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What is Meet Your Sweet? Your new life starts today. With MeetYourSweet.com, you get the ultimate toolkit to creating the success you crave in Life and Relationships. We know that you’ve got the smarts to take care of most areas of your life. So why should dating and relationships be any different? That’s why we here at MeetYourSweet.com take a life coach’s perspective to romance. We don’t want to give you a paint-by-numbers program or dumb down what it takes to master REAL success. Rather, our goal is to empower you by giving you the life skills that you need to achieve a complete personal and social transformation… …the kind that will have you feeling confident, secure, desirable, and powerful, no matter what challenge you face! We’ve done the research, and we know what works. Our thoroughly researched, nonmanipulative approach harnesses capacities that everyone has within them. Whether you’re male or female, young or old, single or in a relationship, we can help you become the absolute best you can be at relating with the opposite sex. Just imagine it. Gone are the days of struggling to get a date. Gone are the days of struggling to keep someone attracted. Gone are the days of worrying about whether you’re good-looking enough, popular enough, or captivating enough or to get attention from the opposite sex! With MeetYourSweet.com, you get expert advice from a team of the world’s greatest writers, life coaches, and counselors in the field of dating and relationships. Every Meet Your Sweet course includes collaborations with top names in the field. Our team of contributing authors includes our very own Slade Shaw and Mirabelle Summers, as well as Amy Waterman from 000Relationships.com and Andrew Rusbatch from SaveMyMarriageToday.com. So kickstart your personal and social transformation with MeetYourSweet.com. We look forward to hearing how our courses have changed you!

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Contents An Introduction to Your New Life As ‘That Guy With the Unfair Advantage’........................5 How to Legitimately Get Her Attention...............................................................................9 Key points to remember:...................................................................................................13 Don’t Hit On Her.............................................................................................................14 Key Points to Remember...................................................................................................18 Walk Away From One Opportunity In Order to Create Many............................................19 Key Points to Remember...................................................................................................25 How to Open a Conversation...........................................................................................26 Your Energy Levels vs Her Energy Levels...........................................................................30 Key Points to Remember...................................................................................................31 How to Use Story Telling to Create a Bond.......................................................................32 Key Points to Remember...................................................................................................43 Learn To Self-Regulate......................................................................................................44 Key Points to Remember...................................................................................................45 How to Define Success With Women...............................................................................46 Key Points to Remember...................................................................................................50 Outro...............................................................................................................................51 The Meet Your Sweet Course Catalog................................................................................54

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An Introduction to Your New Life As ‘That Guy With the Unfair Advantage’ (a.k.a. ‘That Guy Who Other Guys Secretly Hate’) What’s up. If you’re anything like most guys, you’ll probably have a fair-sized hangup about talking to women. This report is going to deal with those hangups one by one. Over the next fifty pages or so, we’re going to talk about several intensely relevant aspects of meeting women, and talking to them in a way that directly creates sexual attraction. Before we do that, though, I’d just like to clear a few things up that most guys get WRONG when it comes to ‘meeting and talking to women’. First of all: Some guys hold themselves to totally unrealistic standards when it comes to meeting women and starting conversations with them. They stress about conforming to hellishly unrealistic standards of ‘wittiness’ and ‘coolness’, and believe that they’ve got to somehow make a big impression immediately. Yeah, it’s necessary to make a good impression on a woman. (Duh.) But you don’t need to do it STRAIGHT AWAY. And thinking that you do just puts a whole lot of PRESSURE on you, ends up stressing you out, and directly counteracts your success. During the course of this special report, I’ll explain to you WHY you no longer need to All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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buy into this destructive mindset… as well as what you actually DO need to do in order to get ‘in’ with literally almost any woman. Secondly: some guys swing to the opposite end of the spectrum, and mistakenly believe that ‘just talking to a woman’ is enough to get ‘in’ with her. I realize this might sound a little out-there at first, so let me explain what I mean. Some guys just DON’T UNDERSTAND that if you want to create ATTRACTION with a woman, you need to ACT DIFFERENTLY and TALK DIFFERENTLY than if you were just being ‘friends’ with her. Talking to a woman without focusing on how to create ATTRACTION is NOT going to get you anywhere … other than to create yet another female friend. If you want to get ‘in’ with a woman, you need to realize that communication with her will follow a very different ‘formula’ than if you were just making casual friendly ‘chitchat’. NEWSFLASH!! If you’ve been buying into either of these false beliefs, you have been DIRECTLY and SIGNIFICANTLY LIMITING your success with women! Look. You do not need to pulverize yourself against the rock of Unrealistic Expectations, whether they’re for yourself, your own conversational ability, your skill in making her laugh, or any of the traits which most guys worry that they ‘don’t have’. I’m aware that most of you probably won’t believe me on this matter … but bear with me for a second here. There are no skills required in talking to women successfully that any guy cannot grasp. Seriously. It’s not as hard as you think. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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And once you get ahold of those skills for yourself, you’ll be able to put yourself right in front of the women you desire, and take charge of the situation in such a way that CREATES ATTRACTION. Yeah … it’s a lot of fun. You’ll be able to let go of your need to ‘control the situation 100%’ and your need to hide behind ‘techniques’, and instead, will be able to simply walk up to women and introduce yourself … and instantly create the kind of masculine/feminine social friction that leads to serious chemistry. No kidding. But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t SPECIFIC THINGS that ‘work’ to create attraction with women. As a matter of fact, creating ‘attraction’ tends to follow a PATTERN. There is more to ‘talking to women’ than simply ‘talking to women’, if you get my meaning. If you want to talk to women successfully, in a way that reaps results, then you’ve got to be able to CREATE ATTRACTION and ROMANCE in your conversations with them. It’s not enough to just ‘open your mouth’ and emit words at random. Even if you’re funny and smart, these things are STILL not enough, unless you also know the magic ingredient for creating ATTRACTION. Aimless chatter doesn’t cut the mustard. When I first started figuring all this stuff out, I sat down and thought hard about what sort of ‘pattern’ a conversation might need to follow in order to reliably and consistently create All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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the outcome that I wanted. Here’s my theory: The essence of creating attraction through conversation is assuming control of the situation, assuming control of the atmosphere, and assuming control of how she feels. Throughout this special report, I will tell you exactly how to do this. First up, though: let’s deal with the ‘basics’ before we move on to the ‘advanced’ stuff.

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How to Legitimately Get Her Attention There are a lot of guys out there who literally don’t know how to get a woman’s attention. They go out to bars and clubs, or to coffee shops and bookstores … and they see attractive women … women they want to meet … but they have no idea how to get their attention. Most of these guys end up sort of lurking around, eyes pinned to the ‘target’, waiting for her to detach from the crowd so that he can sneak up on her when she’s unaware and ‘make his move’. This is a mistake. It will waste your time and MINIMIZE your success. It will also creep her out. If you are waiting for the woman to make an action of any sort before initiating a conversation with her, you are putting the ball in her court. You’re following her lead, which instantly puts you at a disadvantage, PREVENTS you from gaining control of the situation, and creates a mindset wherein SHE is the leader and YOU are the follower. The reason that this is a problem has a lot to do with one of the ‘root causes’ of attraction, which is MASCULINITY. The critical aspect of any guy that will potently attract women is his masculinity. Women like men who are being MEN. This sounds pretty obvious, until you think about what that actually MEANS … and realize that most of the guys you know most likely do NOT know how to ‘be a man’ around women in a way that makes sense to them. This is what I’m talking about: A major aspect of masculinity is the ability to lead in a situation with a woman.

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I think of the ‘ability to lead’ as simply having a strong character. If you have a strong character, you look within yourself for things like ‘approval’ and ‘validation’ … rather than looking externally (to her and to other people) for those things. Basically, it means that you act what you feel. If you think something is funny, you laugh. If you’re pissed off, you act angry. If you think she’s attractive, you create attraction with her. What it does NOT mean is that you hang around waiting for signals from HER, before you’re comfortable flirting with her, teasing her, and otherwise going about creating that thing called ATTRACTION. In plain English, it means that you take action when you deem it necessary, without waiting for anyone else to ‘make it OK’ for you to do so. These are the basic qualities of ‘being a man’ that women find intensely attractive. And if, like many guys, you’ve gotten into the habit of being too nice and spineless and too polite around women, you’ll probably need to make a CONSCIOUS EFFORT to get into the habit of thinking and acting like a MAN. Here is my definition of a man: A guy with a strong personality, a strong character, who demonstrates consistent congruency between thought and deed … and who TAKES ACTION when necessary. Here’s what all this has to do with whether you wait for her to leave the group or not. If you wait around for HER to take action before you’re able to take YOUR action, you are already ‘unmanning’ yourself. To get into the habit of ‘being a man’ around women, you need to make sure that ALL your behaviors are congruent with that fact. It needs to be a basic component of your personality.

