are totally into her and then you switch to teasing her and being cocky funny. Maybe it’s the booze talking, but I want you to know……I love……...booze. Note: You can use this the same night you meet her if it was at a bar or club and she knows you were drinking. Those innocent eyes, those juicy lips, a great smile, that awesome bod, so hot! But enough about me, what r u up to? Hey! I really miss you and want to see you badly BUT this dumbass security guard won't let me in the zoo. Can you escape?
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ROLE REVERSALS These texts reverse the typical courting frame that the guy chases after the girl. Women will usually respond positively to these because it is the opposite of what they’re used to. You’ll be surprised at how often a girl will go along with the role reversal, which means she’s buying into the frame of her chasing you. I just don't think we should do this anymore...Sometimes you make me feel like I am just a piece of meat. Ewww stop thinking about me, i can feel your thoughts all over me... pervert! Hey sex ninja, orgy starts at 10:00, be there early so you can get me while I’m still fresh Note: After she responds follow up with: Guess you’ll have to settle with what you can get then :p I am way too high maintenance for you Note: Send this after she’s sent you something ball busting. Her: Guess What! You: You want to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me? You are so naughty :p
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PUSH-PULL Push-pull is one of your best tools when it comes to women and dating. The concept is simple. If you push too much and are too aloof you will usually push her away to the point that she loses interest. If you pull her in too much by too many compliments or telling her you like her, she’ll likely lose interest because you aren’t a challenge. When you put the two together you can maintain a good balance of showing interest and being a challenge…. and the result is pure dynamite! Out of all the [her name] I know... I think you’re my favorite. Note: Also shows that you have other women in your life. You just popped into my head so Hi...now please stay out of there Hey I was just thinking about you, wish you were here…so you could cook me something and do my dishes :p Hey I was just thinking about you, wish you were here………so you could fetch me a drink and give me a foot massage ;) You just popped into my head...you must be using some weird ninja magic on me…I’m onto it….but I’m not gonna let it slide.
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ROLE-PLAYING Women love role-playing because it’s fun and paints a picture of the two of you doing something exiting. Most of the time women will respond back by roleplaying with you. I’m bored…lets go to Vegas and get married by the fattest Elvis impersonator we can find! Hey I decided where we are going to eat tonight, start looking for a strip club that sells food and has amateur night, your gonna win us some grub! Note: You’ll be surprised by the amount of women that love to image they are strippers. Let's fly to Las Vegas, get married, argue about our third kid's name, divorce, and grow old lonely and depressed You’re my new text message girlfriend for the next 5 minutes. In 5 minutes send: Aww now we’re broken up. Its not you its me. Was fun though. In 5 more minutes send: Aww now I kinda miss you. I’ll do whatever it takes to get you back.
Example Artisan: hey I’m bored…wanna rob a bank? Jen: haha ur crazy Artisan: seriously I need a partner Jen: ok I’m in! Artisan: awesome, but we need disguises….whats urs? I’m thinking stilettos and a pink ski mask. Jen: and a machine gun! Artisan: ok we’ll tie everyone up, take the cash and find a cheap hotel in the next town over so we can lay low Jen: But what are we gonna do with all that cash? Artisan: We? after a night of passionate love making fuelled by the adrenaline from the crimes we’ve just committed…you’ll wake up to a note that says “its been nice, had to run, took the cash”’ Jen: haha you ass! Well at least there was some good sex haha Artisan: meet me at X bar tonight for a drink and we’ll discuss the heist…bring ur mask :)
Hey I’ve been thinking.....want to rob a bank with me? Note: No matter what she responds with follow up with: Seriously, I need a partner, are you driving or shooting?
Brr….it’s cold here…..think its warm in the Bahamas? Note: This leads into a vacation role-play. You can follow up with something like: Ok pack your bags, I’ll pick you up in an hour. Just don’t bring your damn hairdryer this time! :p Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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GAMES Women love playing games. This will show you have a fun playful side. I’m winning (attach a random picture) She might ask, "What is that?” or “Winning at what?" You respond with: The random phone picture game (and send another random picture) Note: Ideas for random pictures include Chuck Norris, sumo wrestlers, hamster wearing a santa hat, fat guy riding a scooter, well you get the idea. Tag you’re it! No tag backs I’m bored, lets play a game, ask me a question Note: The idea is to get her to ask you trivia questions. Make sure you are at a computer so you can look it up so you get it right. After you answer her questions, ask her a tough question and then make fun of her if she gets it wrong.
