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Male Multiple Orgasm by Ian Kessler

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Contents

Contents Contents............................................................................................................. 1 Part I: Basics ........................................................................................................... 4 Introduction ....................................................................................................... 5 Legal Disclaimer ................................................................................................. 6 What is “Male Multiple Orgasm”?...................................................................... 7 My Story............................................................................................................. 8 What does a Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm feel like?............................................... 10 The Difference between Orgasm and Ejaculation ............................................ 11 Male Sexuality and Men ................................................................................... 14 Is it safe? .......................................................................................................... 16 Who is it for? .................................................................................................... 17 Why Strive for Male Multiple Orgasm? ............................................................ 19 Commitment .................................................................................................... 24 Practicing alone vs practising with a partner .................................................... 25 Part II: The Method .............................................................................................. 27 A Quick Lesson in Anatomy .............................................................................. 28

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The Nature of a Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm ......................................................... 31 Finding Your PC Muscle .................................................................................... 33 About the PC Muscle Exercises......................................................................... 40 A simple non-ejaculatory orgasm ..................................................................... 41 Trying for a proper non-ejaculatory orgasm ..................................................... 44 Exercise 1: Short Contractions .......................................................................... 45 Dealing with a sore muscle ............................................................................... 49 About the exercises in general ......................................................................... 49 Exercise 2: Long Contractions ........................................................................... 50 Exercise 3: Very Long Contractions................................................................... 52 Excitement levels ............................................................................................. 57 Point of No Return ........................................................................................... 58 Arousal during Normal Sex ............................................................................... 60 Arousal during Multiorgasmic Sex .................................................................... 62 Spasms and their role ....................................................................................... 65 Practice makes perfect ..................................................................................... 68 Exercise 4: Ascending and Descending ............................................................. 69 Exercise 5: Walking on the Edge ....................................................................... 79

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Going for Your First Non-ejaculatory Orgasm ................................................... 82 Aftermath......................................................................................................... 86 Where to Go from Here?.................................................................................. 90 Trick: Breathing ................................................................................................ 91 Trick: Eyes ........................................................................................................ 92 Trick: Look Up .................................................................................................. 93 Trick: Abs.......................................................................................................... 94 Trick: PC Muscle Lock-In ................................................................................... 96 Male Multiple Orgasms Are All Different.......................................................... 99 Part III: Further Topics ....................................................................................... 101 The Use of Partial Ejaculation ......................................................................... 102 Total Release .................................................................................................. 105 Orgasming without pausing ........................................................................... 107 Accelerating an ejaculation ............................................................................ 109 Importance of Changing Condoms ................................................................. 113 Amplifying Orgasms ....................................................................................... 114 Final words ..................................................................................................... 116

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Part I: Basics

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Introduction

Introduction First of all, I would like to thank you for buying this ebook. In doing so, you have truly made a huge step towards improving your personal life. I value your time, so I won’t waste it on useless babble and will try to get to the point as soon as possible. However, you’ll have to bear with me since there are quite a few topics that need to be covered before you can get to actual practicing. I will also be keeping the book as short and to-the-point as possible, because I know how daunting it may be to read a massive volume of text off the screen. I have written this book in such a way that you could easily cover it one evening or two and start practicing without further delay. If there is something you don’t understand, I suggest you re-read the relevant sections at first and if that doesn’t help, don’t hesitate to contact me.

First of all, one important remark. This is a book about sexuality. As such, there will be a lot of talk about penises, vaginas, sexual intercourse, masturbation, ejaculation and all kinds of related topics. I’m sure that, as an adult, you are entirely comfortable with reading about such things. Many activities described in this book may seem “weird”, because they involve unusual sexual practices.

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Should you encounter any mental discomfort in dealing with such practices due to their strange nature, it is in your own interest to somehow overcome it. I will be teaching you a great skill and sincerely hope that you stick with the material until you have successfully taken your sexual life to a whole new level. Unusual skills require unusual learning methods.

Good luck and let’s go!

Legal Disclaimer The author of this book does not claim to be a medical expert of any sorts nor is he qualified to give any type of medical advice. Any and all advice presented in this book is for informational purposes only and is provided to the reader based on the understanding that the reader is solely responsible for any consequences of using this information. The author cannot be held liable for any damage, whether bodily, psychological or otherwise, resulting from the use of the information provided in this book. If in any doubt at all, the reader is advised to consult their doctor or other qualified medical expert.

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What is “Male Multiple Orgasm”?

What is “Male Multiple Orgasm”? I use the term “male multiple orgasm” in order to broadly refer to the ability (whether innate or acquired during the lifetime) of a man to have an orgasm, retain his erection and continue the physical stimulation until the next orgasm. In reality, there is a lot more to male multiple orgasm than just that and you will discover these things further in the book. A man who has the skill of male multiple orgasm, is then “multiorgasmic”.

Another very important term that I will be using repeatedly is “non-ejaculatory orgasm”. This is, as the name suggest, an orgasm during which one does not ejaculate. Since ejaculation and erection are closely interconnected, developing the ability to have non-ejaculatory orgasms is crucial in becoming multiorgasmic. Male multiple orgasm essentially consists, at least at the basic level, of a sequence of non-ejaculatory orgasms.

Also note that I am talking only about using your body’s natural capabilities to achieve male multiple orgasm. If a man uses medication or other artificial methods of keeping an erection throughout a sequence of orgasms, I would

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My Story

personally not consider him to be multiorgasmic. This book is about a “no pills, no medical or mechanical intervention” method of achieving multiple orgasms without losing erection or arousal.

My Story I first came across the notion of male multiple orgasm (although it may have been called something different) in a book about sexuality I was looking through at a bookshop. That was some six or seven years ago and unfortunately I have forgotten both the author and the title of that book. At that time, the idea of a man being able to have an orgasm without ejaculating seemed a bit too “out there” and I put it aside.

However, I hadn’t forgotten about the idea entirely and a few months later I decided to be open-minded about the possibility, so I started doing some research. After putting together the bits and pieces of information I could find on internet forums and in books on sexuality (primarily relating to Indian and Chinese practices) and also inventing a good deal of my own stuff, I started experimenting. It took me a few weeks of doing various exercises (I wasn’t very diligent or consistent about it) before I managed to get my first non-ejaculatory orgasm. At

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My Story

first, I did all of this on my own, but soon enough, as I became more comfortable with my abilities, I started using them during actual sex. Sure, not everything worked and not every time, but I was fortunate enough to have a girlfriend at that time who was very open-minded and non-judgemental about sexuality, which gave me a lot of opportunity for experimentation. Ever since I started having multiorgasmic sex, I’ve never looked back.

As I became more confident about my skills, I also occassionally started bringing it up in conversations with other men. I guess I was bragging more than giving practical advice, but it certainly wasn’t a bad thing to brag about. As somebody once said, “It ain’t bragging if you can do the thing.” And obviously it created a lot of interest. Some guys didn’t believe me (and I definitely wasn’t going to give them a demonstration), but others started asking questions. While trying to explain these techniques to them I gradually gained a better understanding of the topic and formulated a universally applicable method for becoming a multiorgasmic man. The end result of the work I did back then is what constitutes the core of this book. In addition, I put a lot of stuff in here that is not directly necessary to become multiorgasmic but which I’m sure you will find very useful.

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What does a Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm feel like?

Some of these things have taken me years to understand and I’m glad I’m finally able to pass my knowledge to you in a concise and convenient form.

What does a Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm feel like? This is a question that men often ask me when they first hear about male multiorgasmic abilities. And of course it is a question that is pretty difficult to answer.

Since most men have never experienced anything of this sort, there’s nothing to compare it to. And besides, one non-ejaculatory orgasm can feel completely different to another non-ejaculatory orgasm. Essentially, an orgasm is still an orgasm, but this time you’re not ejaculating while having one and you are also doing some additional work in order to prevent the ejaculation. This considerably changes the general feel of the orgasm.

For most men, it seems, as for myself, a non-ejaculatory orgasm is at least as pleasurable as an ordinary ejaculatory orgasm. An ordinary orgasm can also become significantly more pleasurable if it is preceded by one or more nonejaculatory ones.

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The Difference between Orgasm and Ejaculation

A non-ejaculatory orgasm can also have a very different “profile” when compared to a normal orgasm. Once you reach a normal orgasm, the whole thing spins out of your control – your body pretty much takes you through the process of orgasming and ejaculating and in the meantime you get to enjoy it. With nonejaculatory orgasms, your level of control is much much higher. For instance, with sufficient practice you can learn to “stretch out” the orgasm, making the duration of physical pleasure significantly longer.

There you have it. That’s all I can really say about the way a non-ejaculatory orgasm feels. You will have to try it yourself in order to find out how it feels for you.

The Difference between Orgasm and Ejaculation The reality of today’s understanding of sexuality is that most people think that male ejaculation is inevitably linked to male orgasm which then quickly leads to a significant loss of arousal and weakening of the erection. This notion is so

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intergrated in people’s minds that even mentioning the possibilty of male multiple orgasm usually creates a load of “huh, what?” type of reactions.

It’s not difficult to understand why almost all men (and women) have this sort of understanding in regards to male sexuality. As kids or teenagers, men discover masturbation and learn about their sexuality by experimenting with it on their own. Ejaculation and the pleasurable sensations of an orgasm always occur simultaneously and they never realise that these two could actually be separate. What I personally find more puzzling, is that modern medicine seems to know absolutely nothing about this. The possibility of a man holding back his ejaculation, having an orgasm and also keeping his erection, seems to be regarded no more than a peculiarity that some men possess naturally and which can “perhaps” be developed by some men through some strange esoteric practices. Why this seems to be the case with modern Western medicine, I personally have no idea.

The single most important thing you have to understand before you can progress towards achieving multiorgasmic abilities, is that ejaculation and orgasm are not the same, nor do they necessarily have to occur together nor does the loss of

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arousal and erection necessarily have to follow either of them. What you will discover by the end of this book and what you will personally get to experience if you take the time to actually implement the advice provided and to become a multiorgasmic man, is that you can have an orgasm without ejaculating. You can have an orgasm while retaining both your level of sexual excitement and your erection.

But, in fact, it is also possible to have an ejaculation without having an orgasm. This is what I refer to as a “lost orgasm”. I won’t be teaching you this, because, as you can imagine, it’s pretty pointless – you ejaculate, perhaps lose your erection, but get no pleasure from it. I do mention it here however simply so that you know it can happen. It can sometimes happen when you are practicing your multiorgasmic abilities and something doesn’t go quite right. Don’t worry however, it is a fairly rare occurrence and you probably won’t “lose” too many orgasms.

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Male Sexuality and Men

Male Sexuality and Men Most men discover masturbation at some point in their early teens or even earlier. They notice that physically stimulating their erect penis leads to a very pleasurable (albeit messy) end result. At this point they also usually think that this is a pretty damn weird thing to be doing and so they keep this activity to themselves. They may even expect that their parents will be angry at them if they find out. This leads men to be pretty secretive about their sexuality. Although there are plenty of outwardly sexual men who are completely comfortable with talking about their sexual adventures, very few of them are actually comfortable with talking about the details of sexuality, especially male sexuality. Vagina and breast talk is abundant in men’s conversations, but penises are taboo.

Perhaps it is the teenage years of male development that are responsible for many men being inept at sex. Since the discussion of male sexuality is very limited in men’s circles, information about abilities such as the male multiple orgasm simply doesn’t spread. It is amazing how few men have heard of it. And not just ordinary men, but even urologists and sexologists, who are supposed to be experts in the area of sexuality, have almost no idea about these possibilities.

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Even if they are aware of the existence of male multiple orgasm, doctors are likely to dismiss it as either some esoteric ancient Indian or Chinese practice or as some skill that is only available to a few “freaks of nature” who happen to be born with it. This is very sad. Almost nobody recognises the fact that there is nothing freakish about such abilities and that they can be acquired by pretty much anyone with a little practice.

Due to the secrecy surrounding male sexuality, very many men grow up viewing sex as something overly simplistic. Although they usually don’t realise it, many men tend to see sex as a sort of an “extension” of masturbation – a short period of physical stimulation followed by a squirt, some pleasure and a release of tension. The only difference is that this time they are not masturbating with their hand, instead they are “masturbating” into a woman. This often leaves both partners only halfway satisfied with sex.

If you in any way identify with these ideas, please don’t take them too personally and don’t be offended by them. The purpose of this book is to open you to new concepts in sexuality, some of which you may never have heard before. Hopefully you will find these concepts useful in expanding your “sexual horizons”.

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Is it safe?

Is it safe? The short answer is, yes. Many thousands of men have acquired multiorgasmic abilities through practices such as or similar to the ones described in the book you are reading and have been living a much happier personal life since. I have been multiorgasmic for years now and haven’t had any sort of problems in relation to this skill. I have also personally taught loads and loads of men the art of multiple orgasm and have received only positive feedback.

