Welcome Hi I'm Janet Beckers, the founder and host of Wonderful Web Women and I'm very excited to welcome you to this special publication of the Wonderful Web Women community.
A Gift from All Parts of the Globe This book is the result of team work – but not your typical team! The team who created this publication are spread throughout the globe. Contributors come from all parts of the world… from Australia to the USA, from Canada to France, from New Zealand to Singapore. Every part of this book, from concept to title, every article, artwork, formatting, distribution and marketing – everything – has been the result of the collaboration of women (and enlightened men). Each contributor is a GOLD or VIP member of the Wonderful Web Women community who not only saw an opportunity, BUT TOOK ACTION.
The Law of Attraction in Action Action is what has set the authors and contributors of this book apart from every one else and that is why action is the focus of this book. Each author's background and life experience is as varied as the countries they come from and here you have the opportunity to learn and be inspired on very different approaches to how to take action to attract success into your life.
Action Steps – A Sample of What You Will Learn There are many ways to attract success into your life – however YOU define success. In these pages you will learn skills to:
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Look within yourself to discover your true life purpose Tap into your spirituality and think outside the square Evaluate how you use your time and techniques to set goals and get more done Master the one ability that will make or break your business – how to create meaningful and lasting relationships with your customers HUNDREDS of action steps to grow your business, get more customers and turn them into raving fans who build your business for you. Impact on the future by applying the Law of Attraction to parenting. Tap into your passion and build a business around the "ordinary" Create vitality and energy in your life and have FUN Attract health and love into your life
Every one of these articles focuses on ACTION, and to make it easy for you, every article finishes with a series of actions you can take today to start attracting success in your life. So what are you waiting for?
Thousands of Dollars of Gifts The Law of Attraction is grounded very much on the power of gratitude and giving before you receive. So of course, this book is filled with gifts to help you attract the life you deserve. Every one of the contributors to this book has gifted you further help. Many of the gifts offered here are only available because you have taken the time to read this book. Gifts range from free courses, books, generous discounts to complimentary coaching and memberships. I urge you to take action and make the most of the gifts offered to you. After all, the path those gifts take you on might very well be the reason this book has come into your life. You can find links to all of these gifts by visiting http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts You can join our dynamic community of entrepreneurial women (and enlightened men) and also receive the resell rights to this book (so you can gift it to your customers and use it to grow your list of prospective customers). Simply visit http://www.WonderfulWebWomen.com – it's free to join us. Cheers
Janet Beckers Australia
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Legal Blurb You've got to admit, there are some pretty powerful messages in this book. If you take action on just some of them you will see changes in your life. But let's face facts. We can't make any promises because you are ultimately responsible for the choices you make and the actions you take. Wonderful Web Women, which is owned by Niche Partners Pty Ltd, an Australian company, is the copyright owner of this publication. This means you can't pretend you wrote any, or even part of the articles in this book. You can't reproduce any of these articles anywhere else (unless you are the author) but you can certainly quote from the book and make references to what you have learnt. Just make sure you acknowledge the author and also this book. It's just good manners really (apart from being legal).
How You Can Distribute This Book Yourself If you have been given this book as a gift or as a bonus with a product you bought – lucky you! You can use this book for yourself but you cannot give away copies yourself. But there is a way…. All members of Wonderful Web Women – free, GOLD and VIP have the right to distribute this book. This means (when you join) you can: • • • •
add this book as a bonus to products you are selling grow your mailing list by giving this book away in return for contact details print it out and post it to your favourite customers email it to your customers as a way of rewarding their loyalty
To get the rights to distribute this book simply visit http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com and join for free. As well as getting the rights to distribute this book, we also give you web pages, marketing material and instructions on how to make the most of this opportunity. If you are a GOLD member, we even give you videos to teach you step by step how to use this book to start growing your mailing list through a web site. See you there.
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Thank You The pages of this book are filled with references to the power of gratitude, and for good reason. If we give others the opportunity to help, not only can you create something of greater value, the people who help you often gain just as much as you! There are many people to acknowledge and thank for their part in creating this book. I do hope that I haven't left anyone out but if I have, please know that I am genuinely grateful for your help. So here goes…..
Wonderful Authors There are some "big names" here who are experienced authors and mentors and others who faced the challenge and have authored their first book chapter. Thank you for your wisdom and pushing yourselves out of your comfort zone. The quality of your work is amazing. Congratulations.
Wonderful Designers Thank you to Heidi Nabert who contributed her award winning skills in the creation of the artwork for the cover of this book. She captured the simplicity, strength and femininity of the book. Thank you for your creativity and meeting my tight deadlines. Thank you to Monika Newman, Virtual Assistant Extraordinaire and e-book editing specialist. Monika volunteered hours of her time and expertise to format the layout, look, images etc of the book. Monika is amazingly patient. Thank you for your calmness and meeting very tight deadlines – you're a star! Thank you to Charly Leetham, Wonderful Techy Woman. Charly created the web site http://www.WonderfulLawOfAttraction.com and spent the hours needed to make sure all the gifts donated by our authors are there for you to click on and access. Charly is a partner in our newly launched http://www.WonderfulWebSolutions.com which is the "do it for you" arm of Wonderful Web Women. Together we create web site and marketing solutions THAT WORK.
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Wonderful Web Ideas Man Behind the scenes, working long into the night, is Douglas Beckers, my husband and business partner. Thank you to Douglas for – well everything really! Douglas has that wonderful mix which is perfect in a business (and life) partner. A great lateral thinker and a man of action.
The Wonderful Web Women Community This community started as a one-off project and has developed a life of its own. I am continually inspired by the wonderful women I am privileged to interview and the amazing women and men who make up our community. Your stories inspired this book. I consider myself very lucky to have the opportunity to share my knowledge with you and also to learn so much from each of you. Watch this space as our community goes from strength to strength!
Express Your Gratitude As you read through the following chapters you will find incredibly inspiring stories and words of wisdom. Some of these stories will really touch you and hopefully change your life in some way. We'd love to hear how these stories impact on you and if you are inspired to take action. When you visit http://www.WonderfulLawOfAttraction.com please click on the link "Meet the Authors". There you will find a list of every author and a section with their photo and title of their chapter. Please leave a comment for the authors' whose work you love. This is a powerful way to express your gratitude and publicly acknowledge the generosity of the author. For many of our authors this is the first time they have "put themselves out there" and they have really pushed themselves out of their comfort zones. For this reason alone, they are my inspiration. There is also a link on the web site called "Share Your Story". We'd love to hear your stories of The Law of Attraction and the challenges and celebrations you have faced in your journey to attract success in your life. We look forward to hearing from you. Cheers Janet Beckers
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Heidi Nabert Challenges help keep me level headed, it reminds me I don’t know it all and there is always more to learn. I’m an award-winning graphic designer and podcast host / producer. I am also a national activist (Canada) for the rights of children of divorce and survivors of child sexual abuse – my mission is to teach parents and kids peaceful divorce and safety.
L AW O F A T T R A C T I O N G R A P H I C S & P O D C A S T S Incorporating the Law of Attraction principles into every aspect of your business message strengthens LOA’s power. My expertise includes graphic design, teaching teleseminar and podcast creation combined with Web 2.0, to attract the audience and partners you deserve.
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DADcast was our first Podcast and it helped us to grow an international audience! We recorded 12 1-hour Episodes of everygreen information. Divorced Dad Minute was an experiment to determine if a 1-minute Podcast could be successful. This Podcast is consistently #1 or #2 in iTunes under the Divorced Dads category. http://www.DivorcedDadMinute.com
Boo Boo Gone Podcast won a Veteran Category Podcast Award Boo Boo Gone Podcast Safety Tips for Parents and Kids Heidi Nabert – Host and Producer
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Presentation + Strategy Session TelePodcast Secrets Course Experts in Focus Conference Balitmore – April 17-18, 2009 www.ExpertsinFocus.com/conference
Danny Guspie and Heidi Nabert launched their first podcast in 2006 and watched their business grow in a way that they could not have predicted – a global audience emerged and new type of client – a pre-sold client. TelePostcast Secrets Course You’ll learn how to host a teleseminar, turn it into a Podcast and how your TelePodcast can build your Brand. 38% of the population is auditory Your voice is the most intimate way of bonding with your audience, add the convenience of Teleseminars, Podcast portability, add Web 2.0 – you’ve enabled your audience to choose when, where and how they can listen.
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Acknowledgement Monika Newman Firstly I would like to say thank you for the opportunity of being able to contribute to this project and being able to play my small part in how it all came together. I was included in the team of proofreaders to ensure that all the contributions to the ebook were uniform and maintained high standards. As readers would know it is no small feat working with documents of 280 plus pages and making sure that the document "behaved" but everything came together really well and the team can be proud of all the hard work that went into it. You may be wondering how I became involved with this project? Well, as a Gold Member of Wonderful Web Women I was the recipient of the first The Law of Attraction in Action ebook and when an opportunity arose to be involved with The Law of Attraction in Action - Volume 2 I didn't hesitate to 'put up my hand'. . Being a Virtual Assistant and possessing the skills needed, I knew that this was something I could handle. I understand that business owners can't do it all themselves, nobody can and in the end it's about building teams to get the best outcome. I have a Virtual Assistant business called Absolutely Virtual and support solo entrepreneurs, speakers, consultants, small business owners in their businesses www.absolutelyvirtual.com.au It is my job to make sure your business looks good, even when things get stressful behind the scenes! My services include, but are not limited to the following: • • • • • • • • • • •
Word (Advanced) Creating pdf ebooks, document layouts Formatting, tables, manuals etc PowerPoint (Advanced); Presentations Excel Spreadsheets Database Management Publisher; flyers, tri fold brochures PDF document creation; conversion from PDF to original Mail Merge (via Word & Excel) Email blasts
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Contents WELCOME .......................................................................................... 1 JANET BECKERS ............................................................................................................. 2 LEGAL BLURB..................................................................................... 3 THANK YOU ....................................................................................... 4 JANET BECKERS ............................................................................... 12 “CARGO CULTURE & THE LAW OF ATTRACTION IN ACTION” ............................................ 12 ALMA APOSTOL................................................................................ 21 “MY JOURNEY...RIYADH, SAUDI ARABIA”........................................................................ 21 AMANDA ROBINS............................................................................. 28 “HOW TO DISCOVER THE BUSINESS WITHIN YOU!” ........................................................... 28 ANKYA ............................................................................................. 34 “ABUNDANCE IS AN ENERGY YOU CAN EMBODY…” ....................................................... 34 ANNIE OLIVERI ............................................................................... 43 “HOW TO MOTIVATE YOUR CHILD”................................................................................. 43 ARLENE HARDER.............................................................................. 49 “LIVING WITH A PERFECTIONIST: ADVICE FOR FAMILIES FROM A THERAPIST WHO IS A RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST” ...................................................................................... 49 BARBARA ROMAN ............................................................................ 62 “CREATIVE MARKETING (ON A SHOESTRING BUDGET)”................................................... 62 BARBARA SIMON ............................................................................. 67 “COURSE JUNKIES ON DETOX”....................................................................................... 67 BELINDA JACKSON .......................................................................... 72 “BLOGGING TO ATTRACT ATTENTION!” ........................................................................... 72 CATH RESNICK ................................................................................ 76 “PARENTING, THE FUTURE AND YOU” ............................................................................. 76 CHARYN YOUNGSON ........................................................................ 84 “YOU CAN ONLY MEASURE THE PAST, YOU CAN’T PREDICT THE FUTURE”.......................... 84 CLAIRE MCFEE ................................................................................. 87 “FROM ROCK BOTTOM TO BLITZING THE WORLD WIDE WEB” ......................................... 87
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CONNIE BORIS AND CHARLY LEETHAM............................................ 93 “AROMATHERAPY – HOW ANCIENT SECRETS WILL CREATE SUCCESS FOR YOU TODAY” . 93 CONNIE RAGEN GREEN .................................................................... 99 “HOW TO BUILD YOUR ONLINE EMPIRE BY USING THE 5 PRONGED APPROACH”............... 99 CRYSTAL THUNELL......................................................................... 103 “COOL TO BE KIND” - THE ART OF GENEROSITY AND LAUGHTER – A GENEROUS GIFT TO YOUR HEALTH!............................................................................................................ 103 DEBBIE DUCIC AKA...GUTZY WOMAN............................................. 109 “RECIPE FOR ATTRACTING PERSONAL AND BUSINESS SUCCESS: HEARTZ, BRAINZ, GUTZ” .................................................................................................................................. 109 GABRIELA ROSA ............................................................................ 115 “HOW TO FIND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE NOW” ................................................................. 115 HELEN MEADER.............................................................................. 121 “WEIGHT CONSCIOUSNESS - HOW TO BE YOUR PERFECT WEIGHT” .............................. 121 JANET ATTWOOD ........................................................................... 131 “THE TRANSFORMING POWER OF LETTING GO”............................................................ 131 JASHMUNA SABINE NEBEL ............................................................ 136 “HOW TO UNLOCK YOUR INNER SOURCE OF UNLIMITED CREATIVITY”.............................. 136 DR JOANNA MARTIN ...................................................................... 143 “THE FOUR P'S TO MAKING BIG MONEY AS A SPEAKER”............................................... 143 JOANNE ROIBU .............................................................................. 146 “GUIDE TO GOAL ACHIEVEMENT & THE LAW OF ATTRACTION” ..................................... 146 JUDITH PFLUM, EFT-ADV ............................................................... 156 “LETTING GO OF YOUR “OLD” STUFF TO ATTRACT GOOD INTO YOUR LIFE”.................... 156 JUDITH SHERVEN, PHD & JIM SNIECHOWSKI, PHD ....................... 160 “CHANGING YOUR IDENTITY . . . OR NOT?” ................................................................... 160 KAY PROUDFOOT ........................................................................... 163 “A RETURN TO LOVE” THE KEY TO IT ALL .................................................................... 163 KRISTI SAYLES .............................................................................. 169 “LEAD GENERATION ON A BUDGET”.............................................................................. 169 LEAH SQUIRE................................................................................. 173 “USING AFFILIATE MARKETING TO BOOST YOUR ONLINE BUSINESS AND PUT DOLLARS IN YOUR POCKETS”.......................................................................................................... 173