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RANDOM These are just more fun random text messages that make you appear like a very random guy. Being random is a good quality because it is the opposite of what they are used to…boring and predictable. Snapple Fact: A one-minute kiss burns 26 calories. I make Mondays feel like Fridays Note: This is also slightly cocky funny I've got this problem I need your help with it.…why was the energizer bunny arrested? Note: The Answer is “he was charged with battery”. Almost any joke will do. 192y - (62*84) = 12x + 45y solve for x and then graph Note: She’ll be confused but its best not to explain or even reply. Did you know a blue whale’s tongue weighs as much as an elephant!?…gotta love animal planet ;) If you came home to find someone's sex toys on your sofa how are you supposed to react? You know what I hate? When you're minding your own business then... BAM! You’re being attacked by flying monkeys. She’ll respond with something like “I didn't know monkeys could fly”. Follow up with: I knew it! You're one of those flying monkey lovers, aren't you? 6 truths in your life: 1. You can't lick all your teeth with your tongue. 2. You're an idiot, because you just tried to prove truth number one. 3. Truth one is a lie. 4. Now you're smiling, because you're a goof. 5. You'll send it to another idiot in the near future. 6. You're still smiling ;-) Girls have cooties Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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NEGATION Negation is the basic concept of telling a girl she can’t have something so she’ll want it more. We all tend to want what we can’t have. It is very important to use emoticons and “lol” or “haha” so a woman doesn’t think that you don’t like her. I could never hang with you haha…you’re trouble ;) Ok meet me at the bar…but don’t try anything on me :p Note: This is also a role reversal. Promise you won’t try to take advantage of me when we hang out! No texts after 2am…I get too many of those
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QUALIFICATION Qualification questions are questions that show that you are testing her to see if she meets your standards. Qualification through texting is best done in a playful way. When you qualify a woman it shows that you are high value because only a high value man with a lot of women in his life would screen, qualify and/or test a beautiful woman. Make it or break it question………X? X = any question you want to ask like favorite music? It can also be something more playful such as chocolate or vanilla? or ninjas or pirates? Note: Creates the frame that you a screening her. “This or that” type questions are great because they are easy for women to answer. Are you good at back/foot rubs? Which do you prefer, pillow fights or bedtime stories? Cheetos or smores? Note: Any random “this” or “that” question will work
Example Artisan: cheetos or smores? Sarah: um smores? Artisan: awesome I love smores, you’re my new text msg gf Sarah: haha yay! Artisan: ya I’d say out of all my txt msg gfs you’re number 6 Sarah: only number 6!? Artisan: hey number 6 tell me whats your best quality and don’t say your looks!? Lol Sarah: I’d have to say my loyalty to my friends Artisan: Well you’ve officially cracked the top 5
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FLIRTY Showing your interest in her in a fun way. Be warned, if you do this too early and haven’t built up enough attraction it can backfire. You: You smell... Her: Delicious (or something similar) You: Wow, it's like we even finish each other's sentences. You make me feel like a pudgy, naked, winged child has shot an arrow into my chest cavity Note: Works great around Valentines Day. Something about u seems to always make me smile Thinking of you. (and taking cold showers) =D Note: Great for if she asks “what are you doing” I just wanted to start your week off on a high note by saying hi…so without further ado...hi!
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GETTING HER TO TALK ON THE PHONE Getting women to have a conversation on the phone can sometimes be tough. But talking on the phone can build a lot of comfort and attraction (if done correctly), and it’s usually easier to set up a first date while talking on the phone than through text. This texting thing is giving me carpal tunnel ... call me Where are you? I have a top secret mission for you! After she responds text her: This super hot guy is going to call you….you must pick up for further instructions! Note: If she doesn’t pick up the phone when you call her, you can text back with Abort mission! I think you have a confession to make...call me and I’ll tell you what it is Note: When she calls and asks what the confession is, say, “I got out of the shower and saw you peeping through my window trying to sneak a peak at me you perv!” Make sure to say this in a very playful tone. I’m gonna be busy for the next 10 min so I’ll have my assistant Fritz call you! Then call her in a gay German accent and it will crack her up. Refer to audio for a specific example.
