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What is Meet Your Sweet? Your new life starts today. With MeetYourSweet.com, you get the ultimate toolkit to creating the success you crave in Life and Relationships. We know that you’ve got the smarts to take care of most areas of your life. So why should dating and relationships be any different? That’s why we here at MeetYourSweet.com take a life coach’s perspective to romance. We don’t want to give you a paint-by-numbers program or dumb down what it takes to master REAL success. Rather, our goal is to empower you by giving you the life skills that you need to achieve a complete personal and social transformation… …the kind that will have you feeling confident, secure, desirable, and powerful, no matter what challenge you face! We’ve done the research, and we know what works. Our thoroughly researched, nonmanipulative approach harnesses capacities that everyone has within them. Whether you’re male or female, young or old, single or in a relationship, we can help you become the absolute best you can be at relating with the opposite sex. Just imagine it. Gone are the days of struggling to get a date. Gone are the days of struggling to keep someone attracted. Gone are the days of worrying about whether you’re good-looking enough, popular enough, or captivating enough or to get attention from the opposite sex! With MeetYourSweet.com, you get expert advice from a team of the world’s greatest writers, life coaches, and counselors in the field of dating and relationships. Every Meet Your Sweet course includes collaborations with top names in the field. Our team of contributing authors includes our very own Slade Shaw and Mirabelle Summers, as well as Amy Waterman from 000Relationships.com and Andrew Rusbatch from SaveMyMarriageToday.com. So kickstart your personal and social transformation with MeetYourSweet.com. We look forward to hearing how our courses have changed you!
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TABLE OF CONTENTS INTRO......................................................................................................................................................... 5 MASCULINITY & THE IMPORTANCE OF POLARITY.................................................................................. 8 THE THINGS THAT DON'T ATTRACT WOMEN........................................................................................ 11 THE THINGS THAT DO ATTRACT WOMEN - I.E. WHAT BEING A MAN IS ALL ABOUT.......................... 14 WHAT DOESN'T IT MEAN TO BE A MAN?............................................................................................... 21 OUTRO..................................................................................................................................................... 23 RESOURCES.............................................................................................................................................. 25 THE MEET YOUR SWEET COURSE CATALOG.......................................................................................... 26
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INTRO What's up. This special report is going to talk about how to BE A MAN. You may have noticed … there's not a lot of information out there on this subject. People all over the place have 'opinions' on what it means to be a man … but they very rarely actually make SENSE in a way that's relevant TO YOU. And they're always DIFFERENT opinions, too. Here are some of the things that I personally was told to do in order to 'be a MAN' when I was growing up: - Study hard, make good grades. - Get a girlfriend and go steady. - Have sex with lots of different girls. - Drink a lot of beer, take drugs, get into fights. - Be nice and care about how other people feel. - Don't brawl. - Go to church and fly right. - Go to college and get into a fraternity. - Finish school, get a job and start earning money straight away. - Look after your mother and father. - Be your own man, do your own thing, and look out for 'number one'. - Get people to like you and be popular. - Your own opinion is what counts, who cares what anyone thinks of you.
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You can see why so many guys - including the teenaged me - get so CONFUSED about 'what it means to be a man'. And it gets even MORE confusing when WOMEN get involved! Here are some of the things I've heard women say over the years about what they find attractive in a man … 'He has to be a nice, considerate guy.' 'He has to put me first, and always let me know exactly where I stand.' 'He has to prioritize the relationship, and like to do things that keep me happy.' 'He should never say or do anything that makes me feel bad. I should always feel as though my feelings are the most important thing to him in the world.' … and of course, these things are all TRUE. The women who said these things really meant it. But for a GUY who overhears a woman saying stuff like that, it's pretty easy for him to get it completely out of context … because he doesn't have the 'background' that the woman has, and he doesn’t have the advantage of being inside her head and recognizing all the things that she SUBCONSCIOUSLY wants in a man AS WELL AS all the other stuff … … and, because so much of what she wants IS subconscious, she is literally incapable of actually recognizing that she wants and needs those things … and is literally incapable of actually SAYING to a guy that those are the things that will draw her in like a moth to the proverbial flame. Here's my take on the matter: women tend to want very specific things in the men that they choose to get involved with. They usually don't know themselves what those things are. They are able to recognize those things when they see them in a man … and they're able to feel the attraction that comes when they recognize them … but it's NOT a CONSCIOUS THING. And in fact, after a LOT of research, surveying a LOT of women, and spending a LOT of time studying gender-specific psychology papers and online databases, I can conclusively say that there is ONE thing that just about ALL WOMEN are strongly, if not irresistibly drawn to when it comes time to choose a mate. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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That 'thing' is this: that the guy in question has to BE A MAN. Very simple. Very specific. Very IMPORTANT. Now let's get one thing straight … what do I mean by a 'man'? By 'man', I don't just mean that he is genetically a male human being. I mean that he displays certain, specific traits and characteristics, in a way that women recognize … and in a way that naturally, subliminally triggers certain feelings and emotions inside of them. The ability to KNOW what it means to 'be a MAN' … and the ability to actually BE that man … is what this special report is all about. You're not going to find anything 'familiar' inside of these pages. No rehashing of any sort. Instead, we're going to get right to the root of the matter … what it is about 'certain guys' that women LOVE … and how YOU can incorporate those characteristics into your own life and your own personality, with NO play-acting, NO manipulation, and NOTHING BUT AUTHENTICITY all-round. Sound like something you could be interested in? I sure hope so. Let's go.
