Rob Judge Zack Bauer 4 Elements of Game

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Always aim to seek the truth about a woman; the truth if you are compatible, if she is a good kisser or anything at all. If she's still standing there and hasn't walked away keep going. Show status/confidence, individuality/character, and ability to vibe /emotional, social awareness/charismatic. When she reach waypoint, treat her like your girl-friend and do not over game. As a man, you have a natural capacity to act driven, be inspired, form connections, and handle mechanics. However, if you neglect to balance these 4 elements, it’ll result in failure, every time. You can’t be having an inspired conversation while driving an interaction forward by sexually escalating the situation. Whenever you think of female attraction, think of this graph. If you’re at the center (0,0) position then you’re at your optimal attractive state.(25) Find out what is imbalanced and what is not. (26) Remember that the 4-EGs are already within you— you just need to balance them. Learn to fit the pieces together. When you feel this “urge,” act on it. And the sooner you act on your drive, the better. Let your drive guide you right back to its source: women. Hot women. The more attraction you feel for the woman, the more drive you’ll have. Don’t mistake this feeling for nervousness— it’s drive, baby! So align with it. Living in any other way is living in denial of your drive. In fact, it’s living in denial of your manhood. Whether it’s fear of talking to a girl, fear of moving an interaction forward, or even fear of commitment— men who let fear dictate their decisions aren’t real men at all! The secret to attracting girls with your drive is keeping negative thoughts and fear from entering your head. Remember that and you’ll never have problems approaching women again. The more you express your drive, the more natural it will become. Drive must remain present long after the initial approach. Follow through with your drive. Focus on genuine attraction for the girl and ignore negative thoughts. Act on your drive shamelessly. Nothing should be a match for your overpowering drive. While it’s important to balance your drive and not come on too strong (like a horny pervert), acting shameless is crucial to attracting women. Let your drive overpower those thoughts of rejection. Never regret approaching. Act on your drive immediately. When negativity comes, stop, breathe deeply and commit yourself to the approach. Confidently, take the lead in an interaction to either sex and/or relationship depending on what you want.

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You can be driven but you have to respect her boundaries. Don’t make a big deal about it even if she says no but badly wants to kiss you. Your job to approach, carry conversation at first, initiate physical contact like touching and handholding, kiss her, ask, her to come home with you, ask her to be your girlfriend, maybe one day ask her to be your wife. Whenever you move an interaction forward, always make sure it comes from a place of genuine desire, never because you think you must for her to like you. Likewise don’t ever fail to do something simply because you think she may not like you as a result. If she opposes your move, but she’s still interacting with you, then she’s simply pacing you. Her comfort level determines how she paces you and don’t make a big deal even if she says no. Just respect her boundaries and keep using your drive to increase her attraction for you. Whenever you approach a woman, you should experience a burning curiosity to learn who she is. Don’t fake the interaction if you feel she’s not the girl for you, if she doesn’t make you genuinely curious or curious. You should experience a natural drive to touch her. Don’t think too much about it. Once she comfortable with your touch, anticipate the kiss. Let the natural desire to kiss her be there. Don’t hide it and go for it. She’ll pace if too early for her. If she kisses back, don’t squeeze all the sexuality out of it. Kiss her long enough so she invests then break it off to preserve the feeling of tension that built up to the kiss. If she really attracted to you, she will match your shameless escalation with even less shame. At this point it’s your turn to pace her. Use your drive to move the interaction to whatever direction you want it to go because “it will be rude not to” Speak loud and clear, talk slowly, express positive emotion without fear, laugh freely and easily, don’t take yourself to seriously, walk upright with good posture, get relaxed and comfy when interacting with people, genuinely pay attention to what others have to say with curiosity. Just force and focus on one signal and you’ll supercharge your confidence. Step toward a girl with drive without trying to force an outcome or being needy. Focus on the girl herself and not the feeling of possessing her. Play it cool when she does not respond to you. Like nothing ever happened. Do not force an outcome with everyone you approach. Focus on having fun instead. Focus on only the girl and not the outcome. Ignore your desire to possess her and detach from the outcome. Appreciate women as individuals and pursue them. Walk up to a girl display your drive without needing an outcome. Focus on trying to express the truth (your desire for her) rather than trying to get the girl.