If you are still not convinced about the safety of the practice, I suggest that you read through the rest of this book and see for yourself that everything I suggest in the book are applications of the natural capabilities of your body and extensions of practices that you are probably quite comfortable with already. Essentially, the practice of male multiple orgasms is about as dangerous as working out in the gym or having sex. This is because that’s what developing multiorgasmic abilities primarily consists of: workout and sex.

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Who is it for?

As I mentioned earlier, there are no pills, medical interventions or any other external or unnatural factors involved. You will not be subjecting your body to anything outside of its own capabilities.

Who is it for? This book is for any man who wants to become multiorgasmic. Of course, you have to be male in order to put the advice described in this book to practical use.

If you are a woman who bought this ebook for your man, you will still have to give the ebook to him to read. Unfortunately, you can’t teach these abilities to your man “in secret”, because they are mostly about conscious workout and practice. You don’t “give” your man “multiple orgasms” the same way a man can “give” orgasms to his woman. He has to work on them in person.

For the purpose of this book, I will assume that you (the reader) are a heterosexual man and that your sexual partner (if any) is female. This is in no way to imply that the methods described in this book cannot be used by homosexual or bisexual men and their male partners. If you are a homosexual or a bisexual

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man, then by all means, use these principles and perhaps even teach them to your partners and enjoy a better personal life. Unfortunately, I have personal experience of teaching only heterosexual men to be multiorgasmic. However, almost none of the exercises and techniques in this guide actually require the presence of a partner, and therefore, for the most part I think that, homosexual and bisexual men should find it fairly straightforward to apply the material taught.

Whether you have a sexual partner or not, I will be assuming that you are a sexually active man, or are at least planning to become such at some point in the future. Otherwise, why would you be reading a book on multiorgasmic abilities? By “sexually active” I mean that you regularly receive some sort of physical stimulation that leads to orgasm. I know the previous sentence sounds weird, but in reality, I don’t really care where that stimulation comes from – your partner, your hand, some sexual toy or whatever. If you are a man and you orgasm every now and then, the principles described in this book are applicable to you.

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Why Strive for Male Multiple Orgasm?

Why Strive for Male Multiple Orgasm? I hope that I will be doing excessive work by telling you why you should read this book and follow my advice - the benefits of being multiorgasmic are great and numerous. After you have taken time and effort to become multiorgasmic, I cannot possibly imagine you feeling any sort of regret about it. The advantages may be fairly obvious, but I will list them anyway, just so you clearly see and know what you are striving for.

First of all, you will last much longer in bed. In fact, you will last as long as you want to and won’t be limited by your physiological need for sexual release through orgasm and ejaculation. Sex will stop being a 10 minute (if even that) activity that often leaves both partners feeling like they have missed out on something. Sex will suddenly become an act of love that can last for hours. Of course, you won’t be deprived of the possibility to have “quickies” either – the duration of sex will be entirely in your hands.

Your woman will be extremely grateful to you for your ability to last longer. It is well known that women often take significantly longer to climax than men. If you currently have problems with giving your woman an orgasm through intercourse,

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then after you become multiorgasmic, you will finally be able to last as long as you need to for your woman to reach her orgasm. Women are by nature multiorgasmic and now you won’t even be limited anymore in the number of orgasms you can give your woman – you might even be able to “synchronise” your orgasms and climax together, over and over again.

It is very likely that your partner will also feel more loved because of your effort to achieve male multiple orgasm and therefore to become a better lover. A woman who is happy in bed is a happier woman in general and you are almost certain to see and feel an improvement in your personal and intimate life.

It is incredible how binding, emotionally and physically, multiorgasmic sex can be. When two people regularly have sex lasting for hours on end, sharing orgasm after orgasm, their relationship is certain to become stronger and closer. If you have a monogamous relationship with your intimate partner, both of you will feel much more satisfied by the sex life between the two of you. If you have multiple partners or have many short-term monogamous relationships, the better sex will certainly keep your women “coming back for more” and perhaps even bragging to their girlfriends about you... I’ll let you make your own conclusions here.

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Why Strive for Male Multiple Orgasm?

You, as a man, will also feel much more satisfied by the sex you have with your partner or partners. Sex will no longer be a quick session whose sole purpose is to release some tension in your genitals and aid your subsequent sleep. The average man tends to view sex as a race towards, or more often as a desperate attempt to hold off the ejaculation and the inevitable loss of erection and arousal. The multiorgasmic male views sex as a process of sharing intimate love with his partner, which can end with a full final ejaculation whenever he so chooses. As a matter of fact, it doesn’t even have to end with an ejaculation – it is entirely up to the man to decide.

The physical pleasure you yourself will get from sex will increase immensely – instead of one single and often sloppy orgasm you will be having loads of them. The orgasms themselves will, perhaps counter-intuitively, become much more powerful and “profound”. You will also develop the ability to “surf” right on the borderline between a high state of arousal and a full orgasm – the state I call the “point of no return” – thus giving yourself absolutely insane amounts of physical pleasure.

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If you have had problems with premature ejaculation, then those will also be history. You may get aroused very fast, you may even have your first orgasm within a minute or two of starting intercourse, but that doesn’t matter – you will retain your erection and your arousal and you still have plenty of orgasms to go before you call it a night. So, no more embarrassement or apologies – you are enjoying sex from the very start and enjoying it all the way and so is your partner.

Even if you don’t have a sexual partner at the moment, it makes perfect sense to work on achieving multiple orgasms – once you have a partner, you will feel much more confident knowing that there will be no embarrassement in bed and that you will be able to satisfy her sexually. Even as long as you are single, the ability to control your orgasms will provide you with much greater pleasure in other sexual activities, like masturbation, for example. Please do not think that this book is only for people who live an active sexual life – single men can benefit from this advice just as much.

The exercises that accompany multiorgasmic skills and the multiorgasmic practices themselves have a tendency to give men the ability to have stronger erections than usual. So, if you have had problems with weak erections, then that

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is definitely not a reason to avoid acquiring multiorgasmic skills. Quite the contrary – it’s a reason to be pursuing them. Many men have also reported actual increase in penis length after a period of living a multiorgasmic lifestyle. I am not giving any guarantees here, but if you happen to think your penis is too short, stick with the exercises and they might actually help you. Also, if you happen to care about such things, then as a little bonus, with multiple orgasms also often comes the ability to have much more “powerful” ejaculations and to “shoot” much further. Make sure you warn your woman.

I would also mention the health benefits of leading a multiorgasmic lifestyle. It is a well-known fact that sex is a great physical exercise that is in many ways equivalent to doing sport. Multiple orgasms allow you to have sex for so long that it adds up to quite a workout. The physical satisfaction after multiorgasmic sex is enormous and fulfilling in many ways. Frequent sexual activity has also been associated with a healthier prostate gland and a decreased risk of prostate cancer.

As you can see, multiorgasmic abilities to a certain extent help with nearly every major issue in life – sex, relationships, health. (Perhaps they won’t solve financial

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Commitment

problems, but who knows...) For the really minimal amount of time and effort it takes to become multiorgasmic, it is probably one of the best commitments to personal improvement that you can make in life, so do take hold of the opportunity.

Commitment It’s important that you understand that multiorgasmic abilities will not come to you overnight. It may take several weeks or maybe even months before you achieve your first multiple orgasm. Although, If you are lucky and happened to have a natural predisposition for multiple orgasms, you may develop the basic multiorgasmic abilities within a few days. By basic multiorgasmic abilities I mean the ability to have an orgasm without ejaculating and without losing erection. However, once you reach that level, do not think that your development in this area is over. There is so much more to being multiorgasmic than simply sustaining an erection. Later in this book, I will cover advanced topics and techniques that you could work on once you become a multiorgasmic man. But first, we need to

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Practicing alone vs practising with a partner

get you to your first multiple orgasm and, as you can imagine, this will require quite a bit of commitment on your part.

At this point, you need to make sure that you have enough will to go through the exercises that I will teach you and to keep doing them until you achieve your first non-ejaculatory orgasm. I can tell you what you should do and I can give you the exercises and techniques, but I cannot give you the willpower to go through with them. Therefore, I suggest that you make a commitment right now to keep working on the exercises until you become truly multiorgasmic. The learning process may be difficult and perhaps even discouraging at times, especially if you fail at achieving your first non-ejaculatory orgasm many times in a row, but keep in mind that the goal is well worth the effort and that you will be grateful to yourself once you're there.

Practicing alone vs practising with a partner You will have to decide how you want to do the exercises – on your own or involving your partner. Some exercises can only be practiced alone, but there are

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others which can be done either way. Where appropriate, I will discuss variations of the exercises both for single and couple practice.

Most men choose to do most of the exercises alone, at least at first, and that is perfectly understandable – it can be difficult to explain to your partner what you’re doing if you have never done it before yourself. When practicing alone, there is also no fear of judgement or other psychological obstacles you might encounter when doing the exercises with your woman. How you choose to do the exercises is entirely up to you. If you choose to practice on your own, make sure you can do so undisturbed. If you choose to involve your partner, make sure she is completely supportive and understanding of what you’re trying to achieve.

If you are going to talk to your partner about your aspirations to become multiorgasmic, it is a good idea to explain that this is not solely for your own benefit and that your (as a couple) sex life is going to improve tremendously once you become a multiorgasmic man.

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Part II: The Method

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A Quick Lesson in Anatomy

A Quick Lesson in Anatomy Let’s quickly go over some basic anatomy of the male reproductive system. It’s not really crucial that you know a lot about it, but it should aid you in understanding the principles behind male multiple orgasms.

The above diagram is obviously very simplistic, but it should suffice for our purposes. The penis is shown in its flaccid (not erect) state. Sperm is produced in the testicles and during ejaculation, it moves up a canal called vas deferens. There are two such canals – one for either testicle. The vasa deferentia (latin plural) pass

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the bladder on either side and link into the urethra via ejaculatory ducts. Urethra is a tube that is mostly used for urination (hence the name). It starts at the bladder and goes all the way out of the tip of the penis. Urethra is also used to carry semen out of the penis during ejaculation. Semen is created as the sperm from vasa deferentia gets mixed with fluids from seminal vesicles, the prostate gland and the bulbourethral glands (none of them are on the image). This mixing process happens already during ejaculation, around the spot where the sperm enters the urethra. From there on, the semen gets pushed along the urethra and finally propelled out of the penis by a series of muscles, in particular the bulbospongiosus muscle. I will call it the BS muscle for short (BS in the sense of bulbospongiosus, not the usual meaning). If you press a finger upwards into the fleshy part right behind the scrotum, that’s the muscle there.

Now, there is one other particular muscle that is of great interest to us and that is the pubococcygeus muscle, which is commonly called the PC muscle. You will encounter this term a lot throughout the book. In fact, it is this muscle that the whole concept of male multiple orgasm is based on. The PC muscle is a hammocklike muscle and runs from the pubic bone to the coccyx (hence the name

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“pubococcygeus”). The pubic bone is a small bone and is a part of the pelvis. It’s the bone that you can generally feel if you press fairly hard into the area where your pubic hair is (or should be). The coccyx (pronounced “kok-six”) is more commonly known as the tailbone and is simply the lower end of the backbone (more properly known as the vertebral column). So the PC muscle runs quite a long way from the front of the body to the back, being a part of what is called the pelvic floor – the muscles that quite literally keep your organs inside you when you are standing upright. The PC muscle is actually a pair of muscles, running on either side of the urethra (you can see the point where the muscle and urethra pass each other on the image) and the anus (not depicted).

When the PC muscle is tensed, it “shuts” both the urethra and the anus by squeezing them from either side. We are not so much interested in the effect on the anus as on the urethra, but it is still useful to know, since you can definitely feel it. The most typical way of using the PC muscle is to stop the flow of urine when you’re not yet finished emptying the bladder. Most of us have been doing this throughout life probably without giving much thought about the processes that go on the body at that moment. But now, knowing that and the little bit of

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The Nature of a Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm

anatomy I have explained, you can probably already understand, at least in part, what is supposed to happen during a non-ejaculatory orgasm. During a normal ejaculatory orgasm, the semen moves all the way through the urethra unobstructed and in the end gets accelerated by the bulbospongiousus muscle (mentioned above) in a series of uncontrolled yet very pleasant contractions. However, during a non-ejaculatory orgasm, we use the convenient location and function of the PC muscle in order to prevent the semen from reaching the penis.

The Nature of a Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm Generally speaking, if the semen does not get out of the penis during an orgasm, there is no loss of erection. Now exactly why that happens, I’m not sure, but I do have a theory. Please don’t take my word for it, since I don’t have a medical education and my knowledge of human anatomy and physiology is rather amateurish. Besides, as I have already said, there’s a lot of research yet to be done in the area of human sexuality.