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LENORE MILLER............................................................................. 178 “CREATE THE OUTRAGEOUSLY HEALTHY YOU FOR LIFE!” ............................................ 178 LINDA BINNS ................................................................................ 185 “CREATING ENVIRONMENTS FOR SUCCESS”................................................................. 185 LISA TALIGA.................................................................................. 190 “HOW TO ATTRACT CLIENTS TO YOUR VIRTUAL ASSISTANT BUSINESS” ........................ 190 LORRAINE PIRIHI ......................................................................... 194 “THE 3 SECRETS EVERY FEMALE ENTREPRENEUR NEEDS TO KNOW TO STAY SANE AND HAVE A LIFE!” ............................................................................................................. 194 LUDWINA DAUTOVIC..................................................................... 198 “MARKETING & DATING - THE TWO GO HAND IN HAND”................................................. 198 MARGARET SAUNDERS .................................................................. 202 “HOW WHAT YOU LOVE DOING CAN MAKE YOU MONEY!”........................................... 202 MARGARET SIMS ........................................................................... 206 “HOW TO BE MEMORABLE WHEN SPEAKING IN PUBLIC … LOOK GOOD, BE REMEMBERED POSITIVELY AND ATTRACT MORE CLIENTS”.................................................................... 206 MARGIT ROBSON ........................................................................... 211 “A RICH LIFE”.............................................................................................................. 211 MICHELLE GREENE......................................................................... 219 “3 KEY ELEMENTS TO CREATING YOUR DREAM LIFESTYLE” ......................................... 219 MONIKA NEWMAN ......................................................................... 226 “IS LETTING GO DIFFICULT?” ....................................................................................... 226 NICOLE SCOTT ............................................................................... 229 “SOLVE ALL THE PROBLEMS OF THE WORLD, AND YOUR OWN, WITH A FEW LAPS OF THE POOL, EASY REALLY” ................................................................................................... 229 PAT MARCELLO .............................................................................. 234 “BLOGGING - 5 TIPS TO HELP YOU BUILD RAPPORT WITH YOUR AUDIENCE”.................. 234 PHYLLIS BRIGGS ........................................................................... 238 “HOW I RISKED $27,000 TO GET MY FIGURE BACK AND HOW YOU CAN SUCCEED TOO!”238 RENEE AUSTIN............................................................................... 243 “THE LAW OF ATTRACTION AND DAY-TO-DAY LIFE, TAKING TIME TO TAKE MEASURE” ... 243 RICK AND JO HARRISON ............................................................... 250 “THE 5 CRITICAL MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE WHEN LOOKING FOR LOVE ... REVEALED” ... 250
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SALLY CURTIS ............................................................................... 253 “TURNING MYSELF INSIDE OUT TO MAKE IT HAPPEN” ..................................................... 253 SHEILA BETKER ............................................................................. 262 “ANYONE GOT A MATCH? HOW TO REKINDLE YOUR PASSION FOR LIFE”....................... 262 STACEY BARR ................................................................................ 268 “THE SINGLE MOST POWERFUL DRIVER OF BUSINESS SUCCESS”................................. 268 SUSAN WINLAW ............................................................................ 274 “CAR TIPS TO KEEP YOU AND YOUR FAMILY SAFER AND MORE SECURE SO YOU CAN REALLY ENJOY LIFE IN 2009.”................................................................................................... 274 SUSITHA P..................................................................................... 280 “HOW TO ENHANCE SELF ESTEEM AND CLAIM ABUNDANCE”......................................... 280 SUZIE WILLIAMS ........................................................................... 284 “ARE YOU SUFFERING FROM COMPASSION FATIGUE?” ................................................. 284 YEE WAH CHOONG ......................................................................... 292 “7 KEYS TO FINDING THE RIGHT LAWYER FOR YOU” ..................................................... 292
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Janet Beckers “Cargo Culture & The Law of Attraction in Action” Congratulations on opening this book and taking the action to read the wonderful wisdom shared by our authors. This simple step shows me you are a person who is open to welcoming change in your life and are willing to take at least some level of action. Thousands of people will be given the gift of this book, thousands of people will save it to their hard-drive in a folder called "Law of Attraction" or "ebooks to read" or "success resources" or similar, but believe it or not, only a handful will go that step further and open the file and start to read. You are one of those people. So again, congratulations on taking action. As I have the honour of writing the first chapter in this book I thought I would help set the scene by sharing with you: 1. What is The Law of Attraction 2. The No.1 mistake people make when using The Law of Attraction 3. The simple solution to that No.1 mistake. I'll also share with you some great stories along the way because I just LOVE stories and I hope you do to ☺
So What IS The Law of Attraction? The concept of The Law of Attraction has really been around for decades but was recently made popular by the movie "The Secret". If you haven't watched it I highly recommend you do so. There are books that have come out based on the movie and you can buy these books and the DVD from most book stores. The DVD is even available for hire in most video rental stores. To explain the concept very briefly, The Law of Attraction states that you attract everything into your life. Both the good and the bad. So what you think and believe is reflected in what you attract into your life.
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It can be broken down into 3 steps: 1. Imagination – asking the universe for what you want in life and being very clear on this 2. Faith – letting go and trusting that the universe will provide. You don't have to always know how 3. Receive – you need to be open to the opportunities that are provided to you and be ready to receive what you asked for. Of course, this is the simplified version and the science behind the concept is absolutely fascinating. You will learn a lot about this in some of the chapters our authors have contributed in this book. Unfortunately, many people have studied The Law of Attraction, applied the principles to their life and not go the results they expected. Many have become disillusioned and written the concept off as "hocus pocus" and this is often because of one common mistake people make.
Cargo Culture and the Law of Attraction To describe this common mistake, let me tell you a story … About 14 years ago I was living in a small village in Papua New Guinea for a few weeks, doing volunteer work in a little health centre. I got to travel from village to village and met many locals who would tell me stories of events happening in other villages (a very efficient grapevine). While I was there, all of the villagers in a small village had decided to throw all of their belongings into the pit toilets and burn other belongings. The theory was that if they went back to having nothing, as they did before WWII, presents and riches would drop from the sky - just as they did during the war when parcels of food etc would be dropped from planes. All they needed to do was truly believe. This had a name - “Cargo Culture”. I see so many similarities with the way many people approach the techniques taught in “The Secret”, “What the Bleep” and “You were born rich”. That if you truly just believe, it will all happen. Of course, the cargo never fell from the sky again, and a whole village was left confused and disappointed. The same confusion and disappointment is inevitable if people treat the power of manifesting The Law of Attraction with the same “cargo culture” mentality. Many people get the concept that they need to imagine what they want, truly believe it will be provided and be willing to receive. It is the last step "receiving" that so many misunderstand. Many people interpret receiving as a passive step but unfortunately this is not the case (wouldn't it be great if it was that easy?)
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To really attract success into your life you have to be willing to take action and be pro-active. This simply means that when an opportunity presents itself, or you have an idea that will move you towards your dream, you put your whole heart into it and take action. Be warned though, if you do this you must be prepared to move outside your comfort zone. This leads me to another story I'd like to share with you.
Making the Choice Just over 2 years ago I was sitting in the audience of an Internet Marketing Conference in Australia. As I watched the incredibly successful people on stage who were presenting, a thought struck me. None of the presenters were born successful. None of them knew how to run a business or make money on the Internet when they first started. Yet they had created wonderful success in very different ways. That's when it struck me. Every one of those people must have made the decision at some stage to really push themselves out of their comfort zones. They could never have been successful if they didn't challenge themselves. They took massive action on the opportunities presented to them. So I made a decision. I decided that whenever I had a choice between 2 ways of doing something; one way that I felt comfortable doing and another that scared me but was doable, I would ALWAYS choose the option that scared me. No excuses and no exceptions. Wow did things change fast then. Very quickly the things I had been imagining and asking for came searching for me. 18 months after making that decision I was the one on stage presenting at an Internet Marketing Conference. I didn't seek this opportunity out, it came to me. Here is an example of a choice I made and how choosing the scary path attracted opportunities I would never have had before.
Aim for the top When I decided to create Wonderful Web Women I was on a mission. A mission to find successful women on the Internet, interview them to learn their secrets and share these wonderful role models with other women who wanted to create their own success. I had never interviewed anyone before, let alone a live interview on the Internet with hundreds of other people listening. I was scared.
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I had to learn how to master the technology and how to do a great interview so I wouldn't put people to sleep. That really moved me out of my comfort zone. But I had another choice to make. A choice that would ultimately lead to success I had only thought was possible for other people. This was the choice I had. 1. I could approach women who were great at what they did but not very well known (so I could build a reputation as my skills developed), or 2. I could aim for the top and ask the most successful (and inaccessible) women, and just trust that the technology and my interview skills would work. The second option really scared me so, according to my promise to myself, that's the choice I made. The women I approached were incredibly supportive and I launched with the support of internet "legends" which instantly put me on the Internet Map. Because of that decision I have been booked out every week for well over a year interviewing incredibly successful women, which means people who join Wonderful Web Women as gold members have access to the most extensive archives of the best internet marketing advice on-line. This also established me as an "expert by association" which then attracted other experts to me to offer partnership opportunities I could only have dreamed of a few months before. So making the decision to push myself out of my comfort zone resulted in attracting the opportunities I could never have attracted by taking the easy path or just passively waiting for the universe to deliver. The key here is; I imagined what I wanted (to find great role models, share them and act as a catalyst for change for women all over the world), I had faith it was possible and I took action on opportunities in a way that really pushed me out of my comfort zone. So my challenge to you is: Look at the choices you have in your life. Choices that will move you towards achieving what you really want. Only you can know what your own comfort zone is and what is scary for you. Now, make the decision. When you have 2 choices that will move you closer to your dreams will you commit to always choose the option that makes you stretch beyond the limits you have always set yourself?
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This is what I wish for you, as I know once you start there is no going back and it just gets easier and easier with each choice you make.
A Catalyst for Change I mentioned that part of my dream was to be a catalyst for change in other people's lives. To help them be the best they could be and create success in their own Internet businesses. I am honoured to share the stories of some of the inspiring women who joined our community at Wonderful Web Women and made the decision to push themselves out of their comfort zone. These are ordinary women (aren't we all?) who put faith in themselves, took action on what they learnt from our Wonderful Experts and attracted opportunities into their lives they never expected. They are my inspiration. Ready for a few more stories? Living a Life of Passion Jashmuna Sabine Nebel is one of our gold members from Germany. One of the benefits of gold membership is the opportunity to have your website reviewed. Jasmuna took action and booked for a review. One of the suggestions I made in the review really pushed Jashmuna out of her comfort zone, but she did it. I'll let Jashmuna tell you what happened in her own words….. "One of the suggestions Janet gave me for my website was, to put my photo and name and a bit about myself right on the front page of my site. This was a challenge, as it did confront me with the old "who am I to show the world who I am, there are so many people who are known and aren't they better than me?? What will people say or judge" etc. It helped me a lot to hear that I am not the only one who felt reluctant at first. It's a bit scaring to step out and become visible to the world." "I followed the advice anyway, and it's not just that it changes my site to be personal. It's much deeper, i.e. like a new faith into myself, and say "hi, here I am, and that is the gift I am here to share with the world".
From this moment things happen by itself, like the Universe saying "Finally! Finally she allows her vision coming true!" "When I created my site, I did not even think to already offer healings or coaching. I planned to create a course or book for the future, but right now I started with reviews of my most beloved self-development products with my affiliate links, plus creating free articles, meditation techniques etc." "Without mentioning anything about offering healings or coaching, my first client from the other side of the world contacted me. Dear Margaret Saunders from Australia who is
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a member here as well. I am working with her and her daughter since then and even received my first testimonial on my site. It is just wonderful, and the work I have been most passionate with, the more to see the wonderful results." "The most amazing thing is - I have not even had time to update my site for a visible offer of healings or did any promotion...but somehow people find me: just today I received a new client request from someone from the Bahamas!" "Well, that's really the Law of Attraction in action - actually we just need to start to do what we really love, and the Universe opens the gateways to flood us with everyone and everything we need. We simply have to take action on it and the success is inevitable."
