Push Button Dating System

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Module 1: Pushing Her Curiosity Button In the world of online dating, just like out in the “real world”, it is all about getting noticed. You have to stand out and get her attention. You have to stand out in the crowd. You HAVE to create curiosity for all attraction begins with curiosity. When we become curious about something or someone, our attention focuses, even if for a brief moment, and it is this attention that allows attraction to form and blossom. Think about any woman you have ever been interested in, I guarantee you something about her caught your attention. Even if it was just her stunning looks. After all how can you fall in love with someone who you don’t even know is there? There are two main ways you can stand out and push a woman’s curiosity button online. First and most importantly is your profile. As you will soon learn, this is the most important piece of the online dating puzzle. Don’t worry I am going to show you exactly what to do and how to do it. It should only take you about 30 min to an hour to set it up but once you do it will be working for you day and night. It won’t be uncommon for you to wake up with messages from girls who found your profile and couldn’t help but write you! The cool thing is once you create one, you can use it on multiple sites with only minor adjustments. So make sure you take the time and put in the effort to set it up right using the principles I am about to show you. The second part of pushing a woman’s curiosity button is the opening message. I am going to show you the common mistakes that guys make when writing a woman for the first time and why most of them never get responses. I am also going to show you some different of examples of successful opening messages and how you can create your own. So let’s jump right in and get started.

Creating A Profile That Gets Noticed          

What Most Guys Are Doing Wrong How to Market Yourself How to Choose the Right Pictures Writing Your “About Me” Section Displaying Standards Blogs, Notes, Quizes and Bulletins Status Updates A Quick Note on Myspace Putting It All Together – Profile Breakdown Wrap Up

Sending Out The Opening Message        

What Most Guys are Doing Wrong Browsing Spotting a Fake The Purpose of an Opening Message The Anatomy of a Successful Opening Message To Customize or Not to Customize Different Strategies for Different Sites Putting It All Together

Creating a Profile That Gets Noticed

When it comes to meeting women online there is no one piece more crucial than your profile. Your profile will make or break you every single time. With a properly set up profile women will forgive many mistakes. In fact, you will even have women opening you! However, with a lackluster profile, even girls who would normally be extremely interested in you will not respond no matter how good your first message is.Look at it this way, your profile is you own persona commercial. In the online world of dating you only have one quick shot to make a good impression. Just like a commercial, you have to hit as many points as possible to make her interested in the product…you! Your profile is going to be your best friend. It is as if you have a personal promoter working for you 24/7. It is almost like going into a club/bar where your best friend has gone in before you and build you up to every attractive girl in the place so that the second you walk in they are all over you brimming with interest. I am not kidding. When it comes to online dating your profile is THAT important! It is crazy. You can send out several messages one day and while you are hanging out with friends, studying, watching a movie, playing video games, reading a book or even on another date your profile will be working tirelessly attracting women and setting up dates for you. It is not uncommon for me to wake up to an inbox full of numbers of new, attractive women who are excited to go on a date with me. I hope you are beginning to see how crucial your profile is. I am going to let you in on a little secret that I have learned from meeting up with hundreds of women from online. Most of them told me that they paid very little attention to my first message (although this is important as well and I will teach you EVERYTHING you need to know about sending out a irresistible first message) but went directly to my profile and it was my profile that convinced them to write back. Here is what you ultimately want to accomplish with your profile:  

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You want to separate yourself from all the other guys out there. Lucky for you, most guys make the same mistakes and this system will put you way ahead of them. You want to create intrigue. Once a woman opens your initial message you want her to go from “who is this guy messaging me?” to “I want to know who this guy is who is messaging me”. That subtle shift make all the difference in the world. And I am going to show you EXACTLY how to do it! You want your profile to be so easy for a woman to read through that she can’t help but stay on your page until she is has read it all! By then you will be so far ahead of the other guys trying to message her it will be a walk in the park…and who doesn’t like a walk in the park?

WHAT MOST GUYS ARE DOING WRONG So you want to set up an amazing profile that drives women wild and sets you apart from all the other guys out there spinning their wheels and getting no replies? I don’t blame you! But first of all let’s get into what most guys are doing wrong so you can make sure to avoid turning the majority of women off before you even have the chance to meet them.

What Most Guys Are Doing Wrong You want to know the #1 mistake most guys are making when it come to setting up their profile? Here it is: They are marketing to other guys! How silly is that? They can’t get outside their own head and see it from a woman’s prospective. The think they need to be bad asses. It is as if their online profile is simply an extension of how they project themselves at bars, clubs and other social gatherings. They have to be cool and show every other guy around that they are cool. It becomes a pissing contest that pushes women away. I don’t know about you but I want my online profile to appeal to woman. I want it to catch their attention and get them excited to meet me! It took me years to figure this stuff out but after A LOT of mistakes and hard work I figured out what works. If you want the same thing then listen up. First of all let go of trying to look cool. I promise you the “cool” guy online is the guy who isn’t getting dates and isn’t getting laid. Here is what the “cool” guy is doing wrong:     

Like I just said, he is trying to impress other guys which is pushing away women. He chooses pictures that he thinks make him look “cool” instead of pictures that demonstrate different aspects of his personality. He fails to set up his profile in a way that allows for a variety of women to connect with him but instead appears very one dimensional. He doesn’t take the time to make his profile organized and easy to read so women give up because it is too much effort. He adds either too much information and loses all mystery (bores her) or doesn’t put enough to engage a woman properly.

How To Do It Right So how do you avoid making these mistakes and in the process set yourself apart…and by apart I mean put yourself in the top 1% of all guys out there meeting women online? Let me break down the most important principles that go into a ridiculously successful online profile.

Market yourself to women not other guys How do you market to women? First off you have to let go of the ego driven need to be “cool”. Not taking yourself too seriously is a HUGE turn on for women. It sub-communicates a deep inner confidence that instantly sets you apart. One way to do this is by adding in a damaging admission. I’ll show you how to do that effectively in a minute.

Make it as easy as possible for her When creating your profile make sure to pick a color scheme that makes the text easy to read. Too often I see guys profiles that are too busy. They have random pictures all over the place or flashing images that are very distracting. The worst is bright psychodelic colors that make the text unreadable. With online dating, a woman has no social pressure to respond to you and no social niceties that encourage her to stay on your profile. If it is hard for her to read or is so distracting it takes extra effort to find out about you she will just leave. Luckily most

online dating sites set it up in a format that at least separates your text into sections. However, it is up to you to make sure you have proper grammar, and write clear, concise sentences. As you will see shortly less is definitely more.

Chose pictures that show the diversity of your personality and paint you in a favorable light If the old adage is true: a picture is worth a thousand words, then you better be damn sure that each picture you choose is speaking volumes about who you are as a person. Here are some key points to remember when choosing which pictures to put up on your profile: Tell a story Make sure each picture you chose tells a story that demonstrates a specific, attractive aspect of your personality. For example do you love rock climbing?..then have one of you rock climbing. The positive part of your personality it shows is that you like to be outdoors, are in shape and are adventurous. How great is that? Are you an avid world traveler? Have a picture or two of you in exotic places around the world. Most women say they love to travel but have never really made it happen. Now they have a reason to be envious of you and it insinuates that you have great stories to tell, are adventurous, and go after what you want. Well done! Almost anything that is a hobby or passion of yours will work. Variety is key! Just as you want each picture to tell a story about you, you also want to make sure each picture tells a DIFFERENT story. If you like hokey (hey I am in Montreal right now) great but if every picture you put up is of you playing or watching hokey it paints you as a one dimensional person. One of the key things women are looking for in a guy is someone who can teach them new things. When they imagine themselves in your life (which I will show you how to do later on) they want to know you can add value to their lives. Will their time with you be full of fun, adventure, growth, new awesome social connections and new perspectives on life or will it be sitting around watching or talking about hokey all day. I am not saying some girl out there wouldn’t just love that but most will get bored, lose interest and go in search of someone else who can provide them the variety they crave. If you don’t have any pictures of you out doing a variety of interesting things then get you ass away from your computer right now, grab a digital or disposable camera and get out there! Note:One way to ensure you are always growing as a person, have awesome stories and pictures, be always increasing the value you have to offer other people (including all the cute women you are going to be meeting online because of this system) is to chose 1 thing each month that you have always wanted to do and do it. You have always wanted to go white water rafting….well look up where you can go, get a group of friends together (hey look you are starting to become the leader of your social circle…how very attractive you are becoming) and just do it already! No excuses. Don’t let your life slip away always wishing you had done it. It doesn’t have to be anything as big as white water rafting either. It can be something as small as going to a museum, taking a one day sculpting class or learning how to play chess. I don’t care JUST DO IT! In addition, read one book, article or magazine in a NEW area of interest each month. Don’t kid yourself and say you don’t have enough time, it is all about priorities! Do you want to be the most attractive guy you can be? The start right now. It will pay off in spades I promise you. End of Sermon.

Only th he best Choosee only your best b picturees. In many online datin ng sites you u can only chhoose 5-8 pictures. p Social N Networkingg sites usually let you pput up quite a bit more. In either caase, this is going g to be a girrl you meet online’s first view of yyou. Might as a well rock k it and pickk the ones where w you are the most atttractive. On ne way youu can do thiss is simply put p up a few w different pictures p you are consideringg on www.h hotornot.com m and choo ose the one’s that get thhe highest raating. Anotherr suggestionn that one of o the membbers here bro ought up waas http://w www.okcupiid.com/myb bestface. Thhanks Joe! You Y can also o ask other w women in your y life. Prooblem solveed Goofy iis great Don’t bbe afraid to be b goofy. A problem I often see when w I am crritiquing guuys profiles for them, iss that they have h the sam me facial exxpression in every pictu ure. It is as iif the backg ground changedd but it is thhe same picttures. Whatt does this teell a woman n about his ppersonality?? You guessedd it…one dimensional! Just as youu have varieed the types of pictures to show diffferent aspects of your aw wesome personality, youu need to vaary your faccial expressiions to dem monstrate you are a dynamic human bein ng. Throwinng one in with w a goofy face is greaat because it shows you donn’t take youurself too seriously andd we have allready learned that this is insanely attractivve to women. Besides most m girls, eespecially th he super atttractive one s, secretly consider c themsellves dorks. More on thaat later. The soccial you Paint a picture of thhe social yo ou. This is ffar far more important on o Social N Networking sites than Onnline Datingg sites. In faact, it is com mpletely ok to have no pictures of yyou with otther people oon an Onlinne Dating siite. Howeveer, for meetiing women on Social N Networking sites it is cruciaal that they see you aree a social peerson. You MUST M havee pictures w with friends and other w women. As discussed d eaarlier, womeen on Sociaal Networkin ng sites are not there ex xplicitly for datinng so you must m approaach it in a sliightly differrent way. A greatt way to get these typess of picturess is to use th he Hiroshim ma Techniquue develeped by my buddy B Brad Jacksoon. It is one of the easieest ways I have h seen to go up to a rrandom girl or group oof girls out at a a bar/club b/street and get fun picttures with th hem. Checkk it out. Use cap ptions Captionns are key. Any A time a site allows you the opp portunity to add captionns to your pictures p DO IT! A funny orr witty captiion can booost your attractiveness BIG B time. T They even leet you get awaay with pictuures that no ormally wouuld turn wom men off but with the rigght caption are insanelyy attractive.. If you are having trouuble coming g up with funny or wittyy commentss there is a whoole section in i the Privaate Memberss Forum thaat you can post p up linkss to your prrofiles and get feedback

What type of wooman do you y want to meet? When yyou are settiing up your profile it iss important to keep in mind m what ty type of wom man you are after. If you aree after a pun nk rocker giirl you profi file has to bee set up to cconnect with h that type of girl. What you y write, the t pictures you choosee, the types of interests you choosee all

have to demonstrate you understand and are part of her world. Even though a lot of what I am teaching you in this system are using universal principles of attraction, your profile will be much stronger if you customize it a bit to connect with the specific types of girls you are attracted to or that would fit in your lifestyle. Remember birds of a feather flock together. We are more attracted to people who are similar to us because we can relate to them. Just keep this in mind when you setting your profile up. On the same note, it is crucial you have pictures with women of the same caliber as the ones you are going after. If you are going after models but have no pictures with women who are of model quality beauty then you are, for all practical purposes, shit out of luck. Like it or not, our society is divided up by perceived social value. We are all trying to increase our value to score a better mate. Now it is my belief that your main value comes from within but why make it harder on yourself than you need to. If you want to get a great breakdown of how value works, the 3 types of value women look for and how to increase yours in all 3 areas check out the programUNBREAKABLE. (insert link here) If you don’t have any pictures with the types of women you are into it isn’t that hard to do. Just grab a camera, go out and when you see the type of woman simply use this highly effective opener developed by my buddy Brad Jackson(insert Hiroshima video with affiliate link)

Writing your “about me” section(s) No matter which site(s) you are using, you are going to have to write an ABOUT ME section or something similar. In fact, on most sites there will be a bunch of sections where you are going to have to write about yourself. Here are some essential points to keep in mind: Grammar and Clarity Remember how I told you to make your profile as easy as possible for women to read? Well a big part of that is to actually make sense. If you use poor grammar and run on sentences not only does it make your profile arduous to read but also says something about you; namely you are either lazy or uneducated. With modern spell check you have no excuses. Have a friend proofread it if need be. As far as clarity is concerned, just use this simple rule: If you can say what you are trying to say with less words…DO IT! You are not writing a novel here, you are trying to create curiosity so that a woman will keep reading and become engaged enough to write you back. That brings me to my next point. Less is more As I have said before, the point of your profile is to intrigue a woman. Two sure fire ways to extinguish her curiosity is to either giver her too little information or way too much. The best course of action is to put up just enough info to pique her curiosity to the point she is willing to dig deeper and find out more about you. Don’t worry I will show you exactly how to do just that.

Diversity = More opportunities Just like with your pictures, the more diverse you are with your interests and other aspects of your personality, the more opportunities you create for her to connect with you. If you have the opportunity to list your hobbies, books, music, favorite movies or tv shows, make sure to sprinkle in fun one’s. Don’t be afraid to put in things that seem silly or things your think your friends would make fun of you for. They won’t be making fun when you have beautiful, fun girls constantly showing up. One thing we all do is reminisce about our childhoods. This gives you are great opportunity to connect with a woman and give her opportunities to engage you! Remember what I said about doing all the work for her so it is as EASY as possible for her to fall for you? Simply put in popular movies, tv shows, cartoons, music artists, etc from when you were a kid. When you have a book like the Tao Te Ching next to Harry Potter or If You Gave a Mouse a Cookieit shows you have depth, even a bit of contradiction. This is a foundational tenant of intrigue. Any person who is one dimensional robs us of the joy of surprise and thus we become bored. And boredom is the stranglehold that chokes out all attraction and kills relationships before they ever get a chance to get off the ground. Sense of humor The top reason women write me on social networking and dating sites is because they thought my profile was fun to read. A sense of humor is consistently rated (along with confidence) by women as the most attractive quality in a man. Apparently the possession of humor implies the possession of a number of typical habitsystems. The first is an emotional one: the habit of playfulness. Why should one be proud of being playful? For a double reason. Frist, playfulness connotes childhood and youth. If one can be playful, one still possesses something of the vigor and the joy of young life.. But there is a deeper implication. To be playful is, in a sense, to be free. When a person is playful, he momentarily disregards the binding necessities which compel him, in business and morals, in domestic and community life… What galls us is that the binding necessities do not permit us to shape our world as we please… What we most deeply desire, however, is to create our world for ourselves. Whenever we can do that, even in the slightest degree, we are happy. Now in play we create our own world.. -Professor H.A. Overstreet, Influencing Human Behavior As you have learned in the beliefs section, not taking yourself too seriously is incredibly attractive. One fun way to do this is to add in a damaging admission. A damaging admission is something that shows you are human like the rest of us thus making you infinitely more relatable. Often on dating sites people are trying to seem like they are this perfect person. It makes sense, they want to come across as best they can. But we all know that no one is that perfect. So put up an embarrassing fact about yourself or talk about a fault you have in a fun way. One I often put up is how I got a perm in the 5th grade because my mom had one and I thought it would be cool. I got mercilessly made fun of and cut it 3 days later but the point is it is a funny admission that gives women a chance to poke fun at me. It is a great juxtaposition against all the cool things I have listed about myself. A woman reading that will

get a lauugh and I will w instantly y be much m more approaachable and d relatable too her. Makee sure it is someething light, trivial or qu uirky like hhow you seccretly LOVE E popping bbubble wrap p and not som mething grosss like how you pee in the shower.

Wordiing is worrth worryiing about How yoou word som mething in your y profilee makes a biig difference. Women ppay attentio on to the way youu word thinngs. You can n take a seeemingly boring sentence and by chhanging the way you word it make it i much morre exciting aand interestting. Since you y really oonly get onee shot to grab a w woman’s atttention online before shhe clicks “n next” it is crrucial you taake the timee to look ovver you proffile and mak ke sure yourr sentences are worded in ways thaat are engag ging and descripttive. Examplle: I love ccheese. vs. If cheesse were I wooman I wou uld have beeen married a long time ago. Yeah I LOVE cheese that muuch. As funnny as that seeems, which h statement engaged yo our imagination? Whichh one did you visualizze? Which one o made yo ou smile? W Which one are a you likelly to remem mber? Smalll tweaks like thiss are what is going to set s you aparrt in a big way. w

Displaaying Stan ndards We all w want to beliieve that people choosee to spend tiime with uss because thhere are thin ngs they like aboout us, not because b they y have nothhing better to o do or no other o optionns. In the sam me way, woomen want to know thaat you are ppicky, that you y don’t just date any girl that com mes along. T They want to t believe, and a rightfullly so, that th hey have so omething sppecial that caaught your atttention. Onee way of dissplaying thiis is to put up u your stan ndards. Heree are some typical t one’s I use: You shoould messagge me if: - you likke to laugh and don’t take yoursellf too seriou usly -You knnow how too flirt - you arre genuinelyy interested in the peopple around you y - you arre a dork likke me You waant these staandards to be b things yoou truly valu ue in not jusst a woman bbut anotherr human being inn general. Don’t D be afraaid of pushiing women away with these. It willl only push h away the wom men who yoou wouldn’tt want to speend your tim me with any yways. The secret is to make them geeneral, posittive statemeents. Noticee I didn’t pu ut anything that t is out oof a woman’’s control,, like a speccific height or hair coloor. These aree all personality traits, mindsets an nd social skills of a mature, m well developed pperson. Any yone can cu ultivate suchh traits. So, in essencee, I am only discounting g women w who have not taken the time t to worrk on themselves while att the same time t attractiing those whho have. Peerfect!

Answer Questions to Display Your Personality Probably the easies way to do all of this is to just create and answer questions that allow you the opportunity to display your personality. I do this no matter which site I am. Here are a few questions that I typically use:        

If re-incarnation is real, in my past lives I was most likely: (shows your creativity and sense of humor) The fasted ways to my heart are: (shows her what she can do to win you over) Important things I have learned from my past relationships: (shows you are evolving as a human being) What I am doing with my life: (shows you have ambition) 6 Things I could never live without: (shows what you value) What I am looking for in a Woman: (shows you know who you are and what you want) Message me if: (shows you have standards) 6 things I still want to accomplish: (shows you have goals)

As you can see all of these questions allow you the perfect opportunity to display your personality and set yourself apart. Some of these I have picked up from various dating sites and some I have come up with on my own. Feel free to experiment.

Blogs, Notes, Quizes and Bulletins On social media sites and some free/pay dating sites there are options to write a separate blog, note, or bulletin. These are great ways to allow girls to find out more about you. As I mentioned earlier, keep you “About Me” section short, easy to read and chalk full of fun aspects of your personality. This is just to get a girl interested enough to write you back or to even initiate a conversation with you. Here is what’s cool about blogs/notes/bulletins, a woman who’s curiosity button is pushed and is now intrigued will want to know more about you. She will go back to your profile and snoop around to see if there is anything she missed. When she finds your blog/note or bulletin she will be sure to read it. Here is a great opportunity for you to add more information to further boost her attraction and move forward to the next button. Just look how powerful these can be: Hi all, been a long time since i had a chance to write, hope y’all doing well a year ago i put a variation of Race’s ‘why i’m still single’ note on facebook and its still getting comments! just the other day i got a friend request from a girl who with another girl at uni read my post previously, i inquired that she was adding me to see the note and her answer that was the following:

“yeah ppretty much, its the bestt thing i’ve read in a while! w i’ve never seen annything likee it, had no idea men were so s picky! xx xx p.s. whatt exactly is a proportion nately shapped nipple? x” x If i haveent said it before b i’ll saay it again I LOVE E WS4W!!!! and Race!!!! and Kellyy!!! Keep R Rockin’ Gonzo ote I put up on faceboo ok and mysp pace and anny other site that Here is an examplee of a fun no has the option: 25 FAC CTS YOU MAY M NOT T KNOW A ABOUT ME E 1. I wass obsessed with w reading g about sharrk attacks when w I was a kid. 2. I learrned how too braid hair with w my litttle sisters My M Little Pony doll on aan airplane 3. I wass bitten by an a alligator on my side while smug ggling it thrrough securiity at the airrport 4. Evenn though I dated a flight attendant ffor 1 yr and d went on 10 00′s of free flights I still have not joinned the milee high club 5. I am technicallyy on my 4th life. I cliniccally died 3 times when n I was bornn 2 months prengs collapseed, and I speend the firstt month of m my life in an n mature,, weighed 3 lbs, my lun incubator. I had to wear doll clothes c becaause nothing g else would d fit. 6. I am secretly in love with ch heese and iff she were a woman I would w marryy her. I wou uld cheat onn her with wine w but I am pretty suure I could convince c theem to have a ménage à trois. 7. I donn’t have manny favoritess, but my favvorite Frien nds Character is Ross E Eustace Geller. 8. I usedd to be uberr religious and a didn’t ddrink until I was 21. 9. I effeectively exeecuted a heisst my seniorr year of hig gh school th hat includedd security gu uards, wigs, annd night vission goggless. 10. I tauught myselff how to maake balloon animals wh hen I was litttle. 11. I haad a horriblee temper wh hen I was a kid. I would d clench my y fists and tuurn red in th he face as my w whole body would shak ke. Calm doown buddy. 12. I rann away from m home in 1st 1 grade wiith a grand scheme s of living in thee mountainss. I broughtt $20 of repport card mo oney (whichh I spent on Gatorade and beef jerkky), a blank ket and my repllica bow and arrow (wh hich broke w when I tried d to shoot a rabbit). I m made it as faar as the base off the mountaains but then n I heard thee coyotes an nd got scareed so I calleed my mom from a n’t finish myy homework k. gas stattion. All beccause I didn 13. Maccgyver was my all timee hero and tthe passworrd to my firsst ever savinngs accountt. 14. I haad a girlfriennd I dated in n high scho ol for 2 yrs and didn’t even kiss he her for the fiirst 10 months. 15. I used to dress up like Spid derman andd go to little kids birthd day parties. most always move to new n cities w with less than n 3 weeks notice. n 16. I alm 17. I plaan on havinng sex at all 7 wonders of the world. 18. I maade a promiised to myseelf I would know at leaast one otheer language fluently beffore I have kidds so they can c be raised bilingual (I actually plan p on at leeast 5) 19. I am m getting a tattoo t on my y chest in soouth americca. I drew it 3 years agoo. 20. I haave already begun b the floor f plans ffor the cooleest tree house ever. I allways wanteed one as a chiild and neveer had one. 21. I leaarn a lot aboout myself from f my dreeams. 22. I used to raise piranhas. p One of them lost an eye in a fight. I named him m One-eyed Willy. 23. Onee of my 4 measures m for personal suuccess is staarting a charrity. It is alrready mapp ped out.