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Walk up to girls and display your drive without needing an outcome. Be comfortable in articulating your feelings and drive directly. Identify the emption that you’re expressing in the moment and how best to express it. Figure out a communication style that best expresses your persona. Make the approach (which is expressing your desire with drive) primary and the results secondary. Make walking up and approaching a beautiful woman in the most expressive, genuine and driven way is your primary focus and only focus. Approach them in the most effective and authentic way without detaching from any results or reaction. When interacting with a woman step back and assess how she perceives your drive. It’s important to listen to what a woman says when she’s pacing you. Adjust your drive when you listen to what she says when she’s pacing you and balance it moment-to-moment with inspiration. Think of inspiration as the fun and flirtatious part of an interaction while drive as the aggressive, ravaging and passionate counterforce. Balance drive with inspiration she says you should slow down, I hardly know you or any other comment that suggests you’re coming on too strongly. Just still be driven but tone it down a bit and adjust to her comments but not in a totally submissive way. In a playful, flirty or teasing way. Do not apologize for this because remember that you are shameless about your desire for her. Whenever a girl indicates that you’re acting with too much drive, take note of her clue because that might be the direction she wants you to go. Whenever she hints your drive is too much show her that you respect her objection and show her that you respect her enough to comply. Use this as a mindset with any romantic encounter with women. Keep your cool around her and listen to her. Remain emotionally calm when she disagrees with you. Listen to her to stir in the direction she wants you to know. When she hints you’re moving in the wrong direction just remember to balance the elements. Show more inspiration or connection— often both. So simply back off for a few minutes and flirt with her to release tension. Get into the habit of listening to a woman. Pay attention to her signs that she wants more drive from you. Don’t wait for her to give warning signals before using drive. Push the drive already. See a girl you like don’t make an excuse just approach and live in reality not hope. Take responsibility for your drive and push. To put drive into action, walk directly up to her and ignore everything else. Hold eye contact with her even she doesn’t do it back. Do it 80% of the time of your interaction with her. Talk in a slow matter of fact voice that is not over the top but solid true. Touch her freely and genuinely because you want to and not because it would make her like you. Use drive state interest directly or hint it strongly(no needy connotations)

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If response favorable keep using drive until she hints you need to balance with inspiration. But until then keep going and keep enjoying yourself. If she objects then balance with inspiration. Make observation about something (her coat, hair) but with transparency. Agree with whatever objections she may say but use slight humor and wit. Tease and start flirting (accuse her of something absurd). For the rest of the relationship is just rhythm. Drive then inspiration and then back to drive unless inspiration needed again. Be active with drive but you need to chill with inspiration and let it come to you passively. Display your personality who you are and it reciprocates. Use prompts and remember this is just a quest for the truth of who you are, who she is and the truth of who you are together. Mix and match prompts until you find the best way of expressing yourself in a way you communicates your unique identity. Narrow the focus by making it specific and concentrating on those specifics when you run out of things to say and redirect the conversation to add a twist and make it funny and let it express your own genuine personality. Take clichés and commonly known phrases and add your own spin on them use them generously but not overboard. Best times: when you approach, when she’s losing interest, right before you say something important. Overwhelm her by overselling everything in your life, but not everything about yourself. Be humble about accomplishments but exaggerate your hobbies, music, friends like as if she is missing something in her life. Oversell with passion not logic. Don’t prove the oversell just show it. Just get her emotional just when she’s about to make a decision that’ll affect you like leaving her friends to go with you etc. Use the oversell with tact; whenever a woman is on the fence about something. Agree with her objection about whatever she’s on the fence about, show you understand her objection, and oversell activity anyway. See page 61(72) 62(73) Create the “us” vibe. The “you and her” rather than the “you vs. her” Play it humorous…….make a pop culture reference……be upfront and direct. See page 63(74) The theme of you and her should appear throughout the conversation and ideally the relationship. Be inspired by what’s in front of you. Use everything from how’s she’s dressed to the venue, to the environment and people around you. Keep it funny, entertaining, and sexual when possible. Allow what’s in front of you to spark inspiration. Use role-playing and scenarios as long as they reinforce an “us” vibe and they play off what’s in front of you. Observe a behavior, describe the effects of that behavior and describe your reaction to those effects. Don’t get stuck on a topic for too long. Keep her on her toes. Whenever you see she’s falling into a rhythm, abruptly change the topic.