Yin and Yang. Opposites Attract Success Let me share another story with you. This is a story of 2 women who took action in ways that moved both of them out of their comfort zones. Without knowing the other existed they attracted the perfect business partner that complemented their own skills and challenges. Yet if you had asked them at first to describe their ideal business partner they would have given very different answers. Their names are Connie Boris and Charly Leetham. I'll let them tell you their story themselves….. "..when I finally decided to become a Gold Member things really started to come together for me. It was about that time that I saw Connie's request for more Women to join their Mastermind Group (a special benefit for gold members). Knowing that I was ready for this, I applied and was accepted in to group. This was truly the first time I met Connie 'in person'. "I'm not sure why, and I'm sure if you ask me in another 20 or 50 years I will know, but I really resonated with Connie on our first Mastermind call. However, it wasn't for a couple of weeks when we realized just how much we could help each other." "It was about that time that Janet had announced the Wonderful Web Giveaway and all of us were in a 'tizz' (good Australian term that) to get our offerings together. At the same time, Connie and I connected for a Mastermind call and we were the only participants. Connie confided in me at the time that she needed to create her product for the Giveaway and was getting into the mindset to do it. I was studying Interviewing..and immediately saw the opportunity where I could help someone and 'practice' what I had learned. Connie graciously consented to my assistance and the next morning we were off. The interview, to my mind, was wonderful! I have an abiding interest in Connie’s Niche Yoga specifically, but to me it's the self development aspects of Yoga that are intriguing, so I interviewed Connie as I would have if I were a prospective Yogi. This interview became Connie’s product for the Giveaway event. "
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'Connie Says'-- It was really great how that first interview flowed, we interacted well and Charly was able to draw things out of me that I had forgotten I knew. I never thought I would be able to get everything ready in time for the giveaway event and have everything running smoothly – but with Charly’s help I did. I have a list now! As you can see, both Connie and Charly had moved out of their comfort zones and taken action. They had joined Wonderful Web Women, joined a mastermind group when the opportunity was given to them, committed to create their first products, take part in a giveaway event so they could grow their lists and face the challenge of learning how to interview and create a product from that interview. As you will see, Connie faced another challenge and doing so opened the door for new opportunities she would not have foreseen… "We met in person in Sydney on June 6th 2008 for the first time and from there, our partnership was born. Connie was brimming with ideas and I was looking for a way to utilize my skills. 'Connie Says'-- I want to add here that I have had lots of ideas for a long time but was always very wary to talk to anybody about them because a lot of these savvy internet marketers are fast and furious in snatching up ideas and claiming them as theirs own and monetizing them. For whatever unknown reason I completely trusted Charly and put all my ideas out there in front of her, without hesitating." "What can I say! It was at that point we both realized that not only were we 'compatible' whilst being complete opposites, but that we interacted so well together that we just had to do something." Connie and Charly have since created a business partnership that is unique. I like to think of it as the "Yin and Yang" of Internet Marketing … "Through this site and business, we want to help people not only 'overcome their technology challenges' but to also ensure their physical and mental wellbeing. We are devising a program that not only will you be able to learn about the techie side of the internet that will help you either do things for yourself or make informed outsourcing decisions, you will also be able to ensure that physical and mental well being is looked after as well. So many people lose sight of the fact that ensuring all aspects of your life are in balance means that you will be far more productive." "If Connie and I hadn't met through Wonderful Web Women, this wouldn't be happening. Thank you Janet for enabling us to meet and putting such a secure framework in place to allow this to occur."
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These are just a few of the wonderful stories of people who have made the choice to move outside their comfort zone and take action that scares them. As a result they have attracted into their lives people and opportunities that would never have happened if they had been left to plan out a logical path to their goals. If I had not made that decision to always choose the scary path I would not have created the opportunity to act as a catalyst for change in these inspiring people's lives. You can choose to be the catalyst for change in your own life. Good luck!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Imagine big and have faith that if you can imagine it, it can be. 2. When you have a choice between the easy way and the scary way, ALWAYS choose the scary way. 3. Be open to new opportunities and just go with the flow. Often the winding path is the fastest way to your destination.
About the Author Janet Beckers is the founder and host of Wonderful Web Women. Her mission is to act as a catalyst for change and help people create success in their own lives by building a successful Internet business. She does this by sharing the success stories and secrets of the most successful women on the Internet with women (and enlightened men) all over the world. She helps people to help each other by creating a dynamic and generous Wonderful Web Community where people are supported to learn through action and partnership. You can join this community for free at http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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Special offer Visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts to download the audio and transcripts of an interview with Janet "How To Build A Targeted Mailing List And Gain Instant Credibility Through The Power Of Joint Ventures And Expert Interviews - In 6 Short Weeks"
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Alma Apostol “My Journey...Riyadh, Saudi Arabia” Introduction I’m an adventurous person. I love to travel, learn other cultures by living among the people, which is by far the best thing to do it. I take opportunities that come my way, to find the truth and to learn. I encountered set-backs, but the lessons I’ve learned and what it did to my personal being far exceeded everything else. Aside from the knowledge I acquired, I became bold, a risk taker, a compassionate person, have self-esteem, confidence and above all the resilience that I need in tougher times. When I was in the Philippines, I heard so much about life here in the United States that to live here is like being in heaven. I took advantage when the opportunity came. I applied as a professional, 3rd preference. It took a while before I finally got here but it was worth it. I was able to prove that yes, you can live in heaven, but you have to work hard to get there. Against the advise of almost everybody, family, supervisor, friends, etc. I decided to go to Riyadh. It took me a year to make the final decision. Saudi Arabia is a closed country and I thought it was an opportunity to live in a country ruled by a King, render my services and live amongst its people. This article is about my journey and what I learned. King Faisal Specialist Hospital and Research Centre, a world-class research facility located in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia employs 5,000 people from 40 countries. It was through this hospital that I was recruited by Hospital Corporation of
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America (HCA), a placement agency, as a Research Associate in 1994. Although I'm no longer residing in Riyadh, I would like to share my journey, experiences and observations as an expatriate in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. I indicate actions that you can take to learn about other cultures at the end of this article. King Faisal Specialist Hospital and Research Centre The salary of men and women employees was based on their citizenship. The highest paid were the American citizens, followed by the Canadian, British and Saudi Arabian. The lowest paid were the Asian citizens. The hospital offered dental and medical coverage, very generous sick days and vacation days. Round ticket to the countries of origin after the first year of service. Work week; Saturday to Wednesday. Weekends; Thursday and Friday. At the workplace, women expatriates wore their regular clothing with the exception of the following: Shorts, low-cut dresses or tops, halter or strapless tops, any tight fitting or revealing clothing. The Saudi women wore black cloaks or capes over their heads and black clothing covering their entire body. Muslim (Non-Saudi) women wore a black veil and abaya (a black gown). Unlike the women from Saudi Arabia, women from Sudan covered their entire body except their eyes. The Saudi men wore head cover set, a long skirt which covers all the way down to the ankle. The headdress consisted of three things, the Taqiyah, the Ghutra and the Iqal. The Ghutrah, part of the headdress was a square scarf made of cotton, and was worn folded into a triangular shape with the fold in the front over the Taqiyah. Ghutra came in either pure white or a combination of red and white also called smagh or shmagh. The employees at the hospital, such as women nurses, technicians, etc. who interacted with the patients, had to speak Arabic. I dealt with professionals. I picked up some words but had since forgotten. During prayer times, the Muslim men stopped their work. They assembled at a designated prayer location while the Muslim women prayed any place where they happened to be during prayer times. At the cafeteria, the men and women were segregated. Each had their own entrance to the cafeteria. There was good selection of food, lots of fresh fruits and vegetables. The meals were very affordable. There was a restaurant at the hospital where men and women dined and mingled. Sometimes, I just walked home, a five minute walk, for my lunch and watched the news on TV.
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The Flashing Arabic Names of the Stores were Reminders that I was in Riyadh Touring Riyadh at night was my first contact with the public. I was excited to see what was outside the compound of the hospital. After our second day of orientation, our friendly tour guide, an Egyptian lady welcomed us as we stepped inside the bus. She introduced herself after all the listed recruits were inside. The bus winded down a narrow street. The city was well lit and she described briefly the places we passed by. We entered a shopping mall and the bus stopped. The flashing Arabic names of the stores reminded me where I was. The shoppers were mostly Saudi families. Our tour guide announced that we had two hours to shop. She wanted to show the ladies where they could buy inexpensive but good quality abayas. I tagged along closely as she walked briskly through the crowded mall. It was easy to get lost when everybody wore abayas and scarves. She entered a store and exchanged pleasantries with the owner in Arabic. She waited for our entire group before she introduced us. Beautiful abayas of different designs and fabrics were displayed throughout the store. After checking them, I picked up an embroidered silk and asked the owner how much it cost. One hundred riyal (2.75 riyal/dollar). Our tour guide told him to be nice to me and gave me a discount, she said, "fifty riyal". I smiled. I remembered what I used to do in the Philippines. The merchants applied excessive mark-ups on their merchandise, so we bargained. They continued haggling until finally they settled for seventy riyal. I handed him the money. We continued our tour getting in and out of the stores. Then we entered a store whose walls were covered with golden necklaces, bracelets, earrings, etc. of different sizes and designs. It was quite a sight. Expensive rugs of beautiful designs and shades draped the walls of another store. Some friendly salesmen handed us free tiny bottles of perfumes. The two hours shopping was over. We went back to the bus where the driver was waiting for us. When all the passengers were accounted for, we drove back to the hospital compound where we were dropped off individually in front of our buildings. Jeddah, The Pearl of the Sea Jeddah, the ancient Arab trading port, is a city of great beauty and often referred to as the ‘Bride of the Red Sea’. After securing an in-country certificate from the Personnel Department, I joined twenty one American expatriates for a weekend tour to Jeddah. We left on a Wednesday after work. We had three male Filipino tour guides. We took a van to the airport. The flight to Ahba was 45 minutes. Thursday, we had a Swiss Buffet Breakfast at the ‘Al Bouhaira’ restaurant. We http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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met other American expatriates from other cities. Then two hotel vans took us for a tour of Old Jeddah. Unlike being in public in Riyadh, the women were not required to wear their scarves. We walked through narrow streets taking pictures without any restrictions. We visited the Abdul Raouf Museum. There was a short movie to familiarize us with the city’s development while tea was served. Some government officials patiently answered our questions. The hotel tour guides carried lots of food for lunch. After lunch, we drove to what seemed to be a continuous desert until we reached the horse stables. A British lady who managed the farm gave us an overview about raising Arabian horses. I talked to a lady feeding the horses. She handed me a carrot and told me to feed the horse. I was never this close to a horse. The horse took the food from my palm. Then I watched a guy expertly cleaning and changing horsehoes. From the horse farm, we were driven downtown for a shopping trip. We were allowed three hours to shop. We visited the Fashion Centre/Jamjoom. My friend wanted to buy a nice abaya. There were lots to choose from. She tried a few and found the right one. We walked in and out of the stores. I bought souvenirs. The mall was huge. Finally, it was time to go back to the vans. Seafood dinner at the Al Bouhaira Restaurant. Citizens from different countries came to attend conventions held at the Red Sea Palace Hotel. We dined with the American expatriates from Jeddah. They love the freedom they had. The women were free to go anywhere without the Mutaween telling them to cover their hair. Friday, Swiss Buffet breakfast at the ‘Al Bouhaira’ Restaurant. Then off to Al Nakheel Beach for those who opted for it. My friend had a stomach problem. We tried to find a drug store. It was a weekend so most of the stores were closed. Finally, we found a lady in our group who carried some medications for emergency purposes. She gave her the pill. She felt better after she took it. We decided to go shopping. A hotel staff offered to drive us to the mall. This time we took our time. We went to different souks which were virtually found everywhere. There were moneychangers’, material, hardware, gold, silver, antique and carpet souks. Colourful stalls bursting with daggers, incense burners, Turkish-style coffee pots, copper-studded Zansibar chests, leather Bedouin saddle-bags, etc. were displayed. After shopping we took a taxi back to the hotel and just rested. This was our last day. We had our luggage ready for check-out. The Filipino tour guides instructed us to assemble at the lobby and get ready for our departure to Jeddah airport. The guides were there constantly helping us with our needs. It was late when my friend and I were dropped off in front of our building. I treasured this enjoyable and wonderful trip.
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Diamond Hunting in the Desert Diamond hunting in the desert? I joined a field trip sponsored by the Social Club at the Hospital. The leader was Mohammed. It was very early morning in November when the bus with about 20 men and women (wearing their scarves and abayas) started its journey to Summan. On the way Mohammed gave us an overview of what to expect when we got there. The desert/Saudi diamond is high grade quartz and looked like expensive carbon-based. They are very clear and their internal structure is very stable. It will not become brittle, cracked or lose its colour as it ages. The Mohs scale is one measurement of mineral hardness which is the resistance to scratching and also related to its toughness. Desert diamond is rated 7.5. Because of its composition, it is heavier than carbon. A one carat is about 20% smaller than a diamond. When we reached the area, the women were allowed to remove their scarves and abayas. The Mutaween were not around to enforce the dress code. Summan was miles of flat, pebble-strewn, hard-packed sand or dirt. The hard surface seemed to go on forever as it stretched to the horizon. Early in the morning with the rising sun is the best way to hunt them. Mohammed showed us how to distinguish a desert diamond from the rest of the stones. Hold the stone toward the sun, it should have a clear internal structure. We scattered in different directions searching for the precious stone. Initially, I had a hard time distinguishing the real stone. Mohammed had to show it to me twice or three times before I became confident I was picking the right pebble. I was cold. The leader called everybody for a snack. He carried lots of snacks to choose from. I was shivering but it stopped when I drunk a very hot coffee. Everyone had a story about their hunting luck. One guy collected a lot, but when Mohammed checked some of them, most were not real. I collected a few real ones. After a while, we continued our search until it was time to leave. These precious stones are found throughout Saudi Arabia. Some of the highest quality is located in Qaysumah, an oil pipeline village. They are cleaned to prepare for the cutting. Although, there are places in Riyadh where these stones could be cut, most are send to Bangkok to be worked. It’s more expensive to have the stone cut and processed than just buying the finish product. What Are Behind Those Covered Faces Covered faces...familiar voices but unfamiliar faces. A Saudi woman co-worker invited me to a party. It would be held at the apartment complex. I didn’t bother to dress up believing the Saudi women would be wearing their regular outfit at work.
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I arrived early. She opened the door. Gone was her black cloak and veil. I saw an unfamiliar face but a very familiar voice. It was the first time I saw her face. She saw my expression. She smiled and told me that females only wore their cloaks and veils when they were in public or in the presence of males. One by one the Saudi women arrived removing their coverings. Light complexioned, beautiful and modern women emerged. They wore make-up, painted lips, polished nails and beautiful long dresses. Some of them were young, very friendly and introduced themselves. Some voices were familiar because I heard those voices at work. It was a surprise and a pleasure to see the faces behind those veils. They were very excited and like most young ladies they talked about their dresses, displaying them, how they were chosen, etc. Some had sewn their own dresses and were very proud of it. Watching them I became self-conscious. Fortunately, some visitors were American and British expatriates from work. I struck up a conversation with them. Meanwhile, the Saudi women talked, made jokes and laughed at funny comments. Gone were their inhibitions at work. Food, Arabian dishes, was served. I was not familiar with their food but I sampled every one of them. They were very good and tasty. After the party, I left with one of the American expatriates. I commented on why these Saudi women bothered to wear their make up, had their nails polished and dressed up only to cover them. She remarked that for the married Saudi women, they did it for their husbands. I took the elevator to my fourth floor apartment, glad that I accepted the invitation and learned more about the Saudi women.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. I encourage everyone to take a leap, go see the rest of the world. Find out for yourself what people are talking about, live among the people and see what it does to your personal being. 2. I know that it takes resources to see the rest of the world, especially with this economy, however there are so many ways to learn about other cultures. Technology is growing so fast and the world looks smaller and smaller everyday. Gadget, internet, television, you name it and you can see the rest of the world.