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The bulbospongiosus muscle that I have mentioned earlier, has two well-known functions – to empty the urethra of fluid at the very end of urination and to propel semen out of the urethra during ejaculation. If you think about it, the two functions are rather similar: an amount of fluid passes through the urethra and comes to an end and the bulbospongiosus muscle then gives it a “final push” out of the penis. In case of urination the contraction of this muscle creates a feeling that you are “done” peeing for now, I guess you know what I mean. During an ejaculation, the contractions of this muscle serve to tell the body that it’s “done” with sexual intercourse and doesn’t need an erection anymore.

My guess is that the muscle “knows” to contract simply when it “sees” that an amount of fluid passing through the urethra is coming to an end. In case of urination, it would generally be a single flow that suddenly ends and so there is only one contraction at the end. But since semen usually comes in several “bursts”, there are more than one contraction to push the semen out and then a bunch more “just in case” – just to make sure the urethra is empty of semen. Every such contraction is an additional signal to the body to lose arousal and erection. So therefore, if there is no semen passing through the urethra, the

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bulbospongiosus muscle does not “deem necessary” to contract and so no signal is sent to the body to lose erection.

Note that the feeling of orgasm happens nonetheless – the nature’s way of rewarding us for reproduction. The nature didn’t quite foresee however, that we humans will be smart enough to separate the orgasm from the loss of erection by simply not giving the bulbospongiosus muscle a reason to contract. And that’s the beauty of it. Again, this is all just my theory, but it seems quite plausible to me.

Finding Your PC Muscle In order to proceed, you wil need to “find” you PC muscle. By “find” I don’t mean seeing it or touching it, since the muscle is quite deep inside your pelvis, so you won’t be able to do that. By finding I mean being able to tense the muscle voluntarily and knowing what it feels like. Perhaps you are already aware of your PC muscle and so don’t need to spend much time on locating it. If not, there’s a few things you can do.

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The thing about the PC muscle is that it usually contracts along with several other muscles, including the anal sphincter (the muscle that shuts the anus), the urethral sphincter (the muscle that controls the flow uf urine during urination) and even the BS muscle. It is unlikely that you will be able to contract any of these muscles on their own – they all contract together. This actually makes our life easier, since we don’t have to think about finding specifically the PC muscle among all those muscles, we can simply tense them all simultaneously.

The simplest thing to do is to go to the toilet when your bladder is reasonably full and to start urinating. Once you have the flow going, simply stop the flow. There’s nothing special you need to do, simply do whatever you naturally do to stop urinating before your bladder is completely empty. Now hold it like that. If you pay close attention, you will probably feel a whole bunch of stuff happening in you pelvis. For example, you should feel your anus tightening up – it’s as if you know that if were trying to defecate at that moment, you wouldn’t be able to, because your anus is simply shut. Another thing that happens is that, just as you stop the urination, the very last bit of the urine suddenly shoots forward at a higher speed out of your penis than when it was flowing freely. That is the BS

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muscle at work. Remember I said that the main function of the BS muscle is to empty your urethra at the end of urination? That’s what it did and that’s why the last bit urine gets accelerated like that.

Finally, the part of muscle action that interests us the most is one that is actually the most difficult to detect. It’s the bit that actually stops the flow of urine and it happens deeper inside you pelvis. The urethra gets shut by the PC muscle (actually in combination with the urethral sphincter, but we don’t care about that for the moment). The PC muscle is a bit slow compared to the anal sphincter, so perhaps you will be able to feel it as the tension that comes on in the second or two after the anus has already shut. And, as I said, it happens deeper inside you. It is not crucial for you to be able to actually feel the action of the PC muscle at this stage, so don’t worry about it too much. If you tense the other muscles in your pelvis, you will also tense the PC muscle.

Try the urination stopping exercise several times, probably in separate sessions, in order to get more comfortable with the process. Then, try doing the same thing, but without actually urinating. Simply take a seat in a comfortable position, and tense up your inner pelvic muscles the same way you would do if you wanted to

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stop the flow of urine. Try to feel as many separate sensations inside your pelvis as possible. Gradually you should become comfortable at doing this spontaneously and consciously without much thinking.

Another way to think about tensing all these muscles is to do the same thing you would do if you wanted to tighten your anus, as if you wanted to stop defecating. The anal sphincter is pretty quick, but as soon as it has contracted, you should feel some other muscles tighten up in the pelvic region, more towards the front of your body. One of them will be the PC muscle. As if “stopping defecation” exercise is not weird enough, here’s an even weirder thing you can try. Imagine that, for instance, somebody wanted to pull a prank on you and poke you in the ass with something like a broom or whatever. Got the picture in you mind? Now imagine how you would react – you’d probably jump forward and tense up your buttocks and hips. But you would also tighten your anus as a reflex. It’s a natural defense mechanism that happens pretty much without our conscious will – not unlike closing your eyes when something is about to hit you in the face. Try simulating a reaction to an “assault on your ass” and then try to relax your hips and buttocks without relaxing the anus. That’s the state you are trying to achieve.

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I know, I know, that was one very weird example, but you’d be surprised at how many men suddenly “get it” after I describe it to them. Perhaps it’s because it’s a natural reflex and doesn’t require much conscious comprehension.

There’s yet another way of approaching the pelvic muscles. If you have an erection, tensing up your pelvic floor muscles tends to harden the penis even more and kind of makes it “jump” upwards. Perhaps you have been doing that during you sexual activity without giving it too much thought, so here’s what you can try. Get an erection (alone or with a partner, it doesn’t matter). Now, while in a standing position and without using your hands or anything else, make your penis “jerk upwards”. If you know what I mean, you will notice that during this, something tenses up at the base of your penis and your erection also becomes slightly harder for the moment. That’s primarily the BS muscle at work. Now do the same “jerk upwards” thing, but this time keep any muscles involved tensed. You will notice that not only is the BS muscle tight (you can feel it by touching the area right behind the scrotum), but so is the anus, and perhaps also something slightly higher up. If you can feel that something, that’s the PC muscle. If not, no worries.

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I hope that by using at least one of these methods, you will be able to figure out how to tense your PC muscle. From here on, whenever I refer to tensing or squeezing or contracting the PC muscle, I don’t actually mean tensing it separately from everything else, because I don’t think you would be able to that. I actually mean tensing up all these muscles of the pelvic floor I have been talking about, simultaneously. It’s just that these other muscles don’t matter too much for our purposes, so I will be referring to their joint tension as simply the tension of the PC muscle.

Now let’s quickly talk about the isolation of the PC muscle. There’s a tendency for men to tense up a whole bunch of other muscles other than the ones in the pelvic floor when doing PC muscle exercises. The typical ones include the muscles in the buttocks, the hips and also abdominal muscles. These are all groups of muscles close to the pelvic region, so it may kind of feel natural to tense them when the pelvic region is tensed. Some men even tense up their face. Obviously facial muscles have nothing to do with the pelvic region, but I guess it’s simply the effort that makes men grimace – kind of like “making faces” while pumping biceps in the gym.

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For the sake of doing the exercises properly I suggest to you that you try and isolate the PC muscle from these other muscles that you don’t need to tense. Again, and I apologise if I’m being too repetitive, you will have to contract the other muscles of the pelvic floor in order to tense the PC muscle, but you certainly don’t need to tense your abs, for instance.

While locating your PC muscle, and also later on, during the actual exercises, every now and then, stop in the tensed position and mentally check your body. Check your hips, calves, buttocks, abdominals, chest and even the face to make sure that nothing unnecessary is holding tension. If you do find tension, keep your PC muscle contracted, but try to relax that part of the body that you found the tension in. Repeat this procedure often enough and you will soon notice that you can tense your PC muscle in “isolation” from everyting else. This isolation is an important part of being aware of your body and being in control of your sexuality.

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About the PC Muscle Exercises

About the PC Muscle Exercises You have successfully located your PC muscle and know how to flex it. Now it’s time to exercise it to make it really strong. Your PC muscle will be holding off your ejaculate while you will be having an orgasm. I’d actually stress the last word. You will be having an orgasm while your PC muscle is doing some pretty hard work. Which means, you won’t be able to concentrate very well on what your PC muscle is doing, at least not if you want to enjoy your orgasm.

If your PC musle is weak, you will probably find it pretty difficult to call upon your “willpower” in order to keep your PC muscle tensed all the way through an orgasm. It’s different from the way it might work while pumping weights in the gym. Imagine doing biceps exercises using really heavy weights while having an orgasm. You simply won’t have the willpower or the concentration to do a rep. Holding off your ejaculation with your PC muscle is in a way similar to doing a rep with your biceps. That’s why you will need to develop a very strong PC muscle so that you can leave the job of holding back the ejaculate to your “musclepower” while enjoying your orgasm.

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A simple non-ejaculatory orgasm

Most men never exercise their PC muscle because they never have good reason to do so. In fact, most men don’t even know it exists, which is sad, because it’s the one muscle exercising which can have an enormous effect on one’s sex life and sexual health. I suggest that you read through the whole book before you start doing the exercises, since some of them can be done in parallel.

A simple non-ejaculatory orgasm Before you start with the actual exercises, here’s a little something you might want to try to get at least some sense for what an actual non-ejaculatory orgasm is like. I’ll tell you straight away that this trick might not work. In fact it has never worked for me personally, although it does work for some men. This technique is absolutely optional, so if you don’t want to try it, just skip it. It’s not bad in any way, but neither is it necessary for actual multiorgasmic training.

The idea is to simulate the action of a strong PC muscle simply by using your fingers. Here’s what you do.

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First let’s find the spot you will have to apply pressure to when the moment comes. The spot is essentially on your pelvic floor, between the legs, about halfway between the scrotum and the anus, perhaps slightly closer to the scrotum. It should feel kind of soft and muscly when you’re relaxed, but should become pretty hard if you tense your PC muscle as I described earlier. You know, if you were a woman, that’s where your vagina would be... Yeah yeah, I know that’s a strange way to put it, but I think you understand what spot I mean.

Now try to keep your PC muscle relaxed and using two or three fingers (whichever hand you are more comfortable with), press into that spot from below. “From below” if you are in a standing position, that is. Press “into” your body, so to say. Obviously, don’t hurt yourself, but you will need to press fairly hard if you want to have a chance at making this technique work.

Now to try this for real, start stimulating yourself sexually, whether alone or with your partner, it doesn’t matter. Don’t rush, let your arousal build up gradually. When you feel you are about to start ejaculating, using your two or three fingers, press into that spot you found and press fairly hard. Keep pressing until you feel your orgasm (and ejaculation) is over.

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Basically, the point is to try this out and to see what happens. I heard several men reporting that they have done this and managed to hold off their ejaculation and keep their erection on the first attempt. If that doesn’t happen to you, no worries, as I said, it doesn’t work for me, for instance. Every time I’ve tried it, I either ended ejaculating despite the pressure applied, or managed to hold off the ejaculation but still lost my erection. If you have another look at the bit about anatomy and the simple image I provided, you can see that this technique doesn’t actually work quite the same way the PC muscle does. The PC muscle blocks the flow of fluids (either urine or semen) a bit higher up than your fingers would with this technique. Perhaps that’s the reason it doesn’t work for many people.

If it doesn’t work for you the first time you try, you can try again, but I suggest you don’t spend too much time on this and get on to the proper multiorgasmic methods.

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Trying for a proper non-ejaculatory orgasm

Trying for a proper non-ejaculatory orgasm Another thing you may want to try before getting on to the exercises is to have an attempt at a real non-ejaculatory orgasm using your PC muscle. Don’t count on it too much so as not to be disappointed, but you might be one of those rare multiorgasmic “naturals” who don’t even know about their inborn abilities. If it doesn’t work (which is most often the case), this attempt will at least give you a perspective on what you are trying to achieve and why you need to do your exercises. My assumption here is that you are quite comfortable with squeezing your PC muscle and don’t need much time to “find it” mentally. Otherwise, you can either practice finding and isolating your PC muscle as described earlier or you can go on with the exercises below since they will teach this skill anyway.

The idea is the same as with the finger technique above, but without the fingers. You start sexual stimulation, alone or with a partner, and gradually progress towards an orgasm. As you feel that you are very close to ejaculation, like literally one or two thrusts away, squeeze your PC muscle as hard as you can and try to hold it though the whole orgasm. If you succeed, that is, you don’t ejaculate and remain hard, I have one word for you: Wow! In this case, you’re pretty much

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done, but I hope you will still find the rest of the book useful in further developing your abilities.

However, most likely you will lose your “grip” on the PC muscle as soon as the ejaculation hits. You will ejaculate and perhaps have some strange semi-orgasm and then lose your erection. Don’t despair! That’s exactly what we will be dealing with for the most of this book.

