(Scott Allan) - ReLaunch Your Life Action - Guide

 

 

 

Relaunch Your Life  — Action Guide — Conquer Rejection Improve Self-Esteem Maximize Confidence

 

Many people continue to behave in selfdefeating ways simply because they fear that if they don’t choose a familiar but destructive behavior, they will find out something about themselves that they don’t believe they can live with. — Scott Allan

 

Your Relaunch Blueprint Relaunch Your Life is a system of techniques, wisdom, and powerful solutions for overcoming our fears of social isolation, rejection issues, fears, and emotional uncertainties. This free report targets four key areas to help you heal and thrive on your journey to recovery and self-discovery. In this blueprint, you’ll discover exercises and checklist action steps for: !

Breaking Rejection

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Raising Self-Esteem

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Maximizing Your Confidence

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Conquering Your Failure

In my #1 bestselling book Relaunch Your Life Life,, I have provided you with the tools and strategies to break free of the negative emotions keeping you stuck. Now, with the companion action guide, you can expand on the tools and tactics with a combination of action checklists, easy-to-implement strategies, and inspirational quotes. You can practice more in-depth exercises that are developed to make you think on a deeper level about what your life really means to you. You can begin to chart your life story and plan for your future goals. In this blueprint, I have created a series of exercises to help you work on confidence building, self-esteem, and developing a positive mindset while overcoming selfdefeating beliefs. How the Action Guide Works You can start from the beginning and work through each of the four sections. I recommend focusing on one area of your life for improvement before moving on to the next. Of course, all of these areas are interconnected, but by focusing on handling rejection, you will gain greater confidence for raising self-esteem. If you focus on

 

confidence strategies, you’ll naturally boost your ability to handle rejection and this will close the gap on your fear of failure. There are many powerful quotes and affirmations included throughout the book for inspirational support. These quotes are the best I could find, so please use them in your daily life. This, along with the accompanying strategies in each section, will give you the tools you need to start seeing results. Now, flip the page over and let’s get into the Relaunch Your Life action guide.

 

Rejection “Most fears of rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don’t base your self-esteem on their opinions.” — Harvey Mackay

 

Breaking Rejection Rejection can be an emotionally stressful and damaging experience for our selfesteem, confidence, and feelings of self-worth. The pain of rejection can cut deep causing stress, emotional instability, and destroying the connectedness we associate with our relationships. Rejection is experienced in many situations and forms. For example, romantic relationships, our workplace, and at home with our closest family. Nobody is exempt from rejection. But the people who cope and thrive when faced with a ‘rejection moment’ live happier, more fulfilling, and less stressful lives. But how do we deal with rejection? When the pain is there and the only way out is to avoid it, what can we do in a social situation in which rejection is being pushed upon us? Here are three strategies we can use to cope with our fear of rejection. You will also find a complete checklist of 20 actions you can take for desensitizing your fear of Purpose.  rejection. Download the complete checklist here at  at Rejected On Purpose.

1. Rejection Strategy #1: Ask For It!  Ask for something you really want. Make a list of twenty things you want that you’ve been afraid to ask for. Then set a challenge for yourself to ask for one thing per day. When you ask for something you want, your confidence skyrockets and you prove to yourself that the fear you had was just an illusion keeping you trapped. Here are some things you could ask for: !

A hug

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A bite of someone else’s cheesecake

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To have coffee with someone

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Forgiveness for something you did

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A pay raise if you increase your company’s profit margin

 

Now, make a list of 20 things you want to ask for but have been afraid to do so for fear of being told “no.” Then, with your list, focus on asking for one thing per day, or one per week. Remember: If you fail to ask, you fail to receive.