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3. You always have to adhere to the rules and regulations imposed by the country you’re visiting or living in. There are lots of consequences when the country’s laws are not followed. Sometimes, these will contradict your belief, but follow it anyway. You become resilient and ready to adjust to any kind of environment and situation.
About the Author Ms Alma Apostol came to the United States of America with a degree in Bachelor of Science in Chemical Engineering from the Philippines. Alma is an expert in laboratory instrumentations and laboratory techniques and has worked as a Medical and Clinical researcher at Northwestern University in Illinois; USC & CHLA in Los Angeles, California and KFSH in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. In 1994, while working at the Children’s Hospital Los Angeles she accepted a job offer to work at King Faisal Specialist Hospital and Research Centre in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. Alma has co-authored articles published in Scientific Journals. Alma is also a non-fiction writer. Visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts for a link to her interesting blog.
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Amanda Robins “How to discover the business within you!” Have you ever wanted to start a business but you didn't know what you wanted to do or where to begin? You will discover the WHY, WHAT & HOW of starting your own business in this chapter. Starting a business is something that can be very rewarding and fulfilling if you follow your passion.
“It all starts with a dream” Imagine waking up every morning and looking forward to your day because you get to do what you love and it gets even better. You are getting paid for it! Does that sound too good to be true? Well it's not. There are people living their life like this every single day and you could be one of them.
WHY do you want to start a business? Firstly let’s look at why you want to start a business. Step 1. On a piece of paper write down the reasons why you want to start a business. You may think of answers such as “to make money”, “to be my own boss”, “to quit my job”, “to work from home”, “for more freedom” and many more... Now I want you to go much deeper into the why than this.
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Step 2. Take another piece of paper pick one reason that you listed in step 1 and then underneath it I want you write down why you want it. For example; “I want more money”. Why do you want more money? Do you want to provide your family with a better lifestyle? Do you want to be financially free? Do you want to make decisions on your desires not your bank balance? Then go even deeper into why you want all the reasons you just listed until you find the reasons deep within your soul. Step 3 Now think about how you would feel if you already have everything you have just written. How happy would you be? Write all your emotions down under each reason. Step 4 Once you have written down your emotions close your eyes and imagine you have achieved your goal. Create a movie in your mind of your success. How does it feel? What does it look like? How does it smell? What do you hear? Doesn't that feel GREAT? Repeat step 2-4 for every reason on your list. CONGRATULATIONS. You are now beginning to use the Law of Attraction!
WHAT kind of business is within you? “Your Life Should be Enjoyed not Stressed” Somewhere deep within you is the power to have and be whatever you want, you just have to learn to master it! One thing I have learnt in the past year is that “you have to do what you are passionate about to attract the fortune you are entitled to”. I started many business ventures just to make money which was the wrong way to go about it because even though I made money I was unhappy and bored with what I was doing therefore leaving a lot of money on the table. You have to design your business around what you love and you will attract more money and success than you could have ever dreamed of. The answers of what you should be doing are within you right now.
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Step 1 On a piece of paper make list of all the hobbies you have. Include the things that you currently do and the things you have done throughout your life. Step 2 Make a list of all the things that interest you. You may find the answers to this one in the television shows you watch or the magazines you read. Step 3 Make a list of the kind of books you read or the websites you visit. By now you might see a pattern. Step 4 Make a list of times when you felt the happiest and the things you were doing to feel that happiness? Step 5 Make a list of all the skills that you have. Include all the skills or tasks you carried out in the jobs you have had. Step 6 On a sheet of paper draw a line down the middle from top to bottom then mentally go through the tasks you are required to do in you current career, writing the things you enjoy on one side and the things you dislike on the other. Once you have made your lists or in other words completed a stocktake of what you enjoy in your life you will see a pattern of what makes you happy and what you are good at.
HOW to spot business opportunities. Now that you are opening your mind up to focus on what YOU enjoy doing, you will now begin to see new and wonderful opportunities to achieve your goal of starting a business. It is similar to buying a new car. Suddenly there are cars just like yours everywhere you go. These cars were always there but you just didn't take any notice before because they meant nothing to you. This is your brain's way of processing the billions of pieces of information you are exposed to everyday. Once you have opened your mind and the possibilities are following to you, it may get a little overwhelming, but if you keep on top of your ideas you can find the one or two that will lead you to your dream business.
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Step 1. Pay attention to your life and opportunities that you may be able to turn into a business. Write down each opportunity on a piece of paper and place them together in a folder. Step 2. Write down any ideas or plans of what you could do with each opportunity you have noticed. It doesn't matter if you cannot see how you can make money with it right now just write it down to get it out of your head and you can come back to it later. Step 3 Pick one or two opportunities to research and develop to see if this could be a viable business. Don't worry if you can't find a business in the first few tries. Each idea you rule out is one idea closer to your dream business. Don't rush this process. If you over think it or try to push what you simply think would work but you don't truly feel it, you may miss an opportunity of a life time. If you are still unsure about what to look for just think about all the businesses you deal with in the areas of your life. For example: I like to make jewellery. Just with this one hobby I came across manufacturers, online bead shops, craft shops, other jewellery designers, publishers, newsagents, book stores, courier companies, Australia Post and many more.... Can you see how many businesses can come directly or indirectly from one hobby? Open your mind and your heart to opportunities and there will be more available to you than you could ever use. Write down all your ideas and then pick one at a time to test and develop to avoid the idea avalanche. Once you are using the Law of Attraction it is time to add the missing piece- ACTION! You now have your vision of the future, your business idea and you can see endless possibilities, you have to do the work to bring it into reality. I know what you are thinking - WORK. Doesn't everything just come to me? The answer is yes and no. Everything is being drawn to you but you have to do the things necessary to bring them into your reality.
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It is like the old saying “You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink”, that is an ACTION the horse has to take. All you have to do is take one baby step at a time towards developing your business and you will be amazed how quickly your dream becomes reality. “If you are doing what you love then it doesn't feel like WORK” Imagine if you loved to play basketball and someone offered you a contract for $10,000,000 to play basketball. Wouldn't that be great? For some people this is exactly what they do (and some get paid even more). Enjoy this process. It will also work in different areas of your life as well as your business idea. Remember you need to use the Law of Attraction and the Law of Action together to achieve the success you desire in you life.
“You can have it all!” If you are sick of seeing those around you achieve the level of success you can never seem to achieve..... If you feel that your life can be so much better than it currently is.. 1. If you have ever wanted to start your own business but just didn't know where to begin.... 2. If you want to stop your struggle with money.... 3. If you are sick of dreading to go to work everyday...
“Don't wait another day. Follow your Dream”
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Answer WHY you want to start your own business. 2. Discover the WHAT you are destined to do. 3. Explore HOW you can start a business with the opportunities that present themselves to you.
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About the Author Amanda Robins is the owner of www.BabyStepsToBusinessSuccess.com. After starting several businesses of her own Amanda has found the secret to not only discovering what kind of business would suit the individual but the simple steps take it from an idea to a money-making machine. Amanda offers fantastic products and services to show you the baby steps to starting your dream business. Amanda's coaching can help you to follow your dreams, over come your struggle with money and help you to feel confident in yourself and your abilities.
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Ankya “Abundance is an Energy You CAN Embody…” “Where are the images of women made by women?” from the Album the Zen Kiss, by Sheila Chandra, ‘Women, I’m Calling You’
Abundance is all around You As you embody abundance, You attract it to You. “Love, Love me do, I’ll always Love You, So Please Love Me Too….” Do you remember these words by The Beatles? For me, recently they have taken on a different meaning. This is what they are saying to me now. ‘I am your Body, I am You I love you just the Unique way You are I am here to support You on your journey of Life. I want you to Love Me and Value Me too Always, Not just when you are young and fresh But For Ever, And especially as you grow older And are rich with Life’s abundant experience
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Let’s celebrate the journey we have taken together I will always support You Just please remember to Love Me too Every part of You… As You always You And I will always be with You. You ARE beautiful forever. Just Remember to keep me in your heart. I hear every word you say in your head; All the bits ‘you no longer like’. For how can you be strong in the world A powerful woman with impact If so much of us you neglect or reject? Learn to Love Yourself fully Your scars and your lines are your Life. Your wisdom shines through each grey hair And wrinkle on your face. Why would you want to make them Erase? They are the testimony of your Life And your Love. So if you want to truly step into your greatness And take your place on the world stage Let’s celebrate together each and every bit Then its wholeness and integration Of body and mind True alignment of purpose With nothing left behind. And the world will sing a great anthem of joy As all women are finding their way. To embrace all that they are from within not without. Can you see their bright light like a beacon of Round Love Circling the whole world? As at last you realize it’s not a disease to grow old But something quite natural you see - You are FREE to BE… What a gift your story will give to all the women Who wait in the shadows their turn to eclipse
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As young as 30 it appears they have tucks! You no longer see your life as a line with an end… But a continuous circle of Life. And imagine all the energy you are freeing up for success The true success of being free to be your totally authentic You! Let’s women the covers of magazines world wide With all ages and colours and size The one ingredient needed quite simple, Be fulfilled inside! And BE the message you wish to see in the world. Let me share a secret with You! For 2000 years God the Woman has been kept in the dark Rejected, neglected and set quite apart. And we all believed this lie… That somehow we were flawed, less, and without power So our only access to ‘Spirit’ you see Has been through association with the male In You and Me. But that hasn’t felt quite right has it? It felt a bit rigid and a bit tight. Isn’t that so? Surely our birthright is to feel good in our very own skin? Were You yearning for something that was missing But didn’t know what it was? Well maybe it was to find once again your true female self In her natural authentic form? Your true female self is flexible, colourful and free Nothing to constrict your wild soul But flow and colour and intuitive choice From within You, as you live your authentic being. Then perhaps Abundance is True self esteem that comes When you express your authentic voice out loud
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The one that comes from deep within And has nothing to do with conforming to pressure outside That magazine and media impose on You, Not for you that way. You see your Life fresh each day. You are not afraid to be colourfully seen. Can you feel the shift? The one that is waking us all up It’s all about the feminine returning To the stage Not as a male ‘look alike’ in all that you do But in ways that are uniquely femalely YOU… That’s your gift to the world Being female and True. A perfect balance of Heart into Mind Focused on your vision And flexible too… How lucky are we To be alive at this time When the world is waking up To the Beauty of what being Female is all about. Caring and sharing And community That’s Her And what we have always done, How great that being female is now in fashion! See what Janet’s created With this Wonderful Web Adventure For You and for Me And all women to Share That’s the model the world is needing right now Cooperation, collaboration and networking That’s what we do so naturally. And now it is recognized as valuable Too!
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Where do I go to find Images of women, made by women? “Women, whose wisdom is in dreams. Where do I go to find, Images of woman, woman Made?” (From the song ‘Women, I’m calling You’, by Sheila Chandra in the Album The Zen Kiss). It’s all about owning the Abundant Goddess in you. The Goddess is not one-dimensional, as the media would have you believe her to be, but she comes in all shapes and sizes and ages. Each one an archetype of the elements expressed in you. As you learn to own your Goddess, You become free of the tyranny of external conformity. What better way to control women and quell her power than to convince her she does not ‘measure up’ to some external standard. Do you relate to that? Do you feel the power it steals from you? While you are focused on your perceived lack, the world is being run without you in ways that make your heart grieve. A Goddess is not afraid of ageing, for she knows it is perfectly natural and that each cycle opens her to new life and learning. She knows that her wrinkles express her life experience and wisdom. A Goddess loves men, for she knows they are the other side of herself A Goddess is flexible, loving and open to change A Goddess supports her sisters in their growth. A Goddess finds her source of strength within and in her contact with nature. She is her own authority…She is abundance.
Transformational Photography – to connect with Abundance. (Perhaps you really are beautiful Ever After!)
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How do you feel about having your photo taken? Does it stress you, thrill you or something in between? Do you realise how conditioned you are by ‘society’ to seek to fit your image into a perceived standard out there? In the appearing out there, don’t you find you lose touch with what’s in here? That’s because you have in your beliefs an idea about what is beautiful or not – how you should be
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and appear on the outside. That is disempowering. Your true beauty radiates from within – from your living being and experience. As you connect with that energy, through guided awareness and connection with your environment, the multitude of facets that make up you are allowed to surface and express themselves abundantly – the full palette of your rich emotional experience. That is the gift that you are to the world. Abundance embodied. When you learn to accept all of those bits that you have rejected, you put back together the shattered pieces of your true self into a magnificent painting of your sacred inner temple. You are the embodiment of that temple. Your source lies within. From a place of inner Abundance you create abundance all around you. As you gently learn to love all the bits of you – you feel the flow of your life force regenerating in you – opening doorways to your intuition and knowing to be heard and expressed. My vision is to empower women through my photography. Up until now I have done this symbolically through my art work. (You can view my symbolic images at http://www.ankya.com). I am now being called to connect directly with women around the world who want to free themselves of all limitation to living their authentic truth and embrace their inner beauty and abundant power. Transformational Photography has been born. With it, I take women on a journey to connect with their divine selves – their inner sanctuary – to first experience it and then to have a living memory of the experience in the photography. This also includes Your Body Art Book of you, with quotes from your insights received during the session, and a series of printed cards with your favourite images printed on them to share with your world. Your Body Art Book is a Touchstone for you – a reminder to yourself, on those days when you lose connection with yourself, of how beautiful you truly are. Here are some things my Clients have been saying: “Our Transformational Photography session was a deep healing communion with myself, nature, and my sister-soul, Ankya. We played with sarongs, leaves, flowers, and the majesty of Bali and I unveiled parts of my body I usually hide to Ankya's loving lens. "you are your own temple," she told me, and I knew it to be true. I will never be the same; I will never look at myself in the same way again."
