Safe Conversations Workshop details. We could use YOU as a volunteer!...
dallas family wellness project
Safe Conversations™ WORKSHOPS Presented by:
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. & Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D. ALL couples can use these tools!
The workshop is free!
And childcare is provided. Whew!
Friday, 2 hours Saturday, 6 hours
For more information please contact us!
[email protected]; 469-269-0640
And these skills can help your kids in school too!
; Having a healthy partnership takes practice. It’s not about being with the “right” person; it’s about learning relationship skills so that every couple can build the relationship of their dreams. The Safe Conversations™ w orkshop teaches easy to learn “skills” that move any couple from conflict to connection. Part lecture, part demos (with volunteer couples), and part couples working alone, the workshop teaches four main points:
1. Learning the three-part Dialogue Process: •
Take turns talking.
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If you’re not the one talking… you should be
Take turns talking… So simple!
And the Dialogue Process is easy.
LISTENING! •
In the Dialogue Process: Ø
First ask: “Is now a good time to talk?”
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Mirror what your partner said.
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Validate how you imagine they must feel.
Ø Empathize with their feelings.
Negativity feels HORRIBLE!
Now I can express my feelings positively!
2. Taking the Zero Negativity Pledge: •
Relationships need safety to thrive.
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Negativity destroys safety.
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It’s not about w hat you say. It’s about how y ou say it .
3. Increasing Safety and Connection
Gosh, I never really thanked you for this….
You’re welcome!
through Daily Appreciations: •
There is a gift you can give your partner every day.
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It doesn’t cost a dime!
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Sharing appreciations
Wow! That feels great!
makes both of you feel GREAT!
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4. Bringing your Brain online: Our Crocodiles were running the show!
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SNAP!
Your brain can help you have Safe Conversations™ and a GREAT relationship!
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There are two main facets to the brain: Ø
The lower brain is the crocodile. It can react with anger and fear. The crocodile is about our fight or flight instincts.
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The higher brain is the wise owl. It can respond with problem-solving and winwins.
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When talking with your partner, respond from the wise owl instead of reacting from the crocodile.
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You can train your brain! The Dialogue Process brings the owl on-line.
The Details • • • •
The Safe Conversations™ workshop is part lecture, part demos (with volunteer couples), and part couples working alone filling out workbooks and practicing the Dialogue Process. Clinical assistance is provided, with one assistant for every 10 couples. The workshop is FREE! Childcare is provided! Interpreters can be obtained, if necessary, by contacting us in advance. For more information, please contact us:
[email protected]; 469-269-0640
The Dallas Foundation is the fiscal sponsor of the Dallas Family Wellness Project. Safe Conversations™ is trademarked and all related materials copyrighted by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. Materials may be reprinted with permission. Illustrations created and copyrighted by Elizabeth Perrachione.
Research shows that healthy communication at home helps kids perform better in school.
And our home is so m uch happier too!
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