Real Attraction Secrets by Ice Dragon © 2009 The secret to being amazing with women, is to remember that you already are Cajun, Love Systems instructor. Men always try to penetrate a woman physically before penetrating her mind and appealing to the deepest recesses of her psyche" - IceDragon Acknowledgements Far from being the 'solitary ruminations of a scholar in the quietness of his study', this book is the result of brutal, hard, bloody experience in the arena we call life. I am greatly indebted to others, for the help, advice and support both logistical and moral. Without whom, this book would have remained a pipe-dream. I would like to thank, God there are so many, and I'm bound to leave many of you out, unintentionally. If I do that, then please accept my apologies. In no order of importance, my beautiful girlfriend, who has been a constant source of strength and inspiration for me, my family, Adrian Dale from the London Seduction Society, my editor, close friend & mentor - Tom Burke, Craze and Gem from Alpha Interactions, Savoy, Soul and Mr M, Tenmagnet and Cajun from Lovesystems, the guys from the Scotland Lair for their continued support, David X, Clifford, Richard Hasinski, Black Rose, Adam Lyons, Robert Beck, Milan, Rahul Nag, Anicca, Ankush Jain, Ryan Garrod, James DeMarco, Matt Chance, Abhishek Sharma, Aki, Discovery, Kas, Ross, Jester, Lorian Payne, Mark Ridyard, Miki, Neil Haggart, Ion, Claire, the team from Glasgow MMA, Kevin Chan, Lynsey, Richard La Ruina, Chocolate Thunder, Magnus, Bilal, Ankush Jain, Viking, Skippy, Lynne, Clara, Enigma, Tony Sweeny, Buchy, Kavana, Demo, Sasha, Colin, Ciaran Healy, Dr Swift, Gordon, Philip Oku Ampofo. Azlan McKechnie and Emma, Ryan, Ace Nima Rouhani, Florence for her supportive words, Shadiya for the great advice, Karim, Martin, Stephane, DeepVertigo, Iftikhar Yaqub, Amo, Bilal, Aki, Stuart Bell, Stewart Gardiner, Cameron Miller, Graeme Hatton, Viktorija, Angelina, Mrvica, Kristina, Cindy, Asia, Merci, Laura, Ellen, Hazel and the others, Irshad Malik, simple-designz.com for doing an amazing job in designing the first draft of this book and lastly to Lucy. This couldn't have happened without each and every one of you. David X - "The Godfather of Seduction" Montreal, Canada Let me just start out by saying well done. I read this book and I have to agree with almost all the principles that you teach. You're offering a very good bridge product for guys who have major approach issues. I enjoyed your Alpha male chapters especially, maybe because I can relate to that side of the coin so well. I teach very similar approaches but most importantly we share very similar values when it comes to approaching and dealing with women. Just like your eBook demonstrates, I approach women a little bit differently in a supermarket than I would at a nightclub. My core values never change. "The most important person in your life is you" WOW. Now that's explosive information in the right hands. What I like about your book is that the values presented never change, that's how I can tell you're an original. -5"Mr M" aka Jim Stark Lead Instructor for Love Systems London, United Kingdom Website - www.lovesystems.com/MrM
I have admired IceDragon and his work for a few years now. I remember the first time I met IceDragon. My first thought was "can this guy really be that good with women?' This is because much like me, he is a short, average looking guy with a warm and friendly vibe as opposed to a tall, Brad Pitt like character. Unlike many of the other eccentric dating teachers out there, IceDragon does not have an overly 'peacocked' look, weird personality or overbearing ego. But this is exactly why he draws my utmost respect - because dating science at its best should be about how normal guys can improve themselves to have rock star like abilities with women. In exploring how the mind, spirit and body work in order for a man to become more attractive, IceDragon has enunciated key principles which will engender crucial life changes if followed correctly. His work is a study not just of women, but of the way in which men should move through the world. I have lectured on the importance of deep level change when learning to become better with women. It is only through self actualization, personal evolution and developing an intuitive, yet experiential, understanding of human interactions and social dynamics, that one can truly reach mastery in the field of interactions with women. IceDragon understands and pioneers these concepts. You may not yet appreciate it at this point, but by reading this book and exposing yourself to dating technology, you have chosen to 'wake up'. As you progressively loosen the shackles of social conditioning by turning the pages in this book (and possibly others), you will begin to become acutely aware of a new realm of possibilities. Reality will become like an onion that you just keep peeling back to reveal new, unchartered layers of "what is possible' in human interactions and personal development. Dating science and the dating industry have received both good and bad press and publicity, rightfully so. There are both very positive and very negative sides to the dating / pick up movement. But at its most positive, which is where that I believe that people like IceDragon and I are positioned, it is a positive and revolutionary force that is shaping the men of tomorrow for the better. IceDragon's contribution to this 'revolution' is undeniable; and his professional integrity in the pursuit of excellence in human social science, wherever it had to take him and regardless of the personal cost, is a hallmark of dating science at its best. -6Tom Burke Fitness instructor. Life Coach, NLP Practitioner & hypnotherapist Glasgow, Scotland Website - LetsGetMotivated.com Let me tell you the real attraction secret, or rather one secret of many. I have already read the book and wouldn't want to spoil it for you. You have to genuinely love women! Forget all that shit about men being from planet Zuton and women from some other fucking planet! Both sexes of our species are of course from the same planet and have been successfully interacting for thousands of years. If we hadn't been then guess what? Yes we would be extinct! Communication, both verbal and non-verbal plays a vital role in mate selection. It was all going well until the Cosmopolitan told us otherwise or was it the Viz. I always get those mixed up. You wont simply read this book; IceDragon will drive you to action. He is not coaching you to be an expert on reading EBooks on seduction or to become a fantastic keyboard jockey. He is coaching you to get out there and enjoy the real secrets of attraction as you meet beautiful women in your everyday life. IceDragon loves women and that is one of his personal attraction attributes. Having this love of women certainly helps make him more attractive to women but what about when it comes to coaching other guys in the art of real attraction? As I write this I have known IceDragon for about 3 years. I met him at various sarging exploits in Glasgow but only really got to know him when he launched a dinner event with Max, from what was known then as the Mystery Method, as the guest speaker. It was a great event and as I learned more about the man behind the event, IceDragon, I knew he had done it for the guys in the local community and he had done it with great passion. Yes he loves women but he also loves helping you guys be the best you can be. Again showing his genuine desire to help guys become more attractive to women, while improving all aspects of their lives, IceDragon launched The Professional Players Club. Initially I set up the website but was asked to help out at weekend mini-bootcamps as an approach coach. I really got to know him during this period as we were doing 3 hours of day
game, dinner and then several hours of street, pub & club game every Saturday. I have to say a highlight of 2008 with IceDragon was when he invited me to dinner with Neil Strauss after the Glasgow book launch of "Rules of The Game". It was a brilliant experience which ended with me driving Neil and his entourage around Glasgow but that's another story. Lets Get Motivated - What do you want to do? -7Soul Instructor for Love Systems London, United Kingdom Website - www.lovesystems.com/soul When you've been doing this stuff for a while you learn very quickly to suss out the different types of "seducers" that you meet. Putting a lens on your interactions with women inevitably teaches you things about social interactions with everyone you meet. You learn to see the matrix of human character, with telltale signs upon first meeting them that giveaway who they really are inside. The biggest category of people to beware of is the phonies. The people that purport to be someone they are not. People that brag about their "conquests" with women, talk a lot and act little, and are afraid of failure or making mistakes generally fall into this category. People who are genuinely good at something spend most of their time working on their skills, learning from others who are good at them, and understand that to succeed more in life means also to be willing to fail more. The next biggest category of people to be aware of is the unscrupulous successful. The people that have apparent success in life but further examination of their methods reveal a distinct lack of principles or ethics. In other words, people that take and never give. These people act without regard for others, without integrity, and without a sense of real purpose. The final category is the rarest of all: the scrupulous successful. This category is capable of far higher levels of success than the unscrupulous successful. Why? Because treat other people well and you will be treated well. These people find friends and alliances everywhere, using shared resources and knowledge to rise to individual heights greater than if they were to do it simply on their own, forsaking all others. IceDragon belongs in this final category. His integrity, honour and decency have impressed me in the years that I have known him. More than just having all the impressive surface level characteristics that women find so irresistible, he has the core masculine character that every woman is ultimately drawn to. IceDragon and I have both fought stigma in our rise to be successful with the fairer sex. We have both faced challenges in society, convention and in ourselves in order to get to where we are. The rise to the top is fraught with adversity, but it is the journey that makes you strong. Both he and I have been lucky enough to meet some truly incredible women in our lives to date. I know that no matter how successful in my life I become, I will never stop being grateful. This book is IceDragon's chance to give back - and he does it in spades. Read these pages well. -8Craze Director & Lead Instructor of Alpha Interactions London, United Kingdom Website - www.alphainteractions.com "Hi Craze, How you Doing" Those were the first words that came out of IceDragon's mouth when I met him, and at that moment stood in front of me was a small framed guy of Asian heritage who to me defied the archetypal lack of confidence that most guys are pre programmed to feel when confronted with someone of my physical stature. A confident aura and an obvious intention to be the first point of genuine warmth and connection was a welcome change in a community where camaraderie and friendship had taken a back seat to commercial competition drew me closer to find out more about who this guy was and why I automatically held him in high regard. I first met IceDragon in Birmingham where we both happened to be speaking at an Attraction Seminar and as the Director and Lead Instructor for Alpha Interactions, I was impressed at the confidence he showed and the skill set he had so obviously mastered. The moment I saw the way he spoke to Students and the way he was received, I knew this guy had "it" but as strong as his confidence was, you still admired the vulnerability in his voice. I could see that this guy has been there, that very place many guys find themselves
when trying to attract the women of his dreams, and this is where I really started to see where IceDragon's aura came from. His passion is not for his own gain, like me and all the instructors at Alpha Interactions, he was not in this for himself; he was in this purely to see the improvements in guys he has only just met! That is how he came to be an Instructor for Alpha Interactions Scotland. I look for 2 things when I decide to bring people into a company like AI. The first and most important is the ability to put his own success aside in order to bring success to others and the second is the ability to keep an open mind and learn while he teaches. Ice had both of these prerequisites; time and time again he has proved this to me. I am constantly amazed by the life IceDragon Leads, whether it is the new friends he makes, the hot women he attracts or the students whose lives he changes, I will always be a Supporter of IceDragon and his ability to get results. -9How to use this book The IceDragon Method will tear down your preconceptions of what is possible, and build your core identity from the ground up. I believe in a holistic method of seduction and pickup. This is a method derived from years of practicing and teaching, and addresses the core issues relating to female to male attraction, a method derived from practical, real life experience, and hard grit. This is why I called my book 'Real Attraction Secrets'. This is as real as it gets. I am what you may call a 'natural seduction teacher', and your task is to make my method is personal to you, organic, as in, it will develop and mature within you. As you begin to grow as a person, so to, your own IceDragon Method will develop alongside you, and bring you amazing success with women. The name IceDragon is synonymous with passion, creativity, desire, and masculine, alpha qualities. I am called IceDragon because I breathe fire onto the woman's psychological barriers, and melt the ice, which is surrounding her, making her moist and wet. We all have an IceDragon within us. You just have to discover, uncover, and recover your own, personal IceDragon, which has thus far been sleeping inside you. You can become the IceDragon, and seduce the woman of your dreams. Although it is advisable to start from the beginning, and finish the book in sequence, there is absolutely no harm in dipping in wherever you fancy, as each section can stand up and be counted on its own merit. To get the most benefit from my method, I would suggest referring to it regularly, and really focus on what is written, instead of skimming. That way you will feel the depth and meaning, the words will begin to sink in. You may be sitting on the bus two days after reading a chapter and think "aha - it's all clicking together'. I would highly recommend taking some time out, and doing the suggested exercises, gaining impressive improvements in your seduction ability. What this book doesn't do is hold your hand and spoon-feed you. It doesn't tell you what to do from A to B, and what if this goes wrong, or what if you're in that situation. I believe you can have a 'trouble-shooting' section in a computer software manual, but not in a book which deals with human interactions. Such is the volatile, unpredictable nature of people. But hey, this is what this book is for. This book aims to give you the edge over other guys. From personal teaching experience, this game doesn't work in a structured, robotic, paint by numbers way. What 'routine' worked for me in a certain situation is certainly not guaranteed to work for you. Most structured pickup techniques are backwards rationalized anyway, and I will teach you to unleash your inherent masculine abilities, to attract the woman of your dreams. Enough said, it is time to begin. - 10 Seduction is in your blood You have invested in this book to learn one thing. How to master the skills of starting and sustaining a sexual relationship with a woman of your choice. Every man on this planet has the inherent ability to attract a woman. Contrary to popular myth, you do not need complicated structures, techniques, and routines in order to do that. Each and every one of our forefathers was successful in getting laid. There is no doubt about that.