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Inject passion into a conversation by speaking to her emotions. Use these templates to keep your conversation balanced. Act with drive to create sexual tension and be funny to keep the tension balanced. To be funny blow things out of proportion by being absolutely absurd. Think about what’s expected then substitute it with something outrageous. Throw an outrageous comment every once in a while like every 5-10miutes. Also use outrageous humor to redirect the conversation especially at someone who’s aggressively accusing you or dissing you. Always seek the truth even humor. Focus on the delivery. Don’t focus on any reaction in the joke. Twist expectations. Set up the joke without any preface. Learn how to manage your reactions when telling jokes. Imitate girls. Mimic something she does and do it in a playful. Something you notice about her then mimic it. Try to compliment her first so you don’t look like you’re trying to demean it. Take notice, show her what her behavior looks like to you and be fun and do not demean her. Accuse her of something. Then use that as a spinoff to absurdity or managing reaction. Misinterpret or accuse her whenever you want or however you want just do it in a fun non-creepy way. Let your imagination run wild. Make sure you’re not aggressively trying to accuse her of something. Ask yourself the questions on page 77(87) and experiment with material until it reveals your true character. Give her an opportunity to game you by using silences. When she’s talking with passion, she’s trying, enjoy it and let her. Let her fill in those moments with her inspiration. Once you have her emotionally invested it is now time for her to game you. Don’t feel the need to force an outcome. Let your communications and interaction focus on the truth. Train yourself to realize when you’re talking too much and enjoy the person in front of you and shut up. Chase her and let her chase you and look for the signals that she’s chasing you. Don’t overtly display your emotions to her. Be cool and suave at all times. Don’t talk too much. Don’t cling to her when you make physical contact. Don’t hunch over if you’re going to lean in talk into her ear, making it more intimate and less try hard. Do not gyrate like a maniac. You can keep your hands somewhere like your back pockets to keep yourself calm. Slow down and don’t stutter or talk to fast. Don’t actively bring out inspiration, it’s passive. If you catch destructive inspiration running wild, counter it with drive. Break the habit of destructive inspiration. Pay attention to your breathing, concentrate on the tingly feeling in your hands, notice your thoughts and watch whatever entity is behind your thoughts and not the thoughts

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themselves, use your body to interrupt your pattern of destructive thought. Page 81(91). Walk up to her fully ready to express yourself. Speak to her with enthusiasm and don’t fear embarrassing yourself or offending her. Keep the interaction light and playful but you can still communicate your sexual interest in her. In your head, be like “let’s find the truth” and “I can walk away at any moment” Have some familiar conversation templates just in case you need to jumpstart your inspiration. Be sure to avoid logic on the first few minutes. Communicate emotionally and passionately with excitement but not overboard. Always communicate emotion but you can still communicate sexual interest. Once you spark a vibe, ride it. And let her invest. To check if she’s interested, just shut up. Here you move the interaction forward with your drive. Sometimes bring inspiration like right before making a big move, when her interest or attention sags, whenever a thirds party enters situation and when you genuinely feel like it. Just express yourself not because you’re trying to impress but because you feel like it. Use motifs (inside jokes you and your girl possess because of a funny encounter earlier in the interaction). Use motifs judiciously and don’t over use them. When you find she’s genuinely laughing at something you said use that as a motif and use it wisely. Stay connected to your personality throughout the relationship with a woman and stay connected to your inspiration. Remember to balance inspiration and shut up and let her express herself. Learn to identify how much inspiration is needed at any given moment. Remain cognizant of thought patterns that make you feel inspired and creative and tap into that. Focus on what the emotions that elicit from the questions you’re asking. Learn to enjoy her as a person and not as an idea. Be genuinely curious about her. Create fast meaningful attractions with any woman, any time. Let our curiosity stem from wanting to know the truth. Search hard enough until you find something to be curious about. Establish rapport with people before connecting by explore similarities you two share. Generate rapport quickly using pop culture and the venue. Do not force a connection because it’s passive. Just be chill and develop habits and thinking patters that facilitate fast genuine connections. Understand that you need to calibrate how much you connect with a woman. Understand that deep connection not always necessary before sex but for a worthwhile relationship. After you’re established rapport, let your guard down and be real. Refuse to believe that a social interaction is a ballet of perfectly executed maneuvers. Just be cool and comfortable with yourself. Be comfortable with making mistakes and be brave enough to open up.