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So if you wait for her to ‘make the first move’, or for her to ‘make it OK’ for you to walk on over and introduce yourself, you’re introducing a weird and ‘unmanly’ dynamic. So … what if she doesn’t know you’ve been waiting for her to leave the group? Actually – she probably does. C’MON now … don’t underestimate how observant women are. They are used to being hit on by guys. If a woman’s hanging out with a group, and you come up to her as soon as she’s by herself, she knows that you’ve been waiting for her to single herself out. This is especially true if she’s an attractive woman, and therefore used to having men hovering around, making nervous eye contact, and plain old lurking. And let’s talk turkey here. Even if, by some freak chance, she doesn’t know, you still do. And if YOU know, deep down, that you were too freaked out to act on YOUR timetable, that’s not going to do anything good for your sense of self-esteem or strength. Being able to interrupt a woman is just one more way of LEADING. It’s one more way of being a man, and showing her that you’re a man. If you’re worried about interrupting a woman, here is what I suggest: that you adopt the mindset that you’re going to make her life better by becoming a part of it. A lot of men are nervous approaching a woman because they feel, on some level, as though they’re trying to ‘get’ something from her – a phone number, a date, etc. They end up feeling like shifty salesmen who are trying to ‘con’ the unsuspecting customer. DROP THIS MINDSET. She is not doing you a favor; you are actually doing her a favor. You are going to improve her life. You are not trying to ‘get’ anything out of her; in fact, you have a MORAL OBLIGATION to give her the opportunity to have her life improved.

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This is called ‘having a buyer’s mentality’. You are the one who is deciding if you want what she has to offer. Contrast this squarely with having a ‘seller’s mentality’, which is where you are the one with something to ‘offload’ and you are the one trying to convince people to ‘buy your product’. The shift in mentality is pronounced. FACT: It is entirely possible that you are going to enrich her life more than any other man in her life history. A date and/or a relationship with you could literally be the best thing that ever happened to her. Dr Alex Benzer, author of The Tao of Dating, calls this ‘PPI’, or Powerful Positive Intent. You can call it whatever you want, but it definitely puts you at a tremendous moral advantage to think of yourself as ‘out to make her life better’ … … in which case, you literally have a moral obligation to offer her that opportunity … … as opposed to ‘trying to get something out of her’. Make sense? Good.

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Key points to remember:  Don’t wait around for her to create an opportunity for you.  Create one yourself by walking up to her and opening your mouth. (We’ll deal with what to say shortly.)  By interrupting her, you’re choosing to act in a way that is congruent with your masculinity. This is the first step towards demonstrating to her that you are a guy who can be trusted; you are a guy who is comfortable with his masculinity; who is OK taking steps to get what he wants; and who is decisive.  You are a buyer, not a seller. You have something to offer her that will very likely enrich her life and make her a great deal happier than she is right now. It is the decent thing to go up to her and see whether this possibility is actually a reality.

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Don’t Hit On Her When you were growing up, your mom probably told you to always be polite when you meet women, to ask their name, introduce yourself, and be sweet and complimentary. SHOULD you do this when you meet a woman? In a word: NO. And don’t give her your name, either. And DEFINITELY don’t COMPLIMENT her! Why? You don’t want to give her the idea that you’re hitting on her. If you do, then her defenses will go up, she’ll look at you with a much more critical eye, and – most importantly – you’ll have given all the power to her. This isn’t about playing ‘games’; it’s simply the way things are. Women tend to be attracted to dominant, powerful, assertive guys with STRONG PERSONALITIES who are OK with LEADING the situation (and leading HER.) When you give the power to HER, you are handing over all of those exciting qualities and saying, ‘Here. Take my cojones. Please. I don’t need them. You’re in control now.’ When you give her a compliment upon meeting her, you’re taking all the CHALLENGE out of the situation and making it OBVIOUS that you’re attracted to her. This is no fun for her, and definitely no fun for you. It’s certainly not conducive towards creating ATTRACTION.

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Guys who hit on women in the conventional sense tend to fawn and drool and generally ‘give the game away’ – i.e. make it clear that they’re attracted to her, she has something they want, and therefore she’s in control - within the first 30 seconds of the conversation. Once they do, the woman may continue talking to them, but the dynamic will have subtly changed. She will now be involved more out of a desire to ego-trip and ‘see how much she can get’ out of the situation, rather than out of genuine attraction or enjoyment. Guys who hit on women give away all their power. One of the ways it becomes obvious that you are hitting on a woman is by asking for her name, since this demonstrates personal interest in her. Another way is by complimenting her, which demonstrates that you find her attractive or pleasant in some way, and want her to know about it. And since you don’t even KNOW her at all yet, the only reason you can be doing either of these things is because you’re attracted to her … … ding-ding-ding! And there goes the challenge. And by the way … introducing yourself is the same. It signifies that you want to get to know her better, and you want her to know you personally. This is subtle stuff, I know, but it all COUNTS. Trust me for now. It is so much more powerful when she offers her name, or asks for yours. Then you know she’s interested. The trick is to allow her to reach that stage. Don’t ruin it for her early on. NOTE: Offering to buy a woman a drink is WORSE than offering her your name, asking hers, or complimenting her. When you offer a woman a free drink, this is what happens: 1. It becomes instantly clear that you want to get to know her on a ‘personal’ level. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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2. She sees that you believe your own personality is not enough on its own; you think need to ‘bribe’ her with free stuff in order to have the pleasure of her company. 3. She loses respect for you. 4. The shields go up. 5. You get deflected … AND lose out by the cost of a drink. DON’T BUY WOMEN DRINKS. Today is the day that you will STOP offering to exchange MONEY or GIFTS or COMPLIMENTS for the pleasure of a woman’s company. The idea here is to keep it LOW KEY. Don’t get too eager. Don’t demonstrate interest. Be fun and interesting, of course, but don’t fawn, drool, ask for her name, tell her yours, compliment her, or offer to buy her anything. YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU DO NOT NEED TO COMPENSATE. This is what really needs to happen: SHE needs to feel as though SHE needs to impress YOU, and be HER best self if she wants to attract or engage you. By starting out on the ‘seller’s’ mindset – where you’re looking to get what she’s got – you automatically prevent her from attaining it. Women love a challenge. They like to have their competitive side engaged. If you take AWAY that challenge, by proving to her in one way or another that she’s been prequalified by her looks alone, then she will LOSE the potential for feeling ATTRACTION for you. People want what they can’t have; women are no exception to this rule. Practice taking the buyer’s mindset – ‘Do I want what she has? Is she good enough for me?’ – and start being a CHALLENGE to women. Trust me on this one.

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Here’s how to be a challenge: You can show a woman that you are a challenge, and that you are not swept away on the power of her looks alone (hint: like EVERY OTHER MAN she’s met) by getting her to qualify herself to you. This is how to do it. Ask her questions like, ‘So, what is it about you that would make me interested in getting to know you, besides just your looks?’ Or say, ‘Beauty is common. What’s rare is PERSONALITY. What do you have that sets you apart from the thousands of other beautiful women out there?’ NOTE: It is OK to talk about her beauty, as long as you do so in a mildly DISPARAGING and ‘backhanded’ way. This is different from complimenting her on it or showing her that you find her beauty attractive. Oh, and one other thing … when you first approach a woman, ALWAYS add a time constraint to let her know you’re not going to be hovering over her for hours. This is simple and easy to do. Here’s how to do it. - ‘Hey, I was just leaving, but …’ - ‘I can only chat for a moment, but …’ - ‘I have to get back to my friends in a sec, but …’ A time constraint is a quick, easy, and EFFECTIVE way of letting a woman know straight away that she can relax and enjoy your company, without worrying that you’re going to turn into a social leech and hang off her all night. Use a time constraint EVERY time you approach a woman. Notice how much more relaxed and open she becomes.