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GOING FOR A DATE Although it is usually best to set up a date with women while talking on the phone, often times you can set up a date strictly through text. This works especially well for women you have a hard time actually getting on the phone to have a conversation. A lot of women these days hardly ever talk to men on the phone; they strictly use texting as their primary means of communication. Always make specific plans with her and assume compliance (“great I’ll pick you up at 9”). I’ll explain it more in detail in the 3-Day Formula section for going for a date. If we don't hang out soon then I'm going to start cheating on you Note: Works great after a marriage role-play We are going to be at X bar, you and your friends should stop by Note: X = name of the bar or club Party @ friends house sat. B cool come with me Sat. Party. Me. B there or B [] Note: This is short and too the point which shows dominance and confidence. [] = square. I’ll have my interns pencil you in for next week Note: Can send this if either you or her are busy this week. Where are you? I have a top-secret mission for you! Hey herd (hot-nerd), we are going to be at X bar Friday night. Your mission if you choose to accept it is to show up between the hours of 11pm and 2am. This message will self destruct in 30 sec!!! See you there… Note: X = name of the bar or club Tomorrow’s gonna be the best night of your life. She’ll ask “why?” Because I’m gonna let you hang out with me! :p Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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Note: If that feels too cocky for you send because we’re gonna hang out! I've thought about it long and hard. I've decided to shave my head and be a monk in a monastery. Saturday is my last day of freedom. Lets meet up before then Hey goofball! X bar Friday night! Be there or we are breaking up and I'm not taking you back this time……I'm signing the divorce papers and fighting for full custody Note: X = name of the bar or club. Works great after a marriage role-play. Your loss princess...epic night... I'm busy all next week :p Note: Send something like this after you call and she doesn’t pick up. I need some female attention…come over! Note: Works best if you’ve already slept with her or are very close to the point of sleeping with her. Ok, I got something going on Saturday, would you like to a company me? If not you got a sister? Hahahaha Note: Slightly cocky funny. You have to get your ass over here! It’s CRAZY! Note: If you’re at a fun event. “Red or white wine?” Note: This is a qualification question that can transition into asking her out.
Example Artisan: party. tomorrow night. mi casa. Gina: oh yeah what kind of party? Artisan: ninja turtles theme…so dress up as Leonardo because I’m already Michelangelo lol :p Gina: haha but Michelangelo’s my fav! Artisan: its just a small gathering of cool ppl…but u can still come lol it’ll prop be the best night of your life! Gina: oh really why is that? Artisan: bc u’ll be hanging out with me, duh :p Gina: oh I c, sounds like a plan Artisan: B here at 10. wear something cute. Can I trust you with my addy? Last girl became a stalker. Gina: no promises lol…but I’ll be there ;)
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TURNING THINGS SEXUAL If you want to turn things sexual, it is best done in a funny playful way. This shows that you are a sexual person and it’s easier to transition to sex during the first date if she already knows you are a sexual guy. Be careful because you don’t want to come off as a pervert. Remember, she can’t hear the way you are intending to say it. Today is f.u.c.k day (friends you can keep). I just fucked you! You know you liked it! So f.u.c.k. whomever you want. You better f.u.c.k. me back! lol You: WHAT THE HELL? Her: Huhh?? You: You told your friends that you just wanted to bang my brains out and use me for sex.. tsk tsk.. I thought you were different :p Note: This is also a role reversal. Hey Ive been thinking were going to need a safe word... and it shouldn’t be ‘more’ Note: Best if you are doing some sort of role-play such as marriage or overly romantic role-play. Don't get too horny without me :P Note: Best if used after you’ve slept with her or are very close to sleeping with her. Come over to myspace and I’ll twitter my yahoo and google all over your facebook Credit: Boogie Smile if you masturbate…..I know your smiling :) Note: Use these with caution but if she’s a very sexual girl with a good sense of humor she will respond positively. I can still feel u :) Note: Use within a few hours after you’ve slept with her
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RESPONDING TO CONGRUENCY TEST (aka shit tests) Women will sometimes test you to see how you react. The idea here is to be unaffected. Stay positive, playful and don’t be butt-hurt. Examples of shit tests from women are “you must be gay,” “I have a bf,” “I want you to take me somewhere really nice,” etc. Possible responses to a woman shit testing you: lol…you’re cracking me up right now You are too adorable….what are we gonna do with you? Credit: Vince Kelvin I don't know who your boyfriend is...but he's not spanking you enough! Two billion years of evolution and that’s the best you can come up with? Well your still my favorite little brat……well your at least in the top 5 That’s minus 2 cool points :p You’re not ur texty self today