Somewhere along the line, things got mixed up, and men forgot that they were natural seducers, it's what they do best, like hunting, fighting, drinking, etc. and the woman became the prize. The man is the true prize, and if anyone tells you otherwise, it is bullshit and goes against nature. Were I to condense my whole method into one sentence, it would be. Release the latent Alpha Male from within you. An Alpha Male never shies from going out and getting what he wants (more about what an Alpha Male is later on in the book). When he sees something he likes, he goes and gets it. When he sees a beautiful woman he wants to get to know, he goes ahead and approaches her, without giving a damn about what other people think. It's a matter of fact. Social conditioning warns us against approaching strange women. When we see a beautiful woman, something inside us says that it is not acceptable to society. Something tells us that a calamity will befall us. The reason for this is simple. If you approached the wrong girl, thousands of years ago, chances are that you would never get laid again. You would either be killed or ostracized by your tribe. We have, thankfully, moved on from those times. The first step you have to take is to tell your inner voice to shut up, and replace it with a new affirmation. Approach her. During the course of this book, I will teach you exactly what to say and do for best results, but if your head goes blank, and you can't think of anything - get into the game by saying something. Say hello, ask her the time, anything. This is the first hurdle you must overcome. You must overcome your inner fears and forget about the outcome. Get out of your own head, and face the reality that if you do not approach that girl, she will move on, and some other guy will approach her and start a sexual relationship with her, and have lots of cute little children who will call him daddy. Of course, not all of us want to start a family, but you get the picture. The relationship which should have been yours. What if your great, great, great grandfather had not approached your great, great, great grandmother? You would not be sitting here, reading this book, listening to me telling you to approach the woman you desire. I want your great, great, great grandson to enjoy the company and pleasure of beautiful women. You have to make it happen. Live forever, pass on your genes. I hope it's now blatantly obvious that if you don't approach, you might as well go on the Internet and find a Russian bride who will divorce you as soon as she gets a permanent visa. - 11 Mentally, it is far easier to approach a woman, if you have the lifestyle, which a woman will want to be part of. Cultivate your passions in life. Choose an interest, which involves investing in you. Out with your working life, you should have something which you enjoy doing, be it playing a sport, collecting rare items, whatever. Take a look at your own life, and list your achievements. List 25 achievements, no matter how small you think they are. Have lots of female friends in your phonebook. This will help you understand female psychology, and will ultimately help you meet the woman of your dreams. Accept your weaknesses, and build on your strengths. Every man knows what his weaknesses are, and the chances are, he hides them and feels ashamed. Do not do this. If you are open and come out of the closet about your insecurities, and show the world that you are not bothered by them then other people will accept you too. Respect yourself and demand respect from others. If they dont, cut them out of your life. Only keep friends who respect you. This also applies to women. No matter how hot she is, if she doesn't respect you, this will do you long-term damage, and the number one person in your life is you. Think about your future. Choose your career wisely and invest in it, if you don't have one, work towards it. Women are attracted to a successful male who can provide for her and her children. If you are unemployed, on benefits, and live for the weekend, what can you do for your family? I know it's fashionable to say that you can still get laid if you have 'game', but I want you
guys to experience long-term success. If you are in a job you dont like, leave it and get the necessary qualifications you need to find the job of your dreams. Don't let anyone tell you that you "can't do something'. What you want to consistently get from women is "you know where you want to be in life, and how you're going to get there'. Its how you frame yourself and present yourself is what counts. • Stay in shape. • Eat healthily, keep junk food to a minimum and keep your cardiovascular system in great shape. • Wear nice clothes, stay clean. - 12 Part I - Your unique attractive identity - Who Are You? Your unique attractive identity - Who Are You? "Linda Lee, widow of Bruce Lee once told me ^the reason why Bruce Lee's legacy has lasted nearly forty years, is because he imposed his unique personality and identity on the world - that's why there's never been anyone like him since, as they are all trying to be him, instead of telling the world who they are." You can create your own attractive identity. Don't try to be someone else. Those men are attractive simply because they impose their own unique personality upon the world. Be yourself, and release your potential. Make the most of your appearance. You can only play the card you have been dealt. So make the most of it by being the best you can be. Personal appearance, or what is considered 'good-looking' is an abstract concept. Generally, women are not as obsessed with looks as men are. You know, the first thing men notice is the hips to waist ratio, and who hasn't talked to a woman's tits, instead of her face. It's a part of life. Are you a tits or ass guy? The reason for this is that, many thousands of years ago, when our ancestors were still living in caves, and hunting wooly mammoths, women with wider hips were more likely to survive childbirth (they had no caesarians back in those days), and women with bigger breasts were healthier, and were able to feed their babies, thus ensuring a man's genes carried on. Women on the other hand, are more concerned about survival qualities - will the man she chooses be able to provide for her and her children? Obviously, looks don't come into this. Woman are attracted to men who can take them on an emotional rollercoaster ride by giving them a wide range of emotions, and make them feel good. Why do women stay in abusive relationships? It's because the man is unpredictable takes them through many different feelings. He abuses her, beats her. Then apologises, tells her he loves her, before hot passionate make-up sex. In contrast, what does your average guy do? He only gives her one emotion. Love. I'm not advocating abusing women, but do take her through many different emotions, and that will more than compensate for what you perceive to be lacking in you. Unlike the abusive asshole, you have to provide magical moments for the woman, become her knight in shining armour. Whatever card you have been dealt with in life, get over it. If you're bald, overweight, short, whatever, just accept it and feel good with who you are. It's not the lack of height that turns women off, it's the lack of confidence behind it. Always assume attraction, and it'll put you at a head start, well ahead of most guys. Whether you believe you're good enough for the woman you want to approach, or you're not good enough. Both are true. Project a commanding image, a man at ease with his own self, and the woman will believe it too. Dress well all of the time, keep your breath smelling fresh (never leave home without a packet of mint or mint gum) and make sure there are no bits of food between your teeth. You never know when you're going to come across a seduction opportunity, and you want to be ready. If you feel good, you will exude those vibes to all those around you, and you'll want to talk to girls, and seduce them, with no subconscious excuses. Don't worry; I've got a gameplan all worked out for you in the next section, when you'll come to (and hopefully take on) my two-week challenge. - 14 You don't have to spend a lot of money on clothes. Just make sure the colours don't clash,
and dress appropriately for whether you are approaching women during the day or in nightclubs! Ask for assistance at a department store, and they'll advise. Alternatively, feel free to email me a photo of yourself, and I'll personally critique your style. However, bear in mind, that it's how comfortable you are with what you are wearing that counts. Smell nice. Women's sense of smell is far more highly developed than men's. Give yourself a head start over other men, who don't bother to take the time to select the perfect fragrance. Use a nice shower gel and body spray. I like the scent of Lynx Africa and FCUK Copper, but you may have your personal favourite. I also use Hugo Boss fragrance. Here are some fragrances that I recommend. Paco Rabanne - Ultraviolet man, Paul Smith London, Yves Saint Laurent - Kouros, Giorgio Armani - Armani Black Code, Givenchy Pour Homme, Christian Dior -Fahrenheit, David Beckham - Instinct, Jean Paul Gaultier - Le Male. I would strongly advise against being 'Saturday night pickup artists'. - 16 IceDragon's Two-Week Challenge Balancing being a successful ladies man with your lifestyle means making the study of seduction into an integral part of your day-to-day life, and co-existing with the various parts, which make up the individual you, so that there is no transition. It's not necessary, as you're totally accepting and completely congruent with what and who you are. I would strongly advise against being "Saturday night pickup artists'. By that I mean, walking around with your head down during the week, and putting on your'Pickup Artist' persona at the weekends. That is neither congruent nor natural. No wonder why some guys have problems with seduction, and then wonder what went wrong. I'm not advising guys to become social robots either, or obsessive pickup freaks. What I'm going to suggest is totally different, and will make a big difference in your success rates, so that by the time the weekend comes, and it's time to go clubbing, you're all warmed up and ready to go, and you've already got 10 girls' numbers that week (it will happen!), because pickup is not something different to what you usually do. However, what I'm going to suggest goes way beyond and much deeper than pure pickup. Two things to do before going to bed at night 1. Compile a things to do list of 10 things you want to do by the end of the following day (the sense of achievement the following night will astonish you). 2. Read out 10 affirmations (you can think of 10 relevant to you). Miriam's Dictionary reference a: the act of affirming b: something affirmed : a positive assertion Get on target! By the use of positive affirmations, we can create positive changes to occur in our lives. "Every day I am getting stronger and stronger." This is an example of a positive affirmation, which through repetition becomes a reality! Ten things to do before leaving your house in the morning Ok, second step. Before you leave the house in the morning, each and every day, ensure you do the following 10 things. 1. Shower & Shave. 2. Brush & floss. 3. Deodorant and Fragrance. 4. Choose your clothes carefully, and don't just throw anything on. 5. Have breakfast (VERY important). 6. Diaphragmatic breathing exercises (this will focus your mind). 7. Vocal projection exercises. 8. Read 10 affirmations aloud (you can think of some!). 9. Stretch your body! 10. Read over the list you made last night. Leave your house earlier than you usually would, because that would account for any delays en-route. Also, if you start your day in a calm & relaxing manner the rest of your day will be fantastic, and that will spill onto the following day, and so forth. Make a point of smiling and making eye contact at everyone you see. This is crucial! Not only at girls, but everyone. Walk with an upright posture, and with your head up. Think of your