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Key Points to Remember  Most guys, when ‘hitting on a woman’ will ask her name and/or proffer theirs. They will also compliment her, or offer to buy her a drink. DO NOT do this.  Don’t give the impression that you’re ‘hitting on her’. To do so is to give away all the ‘control’ in the situation and basically take the fun out of it.  Once she feels like she’s the one ‘in control’ – and she will feel this way the moment that it becomes clear that she has something you want – the possibility for attraction will be dead. Now is not the time.  Avoid these problems by not asking her name, not offering yours, not complimenting her, and not offering to buy her a drink. You do not need to ‘bribe’ women with money, gifts, or compliments in order to talk to them  If she asks what your name is, or tells you hers, that means she’s beginning to be interested and wants to know more.  ALWAYS use a time constraint when approaching a woman.  Use an BUYER’S MINDSET when interacting with women. Do not pre-qualify them; EVALUATE them. Wonder if she is good enough for you. Ask her evaluative questions. Be a challenge. Women love a challenge.

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Walk Away From One Opportunity In Order to Create Many I’m going to make the assumption here that you’re interested in approaching very attractive women – women who, by their very nature, are somewhat accustomed to being approached by men. If you want to stand out from the crowd, it follows that you’ve got to act in a way that’s different from everybody else. You need to be DIFFERENT from other men. An easy way to do this is to use the ‘takeaway’. Let me tell you what I’m talking about. I was talking to my friend Marko the other day. He’s a bartender by trade, so he meets lots of beautiful woman during the course of every shift. Marko had something very interesting to say about a technique that he accidentally stumbled across in his line of work … and the EFFECT it has on women. Here’s what he said. ‘When I’m at work, I’m busy. Even if I’m talking to a really beautiful woman, I’ve only got a couple of minutes max before I’ve got to go take someone else’s order. So I’m always walking away from hot women, even though it drives me wild to do so. ‘The weird thing is, I swear to God, I think it makes them think I’m ‘hard to get’ or something. And the hotter they are, the more they LOVE IT. ‘I don’t know if they think I’m avoiding them, or whether I’m ‘too cool’ for them … it’s like they forget that I’m actually at work and that I literally don’t have time to talk to them all night. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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‘Something about this ‘hard to get’ vibe drives them crazy. After just a couple short conversations with a woman where I walk away from her each time, she’s ready to give me her number. And the more beautiful the woman is, the less time it takes before she hands over her number – voluntarily.’ Hmmmmm! Very interesting. Why do you think THIS could be? My guess would be that it’s because most attractive women are used to men just hanging around until they either get told to buzz off, or until they work up the nerve to ask for her phone number. For the MOST beautiful women, they’re so used to this that when they finally meet a guy who DOESN’T act like all the other guys, it completely knocks them on their ass. They LOVE it that a guy can be a challenge and not be totally swamped by their beauty … to the point that they didn’t even think about the fact that Marko HAD TO walk away from them. Powerful stuff. This kind of behavior resonates with women on a GUT-LEVEL, because it PROVES to them that here is a guy with options, who is not desperate to ‘get in’ with them. And for really beautiful women, this kind of behavior is SO RARE that it literally drives them CRAZY. Like I said, women love a challenge. This simple technique is known as the ‘takeaway’. And you don’t have to be a bartender to do it yourself.

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All you’ve got to do is learn how to walk away from a conversation with a woman. Practice being the first to end a conversation. Then walk away. This gives them the space they need to start wondering, ‘Why isn’t he doing what every other guy does? What, is he not attracted to me?’ This is such a powerful technique that it can literally CAUSE a woman to offer you her phone number, instead of you having to ask her for it. Oh, and incidentally … another bonus: when you’re not stuck talking to one woman at a time for ages, you actually meet a LOT more women during the course of a night. All you have to do is strike up a conversation, talk for a few minutes – maybe two or three minutes – and then leave. Then, when you bump into them again later on that night, it’s instantly that much easier to start a conversation again, because she recognizes you … AND there’s the tension that exists from her WONDERING why you didn’t hang around. (It can also actually be a good thing if a woman sees you talking to lots of other women. This is Cialdini’s theory of ‘Social Proof’, which basically means that if a woman sees lots of other women talking to you, she’ll instantly figure you must have something cool about you, and her desire for you will increase.) HERE’S WHAT USUALLY HAPPENS Look: most men approach a woman, say, ‘Hi’, and then go into a lengthy song-and-dance designed purely to impress her and make her want to hand over her information right then and there. Of course, this approach usually doesn’t work; it’s rushed, puts a lot of pressure on you, and can make you seem frantic and nervous. … Not to mention, most women aren’t comfortable giving out their information to a guy they’ve just met.

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WALKING AWAY from her, and then RESUMING the conversation later on, makes her feel as though she somehow knows you BETTER … even though, logically, she doesn’t know you any better at all. But that’s the way attraction works. It’s not LOGICAL. So if you can be DIFFERENT from other guys, and demonstrate an ability to WALK AWAY from her, and make her feel like she KNOWS YOU BETTER than the other guys in the room, something very unusual is going to happen. She’s going to want to FIGURE YOU OUT. She’s going to perceive a CHALLENGE that she wants to conquer. She’ll wonder why you weren’t interested in her, and feel compelled to MAKE you attracted to her. And she is being conditioned to feel dismay and confusion when you leave. She’ll also know you’re not a creepy lurker, since you’ve jus demonstrated your ability to LEAVE. So here’s how it’s done. You spot a woman you’re attracted to, and approach her. You make a quick greeting, introduce a time constraint, and then talk for a few minutes. (I’ll explain exactly how to talk to her, including some openers that are guaranteed to get a conversation going, in a moment.) After a couple minutes, you say, ‘Cool. Well, nice talking to ya. I gotta get back to my friends. I’ll see you later.’

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Then, you turn around and leave. She thinks, ‘Huh? What just happened here? Why is he not sticking around and bugging me like all the other guys do?’ Then, she wonders about it some more. This is going to make it a lot easier to approach and start a second conversation a little later on. By walking away from one opportunity, you have created a much better one for a little later down the track. Here’s why: 1. You’ve burrowed inside her head at least a little bit. She’s wondering what the deal is and is wondering why you didn’t find her attractive enough to stick around. Great demonstration of the buyer’s mindset on your behalf – and even better that you didn’t seem to like what you see enough to stick around. It immediately presents you as a CHALLENGE, not just some guy who’s out to ‘hook up’ with her. 2. If you’re NOT doing what most guys do and sticking around, it follows that you’re clearly not a desperate guy. In other words, you probably have options in your life. This makes you more interesting, more valuable, and a potential ‘step up’ for HER and HER OWN social status. 3. When you DO eventually go talk to her again, you’ll be floating on all the POWERFUL benefits that you’ve ALREADY CREATED by turning away from her the first time. Her first impression of you was one of a casual, confident guy who has options to choose from. Her impression of you was a choosy guy who’s not just out to ‘milk’ any opportunity. This brings her defenses right down and opens her right up for REAL conversation where you can actually forge a CONNECTION with her.

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Putting it bluntly: if a woman thinks you’re not interested in her, she will work EXTRA HARD to MAKE you interested in her. Women like to feel attractive to men. Even MORE SO if they’re USED to feeling attractive around men. So if a woman meets a nice, friendly guy, who DOESN’T SEEM interested in her, first she wants to know WHY … and then she wants to MAKE HIM attracted to her. Walk away from one opportunity, and create many and better opportunities.

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Key Points to Remember  Walk over, say hi and ask her a casual question that relates to herself, and/or her environment.  When she answers, seem interested (‘Cool’). Talk for a few minutes, and then excuse yourself and leave.  Be relaxed and pace yourself. Don’t rush the interaction. When you walk away, walk away sloooowly. You want to seem NATURAL and EASY.  The fact that you have left without making ANY EFFORT to ‘further’ the ‘connection’ between you and her will instantly set her to wondering.  When you do go back and ‘catch up’ with your new acquaintance, you’ll have the benefit of all those good implications you’ve already created.  Women are naturally competitive. Beautiful women are usually very competitive. By NOT doing what other guys do, and NOT fawning over her, her competitive side kicks in and you become a CHALLENGE that she must conquer.  To an attractive woman, there is NOTHING MORE POWERFUL than a guy who is clearly able to ‘take her or leave her’.  Having lots of different conversations with different women throughout the course of the night, by using the takeaway, is a GREAT way to meet lots of women. It also functions as a form of ‘social proof’: you will be seen talking to lots of different women, and they will all figure that there must be something good about you. Then, they’ll want a piece of it.

