Sexual Magnetism

Sexual Magnetism

by Etienne Charland 2011

http://www.shamanicattraction.com

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© Shamanic Seduction 2008-2011 by Etienne Charland All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any matter whatsoever without written permission, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews, without the prior written permission of the author.

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Contents Introduction to Sexual Magnetism .............................................................. 4 Chapter 1: Sexual Magnetism Concepts .................................................... 7 Do You Really Want to Change? ............................................................... 7 Seven Misconceptions of Spirituality ......................................................... 9 What is Sexual Magnetism? ..................................................................... 12 Chakras System ......................................................................................... 14 Social Conditioning .................................................................................. 20 Masculinity................................................................................................ 23 Femininity ................................................................................................. 25 Life Purpose .............................................................................................. 30 Eastern vs Western World ........................................................................ 34 Chapter 2: Healing Methods...................................................................... 40 Awareness ................................................................................................. 40 Acceptance and Love ................................................................................ 45 Letting Go ................................................................................................. 48 Natural Grounding .................................................................................... 50 Reiki .......................................................................................................... 59 Tantra ........................................................................................................ 64 Alchemy .................................................................................................... 74 Energy Weaknesses .................................................................................. 77 Alchemic Visualizations ........................................................................... 80 Natural Grounding Journal ....................................................................... 82 Chapter 3: Sexual Magnetism Applied..................................................... 84 Emotional Communication ....................................................................... 84 Language ................................................................................................... 87 End of the Game ....................................................................................... 89 Approach ................................................................................................... 93 Progression and Kino Tricks..................................................................... 97 Kissing and Closing ................................................................................ 103 Sex ........................................................................................................... 107 Relationship Management ...................................................................... 109 Social Life ............................................................................................... 111 Conclusion ................................................................................................. 115 Bibliography .............................................................................................. 116

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Introduction to Sexual Magnetism There has been a lot of talk lately about natural game, the laws of attraction, and the effect of our emotions on our environment. Good information about these topics is scattered throughout many different sources, so it’s very hard to put the pieces together. In this book, I will describe what sexual magnetism is, how it works, how to get there, and how to apply it. I will give you the tools you need to keep progressing on your own and resources so you can dig deeper into several subjects. When I first started writing this book, I intended it to be an introduction to the subject just to explain the fundamental concepts. However, it turned out to be much more complete. I could still write another book to take this foundation and go even deeper. As a matter of fact, this updated edition has some extremely powerful breakthroughs added to it. It is still just the tip of the iceberg. This book is about enhancing your success with women. Sex is like air: it is not important unless you don’t have any. It is our birthright as human beings to have an abundance of air, love, and sex, and you can repress human nature only up to a certain point. Unfortunately, social conditioning has repressed this aspect of our lives, and we see all kinds of problems such as forty-year-old virgins and a 50 percent divorce rate. You have two choices: either you continue in the same direction as others, or you look for real answers. By buying this book, I suppose you want real answers and you

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want to be part of the solution. By working on your sexual magnetism, you will heal people around you and help shift the dynamics of our society. Keep in mind that this isn’t a book you should understand logically. Instead, you should unlearn all the logical patterns you have in your mind and feel the concepts described in this book. Instead of taking notes, take the time to fully feel and visualize the concepts, then let them sink into your subconscious. The concepts this book describes are very deep, but you will only understand them based on your current level of consciousness. If you read this book again in two months after having several real-life experiences, you most likely will understand the book in a totally different way. Think about it this way: when you learn lots of stuff at school, you usually get a headache. But this book is different. It is a book about unlearning and feeling. As you unlearn old concepts and become aware of how you work internally, your brain actually becomes wired differently, so you may find it hard to concentrate, you may feel very tired, or you may experience repressed emotions coming to the surface. Sometimes you may find you aren’t ready to accept the consequences of breakthroughs. Keep in mind that all of this is normal, so if you really want the results—and you wouldn’t have bought this book otherwise—it’s worth going forward. Some people found a pirate version of Sexual Magnetism and read it out of curiosity and then complained that they couldn’t understand and apply it. You can’t put wine in a bottle that is already full. If a small sum of money is more important than this information, then you are not ready to give up anything and you won’t be ready for this. Downloading this e-book for free comes from a subconscious state of financial scarcity, doubt and holding Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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onto your old beliefs. None of these frequencies allow transformation to happen. How important is it for you to transform your life? What are you ready to give up for it? It’s not just about giving up financial resources. It’s mostly about giving up old ways of thinking and involving yourself in the process. There is no space to receive without giving up anything. In the first chapter, we will explore basic concepts to help you understand how emotions work. In the second chapter, we will explore several healing methods that will allow you to unleash your potential. Finally, in the third chapter, we will talk about how sexual magnetism applies in the real world to help you achieve concrete results.

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Chapter 1: Sexual Magnetism Concepts Do You Really Want to Change?

Most people want to change their results and are willing to change their thoughts and actions, but to experience lasting success, they must also change as a person. Changing at your core means forgetting about the self you’ve known for so long. It means letting the way you identify yourself die in some way and allowing yourself to be reborn in a new way. It means taking responsibility for all that happens in your life, taking power over your own life, and taking action. People around you most likely don’t want you to change. Changes in you will put them out of their comfort zone, and they likely often take advantage of your current situation in some way. They also expect you to be who you have always been, so it will take time for them to adjust to your new selfimage. It might also mean breaking relationships that don’t serve you anymore, such as letting go of your friends in your hometown who play World of Warcraft all day. If you’re not too afraid to keep going after reading this, changing at the core and dropping your ego is the most rewarding thing you can do. For example, if you use positive thinking and learn to approach women but don’t heal what makes you unattractive as a person, you might get phone numbers, but overall you’ll achieve limited success. Until you take a time-out and heal the issues making you unattractive at your core and take power and Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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responsibility over your own life, all the actions you take will not bring the success you deserve, no matter how much you work for it. So how do you change as a person? Don’t expect it to happen overnight, as it may take months or years. However, you can make small progress overnight every day! Here are some tips to get you started: - Don’t use your past stories as excuses for yourself. Have you heard of Martin Deschamps? He only has half of his left arm, two fingers on his right hand, and only one leg. He is a very famous rock singer, and he plays bass and piano like hell! If he can do it, and if a black man can be the President of the United States, you have no legitimate excuses. None. Period. - Most people identify themselves by their issues, qualities, and characteristics. So you can’t just let go of your identity! Instead of identifying yourself by your issues, identify yourself by what you want to accomplish in your life. You are a life force moving through your life. - If you have trouble figuring out what you’re here to do on this planet, say “God, please show me my life purpose, and I will forever be your humble servant,” and really mean it. - Let go of people who hold you back; instead, surround yourself with people who support you.

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- Travel to countries with totally different cultures, such as those in South America or Southeast Asia, for at least three months. Traveling will open your mind to different realities and help you understand how your local culture is limiting you. Even better, learn the languages of these cultures, as you can’t fully understand a culture without speaking its language. It will help you think outside the box. - Resolve to look at issues inside yourself before trying to force things on the outside. Awareness is curative. These suggestions may require you to look at your life from a different perspective, but your results will be well worth it.

Seven Misconceptions of Spirituality

People have all kinds of ideas, often vague, about spirituality—that is, when they’re not rejecting it altogether. Here are the seven most common misconceptions you’ll see around yourself about spirituality. It should make it all more realistic and interesting!

Misconception 1: Fear God! The church and Catholics, among others, teach their followers to fear God and that you must be good not to be punished. That’s indeed what’s written in the *English* translation of the Bible, but not in its original language. They used the word “fear” since there’s no word in the English language to Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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describe the original concept. What the original language really meant was that you should revere God in the sense that every cell of your body vibrates, not out of fear, but out of love and passion. Change the word “fear” to “revere,” and the meaning of the Bible completely changes!

Misconception 2: Religion is spirituality. First of all, religion is a group experience whose main purpose is to protect the group, primarily from physical threats such as disease, poverty, death, social crises, and even war. Religion is rooted in first chakra energies. Spirituality, on the other hand, is an individual experience directed toward releasing fears of the physical world and pursuing a relationship with the divine.

Misconception 3: Meditate for awareness. Most people who are into meditation try to become aware of themselves to raise their awareness to energies. For example, in Thailand, the monks who meditate in temples to be connected to universal energies aren’t that healthy because there’s another important aspect of the connection: being grounded in the physical world and to our instincts. Ideally we want to have the base of our spine solidly grounded to Earth energy and the top of our crown grounded to universal energy, with both energies flowing through our bodies. Both groundings are equally important: we can call it to walk both on Earth and in Heaven.

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We try to become aware of ourselves to overcome our limitations, but many of us either try to control our emotions or become calm and passive. This is especially a problem for women, as it is in their nature to respond to their environment and to flow like water. It’s important to be aware of our fears and limitations, but it is equally important to surrender to our instincts and gut feelings. We don’t even need awareness to surrender to ourselves! However, many of our behaviors are rooted in fears and need to be unlearned.

Misconception 5: Sexual equality. Feminists wanted sexual equality and we got sameness. At first sight, the idea of balancing yin and yang (feminine/masculine) energies may seem to support this concept. However, the truth is, sameness is repressing both masculinity and femininity, and we end up in a gray zone in between. Yin and yang refer to sexual polarity and contrast: having a strong masculine presence like James Bond or having a strong feminine presence like Thai women. Yin-yang balance means to have a strong polarized presence without the neediness since we can get the energy of the opposite sex from within ourselves.

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and follow His will, you ARE part of God! We are all Gods, and we can take the responsibility for what we create in our own lives and in the lives of others. If you unite with God, your “father” will never create something that goes against your will, and you will never create something that goes against the will of your “father”. It will inspire you as much as you influence it.

Misconception 7: Good vs. bad. Good and bad are merely judgments. In fact, things you do with good intentions can have bad consequences, and things you do with bad intentions can have good consequences. For example, some parents overprotect their children for their good, but as a consequence, these children become reserved and unable to take responsibility for their lives. Or a guy can punch another guy, injuring him badly, and that injury can cause him to change his attitude and improve his life. Good and bad are lies: there is only acting out of love and acting out of fear. In the examples above, the parents are overprotecting out of fear, and the guy may be punching the other out of love for integrity.

What is Sexual Magnetism?

With some guys, you can sit down with them for a coffee and you instantly feel comfortable, and while talking with them, you forget about your problems. Then, suddenly, another guy sits down and it feels awkward. When he leaves, you say “this guy had bad vibes.” The truth is, the way you feel about yourself affects the way people feel around you. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Girls see the first guy I mentioned and say things like, “there’s just something about him.” If you understand what makes them feel that way and you peak into the right state of mind, girls may start saying “there’s definitely something about him!” or “Oh my God, did you see his eyes?” when they see how much the life sparkles in your eyes. Sexual magnetism is about having girls attracted and turned on by your mere presence. To understand how this magnetism works, it is important to understand two basic principles: 1. We are all emotionally connected. This might sound either ridiculous or obvious, but think about it for a second. Where does your intuition come from? Some call it energies, some call it God, and some call it quantum physics, but the principle remains the same. 2. Nature is sexual. Mating and sex are supposed to be intuitive, simple, and effortless, or we wouldn’t be here today. So why is this not the case? Social conditioning and fears are covering up our human nature. If your energies can lift a woman’s emotional repression, she will become flirty and sexual the way she was meant to be, but you must first get back in touch with your emotions. When you walk down the street, you may see these independent women who seem in their bubble, who aren’t aware of what happens around them, who won’t look at you in the eyes and who probably won’t even notice you. We are meant to connect effortlessly with each other. If you go to a third-world country where there is less social conditioning, you will realize people react to your energies and are very friendly. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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To have sexual magnetism, you must get back in touch with your emotions and with human nature. You must unlearn all the concepts society, family, and friends imposed on you. Go to Thailand for three months, and you will realize it is a completely different world. You will realize how limited the reality is in your hometown. You must let go of your fears, even though most of them are subconscious. As you remove all this baggage, you will feel lighter, you will have more energy, you will feel happier, and you will look younger. Universal energy or life energy flows within each of us, but as it flows more and more through you, you will feel it more. When people feel good with you, they want to stay around. If you make more friends, more girls will want to be with you. In fact, the more you connect with people around you, when a girl has sex with you, it feels more like making love than just fucking. Through sex, your strong energies amplify and heal her, and the sex is much better. Your orgasms will be much stronger and spread throughout your whole body instead of just being a dump-like feeling in your dick. Women get much more value out of the relationship than you do but I’m sure you will enjoy them too.

Chakras System

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our body. Our emotional system is actually more complex than that, but we’ll use this system since it is easy to understand and complete enough for our practical use. Here we will view chakras from a seduction perspective, but you can also apply chakras to business and healing. Each chakra represents an aspect of our lives and has a specific vibration frequency and color. Energies are vibrations. Emotions are energies in motion. Light and colors are energies of specific vibration frequencies. Energy is at the base of everything: all that is created in this world is the consequence of energies. Each chakra provides an angle from which we can look at our lives and diagnose problems. If you have problems with your family, you might feel pain at the base of your spine. If someone betrays you, you might feel pain in your solar plexus. If your girlfriend dumped you, you might feel pain in your heart, and if you have headaches, it might mean something you’re doing isn’t in alignment with your life purpose. Interestingly enough, chakras have the same colors as a rainbow, and the colors appear in the same order. The seven chakras go from the base of your spine to the top of your head. When chakras are open properly, the base chakra is grounded in Earth energy and the top chakra is grounded in universal energy. Energy flows up through you from the Earth to the Universe and down from the Universe to the Earth, spiraling around each chakra, making chakras spin like wheels. All that energy radiates around you, creating your aura.