favourite song, as you're walking down the street. According to Anthony Robbins, your posture and demeanor sets your mood. Talk to as many people as you can. Tell them jokes, funny stories, ask them how they are. Just improvise and have fun. Say "hi" to complete strangers, as they pass you by. Make a point of smiling and making eye contact at everyone you see. This is crucial! Do not deliberately try to find girls to seduce. They will find you. I promise. I dont know how or where they will come from, but they will. They will be attracted to your energy and what you put out into the world. The vibes you give out will be totally different from any other guy they will meet. If you do these things for two weeks, you will see an amazing difference. I'm saying two weeks for a reason; because this is the time it takes for any changes to take effect. Don't ask me why, it's just the way it is. Naturally, as the weeks and months progress, your results will begin to snowball and accumulate, and you wont be able to recognise what things were like before. You will begin to attract nice things into your life (girls, friends, success, happiness). Whatever you give out to the world, that's what you attract. Do this two week exercise while you're making your way through this book. - 18 Vocal Projection "The strength of speaking whereby the voice is used loudly and clearly... a technique employed to demand respect and attention." Vocal projection is used by different people, for different reasons, in a whole host of different situations. Actors strutting around a stage use vocal projection so they can be heard by their audience. Teachers struggling to control their unruly pupils use vocal projection to try and get the brats to behave themselves. Managers needing to get their point across to their staff use vocal projection so that they sound assertive. Even Baristas in Starbucks use vocal projection so that you can hear that your order for a "venti latte with a shot of vanilla" is ready above the din of a busy restaurant. So many different people are using vocal projection for different reasons, at different times but what links all these people? Sure, a lot of people who need to use vocal projection are confident people, and this helps them when "The strength of speaking whereby the voice is used loudly and clearly... a technique employed to demand respect and attention." having to make their voice carry a long way. Those who use vocal projection can appear to be confident but, inside, they may be insecure about what they are saying or unhappy at being the centre of attention. So if it's not confidence that link all these people, could it be something else? Having a "loud" voice -surely you can't "vocally project" without one? Well, having a "loud" voice certainly helps, but it's not the be-all-and-end-all of vocal projection. Professional singers usually have excellent vocal projection, but very few have "loud" talking voices - they have simply learnt the vocal projection techniques required for them to get-ahead in Show business. So who is capable of vocal projection, and what is the secret to it? Well, vocal projection can be achieved by anyone if they spend time learning the correct technique and continue to work hard at developing it. Vocal projection starts with a very simple concept - one that everyone in the world is familiar with -breathing. However, in order to develop good vocal projection, you must subtly alter the way in which you breathe, and how you use your breath. When you are talking at a "normal" level, you will only use the air from the top of your lungs. This means that your throat has to do most of the work. How many "hoarse mornings" have you had after spending a night shouting a conversation above the music in a nightclub? The simple reason for this is that you're using the "wrong" part of your lungs to help project your voice, and your throat is having to work over-time to try and get volume into your voice. With a better vocal projection technique, those morning-after-sore-throats could be a thing of the past. A properly-projected voice uses air that flows from the diaphragm, rather than the top of the lungs. Now this isnt something that happens overnight - it is something that you have to work on to improve and, once you are breathing from your diaphragm, you have to continue to
work hard to make sure you continue to use your diaphragm. The diaphragm is a sheet of muscle which extends across the bottom of the ribcage and is vital for breathing. In very simple terms: when the diaphragm expands, it creates suction that draws air into the lungs; when the diaphragm relaxes, air is pushed back out of the lungs. A simple equation exists here -the more the diaphragm expands, the more air will get into the lungs; or, another way of putting it, the less the diaphragm expands, the less air will get into the lungs! - 20 So, what can be done to improve the strength of the diaphragm? Here's a simple exercise that you can try - just 15 minutes of this exercise every day will produce some dramatic improvements in your vocal power: Breathing control • Find somewhere quiet where you can relax and not be disturbed - this will allow you to focus on your exercise and produce maximum results. • Stand with your feet around shoulder-length apart, with your arms either-side of you (or, if you prefer, clasped in front of you - dont put your hands behind your back, as this will tighten your chest!!). Relax you're going to be concentrating solely on your breathing, so you want to get rid of as much tension as possible. • Focus on your breathing - breath in through your nose, and out through your mouth. Get your breathing under control as you relax more and more. • Time your breathing - breath-in through your nose for 3 counts. Try and breath-in at a constant rate, rather than taking a huge breathe to begin-with. Breath-out of 3 counts - again, do so at a constant rate. This exercise is all about CONTROL. • When you have gained a good level of control of breathingin and breathing-out for 3 counts, trying holding your breath in for 3 counts. This makes it breath-in for 3 counts; hold your breath in for 3 counts; breath-out for 3 counts; then repeat... • As you get better, trying increasing the count to 4, then 5... and, with consistent exercising, you'll should be able to reach 7 or 8 within a month or so. Top tips: • Breath in through your nose, and out through your mouth! • When you breathe out, try making your mouth as rounded as possible so you can hear yourself breathing-out - this will help you know whether your control is good or not. • Don't try doing too much too early - the key is to take your time in developing your control. Often, the faster you improve, the faster you can lose it again if you fail to keep exercising; so the more time you take in improving your breathing control, the longer it would take for the benefits to go away! However, vocal projection is not all about breathing - stance is also important. The most common stance is one that stage actors have been using for hundred of years: • Stand up straight • Put your feet shoulder-width apart • Put your dominant foot slightly forward of your other foot (for example, if you are righthanded, your right foot should be slightly further forward than your left) This way, your body is balanced better and allows for maximum breathing potential. Once you have master breathing technique and stance, you will find that your voice become much more projected and resonant. - 22 Release your latent Alpha Male You may have come across the term "Alpha Male' before. An "Alpha Male' is the leader of a pack of animals, usually wolves. He has the pick of the females, he eats first, he enters and
leaves the den before anyone else, and all the other males show deference to him. I was at my friend's house the other day, he was fixing my laptop (computer genius, I love that guy). Anyway, I came across a book about dog training lying on his coffee table. And, being an avid book lover, I couldn't put it down. It essentially showed that to control and train your dog, you have to show it that you are the Alpha Male. Try and read a book about dog history, and the way wolves live in packs and you'll get an better understanding of what an Alpha Male really is. So, why am I am going on about being the Alpha Male? What relevance do wolf packs have to do with seduction? Well ... "The Alpha Male always gets laid." A bit of research will show you that the "Alpha Male' in a wolf pack is not always the biggest or strongest wolf. The "Alpha Male' is just the wolf that fucks all the females. Build and project the image of power and dominance, and you can have any woman you want. Men, like wolves and apes, are also pack animals. Women want the Alpha Male. A woman's primeval instinct yearns for her to be dominated. Dominated by a man of power and stature. Even the hottest, bitchiest girls want a man to lead. The bitchy attitude is just a test to find out who the Alpha Male is. It today society, rock stars, footballers, athletes with big muscles, millionaires can all project Alpha Status. The good news is, you don't have to become any of these things to become an "Alpha Male'. What you do have to do, however, is to project the aura and image of an Alpha Male. How can you do that? Apart from being confident, dominant, leading, in control, calm and collected? I have a simple solution for you. My grandfather, who was a multi- millionaire in his own right, once told me. Think, dress, walk like a millionaire. And you will become a millionaire. Even when he was on the verge of poverty, and had nothing to his name, he still had a powerful belief that he would one day become very, very rich. Now, I'm applying it to you. Think, dress, walk like an Alpha Male and you will become an Alpha Male. Imagine you are having regular sex with the world's most beautiful women change your reality into your own vision. Keep yourself clean and well-groomed. Feel confident and become more outgoing - get out of your own head. Don't take shit from anyone, including women. If they do something to displease you, let them know what your boundaries are. Become more responsive to people in general - listen and become respected. Be assertive, but not aggressive, and have fun in your life, because you will attract more of the same. - 24 What are my body's non-verbal communications? Inter-human communication can be divided into two clear levels, verbal and non- verbal. Although verbal communication is widely acknowledged, and there is much more awareness of it, non-verbal is often referred to as the true, base level of communications. Our primitive ancestors used this system long before complex languages had developed, even long before mankind started grunting and groaning. Non verbal communication reveals the true feelings of a person, because this system of communication is ingrained into the human psyche, through millions of years of evolution. Modern man uses non-verbal communication as an alternative, or an accompaniment to the spoken word. Sometimes an expression can say much more than a word can. For example, a child who has stolen sweets or damaged the family car will have a guilty look on his or her face. And you may witness constant fidgeting, touching the face, looking down or across the room and lack of eye contact with the parent. The look can somewhat resemble that of a puppy who has just created a puddle. When someone is frightened, his facial muscles, especially around the mouth tend to pull back. Now, if you take the smile, which is a universally recognised expression of friendliness, you will notice that it is similar to the 'fear' reaction. When a person smiles, he makes the other person feel at ease, because sub-consciously, he realises that if the person is afraid, therefore he cannot be a threat. The smile is widely used in the courting ritual. We share this trait with many great apes, especially our closest relative, the chimpanzee.
Incidentally, the genetic difference in D.N.A between humans and chimpanzees is approximately 1%. Different facial components signify different responses, for example, if someone has their jaw thrust forward, they could be self-confident, arrogant, extremely alert or at ease. An angry person can be distinguished by the way he stares, the colour of his cheeks, and a clenched jaw. Facial muscles tightly drawn and grinding teeth may signify the person is nervous or stressed. Apart from facial expressions, the hands can also tell a great deal about the person. If a person is hunched, or walks with a stoop, despite him having to spinal deficiencies, he is deemed to be a reclusive, anti-social person. He may have a troubled life, and this can show onto the way he walks or carries himself. The subconscious recognises this, and creates a vicious circle, where his body language becomes more and more pathetic. If a person has all his limbs uncrossed, and his hands visible and palms open, this can show that the person is sincere. These actions can be faked by politicians to appear more friendly and trustworthy to the electorate. In saying that, although the body actions can be faked to an extent, they facial expressions will always give the game away, stressed, furrowed brows, a grimaced mouth, squinted eyes can reveal that all may not be as it seems within the person. Crossing the arms in front of oneself may signify that the person is not sure of himself, or feels vulnerable and defensive. Therefore the crossed arms are protecting the sensitive internal organs, heart, spleen, liver, lungs etc. It is possible that man may have had this response programmed, somehow this natural protective action survived as a gene, through millions of years. - 25 Now, contrast this with a school-teacher, a powerful baron, or a factory manager. He will walk about his domain with his hands crossed behind his back, head up, chest out, shoulders back and spine arched straight. This is a signal of authority and power, that he has nothing to fear from anyone, and does not feel threatened. Compare the two types of opposing Non Verbal Communication. ...although the body actions can be faked to an extent, the facial expressions will always give the game away... Non Verbal Communication can be divided into three main areas, which are Kinesics, Proxemics and Para-Linguistics. Kinesics involve facial expressions such as smiles, frowns, narrowed eyes, transmitting anger, frustration, friendliness, disbelief, etc. Gestures such as pointing towards someone, giving a thumbs up sign, shaking the head, etc. Movements, including pacing up and down a room, finger-drumming as to indicate boredom, transmitting impatience or relaxation. Proxemics include physical contact, shaking hands with someone, prodding someone with a finger in a provocative way, clapping someone on the back as if to congratulate, transmitting greetings, insistence or friendship. Positioning also comes under this category, keeping a respectful distance, for example, if walking down a quiet street and a woman is walking the same direction, it would be wise for the man to walk across the other side of the road, so that the woman doesnt feel threatened. Also posture, standing straight and erect, lounging, sitting hunched up, leaning forward, spread across a chair, transmitting alertness and care, self-confidence, nervousness or ease. Para-Linguistics are feedback sounds of surprise, agreement, annoyance or impatience. 'Uh uh, whew!, oops!, tsk, tut tut, etc. Human relations skills and effective working requires a finely tuned awareness of Non-verbal communication. It can help a person to quickly read a situation and to prevent problems from occurring. Nightclub stewards for example need to understand the intricacies of NVC as the safety of the clients depends on their intuition. For example, if a steward is confronted by a person who shows arrogance at the door, sneering, and staring at other people in the crowd, there is a very high chance that the person is looking for violence, and once he has consumed alcohol in the club, it is very likely he will hurt someone. If the steward is alert, he