24. I noo longer havve my tonsills or my apppendix. 25. I woould take a cute dorky girl over a ssuper hot model m girl in n a heart beaat. There aare a bunch of examples of notes, bblogs and bu ulletins (inccluding the “why i’m still single” note in the private foru um so if youu haven’t yeet, check it out. when a wom man brings up u somethinng in a note//blog/or bulletin your w wrote it is a sure Note: w indicatiion that she is HIGHLY Y interestedd in you…co ongrats on pushing p herr curiosity button

Statuss Updates Status U Updates are primarily for f Social N Networking sites. You can c use thesse as ways to demonsstrate you arre doing fun n things witth your life, found a fun nny video oor a quote th hat shows yyou are thinnking about interesting topics or ju ust say silly things that are fun converssation starteers. All of th hese allow aan opportun nity for a wo oman to enggage you an nd build attractioon. Here aree a few of my m favoritess: Practiciing my kissyy face in thee mirror forr when I meeet sleeping beauty -Consullting unicorrns on my dating d situatiion -believees the hotterr a girl is th he crazier shhe is…it’s sccientific facct people! -Practiccing my matting call..qu uack quack… …wait that’’s for a duck k? no wonde der I’m still single!!!! -following the secoond star to the t right andd straight on n till mornin ng…who’s coming witth me?! -Drunk on life…neevermind th he bottle sayys jack daniel’s Once aggain, there are a a bunch more in thee private forrum. I am lo ooking forw ward to whaat you guys coome up withh.

A Few w Words on Your Fa acebook P Profile There aare a few nuuances that go g into usinng your Faceebook profile as a way to meet and d date women. Since it is a Social Neetworking ssite that has a heavy em mphasis on pprivacy and d only y know orr who are frriends of clo ose friends w women tend d to be connectting with peeople who you more w wary about taalking to co omplete straangers. The major questtion that is ggoing to be going throughh a woman’ss mind when you messsage her is “how “ do I kn now this guuy?” This isn n’t necessaarily a bad thhing since it i will send hher looking g at your pro ofile. Here aare a few im mportant things tto have in yoour profile specific to ffacebook. Picturess. All the guuidelines yo ou have learrned thus far still apply y to the pictuures on you ur faceboook. What is different ab bout Faceboook is that you y want mo ore “Social”” pictures. Since S Faceboook is about constantly updating u yoour life and thoughts with w your frieends, you need n to be consstantly uploaading fun piictures of y ou out and about with your friendds.

Friends. You need to have at least a basic number of friends. Not only because it shows how “social” you are (paramount since this is a social networking site) but you need friends for comments. Comments. One of the reasons you need to constantly be uploading new pictures and updating your status is to get comments. Comments show that you are social and that other people accept you. This is essential for a woman on facebook to see when she is judging if you are a real, attractive and worth her time. For these reasons, I use facebook much more to befriend and keep in contact with girls I either meet in person or meet online and have already dated or are currently dating. This in no ways means you cannot meet new women to date on facebook. On the contrary, I have met many and still do to this day. However, free and paid online dating sites, along with social networking sites where you can search, make it so easy to meet an unlimited amount of hight quality awesome girls that I use them much more often.

A quick note on Myspace No Myspace is not dead and yes I still meet women on there. With that said, my Myspace profile is set up a little different. Instead of writing an about me section, I just embed pictures that “show” my life and my interests. This is because Myspace allows for html code to embed elements directly on your page. You can check out my profile here: http://www.myspace.com/racedepriest I will do a total breakdown of setting up an awesome myspace page in the Insiders Club so be looking for that. But here are the two main codes you need for embedding pictures and hiding you friends list (which is especially helpful if you are just starting off and it comes off as mysterious) embed pictures: First you have to upload your pictures to an image hosting site like www.photobucket.com or myspace itself. Next, paste the following HTML code into any section (i.e. About Me, Interests, Who I’d like to Meet): Picture caption Where “http://www.imagehost.com/images/pic.jpg” will be re- placed with the URL pointing to your image and “Picture caption” will be replaced with your caption. By specifying the width property in the tag you ensure that your photos will have a consistent width (the height of the image will be adjusted automatically to maintain the original aspect ratio). This technique will ensure that your images are not too large and that they’re easy to view. Hiding Friend’s list:

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Putting It All Together So you can get a clearer picture of what this all looks like put together I am going to show you my actual plenty of fish profile and my OkCupid profile. Please do not copy it word for word but do notice how all the elements come together to make a profile that sticks out and get’s noticed by women. OkCupid PlentyofFish

Wrap Up So I hope by now you understand all the elements that go into making a truly “stand out” profile. The cool thing is you only have to put in the work once and then your profile works for you indefinitely. However, if you fail to put in the time and effort to set up your profile right you might as well stop right now. It might just be the single most important piece of the puzzle. AS one blogger puts it: Only 10% of people who join Online Dating sites actually get any replies and that is a truly sad fact. The reason is that 90% don’t bother to write an interesting profile or upload pictures of themselves. That’s a lot like fishing without baiting the hook. I wonder what they expected. The 10% who do get noticed have posted upbeat profiles and pictures. I have given you all the tools and principles here to be the “10%” so to speak so stop reading this right now and go set up your profile right. Seriously, don’t even bother going to the next part until you apply these principles to your current profile or create a new one on the social networking or dating site(s) of your choice. Go ahead I’ll wait.

Sending Out the Opening Message

The second part to pushing a woman’s curiosity button and creating engagement is the opening message you send her. Although not NEARLY as important as how you set up your profile, if you do it wrong you will be shooting yourself in the foot. Image the opening messages as the tasty bait and your profile as the hook. Before I get into how to make your “bait” irresistible I need to explain what most guys are sending out so you can see why a majority of them are having little to no results with online dating.

What Most Guys Are Doing Wrong When I was first starting out learning how to meet women online, I would have the girls I was meeting send me over typical messages that guys were sending them. I discovered something startling; almost every single guy was sending 1 of 2 types of messages. Message type #1 A short message that tells her how attractive she is and then suggests they hang out (usually with a tremendous amount of grammatical error). “wat up momma u look hot. we shud hang sum time. holla at me.” I am seriously not joking. or Message type #2 A guys writes a LOOOOONG message explaining all the reasons why they are perfect for each other. In other words, he tries to sell himself to her usually while pining on about how gorgeous she is, how well he would treat her and how successful he is. Is it any wonder these guys are not getting responses? Don’t worry if you have done a variation of either of these. I am going to show you how to do it right. But first let’s go over a few things to keep in mind when searching for girls to message.

Spotting a Fake Profile There are many fake profile on Social Networking sites and free dating sites. There are less so on payed dating sites but still you will want to know what to look for to keep you from wasting your time. Sure signs that the hot girl’s profile you are looking at is fake are:      

only one picture (probably the biggest indicator) hasn’t filled out her information or the grammar is way off has a link to naughty pictures she couldn’t put on MySpace/Facebook/Etc has no friends or way too many friends (social networking sites) the only comments she has are from lame ass guys saying, “Hey sexy”, “Happy Humpday” or “Hey babe … thanks 4 the add” (social networking sites) her location is set to China or USA instead of a specific city

If you see any of these signs, just move on as it is a fake profile and you are wasting your time.

The Art of Browsing Every free and paid online dating site let’s you search for woman based on a variety of criterion (eg. location, age, height, ethnicity, religion, body type, hair colore, eye colore, etc). You can literally search for exactly what you want in a woman. Many social networking sites allow you to do this as well. My personal advice on browsing on Social Networking sites is to always select single or divorced from the options. Why waste your time messaging woman who are not looking? Once you have figured out what you are looking for do the search. There will be a list of women with pictures and a brief intro to their profiles or basic information. If you want to maximise your time simply hold down the CONTROL key (APPLE OR COMMAND on a Mac) and click on all the women that you might want to message. This will open them all up in new tabs. Now you can go through and message all the ones you want without having to go back and forth searching every time.

Facebook and Browsing for New Women You can no longer search from woman on facebook. If anyone figures out a way please let me know. The best work arounds I have found to meet new women on facebook are as follows: -Find friends of friends -Search for a random name (such as typing in Jessica…facebook will give you all the Jessica’s in your area first) -Go to groups and find one in your area (eg. local university or museum) None of these are perfect since you can’t always tell if she is single. There is a definite delicacy to contacting friends of friends but I will show you how to do it in a bit. Facebook is FAR better as relationship management tool with girls you meet on other sites.

The Purpose of an Opening Message Ok now that you have a bevy of beautiful woman to message let’s go over how to send out a successful opening message that sets you apart from the pack and piques her curiosity. Let me start with the main purpose of the opening message. The primary goal of an opening message is to be read and to receive a response. Nothing more. You just need to make it through all her shields and generate enough curiosity to go check out your profile and then, thanks to having the coolest profile ever, receive a response. Once you receive a response, you can transition into a conversation that demonstrates what a great, fun and exciting guy you are, but without the initial response, you have no conversation. Remember the only purpose of the opening message is to get the conversation going. Soon, she won’t even remember how the conversation started because she’s having too much fun talking to you.

In addittion, there is a powerfu ul psychologgical effect that occurs when she ssees RE: in front of the messsage when you write back. b In her mind, she responded r and a has alreeady decided d to talk to you, so she will continue to o do so as loong as every ything is goiing well. Huumans havee an overwhhelming desiire to be con nsistent witth the decisiions they make

Crafting an Opeening Messsage Comingg up with ann effective opening o me ssage has been, in my experience,, most guys biggest stickingg points. Moost guys, lik ke myself w when I first started s out, will w spend hhours thinkiing of somethiing clever too say to gett a responsee but eventually just end d up with soomething brrilliant like “hi” or “What’s up, saw your y profile and though ht you lookeed interestinng. Hope to hear back froom you sooon.” The pro oblem with ssending a message m likee this as the opening message is that hhundreds off guys are do oing the sam me thing. You will instantly get lum umped in thee same categoryy as them and a as you have h alreadyy learned yo ou have to stand out puush her curio osity button. The 3 bbiggest thinggs you need d to have aree: uniqueness, hooks fo or her to graab onto, and d short. Uniquenness becausse, as you have alreadyy learned, yo ou need to stand s out annd get her cu urious enough to look at your y profilee and then w write back. Hooks ((which I wiill explain in n more detaail later) so that t it makees it as easy as possiblee for her to respoond. It needss to be shortt for two reaasons. First , she doesn’t have all day d to read iit and you definiteely want herr to read it and a still havve enough atttention spaan to check oout your profile and wriite you backk. And secon ndly, a longg message in ndicates you u spent a loot of time to put it togetherr and it subttly gives offf the impresssion that you think shee is very vaaluable even n though you donn’t even knoow her yet… …a major tuurn off. A goodd rule of thum mb to have in mind is: will it mak ke her smile?

Openeer Breakd down To show w you what I mean, I am a going to give you 3 incredibly effective e oppeners I hav ve come up withh and break down why they t work sso you can get g an idea of o what I am m talking ab bout. Examp ple #1 Subjectt: too fastt? Body: so my ffriends say I move too fast f but I am m going to go g out on a limb here… …will you marry m me? oopps I meant to t say hi Breakd down: Welll it goes with hout sayingg that this op pener is unique. While every otherr guy is putting her on a peedestal, assu uming she iss the perfectt woman for him even though he has h never m met her, I usse her situatiion to my addvantage by y making it ridiculous. I assume a major

jump in the courting process and this shows I am not talking the situation or myself too seriously. This is a major reprieve for her from the usual barrage of boring emails she normally gets. She can’t help but smile and then go check out my profile. Bingo! The major hook in here is the question “will you marry me?”. This makes it super easy for her to respond. She doesn’t have to think too hard because you have handed her the conversation topic on a silver platter. In addition, this opener allows the possibility of role-play (something I will go into much more detail later). Example #2 Subject: So….. Body: after a rigorously brief overview of your profile I wanted to let you know I have already married and divorced you in my mind. Thanks for all the wonderful imaginary memories… you will always have a special place in my heart. your ex-hubby, (name) ps. I am going to need half your money according to our prenup pps. You can keep the dog and I will keep the house in Hawaii Breakdown: Although longer than most of my openers, this one has an incredible response rate. The reason being it has a ridiculous amount of hooks for her to grab onto to and is unlike anything she has ever received before. This opener virtually guarantees a role-play scenario from the start making it very easy to begin Pushing Her Playfulness Button. Example #3 subject: To the point… body: You seem really fun and super cute And since it is freezing out side could you make me some hot chocolate and knit me a scarf? You can bring them on our date next week! Thanks (note: this is a high risk – high reward opener) Breakdown: This opener is so fun because it already assumes two things: 1. she is going to do something for you and 2. you are going on a date. The audacity alone sparks a woman’s

curiositty. Who is thhis guy who o is so confi fident to assume all these things? E Expect a feisty responsse. You cann adjust thiss opener bassed on almoost anything g. For exam mple: And sinnce it is sup per hot out sidee could you make me so ome lemonaade and fan n me with a giant leaf bby the pool? Note: A great site to go get in nspiration foor new open ners is www w.someecardds.com

The M Most Important Part of Any N New Open ner You havve to test ouut you new opener. Unntil you givee it trial and error you w won’t know w if it is an effecctive openerr or not. Giv ve it a try, teest it out, reefine it and eventually yyou will have an awesom me opener of your own that works like a charm m. Make sure to send itt out to at leeast 20 girls to get a good idea of it’s effectiveneess. forget you can always post p your oppener ideas up in the prrivate forum m for feedbaack and Don’t fo use the huge list off tested open ners as tempplates for your own creeation.

To Perrsonalize or o Not to Personaliize If you hhave the tim me, personalizing an op ener is alwaay going to get you bettter results. Why? Becausee as human beings we are infinitelly interested d in ourselv ves. This is eeasy to do. Simply go throuugh her proofile and picck a few thinngs out thatt can be inco orporated innto the open ner. Examplle: Un-Perrsonalized Subjectt: too fastt? Body: so my ffriends say I move too fast f but I am m going to go g out on a limb here… …will you marry m me? oopps I meant to t say hi Personalized Subjectt: too fastt? Body: f but sincce we both like l ____ an nd ____ I am m going to go out so my ffriends say I move too fast on a lim mb here…w will you marrry me? oopss I meant to o say hi

Does tthe “Subjeect” Matteer?

Typicallly, it doesnn’t matter wh hat your subbject is. However, a go ood, off-the--wall subjecct header ccould help put p her in a better fram me before sh he opens you ur message and help kiick start her curiiosity. Basiccally, it is th he initial pooint off of which w you caan set yoursself apart. Itt is best if you m make it relatte to the meessage you aare sending her. Follow w up by start rting your message m in mid-ssentence to finish the thought thatt was started d with the su ubject. Examp ple: Subjectt: too fast? Body: sso my friendds say I mov ve too fast bbut I am goiing to go ou ut on a limbb here…willl you marry m me? oops I meant m to say y hi

Onlinee Dating Sites S vs So ocial Netw working Siites Is there a differencce in which openers shoould be used d on Social Networkingg sites like Faceboook or Mysppace vs on Online O Datinng Sites? Yees and No. It I is importaant to remem mber that unllike Dating Sites, women on Sociaal Networking sites are not there nnecessarily to t meet and datee someone. This meanss you can g et away witth A LOT more m on a daating site beecause they aree expecting and wantin ng to receivee messages from guys who w are inteerested in dating d them. Womenn on Social Networking N g sites will hhave a tendency to won nder why yoou are messsaging and how w you foundd them. So just j keep inn mind this might m occurr and you w will have to handle h it. As far aas the how did d you find d/know me qquestions iss concerned d, using a sim mple phrasee like “some hhow I stumbbled across your profilee” usually does d the tricck. Sometim mes you don n’t even have to address it if i the conversation is gooing well an nd of coursee your profi file is set up correctlly. In Actiion: Subjectt: I’m confuused….. ——— ———– Origginal Message ———— ——– From: R Race Date: Jaan 12, 20088 12:59 PM are youu shy, or som mething? -Race ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: H Her Date: Jaan 13, 20088 11:16 PM A little… … why?

——— —————— ————— —————— —From: R Race Date: Jaan 14, 20088 12:01 AM well I’vve been on MySpace M fo or a while noow and you u still haven’t said hi. T That’s a little rude don’t yoou think? ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: H Her Date: Jaan 14, 20088 10:53 AM I wouldd never be ruude. Did yo ou say hi to me? Your page p is very y interestingg… ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: R Race Date: Jaan 14, 20088 12:13 PM my page is interestting like how w..weird????…are you being b rude again????..hhaha j/k Wee’ll hi Havee you seen thhe Secret? ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: H Her Date: Jaan 14, 20088 7:31 PM I have sseen the Seccret and I’vee read it. Hoow do you feel f about itt? And what at’s your nam me by the wayy? What maade you writte me?… I’m m glad you did.. I’m in ntrigued for some reaso on… Hope yoou’re havinng a great niight! ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: R Race Date: Jaan 14, 20088 9:37 PM my nam me is Race. I have watcched, read annd worked with w some of o the peoplle in the seccret. I agree inn the principples but am wary of pe ople who taake it to the far extremees so they no n longer hhave a foot in the “real world” so tto speak. What arre you view w on it? ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: H Her Date: Jaan 15, 20088 5:14 PM It’s nicee to meet yoou Race (ev ven though iit’s not in peerson)! I completely aggree with always trying too think posiitive and fin nding the sillver lining in i everythin ng that you ddo. I know from experiennce that a positive p attittude can maake a world of a differeence! But yoou’re right, it’s gotta bee in moderaation. Some people takee it way too far! So you u’re from N New Mexico o, right? Do youu live in Veggas now? ——— —————— ————— —————— —-

Anotherr way to deal with it is to turn it innto a role pllay scenario o (you will llearn much more about thhis later). In Actiion: Girl m April 299 at 11:13pm haha yoou’re funny! So what made m you meessage me Race?! R I asssume we doon’t know eaach other coorrect?! ——— —————— ————— —————— —Race April 300 at 4:34pm m i think w we met at suummer cam mp when youu pushed me m into the bushes and ggame me my y first kiss ——— —————— ————— —————— —Girl May 1 aat 8:47pm haha ohh really? Waas it any good?! It sounnds very rom mantic of me.. m ——— —————— ————— —————— —Race May 2 aat 10:01am well you did use a little too much tongue but overalll all it was quite q delighttful…i think k you gave mee cooties thhough ——— —————— ————— —————— —Girl May 2 aat 7:11pm Lucky yyou! I don’tt just go aro ound given ccooties to an nyone.. :] Are A there any ny other fond d memoriies that youu have of us?? Somehow w I must’ve forgotten f bu ut now that you’re rem minding me I thiink I might be regrettin ng the divorrce.. As you can see shee in most caases she is juust curios an nd not testin ng you. So jjust keep haaving c n along usinng the princciples in the next moduule. fun andd move the conversation

Speciaal Class off Openers Just for S Social Nettworking Sites S There iss a special class c of openers I develloped that are a especiallly successfuul on Sociall Networrking sites. I call them, “My Mistaake” Openerrs. Let me give g you an example an nd then I will expplain why thhey work so o well. Examp ple: Subjectt: It’s you… … Are youu that crazy fun girl I met m on a cruuise last sum mmer? If so, wow, how w have you been?! b -Race

Do I reaally think shhe is the craazy fun girl I met on a cruise c last summer? s Off course nott! But what it does is alloow me to staart up a convversation un nder the rad dar. She willl be compellled to respondd to tell youu no but guess what shee will do firsst? Yep…go o check outt your profille to see if she reecognizes you. y And thiis is preciselly what you u want her to do. Once she respond ds can slowly gguide the coonversation n where youu want it to go. g They keey is to makke the eventt you know her from bee something g you actuallly did (otheerwise she willl feel deceivved if it is brought b up w when you meet) m and maake it soundd like sometthing she wouuld have lovved to be a part p of. Now lett’s see how a few of th hese “My M Mistake” Opeeners turned d out in reall world exam mples: In Actiion: … Subjectt: It’s you… Are youu that crazy fun girl I met m on a cruuise last sum mmer? -Race ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: H Her Date: D Dec 3, 2007 5:01 PM I was onn a cruise laast summer,, but I don’tt think we have h met. I think t I wouuld remembeer you. Sorry Sara ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: R Race Date: D Dec 3, 2007 6:14 PM awww… …that’s sweeet:) R u surre? So you’rre not the girl g who stay yed up all ni night with me m sipping Ouzo and watching w th he sun rise oover the sparkling green n ocean in G Greece?! What W do you havve a cruise twin t or som mething?…lool ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: H Her Date: D Dec 3, 2007 6:51 PM I’m sorrry but I defi finitely would remembeer that! I am m jealous no ow that you have been to t Greece and that yoou had what seems to b e a great tim me with my cruise twinn (tell her to o stop n, then she would w be so super cool that stealingg my face!). However if she truelyy is my twin you would have rem membered her h name annd kept in contact c with h her My cruise was to Mexicoo…not evenn close to as glamerous as Greece. ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: R Race Date: D Dec 3, 2007 7:03 PM

She wass super cool and I wou uld have keppt in contactt with her bu ut we got seeparated beffore we could exxchange inffo…cruises can be crazzy when you u are island d hopping alll the time:) Some oof my best friends fr are on o a cruise too mexico riight now..th hey should bbe pulling in nto Cabo Saan Lucas anny day. If you ccould go on a cruise anywhere in tthe world where w would you go cruuise princesss? ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: H Her Date: D Dec 4, 2007 1:52 PM Oh I woould go on a European cruise for ssure. Particu uarly one th hat went to IIreland. I am m dying to see Irreland becaause my gran ndmother w was full bloo od and I want to go seee my roots I also really w want to see Italy. I I hear it is very roomantic, an nd I am such h a hopelesss romantic th hat I think I w would just melt m haha. What abbout you? Or O have you u already beeen to all your dream pllaces? ——— —————— ————— —————— —In Actiion #2: Caught you…Subject: Caughtt you… From: R Race Date: O Oct 24, 20077 11:46 AM M hey youu are that onne girl who tried to mollest me at th he club the other night… …naughty naughty n haha —————— ————— —————— ———— From: H Her Date: O Oct 24, 20077 12:59 PM oh reallly…hmm soorry bout th hat…it’s youur fault for being b cute ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: R Race Date: O Oct 24, 20077 4:34 PM dang it!! I knew I shhould have put on thos e glasses an nd a fake mu ustache..hahha so whatt’s your storry mrs. mollester lady?? you get ex xtra points fo or creativityy

—————————————————From: Her Date: Oct 24, 2007 11:16 PM creativity?! i am not creative that sucks! About me….my favorite subject…not!! I work a lot (like 7 days a week) and party almost as much…what about you Mr. Victim of my molesting? —————————————————As you can see, in both examples the conversation has got to the point where I can take it on many different conversational threads. Soon she will be having so much fun talking to you she won’t even care what started the conversation.

