Phenomenology of Love Manuel Dy

#107 A PHENOMENOLOGY OF LOVE by TASYO February 22, 2005

A PHENOMENOLOGY OF LOVE by Manuel B. Dy, Jr. What ! "$e% The &ue!t' ha! bee' a!(e) !'*e the t+e  P"at, 't '"y by -re!!'a" -h"!-her! but by -e-"e r+ a"" .a"(!  "e/ Mu*h ha! a"rea)y bee' .rtte' ' th! !ube*t, a'!.er! t the &ue!t' ha$e bee' $e' a') +a'y +re &ue!t'! -!e) a') yet the rea"ty  "$e h a! 't bee' e3hau!te)/ The $ery a*t that th! &ue!t'  .hat "$e !, ! !t"" be' a!(e) !ee+! t !h. that "$e ! -art a') -ar*e"  +a'4! "e, a') a -h"!-hy  +a' ! '*+-"ete .thut a -h"!-hy,   +a' a! "$'/ Ma'y  u! ha$e the te')e'*y t e&uate "$e .th r+a'*e/ The .r") "$e r'! a !.eet +e")y t the ear!, br'! t the +a'at' the +ae  t. "$er! .h!-er' !.eet 'th'! t ea*h ther ' the -ar( r ' the te"e-h'e, u'+')u"  the re!t  the .r") a!  '"y they +atter a') e 3!t at a""/ L$e ! a +a'y !-"e')re) th', ! the !' e!/ O' the ther ha'), "$e ! -*ture) +a'y t+e! a! a' a*t  - !!e!!',  be' -!!e!!e) by a'ther -er!'/ Pe-"e ht a') !tru"e ' the 'a+e  "$e/ 6 "$e yu ha! *+e t +ea', Yu Yu are +'e a') 6 .a't yu t ) the th'! 6 .a't, 6 .a't yu t be .hat 6 .a't yu t be/ Or e"!e, t ha! *+e t +ea', 6 a+ yur!, a') yu *a' ) .hate$er yu .a't t +e/ Fr +a'y yu' -e-"e, "$e ha! be*+e !y''y+u! .th !e3/ T "$e a'ther +ea'! t be -a!!'ate"y attra*te) t her a') br' her t be) .th +e/ Th! e&uat'  "$e .th !e3 ha! "e) t the )ea that re')!h- ! 't "$e, that .he' t. "$er! brea( u-, they +ay !ett"e ).' r re')!h- a!  re')!h- .ere 'err t "$e/ Pe-"e !ay, L$e L$e ! b"') a') "$er! )'4t !ee/ Th! ha! *+e t +ea' that t "$e ! t attra*te) t the ) &ua"te!  the ther/ S+et+e! th! ! ear'e) t the e3tre+e  attrbut' attra*t$e &ua"te! t the ther e$e'  they are 't there/ L$e ha! *+e t be e&uate) .th a)+rat'/ Er*h Fr++ ' h! a+u! b( The Art  L$' +e't'! the a*t that the --u"ar 't'  "$e at -re!e't ! a""' ' "$e/ Pe-"e ha$e the +!*'*e-t' that there ! 'th' t "ear' abut "$e that "$e ht! a +a' "(e "ht''/ Ether the arr.  u-) !tr(e! yu r yu are 't/ He attrbute! th! --u"ar 't'  "$e t three rea!'!8 19 The e+-ha!!  be' "$e) rather tha' ' "$'/ Th! ! e$)e't ' the +a'y b(! .rtte' a') !") ' h. t .' re')! a') '"ue'*e -e-"e, h. t be attra*t$e, h. t ha$e !e3 a--ea", et*/ 29 The e+-ha!! ' the be*t "$e) rather tha' ' the a*u"ty  "$'/ Pe-"e ta"(  the )ea" r", the )ea" by, by, the )ea" hu!ba'), the )ea" .e/ A') t !ee+! the rht be*t t "$e "".! the !a+e tre') a! the a) ' the +ar(et/ :9 The *'u!' bet.ee' the 'ta" !tate  a""' ' "$e a') the -er+a'e't !ta')' ; ' "$e/ Pe-"e +!ta(e the 'ta" ee"'  'atuat' a! "$e/ T. -e-"e ')' the+!e"$e! !tra'er! ' a *u'try a') ee"' "'e"y ea!"y a"" r ea*h ther/ 6 6 they !+-"y ba!e) ther "$e ' th! ee"'  "'e"'e!! ther "$e ."" 't "a!t/

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