Ask For It Strategies Eight strategies you can practice when asking for what you want.  want.   1. Keep track of your asking score.  score.  Make a challenge with yourself and start off the beginning of the month with two jars, one empty and the other filled with thirty coins (or jellybeans, or whatever you wish). Then, every day, make a goal to ask for one thing you want. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. Whether you get a YES or a NO, you still win. 2. Believe you’re worth receiving it. One of the reasons we get turned down is because our approach is weak. If you are lacking confidence, it shows in your attitude. You can’t fake it. You are more likely to make a good case if you can trust that you’re worth it. 3. Develop an attitude of gratitude for what you get.  get.  We have to appreciate the fact that what we want isn’t what people are always willing to offer up right away. Patience is part of the game, and if you lose your patience or turn from asking to demanding, you could end up losing everything. 4. Visualize your “big ask.” Visualization is a powerful technique that can prepare your mind for what it’s going to do. It is so powerful that athletes, negotiators and presidents visualize the success they want to achieve and the outcome before taking action. Visualization is your mind training for taking action in the near future. If you can envision it, you can attain it. 5. Visualize the engagement as a positive experience.

 

Visualize your “asking moment” as a positive, calm approach to the situation. It might not turn out the way you want it, but going in with guns blazing is a sure way to kill any negotiations.   negotiations. 6. Know you have nothing to lose. One of the obstacles that creates hesitation and prevents us from taking action is the distorted belief that, if we are turned down, it’ll feel worse than death, as if we have lost something vitally important. But, as I have stated, there is nothing to lose if you take courage and do something about it.  it.   7. Know that the rejection begins in your mind. If you take rejection personally you are setting yourself up for future suffering. The rejection you labeled it as is all in your mind. You have to choose yourself in these moments and realize there will be other opportunities and circumstances to ask someone else. 8. Project your request with confidence. You will have a much better chance of succeeding if you ask with confidence. Ask as if you really mean it, as though you’ve already gotten a YES. Do you sound confident? Do you look confident? People who lack confidence appear as if they don’t really want what they are trying to get. The other person picks up on this and is less likely to agree. My “Ask For It” List 1. Today I’m going to ask for… 2. Today I’m going to ask for… 3. Today I’m going to ask for… 4. Today I’m going to ask for…

 

5. Today I’m going to ask for… 6. Today I’m going to ask for… 7. Today I’m going to ask for… 8. Today I’m going to ask for… 9. Today I’m going to ask for… 10. Today I’m going to ask for… 11. Today I’m going to ask for… 12. Today I’m going to ask for… 13. Today I’m going to ask for… 14. Today I’m going to ask for… 15. Today I’m going to ask for…

Rejection Strategy #2: Desensitize Your Your Rejection What would you do if you had no fear of rejection? What would you create? Who would you talk to? What risks would you take that could potentially change your life? What if nine out of ten requests you made were rejected, but that single YES was the golden ticket? What holds us back from breaking our fears of rejection is that initial pain.

 

What if… They say no? They say yes? I get scared and retreat? One strategy that works is to numb your fear through a system of desensitization. By putting yourself out there again and again, you get used to hearing “no” so often that it no longer has any impact on you. What you can do right now is make a list of all the crazy ways you can get rejected. This can be a simple request; start out small if you want to. Build up to it. Let yourself get desensitized in small steps each day. Every day, try to push the envelope a little further. See how many ideas you can come up with. To get started on this activity, you can download the free Rejected on Purpose checklist right here.

Rejection Strategy #3: Situations That Trigger Rejection  Are there certain situations in which you feel rejected? Such as: •

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Public speaking Romantic relationships Sports performance Social situations/events

Now, make a list of list of the situations or people that trigger your fears of rejection. Situation 1: Situation 2: Situation 3: Situation 4:

 

Situation 5: For each situation that triggers your feelings of rejection, ask yourself, “Why?” Why do I feel afraid? Why do I lack confidence? What am I really feeling? What will happen if I am rejected in this situation? What action could I take in the moment to push me through the fear? What would happen if I did nothing? Continue to ask yourself “why?” until you drill it down to the core reasons you are avoiding this action. Just being afraid isn’t enough. There is a definite reason for this. In many cases it leads back to an event that happened in childhood or during the teenage years. Something happened in your past to create this fear. You are trapped by the possibility that a negative outcome is most likely. Push this false fear aside. Confront the reasons that you are afraid to perform, speak, or take action. In facing the fears that rejection brings, this gives us personal power to eliminate uncertainty and doubt. 