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Be willing to make mistakes but obviously don’t go and mess up. If you make a mistake just laugh at it. Be ready to be imperfect if you want to make genuine interaction with women. Don’t believe your game must be perfect to approach. Focus on the girl not the idea of the girl. Be comfortable with your imperfections, you’re brave enough to be vulnerable. Demonstrate you trust her by being vulnerable. Be both vulnerable to each other when you’re bonded by trust. To inspire trust in a woman, prove you trust her first. Laugh at your mistakes no matter how big they are. Acknowledge them and don’t make a big deal out of them so the mistake does not become and obstacle. Don’t care about your mistakes because they will always happen. Just laugh about it. Understand that rapport is necessary before making a deep connection. Establish rapport first before delving into more emotional topics. Don’t get stuck on rapport. Once you feel a woman I comfortable with you, move into deeper topics. You still cycle back into rapport but you should move things forward emotionally. Watch for her telltale signals that she wants to transition to a deeper topic. She’ll begin talking at length and telling you stories. Explore pop culture through conversation. Popular movies, songs, internet clips that would be universal to be both males and females. People not from the U.S may not understand these pop culture references so size up fast and adjust accordingly. For situational rapport (venue and time) always make sure your comments translate human emotion and are specific. Use a story that can start off as a single sentence where you describe a detail from your life. Don’t overanalyze every detail of your words but understand what your words reveal about you. Moreover, you should use these “aspects of storytelling” to transition conversations into deep emotional connections with women you want to attract and date. You’ll find as an interaction with a woman progresses, it becomes more appropriate to tell longer stories. When you first walk up to a woman, you shouldn’t talk about any one topic for more than a minute or so. You can talk a lot (at first), but you should be jumping from topic to topic. Whenever an interaction begins, you talk on a variety of topics (mostly guided by inspiration). As the interaction proceeds, you zero in on a particular topic and explore it (mostly guided by connection). Jazz up your sentences with colorful, evocative details. When it’s time to make an emotional connection, decorate your sentences with a specific sound, smell, sight, or sensation.

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To put a conflict is to identify a goal, place a hurdle in front of the goal, resolution. Examples on Page 106(116) The art of comparing one thing to another helps your listener connect with the point you’re trying to make. Metaphors are especially helpful when describing something abstract such as emotions or experiences. Pepper metaphors into your stories and dialogue generously— a bad metaphor is still better than a non-emotional detail. When you start telling longer stories (with more emotional depth) by telling anecdotes from your life, you give the woman a sense of the people you surround yourself with. As explained in “overselling,” passionately describing the people in your life speaks volumes about your lifestyle without bragging. When you talk about your association with people, focus on how that quality or idiosyncrasy that makes the individual the way they are and talk about it in an animated way. Use social story telling not narrative story telling as in a book or a movie. Just relate details from your life don’t emphasize the plot but the details that connect the listener to your life, experiences and emotions. Connect with her through emotional experiences. Sometimes gradual connection approach as in page 109(119) or blunt approach as in 110(120) for loud venues. Remember the balance 4-EG system just remain harmonized with other 3 elements. Always keep cycling between topics, driving the interaction sexually forward while remaining playful and flirty. Don’t only connect with her or it will hurt the interaction. You can connect on any topic as long as it’s a common experience and it involves emotions. Recognize if she is or not emotionally ready to connect with some topics understand that she is pacing you. Make sure your story has both of you feeling emotions together. Dispel the belief that compliments forfeit your value. Compliments augment your value, as it takes a man who is truly comfortable with himself to recognize another person. Give someone props so they come to your level. Tag her name unto a genuine compliment you mean about her not something right off the bat and give like a 3-5 minute trial period. Her sense of style, her sense of humor, her unique views, her creative side, her femininity, her confidence. Identify emotional interrupts as anything a woman does to throw the interaction off particularly if it’s unprovoked. Similar to shit tests or congruence tests. Just ignore them. But if you did something like violate her trust, forget something important don’t disregard it but take responsibility. Relish the emotional interrupts and see them for what they are and disregard them. Don’t do too much connection but balance with mechanics drive and inspiration.