will recognise the signs and not let the person in. If the steward is highly experienced, he will use NVC of his own to send a subconscious signal to the aggressor to back away. He will look into his eyes, and try not to show any outward signs of adrenaline or emotional excess, which can be misinterpreted as fear. This shows that the ability to read body language and NVC can save lives, prevent conflict and ensure success when dealing with other people. Non-verbal communication is a vital aspect of society and should be studied and observed as the benefits to one's personal life and career can be immense. Learning to liaise with colleagues at work, reading a spouse's mood can prevent family trouble and arguments. Also, if you discipline your kids, but your body actions are not in synchronisation with your words, the child may feel as if you are hesitant or unsure, and may become unruly. If on the other hand, you can adopt a strong body pose and send powerful signals, the child will know that you are serious, and will obey your instructions, therefore becoming a wellrounded and happy person. - 26 If you ever have the misfortune to enter into a potentially violent situation in the street or in the pub, you may have the skills to diffuse the situation, before it escalates into physical violence, which can cause serious injury or even death. Relating to pickup, non-verbal communication is essential, as the first impressions are made non verbally. If you see a woman you like in a bar for instance, it is important to first make eye contact, then smile to show you're not a threat, then, by using an open, and confident posture, you display your body from different angles, so that your potential mate can size you up. Many psychologists say that when entering a room where a party is held, it is advisable to stand at the doorway or four seconds before entering, so that all the potential mates can check you out, and vice versa. - 27 Improving your body language - What vibe are you giving? Women can smell insecurity, anxiety and nerves, without you having to say a word. When you approach a strange woman for the first time, bear in mind that she is far more socially intuitive than you. She has been approached by thousands of men in her lifetime, and naturally screens men to weed out the wheat from the chaff. Coming back to the question if you're an alpha male or not. What you need to do is to eliminate all signs of nerves, and replace that with calmness and relaxation, changing what your body is sub-communicating, i.e. little subconscious movements and gestures. The way to do this is to practice approaching girls. Lean back (don't lean into the girl or 'peck'), use a louder voice than normal (trust me, it wont be too loud - chances are that you're too quiet just now), maintain relaxed eye contact, keep your hands visible, don't frown, smile! Also, try and take up weight training. Seriously, do itl Actors who want to increase their celluloid presence often train with weights, so that they can come across as more convincing and charismatic on screen. To create a deeper sense of aura, start a martial art, for example my personal art is taekwondo and you'll exude powerful, confident vibes (read the next section for my recommendation). Listen to uplifting music before going on a night out. Maybe something which stirs you, like the theme tune to 'Braveheart' (well, I love it!). Watch a comedy sketch a couple of times a week to help get into a happy frame of mind! The most important thing is to enjoy the process, don't think about bedding the girl you are speaking to, show genuine interest in her as a person, and don't be afraid of hiding your sexual intent. You're a man after all, and women prefer honesty rather than bullshit. - 29 Giving out a powerful aura using martial arts "What strikes me about him is his demeanour. He seems genuine; relaxed; pleasant; and polite... like he doesn't feel he has to put up some tough guy front like a lot of guys do. Maybe this is because of his martial arts and the fact he genuinely tough. I've also found this with friends with military backgrounds and a street brawler I know. There's no need for them to try too hard." - Louis Roederer commenting about IceDragon Martial arts, as I explained, are very, very useful in creating the correct body sub communications. I personally use Taekwondo to maintain my fitness and power, and this helps me project alpha male vibes, which women can smell. Five minutes from entering any
social situation, I start getting indicators of attraction from women. You may choose another form of combat. My friend Tom for example, is a former Royal Marines Commando, and regularly engages in extreme endurance training. You know, when he walks into a room, with a complete absence of fear, every pair of eyes is on him. Men respect him, and women want him. However, here's an explanation on why I practice Taekwondo. Since Roman times and before, mankind has always had a lust for mortal combat, maybe the reason why "No Holds Barred'fighting competitions such as UFC haven't captured the public imagination the way boxing has is that it appears to be commercialized. Boasting about having "no rules' is clearly transparent, of course there are rules! Taekwondo is different. It is closer to boxing, it is for real. Very real. Although many arts such as Karate may have similar looking techniques as Taekwondo, they are nothing compared to the effectiveness of Taekwondo, where the techniques are scientifically proven and are under constant research in the universities of South Korea. The precise speed at each moment, body balance, positioning, angles of the body are all regulated and rigorously practiced until they become automated. Unless witnessed, it is difficult to appreciate the beauty and art of the movements. As one observer (a Karate expert) so aptly put it "watching Taekwondo performed by someone who knows what he's doing shatters your sense of reality'. Evolved from the ancient Korean art of Taekyon, modern Taekwondo is arguably Korea's greatest gift to the world. The World Taekwondo Federation, based in South Korea, regulates Taekwondo. It is well known for being a lethal form of self-defense, applicable in all situations. It is said that a Taekwondo practitioner can meet an opponent any time and any place, and he/she uses his whole body as a weapon. The whole body is used to fend off attackers. Once the basic Taekwondo formula has been learned, the practitioner can utilize it for use in street situations, by harnessing the power of his/her body. In today's dangerous world, knowledge of self-defense is vital, just to survive, and protect your loved ones. The beauty of Taekwondo is that a seven stone woman can easily beat off a sixteen stone man with total confidence. She is given the choice whether to restrain, disable or even kill the aggressor. Size has absolutely nothing to do with it. Taekwondo evens the odds, and gives, otherwise vulnerable people, the total confidence and power to deal with any sort of attacker. As training in Taekwondo progresses, the student begins to realize how everything fits in. The mist clears, and secrets which were otherwise hidden, reveal themselves. The student understands what it takes to defeat any opponent. It is not unknown for Taekwondo practitioners to be able to end a fight within seconds. When facing a Taekwondo practitioner, the opponent will not even know they've been hit (Taekwondo theory of speed and power) until they are lying on the ground, like a discarded piece of garbage. This may seem harsh, but the reality is that rapists and murderers are rife, and sometimes in order to protect your life, such action is vital. The student will learn how to double their power using the tools at their disposal, their own body... - 31 The mental conditioning learned serves well in all other aspects of life. Dealing with bereavement, losses and the trials of life become easier. Taekwondo's code forbids unfair assaults or unnecessary use of force. The practice of Taekwondo gives an individual an empowered metal attitude and modesty. It is true to say that the virtues of modesty and generosity are fundamentally based on self- confidence, and self-confidence also makes people generous in their attitudes towards weaker people. Taekwondo is an excellent method of cardiovascular fitness. Within a month of training, you will sleep better. Your body will become more efficient at disposing waste, and the blood will circulate better through the body, preventing the development of coronary heart disease in the future. Blood vessels and arteries may become suppler and blood pressure may fall. Packing up and taking a new job, taking risks, professional and personal, become less daunting if the mind is unclouded and the outlook is positive. Women can benefit tremendously from training. The body becomes more toned, and excess fat on the hips and legs is burned away from the special Taekwondo exercises. Weight loss is guaranteed, and a flat, toned abdominal region will result. Every Taekwondo practitioner has a solid stomach. For women who have given birth, Taekwondo is the way to regain your figure, tightening you body again, and strengthening the pelvic muscles, which are weakened through child-birth.
Taekwondo is a total body workout from head to toe. Fads such as Tae-Bo are based on Taekwondo (Billy Blanks is a keen Taekwondo student), the exercises are all found within the art. Muscle tension and release exercises, they have to be experienced! Taekwondo is a great way to get fit and build confidence in children. Taekwondo sets kids on the right path from an early age. Children, who start Taekwondo, tend to remain physically fit into adulthood, and have less chance of becoming ill. Once they realize how Taekwondo is benefiting them, they will do nothing to jeopardize their training (junk food, smoking, drugs, alcohol, etc). They will learn to respect their bodies and people around them, becoming more generous human beings. People require solace in today's fast paced world, hence the popularity in self-help, motivational theories and self-development. People are turning to Eastern philosophies in search of peace of mind, happiness and inner warmth. Taekwondo can provide that, it can provide strength of mind, body and spirit, and alleviate the stresses and pressures of modern life. People want to go out to find new friends, meet new people. There is no better way to do this than to join a club, where you will meet like minded people. People who care about their own health will be capable of caring for others, and friends like that are invaluable. Apart from just training, people can chat before classes, have fun training with their new friends, encourage each other to go that step further, to push themselves, congratulate them on successful execution of techniques, console them if they ever hit a plateau, and be there for each other, even staying after class to assist in stretching, techniques, etc. Taekwondo is a very social sport, and team-building is actively encouraged. There have been many technological advances in Taekwondo. Numerous CDs and DVDs are now available, so that techniques practiced in class can be revised at home. Although a black belt instructor is vital, home study via computer or internet can greatly assist and make the learning process much faster. You will be bitten by the Taekwondo bug! If still undecided about whether to take positive steps to radically transform your life, consider this quote: "Choosing a goal may cause only a slight change in your life's direction at first. It's like one of those huge freighters at sea: If the captain shifts course by just a few degrees, it won't be noticeable immediately. But in several hours or days, this change in direction will bring the ship to a completely different destination." - 33 How can I convey an interesting personality? You have to create your own identity, so that you have something to be passionate about and talk about, and girls can then build a picture of you, and differentiate you from other guys. Whatever you do, you have to love it and be passionate about it. If you can't think how you can be passionate about your job, email me and tell me what you do -1 will show you how you can be passionate about your life. Real life examples: Sensual's Job: I am not in computing though I use a computer. I have passed all management accountancy exams but I work as a "Customer Investment Analyst" for a mobile phone network. Basically I provide analysis on costs of handsets that we buy and sell out to channels, ie shops, web, etc. We do this at a loss so we can recoup the revenue later from calls & texts. Sensual's Job - retold by IceDragon: I studied accountancy at university, although 'number-crunching' was not what I really wanted to do. However, I've always been focused and driven throughout my life, I never do things halfway, so I stuck at it, and completed my studies. Let me see your mobile phone. *take girl's mobile phone* I decided to use my degree and knowledge to make a difference, and work in a field which is relevant to everyone. This looks like the latest model. How much did it cost you? Have you ever wondered why it's so cheap, when you take into account the technology that went into producing it? Let me see, MP3 player, camera, web-browser, radio, there is thousands of pounds worth of technology in this little beauty. This is such a cool phone - my ex-girlfriend had the model before this. So, this phone was Free? haha! That's my job. I analyse the costs of mobile phones. We sell our handsets to retail outlets, shops, websites, etc. But I bet you're wondering how we make money by virtually giving away phones?