Facebook, Openers and Friend Requests Facebook is unique because, as far as I can tell (and believe me I have tried) there is no way to easily search for women based on criterion you choose. This makes it tougher since you can’t always tell if she is single and if she is a friend of a friend you run the risk of spoiling your social network by gossip if you mess up too badly. For most cases using a “My Mistake” opener keeps you in the clear. But what do you do if she is already a friend? It is quite simple actually. If she has been a friend a friend for a while you can simply start out by saying something like, “how do we know each other again?” This puts you in a great position. First off, she will go check out your profile to see how she knows you. If you have it set up correctly (awesome pictures, plenty of friends, fun updates, comments, etc) then you already started shifting in her mind from “how do I know this guy” to “I am curious to know who this guy is”. Secondly, since you are the one asking the question it is as if you are the suspicious one who doesn’t just let anyone be their friend. You will learn more about displaying standards later. In Action: Race June 12 at 12:10pm hey how do we know each other btw? —————Alexis June 16 at 6:21pm hey hm I don’t think we do lol, probably from AYI… —————— Race June 17 at 7:56pm

ooooh hhaha well what w a shamee…thought I might hav ve met you at one of m my loft partiees. In any case..hi ——— ———— Alexis JJune 21 at 1:13pm 1 hi back

nope no loft parties…that is a sshame hahaa

so you’re in NY rigght? how do o you like itt? ——— ————– Race Juune 22 at 2:225pm well i am m back andd forth between here annd vegas. Neew york is AMAZING A G in the summer time buut I don’t thiink I could do d another w winter here..yikes! Wh hat are you uup to this su ummer? ——— ———– Alexis JJune 23 at 2:05pm 2 workingg unfortunaately.. I do have h a couplle weekends planned here h and therre, going to o San Francisco this weekend and d maybe Yoosemite nextt month for a few days.. Hm it musst be nice esccaping the Vegas V heat in i the summ mer, and com ming back in winter whhen it’s cold d everywhhere else how do you manage too do that? ——— ————Race Juune 27 at 9:447am I have sset up my life so I can travel t just aabout wheneever I want. It is great! I will be baack in Vegas iin the next week w of two o. Let’s hanng out when I get back and a go on aan adventuree ——— —————Alexis JJune 30 at 12:33pm 1 haha whhy not? whaat kind of ad dventure? ——— —————–– Race Juune 30 at 1:554pm I havenn’t quite figuured it out yet y but it willl be fun! Maybe M a watter balloon ffight on the strip shoot m me over yourr # and i’ll text t you whhen I get bacck. Mine is xxx.xxx.xxxxx ——— —————–– Alexis JJuly 1 at 122:39pm You’re on!

xxx-xxx-xxx No matter what she says I will guess where I “thought” I knew her from. Make sure to make it something fun that she would want to do so that you could invite her to do later on in the conversation.

If You Get “Caught” Using The Same Opener It is bound to happen. You’ve messaged a girl and she replies that either you or some other guy sent her the same message. There are several ways to handle this. The easiest is to just click next and move on. However, the fact that she responded means she is still interacting with you. As long as she is doing that, it is possible to bring her around. Remember, the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. Here are some examples of things you could say if you sent her the same message twice on accident: -I must have really wanted to talk to you…haha {change subject} -My mistake. I hit my head while {something silly i.e. mud wrestling, cliff diving, etc.} Let me make it up to you. Here is a joke my nephew told me today… -I just wanted to give myself a second chance to make a better first impression…haha…j/k {change subject} If she received the same message from someone else you could use any of these: -I can’t help it that so many people want to be like me…haha {change subject} -Really? Which one of us is cuter?…haha {change subject} -That was my evil twin. I swear I’m the good one…haha {change subject}

Wrap Up And there you have it. With a kick ass profile and an engaging opening message to set you apart you are ready to start messaging women. So get out there and start doing it right now! When you get an inbox full of beautiful women excited to talk to you move on to the next section, Pushing Her Playfulness Button.          

Module 2: Push her playfulness button So you have sent out some awesome opening messages that have caught a woman’s attention and got her curious enough to check out your profile. After looking over your profile she was so intrigued she couldn’t help but write you back. Congratulations, you have just successfully pushed her curiosity button enough to bring you to the next phase of the interaction. Here is where you are going to transition into a fun and playful conversation, allowing the spark of curiosity to turn into full on flirting. This is where it starts to get fun! Note: No matter what, in the initial stages of your interaction you want to direct the conversation in a playful manner. It is much easier to knock down peoples barriers with humor than to be serious. Being serious has a tendency to cause people to be defensive or bore them. This is the opposite of pushing her Playful Button.

Messaging Fundamentals Before we jump in on how to transition from the opening message into a full blown conversation full of flirting and fun there are some fundamental guidelines that you will want to keep in mind as the interaction progresses. These are guiding principles not law.

It’s Not a Big Deal Remember at all times IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL. If you ever open your inbox and see a message from a girl you’ve been talking to and start to get nervous (I’ve done it too), take a deep breath, and remember IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL. Her response says nothing about you. She cannot hurt you, upset you, reject you, or even make you happy. That is up to you. You are in control. She is a picture and a few lines of text. Nothing she says has anything to do with you. It is her response to the fun, playful, and charming messages you are sending. If she doesn’t want to be fun and playful back she is not the type of girl you would want to meet up with anyway. There are millions of girls on Match, OkCupid, PlentyofFish, MySpace, Facebook and other social networking sites. Just click next. Part of having the attitude of a powerful, attractive male is not to be affected by other people’s opinions or responses. You know who you are and what you want. If you do get an apparently negative response, just use phrases like, “Wow you sure are a feisty one,” “Calm down there cowgirl, I’m just having some fun. You’re kinda cute when you’re all riled up.. haha” etc., and then just push on towards your desired outcome. Every now and then, you will receive a blatantly angry response with something like, “Why are you writing me?”, “I have a boyfriend,” “I hate guys like you,” etc. This has nothing to do with you. It is her personal problem. Delete the message and move on. However, if you get a significant number of messages like this, then you may need to re-evaluate what you are doing and fine tune it.

Use Emoticons and Short hand in Place of Non-Verbal Communication Since most in-person communication is done through non-verbal cues such as body language, vocal tonality, facial expressions, etc. it is critical to use emoticons, acronyms and initialisms (words that describe bodily reactions ie lol, haha) to create the mood you’re intending to communicate. As you will see in many of the examples, we will end a statement with:

Haha… …lol, or LMAO! Note: A Another funnny way to set s yourself apart now that t emotico ons have beecome so po opular is to spell them out inn parenthesiis instead i.ee. becom mes (smiley face) f You cann use any vaariation of these. t Theyy let a girl kn now when you y are beinng playful, in i a good m mood, sympaathizing, aree intending to be funny y. They can even lessenn the sting of o an otherwiise overly coocky statem ment. Here is an examplee of a statem ment that coould be taken the wrong g way had thhe emoticon ns not been ussed: “I couldd never hand out with you. y You arre just troub ble.” That coomes across cold and would w not maake sense in n a conversaation. You w want to ensu ure that your meessages are read as you u intend them m to come across. a Here’s hhow it would read with h emoticonss added: “I couldd never hang out with a girl like yoou… haha. you are justt trouble areen’t you!!? Womenn will read your y messag ges throughh the filter of whatever mood m they aare in at thaat momennt. You don’’t want to giive her the cchance to misinterpret m a message tthat was meeant to be fun aand playful as rude or mean m just beecause she is in a sour mood. Get useed to using these t mood indicators A LOT. You simply caannot flirt onnline effectively with ouut them. Note: G Girls typicallly use emotticons and sshorthand teexts so pay attention too how they use u them. T This is a perfect resourcce to pull froom to expan nd your voccabulary of shorthand and a emoticoons.

Mirroring Have yoou ever writtten a girl a long involvved messag ge only to reeceive back a short one-word reply? D Does it feel like you are pulling te eth to keep the converssation goingg? This can be very frustratiing. Chancees are you are a giving tooo much too o soon and it i is killing hher attractio on to you. Byy paying atteention to ho ow much a w woman is writing w in heer messagess you can caalibrate the propper amount of informattion for youu to share. You Y don’t want w to be thhe one perso on in an interacttion that is giving g all kiinds of inforrmation abo out yourselff if she is shharing none or just replyingg with one-w word answeers. Ultimattely, the perrson writing g the most inn the onlinee interacttion is invessting the mo ost in the intteraction. This T has a hu uge effect onn how each h of you perceives what is going g on. Th he one who is investing g the most is seen as thhe one chasiing. Here is a cross secttion of an in nteraction I had with Shari: A little ball of spunnk…hmmm m i like hehee.

Wow, a dork you area but as I said, that’ss a plus in my m books Well what makes me a dork…II suppose itt would be my m addictionn to sudoku u or perhapss my obsesssion with thee tv show M Monster Queest, particulaarly the epissode about Nessie the Lockness L M Monster. As far as jokes goo- well I thiink I’m prettty funny; I mean I don nt think I can n do stand uup but I can n make you lauugh (it will cost c you tho ough haha). So do yyou have anyything planned for thiss long and much m needed d weekend??? Shari ——— ————– —Origiinal Messagge— so you sshare my seecret obsesssion with cryyptozoology y? I am prettty sure thatt means we are instant bbest friendss lol. Well I ccame up to Montreal M fo or the weekeend and am m staying herre for a weeek or so to get g away and catcch up on some stuff. What W about yyou? Did yo ou go search hing for merrmaids in th he harbor?? because thhat would bee awesome! Race ————— ——— —Origiinal Messagge— shut up-- do u reallyy have a lov ve for cryptoozoology? Pretty P cool hehe. h I did llook for mermaiids…who toold you? Did Ariel put her human feet on and d tell you heerself?! Montreal- thats a popular p placce this weekkend…Whaat kinda stufff do you neeed to catch up on? d def missed d going to thhe beach. Are A you I went tto the beachh yesterday-- it was a lott of fun and staying with peoplee in Montreeal or hotelliing it up? Today T is gorrgeous so I aam going to o have to go too the park assap. Anywayy, Enjoy yyour day- hoope you catcch up on whhat you need to do. Shari ——— ————– —Origiinal Messagge— hey! so did yyou get everrything you wanted donne and relax x? Sooo excciting your bback- how was w your trip home? Hoow was the weather theere? s I wen nt to my bestt friends ho ouse which is i up near C CT and celeb brated My weeekend was solid. her birthhday. Her family f is lik ke my 2nd faamily so it was w really nice n being aaround them m again after a ffew weeks (considering ( g the last tim me i was theere was for a funeral). G Got home kinda k late lastt night from m her house and thoughht i would bee able to passs out right away, but sure s enough I somehow w got all thiss energy..errrr (not fun when w you arre trying to get sleep fo or the work).

Anywayy, this weeek is sorta busy, b but I am a around tthis weeken nd if you waant to meet uup at some point. p My num mber is xxx xxx xxxx; feel free to call/txt. ttyl, Shari ——— ————– —Origiinal Messagge— well i ddid relax… unfortunate u ly so much that i got very little wo ork done loll. I just sentt you a text so llet’s figure out a time to t kick it Race mple Shari iis investing much moree into the coonversation.. She As you can see from this exam was connsistently writing w much h more thann I was, volu unteering in nformation aabout her liffe and asking m me questionns. Just by reading r it yoou can alreaady tell she is the one cchasing me. This isn’t about getting her to chasee me, I was just busy and a didn’t have a bunchh of time to write back lonng responsees. You wan nt to pay atttention to th his so you caan balance tthe interactiion. You don’t want to be investing everythinng into an in nteraction with w someonne who isn’t giving back eqqually. She will w sense itt and be turnned off. So if she is wrriting very liittle, back off o and mirror tthe amount she is writing and use the techniqu ues in this system s to geet her to opeen up and get involved inn the interacction. Note: thhis is much more important in begginning of an n interaction n when youu are still in the “gettingg to each othher” stage.

Building Uncon nscious Ra apport thrrough Mirrroring In addittion to mirrooring the length of the message, itt is also VER RY effectivve to mirror her writing style as weell. Pay atten ntion to whaat kind of emoticons an nd expressivve languagee she is way for her to t build using suuch as, Hahhaha vs heheehe. As sillyy as this maay seem, it is another w a sense of comfort with you. The T fact thaat you are sim milarly expressive (eveen over a sh hort u s rapport wiith you. Justt like the sayying, “birdss of a message) causes heer to form unconscious feather flock togethher”, peoplee like to hanng out with and feel mo ore comforttable with people p who aree similar to them. She might m not knnow why bu ut she will become b mor ore relaxed and a feel more coonnected wiith you wheen you mirroor her word d choice and d writing styyle. Mirrorin ng them back to her will subbconsciouslly help her ffeel like you u understan nd her worldd and know where she is coming from m.

Guidin ng the Con nversation n You shoould alwayss start a con nversation w with a desireed outcome in mind. Thhis means th hat no matter hhow she ressponds, it is always youur responsib bility to lead d the converrsation back k on track tooward the ennds on whicch you havee decided. This is easy to t do using transitionall phrasess, role-playinng and gam mes.

. At the same time, have fun with the conversation. Enjoy the uniqueness and spontaneity that each new girl brings. With practice, you’ll quickly learn to guide the flow of the interaction like a pro.

Conversation Hooks and Multiple Threads The goal is to engage her in a conversation within the first three messages totally independent of the opening message. A typical mistake guys make is sticking to only one conversational thread. This quickly get’s played out and shows lack of conversational skills. You want to use conversation hooks to open multiple threads of conversation. The more conversational threads you have going the more you have to talk about and connect on. This is going to be crucial for pushing the other buttons. Conversation hooks are statements or questions that create an opportunity for her to engage in conversation. Make sure to use hooks that she can relate to. The easiest way to introduce a new conversational hook and open up a new conversational thread is by using Transitional Phrases.

Transitioning Phrases Transitional phrases are the single most important tool used in keeping control of the conversation. Phrases such as “Guess what..,” “Check this out…,” “I have to say..”, “You’ll never believe what happened today…,” or simply “so…”, allow you to redirect the conversation onto any topic you want. Usually, these will be used to tell stories that make her laugh, ask her questions that create more thread topics or to play fun games that encourage her to stay engaged in the conversation and even subsequently provide you with an opportunity to compliment her based on how well she performed. In Action: Race 10:11am Feb 27th you took a white belt? tisk tisk you should have explained the rice rule! haha so we agree on sushi but do we agree on surprise adventure? If you were to take me on a surprise adventure where would we go and what would we do? good luck Her 2:39pm Feb 27th white belt? (im guessing thats a no rice leftover/sushi rule?) hmmmm suprise adventure?? well if i told you it wouldnt be a suprise! but it would be sup diff Race 2:54pm Feb 27th ok not a surprise but a random adventure …. go! Her 3:24pm Feb 27th ice blocking in the park Race 6:07pm Feb 27th

i was thinking more of cliff jumping in chile or snorkeling the great barrier reef in australia but hey that’s just my style Her 8:43pm Feb 27th haha ok if you wanna go that route then parasailing in Hawaii,white river rafting in Colorado, and bannana boats in the carribiian! By simply saying “so we agree on sushi but do we agree on surprise adventure?…” I was able to open a new thread independent of the opening message that had to do with sushi. It can’t get much easier than that.

Answering Questions It is generally a good rule to answer any questions she has early on in your interaction; avoiding them looks shady. However, you don’t have to answer the full question, or spend more than one sentence on it, depending on the question. A lot of times girls don’t know what to ask so they ask questions like “what do you do?” or “why are you on this site?”. Don’t get sucked into a typical boring conversation but it is better to take control of the conversation and move it towards more engaging conversation for both of you.

Making Up Memories with Roleplaying Remember when you used to play “house” with a girl you like in elementary school? You were the husband and girl you had a crush on was the wife. Or perhaps it was doctor and patient or Kind and Queen of the castle (a.k.a. the slide). Although it may have just seemed like a fun game at the time, there was some very powerful psychological principles of attraction going on there. The best part is those principles are far more effective now that you are older. In fact, the affects of successfully role-playing with a woman you are interested in are so astounding you will wonder why you haven’t been doing it all along. The human brain has trouble distinguishing between imagined events and real memories. This is significant because every time you create an imagined event with a woman using roleplaying, she is in essence creating a memory with you. The more memories you have with someone the more comfortable you feel around them. After all, are not all the relationships you have in your life formed from the feelings and bonds created through shared memories together? When role-playing with a woman the devil is in the details. The more vivid she can imagine herself experiencing the events you describe the more powerful and “real” the memory will become. You want to pick roles where you do things together or where she is the one who is looking up to or chasing you. Here are a few examples of role-playing ideas: -Husband and Wife (or ex’s) -Travel Buddies (talk about all the adventures you are going on together) -Stalker and Victim (she is the one stalking you) -Teacher and Student -Rockstar and Groupie In Action:

Girl April 299 at 11:13pm m haha yoou’re funny! So what made m you meessage me Race?! R I asssume we doon’t know eaach other coorrect?! ——— —————— ————— —————— —Race April 300 at 4:34pm m i think w we met at suummer cam mp when youu pushed me m into the bushes and ggame me my y first kiss ——— —————— ————— —————— —Girl May 1 aat 8:47pm haha ohh really? Waas it any good?! It sounnds very rom mantic of me.. m ——— —————— ————— —————— —Race May 2 aat 10:01am well you did use a little too much tongue but overalll all it was quite q delighttful…i think k you gave mee cooties thhough ——— —————— ————— —————— —Girl May 2 aat 7:11pm Lucky yyou! I don’tt just go aro ound given ccooties to an nyone.. :] Are A there any ny other fond d memoriies that youu have of us?? Somehow w I must’ve forgotten f bu ut now that you’re rem minding me I thiink I might be regrettin ng the divorrce.. ——— —————— ————— —————— —Race May 2 aat 9:04pm I know right?! Me too…surly you have soome fond memories m ass well my loove? ——— —————— ————— —————— —Girl May 2 aat 9:29pm hmm.. W Well I remeember when n we went oout to the mo ountain and d took a boxx filled with our love lettters and burried it under the groundd for someo one else to discover d andd share.. but just in case I m made copiess. haha.. I still have the copies. :] ——— —————— ————— —————— —Race May 3 aat 7:11pm wow wee always did do the coo olest thingss ——— —————— ————— —————— —Girl May 3 aat 8:56pm Yea wee did!..I thinnk we should d try to do ssomething just as hip again.. a Hahaa and defintely keep sppeaking to each other! Sent viaa Facebook Mobile As you engage herr with differrent role-plaaying scenarrios you aree also displaaying an n possibly a slightly rom mantic side of your selff. These can n be adventuurous, excitiing, or even short litttle interactiions or, to get g the mostt out of them m, they can become a loong running g theme betweenn you two. This T way when w you meeet up again n you alread dy have a stoory line between

you twoo that you can draw fro om at any tim me. I canno ot stress eno ough how m much comforrt this creates!! Equallyy as significant, role plaaying allow ws her to let go of some of her inseccurities and d open up moree than usuall. Because she s is ‘playiing a role’ of o somebody y else she ccan use that as plausiblle deniabilitty. After alll it really ‘issn’t her’. When W in all actuality, a thee things shee jokes about (ffor the mostt part) are actually a an ooutlet for ho ow she really feels. Andd again, beccause it is a rolee and “not her”, h she isn n’t worried aabout being g judged. Sh he can pass tthat off to th he characteer she is plaaying into.

Gamess Fun littlle games arre a great waay to engagge a woman in the conv versation. It is also a great way to learnn about her, find opporttunities to c ompliment her and starrt a whole rrange of new w converssational threeads to conn nect on. Rem member, if she is havin ng fun, she w will stay in the converssation. Simpply use a traansitional phhrase to lead into a gam me at any tim me. Here arre a few examples of some fun games to t use: Examp ple 1 Guess w what? I’ve devised d a test to tell how w creative someone s is.. It took mee years of stu udy and researchh to developp it. I’m warning you… …it’s very difficult!!! Very V few havve ever had d the strengthh to complete it. Finish tthis poem: Roses aare red Violets are bluee… good luuck Examp ple 2 So I jusst read thesee “would yo ou rather” quuestions thee other day and I bet yoou would haave some veery interestiing answerss lol Would you rather… …have an am mazing singging voice but b never bee famous, orr be famouss with a t what you were faamous for? crappy voice, and that’s be invissible, or be able to fly? have onne year of am mazing, toee-curling, neeighbor-callling-911 sex x and the neext year of no n sex, or woulld you ratheer have two years of so -so sex? Good luuck Notice tthat you’re not asking her to play a game (i.e. a direct qu uestion) beccause she caan either say yes or no to thaat. You are simply pressenting the questions an nd adding ““Good Luck k ” at the end of the stateement which h is anotherr indirect waay of compeelling her too play along g becausee it is alreaddy assuming g she is goinng to. Also notice n the use u of a thirdd party (i.e. “So I just readd these “woould you ratther” questioons the otheer day”) wh hich removees responsib bility from yoou.