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Remember the cycle of tension and release. Connections happen in moments of release. Create enough sexual and emotional tension then release then can you and the woman connect emotionally. Always cycle back to moments of tension to keep her attraction stoked. Whenever you’re vibing and connecting with a woman, you should feel present and “in the moment.” Actively listen to her and try to feel the emotions she communicates. Nothing else should concern you when you’re connecting with a woman. Since connections happen passively, relax and enjoy the moments you make a connection with an attractive woman. Know where you want the interaction to go. Knowing when to balance connection: put arm around her and pull her into you if she presses her body close to you, she’s ready to connect emotionally but if she uses platonic gestures, you need to inject tension into the reaction immediately. Make romantic connection not platonic ones. Establish rapport first before connection. When to establish rapport on page 117(127). Always remember the rhythm of tension and release. As you move the interaction forward with your drive, the tension will increase. Whenever there’s more tension, there’s more potential for a greater release. And, whenever there’s greater release, you’ll make a stronger and more significant connection (because there’s more truth). Level 1— Connect over pop culture, situational topics, funny memories with friends, trivial things that happened in the past few hours, and your favorite drinks, foods, etc. Level 2— Books you’re reading, places you hang out, childhood memories, funny and embarrassing moments Level 3— Past relationships, aspirations and goals, real opinions and views, fears Level 4— Falling in love, “secrets” about your family and friends, failings and non-bragging successes Level 5— Sexual fantasies, secrets about yourself, things you never told anyone Again, this outline is not formulaic. Always connect with the women you want in your life, no matter if she’s a girl you met ten minutes ago or your wife of fifty years. The joy of dating and attracting women is connecting with them, both physically and emotionally. If you’re moving an interaction in a sexual direction, you’re going to encounter social friction. Proper mechanics is the lubricant that transitions an interaction moment-to-moment. While drive is the mindset that motivates escalation, mechanics is the actual steps to escalate The five transition stages are:  Open— beginning the interaction

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 Vibe— talking until a girl is ready to invest her time and/or emotions in you  Isolate— moving a girl to a spot where you can talk to her face-to-face  Escalate— driving the interaction forward physically (touching, kissing) and emotionally (deep connection)  Close— give the interaction closure (phone number exchange, go home together) When meeting a girl for a date, the same timeline still applies with some transitions omitted. You don’t have to worry about “isolating” her since the whole purpose of a date is a face-to-face, isolated interaction— unless she brings a friend, in which case you’re not on a real date anyway. Just like you have to “re-connect” every time you meet up with a girl, you must also go through the transition stages again, as well. Never forget to smoothly transition an interaction from meeting to sex— no matter how well you know a girl. Remember that female attraction is time dependent. First, it’s important you weed out women you have no chance of attracting. For example, if a woman’s walking away from you, turning her back to you, or completely ignoring you, it’s probably over so don’t waste your time chasing girls you can’t get! No guy can get every girl, so there’s no reason to feel bad or rejected. It’s far better you discovered the truth: she’s not the right girl for you…NEXT! Modes of attraction on page 125(135) – 125(135). Assume attraction. This doesn’t necessarily mean you need to open by directly stating your interest, but you should be speaking as if you and the girl already know you’re both attracted to one another. If a woman’s attracted, don’t start asking her questions to pique her curiosity or try to generate rapport. Instead, immediately move things forward physically and emotionally.

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Modes relate to the transition stages.

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The instant you open your mouth you should know what you want to do.

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Open— requires curiosity, interest, or attraction Vibe— requires curiosity, interest, or attraction Isolate— requires interest or attraction Escalate— happens only with attraction (can happen before the waypoint) Hard close— happens only with attraction (only after the waypoint) Decide in advance what you’re trying to do, and let it dictate how you structure the approach.

Situation guidelines for knowing what to do, and when you want to do it as an end game. Page 131(141). When opening a girl, you might want to consider the three modes of female reaction. Are you trying to get her attracted, interested, or curious? Knowing the reaction you intend to elicit will improve your opening skills exponentially. Calibrate the mode of opener you want to use. Assume attraction, assume interest or assume curiosity.