I work for a mobile phone network, and yes, you've guessed it, we recoup our money from the phone calls and texts that you make. Here, I want to show you some cool photos on my phone ... *put your hand on her shoulder* Yata's job: As a job I work as an admin officer at Her Majesty's revenue and customs, basically sitting at a computer working through tax credit cases, boring crap work, hard to make it seem good. Yata's job (retold by IceDragon): What do you think of when the word 'corporate criminal' or "respectable criminal' comes to mind? You know, Al Pacino in 'Scarface', Denzel Washington in 'American Gangster'. Not only your usual Saturday night yob! haha! Seriously, corporate crime is a vastly more intricate process than we realise. There are so much fucking scandals going on in this world. Take tax evasion, VAT fraud for instance. You may think it's no big deal, but it's costing our country billions of pounds a year, and to be perfectly honest, it's people like you and me who are being robbed, and ultimately, have to foot the bill. - 34 More businessmen are being jailed due to this more than ever. That's my job, I work for the HMRC, and handle many important cases and it's really fascinating. No two days are ever the same, God, even though I work for them, sometimes I think the revenue can be a bit harsh. However, I love the job, because of the detailed cases I have to sift through, and I am constantly learning . . . how NOT to tax evadel hahahal Kiddingl Maybel I've always wanted to investigate, ever since I was a kid, and I guess my dream is coming true. Working for a powerful government department has it's perks, i.e. pay, prestige, but it just means that I need to de-stress and relax more, due to the demanding nature of my job ... talking of which, show me how good you are at massaging . . . *turn your back to her and signal her to rub your shoulders* These are just a couple of examples, but you get the picture. Reframe and focus on the positive aspects of your life. Part II - Playing The Game - 36 The key to pickup success Pickup is a skill, the skill of seduction. Like ANY skill, PICKUP CAN BE LEARNT, up to a point. No one can be taught to be a brilliant pickup artist, just as no one can be taught to be a brilliant chess player. Brilliance requires talent. Whether any of us have the talent, is in the hands of God. However, I can teach you COMPETENCE in pickup. Competence is about not making errors. We can be taught how not to make errors, simply that. In the same way, we can learn an error-free performance in the field. But unlike the chess player, an error-free pickup is something more. It is highly unusual. Pickup without errors is no small achievement. As with any skill, PRACTICE is what is necessary. Reading this book will be perfectly useless in the absence of practice. We learn pickup by doing. So practice, Practice, Practice and Practice some more. Try out what you learn from this book. If something does not work for you, form that opinion after you have tried it and not before. You may disagree with some of the things I say. However, TRY THINGS OUT before you disagree with them, not beforehand. Pickup should involve experimenting. Regularly - Trying to IMPROVE existing skills and trying to create NEW skills. Don't sit around. Get up and do. Practice in front of the mirror. Practice in front of friends. Practice to and from work in the quiet of your mind on the train. Always be looking for ways of developing new tactics and gambits. Think of new ideas and in time have the courage to try them. - 37 -
The importance of smiling Pre-approach, you have to bear something in mind - the power of a well-timed (sincere looking) smile is LETHAL! As you're walking down the street, smile at as many people as you possibly can, I don't care if they're girls, guys, kids, grannies, transvestites, homosexuals, JUST SMILE. If possible, also say hi. You see, society has conditioned people not to smile at strangers, just walk on by with a straight, emotionless expression. If you practice smiling at strangers EVERY DAY and in EVERY SITUATION, approaching girls will be TEN TIMES more effective. I've seen guys approach girls with a solemn expression, and wonder why the hell they were blown out. If you do it properly in the street, you will get girls smiling back, looking intrigued and even approaching YOU. Take my word for it. It's happens to me all the time. I walked into this library, made eye contact with a couple of girl, smiled broadly and said 'hi' (No, I don't care whether I knew them or not, and I don't care if they respond or not). So, I sat down on the computer and started working. I was leaning back, as if I was sitting down to watch a football game! I heard this voice say "excuse me'. I stayed where I was, but just slowly turned my head and said 'yeah'. It was an Asian girl, stunning figure, gorgeous face, long black hair. Her perfect breasts were bursting through her red t-shirt. She said 'I was wondering if you can help me, I'm struggling with my work'. Ok, I never met this girl in my life, and I don't look like a teacher! I said 'sure, what u struggling with?' We started talking and flirting. She asked my name, and where I stayed. Then she asked my age. I said "I feel really old'. She said "noooo!! you look so young!'. I then said to her Nets work together'. She got excited and took her phone out! She said "we should exchange numbers'. I took her number, gave her mine, then told her to go and do her work as she was keeping me back from mine! I was walking down the mall once, and decided to approach some girls. I walked, making eye-contact with everyone, and smiling. Here is the important bit. I only opened the girls who smiled back. So, try this, make eye-contact, smile, open, then start a conversation. You will have no problems in getting the phone number. Just tell her to give it to you. Dont ask. It's not rocket science. You're more than capable of doing it, and I'm not going to tell you to do X, Y and Z, and bingo, you've got the number. Go out there and do it, and you will get a feel for it, and what to do and what not to do. - 39 Opening Correctly One of my female friends once told me that she was on a bus, listening to her MP3 player, and this guy came and sat next to her. He motioned for her to take her earphones out, then asked her for recommendations for MP3 players, as he was looking to buy one. I thought 'great conversation starter'. This conversation starter was very genuine, situational and observational. However, they talked about MP3 players for the rest of the bus journey, big mistake. You have to move on from there. You have to do a transition from your starting point and move on. The way to do this is to select something she says, and explore that. For example, if my girlfriend had said "well, I bought mine from Dixons', he could have said "oh, my sister works in Dixons, that is a great place to work; they get 40% staff discounts! So, where do you work?' Alternatively, he could have said "so, what are you listening to?'. That would have moved things on nicely, and he could have commented on the music. After this, it is time to attract the girl. Girls are attracted to guys who have an equal or higher value to them. You can do this by telling her a story about yourself, which is funny, but not self-depreciating. A story, which demonstrates leadership, confidence, etc. Challenge the girl. Tell her she's fun but not your type. Tell her that you and her would not get along. This is known as disqualifying yourself. Look out for signs that she is attracted to you, such as touching, reinitiating of conversation when you stop, giggling, playing with her hair, licking her lips, etc.
Qualify her. Ask her if she can cook, jokingly or otherwise. Once you are past this attraction stage, you can talk about her job, even ask her name! On the bus, or on the street, you may have very little time, so arrange another meeting with her, and get her contact details. There is no need to over-complicate this. You both enjoyed each other's company, find out common interests, and exchange numbers. It is very simple. - 42 I don't know what to say to a woman! Not knowing what to say is a problem every guy has faced when approaching a woman. Here is a tip for you. Instead of thinking of it as 'approaching a woman', reframe it in your own mind to starting a conversation. Starting a conversation should be very natural. The key here is that good conversation is fun. Remember, conversation links people together, and it is the single most important factor in establishing human relations. So, why be so afraid to start a conversation? In interactions with women you don't know, you must take the lead. Most people feel inadequate in talking to others. However, you are different from most people. You are a man who is empowered with the help of this book. Conversation is the art of self-expression. This is your opportunity to tell the world how you feel, let off steam and assert your individuality. Don't give a damn about what response you may or may not get. Say what you feel, to whom you feel. You ,don't need anyone's permission to talk to them, because you want, when you want. Think of conversation as therapeutic, like gardening, fish-keeping, painting. It is an art which you will master, with practice, practice, practice and...practice. Do not worry too much about premeditated openers, and gambits. By all means, have a couple of gambits stashed away in your head (I'll give you some GOLD soon), if you can't think of anything else, but be observant when you meet a strange woman. What is she holding? What kind of clothes is she wearing? What kind of mobile phone has she got? These questions can tell a lot about a woman. Here is an example of what I did at a bookshop once. I was looking at some books, and this girl walked passed me, I said 'stop', she stopped and looked at me, then I said "you nearly got away there, and I would have lost my chance to talk to you'. She smiled and turned back. I asked her what she did, and then I stopped her before she answered and said "wait, let me guess - you're a psychology student'. She said that I was right, and then asked me how I knew. She had a 'psychology book in her bag'. These observational conversation starters can be used in any environment. With this particular girl, I got her phone number her very easily. In saying that however, it is important to not use Name approaches'. By this I mean, don't use cliched openers, which every other guy has used on a girl. You know, rapport seeking questions, such as "nice place, do you come here often?', "What do you think of the weather?', "what is your name?', "what do you do?' -43You don't want to make obvious, boring comments, and you don't want to make the girl feel as if she is at an interview. I was in this bar with a date once. She was at the bar, and this guy sidled up to her. I was sitting on the couches observing and noticed the way she closed him off with her body language and demeanour. Later I asked her what he said to her, and she told me it was something like The drinks here are really cheap'. I told her the reason she didn't engage him because it was a lame opener, apart from that he came across as too rapport seeking. She disagreed. I told her that attraction was not a choice, and if she have a choice but to engage and become attracted. She continued to disagree, so I told her we would do an experiment. I would open her, and she would tell me what she would respond with. I said "hi, how are you doing?' She said she would reply 'fine', then turn away'. I then opened her with 'tell me three things about you which would make me want to get to know you better'. It was not a question. It was an instruction. Dominance, authority, be the alpha male. She replied 'I would outsmart you and ask you to tell me 10 things about you which would make me want to get to know you better'.
I asked her "why would you care about which qualities a random stranger at a bar possesses which would make you want to get to know him better? The frame is being set that you two WILL get to know each other better'. She was completely at a loss for words, and tried to justify what she said, but at the end she had to agree she would be intrigued at the stranger's question, and would want to engage. This is called attraction, my friend. She was attracted by the dominant, alpha male approach, an approach which is biologically ingrained into every woman's psyche. They want to be led. The man is not traditionally the hunter for nothing; he is the hunter, provider and protector for a reason. Embrace it and become your true self. Any woman, any place can be attracted, if she is approached and opened correctly. - 45 Want to talk? Then learn to listen! One of the most common mistakes that men make when talking to women is... talking! Let's face it - men, by their very nature, are aggressive. They like to be heard. They like people to listen. They like everyone to think that they are the best example of the human species on the planet. They like to show off. They like everyone to hear about how great they are. And, if there are women in the near vicinity, men are especially keen that the women hear about just how wonderful a man they are. This is all very well when it comes to a bunch of lads on-the-town on a Friday night - but it's actually a hindrance when it comes to meeting a girl for the first time, and trying to strike-up a conversation with her. I Just imagine the situation - you're sitting there, opposite one of the most beautiful women you have ever seen, in a restaurant where a starter costs twice the price of a main course down at I your local pub, and you start talking about how great you are. And you keep going and going. Eventually you pause for ' breath. She smiles, and excuses herself to go and "powder her nose". She gets up, and walks away and keeps going, right out of the restaurant, right down the street & into a taxi and home to her flat. And that's it. You've blown it. If only you'd shut-up for 30 seconds to actually listen to what she had to say for herself, she might still be sitting there with you right now... The key to holding a conversation with someone you've just met - either walking down the street, or on a blind date in a restaurant, or wherever - is remembering that there are two people involved in a conversation. Conversations are, by their very nature, a two- sided process. Those that are one-sided are called "speeches" or, even worse, "lectures"...! By listening to what the lady has to say for herself, you'll help her relax and start earning some of her respect. Here are some Top Tips for listening: Eye contact is important. If you're not looking at her, she'll think you're not listening! However, don't just sit there and stare at her - that will put you into the "psycho" category... Question her. You can use the just the boring stuff like "What have you been up to today?" and "What do you do for a living" to start the conversation, but keep the questions by getting a bit more detail. So, she's had a bad day at work - does she usually enjoy her work? She's thinking of getting a new car - has she a specific one in mind, or is she planning to test drive some? Obviously, you can't just sit there and fire questions at her every 3 seconds - moderation is the key! - Listen to what she has to say, and don't rush-in with your opinions. "I was at the dentist today", she says. "I hate dentists," you reply, "because they're all stuck-up, rip- off merchants". ^m "My brother is a dentist" is her reply, right before the door closes behind \ her and you never hear from her again. Just remember - the key to I talking is to listen to what she has to say, and take an interest in what is she saying. Don't just keep waiting for your own turn to speak - or you'll find yourself having to make conversation with yourself very quickly... Emotions versus Logic The human being tends to think of himself as a rational, logical entity. That is not so. A human is the most emotional creature there is. Man lets his subconscious rule his conscious mind, after all, 90% of the decisions are made by the -