The thirrd question in the list actually a is a form of Gaauging A Woman’s W Sexxual Radar, which you willl learn abouut in Modulle 5: Pushinng Her Desirre Button. A greatt place to finnd fun gamees, quizzes, or stories to o tell is by actually a reaading girlie magazinnes like Cossmopolitan,, Seventeenn, Vogue, etc. In fact, iff you don’t hhave any, go g pick up copies of these magazines right now. IIt is a great way to gain n insight intto a woman n’s mindsett and you caan exercise that knowleedge in you ur interaction ns. There aare is a wholle section in n the Privatee forum thaat is full of game g ideas. In Actiion: ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: R Race Date: O Oct 25, 20077 11:24 AM M me? litttle-ol-me…w well let’s seee. I ride doolphins, am developing a social psyychology consultiing business, get molessted by cutee girls at clu ubs and can bake 30 miin browniess in 29 mins. I can’t bbelieve youu are not creative…let’ss try someth hing to be su ure. Would you rather: Live in a mansion by the lake or a shack on the beacch n Have too always sayy what’s on your mind or only speeak pig latin Have a year of amaazing, toe curling sex aand then a year y of no seex or two yeears of so so o sex Good luuck ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: H Her Date: O Oct 25, 20077 1:22 PM oh goodd i love filling out surv veys! lol welll….i would d rather livee in a shack on the beacch (in fact there is one in Hawaii thaat i already ssaid i want to t live in), have h to say what’s on my m mind (i do that anyyway), and 2 years of s o so sex (I wont w explaiin that one) You are so much fun! ——— —————— ————— —————— ———–

Use misinterpreetation Misinteerpretation is i a great waay to chang e the directiion of a con nversation, sstart a new roleplay andd even playyfully tease a woman. I f she is brin ngs up any number n of th things… misinterrpret what she s is saying to make itt seem as th hough she was w includinng you in heer thoughtts, had an unntended sex xual meaninng, or even jokingly j asssuming thatt she suggessted somethiing unflatteering about her h self. For exaample: HER: “I have a meeeting I SO dont want tto go to…ag ghhh” YOU: ““Jeeze how often do yo ou have to vvisit your prrobation offi ficer…I can pee in a cu up for ya if you nneed…..lol ” ____________________

HER: “well if you do decide to t invite mee to that hou use warming g party it beetter not be just j so that I brring over a house h warm ming presennt…… picck your poisson…..” YOU: ““well arent you y so sweeet to offer uus some poisson! i knew w you were ttrying to sed duce me from thhe moment you y made me m msg you on myspacee… your so o tricky! dam mn you!” ____________________ HER: “It was so hoot out side today…” t a me do oes tend to m make peoplee hot and bo othered… lool” YOU: ““Thinking about ____________________ HER: “Your messaage was so cute c I had too take a peeek… You seeem like you ou’d be a preetty fun person”” YOU: ““Damn girlyy, you’re alrready hidingg in the busshes peeking g through m my windowss…? lol I hope yyou didnt seee me in my y sponge boob onezee’’s… hahahaa “ In Actiion: she saidd RE: tooo fast? wow, liickedy split eh?? Haven n’t heard thhat in awhilee, I like it. But B of coursse, I work bo oth of my jobss Thursday night . Tell me the iddea so I can n be super bummed b I caant go. And Im m also jealouus about Maaui, was suppposed to go o in June bu ut didnt get tthe chance!! What is it thatt you do forr a living an nyway? bbeing able to o take 3 mon nths to wannder around NYC and Moontreal is preetty amazin ng! ——— ———— Race saaid both jobbs?! you aree the leprech haun in fronnt of O’sheaas aren’t you..you lookk so much taaller in your picctures! well buummer…I was w going to o invite you to our Stop plight party on thurs nigght. What a pity our passionate lovee affair musst wait. Whaat is your scchedule likee this weekeend? ——— ———— She Saiid damn! hhow did youu know? loll I don’t telll many peop ple about that job Tell mee more abouut this stopliight party, I had a simillar idea oncce and just nnever made it happen.. My schhedule this weekend w succks. I work wed-sunday y nights and d Friday dayy am a witn ness in a trial ( crrazy right, I’m I living my m own law w and order episode!). e Saturday S I am going to Pro Dance, which is a dance d camp p type thing for professsional sportss teams danncers (I’m allso the assistannt coach of the t UFL Laas Vegas Loocos Dance team). So I really onlyy have Sunday

afternoon free, don’t work until 5pm. Monday and Tuesadays are my full days off. ——————– This takes a little practice but one of the many beautiful advantages of online dating is you have as much time as you want to think about your response. Start thinking of fun ways you can misinterpret (albeit always in a fun way never in an offensive way) something she said.

How to Ask Questions the Right Way Be curious. Asking questions allow you to move the conversation forward to where you want it to go while gathering information you can use for flirting. The types of you questions you want to ask are OPEN ENDED questions that are preferably unusual. That is to say don’t ask questions that can be answered with either a yes or a no such as “do you like music?”. A simple way to turn that into an open ended question is by asking “what types of music do you like?”. This cannot be answered with a yes or no. To make it more unusual you could ask “If you could date any rockstar who would it be and why?”. Here are a few of my favorites: -If a genie grants you one wish – what would it be? -What is your favorite thing to do to have fun? -In your opinion what is the one thing the opposite gender needs to learn? -Have you gone on any adventures this summer? -What is the silliest thing you own? -What is the one place you haven’t visited by would love to see? -If you could have any music group alive today play at your birthday party, who would you want? For now keep them light and playful but in the next 2 Modules you will learn how to ask questions that will build a deeper connection and gauge her sexual radar. Note: You don’t have to necessarily have to answer a question she asks you immediately, but can answer it with a question of your own. Simply say, “Wow, nobody’s ever asked me that before. What made you ask me?” or “Great question, but before I answer can I ask you…”.

Passing a Woman’s Tests Using all the techniques in this system you will begin to build attraction really quickly with women. They are not used to this happening. Because of this, they will often test you to see if you really are the fun, cool, high value guy that you are portraying yourself to be. Based on how you react, she will either become far more attracted to you or realize that it was just too good to be true and move on and stop responding to you. This does not mean she is being bitchy or mean or doesn’t like you. In fact, it is the exact opposite. IF SHE IS GIVING YOU A TEST, THAT MEANS SHE IS STARTING TO LIKE YOU! Cherish the moments a woman suddenly gives you resistance or gives you hell about something you said. She has to do this to filter out low value men to get to the quality men.

So how w do you passs a woman’s test and ssolidify in her h mind thaat you are thhe high quality guy she wannts to be attrracted to? You Y must bee NON-REA ACTIVE. Don’t D buy innto the argum ment or sassy coomment. Shhe is trying to t get a risee out of you u and when you y don’t sttammer to try t to explain yourself, sttart apologizing, or gett upset her attraction a to you goes thhrough the roof. It shows tthat you trully are an aw wesome guyy who doesn n’t need her acceptancee or approvaal to feel good abbout yoursellf. You do what w you w ant to becau use you wan nt to not beccause of how others w will form oppinions of you. y This is insanely atttractive! Do not… …I repeat… …DO NOT take t it persoonal! Instead look at it as a fun gam me. It is cutte. She is tellinng you that she s likes you and givinng you an am mazing oppo ortunity to m make her ev ven more atttracted to you. y Here arre some of thhe main waays to succe ssfully hand dle a woman’s tests: - Ignoree it. Sometim mes the besst way to haandle a wom man’s test is to simply iggnore it and d keep doing w what you aree doing – haaving fun teexting back and forth. This T let’s heer know that you, unlike m most guys, are a not goin ng to play heer little gam mes. If done correctly, iit will be forgotten and the conversatioon will mov ve forward aas if it never happened.. Only she w will be way more attracted to you. - Say: ““u r cute ” This T is a great way to shhow her thaat you are un naffected. Y You find it cute c that she is trrying to testt you because you now w know it jusst means she likes you.. - Play aalong. Go ovver the top so s she know ws you are joking aroun nd and you don’t take this t seriouslly at all. Examplle: Her: “yyou are a plaayer aren’t you?” y You: “H How rude!… …We preferr to be calle d gigolos” - Find oout the REA AL issue. If it is a moree serious test stemming from her innsecurities, find out what thhe real issue is and hand dle that insttead. Don’t get caught up u in a fakee argument. Be williing to walk away. Thiss is the mostt important concept you may everr learn aboutt interactting with woomen. Know w what youu want and don’t d want. What W you aare willing to t put up with annd what you are not. If it i just doesnn’t work outt you have to t be ok witth that. It do oesn’t mean yoou weren’t good enoug gh or she waasn’t good enough e for you, it just m means you two are not com mpatible. Noo worries. There T are a m million fish in the sea and a you are quite the caatch. In Actiion: Race saaid Yesterdday too fastt? so my ffriends say I move too fast f but I am m going to go g out on a limb here… …will you marry m me? oopps I meant to t say hi ——— ————she saidd Yesterdday RE: tooo fast? Love a catchy subjject line.

Does thhat line workk for all thee girls on maatch?? I kno ow you have used it beefore. ——— ————— Race saaid Yesterdday RE: tooo fast? not suree…I just siggned up but hopefully iit will get alll the boring g ones to ignnore me and d an amazingg girl to be interested. I guess I coould have go one with hi ——— ————– she saidd Yesterdday RE: tooo fast? Good annswer. You shoould see thee crazy emaails I get….eextremely entertaining. e . Old men loove me!!!! haha..If h only theey knew whhat a handfu ul I am. …its saafe to say yoou are going g to love thiis site and fit fi right in ((j (jk))….old m man ——— ————Race saaid Yesterdday RE: tooo fast? I bet…aand what doo you assum me makes yoou such a haandful? You ur sassitudee not withstaanding ——— ————she saidd Yesterdday RE: tooo fast? ….I jusst wrote youu this long email e and it didnt send… …Awesomee!! I am exxtremely sarrcastic…gig ggly…chattyy… a sociall butterfly liike you havve never seeen. I smile evven when I am mad. When W someoone hurts my y feelings I tell them. I can be senssitive. I am a tottaly lady…m meaning I expect e to bee treated likee one. No …I … will not bbe spending g the night…No….our first f date will not be at a night club b. You betteer love my m monster dog gs or pretendd because thhey are super importantt to me. I have sstandards… and moralss… I wouldd say that ab bout covers why I am a handful. Sexy??… I thiiink so o match? You Y have noo pictures off you showing your teet eth….worriees me a So, Whhy are you on little haaha. ——— —————Race saaid Yesterdday RE: tooo fast? I didn’tt tell you I actually a don n’t have anyy teeth? I am m an old man n rememberr. If you ccould out soocially butteerfly me, lett’s just say I would be very v impresssed. So whaat if you stayyed the nigh ht on the firsst date at a night club..like we talkked to the manager m and gott a hammockk set up and d they only pplayed the music m we liked (ice icee baby)..oh yeah it

will be everyone inn their fancy y smansy cllub clothes having h a waater balloonn fight…butt instead of water it would be b different color glow in the dark paint. Ok wow w this is getting elab borate lol. well to find someone s whho can keep p up with me m I am onn match….w ——— —————she saidd 19 hourrs ago RE: tooo fast? Serioussly the moree you write the t more I llike. No teeth?? fixablee… As longg as you takee me to spend thhe night at the t club… I am not goiing to expan nd on the whole w club thhing becausse I could seee you expaanding furth her.. Ice ice bbaby….um how did yo ou know thaat is my favo orite song??? I like hoow the impoortant stuff you dont exxpand on a bit….you b are on matchh to find som meone who cann keep up with w you… nnniiiiiccce n eeee Jessica

Wrap Up So theree you have it. All the to ools necessaary to transiition from the opening message in nto a dynamiic and flirty conversatio on with a beeautiful wom man online.. Using thesse techniquees will set you so far apartt from the average a guy it is ridicullous. She wiill be exciteedly awaitin ng your next meessage and hoping h that this is goinng to work out. o But in order o for it tto work out you must Puush Her Imaagination Bu utton and taake her from m merely atttracted to faascinated!

Module 3: 3 Pussh herr imag gination bu utton Having fun yet? Shhe is! Believ ve it or not, when she opens o her in nbox she is aactually hop ping there w will be a messsage from you. y And w why not? Yo ou are different, you aree funny, you u intriguee her and moost of all…sshe is havinng fun! Who o’s better th han you righht now? No one that’s w who. But youu are not do one yet. Youu see you caan’t just stay the fun fliirty guy forrever or else eveentually shee will lose in nterest. Youu see she waant to not on nly be able to have fun n with a guy shee wants to genuinely co onnect with someone, she s wants to o feel undersstood. In orrder to do this yyou must reelate to her on what is iimportant to o her as welll as get herr to start imaagining you as ppart of her world. w To accomplish tthis you mu ust Push Herr Imaginatioon Button and a cause hher to becom me fascinated with you.. Here’s how w.

Makin ng a conneection on something s g she valu ues So how w do you go about makiing a connecction with a woman yo ou just began an messaging online? Well just as a in person, you have tto dig deep and find ou ut what she iis passionatte about, what shhe values. Why? W Becau use this is thhe core of who w she is. This T is how she forms her h identityy. If you connnect with her h on that llevel you are connectin ng with her iidea of her true t self, of who she beelieves she is. i This is hoow love eveentually form ms. Before we go any further f you MUST undderstand thaat this never a one way street. As you y are finding out what shhe is passion nate about aand what sh he values, yo ou too will bbe opening up and sharing what you are a passionaate about annd what you u value. If yo ou lie and trry to make a false connecttion with a woman, w shee WILL findd out and yo ou SHOULD D be asham med of yoursself. I do not ccondone leaading a wom man on or lyying to fulfill your own n satisfactionn. In my ey yes this is sham meful and gooes against the t very belliefs that hav ve made mee so successsful in my dating d life. This isn’t abouut you gettin ng yours, thhis is about two people coming toggether, haviing fun and connnecting witth the outco ome that no matter whaat happens you y are bothh better off having h met eacch other. Okk I’ll get offf my soapboox now So how w do you go about findin ng out whatt this womaan you are taalking to onnline is passsionate about? L Let’s start by b asking qu uestions.

How too Dig Deeeper -The Magic of Genuine Curiosity C In the laast module I showed yo ou how to aask unique, open ended d questions. Most of tho ose focusedd around light, fun and playful ans wers. Howeever, any off those answ wers actually y allows you to ddig deeper. Let me show you how . you: W What is the onne place you u haven’t viisited by wo ould love to o see? her: I doon’t know maybe m Italy y you: whhat attracts you y to Italy y? her: I haave always loved art… …. Just by probing a liittle deeper you can finnd out her underlying u motivations. m . It’s this prrobing that willl eventuallyy lead you to somethingg she is passsionate abo out. It wouldd be really easy e to ask a foollow up queestion abou ut art at this point and get g her really y opening uup. You willl know when yoou hit on soomeone’s paassion becauuse they will get exciteed and havee a lot to say y about it. And the more thhey say abou ut it, the moore opportun nities you have h to connnect with heer.

Here are some simple ways to dig deeper: “What do you enjoy about____ so much?” “What attracts you to____?” “No way? What got you into_____” The cool thing is you don’t have to be into the same things exactly that she is into. All you have to be is be genuinely curious. Think about the last time someone was talking to you and was genuinely curious about something that you were really passionate about. Chances are you lit up like a 1000 watt light bulb and talked excitedly for as long as they would listen. You can provide the same thing for a woman online by being genuinely curious about what makes her tick. You might wonder why I didn’t just bring this up sooner. Quite simply because she wasn’t ready for you to dig deeper. You MUST first Push Her Curiosity Button and build attraction by Pushing Her Playfulness Button before you can start making a deeper connection. If you had just jumped in and tried to make a deep connection with a woman you didn’t know and who didn’t know you she would have lost all attraction. After all, why would you want to know the inner most workings of a woman you don’t even know is fun? More importantly, since this is a two way street, why would you want to share YOUR inner most thoughts and feelings with a a complete stranger? Look at it this way. The first two buttons are a way of feeling out if you guys would be a good match. It is a way of determining if there is sufficient attraction between the two of you to invest more time and energy into the relationship to see where it goes. The good news is, that if you are at this point you are ready to dig deeper and make a genuine connection with her.

Sample Rapport Questions Rapport is a relationship of mutual understanding or trust and agreement between people. You form rapport by connecting with people on their passions and values. Think about all the reasons why your best friend is your best friend and you will begin to understand what I mean. At some point you two connected over something you had in common and it grew from there. Here are a few rapport questions to get you both opening up and connecting on a deeper level. -What’s the funniest thing that ever happened to you? -The three things you can’t live without are … ? -What are your secret talents only those closest to you know? -Who is the person who has most influenced your life? -Appearance aside, what do people notice about you after meeting you for an hour? -How important is family to you? Why? -What’s your favorite outdoor activity?

-What was your favorite vacation and why? -What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received? -What are your all-time favorite movies? -Where’s the place you long to go but haven’t been to yet? Why there? -What’s your favorite quote or saying? You can present these when it is time by using a transitional phrase. After she answers be sure to dig deeper using the technique above until you get down to what really makes her tick.

Accept and Relate After she opens up and you dig deeper (sometimes you won’t have to, she will just spill the beans) it is your turn to reciprocate. She just shared with you something that is very important to her. It is crucial that you accept her for this. After all what if you were very passionate about your college football team and as soon as you shared a story about it with a new woman you were talking to, she said: “football is stupid”. That would hurt right? You just opened up and she shut you down. It will be a long time until you would trust this woman enough to open up again. The same thing will happen if you do not accept what she is saying or try to tease her about what she just said. Instead start of with a compliment and then proceed to share something of equal importance from your life. The compliment could be something as simple as, “how cool! that reminds me of…”. What you share doesn’t even have to be on the same subject. Think, instead, about what the feeling is underneath it. Another cool thing about her being into/passionate about something you know nothing about is that you can ask her to teach you. So say if she is into art, you can ask her to be your guide at the museum. She will love being able to share her passion with someone else who is interested.

A Fun Game I Learned in Psych 101 Here is a fun little game I learned way back in Psych 101. You are going to have to use some of your cold reading skills and intuition but it is well worth the effort for what you learn about each other. The easiest way for me to show it to you is to just show you an interaction where I played it with the prom queen of my high school who I hadn’t talked to in years. ———————————————————————————– From: Race Date: Apr 26, 2007 10:48 AM so u and I really need to play soon…what’s with all this separation?

Let’s play a psychology game right now!: what is your favorite color? Now give me three reasons/descriptive words why you picked that one what is your favorite animal? dido if you could live by one body of water what would it be: an ocean, a lake or a river? once again…three reasons why you picked what you picked oh ya… you happy? -race —————————————————From: Girl Date: Apr 26, 2007 4:04 PM Okay here’s the answers… 1) White is my favorite color. a) When I think of white & when I see white, I think clean, simple, fresh, and beautiful. b) Most people think it’s the absence of color, but really, in the visible light spectrum it is all colors combined. So really this is like saying my favorite color is the rainbow, and who hasn’t looked at a rainbow and sighed in awe of it’s beauty? c) It reflects light the best, so there’s a sense of luminosity to it. Basically, it makes the world glow. 2) My favorite animal is a manatee. a) They like a cross between a fish, a bear, an elephant, a sting ray, and a sea lion…how amazing is that?! b) They are non aggressive herbivores. Basically sweet and friendly, and they look it. I’ve always thought of them as ‘the teddy bears of the sea.’ c) “They may use taste and smell, in addition to sight, sound, and touch to communicate. Manatees are capable of understanding discrimination tasks, and show signs of complex associated learning and advanced long term memory.” -http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manatee …That’s just incredible, plus they get to swim all day. 3) I’m happiest when I’m next to any body of water, in any form, but if I had to choose it would be a river.

a) It’s a combination of the ocean and a lake. It makes the same glorious sound as the ocean hitting the sand, and has the beautiful white wash like the ocean, but it’s not salt water so you can drink it (if it’s fresh). b) You can play in it! You can play in all three, but with a lake you normally need an engine, but with rivers you canoe, raft, & innertube (oceans do have surfing and sailing though) and your scenery is constantly changing. The scenery on the ocean is normally the same. c) Lastly & most importantly, rivers normally aren’t crowded like lakes and beaches. When you’re in a river (or by) your surrounded by amazing trees and rocks, and normally not a lot of people, with the exception of friends. So Dr. Race just exactly how crazy am I? O..and the happy question. Yes, I am happy. I really reallly am enjoying school, and I’m glad I’m mature enough now, to really appreciate and treasure learning, knowledge, and the enviornment I’m in. I’m slowly and surely meeting people…sometimes it’s a little lonely though, but nothing unbearable. I really love the fact that I’m poor, haha. It’s true. It makes me appreciate what I have, and get creative when it comes to having fun, and I love my little ghetto 1 bedroom. It’s in downtown so I can walk to school, the art museum, the library, 16th st mall, clubs, lots of bakery’s, restaurants, and other food joints. However, I do like walking with someone more then by myself, but none the less, I still enjoy it! Now it’s your turn. First of all, are you happy? How’s Vegas and what happened that made you decide to move there? Lastly, what are/were your answers to these questions? —————————————————From: Race Date: Apr 27, 2007 2:49 PM i moved to Vegas to help my buddy become a rockstar…and I am totally having a blast that is not to say I am completely fulfilled…still looking the right girl who will compliment me nicely…none match up completely so far About the Psychology Test: u r definately crazy…j/k i actually just made it up…it doesn’t mean anything haha o u like being poor…i like being poor when i travel but not as much when i am in one place for a long time..but i hear ya about forced creativity u should see the things i have done to stay entertained! ok so your favorite color is how others percieve u: so others see u as gay (the white=rainbow) haha no they see u as bright, fresh, beautiful..you make the world glow –from what i remember about you..i would agree

ur favorite animal is how you see yourself: so you are sweet and friendly, express yourself through many different modes/senses, are a complex combination of many different amazing parts…oh ya and you are fat..haha j/k..just fluffy in an adorable “teddy bear of the sea kinda way” —you know i love u now as for ur choice of the river, this is a reflextion of your sexuality…let’s take a closer look shall we?! once again we see a combination of what you see as the best aspects of several options…in fact, this let’s me know you have a “both” mentality instead of an “either or”…you find ways to get all of what you want instead of just settleing for one or the other the fresh water analogy tells me you find your sexuality as a source of refreshment/nourishment…and if you go too long without expressing it you can get parched also you chose a place that is secluded (not many people/only your friends) tells me you are highly selective who you share your sexuality with…also it is a place of refuge for you. you like how you can play in it and how the scenery always is changing…so you like diversity and sense of playfulness to be incorporated in your sexuality wow this is by far the longest one i have ever done…u must slightly facinate me now as far as my answers go…it was a long time ago and all i can remember is this: red – passionate, life giving, contrasting tiger -independent, powerful, ocean – teaming with life, deep/endless/mysterious, awe inspiring whatchu think about that? —————————————————From: Girl Date: Apr 28, 2007 12:30 AM whoa…it’s basically scary how accurate that is. I’m glad you’re having fun live’n the rock star dream with your buddy! It sounds like a blast. I wouldn’t worry about you finding a complimenting woman, Race. I’m actually surprised you’re single. Let me boost your ego a second. First of all, the one thing I always liked best about you was the way you challenged me, which sometimes was annoying cause it was just that…challenging. In you, I always saw a guy that was willing to challenge the normal way of thinking & living. Basically you had/have a brain of your own and you’re weren’t afraid to use it, and you would call people out if they were doing something wrong, but you were never a jerk about it, which brings up the second thing. The second thing that I always thought was amazing about you was that within all of your leadership qualities, you were always so gentle and kind with people. Not only are those 2 very rare qualities to find in any man, but to find both of those characteristics

in one man is just basically unheard of. So, don’t worry I have no doubt that she’s out there…and come on you’re in Vegas, there’s tons of fun love’n woman out there! So there’s your ego boost, and it’s all true. ————————————————As you can see this spikes her curiosity through the roof, allows you to playfully tease her and at the same time get insight into what type of person she is thus forming a strong sense of “we get each other”.