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Most people are stuck in tribal issues and sexual issues, which are the two lower chakras. By awakening your other chakras, you will recover your intuitive abilities, gain control over your life, and attract sexual and financial abundance. The first chakra, often called the root chakra, represents survival, friends, family, and the grounding to your human instincts. It is located at the base of your spine at the center point between your legs, behind your genitals. It is associated with the color red. Focus your mind on your root chakra and visualize the color red. Notice how you feel, the grounding to the physical reality, the actions intuitively flowing out of you, the stability with your family, tribe, money, house, and other needs you require for survival. If you feel pain, stuck, or negative feelings in your red root chakra, pay attention to these tensions. Notice how it feels, and try to describe it and write the description down on paper. We will later explore techniques to liberate these Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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blockages. The spot at your root chakra is sensitive and it is very pleasant when a girl touches it during sex. The second chakra, often called the sex chakra, represents sex, creativity, money, and relationships. It is located at your navel and in your back at the same position. It is associated with the color orange. Focus your mind on your sex chakra and think about the color orange. Notice how you feel: you should notice sexual desires, creativity, magnetism, abundance, spontaneity, and fluidity. Tensions, pains, and negative energies indicate issues in those areas of your life. Describe and write down any uncomfortable feeling in your orange sex chakra in as much detail as possible. Usually, you don’t even have to find solutions for your issues: you just have to let them go. When you put your hand on a girl’s lower back, it makes her feel more light and spontaneous, especially during sex, since it activates her sex chakra. The third chakra, often called the solar plexus, represents personal power, vitality, self-esteem, integrity, and sexual polarity. It is the sensitive spot in the middle of your body, right below where the ribs join together in the center of your torso. It is associated with the color yellow. Focus your mind on your solar plexus and visualize a yellow burning sun. Notice how you feel: the power and control over your life, self-esteem, masculine presence, honor, confidence, integrity, and honesty powering up your life. Describe and write down any pain or uncomfortable feeling in your yellow solar plexus. If you feel an uncomfortable tickling in your plexus, it might indicate the person in front of you is not being honest with you or with himself. Be careful with Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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this spot as it is very sensitive. If hit here, a person can be knocked down and lose his breath. The fourth chakra, often called the heart chakra, represents self-love, unconditional love, and compassion. It is the middle chakra and the central powerhouse of the human emotional system. It is associated with the colors green and rose. Focus your mind on your heart chakra and feel the green color, then feel the rose color, then visualize a burning ball of fire in fusion that looks like a small sun with the plasma moving. Notice how you feel, the passion for life, the sparkles in your eyes, the self-love, the love for others, the compassion, and the love for all the objects around you. The opposite of love is fear. Pay attention to any fears you feel in your heart and describe them on paper in as much detail as possible. If it helps you, you can then burn the paper to symbolically get rid of your fears and move on. You can’t truly love and respect others if you don’t love yourself first, because you are then merely using people to fill a void within you. The fifth chakra, often called the throat chakra, represents self-expression, communication, and the power of choice. It is located in the throat and is associated with the color blue. Focus your mind on your throat chakra and feel the color blue. Notice how you feel: the ease of expression, spontaneity, boldness, freedom, and choices. When there’s something you should say but you keep it to yourself, you feel a tension or pain in your throat. Focus on any fears you feel in your throat and describe them on paper in as much detail as

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possible, such as fears of being judged, ignored, ridiculed, or rejected if you share your thoughts. That’s all it is—just fears, nothing more. The sixth chakra, often called the third eye, represents the power of the mind, laws of attraction, intuition, clairvoyance, and intuitive wisdom. It is located on your forehead and is associated with the color indigo. We are all connected by our emotions and intuitions through a web of creative spiritual energy. Whatever you focus on consciously or unconsciously is attracted into your life and affects people around you, and that includes whatever you fear. Focus your mind on your third eye and visualize the color indigo. Notice how you feel: you should be aware of emotions around you, your karma, wisdom, and intuition. I believe most people are clairvoyant, but they usually don’t know how to interpret what they see. Have you ever had a headache? Great! You are clairvoyant too! That means something you are doing isn’t in alignment with your life purpose. As you let go of your headache and other feelings, you start seeing the next layer of emotions underneath it. Pay attention to any stuck feelings or blockages in your indigo third eye and describe them on paper in as much detail as possible. You will use this chakra to set your intention of what kind of people you want to meet. The seventh chakra, often called the crown chakra, represents our divine connection to God, awareness of universal energies, consciousness, life purpose, and

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abundance. It is the sense of being connected with everything. It is located at the top of your head and is associated with the color violet. Focus your mind on your crown chakra and notice how you feel, the grounding into universal energies, the transmutation of your personal power and ego into the power and ego of God, the light flowing through you and shining around you, abundance and circumstances flowing to you, and a sense of inner guidance and life events flowing one after the other. Write down on paper the advantages and disadvantages of accepting the full power and ego of God, as well as any other uncomfortable feelings in your violet crown chakra. You sometimes experience the union through this chakra during love-making, when you are merging with a woman and you can feel her. You had all these abilities when you were born, but then social conditioning and all kinds of fears blocked them out. When you remove the crap covering your purity, your chakras open, and your energies ground to the Earth and into consciousness. We can call this to walk both on Earth and in Heaven. If you want to learn more about chakras, you should read Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing from Caroline Myss, a New York Times bestseller.

Social Conditioning

Are you proud of your nationality? Having love and acceptance for your country and culture is great. However, your pride for your country, culture,

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and yourself is likely holding you in a fixed pattern of thoughts and prevents you from thinking outside the box. The truth is, if you were born in a different country, such as Thailand or Argentina, you would be a completely different person. Who you think you are is merely the result of social conditioning outside your control. You are being programmed daily by your family, friends, school, work, television, newspapers, and ads to accept their beliefs as the only reality that exists. If you work all day for ten years to make your payments and put money aside for your retirement and believe that’s life, and your friends tell you that’s life, and your family tell you that’s life, and the media tells you that’s life, that’s bullshit. Saying something that is false a thousand times doesn’t make it true. The truth is, there are people out there who have the freedom to do whatever they want, who make a real difference in the world, who have a rich social life, who have several girlfriends, and who travel all around the world. Each person lives in his or her own reality and attracts people and events matching that reality. You can change the reality in which you live by changing who you are and the energies you project. You live in a free country, which means you’re free to have and express whatever programmed thoughts you want, but you should also be free to be who you want to be. To change your reality, you must become aware of what affects you and your emotions. Television is good only for conditioning you with fears. Turn it off. If something important happens, don’t worry, you’ll hear about it. If Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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you leave your job and go abroad with only a backpack, your coworkers may think you’re nuts, and your family may think you’re nuts, but don’t let them or anyone else affect your reality. You have all these fears of being judged, fears of the unknown, and fears of not having stability. That’s all they are—fears, and nothing more—but you must learn to let go of your fears. We will explore how to do this in Chapter 2. You must also become aware of all the people and sources altering your life, emotions, and beliefs without your consent. For example, all of the following are forcing their beliefs on you: • You see a photo of a hot stripper • You see an ad for a new car • Your father tells you what to do with your money • Your mother tells you how to live your life • Your sister tells you to be nice to women • Women flaunt their boobs in your face all the time • Newspapers tell you to save your money • Television news anchors tell you to put your money in new government funds • Your friends expect you to like the same things they do • Your school mates judge you if you don’t wear the latest styles • People treat you like shit if you can’t bring enough money for your family • You see on television over and over again that you would have more girls if you had a nicer car . . .

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ENOUGH!!! Seriously, enough of all this bullshit. All these bullets of influence are conditioning your reality. The only way to stop being influenced by all these bullets is to fully become aware of what’s affecting you. Once you are fully aware of a source of influence, you can make conscious decisions instead of having the source affect your subconscious. Whatever you focus on will affect you, so focus on what you want in life and please, mute the television during the ads. Once you get free of all these bullets pulling you in all directions, you will feel a peace of mind that is priceless in itself, and you can start seeing things clearly and objectively.

Masculinity

Though the image of an alpha male has been discussed over and over again through history, the concept is still unclear for most people, especially in a culture where alpha men and sexual polarity are repressed. For clarity, here is what an alpha male is: 1. An alpha male radiates confidence. 2. An alpha male feels GREAT about himself. 3. An alpha male has a clear mind so he can think clearly. 4. An alpha male has integrity and stands for what he cares about. 5. An alpha male is free from his own patterns of thoughts and emotions. 6. An alpha male is free to feel (and attract) whatever he wants to feel (and wants to attract). Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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7. An alpha male is aware of the influence others have on him, including family and close friends. 8. An alpha male is emotionally unaffected by the media, social pressure, social expectations, prick teases, and anything else. 9. An alpha male is free to have and to pursue his own will, no matter what people think. 10. An alpha male doesn’t give a shit what people think. 11. An alpha male is sexually satisfied and doesn’t need to pursue women, so women pursue him instead. 12. An alpha male is emotionally grounded in nature. 13. An alpha male brings the emotional, innocent, carefree, joyful, and pure woman out of her social repression, which naturally leads her to want sex from him. Emotions and nature have been mostly repressed in our modern society. 14. An alpha male doesn’t need to fight for his rights. He expects people to respect his rights and they do. 15. An alpha male is not afraid to step out of his comfort zone or to express himself. What an alpha male is NOT: 1. Someone who seeks to control people around him. 2. Someone who has big muscles or a nice car. The brain matters too. 3. Someone who brags about how good he is. 4. Someone who is arrogant, snobbish, or full of himself. Following a life purpose is the masculine aspect of live.

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Where do you see yourself in all this?

Femininity

We have been conditioned to believe sexy skirts, fake boobs, lots of skin, and stripteases represent women’s sexuality. We have been conditioned to believe that independent and strong businesswomen are ideal for long-term relationships. All that is bullshit! That’s social conditioning. When you get to know these women better, you realize that behind their hot, sexy asses is usually an insecure, empty, and boring woman. Once you’ve banged her and the sexual pressure is relieved, you don’t want to see her again and you especially don’t want her to speak; but you usually don’t get that close, you just want her. Many of these independent women have nonexistent sex lives and they can’t maintain a relationship. Just look at all the divorced stars on the front page of gossip magazines to give you an idea; you don’t want to play that game. Independent women simply lack the ability to connect with others. Energetically, women are designed to receive. When a woman gives too much energetically, such as independent women tend to do, her sexual chakra locks. If all that is shit, then where are the real women who will support you, take care of you, and fulfill you sexually and emotionally? The feminist movement has massively repressed women’s femininity because it was perceived as weak. They wanted equality, but instead they got sameness. Masculinity is like fire, and femininity is like water. Which Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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one is stronger? Water cools down fire. Masculinity is like a hammer and femininity is like wind. Think one is stronger than the other? Good luck trying to shape a cliff with a hammer; however, if you let the wind shape it, no matter how long it will take, it will transform the cliff. These images are very abstract, so let’s view this concept in a more concrete way. Thailand, where you can find some of the purest feminine women, is the only country in the world that has never been conquered. It is called the land of smiles, and many people consider it a paradise. In fact, many American men go there, fall in love with a woman, and bring her back, and their connection is way deeper than just about money. I don’t plan to marry any time soon, but if I were ever to marry, I would be much more likely to marry a Thai woman than an American woman. These women are so happy, light, carefree, supportive, feminine, giggly, energetic, and friendly, it’s refreshing. With them, there’s no drama, no hassles, and no power struggles. I mean, just being around these women is a breath of fresh air, even if you don’t sleep with them. Then you come back to your country, and women don’t even look at you. You might talk with a girl while waiting for the bus and expect to continue the conversation after getting in, but she will sit down somewhere else. When girls like you but have no clue how to connect with you, they bring all kinds of drama and power struggles. Even when girls really like you and call you every day, they’re so busy with school and work it’s hard to even meet once a week.

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Makes you wonder . . . where are the real women!? If you know what a real woman is and what she feels like, she is within every girl you meet. If you expect her to behave in a natural way and respect her, she will tend to show more of that side of her. If your natural reality is so strong that it makes people comfortable around you, it will lift the repression of her femininity. Don’t expect miracles though. If an independent woman connects with you, behaves naturally, goes with the flow, and sleeps with you, she will probably take her independence and aloofness back the next morning because that’s the way she is. Seriously, two people are involved in mating, so you are only responsible for 50 percent. If you’ve done a lot of self-improvement work and you still find it a hassle to meet girls, then maybe the problem is not within yourself. If women were behaving naturally, it would be simple to connect to each other, and the girl you met at the bar would match you up with her single girlfriend. If it doesn’t happen that way but you’ve done your part, then it’s not your problem! If girls don’t do their part, what else do they have to offer? Get that burden off your shoulders. It’s not your fault if you don’t get laid; girls aren’t doing their part because they lost touch with their feminine nature because of social conditioning. The funny thing about natural women is that you don’t even think about sex when you’re around them, yet it just somehow happens. Sex is the byproduct of connecting with a woman. If you’re having good conversations and are thinking too logically, you will build rapport but end up in the friend zone. However, if you have carefree and chilled out Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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conversations with her, are very in touch with your emotions and masculinity and have strong sexual magnetism, her attraction will build, you will connect, and sex will just somehow happen without having to force it. When you have sexual magnetism, either you connect or you don’t. After all, why would a woman not sleep with you if you have a good connection? Personally, I always sleep with girls on the first or second meeting, or never. Normally, women should heal you emotionally and help you develop as a man by their mere presence. This is still the case in Southeast Asia, South America, third-world countries, and most of the world. However, in our modern country, since women have lost touch with so much from their nature, you have to find a way to balance your energies by yourself, to detach yourself emotionally from external influences, and to extend your energies into women to bring out their natural core. It is at least ten times harder than it should be, but you have to go through it anyway. It is much easier when you can see the road ahead and realize what’s really going on. I could try to describe what masculinity and femininity are with words, but you really have to gain the intuitive awareness of it, not the bare logical understanding that words represent. In Chapter 2, we will explore natural grounding, a relational meditation technique that will allow you to sense what feminine energy really is. After being in relation with such purity, many people reported getting to tears and feeling liberated and stronger. Women have been massively repressed, and the secret is to pull their feminine and carefree side out of them. Ninety-five percent of women sleep with the 5 percent of men who have enough inner strength to do that. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Here is what an alpha woman is: 1.

An alpha woman doesn’t care what people think.

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An alpha woman responds to the way people feel and is very spontaneous.

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An alpha woman radiates joy, lightness, and playfulness.

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An alpha woman loves herself.

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An alpha woman chooses what man she lets in.

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People are comfortable around an alpha woman and don’t even think about sex.

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An alpha woman draws the masculinity out of men around her.

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An alpha woman enjoys the present moment and flows through life.

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An alpha woman doesn’t have a business agenda.

10. An alpha woman is nice and cares about the people around her. 11. An alpha woman is very intuitive and has a sixth sense. 12. An alpha woman is aware of what’s happening all around her. What an alpha woman is NOT: 1. Someone who dresses very sexily to get validation from people. 2. Someone who tries to be sexier and smarter than other women around her. 3. Someone who seeks to control others. Fully living the present moment is the feminine aspect of life.

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This image of female sexuality is very different than what is portrayed on television and in magazines, and valuing it instead of sexploitation is the key to success with women.

Life Purpose

Most successful naturals have a clear path they are walking through life, and women join them along the way. Some other people are just doing the same thing over and over again week after week without getting anywhere, and they can’t spark any attraction from women. So what is your life purpose? I don’t think there is a clear answer to this question. I followed my gut and walked on my own path way before I knew where it would lead. I just felt something was wrong with my life and with the world around me. At the end of college many years ago, I just knew I had to go overseas for my practical training, and not to France. Out of sixty graduates, four of us went abroad, but I was the only one headed to a country other than France. I ended up in Finland, and that started a series of events that transpired over several years all around the world. I had no clue where my path would lead, but I followed my gut. Now that I look back at all the experiences and challenges I went through, I couldn’t think of any faster path to get to where I am now. The adventures allowed me to open my mind, the challenges strengthened me, and they all happened at the perfect time; or rather, I accepted them perfectly when they came. Whenever challenges happen in your life, remember that you can always Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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take great benefits from them. If life were too easy, you wouldn’t be able to develop your potential. I don’t think you have to decide your life purpose. Instead, you should uncover it and follow your gut feelings day by day as your path unfolds. We all have strengths, weaknesses, and backgrounds, so we will all walk a different path and contribute something different to the world. As you apply this book to awaken your energies, your strengths will develop and your life purpose will try to manifest itself, so you must know how to listen to it. To flow through your life, you must free yourself of the shackles holding you back. You must move out of your parents’ house and learn to solve your problems by yourself. If you are stuck in an unsatisfying job that doesn’t lead you where you want to go, don’t be afraid to quit that job. When you develop your magnetism, it becomes much easier to find the right job because you can attract it into your life instead of searching for it. Even if you’re not the best at what you’re doing, if you are pleasant to be around and you relieve the stress in your work environment, every employer will want to keep you. If you have a child, you have more responsibilities, but that shouldn’t prevent you from going abroad with the child, because he or she will get much more out of travelling than from school. Also keep some distance from your friends holding you back and spend time with the ones who support you. Remember that you are the average of the six people you spend the most time with. You must cut all the cords and attachments to set yourself free.