subconscious mind. Think about it. People fall in love with people who are totally different from them. While the conscious mind would say 'hey, what are you doing here?', the subconscious is way more powerful. A guy I know fell madly in love with an ageing, chain smoking single mother. He just couldn't explain it. The same goes with phobias. Why do some people recoil in fear of spiders? Logically, the little critters can't harm us, everyone knows that. But, the subconscious says "keep away, it'll do bad things to you. Beliefs, religions are not logical. Think of cults, David Koresh, the Moonies and Kabala. Irrational belief is required. If the cult requires suicide, bet you the followers would do it. What is the biggest financial decision a person will ever make? Buying a home. Is it made on logic? Wrong! It's always an emotional decision. I was watching this home makeover program on tv, this couple were trying to sell a house in a certain area, and despite being on the market for 8 months, it didn't sell, even though other houses in the same are sold like hotcakes. The problem was that the interior was too garish, and the house was cluttered. The makeover team came in and re-painted the walls, re-carpeted using neutral colours, and decluttered the house. Instead of selling the house for $155,000, it sold for $175,000 , even though only $2,500 was spent on furnishing it!!! If the buyers had thought logically, they would have thought This house has been on the market for 8 months, the sellers will be desperate. I'll offer $145,000, re-decorate it the way I want rather that the way the make-over team wants. The value will go up by $30,000!!!! I can take all the clutter and hold a garage sale, making even more profit.' But, people are emotional creatures. So, if the biggest financial decision of a person's life is based on emotions, what chance do all the other, smaller decisions have??? How does this relate to picking up women? Well, it further reinforces the line of thought that attraction is not a choice, and women can be successfully seduced EVERY TIME if guys can dictate and direct their emotions. Like everything else in life, seduction is not logical! It is whatever we make the woman believe it is. - 50 A warning about relying solely on canned routines and gambits Before I give you some of my personal gambits to use, I have to give you a warning against relying on them too much. Gambit: Typically a short memorised line or routine that can be used to deal with specific situations that arise during a conversation. I have literally lost count of the number of guys I've met, hitting a high and getting a good reaction from girls, which they then attribute to the super, amazing, magic gambit they've just used. When I've turned round and told them, "it wasn't the routine, she was into you, and you would have had similar success with her without using that routine. Then the guy just looks at me as if I'm stupid. How could I doubt the Routine (with a capital 'R'). Isn't the Routine, the essence of the 'game'? I always try to explain that if I open up a set, and throw that routine in, chances are that I wont get an amazing reaction. Why? It's because it all comes down to context, calibration and sensitivity. Let's take a glance at some basic psychology... In 1948, an interesting experiment was conducted by the influential American behavioural psychologist, B.F. Skinner (1904-1990). I advise anyone remotely interested in the art of seduction to study some of his pioneering work on human behaviour. In the course of this test, pigeons were placed into glass tanks, and a feeder was attached to each tank, through which bread was dropped every fifteen seconds. The birds were monitored and Skinner observed that the pigeons were actively trying to work out how the food was released. Although the food was arriving independently of their actions, an early drop would be programmed to occur at the same time the bird made a particular gesture, such as bobbing its head or shouting, "drop some bread, Mr Skinner". At this point the pigeons presumed that their actions had made the food drop so they kept carrying out this action/routine even though it had absolutely no effect on the speed that the bread would fall! Another separate, non pigeon related, experiment was conducted where Skinner put a digital Scoreboard up and got adults to pull 3 levers, the adults were told that if they pulled the
levers in a certain sequence they were more likely to get points, of course this wasn't true the points the adults were given were completely random. The adults swore that if they pulled the levers in a certain sequence they would get more points. This mistaken belief that 'routines' or "sequences' are working is affecting nearly everyone's game. Now if you go up to a girl and say to "who lies more men or women?" and conduct a proper statistical observation of your results after a few sets you will find that you dont actually have that much success. In fact you probably have very little success but because sometimes you are rewarded (you get laid) you think that it would work consistently. I want to encourage you guys to use a more natural approach instead of canned routines. If you have developed canned routines that works consistently for you then by all means use them. However, if you take the time to logically analyse your results and you find routines are only working for you sometimes then I suggest a more natural, balanced and holistic approach to seduction. - 52 IceDragon's Sample Conversational Gambits The following gambits have been tried and tested - they work. However, use them initially, but in time, develop your own, by using your own life experiences. Laura's Lost Phone; Here's a short story, for you to try out during your conversation with a girl, perhaps in a bar. It demonstrates powerful things about you, such as: • You have female friends (you have women around you) • You protect your woman, are calm, collected and strong (you are a protector) • Ex-Girlfriend and you having sex (you are a sexual male) • You have a sense of humour (signifies confidence) So, I met my friend Laura for a few of drinks last Saturday. We hadn't seen each other for a while, and it was great to meet up again, and chat about the good old days. She was a friend of my ex-girlfriend's, and had accidentally walked in on us having sex one night, but that's a different story! We always have a laugh about that. Anyway, Laura discovered that she'd lost her phone, and started panicking. I just said "Just relax, I'm here, we'll get your phone back". I called it up, and there was no answer, so I sent a text message saying "Please call this number when you find this phone, reward available". An hour went by, and no-one called! So, I said to Laura "We'll re-trace our steps, and go back to every bar we'd been to". So we did. We went back to all the bars, and no-one had it. We went back to the Polo Lounge, and all these guys started eyeing me up! I asked one of the guys, who looked as if he worked there if he had found a mobile phone. He started searching me, slying feeling my crotch and chest! I said "whoa, whoa, I don't have it, I was asking if you had found it!". He said "Oh, sorry, no". Yes, we went to a gay bar, cos Laura likes the decor! Anyway, we were about to go to the local police station when I said to Laura "Open you handbag". She did, and lo and behold, underneath all that junk she found her phone! Why do women carry so much junk?! - 53 Approaching Bar Girls in a Restaurant I was having a meal with a friend in a busy Thai restaurant. I thought the bar girl was pretty hot. So, I phoned her at the restaurant while I was sitting there. I told her the service was terrible as I'd been in the restaurant for 20 minutes, and she hadn't even come up to my table and said hello! That way she wouldn't have got into trouble from her manager or whatever, as she could have been on the phone to a customer. We chatted for a few minutes, and then I hung up, to avoid suspicion, and I called again, to re-initiate the game . . . and eventually got her phone number. This method avoids the social pressure and awkwardness of hanging around the bar. Try it, next time you're in a restaurant! Football Opening Gambit for mixed groups (males and females) When approaching a mixed group of guys and girls, walk up to the girls and say 'hey guys, any idea what the football score was?', then say "wait a minute, I'd better not ask you, I mean, what would you know about football', then turn to the boys and start talking football. Done correctly, the girls will then try and get in on the conversation saying "we do know about football'. Just say "yeah, whatever', and keep talking to the boys. Then excuse yourself from the guys for a minute and say to the girls 'if you can tell me what the offside rule is, I'll
talk to you'. Then after hearing their explanation, you can demonstrate what the offside rule is using the beer bottles and glasses on the table. From this you can move into normal conversation with the girl. Phone/Text Opener I first thought of this opener a couple of months ago, and quickly realised the value of it. Think about it. The girls probably think another girl gave you her number, therefore you're not hitting on them (unless you're a player, but a player would never tell other girls he just got another girl's number), so it's a revitalising chain of thought. Plus, it subconsciously triggers the pre-selection value attraction switch in the girl's minds, that other girls must find you attractive, therefore that's the reason they gave you their number . . . that increases your attraction value from the outset. By the time you finish your opener, did your routines and gamed them, the girls will forget what you initially opened them with, and you can move in for the kill. I can actually hear your mind cogs turning! I've used this opener very successfully in the past, it opens sets up like a hot knife through butter, and I always keep it as a 'reserve' opener, even when I'm testing out new openers. IceDragon: "Hey guys, phone or text?" Girls: "What?" IceDragon: "If you gave a guy your number, initially, would you prefer him to phone or text you?" Girl 1: "Ooohh, I don’t know, text I think" Girl 2: "Noooo, phone, it's more personal" IceDragon: "OMG, I'm confused now! You guys are like watching Trisha" It is so easy to open with this one, and gets the girls talking. - 54 Try this one at your own risk! Women want what they can't have If women see you with other girls, your attraction levels increase (as you will see in the next section). However, you can take this to a whole new level, with astonishing results. When talking to a girl, mention one of these two things: • You have a CURRENT girlfriend, • You are CURRENTLY seeing other girls and insinuate that if she is with you, she will not be exclusive. Of course, if she proves herself in due course, she may become exclusive. Girls will be more eager to give you their numbers, and will actually push you for a day 2, creating less work for you. Let me re-iterate. WOMEN WANT WHAT THEY CANT HAVE. It's all very well saying that you previously dated a hot girl, and now have a vacancy for another girl in your life, but mention that you are CURRENTLY attached as opposed to PREVIOUSLY having dated a hot girl. You can get phone numbers without saying this, and get the phone number and day 2 easily, but if you take this advice, you will get what you want faster, and with less effort. I actually took this experiment one step further, and told a girl that I am a dating coach, and shared some techniques. She doesn't stop phoning me... I then told her ' it's not easy to get a meeting with a guy like me' ...she said 'I'm sure you can find some time, as I would be so lucky', I then said 'Actually, I would be the lucky one to spend time with a woman like you' - I played havoc with her emotions. Then she said in a stunned voice, 'really? do you still have the photo you took of me in that bar, I've still got yours'. I then said 'yeah, I put it on Crimewatch'. I dont recommend you go as far as this, telling a girl that you are studying the IceDragon Method, and share techniques, as it was purely experimental, but you get the picture. It doesn't make logical sense, but IT WORKS. Remember, we are not logical apes, but intensely emotional creatures. Women want what they can't have. - 55 Approaching women during the day "If a guy approached me in a coffee shop, I would think he wants to set up a relationship with me. If he approached me in a nightclub, I would think he wants to have sex with me". Blue Moon, 25 Although I will give you some nightclub tactics, a good place to meet quality women, no
doubt, is during the day. You can find them in shopping malls, grocery stores, universities, garden centres, coffee shops and book shops. There is no better way to find your next girlfriend than approaching women during the day, since they know you are less likely to be drunk! They can react very well to your approach. Women don't expect to be approached during the day, and you can use this to your advantage. If you see a hot girl in a store, go up and tell her you like her. Simple as that. Use something like "I just saw you and think you look stunning. I just had to say hi'. It will appear sincere and genuine. Be comfortable with yourself, and she will feel comfortable with you. Traffic Light Phone Number An example of getting a phone number from an awkward situation! I was on the way to work this morning (9am), and sitting at the traffic lights, when I spotted a cute brunette working in a shop. I got the number from the shop sign and called it. ID "Hi, I just saw you from my car, and I like you. I want to meet you for a drink on Friday" Girl: "huh?" ID: "Tell you what, if you give me your number, I'll text you tonight" Girl: "You're bamming me up, right?" ID: "No, I'm serious" Girl: "Who is this?" ID: "A handsome stranger. It's dangerous to drive and chat on the phone, so give me your number!" Girl: "I don't even know you" ID: "If we met in a bar, and I asked for your number, would you give me the 'Oh, I don't know you'? Whatever happened to being sociable?" Girl: "but. . ." ID: "You looked like a nice girl, you have to show me that you're a nice person" Girl: "but..." ID: "What's coming between us, are you married?" Girl: "No" ID: "Do you have a boyfriend?" Girl: "well ..." ID: "You hesitated, either you don't have a boyfriend, or it's not serious" Girl: "This is so bizarre" ID: "Tell me about it, I don't do this everyday" Girl: "Why don't you give me your number?" ID: "I won't because girls don't call guys. It's a fact. Give me your number and I'll call you" Girl: "Ok, it's ..." ID: "hang on, let me get a pen, I am soooo unprepared for this!" Girl: "My number is ..." That was my 9am number close without even leaving my car! Nightclub Tactics The nightclub is a unique venue, and one rich with opportunities for meeting women. The key is to be use your body language, and alpha male characteristics. The women in nightclubs are there to meet men. They may say that they are going 'dancing' or "hang out', but that is all bullshit. Why else would they spend hours and hours putting on make-up, getting ready. They want the attentions of men. Sociability and Attitude' When you are in a club, make yourself at home in that environment. If you do not enjoy the bright lights and loud music of the club scene then it is time to change. Force yourself, since that is a target rich environment you need to get used to. Eventually you will enjoy it. The trick is to be sociable and friendly, to everyone. Act as if you own the venue, and have fun, without focusing on "getting a girl'. Women will notice you and will be far more receptive to your advances. Try and give out some sort of value to the people you are talking to. Greet people warmly, tell a couple of jokes, use some of the gambits I showed you earlier, if you can't think of anything to say. When you give out value, then people want to be around you, you will become much more interesting than staring at the glass of wine, or watching other people dancing. The way to give out value, is to lose your outcome dependence. However, later on, I'll explain that outcome focus is a separate part of nightclub game... Talk to guys, talk to girls you do not even find attractive. Be the party. Make them laugh,