 

Rejection Quotes  Quotes  One of life’s fundamental truths states, “Ask and you shall receive.” As kids we get used to asking for things, but somehow we lose this ability in adulthood. We come up with all sorts of excuses and reasons to avoid any possibility of criticism or rejection. — Jack Canfield No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. — Eleanor Roosevelt  Roosevelt  “If you don’t have solid beliefs, you cannot build a stable life. Beliefs are like the foundation of a building, and they are the foundation to build your life upon.” — Alfred A. Montapert “Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough.” — Brene Brown “You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. This is something you have charge of.” — Jim Rohn “Your self-confidence is directly connected to how much you feel you are making a difference in the world.” — Brian Tracy We all learn lessons in life. Some stick, some don't. I have always learned more from rejection and failure than from acceptance and success. — Henry Rollins I believe that rejection is a blessing because it's the universe's way of telling you that there's something better out there. — Michelle Phan Authors by the hundreds can tell you stories by the thousands of those rejection slips before they found a publisher who was willing to 'gamble' on an unknown. — Zig Ziglar

 

But by not even asking, we are rejecting ourselves by default—and probably missing out on opportunity as a result. — Jia Jang

 

Self-Esteem “You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” — Louise L. Hay  Hay 

 

Raise Your Self-Esteem  Self-Esteem  We need a certain level of self-esteem to function and feel accepted. When we lack self-esteem, we lack confidence. Self-esteem is traced back to feelings of rejection and the negative beliefs that we are unlovable or not worthy of respect or acceptance. If we believe the negative chatterbox in our head, we reduce our own self-esteem to a level where we undervalue our own worth. Our goal is to raise our self-esteem to a level of unbreakable confidence. Below is an action checklist for checklist for raising your self-esteem and conquering self-doubt. I recommend that you focus on one strategy per week. If you try to do too many, you could end up feeling overwhelmed. Once you are confident with one strategy, move on to the next one. Following the checklist are twelve powerful quotes to engage your self-esteem and work toward elevating it to “unbreakable” status.

Boost Your Self-Esteem “Action Tasks” 1. Practice Using Words of Power Words have an incredible impact on your emotions and mindset. A negative word spoken in the heat of the moment can ruin someone’s day, while a positive expression can improve it. Using words that empower not only you but also those around you is one of the best ways to tap in to your confidence. Words can alter a negative mindset if practiced over and over again.

When someone is stuck in a negative frame of mind, it is because they have thoughts running in negative modes. These can translate into negative words that create anger,

 

boost fear and lead to criticism and put-downs. Negative words have as much power as positive ones.

Action Steps Make a list of words that you are not going to use anymore. Make a list of positive words to replace the negative vocabulary. When you catch yourself cursing or using words like “I hate” or labeling someone, replace these with positive words. Call yourself out when you say something negative or derogatory about yourself or someone else. Don’t let yourself get away with it. Make a note of it and, more importantly, note how you were feeling at that moment.

The Fourteen-Day Anti-Criticism Challenge For the next 14 days you are challenging yourself to not say anything negative about anyone, and that includes yourself. Make a pact with yourself that you are not going to criticize or say anything negative about anyone, no matter what they do. This doesn’t mean you have to be passive and just accept everything they do; rather, seek another way to express your feelings that is not along the lines of criticism. 1. Make a Pact:  Pact:  You have to make a pact with yourself that you won’t or can’t say anything that damages another person’s reputation. This includes everything from back-stabbing to sarcastic remarks. This form of negative attack is extremely damaging, not to the person you are doing it to but to yourself! It is a form of hidden self-sabotage. For the next fourteen days, you are going to make a promise to yourself not to criticize or condemn yourself or others in any way. The goal is to eliminate your need to criticize yourself or others. 2. Track Your Success: Success: Buy a calendar and mark off every day that you went without having a critical thought about yourself or another person. By being critical of others, you are, in fact, damaging your own self-esteem. By marking it down on a calendar, you can see the progress you are making. Turn this habit around into a positive one, and when someone makes you angry or criticizes you, go ahead and think something good about that person.