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Being free from the outside is one thing, but you also have all kind of ropes and fears holding you back from the inside. We will explore several techniques to liberate those internal ropes and set you free in Chapter 2. Once you are free and willing to do whatever you have to do next, then what? Say this to yourself, and really mean it: “God, please show me my life purpose, and I will forever be your humble servant.” This is a very powerful prayer; keep repeating it to yourself. Learn how to listen to yourself. Listen to your dreams. Listen to your gut. As I am writing this (in April 2009), a lot is going on around the world. The worldwide financial system is going haywire, Mother Nature is going crazy, the poles are melting, animal species are disappearing, forests are being depleted, the planet’s consciousness level is rising, and feminine energy is increasing. I can’t think of a single aspect in the world that isn’t changing, but continuous change is the nature of life. Sometimes, when I have great breakthroughs that shift my core, my behaviors don’t match anymore with my new self, so I stop all of my behaviors one after the other until I become very passive. Then I sleep a lot while my core shifts and restabilizes. I gradually start getting active again and build new behaviors one after the other while making everything I do more effective than before. The whole process can last between a day and a week, based on the size of the breakthrough. I heard many people say that the planet’s awareness level is rising and that the earth’s energy is shifting at its core, which I also feel is true. If that’s the case, the process the economic system is going through seems very similar to the process I go through when Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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I change. The current economic system doesn’t fit with the new consciousness level, so it shuts down and transforms. This process works just like trees shed leaves in the autumn: the leaves fall down when they are not necessary anymore to compost the ground and give birth to something new. Currently, it’s not our governments who control the world, but the banks. Whoever prints a country’s money gains control over it. The worldwide economic system is designed to be extremely complex so nobody understands what’s going on. Your taxes don’t serve to pay for services. Taxes serve to pay for federal debt, but what is that debt? What is money anyway? It’s a fiction. We live in the real world, not in a fictional one. Now the authorities want to centralize the world banking system to establish better control and to install the Amero as a new currency for North America. In response to what is going on around the world right now, the authorities are going way too far in their desire to control the population. I may be wrong, but I predict that the plans for worldwide financial authorities will not work and that we’re not done with the financial crisis. The planet’s new consciousness doesn’t support the system anymore, and people are standing to free themselves instead of living in a fiction-controlled world. We’ve still only seen the beginning, but the more I see, the more I believe we are on the verge of a new era, an era where we are free not only from emotional bounds but also from physical bounds in the system. Many people have discussed a prophecy that the year 2012 will be the end of the world, but it won’t: it will be the end of the world as we know it and the beginning of something new— an era of freedom. I haven’t read the prophecy, but the more I see, the more I believe it. Time will tell and you may have a role to play in all the Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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transformation. Actually, by applying this book and raising your consciousness level, you will have an impact.

Eastern vs Western World Anyone who had experiences with women in both the Eastern and Western worlds will tell you that results are different. In many cases, the results people get from this e-book depends on where they are geographically located. This is normal since there are two people involved in dating and you only are responsible for 50% of it. What I call the Eastern and Western worlds is really an abuse of language since I consider Mexico to be in the Eastern world and Australia to be in the Western world. These statistics of divorce rates around the world best define what I call the Western world.

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Source: http://www.nationmaster.com/graph/peo_div_rat-people-divorce-rate

The divorce rate in America is 7 times higher than Greece, 9 times higher than Thailand and 15 times higher than their neighbors in Mexico. Russia and Puerto Rico also have high divorce rates but probably for other reasons. I will speak from personal experience to express the difference. I was meeting women here and there in Montreal and then went to Barcelona for a

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month behaving exactly in the same way. In 30 days, 18 girls ended up kissing me. I wasn’t even going out every day and I was sick for a week. Women were aware of who I was through eye-contact. The difference in Montreal (and other places) is that I can walk half an hour downtown in a summer shiny day and count the people I have eye-contact with on one hand. People are in their bubbles, disconnected from each other, unaware of each other. Unfortunately, this also impacts the experiences you can live these women. The way a woman does something is the way she does everything. If it is hard to connect and to have a relationship with a woman, it will also be hard to have chemistry and live a decent experience with her. As a rule of thumb, the easier it is to start a relationship, the better the relationship will be. I also noticed that in the Western world, the people having the most friends at their parties were some people closest to the collective thinking of the social matrix. I went to an event called CEO Space in Las Vegas where there are several hundreds of spiritual leaders, entrepreneurs and inventors. It was completely the opposite over there. I was always surrounded by a few great women (unfortunately few of them were near my age). There was two gorgeous 18year old girls who wanted to be models and they were alone most of the time. Their aloof energies didn’t fit with the open and cooperative environment. When you go out of the hotel into the city of Las Vegas, there’s a huge contrast! That event really has its own energetic space. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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The point is, when you live within the social matrix, it is easier to relate with many people when you are closer to the collective thinking because you are more similar. I have a friend who is absolutely amazing with women. He plays the social games, he’s very charismatic and persuasive and he tells people what they want to hear. He’s amazingly good and building up stories and complicated lies and women hear what they want. They love him! He’s also a very reliable person so he has real qualities. However, I don’t want to have to do all the work he’s doing to get women, I don’t want to lie and I don’t want to go through the drama he often experiences. At some point you have to ask yourself… how much of your soul are you ready to exchange to fit what people want of you? What kind of experiences do you deserve? What do you really want to live? What kind of women do you eventually want to settle with? It is really a personal decision to start aligning yourself with the simplicity of life. You could compare this to creating great wine experiences. You could take the best wine in the world and give it to people in Quebec and they wouldn’t really care. Why? Because appreciating fine wines isn’t part of the culture. You are the fine wine. If you want to live passionate and intimate experiences, seek women who know how to appreciate the richness and depth of your soul. The opinion of women who are cut off from their Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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emotions doesn’t matter at all. It changes nothing to your qualities and you deserve better. You don’t ask itinerants to evaluate wines. Why would you let some women with deep emotional wounds tell you what you’re worth? If you live in the Western world and can’t find a quantity of people who are authentically open and connected to their soul, first look for quality people. There are always foreign women and spiritually evolved women who are more detached from the collective thinking. Once you have quality people, then you can surround yourself with more people of that quality. In my two years in Montreal, I have met some of the most amazing, inspiring and wise people. The challenges also allowed me to grow tremendously. Open environments allow you to learn. Challenging environments allow you to grow. Both are good for your own evolution. Even if you just want to get laid, sex isn’t the same with every woman. Sex is an intense energetic experience. The more energy flows through a woman’s body and the more feminine she is, the better sex will be. The more aloof, emotionally disconnected and masculine she is, the worse sex will be. Sleeping with an aloof independent woman after sleeping with a vibrant feminine woman is like going from driving a BMW to driving a Ford. Once you try the luxury, there is no reason to go back, especially when the luxury is easier to connect with. If you live outside the United States, Canada and England, everything presented here will be easier to apply and you can live a crazy lifestyle. Otherwise, you may want to consider traveling abroad for several months to Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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experience what life can truly be. You deserve the best experiences. Don’t settle for less. Many people like to talk about these issues. Many people like to complain and to go abroad to avoid them. Many people like to ignore these issues. But… almost nobody wants to BE the change they want to see in the world. That’s where the power to transmute your life lies in. The consciousness level of the planet is currently rising with the rise of the divine feminine energy. The planet energy shift will reach a peak at the end of 2012 (see the blog article What’s Happening Right Now for 2012 for more information). http://www.shamanicattraction.com/blog/2010/06/what-is-happening-rightnow-for-2012/ The consciousness shift combined with my business growing combined with the changes you and many other people are making in your own life combined with LOTS of other things currently happening is enough to shift the dynamics of the Western societies within a few years. By 2013, you will have much more inner strength than you have right now and the dynamics of the society around you will be very different. You can amplify the shift by being part of the change and by appreciating life and women at the same time. Adapting yourself and playing social games will not bring any results that can compare to this. We will explore techniques to detach you from the collective thinking in the chapter Energy Weaknesses.

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Chapter 2: Healing Methods Awareness

Several ways to heal your energies and emotional wounds exist. Generally speaking, the most effective methods are the simplest. In medicine, doctors consider a disease to be rheumatism or a bacterial infection. When working with energies, a headache, fear, or insecurity is also considered a disease. Split into its parts, the word “dis-ease” means a body that is not at ease. In fact, cancer, heart attacks, and all other diseases appear in your energies well before they manifest concretely. The body has the ability to fully regenerate itself when at ease. If you heal your energies, they will heal your diseases and keep you in good health. My dentist never told me teeth could regenerate, but I had a dozen decaying teeth heal by themselves. Several people have healed from cancer and even from HIV, among other medical miracles. When you are in an alpha state, at peace and in touch with your intuition, your immune system is much stronger, so you are very rarely ever sick. The simplest way to heal your energies is by increasing your awareness. Awareness is curative. Your subconscious issues affect everything you do and every aspect of your life. When you become fully aware of an issue, you can make a conscious choice about allowing it to affect your life or letting the issue go. You don’t have to solve or figure out your issues; instead, you just have to let them go. In fact, as soon as you become aware of an issue, it Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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will start to fade away. When you explored your chakras in Chapter 1, you explored your blockages. As you did so, they started to heal. All your physical issues come from your emotional issues, and all your emotional issues are emotional blocks. An emotional block is not only a cancer or a headache, but also it is any feeling that is less than pure love, joy, bliss, and peace. The gray feeling of not being in touch with your emotions is an emotional blockage as well. Allow yourself to fully feel that stuck sensation through your whole body, and then follow that feeling inside you with your mind. Follow it deeper, deeper, and ever deeper inside yourself. You might feel roots of issues and blockages reaching down to your core, awakening memories and events. Follow the feeling again deeper and deeper down to its deepest source. When you feel the blockage at the end of the chain of roots, pass your mind around it to cut the attachment. The whole tree of issues will start to fade, like when you cut a spiderweb. You may not feel all these details and that’s okay. As you work on your energies, they will become clearer. Just pay attention to whatever you feel and don’t filter anything. You’re not sure if you feel something or not? It’s there, it’s there, just assume it, don’t filter it. If you think a girl is interested in you but you’re not sure, then she is. Pick any tension you feel in your body and allow yourself to feel it fully. Follow that feeling deep inside you, deeper and ever deeper. Take some time

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to do that with your most important blockages. You can also do it in the bus or in the shower every day. Now let’s take another feeling, approach anxiety. What is that feeling? Take the time to follow it deep inside. You get approach anxiety when you try to get something from women. The attachment to the outcome takes your power away by making you dependent on the outcome. When you don’t need anything from anyone, approach anxiety is nonsense and people can’t reject you because you’re not trying to get anything. From our new reality, these concepts are obsolete. But still, fears can be associated with them. What’s an advantage of having approach anxiety? Don’t think about it—just say the first feeling that comes to mind. What’s a disadvantage of having approach anxiety? What’s an advantage of having approach anxiety? It might keep you safe in your comfort zone. What’s a disadvantage of having approach anxiety? It might prevent you from meeting women. Repeat these two questions to yourself and answer them right away at least twenty times each. As you become aware of advantages and disadvantages, the emotional charges start fading and other advantages and disadvantages show up. Repeat this exercise until you feel neutral and indifferent about the concept of approach anxiety. You can use this advantages/disadvantages technique with any other issues. The truth is, there are always advantages to your behavior or you wouldn’t do it. Then you might say you’re shy and uncomfortable around women because you were humiliated publicly as a child at school and have a whole story behind it. The story is totally irrelevant. There’s a point in life where you Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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must stop confirming your old reality and start rewriting it. You don’t need to prove yourself to your former schoolmates or anything like that, and there’s nothing to figure out. You just have to let go of the emotional wounds and focus on what you want and rewrite your story. You’re no longer that guy who gets humiliated in public. You’re that guy women go nuts for. If someone tries to humiliate you, you couldn’t care less, and it rolls off your back while that person makes a fool of himself. Your desire to be unique and your sense of being detached from others is your ego. We are all human beings. All men are wired the same way and all women are wired the same way. If you identify yourself by your qualities, your strengths, your issues, and your personality, it’s holding you back. If you really want abundance in life, you should have the freedom to be whoever you want to be at any time. For any outcome you may want, there is always a certain way of being that will allow you to achieve it. Your sense of being different or your sense of being a certain way prevents you from being all the other ways. If your egotistic mind thinks you are this strong man who doesn’t take shit from anyone and who is always right, then you cannot learn from people and you will stay with whatever results you have right now. If your egotistic mind thinks you have to struggle for money because you are poor, then it prevents you from feeling and attracting financial abundance. If you view yourself as an engineer, a policeman, or an athlete, then you cannot be or experience anything else. To let go of your ego means to let go of all these fake identities to be whoever you want to be to achieve your highest potential. When you let go of your ego, you kind of let your old self die so you can be reborn as a consciousness of God. You actually feel much more yourself when you put your ego aside and embrace Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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universal consciousness. You can still do the same work and you’ll be more effective at whatever you are doing since your mind is clearer and more focused. However, in many cases, you may find what you are doing right now isn’t aligned with your life purpose, in which case the best choice may be to leave or change your job and follow your inner guidance. There can also be unexpected consequences to raising your awareness and healing your issues, so it’s good to be aware of those as you can’t improve if you don’t accept the consequences. Energy flows within each of us, and removing energy blocks increases that flow. In the same way, increasing the flow of energy within you dissolves more energy blocks. However, most of your issues are unconscious, and when the flow of energy increases, it uncovers a new layer of stuck emotions so you may feel very chaotic for a period of time. Also, you attract things in your life that match your energies, but when you liberate a layer of blockages, it sometimes seems to summon hell and attract many things that match what you released. When you get tested on your new reality, accept the challenges and keep moving forward with your new way of being. Once the chaos has passed, you will attract more abundance into your life. There may also be people around you who don’t do anything with their lives and who just hold you back. You may lose touch with some people along the way, and you may have a period of life that is quieter. In the end, you will build a social circle that is much richer than before with people who support you and who live with integrity.

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Exercise 1: Following Blockages 1. Focus on a negative feeling in your body. 2. Allow yourself to feel the emotion throughout your body.

3. Pay attention to the negative feeling and notice all the details. 4. Follow the feeling deeper and deeper to find its root.

Exercise 2: Advantages & Disadvantages 1. Focus on an issue you have. 2. Say an advantage of having that issue without thinking about it.

3. Say a disadvantage of having that issue. 4. Repeat twenty times.

Acceptance and Love

Some people working to improve their lives ask me when they will reach true happiness. You work on healing yourself to reach illumination, then what? What will you do once you reach that perfect state of being? You will live happily forever? If all you care about is uniting yourself with universal energy, then shoot yourself and you’ll get there. Life is a path, not a destination. You are walking that path right now. The challenges you face in your life are what allow you to grow, so you should be grateful for them.