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Vicki Hannah Lein, singer and www.stepintoyourgreatness.us
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“Yes it was truly inspirational seeing myself through the eyes of Ankya’s wonderful eyes. I think this is the very first time in my life that I have allowed myself to see and open to the beauty within me. This was through the soft and gentle guidance and encouragement of Ankya’s voice that repeatedly said ‘you are so beautiful’…I felt myself for the first time going to the depth of my soul and the roots within stretching up to the light and the love within me that is one with the beauty of nature and one with my own beauty. My experience of seeing the photos I wanted to cry with joy at seeing my beauty shining out to the world and saying yes to my inner wisdom, strength, my feminine power, my wild hair my natural being true to my nature, my overwhelming sense of freedom yes, it’s truly me. Yes, I cherish the divine source of love and beauty within and I own it. It’s me. Thank you so much Ankya for being there and giving me this wonderful opportunity to appreciate and love myself through my own eyes for the first time and saying yes to being me.” Verena Mostyn is a textile artist of Wearable Art from the Heart – She is based in Ubud, Bali. She has worked around the world teaching and empowering women with their textile creativity to create sustainable businesses.
3 Things You can do to connect with the Divine Feminine Abundance in You:
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Listen to your Intuition (I call HER my Muse). She is guiding you to your truth and authentic self. She is your future. Your new life. If your critical voice tells you your Intuition is crazy, just test her out! Critical voice is just scared of letting go of the known. If you find yourself doing something unfamiliar to you, trust that your inner spirit is guiding you to your highest Abundance. 2. Learn to be comfortable with not knowing. The SECRET is: It’s OK NOT to know! Sounds crazy? It’s actually by surrendering into the Truth of not knowing that you find your freedom. Wait for the MUSE to speak to you. That is the way of the Goddess. 3. Remember to Connect with Nature every day. A 30 minute walk on your own somewhere in nature will always connect you with your spirit and provide you with answers to your questions, either in flashes of insight, or by learning to recognise the visible messages from Nature. You will be filled with Abundance.
About the Author Ankya is a photographer and creative visionary of Ankya Design http://www.ankya.com. She creates symbolic images that support the Shift in Consciousness happening in our world. ‘The images we make, shape our world and our thinking. What images do we wish to see?’ You can see her art on products at http://www.cafepress.com/ankya You might especially like The Divine Feminine images on Cards: http://www.cafepress.com/ankya/6137266 To learn more about Ankya and read
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her poetry go to http://www.imageyourworldnow.com . You might also like to visit her Blog: http://www.globaltribeheart.com/blog Ankya’s inspiration is Nature and that includes You! See her Vision: Round Love on YouTube: http://au.youtube.com/watch?v=oWhY1yXPeH0 Ankya also has a friendly character you will LOVE to meet! BLUE BEAR - Blue Bear was abandoned and washed up one day on a beach in Australia. Yes, it’s true! You can discover Blue Bear’s adventures at http://www.bluebearlovesyou.com and his Shop at http://www.cafepress.com/bluebearlovesu He will put a smile on your face! Every day is an adventure if we know how to read the signs. Ankya has recently published a chapter – The Magic of Image and Word - in the Anthology, Conscious Entrepreneurs – A Radical New Approach to Purpose, Passion and Profit, Love Your Life Publishing.
Special offer To find out more about experiencing a Transformational Photography Session with Ankya, visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts You will receive 20% off the cost of your Session when you mention you have found her through the Gold Book. You will also have access to a Free 30 minutes Beauty Empowerment Call with Ankya. Or write to her at
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Annie Oliveri
M.Ed. Dip.RSA. TESOL
“How To Motivate Your Child” You probably know that the words we speak to our children have a powerful influence over the attitudes they develop, right? This in turn, has a huge impact on their motivation. I've discovered this is true, from infancy to adulthood. A child's development of healthy self-motivation is modelled on what they hear and see, in their home/school environment. But sometimes, as parents, we get busy and tired. If only we had a few key phrases to share with our children; a selection of empowering messages that would continue to influence long after we've said them. I have some good news. My personal research has uncovered "motivational messages" that inspire your child to achieve success in learning. Here's a selection of my "motivational messages" to share with your child, today.
Message 1 - "I'm listening to you" How do you find out what motivates your child? You simply ask, 'You did that job you didn't want to do. What helped you get it done?' And really listen to their answer. We are all unique, so the answer will be different for each of us. Fully listen to your child's answer and give it importance. By that, I mean think about what they are saying, not what you want to say next. Listen without interrupting, from beginning to end. Listen with genuine acceptance and understanding.
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When you do, your child will feel accepted, loved and more motivated to try in the future.
Message 2 - "It's OK to feel like that" Be aware of your child's emotional reactions to learning. These may include showing anger, anxiety or frustration. Some children react by avoiding or blaming the task or other people. Others may give the impression of being unenthusiastic or uncooperative. Try to really understand how your child feels. Listen with sympathy and sensitivity. Some children give up on learning because they think that personal effort and persistence are useless. They feel helpless. If this is happening to your child, accept your child's expression of negative feelings. You could say something like, 'I understand how you would feel like that. It's OK. How about we look at some new ways of thinking to change what happens for you? Then you might feel, and be able to do things, differently.'
Message 3 - "Your thoughts make a difference" Our thoughts influence how we feel and what we do. Begin to gently challenge your child's thoughts. Introduce your child to the idea of 'self-talk.' Self-talk is another word for what you are thinking, or telling yourself, about events as you experience them. An optimistic style of self-talk leads to success in learning. You can help your child develop optimism by sharing your own self-talk. Talk about something your child has done well and share your own thoughts about it out loud. Say something like this, 'I was just saying to myself that when you try hard, with your homework, you get good results.' In this way, you not only model optimistic self-talk but you attribute your child's success to 'trying hard', something your child can control.
Message 4 - "You are in control" A sense of control means that your child realises that how they think, and what they do, makes a difference. When they put in personal effort and persistence they can achieve success in learning.
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This leads to self-confidence and optimism about their future. It can dissolve feelings of helplessness. Focus on effort, strategy and attitude. Things your child can control like trying hard, practice, planning and organisation. Respect your child's autonomy. Encourage your child to take responsibility for solving their own problems. Involve your child in family decision making. Assist your child to do the things they really love to do.
Message 5 - "Follow your heart" Treasure your child's uniqueness. After all, there is no one else quite like them. Your child is an original, so help them be the unique person they are. Help your child realise that there is more to being successful than competence in a narrow range of skills. Allow your child many opportunities to show the world, and themselves, what they can do. There are many pathways to success. Discover your child's unique learning style. It is the key to unlocking their natural motivation.
Message 6 - "Give it your personal best" When you do what you love your natural motivation kicks in. Just ask 'peak performers' like our elite sports people. Interestingly, while they are involved in highly competitive sports, they often talk about 'personal bests' as their primary motivator. They understand that we can't win all the time, and they accept failure as an indicator of their next challenge. By encouraging your child to achieve their 'personal best' they can compete with their own past performance. This not only gives them more control over the outcome, but also prevents the damaging effects of comparison with others.
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Instead of seeing a page of sums for Math homework, encourage your child to do the first couple then praise them for their effort. As each step is completed, encourage your child's effort so they feel successful. The focus is on effort, something your child can control. This gives your child the confidence to keep trying.
Message 8 - "Reward yourself" Everyone needs to be acknowledged for their efforts and achievements. Thinking of how you are going to reward yourself, when the job is done, can be a powerful motivator. Help your child tap into this feeling each step along the way, by discussing and setting up small rewards. Remember each small step where your child feels successful, leads to greater success. So celebrate your child's efforts and achievements. Teach your child how to reward themselves by giving them feedback such as, 'That's a terrific project. What do you think about it?' Encourage your child to make positive comments about their efforts and achievements.
Message 9 - "Use people power" Many great achievers say that they could have never achieved their success on their own. Everyone needs a success team to support and encourage them 100% of the way. Who's on your child's team? Have you considered a study buddy or a mentor who shares your child's special interests? Positive people can often teach, through their own example, how to press on when enthusiasm wanes and how to bounce back from a setback. Support your child's school. It gives your child a sense of belonging and helps them fit in.
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Show your child by example that it's OK to ask for help, by seeking help when you need it. Each child is different and every stage of development brings new challenges, so there may be times when you need some advice and support.
Message 10 - "See the funny side" Laughter is good for learning. It not only relieves stress and reduces anxiety but helps your child to relax and regain alertness, and to refocus on the task. Laugh at your own mistakes. Children love it. It gives them the message that mistakes are OK and reduces the fear of failing. So have fun, lighten up and share a joke, even if it is at your own expense!
Message 11 - "I love and accept you for who you are" You can have a deep and profoundly positive effect on your child. The messages you give them in their childhood stay in their minds through to adulthood, and influence the way they think about themselves and interact with the world. These messages affect their willingness to have a go, to keep trying, and to bounce back when things go wrong. Listen with genuine interest to your child's feelings. Treasure your child's uniqueness and most of all show them you love and accept them for who they are.
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Establish excellent communication with your child through effective listening. 2. Help your child deal with their emotions. 3. Discover more about how positive self-talk leads to healthy self-esteem.
About the Author Annie Oliveri M.Ed. Dip. R.S.A.TESOL has more than 25 years experience teaching in Australia, Japan, Hong Kong and Malaysia. She was recently awarded the Dean’s Commendation for Outstanding Achievement. For advice and support visit http://successinlearning.com.au
Special offer Developing a healthy self-esteem and becoming an achiever may take time for your child. To help you develop your skills so that you can help I am offering you a free weekly audio motivational message, sent to your email address. Start receiving them by clicking on Annie’s link at http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts and register for your first audio motivational message immediately.
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Arlene Harder “Living With a Perfectionist: Advice for Families from a Therapist Who is a Recovering Perfectionist” Recently I received an e-mail that said, “I love my wife, but she is a perfectionist. Any advice?” Yes. As a recovering perfectionist, here are some observations that will help you both survive, and even enjoy the journey along the way. First, let me point out that perfectionists come in both male and female versions, but it will make writing this much easier if I assume the non-perfectionist spouse is male. Besides, I find that females are more likely to strive for perfectionism than their partners, though the advice applies to both sexes. Also, my comments can be valuable if your parent, sibling, friend or co-worker hasn’t yet learnt that life is a lot more fun and a whole lot easier when he or she learns to distinguish between those things that are important to do well — and those that are not. Let’s begin with a few examples of what life was like before I learned how to tone down my need to always be right and to do everything as well as I possibly could. Typical would be a decision to invite a few friends for a simple dinner party. Before I knew it, I would include twice as many guests and three times the number of dishes I had originally planned. When guests offered to bring something, I’d politely let them know I could handle it all myself. However, I’d make certain my husband knew how much work I had put into the evening and I expected compliments for my efforts.
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Though I enjoyed having responsible positions within organizations and in my work, and when doing many projects around the house, from refinishing floors to refinishing the piano, I was sure to tell others of my efforts and would almost always do more than necessary. One job that particularly sticks in my memory was the time I painted the inside of the garage and put two coats of paint on the wall behind the power saw. The saw never gets moved. No one will ever see that wall unless we sell the house. But I had to make certain it was well painted! People who don’t live with a perfectionist may think there are worse things than having a spouse who does a pretty good job with almost everything she does. And while you realize you may feel a little less talented in comparison, it would be useful to have someone who always remembers the details of bringing salt and mosquito repellent on a camping trip. As you can imagine, one of the reasons people are attracted to perfectionists is that we do what we say we’ll do and finish tasks when others quit. With us around, the non-perfectionist doesn’t have to do as much work. However, ask someone who has lived with a perfectionist for several years and you will learn that it is hard to continually be the cheerleader for someone with low self-esteem. The very traits that attracted you to her in the beginning can drive you apart, or at least cause conflict. For example, when we were newly married, I would wrap presents so elaborately that people would take pictures before they opened them. Yet I would resent it when my husband didn’t share the job. Had I thought about it more, I would have realized that he isn’t at all artistic and doesn’t feel that much effort is necessary. It just wasn’t his thing. Besides, the love he presents with a gift in a brown paper bag is no less sincere than love in a fancy box. Today, as a recovering perfectionist, I know I have been extraordinarily blessed to be married to someone for more than forty-five years with the strength to put up with me. Fortunately, I got into therapy a little about twenty-five years ago and worked very hard on my control issues. However, I wish I had started therapy sooner. It would have made our lives and the lives of our children, much easier. And if my husband had known how to deal with my perfectionism, it would have saved many years of feeling I wouldn’t be loved unless I worked harder. And he would not have needed to wait (usually patiently) while I took twice as long to do a job as I should have.
Is Your Partner a Perfectionist? If you suspect your mate is a perfectionist whose traits are damaging your relationship, take the following quiz.
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Does your mate often enhance her position at work or in social situations by pursuing jobs that are difficult to do and making certain others know how well she has done? Does she tend to assume that you have high standards for her even if you don’t say so? Does she generally hear any comments that counter her opinions as criticism of her as a person? Is she often impatient with her imperfections and do images of past failures plague her? Do others frequently complain that the standards she sets for them are too high? Has she often postponed a job because she hadn’t laid out all the steps needed to do it “correctly,” then become paralysed at the prospect of not doing it well enough and end up not doing it at all? Does she frequently behave as though everything she does is going to be inscribed on her tombstone? If you start to tell a story about something you recently learned, does she often make certain that you know that she is also aware of what happened? Does she frequently complain about the incompetence of others, including you? Does she seem to feel guilty about many things that other people wouldn’t feel guilty about doing? Does she usually react to a simple statement of disagreement as though she has been seriously attacked, even when the criticism is not rude, angry, or demanding? Notice that the questions above include words like “always,” “often,” and “usually,” because there are times when doing things well works out fine for everyone. No one wants to fail. Striving for excellence is fine and it’s natural to sometimes want others to share in our pride of a job well done. However, striving for perfection is something else entirely. It can get tiresome having to continually praise a perfectionist spouse who lets you know that admiration is required for all her efforts, who wants you to have as high standards as she and who wants to control every situation. So if you answered yes to half of these questions, the chances are you’re living with a perfectionist.