show them a good time! This will build up your energy, and other, hotter girls will notice a buzz of energy around you and wonder who you are. This is very powerful. Don't be afraid to 'intrude'. Go ahead and chat to them, they're in a club, and they're here to be sociable. Give them a high-five, shake the guy's hand. Touching is good, as long as it's not sleazy, creepy touching. Human beings instinctively want to be touched, and it creates a stronger bond between people. If you practice touching regularly, it will seriously blow your mind. You may think that it would be weird, but I have been doing this for years, in all situations, not only in nightclubs. I always put my hand on a guy's shoulder when shaking his hand -1 have been told that this feels as if I am being very sincere, I often high-five random teenagers in the street, I gently hold a woman's wrist while I am shaking her hand, and I often hug women I have just met. I brush my hand against their cheek, when they say something cute. People love this. It exudes confidence, humanity, sincerity and empathy. Live life to the full, and start touching women. After all, you ultimately want to get her naked into your bed and fuck her. So, start touching now, to let her know what's coming. In a club, it is twenty times easier, to get into more advanced touching. Randomly hug girls, hold their hands, play little thumb-war games, read their palm. Any excuse. Here's an exercise to try out. This week, starting from tomorrow, touch 10 random women per day. Don't react to others, this is known as being 'un-reactive'. A person only reacts to someone they are attracted to or feels threatened by. An alpha male does not react, but gets reacted to. If someone is rude to you, let it go. If a waitress or a bus conductor is not polite to you, smile, thank him/her, and let it go. Tell them the service is phenomenal for Chrissake. But do not ever, ever react. Rise above that. In clubs, women will test you, by ignoring you, asking you questions, turning their bodies away, etc. If you're content, super-confident and at ease in your own skin you will be unaffected, thus creating powerful attraction. This week, starting from tomorrow, touch 10 random women per day. It is your job to create a buzz, a vibe that people want to be part of. You're a confident, cool guy, out to have fun, you're not outcome dependent. You're not needy or desperate. You're not in a club to chase women. When a woman turns her back to you, she is testing you to see if you will do a 360 degree turn and clamor for her attention. Do not do this. Turn away yourself, and talk to someone else, the girl will wonder what the hell happened, and will want to know who the fuck you are! Similarly, do not lean in, or'peck' into a girl when talking. This will signify to her subconscious mind that you are a low value male, or have a lower social value to her, and she will get rid of you. Your aim is to intrigue and attract the girl, not to chase her like 99.9% of the other guys do. You can attract her by using the IceDragon Method. You're not 'trying' anything. You're 'doing' what you do best. That is, a confident powerful alpha male, meeting a woman, in a natural way, and having fun. You are merely creating an environment to meet a woman at a level pegging. Repeat these affirmations loudly before going to a club. Do it in the car, on the way to the club: • "I am a confident alpha male." • "I assume attraction wherever I go, and women find me fascinating." • "I have power and choice with women." In time, you will re-programme your subconscious mind. - 60 Case study: IceDragon in Nightclub Read this study for examples of how sociability can increase your status inside a nightclub, and memorise the pointers. Ok, Saturday night, after going to a wedding, my girlfriend and I met up with my her friends, and they wanted to go to a club. I said 'cool'. On the way, my girlfriend felt sick and said she was going home. She had been a bit poorly earlier that day, so it was understandable. I said I would take her home, but her friends wanted me to go with them, and my girlfriend said she would get a taxi. Now, I treat her friends like I would treat a bratty little kid sister, constantly teasing them, using cocky funny lines, etc. They couldn't stop giggling around me, and naturally wanted to be in my company. Remember these points:
1.An alpha male who gives value and does not seek anything in return, is very attractive to women. Well, we decided to go to a club called Kushion. There I was, walking in with 9, absolutely stunning Chinese girls. Every pair of female eyes was on me, and the guys gave me this "who is this' look, whilst drooling at the girls. These days, I don't go out to actively sarge any more. For learning, it's ok, but in order to get to a higher level of game, and to attain those 'unattainable' girls, you have to work on your social proof game. Sure, it's ok to go to a club with your wing, and do set after set for practice, but true naturals don't do that. They go to a club, with a group, and enjoy themselves. For bootcamps, obviously, I still advocate doing set. 2.Be a sociable leader, with a lot of friends. Go out with a large group, preferably lots of hot girls. We got into the club, and we found a place to sit on one of those couches (well, we took up three couches!), with me in the centre. Two of the girls went to the toilet, and almost immediately, two hot blondes came and sat next to me. One opened me with 'so, who are you with'. I looked at her, raised my eyebrows, glanced at the girls, then looked back at her. She laughed, and asked me my name. I told her, then we got into a conversation. As we were talking, her friend said she was going to the bar, and asked me if I wanted something. I asked for a Double Jack Daniels and Coke. The girl started to touch me. Another point to note: 3.When a girl opens you, you already have attraction. Don't try and impress the girl. Start making her comfortable, and ask deep questions, personal questions, and talk about your own personal life. No, not about the mole on your leg! The other two girls came back, one of them sat on my lap, then other sat opposite me, and asked me to finish off the story I was telling them on the way to the club. It was some story about this guy who was dry-humping some fat girl in a club once. Not really that funny, but the girls were lapping it up. - 62 4. Don't be afraid of other guys - and don't take shit. Then two guys came up and started talking to the blondes. One of them started chatting to one of my girls, who blanked him, and turned her back to him. He then took the blonde girl's umbrella, and tried to hook it to the back of her belt, at which point I shouted 'oi'. He immediately apologised, and the blondes, who weren't that into him and his mate, then went cold on them. Never take shit from guys. People can sense that I am more than capable of responding, if they resort to violence, that's why I never get threatened by other males, that's after years of going out in Glasgow I've never got into a single fight in a nightclub or street, since I tell it as it is. 5. Chill out - on the dance floor - use girls to get other girls. We were chatting, when this girl comes up to me and said 'my friend wants to know if you'll get off with her'. What the fuck. I said 'who is your friend?' She replied "come on, I'll take you to her'. I was about to politely decline, when two of the Chinese girls grabbed my arms and dragged me off to the dance floor. I spent some time sandwiched in between two hot girls, having a laugh and noticed this brunette eyeing me up, and edging closer. 6. Proximity - If a girl comes close to you, it's no coincidence. She's interested. I grabbed the brunette's hand, and we danced for a while. Then, she came closer, and kissed me! I needed another drink, so went to the bar. This guy stopped me and said 'mate, do you need some help with all those girls?' I laughed and said "come on over and say hi'. He seemed like a nice guy, and if I could introduce him into my circle and get him laid then why not? 7. An alpha male protects his friends, and does not feel threatened by other males. Be a leader. Anyway, I got my drink at the bar, had a couple of throwaway conversations at the bar, got a
number-close from this Polish girl, who had these gorgeous eyes. The blonde and her friend were leaving, but she asked me for my number before she went. Imagine that -hot girls opening you, and number-closing you. That's the power of social standing, and the power of being in control of your group. - 63 Meeting Women Online Meeting women online is a fun way to practice, and it is possible to find some very hot girls online. You can join various sites such as loopylove.com, match.com etc, but start off with a free site, called plentyoffish.com or you can try the classified ads on gumtree.com. I did a mass email to girl's ads saying 'hey, quick question, who lies more, guys or girls?'. I got an astounding amount of replies (way more than if I'd said 'hi, saw your ad, I'm what your looking for, so, what's your favourite food? do you like staying in and cuddling on the couch over a pizza and a dvd and going out pubbing and clubbing?'eurgggghhh!!!), which I then replied "well, I think... guys lie about small things like "no, your bum doesn't look big in that', while girls lie about bigger things like "it's your baby'. I then waited to see who would take the bait. I have also said 'you and I would not get along.'They're like 'why??!!' I have also used simply 'You sound like trouble ', also I've used "my idea of fun is gardening, does your garden need doing?' To a girl who advertised for a prince, I wrote 'yeah, I'll date you in a tent, well spend time drinking horse milk, eating mouldy cheese and fucking like mountain goats. Well, you wanted a prince! Oh, didn't I tell you... I'm a Mongolian Prince. C'ya. Genghis Khan'. Then I waited for the percentage who replied to that. I then said 'so, what else do you do apart from pick up handsome strangers online' or ' what else do you do apart from tell bad jokes'. Again, a certain percentage replied to that. From the I built a rapport and comfort, met them for a drink and fucked them. The one about handsome strangers - imbeds the idea in her mind that you are handsome... So, the point is, don't waste too much effort initially, don't bother sending photos and writing a long email telling your life story. Save something for later. Remember, as in a bar or club, use a quick, short opener if replying to adverts, but way better to have your own ad. When you start getting into exchanging emails with girls, try to add them to your MSN list, so that you can chat quickly. Even better, number-close them, then game them over a phone. Meet up with them. Guys, I'm revealing gold here, from personal experience, which enabled me to meet many women online. It will give you the edge and make you stand out from all the other guys who send long emails detailing their entire auto-biographies... who cares?! Like I mentioned, I prefer putting up my own ad rather than replying to girls ads, because girls (especially hot ones) get 100s+ of replies from guys A DAY (I know this, as I have spent time researching and experimenting), and most replies get deleted without even being read. So, save your time and energy, keep it short and sweet. This way you can use your time efficiently. This can even work in chat-rooms. You can go in, make your presence felt on the board, and girls will start to private message you. Guys, I once seduced this girl in a chat-room and got her to tell the main message board that I was handsome, she did, and all the girls started private messaging me. - 65 Invariably, some ass-hole will try to make a fool out of you. This is what you want so that you can beat him while winning over the entire chat-room female populace. Same as in real life gaming. Also, you can hit individual girls by saying 'Hey, quick question, "who lies more, guys or girls?". A lot better than 'hi, wanna chat?' or "hey there sexy, asl?'. When they respond, you're in!!! - 66 Setting up dates, online Some guys think that to try and set up a meeting too soon looks too desperate, and it's better
to spend a couple of weeks emailing 'building a connection' before going for the date. According to some people, girls are flooded with desperate guys begging to meet, and suggesting a meeting too soon may sound like desperation. I have thought about this, and from personal experience, I beg to differ. When online gaming, I personally wouldn't email a girl for weeks before setting up a date. It sounds like too much hard work, and I doubt many guys have the time nor the inclination to do this. It all depends on my mood. If I can't be bothered, I set it up anyway, get the girl's number (she always texts me), then I cancel and re-arrange it for another time. I think it's okay to suggest a meeting after the second or third email as long as you have the congruence and value to back it up. Remember, when girls reply to YOUR ad, they are APPROACHING YOU. Who has more value? This girl (Eva Longoria lookalike) emailed me this recently 'I'm not looking for penpals, but want to meet sooner rather than later'. Also, a while back, this girl said to me "you were the first guy who asked me to meet without making it feel awkward. Even if a desperate guy waits a while before suggesting a meet, girls will sense he is playing cool or trying to play some game. DESPERATION WILL SHOW THROUGH WHETHER YOU SUGGEST A MEETING AFTER ONE EMAIL OR AFTER THREE MONTHS. An alpha, confident guy will tell a girl exactly what he wants. I sometimes say 'I'm not a great fan of email tennis, but prefer the human touch. Lets do coffee! I'm busy Tues and Wed, but am free Thurs.'They usually apply "that sounds like a brilliant idea!'. I then give my number and ask them to text, rather than asking for their number, that way, when they text, you have the power, and they are chasing you, because you're the prize. Then, I always call. The reason is, I want the girl to hear my voice before she meets me. Just to make her more comfortable with me, as a living, breathing human being, a man. Just now (2 minutes ago) I got an email from a girl I've never corresponded with, asking for my number, then giving me her mobile number and home number. Online Advert Example: I dont want to give too many examples, as I want you to reflect your own personality, be unreactive, and don't give a shit. Check this out. I got a lot of replies from this. "Hi, I'm a nice guy, into clubbing, socialising, enjoy going out and staying in (what is that supposed to mean?!), I'm looking for a girl, regardless of age, shape or size. Looks don't matter! I would love to hear from any woman, fat, slim, ugly, tall or short, as long as you're female and have a pulse. Please go out with me, please, please, oh please! Ill by you flowers, perfume, take you to expensive restaurants, and gawk at your tits all night, agree with everything you say and supplicate to your every whim. Ill even write you a special love poem, in my own blood. Please reply to my ad, you won't regret it." - 67 IceDragon meets a girl online So, I had been corresponding with this Hungarian girl from London for a while, and finally, on Saturday lunchtime, she flew to Glasgow, via British Airways. I met her at the airport, 20 minutes late, as I had slept in, she looked striking, slim, size 10, brunette, with blue eyes, my favourite, I greeted her with a hug, and I decided to build some comfort... by driving straight to the hotel room I had booked! (seriously guys, it's not like it sounds, all will be revealed!). I carried her bag for her, and I held the door open for her. Supplication? Some of you are probably thinking that. I can assure you, in the context and frame of things, it was the right to do. I took her to the hotel, and then suggested she rest for a couple of hours, while I left, as I had things to do. I didn’t even kiss her, but stayed for about 5 minutes, used the toilet, and left immediately, giving her a brief hug. The purpose of this was to get her used to the fact that I had been in her hotel room, and didn't try anything with her. So, I arrived back at the hotel two hours later, and she opened the door for me, looking sexy and relaxed...she had been sleeping! She got ready, and we went to a Chinese restaurant called 'Cathay Cuisine', for a meal.
