Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

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Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

1.What is a Habit? 2.Seven Habits Paradigm 3.The Seven Habits

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Habits

Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Desire (want to)

Habits

Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Skills (how to)

Desire (want to)

Habits

Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Habits Skills (how to)

Desire (want to)

Habits

Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Seven Habits 1 Be Proactive 2 Begin with the End in Mind 3 Put First Things First 4. Think Win/Win 5.Seek First to Understand... Then to Be Understood 6 Synergize 7.Shapen the saw

SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED

The Seven Habits center on timeless and universal principles of personal, interpersonal, managerial, and organizational effectiveness.

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THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM

Interdependenc Seek First to Synerg Understand e ize … Then to be PUBLIC Understood VICTOR

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Independence

PRIVAT E Be Begin with VICTOR Proacti the End in Y ve Mind Dependence

FOUR DIMENSIONS OF RENEWAL

PHYSICAL

Exercise, Nutrition, Stress Management

MENTAL

Reading, Visualizing, Planning, Writing

SOCIAL/EMOTIONAL Service, Empathy, Synergy, Intrinsic Security

SPIRITUAL

Value Clarification & Commitment,

Habit #1 Be Proactive Based on the work of Stephen Covey

THE UPWARD SPIRAL Commit

Do

Learn

Commit Do

Learn Do

Commit

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PROACTIVE MODEL Stimulus

SelfAwareness

Imagination

Freedom to Choose

Response

Independent Will

Conscience

What happens to a bottle of soda when you shake it up?

It EXPLODES!

When you are PROACTIVE, you make a choice about how you react to the things that happen in your life. You act like a water bottle. You might get shaken up or mad, but you stay calm and don’t explode!

What steps could you take to be more PROACTIVE and calm when things aren’t going well?

HOW PROACTIVE AM I?

. . . the degree to which I take initiative to improve my current circumstances or create new ones.

Proactive vs. Reactive When you are PROACTIVE, you make good choices about how you respond to something happening. You are always ready with a calm attitude. You do things to make sure that the right things will happen. You are prepared for anything that might happen. When things don’t go your way, you aren’t happy, BUT you stay calm. When you are REACTIVE, you could explode at any minute. Things happen and they “catch you off guard”. You aren’t ready for things that might happen. You deal with things when they happen

Where do you fall?

Very

Very

Reactiv e

Proactive

How could you be more proactive?

Circle of Influence Things you can’t control

circle of circle of influence

concern

Things you can control or change

Focus on things you can change or influence

CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

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CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

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Circle of Influence Things you CAN’T control or change:

Things you CAN control or change:

•Other people

•Your attitude

•The weather

•Your mood

•Things you did wrong in the past

•Your reaction to good and bad things that happen

•How other people treat me •Homework

•How I treat other people

Can you think of other examples from your life?

Habit #2 Begin with the End in Mind Based on the work Stephen Covey

I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am an important part of my classroom. I look for ways to

What is “the end” for you? What do you hope to be doing ten years from now? Twenty? Make a list of things you want to do in your life.

Before you figure out the “end”, you have to take a look at who YOU are! Draw a picture of something that represents you. It could be an animal, plant, machine, a food, etc. Explain why you chose what you did.

Mission Statement, Part 1: Write your name in a circle. Out from the circle, write words that describe you.

artisti c

athleti c

Ben

reader

kind

Mission Statement, Part 2: Now think about what kind of person you WANT to be. Make a list.

I want to be a: 1.Hard worker 2.Good student 3.Kind person 4.Talented artist

Mission Statement, Part 3: Use the two lists to write a mission statement. This is a sentence or paragraph about the person you want to be. Here are some example:

My mission is to: •Laugh a lot •Learn as much I can •Work hard at home, school and in my sports •Be kind to others •Take good care of myself. •To get better at my art.

How good are you at beginning with the end in mind? I always keep the end in mind.

I only think about today. Why did you rate yourself this way?

How does saying “no” sometimes help you with “beginning with the end in mind”? What things do you have to say no to?

Finish these sentences: ~If I my future had no limits, I would choose to be….. ~I want to be a person who…

Habit #3 Put First Things First Based on the work of Stephen Covey

I spend my time on things that are most important. This means I say no to things I should not do. I set priorities, make a schedule, and follow my plan. I am organized.

Going for Your Goals At Home Goals

At School Goals

Set two or three goals for at home and for at school.

Sometimes not being brave gets in the way of doing things that are important to you. Putting first things first might means putting aside your fears to reach your goal. Has fear ever kept you from doing something great or

Big Things and Little Things: Putting first things first means planning your time around the most important, BIG things in your life. Then, you can get to the little things that take your time.

Big, Important Things That Take Your Time

Small Things, Less Important Things That Take Your Time

Organizing Your Days Write out your regular schedule for a full day, from start to finish. Is it organized? Do you waste time, or put first things first?

Making it Happen

Now choose one goal for home, and one goal for school. Write your goals in a circle. Out from the circle, write things that you can do to help you achieve those goals.