Future Projections Future Projections are a great way to get her to start imagining herself spending time with you. As you already learned in the roleplaying section, an imagined memory is almost as powerful as a real memory. But what is more important with future projection is it ACTUALLY starts her fantasizing about spending time with you. The best types of future projections have to do with exotic, out of the ordinary adventures. Most women (and people in general) feel stuck and in a rut. They yearn for adventure, for something to escape out of the mundaneness of their lives. Be her escape by having her imagine herself doing something she has always wanted to do, something out of the ordinary. Tap into her secret wishes. You can get ideas by going through her profile and seeing what she said she liked or love. The key to a good future projection is to add in as much detail as possible. Make it feel real. Spend time writing it out in vivid detail so she can’t but help but imagine what it would be like to go on this adventure with you. Unlike a role play, you want her to imagine herself there as herself, not some made up role. In Action: ——————————————————————————————————— Race May 5 at 11:47am good idea! where we would go if you took me on an impromptu adventure anywhere in the world and what would we do? money is no object. —————————————————Girl May 6 at 8:09pm Well we would go sit in the seats in this picture! http://www.travelwizard.com/southpac…alauresort.jpg

It’s in Palau, aka Jellyfish Island because you can go scuba diving with 100′s of tentacleless jellyfish..it’s by Guam, my manager is from there and he talks about it all the time, now I’m dying to go there.. http://www.seerious.com/Palau%20Jellyfish.jpg So it would all look just like that..how about you?! www.travelwizard.com http://www.travelwizard.com/southpacific/media/big… Share Loading… —————————————————Race May 7 at 9:29pm Not bad at all..that’s sounds most delightful.. I would probably take you to my second favorite place. First we would hop on a plane from vegas to New York. We would go to museums, watch a broadway show, eat some pizza at Ray’s,go shopping, and play tag in central park. From there we would fly off to Jukkasj?rvi Sweden where we would spend the night in the Ice Hotel having drinks in ice cups at the Absolute bar, then relax in the ice jaccuzzi, and then retire to our suite carved entirely out of ice. We would snuggle up in our reindeer fleece and watch the light play on the ice walls (no funny business missy) Well rested we would be ready to shake off the cold and grab a flight to Athens. Here we would jump on a boat and cruise out to Mykinos, Milo, etc where we would go on hikes, snorkle in the sparkling blue ocean, eat at a little open air cafe and eventually end up at Santorini just as the sun is setting. We would sneak down a little path and have delicious wine on one of the rooftops of the little white washed houses overlooking the ocean and for a second remember in absolute certainty why the heart of life is good. Then we would head back into town and dance all night at a sand bar to Greek fold music while sipping ouzo. Don’t even get me started on the trip back, Paris, Italy, Spain, Morocco, etc Speaking of Morocco do you like hookah? —————————————————Girl May 9 at 4:57pm

Wow! I really wannt to go on th his trip youu just planneed out. It’s exactly e whaat I would want w to do! I waant to go seee everythin ng. And yes I love hook kah. I don’t smoke anytthing else except that.. Thhere’s this one o hookah lounge on C Charleston and Jones I think.. theyy give you hookah h and thiss amazing teea to go witth it..you shhould really check it out! How aboout yourself??! And do you have a job or o anything Race?! ——— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— — Notice hhow much detail d I put in. She couuld actually visualize heerself doingg all these th hings with mee. Imagine you y are read ding my futuure projectiion but it waas a beautifu ful woman who w was invitingg you along with her to do all thesee things. No otice how ex xcited you gget and how w thrillingg this wouldd be. Now realize that iis what she is going to feel. You caan see in th he responsse I got, thatt this is exacctly what haappened. Note: N Notice also the t last linee “Speaking of Morocco do you lik ke hookah?””. I am actu ually seedingg the invite, something you will leaarn in Modu ule 4: Push Her Safety Button.

Wrap Up Wow thhings are reaally coming g along heree aren’t they y? Not only are you havving a fun, flirty interacttion with a beautiful b girrl you met oonline but now n you are actually foorming a deeep connecttion with heer. How great is that?! B But before we w move on n to the nexxt Module I want to throw inn a case stuudy so you can c see a bitt more in deepth many of o these prinnciples put into i practicee in a real life example. I will actuually be breaaking this on ne down in great detaill in the case stuudies sectionn but for no ow all I wannt you to nottice is how the converssation starts off with myy profile dooing all the work, w then llight and plaayful banterr back and fforth and th hen eventuaally sharing intimate deetails about each otherss lives. Enjo oy and I’ll seee you in th he next modulee. ——— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— — Lauren —Origiinal Messagge— how does it feel to be probably y the singlee most intereesting guy on o jdate, alll while main ntaining A as muchh grace as Ariel? So I asssume you’ree name is Race…I’m R L Lauren, nicee to meet yo ou I’d lovee to get to knnow more about a you, iif you’re intterested. Ho ope you’re hhaving an am mazing day! —————— ———— Race —Origiinal Messagge—

Actuallyy my name is Hetepsek khemwy. I w was named after a pharraoh from thhe second dynasty d …ok ass you can tell I am also a dork so yyes my nam me is Race How coould I not bee interested?? We are likke the samee person…w well except yyou are waaaaay prettier lol. ps I wouuld kick your butt in most m board ggames … i’m m just sayin ng. I can’t w wait to hear back from yoou ——— —————Lauren —Origiinal Messagge— haha yoou just totallly blew my cover of prretending to o do work an nd mask thee fact that I’’m actuallyy trying to get g the right font and sizze for my very v first tattoo that I w will probably y b*tch out of oon saturday,, while simu ultaneously replying to a very funn ny jdate em mail. So I jusst realized you y aren’t ev ven jewish… …any particcular interesst in jewish girls, or do you just havve good tastte? Does taaboo count as a a board game, g b/c I aam UNSTO OPPABLE… …that and caandyland. Your joob sounds reeally interessting…care to elaboratee? Oh and thank you foor the complim ment….I’m m not thaaaaaat much preettier than you Any excciting weekkend plans? -Laurenn ——— —————— —— Race —Origiinal Messagge— well if yyou are anyy indication of a jewish girl, then yes y my tastee is impecabble. I am so close to geetting my firrst tattoo as well! I wok ke up a few weeks ago and decided it was time…II am weird like l that. I kick aass at balderrdash and sh hoot and laddders…so lo ooks like wee are going to have som me late nights oof fierce com mpetition when shhould we geet started? ps my job is waaaaaay too long g to explain over email….it is quite out of thee ordinary ev ven for me lol

——— —————— ——— Lauren p.s….yoou don’t haave to use p.s. if you haaven’t signed ur name haha is shoots and ladders likee chutes andd ladders…ok i’m donee picking onn you! i figu ure if you’re ggonna be soo picky with h what ur loooking for in n a girl (all of which crriteria I like to think I fit, exccept for 2 thhings…1 th hat I’m not nnecessarily opposed to,, but have nnever done and a 1 that I’m m incapable of) then I fiigure you caan take a litttle dig I guess you’ll havee to tell me about a your jjob in perso on, then. I have h a very ddramatic friiend who alw ways tells me m that she needs n a life coach, so perhaps p I can n get you soome businesss…althoughh I think I have h a betterr idea of wh hat she need ds i can heelp motivatee you to get ur first tattoooo…my frriend did for me and I’m m so exciteed….I’m going too bangbang, the guy wh ho does all of rihanna’s tattoos….I’m soooooo nervous th hough! p.s. my mom once told me to never trust a guy who doesn’t d ask you questioons about yourself…so hit it!! ——— —————— ————— —Race —Origiinal Messagge— ok ok I see how it is….i i was under u the im mpression p..s. comes from the Latiin post scrip ptum, an a And since it wass written aftter the mainn body of my m letter expresssion meaninng “written after”. I assum med I was coorrect in usaage. I sincerrely apologiize. Actuallyy shoots annd ladders iss much diffeerent than ch hutes and laadders. In shhoots and laadders, you are actually chhasing peoplle with a paaintball gun while climb bing up andd down ladd ders….a very funn game..oh and you have to wear a giant chiccken suit. I’m m not sure w why that rule is in there buut it is. Your m mom sounds like a brilliiant womann so here ya go: would yyou rather: live in a mansion by b the lake or o a shack oon the beach h? always have to sayy what is on your mind or not talk for a year? have 1 yyear of amaazing, toe cu urling sex aand then 1 year y of no seex or 2 yearrs of so-so sex? good luuck oh and pp.s. here is my best gueesses to youur statementt: 1) is send ding of naugghty pictures and 2) has to ddo with the nipple n breasst thing?

——— —————— ————– Lauren —Origiinal Messagge— Wait, soo you aren’tt supposed to t wear a chhicken suit when playin ng the origiinal chutes and a ladders?? That explaains a lot. ok answ wers to yourr questions… … would yyou rather: live in a mansion by b the lake or o a shack oon the beach h? Mansioon by the lakke in the win nter, shack on the beacch in summeer. Yes, I chheat when answeriing hypotheetical questions. always have to sayy what is on your mind or not talk for a year? I alwayys do say whhat’s on my mind, unleess it’s hurtfful to others…but I trusst that in any y situationn I could sppeak my min nd in a posiitive way, so o definitely A have 1 yyear of amaazing, toe cu urling sex aand then 1 year y of no seex or 2 yearrs of so-so sex? I’d honeestly rather have no sex x than so-soo sex, so thiis one’s easy y…althoughh I’d like th he no sex yeaar to come before b the am mazing sex year…is th hat possible??? What arre your answ wers to ur ques? q You aree right with the picture thing, but w wrong with your second guess. It’ss actually th hat I’m not devvoid of compplaint…I sp peak up wheen I’m not happy h with something… s ….not in an obnoxioous whiny way w though,, more in ann assertive way. w It mustt be b/c I haave great brreasts So where do you liive/work in the city, annd where did d you grow up? Also, w what do you u mean by takinng care of your y family?? -Laurenn ——— —————— ———— Race —Origiinal Messagge— you cann’t ask me thhe same queestions punkk! well devvoid of com mplaint defin nitely doesnn’t mean no ot speaking up u when yoou are not haappy with som mething, it is all about how you doo it.

Right nnow I am woorking from m the rooftopp of 95 walll. Since mosst of my woork has to do o with writing or marketinng online I can c do it froom just about anywhere with an innternet conn nection yeah my life is pretty p sweett like that. I mostlyy “grew up”” in albuqueerque, NM. But my reaal growing up u (which I am still in the t processs of) has occcurred as I moved m all arround the world, w mostlly by myselff. As far aas taking caare of my fam mily, I didnn’t mention I have 17 kids? k I am gooing to starrt the first eveer family traaveling circcus I actually mean I am a working hard so I caan take my family (mom, dad, sistters, nieces and nephew ws, brother inn law, etc) on o surprise vacations, retire r my daad, and sendd my niece and nephew ws to collegee. Of coursee they don’tt know this yet y but it WILL W happenn. Also myy father oncce told me that t the thinng he wanted d to do mosst was go inn a hot air baalloon ride oveer the Serenngeti. I was like 7 whenn he said it so s he prob has h no idea i rememberr. I’m nott sure I havee ever told anyone a that lol. Anywayys if I havenn’t scared you y off, wannt to meet up p for a tasty y beverage oof the adult variety this weeekend? check [ ] yes or [ ] heck yes ——— —————— ————— ————Lauren —Origiinal Messagge— haha I aasked you other o questio ons as well, so yes I can n! 95 wall is a very niice building g…do you liive there, or are you ju ust loitering?? I was therre there recentlyy to take a loook at the teechnogym eequipment before b redessigning the gym in the buildingg I manage… …and was actually a suppposed to taake over an account at 775 wall, butt didn’t want to be on-site long l term. I’m I actuallyy working frrom home today but saadly indoorss. I should ggo buy a chhair for my fire f escape aand set up shop s out theere. I wouldd love to be able to givee back to my parents financially, one o day, esppecially my dad. I’m takiing him on a food tour for father’ss day…I gu uess that’s a start? I lovee surprise vacationns…can youu adopt me??? An adullt beverage sounds perfect, and prrobably just what I’ll neeed after geetting my tatttoo. ——— —————— ————— ————— Race –Originnal Messagee—

a food ttour? I usedd to do this thing t calledd chamber ch homp down n in san dieggo where we would go on a walk arounnd point lom ma and eat aat different restaurants r that t had a sset menu inv volved with it. It was awessome! shoot m me over yourr # and we will w plan ouur epic meett up ——— —————— ————— ————Lauren There’ss a ton of food tours in Manhattan,, most of theem on my block b actuallly. We’re doing d the Greenwich Villlage tour…http://www w.zerve.com//F oodTours/GVTour I love food more than anyything, so I am unbelieevably excitted. haha i ccan’t wait too hear what this epic m meet-up entaails…xxx.xx xx.xxxx ——— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— —

Module 4: 4 Pussh Her safeety bu utton Three bbuttons dow wn and 2 more to go. W Well done sirr! So here iss where we aare at: she is i totally attracted to you, shhe has imagiined you tw wo spending g time togeth her and she feels like you y two connectt on a more personal co ompatibilityy level. Can n you guess what it is tim me to do? If I you said, “M Make sweet sweet love to her” youu are jumpin ng the gun just a bit. It is time to set the date andd get her to meet up wiith you in p erson. In orrder to do th his you musst Push Her Safety Button.

Gettin ng Her To Meet Up Althouggh there aree a lot of fun n to be had ttalking with h a woman online, o the uultimate goal is ALWA AYS to meett up with thee woman yoou are intereested in. Th he amount oof attraction and connecttion you havve built with h her by puushing the laast 3 buttonss greatly det etermine herr willingnness to meeet up with yo ou again. Eqqually as im mportant is the t way in w which you invite i her. Thee way you invite i her deemonstratess how comffortable you are with yoourself and the way you view the worldd. Remem mber, it is alw ways up to you to makke her feel comfortable with the thoought of meeeting again. Y Your best sttrategy for avoiding a anyy hiccups in n setting up your date iis to anticipate any problem ms she mighht have with h it. You neeed to remov ve her hesitaations from meeting up p with you beffore she eveer has the op pportunity too think abou ut them. Th here are manny differentt strategies you can use u to help alleviate heer hesitation ns while sim multaneouslyy demonstraating hy of her tim me. you are the type off man worth

A Quicck Differeence Betw ween Sociaal Network king sites and Datin ng sites As I havve already mentioned, m women on social netw working sitess are there tto be … welll social. This meeans they arre way moree down to hhave your firrst meeting be at a sociial gathering or party off some sortss. Women on o Online D Dating sites, on the otheer hand, are there to meeet guys they cann go on datees with. Thiis mean the majority off them will want to meeet up 1 on 1 for the first meeet up. This is especiallly true the oolder they arre. Keep thiis in mind an and adjust th he techniquues below accordingly a y.

Implyiing Hangiing Out It is hellpful for herr to have tho ought aboutt hanging ou ut with you again a few w times befo ore she actuallyy does. Throoughout you ur interactioons, playfullly say thing gs that implyy that you and a her will be hanging ouut in the futu ure. This reaalization will force her to start imaagining hersself hangingg out with you y and you ur friends. T This way, wh hen you ultiimately inviite her to meet m up, she is liikely to be much m more comfortablle with the idea becausee she has alrready playeed out a ton of sscenarios in her head. Here H are som me examplees of how to do this. She respponds to soomething yo ou say kindaa sassy, or playfully p and d you say: “How aam I supposed to bring you aroundd my friendss with that kinda k attitudde miss sasssy pants! JJeeeze! ”

“Woah woah!, wattch your ton ne there suggar pants! I might m just have h to forgeet to invite you to this weeeks {some fun f event/paarty} ” As you can see, a lot l of the oth her fundam mentals are being b used in n these messsages as weell. You have a pplayful nickkname and emoticons e tto soften thee tone as weell as some pplayful teassing. These tyypes of messsages also display oncce again thaat you have standards s annd are not just going too settle for what w comess your way.

How D Do You Kn now When n Is It Tim me to Suggest Meetting Up? It will hhappen at diifferent timees for differrent women n. But here are a some maajor things to t look for: onversationaal hooks - Is she grabbing onto your co - Have tthe length of o your messages back and forth grown on bo oth sides - Have yyou both oppened up an nd connectioon on at least 2 rapport topics - Are yoou having fun fu and do you y really w want to meett up with heer If you aanswered yees to all 4 off the questioons, chancees are it is tim me to seed tthe invite.

Plant tthe Seed for f Meetin ng Up In orderr to better ensure a wom man will acccept your in nvites to han ng out, youu can do som mething called ““Seeding Thhe Invite”. You Y plant thhe “seed” off the invite before b it is even offereed. The premisee is to ask her h a questio on regardingg things thatt are involved with the event/party y/place that youu are invitinng her to thaat she will m mostly likely y agree with h enjoying. The secret is to make thhe things associated with the eventt sound incrredibly fun. So much soo that it would be strange for her not to say yes. Examplle 1: Taco Tuesday T “Do youu like tacoss, margaritass, good mussic and greaat company??” Examplle 2: Comeddy Club “Ps. do you have a good sensee of humor aand like lau ughing so haard you pee your pants? (ok y pants… …that’s gro ss…lol) don’t acctually pee your ” When yyou actuallyy extend an invitation too her she’s more likely y to say “yess” having allready agreed tto liking thee things associated withh the event.. The besst time to doo this is afteer she has juust done som mething cute, shared soomething peersonal or respoonded to onne of your qu uestions. Thhe point is you y want to have a reasson why you u want to invitee her. So sim mply add in n a phrase liike “you seeem fun” or “I “ like yourr style”. This allows her to fe feel that she earned the invite (and she has) making her feeel that mucch safer. Examplle 1: Taco Tuesday T

“I like your style….Do you happen like tacos, margaritas, good music and great company?” Example 2: Comedy Club “Ps.you seem really fun… do you have a good sense of humor and like laughing so hard you pee your pants? (ok don’t actually pee your pants…that’s gross…lol) “

Implying the InviteImplying the Invite A woman can’t say no to hanging out if you never actually ask her. By implying or suggesting the possibility of inviting her to hang out you not only show you are still uncertain about hanging out with her, but can also find out if she is able to make it before you actually invite her. Examples: “I was gonna invite you to…” “I was considering inviting you…” “There is a possibility I might invite you…” This is the perfect way to lead into using a false disqualifier or hang out requirements.

Using Absurd Disqualifiers It is helpful to use an absurd disqualifier while dangling the possibility of an invitation before her. It insinuates that she can only meet up with you if she meets certain criteria and will enhance her safety level even more because it communicates that you do not invite just any girl. Behind the scenes you should hold the belief that only girls who are fun, exciting and have something to add are worthy of an invitation to hang out with you. Remember, a girl likes a guy with standards. Here are a few examples: Example 1 I’ll invite you as long as you promise not to be some crazy MySpace/ Facebook stalker chick who’s gonna make fun of my G.I. Joe collection (hey he is a REAL American hero)…haha Example 2 You can come to our party as long as you promise not to steal our furni- ture (we just reconditioned our couches) and eat all the marshmallows out of our Lucky Charms…haha Example 3 Ok you are invited as long as you promise not to embarrass me in public/in front of friends/etc by showing up in hot pink leg warmers ————————————————————————————————————— ————————

All Together Now

Here is a quick exaample of wh hat it looks like to use all a three tecchniques toggether to giv ve you a better iddea of how they work. In Actiion: ——— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ——— ——— —————— — From: R Race Date: O Oct 25, 20077 2:43 PM so-so seex??? I wouuld rock it fo or a year annd then just cheat the seecond year...shhhh don’’t tell you seeem like you are a fun peerson with ppositive liveely energy. do you likee hookah, beeerpong, ggood music fun f costumees and greatt people? ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: H Her Date: O Oct 25, 20077 2:47 PM yep…alll of that stuuff… ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: R Race Date: O Oct 25, 20077 2:53 PM well theen I might juust invite yo ou to our haalloween paarty but you have to proomise you aren’t a one of tthose crazy girls who steals our fuurniture (I ju ust re-condittioned my ccouches) haaha shoot m me over you number and I’ll txt yoou the details. As a bonu us we get too become tx xt buddiess and you geet a new jok ke i just learrned…how lucky are you???!!! y ——— —————— ————— —————— —From: H Her Date: O Oct 25, 20077 2:56 PM no i donn’t steal…i just j cop a feel f lol…j/kk ok my #is (xxx) xxx-x xxxx… ——— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ——— ——— —————— —

Check k Yes or No N I still reemember whhen a girlfriiend of minne invited me m to watch movies m at hher house in cutest way. Juust like the notes n I woulld get in graadeschool from fr a girl who w was into to me, she asked a me to chheck yes orr no. “Wouldd you like too come overr tomorrow & watch movies m with me? Checkk [ ]yes or [ ]no” A funnyy way of alttering it is to o take awayy the no so her h only opttions are to hang out with w you. “Wouldd you like too come overr tomorrow & watch movies m with me? Checkk [ ]yes or [ ]heck yes! This is a great wayy to invite a girls who yyou have alrready gone out with onn several occcasions and hadd a great tim me as well. In Actiion: ——— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ——— ——— —————— —

RaceJannuary 23 at 2:43pm Well heello Tory a dancer d eh? anything cooming up? you y must haave nice legss lol a fackinng waitress… …sounds…emm…hardd? I am a m motivationaal speaker/w writter/coachh kinda thin ngy…It is a sweet gig. I get to trav vel all over thee world andd help peoplle achieve thheir goals so wherre are you taaking me on n our date thhat you hav ven’t invited d me on yet?? ——— ————— T.Januaary 23 at 2:557pm oh wow w i love youur job. i came hhere to be a dancer.. bu ut ive been m more successful doing film. im in a comedy group g too ! i vvolunteer at the children n’s hospitall every week k and its my y favorite thhing ever. not to bbe old fashiooned.. but i thought boyys do the daate invites. ——— —————–– RaceJannuary 23 at 3:13pm oh yes ssorry how is this?: you are cordially innvited on an n exquisite eevening of fun and adv venture withh Mr. Race de Priest. do you accept? check [ ] yes or [ ] heck yes! volunteeer at the children’s hosspital…onlyy the coolesst thing everr! I want to come and play p sometim me I was a volunteer v yo outh group lleader in haawaii for a summer..so s fun ——— ————— T.Januaary 23 at 3:220pm so i suppose i have to say yes please bbe fairly norrmal consid dering men iin ny tend to .. not be? and by norm mal i just mean m not an ax m murderer or transvestite t basically, iill be happy y with even that. xxx xxxx xxxx. she be waitresssing tonightt but future date shall happen ——— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ——— ——— —————— —

Ending With “G Gotta Run n” Anotherr technique for display ying you aree a “real” peerson with an a active soccial life is to o end an interacttion with “ggotta go” or “gotta run””, then add a short reaso on why. For exaample: -Gotta rrun! My frieends are tak king me on a surprise trrip to the lak ke to go waaterskiing. tttyl -Gotta ggo! My friennd just got into town an and is comin ng over to co ook me dinnner. Talk to o ya later gaator -Gotta rrun…I am meeting m som me friends oout for sushii…yum yum m. I’ll take a saki bomb b i your honor Make suure it is som mething you u’re actuallyy going to do. d This is an n indirect w way of lettin ng her know yyou do cool things, you have cool ffriends, and d you have a fun life fulll of interessting activitiees.

