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TABLE OF CONTENTS Introducution to Seductive Storytelling

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PART 1: Adding to the Vibe: Make Sure Your Stories Work FOR You, Not AGAINST You

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1A. Teaser Sentence: How to Introduce a Story and Gauge Her Interest ........................................................ 12 1B. Accordion Theory: Keep Your Stories Fluid so They Add to the Vibe ............................................................16 1C. Conversation navigation: Control the Vibe by Steering Toward Loaded Topics..................... 20

PART 2: Building the Foundation: The Attitude, Categories, and Inspiration of Seductive Stories 22 ....

2A. Faking It Ruins Stories: Be Vulnerable, Not Cool When Telling Your Stories .......................... 23 2B. The Main 4: Choosing the Right Seductive Story for the Right Moment of a Seduction ......... 26 2C. Avoid Obvious and Passive: The Two Killers of a Seductive Story ................................ 38

PART 3: What Makes a Story Seductive: The 3-Element System for Flawless Storytellings..42 3A. Motivation: What a Character Wants is the Seed of a Story..................................................................... 44 3B. Conflict and Consequence: When a Character Struggles the Story’s Heart Beats ....................... 50 3C.Resolution: TheResultoftheCharacter’sQuest Causes Change and Gives a Story Focus ....................... 60

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APPENDIX: Pulling It All Together.....

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INTRODUCUTI ON TO SEDUCTIVE STORYTEL L I NG

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hink back to your school days, back when you had that dreadfully boring teacher for that horribly tortious class (yeah, THAT one). Now remember the time that teacher walked into class and annonced, “Today we’ll be watching a movie that relates to our lesson.” And

remember how it was as if the gods of entertainment were smil-ing down on you from the hills of the Hollywood because the movie was something you ACTUALLY wanted to see. How awesome was that? Seriously. It probably felt like the educational equivalent of winning the lotto. To have the luxury of relaxing at your desk and being ENTERTAINED for an hour-long class is a feeling that holds a special place in every student’s heart. When given a choice between be-ing TOLD facts or being ENTERTAINED by facts, we always pre-fer the latter. As Kipling remarked, “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” This introduction, however, isn’t about school or teaching history or anything remotely academic. Instead, it’s to introduce you to the best—and most SEDUCTIVE—way to convey your personal “history” so that it’s “never forgotten.” While every guy reading probably relates to that sublime “movie-in-class” moment, most of us soon forget the sentiment when

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INTRODUCTION interacting with women. Rather than give women the luxury of relaxing and being entertained by who we are, we do what every other guy does: report the facts of who we are to her. “I work for such-and-such company, went to blah-blah-blah school, like this-and-that activity.” Sound familiar? For most attractive women, it’s worse than familiar—it’s dreadfully boring and not memorable. Just as you probably don’t remember much from that horribly tortious class, guys who convey their identity by reporting facts are quickly forgotten, as well.

That’s why learning to tell a seductive story is an invaluable as-set to your success with women. If you can captivate a wom-an’s attention, stir her emotions, and entertain her with the facts about your life through stories, not only will she savor your time together and really get an understanding of who you are, you’ll also remain on her mind long after the conver-sation or date is over. Though, you probably already knew that. After all, you’re embarking on a course titled Seductive Storytelling, which means you obviously acknowledge storytelling’s immense importance in attracting women. What you probably DON’T yet know is that telling a great story is completely within your reach. Most guys assume storytelling is some esoteric talent, reserved for the few of us blessed with innate creativity and charisma.

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INTRODUCTION That is just so not true. The FIRST step to becoming a seductive storyteller is to forget whatever preconceived notions you may have about storytelling as being some lofty endeavor that requires divine inspiration. At it’s core, every great story answers one of two simple questions: 1. “What changed?” 2. “If nothing changed, why not?” If you think of books you’ve read, movies you’ve seen, or stories you’ve heard, here’s what they ALL have in common: it in-volved either HOW the main character CHANGED or WHY the main character DID NOT CHANGE. If you’ve ever heard some-one tell a “story” in which nothing changed nor was there an explanation WHY nothing changed, then you didn’t really hear a story at all—you either listened to someone’s reporting (at best) or rambling (at worst). “Change” does not necessarily mean a Kafkaesque metamorphosis that alters a character’s entire being. Seductive stories often involve subtle changes, like learning a lesson or reversing an opinion. Of course, you may have stories that are more significant such as why you changed career paths or what inspired you to get serious about your fitness. The beauty of becoming a seductive storytelling is that YOU have the freedom to decide what stories you want to tell, stories that best convey YOUR identity to the woman you’re getting to know!

Before delving into the course specifics, it’s important to iden-

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INTRODUCTION tify two other immutable storytelling elements: 1.) a character’s motivation and 2.) the conflict that ensues when that motivation is pursued. These elements are covered in depth in this book, particularly in Part 3, but for the purpose of this introduction it’s important you understand the significance of these two elements in almost EVERY story. A character’s motivation and the resulting conflict are often what makes or breaks a story. Think of it in terms of this basic formula: Every day (character) did _______(1)_______ until the day (character) wanted _________(2)________. Because of that, _______(3)________ happened, which led to____(4)______. And that’s when/why/how (character) ______(5)______. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.

What pre-changed character was like before story Character’s motivation Conflict Consequence of conflict Change

A common symptom of a boring story is predictable character motivation, which inevitably leads to an uninteresting conflict. To ensure your stories ARE NOT boring or predictable, we are going to challenge YOU to REALLY CONSIDER what motivates the characters you describe in your stories.

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INTRODUCTION We’re not, however, advocating you lie or invent character motivations. NEVER do we advise that you to lie to women or tell fake stories. This is NOT a course on fiction. Moreover, the purpose of telling a woman your stories is to express your TRUE identity, which creates rapport. Nothing destroys rap-port and violates a woman’s trust faster than a liar… That being said, getting in the habit of digging a layer deeper, so you delve beyond the predictable and the obvious, is a skill that will benefit you well beyond storytelling. When you REALLY examine people’s behavior with the intention of deciphering the NON-OBVIOUS MOTIVATION behind a decision or action, you begin to understand people on a very deep level.

And since YOU are going to be the main character of SO MANY of your seductive stories, giving careful thought to the DEEP-ER reasons motivating YOUR OWN actions will make you more self-aware, more insightful, and just a more attractive guy to be around. So before you officially begin this course, please realize that much of your storytelling success or failure will rest on how closely you adhere to the Greek aphorism. “Know thyself.” In Part 3.1, you’re going to learn a concept we call “Cool Vulnerability.” Stories people never forget are the stories that are honest and truthful. (Sometimes painfully so.) The truth and honesty of a storyteller comes less from facts and more from feelings and insights. Emotional honesty and insightful truth

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An explanation on some of the word choices used in this book: Whenever we describe the person whom a story is primarily about (a.k.a., the protago-nist), we chose to use the word “character.” In a personal narrative, even though you’re telling the story in the first person (i.e., the “I” perspective), the “character” is still you. We hope that by using a word like “character” you start to view yourself as a “story element,” which might give you the “emotional space” needed to discover a story possibility that may not have been apparent otherwise. Furthermore, for simplicity, we consistently refer to the “character” using masculine pronouns (e.g., he, his). Likewise, the “listener” is consistently referred to as “she.” We do NOT mean to assume that you will never tell a story about a female character or that your only listeners will be women. The ONLY reason we chose these pronouns was for clarity and simplicity purposes. We anticipated that most readers will be men who want to improve their sto-rytelling abilities so they can better relate to women, and so we chose pro-nouns accordingly.

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