Play x games on the computer.

Make flash cards.

Memorize my multiplicatio n facts. Have somebody quiz me daily.

Practice in the car on the way to school.

Where do you fall?

I always put first things first!

I never to set goals or put first things first. How could you be better at putting first

Habit #4 Think Win-Win Based on the work of Stephen Covey

Is this picture a good one for Think WinWin? Why or why not? If so, defend your answer. If not, design a better one and explain

I want everyone to be a success. I don’t have to put others down to get what I want. It makes me happy to see other people happy. I like to do nice things for others. When a conflict arrives, I help brainstorm a solution.

High

Win/Win

Lose/Lose

Win/Lose

Low

CONSIDERATION

Lose/Win

Low

COURAGE

High

LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION High

Synergistic (Win/Win)

TRUST

Respectful (Compromise)

Defensive (Win/Lose or Lose/Win) Low Low

COOPERATION

High

Think Win-Win Road •I’ll step Blocks on you to get ahead. •I am a loser. I can’t do anything. •At least I am better than her/him. •I’ll let someone else win again.

Have you ever “stepped on” somebody else to win? Have you pushed someone aside so you could get something good? How does this feel? Think an

Human Doormat: Do you always let other people win? Do you not raise your hand to answer a question because you know somebody will answer? Do you let people jump in front of you? Do you let people treat you poorly? (If so, you are not practicing Think Win-Win.)

Describe a time when you let people “step on you” to win.

How To Think Win-Win In order to Think Win-Win, you need to be confident in you. You must not care what others think of you. You will be happy to see others be successful.

Make a word & picture splash to show what makes you unique.

Where do you fall?

Very Good! I want everyone to do well.

Very Bad! I don’t like to see other people win. How could you be better at Think Win-Win?

Habit #5 Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood Based on the work Stephen Covey.

Listening Road Blocks Spacing Out: Your mind wanders when others talk.

Selective Listening:

Pretend Listening: You don’t really pay attention to the other person, but you pretend to. You say “yeah,”, “uh-huh,” and “cool.”

Selfish Listening:

You always bring the conversation back to you and You listen only to the parts your life. You say things like that interest you. “I had that happen too” and “I know how you feel.”

We all have times when we are poor listeners. Which “Listening Road Block” do you most often use? Explain why this happens.

I’m All Ears Everybody wants to be listened to. When people feel like you listen, they are more likely to like you. So, be a good listener, and you’ll have lots of friends. What are some ways that you can show people that you ARE listening?

Who is a good listener? Create a list of people that you know that listen well.

Listen With Your Eyes: Sometimes you have to listen with your eyes as much as you listen with your ears. People say a lot with their body language and facial expressions.

Emotion Charades:

Find a partner. Practice ‘listening with your eyes”. Choose an emotion to try to express just with your face and body. You can not use words.

•Angry

•Impatient

•Confused

•Sad

•Scared

•Flattered

•Embarrassed •Worried

•Nervous

•Tired

•Relaxed

•Annoyed

•Happy

•Frustrated

•Interested

•Thinking

•Surprised

•Bored

•Stressed

Mirror, Mirror To be a good listener, mirror back what someone says. Repeat back in your own words what the person is saying. Use statements like “You seem to be feeling…” and “So what you are saying is…”

Have you ever had a time with your family or friends when you knew that you needed to “zip it” and just listen? Why is it important to do this sometimes? How does this help the person you are listening to?

Are you a good listener?

Very Good Listene r

Not Such a Great Listener How could you be a better listener?

Habit #6 Synergize

Based on the work of Stephen Covey.

I value other people’s strengths and learn from them. I get along well with others, even people who are different from me. I work well in groups. I seek out other people’s ideas to solve problems. I know that “two heads are better than one”. I am a better person when I let other people into my life and work.

They say that, “Two heads are better than one.” Do you agree or disagree? Why?

Make a list of times when you have to work with other people at home, school, or church, or in your clubs/ sports.

Everybody is different, or unique. In what ways is this a good thing? How does this help you when you are working with a group

How does everyone being different make things harder? How can you overcome these challenges? Would it be easier if everyone had the same personality, looks, talents and interests?

Celebrate Differences: Pair up with someone you don’t usually work/play with. Come up with at least five differences and five things you have in common.

Difference s: Student 2

Ways You Are Alike

Difference s: Student 1

What does this quote mean? Is it true? Is it a good thing or a bad thing?

“Everyone is in love with his own ideas.”

How can having someone disagree with you help you learn? Explain your thoughts.

Dream Team You have been asked to put together a team to create a new invention. If you could choose anyone in the world, who would be on your team. You must explain your reason. You may have 5 teammates.

Person

Reason

Synergy Action Plan Define the Problem Make sure you understand the problem or task.

Their Way

Try to understand everyone’s ideas. Listen carefully.

My Way

Seek to be understood. Share your ideas.

Brainstorm

Be creative. Everyone create new ideas.

High Way

Find best solution.