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You are as far as you think you are from true happiness. Even if you had plenty of girls who wanted to sleep with you, you wouldn’t reach that happiness because nobody can fulfill you. Happiness comes from the inside, not from the outside, and it is as simple as accepting your life as it is. When you reach that state where you are happy with your life even if it’s not perfect, your life starts to change, much like a flower under the sun. You still have issues and blockages to liberate. So what? You can live with them, at least for now. Rejecting them and feeling bad about your life isn’t going to help. Feeling bad about your slow progress does nothing at all to help you improve, so that feeling is useless. Let it go. Another thing that really helps is to take time every morning to think about all the good things in your life and be grateful for them. Also take the time every week to list all the good things that happened during that week. The more you focus on what you want and on the progress you make instead of focusing on your lack of progress, the more you will grow. What I am about to say may sound weird at first, but think about it for a moment. I am grateful for the repression of femininity in our culture. There has been abuse toward women, and women’s true nature wasn’t respected. The feminist movement gave women space to grow at the cost of their feminine nature. The scarcity and repression of femininity allows us to realize its beauty and importance when we see it. The repression of feminine energy to an intolerable level was a required step to allow it to come back stronger than ever.

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The next time you take the bus or metro, look at the person next to you and say in your head “I’m sorry, I love you.” Look at each woman around you, no matter her age and looks, in the eyes if possible. For each of them, say five times in your head “I’m sorry, I love you,” then look at the next person. It will shift the energies with pure love. You can also think about anyone or any aspect of your life and keep repeating “I’m sorry, I love you.” This is the easiest form of remote healing, and it really works. When you interact with a woman, love is the positive emotion of appreciating her. However, that pure emotion is often mixed up with negative feelings of neediness, attachment, and jealousy. You should separate these feelings to keep only the positivity of pure love. You should allow yourself to fully appreciate women around you while letting go of any attachment. In the same way, lust is a mix of appreciation and attachment. When you feel lust, allow yourself to feel the love for her feminine nature and let go of any attachment that is clinging onto your solar plexus.

Exercise 3: Gratefulness 1. Write down all the positive things that happened since last week. 2. Take some time to feel grateful for all these things.

3. Repeat this exercise every week or every morning.

Exercise 4: I Love You 1. Go to a public place such as the bus or metro.

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2. Look at a woman next to you, in the eyes if she looks at you. 3. Repeat in your head “I’m sorry, I love you” five times. 4. Repeat steps 2 and 3 on all women around you.

Letting Go

One of the most important abilities to master is letting go of stuck emotions on demand. Emotional blocks don’t have to be solved or figured out. You just have to let them go. An emotional block is either an emotion or something you resist, such as fear of public speaking, or an emotion or something you hold on to, such as the attachment for your nice car. Either way, it creates a contraction around emotions, preventing energies from flowing properly. Take a pen and hold it firmly in your hand. The contraction of your hand around the pen feels the same as the contraction around your fears. Your pen is stuck in your hand, but you could let it fall on the floor just by letting it go. It’s exactly the same with your fears. I know it sounds too simple to be true, but it really is. All emotional blockages are fears in all kinds of forms. A fear is looking for validation, looking for control, or looking for security. Some people buy that nice new car or fancy dress to get validation from women and friends. Some people use hypnosis or get a higher social status to try to control their Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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environment. Some people avoid expressing themselves or avoid meeting new people to keep their security. All these things—validation, control, and security—come from within you, so you shouldn’t have to look for those outside of yourself. Visualize interacting with a woman and notice your fear of rejection. That’s looking for validation and looking for control. Accept and allow yourself to fully feel this feeling, so you stop resisting it. Now, let the feeling go, so you stop holding onto it. Allow yourself to fully feel the fear of rejection throughout your body and contract to hold that feeling a few seconds. Then relax and let it go. Notice how it feels a little bit lighter. Repeat this at least twenty times or until the feeling is gone. Every time you do this, you are letting go of the contractions and unmaking the nodes. The change is subtle but instantaneous and permanent. Practice accepting and letting go with all negative feelings you are aware of. If you feel disconnected from your emotions, you can let that feeling go in the exact same way. By doing that, you’ll get back in touch with your feelings and then you can release them. Once you get used to it, you can associate accepting with breathing in and letting go with breathing out. Then, you can focus on a negative feeling like fear or anxiety, just breathe, and the feeling will fade away. Letting go is easy and effortless: the challenge is to become aware of your issues, and when you let them go, more will show up. It’s like peeling an onion: you do it layer per layer. You can do this all the time—before sleeping, at work, in a bar, and while simply breathing. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Letting go is really something you must get the awareness for. It’s like learning to ride a bike when you were kid. You could read the best manual on the subject to know how to hold your back, how to put your hands, how to turn, and how to brake. But you would get on the bike and fall down! Why? Because you had the knowledge, but not the awareness. You would get on the bike again, gain awareness of your body balance, and then you could ride. Then, you could be off the bike for forty years and you would still be able to ride. That’s the difference between knowledge and awareness.

Exercise 5: Letting Go 1. Focus on a negative feeling. 2. Allow yourself to fully feel the feeling. 3. Let the feeling go. 4. Repeat twenty times.

Natural Grounding

We explored previously how modern society has repressed femininity. Ironically, one of the most powerful techniques to balance our energies is relating to pure feminine energy. Traveling to third-world countries such as those in Southeast Asia or South America for at least two months is a great way to ground yourself in a more natural reality, as you WILL be affected by your new environment. It takes about a month in a different country to start sinking in the energies of the place and to internalize changes. When Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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you come back home after a few months abroad, you will feel so much more at ease with yourself and girls will notice you are somehow different. I know it is not easy for everyone to go traveling for several months at a time, so I can recommend another way to relate to pure feminine energy. Watch music videos of very specific artists who have such purity in their voice that they bring you to tears. Due to the omnipresence of the social matrix, there are no such artists from our modern countries or that you would ever see on TV, so I can’t recommend any resources from Canada, the United States, or England. Most of the purest artists are from Thailand, and there are a few good ones from Iceland, Ireland, and Germany, among other countries. When you listen to music that makes you very emotional, it lifts and heals the repression life has imposed on you. It brings you back in touch with your emotions. Crying and being emotional is often seen as weak in our culture, but think about it: men who achieve the most in life are very passionate about what they do, and tears of joy are the liberation of inner wounds. Being in touch with our emotions brings us lots of strength, passion, and control over our lives. Before doing hardcore natural grounding, it is good to listen to background music to put you in a state where you feel good and emotional. Get music from Hans Zimmer (Germany), Enya (Ireland), and Björk (Iceland). You can listen to it while eating or while cleaning your apartment. This music will put you in a meditative state. It is much better to get the full albums, but you can listen to these specific songs on YouTube to get started: Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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- Hans Zimmer – “Watergate” - Hans Zimmer – “The Power of One” - Enya – “Book of Days” - Enya – “Storms in Africa” - Amélie Poulain – “Comptine d’un autre été” - Björk – “Bachelorette” Now that your emotions are reaching the surface, we can get into the real stuff. Natural grounding is relational meditation with pure feminine energy and we import most music resources from Thailand. While watching these videos, several people reported bursting into tears though they hadn’t cried in fifteen years and feeling liberated, light, and joyful, having breakthroughs, sensing energy flowing up the spine, or just feeling good. If you don’t get such responses and don’t cry, it’s okay too. One guy who gets amazing results with women never cried during natural grounding. The effect varies from one person to the other. The more energy that flows through your body, the more effective this technique is, and I still use it regularly. It allows me to get into a peak state of mind before going out or to release the stress from a day of work. So what is this famous technique? Sit down and watch the music videos. It’s so simple but it works. The mood of the videos is contagious. Before going into more detail, let’s look at some resources. The best is clearly Palmy, so get anything you can from her. Her live concert album, The Rhythm of the Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Times, is just unbelievable. 2007 Show Girls, 2005 Hula Hula, Da Endorphine, Nicole Theriault, and Bodyslam are also awesome.

It is much better to have the real VCDs, but for now you can take a look on YouTube. Look at Palmy’s “Yark Rong Dunk Dunk.” There are two versions of the video, both of which are great. How can someone ever be so happy? I’ve never seen that before and never thought it was possible. I’m a carefree person, but Palmy is damn playful! Now look at Palmy’s “Tick Tock.” It’s amazing how her personality shines through, no matter how she dresses. When she’s dressed up as a cow, you can see in her eyes that she’s thinking “What the heck am I doing in that stupid outfit?” You just can’t repress her. She’s such a beautiful lady, yet you don’t even think about sex when you look at her. How is that possible?

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Now look at Palmy’s “San Sai Bai.” She’s so innocent, so light, and so happy. The video is so simple, and there’s no need for choreography at all. It’s a completely different world than American video clips, where singers use all kinds of fancy choreography to make the videos interesting. You could listen to Palmy all day long without getting bored because of the way her music makes you feel. Now look at Da Endorphine’s “Wan Mai.” When you compare her lightness to the women in the metro going to work on a Monday morning, it’s a completely different world. Now look at Bodyslam’s “Kaub Far.” It is such a beautiful and touching love story. He says “Tomorrow there is no you,” and he lets her go. Now look at Bodyslam’s “Kwaam Cheua.” He says you must have dreams and walk, no matter how hard it can be. Who will stand up against the social matrix? Will you stand on your own for what you believe is right? You see all these people stuck in the system and you can’t stand it, you can’t breathe, you’ve got to keep walking, you’ve got to build your strengths. The old man has so much vitality that it’s inspiring. He contrasts those people who just get senile when they grow old. Now look at 2007 Show Girls’ “Lady Moonlight.” Once you know that kind of natural woman, when you go out, it makes you wonder where the real women are. It is within every girl, but it is repressed. You have to communicate with that part of them that is hidden, not with their social adaptation. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Now look at 2005 Tiwa Hula Hula’s “Hula Hula.” That’s how easy and fun life is meant to be. When you think about how our society has repressed that aspect of women, it’s depressing, but it’s also liberating to know it can be otherwise. These women are so refreshing and they heal you. Just by being around them, you develop as a real man, they make you attractive. Remember that it’s likely not your fault if you have difficulty with women; women in our modern culture are so repressed. They are responsible for 50 percent of our interactions, so if you do your part, you can get that lack of success off your shoulders. It’s their problem, not yours—but you can help them liberate their feminine side. Let’s now look at Nicole Theriault’s “Boot Sa Bah.” She’s such an angel. When you think about all these girls who want guys to pursue them and who want challenges at the same time, and you compare them to Nicole, it’s ironic. It almost makes me want to laugh. It’s perplexing, that’s the word. Look. You don’t have to pursue women. It works much better the other way around. The experience is so much better with the full quality VCDs, and you can get them for a ridiculous price—about $8 per CD including shipping. You can buy these resources from www.ethaicd.com. Most CDs are in two versions: normal and karaoke. Make sure you get the karaoke VCD version so you can watch the videos. Though these VCDs are often sold out, the website sometimes refills its stock.

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Here’s a list of albums I recommend: - Palmy – Palmy http://www.ethaicd.com/show.php?pid=4604 - Palmy – The Best Hits of Palmy http://www.ethaicd.com/show.php?pid=27118 - Palmy – The Rhythm of the Times http://www.ethaicd.com/show.php?pid=26351 - Any other albums from Palmy http://www.ethaicd.com/list.php?keyword=palmy - Da Endorphine – Sound About http://www.ethaicd.com/show.php?pid=37194 - Bodyslam – Absolute http://www.ethaicd.com/show.php?pid=39728 - 2005 Tiwa Hula Hula http://www.ethaicd.com/show.php?pid=18257 - Super Coyote http://www.ethaicd.com/show.php?pid=20083 - 2007 Show Girls http://www.ethaicd.com/show.php?pid=27457 - Nicole Theriault – Beautiful Life http://www.ethaicd.com/show.php?pid=30153 - Any album from Nicole Theriault http://www.ethaicd.com/list.php?keyword=Nicole+Theriault It is important to be alone when listening to the music so you can relate directly to it without interference. If other people are around, you won’t let Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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yourself get as emotional, and you won’t let your tears flow. Even worse, they’ll constantly distract you and won’t respect that music or these singers for what they represent. They are the missing piece of our modern society, but don’t expect your friends to understand that. Listen to the music alone and turn off the lights. You can also get drunk to let yourself go more easily, but this becomes less and less necessary over time. You should eventually get the same effect when sober. You may feel all kinds of sensations coming up: these are repressed emotions coming to the surface. The first time I tried natural grounding, I kept burping and I felt a current of energy flowing up my spine and strengthening me. It is very effective to use the other healing methods at the same time. When you listen to the music, you get very emotional and you let go of stuck feelings at the same time. It is great to do it right before you go to sleep or first thing in the morning when you wake up. You can also take a nap with the music playing in the background, which will send you to sleep with pleasant dreams. Natural grounding builds up lots of energy within you. Energy is universal and is everywhere. This music heals you and thus increases the flow of energy within you. You can use this energy. You can let it build up inside you to raise your vibration level and develop your creativity, intuition, and inner strength. You can use it with visualizations: whatever you visualize will have much more effect, as there is a lot of energy and emotions flowing into it. You attract what you focus on into your life. You can use this energy to rewrite your story instead of justifying your current reality with your past issues and stories. You can also use this energy to rewrite the stories of people around you, or rather, to unlock your ability to positively affect the Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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people around you. Developing your state of mind is one thing, but since you want women to behave naturally around you, you must open and spread your energies. Visualize your energies spreading fifty meters around wherever you go, making people forget their issues and behave naturally. The more you raise your energies, the more girls will tend behave like Palmy around you. You are a shining source of inspiration. You are the purity God admires.

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Reiki

Note: with this updated version of Sexual Magnetism, Alchemy is much more powerful than more widely known spiritual practices such as Reiki, Yoga and Tai Chi. It is still good for you to understand this, but practicing Alchemy will bring you more results. Reiki is often seen as a healing art using your hands and symbols. The hands don’t matter, and neither do the symbols. Let’s look at Reiki from a sexual magnetism perspective.

I first took interest in Reiki when I realized that several people who had massive success with women with the natural approach also did Reiki, although they would sometimes tell me that they were not doing it anymore. Sexual magnetism is about opening the flow of energy within you and extending it to the people around you. Likewise, Reiki is about opening a

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flow of energy within you and extending it to the people around you. It’s very similar; no wonder why one helps the other. Here are the basic principles of Reiki, which you should say to yourself every morning:

Just for today I will not worry. Just for today I will not be angry. Just for today I will do my work honestly. Just for today I will give thanks for my many blessings. Just for today I will be kind to my neighbor and every living thing.

Reiki is an art very different than what you are used to. You are used to learning skills with time, effort, and dedication, but Reiki doesn’t work that way. There are three levels of Reiki. Levels 1 and 2 each can be done in a single day and Reiki Master takes a few days. During the training for the first two levels, a Reiki Master will open a specific path of energy through you that goes from your crown chakra to your heart and out to your hands. It helps ground you into awareness. It also helps balance all other chakras and ground you to the Earth. What about the theory behind Reiki? There really isn’t much to learn. You learn a bit about what you are doing and learn some symbols you can use as tools. Just put your hands toward a patient and let energy flow. Reiki is not a skill you learn, but an ability that becomes part of yourself. You can’t force it; you just relax and let it happen. Actually, it’s not even an ability you gain.