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MASCULINITY & THE IMPORTANCE OF POLARITY OK. So I've noticed that it's pretty fashionable, these days, in certain 'seduction and pickup' circles, to negate the so-called 'outdated' belief that men and women are different, and to talk instead about how - DESPITE all the evidence to the contrary (the evidence of your own senses included) - men and women are actually more alike than they are different. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about. 'Cut us and we all bleed red' … various statements about how, if someone shoves us out of the way, we all feel anger … and how we all feel betrayed and upset if someone steals a parking-spot out from under our noses … that kind of thing. And hey, I've got no argument with that. It is indeed true that our physiology is very close to being identical in most ways. Our blood is indeed the same color. We share certain inalienable 'humanity' characteristics, such as the placement of (most of) our organs. And yeah, for the 'basic' emotions like happiness, anger, and fear, we all experience those with regard to similar stimuli, I'm sure. But when you GET PAST that crust of superficial 'alikeness', and cast aside a preference for dallying in how things APPEAR to be, you get to the TRUTH of the matter … … which is that, AS IT PERTAINS TO ATTRACTION, SEX, AND RELATIONSHIPS, men and women in fact are very different. Let me say that one more time just to really hammer it home: superficially, and on a dayto-day basis, we are alike. There are certain aspects of our aliveness and our physiology that are NOT gender-specific, but which are, instead, 'human-specific'. But when it comes to attraction, and what CAUSES attraction from one gender to another, men and women are indeed VERY DIFFERENT CREATURES. Case in point: the whole 'femininity/masculinity' debacle. Us men tend to prefer very feminine women. The more feminine, the better, in fact. Women, on the other hand, tend to prefer masculine men. And the more feminine the woman, the more masculine the man she prefers.
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That very fact is exactly what this paper is about. And it's necessary that, before we can really 'get into it', you understand the basic premise that what turns YOU on, as a MAN, is NOT necessarily what turns HER on, as a WOMAN … and vice versa. Make sense? Good stuff. So here's what this means for you. It is the differences between men and women that fuel attraction. If you want to attract really feminine, sexy women, great. All you have to do is maximize your own masculinity: get in touch with what it really means to be a MAN, and then DO it. The more of a MAN you are, the more that FEMININE WOMEN will feel ATTRACTION towards you. Let me explain. Have you ever noticed that, in today's culture, there is more and more of an emphasis on being a 'nice guy'? On being sensitive, considerate, caring, emotive, intuitive … all characteristics previously deemed FEMININE in nature? I was reading a book the other day by David Deida which talks about this at length. Deida suggests that sexual attraction is based on POLARITY: that is, the quality of being opposite. In other words, women cannot feel attraction towards you if you are similar to them: if, for example, you attempt to ingratiate yourself among their ranks by being SIMILAR to how they are instead of being DIFFERENT and taking PRIDE in that difference. Deida's argument centers around the concept that polarity must exist strictly in sexual moments: i.e. that there need to be a 'ravisher' and a 'ravishee', or else all you've got is two lumps of neuter human flesh bumping crotches in bed. This is something I definitely agree with. If a woman's not BEING A WOMAN in bed, then that's not something I'm interested in … and ditto, if a man's not BEING A MAN in bed, most women wouldn't be particularly turned on by that, either. But I'm going to take this one step further.
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In my experience, this MANLINESS needs to apply to ALL areas of your life - not just the part that takes place behind closed doors - in order for YOU to feel comfortable with yourself as a human being and as a man, AND in order for WOMEN to feel comfortable around you … and, in order for those same women to feel ATTRACTED to you. It's not much good only being a 'man' in the bedroom … you need to be a man in ALL AREAS of your life, or else you'll likely never GET to the bedroom. In other words, if you want to create strong sexual attraction in all areas of your life, you need to be capable of being a strong, masculine guy. The less 'manly' you are, the less strong the attraction that you create is … and the less FEMININE the women are who are attracted to you. Just to confuse you: it's totally possible to still feel love for someone who is not strongly sexually opposed to you. Such is the basis of male and female friendship. It's easy to be friends with someone who's sexual essence is not a strong component of their character, or of your relationship with them. But if you want to create STRONG ATTRACTION, and STRONG PASSION, you need to be able to accept a couple basic things: that you are a MAN that it is YOUR ROLE to BE that man that you need to be OK with doing so that sometimes, this will involve acting in ways DIRECTLY CONTRARY to what a woman says she wants that POLARITY, i.e. 'opposition' or 'attractive difference', is what creates attraction that in the VAST MAJORITY of cases, you can't create attraction by being similar to a woman, following her lead, or looking to others for approval, permission, or validation In other words, although in some ways men and women are superficially alike, it is our fundamental differences, both physically and psychologically, that fuel ATTRACTION.