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How To Open A Conversation So you want to open a conversation with a woman. What should you say to her? It’s actually pretty easy to talk to women once you know how to get a conversation STARTED. Openers are great for this. Bear in mind that they are to be used as TRAINING WHEELS. Things like ‘techniques’, and to a lesser extent, openers, are all very well -but you still need to develop social skills to go with them. If your conversation with a woman is like a meal, then think of ‘social skills’ as being the steak, and ‘material’ as being the garnish. NOT the other way round. ‘Material’ is designed to complement your personality, not to conceal the fact that you don’t have one. If you understand this, and use ‘material’ like the ‘training wheels’ that it’s supposed to be, that’s when you can start coming up with your OWN ‘openers’ and responses that are completely spontaneous … and you’ll start to know exactly what to say to any woman in any given situation, all by yourself. It’s a cool feeling. So. If you’re using openers, always be aware that you will need to sound spontaneous and natural. Don’t ‘recite’ them to her; act like it’s a spur-of-the-moment thing. I’ve included a couple here for you to experiment with. Take a look at the ‘pattern’ of them: note that good ones tend to be LIGHT and FRIVOLOUS. It’s not hard to come up All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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with a good one on the spur of the moment … soon, you’ll be able to do this for yourself. For now, though, here are a couple examples. 1. The opinion opener. (This one works best in sports bars.) You: Hey, I’ve got to get back to my friends in a sec, but let me get your opinion on something. Me and my friends were just watching the game, and we were talking about the fact that guys always watch the score, and chicks always watch the legs. What’s the story behind that? 2. The opinion opener. You: Hey guys, let me get a female opinion on something. I can only talk for a second, but me and my friends were just talking about this, and we seriously can’t settle the argument. (pause) Do women actually think that David Bowie’s hot? 3. The question opener. (This one ALWAYS gets a conversation going.) You: Hey, you know who you remind me of? Her: Who? You: Someone I’d like to meet. (Immediately start talking about something else. If you pause here and wait for a response, you’ll put her on the spot and it will feel like a car crash.) 4. The Pez approach (originally coined by PUA Mystery.) This one always gets a laugh. Walk up to a woman, tilt your head to the side and look serious, and just wait for her to start giving you that, ‘What do you want?’ look. Crack a grin and pull out your Pez dispenser. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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You: Pez? Her (laughing) Sure. I love Pez. You: Didn’t your mom tell you not to take candy from strangers? Her: Yeah … You: Isn’t it cool how forbidden stuff can be so exciting? (Immediately start talking about something else.) A NOTE ON OPENERS: Remember, the aim with any opener is to DISARM the woman. It doesn’t even matter if you screw it up, stumble over your words, or get mixed up. As long as you look bubbly, have a grin on your face, seem energetic, introduce a time constraint, and have the body posture that you’re just about to leave (address her over one shoulder, as if you’re just about to turn around and walk away) it literally almost doesn’t matter WHAT you say. Openers are not there to CREATE ATTRACTION. They are there for the sole reason of starting a conversation and getting your foot in the door. I have personally used every one of the openers listed above many many times, and they ALWAYS work; because they’re designed to get a conversation STARTED, nothing more. Don’t try to keep the conversation going by talking more about the opener, unless it feels natural and ‘right’ to do so (i.e., she’s enjoying it.) If you do, it will feel weird and forced. Get into the habit of using an opener, and then quickly start talking about something else. By the way … it’s the ENERGY LEVELS that count more than anything else here. If you’re approaching a woman, in order to seem like a high-value guy who’s going to be fun to be around, you need to have energy levels that are equal to or higher than the energy of the person or group that you are approaching.

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It’s your personal energy – the smile on your face, the way you hold yourself, your body language, how much space you take up – that makes the biggest impression. A FEW QUICK TIPS ON HIGH-ENERGY BODY LANGUAGE - If you’re standing up, twist around slightly and address her over one shoulder like you’re just about to walk away. She’ll relax more and won’t peg you as a creepy lurker. - If you’re sitting down, take up some space. Lean back in your chair. Sling one arm over the back of it. Do NOT lean forwards towards her – it looks desperate and insecure. Do NOT hunch yourself over, put your hands in your lap, or curl your shoulders in. Highenergy men take up room; practice looking like one. - Don’t waste energy jittering, fidgeting, or obsessively panning the room with your head. ‘High energy’ is not the same thing as ‘nervous energy’. - Whenever you approach a woman, put a BIG SMILE on your face.

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YOUR ENERGY LEVELS vs HER ENERGY LEVELS YOUR ENERGY

HER ENERGY

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Key Points to Remember  Any kind of canned material is the GARNISH on your social skills. It’s not the main course itself.  Openers are a great way to get your foot in the door with a woman. The more accustomed you become to using them, the easier it will be to start spontaneously coming up with openers of your own on the spur of the moment.  Openers are NOT a way to create attraction. They are a way to start a conversation with a woman.  Change the subject quickly after using an opener, unless she is enjoying talking about it.  Always use a time constraint when ‘opening’ a woman.  Always use high energy when approaching and ‘opening’ a woman.  Use good body language. Address her over one shoulder as if you might be just about to walk away.  SMILE.

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How To Use Story-Telling To Create A Bond So after you’ve opened a conversation, then what do you do? What skill-set can you use to create a fun, interesting conversation with a woman? Can you really pull a conversation out of nowhere – time and time again – like a magician pulling a rabbit out of a hat? You bet you can. Here’s how to do it. As human beings, one of the key areas of our physical and mental development is our ability to be interested in things. It is this capacity that has enabled the human race to grow, develop our massive brains, and teach ourselves how to improve our own survival skills until we have literally taken over the planet. Other animals do not have the mental capacity for interest. They have no desire to learn, to figure things out, or to teach themselves anything. And so for them, the status quo continues uninterrupted. Monkeys and chimps, for example, have a limited capacity for interest, which is how they’re able to imitate humans and do things like unlock their cages, pick up pens and scribble with them, and even converse with humans in sign-language. (Yes, really.) But you, as a human being, have the benefit of a massive brain and a massive capacity to be INTERESTED in stuff, and to relate it to yourself. It’s this capacity that’s going to allow you to create spontaneous, natural conversation with a woman in a way that feels very personal and easy to her, and that makes it clear that you’re a PERCEPTIVE and INTELLIGENT GUY. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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You just have to utilize that capacity for interest. When you see a woman you’re attracted to, take a look at her and the environment, and figure out what there is about her and what she’s doing that you could be interested in. What is there about her that you could conceivably like to know more about? Approaching a conversation in this manner is going to keep anything you say relevant and natural-sounding. Once you’ve thought of something to riff off, you can then elicit more information from her … either by telling a story, or by asking a question. A WORD OF WARNING ABOUT QUESTIONS It’s good to ask a woman questions every so often: open-ended questions about herself, from which you can then use her answers to demonstrate your perceptiveness, your interest, and your ability to talk about stuff that interests her. All good things. BUT, don’t OVERDO it. Don’t barrage her with questions. Don’t make her feel like you are grilling her. The idea is to keep a relaxed pace – you’re having a conversation, not interrogating her. So, when she answers you, take a moment to digest what she said. Breathe, take a mental step back, and pause for a beat. Don’t just fire more questions at her, or bark, ‘Why’s that? What do you mean? Why’s that? What do you mean?’, or she WILL start to get creeped out. Remember: this is a conversation. An opportunity for you to connect with a real live human being.

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Slow the pace down a little bit and remember that, while ‘control’ is definitely a good thing, you need to allow the conversation to evolve at its own pace, too – or else the whole interaction will turn sour. The best way to talk to a woman and to find stuff out about her is to use STORIES to get her to open up and tell you about herself. A ‘story’ can be anything from a short interjection to a longer ‘anecdote’. The only necessity is that it reveal something about yourself, and that you say it in ‘statement form’. Basically, you make an announcement about yourself to her that is somehow related to something you’ve noticed about her. You can tack a question onto the end if you feel like it, but you don’t have to do this by any means. This way of speaking to a woman – in ‘statement style’ rather than ‘question style’ – comes off much more confident and laid-back than if you just peppered her with question after question. No woman is going to stand there and answer question after question without wanting to hear something about you, too. You’ve got to be OK with revealing a couple personal facts about yourself, too; otherwise, you’ll just be firing questions at her, and the whole thing will feel really off. This is where STORY TELLING comes in. Here’s an example of how you might story-tell: YOU: Do you like the band? HER: Yeah, I love them! YOU: Yeah, I saw them live last year. It was awesome. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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HER: I missed that show, I was so gutted! I bet it rocked. This is an example of a short story: the fact that you saw the band live last year. Making a simple statement like that tells her something about you, on a subject that she’s interested in, and also encourages her to respond … in a very ‘non-needy’ and natural way. Obviously, this is a very simple example. But that’s the whole point. You don’t need to get bogged down trying to make things ‘complex’. When it comes to conversation, ‘complex’ is BAD. When you’re opening up and telling stories to her, you want to keep it simple and authentic, otherwise you will sound weird and rehearsed. The great thing about ‘storytelling’ in conversations with women is that it tends to encourage a real back-and-forth effect, kind of like a tennis match. You tell her something about you, then she tells you something about her, and it goes back and forth. It’s very natural to talk, and it’s a great way of creating a personal bond really quickly. Contrast that with a one-sided interrogation session, and it’s not hard to see the difference between the two. So if you see a woman in a bookstore browsing through some books, you could think to yourself, ‘What could I find interesting about what she’s doing?’ Then, you could walk up to her and say something that’s designed to satisfy your interest about what she’s up to, that also tells her something about yourself. For example: ‘I’m trying to find a book for my sister … can you recommend something for me?’ Contrast this question and short story about yourself to what most guys do, which is walk up to a woman and say, ‘Hi, what’s your name? What are you doing here? That’s a pretty dress you have on there, where did you get it from? Um, um, what do you do? Oh really, do you like it? Blah blah blah.’