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IF SHE DOESN’T ANSWER BACK General rule is to wait a day then text her again. If she doesn’t respond to that, wait two days then try again. If still no response, wait three days. And so forth. But you can always send her one of these…. Sorry forgot to get back to you I was X Note: X=something high value, something fun, or something hilarious. This text shows that you are not mad that she didn’t respond, and instead you switching the frame that you are the one that forgot to text back. You failed the text message reflex test Credit: Sinn You are the worst texter back ever I’m putting you on text probation Credit: Sinn OMG did u get kidnapped into white slavery or something? Holla back What happened? Jeez am I gonna have to bail u outta jail again? Note: For more texts to send women that haven’t responded see the Numbers That Have Gone Cold section.
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FLAKES It’s no surprise that women will sometimes flake on us. Sometimes they are just testing to see if we are going to freak out and get mad. You want to be a guy that has many options and if a girl flakes on you it’s no big deal. Possible responses to a woman who flakes via text: No biggie, thanks for letting me know. I can take someone else. Note: This shows that you are unaffected and have other options. No biggie, I’ll wait to see how you make it up to me before I pass judgment. :p Note: Be careful because this can sometimes come off as too harsh. That’s minus 5 cool points :p
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THE 3-DAY FORMULA Now that you have an arsenal of over 160 texts to send girls to build attraction and go for dates, you’re probably wondering, “how do I use it all?” Here’s a simple step-by-step system for getting a number and turning it into a date within 3 days or less. DAY 1: Get Her Number and Get Her to Invest First you need to approach a beautiful woman and build some attraction and intrigue. Then get her number in a confident dominant way. NO MORE ASKING women for their numbers. “Can I have your number?” is OUT! Instead, tell her to give it to you. Example: “Lets exchange numbers, and if you’re cool on the phone, maybe we’ll hang out” It’s generally easier (and a lot quicker) to approach and attract women during the day (than at a bar or club) because you don’t have to worry about other guys approaching her, her friends pulling her away, or having to talk above the loud music and other distractions To learn exactly how to approach and build instant attraction during the initial interaction and how to properly approach women during the day, enroll in Artisan’s Pick Up Artist Academy for free at www.pickupartistacademy.com/scholarship.html and/or take a Day Game Mastery Bootcamp. See schedule at www.DayGameTraining.com. You’ll learn the “2-Minute Chase Me” method for approaching women during the day, building instant attraction and number closing in less than 2-minutes! By using the “2-Minute Chase Me” method, you will have “time bridged” to set up a solid date. After you leave the interaction, within 5 minutes send her this text: Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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“Hey cutie, so random meeting you just now, are you always so friendly? :)” If you approached her using our method, then you built a strong connection and so much attraction (within 2-minutes) that she is pretty much guaranteed to text you back. She’ll likely respond with something like “not usually, you just seem really nice/cute/cool/etc.” Now, it’s time to “test her.” Women love men that are a challenge. Its just human nature to appreciate that which we work hard to get. So challenge her in a fun way by sending a qualification text such as: “Make it or break it question….X?” X=cheetos or smores?, ninjas or pirates, favorite music, etc. Send this text a few minutes after she responded to your first text. After she answers the question, I usually wait a while before I write back. She’ll start to wonder if she got the answer wrong, which builds suspense and anticipation. Then I’ll text, “call you later” so she’s expecting my call. I will call that day OR keep her waiting and call the next day. Both methods seem to work equally well. DAY 2: Tease and Call Her If she was very compliant during the initial interaction and your first texts, then you can go straight for a phone call and set up the date. If she wasn’t as compliant or she gave you some “shit tests” then its time to show your playful side and prove that you’re not like every other guy that kisses her butt. Any of the texts from the Cocky-Funny, Roll Reversals, Bait and Switch or Push Pull sections will work fine. But, make sure they are congruent with your personality. Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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After she replies to your teasing text and you and her exchange some banter. Use a text from the “Getting Her to Talk on the Phone” section to actually have a phone conversation, during which you should ask her out.