 

Even if you only make it through one day, that is great. You can start again right away and try to make it through two more days without criticizing or complaining. Don’t get down on yourself if you don’t make it the full fourteen days. Keep trying and track your progress on the calendar.

 

Raise Your Self-Esteem 21-Point Action Checklist

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Avoid comparing your success to someone else’s. 

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Set realistic, tangible goals. Then, break this goal down into mini-action tasks. Do a small thing each day. 

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Create a list of your personal strengths.

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Make a positive statement about yourself first thing in the morning. 

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Don’t listen to the faulty critic within. When you hear negativity coming at you from your critical thoughts, remind yourself it isn’t real. You control the voices in your mind. 

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Set your personal value high. You decide how much you’re worth.  

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Hang out with those who support, encourage, and ultimately drive you to reach

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greater plateaus.  Let go of the people who criticize, condemn, or talk ill of others. 

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Do the work you love. If you’re not doing work you love, make it a primary goal to start doing this right away. 

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Recognize that you can’t change what happened in your childhood or the past. But you can influence future events through behavioral changes.  

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Let go of failure expectation. When you expect to succeed, you can. Expecting to fail creates a failure. Expecting to succeed empowers our efforts toward success. 

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Replace faulty perceptions of yourself. Instead of saying “I’m no good,” or “I’m such a failure,” replace this with, “I’m learning to be myself again.”  

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Adopt a list of positive affirmations you can turn to when you feel the negativity creeping in again. 

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Give someone a compliment. The best way to feel good is to help others feel good about themselves. 

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Make time for three 30-minute exercise routines each week. Exercise is a positive activity that reinforces self-esteem.  

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Set up a positive environment. You can decorate your living space with a wallboard of goals, positive quotes, and affirmations. Post photos of people

 

who inspire you.  17.

Take time out. Set aside ten minutes in the evening. Review your day. What challenges did you face? How did you overcome them? How did you react negatively? How could you approach this differently next time? 

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Eat well. Healthy food reinforces positivity. It boosts energy and encourages positive action. 

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Avoid listening to complainers. Complaints are addictive. It creates a mindset that focuses on people’s faults and initiates harsh judgment. Stay away from people and discussions focused on tearing down someone else. 

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Forgiveness is a powerful attribute. Forgive someone who wronged you. If you can’t forgive them, at the very least, don’t hate them.  

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Wake up early and do something good for yourself. This can be reading a book, working on a project you are passionate about, or exercising. Stay away from email and social media. Do something for yourself in the first 30 minutes after waking up. 

 

Self-Esteem Quotes “Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.” — Maxwell Maltz  Maltz  “When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.” — Jean Shinoda Bolen “When you adopt the viewpoint that there is nothing that exists that is not part of you, that there is no one who exists who is not part of you, that any judgment you make is self-judgment, that any criticism you level is self-criticism, you will wisely extend to yourself an unconditional love that will be the light of the world.” — Harry Palmer “To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.” — Denis Waitley “Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.” — Malcolm S. Forbes “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” — Elizabeth Kubler-Ross “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” — Eleanor Roosevelt “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” — Lao Tsu “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” — Howard Washington Thurman

 

Confidence “ Your self-confidence is directly connected to how much you feel you are making a difference in the world.” — Brian Tracy

 

Maximize Your Confidence  Confidence  Working on your self-esteem and self-confidence will have a groundbreaking impact on the quality of your life. With greater positivity reinforced through an increase in mental energy and positive actions, we can conquer our challenges and achieve our dreams.