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You are recovering what you had when you were born since it got covered over the years through social conditioning. There is what’s called an “attunement” for each level of Reiki that cleans your energies. Reiki 1 cleans your physical energies, Reiki 2 cleans your emotional energies, and Reiki Master cleans your spiritual energies. After an attunement, you may get a purging period of thirty days, as opening the flow of energy within you exposes your hidden blockages. All healing methods described in this book can help you go through the purging. During the purging, several people reported sensing things around them that they never sensed before. If it happens, don’t worry, it’s normal. It means your awareness is rising. The obvious way to use Reiki is through your hands, but you can use it to open your own energies, to extend your energies everywhere around you, or to heal people and relationships remotely. Even if you stop doing Reiki, it has a permanent effect on you. The universal energy channeled through Reiki heals, or helps remove what prevents your body from regenerating itself. When Reiki flows through you, it flows to whatever you focus on. If your mother is sick and you focus on her, it will help her heal even if she is in a different country. From an energy point of view, distance doesn’t matter, but connection and focus does. Some healers use their own energy for healing, but you don’t have to. When you use universal energy flowing through you, you feel rejuvenated instead of feeling depleted.

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Your Reiki Master will also teach you some symbols as tools to work with energies. People who tried the symbols before their attunement didn’t notice any clear effect, but after the initiation, the effect is definitely present. As these symbols are sacred and are of no use until you have an initiation to Reiki, I will not go in the details of what they are. However, we can look at how these symbols can help balance your energies and increase your magnetism. The first symbol amplifies the energy. It actually opens a door to universal energies, and the effect may look like a black hole or a tornado. You can use it to consciously clean energies around you. You can use this symbol on all the walls of your home, on people around you, on anything that doesn’t feel good, or on a remote person. Just visualize a person and visualize the symbol on him to bring healing energy to that person. People usually don’t seem to notice remote healing, as it works on them at a subconscious level. It is worth noting that Reiki cannot be used with bad intentions, as it channels pure love energy. Your bad energies, bad intentions, fears, and desires for control, validation, and security will simply be dissolved by the flow of Reiki energy. The second symbol helps to balance emotions and to heal emotional issues. It actually balances yin and yang energies—your feminine and masculine sides. Really strong men are very masculine but also have feminine energies within them. Even if you have a strong masculine presence, if you cannot get feminine energy from within yourself, you will feel emotionally needy and you will try to get feminine energy from outside. You then absorb whatever energy is around you, including negativity, emotional repression, neediness, Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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aloofness, and social conditioning. To ground yourself solidly in your own reality, you must detach yourself emotionally from your environment. To do this, you must fill the voids and neediness inside you by balancing your masculine and feminine energies. You then have a strong masculine presence without the neediness since you can get feminine energy from within yourself. You can use the second Reiki symbol on yourself or on others to balance these energies. Of course, natural grounding remains the best method to develop your masculine and feminine sides. What I often do to open my flow of energy on demand is to visualize the first Reiki symbol on my seven chakras, starting with the crown. Sometimes I do it several times on each chakra if I feel it needs it. Then, I visualize a flow of energy going through me, up and down my spine, and connecting me both to the Earth through my base chakra and to awareness through my crown chakra. I instantly get this huge sensation of peace, personal power, and love. I have often had girls react with crazy attraction at that exact moment. I don’t do anything, and they just get wet! It awakens their raw core. Other times when I feel strong negative energies around, I’ll open my flow of energy as wide as I can so negativity can’t survive, and it just gets dissolved. I really think Reiki is more useful as a tool you use in your daily life than as a treatment you do with the hands, but your teacher may not show it to you that way. Look for Reiki teachers in your area to set up an initiation. You can get the level 2 training one month after the first initiation. However before taking Reiki Master, you are better off to wait six or twelve months until you have a lot of experience and you feel you are ready. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Go to www.meetup.com and search for “Reiki.” The Meetup website allows you to organize and find various events in all cities around the world. There are many meetings of all kinds, including Reiki and other holistic healing methods, in your area that you can attend for either free or for little money. This allows you to learn new approaches, to work on your energies, and to meet new people. There meetings are usually filled with 90 percent women, so they will be glad to see some men.

Exercise 6: Natural Grounding 1. Turn off the lights and be alone. 2. Listen to ambiance music such as Enya or Hans Zimmer for 30 minutes. 3. If necessary, drink alcohol to let go more easily. 4. Watch natural grounding music videos such as Palmy for at least 1 hour. 5. Clear your mind and let yourself feel the energy. 6. Don’t think about anything.

Tantra

Tantra is an ancient Taoist art of working with sexual energy to overcome neediness, to have stronger full-body orgasms, to have non-ejaculatory orgasms, to have more sexual power, and to last as long as you wish in bed. Besides strengthening your energies, it won’t make such a big difference on your sexual magnetism, but it will definitely give a different impression to Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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girls sleeping with you! Don’t be too surprised if the word goes around and some new girls want to try you. In terms of sexual magnetism, the aspect of Tantra that will make the most difference is probably overcoming sexual neediness, because the more you need and lack something, the more you push it away. There are two aspects of neediness: emotional and physical. Emotional neediness occurs when you need a feminine presence to fill a void within you. The solution is to balance your masculine and feminine energies so you can get pure feminine energy from yourself. I talk about this in the Natural Grounding and Reiki sections earlier in this chapter. Physical neediness occurs when you need to release the pressure in your gut. When you masturbate to blow the shit out, you get a dump-like feeling and that’s it, then you feel a bit awkward. For sex to be good, you need both the emotional balance and physical satisfaction aspects. That’s why sex is not so great with girls who have their feminine side repressed, even if they have the best asses and perfectly shaped fake boobs. The truth is, you don’t need anyone to satisfy you sexually. You can do it by yourself. By contrast, the kind of women you see in natural grounding videos offer by far the best sex. I slept with women from all over the world during my travels, and Thai women beat all others I experienced when it came to sex, especially those who work doing Thai massages as they work with energies all day long. The exchange of energy is such an amazing experience. I strongly encourage you to stop watching porn as it conditions you to put pussies on a pedestal, to want pussies, to want to get laid, and to want things Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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from people. Porn is also conditioning you to a model of sexuality that is completely different than Tantric sex. In porn movies, you see the guy banging the girl like crazy to shoot his sperm, but the whole emotional aspect is missing and orgasms are very dry. In Tantric sex, you feel much more connected to each other and orgasms spread throughout your whole body. Orgasmic contractions can often last more than thirty seconds, and you can line up several orgasms in a row. After several orgasms, you can reach a much heightened state of awareness. Some people wonder whether or not to masturbate when they don’t get laid. If you masturbate, it decreases your masculine energy. If you don’t masturbate, you get that raw sexual energy that seeks to procreate and that helps you improve your life. Some people say that if you don’t masturbate for long enough, you will eventually get laid. But be careful: when you have strong sexual desires, it does put women around you in a sexual state, but it doesn’t leave them space to build trust and rapport, so it is a double-edged sword. Personally, when I go out, I find it easier to connect with people when I am not needy. The pressure has to be relieved once in a while. It’s really up to you when to masturbate, just listen to your body and be aware of the consequences on your emotional state. Actually, when you masturbate, it’s not the orgasm that brings your energy down, but the ejaculation. You may never have noticed, but you orgasm, THEN you ejaculate. Learning to separate orgasm from ejaculation is a big key. You may not have noticed this either, but when you orgasm, you have contractions similar to vaginal contractions. If you masturbate and have several orgasms without ejaculating, you feel satisfied, your energy is still Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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high, and you radiate sexual energy, without feeling the neediness. I personally find masturbating every two weeks to be the best, but when you do, it is best to do it for at least twenty minutes to develop your sensitivity. The best way is to take time to have several non-ejaculatory orgasms, and then it’s up to you whether or not to ejaculate. After a while without sex, I also find it better to release my sperm a few days before meeting a girl or having sex, otherwise I cum too fast and she may not enjoy it as much. I mentioned that when you orgasm, you have contractions similar to vaginal contractions. That muscle goes from the base of your penis to your anus, going around your prostate. It is the PC muscle, the same muscle you use to hold your pee. Strengthening your PC muscle is a key to controlling and strengthening your orgasms. The next time you orgasm, notice how your anus contracts as well as the base of your penis. To strengthen this muscle, you can contract it in series of twenty repetitions. Contract your PC muscle as if you wanted to hold your pee and contract your anus and the base of your penis at the same time and hold it for ten seconds. Notice where the muscle is and what it feels like. You can do a series of contractions in bed before sleeping or even on the bus. Here’s another technique to strengthen your PC muscle. When you pee, try to stop the flow in the middle. Then, continue peeing and cut the flow again. Cut and resume the flow of pee as many times as possible—if you can do it six times or more, that is great.

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You may have heard that the prostate is the G-spot for men, but if you don’t want to reach it through your ass, it may reassure you to learn that your PC muscle surrounds your prostate. There are several ways to not ejaculate during orgasm. The simplest method is to simply pull your balls away from your prostate before ejaculating. Just before orgasm, your balls bag shrinks very close to your body to prepare to send your seeds from your balls to your prostate and out through your penis. You can gently massage your bag to relax it. Then, make a circle with your thumb and index finger around your bag, just over your testicles. Then, gently pull your testicles away from your body with your still-circled finger and thumb. If you have a hard time pulling your balls, massage them some more. If you orgasm while your testicles are far from your body, sperm cannot go from your testicles to your prostate, so you end up having an orgasm without ejaculating. At first, the orgasms can be very small, but with practice, non-ejaculatory orgasms become stronger and stronger. You can notice your orgasm by the automatic contraction of your anus and PC muscle. After a first non-ejaculatory orgasm, my dick is really hard. I could go take my shower, and ten minutes later, it would still be just as hard. If I try to do the same ball-pulling technique again to have several orgasms, too much energy builds up in my genitals and sperm blows out. If you want to have several non-ejaculatory orgasms, you will need to channel the sexual energy from your genitals to your entire body.

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Normally, channeling sexual energy up your spine is hard to achieve and requires cleaning your emotional blockages, but if you have already applied the other healing methods discussed earlier in this book to develop your sexual magnetism, it shouldn’t be so hard. It is better to practice this alone. The idea is to channel sexual energy from your genitals, up your spine, up to your crown chakra, around in your head, down your tongue, then back down to your navel. While you masturbate, just before ejaculating, visualize the sexual energy flowing from your genitals to your anus, then to the bottom of the spine, then up the spine, then to your neck, then to your brain, and up to your crown chakra. Repeat this nine times. If you do it properly, your erection should slightly decrease. Circle the creative sexual energy around in your brain. Make twenty circles clockwise then twenty circles counter-clockwise. It may feel like tingling or a mini orgasm in the brain. If you leave all that energy for too long in your head, you can get headaches or insomnia, so it is important to channel or release it. Visualize the sexual energy flowing from your brain to your nose, then to your mouth. To help the energy move to your front energy line, touch your palate (the roof of your mouth) with your tongue. Visualize the sexual energy flowing to your tongue, then to your throat, then to your heart, then to your solar plexus, and down to your navel where it can be stored safely. You can also use the “letting go” technique to release some more energy. Channeling sexual energy up is one thing, but doing it in the heat of an orgasm is another, and doing it in the heat of passionate love-making is on yet a higher level. Anyway, the worst that can happen is that you do what Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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you have always done: ejaculate. That’s no big deal. There is nothing to lose, besides your precious sperm. I strongly recommend practicing masturbation and channeling energy up the spine, but stopping before the orgasm. It’s very hard to stop yourself at first, but going out of your fixed patterns and gaining control over your sexual desires opens a whole new world of possibilities for your sexual life where you enjoy sexuality instead of having it run your life. If your balls feel full, which is called “blue balls,” massage your testicles and your bag gently. With practice, you shouldn’t get the blue balls syndrome anymore. If you had one or several non-ejaculatory orgasms, I also recommend stopping without ejaculating to see how it feels. It is worth mentioning that the sexual energy flowing up the spine feels very much like rushes of energy sometimes flowing up the spine during natural grounding. It also feels very much like when I open and ground my chakras to open the flow of energy. This means watching natural grounding videos every day will greatly help you channel your sexual energy up the spine. When you feel sexual desires in situations where it wouldn’t be appropriate to have sex, you can channel the sexual energy up your spine. It will transform into strength and creativity to support you on whatever you are doing. Once you can properly channel the sexual energy out of your genitals, your orgasms will spread throughout your body and you may have nonejaculatory orgasms. If you do ejaculate, notice how you orgasm, get the Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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contractions and pleasure, then you ejaculate, lose your erection, and relax. If you can stop just a bit before, you will only experience the orgasmic part and will be ready to go again for more orgasms. After my first non-ejaculatory orgasm, my dick is still hard and ready to go again. After other non-ejaculatory orgasms, I get contractions, the sexual tension goes down, and the erection decreases a bit, but we’re ready to go again. After a few such orgasms, I feel totally satisfied and I could stop even if I didn’t ejaculate. I’m still hard, but I feel at peace. After a few minutes, the erection goes down. One time I repeated this cycle for a long time but got an intense headache afterward. To avoid this, take a break every twenty minutes and let the erection go down so that blood can circulate. Most importantly, don’t leave all that sexual energy for too long in your head. Channel it down to your navel and release it. I compared having a few non-ejaculatory orgasms followed by an ejaculation vs. having several orgasms without ejaculation. When I ejaculate, I feel tired or fall asleep. When I stop without ejaculating, I’m still full of energy and I feel more affectionate after sex. When I have several non-ejaculatory orgasms, it feels good, but the ejaculating orgasm is much better: I get a much stronger orgasm THEN I ejaculate. Each time, nonejaculatory orgasms become stronger. Overall, it’s a matter of mood and preferences. I find it good to ejaculate twice a week when having regular sex and twice a month when single. After doing at least two hours of natural grounding, you can do what I call “sexual natural grounding” to balance your sexual energy center and ground Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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your sexual energies. This is a very powerful exercise and it should be done with full respect. When you are in a peak state of mind, put a natural grounding video that arouses you. The best is the “Super Coyote” VCD, although it is currently hard to find. Refer to the natural grounding section for how to get these resources. After watching the full CD once, watch it again and allow yourself to be aroused sexually. It may not happen at first because surprisingly enough, when natural women dance sexily, it makes you feel great but you don’t even think about sex. Even when you’re hard, you may not think about sex. Pleasure yourself for as long as possible and try to have as many non-ejaculatory orgasms as possible. This can give very strong and fulfilling orgasms, even stronger than when you’re sleeping with girls. When in a dry period, this exercise can fulfill you sexually for a solid two weeks. It is very powerful. To go more in depth on Tantra, I highly recommend the book The MultiOrgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know by Chia Mantak and Douglas Abrams. Here is something interesting you can do if you have a girl you get along with well. Buy the book The Multi-Orgasmic Woman by Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams and write this inside the front cover:

When you are done reading this book, you cannot leave it on your table. You must give it to someone else and she must write her name and date. When she is done reading it, she must do the same.

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Leave enough space for a list of names and dates. Write your name and the date, then give her the book and ask her to write her name and date. And so the book goes on its way.

Exercise 7: Strengthen PC Muscle 1. Contract your PC muscle as if you wanted to hold your pee. 2. Hold your PC muscle contracted 5 seconds. 3. Release it. 4. Repeat steps 2 and 3 in series of 10. 5. Do every day before sleeping.