All right, let us get on to the exercises then!

Exercise 1: Short Contractions This first exercise is mainly aimed at increasing your awareness and control of your PC muscle. It will also aid you in doing some of the future exercises, especially the “Walking on the Edge” exercise and in increasing your sexual pleasure. The idea here is to use short but powerful contractions which last no more than a second.

Try this:

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Sit comfortably on a chair or a sofa and relax your body. Now quickly tense your PC muscle in one strong firm contraction. You will probably notice that the way your PC muscle tenses is not instant, at least definitely not as fast as tensing your biceps or clenching your fist. The muscle takes time – perhaps half a second to a second – to react to your “command” and become fully contracted. So what you want to do for this exercise is to contract the muscle and wait until it’s fully tensed. You really want to feel the firmness of your “grip” down there. If you were urinating right now, the flow of urine would certainly stop. Once you feel that the muscle is fully tensed, wait for about a second, not more than that, and release. You will again notice that the PC muscle takes a little while to release the tension.

Are you with me so far? Good. For this exercise we will consider one such cycle (tense the muscle, hold for one second at full power and release) to be one “rep”.

If you are not used to working with your PC muscle, it may take some mental effort to actually get comfortable with commanding and coordinating it. That is perfectly fine and after a while of practicing the PC muscle exercises, you should be perfectly happy with tensing and relaxing your PC muscle at will. As you do

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these reps, try to keep the rest of your body as relaxed as possible. There may be a temptation or perhaps an uncalled-for reflex that will make you tense your abs, buttocks or hips as you are doing these exercises. If you notice this happening, stop with the exercise and try to mentally separate the PC muscle from the other muscles – try to flex only your PC muscle as described earlier on. Keep in mind that tensing your PC muscle will tense your whole pelvic floor, including the muscles around the anus – that’s fine and you can’t avoid that. Once you’re comfortable again, resume the exercise. Tensing other muscles of your body is not bad per se or detrimental to achieving multiple orgasms (in fact we’ll be doing that on purpose in exercises to come), but it is beneficial to develop a good coordination down there if you truly want to be a master of your orgasming.

With this exercise, you will want to do about 20 reps per session. That is, you tense, wait one second, relax, then again tense, wait and relax. And so on 20 times in a row. Make sure that at the one second peak of your tension you are really contracting your PC muscle hard – you will need all the musclepower you can get in order to hold off an ejaculation once we get to that part.

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Do this exercise at least three times a day. Say, once in the morning after you wake up, once in the middle of the day and once before you go to sleep. If you are not sure, then keep doing this exercise for at least a week before moving on. You will have to gauge your own bodily capabilities and adjust your workout accordingly. If you feel that you can get away with more that three times a day, you can try doing four, then maybe five. You can also try increasing the number of reps per session from 20 to 30 and then perhaps to 40. Extra exercise is great, but make sure you don’t go overboard and definitely read the next section on sore muscles.

Other than strengthening your PC muscle, this exercise helps you increase speed with which you are able to tense. When working on multiple orgasms, you often need to react quickly in response to the sensations in your body. Being able to quickly contract your PC muscle at will is crucial to preventing ejaculation and having a non-ejaculatory orgasm if the urge to ejaculate arises suddenly. Do not worry about this right now, we will come back to this in more detail. For now, concentrate on developing a quick and strong muscle down there.

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Dealing with a sore muscle

Dealing with a sore muscle Should you feel during the day that your PC muscle is sore, stop doing the exercises for the rest of the day. PC muscle is a muscle like any other – it can be trained, but it will get sore if it’s trained a lot. The sensation of soreness is slightly different from what you may be used to with other muscles, such as biceps or abdominals. It feels more like a slight discomfort down there, even when you’re not doing a PC workout. So if you get the sensation that your PC muscle is feeling tired despite it being quite some time since you last did an exercise on it, then simply call it a day. It is unlikely you’ll cause any damage to yourself if you ignore these sensations, but you certainly don’t want to get a really sore PC muscle – it’s just uncomfortable and slows down your progress.

About the exercises in general As you may have realised already, the awesome thing about power execises for your PC muscle is that you don’t have to do anything outwardly visible in order to do them. There’s no special equipment required, no going to the gym or anything like that, not even any awkward poses involved. So, basically, you can do the

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exercises really whenever you are not busy doing anything else – waiting in a queue, riding in public transport, slacking off at work, stuck in a traffic jam etc.

Initially, I would recommend doing the exercises while sitting down, just so that you can concentrate better on exercising the muscle while not tensing any other muscles in your body, but once you’re comfortable doing the exercises, there’s no reason why you couldn’t do them standing or lying down or even walking. Make sure you can focus on the exercise without making weird faces and that they don’t disturb whatever you might be doing.

This approach can save you some time and also allow you to progress faster towards becoming multiorgasmic.

Exercise 2: Long Contractions Okay, so you have been doing the short contractions exercise regularly for at least a week now and have probably become quite comfortable with using your PC

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muscle. It’s time to move on to the next exercise, or in fact to add another exercise to your “workout programme”.

This time, you are going to tense your PC muscle and wait until the “grip” becomes really firm – the same way you did it in the first exercise. But instead of relaxing the muscle after a second, you are going to hold the muscle tense for about 5 seconds. During those 5 seconds, you have keep the muscle really tense – as tense as you can, really. This is very close to the type of PC muscle contraction you’re going to be doing during a real non-ejaculatory orgasm, and trust me, when you get there, you will need to hold very hard. So, in order to prepare for that, make sure that whenever you do this exercise, you contract the muscle to the best of your ability.

Similarly to the first exercise, after you have held your PC muscle tense for about five seconds, you release it and let it become completely relaxed. Take a few seconds to let the muscle rest and then repeat the process. So one cycle of contract, hold, release will again be one “rep”.

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I suggest you start with doing about 10 reps per session and if you find yourself comfortable with that, you can move up to 15 or even 20. Don’t entirely neglect the first exercise, but focus more on Exercise 2. It is best that you divide up the time you dedicate to either exercise. So, if you did Exercise 1 three times a day, now you might want to do two sessions of Exercise 2 and one or two sessions of Exercise 1 every day. Again, follow your bodily sensations. If you feel that you could get away with doing more workout, increase the number of reps per session or the number of sessions per day. But if you feel that your PC muscle is getting too tired during the day, give it some rest.

Keep doing this exercise regularly in combination with the first one for at least another week. By the end of the two week workout period, your PC muscle should be getting very strong.

Exercise 3: Very Long Contractions This is the final power exercise for your PC muscle. Do not start doing this exercise until you have been doing the other two exercise for a total of at least two weeks.

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This exercise will require a lot of strength and endurance down there. If you try doing this exercise too early, you might simply not have enough strength to do even a single rep. I’m not saying that is definitely the case – maybe you have a naturally strong PC muscle and will be able to do this exercise straight away, but if you don’t want to risk over-exercising your pelvic floor and spending several days with a sore PC muscle, I suggest you follow my recommended workout schedule.

The idea in this exercise is the same as with the previous two. You tense your PC muscle, hold and relax. This time however, the period for which you hold your muscle contracted is significantly longer – you will have to hold it tight for about 20 seconds. Don’t use a timer however – you won’t have a timer when are having sex for real. Instead, listen to your body and count calmly to twenty as you hold your PC muscle tense. Contracting your muscle, holding it for about 20 seconds and then letting go will be counted as one rep.

At first, try doing 5 reps per session. Give your muscle a rest of at least 10 seconds between the reps. If you are fine with doing five 20-second reps per one exercise session, that’s great – it takes a lot of strength and it looks like you have it. In this case, if you feel that doing so would be beneficial for your progress, you can try

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increasing the number of reps per session. I won’t give you any specific numbers, because at this point you really have to learn to listen to your body. Increase the number of reps gradually, as long as it feels like a good workout. But as soon as you start getting seriously uncomfortable with the amount of workout you’re doing, stop, give your muscle some rest and cut down on reps.

It may be the case that doing five reps in the beginning will be too much for you. Perhaps even doing a single 20-second rep seems infeasible. That is fine. Remember I said that this exercise requires a lot of strength and endurance. You are probably simply not at the appropriate level yet.

If you are finding yourself in trouble, first of all ask yourself: have you been diligently doing the first two exercises on a daily basis for a total of two weeks? If not, then I suggest that you go back and do the first two exercises as recommended. I know men often lack the patience to stick with one exercise for a long time and try to up their workout very rapidly. That’s fine if it works for you. But going for this third exercise is of no use if you don’t have sufficient strength yet – you’re just going to torture yourself and then maybe end up with an overworked sore muscle. In this case the rush will simply halt your progress.

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In case you have been working out according to the schedule, but you can’t do a single 20-second rep, the best thing to do is to adjust this exercise so that you can do it. See how long you can hold your PC muscle tense for. Can you hold for 10 seconds? Is say, 12 seconds too much for you? Then do five 10-second reps per session instead. As you become comfortable with the length of the period, you want to gradually increase it. For example, the next day you might try counting to 11 and if that goes, you can jump to 13 for the next day. The idea is to eventually get to 20 seconds. Be prepared for this to take quite a while. If necessary, increase the holding period over course of a week. If necessary, do it for a month. Remember to remain diligent and committed, because achieving your final goal of becoming multiorgasmic is definitely worth the effort.

Now, if you can do one 20-second rep, but doing 5 in a row is too much, adjust the number of reps instead. Do 2 per session, then do 3 the next day and so on. Stay within your capabilities, but keep pushing yourself ever so slightly to gradually progress to being relatively comfortable with five 20-second reps per session (if you can call this “comfort”).

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Once you are at the needed norm – 5 times 20 seconds, replace Exercise 2 with this exercise in your workout schedule. Exercise 2 is really just a preparatory exercise for this one and is not that important in itself. Don’t however completely abandon Exercise 1 – you still want to do at least one session of quick contractions per day, because as I said earlier, that develops the speed at which you are able to squeeze the muscle. So a good schedule might be: one session of Exercise 1 and three sessions of Exercise 3 per day. Stick with what you are comfortable with and increase the amount of workout if you feel like it. Keep to this schedule for at least another week, so that by the end you will have at least 3 weeks of PC muscle workout under your belt (pun intended).

Another important point about this exercise: make sure you don’t rush with your counting. I said not to use a timer so that you can better learn to feel the sensations in your body. When counting in your head however, it may be tempting to simply count a bit faster and get through the “grueling” workout quicker. Remember, you are not doing this for the numbers, but for real results and there’s no-one to judge you. When doing an PC muscle strength exercise, the only thing that should be tense is the PC muscle. The rest of your body, but also

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your mind, should be relaxed. If you find yourself counting definitely faster than a clock would count seconds, you are probably too tense in your mind. Take a breath, relax your body and watch your counting speed. Realising that you can hold for only 10 real seconds is much better than deluding yourself into thinking that you can easily hold for 20 when actually you are counting way too fast. So, don’t cheat, count slowly and hopefully you will come out of this with a superstrong PC muscle that is ready for some real work.

Excitement levels All right, we have covered all the power exercises that you use to train your PC muscle for strength and endurance. It is now time to work on your excitement levels. Here, I will be using the terms arousal and excitement interchangeably.

Your level of excitement basically determines how close you are to orgasm or ejaculation. When you are busy doing some daily stuff and you’re not even thinking about sex, you are essentially not aroused at all. When you orgasming,

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you are at the peak of your arousal. It’s as simple as that. Perhaps this view of excitement is a bit too simplistic, but it’s sufficient for our purposes here.

In order to be clear on what I’m talking about, I will be sometimes referring to various excitement levels as percentages. For example 0% would stand for “not aroused at all”, whereas 100% will mean that you are actually having a full-blown orgasm. 50% might then mean that you are somewhere halfway through sex: you are pretty aroused, but you’ve still got a good way to go until orgasm.

Personally I can’t say that I’m very fond of the idea of putting numbers on something as complicated as arousal levels, but as I said, I will be doing it for purposes of clarity and to convey my ideas more easily.

Point of No Return I would now like to talk about a crucial concept in male multiple orgasm. You will probably know what I am talking about from your own previous sexual experience. It’s what I call the “point of no return” – the moment at which you

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realise that you are about to ejaculate and that you cannot stop it, even if you stop all stimulation.

Suppose you are having sex and as you are approaching orgasm, your arousal is constantly growing. At some point you will feel that your arousal is so high that if you do another thrust or two, you will inevitably ejaculate. However, if you completely stop at this moment, you will avoid ejaculation and also the orgasm. You know what I’m talking about? Well, this is not yet the point of no return, but it is a “very high state of arousal”. We could say it’s around 90% arousal.

Now, if, instead of stopping, you do another thrust or two, you will suddenly realise that the ejaculation is coming about and there’s nothing you can do to prevent it from happening. It’s almost as if you feel something starting to move inside you (which is pretty much the case). Now this is the point of no return. We will label this level 95%.