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THE THINGS THAT DON'T ATTRACT WOMEN A lot of guys try to create attraction in 'underhand' ways … by coming in 'under the radar' and focusing largely on being non-threatening as a means of 'getting a foot in the door' and creating attraction. For example, an extremely commonplace situation is where a guy will create a 'friendship' with a woman, in order to 'get on her good side', and prove to her that he's a nice guy who's not a threat … with the intention of creating a 'bond' FIRST, and 'attraction' SECOND. In other words, a FAKE FRIENDSHIP with SEX as its end-goal. Of course, this very rarely - if ever - works. First of all, such a friendship is by no means a real friendship. It's simply a means of manipulating a woman into feeling a certain thing, and not feeling certain other things. It's out-and-out trickery. And most women, of course - at least, the smart ones who are used to being 'wanted' by men … a.k.a. the MOST DESIRABLE ones - have highly-tuned sensors for this kind of treatment. They immediately sense what is REALLY going on … i.e. that the guy in question is actually ATTRACTED to them … … but that he's too SCARED, and not enough of a MAN, to be DIRECT about it … … and that he's SO scared of 'doing the wrong thing' that he'd rather actually HIDE what he's TRULY feeling. In other words: he is NOT BEING A MAN. Read: instant, MASSIVE turn-off. Contrast that squarely with someone who's strong enough to demonstrate complete congruence with what he FEELS and what he DOES … a.k.a. someone who feels attraction, and who then, instead of trying to 'hide it', actually demonstrates that attraction with his actions and his words. Someone who is OK WITH BEING A MAN. Someone who is OK to LEAD the situation, who can take responsibility for his feelings, and who isn't scared to be honest and direct about what he wants. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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Someone who doesn't have to 'follow her lead' or look to her for guidance. A MAN, in other words. A short list of things that WILL NOT attract a quality woman (but that many guys wrongly believe will): Concealing what you really feel and trying to pretend that you're not attracted to her Focusing on creating friendship 'first' (i.e. hiding what's going on inside of you) Trying to 'win her over' with THINGS and GIFTS instead of expecting YOURSELF to be 'enough' Trying to use logic and reason to 'convince her' that you should be together, instead of actually CREATING ATTRACTION Trying to be more like her so she'll like you, instead of being YOURSELF and allowing POLARITY to exist Drowning her in emotion and 'romance' and using these things as tools to CREATE attraction, rather than intensify the attraction that's already there Convincing her in any way that she is your only option, that you 'need her', and that you'd do anything to be with her … as opposed to showing her that you're CHOOSING her, that you have OPTIONS, and that you're interested in her, but you won't be devastated if it doesn't work out Now, just why do you think all of these things are so unattractive? Most guys reading this would figure that it's probably because those behaviors are all a blend of dishonest and/or manipulative behavior. And yeah, that's totally true. But WHY is dishonesty and manipulation so unattractive? I'll tell you why. It's because they are SIGNIFIERS OF WEAKNESS. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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If you're not able to be honest, and be congruent between thought and deed, the only logical reason for that is because you don't feel that you are STRONG enough to cope with the consequences of being honest. It is an inherent sign of weakness. And of course, women tend to take it as such. And, since highly-desirable women tend to go for strong, masculine, assertive, dominant men, being 'dishonest', 'manipulative', or 'incongruent' are all in DIRECT OPPOSITION to what a woman wants … and are therefore, by their very nature, UNATTRACTIVE.
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THE THINGS THAT DO ATTRACT WOMEN - I.E. WHAT BEING A MAN IS ALL ABOUT It's one thing to hear about how you have to be 'honest about how you feel', how you need to be STRONG, and how you need to be MASCULINE. But what does all that really MEAN FOR YOU? How can you put those things to practice in your own life? Let's take a closer look. Actually, all aspects of manhood are directly related to one another. 'Being a man' isn't just one or two things that you 'do' in order to be perceived a certain way - it's more like a LIFESTYLE. It's a way of looking at, and dealing with, your life, in a way that is true to your own better instincts and your own GUT FEELING about how the 'best' way is to deal with any given situation. Once you get the idea of what this means, you are then able to tailor this masculinity to become PART OF WHO YOU ARE, rather than 'something you do in order to get more women'. So what is it that constitutes masculinity? To my mind, there are three essential aspects of being a man:
1. Strength and dominance. 2. Being smart and valuing YOURSELF. 3. Knowing that you deserve the best, and actually BEING the guy who women want. Let's look at each of these in a little more detail.
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1. Strength and dominance. … a.k.a. the ability to LEAD, the ability to take RISKS, and the ability to be CONGRUENT in thought and deed. The ability to take risks is a massive part of 'being a man'. And it's scary …which is why so many guys back out, and end up taking the 'safe route' … … the route where they wait for HER to make the first move, they wait for HER to approach them, they wait for HER to start flirting. Obviously, for most guys, this approach is going to mean A LOT OF WAITING AROUND. 'Taking risks' with women is a very simple, very meaningful way of demonstrating that you are a strong, powerfully-minded guy who is OK with being a leader. A few examples of taking risks:
- Walking up to a woman and initiating a conversation.
- Provided that you are enjoying the conversation, getting her information in order to 'continue this later on'. - Thinking of something you'd like to do, and suggesting it to her, or just arranging it and doing it as a surprise.
- Being decisive and making snap decisions.