Exercise 8: Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm 1. Masturbate slowly until you are about to ejaculate. 2. Massage your testicles bag to make it softer. 3. Make a circle with your thumb and index finger around your testicles. 4. Gently pull the fingers circle to pull testicles away. 5. Contract your PC muscle around your prostate. 6. Slowly reach orgasm while testicles are far from the prostate. 7. Notice the contractions and lack of sperm.

Exercise 9: Channeling Energy 1. Masturbate until you are near orgasm. 2. Visualize the sexual energy flowing to the base of your spine. 3. Visualize the sexual energy flowing up the spine. 4. Visualize the sexual energy flowing up the neck to the head. 5. Repeat nine times steps 2, 3, and 4. 6. Your erection should decrease if done properly.

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7. Turn the energy in your head 20 times clockwise. 8. Turn the energy in your head 20 times counter-clockwise. 9. Visualize the sexual energy flowing to your nose and tongue. 10. Visual the sexual energy flowing down to your navel. 11. Repeat steps 9 and 10 nine times.

Alchemy Alchemy is about the transmutation of self and transmuting negative energies into positive. It is a very advanced and powerful discipline. The goal here is not to do ten years meditation training to reach mastery and illumination. The goal is to take some core concepts of Alchemy that can immediately be applied to make concrete changes into your life. There are five different types of energies that each vibrate at the frequency of a different color.

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2. Emotional energy, associated with the color shiny white. When you are very emotional and passionate about something and have chills and goose bump, you are using this energy. 3. Spiritual energy, associated with color shiny red. Most meditation practices develop mostly this energy. The last two are outside your energy field. 4. Plane of creation, associated with color gold. The creation and coordination of events through time and space happen in this plane. 5. Plane of the Absolute, associated with color teal. This is the stillness above creation from which everything arises. This is beyond time and space. We will mostly use the color teal to transmute your emotional blockages. If you feel stuck in your solar plexus, you can visualize a teal light in that zone during an hour to release it. By instead visualizing a teal flame, you can do the same job in 15 minutes. By connecting yourself to the plane of the Absolute and visualizing a teal flame from there, you can achieve the same results in less than one minute. The color is like using 1000V while the flame is 10000V. Using the flame from the plane of the Absolute is like using 100000V. First, if you have difficulty calming your mind, here’s a short meditation that will allow your rational mind to rest to be more open to your unconscious mind. This meditation is using mantras which are very ancient words. Each of these words has an aggregate of energy connected to it. By saying a mantra, you connect yourself to its mass of energy. Center yourself. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Take a long deep breath and let it out slowly. Allow your breathing to become full and deeply relaxed. Allow your rational mind to rest, and you will be more open to your unconscious mind. Read these words out loud or in your head: BAHHO – MYKO – BRAKHTO – KOMHO – ILO – SATRO – WARO – SIODAS – IDNATALIS – KIONDAS – MASLATIS – SIYOKANS – ASLATAS – SYNARAS – ZASES – KALMAS Notice how you feel. To connect yourself with the Absolute, close your eyes and visualize a tree and a river with you standing between. The river is in front of you. If the river flows from right to left, you are at the good place. If it flows from left to right, jump over the river where you will find another tree. Turn around to face the river.

The tree represents your essence and the river represents the flow of energy. Now go behind the tree and put your back against it. Ask the tree to bring you to the plane of the Absolute.

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From there, visualize a teal flame at any place that requires healing. Practice this for five minutes. This is one of the main tools we will be using. Any time you use instant release or Reiki, you can also use this method of alchemic transmutation. It is interesting to note that, unlike Reiki, Alchemy doesn’t require movements of energy. Energy is simply transmuted. Reiki is easier to learn but people tend to stagnate at a certain level. Alchemy is more complex and can be much more powerful. It’s like the difference between college and University. You usually don’t send kids straight to University. We’re not going into the complexity of Alchemy either. We stay focused on our goals and explore a few tools.

Energy Weaknesses When you do Natural Grounding or learn Reiki, something interesting happens. Your energy field expands, but by doing so, it also exposes your weaknesses to the external world. You have small negative portals in your energy field which make you more irritable and vulnerable. This is energy fragmentation. You also have negative portals of various sizes inside your body which allows surrounding negative energies to soak into you. You work to heal yourself and you soak in surrounding negative energies at the same time. It’s like trying to empty a boat that has a hole. You’ll have to heal the entire city before reaching a high state! These are negative portals. They are created by strong traumas, all illegal drugs except week, most legal psychotropic drugs Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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and having orgasms with women having a lot of portals. Ayahuasca can help people reach enlightenment but it also creates negative portals making them more vulnerable to negative energies. Energy fragmentation and negative portals are created the same way. The difference is that one is in your energy field and the other is in your body. You were also born with implants connecting you to your environment and cultural aggregate. An aggregate is a collective mass of energy. Each city and country has its own distinct aggregate. That’s why you feel different when you go to another country. People are different. The collective energy aggregate is different. An implant may feel like a large wire full of filaments directly plugging you to the aggregate. You can view it like people are plugged in the movie The Matrix. These implants make it harder to detach yourself from the collective thinking and to think on your own. Everybody is born with four main implants: behind the head, behind the neck, behind the shoulders and at the bottom of the spine where the tail would be if we had one. In some cases, there can also be implants under the feet. These three types of energy weaknesses are not emotional blockages. They form structures through which emotional blockages can flow. Natural Grounding, Reiki, EFT and Sedona Method do not allow detecting and solving these specific issues. Most spiritual masters are still struggling with these issues. The only method I know so far to detect and heal these weaknesses is with the teal alchemic flame discussed in the last chapter. This is priceless.

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So let’s work on these portals and implants. Visualize a tree and a river with you standing between. If the river in front of you flows from left to right, jump over the river where you will find another tree. Face the river which should flow from right to left. Go behind the tree and put your back against it. Ask the tree to bring you to the plane of the Absolute. The work will be much more powerful from this plane beyond time and space. Time is merely an illusion from this plane. Scan the back of your head with a teal flame to detect an implant. You may start feeling a sensation of stuck-ness. Use that same teal flame to dissolve and cut the implant. It is sometimes hard to cut and you may have to come back to it several times. Do the same with the implants behind your neck, behind your shoulders and below the spine. You can ask your tree to guide you in the process. Now, ask your tree to guide you to negative portals in your body. Use the teal flame to detect and close these portals. It may feel like bottom-less pits or black holes. Demons can come out from these portals. If you feel negative entities or demons, you can dissolve them with the teal flame or by throwing crystal balls to disintegrate them. Normally they will disappear if you close the portals from which they arise. Now scan your entire energy field a few meters around you with the teal flame to detect and close portals or energy fragmentation. Start on your left and scan 360°.

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If you have difficulty working on some of these, you may want to consider phone coaching where we will do it together. It is very easy for me to do, and I want you to learn how to do it.

Alchemic Visualizations Many people in the self-help industry are into visualizations and positive thinking. These never really worked for me, but I found something that is extremely powerful. The reason why visualizations and positive thinking rarely works is because thoughts alone don’t have any energetic weight. What has an impact on your life, laws of attraction, chaos and your energy field are your emotions which are energies in motion. Connect yourself to the plane of the Absolute with the technique discussed previously. Hold both hands in front of you as if you were holding a soccer ball. Take a deep breath in. As you breathe out, visualize teal flames coming out of your hands and forming a ball. Keep visualizing teal flame between your hands for 30 seconds to build a mass of energy. Now slowly move your hands two feet from each other. Keep visualizing teal flame as the mass of energy expands. Then, slowly move your hands closer to compress the energy. You may feel a pressure, resistance of tingling between your hands. Move your hands apart again to expand the energy.

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Move them closer again to compact the energy. Keep repeating this to build a mass of compact energy. Move this mass of energy with your hands somewhere in your body. Pay attention to how you feel. This is very powerful to transmute and heal energy blockages and weaknesses. Repeat the same thing to build another ball of energy between your hands. This time, put an intention into it. Focus your mind on the mass of energy and visualize something you want to achieve, something you want to solve or something you want to heal. This visualization has a huge mass of energy associated to it and it will put the energies in motion. Some of the energy may go inside you to transmute the fears and blockages preventing the goal from happening. Some energy may go out into the world to attract people and circumstances allowing the goal to happen. Let the energy flow where it needs to flow. Visualizations done this way don’t always happen, but there are always things happening in that direction. When life is stagnant, it puts life and events into motion towards the goals. You will rarely reach these goals the way you think. It usually happens in unexpected ways. Often it will bring you inspiration and ideas. Sometimes it will attract unexpected circumstances. It keeps your mind focused in the direction of your goals. With this kind of power, keep in mind that what you do to others always comes back to you in some form or another, good or bad. You cannot Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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impose your will onto anyone. You can visualize that you want a great relationship and it will attract someone into your life on her own will. However, you can’t visualize being in a relationship with a specific person. Whenever your goal is associated to a specific person against her will, it is black magic. The teal flame doesn’t allow doing black magic. Just try it once to know what I mean. Build a mass of teal flame energy between your hands and visualize being with a specific person. You may feel the energy coming into you to dissolve and transmute the neediness and attachment from which the intention arises. This will transform the intention, detach it from the others person and make it more about the personal experience you want to attract. In most cases you cannot harm with this energy, but still be careful about what you do.

Natural Grounding Journal This is where it gets really interesting. I can guarantee your life will not remain stagnant if you do this. Buy a nice notepad that you will use exclusively for Natural Grounding. Do at least 30 minutes of Natural Grounding every day, especially the days where you don’t feel like doing it. Do the first 15 minutes normally to put yourself in a higher state of mind. Then, visualize three different goals with the alchemic visualization technique Spend five minutes on each goal. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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In your Natural Grounding Journal, write the date and the three goals. This forces you to clarify the intention into words and it allows you to track the progress over time. Start by doing it 30 days in a row. This will make a lot of things move in your life internally and externally. At the end of 30 days, go back and look at your first goals to see whether they happened or not. See how your life and intentions changed in a month. If you have too many things to do and don’t have time to do Natural Grounding every day, visualize having more available time. This will help you be more focused to do the work faster and you will save a lot of time. Doing 30 minutes of Natural Grounding isn’t spending time. It is an investment of time that pays for itself. You will have more free time at the end of the day and you will feel better.

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Chapter 3: Sexual Magnetism Applied Emotional Communication

Emotional communication includes everything from unconscious impressions about people to telepathy. It is well-known that a woman makes up her mind about a man in the first ten seconds, and you probably do the same, whether consciously or not. A woman may make a conscious judgment about a man’s appearance but most importantly, she unconsciously feels the energies he projects. She will say things like “there’s just something about him” or “that guy has bad vibes.” You might have heard people who pretend they can read minds, but I will freely admit to you that I cannot. However, I feel people and feel the emotions behind their thoughts on a daily basis. Sometimes people ask me something and I instead answer to what they were feeling without realizing it. I can also trust people easily because if they are fucked up enough to not have integrity, I will usually feel it in their energies. I also have had girls lend me their car or motorbike the first time I met them. There’s this girl I met for a week while living in Europe. She went back home to Australia and we kept in contact. One night at 2 am, I suddenly woke up with a crazy, uncontrollable erection and was thinking about her. With the time difference, it was 10 am over there. The next day, I called and asked her what she was doing at 10 am.

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Turns out she was at the doctor’s office for a periodic vaginal check. It was very unpleasant, so he told her to think about something that felt good. Okay ... The point is, you cannot fake who you are, because she will know. So forget all about your tricks and techniques. If you masturbate thinking about a girl at school, don’t be surprised if she avoids you the next day. The way you feel doesn’t only make a difference when communicating in person but also when talking on the phone. It even makes a difference for e-mails, instant messaging, and SMS. When you send a text message to a girl, she thinks about you and subconsciously picks whatever energies you are projecting at that moment. She is more likely to answer messages you send while you are in a good mood. When traveling to a foreign country, it’s funny how you can meet a girl who doesn’t speak your language at all and you still talk for twenty minutes. It has happened to me a few times. Just be playful and pretend you understand her. I would say something in my language, she would say something in her language, I answer to whatever I think she might have said, she does the same, and we keep going for ten or twenty minutes. The weird thing is that sometimes we get the impression we understand each other. I really think that if you’ve never slept with a girl with whom you share fewer than five words of the same language, you are really missing something. Ever been to a club of naked girls? When I see a girl, the first thing I notice is what she feels like and her emotional blockages. Then, I visualize what she looks like naked. Then I see her clothes and looks. That’s the way it Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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should be. Sexy skirts and makeup aren’t worth anything. In the best case scenario, once her clothes and makeup are taken off, she is lying next to you and the sexual pressure is relieved, will you still like her? Maybe, and maybe not, but if you like her only for her physical appearance, you will never know. If a girl is very natural, playful, and nice and she also dresses sexily, that’s a plus, but it’s really her behavior that matters. Actually, you could meet the prettiest and nicest woman in the world, but if you don’t feel a connection, she isn’t worth anything in your life. The connection with a girl is more important than the girl herself, because the experiences you will have together depend on that connection. In Thailand, many girls dress sexily but they usually don’t exaggerate their sexuality with makeup, high heels, and miniskirts. When you see a girl who looks too sexy, watch out—it usually is a lady-boy and she has a surprise for you between the legs. It’s funny to see all these American men hitting on them. It made me realize that women who spend two hours every day to dress up do it to compensate either for a lack of being a woman or for a lack of self-esteem. All these guys who don’t sleep with these women respect and adore them, but all the guys I heard who slept with that kind of woman reported that they lacked self-esteem, were validation-seekers, and were inactive in bed. Of course, I’m only talking about a specific kind of woman, and they are not all that way. But my point is, don’t pay too much attention to their looks. Pay attention to their feminine beauty, which is more than skin-deep. One guy I coached went to Thailand and met girls from everywhere—in particular, one girl from the northern part of Sweden. She had such amazing Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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energies like he has never seen before. She was so light and joyful, he felt like a king. The intensity of her energies shifted his core to draw his masculinity and to strengthen him. They went back to his home and were about to sleep together, but she made his core shift. That threw him off balance, which in turn made her flake out. Even though they didn’t sleep together, it was such an amazing experience. It took him a few days to restabilize, but he felt stronger afterward. This guy met another Swedish girl from Stockholm on this same trip. She was such a beautiful girl, very nice, and she practiced yoga. She flirted with him and they ended up sleeping together. He liked her as a person, and he enjoyed her company, but . . . he just didn’t feel the connection. Of course he enjoyed the sex, but it was nothing like how he felt when he was around the other Swedish girl. He asked me what was so different between these two girls. The Stockholm girl came from a place where people are more out of touch with their emotions, which makes a big difference. Also, it seems that girls who practice yoga tend to control their emotions instead of surrendering to them. When I talk about surrendering to our emotions, I talk about surrendering to creative life-force energy trying to express itself through our instincts, not about the negative feelings and fears covering it. Most popular meditation practices are about raising our awareness and grounding our upper chakras, but they miss grounding the lower chakras to the physical world. You want to balance both.