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Arousal during Normal Sex

Arousal during Normal Sex

So essentially, what happens during sex, is that your level of arousal grows from some number above 0% (you probably wouldn’t be having sex in the first place if your arousal was actually 0%) gradually to about 90%. In the meantime it can fluctuate slightly up and down, depending on your motion and mental state and perhaps your conscious attempts to hold off ejaculation, but the general trend of the arousal is upwards. When you reach 90% arousal, you can still prevent ejaculation and orgasm by simply stopping any and all stimulation. You could, at this point, literally just get up and get dressed and go through the rest of day without ejaculating (although, admittedly, it would take a lot of willpower to do that).

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If you continue with physical stimulation, as you normally would, then you will reach the point of no return at 95% in literally one or two thrusts. Once that happens, it doesn’t matter whether you continue stimulation or not – your arousal goes from 95% to the full 100% in seconds and then you find yourself orgasming and ejaculating simultaneously. That can last anywhere between a few seconds and a minute or so.

After the orgasm, your arousal drops very quickly. Your penis becomes very sensitive to touch, and you don’t really want any more stimulation. Your arousal falls pretty much all the way to zero and that’s when you don’t feel like doing anything sexual at all. From the nature’s point of view, you just accomplished the big goal in life – you have passed on your genes – and so you can peacefully fall asleep now.

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Arousal during Multiorgasmic Sex

So, what I described above is the way arousal develops for man having normal sex, and that is what most men are used to. Now let’s look at how at how arousal works during multiorgasmic sex.

As you start having sex, your arousal grows from some level above zero. Since you know that you are multiorgasmic and that you will be able to have sex for as long as you and your partner want to, you don’t have any reason to be trying to hold off the ejaculation by slowing down or stopping the motion every now and then. Of course, you can do so if it is pleasurable for you or your partner, but you don’t have to. So your arousal is growing gradually, but fairly fast towards an orgasm.

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As you reach a very high state of arousal, approximately 90%, you engage your PC muscle by squeezing it with “all your might” and keep moving boldly towards the point of no return. As you pass this point of arousal, you start orgasming, while still tensing your PC muscle. The orgasm is intense and extremely pleasurable. It is even more so pleasurable because you know that even after the orgasm is over, the sex is not over. The psychological part of male multiple orgasm adds a lot to its pleasurability.

The orgasm will probably last at least as long as a normal ejaculatory orgasm, and generally even longer. As you realise that the temptation to ejaculate is subsiding, you carefully relax your PC muscle and enjoy the last few moments of the orgasm itself. Interestingly, despite the fact that you didn’t ejaculate and that sex isn’t over yet, you get to experience some of the post-orgasmic bliss that you are probably used to with ordinary orgasms.

Your arousal level falls a bit, but not by too much, perhaps to 60% or 80%. This largely depends on what extent you hold off your ejaculation to. The skill of “regulating” your orgasms will come to you with practice and then you will be

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able to pretty much decide at what level of arousal you want to end up after the orgasm.

Your erection might decrease slightly, but you won’t go entirely “limp”. At least not if you did the non-ejaculatory orgasm bit right. Even if it does subside a bit, the erection will probably return to its full state in a matter of seconds.

Since you are still aroused and you still have an erection, you can go on having sex with your partner without pause (known as the refractory period). Your arousal will again start growing until it reaches a very high level. This is where you repeat the procedure of holding off your ejaculation using your PC muscle and having a non-ejaculatory orgasm.

Say after you had four or fives orgasms and both you and your partner feel satisfied, you decide that it’s time to stop. This time you allow your arousal to grow to a very high level, but you don’t block the ejaculation. You simply allow yourself to reach the point of no return and have a normal ejaculatory orgasm. Your final orgasm feels even more powerful than it usually would, because now it has been enhanced by all the previous preventions of ejaculation and now all this

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accumulated tension gets released. Your arousal drops to its normal “daily” level and your erection subsides like it does after an ordinary ejaculatory orgasm.

Spasms and their role I call them “spasms” because it’s short. The more proper medical term would be “ejaculatory contractions”. I have mentioned them earlier on when discussing the anatomy of the male reproductive system and the possible nature of multiorgasmic abilities. I’m fairly sure you know what spasms I’m talking about. It’s those rhythmic and (usually) uncontrollable contractions that happen during ejaculation and orgasm. They feel extremely pleasant and pretty much constitute the core sensation of an ejaculatory orgasm. During the first few spasms of an ordinary ejaculatory orgasm, a man ejaculates most of the semen for that session.

It is crucial for you, if you want to become multiorgasmic, that you understand the role that these spasms play in male sexuality and how they affect your arousal levels and your erection. You will really only “get it” once you start practicing multiple orgasms and gain some experience. The essence, however, is as follows.

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Each spasm is actually a rapid contraction of the BS muscle, the goal of which is to eject semen out of the erect penis at the end of sexual intercourse. The pleasant sensations that accompany these are also a great stimulus for men to want to have sex. However, each spasm is also a signal to your body that sex is over and therefore, the more spasms you have, the more erection strength you lose. Of course, the erection strength will come back once your body thinks it is ready to have sex again, but that can take a while. We don’t want to lose the erection in the first place.

Using your PC muscle to block semen before it reaches the BS muscle area eliminates the reason for the BS muscle to contract. That’s my theory anyway, as I have explained earlier. Interestingly, despite not having spasms, a multiorgasmic man usually still has orgasmic sensations during a non-ejaculatory orgasm.

All that said, you must now gradually learn to use these spasms and your indirect way of controlling them by means of the PC muscle in order to control your arousal levels and erection strength. Think of each spasm as a little decrease in your arousal and also erection strength. For each spasm, you can either “hold it off” or “let it through”. Holding off a spasm means not letting semen to get to BS

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muscle area by keeping your PC muscle tensed. Letting a spasm through means to keep your PC muscle relaxed, and have the BS muscle contract, causing a slight decrease in arousal and erection, possibly with some semen coming out. With an ordinary ejaculatory orgasm, you’d let all your spasms through and therefore completely lose both the erection and the arousal. However, in order to achieve a non-ejaculatory orgasm, you will need to hold off most if not all of the spasms.

The usual way for multiorgasmic men to have a non-ejaculatory orgasm is to hold off the first several spasms and then see what needs to be done in order to have the arousal level in the right place by the end of the orgasm. Since the first few spasms are particularly powerful, letting any of them through will probably cause you to lose erection. Also, as I have already mentioned, the PC muscle is not particularly fast at reacting to your orders, so it’s difficult to try and let, say, only one particular spasm through. That’s why men tend to hold off the first bunch of spasms and then decide whether to relax the PC muscle or keep it tense, or to perhaps tense and relax it several times during the orgasm.

You might think it’s best to simply hold off all of the spasms in any orgasm, but in reality, you might end up having too much arousal left and having another orgasm

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right after, which may simply be exhausting. I will discuss this in more detail later on.

For now, I would simply like you to understand that it’s the spasms that you are trying to hold off in order to have a non-ejaculatory orgasm, not the whole ejaculation. When I refer to “holding off the ejaculation”, I generally mean holding off an appropriate amount of spasms such that it lets you keep your erection. For starters, don’t bother about which spasms you should hold off and when you should relax your PC muscle. Just hold off as many as you can, preferably all of them. As you learn and practice, you will gradually realise yourself what is the best way to go about holding spasms off or letting them through.

Practice makes perfect The level to which your arousal drops after a non-ejaculatory orgasm and the amount of time it will take you to reach your next orgasm will vary. In your initial stages of practice, they may vary quite randomly – sometimes you will feel that you are about to have another orgasm just after you had one, other times you will fail to properly hold off you ejaculation and completely lose erection for a minute or two. Most of the time, you’ll end up somewhere in between.

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As you gain more experience, gain better control over your physiology and gain a better understanding of your sexuality, you will also gain an ability to decide on how you want your orgasms to be. You might even be able to reach a level where you are in pretty much a constant orgasm for several minutes – you hold off ejaculation and drop arousal just a little bit and then orgasm again. The many orgasms pretty much get blended into one big long orgasm such that they become nearly indistinguishable from one another. It will require a lot of practice and a very strong PC muscle to get to this level, but hopefully the possibility of having a five minute long orgasm will provide some motivation for you.

Exercise 4: Ascending and Descending Now we come to the next crucial exercise. This is not a PC muscle strength or endurance exercise anymore. Instead, it allows you to develop a better awareness of your excitement levels and to start using your PC muscle in order to regulate them. You won’t be having full-blown non-ejaculatory orgasms yet, but you are getting close.

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There are two important points to be made about this exercise.

Firstly, this exercise can be done in parallel with the PC muscle strength exercises (1,2 and 3). You don’t have to wait until you are done with the full course of PC muscle training which, as you know, should last at least three weeks. I suggest you exercise your PC muscle for at least a little while, say a week, before you start doing this exercise. Remember to stick to your training schedule with the first three exercises, even if you start doing this exercise. A strong PC muscle is still crucial to developing into a multiorgasmic man.

Secondly, this exercise can be done both on your own or with your partner. How you choose to go about it, is up to you. I will describe both methods so that you can choose which is more appropriate for you. Perhaps you will decide to try the exercise on your own the first few times and then involve your partner.

The idea of this exercise is to gradually let your arousal rise to a very high level, then slightly engage your PC muscle to prevent the arousal from rising further and then let it come down before repeating the procedure.

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What should be said about the PC muscle at this point, is that it is not only capable of holding off your ejaculation. Tensing your PC muscle also tends to lower your arousal slightly or at least hinders it from rising further. Even if you don’t stop the physical stimulation, you’ll notice that if you squeeze your PC muscle, your arousal won’t rise as fast as it would if the muscle was relaxed. This is the property of the PC muscle that we will be using for this exercise.

You will be increasing your arousal by means of physical stimulation. Since you can do this exercise both with or without a partner, there are two ways you can stimulate yourself.

If you are doing the exercise alone, you will essentially be masturbating in order to increase your arousal. You can do this in either an “almost lying down” position – you can for example lie on a sofa or on the bed an put a few pilliows below your back – or you can do the exercise standing. The choice is up to you. For most men, the lying position makes the arousal rise slower, so it gives you better control over your excitement levels. The standing up position, however, might make you feel more “alert” which may also be beneficial. If you are not sure which position to use, try both and then decide which is better for you personally.

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For this exercise, I suggest you use an artificial lubricant. This makes your arousal progress in a smoother manner and the sensations are closer to real sex than with ordinary “dry” masturbation. You can probably find lubricant in any sex shop or drugstore. If you really don’t feel like buying lubricant, you can use baby oil – it’s almost just as good. In the extreme case where you are absolutely itching to do the exercise but don’t have any lube or baby oil at hand, you can even use oil from the kitchen – olive oil, for instance. Just note that in this case it will probably get very messy, so make sure you protect your bed/sofa/floor and have plenty of handtowels nearby. My point is that you really should use some sort of lubrication for this exercise.

When doing this exercise alone, you will want to apply plenty of lubricant to your hand or your penis and start masturbating in a very slow gentle manner. And by slow and gentle I really mean it. The masturabting habits of most men are such that they use a very tight grip on their penis and move their hand back and forth fairly fast. If you think carefully and compare how you would normally masturbate to how you would normally have sex, you’ll probably notice that in the former case the motion is significantly faster than in the latter. For the purposes of this

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exercise, I suggest you use a motion as slow as if you were having slow sex. Imagine the motion of slow sex and use the same speed for this exercise. It may feel strange if you’re not used to such slow movements when you are “on your own”, but just stick with it and it will feel more comfortable after a while.

Now, if you are doing the exercise with your partner, you will basically be having normal sexual intercourse. You will need to choose a position in which you (the male partner) are in complete control of the motion. In fact, your woman should not be providing any stimulation for you with her own movements, because she will not know all the details of your arousal and that is what matters in this exercise. I would not recommend the missionary position, because, although you are in control of the motion, the fact that you are facing downward tends to increase your arousal much quicker than in other poses. On the other hand, in positions where the man is lying on his back, he doesn’t have much control over the motion.

I would suggest two positions that are suitable for this exercise. The first is often called the “butterfly” position. The woman is lying on her back and the man is either kneeling in front of her if he is on the bed or he is standing beside the bed if

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she is on the edge, entering her from the front. It may make sense to put a pillow or two under the woman’s buttocks in order to raise her pelvis. This is because you want your motion to be as horizontal as possible and not downward oriented. The other suitable position is “doggy-style”, which probably does not need much explanation, but here it is anyway: the woman is supporting herself on “all fours” facing downward and the man enters her from behind by, again, either kneeling on the bed or standing on the floor if the woman is in the edge of the bed. If your woman is comfortable with this position, it may be a bit better option since the motion is naturally more horizontal than with the “butterfly” position.