Note: oonly do this ONCE in your y interacttion or else it seems weeird

Gettin ng her # There’ss a reason I showed you u how to suuccessfully set s up the in nvite before getting herr numberr. You neverr want the thought t to ccross her mind that the point of youur intention n was to acquire her number. This won n’t happen w with this sysstem becausse you only need the nu umber as a loggistical tool to set up the details off the event you’ve y decid ded to invitee her to. Altthough her num mber is a keyy componen nt in the nexxt section fo or setting up p a solid meeeting, rightt now it is only a secondaryy considerattion. So far you’ve prop posed an in nvite that shee has earned d. In order too give her thhe details, you y need herr number. The T number is not the fo focus; it is th he fact that youu are meetinng up. If you hhave done everything correct c up too this point you y can sim mply say som mething likee: “Shoot me over yoour # and I’lll text you thhe details. Plus P we get to become ttext buddies

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You cann leave off the t “Text bu uddies” parrt if it seemss too silly to o you. Whenn she writess back with her number, give g her you urs in returnn so that when you do text her she will know who w it is.

If She Isn’t Quiite Ready to Give Y You Her # Every nnow and theen you will come c acrosss a girl who o says she doesn’t havee a cell phon ne, her phone is broken, orr she doesn’t give out hher number to strangers. If this occcurs, chances are you havve brought up u the issuee of her num mber too soo on; you havee not built eenough com mfort and trusst. Don’t woorry. Remem mber, IT’S N NOT A BIG G DEAL. Ju ust throw ouut a commeent about hhow you are relieved (i.e. “phewww w…good… …I was afraid d you were going to giv ve it to me and expect me to call you to check in all time…h haha”), or teease her (i.ee. “it’s cool if your parole oofficer won’t let you taalk on a cell phone…I would w hate for our frienndship to bee based solely oon conjugal visits…hah ha”) and go back to buiilding more attraction aand connecttion then askk again laterr. If you aask for her number n and d she compleetely ignorees the issue, it could bee because sh he either was so intent on annswering an nother part oof the messaage that she totally misssed it, forgo ot, or b up. On nce again, juust continuee having she justt needs more attraction, connectionn and trust built fun andd bring it up again later. In Actioon: ——— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ————— —————— ——— ——— —————— — Race May 100 at 1:16pm shoot m me over yourr # and we’ll smoke soome hookah h sometime soon. s cheers ——— —————— ————— —————— —Girl

May 13 at 1:14pm haha now how can I trust you just yet with my number?! I think you should give me three reasons to do so, and maybe then I will! haha :] —————————————————Race May 14 at 10:24am haha…fair enough 1.I floss often 2.I can make balloon animals 3.I know and have used the word superfluous on many occasions how about that pussy cat? —————————————————Girl May 15 at 10:39pm haha hmm.. idk still! Do you ever shop at Urban Outiftters?! —————————————————Race May 16 at 12:36pm u r funny…hope you have a great weekend —————————————————Girl May 20 at 6:27pm Sooooo how was your weekend?! And I’m glad to know that you find me so amusing! :] Maybe we should get to know each other before you judge so quickly eh?! haha P.S. I like your profile picture.. I was her (ariel from the little mermaid) one year for Halloween.. Text me! xxx-xxx-xxxx ————————————————————————————————————— ———————— In this situation I gladly went along with her qualification but when she still refused I simply responded “u r funny…hope you have a great weekend “. If you recall this is one of the ways I taught you to respond when a woman tests you. As you can see it worked like a charm.

Congratulations You Set the Date and Have Her #…Now What? You meet up, fall in love and live happily ever after duh! j/k There are some definite things you need to do in order to keep the momentum going.

Keep the Momentum Going Succeeding in getting a girl’s number online is a major indication that she is interested in you. It means she is comfortable and attracted enough to accept you as a normal part of her everyday life. Now it is up to you to maintain that interest and meet her as soon as possible! It

is best to meet her within a week of getting her number. The target is to meet her within two to three days, but sometimes people are legitimately too busy and you need to continue interacting with her to maintain the excitement about meeting up. When she sent you her number, she wanted to meet you. If you let too much time pass, she will no longer be excited about meeting you, and you might as well forget about her. Always keep the momentum and excitement you have built up going, or another man will. You are not the only man pursing her. This is why you must continue to differentiate yourself through the beliefs you hold, the attitudes you portray and the words you use. Let’s see briefly how to do that through texting and phone calls.

How to Keep Her Excited Until the Meetup – Texts and Phone Calls So how do you transition from online communication to the first meeting? Your new best friend is your phone. Most modern phones provide a text messaging feature which I recommend using first for several reasons: • It’s a more natural transition from messaging online; • It’s not as intrusive as a phone call; • You’re not as likely to freeze up or come off as needy or too strong because you have more time to formulate your responses without the pressure of realtime conversation. I recommend you add unlimited texting to your phone plan, as you will quickly be sending and receiving hundreds of texts. If your phone doesn’t have texting capabilities, don’t panic. I included an entire section on how to handle phone conversations.

How to Know if You are Texting/Calling Her Too Much One of the biggest mistakes guys make when texting a new woman they are interested in is texting or calling her way too much. Just because she doesn’t respond immediately to your text messages or answer every call doesn’t mean you should just text or call her again. Persistent text messages when there is little or no response communicates neediness and a scarcity mentality. This is a guaranteed way to kill attraction. So how do you know when you are texting her the right amount? Here are some key indicators that will help you calibrate. You’re haven’t build enough attraction and are texting/calling her too much if: • her response time is consistently slow • she doesn’t engage you in conversation or latch onto your conversational hooks • she consistently gives you one word/super short replies (ok, sure, yep, etc) • she doesn’t initiate text/phone call interactions You’re texting/calling her the right amount if: • she initiates text/phone call interactions • she responds to text/phone calls quickly • she readily engages you in conversation, latches onto your hooks • She answers your questions • she propels the interaction forward by asking questions of her own Keep these in mind so you’re in tune with whether you are texting or calling her too much. This will give you a good idea of her interest level. If she stops showing interest in you, do not just continue to text and call her day after day without a response. Take a few days off

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Contin nuing the Interactio on Offlinee It is enttirely possibble to never speak to heer on the ph hone before you meet hher. Howeveer, you still havve to interacct with her in i a way thaat builds attrraction and comfort in order for heer to meet upp with you. You do thiss by utilizinng the fundaamentals I covered prevviously. Here thhey are againn briefly: • Conveerse about fun fu things an nd be playfu ful; • Use faalse disqualifiers period dically to coontinue to build b her attraction to yyou as well as a put her minnd at ease abbout what your intentioons are; • Use gaames througghout your text interacttions to keeep the tone of o the conveersation plaayful; • Use em moticons inn place of vo ocal tone annd body lang guage to en nsure the meeaning of yo our message is conveyyed to her; r g to allow heer to create and build shhared memories • Continnue or evenn start new role-playing with yoou; • Don’t always be available; • Sporaddically imply that you two will bee meeting up p if for som me reason yoou haven’t set s a specificc date. If you aare having trrouble with h any of thesse post up in n the memb bers forum oor referencee B4 U TXT HE ER as I go over o every last l detail yyou could im mmagine.

Phonee Calls

Not everyone is like me but I HATE talking on the phone…unless it is to a long term girlfriend and we have been apart for a while. Otherwise I would much rather text or even better hang out in person. But even so, there are times when calling a girl on the phone is not only a good idea but if you don’t you run the risk of losing her. Here are the main reasons for calling instead of texting: - She Needs To Hear Your Voice To Feel Safe You have done everything in the GETTING HER TO MEET UP section and yet she is still hesitant. Sometimes a woman just need to hear your voice to triple check you are not really some weirdo and that she is making the right decision to come meet up with you. She wants to make sure you are really the guy she is having so much fun with over online messages/texts and it isn’t just a show. Often times she will call you when you are making plans or she is on her way to meeting you. This is usually an indication she just needs to reconfirm in her mind that she is making the right choice to meet up with you. Don’t worry I will be going over the principles to keep in mind so she will leave the conversation excited to see you. -Plans Keep Changing or She Needs Directions Sometimes when you are coordinating a meet up plans can keep changing. Maybe either her or you are running late or your friends decide to change venues last minute or perhaps it is just a hard place to find. In this instance you don’t want her to get frustrated trying to figure out or wait on texts. The last thing you want is her to show up flustered and in a negative mood. If she is lost or you are running late or changing venues simple call her and guide her through it. Often times she will call you. Make sure to answer. Remember we want to make this as easy as possible for her to meet up with you. -There Is Too Much To Explain Over Text Hey let’s face it, sometimes there is just too much information to relay across the limited platform of text messaging. In this case, simply shoot her a text saying, “hey too much to text..you around to chat real quick?”. It is important to throw in “real quick” so she won’t feel obligated to be stuck on a long boring phone call. Remember, she doesn’t know yet if you are going to be like most other guys who call her: awkward and dragging out a conversation. Follow the principles in this section and you will rock it!

Vocal Tonality and Tempo There is a lot more that she can read into through your vocal tone, tempo and inflection you use. You need to make sure that you have energy in your voice. DO NOT BORE HER! Your goal is to lift her up not drag her down! Your vocal tone can insinuate a lot of things. Through your vocal tone alone, you can make sexual implications, turn an otherwise serious statement into something playful, and even imply questions through statements. It is important that you vary your tonality when speaking to express your points and keep her interest. No one wants to talk for very long to someone who sounds like Ben Stein (the economics’ teacher in Ferris Bueller’s Day Off ). In addition to your tone, be conscious of the speed at which you are speaking. When people are nervous they have a tendency to speak very fast. Take a deep breath. Speak slowly and pause often. Pauses are very powerful conversational tools. Pauses give the other person cues

as to when to chime in to the conversation and can cause her to anticipate what you are going to say next. Note: Try looking in the mirror when you talk to her and smile. You will be surprised at how your smile comes across in your tonality. Speak up! You don’t want her to become annoyed with trying to figure out what you are saying as you mumble. Speak clearly and audibly she she can easily understand what you are saying. Don’t give her a reason to want to get off the phone or dread talking to you. If you are making plans together, be the one who is actively making the decisions Tell her what you want. Don’t be constantly asking her what she wants to do. Show leadership skills and don’t put the pressure on her to decide what you two are doing. In the same vein of thought, often times people don’t know how to get off the phone gracefully. As the leader simply say something like, “well I gotta run but I will see you soon” of “hey I gotta run but I will chat with you soon”. One last note, make sure to keep up your playful tone, teasing her and having fun.

Leaving a Voicemail If she doesn’t answer, only leave a one-line voice message such as, “Hey {pause} it’s {your name}. Will chat with you later girly!” DO NOT go into detail about what you were going to chat about. Keep it short with no information and imply that you will talk with her later. You can also use a tactic of creating urgency for her to call back by adding “I have the craziest story to tell you.. omg.. ok chat soon, later gator!” Now you are giving her an exciting reason to want to call you back and hear this story. It doesn’t matter if you have a story or not. You can make something outrageous yet SILLY when she calls back, and then let her know you are joking. The only goal here is to make her want to call back on her own when she hears this. And remember your vocal tone, inflection, and tempo are all equally important when leaving voice mails as well!

The Meet Up Location and Environment The environment that she is exposed to, the one you invited her to, must be exciting, comfortable, and fun. If you have a bunch of boring people there and nothing going on when she arrives, it will translate to you being boring. Even if you need to start out by doing group activities at events that are already taking place (i.e. concerts, festivals, other peoples’ parties), that is fine. If you are meeting her out 1 on 1 (much more likely for paid online dating site women), then make sure to pick a place that has fun activities (pool, ping pong, shuffleboard, etc) or an engaging ambiance (a live band, flair bartenders, etc). Another important thing to keep in mind is location. You want her to feel safe arriving and walking in so avoid a dive bar in the middle of no where.

If the initial meeting is taking place at your house there are additional things to consider. Everything that she experiences and encounters in your home will reflect positively or negatively on you. Take care to invite the right kind of people there (if it is a group event you invited her to), set the appropriate mood with activities, and ensure that the house is clean and has a decent smell throughout. The following is a list of some activities and mood enhancers I use at my house: • Hookah and tobacco • A Beer Pong table or some collection of material that can be used for a makeshift Beer Pong table; • A party playlist on that helps to set mood (something unique I do is include funny movie quotes at random times throughout the playlist); • Dimmers on the lights to set the appropriate mood; • Fun games like Catch Phrase, cards for fun drinking games, and other games that can engage her/everyone in a fun group activity; • Fun reading material on coffee tables and in the bathroom such as Guide To Getting It On, If…, The Cosmo Kama Sutra (which is great to use to play sex charades), and other fun reading material.

The First 5 Seconds of Meeting Up The first five seconds when meeting a woman from online are critical. During this period of time she is consciously and subconsciously scanning you and the environment for all sorts of things. In analyzing this minutia she will validate or invalidate any feelings you and her had built up in the previous stages. You must not introduce yourself to her. Again, YOU MUST NOT INTRODUCE YOURSELF TO HER! Doing so will destroy the veil of comfort you worked so hard to create when building shared memories through role-playing. Even though these memories are “fake”, the fact that she has an imaginary history with you will make her much more comfortable when meeting you. The way you present yourself in the first five seconds will dictate her comfort level. She will wait to see how you act in order to gauge how she should act in this situation. If you act weird, she will feel awkward and therefore act weird as well. Instead, act as if you are old friends. Give her a big smile and a hug. Start joking with her from the get go. She will feel more comfortable because you’re communicating that you aren’t taking the interaction too seriously and without that pressure she can open up and have fun too.

Be Busy When She Arrives – Group When she arrives, greet her by saying, “Hey what’s up {stupid nickname}, give me one second” but then go back to being busy with something you were doing for a moment. Busy yourself with anything, even if it’s finishing up in the kitchen, telling a funny story to a group of people, acting like you are fixing the stereo/campfire/hookah, talking to the bar tender,etc. The point is to make her wait between thirty seconds to a minute to get your attention when she arrives. After that, give her your undivided attention for a small period of time. The idea is that you don’t want to be immediately available to her. This starts your physical interaction with her wanting your attention, which is a great frame to begin with.

Introducing Her to Other People – Group It’s a good idea to have friends at the event so you can introduce her to people who already know you and think you are cool. This enhances your social proof. You do not want to introduce her as “the girl I met on MySpace/Facebook/Dating Site.” You need to introduce her to people as someone who is and has been a part of your life. A good way to do this is to come up with a funny “backstory” with her before she arrives (just let her know you don’t want to introduce her as the girl that totally picked you up online) or you can just make up a story on the spot. Here are some examples: • She’s your ex-girlfriend, but you had to break up with her. She just wasn’t providing for you sexually. Don’t get me wrong. She’s wild. She was just into different things, and I mean different things… • You two were in a River Dancing class in the 6th grade together and she would always try to hit on you, but you thought she had cooties, so she finally got tested. Thank God … no more cooties. The point is to make it kind of funny (obviously not true) and tell the story in a very lighthearted, fun manner. In addition to having a funny story to how you know each other, add a fun little tag to the end of the introduction. Here’s an example of how an introduction may go: You: Hey Mike, this is {her name}. {Her name}, this is Mike. Both: Nice to meet you… {blah blah} You: It’s so funny how we meet. We were in River Dancing class together in 6th grade. She always tried to be all over me, but obviously, shit, I thought she had cooties! Well, she finally got tested, and thank God… no more cooties. Haha. Anyway, we have to show her a good time. She just got out of the slammer! lol! When you introduce her to other people it demonstrates you have social savvy and are a social leader. Not only that, you become the social hub through which people know each other. All very attractive qualities.

If She Brings a Friend – Group From time to time, especially if you met her on a Social Networking site, she will want to bring a friend to the group event you invited her to. This makes her feel safer and should be encouraged. That is one more person you can add to your social group. In addition, her friend can help you out dramatically by giving you her stamp of approval. It is important to give her friend attention in order to win her over. Do not attempt to separate her from her friend until 1) you have won her friend over to liking you and 2) another person or group at the meeting location is engaging her friend. These dynamics are important because the length of time she stays is not only dependent on her own fun but on whether or not her friend is enjoying herself. Her first priority is to her friend and if her friend is bored, they will both leave.

Know that if she came with a friend, she will leave with a friend, so her staying the night is probably not in the cards. This is ok. Just make progress and plan to meet up again.

A Few Social Fundamentals Now that you have a girl you’ve met online at the meeting location, it would be negligent of me to leave you without some further guidance. Here are a few fundamental principles that will help you in any social situation. These are guiding principles that physically build attraction between women and men, as well as help you secure a second meeting with her. This list is in no way exhaustive. There have been many books written on these subjects that go into far more detail. I highly recommend you read them. I have put up a list of the ones that have helped me the most in the private members forum.

Body Language and Vocal Tonality Now that you are with her in person she will subconsciously take note of visual and tonal clues to piece together your personality. Here are some things to keep in mind so that you come across as a cool and confident guy: • When you speak, be sure to look people directly in the eyes; • Be a little over-dramatic when telling stories, use your facial expressions; • Use big hand and body gestures when speaking; • Stand up straight with your shoulders back; • Do not put your hands in your pockets or cross your arms. These are visual signs of weakness and you close yourself off to the people around you; • Loosen up. Anxiety makes your muscles tighten and give you a stiff uncomfortable demeanor. Take a deep breath and shake it out • Speak loud and clear, but don’t yell. What you have to say is important; • Speak with a deep, firm voice, and do not get over excited and speak a million miles an hour; • If it is a group event, move around from group to group. Be social. • Notice and stop any fidgety movements.

Be Social – Group Now that she is there with you in person, she can take note of how other people respond to you. This tells her a great deal about you as a person. Do people respond to what you say? Do they laugh at your jokes? Do they seem closed off after you enter their group? Make sure that she sees you talking to most of the people there and that people respond positively to the things that you say. Another good reason to have your friends there. This also transfers over to everyday social situations.

Spread Out Your Attention – Group Like I said before, do not smother her with all of your attention now that you are around her. Spend a few minutes with her and then give some other people your attention. Even if you are in a situation where she is the only person you know there, branch out and meet new people. This demonstrates confidence, social savvy, and strong leadership skills. Women find this

very attractive. In addition, this leaves her actively seeking your attention and builds your social proof.

Maintain Your Own Identity Do not agree with everything she says. She might be testing you. Many girls do this to see if a guy will stand up to them. Guys often disregard their own beliefs and preferences by agreeing with the girl they are pursuing in an attempt to create a fake commonality. They believe this will make her like them more. This is not the case. She will find you weak and assume she can walk all over you. It is better to disagree with her sometimes, and there is no need to apologize for it. However, do not disagree with her just for the sake of arguing because then you become annoying. Her: Do you like U2? You: Not really Her: Really I LOVE them! You [incorrect response]: Yah I guess they are pretty good You [correct response]: Oh you are a U2 girl huh? What’s wrong? You still haven’t found what you are looking for? I’m right here sweetheart…haha As you can see in the example above, maintaining your own identity also creates opportunities for you to tease her.

Playfully Tease Her Sporadically Be sure to tease of her periodically in a very playful manner. For example: You: You are a rich girl, right? Her: Haha no, but I sure am nice. You: That’s too bad. I’ve been looking for a sugar mama. Haha. This keeps her laughing, lets her know you’re not being too serious, and is a fast way to continue building attraction. Another way to use playful teasing is to intentionally misunderstand her in a playful way. What this means is to outwardly assume that when she says something good, she is directing it towards you. For instance, if she is looking at another object or person and pays it/them a compliment you should just respond as if she was talking to you. Here are some examples: Example 1 Her: Oh! How cute! {looking at a little puppy, or anything really} You:

ah…Thank you, but this is actually my better side {turn your head and make a silly face, or do a playful pose} Example 2 Her: I’m going shopping later… You: You are so sweet! what are you getting me!? Example 3 You: How was your day? Her: I’ve had such a good day today… You: You must have really thought about me a lot today then huh?… When using these misinterpretations always smile big and laugh at the end of them. As you can see a lot of the same principles that you used online to build attraction work just the same in person.

Changing Locations By changing locations you can make a short period of time seem like a significantly longer period of time. You want to make the woman feel as comfortable as possible with you, as soon as possible. Your goal is to have the girl tell you that she feels like she has known you for so long or forever. When you move around to several different locations quickly with someone you’ve just met, it blurs the timeline in their head. Simply think of a weekend when you did a bunch of different things. On Monday, Friday seemed like ages ago. On top of making short periods of time seem significantly longer, it forces them to build trust in you almost immediately, because they are trusting you to take them to other locations safely. This even works when moving between different rooms in the same house or different parts of the venue. The fact that they have been in several different rooms/bars/areas with you makes the timeline in their head seem much longer. A quick way to time distort someone is to have them go to the store with you to get more food and drinks an hour or so after they show up to the event.

Getting Her Alone and the Connection Cycle If you have been paying attention, when you meet up for the first time with a woman you met online you follow almost the exact same progression as you did meeting her online. You start off light and playful, build up the attraction and then move towards fascination and making the deep connection. Now the fascination can occur while in a group by how you interact with others, stories you tell etc. However, when it comes to making a deep connection you must do it one-on-one.

Simply go to a place where she can easily hear your voice, or where you two can carry on a one-on-one conversation. If you are in a group, at first it is better to keep her within eyesight of her friends or other people to help her ease into the idea of being alone with you. You can isolate her by simply telling her you have something cool to show her, teach her or just you think she is interesting and want to and you want to learn more about her. Another easy one is to go outside to get fresh air or simply turning your body language so that you two are facing each other. This is when the true magic happens. When you are to the point where you two are in an exclusive conversation it is time to go through the Connection Cycle. The Connection Cycle is where you go from light topics to deep meaningful topics, connect then release and move back to light topics. Each time you go into a Connection Cycle you build a deeper and deeper connection. The reason your best friend is your best friend or you last girlfriend was your last girlfriends is because you have been through many of these cycles over time. Note: this will only work if you are GENUINELY CURIOUS about her and if you actually listen to what she is saying instead of just waiting for your turn to talk. Step 1 excitment you feel

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Module 5: Push Her Arousal button If you have made it this far you know how powerful this system is and have several if not many dates set up. You have successfully piqued a woman’s curiosity, had fun and flirty banter, got her fascinated in you and made her feel safe enough to meet up. You have even made a deep connection with her. There is only one last thing to do if you want to take this from a pleasant friendship and turn it into a sexual relationship. You have to push her Arousal Button and spark her desire for you.