Yes, I'll admit it. I paid for the hotel, and I paid for the meal. Again, I am risking accusations of supplication, but I don’t agree that it was supplication in this case. It all depends on the context, and the frame. She had spent time and money to fly up to Glasgow to come and see me, so I obviously had enough value in her eyes. To pay for the hotel and dinner was the decent and gentlemanly thing to do. We sat in the hotel room and watched TV for a bit, as it was too early to head out. I kino escalated, then took away. This culminated in a kiss, and led to a deep snog. Then I broke it off by saying that I was feeling really tired and needed to have a quick kip, and I went and lay on the bed. I said that she was free to join me, as we were going to have a late night, and getting sleep just now would be the sensible thing to do! She followed suit, but switched the bedside lamp on, as I had switched off the main light. I then switched the tv off, as it was distracting me from sleeping, and a couple of minutes later, I switched the bedside lamp off. There was a distance between us on the bed, so I mentioned that I was cold (an excuse to cuddle her!). Inevitably, we started kissing and caressing again. I then knew we wouldn't make it to the club that night. She then stopped me ... and said "we have to stop', I said "nothing is going to happen between us tonight, just kissing', then I continued kissing her, and nibbling on her neck, she gave me no resistance, but I could sense her breathing had changed. She switched the bedside lamp on again. I undid her blouse, and unstrapped her bra to reveal two perked up, pink nipples and a pieced belly button. I proceeded to enjoy her breasts and nipples, then I took my own top off, so that she could feel my body against hers. I then undid her belt and took off her jeans, and kissed her pussy without removing her panties. To my delight, she was wearing a sexy pair of stockings, and had perfectly pedicured toes... I undressed and we kissed, and her breathing changed, and her face and neck flushed red... her tongue went on overdrive inside my mouth, and I knew this was the time to initiate sex. - 68 I took the condom I had placed under the pillow earlier, and put it on, and I slowly penetrated her warm, tight pussy. It was great, but 40 minutes later she stopped and said 'something's happened'. I'm like 'what?!'. I withdrew, and she touched her groin... blood!! I thought I had cut myself on her belly button piercing or something. Sounds stupid, but I don't recall exactly what I was thinking. I was in a bit of a daze, she assured me, it's not you, I think I'm having my period... early! This was the first time I had ever encountered this, and the condom was also covered in blood, as were my testicles! I went to the bathroom intending to clean myself up, she stopped me and said "I'm not in pain, lets finish it off'! This was crazy, and I was in no mood to have sex. But, for some fucked up logic, I agreed, and proceeded to shag her again. After we had finished, I went straight to the bathroom, and disposed of the condom, and jumped into the shower, and thoroughly cleaned myself. She watched me as I was doing it, constantly apologising. She washed herself, and cleaned the blood from the sheets, using soap and cold water. As we lay in bed, watching the Premiership highlights (Portsmouth v Aston Villa) she started crying and said 'I spoiled it for you'. I held her close, reassured her, and told her it wasn't her fault. I vaguely recall her saying 'I will be okay tomorrow'. We fell asleep, and the next morning, I awoke to the sensation of her licking my balls!! We started fucking again, and she nearly bit my lower lip off, and it felt as if we were in a sauna, because we were both drenched in sweat - must have been the pent up emotion from the night before. When I came, she wouldn't let me out, and she gazed gazed deeply into my eyes and started saying something in Hungarian, I didn't know what she was saying, but it sounded very sexy! When we finished, she looked down... more blood!! Fucking hell, back to the bathroom, and we both jumped into the shower, while washing each other, she started singing in Hungarian! I asked her what she was saying during sex. She told me she was saying "I love your eyes, I love your lips, I don’t know why it's happening so fast, I've never felt like this before'.
We came out, and she washed the sheets again, and we went down to breakfast. I had two fortune cookies left in my pocket from the Chinese restaurant last night, and I opened the hot brunette waitress with one of them. I said 'tell me what your fortune is'. She went away with our breakfast order, and came back and said to me "your talents will be recognised'. That's what her fortune cookie said. From this we chatted about what her "talents' were! She told me she was an artist. Guys, the IOIs were coming thick and fast. I love the Fortune Cookie opener!!! However, I had temporarily forgotten that I was with this other girl, who was scowling at me from across the breakfast table. When the waitress left, she said 'why were you flirting with that girl when you're with me?' It told her to relax and said that's the way we do things in Scotland, we're all really friendly to each other. We had breakfast, and we went upstairs, and she got ready, and applied her makeup and wore smart clothes and Christian Dior sunglasses. What a stunner! We checked out the hotel, bantered with the receptionist, and went to the petrol station. We drove to the Burrell Collection, strolled there for a while, I bought her a book called 'the Burrell Collection'!, wrote a personal message for her on the inside cover, then we went for a bite to eat at Fazzi's, an Italian place in the city centre. By the way, the Burrell Collection in Glasgow is amazing. The artifacts have to be seen. Perfect place for a day 2 if you happen to be in Glasgow, Scotland! Anyway, we then drove to the airport, checked her in, and kissed her goodbye. Before she left, she said, with her eyes glistening with tears 'I know I won't see you again'. I simply said 'I had a lovely time, and you are an amazing woman'. - 70 Paying for Dinner on Dates There is a lot of shit going around about not buying girls drinks, flowers or taking them out for dinner, or only taking them out for dinner after you've fucked them. These extreme Yules' were originally set in place for complete beginners who had no experience with women. If guys paid for meals etc, that would lead to vulnerable men being taken advantage of, by a certain type of girl, and trying to "buy acceptance' demonstrates lower value and women are not attracted to lower value men. In essence, the reasoning behind not paying for dinner on dates is not to look supplicating or to look as if you're trying to win the girl over. However, if you know you are the prize, and she knows that you are a secure, alpha male, then there is no harm in paying for the meal. Whatever you do, if you do it from a position of strength, you will get away with anything. Women want to be romanced and courted by a real man, a man who will protect them and provide for them and their children. Be that real man. If you can't afford to pay for the meal, don't take her out to a restaurant. Expecting a woman to pay half is a turn off. Don't risk looking like a cheap skate! - 72 Talking Dirty in Bed Talking dirty to a girl while you are fucking her is a powerful tool to play havoc with and arouse her mind and emotions. Where the mind goes, the body will follow. Use the advice which I will give you now, and just watch her body shudder and shake... time and time again, and she will be putty in your hands. First of all, you should be aware of what type of woman your partner is. Is she a working class girl, used to foul language, f this and f that? Or is she a classier girl, professional, intelligent, educated and a "good girl'? However, this perception can be deceptive, and can reveal very little about your woman's character in the bedroom. I have slept with many women who were sugar and spice, and all things nice outside, but transformed into she-cats, swearing and begging me to "fuck them from behind', and telling me to "fuck off', and 'I'm your little whore' once between the sheets. I have also slept with independent, feisty women, who, beneath the tough exterior, had to be treated gently, like Barbie dolls, and were as placid as Labradors, once I got them to bed. Does your girl like gentle, tender lovemaking, or rough, fast, furious animal-style fucking?
This can give you clues on how dirty you can talk to her. Keep in mind that you don't want to affect your relationship outside the bedroom, so dont go around telling your mates what you did with your girl last night. It will come back to you, and it is disrespectful to your girl. While you're in bed, talking dirty - remember it is just a fantasy. She is not really a 'bitch' a 'whore' or a 'filthy slut'. This is not reality. Make it clear beforehand that you're just playing games and fantasizing. Start off step by step. Start off by saying something like "I wanted to feel your body; I wanted to slip inside you all day babe". Move on very slowly, depending on the reactions. Just like compliance testing. Try whispering this in her ear "I want to show you how much I appreciate you wearing that sexy dress for me today, and seeing you wearing your glossy lipstick and power blue eye-make-up makes me what to do this... and this... and this to you" (all said in co-ordination with your thrusts). This will reinforce positively that you are rewarding her for looking good. Move on and say "Your juicy red lips make you look like a cheap tart. Why are you such a filthy bitch?" and thrust faster and harder. Assume a new role... emperor and concubine, conquistador and Amazonian... teacher and student... Set your imagination loose. A fantasy to try out ... your pet cat is transformed into a woman, and you can pleasure her all you want, while she is still 'meowing'. Not convinced? Visualise Michelle Pfieffer as Cat woman in the Batman movie and you may change your mind Have fun, experiment and have lots of pleasure. - 74 Well Done You have read this book to the end. That is an achievement in itself. Now, you have to do. No doubt, you have been practicing whilst reading this, but it's time to step up to the mark. It's time to start merging the IceDragon Method with your everyday life, not only when you're talking to women. You are the only person who can make a difference in his life. There is nothing to stop you from going out there and getting the woman you deserve. Go through the book again, read and re-read. Make notes, and put the ideas and principles into practice. If you need any help or advice at any point in time then feel free to contact me directly, and I will respond to you personally. My email address for feedback is
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Diagram of Edward T. Hall's personal reaction bubbles (1966), showing radius in feet. The Hidden Dimension. Anchor Books. ISBN 0-385-08476-5. -76Useful websites Life Coaching, NLP, hypnotherapy and fitness www. letsgetmotivated .com PUA www.scotlandlair.co.uk www.charmingrogue.com Dating and Classifieds match.com Plentyoffish.com Loopylove.com datingdirect.com friendsreuniteddating.co.uk Social Networking friendsreunited.co.uk Facebook.com MySpace.com Bebo.com Twitter.com Magazines http://www.zootoday.com http ://www.f hm .com http://www.nuts.co.uk http://www.loaded.co.uk http://www.esquire.com http://www.mensfitness.com http://www.menshealth.co.uk http://stuff.tv Credits Written by IceDragon - www.realattractionsecrets.com Editing and publishing by Tom Burke - www.letsgetmotivated.com First publication as an EBook in March 2009
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