- If something is bothering you, speaking up about it - not just keeping mum in the hopes that you 'won't offend her that way'. Can you see how all of these things SEEM quite minor … but, when performed consistently and as though they are NOT A BIG DEAL, how they can give the impression to a woman that you are a strong-minded guy who is OK with being a MAN? Who is not just lurking around, hoping for HER to notice HIM … and who is not secretly hoping that SOMEONE ELSE is going to pick up the slack for him? And can you also see the vitally-important role that EMOTIONAL CONGRUENCE plays in all this? In case you're wondering, 'emotional congruence' is a big word for a relatively simple All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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concept. Basically, what it means is that you're in tune with your feelings, and you have the INNER STRENGTH to make those 'inner feelings' an EXTERNAL REALITY. So, if something is bothering you, you bring it up. You don't pussy-foot around, beating around the bushes and wringing your hands; you give credence to what you feel. If you think something is funny, you laugh. If you want to go have a look around the venue, you do so. If other people don't want to come, that's OK; you want to go, so you do. If you are attracted to a woman, you act in a way that is congruent with those feelings. You aren't being weird and trying to hide it; you aren't being weird and 'overdoing it' in the hopes that you will sweep her off her feet. You simply act how you feel. The ability to take risks, and the ability to demonstrate congruence between how you feel and how you act, is massively attractive to most women. It is very rare among guys, and an ability to do and be these things demonstrates INFALLIBLE QUALITY, INTEGRITY OF THOUGHT AND DEED, and INHERENT MANLINESS to the discerning onlooker.
2. Being smart and valuing YOURSELF. … a.k.a. not looking to others for validation or approval; knowing that you are enough, and acting like it (so, no excessive 'purchasing' of anyone's affections, no groveling, no supplicating.) Get this: people like authority. We are programmed to listen to those in authority, to make their views our own. When it comes to YOU, and what sort of a MAN you are, YOU ARE THE AUTHORITY. Women will listen to what you say, they will pay attention to how you hold yourself and how you act, and they will form their opinions of you based on this. So if you're acting like your own opinion doesn't count for very much … and if you are looking to other people for validation of who you are, for approval of your decisions, for permission to act, or for validation of yourself as a man … then it is going to be VERY CLEAR that you are, in fact, NOT much of a man. When a guy knows that he, himself, is 'enough', and that he is CAPABLE, it's extremely attractive to a feminine woman. She knows that she is going to be SAFE with this guy, that she can relax into his masculinity and strength, that she doesn't have to 'carry' him … that All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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he can PROVIDE for her on an emotional level. This is something that women are 'programmed' to be attracted to. If you can internalize this piece of information and act in a way that proves that YOU hold YOURSELF and YOUR OPINIONS to be WORTH SOMETHING, she will figure that you must be right. Because after all, you're the authority on what kind of a man you are. The idea of actually living this way freaks a lot of guys out. They feel 'lost' without the validation that they get from others. They crave that approval. They feel uncertain and weak without the good feeling they get from feeling validated by other people. And hey, that's cool. It's good to be approved of and to feel like people like you. But when that 'good feeling' becomes a NECESSITY, and when it begins to become the REASON FOR YOUR ACTIONS instead of an OFFSHOOT, then you are in TROUBLE. Your priorities are getting mixed up. And you're not being a MAN. Here are some practical ways for you to demonstrate SELF-WORTH (i.e. the knowledge that you are worth something, and the knowledge that you are 'enough') in a way that women will RECOGNIZE and RESPOND TO: - If you make a decision, stick to it. Don't umm and aaaah. Be decisive. Don't always ask other people what they want to do or how they feel. - Don't look to women for permission. If you want to kiss her, and it feels right to do so, do it. Trust your instincts. DO NOT ask her if you can kiss her; that will rightly make her feel that you cannot be trusted as a man. If you are meeting her for a date, have it planned out. Don't turn up and ask her where she'd like to go; know already what YOU want to do and what YOU think she would enjoy. - If you want to go talk to a woman, go do it. Don't linger around, hovering, lurking, wringing your hands, and peeling the label off your beer bottle. You are enough. Go do it. - If you're with a bunch of people and they want to do something that you don't want to do, act out how you feel. Either decide to do it; or decide not to do it. Don't just 'try to go along with it' and end up feeling resentful and awkward. - Be internally validated, not externally validated. If your own opinion is what counts the most, that means that 'getting rejected' or 'turned down' by a woman isn't that much of a big deal. It still sucks; but it's not the be-all-and-end-all of the night. Don't give other people too much power to make you feel a certain way. If you feel that you are a All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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charming and attractive guy, then that's what you are. Just because someone else doesn't think so does not undermine your reality. - Decide that you are in charge of a situation, and become the care-taker of the women you are with. Look after them. Open doors for them (car doors included). Pull out their chairs for them. Take their coats. Order for them. Guide them over puddles and muddy patches and across busy streets. Make them feel that you are looking out for them.