Language

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Some Inuit tribes have about a hundred different words to describe snow, while only one word in English covers all the subtle varieties. Each language has a vocabulary to describe a set of concepts, and you can hardly conceive something for which there isn’t a word in your language. Life-force energy or chi, for example, is clearly represented by a word in over sixty languages, but we don’t have any word for it in English. You can’t understand a culture if you don’t speak its language. There are huge benefits to learning several languages. I speak five languages as of the time I am writing this book. When you speak a single language, you always think in that language. When you learn a second language, there is a point where you start thinking in the second language and sometimes mix languages up. When you learn a third language, your thoughts start to dissociate themselves from languages and you start thinking in terms of movements of emotions and concepts that you can express in any language. When you think in terms of emotional concepts, it is sometimes hard to put emotions into words and there are often concepts you can express in one language but not in the other. It is also good to be aware of what you convey with your words. The emotional brain understands the emotional charge of each word one-by-one and doesn’t understand negation, since negation doesn’t trigger any particular emotion. If you say “I would not lie to you,” you are associating the concept of lying with yourself. You should instead say “You know I am always honest.” Listen to each of your words one-by-one and ask yourself what emotions are triggered by each word individually.

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In all languages around the world, swear words are either about sex or religion. Swear words of sex trigger earth energy, while swear words of religion trigger heaven energy. You are grounded to these two energies. Swear words serve to trigger charges of energy in your messages to give them impact. Swear words are mantras. A mantra is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that are considered capable of creating spiritual transformation. When flirting with women, your conversations should be light, inspiring, and unimportant. Light means that you avoid triggering heavy and negative emotions to keep the ambiance joyful. Inspiring means that you want to increase the flow of energy so that people are more at ease and behave more naturally. Unimportant means that you don’t want to get into topics that would bring forth defensiveness or too much logical thinking, such as politics or religion.

End of the Game

Here’s the thing about sexual magnetism: it cannot be used as a technique to get women. You have to truly and completely stop wanting to take from people. We all want to get love, we all want to get laid, and we all want money, but so long as you want it, it will make people uncomfortable around you and it will push abundance away. Unfortunately, working to get laid does work once in a while. When that happens, it makes you even more desperate to make it work again, but you Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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can’t live your whole life always pursuing things. Working to get laid will never bring you the quality of relationships and the consistency you deserve. Now that I’ve said this, you’re going to tell me you bought this book to get laid more often, aren’t you. Well . . . I’ve been there too. Either you attract women into your life by your detachment, or you pursue them and pick them up, but you cannot mix both approaches. It is not congruent for you to be chilled out, not trying to get anything from a woman and then asking for her phone number. I understand you want to see her again, I’ve been there too, and that’s the problem. As long as you want her and project neediness in your energies, whatever you do will work inconsistently, and you cannot fake it. And here’s the kicker. You don’t even have to make yourself attractive. All you have to do is to remove everything unattractive about you. You are attractive by default. You were born as an attractive diamond, but it got covered by fears over the years. You simply have to remove the dust to recover the shiny diamond, and then you can polish it. When you want a girl, you are trying to fill a void within you, but she cannot fulfill you—nobody can. You have to fill your voids yourself, and there is no way to fake it—women will know. Besides, you don’t fill your voids for women; rather, you fill them to live a happier life. Things will start working for you when you don’t give a shit about women. You can appreciate them, and you can spend time with them, but you need to get to the point where you couldn’t care less whether your interactions go further and you don’t give a shit whether you sleep together. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Even when I regularly had plenty of women, whenever I would meet a woman and say to myself “wow this one is something,” things consistently didn’t work out, whether we slept together or not. Every single time you give a girl too much attention and she affects your thoughts and feelings, you become responsive to her and it breaks the attraction. You live your life and she should join and support you on your journey, not the other way around. Nobody should ever make you deviate from your life path. Also, whenever you feel badly about your girlfriend not being with you right now or you simply miss her, it causes her attraction towards you to drop. There is a clear difference between love and attachment. When you feel great with a woman and you feel very connected together, that’s love. When you miss her, become jealous, or get too affectionate, that’s attachment caused by a need. When people talk about no-strings-attached relationships, it means living out of love instead of living out of needs. It means respecting the other person enough to respect when she wants to move on to something else. I’m still in good contact with several women around the world even though we’ve been separated for a while and I really like these women. Again, none of this can be used as a technique to get women. If you read the book The Game or studied how to pick up women, it’s all bullshit as it comes from a state of mind of getting from people. No matter how hard you try to deny it, the purpose of picking up will always be to get, get, and get from people. The faster you can forget all you ever learned about seduction, the faster you will notice women naturally being attracted to you.

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Let’s examine some pick-up concepts to help you realize how irrelevant they are. There is a “three seconds rule” that states you should approach a woman within three seconds of seeing her. The idea behind it is that if you wait, you become self-conscious, and you appear insecure when you finally build up your courage to talk to her, if you ever do. First, you won’t become selfconscious if you don’t give a shit about whether or not you talk to her. Then, if you talk to her for five minutes on the way to the bathroom or if she comes to talk to you, you are as confident and detached as you always are, so this rule is totally irrelevant. There are also the concepts of “demonstration of higher value” and “negging” where you say things to raise your perceived value and to lower her guard to shift the balance of power to you. That serves only to compensate for the fact that you put her on a pedestal. If you are equal to her energetically and behaviorally, you don’t need that: her walls will already be down when you talk to her. In fact, you should avoid these two concepts. Whenever you try to raise your value, you are admitting that you consider yourself below her. As for negging, imagine that your little brother comes to you playfully saying “Wow, big muscles! Are they real?” It’s funny and it puts you both on the same level of communication. Now imagine that the director of your university comes to you saying the same thing. It’s downright threatening, don’t do it. Not only does sexual magnetism represent the end of social game—it also represents the end of inner game. I achieved more in two years of natural grounding what many haven’t achieved in ten years of self-development. But what is self-development and inner game anyway? It is the cultivation of Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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your ego, your sense of being unique, the idea that you must learn skills and work to achieve things. With natural game, you don’t work to make things happen. Your energies attract events and people into your life so your only job is to accept them and to decide what you really want. Of course, learning things and having interesting conversations is great, but it is even more important to unlearn all the crap that has been imposed on you your whole life. You will be equal in power to women once you truly don’t need anything from them. Pursuing them mentally is as bad as pursuing them physically, and they sense it. Take some time to meditate while doing natural grounding to let the wisdom sink in and to filter the information for yourself. Then, forget any rules I might have told you, as rules keep you captive in a box.

Approach

Never go out of your way to approach women as you would come from a state of mind of scarcity and attract scarcity. Just interact with whoever you cross paths with during the day. When you want to talk to a person in a casual way, there is often an uncomfortable feeling or wall. These feelings can be released like any other feelings using the letting go technique. It doesn’t matter whether the emotional block is within you, in relation to people, or within another person, you can feel and release all these tensions in the same way. Having the walls already down before you approach makes everything easier. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Unless I’m in a bar socializing with everybody, I usually don’t bother talking to women around me unless they open up energetically. When I feel a woman doesn’t have walls, or when she looks at or smiles at me, it’s worth talking to her. However, if she likes me too much before even building a rapport, her neediness gets in the way of connecting to each other. It’s best not to have expectations from either side. I find casual approaches work best. Here are some to try depending on the scenario you’re in: To someone waiting for the same bus: • What’s up? • At what time does the bus arrive? • What time is it? To someone reading in the metro: • What are you reading? • What is the story about? • I haven’t watched the news for a while, what’s in the newspaper? To someone in a bar or club: • How’s your night going? • How’s the night treating you? • Where are you guys from? • Are you Swedish? Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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• Cheers! • What are you drinking? • Is that vodka or water? I find open questions and closed comments work best. You don’t want to keep talking while she gives one-word answers. Instead of asking “Having fun?,” ask “How’s the night treating you?” You can also say “There are a lot of people here today” without expecting any answer. If the interaction continues, she will be the one talking. You shouldn’t have to work to make interactions happen. You worked so much on yourself, and you shouldn’t have to work to give all that value. What do these girls have to offer that compares to your peace of mind anyway? Whenever you interact with a woman, it draws her into your reality, which feels very good. Women want to awaken their inner Palmy, and you help them do so by being grounded in nature. The most important thing for you is to get in a state where you are stable, confident, and satisfied no matter what you are doing. Work to reach that grounded state of mind while sitting next to a dance floor or while looking at your beer. Funny things can happen when you aren’t doing anything. The idea is to also keep that state of mind when interacting with people. To get there, you must go outside your comfort zone. I told you before not to go out of your way to connect with women. If your objective is instead to extend your comfort zone, you can try all the fancy approaches pick-up artists do, except you don’t care about women’s reactions because the objective isn’t about them, it’s only about extending your comfort zone. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Personally, I don’t force myself to extend my comfort zone. I instead visualize the interactions and situations and release the emotional charges holding me back. If you approach a stranger or visualize approaching a stranger, the same emotions show up and you can release them. When I visualize a situation and feel very detached and non-reactive, I have the same ease being there in real life. Both approaches are good in helping you extend your comfort zone. See what works best for you. Most people go out with their friends and spend time together. As for me, I consider the world to be my garden. If I go to a party, I consider everybody to be my friend. In fact, I would rather go to a party where I don’t know anyone than to go to a party where I know everybody. If I go to a bar alone, I’ll talk with everybody around and meet new friends. Even if I go there with friends, I’ll usually go on my own to meet new people.

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Exercise 10: Beer Staring 1. Sit down in a busy area of a club. 2. Don’t talk to anyone. 3. Release any uncomfortable or negative feeling. 4. Stay there all night until you feel great just being there.

Exercise 11: Cheers! 1. Go to a bar or club and order a drink. 2. Lift your glass and say “cheers” to the person next to you. 3. Walk across the bar and cheers with twenty people in a row. 4. Ask “how’s the night going?” to three of them. 5. Ask “what are you drinking?” to three of them. 6. Don’t stay in any conversation more than thirty seconds.

Progression and Kino Tricks

Approaching and talking with people is one thing, but for sex to happen, there must be some kind of progression. So how do you progress from casual conversation to intimacy? You don’t. It’s not your job to make things happen. What created the initial attraction is your detachment from the outcome, so it would make sense to keep doing what works. You create more attraction by being more detached from the outcome.

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The ironic thing is that this authentic approach of not needing anything from people can be used as a technique. If you master releasing emotions instantaneously, you can detach yourself from outcomes while interacting with women. It will change your energies: they will genuinely feel more comfortable around you and it will create a genuine connection. The space you give to women is more important than what you’re actually doing, so stop wondering what to say. Your energies create a void that women feel compelled to fill. When I say a comment or send a message to a girl without expecting an answer, it creates a void that she feels compelled to fill. As for what to do and what you say, I really cannot tell you. There are many gurus out there who can teach you how to be like them. However, it just won’t work for you because you aren’t them. You have your own strengths, your own weaknesses, your own likes, your own dislikes, and your own life purpose. You cannot both be yourself and be someone else. You can learn principles and get ideas from others, but don’t listen to what they tell you to do even if it works for them. The first step for change is to accept who you are and your current reality and results. Once you feel good about whatever you have right now, you can work from there to develop your own uniqueness. We are all wired the same way but our egos are all different, or at least we like to think so. When we develop our awareness, we are all the same in some way but we are unique in the experiences we go through and in the path we walk.

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To make your interactions go further, you will want to detach yourself from outcomes and to let your true self shine, not only around women but at all times. No matter your looks, women will say there’s just something about you. If you let your true self shine only around women, you are reactive to them, which portrays you as a man who is trying to get something. You can be sure they will notice how you behave around other people. If women keep testing you, you may be wondering how to handle their tests. These tests and power games are annoying, and I don’t have time to play games. It would be nice if they could simply accept you as you are. You should know that these tests are subconscious. All they want to know is who you are and whether you are solid as a man. If you act like a man, then all interactions look like tests, and if you fail one it’s over. It’s like running through a minefield. If you really are solid as a man, however, you pass all tests by default. When they sense your solid energies, they stop testing you because they already sense who you are. Tests are another obsolete concept. The objective here isn’t to get laid but to build connections with other human beings. Sex without connection isn’t that good anyway. Sex is the byproduct of connecting naturally with a woman. When you connect, you don’t have to take actions leading to sex: sex is inevitable. By developing your sexual magnetism, you don’t have to worry about falling in the friend zone anymore as your grounded energies awaken their sexual nature. It often makes it harder to keep women as only friends because either you connect or you don’t. Out of all the women I’ve been with, I have very rarely slept with a girl without it happening on the first or second meeting Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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because either we connect or we don’t. If I really like a girl, I would rather sleep with her and then spend time with her without expectations instead of doing activities with her with the hopes of getting physical. If the physical urge isn’t released, you can’t honestly fully appreciate hanging out with her just for the sake of it, unless you aren’t really interested in her, in which case she’ll have to work if she wants to get physical. If you don’t get physical with a woman by the second or third meeting, don’t waste your time: put her in the friend zone yourself. To accelerate building connections and a history, you may want to spend time with the girl in different places. If you meet a girl in a bar, you may move to a few other bars together. If you meet a woman in a park, you may go for a walk. If you meet a woman in a club, you may go sit down in the quiet side and then go eat. If you meet a woman in the street, you may go for a coffee together. If her friends like you too, they may help you hook up with her. There is also a difference between superficial physical attraction and her trusting you to be a real man on a deep level. The latter matters much more. I’ve often had girls in the club kissing me like crazy, and the next minute they were gone. That’s a superficial connection that means nothing. In other cases, I’m walking home with a girl and we haven’t even kissed yet. That’s a meaningful connection. You should know that some girls will really like you but won’t want to get physical in front of their friends. If she trusts you to be a real man, she may buy you a drink or scratch the inside of your hands to let you know she wants you. Your only job is to enjoy your time and to not force anything. Use the affirmation “It’s inevitable we’ll end up together.” Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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Sometimes she may even tell you she’ll go with you after the bar closes and she goes dancing with her other guy friends, and she actually leaves with you. If you spend time with a girl but you’re not sure she would sleep with you, don’t waste your time and move on to meet new people. On the other hand, if you feel a solid connection in your heart and solar plexus and she really likes you, it’s worth spending the evening with her. Sometimes girls can get very physical on the dancing floor as well. If you get too physical, kiss too much, or do too much dirty dancing, most likely she will not go home with you because the sexual tension is released. The less you do in the bar, the better. She sees you can control yourself: when you leave her space to like you, it lets the sexual tension build up. If she wants more, it will be at your home or hers, not at the bar. Actually, you don’t even have to make yourself attractive to build a connection. All you have to do is to remove everything unattractive about yourself. You will connect with people by default, and don’t be surprised if a random girl kisses you right away. You have to understand that the only thing preventing you from having instantaneous strong connections with women is your emotional blockages and her emotional blockages. If your energies are pure and shine through her to deactivate her blockages, you will see instant attraction. To break the physical wall with girls, it helps to have some kind of physical contact, although sometimes you lie back and they touch you first. Don’t try to do anything to bring interactions further as it will only push women away. Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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You can do things because you enjoy it in the present moment but not to build connection. You build connection by giving them space. Actually, you can push and pull, which breaks the walls and gives them space. Personally, I like to do one step forward and three steps backward because I don’t like working to get girls. Do what works best for you. Here are some kino tricks to inspire you. Kino refers to physical contacts between you and another person to build rapport. Of course you can’t grab a girl’s pussy or boobs in public, but the back of the neck is also sensitive without being threatening. When you enjoy your time with a girl in a bar, you can gently scratch the back of her neck and play with her hair. If she asks what you are doing, just say you like playing with hair. When a girl dances next to you and shows interest, you can put her hands on your shoulders and dance as if you were dancing alone. It frames the interaction as she’s playing with you and you enjoy it. When dancing with her, you can also sit down quietly next to the dance floor with her dancing in front of you between your legs with your hands around her hips. When dancing with a girl and there’s good rapport, you can’t grab her boobs, but you can move closer and rub her boobs with your chest. It arouses her and nobody around notices. You can take a girl by the hand when moving around the bar such as when you’re going to smoke. When walking with her in the street, you can put your hand on her lower back on her second chakra. Just let your actions flow spontaneously. If you can’t behave spontaneously, you have some more cleaning to do and you can do these kino tricks to extend your comfort zone. In the club, some people don’t get any attention from women. Some other guy doesn’t care about women and a few are dancing around him, but Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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whenever he tries to get one, they go away. Another guy has girls flirting with him but he gets attached to the outcome whenever it gets physical, and they walk away. Still another guy has girls flirting with him and they bring him home, but he gets attached to them after sex and they flake. Another guy has girls bringing him home and he enjoys his time with them while keeping his detachment and he has several relationships. The only difference between these guys is at what step they get responsive or attached to the outcome. If you are totally detached all the way, girls will do all the work and bring you home and you won’t have to do anything. There is this independent career woman I met in a bar, and we went back to her apartment. We were naked in her bed and I couldn’t figure out how to get physical. I tried everything without success. I eventually told myself “whatever, fuck off” and just slept. I didn’t care anymore about having sex or not. I finally had my blow job in the morning. It’s so much easier to understand how women work when you are in their bed naked. They decide who they let in, and working to get sex doesn’t work. You must give them space.