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Understanding the Struggle of Perfectionists In graduate school, I learned about perfectionism, which is related to obsessivecompulsive disorder and gradually began to recognize those traits in myself. It was liberating to know that the complex feelings I had were understood by someone. It has taken me many years to integrate my learning to a point where I no longer focus so much on what others think of me. Now I hope that I can help you help your spouse become a recovering perfectionist more quickly than I was able to do. Let’s start with the fact that your spouse probably doesn’t experience herself as trying “too hard.” She doesn’t stop to realize she tries to work at 110% capacity 110% of the time. In fact, every perfectionist I’ve met in my marriage and family practice denies he or she wants to be perfect. They all say, “I’m just trying to do well.” Unaware of their often impossibly high standards, they don’t know when they’ve reached a reasonable place to stop and don’t know what “good enough” means. As long as your partner doesn’t demand you do more than necessary, of course, you can tolerate the standards she places on herself. Unfortunately, in a world where the achievement of high standards is not usually the norm, including the world within the home, perfectionists feel displeased much of the time. Selfcritical, judgmental of others and opinionated, we often find it hard to see the other person’s point of view, although most of us have learned to be quite pleasant and courteous in our relationships. This veneer causes us internal distress that others don’t see. When we think about it, we know that 110% is reasonable. But when we don’t achieve that level of success, we feel shamed. And it is this sense of shame that lies at the heart of a perfectionist’s pain, for shame is the feeling that not only have we disappointed someone, we are, at our core, bad in some way. This shame turns easily into anger, which is often suppressed or denied, though our spouses may often feel its effect. Since we need the approval of others, however, we generally suffer in silence, afraid to show our anger because we need the other person, particularly our spouse, to like us. This fuels the fire even more when we consider the unfairness of being “asked” to do so much. Unfortunately, the outlook on life between perfectionists and others is exacerbated because we don’t see life in greys, where most people live, but in the polarities of omnipotence and impotence. Constantly checking to see whether we and others, hit the 110% mark, we experience life as black or white, up or down, with me or against me, success or failure, okay or not okay.
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Since we perfectionists only experience high self-confidence — omnipotence — when we reach our high expectations, or what we think are the high expectations of others, we only feel great about ourselves some of the time. And even though we may do well more often than the average person, it isn’t often enough from our perspective and, therefore, we frequently feel impotent. This doesn’t make sense, you may say, for your perfectionist seems so composed and capable. You can’t see the inner struggle she goes through every day. Imagine what it must feel like to constantly check to see whether another person — spouse, teacher, parent, sibling, friend, boss, or child — believes you did what you think you were “supposed” to do, and whether you did it well enough. In actual fact, of course, your perfectionist may have done exactly what you wanted her to do (or what you would have been satisfied to accept) long before she finally got around to finishing a project. You, of course, would find it only reasonable to check with the person who asked you to do a job so you could understand what he or she required. But from the perspective of a perfectionist, this would be a sign of weakness and indicate she hadn’t understood the instructions, mind-reading being one of the skills perfectionists think they “ought” to have. Since they need the approval of others so badly, they’re not willing to confront the other person and learn whether they’ve guessed correctly. So they put on a cheerful face, yet shudder in fear they won’t be liked! Since perfectionists think they’ve been appointed God’s assistant, they must be very careful and make sure all their decisions are the best possible in the circumstances. Consequently, as you have undoubtedly already discovered, it can take a long time for her to choose not only the best pattern of wallpaper for the dining room, but any DVD she rents. This may drive you crazy, but remember that she doesn’t want to take any chances that she will choose “wrong.” She isn’t yet able to see that that any choice that anyone makes is simply part of the human condition: sometimes we make great choices, sometimes we don’t. That is why you may sometimes get a sense of foreboding when she suggests you choose the evening’s movie or restaurant. She may be able to avoid putting in her two-cent’s worth, but she is secretly afraid that you may not make quite as good a choice as you “should.” Then, if you happen to choose something that you both agree is terrible, despite all the good reviews you’ve read, she may be outwardly magnanimous in forgiving you, even laughing about it. But inside there is a good chance she is disappointed in you for not choosing better. After all, as God’s appointed assistant in making sure the universe runs smoothly, if you don’t make mistakes, her life is easier.
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The Origins of Perfectionism How does such a complex personality develop? Usually it began when we decided that our parents, good souls though they may otherwise have been, didn’t think we were okay unless we met their expectations. Those expectations may have been perfectly reasonable, but we concluded that we weren’t okay just as we were — only when we performed. Come home with all A's and one B? I'd be questioned on why I got the B. It is nice to get praise for doing well, of course. Praise helps us know we have reached the goals someone thinks we can reach. Praise can reinforce the good feeling that comes from finishing a difficult task. All of us like to experience that sense of achievement. Winning a race can leave us feeling we’re on the top of the world. The problem is that no one stays on the top forever. Rather than accepting our new position as somewhere between the top and bottom, we feel impotent. We feel “ordinary,” an uncomfortable feeling because our parents wanted us to be special. Our perfectionism also grew out of the fact that as children we didn’t learn that mistakes were a natural and acceptable part of life. We didn’t learn that they were to be honoured because they offer a chance to learn to live in the middle ground between success and failure.
Learning to Live With a Perfectionist Does any of this help you understand your partner a little better? Perhaps now you can see why some of the traits that seemed so endearing at the beginning of your relationship are starting to wear a bit thin. You’re tired of having to watch each step you take to make certain she doesn’t get upset. You’re tired of having to be very careful when pointing out something she didn’t do as well as expected for fear she will think you don’t love her. And if she also tends to have a bit of a martyr complex, which is not uncommon with perfectionists, that can be an additional challenge. What can you do? First, I suggest you remember that it isn’t comfortable living in a perfectionist’s skin. I strongly suspect she would appreciate your help in getting past her fear of failure and in becoming more accepting of the middle ground where most people live. If you seriously give these suggestions a good try, I will almost guarantee that life will be better for both of you.
Suggestions for Learning to Live With a Perfectionist Understand yourself: How well do you handle anger, guilt, worry, and criticism? What dreams do you have yet to fulfil? You can’t help your partner very easily if you don’t know how you're past might be affecting you today — and that what you do or don't do about that has ramifications for your relationship. Knowing who
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you are and recognizing your own struggles and weaknesses will help you respond to the perfectionist family member with greater compassion. Remember the importance that shame plays in your partner’s makeup and be willing to talk about it: If you sense that your partner’s reaction to a real or implied criticism by you or someone else is causing her distress, reassure her that she is loved, even if she hasn’t done everything as well as she, or others, would have liked. It also helps to let her know that you understand how she might react negatively because of her experience growing up (assuming you know enough about her background to recognize the seeds of her perfectionism). Unfortunately, we tend not to discuss shame and other intense emotions, as Brock Hansen, LCSW, notes in Shame and Anger: The Criticism Connection: “Talking about shame tends to evoke some of the sting of this powerful and painful feeling. Many of our basic affective states seem to have an infectious or contagious quality to them. There is a universal tendency to suppress expression of powerful affect in public—perhaps because its expression can be contagious.” [For example, terror, rage and mob violence.] “Shame and distress are similarly contagious, especially within the primary groups with which we identify: our families. When we see the posture and facial expression of shame on the face of our parent or our child, we often identify and feel the shame ourselves. . . . Shame motivates us first to hide, to avoid eye contact, and to keep quiet, though the anger response that follows may motivate us to protest. It may be that this contagious and uncomfortable response to shame, even as a subject for discussion, is part of the reason we do not talk about it.” Acknowledge your perfectionist’s accomplishments: If you are proud of what she has done, say so. Withholding praise because she needs it so much won’t make her less anxious. And as she makes progress in working to overcome her perfectionism, be sure to tell her that you appreciate her efforts. Becoming a recovering perfectionist is a long journey. Recognizing she (and you) have made progress opens the door to progress in the future. Imagine you are planning a picnic and suggest she keeps it simple. You realize she has resisted the urge to bake another batch of cookies, or stop at the store for the perfect accompaniment to the meal. When the picnic is over, say something like, “Honey that was a great picnic. I enjoyed just being with you and taking time to relax. I hope you enjoyed it, too.” This gives her the space to
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accept your definition of a “great picnic” and to know that you enjoyed it even without the extra cookies or gourmet crackers. Model an open response to criticism: It is hard for almost anyone to accept criticism without an emotional response. And when shame and anger have long been the dominant emotions in reaction to criticism, there is a tendency to minimize whatever truth there may be in the other person’s opinion in order to avoid feeling those uncomfortable feelings. So it wouldn’t hurt for you to learn how to listen without anger or denial when others point out positions that oppose yours. Also, learning calming techniques, like yoga and meditation, can be helpful for both of you. Be clear and concise when expressing what you need: Remember that your perfectionist does a lot of guessing what you, and others, want from her. If she has to ask, that means she hasn’t been able to discover your goal by herself. Therefore, make certain that she knows what you want — and that you don’t want more than that. Let her know that if she can’t do what you want, that you’ll still love her. If she needs help, you’ll be glad to assist her. Offer your opinion clearly and without anger: The benefit of being in a relationship is the opportunity to learn from the other person. Yet you may tend to store up resentments or be reluctant to comment honestly on a project that has turned out poorly in the fear that your comments will trigger her shame and anger, or that you will slide into old arguments. However, if you are unwilling to address issues important to you and don’t stand up for yourself, you will unintentionally leave her with the expectation that, first of all, you expect 110% performance from her and, second, that you don’t think it’s possible for her to change. On the other hand, she will find it easier to lower her standards if you are direct, open, honest, kind, and polite. For example, assume that you are going on a trip and are afraid she will bring more clothes than she can wear. Also, if fashion is not your cup of tea, you may not even notice if she dresses in the latest style. But you won’t get very far if you say, “It’s stupid to bring more clothes than you can wear in one week. Who cares what you look like?” You’ll get much further with, “I would appreciate it if you would only bring enough clothes to fit in one suitcase. Not only will we save money on air fare, but it will mean less luggage to carry. Besides, you look good in everything. Just bring the basics and have fun.” Always present your point of view as simply your opinion, one version of the truth. Also, be sure to discuss your ideas when there is enough time for both of you to openly explore your different points of view and find common ground.
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Help her set a reasonable time frame in which to finish a project:. Unrealistic expectations for finishing a job have tripped me up more times that I can count. Sadly, when I’m not through in the time I said I would be, I feel I have somehow “failed.” The only failure is in my estimation of how long the job needs for completion. With my standards, I fail to realize that I can only get the job completed in the time I give myself if I have absolutely no other responsibilities, feel energized all day, have no interruptions, know how to do everything before I begin, and my computer doesn't break down. Address the fear of abandonment: All of us, from time to time, may be afraid that our spouse will find someone who is more handsome, wittier, and accomplished than we are, and whose qualities may cause our spouse to view us in less flattering light. Assure her that you will always be there, if you intend to be, and that you are committed to making the relationship work. The more she is assured of your love, the easier it will be for her to lower the standards she feels she must reach in order to keep you from leaving. Forgive yourself and your partner: There is no relationship in which everyone doesn’t make mistakes. We all need to learn how to forgive. This is especially true when a person has been raised in a home where there is a strong belief in a judgmental God. Fear that one has made a work or social faux pas is far different than fearing one may fail in a final judgment. In this regard I am blessed in being raised by a Lutheran minister, so I was taught that I was saved by faith, not works. Although I have since left the church and followed a spiritual path of my own, I am not burdened by the fear that I may not be interpreting scripture the “correct” way. Today I believe there are many paths to truth and I am glad I’ve learned how to forgive myself by letting go of the expectations and demands I had placed on myself that I should have been able to do something I hadn’t known how to do. I’ve also learned how to forgive others for not being able to do what they didn’t yet know how to do. As I often tell my clients, no one wakes up in the morning with the intention of making a mess out of his or her life. We all do the best we can with what we know at the time. Learn to laugh: A spouse who laughs and hugs his wife when the gourmet dinner she worked on all day is a disaster sends a message that he can still love her despite her failed attempt at perfection. I can guarantee you that if you develop a sense of humor, one of the contributions my husband makes to my recovery, it will make it easier for her to resist the need to excel when excelling isn’t necessary. Laughing with her, not at her, will lighten the ground between extremes in her life and in yours.
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Encourage counselling: The more strongly a perfectionist has been criticized as a child, the more criticism or negative comments will trigger shame and anger. In fact, in some cases it may be almost impossible to accept criticism as anything but an attack or the threat of attack. Further, if your partner was repeatedly abused in a family where no one offered comfort and understanding, she may need much more help than you can give her. Her belief that she doesn’t deserve to be loved by someone, even a wonderful person like you, may translate to a belief that anyone with whom she falls in love won’t be able, or willing, to love her back. You may see yourself as the knight in shining armor who has been placed on this earth to comfort, encourage, and protect your partner. That’s not a bad goal. But remember that you have a few flaws in your character as well. An objective person may be able to help you sort out the characteristics within you that get hooked by your perfectionist, and help you see the traits within her that get hooked by you. These traits may have nothing to do with perfectionism. On the other hand, you may discover that you, too, have some hidden perfectionistic tendencies.