3. Knowing that you deserve the best, and actually BEING the guy who women want. … a.k.a. being a strong, dominant man through cultivating OPTIONS for yourself. I.e., dating a lot of women at once, CHOOSING to be with the women you want … not just accepting affection on a first-come-first-served basis, not letting others dictate who you should be attracted to, and being strong enough to walk away from a situation that's not working for you Having options is a very strong component of being a MAN, because it literally prevents any aspect of desperation from poisoning your fearless self-assurance. These days, it's becoming more and more 'fashionable' to talk about how Eastern philosophy can be applied to the dating-and-relationships world. I'm sure you've heard of a 'scarcity mindset' versus an 'abundance mindset' and how these things can absolutely influence the sorts of RESULTS that you get with women. In case you're not already aware, a 'scarcity' mindset is where you are focused on POVERTY, and how there is 'not enough' of whatever it is you want; whereas an 'abundance' mindset is the opposite. Obviously, when you feel like 'there's enough for everybody and then some', you're going to be a lot less DESPERATE, you're not going to be feeling as much ANXIETY, and you're going to be much more RELAXED. These things are all connotations of self-assurance, which is a key aspect of being a strong MAN. Dating a lot of women is one of the best ways that I know to instill an abundance mindset into the very bedrock of your character. And no, you don’t have to date them 'one at a time' … if you're really taking this advice to the max, and are really interested in getting to know what you're capable of, and in All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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developing some REAL OPTIONS for yourself, then dating 'one at a time' can actually be a TIME-WASTER. This is where 'group dating' can be really useful. (Not to mention, a lot of fun.) And seeing a lot of women at once is actually not that hard to do. The key, I've found, is simply to 'man up' about it, and employ the principles we're talking about here today: - Your opinion is worth something and comes before anyone else's opinion. You WANT to date a lot of women, therefore it is OK for you to do so. - You are not trying to conceal what is really happening in order to get approval from others. So, you're not hiding the fact that you're 'dating around' from the women you are seeing; you are straightforward about what's going on and expect that to be cool. If not, then you can go your separate ways and that's cool too. But you are not approaching this from an apologetic mindset, or one of scarcity. - You are not OVERLY CONCERNED with what others think. If they don't like it, that's OK … there are other women who will. - You are being DECISIVE and not being UNCERTAIN about what you want. You are taking ACTION. If, of course, you choose to take the 'easy way out', and assume that all women want you to commit to THEM and THEM ONLY … and that all women want to be in an EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP … and as a result, you tell sniveling lies, supplicate to what you THINK they want to hear, and are basically dishonest and unenlightened in the way that you approach the situation, well, you are directly damaging your progress into true manhood and will ultimately reap what you sow: a bunch of low-quality women and low-quality relationships that are based on cheating. You've gotta put your money where your mouth is. Part of being a man is having the options necessary to prevent desperation and find the truly ultimate women out there … but part of it is ALSO being strong enough to be honest and truthful about what the real deal is. If you pander to what you think a woman wants to hear, you are not being a man and she will sense it. Thus, you will not get the results that you want, now or ever - until you shape up, MAN up, and do what you know is the 'right' thing to do: demonstrate character, demonstrate STRENGTH, and be direct. When you do find a woman that you'd like to spend more time with, part of 'walking the All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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talk' is literally CHOOSING that woman. If you go with a particular option simply because it's there, or because you think she's the only one who'll have you, or because you don't think you can do any better, you are laying the foundations for an incredibly mediocre relationship and are simultaneously sabotaging your manhood … … which will directly lead to unhappiness, ill-ease, and what can only be described as 'bitchiness' on her part, because ALL women - low-quality or high-quality - want to be with a MAN. They want to feel that they have been CHOSEN by you, not 'settled for', and they want to know that YOU are in control, YOU are strong, and YOU are trustworthy. And of course, if you really have manned up, and if you really have been living by these principles, mediocre women and mediocre relationships will simply be below you. They will no longer be part of your social or sexual repertoire. Why? Because part of being a MAN, and being OK with that, is that you attract the really feminine, high-quality women. And it is your right and duty as a man to CHOOSE what is best for you, rather than 'settling for less' … thus, obviously, introducing an entirely new caliber of femininity into your life and bed. You must also know what you want. Simultaneously, part of being a MAN is that you know what you want. You don't let other people dictate to you which women you should be attracted to, which decisions you should make, how many women you should date, or how you should handle relationships. This is all interrelated, remember? It's about taking charge, being decisive, and putting your own opinion first. Know what kind of woman you are attracted to, and go for that kind of woman. And if something isn't working, you have the STRENGTH and the VALUE and the OPTIONS to WALK AWAY from it. (Note: this doesn’t necessarily mean that you must have a string of other women dangling at all times. It simply means that you have faith in the fact that there will always be other women out there for you. )
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So, you aren't afraid to walk away from a situation that's not working for you. This is a very powerful thing to be able to do, and it send a very powerful message of strength and masculinity to the woman involved. If a relationship with a woman isn't working for you, you must have the strength and the sense to walk away. If you're having a conversation with a woman and it's not working out, walk away. If you're on a date with a woman and she's turning out to be boring/ psychotic/a combination, excuse yourself from it and walk away. This is just another way of demonstrating that you have STANDARDS, you have OPTIONS, and that you expect the best for yourself. Powerful stuff. Now let's clear up any misapprehensions that you may have.