Three Confidence Boosting Strategies 1. Scale Up: Set Your Goals Low, Then High Too often we set big goals. There is nothing wrong with dreaming big, but when our goals are too large and we fail to reach them with an unrealistic deadline, we get frustrated and give up. You can start with small goals and scale up from there. This builds confidence quickly by scaling up gradually. Instead of setting a goal to lose 10 pounds in your first week of dieting, start by setting a goal to losing one pound per week. Instead of trying to write one thousand words per day for that novel, just write 200 words and scale up a step each day.

2. Focus on Changing One Hab Habit it at a Time As already mentioned, we have a tendency to try to change too much too quickly. We focus on multiple habits like juggling for the first time. It is much better (and recommended by habit-building professionals) to stay focused on one change at a time. It takes about 66 days to build a solid habit and so, stay fixed on one change for the duration. Then, when you are feeling confident, you can shift toward changing something else.

3. Find a Mentor or a Life Coach To take your confidence to the next level, finding a mentor or hiring a life coach is a fantastic way to start building your foundation for unbreakable confidence. Set up realistic goals you want to achieve with this person and make a schedule to meet up at least once a week. Working with someone toward your objectives and discussing openly the obstacles you are facing will give your attitude a massive adjustment and

 

put your confidence at a new level.

 

Maximize Your Your Confidence 20-Point Action Checklist 1.

Take action on the one thing you are resisting.  

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Make a list of abilities that you are good at. 

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Identify the one thing you feel you are better at than anybody else you know.  

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Develop patience with your learning process. 

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Take one positive action a day toward helping another person.  

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Prepare an action list of your goals for each week. Keep this list visible at all times. 

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Walk with your head up. Don’t stare at the ground when you are walking. 

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Focus on one bad habit and change it. Start small, and work your way toward changing bigger habits that aren’t working. 

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Make a gratitude list of things you are happy about. 

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De-clutter your home. Start in each room and move through the house.  

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De-clutter your mind for ten minutes a day. Do short meditation sessions of ten minutes each. 

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Work on a new skill. Set aside a “learning time” for this and schedule yourself for a daily training session. This works best when you schedule it. 

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Tackle one task that you have been putting off. Set up a timer and work on it for twenty-minute increments. 

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Approach someone you don’t know and strike up a conversation. Compliment them on something or just ask how they are doing. You can do this with someone you haven’t spoken to in a long while, too. 

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Read a positive book on self-development. Two of my favorites are The One Thing by Gary Keller and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. Set aside twenty minutes per day for reading.  

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Eliminate the source of negative energy that’s draining your confidence. Is it a person? A negative behavior? Work on pushing it away from your life and align everything with positive actions. 

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Create a wall collage of your goals, dreams, and aspirations. Include places you desire to visit, and challenges you plan to take on. 

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Create multiple income streams to boost your monthly income. Making more

 

money is a major confidence booster. It adds to the joy and freedom of your lifestyle.  19.

 Join a mastermind group or hire a life coach. Meet up regularly and discuss your confidence building strategies. 

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Embrace the things you fail at. Visualize achieving a level of success that seems impossible and work toward it. Include this in your wall collage.

 

Confidence Quotes Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained. — Marie Curry Confidence isn't optimism or pessimism, and it's not a character attribute. It's the expectation of a positive outcome. — Rosabeth Moss Kanter  Kanter  Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all. — Norman Vincent Peale Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all. — Jack Canfield Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing. — Theodore Roosevelt You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them. — Michael Jordan Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful. — Mark Victor Hansen 

 

Failure Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. — Thomas Edison

 

Eliminate Your Your Fear of Failure Failure is an event that everyone has to deal with throughout life—failing at relationships, failed jobs, and in extreme cases, personal failures as a person. But with failure comes opportunity to rebuild, reinvent, and keep pushing the challenge to a new level. We are only defeated when we give up and allow the failure to take control. Here are three exercises for handling your failure and pushing the envelope for success. For a greater in-depth look at overcoming failure, read chapter seven in Relaunch Your Life.