Where do you fall?

I work well with others.

I’d rather work by myself. How could you be better at working with

Habit #7 Sharpen the Saw Based on the work of Stephen Covey

A man has been working hard to saw through a tree for over three hours. He still hasn’t cut through the tree trunk. What might be wrong with the man’s saw? What should he do?

I take care of my body by eating right, exercising, and getting sleep. I spend time with family and friends. I learn in lots of ways and lots of places.

Body:

Brain:

Exercise, Be Healthy, Sleep, Relax

Learn, Read, Write

Soul:

Heart:

Journal, Think, Pray

Serve, Laugh, Be a Friend

What do you do to take care of your body? What do you NOT do? Could you make any improvements?

How you are working to improve your brain? What could you stop doing? What could you start doing? Can you think of someone who really works on this area of their life?

Brain Food What are your plans for “feeding” your brain? Make a list of things you want to learn or things that you want to do that will teach you.

How you are working to improve your soul? What things do you do that make you the most happy?

Feeding Your Soul What feeds your soul? What inspires you and gives you peace? What are some songs, books or movies that make you want to be a better person? Is there a person that makes YOU want to be better?

Does the heart matter? Are you serving/helping anyone? What things do you do to make friends and/or to make other people happy? Can you think of someone that really is good at this?

Your Saw is Your Life What makes your saw sharp?

What makes your saw dull?

How good are you at sharpening the saw? My saw is very sharp!

My saw is very dull! What steps could you take to sharpen your saw?

The Time Management Matrix

Important

Urgent Urgent

Not Urgent

I The ____________

II The _____________

III The Yes-man

IV The ___________

SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE

HABIT 1 Be Proactive. Proactive people take responsibility for their own lives. They determine the agendas they will follow and choose their response to what happens around them.

Be Reactive. Reactive people don’t take responsibility for their own lives. They feel victimized, a product of circumstances, their past, and other people. They do not see as the creative force of their lives.

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HABIT 2

Begin with the End in Mind. These people use personal vision, correct principles, and their deep sense of personal meaning to accomplish tasks in a positive and effective way. They live life based on self-chosen values and are guided by their personal mission statement.

Begin with No End in Mind. These people lack personal vision and have not developed a deep sense of personal meaning and purpose. They have not paid the price to develop a mission statement and thus live life based on society’s values instead of self-chosen values.

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HABIT 3

Put First Things First. These people exercise discipline, and they plan and execute according to priorities. They also “walk their talk” and spend significant time in Quadrant II.

Put Second Things First. These people are crisis managers who are unable to stay focused on high-leverage tasks because of their preoccupation with circumstances, their past, or other people. They are caught up in the “thick of thin things” and are driven by the urgent.

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HABIT 4

Think Win-Win. These people have an abundance mentality and the spirit of cooperation. They achieve effective communication and high trust levels in their Emotional Bank Accounts with others, resulting in rewarding relationships and greater power to influence.

Think Win-Lose or Lose-Win. These people have a scarcity mentality and see life as a zero-sum game. They have ineffective communication skills and low trust levels in their Emotional Bank Accounts with others, result-ing in a defensive mentality and adversarial feelings.

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HABIT 5

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Through perceptive observation and empathic listening, these nonjudgmental people are intent on learning the needs, interests, and concerns of others. They are then able to courageously state their own needs and wants.

Seek First to Be Understood. These people put forth their point of view based solely on their auto-biography and motives, without attempting to understand others first. They blindly prescribe without first diagnosing the problem.

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HABIT 6

Synergize. Effective people know that the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. They value and benefit from differences in others, which results in creative cooperation and teamwork.

Compromise, Fight, or Flight. Ineffective people believe the whole is less than the sum of the parts. They try to “clone” other people in their own image. Differences in others are looked upon as threats.

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HABIT 7

Sharpen the Saw. Effective people are involved in selfrenewal and self-improvement in the physical, mental, spiritual, and social-emotional areas, which enhance all areas off their life and nurture the other six habits.

Wear Out the Saw. Ineffective people fall back, lose their interest, and get disordered. They lack a program of selfrenewal and self-improvement and eventually lose the cutting edge they once had.

PARADIGM ARADIGM SHIFTS HIFTS A BREAK FROM TRADITIONAL WISDOM

Habit 1 Habit 2 Habit 3 Habit 4 Habit 5 Habit 6

We are a product of our environment and upbringing. Society is the source of our values. Reactive to the tyranny of the urgent. Acted upon by the environment. Win-lose. One-sided benefit.

Fight, flight, or compromise when faced with conflict. Differences are threats. Independence is the highest value. Unity means sameness. Habit Entropy. Burnout on one track 7 typically work.

TOWARD 7 HABITS We are a product of our choices to our environment and Values are self-chosen and upbringing. provide foundation for decision making. Values flow outflow of principles. Actions from that which is important. Win-win. Mutual benefit. Communication solves problems. Differences are values and are opportunities for synergy. Continuous self-renewal and self-improvement. 93