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WHAT DOESN'T IT MEAN TO BE A MAN? I understand that a lot of what you’ve learned in this report may seem a little confusing and counterintuitive. That’s OK; this stuff can take a little while to figure out in a way that makes sense to YOU and YOUR LIFE. Here are a few of the more common misconceptions, and how to find your way around them: Being 'dominant' and 'in control' does not mean 'forcing her to do what you want' or 'bullying people'. It simply means that you have the inner strength, and - yes - the masculinity required that you can assume authority of a situation, that you speak your mind, and that you bring something to the situation. You are not just lurking on the outskirts, hoping for others to control what's happening and hoping for others to create some fun; equally, it does not mean aggressively demanding that you get your way, obstinately refusing to compromise, or bullishly forcing through resistance. Valuing yourself and putting your own opinion first does not mean that you have to 'not care' what other people think, or that you need to turn yourself into a social outcast just to prove a point. It's great to be liked by others. And one of our strongest and most primary 'wirings' is that we want to be accepted by the herd. This is normal and natural, and if I told you to stop caring about what other people think, that would be flat-out impossible, and ridiculous in equal measure. What 'valuing yourself and putting your own opinions first' means is simply that you have your priorities in the right place. You are not driven by a need to be liked; your actions are not motivated by your need for external validation. If other people disapprove of what you are doing, then that is a shame, and it's OK to regret that or wish that it were otherwise. BUT, if you feel strongly about your opinion, then you are not going to be swayed by the opinions of others, and you are not going to let your instinctive wish to be 'liked by others' dictate how and when you will act. It's OK to want to be liked by others, and it's OK to care what they think. But YOUR OPINION still comes FIRST, and SELF-VALIDATION is more important to you than approval from others.
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Having options as a man does not mean that you force yourself to date lots of women, sleep around, or forego one monogamous relationship in favor of polygamy. It simply means that you are aware that there are plenty of options in the world out there, and that you, as a quality MAN, are deserving of the best. (Of course, if you are not deserving of the best, then you have some work to do before this one can apply to you fully.) In literal terms, what this means is that you are aware that you are responsible for polishing up your game so that you no longer have to accept whatever it is that women or Fate so casually and whimsically dish out. You are not a 'victim' here; you are 100% in control of the women you date and have sex with. You take control of your social and sexual life by becoming the kind of guy whom topnotch women are attracted to. The best way, in my experience, of really internalizing this fact is to prove to yourself that you have many options. You do not have to wait for a woman to show interest in you; you are out there showing interest to many women. Thus, it does not assume so much significance if and when a woman is not interested in you; you can just go and talk to somebody else. It doesn't matter if a particular woman doesn't want to sleep with you; you can go and find somebody else with whom you enjoy a mutual sexual attraction. When you know, in your gut, that the world is FULL of interesting and attractive women, and that MANY of these women are attracted to YOU, you are able to relax. You are no longer driven by desperation. You are able to pick and choose the very best women that you are attracted to. The result? Women can sense your innate masculinity. They know that you are a top-notch guy who has options. And as a natural by-product of this, they want to be one of your options. It's just human - and feminine - nature.
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OUTRO In short: you are a man. And: it's OK to be a man. And in fact, not only is it 'OK', but it is actually necessary for you to be OK with your manhood: what it means for you, how it influences your thoughts and actions, how it influences the success that you have with women. It's been my experience that the one MOST IMPORTANT thing about 'being a man' is that you must LEAD in any given situation (particularly one involving a woman.) Women will not be able to tell you this. But they will still complain, get irritated, and be disgusted by every single man they attempt to get to know who is spineless, who supplicates, who looks to them for orders and approval, and who attempts to ingratiate himself with them without taking any RISKS, without demonstrating any STRENGTH, and without making DECISIONS which he is then assumes responsibility for. Want to know the quickest way to get a woman to chill out and enjoy your company? Be relaxed and have fun yourself. This is a prime example of 'being a man'. If you do what MOST GUYS do, and act nervous, anxious, and look to her for a sign that 'things are OK' and that 'she is OK', she will get nervous. Why? Because you're not leading her. You're expecting her to lead. Thus, she senses that she cannot relax. You are not a real man. You are expecting her to be in control. You are expecting her to be the strong one. This is stressful and repulsive to her. If, on the other hand, you are chilled out and act as though everything is fine, and that you expect her to be fine, too, she will be. She will follow your lead. This is perhaps the MOST IMPORTANT aspect of being a man: the aspect of leadership.
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Start putting this into practice in your own life, and let me know how it goes. You can write me at:
[email protected] I'd love to hear from you. Be cool,
Slade Shaw MeetYourSweet.com
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RESOURCES Keen, Sam. Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man. New York: Bantam, 1992. Deida, David. The Way of the Superior Man. Boulder: Sounds True Inc., 2004
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THE MEET YOUR SWEET COURSE CATALOG
My Technique and Life Skills Programs: The specific skills, tips and techniques in your ultimate toolkit to creating the success you crave in Life and Relationships… First Dates to Soul Mates: How To Take Things To The Next Level Of Commitment.................................28 Supreme Self-Confidence in Dating, Relationships & Social Situations...........30 Conversation Chemistry – How to use the power of communication to create and maintain unstoppable attraction with the Opposite Sex!...................................................................32 2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex.........................................35
The information inside each of these courses will empower you by giving you the life and love skills that you need to achieve a complete personal and social transformation, and help you attract, seduce and keep the woman and committed relationship of your dreams… and now, you can get a $5 trial for 7 days, as well as a 60-day guarantee on ANY course listed above.
