Nonviolent Communication - Evaluative Words

EVALUATIVE WORDS CONFUSED WITH FEELINGS

Evaluative Word

Giraffe Feeling(s)

Giraffe Need(s)

Abandoned Abused

Terrified, hurt, bewildered, sad, frightened, lonely Angry, frustrated, frightened

(Un) accepted

Scared, lonely, hurt, anxious

Attacked Belittled

Scared, angry, defiant, hostile Angry, frustrated, tense, distressed

Betrayed

Angry, hurt, disappointed, enraged Angry, scared, confused, antagonistic, hostile, bewildered, hurt Angry, scared, pressured

Nurturing, connection, belonging, support, caring Caring, nurturing, support, emotional safety, physical safety, consideration, for livings things to flourish Inclusion, connection, community, belonging, contribution, respect Safety, consideration Respect, autonomy, seen for true self, acknowledgement, appreciation Trust, dependability, honesty, honor, commitment, clarity Accountability, causality, fairness, justice

Blamed

Bullied

Autonomy, choice, safety, consideration Caged/boxed in Angry, thwarted, scared, anxious Autonomy, choice, freedom Cheated Resentful, hurt, angry Honesty, fairness, justice, trust, reliability Coerced Angry, frustrated, frightened, Autonomy, choice, freedom thwarted, scared Cornered Angry, scared, anxious, thwarted Autonomy, freedom Criticized In pain, scared, anxious, Understanding, frustrated, humiliated, angry, acknowledgement, recognition, embarrassed accountability, respectful communication Discounted/diminished Hurt, angry, embarrassed, Acknowledgement, inclusion, frustrated recognition, respect Disliked Sad, lonely, hurt Connection, appreciation, understanding, acknowledgement, friendship, inclusion Distrusted Sad, frustrated Trust, honesty Dumped on Angry, overwhelmed Respect, consideration Harassed Angry, frustrated, pressured, Respect, space, consideration, frightened peace Hassled Irritated, distressed, angry, Serenity, autonomy, choice of frustrated pace and method, calm, space

Nonviolent Communication

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EVALUATIVE WORDS CONFUSED WITH FEELINGS Ignored Insulted

Lonely, scared, hurt, sad, embarrassed Angry, embarrassed

Interrupted

Angry, frustrated, resentful, hurt

Intimidated Invalidated

Scared, anxious Angry, hurt, resentful

Invisible

Sad, angry, lonely, scared

Isolated

Lonely, afraid, scared

Judged

Resentful, scared, hurt, angry

Left out

Sad, lonely, anxious

Let down Manipulated

Sad, disappointed, frightened Angry, scared, powerless, thwarted, frustrated

Mistrusted Misunderstood

Sad, angry Upset, angry, frustrated

Neglected

Lonely, scared

Overpowered

Angry, helpless, confused

Overworked

Angry, tired, frustrated, exhausted Angry, frustrated, resentful

Patronized Pressured

Put down

Anxious, resentful, overwhelmed Angry, frustrated, hostile, antagonistic, resentful Angry, sad, embarrassed

Rejected

Hurt, scared, angry, defiant

Ripped off/screwed

Anger, resentment, disappointed

Provoked

Nonviolent Communication

Connection, belonging, inclusion, community, participation Respect, consideration, acknowledgement, recognition Respect, to be heard, consideration Safety, equality, empowerment Appreciation, respect, acknowledgement, recognition To be seen and heard, inclusion, belonging, companionship, community Community, inclusion, belonging, contribution To be seen, consideration, fairness, equality, justice Inclusion, belonging, community, connection Trust, dependability Autonomy, empowerment, trust, equality, freedom, connection, authenticity Trust To be heard, understanding, clarity Connection, inclusion, contribution, community, care, consideration Equality, justice, autonomy, freedom Respect, consideration, rest, nurturing Recognition, equality, respect, mutuality Relaxation, clarity, space, consideration Respect, consideration Respect, acknowledgement, understanding Belonging, inclusion, closeness, to be seen, acknowledgement, connection Consideration, justice, acknowledgement, trust

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EVALUATIVE WORDS CONFUSED WITH FEELINGS Smothered/suffocated

Frustrated, desperate, fear

Taken for granted

Sad, angry, hurt, disappointed

Threatened Trampled/walked on

Scared, frightened, alarmed, agitated, defiant Angry, frustrated overwhelmed

Tricked Unappreciated

Embarrassed, angry, resentful Sad, angry, hostile, hurt

Unheard

Sad, hostile, frustrated

Unloved

Sad, bewildered, frustrated

Unseen

Sad, anxious, frustrated

Unsupported Unwanted

Sad, hurt, resentful Sad, anxious, frustrated

Used

Sad, angry, resentful

Victimized

Frightened, helpless

Violated

Sad, anxious, agitated

Wronged

Angry, hurt, resentful, irritated

Nonviolent Communication

Space, freedom, autonomy, authenticity, self-expression Appreciation, acknowledgement, recognition, consideration Safety, autonomy Empowerment, connection, community, to be seen, consideration, equality, respect, acknowledgement Integrity, honesty, trust Appreciation, respect, acknowledgement, consideration Understanding, consideration, empathy Love, appreciation, empathy, connection, community, compassion Acknowledgement, to be seen, appreciation, to be heard Support, understanding Belonging, inclusion, caring, nurturing Autonomy, equality, consideration, mutuality Empowerment, mutuality, safety, justice Privacy, safety, trust, space, respect Respect, justice, trust, safety, fairness, equality

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