Preventing Perfectionism in the Next Generation Are your children headed down the path of perfectionism because your partner (with perhaps some help from you) is pushing them in that direction? These days, when overindulgent parents are extraordinarily focused on their child’s future success with high expectations and competitive pressure, they unintentionally plant seeds for a weak sense of self and unrealistically high standards. Wanting outward approval, these children are vulnerable to the delusion that wealth, meeting the standards of others, and a position of power create happiness. How can parents prevent perfectionism and still encourage success? First and most important, make certain your children know that they are absolutely loved no matter how many A’s they bring home, that they don’t have to do anything to earn your love. Help them accept their mistakes as opportunities to learn, not evidence they aren’t good enough. Give them lots of space and time to play as they choose, without expecting every moment to be filled with “useful” activities. Encourage them to first try to figure out problems by themselves and then to ask questions when they are stumped. To the greatest extent possible, see that your children attend a good public or private school. Beyond that, begin to help them discover the pleasure of being as responsible for themselves as they possibly can. I can guarantee you that time will come sooner than you might now imagine. When children are young, they need help getting to school on time and doing their homework. However, before very long you need to step back and recognize that waking up in time to get to school is their responsibility. Homework is their http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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responsibility. Deciding which extra-curricular activities will enrich their lives is their choice. And selecting a career or training program is theirs to make. This doesn’t mean, obviously, that you have no interest in their lives in and out of school. Knowing what’s going on and why they make the choices they make is an important part of being parents. Adding your input is obviously helpful. Discipline is essential. But in my work with adults who feel strangely empty and anxious, I often find that their parents didn’t help them learn how to stand on their own two feet and to be responsible for themselves. By giving their children everything they wanted and always being there to catch them before they fell, they didn’t have the chance to learn from their own mistakes. Here is a small thing, but it is often a signal that children feel they must be perfect: they ask for extra time to finish a project because they couldn’t make it “good enough” within the time frame everyone one was given. They want to add more colorful pages or illustrations, even if they will only add 5 points for “artistic presentation” on a 60 point project. When parents don’t point out the unfairness of that request, and when teachers allow extra time, the child can feel “proud” of getting a good grade without recognizing that if everyone were to have more time, others would also get better grades. The extra credit was courtesy of extra time. When your children become adults and have a job that requires them to finish a report for a three o-clock meeting, they won’t be given an extra two hours to make it better before. They’ll have to know what is most important to include, and what can be left out. Learning to stop at “good enough” is one of the best lessons you can teach your children. My best friend in college did not get all “A’s” but was satisfied in doing the best she could. I felt I had to bring home the best grades and in one final exam I even cheated, I am now sorry to say, and once asked for an extension on a test, claiming I had a cold. The truth is that I had had a cold, but I was certainly over it enough that I could have taken the test. I wouldn't have done as well as I did by having extra time to study, but getting a better grade seemed so important at the time. Today, after a highly successful career as an educator, my friend is widely respected and has mentored many teachers and administrators and teaches graduate students. She even has a school named after her! Good grades didn’t get her there. She got there because she was resourceful, resilient, compassionate, and had a strong sense of self. As I come to the end of my comments on living with a perfectionist, let me say that I want this piece to be well-written. The better I write it, the more likely you are to understand what I want to say. However, if I realize after it has gone to
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print that I might have said something more effectively, or if I left out something I wish I had included, I won’t believe that who I am at my core is flawed. My value as a human being is not dependent on whether I do everything 110%.
Special Offer Go to http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts where you can click on Arlene’s link where you can receive the FREE Support4Change Newsletter that arrives every four to six weeks with new articles on Support4Change, Q-and-A Club questions, book reviews, commentaries on life, suggestions for improving relationships, and much more. You will ALSO receive all of the following: Open up the Right Side of Your Brain, an e-book sampler of guided imagery exercises and other techniques from a manual for therapists, coaches, and their clients titled Images and Symbols: The Glue of Habit, The Lubricant of Change that will be available later in 2009. Words of Encouragement Everyone Needs, a powerful and unique MP3 guided imagery download that can help you experience affirmations for growth you may not have heard when you were growing up. You will be able to experience the positive encouragement you needed to hear for each stage of growth. Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life: Stop Wishing Your Life Were Different and Make It Happen, a 2008 Next Generation Indie Book Award Finalist, available to you at half price. An early review by Belleruth Naparstek, MA, MFT, creator of the Health Journeys audio series, says: "A thoughtful, complex, layered look at how we change and what we need to do to create change in our lives. Arlene Harder gently, wisely and sensitively takes the reader along every step of the way, providing just the right questions, tools and approaches to make the journey fulfilling and satisfying.”
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Undertake the “Is Your Partner a Perfectionist” quiz on your partner, or work colleague to determine if they are likely to be a perfectionist. 2. Undertake the “Is Your Partner a Perfectionist” quiz on yourself to determine if you are likely to be a perfectionist. 3. Practice a “Suggestion for Learning to Live with a Perfectionist” every day.
About the Author Arlene Harder, MA, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist in California, founder of several well-respected websites, author, speaker, workshop leader, creator of guided imagery and reflective meditation programs and co-founder of two nonprofit cancer support organizations. She believes that in everyone there is potential for success, serenity, vitality, joy, and wisdom. Her successful work with clients demonstrates that we can learn how to find those qualities within us and live fully even in the face of today’s challenges.
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Barbara Roman “Creative Marketing (On a Shoestring Budget)”
The world economic situation isn't the best right now - but it's also got its silver lining. As the saying goes, "Necessity is the mother of invention"... so creativity is the means we can all use to become inventors! Many businesses thrive during hard economic times; let's make yours one of them!
Repetition And, if I may, quote one more saying, "Out of sight, out of mind" really is true when it comes to business. Repetition is crucial for acquiring new customers and for retaining the old. For obtaining new customers, a key to effective advertising is product (or service) recognition. On the average, it can take anywhere from 6 to 10 times for a viewer to see a company’s ad before they are moved to action. Even previous and current customers need to be reminded of your business and what it can do for them. Continual communication builds rapport and in turn, loyalty.
Cross Promoting Introduce your product to several different markets, gaining exposure to broader amounts of people, as well as repetition to a number of them. Try to cross promote through various avenues, traditional and non-tradtional. What can you do to stay in touch with your existing customers and encourge their thinking of you when they are ready to shop? And how do you acquire new business? Think creatively. Can you design some Viral Marketing? Do you have an offer that can inspire people to pass it on? Can you create a game they can participate in that makes them laugh or gets them so excited about the prize that they have to spread the word? Even a coupon (in your emails or on paper) can cause people to want to share the wealth. Make it really enticing. Consider
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increasing a coupon discount for higher volume purchases. For example, save $25.00 on a purchase of $100.00 or more, save $50.00 on a purchase of $150.00, and save $100.00 on a purchase of $200.00 or more! Or a friendship promotion - bring a friend and both receive a ___% discount! Besides the obvious newspaper, magazine, and direct mail ads, which you may or may not have a budget for, and when done well are excellent vehicles, but there are other ways - free and low cost ways to promote your business through methods already created and those that you might create yourself. Creativity isn't inventing something from nothing, it's putting things together that haven't been put together before or are put together in a new way. And in my book, even if you invent something that happens to already exist, you still get credit for inventing it in your world. Let’s work on your business and take a look at some marketing tactics that you can start thinking about in a new way.
Obtaining New Clients Press Releases - Does your business have a noteworthy aspect to it that you can write about in a press release and get free media coverage? No? Then create one. Perhaps you would like to start a program, even for a limited time, where you give a percent of your proceeds to a charity. Now that's noteworthy! Perhaps your business can help your community. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps those are magic words. Open your mind to possabilities. Sponsorships - If a $100 sponsorship could get your product or business exposed to a 10,000 person audience, you're spending one cent per person you're reaching. And how many times are you reaching them? In the brochure? Signage at the event? And again on your product and literature that's given away. Reciprical Links and Ad Exchanges - Place your link and/or ad on other websites, E-zines, email promotions, etc. and their link/ad on yours - FREE! (And the bonus for you is that the more links you have on your website, the higher your page ranking will be on the search engines!) Joint Ventures - Partner with another business, each of you giving the customer a discount or freebie when they've purchased at the other establishment. This works with physical as well as internet businesses. Free Bonuses - Promote your business with extra incentives - extra services (free delivery, free coffee refills, free belt with a pair of shoes, a free informational e-book, a sampling of your service, whatever makes sense for your business).
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The free bonuses can also be joint ventures. You can give away your own product or better yet, a free product from another company and they give away a product of yours; that way you each are getting your merchandise in front of a whole new group of people. Affiliate Program - Create an affiliate program where individuals and businesses can refer your website. A trackable link to your website is created and will credit that person or business with purchases made on your site that came through those links (via email and/or website). Ask for Referrals - Give ___% off as a thank you to our customers who refer a new customer. Post a sign in your shop, on your website and in your email promotions (more on this below).
Stay in Touch with Previous and Current Customers Email marketing - Your most cost effective means of communicating with your customers is through email promotions - no high costs for postage and printing. With most bulk email systems, links are trackable so you can see what was of most interest to your viewers, and those links can transport them to your website where they can see more, learn more, and buy more. You can also gain new customers through your email promotions if you include a "forward to a friend" button and perhaps an incentive. Periodic Phone Calls – If you are in a service business, periodically phone your clients to check in and update them. My broker does this twice a year which has added greatly toward solidifying my loyalty to her. Send Holiday and Birthday Cards – Sending cards for special occassions via email or post is a lovely way to stay in touch and show your customers that you appreciate them. If you do have the budget for direct mail and print ads, all the better; add those to the mix too.
Target Your Market Think about who would benefit from your product or service and what type of gift you can give them. Think of what other businesses would benefit from an exchange with you.
Exercise Creative Thinking Begin thinking of marketing in new, creative ways.
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Remember: Creativity isn't inventing something from nothing, it's putting things together that haven't been put together before or are put together in a new way. All commonly used promotional tactics were once new, creative ideas. Would you like to try some creative thinking? You may be surprised with the inventive, and successful, ideas you can come up with! I'd love to hear how creative thinking has changed your business and/or your life, or answer any questions you have, so please feel free to email me at:
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Take out a piece of paper, a pen, and if possible, a tape recorder. 2. Open your mind to possibilities. Discount nothing. NO JUDGING; many a fabulous idea was born from a seemingly "silly" or "stupid" idea. We want ALL the ideas silly, strange, stupid and even those that don't begin with S. We want vague ideas. We want ridiculous ideas. We want the obvious and the obscure. Your mind will flit around. This is when it's good to also have a tape recorder available. Jot down and speak into the tape recorder so you can catch more ideas as they flood by; even use shorthand phrases, whatever you can grasp. Write down every, seemingly insignificant idea. Carry paper and pen with you to work, on your walks, to the movies - everywhere! Keep paper next to your bed at night; the subconscious mind loves that groggy time. Once you turn on your brain it's pretty hard to turn it off. Ideas will come in the most unlikely times and places. Jot them all down. 3. Be positive, curious and playful. 4. Use phrases like, “What if…” and “Perhaps ...” 5. Brainstorm with others. (Don’t judge them either)!
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6. When you feel you've exhausted all your resources, stop. Set it aside for several days. Some new ideas may incubate within that time. If so, jot them down too, but don't try for more ideas. Take your mind off the project - just relax and if something comes, that's fine, but take the pressure off. 7. After you've relaxed (and before you forget about the project entirely), review all you've done. Is a fabulous idea or two beginning to really take shape? Follow it and see what's there - no matter what twists and turns it reveals. 8. Don't forget to have fun!
About the Author Barbara Roman of Roman Art and Marketing is an email marketing specialist, award-winning graphic designer and illustrator, and a creativity coach. She creates highly successful email marketing promotions for businesses of all sizes and budgets.
Special offer 1. Mention Wonderful Web Women's Gold E-Book and Barbara would be happy to setup and configure your email marketing for free to get you going! 2. As a Gold E-Book reader, if you need email marketing help, receive 20% off strategic and professionally designed email promotions. 3. If you need help developing strategies for your business promotions, as a Gold E-Book reader, you can also receive 20% off a half hour marketing consultation and brainstorming session. Go to http://www.wondefullawofattraction.com/gifts to see how you can redeem all of Barbara's offers.