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First Dates to Soul Mates: How To Take Things To The Next Level Of Commitment
by Amy Waterman This course is all about building the love, affection, and long-lasting relationship that you want and deserve. Imagine how it would be to have someone in your life who is genuinely and deeply committed to you and your relationship? Imagine never feeling insecure about the future again? Imagine knowing that you can attract and create a relationship where the two of you want exactly the same things, and are going to grow from strength to strength together? If you want to put an end to unfulfilling relationships, take things to the next level of commitment, attract emotionally available women who take you seriously and support you in your life goals, if you want to learn how commitment really works for women, then you’ve got to read this book. It’s crucial to your success. Amy’s discovered a foolproof method of magnetically attracting your partner to grow in closeness and commitment – on physical and emotional levels – as time goes on. How would it be to be completely immune to the death of love and closeness in your relationship? To not be worried when the lust and romantic love starts to fade, because you know something even greater is in store? Do you want to be in a relationship with your best friend, your favorite person, the woman you love more than anyone in the world … and have those feelings reciprocated? When your love life is going well, everything else works like magic. But the best part is, it’s not actually magical at all – it just takes knowledge and a little skill. That’s where this course will give you the step up in your love life that you really need. Amy’s life-changing course is one of the most thorough courses on helping you understand, create, maintain, and foster commitment through every stage of the attraction and relationship process,
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If you want to create the ultimate relationship… improve your relationships starting RIGHT NOW… create better communication with everyone around you… achieve true and lasting physical passion in your relationship… and strengthen your relationship with your partner, even in times of stress and change…then I strongly recommend you read this book. It’ll change your life in ways you never knew was possible. In addition to the course, there are a number of bonus ebooks and audio files that will further assist and enable you on your search for commitment in your love life and relationships.
You can access the “From First Dates to Soul Mates” course at this web address right here: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/commitment/men
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Supreme Self-Confidence in Dating, Relationships & Social Situations by Slade Shaw Let me ask you a few questions: • Have you ever seen a woman from across the room that you really like, or who you'd really love to meet.... but were too overwhelmed by fear and nervousness to go over and start a conversation? • Have you ever felt like you don't deserve the kind of woman that you are REALLY attracted to, that they might be out of your league, and as a result always settle for second best? • Have you ever felt yourself shaking with self-consciousness when you are talking to a girl that you've got a crush on? Lost your words? Can't be your best self? • Have you ever been in a relationship where you got emotionally insecure and ended up driving your partner away by your clinginess and insecurity? • Have you ever fallen in love with someone before you've even dated her and got jealous and upset when she pays others attention and goes out with someone else? If you answered YES to any of the above questions, then this book is a great fit for you. I strongly believe that this information could help you lift yourself above the rest when it comes to attracting and maintaining relationships with women. When you're not self confident, then you get nervous and act differently at times when you feel stressed or need to be at your best. For example: on a date, or when you're talking to a woman you're attracted to. If your confidence betrays you at these vital times, then you may actually struggle to make your life turn out the way you want it to. Confidence is attractive and a crucial tool for men to have when dating, and without it, it's difficult to attract a really good catch. Why? Women base their assumptions of you on what they know of you. That's why first All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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impressions can count for so much and be so hard to change. If that impression she gets in those first few moments is all she knows of you, then as far as she's concerned, that image she has in her head of you IS YOU. So if you meet a woman you are attracted to and act nervous, fumble your words, and run out of things to say… then as far as she knows, you are the kind of person who is nervous, fumbles their words and runs out of things to say. And in those crucial first few moments, you lose your credibility and social status. (Of course, a little nervousness - with a smile! - can be endearing and can even help you, but if you can't let your best self shine through quickly, your love life is going to be characterized by a series of stilted interactions and misunderstandings of who the REAL YOU is.) Also, it's really unfortunate that people may assume from your shy or nervous behavior that you simply don't like being around them. They pick up on your discomfort. Women expect you to take the lead when you approach them, so its crucial that you are able to follow through and hold a conversation. And this is exactly the kind of problem that this book deals with in detail. By reading Slade Shaw’s book, you'll become a guy who enters a relationship with confidence and charisma, without needing someone else to 'complete' you. You'll be looking for a woman to 'complement' you instead of asking her a favor by dating you. This is one of the most powerful and special characteristics that you could possibly offer to a relationship. The self-confidence that Slade teaches you will instantly help you become a more socially adept man who is able to manage the challenges and negotiations that all relationships and interactions bring.
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You can access ‘Supreme Self-Confidence’ at this web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/selfconfidence/men/
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Conversation Chemistry – How to use the power of communication to create and maintain unstoppable attraction with the Opposite Sex!
by Mirabelle Summers (co-authored by Amy Waterman) When renowned online relationship experts Amy Waterman and Mirabelle Summers started researching and writing Conversation Chemistry, they were initially going to write 2 separate books: one for people who are single or dating, and one for people who are already in a relationship. But the feedback received was an overwhelming number of suggestions that they combine them both together, as there was so much essential information in each of them for people at all stages of a relationship. Hence, Conversation Chemistry was created and is actually the length of two full books (298 pages) and is packed full of essential communication secrets for you, no matter whether you are single or in a long term relationship! We've broken it up into three specialized sections: Section 1: The principles of great communication with the opposite sex. Section 2: Secrets to talking to and communicating with the opposite sex during dating. Section 3: Communication inside a relationship Inside this life-changing and engaging course, you will uncover a whole host of conversation tips and strategies, including: • The principles of great communication. These principles differ between men and women, find how and why! • How to adapt the way you talk to suit the man you’re talking to - this may determine whether or not she develops a romantic interest in you. You're going to find out in detail how and why men and women communicate differently, and how to communicate in such a way that builds unstoppable attraction.