Bust Your Fear Three fear-busting hacks  1. Do what is difficult first.  It is a natural tendency, when work has to be done, to save the toughest task for last. I’ll admit it’s tempting to do what is easiest first to get it out of the way. But if you do what’s difficult first, you’ll have a greater sense of achievement when it is done.   By doing what is easiest first, after you have finished the easy task, you’ll still feel that sense of achievement but you’ll be faced with the work that’s unpleasant. Filling out that tax form? De-cluttering your workspace?  Doing the tough task first is a great way to get it out of the way. Then you can work on whatever you like for the rest of the day. The longer you leave it, the easier it becomes to put it off. This leads to deeper levels Frog,, the of procrastination, and as Brian Tracy says in his bestselling book, Eat That Frog longer something is left on the plate, the easier it becomes to wait.  Stop waiting. Get it done.   2. Give away your stuff and stop collecting what you don’t need. 

 

For years I collected stuff. I spent thousands of dollars to own things I later didn’t need. It was a waste of time collecting and money wasted. When you waste your time and money, two very important resources, you are triggering your fear to interfere. First of all, nobody has ever been happy with having more. The more you get, the more you want. It is a never-ending cycle.  Collecting stuff steals your freedom. You have less money to spend on a trip, and you end up wasting time trying to maneuver the things you bought. Expensive furniture is a lot to maintain and as soon as you purchase it, the value is cut in half. The less you have, the less pressure you feel to hold on to it and maintain it.  Action Tips: •

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Think before you click. It is too easy to hover over the Buy Now button Now button and click what you want. Before you click, just move it into your cart, or add the item to your wish list. Take some time to think about it instead of purchasing compulsively. You could feel differently the next day and realize that you didn’t need it. Learn a new skill that adds incredible value to your life and to the lives of others.

Developing your skills and learning to do things better is a great way to build confidence. When we stop learning, we stop growing and our opportunities can shrink. Nobody wants that.  Create a daily 30-minute skills-up habit where you focus for 30 minutes on developing yourself in one particular area. Maybe you are writing a book, working on business skills, or you want to do your own home renovations. Focusing on consistent and never-ending improvement is a sure way to keep your mind sharp and working toward a new goal.  There are lots of online courses you can take, many of them free, and others are paid. For example, you can check out the courses at Udemi.com Udemi.com   or Teachable. Teachable. Consider courses that will add value to your life. How will you feel after completing it?  Make a list of skills you want to develop, and at least one that you’d like to master. Then sign up, or you can start to read about your field of interest online.

 

3. Implement a 30-minute exercise routine that gets you into great shape.  shape.   Working on your physical self is a massive confidence booster. When you raise your confidence levels, self-esteem invariably increases and, as you guessed, this decreases your fear.  Most people have a fear of getting sick. We can reduce our chances of this happening by paying more attention exercise. You don’t have time to join a gym? You don’t have to. I work out at home twenty minutes a day. Check out No Gym Needed  Needed  by Lise Cartright for ladies, or No Gym Needed Needed for  for men. 

 

Checklist: 25 Ways to Build Your Positive Attitude 1.

Ascertain what you most enjoy doing, and do it as a labor of love with your heart and soul.

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Understand that nobody can hurt your feelings, make you angry, or frighten you without your full cooperation and consent.

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Don’t cater to anyone who wants to exert a negative influence on you.

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Break bad habits. Abstain from your vices one at a time, one per month, until you show yourself who the boss is.

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Perceive that self-pity is an insidious destroyer of self-reliance. Believe that you

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are the one person upon whom you can and should depend at all times. Relate to every circumstance in your life as something that has happened for the best.