If you are doing this exercise with your partner, I would still recommend using a lubricant, unless your woman naturally gets very wet. If you are using a condom, make sure the lubricant you get is condom-compatible, since an oil-based lubricant can potentially break a latex condom. The motion you will be using will still be a very slow and gentle motion, as with the solo approach. Also, remember that this is an exercise, this is not “normal” sex – you shouldn’t be trying to please your partner at this point. I suggest that you make sure that both you and your

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woman understand this. It’s important that you focus on your own bodily sensations.

When you start the exercise, whether alone or with your partner, take the time to really notice all the sensations in your body, especially in the genital region, to really feel your partner or your hand and to become really aware of your arousal level and how it grows as you keep moving. Don’t rush. At any point you notice yourself going a bit too fast for what you might call “slow sex”, slow down. Really pay attention to your motion and pace because you don’t want to have your arousal rise too fast.

Let us then start with the actual exercise. Apply the lubricant and either enter your partner or hold your penis with your hand and start the stimulation. Feel the arousal levels rise as you keep stimulating yourself. Remember – move slowly. Breathe calmly and deeply, feel the pleasure. Try to feel not only the arousal in your genitals, but the arousal of your whole body as your excitement level rises.

As you keep doing this, paying close attention to all your sensations, you should soon notice that your arousal is reaching a point where you know that you are

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soon going to ejaculate. Not immediately, but fairly soon. Don’t let this feeling slow you down or make you stop the stimulation just yet. You want to reach the point that we have called “a very high state of arousal” – around 90%. This is the point where you know that just one or two more strokes – and ejaculation will be inevitable, however you can still stop it now by stopping the stimulation. This is the point you want to reach, not earlier and not later. This point might not be very obvious and that’s why you have to pay really close attention to your sensations and proceed slowly.

Once you reach the 90% point, there are two things to do.

First, stop completely. Stop all stimulating motion and, if you are doing this with partner, make sure that she also stops any stimulation she might be giving you.

Second, engage your PC muscle. The same way you tensed the muscle during the first three exercises, tense it right now. You will feel your arousal quickly subside. It probably won’t drop massively, perhaps to 80% or 85%, but you should feel the difference. You should feel like you can do a few more strokes without ejaculating. However, don’t continue with the stimulation for now.

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You should squeeze the muscle just enough for the arousal level to drop to 80%85%. How long this takes will depend on your own physiology, but if you are not sure about your arousal level, tense the PC muscle for 5-10 seconds. Once you feel your arousal has dropped a bit, release the muscle and relax your body.

Now let your arousal gradually subside. Let it drop to about 50%-60%. Don’t do anything during this time – don’t stimulate your genitals in any way and don’t squeeze your PC muscle, just relax and breathe calmly. It’s okay if your erection weakens during this period. If you are using a condom and your erection weakens substantially, you might consider changing the condom before your resume.

So once you feel that your arousal has dropped to about 50%-60%, however you define that for yourself, simply repeat the process: stimulate your penis, reach a very high level of arousal, tense your PC muscle, let the arousal drop, release the muscle and let the arousal drop further.

You will probably notice that with every such cycle, your arousal will rise faster and faster during stimulation. It will also take longer and longer to have your excitement drop while you are not stimulating. (This is by way, one reason why I

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don’t really like the idea of expressing arousal as a number – it doesn’t take into account how fast your arousal rises or drops.) You don’t have to wait until your arousal drops all the way to 50%-60% on every cycle. You can “raise the plank” with every cycle if you feel like it.

How many such cycles you do, depends on your own preference. I would say, do at least 3 or 4. It is quite likely that at some point you will “miss” the 90% point, reach the point of no return and ejaculate. Don’t worry, that’s fine, you simply need to learn to listen to your body a bit more and that will come with practice and that’s what this exercise is for. Once you have done a sufficient number of cycles and you feel that they are getting too quick, i.e. your arousal rises fast and then doesn’t really drop, just let yourself ejaculate and finish the exercise.

Now, how often you do this exerise is entirely up to you. That will depend on your sexual habits, on the time it takes you to “recover”, on the amount of time you can dedicate to this exercise etc. I wouldn’t recommend doing the exercise more than 2 or 3 times a day, but also not less than once every 2 or 3 days. If you stick within these limits, your exercise regime is fine. Keep on repeating the exercise for at least until you are finished with exercises 1, 2, 3 and maybe for a week or

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two longer. This will largely depend on your own feeling about yourself – how much do you feel in control of your body and especially your arousal levels and how strong do you feel your PC muscle is.

This is one exercise where you can really try to push your limits. Once you become accustomed to the process, you can try delaying the moment when you pause the stimulation and squeeze your PC muscle by more and more, i.e. tense the muscle at a higher and higher level of arousal. Of course, this will increase the likelihood of having an accidental ejaculation, but it will also teach you a lot about your sexuality, so it’s definitely worth trying.

Exercise 5: Walking on the Edge This is the final exercise before we go on to our first real attempt to achieve a non-ejaculatory orgasm. If you have made it this far in not only reading, but also in following the advice in this book, you are doing absolutely great. Just a bit longer and you will be going for real multiple orgasms, so even if you are tired of doing all the exercises, don’t stop now, you are really close.

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This exercise will help you further increase your control of arousal and will further enable you to make sense of what your body tells you during sex. It is difficult to define this exercise in terms of specific steps, because it completely depends on your ability to understand and control your arousal. Therefore, I will describe this exercise only briefly in terms of general goals and the rest will be up to you to figure out based on your own sensations. If you have really made it this far in your exercise regime, that should be no problem to you.

You can do this exercise alone or with your woman, and everything from Exercise 4 in regards to position, speed of the stimulation, lubrication etc applies to this exercise as well.

This time, you want to start stimulating your penis, again slowly, an let the excitement rise gradually to a very high level – around 90%. Now, although your stimulation is already slow, slow it down even more. You are now in “dangerous” territory – right next to the point of no return. You go a bit too fast and you will ejaculate, ending the exercise, which is something you don’t want just yet. Now, your goal for this exercise is to stay between 90% and 95% arousal, i.e. in a very

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high state of arousal but not reaching the point no return. This is a thin line – that’s why I call this exercise “Walking on the Edge”.

Stay in the range 90%-95% by using your PC muscle when your arousal gets very high, by slowing down, pausing and then again accelerating your motion as needed. Try to stay in this range for as long as you feel “comfortable”. I know it’s hard to call it comfortable, when you are on the verge of ejaculating but have to keep yourself from doing it – it’s difficult both physically because of the ongoing physical stimulation and it’s difficult mentally because you really want to ejaculate and have an orgasm. But what I mean is, stay in this arousal range just as long as you don’t feel overwhelmed by the effort you are making in order to do that. Then, stop the stimulation and let your arousal drop. Give yourself a rest and repeat the process.

That’s pretty much it for this exercise. Start doing the exercise after you have done Exercise 4 at least five times and feel comfortable with it. Keep doing it alongside Exercise 4, perhaps alternating them. I wouldn’t say that this exercise is as crucial as the four others, but it certainly gives you a lot of experience of “working on the edge” – that’s where you will be working when you get to real

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non-ejaculatory orgasms. Also, this exercise will provide you with a feeling for how pleasurable this zone of very high arousal can be even if you are not planning to ejaculate at the moment. Try to really enjoy this exercise, breathe deeply, feel every little thing in your body and, if you accidentally ejaculate, don’t worry, just let it all out.

Finally, we’re getting to the big thing you’ve been waiting for – the real nonejaculatory orgasm.

Going for Your First Non-ejaculatory Orgasm All right! You’ve been diligent in your exercise regime and you have been doing your PC muscle and arousal control exercises for several weeks now. You should really feel by now, how much your understanding of your own sexuality has progressed since you started out. You should feel that your PC muscle has grown much stronger during this time. You can’t really feel or see that physically – it’s not quite as obvious as having strong biceps or whatever – but you should be able to feel it from how much control it has given you over your excitement levels. You

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should also feel that you understand your arousal much better than previously: you know when ejaculation is very close, you know when you are about to cross the point of no return etc.

If there is anything that you feel hasn’t been done quite diligently or where you are not yet satisfied with your progress, I suggest you go back and do what’s been left undone. It’s much better to go for your non-ejaculatory orgasms when you know that you have been diligent in your preparation than to struggle with them and not know where the problem is. Do more PC muscle exercises or do more arousal control exercises or both, until you feel you are ready to move on.

If you feel that you are now ready to go for your first non-ejaculatory orgasm, read on. You can do it either alone or with your partner, it doesn’t matter. Find a time and place where you (or the two of you) will be undisturbed and can fully devote yourself to the task. Note that, in all likelihood, it’s not going to be easy and, as much as I would hate to discourage you at this point, be mentally prepared that your first attempt might flop. If it does, don’t worry – it’s normal.

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Before you start, you should be completely relaxed and calm. I suggest you take a few minutes to just sit calmly, breathe deeply and let all the muscles in your body to release tension. A kind of a simple meditation. This will help you concentrate on your goal and not rush.

Once you are ready to start, prepare the same way as you did for Exercises 4 and 5. You will want to use some lubricant and, if you are doing this with your partner, you will want to assume one of the positions described in Exercise 4.

The initial process is pretty much the same as in the last two exercises – you want to arouse yourself gradually, using a very slow, steady motion. Let your arousal rise to a very high level and then stop the stimulation. Tense your PC muscle slighlty, just to warm it up. Let your arousal fall to say 50-60%, the way you did it in Exercise 4. This is all just preparation – you don’t want to rush straight into an orgasm, because your body and in particular your PC muscle simply won’t be ready to resist the sudden “pressure”. So, in order to prepare yourself both mentally and physically, you want to let you arousal rise and fall a few times.

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Repeat this process (stimulate, stop, squeeze, let fall) a few times, say 2 to 4. During these cycles, you don’t want to push your arousal too high, not like it was recommended in Exercise 4. The reason is that you don’t want to accidentally “overshoot” and end up ejaculating before you’re ready. And you also don’t want to over-arouse yourself before your first non-ejaculatory orgasm. Also, don’t tense your PC muscle too much – just a quick squeeze is enough – you want to simply warm it up, but not get it tired.

If you have done a few up and down cycles and you think you are ready to proceed, good! Let’s go for the orgasm!

After you have let your arousal drop for the n-th time, resume stimulation. Proceed slowly, let your excitement rise little by little. Note the sensations in your body. Breathe deeply and calmly.

As you reach a very high state of arousal of about 90%, slow down even more. Stay in control of your arousal. Proceed very slowly towards the point of no return. As soon as you feel that you are about to hit the point of no return, SQUEEZE! Tense you PC muscle as hard as you can and stimulate right past the

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point of no return. Stop the stimulation! But keep tensing! Keep tensing that PC muscle! Squeeze it as if your life depended on it! Your body may get a bit out of control at this point – you might tense up in weird ways – don’t worry about that. Just keep squeezing. Keep you eyes open! You are orgasming and your penis will want to spasm rhythmically. Don’t let any of those spasms through! Squeeze for as long as you need to until the orgasm is over and you stop feeling the urge to ejaculate. As you feel the pressure of ejaculation subside, slowly relax your PC muscle. Should you feel the need to ejaculate rise again, eliminate it by squeezing your PC muscle. Finally, relax you PC muscle completely. You’re done.

Aftermath Congratulations! However your experiment ended, I congratulate you on your first attempt at a non-ejaculatory orgasm!

In fact, there are quite many ways in which the above attempt may have ended, so let’s go through them.

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If you managed to hold your PC muscle tense through the whole orgasm, you didn’t ejaculate, you retained your erection, perhaps even managed to enjoy the orgasm a bit and are now ready for the next round, I congratulate you in double! The preparation and the training have already paid off and you have achieved your first full-blown non-ejaculatory orgasm. Read on to find out where to go from here and how to further develop your abilities.

Chances are that, if you managed to not ejaculate and retain you erection, you didn’t quite enjoy the orgasm. You were just so busy holding back your ejaculation and the spasms that are constantly trying to overpower your PC muscle, that you didn’t even get the opportunity to enjoy the orgasm itself. That’s absolutely fine, it won’t be like that forever. As you develop your skills and gain more control over you sexuality, you will also develop an ability to enjoy your new orgasms at least as much, and probably even more than, your ordinary ejaculatory orgasms. Keep reading and keep working on your skills.

It is also possible that you ended up having a sort of half-way success. You held off a good deal of your ejaculation, but some of the spasms managed to get through your PC muscle squeeze and you had what I call a “partial ejaculation”. Some of

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your semen got out, but not nearly as much as you would expect from an ordinary ejaculation. This probably happened towards the end of your squeeze, when your PC muscle started getting tired and your mental focus started dissipating. It’s quite likely that you didn’t retain your erection entirely, but didn’t go as limp as you would after an ordinary orgasm. All of this is, again, absolutely fine and you are doing great.