Kissing and Closing

The idea of fucking every single girl you talk to is just plain absurd. There are many girls who just won’t match with you and you wouldn’t have time to fuck them all anyway. Trust me, three good girls is plenty to fill your schedule. Forget the concept of close ratio, it’s obsolete too.

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What you want is consistency—the ability to form new relationships at any time, especially when you are single. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a girlfriend or at least get laid within a week no matter in which country you go around the world? A pick-up artist may claim to get phone numbers of 90 percent of girls he approaches, but if you talk casually to 100 people and have a girlfriend who trusts you by the end of the week, you are doing better than any pick-up artist. First of all, a phone number isn’t worth anything. The only thing that matters is the connection you have. In some cases you may have a solid connection with a girl and the phone number allows you to see each other again. In most cases, however, you end up pursuing the girl by phone. Don’t waste your time with phone numbers unless you already have a solid rapport with the woman. In most cases, it’s better if they call you. To connect deeply with women, your heart chakra must be open. If you are very independent and have your life handled, you may see women attracted to you yet you can’t seem to connect with them. Your walls intimidate them. You must be vulnerable. Many people think being vulnerable means being weak, but it means showing your true self even if people don’t like it and opening your heart even if people don’t like you. It takes great strength to get over your fears and show your vulnerabilities, but the potential results are well worth it. When your walls are down, your heart is open, and you interact with a woman, you may feel as if you are merging into each other and forget everything else happening around you. The two of you are just sharing a Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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common isolated reality. From there, don’t try to force anything; just enjoy the relation as it is. It’s not your job to make things happen. If necessary, you can use this affirmation as an excuse to be laid back and to forget about the outcome: “It’s inevitable we’ll end up together anyway.” You connect by default. Your only job is to not get in the way and to give her space. To keep contact with a girl, you can give her your phone set to the add contact screen and ask her to enter her number. Then, test the number she gave you so that you know you have a real number, and then she has your number too. If you really connected with each other, you don’t care who calls whom. If she gave you a fake number, don’t waste your time and move on. If she hesitates to give you her number, you can say you don’t want to make her uncomfortable. It allows you to gauge how the interaction is really going. Having each other’s phone number early and spending more time together build more rapport. You don’t need any reason to exchange numbers. You can exchange them without expectations just for the simple fact that you like each other. To kiss a girl when you feel her desire is strong enough, you should have some physical contact such as your arm around her shoulders, your hand behind her neck, or her whole body on top of you and your faces close to each other. Move your mouth closer and release any fears or uncomfortable feelings you may feel. You can also open your chakras one by one to increase the energy level. Wait for her to kiss you first. If she doesn’t, you can give her a very light kiss on the mouth and wait for her to kiss back. If she still hesitates to kiss you, she isn’t attracted enough to you, so don’t expect anything from her and respect her choices. In most cases, she will Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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start kissing you wildly but you are better to kiss gently and slowly and to let the desire build up. Don’t kiss with the tongue, at least not before actually getting physical at home. You’re better off kissing too little than to kiss too much. You want to give her space to want more from you. If it gets too heated up in the bar, you can tell her “we better calm down, we’re still in public.” If she wants more, it will be at your place or hers, not in the bar. You can ask her “we go to my home or your home?” You can also ask her “do you want to go home with me?” in a way that doesn’t pressure her so she can say either yes or no without rejecting you. In some cases, she may want to sleep with you but has to work the next day or has to go with her friends. In that case, she may take your phone number and call you back. In most cases, if you have a solid connection and really don’t care about the outcome when asking her to go with you, she will say yes because she doesn’t feel any pressure. For a second date, you ideally want to meet at home for a drink, for a movie, or for sex. If you meet in public for a drink, don’t stay there more than twenty minutes. When you leave, she’s free to join you or not. There is no point in extending talks endlessly unless you just want to be friends. If after the third meeting you still haven’t gotten physical, put her in your friend zone or move on. For a while, I had many girls who wanted to go home with me when I went to bars, but if I slept with them the first night, they would get self-conscious and I wouldn’t see them again. To solve this problem, when a girl was willing to go home with me, I told her I didn’t sleep with girls on the first Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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night anymore and we called each other another day to meet at my apartment. One of my friends has many girls interested in him when he goes out. They take his phone number, and sometimes they meet for a second date but things often don’t go further and it’s a big waste of time. Since it wasn’t working, I told him not to waste his time with second dates. When a girl asks for your phone number, you can answer “We’ll have sex tonight and if I like you, I’ll give you my phone number tomorrow.” If she gets upset, she wouldn’t be ready to get physical anyway, so you’re saving your time and her time. Better to filter it out sooner rather than later.

Sex

There are several ways to have sex. For some people, sex is all about variety, doing it in all kinds of positions, in different places, and maybe playing sex games. They try to find the perfect position and the perfect angle. It’s not my style. It’s like . . . cold fucking. Some people clear their minds, let the tensions build up, go slowly, heat up, kiss and rub all over the body, bite the neck, grab the back of the head, and bite the earlobes. They heat each other up by focusing on their sensitive spots. Others take the time to breathe and relax to be in a Zen-like state where they are really hard and don’t even think about sex during sex. They are totally in control. They remove the neediness part of sex and grow in strength. They relax their whole bodies and become calm. In response, the girl immediately Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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gets out of control. Either she wants to kiss or she can’t keep from swinging. They love and savor the responsive part within women, and women’s responsive parts intuitively love and savor the strong and calm part within those men. The third approach is the most satisfying, but you can mix it all up. The less you think the better. You don’t have to talk during sex either. Here are some tricks to stimulate a woman’s G-spot during penetration. Her G-spot is located in the front of her vagina, so you will want to stimulate that area. In the missionary position, you completely miss it. However, when you penetrate from behind in doggy style, your dick stimulates the front of her vagina, so that’s why women usually like this position very much. It is also possible to stimulate it in the missionary position. Put one of your hands under her lower back to lift it slightly, then rub your dick on the lower part of her vagina so that it lifts upward and rub the front of her vagina. When your hand is under her ass, you can also push with your fingers below the pelvic bone to squeeze the vagina and redirect it upward so that your dick reaches the G-spot. In positions where you can reach her clitoris with your hands, it is even better to stimulate the clitoris with your hands while you penetrate her. When she sits on you, facing you on the sofa with her legs on each side while you penetrate her, rub her clitoris with your right hand while you lick and suck her boobs. She will enjoy this position. If she is on top of you in bed, it is very easy to play with her clitoris. In the missionary position, you

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can use two straight fingers to rub the clitoris back and forth while you penetrate her. Your energies are in a peak state during sex, which makes visualizations much more effective. Visualize your partner having strong, uncontrollable orgasms, and you will feel a rush of sexual energy coming back to you from her and she may come very quickly.

Relationship Management

There are many ways you can handle relationships, so it is a matter of personal preference. If you bring much value to women’s lives through your energies, they will accept whatever relationship you offer them. It’s better to have part of a winner than all of a loser. You can have a committed relationship, an open relationship, several longterm relationships, one-night stands, or short-term relationships. The choice is yours. Even if you don’t have it yet, decide which one you want ideally. Personally I like multiple medium-term relationships, but I don’t have time for more than 2.5 women. If I have three women, one has only half of my attention. I still have good contact with several women abroad from years ago. There are many advantages to having several relationships. It gives you much more life experience, it allows you to know what you really want, it allows you to develop yourself much more, it avoids routines, the quality of Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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relationships is usually better, and you can keep drama out of relationships more easily. I’m deeply grateful to several women I’ve been with because they helped me be who I am today. I learned something from each relationship I had. One woman even told me she likes the fact that I see other women because it means I’m attractive and it makes her feel more attracted to me. When you have several girlfriends, it keeps the attraction higher and there is very little drama because they know you won’t tolerate drama since you have other options. Some men even make relationship circles with two women and these women claimed to like it very much because they were turned on all day long by accepting jealousy instead of fighting it. However, you cannot turn a committed relationship into an open one. Once the relationship is framed as committed or as friends, it is very hard to reframe it. It is easier to find ten new women than to reframe a relationship. You should also be aware of STD risks. Always use condoms and have medical tests at least once a year. Ever wondered how women see you? When women see a guy, they instantly put him in a box. The guy to marry, the potential boyfriend, the guy to be friends with, the rich guy to divorce, the guy to have sex with, or the guy to avoid. Women tend to view me as “the guy to try,” but I’m tired of one-night stands. In which box do you want to be? One common belief is that women want serious relationships and avoid guys who fuck around. The truth is it is so much easier to have an open sexual relationship than a committed one. If the girl sees you as boyfriend potential, she often withholds sex because she wants to be sure before getting serious. If she instead sees you as a sexual adventure, she can go for it right away Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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because she doesn’t have to commit and women want sex as much as men. In general, women seem more afraid that a needy guy will hold onto them than they want to connect with a man. Deep down, however, women want a man to connect with on a sexual level, no matter what kind of relationship it is. You don’t have to tell girls you see several women at first unless she asks. When you are with a woman, it is only you and her enjoying the present moment. Your past and her past including other relationships don’t matter. Only the present matters. If you are a guy who has several relationships, she will normally expect it from you from your behaviors. Attractive men are attractive to all the ladies. Always be honest. What hurts women isn’t that you see several women. What hurts women is false expectations. You don’t have to explicitly say right away that you see several women as long as you convey it and don’t try to hide it. If things get more serious or if they ask, they will respect you for your honesty. If you spend time with another girl, your girlfriend doesn’t want to know whether you had sex, she wants to know whether you still like her. Be radically honest, especially when it is uncomfortable, and women will respect you.

Social Life

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approaches. Organizing parties has never been my strength, so I will talk about other aspects of social life. For some people, the world is their garden, while for others their garden is their world. Which one are you? Most people go to bars or to public events with other guys and girls they view as friends and they spend their time together. I often go alone and I consider everybody around me to be my friend. The world is my garden and I meet new people all the time wherever I am. As you move forward in life, you may have to let go of some contacts holding you back and you may end up in a transition phase by yourself. To improve your social life, you must let go of your need for a social life. When you can stand by yourself in a public place and be 100 percent happy, you will start attracting healthy relationships in your life because you will give energetically to people around you instead of draining their energy. You are the average of the six people you spend most of your time with, so as you evolve, it is normal that you will connect with different groups of people. Continual change is in the nature of life. We tend to hold onto old friendships even when we know they are toxic because we take it as a responsibility to help them. You must help yourself first before you can help others. If a friend holds you back, you cannot help anyone. You will eventually be surrounded by loyal friends who support you and help you move forward. Then, you will be in a much better position to really help people around you. I have friends all over the world and most of them are very successful with women, work with energies, or have slept with me. If you want to be friends with someone who is at the top, bring something to Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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his life that he doesn’t have. It’s all about giving instead of taking. It’s all about the exchange of value. You can bring positive energies, mental support, wisdom, ideas, money, testimonials, gratefulness, social contacts, parties, or anything that can enrich their lives. Not all people like to go to bars and clubs, but these are great places to socialize and to measure your magnetism. If you’re not comfortable in that kind of place, that’s a good enough reason to go—to extend your comfort zone. Try this experiment. Go to a club alone and sit down in a busy area. Don’t speak with anyone all night and focus on releasing any negative feelings you experience. Most likely you will end up talking with someone anyway, but the objective is simply to extend your comfort zone. You can find all kinds of live events in your city on www.meetup.com. There are workshops about Reiki and various other holistic methods and subjects. These meetings are usually filled with 90 percent women. There are also gatherings about salsa dancing or language practice. There are groups going to movies together at discount prices. There are groups doing sports and outdoor activities. Choose your interests and try a few events. Most of them are free or cheap. Another great way to meet new people is via www.couchsurfing.com. It allows you to sleep for free on the couch at local people’s homes while you travel around the world. You can also host people in your home. It is a great tool to connect open-minded travelers around the world together. You can even plan a three-month-long trip across Europe very cheaply by sleeping for free. Hosts will usually allow you to stay there for two or three days Copyright © Shamanic Attraction 2008-2011

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without a problem. Of course, the more you host people in your home, the more others will offer you a place to stay. Again, it’s all about the exchange of value. You can also check out dating websites such as www.plentyoffish.com and www.hotornot.com. If you plan to travel or just want to meet fantastic women online, all websites of the Cupid Media network (www.cupidmedia.com) are really great. Women are so much more responsive there and it is refreshing. You don’t have to travel to see that dating should be simple. Some of their many websites include www.thailovelinks.com and www.latinamericacupid.com. If you plan to travel, it is great to meet locals ahead of time so that they can welcome you, show you around, and maybe even host you. Meet five women online before buying your plane ticket, and you’ll be sure to have a good time.

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Conclusion All the information in this book should give you a solid foundation, but it was really meant to be an introduction to the subject. You will have to do the rest by taking action and living your own life experiences. Do natural grounding, learn Reiki, take time to meditate, and go out meet people. Join local events and meetings or travel abroad for a year, and remember that the world is full of possibilities. For further reading, I highly recommend the books in the bibliography. Understanding all this on an intellectual level is one thing, but I also do private coaching when I have the time. My coaching really helps to integrate changes, to clarify questions, and to dissolve issues. No book or product can address your unique blockages, but phone coaching allows addressing your specific issues on a logical level and on an emotional level through the exchange of energy. I never thought I would write so much on the subject but it helped me clarify and crystallize all the concepts in my mind. Needless to say, I had some interesting advancements while writing this book. I hope you enjoyed it.

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Bibliography Chia, Mantak and Douglas Abrams. The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know. New York: HarperOne, 1996. Myss, Caroline. Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing. New York: Three Rivers Press, 1996. Williams, Rion. Natural Game Seminar. DVD. Dreamcore Productions, 2007. Alchemy knowledge from Jacques Tombazian. Images used under Fair Use copyright guidelines.

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