Love Systems Insider: Making Your Own Routines

Love Systems Insider Date: December 2006

Making Your Own Routines Have you ever been talking to a woman and lost your chances with her because you "ran out of  things to say?" Did you ever have an awkward pause and then resort to "So... what do you do?" Have you ever left a set because you really just drew a blank? Implications: Every routine should have a  purpose. In my interview with The Don on Using and Creating Routines, Routines, I explain how I assess what emotional state I want a woman to have, hav e, and then create or call up a piece of material that will establish that. Using a routine without knowing what you are trying to accomplish with it, or what can be accomplished by a specific routine, is a losing strategy. "Literally, you can open with anything if you know what comes next." - The Don

Implications: We've been saying something like this for a wh ile, at least the first part - that you can open with anything. Sinn and I covered this definitively in the very first interview on Openings and Transitions. Transitions. However, what The Don is getting at is broader than this. There are types of routines that serve well as Transitional routines - between Opening and Attraction. This is comprehensively covered in Magic Bullets. Bullets. "Some people think of specific routines or specific wordings as some kind of  magical incantation... incantation... but that's not what's important." important." - Savoy

Implications: Most communication is non-verbal. What you say is not as important as how you say it. Even in terms of what you say, the ideas and structure are more important than the actual sequence of words. Do not n ot study routines. Use them as examples. Then make your own. "If you're still using Jealous Girlfriend and Best Friends Test, you haven't   progressed...  progressed... You need to learn to do this your own way." - The Don

The Don hits the nail straight on the head here. Other peoples' pe oples' routines are training wheels. Use them to get some practice if you need to, and look at their structure to get an idea of how a good routine should work, then make your own. If you know what you're doing, it's not that hard. At most every bootcamp now, instructors work individually with students to develop - and practice - personalized routines that they can use that night that reflect the best aspects of their   personality. Savoy http://www.lovesystems.com/newsletters/12-06-making-your-own-routines