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When you approach a woman and start a conversation that has nothing to do with what’s going on around you, it makes it painfully clear that you are ‘out to get to know her’. Equally, when you fire a whole string of questions at her, it becomes obvious that you know nothing about how to set her at ease or actually get a mutually interesting conversation going. But when you casually remark on something in your immediate surroundings, and announce something about yourself at the same time, it’s not such a loaded situation. She doesn’t automatically assume that you’re out to ‘get something’ from her. You really could just be making casual conversation. There’s not this awkward subtext of ‘I want to get to KNOW YOU!’ hanging over the both of you. So: Learn to utilize your capacity for interest in a woman. Ask her SOME open-ended questions about things that are interesting to her. And rely mostly on story-telling in your dialogue. For example, if she’s browsing through some books, you can bet that this is something that she finds interesting and is likely to be quite happy to talk about it. This will make it easy for you to take control of the conversation, and guide it in a romantic direction. A WORD ON ROMANCE The way to create attraction is, obviously, to get a woman to associate romantic thoughts and feelings with you. And the best way to do that is to TAKE CONTROL of the conversation and get her talking about things that make her FEEL EMOTIONS. Intensity of feeling is what you’re looking for here.

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Now, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to get ‘heavy’ or ‘corny’ or say cheesy and intrusive, overly-personal things. Neither do you need to actually talk about feelings, or about romance. You just need to talk about things that will CREATE emotions in her. If you talk about things that she is passionate about, she’s obviously going to feel much more ‘intense’ about the conversation than if you’re just talking about her job as a computer programmer and how many hours’ worth of overtime she did this week. Equally, getting her to open up about herself to you, by including story-telling in your conversation, is a great way to get her thinking about things she feels passionate about. And when a woman starts to feel intense feelings, then it’s a natural progression for her to transfer those feelings to you. This is how you get a woman to ‘feel something’ for you: to consistently create situations with her in which she is ALIVE and AWARE and FEELING EMOTIONS. Hence, the necessity of tailoring your questions to things about her, and creating a ‘tennismatch’ effect by telling personal stories. For example, making a statement about something she’s doing, and then asking her a question about it, is a pretty safe shot. If she’s doing it, she will likely have some sort of feeling about it. She could like romance novels or she could hate them. Either one is, at least, an emotional spring-board for further questions and a developing conversation. Often, if you just walk up to a woman, make an observation, and then make a statement about it, she will come up with one of her own … without you having to ‘ask her’ anything directly. This is what I mean by the ‘tennis-match’ effect of story telling.

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For example: YOU: Wow, those are funky boots. They look sort of difficult to walk in though. My exgirlfriend used to wear boots with spiky heels like that, and she was always getting them caught in drains. One time she snapped her heel right off. HER: Yeah, I’ve done that a few times. My mom’s always going on at me to take them off inside, because I leave little dents in the floorboards all through the house. YOU: Tell me something. I seriously don’t know how women manage to handle changing heights all the time with shoes like that. If I was, like, an extra four inches taller during the day, and then all of a sudden I lost all that extra height when I took my shoes off at night, I think I’d start to develop an inadequacy complex. I guess that’s why you guys wear those things all the time. HER: Ha ha, yeah, I’ve actually started thinking of myself as being the height that I am in these shoes. It’s got so that when I’m not wearing heels, I actually feel short. YOU: (start talking about something else.) Obviously, you don’t want to keep talking about shoes. That’s not the aim of the game. The aim here is simply to start creating a rapport with her. Once you’ve made a little progress, you can change the subject. Once you’re in, you can start talking about anything you feel like. But at the start, you need to talk about things that it’s a safe bet that SHE is interested in. She doesn’t have enough invested in the situation to spend energy listening to YOU and things about YOUR LIFE. You are not interesting to her yet. If you talk about yourself, if you seem like you’ve got an investment in making her think you are a cool guy, you will BORE HER and turn her OFF. The way to make her think you are cool is to utilize your capacity for interest and be interested IN HER. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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The same goes for how to keep the conversation going. She’s answered your question and now it’s your turn to say something else to keep the conversation alive. What do you say? Here’s what you do: when she’s talking, you listen to her. Don’t waste your time and energy thinking about what else you can say next, or whether you can think of something funny to say. Don’t think about what kind of impression you’re making or whether she likes you or not. Listen to what she’s saying, because that’s how you’ll know what to say next. Listen to her answer – and then utilize your capacity to be interested again. Ask yourself what interests you about her answer, and what you’d like to know more about. Think about what you can tell her about your life that relates to this. Then say it – preferably in a STATEMENT FORM (although the odd ‘question’ is also fine.) Let’s take it back to the bookstore example. So if you asked her, ‘So are these your favorite kinds of books?’ And she said, ‘Well, I don’t really know.’ … does that mean you’re totally stumped? Not necessarily. You just have to focus on that interest, and then relate it back to yourself. You could say, ‘Yeah, I know what you mean. Actually, I hate it when people ask me questions like that. Like if I’m reading a book, someone always comes up to me and goes, ‘What’s your book about?’ That’s such an annoying question.’

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To which she might say, ‘Actually, yeah. To be honest, I’m not even all that much of a reader. I don’t even like romance novels all that much.’ And then you could say, ‘But you’re in the romance section.’ Her: ‘Yeah, I just wanted something fluffy to read over the weekend.’ To which you could say … … well, I’m not going to map out the whole conversation for you. But hopefully you’re beginning to see how listening to what she’s saying, and then making statements and asking questions that are based on what she just said, is a much better way to keep things fresh and exciting than simply walking up and droning off a list of ‘interview questions’. It’s MUCH more personal, and it’s MUCH more interesting to her, because it’s ABOUT HER … and you’re also revealing stuff ABOUT YOU at the same time. The first step of any seduction is always about her. It’s never about you. Internalize this fact. To talk to a woman, you have to focus on her. You have to get interested IN HER. Ask her questions about herself. Make them interesting and relevant to what she is doing and what she likes. Make statements and tell stories that encourage her to respond. But don’t get carried away and start telling long ‘anecdotes’ about things … that can get old pretty quick. Think tennis match: lots of back-and-forth. If this is confusing, think about it this way: Have you ever met a woman who comes up and introduces herself to you … and then, during the course of the conversation, pours out ALL SORTS of information about herself … All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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… like, where she’s from; where she was brought up; what her family’s like; what she does for a living; which part of town she lives in now; whether she’s looking for a new boyfriend/revenge sex/casual fling or not; how many drinks she’s had this evening; this crazy new diet she’s on; BLAH, BLAH, BLAAAAAAH. If you’ve ever had anything like this happen to you, I want you to STOP A MOMENT and THINK about it. How did it make you feel? Did it make you want to get to know her even better … and as though you COULDN’T WAIT to take her somewhere and get all naughty and naked with her? Or did it make you feel as though she was coming on way too strong and like she was really pretty BORING? If you’re anything like most guys, you’ll choose the LATTER option. And guess what? Women are a lot like men in this regard. They, too, get turned OFF by guys who OVERDO it, come on too strong, and reveal lots of things about themselves before she’s even had a chance to work up any DESIRE to know about him in the first place. Attraction is about DESIRE. It’s about YEARNING. You cannot, by defintion, ‘yearn’ for something or ‘desire’ something if it’s ALREADY RIGHT THERE IN YOUR FACE. Being a little elusive and a little mysterious creates the SPACE she needs to feel those feelings of ATTRACTION. I’m not suggesting that you ‘play games’ with her, arbitrarily withhold information, or make up LIES about yourself in order to seem more interesting and more desirable. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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I AM suggesting that you pay attention to the fact that, in order to create ATTRACTION, she needs certain things to happen in a certain way. Specifically, she needs you to talk about things that are interesting to her. She needs you to ask her the odd question. And most importantly, she needs you to tell stories about yourself in a way that encourages her to respond … without OVERDOING IT and HAMMERING HER with fact after fact about yourself. This is the absolute BEST way of bonding quickly with a woman.