Another possibility is that you had some strange mix of effects. For example, it may happen that you completely hold back your ejaculation – no semen whatsoever gets out – but you lose your erection almost entirely, despite still feeling aroused. In this case the erection usually comes back in only a minute or two. Or, the opposite thing may happen – you ejaculate quite considerably, but nevertheless retain a rock-hard erection with very little arousal left. If you continue the stimulation form here, you’ll probably get your arousal back pretty quickly and in a while will be able to go for another orgasm. All kinds of “strange” things and combinations of effects may happen when you are working on your multiorgasmic abilities. These are all part of your natural sexuality that you never knew existed before, so don’t freak out, you are simply discovering your new

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abilities. As you learn to manage your orgasms and arousal, these peculiarities will gradually get under your control. Again, you are doing great, keep working.

Finally, your attempt at your first non-ejaculatory orgasm may have flopped completely. As soon as the urge to ejaculate hit you, you completely lost your control, the orgasmic spasms came one after another, you ejaculated and the lost your erection. Maybe you didn’t even enjoy the orgasm. Let me tell you, you are still doing great! The thing is, you simply ended up where the vast majority of men end up. I completely failed at my first non-ejaculatory orgasm attempt, and not just the first one. It took me quite a while before I achieved a proper nonejaculatory orgasm. Most men that I have taught these skills and those that I got feedback from, have said that their first few attempt were complete flops. The reality is, you don’t realise that it’s pretty damn difficult to control your body and your arousal when you are having an orgasm, until you have tried it. So, there you are – you have tried it! Now you know it’s quite difficult, but since you also know what it feels like, it will now be easier for you to work on it. And that’s what you have to do – just keep working on it. Read the next sections on where you should go from here.

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Where to Go from Here? Whatever the result of your first attempt at a non-ejaculatory orgasm, the only real thing to do is to keep working on it.

If you achieved a full non-ejaculatory orgasm or something partial, you have to continue exercising both your PC muscle and arousal control. As you get more and more practice, your skills will keep getting better and better. You will find it easier to hold off ejaculations and fully retain erections as time goes on and you keep developing your abilities.

If your first attempt at a non-ejaculatory orgasm failed, all you have to do is keep trying. Re-read the section “Going for You First Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm” and try again. If it fails again, try again and again and so on.

If you are having trouble with holding off your ejaculation, you will have to figure out for yourself what it is that you lack. If you feel that your PC muscle was simply not strong enough to hold off the pressure caused by the oncoming ejaculation, then keep working out your PC muscle using the exercises provided earlier. If you

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feel that your arousal grew too fast and you simply missed the point at which you were supposed to squeeze your PC muscle, perhaps you should work on your arousal control (Exercises 4 and 5) and try to slow down the stimulation. I’m going to cover a few additional tricks in the next few sections. Take a look at them, you may find them helpful. Eventually, with enough experience, you should be able to control your ejaculation without much trouble.

Trick: Breathing Breathing can play an important role in your ability to control your orgasms. There are a few things you can do with your breathing to see what effect it has on your abilities.

As you approach an orgasm (one where you want to hold off your ejaculation), start breathing deeply. Don’t breathe too fast or you might end up hyperventilating. Simply take deep strong breaths, filling up your lungs completely and then emptying them completely.

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The additional oxygen should improve your concentration which in turn will help you keep good track of your arousal. The oxygen supply will also improve your ability to tense your muscle. I am not an expert at physiology, but at least this is the way I see it. Strong “manly” breathing also helps you feel strong and powerful and this psychological effect can improve your control.

Trick: Eyes When you were you going for your first non-ejaculatory orgasm, remember I told you briefly to keep your eyes open? I don’t know why, but it seems to help many men (myself included) to hold the PC muscle tense until the ejaculatory pressure is over.

The natural reflex is to close your eyes during orgasm. This lets us briefly submerge into our own world and completely bask in our orgasmic pleasure. This is perfectly fine and you should be able to do it if you so choose once you are experienced enough in your multiorgasmic abilities.

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However, closing your eyes also draws your concentration away from what you should really be doing at the moment, namely squeezing your PC muscle. Perhaps this is the reason that men tend to quickly lose control, relax their muscle and let orgasmic spasms get through.

What I recommend you do is, as soon as you start squeezing your PC muscle, pay attention to keep your eyes open. If you are doing this with your partner, you can use the moment to gaze into her eyes or to enjoy her feminine beauty. From discussions with other men, I have found to my own surprise that this is often something they have never done. So, instead of submitting to your own bliss, you can use the moment of your orgasm to connect with your partner on an emotional or even spiritual level. And at the same time, it will help you keep your PC muscle tense. An excellent thing to try, in my opinion.

Trick: Look Up Now here’s another little thing you might want to try. It may or may not work for you, but it’s certainly not much of an effort.

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What you want to do is, while you are holding off your ejaculation, drop you head backwards and look up. Open your mouth and breathe through it. You know, the way you might imagine a person looked like when they are in complete ecstasy. I know, this is not quite compatible with what I said about the previous trick – you can’t really visually connect with your partner when you are staring up, but you can try both of these possibilities and see if either of them helps you. In any case, you should still try to keep your eyes open with this trick.

Trick: Abs Do you remember when locating your PC muscle, I recommended you to keep the other muscles of your body as relaxed as possible. That was simply to help you mentally separate the PC muscle from the other muscles. Now that you have been doing PC muscle exercises for several weeks and should have no trouble squeezing the PC muscle on its own, I’m actually going to suggest the opposite in order to help you with holding off your ejaculation.

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As you start squeezing your PC muscle for the purpose of a non-ejaculatory orgasm, tense up your abdominal muscles. If you tend to work out in the gym or such, you should have a pretty clear idea of what that means. In case you don’t, imagine your reflex if somebody was about to punch you in the stomach. It’s a natural reaction to quickly tense up your abs when there’s a sudden threat to your stomach area. So, bascially that’s what you want to do for this trick.

Tense up your abs simultaneously with you PC muscle and hold them tensed all the way through. Again, I am not sure as to why this helps many men in their multiorgasmic abilities, but it does. It may be that, when the pelvic floor muscles are tensed on their own, they don’t contract to the same extent as when they are tensed along with other muscles nearby. This may be for either psychological reasons (e.g. you don’t have to waste your mental power on separating the pelic floor from other muscles) or for physical reasons (perhaps the PC muscle’s ability to contract is physically limited by the contraction of other muscles such as the abs), I don’t really know. In any case, this is something to try.

Another two groups of muscles you can try tensing in order to enhance the PC muscles ability to contract, are the muscles in your hips and the muscles in your

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buttocks. Just see what comes more naturally to you, or try all of these possibilities.

Trick: PC Muscle Lock-In A very common problem for men attempting their first non-ejaculatory orgasm is that their timing is too late. What happens is that they tense their PC muscle already when the ejaculation is coming on fast. As a result, by the time the muscle is fully tense, the ejaculation is already “happening”, the orgasm spins out of control and the man proceeds to have an ordinary ejaculatory orgasm mixed with a desperate attempt to hold off an ejaculation that has already started.

Remember I said earlier that the PC muscle needs some time, a few seconds usually (but in many cases more than a few), in order to become fully tense. If you practice enough with your PC muscle, you may notice the subtle details of how the muscle, and your pelvic floor in general, functions. You start tensing the muscle and after a few seconds you feel that it’s “at full capacity”, i.e. completely tensed. But then, a few more seconds goes by, and you suddenly feel like the

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muscle “locks in” to the tense position. This part is difficult to put into words, but I will try to explain. At this point, you suddenly realise it’s almost comfortable and normal to keep your PC muscle tense – it stops feeling like hard work. It’s not a specific sensation, but more like a mental realisation. Perhaps, from the physiological point of view, it has something to do with the fact that other muscles in your pelvis also tense up accordingly and also that your body starts supplying all these muscles with more oxygen to keep them working. Again, I’m not a medical expert, so I wouldn’t know for sure. But in any case, this is what I sometimes call the “lock-in” and it happens a good 5-10 seconds after I start squeezing. So, that’s a few seconds for the muscle to get fully tensed and then a few more seconds for the lock-in to occur.

The reason I am talking about this is that I personally, as well as quite a few other men I have talked to in regards to this issue, find it much easier to keep an ejaculation from happening during an orgasm if by the time the orgasm occurs, the PC muscle is completely “locked in”. For this reason, if you are having trouble getting your first non-ejaculatory orgasm, or even when you are already multiorgasmic but for some reason are feeling a bit unsure about your ability to

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hold off your ejaculation during a particular lovemaking session, it’s a good idea to have your PC muscle completely locked in before you orgasm. That means squeezing well up-front before the onset of the orgasm.

If you are not quite sure what I’m talking about (and that’s perfectly fine, since the way you experience your sexual functions is very subjective), simply try this. As you approach an orgasm, attempt to time your squeeze such that you start tensing the muscle about 10 seconds (or even more) before you expect the orgasm to happen. Of course, you wouldn’t know well in advance when exactly you are going to orgasm and so this will require some calibration. If you are still not sure, simply try starting the squeeze considerably earlier than you previously have. See what happens. You may find it easier to keep the ejaculation from happening.

As you probably realise, the drawback of this method is that your PC muscle gets tired quicker than usual, since you are tensing it at full capacity for much longer. And that’s another reason you should be diligent about doing the PC muscle exercises, especially the very long contractions’ one.

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Male Multiple Orgasms Are All Different

Male Multiple Orgasms Are All Different As you practice and use your multiorgasmic abilities, you will notice that every orgasm you have is different.

You have probably noticed even before you got your hands on this book, how much the process of sexual intercourse depends on all kinds of factors. With male multiple orgasms, this is even more pronounced. You will probably see that the duration of stimulation before orgasm, the effort you have to put into holding off an ejaculation, the “depth” of the orgasm etc all depend on various factors such the amount of time since you last had sex, on your general level of energy, on your “sexual exhaustion”, on your “horniness”, on your partner’s mood, on the position etc etc.

For example, many men find that it is easier to hold off the ejaculation if you have last had sex fairly recently, say in the last 24 hours. At the same time, it may be more difficult to keep up an erection if you have been having sex several times a

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day for the last week. This all depends on your own physiology and sexuality. These were just examples and may not apply to you at all.

Anyway, covering all the possibilities is way beyond the scope of this book and I wouldn’t be able to do that simply because of the subjective nature of multiorgasmic skills. You will have to figure these things out for yourself and this is simply a part of your journey towards sexual self-discovery. If you learn to understand what your body is telling you, you can significantly improve your sexual life further – get more pleasure from it, bring more pleasure to your partner and just generally become a “master of sex”, if you will.

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Part III: Further Topics In this part I will cover some of the more advanced topics relating to male multiple orgasm. Most of these techniques will become relevant only once you are fairly comfortable holding off your ejaculation while having an orgasm and do so regularly while having sex.

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The Use of Partial Ejaculation

The Use of Partial Ejaculation So far, partial ejaculation has been something that indicated that you still have to do some work on your multiorgasmic abilities. Having some of the semen come out during a non-ejaculatory orgasm meant that you weren’t able to squeeze your PC muscle hard and long enough to hold off ejaculatory spasms. As a result you probably lost some of your erection.

However, once you are comfortable holding off your ejaculation entirely, you may discover that sometimes, you have an orgasm, but retain both your erection and arousal “so well” that you almost immediately find yourself wanting to ejaculate again. And so you have to either ejaculate and thus end the intercourse earlier than you perhaps wanted to or to hold off another ejaculation. If this happens too often during a single session of sexual intercourse, it can be very tiring for your PC muscle and you will still have to ejaculate quite soon, so your sexual intercourse won’t be much longer than it would be without using multiorgasmic techniques. Plus the sex will be very “choppy” – you thrust a few times and then have to wait until the orgasm is over, then you thrust a few more times and have to hold back another ejaculation. So, you may find yourself in a situation where you would

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want to lose some of your arousal at every non-ejaculatory orgasm so as to make the intervals between the orgasms longer.

This is where partial ejaculation comes in. Basically what you want to do, is to proceed with stimulation normally as you would with multiorgasmic sex and squeeze your PC muscle as ejaculation becomes imminent. This time however, somewhere during the orgasm, you want to quickly relax your PC muscle and instantly tense it again. The idea is that during this short period of relaxation one or two of the ejaculatory spasms manages to get through. Along with those spasms, some of the ejaculate may also come out. As a result, you should be able to retain an almost full erection while losing some of the arousal, thus extending the time needed to achieve the next orgasm. Exactly when to relax your PC muscle and for how long, you will have to figure out for yourself. With practice, you can learn to maintain an absolutely rock-hard erection while not being as aroused as you would normally expect to be in this state.