Creating a Sexual State Before You Ever Meet Up Wouldn’t you love to be able to turn a woman on to the point of orgasm using only your fingertips? Not only is creating an intense sexual state possible but it is one of the most powerful applications of digital messaging. Here are just a few of the benefits of using digital media to create and amplify a woman’s sexual desire for you. Lack of Social Pressure A woman is much more likely to open up about her sexuality with you for the first time over online messaging, IM and text messages due to the lack of social pressure. A person’s sexuality is often a very personal subject and held even more so by the unspoken taboo underlying our society. Fortunately, over online messaging/IM/text she does not have you (or anyone else) right there in front of her to judge her. You can’t look at her weird and embarrass her. She is hidden behind the veil of her computer or phone. It is the same reason why people are able to write out a letter saying what they were unable to say in person or why people do crazy things on Halloween behind a mask that they would never regularly do. This is the foundation for why creating a sexual state over online messaging/IM/text is possible and so effective. The Power of Words The most potent sexual organ in the female body is her mind. The most effective way to stimulate a woman’s mind is through the power of your words. The school-yard saying, “Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me” couldn’t be further from the truth. The truth is, words can cheer up someone’s day, break someone’s heart, encourage a friend and even evoke powerful feelings of desire and arousal. Just as men have an affinity towards visual stimulus (a.k.a are easily aroused by a woman’s physical appearance) women have a natural indulgence to the power and charm of intricately woven words. Descriptive words engage a woman’s imagination allowing her to envision, and most importantly feel, what you wish to express. Painting a vivid picture with words is the ultimate form of foreplay. A Longer Build Up The bigger the build up the more powerful and pleasurable the release. Because you can begin to build a woman’s sexual state hours or even days before you meet up with her when she shows up you are already that much closer to having amazing sex with her. The best part is the sex will be far more rewarding and intense than if you have to start from scratch when she shows up. It gives her time for her imagination to run wild. After all anticipation is half the fun!

It Sets Up a Marker Once you successfully build a sexual state with a woman it sets a marker in place so you can easily return to that point. It is impossible to go backwards in a relationship. It is just like building a bridge. You may stop using that bridge to cross over to the other side but now that that bridge is there you know how and where to get across. This means you just made progressing sexually with the woman you are interested in much easier for both of you. Intensifies Her Arousal Creating a sexual state with a woman over online messaging/IM/text is something you can do at any time. Often she will be in a social setting where experiencing those feelings is inappropriate. Maybe she is at bored at work, school, the airport, a meeting, or the library. These are places she is not used to feeling aroused. This significantly intensifies those feelings. Just like the desire to do something exponentially increases when we are told we can’t do it, leading a woman to become aroused and indulge in sexual thoughts in these types of settings becomes a secret thrill. This is a key to unlocking her secret fantasies. You Feel Like a Man Last but not least it is incredibly fun and makes you feel like a man. Leading woman to explore and express her sexual desires is one of the most rewarding and affirming things you can do as a man. As you can see this is some powerful stuff. Some of the concepts in this section are on the advanced side. It takes a certain amount of calibration to pull them off. Don’t worry practice makes the master. Be sure to read over this section several times, take tons of notes, refer back often and most importantly when you see something you want to try stop and do it right then. Note: One thing to remember is you must make sure to carry on the sexual vibe and undertones you created through online messaging/IM/text when she shows up. Otherwise you lose all your progress and she will be disappointed. If you are unsure how to do this be sure to check out Unbreakable and Irresistible over at www.thesocialman.com or take one of our many individual coaching options.

The Importance of Telegraphing Your Sexual Interest Chances are you have missed many opportunities to become sexual with women because you were not sure if you would offend her and ruin your chances. Guess what? The exact opposite is true. By not telegraphing the fact you are a sexual being you actually have ruined your chances with her. She will forgive you for being a man but not for being a pussy. In other words, when you fail to express your sexual interest in a woman she loses interest in you as a sexual option. Women are not stupid. They know that as men we have sexual desires. When we try to hide it one of two things happens: 1. She knows she can’t trust you (because you are hiding your true feelings) and that you are not comfortable with yourself – very unattractive 2. She concludes you are not interested in her as a sexual partner and starts looking elsewhere for the fulfillment of her sexual urges.

But don’t worry you are not going to do this anymore. This section will give you many tools you can use to display your sexual interest with a woman. You will be astonished at how receptive women are to your sexual advances when done correctly. You must be willing to push the envelope and try new things. I too were nervous the first time trying some of this stuff out. Often you don’t know what is possible until you just jump in and try. This is how you learn.

Be Bold Not Brash – Own Your Sexuality Be bold not brash. You must not be pushy, rude or overbearing. You cannot be the mindless horndog desperate to have sex with anything that walks. When considering how to express your sexuality to a woman try adopting the perspective of appreciation and awe combined with overwhelming raw animalistic desire for her. Check out the examples throughout this book to see what this looks like. When you create and are in a sexual state with a woman, especially over text, you will be amazed at what you can and will say. Say what you really like. Tell her what you really want to do with her and to her. The secret is to OWN what you say. No matter what her response these are your desires and you do not need to apologize for them. They are completely natural and are a part of who you are. Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 3:12:48 PM Race: Hmm I sure could use one of your wonderful blow jobs about now Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 3:36:04 PM Amber: no massage to go with it? *A Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 3:36:10 PM Race: Well if you are offering…heck yes! Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 4:10:55 PM Amber: ill be sure to keep in mind how fond you are of those *A Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 4:12:51 PM Race: Why thank you my dear…I definitely want to fuck you In the ass again soon too . That is if you don’t mind getting ridden a little rough… Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 4:14:45 PM Amber: i cant remember last time some1 texted me so upfront haha i kind of like it! *A You cannot always be filtering what you say because of how you THINK other people are going to respond to it. This is not only selfish but also very draining. Selfish because you are cheating people out of he opportunity to get to know the real you and draining because you have to always be on guard and in your head worrying. On top of that it is impossible to be in the moment, which is the most meaningful gift you can give to anyone. When you are not in the moment you cannot notice all the subtleties that go on in a conversation. You will miss out on the clues she is giving off and all subtext of what she is saying. This is the foundation to being successful with women. Owning what you say without apology demonstrates you are solid in your own identity and do not rely on others to define who you are. 7/8/08 5:17 PM Tayla: Hey my darling gutter floater lol. 7/8/08 5:23 PM

Race: Yes my little cock weasel? 7/8/08 5:24 PM Tayla: Ew dont call me that. 7/8/08 5:25 PM Race: I’ll call u whatever I want my love 7/8/08 5:27 PM Tayla: Oh no you wont. Ill hurt you 7/8/08 5:29 PM Race: I will pin u down on my bed and make u moan 7/8/08 5:30 PM Tayla: Promise. 7/8/08 5:32 PM Race: All u have 2 do is show up…i’ll take care of the rest 7/8/08 5:34 PM Tayla: I believe it sweetheart. Sorry Ive disappeared lately just going through alot. 7/8/08 5:35 PM Race: Thursday work 4 u 7/8/08 5:40 PM Tayla: Yeah 7/8/08 5:40 PM Race: We’ll make up then:-) 7/8/08 5:45 PM Tayla: Sounds amazing If you happen to truly offend a woman do not make a big deal of it. Simply apologize and move on with the conversation. Now that you are ready to man up and communicate your sexual desires to the women in your life that you are interested in let’s learn the tips and tricks to smoothly transitioning into a sexual conversation.

How To Use Descriptive Language – Get Good at Being Oral Mastering the art of using descriptive language is one of the most valuable assets you can ever learn. Not only does it allow you to tell more engaging stories, more effectively communicate your ideas and enrich your day to day experiences but it is the key to leading a woman’s imaginations and ultimately driving her wild with desire. The easiest way to begin training yourself to use more descriptive language is to start describing things according to how they feel. This can be both emotionally and sensationally – what you are experiencing with all five senses. Read the following two statements: “This coke is good” “Oh my this coke is delicious. The bubbles are like little baby angels dancing on my tongue!” As funny as that seems, which statement engaged your imagination? Which one did you visualize? Which one made you smile? Which one are you likely to remember? Women take notice to how you describe experiences, events, people, etc. Remember that a woman’s imagination is the key to powerful arousal and amazing sex. The mind cannot

differentiate between an imagined experience and a real experience. This is why sometimes you wake up from dreams confused and unsure if it really happened. When you can lead her to imagine kissing, touching and even having mind blowing, awesome, passionate sex with you guess what? She has actually done those things with you and has the memories to prove it. Now when it comes time for the real thing it will be a much easier and comfortable for her to do it since she has already rehearsed it in her head…and it was amazing! The more vivid you can make her imagine something the stronger her experience and the more permanent her feeling associated with it become. These are feelings you can now have her recall at any time causing her to go into a sexual state much quicker. This is awesome for her! Are you starting to see how powerful descriptive language can be? Take a look back through the examples I have been giving you and notice how the way we word things make what we are describing much more vivid, memorable and engaging.

Introducing Sexuality with Sexual Innuendos Sexual Innuendos are the foundation to creating and building sexual states easily and comfortably with a woman. Because of their effectiveness and ease of use I recommend you begin to incorporate them into your texting/IM/messages and real-time interactions with women immediately. Let’s begin by defining a sexual innuendo. Sexual Innuendos – statements that talk about or describe something non-sexual in a way that alludes to something sexual. Sexual Innuendos are amazing because they introduce sexuality into a conversation in a fun way. Talking about sex is in many ways taboo in our culture so when you bring it out in a fun way women love to hook onto them. Remember, women think about sex just as much as we do. It also shows you are confidant and can talk about potentially embarrassing topics without fear. It subconsciously puts her at ease because you are giving off the signals that sex isn’t a big deal. This does not mean it can’t be special, meaningful or important but that you are comfortable when it comes to sex and aren’t going to be nervous or freak out when you get into a sexual situation with her. Example #1 2/4/08 8:46 PM Sara: I have some super exciting news! But u don’t get 2 know until thursday cause it is more fun 2 tell in person 2/4/08 8:51 PM Race: Aww man…now u got me all excited and anticipitory!!! (seems like a word to me) 2/4/08 8:58 PM Sara: It is a word! Only spelled anticipatory. Nice work but now u have something 2 look forward 2 besides the noodles and mindblowing sex 2/4/08 9:02 PM Race: Noodles would have been enough to get me excited…but now I am just brimming with enthusiasm! 2/4/08 9:05 PM Sara: Glad i can make u brim 2/4/08 9:11 PM Race: I doubt that is a sexual inuendo coming from u but I am going to take it as one and get

a nice big smirk on my face 2/4/08 9:14 PM Sara: U don’t think i am capable of sexual innuendos? I am hurt! 2/4/08 9:20 PM Race: In that case I look 4ward to hearing many many more who knows, maybe someday u will be able to keep up w/ me 2/4/08 9:25 PM Sara: U r the the S.I. master. I can be ur pupil 2/4/08 9:29 PM Race: Studying under me can be a lot to swallow sometimes (lesson one) 2/4/08 9:31 PM Sara: I bow down before u… Oh! Two in one night! Example #2 Wednesday, Dec 17 2008 at 11:12:33 PM Nikki: 7 inches of snow today crazy huh Thursday, Dec 18 2008 at 12:05:15 AM Race: 7 inches is quite fulfilling I hear Thursday, Dec 18 2008 at 12:06:41 AM Nikki: Haha nice As you practice using Sexual Innuendos, you will notice that you begin to see the world in a more sexual way. Certain words will jump out you, making it easier and easier to come up with new ones on the fly. If you often have trouble moving an interaction with girls in a sexual direction, this is going to do wonders for you.

Turning the Conversation Sexual Through Directive Misinterpretation It is your job as the man to lead and escalate the conversation. The problem guys often have is how to turn a seemingly innocent conversation into something sexual. Through every message a woman sends you or any bit of conversation you have with her, there are ways to grab onto something she says and purposefully misinterpret what she is saying and turn it sexual. I call this directive misinterpretation. Tuesday, Jan 6 2009 at 2:00:10 PM Torri: guess what? Tuesday, Jan 6 2009 at 2:01:59 PM Race: You wan’t to come have drinks with me and get me drunk so you can take advantage of me?! Girl you are naughty! Tuesday, Jan 6 2009 at 2:03:16 PM Torri: Oh man! You totally read my mind… haha. I’m back in new york Simply find ways to take what she is saying and change it so that it seems like she was insinuating something sexual. Your mindset should be that everything she says and does is trying to seduce you. Thinking this way will help you begin to see what she says in a different light and allow you to easily misinterpret what she is saying and direct the conversation in a sexual direction.

Using Directive Misinterpretation to Start Roleplays You can use almost any situation to start off the creation of a sexual state. Just use directive misinterpretation to transition the conversation into something sexual. A simple and fun way to do this is roleplay that she is secretly stalking you. This automatically puts you in the position where she is chasing after you. This is a fantastic position to be in. Girls find it incredibly fun and it is almost effortless to transition into it. Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:17:14 PM Race: Did I just catch you spying on me as I was changing into my gym clothes my little stalker?! Helpful tip: Instead of just saying that I was changing in general, I was more specific and said “gym clothes”. This subtly shows off an attractive element of who I am as a person. I take care of my body. Try adding in small things like this that allude to some positive aspect of who you are as a person. Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:17:59 PM Selma: Yes im watchin u Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:19:46 PM Selma: Nice ass…. Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:20:45 PM Race: Hey thanks I’ll let you grab it next time we are making out Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:23:24 PM Selma: K im soo goin to grab it now Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:29:27 PM Race: In that case I might have to slowly slide my hands down your cute little back and return the favor Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:32:40 PM Selma: Go right ahead Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 9:22:50 PM Race: I’m not sure if that’s a good idea cause then I might be tempted to slide my hands back up your ribs, firmly grab your hair and pull your head back as I gently kiss your neck Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 9:26:56 PM Selma: Sooo…. What time r u comin over You can use this to start all kinds of different roleplays.

Sexual Roleplays Sexual Roleplays are a great way to get a woman thinking about you sexually while also allowing her a safe way to let her sexuality out of the bag.

Magen ARE YOU STILL IN NEW YORK! 9:31pmRace yes mam i am…until wed then back to good ol vegas where you are going to be waiting for me right? 9:32pmMagen lol i’ll be waiting for you in texas houston i was gonna say dont you have a job to tend too ? 9:33pmRace haha…gross. who wants a job? i do consulting work so i can do it from anywhere on my own time 9:33pmMagen hmm thats nice OH!!!!! i might be moving into these lofts that use to be a old hospital creepy 9:34pmRace are they super cool? 9:34pmMagen YES! 9:34pmRace well i could come and you could dress up like a nurse 9:34pmMagen its the artist lofts its mainly for artist but im getting in so the hallways and front yard and back yard are littered with art and sculptures you could that sounds like fun i have the outfit for it and the straps under bed restraints and!!!!!!!!!! I DO HAVE MEDICAL SUPPLYS TOO!!!! 9:36pmRace way to one up me lol…ok i will try anything twice 9:36pmMagen I FORGOT thanks to Stockroom.com

thats my online sex store you should go to it some time i really want to get the rubber sheets 9:38pmRace i just checked it out…did you participate in their easter sale? you would look quite cute as a bunny rabbit 9:38pmMagen lol i have only met 2 people that were willing to put up with what i like sexually 9:47pmRace wow you need to find people that are more adventurous lol 9:48pmMagen I KNOW!!!!!!!! i just get off to my self all i need is my vibrator and a few other things and im good to go You never know what is going to come out when you start a sexual roleplay so be ready to get some surprises. You never know until you try so simply throw it out there and get ready to have some fun.

Gauging a Woman’s Sexual Radar Often time’s guys are unsure of where a girl is in regard to her sexuality. Is she reserved? Does she have hang up’s with sex? Is she a straight up nympho waiting for you to bring it out? Knowing where she is at and how she views sex allows you to tailor your approach to make it the best possible experience for her. In addition it allows you to figure out if this girl is compatible with you sexually. This is HUGE. You can gauge a woman’s present sexual radar by sporadically throwing out little sexual innuendo hooks to see if she bites on or if they go over her head. Race: “I just saw the cutest little squirrel in the park gathering nuts and it made me think of you ” (Wednesday, Dec 3 2008 at 2:17:31 PM) Janiece: “lol! ur the best! saving that message! too cute!” (Wednesday, Dec 3 2008 at 2:19:04 PM) Danielle: “Why cause We both like nuts?” (Wednesday, Dec 3 2008 at 2:20:12 PM) As you can see the same text was sent out to both girls but the way they responded was completely different. While Janiece thought it was cute, Danielle definitely picked up on the sexual overtones of the text. It is apparent that Danielle is much more in tune with her sexuality and comfortable expressing it. Constantly be dropping these little hooks to see where a girl is at. You will often notice as the interaction progresses and you continue to use the techniques in this book to make a girl feel more comfortable with you her sexual radar will amplify and tune in to you.

Note: Just because a girl catches on to your sexual overtones does not mean she is easy. It often just means she is more in tune with her sexuality and comfortable expressing it. This can be a sign of maturity.

Providing a Safe Space for Her to Explore Her Sexuality When you begin creating a sexual frame with a woman it is important to make sure you provide a space where she knows there is no judgment. Because a woman’s sexuality can be such a personal thing it is much easier for her to hide it and be safe than share it and get hurt. You must rid yourself of moral judgment, indignation or immaturity. This also includes her knowing that you will not go behind her back and brag to all your friends or make fun of her. If you still do this it is time to grow up. Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:16:52 AM Brenda: Hey i heard a joke…i wish you were homework cuz you would be hard and i would be doing you on my desk right now lol Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:18:53 AM Race: Haha…let’s study tomorrow then;) Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:19:50 AM Brenda: Maybe after i beat you at chugging contest Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:22:16 AM Brenda: Hey lets play carpenter… First we get hammered then ill nail you lol Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:28:36 AM Race: That sounds like a fun game… But I’ll win Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:29:12 AM Brenda: I hope you would i have to tell you something though Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:30:17 AM Race: So tell me Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:32:10 AM Brenda: I have only been with one guy i dont know how you feel about that i was with him for 3 years but now i feel like i dont have enough experience :/ You know for you Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:36:57 AM Race: Experience has no standing in my book…an open curious mind with a sense of adventure and willing to explore who you are is what I value Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:38:22 AM Brenda: Thats good to hear… Im always willing to try new things:-) i hope you are as amazing as you sound Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:39:35 AM Race: Me too lol Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:40:47 AM Brenda: Im sure you will be:-) ill talk to you tomorrow When providing a safe space for a woman to open up sexually you will be surprised at some of the sexual fantasies women have. This does not mean you have to be the one who fulfills her fantasies (it is fun when you do though) but it does mean you have to accept her. By providing a safe, judgment free space for women to explore their own sexuality you will not only make it infinitely easier for her to open up to you sexually but also set yourself apart as a world class lover.

The “Le Skratch”

If any physical attribute is crucial to seduction it is the eyes. They revel excitement, passion, tension, or detachment without ever saying a word. Let me tell you a story to illustrate just how powerful the way you look at a woman can be. Last summer I was up in Montreal with my roommate visiting some of his family. After a nigh on the town we arrived back at the house his great great grandfather had build with his own hands to find his uncle in the kitchen still awake. After talking with him for a bit he convinced us to go play pool with him at a local pool hall know for it’s attractive servers. It is pretty much the hooters of pool halls. We arrive at around 2:30am and grab a table. We order a bucket of beers and get set to start our first game. When I look up I am instantly mesmerized by the most stunning woman I have ever laid my eyes on. I lock eyes with her, she drops off our beers and walks away. Less than a minute later the other waitress who took our order comes up to me with a piece of paper and tells me that the girl who dropped off our beers wanted me to have it. Much to my surprise, I open it up to see her name and number written on the piece of paper. My roommate couldn’t believe it. Being a Master Practitioner of NLP, he spend the next 3 days helping me break down what I had done. After lengthy discussions and watching me out with many more girls he helped me begin to understand what I had done. From this has come the most powerful technique I know yet to date when it comes to spiking a woman’s attraction. Here is the secret: it is all about what is going through your head when you are looking at her! Sounds simple right? But you will be so surprised how many guys are unaware of what they are thinking at the time when they are looking at a beautiful women. Often times negative beliefs creep in and start running through your head. You could be thinking, “wow why can’t I ever get a woman like that” or “I hope I don’t look stupid right now” or even simply “man I want to have sex with her” . Do you know what all of those statements have in common? They are all about YOU and not about HER. Your whole focus is inward towards you and not outwards to connect with her. And when you are stuck in your head, not only can she read that all over your body language but all of your energy and focus is tied up so you have none left to use to attract and connect with her. Does that makes sense? So what do you do instead? Next time you find yourself coming in contact with a beautiful woman try this. Stand up tall (walk as if your chest is leading your whole body), pick one eye (left or right – hopefully she doesn’t have a middle eye) and give it all your focus while running through the following thought(s) in your head: -”who are you?” -”you have no idea what is in store for you” -”are you ready to have some fun?”

Notice hhow all of these t though hts all focuss on HER. Believe B me she will feeel this in a very v powerfuul way! Thee cool thing is as the coonversation progresses and you staart learning interesting things about a her(by y using the ttechniques in the last module), m if yyou keep yo our attentioon focused outwards o tow wards her yyou will notiice what you are thinkiing when yo ou are lookingg into her eyyes will chan nge. You m might find yo ourself think king “wow you are am mazing” or “I am m so glad I am a here witth you rightt now”. Thiss will be bro oadcast all oover your body languagge. Often tiimes a wom man will look down in a shy manneer and keep asking youu “what”. Th his is a sure siggn you are on o the right track. A greatt response too this is, “no othing, I am m just very interested i in n what you aare saying” or if she isn’’t talking at that momen nt “nothing , I am just enjoying e han nging out w with you”. She won’t know why, w but she will find heerself startin ng to have very v powerfful feelings for s has everr met. you. Yoou will be liike no one she As alwaays I have too stress YO OU HAVE T TO BE GEN NUINE. You u have to alllow yourseelf to fall under hher charm annd actually be b amazed bby her. Let everything else fade aw way and become captivatted. You wiill start noticing reasonn after reaso on to like her more and more. Don’t bbe surprisedd if you startt getting a liittle sideways grin on your y face. T This is comp pletely normal.. If you ccan accompllish this onee technique you will in nstantly beco ome one off the worlds greatest seducerrs. Don’t beelieve me? Check C out thhis text I go ot from the waitress w at L Le Skratch six s months after I left Montreal My deaar Race. Since S approx ximately sixx months, I lived many y things in m my life, but I swear, nothingg comparablle to you. I send s you a m million kissses and even n though thaat the memo ory is a faculty which forgeets often fasst, I hope inn myself thaat you do no ot forget mee. XXXXX XXXXXXX X All my lo ove. -Joannyy And guuess what? She S knew veery little engglish and I knew k absolu utely no Freench and yeet we had a tw wo week flinng where we w hung out almost everryday. Therre was very little actuall verbal commuunication buut she had me m fascinatedd and it cam me through when w I lookked into herr eyes.