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• Find out the surprising results from a study of singles bars, conducted by a couple of doctors. They proved the theory that there is a definite sequence to the process of attracting a mate. You'll hear what this process is, and how you can use it to your advantage in sparking attraction. If you follow this process, you'll build up an incredible attraction for you when it comes to the ladies! • Find out the form of intuitive communication that NLP practitioners, psychologists and even pickup artists alike agree is crucial to forming a lasting bond with another person… • The 'magic' ingredients necessary to build potent rapport with women. This is truly powerful stuff you won't want to miss out on! • Find out the key secret to become a charismatic and high-status man who has no doubt that what you're saying is interesting to your audience. • The 5 conversation turn-ons that when applied diligently, you’ll find that people will not just enjoy talking to you... they’ll go out of their way to talk to you! • How to overcome approach anxiety. If you suffer from approach anxiety, you’re not alone. Going up to someone and starting a conversation can be incredibly difficult! You'll learn how to calm these nerves right here with our highly effective 5 step strategy. • The one thing that you absolutely must say to put people at ease and dramatically reduce your chances of getting "brushed off" by a woman when you try to strike up a conversation. • How to spark chemistry and sexual chemistry with women. You'll learn some incredibly powerful secrets here, and they are a lot easier than you imagine! • The communication skills required for a great long-lasting relationship are different to those that spark attraction and get you through the first month or two of dating. In this exciting section, you'll discover vital communication skills that will bring the two of you together and you'll find out common communication mistakes so that you don't make them yourself! • What to do if communication stops. Rarely go out for an evening alone together? Feel like you've run out of things to say to each other? Find out how to revive your communication and get to know your partner again. • Discover the 3 traits of happy couples who know how to disagree in a healthy, nonAll Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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destructive way. • Uncover essential secrets on how to forgive. Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle, so it’s essential you master this crucial relationships skill! • How to argue properly and grow together as a result, rather than grow apart. This is an incredibly important chapter for you to read as arguments have been proven to be severely detrimental to many relationships, and yet seen as strengtheners for others who know how to argue properly. • Using the power of talking about the future to further enhance your long term relationship success. Discover the next step and how to assess your progress at regular intervals. Conversation Chemistry is designed to take you to the ‘next level’ of communication, whether you’re out to meet someone new, enjoy a fun and flirtatious conversation, master the art of flirting, or make a relationship into the best one you ever had.
You can access ‘Conversation Chemistry’ at this web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/conversationchemistry/men/
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2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex by Mirabelle Summers (co-authored by Amy Waterman) If you're going through the emotional turmoil of a break-up with a woman that you really didn't want to happen (or now regret happening), then you have my whole hearted sympathy. I know what you are going through, I've been there, it isn't a happy place and it isn't an exaggeration to say that can even feel like someone has just died. Breaking up is an awful experience. And in this book, I’m going to reveal to you my powerful methods for winning back your ex. Essentially, I've written this book to guide you through the process of healing the pain of a breakup; recognizing why it happened in the first place; figuring out whether it genuinely is a good idea to get back with your ex; and, if it is, I tell you exactly – EXACTLY! – what you need to heal the wounds and make your relationship better than it ever was before. But first I have a very important question to ask you before carrying on ... • Why Do You REALLY Want To Get Back Together With Her? • And Is It REALLY A Good Decision To Make? • Were you and your ex really good together? Did she treat you the way you deserve to be treated? • More importantly, did she support you in your goals - and did you support her wholeheartedly in hers? I'm asking that question in particular as it is the biggest determining factor in long-term relationship success according to numerous studies. The first thing that you need to do right now is STOP doing what ever you are doing to get her attention back. No more sending flowers or begging for forgiveness! (Yes, really. Even if you genuinely feel that you are ‘in the wrong’, stop apologizing and stop begging.) Before you do anything that you think will win back the love of your ex, you need to listen to what Mirabelle Summers has to say. 2nd Chance is a course that guides you through the whole self-reflection, consideration, and negotiation process that characterizes a relationship breakup and rescue. If you are committed to getting back with your ex, and All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com
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giving your relationship every chance of success, you can’t afford to be getting information that could potentially set you back or even end any chances of saving your relationship. You have listened to the advice of friends, family, indeed anyone who feels they would like to share their opinion with you. But now it’s time to get advice that is GUARANTEED to work. 2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex is a course that is specifically designed to: • Maximize your chances of winning back your ex • Help you get your life back on track so that you are happy again and have a positive and exciting future ahead of you... no matter what happens. • Help you gain perspective and work through what really went wrong, and discover relationship secrets to help you avoid going down the path that caused your breakup again. And get your relationship back on track towards mutual growth and bonding.
You can access ‘2nd Chance’ and win back the love of your ex at the following web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/2ndchance/men/
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