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Key Points to Remember  You don’t need to PLAN things, or be overly organized, in order to have fun, cool conversations with a woman that will INTEREST HER.  All you have to do is utilize your capacity to be interested. Assume that she will always provide you with SOMETHING that interests you enough to get a conversation going.  Don’t ask too many questions. Use STATEMENTS and STORIES to get her talking. You will seem much more laid-back and confident.  All great seductions start off by focusing on HER. When talking to a woman, talk about HER. Get interested in HER. Don’t talk about yourself too much.  Keep the conversation going by listening to her, and then using your ability to feel interest about what it is that she says. Don’t stress about it; she will always provide you with something to riff off. This technique is what will keep the conversation going.  Don’t waste your time focusing on YOU or thinking about what she thinks of you. You’ll trip yourself up, and will forget to be internally referenced. Assume that if she’s talking to you, it’s going well.  SOME questions are good, but keep a RELAXED PACE. This is not an interrogation and you don’t want her to feel like you’re conducting a survey.  Being a LITTLE bit mysterious, a LITTLE bit elusive, and holding BACK a bit is necessary in order to create and amplify her attraction towards you. She can’t want more of you if you’ve shoved yourself into her face and told her everything about you before she can even wonder about you in the first place.

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Learn To Self-Regulate Plenty of men get all hung up on the RULES of talking to women. For example, they think, ‘OK, I’ve got to talk to her for two or three minutes, and then I’ve got to WALK AWAY at that point NO MATTER WHAT.’ This is a good way to tangle yourself up in your own feet. The trick to true success with women is learning to SELF-CALIBRATE. You need to be able to self-monitor, and learn how to evaluate the situation for yourself. For example, if you’re three minutes in, and a conversation still hasn’t taken off yet you’re feeling stressed out, you can’t think of anything to say, you’re not really feeling a ‘connection’, and you just wish it was OVER already - well, maybe that’s a sign that it’s not going so well, and that it is a good idea to bail out. You don’t have to ‘follow the rules’ to the letter. Equally, if a conversation is going REALLY WELL, you don’t ‘have to’ bail out after three minutes just because you read that that’s what you ‘should’ do. All suggestions are here for you as GUIDELINES. Learn to calibrate the situation FOR YOURSELF. If it’s going terribly, don’t force yourself to stick around because ‘the rules’ say you should … just add a time constraint and make your exit. Equally, if it’s going WELL, don’t make yourself leave just because 2 minutes are up.

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Key Points to Remember  You don’t always have to follow rules ‘to the letter’. Don’t force yourself to arbitrarily leave or stay just because that’s what the book says to do. Learn to regulate your own environment and act accordingly.  If you do need to leave early, add a time constraint (‘I’ve gotta get back to my friends, see you later’) and get out. You can try again later if you feel like it … or better yet, move on to some OTHER women.

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How To Define Success With Women You’ll probably be familiar with all those guys out there on the Seduction Community forums and message-rooms, talking about how many numbers or email addresses they got the other night and arguing about who is ‘the best’ according to how many ‘numbercloses’ they got. DON’T FALL INTO THIS TRAP. If you define ‘success’ as the OUTCOME of a situation – e.g. how many phone numbers you got - you are setting yourself up for FAILURE with women and FAILURE according to YOUR OWN STANDARDS. Why? Because, if you set your standard of success with women in accordance with the OUTCOME of a situation, you are forcing yourself to focus on WHAT HAPPENS … rather than focusing on the things that YOU have CONTROL over. And anybody can tell you that linking your success to a factor that YOU have NO CONTROL over is a great way to end up SCREWED UP, DEPRESSED, and TOO SCARED to keep going. A better way to handle it is to define success as whether or not you made an effort to initiate a conversation with her. Link success to the things that YOU have control over. Can you control whether she likes you or not? Nope. There are a BAZILLION reasons why a woman might not be amenable to talking to a man – ANY man – at ANY given moment.

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MOST of them have NOTHING to do with YOU AS A PERSON. But you CAN control whether you MAKE AN ATTEMPT to talk to her … … and THAT is where the ‘success’ lies. Stop being so outcome-focused. Don’t get so hung up on ‘what happens’. Instead, focus yourself on the things that you have directly under your control – such as whether you even tried to talk to her. Tie your standards to the EFFORT that you make, not the OUTCOME that happens. I mean, think about it … ANYTHING could be influencing the mood and the reactions of ANY woman you talk to. She could have just been fired. Her cat could have just died. Maybe she’s one of those horrible women who don’t have a sense of humor. Maybe she’s got a boyfriend and isn’t looking for any other attention right now. Maybe she’s a lesbian. Maybe she hates men. Maybe she doesn’t speak English very well. Maybe she’s really shy and hates talking to new people. YOU JUST DON’T KNOW. There are literally thousands of reasons as to why a conversation with a woman will never go ‘to the next level’. And most of the time, you won’t know what those reasons are. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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The only way to stay sane and to keep having FUN with this is to set the bar of success at a REALISTIC LEVEL: in accordance with what YOU HAVE CONTROL over … … which is the effort that you make. In other words, if you don’t hit if off with a woman, it’s not a blight on you or her. And in fact, you’re still a SUCCESS, because you made the effort to create some attraction and you took some steps to make it happen. Whether it ‘worked’ or not, that’s still success. Someone out there reading this just rolled their eyes and said, ‘Yeah, right.’ If that guy was you, consider this: the human mind is like a tape recorder. It plays back a loop of thoughts and ‘opinions’ to us. These thoughts and opinions are our SELF-TALK, and they govern the way we feel about ourselves at any given moment. If you don’t make an EFFORT to choose the ‘tape’ that is most helpful to you and most conducive to the achievement of your goals, your mind will NATURALLY settle at the ‘lowest common denominator’ and will NATURALLY begin to hector you with low-quality, distracting, NEGATIVE THOUGHTS. The ‘phone-numbers = success’ thing is just ONE example of this. For example: ‘Oh no, I didn’t get her number … I’M A FAILURE WITH WOMEN.’ Is this thought helpful? Is this going to help you keep getting better and BETTER with women? Here’s a hint: NO.

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If you succumb to thoughts like that – and trust me when I say that EVERY MAN has the capacity to get distracted by those thoughts, because EVERY MAN has a ‘negative’ voice inside him - then you will NEVER get better with women. Instead, you’ll get discouraged, you’ll start feeling dumb, you’ll start doubting yourself and getting in your own way … and then you’ll STOP TRYING. You have to actively choose which ‘tape’ plays inside your head. You have to actively choose to believe the MOST HELPFUL BELIEFS that you can think of. You have to actively choose to believe that ‘success with women’ is tied to the EFFORT that you make, not the RESULTS that you get. It’s the best way and the ONLY way to get better and better and BETTER EVERY DAY with the women in your life.

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Key Points to Remember  ‘Success with women’ is linked to the EFFORT that you make, not the RESULTS that you get. Focus on the effort for now, and the results will come.  Your mind will NATURALLY settle on negative self-talk if you let it. You have to ACTIVELY CHOOSE to believe that ‘EFFORT = SUCCESS’ if you want to get better with women and attraction.  If you allow your brain to poison your self-talk with the kind of negativity that NATURALLY OCCURS in every man’s mind, you will end up feeling dumb, doubting yourself, and being TOO SCARED to keep trying. THIS is what causes failure with women – NOT the women themselves. \

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Outro ‘Meeting and approaching women’ is a MASSIVE subject. The truth is that this report has only scratched the surface of what there is to learn. There’s so much to say that it’s LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE to fit it all into just these few pages. For example, beyond ‘meeting women and starting conversations’, there are several other areas that are CRITICAl to your overall success: - Self confidence - Energy levels - Relationship management - How to get a 2nd (and 3rd) date - How to create LONG TERM ATTRACTION Take a moment and think to yourself about whether ‘meeting women and starting conversations’, as well as the attendant other ‘areas’, is something that you’d like to REALLY get a handle on in your own life. If you’re like MOST MEN, and if you’re HONEST about it, you’ll admit that there are probably a few key areas that could do with a bit of a ‘tweak’ before you begin to see the results that you REALLY want. Or it could be that you need a ‘complete overhaul’, and want to figure out your own ‘attraction quotient’ from SCRATCH in order to leave old habits and anxieties behind. Most men find this pretty upsetting. And they definitely don’t like to admit that they feel this way.