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Calibrate depending on where you are and the situation. Let common sense guide you. Examples of openers on page 132(142). Have a fun vibe, always. FUN VIBE. Once you open, you need to transition the interaction into vibing. Notice: YOU need to transition the interaction, not wait for the girl to do it for you! It’s your responsibility as a man to lead the interaction where you want it to go. Once a girl’s “open” (i.e. talking to you), start vibing by generating rapport and using inspiration to express yourself. This balances the tension created by your drive and the mechanics of moving things forward. The question is not what to say! The question is: how do you want to express yourself? Give the woman a glimpse of your personality through your inspiration. To do so, quickly transition out of the opener and into one of the various conversation templates outlined in the inspiration section. Do NOT let a woman get caught up on the opener if it’s not the direction you want the interaction moving. Learn to align your opener with a vibe. Transition into something that inspires in case your openers are not a representation of your unique character. Move the interaction away from feelings of strangeness and awkwardness into feelings of rapport and passion. Do not let interactions become awkward or fizzle because you failed to transition into a vibe. Remember: the girl will rarely— if ever— do this for you. Even if you have to be abrupt, get off the opener and quickly establish yourself as a guy worthy of emotional investment. Once you’re vibing (and her group is cool with you), keep moving the interaction forward. To do that, you must get your girl alone, one-onone. This is crucial— only when you’re alone together can you begin to find out if you’re right for each other. This stage is hard for new guys, because they fear making such a bold move. But understand: it’s absolutely essential to get the girl. Don’t be afraid to try and isolate. It never hurts to be shameless. Don’t worry about “impressing” her or fret over your next witty line. Instead, focus on getting to know her physically and emotionally. Instead, make it easy on her by suggesting another activity. This takes the pressure off her for isolating with a guy she just met. Examples of isolation on page 136(146). When going for the isolation, try not to pose it as a question. Always act bold and make confident statements, like “I absolutely MUST show you something!” Then, simply take your girl by the hand (not like a wimp, but not like a thug) and feel certain she’ll follow.

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Once you have her alone, utilize the full potential of the one-on-one situation. It’s the perfect time to exchange numbers, just in case you get separated. More importantly, this is your time to have a genuine interaction with your girl. Move things forward smoothly and casually, all while having fun and getting to know the new, hot girl in front of you. Take her to a place where you can kiss her. Just remember to avoid responding negatively to any “rejection.” Being unaffected is key here. Simply stay on track and proceed. Also, when going for the kiss, just go for it. Ways to keep yourself emotionally unaffected if trying to kiss page 137(147) Blockbuster preview kiss. Peck her lips fast enough that she doesn’t have time to turn her head. Don’t acknowledge the kiss just talk about some random topic or tell a story. Let her feel those emotions while you downshift for 1-2 minutes then start some light innocent touching, then go for a blockbuster style make-out.  The soft close— Getting her contact info (e.g., phone number, email, Facebook)  The real close— Having sex with her and/or starting a relationship with her Anything else— kissing included— is not a “close” as it doesn’t gracefully end an interaction While it’s okay to take a phone number, don’t mistake collecting phone numbers for success with women. Therefore, always shoot for a hard close, but accept a soft close when appropriate. To get phone number be smooth and be casual. Relax and remember it’s no big deal. Do not make it an awkward exchange like in the movies. Simply state it as a fact not as a question If you encounter resistance but she still standing in front of you, inject humor right before asking. Example on page 139(149)- 140(150) Get her laughing to get her number

Basic structures to getting her number daytime vs night-time on page 150(160)

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. In fact, there are only 5 basic rules of texting girls: 1. Always move the interaction forward (i.e., set up a date) 2. Be humorous/fun 3. Don’t ask questions, assume she wants to see you 4. Set up dates on off-nights (e.g., Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, or Wednesday) 5. Make her an offer she can’t “refuse”— meaning plan an activity cooler than anything else she’d be doing on an off-night

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Texting is not the time to “get cute.” Unless she’s your girlfriend, only use text for one purpose: to get a meet up. During texting engage her emotionally especially with humour.