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Attune your mind to attract the things and situations you desire by expressing in a daily prayer your gratitude for what you already have.

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Demand a reasonable amount of dividends from life every day instead of waiting to receive them.

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Live in a style that suits your physical and spiritual requirements.

10. Discern that personal power does not come from the possession of material things alone. 11. Exert yourself so that you keep your physical body in shape. 12. Reinforce the habit of tolerance. 13. Keep an open mind toward all people regardless of their differences, race, religion, or beliefs. 14. Learn to like people just as they are, instead of demanding that they be just as you want them to be. 15. Return every benefit that you receive with one of equal or greater value. This is the law of increasing returns. 16. Avoid the fear of old age by remembering nothing is ever taken from you without being replaced by something of equal or greater value.

 

17. Trust that adequate solutions can always be found, even if they are not the solutions you wanted or expected. 18. Remind yourself that any disadvantage can be overcome. 19. Welcome friendly criticism instead of reacting to it negatively; do not fear criticism but welcome it. 20. Embrace every opportunity to learn how others see you, and use it to take inventory of yourself and look for things that need improvement. 21. Create a mast mastermind ermind al alliance liance wi with th others ded dedicated icated to th the e princip principles les of succe success. ss. 22. Grasp the differences between wishing and having a burning desire to achieve your goal. Burning desire gives you motivation, and it can be fuelled by a positive attitude. 23. Abstain from negative conversations, especially complaining, gossip, or tearing apart another person’s reputation. This conditions your mind to think negatively. 24. Discipline your mind to shape your destiny toward whatever purpose in life you have chosen. 25. Believe in the people you meet each and every day; they are doing their best just like you, even if their best doesn’t match your standards.

 

Fear Quotes “One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn't do.” — Henry Ford  Ford  “The only way to overcome your fears is to do the thing you fear.” — Brian Tracy “Fear is never a reason for quitting; it is only an excuse.” — Norman Vincent Peale “When we really face the fact that we will die one day, we won’t embarrass ourselves doing ridiculous things, keeping up the delusion that we’re going to live forever. Contemplating our mortality helps us to focus our energy into the practice of transforming and healing ourselves and our world.” — Thich Nhat Hanh

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” — Dale Carnegie “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” — Denis Waitley “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” — Paulo Coelho “You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” — Johnny Cash

 

“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” — Napoleon Hill Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don't fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgment, repeated every day. — Jim Rohn

 

About Scott Allan 

Scott Allan is a bestselling author who has a passion for teaching, building life skills and inspiring others to take charge of their lives. Scott’s mission is to give people the strategies needed to design the life they want through choice.   choice. He believes that successful living is a series of small, consistent actions taken every day to build a thriving lifestyle with an intentional purpose. By taking the necessary steps and eliminating unwanted distractions that keep you stuck, you are left free to focus on the essentials. Scott Allan lives in western Japan and is currently at work on several new writing projects. You can learn more about Scott’s books at: You http://amazon.com/author/scottallan Check out the blog at: http://scottallanauthor.com 

 

Do you want to know more? Check out these bestselling books by Scott Allan

Empower Your Thoughts: How To Convert Great Ideas into Successful moneymaking Ventures  Ventures  Empower Your Fear: Leverage Your Fears To Rise Above Mediocrity and Turn Self Doubt Into a Confident Plan of Action  Action  Rejection Reset: A Strategic Step-By-Step Program for Restoring SelfConfidence, Reshaping an Inferior Mindset, and Thriving In a Shame-Free Lifestyle Rejection Free: How To Choose Yourself First and Take Charge of Your Life By Confidently Asking For What Yo You u Want Empower Your Life: The 9 Timeless Principles to Unlock Your Purpose, Fulfill Your Destiny and Supercharge Your Success Do It Scared: Charge Forward With Confidence, Conquer Resistance, and Break Through Your Limitations

 

 

 

 

 

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