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If you know what I mean, then try this on for size: how about, instead of getting UPSET about it, or wishing that things could be different, that you take this as an opportunity to DO SOMETHING about it? In other words, instead of getting bogged down in upset and anxiety, LEARN from the situation and decide to GET THAT SKILL SORTED called ‘meeting women and starting conversations’. And then, learn to USE that skill to create ATTRACTION and CHEMISTRY with the women that you’re interested in. If you want to learn more about these skills and how you can use them to meet, talk to, and ATTRACT the women of your choice – as well as how to keep yourself from getting upset, freaked out, or ‘stalling’ – then you should read this: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen I’m really proud of this book – in fact, I think it’s one of my best EVER. No kidding. And I’ll put my money where my mouth is, too: I’m SO proud of this book, and SO sure that you’re going to LOVE IT, that I’ve put my ‘ironclad moneyback guarantee’ in place … … AS WELL AS my special $5 trial offer! Read it, absorb it, and learn.

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I’ve also included some recommended resources overleaf that I suggest you check out, if you’re SERIOUS about getting BETTER with women. And I’ll talk to you again soon. Be cool,

Slade Shaw MeetYourSweet.com

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The Meet Your Sweet Course Catalog Transformational 12-Issue Course: A 12-Month Education in Total Attraction Transformation

Ultimate Attraction Transformation Series – For Men...........................................55

Men’s Foundation Program: The core essentials to creating the success you crave in Love…

Fireworks With Females......................................................................................57

Technique and Life Skills Programs: The specific skills, tips and techniques in your ultimate toolkit to creating the success you crave in Life and Relationships…

Connect And Commit: How To Take Things To The Next Level Of Commitment..59 Supreme Self-Confidence in Dating, Relationships & Social Situations...............61 Conversation Chemistry – How to use the power of communication to create and maintain unstoppable attraction with the Opposite Sex!.....................................64 2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex..............................................68

The information inside each of these courses will empower you by giving you the life and love skills that you need to achieve a complete personal and social transformation, and help you attract, seduce and keep the woman and committed relationship of your dreams… and you can get a 60-day guarantee on ANY course listed above. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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Ultimate Attraction Transformation Series – For Men Created by the Meet Your Sweet Team Edited by Slade Shaw Success with understanding and attracting women is an elusive skill that evades most men. You know what you want and what you like in women, but when it comes to actually getting it, Doogie Howser is probably better at getting chicks than you. Many experts and pickup artists will share the techniques that work for them, but you’re not them. You’re not going to wear black eyeliner and do magic tricks, are you? You want a method that works for YOU, all the way from start to finish. That may mean closing on a girlfriend, not always another one-night stand. The problem with most other guys and PUAs is that they think there’s a magic bullet: ONE thing, one secret, one new skill that will guarantee success with women. But women are so much smarter than that. They want the WHOLE picture, a man that not only has the SKILLS, but the CONFIDENCE, ATTITUDE and the CHARISMA to back it up. As far as most women know ... attraction just happens. And when they see the whole package, sparks fly! But first, I have a few questions to ask. Have you ever had any of these things happen to you? • You wished you were someone else in order to become more attractive to women. • You’ve finished a conversation, knowing you didn’t really say what you needed to and left her with a poor first impression. • You really like women but usually end up being their friend rather than their lover. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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• You wish you had a social circle and social skills to impress a woman and show her you are a man of value. • You’re confused about attraction and what women truly want in a guy (Do they want a nice guy? Do they want a jerk? Do they even know what they want?) • You’ve found yourself in a relationship where the love and attraction is waning, but you don’t know what to do to fix it. If you want to truly understand attraction in a way that you never have before, you need to know that it’s about much more than just ONE opener, ONE affirmation, ONE part of your body, or ONE aspect of your character. It’s about you actually being the COMPLETE PACKAGE, a man of integrity and a man of power, who understands attraction is about more than just looks, attitude, or intellect. It’s about being ALL THREE. No matter if you are 26 or 62, we have created a course that is going to change your life, starting today, with the first of 12 life-changing issues. It’s never too late to see the big picture and truly transform yourself into the attraction master you want to be.

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Fireworks With Females By Slade Shaw Success with high quality women is a total mystery to most men. In fact, most women won’t be able to explain to you why they are attracted to certain men and not others. At least they won’t necessarily understand what is really going on. The reason they can’t tell you is because women don’t just decide that they are going to feel attraction for a man. It isn’t a decision based on what you dress like, what you look like, what kind of things you say and how much money you have. As far as most women know ... it just happens. This book is a combination of that research, my own YEARS of experience of being ‘that guy’ with women, the input of my ‘natural’ friends, and Mirabelle’s incisive professional insight as a female dating coach. It’s based upon the THOUSANDS of hours I spent meeting guys, talking to them, and observing their behavior around women, and the THOUSANDS of hours I spent doing extensive research into human behavioral psychology, and the emotional and psychological underpinnings of self-confidence and dominance. I’ve seen in REAL LIFE how the application of these concepts and ideas can literally TRANSFORM the lifestyles of HUNDREDS of men. I know this stuff works, because it’s worked for me my WHOLE LIFE... it’s worked for the thirty or so guys I grew up with... ... and MOST IMPORTANTLY, it’s worked for the HUNDREDS of guys who learned it, applied it, and went from ‘abysmal failures’ with women... to being the kinds of guys who can walk up to an UNUSUALLY ATTRACTIVE woman, and get her phone number... in about 3 minutes flat.

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The “Fireworks With Females” course has been specifically designed to teach you how to: • • • • • • • • •

keep a beautiful woman attracted communicate with women on a sexual level create attraction and chemistry with women be the man that EVERY woman wants demonstrate quickly that you are a man of high value approach women and start conversations change your self image for dating success use the power of body language to become irresistible to women take control and develop unshakeable confidence

You can get your copy of “Fireworks With Females by going to: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen

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Connect And Commit: How To Take Things To The Next Level Of Commitment by Amy Waterman This course is all about building the love, affection, and long-lasting relationship that you want and deserve. Imagine how it would be to have someone in your life who is genuinely and deeply committed to you and your relationship? Imagine never feeling insecure about the future again? Imagine knowing that you can attract and create a relationship where the two of you want exactly the same things, and are going to grow from strength to strength together? If you want to put an end to unfulfilling relationships, take things to the next level of commitment, attract emotionally available women who take you seriously and support you in your life goals, if you want to learn how commitment really works for women, then you’ve got to read this book. It’s crucial to your success. Amy’s discovered a foolproof method of magnetically attracting your partner to grow in closeness and commitment – on physical and emotional levels – as time goes on. How would it be to be completely immune to the death of love and closeness in your relationship? To not be worried when the lust and romantic love starts to fade, because you know something even greater is in store? Do you want to be in a relationship with your best friend, your favorite person, the woman you love more than anyone in the world … and have those feelings reciprocated? When your love life is going well, everything else works like magic. But the best part is, it’s not actually magical at all – it just takes knowledge and a little skill. That’s where this All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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course will give you the step up in your love life that you really need. Amy’s life-changing course is one of the most thorough courses on helping you understand, create, maintain, and foster commitment through every stage of the attraction and relationship process, If you want to create the ultimate relationship… improve your relationships starting RIGHT NOW… create better communication with everyone around you… achieve true and lasting physical passion in your relationship… and strengthen your relationship with your partner, even in times of stress and change…then I strongly recommend you read this book. It’ll change your life in ways you never knew was possible. In addition to the course, there are a number of bonus ebooks and audio files that will further assist and enable you on your search for commitment in your love life and relationships.