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Incorporate jokes and funny moments shared during the initial interaction into your texts. Keep the jokes light and obvious. Don’t abuse your text game once you’ve developed it. Don’t send more than two texts without pushing for a meet-up.

Oversell during texting and stand out. Suggest dates on off nights when everyone has less going on. By suggesting a slightly bizarre activity you stand out. Don’t give yourself a headache with the text. Just add a little finesse and artfulness and you’ll be fine. Example to set up meet up on page 142(152). Whenever setting up a meet up, do it in the simplest way possible. As such, it’s always best to minimize your “margin of error.” Don’t call her unless absolutely necessary. Don’t overgame by calling when not needed. There are some instances where calling a girl is necessary. Sometimes girls forget you (if you wait too long to text them) or they may make excuses for themselves about why they gave out their number, like, “I was so drunk.” You know you’re dealing with one of these girls whenever you get “flaked.” Classic flaky behavior includes ignoring your texts, responding with one or two-word answers, or not responding when you suggest a meet up. For these girls, it’s possible to recover them, but you’re going to have to call them. Therefore, you must begin by getting the woman curious. So when you call, never yell or ask her why she’s not returning your texts. Instead, pretend like she’s been your girlfriend for ten years and you’re just calling to tell her something. Have a story or social commentary ready to carry the conversation for the first minute. A quick and punchy anecdote always greases the wheels of good conversation. Be less focused on the call and have something else that you’re doing or is distracting you. Keep it short and simple. Before a first date, no phone conversation should exceed ten minutes. During voicemails keep it simple stupid. Just deliver the facts: a hello, your name, and an invitation to return your call is all that’s necessary. When pulling a girl from a nightclub or bar, it helps to use momentum. To generate momentum, move your girl around the venue several times before suggesting you leave together. Hotspots include:  Dancefloor  Bars  Couches  Smoking sections

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You can always make a second move to a hotspot regardless of where you isolate her. Oversell the different venue you may chose to go to before the take home. Also, plant the idea of leaving together early in the interaction. Drop hints about the awesomeness of “after events”. Examples of seeding the extraction on page 146(156). If not get home that night you can set up a date. Don’t take girls on boring dates. Rob’s perfect date setup on page 146(156)-148(158) To setup a romantic supernova, you want to keep it simple. After you exchange one or two flirty texts, send her something like, “Let's get a drink and see if we can play nice together.” Suggest meeting at a bar or lounge that’s within walking distance of your home. Talk to her focusing on rapport and connection. Be funny and lighthearted just make sure it comes off as humorous and fun see page 149(159) Make sure your apartment is dimly lit, with everything ready to go. Light the candles, play some music, pour a little wine, and take the chicken dish out of the oven. Serve. Start talking. Enjoy the girl. Listen to her. Tell her about yourself. At some point, take her by the hand, lift her out of her seat, and start slow dancing with her to the music. Move things forward slowly but surely. So always take people’s natural advantages into account when considering their advice. Already you probably naturally possess one or two of the four elements. Once you identify those elements, work on balancing them with the elements you’re lacking. Being out of shape (especially overweight)  Having crooked or discolored teeth, bad breath  A haircut that doesn’t compliment the contours of your face  Any sort of hygiene issue  Bad fashion, wearing clothes that don’t fit properly  Acne, paleness, or other skin issues Remove your ugly features. With ugly features balance with mechanics but no ugly features don’t overcompensate. Negate your ugly features— or, as Zack and I like to say, “de-uglify” yourself. Steps to de-uglify table 156(166)-157(167). So no more excuses: get to the gym, the dentist, the hairstylist, etc. and get rid of those ugly features! And start today!

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Don’t get enamored with it and over-game. Simply use it tactfully As you already know, there’s a time and place for mechanics: in transition. Use mechanics when you open, vibe, isolate, escalate, and close. Use it, and then forget about it until it’s time to transition again. Don’t become one of these neurotic, game-obsessed guys who treats picking up chicks as if it’s some sort of military operation, using three letter acronyms, thinking of babes as “targets,” and acting super weird. Attraction is a human emotion, and so you must be human to understand it. And being human means making mistakes. Use the 4-EG system as your internal compass, as your balance scale. Even if you just skim it quickly, jotting down a few quick reminders before heading out, it’ll help focus you on exactly what you need to do to balance yourself for success tonight