You will probably notice that it is not the partial ejaculation itself that reduces your arousal. It is actually the spasms. It’s almost as if with every ejaculatory spasm, some of the arousal leaves your body and will have to be regenerated

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before you can have another orgasm. The interesting thing is, you don’t necessarily have to ejaculate – you might actually have these ejaculatory spasms without any ejaculate coming out. Thus the name “partial ejaculation” is perhaps not very accurate.

Remember, in the beginning of the book I said that orgasms, and ejaculation are separate things – if you have achieved a non-ejaculatory orgasm, then you have already experienced this yourself. Now I would actually expand that statement: orgasms, ejaculation, ejaculatory spasms, loss of erection and loss of arousal – these are all separate things. The usual male experience is for all five to occur simultaneously. That’s the ordinary ejaculatory orgasm. With advanced multiorgasmic skills you will however discover that these five elements can occur in almost any combination. How to achieve various combinations will be up to you to discover, because this is a very individual process. Partial ejaculation is one of the techniques to experiment with.

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Total Release

Total Release Once men harness the power of the PC muscle, there is an interesting tendency among them to start using almost all the time. You are having sex and you are constantly tensing and releasing the PC muscle, thereby “tweaking” and “finetuning” your arousal the way you want it. It’s certainly a good thing to be so much in control of your arousal, but only up to a point. If you find yourself constantly pumping your PC muscle even when you don’t really need to hold off an ejaculation, here is something I would suggest. Simply try completely and entirely relaxing your pelvic floor when you are between two orgasms.

There are several reasons to try to do this. First, it frees up your mind from having to be in complete control of your arousal and thinking when to squeeze and when to release. This makes sex less “technical” and much more “sexual”. You can pay more attention to your own sensations, to your feeling and definitely much more attention to your partner. Secondly, it lets you preserve PC muscle strength and endurance for when you really need it – the non-ejaculatory orgasms. Your PC muscle can rest while you are enjoying yourself and is there for you when you want to prolong the enjoyment. Thirdly, you might actually discover that keeping

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the muscle relaxed strangely increases the time between orgasms. Whether that’s a good thing or a bad thing, is up to you to decide. I have personally found that I prefer having significant periods of time between my orgasms, and so have quite a few men I’ve talked to. Fourth, you might also discover that having the muscle completely relaxed between the orgasms somehow tends to increase the pleasurability of the orgasms that follow. I cannot proide a definite explanation for this, but I think it has something to do with the fact that the arousal builds up slowly and gradually and is not interrupted by constant squeezes, and so becomes “deep” or “thorough” by the time of the next orgasm.

I’m not saying you should always keep your PC muscle completely relaxed when you are not orgasming, especially since it would contradict some other stuff that I talk about. I’m just saying it’s definitely something to try every now and then and see how you like it.

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Orgasming without pausing Now this is something that you may started to wonder about: can you actually have a non-ejaculatory orgasm without having to pause the stimulation in order to prevent ejaculation? The short answer is yes. The longer answer is that it will take a considerable amount of practice, but is completely possible.

So, how do you go about getting this skill? Basically you have to add, bit by bit, the amount of stimulation you get during your non-ejaculatory orgasm. If currently you go about your multiple orgasms the way I showed you earlier in this book and stop the stimulation entirely for the duration of the orgasm, then what you have to do is to start by adding just a tiny bit of extra stimulation into your non-ejaculatory orgasm.

For example, you are having sex and are about to ejaculate. You engage your PC muscle and stop the stimulation. As you are holding off the ejaculation and see that it’s going fine so far, so you make a thrust with you penis. This will often make the squeeze more difficult, but if you manage to hold off the ejaculation

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nonetheless, you have just increased your comfort zone. The next time you are having a non-ejaculatory orgasm, you can try adding two thrusts in the middle of it and see if you can still hold off the ejaculation.

This way, increasing bit by bit, very gradually, you will after a while find that you can almost handle a continuous (albeit very slow) stimulation thoughout the entire orgasm. Now you have to gradually increase the speed of this stimulation every time you are having a non-ejaculatory orgasm.

Be ready to have quite a few “flops” while you are doing these exercises. Every time you increase the amount of extra stimulation, you are stepping into uncharted territories and sometimes will have unwanted ejaculations. Don’t let this discourage you. Simply back down, stay at the previous amount of stimulation for a few times and try to move up again.

This learning process takes quite a lot of dedication, but certainly pays off. Many women prefer continuous stimulation as it makes it easier for them to achieve vaginal orgasms. So if you are practicing this with your woman, she will probably be grateful for you effort. In addition, developing this skill raises your control over

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your sexuality to a whole new level and will probably be very satisfying for yourself.

Accelerating an ejaculation Here’s a topic that you would have probably found absolutely ridiculous before you found out about male multiple orgasms. Delaying ejaculation as much as possible is probably the biggest sexual problem for most men. Multiorgasmic abilites, however, give you such incredible abilities in holding off your ejaculation that you may want to actually know a way of accelerating it.

You may find yourself in a situation where you have held off one or more ejaculations and are now in a kind of an arousal plateau – you have a strong erection and are quite aroused, but despite being in constant sexual motion, your arousal doesn’t seem to increase. This may be a great situation to be in – it gives you a chance to give your woman vaginal orgasms and to emotionally connect with her during sex without racing towards an ejaculation. But at times, it can also be fairly annoying. Maybe you or your partner are tired, maybe you are both

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already satisfied with the sex or maybe you don’t have much time (for whatever reason). In any case, here are a few things you can do to get your arousal to grow faster.

First of all, you can try changing positions to something where your penis is as downwards oriented as possible. It tends to be the case for most men, that the more upwards-oriented their penis is during sex, the slower their arousal grows. That is why “woman on top” positions are often recommended for men who are a bit too quick to finish. (Poor them, they don’t know about male multiple orgasms :).) For this reason I would suggest switching to the missionary position or something like that if you want to ejaculate faster.

Secondly, you should try to relax your PC muscle as much as possible. When men develop multiorgasmic abilities and learn to control their arousal using the PC muscle, they tend to start using it all the time, squeezing it every now and then, even when they don’t need to hold off an ejaculation. As I’ve said earlier, there’s no problem with this, but it may become an obstacle to faster ejaculation. This is kind of contrary to what I said earlier in the section “Total Release”. That’s because it depends entirely on the properties of your own sexuality, which I

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cannot really predict. What I suggest you do is try to relax your PC muscle entirely and enjoy the “free” feeling that this gives you. You may notice your arousal gradually starting to grow.

The third thing to do, and the one I personally find most efficient, is energy breathing. This is a practice similar to energy breathing in meditation. If you have done yoga, qigong or some other medidative practices that involve breathing “energy”, you will probably know what I am talking about. If you are not comfortable of thinking in terms of some mystical life-energy that you breathe in and out, you don’t have to. Just think of it the same way you think of arousal – the same sensation you feel in your genitals and your body during sex. Imagine you are trying to control this sensation in different parts of your body by “breathing” it in and moving it around your body.

What you want to do is to start “breathing” in and out through your penis. Breathe in deeply, feel the air fill up your lungs and at the same time, imagine arousal moving from the tip of your penis into the rest of your body. Really try to feel how this arousal energy goes down the shaft of your penis and then spreads into your legs, your abdomen, chest, your arms and all the way up into your head.

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Then slowly breathe out. Let the arousal energy gather from all over your body and stream into your penis, coming out of the tip right into your woman. Try to visualise ejaculating at the same time. Now breathe in again. Keep doing this until you feel your arousal lift off its plateau and start growing, or perhaps keep doing it all the way to ejaculation. While doing such energy breathing, you can try experimenting with breathing the energy through different parts of your body and moving it into other parts. Play around with it, you will probably find it quite pleasurable.

This simple energy breathing exercise can be quite fullfilling in itself, but is actually only a tiny part of a much greater topic of sex as a spiritual practice. Unfortunately going deeper into the spirituality of sex is way beyond the scope of this book, but if you haven’t previously encountered this area at all, then this exercise can serve as a good introduction for you.

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Importance of Changing Condoms

Importance of Changing Condoms Perhaps I shouldn’t really be talking about this, and it’s probably superfluous information for most people. But for the sake of staying on the safe side, I want to stress that, if you are using condoms with your partner, it is very important to change them regularly. If you are not using a condom, then of course, this bit doesn’t apply to you.

You should change condoms for two main reasons. First, you will be having sex for much longer stretches of time and of course, condoms, as good and strong as they are nowadays, are not everlasting and the constant friction wears them out. Using additional condom-compatible lubrication may mitigate the problem to some extent but not entirely.

The second reason is that during “non-ejaculatory” orgasms you may experience partial ejaculation. Whether it happens by accident or because of your deliberate use of partial ejaculation to increase the interval between orgasms (as described earlier), you may end up with some semen in the tip of your condom. Even with ordinary non-mutliorgasmic sex, you may have some semen come out of the tip of your penis before the actual ejaculation – also known as “pre-ejaculate”. In any

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case, semen in the tip of the condom increases the risk of the condom bursting. Also, during continuous motion, the semen may actually move down the shaft of you penis to the base of the condom and eventually make contact with the vagina even with the condom intact.

I won’t tell you exactly how often you should change condoms, because that will really depend on how you have sex and on the condoms you are using. I also wouldn’t want to be held liable (even if just morally) in case I told you to change condoms every X minutes and you have one break nonetheless. Just use common sense and change every now and then during a long session of sex.

Amplifying Orgasms Do you want to have more powerful orgasms? Yeah? Who doesn’t! Well, my general approach would be to recommend practicing energy breathing in this case, but there are two simple methods you can use to make your orgasms more powerful, sometimes even mind-blowing.

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Recall the “Walking on the Edge” exercise. That’s where I asked you to achieve a very high state of arousal and then try to stay around it for a significant amount of time by alternating between stimulation and PC muscle squeezes. Well, as it happens, using this same little technique when you are already multiorgasmic can significantly fuel up your orgasm which comes right after the process. Keep in mind that, if you are trying to have a non-ejaculatory orgasm, powering it up can make it more difficult to control. But that’s not a reason to avoid using this technique before a non-ejaculatory orgasm, since constantly pushing your limits is the best way to learn and progress. If, however, you do this little trick right before your final ejaculatory orgasm, it can seriously blow your mind, so definitely try it once you are comfortable. The idea is very simple then – as you approach an orgasm, start oscillating your arousal at a very high level. Do this for a while (you will have to figure out yourself how long you want to do it for) and then simply go for the orgasm. Enjoy.

The other method I can recommend, and this applies mostly to ejaculatory orgasms, so you might want to do this when you are about to have your final orgasm for the day, is to do a slight squeeze right after you have passed the point

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of no return. When a man is very close to ejaculation and he is actually planning to ejaculate this time, the most common approach is to continue the stimulation right into the orgasm and perhaps all the way through the ejacultion. What I suggest you do instead, if you want a stronger orgasm, is to proceed with the stimulation only up to the point of no return. As soon as you realise that this is it you are going to ejaculate and there’s no way back (barring a really powerful PC muscle squeeze) – you stop the stimulation and quickly tense your PC muscle. This should be just a very quick little squeeze, on and off, and should happen before you actually start ejaculating. This should create a little delay in the ejaculation, and almost like a feeling of suspence although you already know that ejaculation is inevitable. Just a little pause... and then the orgasm comes rolling in. It’s a lovely little trick, nothing difficult, but can seriously enhance your final orgasm.

Final words All right, you are all set! As you can see, developing multiorgasmic abilities does require some commitment and some knowledge, but the rewards are huge. Some

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exercising and some experimentation, and you’ll be having the sex of your life! Hopefully I have done enough to encourage you to strive for these abilities and laid out a clear path in front of you.

Here’s one last thing I would like to recommend you. Don’t get bogged down with technical aspects of the exercises and techniques. Remember that your body is yours and only yours. I wouldn’t be able to know or predict the exact sensations and details of your sexuality even if I really tried. Even if something that I say in this book sounds fairly specific or detailed, it doesn’t mean it will be exactly that way for you. The material I present is for general guidance and you should feel absolutely free to vary or modify my ideas to suit your own needs. Experiment, play around, fool around, try stuff out. Sex is about love, joy and fun, and so is male multiple orgasm.

It’s very likely that there will be further editions of this book and perhaps even a “sequel” if that term is at all applicable to a “how to” book. Therefore I more than welcome any reader feedback. Please do email me if you have any comments or suggestions. Email me if you have any questions that I have left unanswered.

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Now go, do the exercises, become the master of sex that you were born to be and come back to this text whenever you feel like.

Have fun and keep it up! (pun intended)

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