You can access the “Connect And Commit” course at this web address right here: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/commitment/men

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Supreme Self-Confidence in Dating, Relationships & Social Situations by Slade Shaw Let me ask you a few questions: • Have you ever seen a woman from across the room that you really like, or who you’d really love to meet.... but were too overwhelmed by fear and nervousness to go over and start a conversation? • Have you ever felt like you don’t deserve the kind of woman that you are REALLY attracted to, that they might be out of your league, and as a result always settle for second best? • Have you ever felt yourself shaking with self-consciousness when you are talking to a girl that you’ve got a crush on? Lost your words? Can’t be your best self? • Have you ever been in a relationship where you got emotionally insecure and ended up driving your partner away by your clinginess and insecurity? • Have you ever fallen in love with someone before you’ve even dated her and got jealous and upset when she pays others attention and goes out with someone else? If you answered YES to any of the above questions, then this book is a great fit for you. I strongly believe that this information could help you lift yourself above the rest when it comes to attracting and maintaining relationships with women. When you’re not self confident, then you get nervous and act differently at times when you feel stressed or need to be at your best. For example: on a date, or when you’re talking to a woman you’re attracted to. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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If your confidence betrays you at these vital times, then you may actually struggle to make your life turn out the way you want it to. Confidence is attractive and a crucial tool for men to have when dating, and without it, it’s difficult to attract a really good catch. Why? Women base their assumptions of you on what they know of you. That’s why first impressions can count for so much and be so hard to change. If that impression she gets in those first few moments is all she knows of you, then as far as she’s concerned, that image she has in her head of you IS YOU. So if you meet a woman you are attracted to and act nervous, fumble your words, and run out of things to say… then as far as she knows, you are the kind of person who is nervous, fumbles their words and runs out of things to say. And in those crucial first few moments, you lose your credibility and social status. (Of course, a little nervousness - with a smile! - can be endearing and can even help you, but if you can’t let your best self shine through quickly, your love life is going to be characterized by a series of stilted interactions and misunderstandings of who the REAL YOU is.) Also, it’s really unfortunate that people may assume from your shy or nervous behavior that you simply don’t like being around them. They pick up on your discomfort. Women expect you to take the lead when you approach them, so its crucial that you are able to follow through and hold a conversation. And this is exactly the kind of problem that this book deals with in detail. By reading Slade Shaw’s book, you’ll become a guy who enters a relationship with confidence and charisma, without needing someone else to ‘complete’ you. You’ll be looking for a woman to ‘complement’ you instead of asking her a favor by dating you. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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This is one of the most powerful and special characteristics that you could possibly offer to a relationship. The self-confidence that Slade teaches you will instantly help you become a more socially adept man who is able to manage the challenges and negotiations that all relationships and interactions bring.

You can access ‘Supreme Self-Confidence’ at this web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/selfconfidence/men/

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Conversation Chemistry – How to use the power of communication to create and maintain unstoppable attraction with the Opposite Sex! by Mirabelle Summers (co-authored by Amy Waterman) When renowned online relationship experts Amy Waterman and Mirabelle Summers started researching and writing Conversation Chemistry, they were initially going to write 2 separate books: one for people who are single or dating, and one for people who are already in a relationship. But the feedback received was an overwhelming number of suggestions that they combine them both together, as there was so much essential information in each of them for people at all stages of a relationship. Hence, Conversation Chemistry was created and is actually the length of two full books (298 pages) and is packed full of essential communication secrets for you, no matter whether you are single or in a long term relationship! We’ve broken it up into three specialized sections: Section 1: The principles of great communication with the opposite sex. Section 2: Secrets to talking to and communicating with the opposite sex during dating. Section 3: Communication inside a relationship Inside this life-changing and engaging course, you will uncover a whole host of conversation tips and strategies, including: • The principles of great communication. These principles differ between men and

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women, find how and why! • How to adapt the way you talk to suit the man you’re talking to - this may determine whether or not she develops a romantic interest in you. You’re going to find out in detail how and why men and women communicate differently, and how to communicate in such a way that builds unstoppable attraction. • Find out the surprising results from a study of singles bars, conducted by a couple of doctors. They proved the theory that there is a definite sequence to the process of attracting a mate. You’ll hear what this process is, and how you can use it to your advantage in sparking attraction. If you follow this process, you’ll build up an incredible attraction for you when it comes to the ladies! • Find out the form of intuitive communication that NLP practitioners, psychologists and even pickup artists alike agree is crucial to forming a lasting bond with another person… • The ‘magic’ ingredients necessary to build potent rapport with women. This is truly powerful stuff you won’t want to miss out on! • Find out the key secret to become a charismatic and high-status man who has no doubt that what you’re saying is interesting to your audience. • The 5 conversation turn-ons that when applied diligently, you’ll find that people will not just enjoy talking to you... they’ll go out of their way to talk to you! • How to overcome approach anxiety. If you suffer from approach anxiety, you’re not alone. Going up to someone and starting a conversation can be incredibly difficult! You’ll learn how to calm these nerves right here with our highly effective 5 step strategy. • The one thing that you absolutely must say to put people at ease and dramatically reduce your chances of getting “brushed off” by a woman when you try to strike up a conversation. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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• How to spark chemistry and sexual chemistry with women. You’ll learn some incredibly powerful secrets here, and they are a lot easier than you imagine! • The communication skills required for a great long-lasting relationship are different to those that spark attraction and get you through the first month or two of dating. In this exciting section, you’ll discover vital communication skills that will bring the two of you together and you’ll find out common communication mistakes so that you don’t make them yourself! • What to do if communication stops. Rarely go out for an evening alone together? Feel like you’ve run out of things to say to each other? Find out how to revive your communication and get to know your partner again. • Discover the 3 traits of happy couples who know how to disagree in a healthy, nondestructive way. • Uncover essential secrets on how to forgive. Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle, so it’s essential you master this crucial relationships skill! • How to argue properly and grow together as a result, rather than grow apart. This is an incredibly important chapter for you to read as arguments have been proven to be severely detrimental to many relationships, and yet seen as strengtheners for others who know how to argue properly. • Using the power of talking about the future to further enhance your long term relationship success. Discover the next step and how to assess your progress at regular intervals. Conversation Chemistry is designed to take you to the ‘next level’ of communication, whether you’re out to meet someone new, enjoy a fun and flirtatious conversation, master the art of flirting, or make a relationship into the best one you ever had.

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You can access ‘Conversation Chemistry’ at this web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/conversationchemistry/men/

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2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex by Mirabelle Summers (co-authored by Amy Waterman) If you’re going through the emotional turmoil of a break-up with a woman that you really didn’t want to happen (or now regret happening), then you have my whole hearted sympathy. I know what you are going through, I’ve been there, it isn’t a happy place and it isn’t an exaggeration to say that can even feel like someone has just died. Breaking up is an awful experience. And in this book, I’m going to reveal to you my powerful methods for winning back your ex. Essentially, I’ve written this book to guide you through the process of healing the pain of a breakup; recognizing why it happened in the first place; figuring out whether it genuinely is a good idea to get back with your ex; and, if it is, I tell you exactly – EXACTLY! – what you need to heal the wounds and make your relationship better than it ever was before. But first I have a very important question to ask you before carrying on ... • Why Do You REALLY Want To Get Back Together With Her? • And Is It REALLY A Good Decision To Make? • Were you and your ex really good together? Did she treat you the way you deserve to be treated? • More importantly, did she support you in your goals - and did you support her wholeheartedly in hers? I’m asking that question in particular as it is the biggest determining factor in long-term relationship success according to numerous studies.

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The first thing that you need to do right now is STOP doing what ever you are doing to get her attention back. No more sending flowers or begging for forgiveness! (Yes, really. Even if you genuinely feel that you are ‘in the wrong’, stop apologizing and stop begging.) Before you do anything that you think will win back the love of your ex, you need to listen to what Mirabelle Summers has to say. 2nd Chance is a course that guides you through the whole self-reflection, consideration, and negotiation process that characterizes a relationship breakup and rescue. If you are committed to getting back with your ex, and giving your relationship every chance of success, you can’t afford to be getting information that could potentially set you back or even end any chances of saving your relationship. You have listened to the advice of friends, family, indeed anyone who feels they would like to share their opinion with you. But now it’s time to get advice that is GUARANTEED to work. 2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex is a course that is specifically designed to: • Maximize your chances of winning back your ex • Help you get your life back on track so that you are happy again and have a positive and exciting future ahead of you... no matter what happens. • Help you gain perspective and work through what really went wrong, and discover relationship secrets to help you avoid going down the path that caused your breakup again. And get your relationship back on track towards mutual growth and bonding.

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You can access ‘2nd Chance’ and win back the love of your ex at the following web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/2ndchance/men/

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