Set Up p a Sex Siggnal Fun W Ways to Make M Her More M Com mfortable Taking Her H Clothees Off The Toop 4 Reassons to NO OT Sleep W With a Woman W on The First Date

Casse Studies #1 ——— ———- Original Messag ge ———— ——– From: R Race Date: M May 6, 20099 2:53 PM after a rrigorously brief b overvieew of your pprofile I waanted to let you y know I have alread dy marriedd and divorcced you in my m mind. Thanks for all the wonderful w imaginary i m memories… you will allways have a special pllace in my hearrt. your exx-hubby, Race ps. ……………… Yoou get the do og and I gett the house in i Hawaii This typpe of openinng message sets up a faantastic rolee play. It is fun and play ayful and so refreshiingly differeent from thee typical meessage she receives. r It is i a bit on thhe silly sidee so she knows rright from the t start thatt you are juust having fu un and are not n taking thhe interactio on too seriouslly. Why shoould you? You Y don’t evven know her yet. Becaause there iss no pressurre she feels coomfortable to t jump righ ht in and beggin the rolee play. In facct, it is almoost irresistib ble not to. ——— ———– Origginal Message ———— ——– From: ..dani. ……………. Date: M May 6, 20099 3:28 PM hahaha.. nice. well the dog alw ways liked m me better an nyways. As you can see shee jumped rig ght in. The ffact you div vorced her makes m her w want to com me back p the blam me on you for f the divorrce or give a reason wh hy it is and findd either a reeason why, put better thhat way. In this case, itt’s ok becauuse the “dog g always like her betterr”. The most importaant fact is shhe not only responded bbut is alread dy assuming g the role off your ex wife. w Awesom me! ——— ———– Origginal Message ———— ——– From: R Race Date: M May 6, 20099 4:09 PM That’s bbecause youu always fed d him scrapps under the table…then n I had to geet him lipossuction becausee he was gettting self co onscious aroound all the bitches at the t dog parkk…poor mrr. winkey jr III

All thatt aside I do miss m you making m me bbreakfast in bed and waatching the ssun rise oveer the ocean snuggled toggether in a blanket b at ouur house in Hawaii Here I ccontinue thee role playin ng painting a picture off what our life togetherr was like. I give a reason w why the dogg liked her better b in a hhumorous way. w Then I move into w what was go ood and about our relationsship and what I miss abbout it. Now w she is imag gining doinng all these things t with mee. This creaates as sensee of comfortt with me, even e if it is imaginary i m memories. ——— ———– Origginal Message ———— ——– From: ..dani. ………… May 6, 20099 4:35 PM Date: M its true. cooking brreakfast nak ked for myseelf just doessnt have thee same effecct. This is one of the most m enjoyaable aspectss of interactiing with a new n girl…yoou never kn now what thhey are going to say nex xt! She throows a curveb ball and turn ns it sexual.. This let’s me m know shhe is comfoortable expreessing her ssexuality. ——— ———– Origginal Message ———— ——– From: R Race Date: M May 6, 20099 8:23 PM that’s w why I’ve mooved to cook king in my sspongebob onesy…hah ha r u into live indepeendent musiic and tasty cocktails? Instead of grabbingg onto her sexual s threaad and moving it forwarrd, I turn it pplayful agaain. I do this beccause it is noot what she expects. M Most guys geet so excited d when a wooman throw ws out a sexual ccomment thhat they grab b right ontoo it. This usu ually lesson ns attractionn and let’s heer know she cann use her sexxuality when n she wantss to get a risse out of you u. Instead bby playing itt down it comm municates it’s not a big deal thus m making her wonder w why y you aren’tt responding g like most guuys do. Thiss builds her attraction tto you. Next I sseed the invvite by askin ng if she likkes certain th hings/activities. ——— ———– Origginal Message ———— ——– From: ..dani. …….. Date: M May 6, 20099 9:48 PM it depennds on how independan nt the musicc it is i supp pose. She is sslightly hesiitant to com mmit but stilll interested.. She is just testing the water a bit. How you resppond is veryy importantt at this poinnt. Keep it casual c and no n big deal. ——— ———– Origginal Message ———— ——– From: R Race Date: M May 7, 20099 12:01 PM

Let’s just say this music signed a declaration a long long time ago…haha I was thinking about hitting up Hotel Cafe sometime soon to catch up on some bands and enjoy some tasty cocktails…you ever been? I respond to her hesitation in a light and playful way. It is as if I don’t even see any hesitation because in truth I don’t. Next, I actually lay down some detail but without actually inviting her. This way she has no way of saying yes or no, only if she has ever been. This also let’s me gage how interested she would be in meeting up. —————– Original Message —————– From: ..dani. …. Date: May 7, 2009 12:47 PM i have. once. awhile ago. you should let me know when your going and then maybe ill accidentally bump into you. It is VERY clear she is interested in meeting up. Not only because she suggest the possibility of an “accidentally” meeting but she is asking me to let her know when I am going. —————– Original Message —————– From: Race Date: May 7, 2009 4:01 PM well I just might go tomorrow night so to improve your accident rating shoot me over your # and I’ll txt you the details. Plus we get to join txt-aholics together..lol With all these clear signals from her and a date idea already set up, I know it is time to get her phone #. I let her know I might be going the next night but do so in a fun way. There is the added connection of becoming text-aholics together because most girls can relate to that. I understand her world which makes it even more comfortable for her to give me her #. —————– Original Message —————– From: ..dani. …. Date: May 7, 2009 7:47 PM oopsy. forgot to give you my number. i heard sometimes that helps when you want someone to call you. i’m heading out and about tonight, i have a crackberry addiction so text messages are my favorite. xxx xxx xxxx Not only does she give me her # but tells me she WANTS me to call her. This is what will happen when you do everything right. She even states she is “out and about tonight” which is an invitation to meet up right away. She doesn’t want to wait until our date the next night lol  

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Subjectt: a friendly fact… From: R Race Date: Jaan 5, 2008 12:02 1 AM I just w wanted to lett you know that I am haandsome I am preetty sure a friend f of miine challengged me to usse this as an n opener. I tthought it was w quite funny so took up thhe challengee. The smilee on the end d is vital to displaying pplayfulnesss. Otherw wise it can coome across as completeely cocky which w is not the point. From: M Morgan Date: Jaan 5, 2008 1:19 1 AM HAHA...OKAY THATS S FUNNY… …A LITTLE E EGOTIST TICAL HUH H?? J/K WELL SO AM I… …GEESH. DO YO OU MYSPA ACE EVERY YONE TO T TELL EM THAT? T As you can see shee jumps righ ht in and staarts playing along givin ng me plentyy of converrsational hooks too grab ontoo. From: R Race Date: Jaan 5, 2008 10:57 1 AM IS THE ERE A REA ASON YOU U WRITE IN N ALL CAP PS??? haha I personnally think you y are morre cute thann handsome with a geneerous helpinng of elegancce…but alsoo a big -ol dorky d side… …well at leasst I hope so you sayy you have lived l all oveer the worldd…um…lik ke where??? I have livedd quite a few places m myself. tootles -Race w can I start oout by teasinng her a bit on using alll caps. I go through herr profile andd see what we connectt on. Since travel t is a big b one for m me I ask herr about it. From: M Morgan Date: Jaan 5, 2008 2:50 2 PM SO WH HAT..I LIKE E CAPS… IT I LOOKS WAY COO OLER! HAH HA WHERE E ARE YO OU FROM… …YOU CAN NT BE FRO OM VEGAS S… I’VE LIIVED JMM M…LETS SE EE..HERE’’S MY LIST T: GERMA ANY AUSTR RIA ORLAN NDO FL. TACOM MA WASH HINGTON VALDE EZ ALASK KA SAN DIEGO/LOS S ANGELES S/SAN FRA ANSISCO CA. C MAUI HARLIINGEN TX. UMMM M…I DON’T KNOW WHERE W EL LSE I’M FO ORGETTIN NG… WHEN N U LIVED IN GERMA ANY I TRA AVELED ALL A THROU UGH EURO OPE WITH MY MOM/B BROTHER R…I WOUL LD LOVE..L LOVE..LOV VE TO GO BACK. I H HAVEN’T BEEN B TO EUR ROPE SINC CE I WAS A KID.

MY MO OM AND I ARE PLAN NNING A T TRIP BACK K IN MAY.. WHERE E ALL HAVE YOU BEEN? B -Morgaan I struckk a gold minne. There is so much I ccan engage her on and you can telll by her resp ponse she is ppassionate abbout traveling so this iss a great top pic to explore and connnect on with h her. From: R Race Date: Jaan 5, 2008 3:02 3 PM IF YOU U SAY SO...haha I preffer the diverrsity of both h BIG and sm mall LeTterrS Here is my list: Cincinnnatti Oh Albuquuerque Nm Birminggham Al Wahiaw wa Hi Dunedeen Nz Queensstown Nz Madrid Spain San Dieego, La, Sannta Barbara, Oxnard and of ccourse Las Vegas..haha V a Those aare just placces I have liv ved…muchh more if yo ou count the places I traaveled. It is probablly my favorrite thing to do…after eenriching my m life by meeeting new interesting people that is… …luckily if you y do one you are bouund to do th he other Ohh herre is somethhing fun (beecause I thinnk you will give a good d answer)… …if you weree to take mee on a surpriise vacation n where wouuld you takee me and what would w we do…waiit until you heaar my answeer! later gaator, -Race way of finishhing up thiss message iss to turn it in nto a futuree projection.. Here is wh here I A fun w start traansitioning into i someth hing deeper. Notice I en nded with “w wait until yo you hear my y answer””. This encoourages her to answer oout of curiosity of hearing what I aam going to o say. From: M Morgan Date: Jaan 5, 2008 3:37 3 PM YOU’R RE FUNNY Y…ALREAD DY WANT TING ME TO TAKE YOU Y ON A VACAT TIO..HAHA A WELL..HUMMM…I DUNNO O DEPEND DS ON WH HAT YOU LIKE L TO DO O..I WANN NA GO TO GR REECE..BUT T WHAT DO D YOU DO O THERE?? I’VE NEV VER BEEN,, SO I DON NT KNOW W… MAYBE I’D TAK KE YOU TO O ALASKA A..MY GRA ANDPA OW WNES A B& &B THERE AND A CHA ARTING CO O. WE HAV VE A BUNC CH OF BOA ATS AND WE W GO SA ALMON/SH HARK AND H HALIBUT FISHING..IT F TS SOOO F FUN..I THO OUGHT I HATED H FISSHING..BU UT U ACTUA ALLY CAT TCH A LOT T OF FISH… …THEN WE W HAVE THESE T TUR RBO CHAR RGED 4 WHEEL LERS AND D ITS FUN TO GO( W WHEN ITS RAINING R ALL A THRO OUGH THE E TRAILS AND CR REEKS) IN THE MUD …IT’S SO BEAUTIFU UL IN AK… … THE GLACIIERS(THAT T YOU CAN ACTUAL LLY WALK K ON) AND D THE AM MAZING WILD W LIFE.. YOU A ACTUALLY Y SEE BEA ARS AND M MOOSE AN ND HUGE PROKY P PIN NES…AND D

BALD EAGLES…IT’S SO FUN TO HIKE THROUGH THE TRAILS..BUT YOU HAVE TO BRING A GUN WITH YOU, IN CASE YOU RUN INTO BEARS.. THEIR IS ALSO AN OUT DOOR SHOOTING RANGE, IT’S AMAZING ESPECIALLY IF YOU GO JUNE-AUG. PERFECT WEATHER.. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN TO ALASKA?? IT’S ONE OF THE COOLEST PLACES I’VE EVER BEEN! WHERE WOULD YOU TAKE ME?? Within a few messages I have gone from complete stranger to her planning out a vacation for us while opening up and sharing things that she is passionate about. Incredible wouldn’t you say? From: Race Date: Jan 5, 2008 3:49 PM wow…kinda funny that I have never been to alaska but have always wanted to go and you want to go to Greece and I have already been. so I would take you to Greece…we would need to stop by New York. We would go to museums, watch a broadway show, eat some pizza at Ray’s,go shopping, and play tag in central park. From there we would fly off to Jukkasjrvi Sweden where we would spend the night in the Ice Hotel having drinks in ice cups at the Absolute bar, then relax in the ice jaccuzzi, and then retire to our suite carved entirely out of ice (but you would have to stay on your side of the reindeer fleece bed…no funny business). Well rested we would be ready to shake off the cold and grab a flight to Athens. Here we would jump on a boat and cruise out to Mykinos, Milo, etc where we would go on hikes, snorkle in the sparkling blue ocean, eat at a little open air cafe and eventually end up at Santorini just as the sun is setting. We would sneak down a little path and have delicious wine on one of the rooftops of the little white washed houses overlooking the ocean and for a second remember in absolute certainty why the heart of life is good. Then we would head back into town and dance all night at a sand bar to Greek fold music while sipping ouzo. Don’t even get me started on the trip back, Paris, Italy, Spain, Morocco, etc Speaking of Morocco “Morgan”, do you like hookah? Not only have I made this future projection of our adventure together rich with detail so that she can actually imagine herself there with me, I have also began to seed the invite by asking her if she like hookah. From: Morgan Date: Jan 5, 2008 4:30 PM WOW..I WANNA GO RIGHT NOW!! HAHA..YOU SOULD SELL TIME SHARES WITH ME..LOL AND YES…HOOKAH (LOVE IT) MY ROOM MATE HAS A HOOKAH.. UMM AND AN ICE JACUZZI, YOU SAY?? HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?? AND HOW CAN A SUITE BE CARVED OUT OF ICE?? HUH?? ..IS IT A IGLOO OR WHAT?? SOUNDS A BIT COLD..BUT WELL WORTH IT…SO WHEN ARE WE GOING? HAHA. WHAT DO YOU DO HERE IN VEGAS? HOW LONG HAVE YOU LIVED HERE? You can tell by her reaction that I was successful in painting a vivid picture. Also she said yes to liking hookah wich will make the invite that much easier in the next message.

From: R Race Date: Jaan 5, 2008 5:12 5 PM I have nno idea how w the ice jacuzzi’s workk but I sure do wanna find f out! It iis not an igloo it is a full sccale hotel caarved entireely out of ic e! Well it sounds likee we need to o get togetheer over som me chocolatee mint hookkah and plan n the trip out in more detail shoot m me over yourr number (if you promiise you are not really a 41 yr old m molester) an nd i’ll txt you the invite Along w with gettingg her numbeer I throw inn a qualifyin ng statemen nt just to maake her feel more comforttable. I am bringing b up p her potentiial worries before b she is i showing w we are on th he same page annd that I donn’t just hang g out with aanyone. From: M Morgan Date: Jaan 5, 2008 5:19 5 PM humm… …it looks quuite cold in there!!! do you snowboard??? my num mber is (xxx) xxxx-xxxx you’re nno a serial killer k are yo ou?? oh waitt… I guess you wouldn nt tell me iff you were anyway. a I love m mint chocolaate…but a mint m chocollate hookah??? humm so ounds intressting.. you stilll havent ansswered my questions.. geesh! how lonng have youu lived here??? what do you do heree?? how did d you find m me on myspace? do you message everyyone on heree to tell them m how hand dsome you are? I have lots of quesstions… how do i know youur not a killeer? You do have an inttresting imaagination… hmmm… Ok evenn though shhe gave me her h # she stiill wants so ome more asssurance. Yoou can see how h she even brrought up thhe “killer” th hing but it hhas already been neutraalized becauuse I brough ht up the same tyype of questtion before her h with myy qualifying g statement in the last m message. It is i very importaant that I answer her qu uestions in tthe next messsage. From: R Race Date: Jaan 5, 2008 5:40 5 PM holy mooley bambooly….that is a lot of queestions…an nd not in all caps…whaat is this wo orld comingg to??? hahaa it is cold in there -55 I believe… …but they ggive you speecial jacketss to wear soo we are safe fe and a not a serrial killer (but I am a ceereal killer… …I love cinn namon yes I doo snowboardd and no I am toast cruunch..aka ctc) I movedd here abouut 9 months ago to assisst my buddy y with his music m and lau aunch a new w companny. Not suree how I foun nd your pagge but I messsaged you because b youu caught my y attentioon… I hope tthat about answers a everrything andd here is my number because I nevver answer a call when I don’t recoggnize a num mber: one.twoo.three-fourr.five.six-sev ven.eight.niine.ten

just putt me in as “tthe amazing g “Race” whho is so sexy and aweso ome and haandsome and d I can’t wait to go smoke hookah h with h him and taalk all aboutt the great adventures a w we are going to have” iff that will fiit in your ph hone that is i’m thinnking mondday night wo ould work juust fine….u unless you are a any goodd at board games g then I nneed a partnner 2night assap!!! (ps w we smoke ho ookah whilee playing) I set up a meeting for f two day ys later (givees her moree time to feeel comfortabble about meeting up) but also extendd an invite for f the samee night but I add in a qu ualification so she will feel like shee she has a reason r to co ome. Messagging a wom man, getting her # and innviting her over all in the saame day cann feel too faast for somee. That is wh hy you MU UST qualify them so theey feel comforttable. From: M Morgan Date: Jaan 5, 2008 5:48 5 PM -5…myy goodness!!! special jaackets?? whhat about wh hen you sho ower?? do thhey give you special jjackets thenn too??? I’m m nervous! You havve an 858 number!! n im m from La C Costa.. thats where i mo oved here fro rom! I lived there for 5 yrrs. (so i say im from theere!) what ppart of s.d. are a you from m? I dunnoo…kinda weeird meeting g someone ooff of myso oace.. what if i we becom me good freinds… and peoople ask us how h we met?? do we s ay myspacee?? my mom mmy wouldd get very up pset with mee!! we needd to come up p with a reallly intrestin ng story… or o (lie) shoul uld i say… and a board ggames?? utttt ohhh.. im not n the bestt… but whaat kinda board games arre you talkin ng?? I’m a quuick learnerr…where r u playing thhese board games?? g I quite q curiouus…. I’m so ffull of questtions… are we tthere yet?? how many more min??? im hungry y… i dont feeel good… how are bab bies made??? is santa reaal?? hahaha… …I’m in a silly s mood Althouggh it is quicckly becomee the social norm, for so ome women n meeting ooff a dating site or social nnetworking site can stilll seam weirrd. It is easy y to overcom me this by m making up a fun back stoory. From: R Race Date: Jaan 5, 2008 5:58 5 PM silly mooods are weelcome…Leet’s say we m met at summ mer camp when w we weere little and d you pushed me in the bushes b and gave g me myy first kiss… …fast forwarrd years lateer I found you y on myspacce and so wee met up…tta da! I lived iin pb, point loma, misssion valley, and utc. come bee my team mate m it will be against my room mate m and his girlfriend… …with your sass and myy charming wit w we can definitely d w win! tada! From: M Morgan Date: Jaan 5, 2008 6:09 6 PM sounds sooo temptting..however..i do hav e a bit of a cold left.. i wouldnt waant to meet you ut monday sounds goodd! I have tueesdays guys annd leave myy cold behind… Thats nnot cool! bu and weddnesdays offf.. I might go g grab som me sushi by my house later l if ya w wanna join me m for that…ddo you eat suushi??

I rather meet you not at your house for the first time…duhhhh..haha.. no killing “Morgan”.. please! Ohh…and summer camp.. haha…no one is going to believe that i went to camp.. haha thats funny! sushi…huh…huh?? wanna.. wanna?? The cold bit is just a safety net. It allows her to be polite and suggest she really wants to but shouldn’t. Translation= I am not completely comfortable with the idea yet. You can see she has agreed to Monday (you don’t get over a cold in 2 days). Translation= A few days will give me time to become ok with the idea of meeting a total stranger off MySpace. As you will notice though she does invite me out to sushi (you can’t catch a cold at sushi?) Translation = I really do want to meet you tonight but can we do it at a place I know so I feel more comfortable and safe? From: Race Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:17 PM I LOVE sushi! well I probably wouldn’t marry sushi but I do enjoy it quite a bit. We’ll tell you what…there is a fabulous sushi place right by my house “Sushimon” that we can go to if you really can’t tell by now that I am an awesomely safe and totally kick ass person. I’ll try to convince my roommates and their girlfriends…they all wanted to order pizza…unless you happen to love pizza too! Don’t worry I live in a gated community….no weirdo’s allowed..lol Here I add in a few elements that help make her more comfortable with the idea: 1. there will be other girls present 2. make her feel bad for not thinking I am a “awesomely safe…” person 3. We live in a gated community (upper class) w/ no weirdo’s allowed I keep it all light hearted and fun. I also show that I am on her side and trying to convince my roommates to do what she wanted. At the same time I plant the fact that there is a great sushi place right by my house. From: Morgan Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:21 PM Well….not only do i get to meet you for the first time…but i get to meet all your roomies and girlfriends too…woahhh overload..haha…okay.. where do you live? I’m in southern highlands She is at least now ok with doing something with me that same night From: Race Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:24 PM Well I am in around Silverado Ranch area off Silverado ranch and Maryland Prkwy…do you know the area??? There is a 24hr fitness and albertson’s etc From: Morgan Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:27 PM Thats pretty close to me… I dunno..kinda weird showing up and meeting all these people for the first time…i think im nervous.. tell them we should all go to sushi and then board

games…i just ate a whole pizza to myself(kinda) yesterday… tell em they should… umm sake’ bombs and fun! lots of fun!!! woooo hoooooooooooo.. if not ill grab sushi and maybe meet up with u guys… whatever is easier We are getting closer. From: Race Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:32 PM you live close…that’s perfect! come over in about an hour and help me convince them if not we can go grab some sushi. Just mapquest my address 1111 park place Now I am turning it into something we will do together. She can come over and help me convince my room mates….it’s us against them. From: Morgan Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:38 PM how about this… is there a bar by your house that we can me at.. for a drink and then go to your house.. it might be a bit odd just crusin in and not knowing anyone..a bit uncomfortable…. ya know.. We compromise on a bar and of course I pick one within walking distance of my house. From: Race Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:44 PM haha ok….let’s meet a fireside wow I sure am doing a lot…you better be as fun as you seem…lol Note: One last qualification to show I don’t usually do this much work so she had better be worth it. I don’t do this in a mean way but add the lol to show I am kinda kidding. Note: when she calls me an hour later she mentions that she is super fun and totally worth the trouble From: Morgan Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:49 PM haha okay…dont know where that is but i’ll find it! st. rose pkwy>? lets meet at 8? i havta shower.. been in bed all day..just text me from here on out… k? She ends up coming directly to my house