DAY 3: Build More Attraction and Go for the Date If she didn’t pick up the phone or call you back on DAY 2 then you can either do a freeze out (ignore her for a day) or build more attraction and go for a date. Build some more attraction and demonstrate your creative side by role-playing or playing a game. This will remind her how fun and spontaneous you are. After the role-play or game you can either transition into calling her or asking her out via text. If she didn’t pick up the phone or return your call on DAY 2 then it’s perfectly fine to go for the date using one of the Going For a Date texts; or use the following 2step system: Step 1: Find out her plans Most guys will ask “hey what are you doing fri I want to take you out” in which she can reply with “I have plans” or something similar and then you have absolutely nothing to work with.
Example Artisan: hey princess glitter sparkles…what’s your week look like? Heather: busy every day except thurs Artisan: yeah same here, I might have some time thurs, have you ever been to X bar? Jen: can’t say I have Artisan: what!? omg they have the most amazing drinks and the bar tenders do a fire show every hr its insane! Jen: wow serious? Artisan: I can’t believe you’ve never been, I’ll tell you what… lets meet there thurs for drinks, but you have to promise to behave Jen: I think I can schedule that in Artisan: are u scheduling it in pen or pencil? Jen: idk why? Artisan: so I know whether I need a backup plan silly :p Jen: pen u don’t need a backup Artisan: good girl see u sun
Instead, if you ask her what her schedule is first and find out which day(s) she’s free, she cannot say she’s busy or has other plans. Example: “hey troublemaker what’s your schedule like this week?” or “what night r u free this week?” Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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Step 2: Talk about your plans Before you actually ask her to meet up with you, talk about what you are doing on the day that she’s free. It has to be something fun that she wouldn’t want to miss. In fact…oversell it. Don’t lie…just talk about how awesome and cool it really is. Example: I was thinking about going to Saints and Sinners on Fri they have the most amazing drinks and the bartenders actually spit fire out of their mouths! From there she’ll respond by saying it sounds awesome and you can invite her. But don’t sound too eager. Example: hmm u seem like the perfect partner in crime, I’ll tell you what…be ready at 10 and I’ll pick you up, but promise me you can hold your liquor? Notice I did a little push-pull and gave a restricted request. I pretty much always put a restriction on any request (getting her number, asking her out, taking her to my bedroom, etc.) because it will throw her off guard and keeps you in control of the situation. DAY 4: The Date Text her about 15 minutes before the date that you are running 5 minutes behind. This will let you know whether she will flake. If she does flake then use one of the texts out of the Flakes section and reschedule or start the process over beginning on DAY 2.
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WHAT NEXT? So now you’ve read all the basic principles, guidelines and techniques for texting girls and you’ve probably read most of the actual texts that you can use and send to girls, or to just use as examples and references…but now what? Well now you have to start texting! If you don’t already have a list of girls you can text, you need to go out and get some numbers. I can help you, just email me at
[email protected] to schedule your 1on1 session and we’ll go over a simple step-by-step system for sparking attraction and getting her number in 2-minutes or less. If you already have numbers then break out your little black book and start texting. It’s a good idea to track your success. You need to keep track of each text you send each girl for two reasons: 1. So you don’t send a girl the same text more than once 2. So you can keep track of her response so you know which texts are working better for you than others I started an excel database on my computer to manage all my numbers and to track which texts gave the best results. I suggest you do the same. Or if you have a smart phone, you may be able to keep track on your phone.
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BONUS #1: Answering Her Questions You don’t always want to give a serious answer to questions she might ask. At the same time you don’t always want to give a funny answer or she’ll never take you seriously. Mix up humor with seriousness. Her: What are you up to tonight? You: Tonight's my weekly melted haagen-dazs bath! Note: Use a fake response like this if you cannot actually meet up with her. If she’s asking you “what are you up to?” then she most likely wants to hang out with you. Her: What are you doing tonight You: Well….I’m moonlight as an exotic dancer ;) Note: You can use any funny job such as lighter repair technician, lion tamer, astronaut cowboy millionaire, etc. Her: So what do you do for a living? You: Well…..I’m an ass model…..so don’t you try to grab it I just got it insured ;) Her: Who is this? You: [Your Name]….You know….Prince Charming….here to pick you up on my trusty white steed m’lady Her: Who is this? You: [Your Name]…..the man of your dreams…duh Her: Are you on facebook? You: Yeah...but if I add you promise not to become a fb stalker? Pinky swear? Note: This communicates that you are a challenge and that you aren’t going to give things to her too easily. Her: What have you been up too? You: Oh just busy fighting evil terrorists and rescuing orphans from burning buildings, ya know the usual Note: Use any absurd activity or far-fetched adventure. Coaching Available at www.1On1DatingCoach.com and www.DayGameTraining.com
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Her: Do I know you? You: Actually I have no idea how we know each other, I sent that message out to a few friends and accidentally added you to it, lol. Still, you must be cool if I've got you in my phone so what's your answer? Note: Use after you sent out a compelling question such as what do you do if you walk into your house and your two female roommates are fucking? Her: Do I know you? You: I think we met a while back and you wanted to take me to coffee but I never got back to you because I've been up to my eyeballs in work. I seem to remember you seemed pretty cool. Her: How are you? You: what in bed?….jeez you’re forward! :p Her: haha that’s not what I meant! Note: This is also a role-reversal.
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BONUS #2: Numbers That Have Gone Cold It’s a good idea to keep every number that you get because you can always try to reinitiate communication in the future. These texts are used as a last ditch effort for numbers where the communication died or the girl just hasn’t been responding. Hey, just been sorting out my phonebook and found out I have three [HER NAME]’s, which one are you......the crazy one, the hot one, or the shy suggestive one? Note: This shows that you have a lot of women in your life. I just met your twin! Note: Works great because women are very competitive. Yeah its big Note: This is meant to seem like you sent a text to the wrong woman. Hey [wrong name] come over the key is in the normal spot, just wake me up when you get here ;) Note: This is meant to seem like you sent a text to the wrong woman. Use between 12am – 3am because that’s the booty call time. This will show that you have women in your life and are sexually desirable. Hey I found your shirt that you left here. Note: Use during the day or early morning. It’s also meant to seem like you sent a text to the wrong woman. You were in my dream last night…weird OMG, just saw the craziest thing... totally reminded me of you! Wanted to touch base in case you got rich Did I just see you??
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OMG I've just come home to my house to discover an infestation of smurfs. What should I do?
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CONCLUSION Now that you have some funny, random, witty texts that you can send girls and have a 3-day formula for getting her out on a date, it’s time to get out there and get numbers. The only way to get really good at “Text Game” is through practice. Remember, these are just guidelines and examples. The only way you are going to get tons of dates with beautiful women is by putting the principles into practice. I want you take a lot of liberties. You might lose a couple of “prospects” along your journey, but remember you have to break some eggs to make an omelet. Don’t be discouraged if you send a text from this guide and you get no response, or a negative response. It might just be her mood. Or it might be that the text wasn’t sent in the right situation. Or it might be the text wasn’t congruent with the way you originally presented yourself. Don’t worry about it. Just keep practicing and you will be a texting master in no time! You really can go from 0 dates per week to 3 or 4 dates per week in no time - if you use and practice the concepts and principles in this guide. So get out there, get some numbers, and start turning your numbers into solid dates!
Action Plan Make if your personal goal to ask at least 1 woman a day for her phone number. This may seem hard at first but with the 2-Minute CHASE ME Method it will literally take you at most 5 minutes a day to get a solid number.
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Think about how much practice you would get if you got just one phone number a day? That’s 7 numbers a week. 30 numbers a month. You would be a texting expert in no time and you’d start having more dates than you could handle. So make it your personal goal to get just one phone number a day, and use the 3-Day Formula to get all the dates you’ve ever wanted. I wish you the best!
Artisan, Your Personal Dating Coach
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