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Barbara Simon “Course Junkies on Detox”
Are you an alternative health care practitioner, constantly looking to improve your services to your clients? Or are you a professional who thinks you constantly have to attend conferences or trainings in order to become the best in your field? Well then I am sure you are familiar with a very common “illness” of that industry called course junkie-itis. And may be you even suffer from it yourself. Let me explain: My name is Barbara Simon, I am a Natural Therapist with 12 years of practical experience in this field so far and 3.5 years experience as a teacher/trainer of Dorn Spinal Therapy. And in this exact role I have experienced many times, that practitioners and professionals seem to go to some sort of training, conference or similar professional gathering nearly every weekend. Wow, that is a lot of training throughout the year and it got me thinking about another very common illness, particularly of health care practitioners, and that is “no-money-itis”. That means that many professionals, especially running their own business, complain constantly about how much they work and how little money they have at their disposal. No wonder, they are spending it all on their training and hours of conferences and fail to charge enough for their own services – particularly after having attended so much learning and education. So it looks to me as if there is a very serious problem in the industry when we look at those 2 illnesses. Or should I say when we look at the consequences of those 2 illnesses. One is that the junkies never have time for themselves which eventually leads to all sorts of problems, health, social, mental etc. The other is that they never
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seem to have money to do the things they would like to do, the reason why they are working and trying to make an income, which again has a ripple effect – I suppose mainly on their mental and emotional state. They feel as if they are working their butts off and cannot even afford to go out for dinner or let alone on a well deserved holiday. Hence the reason why so many practitioners leave their industry after 3-5 years to go back to a job they hated, but at least it pays. Well, no weekend trainings they have to pay for involved there, isn’t it. Now when I start thinking about this problem I realise that the junkie-itis is the more severe of both problems and that is why I want to go deeper into the resolving of that problem, hoping to being able to help you make this new year a more successful even though we seem to head into really difficult and gloomy times. But in those times only the good ones will survive and those are the ones that make wise decisions and know exactly what to do because they have a plan. The first question for me is; why do health care practitioners and many other professionals think they constantly have to go to trainings and/or education seminars? Is it really because they want to improve their services to their clients? Or is the reality that they never feel they are good enough? Really, how much of the content they learn in these trainings do they really use? May be 30-40%? And why is that? Because it is impossible to apply everything you learn, it often doesn’t make sense in your working environment or simply is not required by your clients. And if you don’t apply what you learned immediately you forget it, you lose it, and all the time and money spent on it is wasted. Just imagine what you could have done with that weekend and that money that would have given YOU some enjoyment, relief, relaxation! It is a constant search for – well what? This one gem? This one therapy that makes you better than anyone else? This one service that your clients will love and for what they will finally tell you – and you might finally believe it – how good you are. But guess what, you will be searching for a long time and it will cost you a lot of time, money and frustration and you might not ever find it. Because you have to find it in YOURSELF. If you cannot reach a point where you accept that you are a good practitioner and that you are giving a good service you will never get cured from course-junkie-itis and probably not from no-money-itis either. So what can help you in getting to that most important point of content and self confidence? From where on you will have more weekends available to you, more money available to use for you or your family, more clients that come to you
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because you are a very good practitioner? Here are 3 steps you can take today to set you on the right path and then you just have to make sure to really stick to them during the year and don’t get insecure just because Jane and John are doing one course after another. Watch how much of what they learned they are actually using.... 1. Sit down and decide what you want your expertise to be. Really think about what clients you want to serve in your working environment. E.g. Infertility treatments, children's problems, diet, pain management, or whatever it might be. When there are more than 1 area, write down more than one and then rank them in order form highest to lowest priority. In the end you really should come up with one area only. That means you will become a specialist and that is what people are looking for more and more. They want to be sure that you are an expert in the field. And that is what you have to “shout out” with every kind of marketing and advertising you are doing. 2. Once you have established your expertise, you know what specialist you want to become, only look for trainings that will help you becoming even better in your specialist field. Limit the number of trainings to a maximum of 4 per year. 3. Create a mantra for yourself that includes praises for you and your skills and knowledge. Use this mantra whenever possible. Write it down on Post It notes which you stick around your house. Carry it in your wallet. Say it loud various times through the day, start in the morning and say it last at night. And to underline your confidence, put up your fees for your specialised service. Remember specialists always charge more than Generalist. And if you are looking for the best training available in the field of Pain management then you might want to have a look into Dorn Spinal Therapy and meet me personally at one of the trainings I facilitate around Australia and the US.
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Sit down and decide what you want your expertise to be. 2. Once you have established your expertise, you know what specialist you want to become, only look for trainings that will help you becoming even better in your specialist field. 3. Create a mantra for yourself that includes praises for you and your skills and knowledge.
About the Author Barbara Simon was born in Germany and after studying Social Works, travelling the world and starting a family found her passion for Natural Therapies. She completed her training for Natural Therapist and specialised in Dorn Spinal Therapy back in Germany in 1996 and moved to Australia with her family in January 2000. Since then she has been committed to making Dorn Spinal Therapy available to as many people as possible – by providing treatments and training other health care practitioners in Dorn Spinal Therapy. Her trainings are recognised by many Australian Health care Associations as well as the NCTMB in the US. For more information please go to www.backcaresolutions.net or www.dorntherapycourse.com
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Belinda Jackson “Blogging to Attract Attention!”
Blogging enables you to publish content online, gain exposure and attention, attract new clients, and market yourself and your business to a mass audience of potential clients.
So what’s all the fuss with Blogs and Blogging? Firstly let me explain what a Blog is. A Blog is a type of website or online publishing platform. You’ve probably visited Blogs without even knowing that’s what they are. These days a Blog can look just like any other news or media website and in many cases a Blog will be an integral part of a Business website. Generally a Blog displays content in a chronological order, with the most recent content or “News” at the top of the page. In most cases content is categorized and is easily accessible. The content on a Blog consists of both pages and posts. A post is an individual piece of content which may be text, images, video, audio or any combination. According to Technorati, the leading Blog search engine, there are more than 1.5 million new Blog posts in real time every day. The purpose of this article is to not just outline what a Blog is, but to bring to your attention to some of the many benefits available to you through the medium of Blogging as a business growth and client attraction marketing medium. Blogging enables you to publish content online, gain exposure, attract new clients, and market yourself and your business to a mass audience of potential clients. Three of the biggest benefits of Blogging are;
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1. The ease it provides you to publish online. 2. The credibility it allows you to build for yourself and your business. 3. The fact that Google loves Blogs and therefore Blogging can easily attract new prospects to your website and offering.
An Online Publishing Platform Over the past few years Blogging has become a very popular marketing and communication medium for individuals and businesses throughout the world. Blogging has changed the face of the internet, making ‘publishing’ online accessible to anyone. A Blog in many ways is like a Content Management System which in years gone past could cost thousands of dollars to setup. The functionality now comes with most Blogging platforms as standard for very low cost or in some cases even free and enables you to easily publish and edit your own content on the internet. Your Blog allows you to establish an authentic and personal voice on the internet and build a relationship and communication channel with potential and existing clients. The benefit here is that you will naturally attract the right type of prospects and clients and you will be allowing them to get to know, like and trust you so that they will want to do business with you.
Build your Credibility and Expertise Online Do you agree that “experts” generally; • • • • • • •
Can command higher fees Lower price resistance Get loads more referrals Convert clients easier Gain the respect of peers and clients alike Get loads more free media publicity and media attention Get asked to speak at industry and business events
All of the above are true results when you become known in your industry as a leader and an expert. Those who shine publicly in their industries as experts are the “go-to” people and they are the ones that easily attract clients. A business Blog is a marketing tool that puts you in the public eye and that allows you to become visible on the internet as an expert. The goal should be to publish articles, information, news and other industry specific information that will serve to educate your clients and prospects and that will put you into the limelight as a trusted source and an expert.
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Google Loves Blogs Let me say that again. Google loves Blogs. This fact on its own is a big enough reason to consider Blogging. Being found on the search engines such as Google, Yahoo and Ninemsn is extremely important these days, as for many of us this is the place we go to find all kinds of products and services. You’ve probably heard about ‘Search Engine Optimization’ or SEO before. Whether or not you understand all that this means, in basic terms this means applying strategies to your website to get it listed in the search engines as highly as possible for the keywords that your potential clients are searching for. Optimising your website for optimal results on the search engines is a great way to bring targeted prospective clients directly to your website! And a Blog can help you get positioned more often and for more search keywords and phrases. The reason for this is twofold. One reason is the functionality behind the blogging platform and the second reason is the amount of content you will be publishing. The more content you offer online that includes your keywords (the words your potential clients are searching for) the more chances the search engines can find and index your pages and return them in results. In a nutshell a Blog can be a business marketing tool to showcase your expertise as well as to publish industry or company news and get you found on the Search Engines.
How to get started as a Blogger The main ingredient of Blogging is going to be your time and commitment. The rewards mentioned above are definitely available to you if you can commit to posting regular updates and helpful information for your prospects and clients. The software that Web Chameleon use and recommend is Wordpress which is available as a free download from www.wordpress.org. Ask your web designer to help you get this set-up or visit www.businessbloggingprogram.com where you can download free information including a free tutorial video and Getting Started Guide. The Business Blogging Program with Web Chameleon is where you can learn all the tips and tricks you will need to launch, manage and market a successful business Blog.
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts to download your free report and Blogging: Getting Started Guide 2. Visit www.wordpress.org to learn more about Wordpress and follow the steps included in the guide above 3. Plan what type of content you could include on your new Blog Site and get started!
About the Author Belinda Jackson is founder of Web Chameleon at http://www.webchameleon.com.au, Chameleon Mail (Email Marketing System) at http://www.chameleon-mail.com and The Business Blogging Program at http://www.businessbloggingprogram.com. Belinda has a passion for helping service professionals and business owners harness the power of Online Marketing to build relationships with their prospects and clients and ultimately attract more business and revenue.
Special offer Visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts for a copy of our informative and helpful Online Marketing Report and Ezine. Wonderful Web Women Members and Gold Book readers will also receive a bonus ‘Blogging: Getting Started Guide’ as a Free gift.
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Cath Resnick “Parenting, the future and You” So many of us undertake parenting within an atmosphere of scarcity and deprivation and wonder why we never feel good enough.
What better place to put the ‘Law of Attraction’ into action, than in our feelings about parenting In focusing on the areas that we, as parents, are not delivering and feel we should be, we not only continue to manifest our ‘failings’ – but it gets worse. Our children become focused on our inadequacies, what they are NOT getting, and what they feel they are entitled to. What follows for parents can be guilt, anger and frustration only serving to deepen feelings of inadequacy. So, how do you raise happy, contented, resilient children who are also motivated to care for others (including you) and make the world a better place? Well, you begin by feeling happy, content and resilient yourself whilst being motivated to care for others (including them) and make the world a better place..... it seems so simple, so why do so many of us struggle with parenting?
Being ‘good enough’ parents Many parents feel they need to be perfect, and anything short of that constitutes failing as a parent, sometimes leaving them feeling as if they have failed as a human being too.
Did you know that your child’s development DEPENDS on you failing often enough for them to develop? Let me qualify. Just imagine for a moment, that you were the world’s most ‘perfect’ parent, providing everything for your child just as, or even before they knew they wanted it. From the time your baby was born you were attentive to
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every move and every sound. Your baby would be in bliss – almost an extension of the womb where everything was provided without thinking.....and therein lies the problem. We don’t feel motivated to learn to talk until there is something that we need to communicate, something which isn’t communicated clearly enough in our cry. We don’t learn to walk until there is something out of our reach. We are not motivated to leave home until there is something we want that our parents cannot or will not provide. Failing your child often enough can be essential for their development….so perhaps you’re a good parent after all? Now of course, there is a balance. So instead of ‘perfect’, the ‘ideal’ parent is one who is ‘good enough’ to quote Winnicott 1 . So what does that mean? Well, a lot of being ‘good enough’ is what many parents do everyday - without even being aware of it. Some of what I list below may seem obvious, or even easy, but many parents struggle with some or all of these – and that is where support, education, therapy or mentoring can be beneficial. So perhaps I will list a few of these key qualities first, and then what to do if you are struggling with any one of them.
Loving your child as they are Let’s face it, we all have ideas about how we would like our children to be, or who we would like them to become. Perhaps they are sporty, whereas you may be academic, or they are artistic when you are technical. Perhaps you are someone who has struggled hard to pay your way through university or college, and fought for the professional education you have, only to see your son or daughter be content working on a production line. It is very hard to accept that your dreams are not the same as your child’s, or your strengths and talents are not the same as your child’s, and they will have to find their own path, and undertake their own struggle. Accepting their uniqueness and their developing personality is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children. WHY? It allows children to feel that they can be true to themselves, and be loved in the process. As teenagers they will be less affected by peer pressure (though not immune). As they become adults they will feel less inclined to comply with situations or demands that challenge their own principles and integrity in order to feel accepted -so they will be less likely to be subject to use or abuse. This is particularly important in relation to siblings. Many parents mistakenly believe they need to treat each child EXACTLY the same. But each child is born with their own temperament, and exposed to different life circumstances. For example the first child begins life as an only child, with parents who are ‘learning 1
Donald W Winnicott, psychoanalyst & paediatrician (1896 ‐ 1971)
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the ropes’. When the second child is born, they already compete for their parent’s attention with another child and the parents are a little more experienced. So ‘we’ are in a different ‘place’ in relation to parenting and therefore cannot treat our children EXACTLY the same. And they are different from each other, as people. Recognising and responding to their differences in personality is a vital component of parenting.
Did you know that thinking and ruminating about your children is an important part of parenting? Many parents have children at the front or back of their minds no matter what else is happening. Wondering how they are going during their first day of school, or their first date, constantly thinking about them in day care, or when they are at work. Being concerned about them when they are sick - calling them from work to check if they are OK. Psychological theorists refer to this thinking and ruminating in different ways. Winnicott 2 calls it primary maternal pre-occupation, Bion 3 calls it maternal reverie. Yes, it is so important to your child’s development, they have even developed whole theories around it, because psychotherapists see the consequences of what happens when it is not there. WHY? One reason is that when your child knows you are thinking about them, they learn to feel that they are not alone in the world. In my psychotherapy practice, feeling alone in the world is the source of a great deal of suffering in my adult patients. So next time you are ‘trying to work’ and can’t stop thinking about your children, instead of feeling frustrated by the conflict, congratulate yourself on your parenting ability!
Communication Many of us underestimate the power of the words we use. Most commonly, we learn our patterns of communication from our own families, and because they are patterns that we are familiar with, we rarely see them from the outside and don’t challenge or question their validity. The same principle applies in all relationships and of course in the workplace. Adding to the confusion, the same pattern of communication can be useful in one situation and harmful in another. Let me give you an example of how the same pattern of communication can have vastly different effects – depending on the context. To quote RD Laing (1976) 4
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“This is a conversation between a mother and her fourteen year old daughter. M (to fourteen year old daughter): You are evil. D: No I’m not. M: Yes, you are. D: Uncle Jack doesn’t think so. M: He doesn’t love you as I do. Only a mother really knows the truth about her daughter and only one who loves you as I do will ever tell you the truth about yourself no matter what it is. If you don’t believe me, just look in the mirror carefully and you will see that I’m telling the truth. The daughter did and saw that her mother was right after all and realised how wrong she had been not to be grateful for having a mother who so loved her that she would tell her the truth about herself. Whatever it might be......... ........The dialogue appeared somewhat disturbing, even sinister. Suppose we changed one word in it; replace ‘evil’ by ‘pretty’. M (to fourteen year old daughter): You are pretty. D: No I’m not. M: Yes, you are. D: Uncle Jack doesn’t think so. M: He doesn’t love you as I do. Only a mother really knows the truth about her daughter, and only one who loves you as I do will ever tell you the truth about yourself no matter what it is. If you don’t believe me, just look in the mirror carefully and you will see that I’m telling the truth.” The above example highlights how influential our communications are to our children and to others. Imagine the profound consequences of a small change in the way we communicate. But don’t believe me – see for yourself! My husband 5 has a saying that “it is more important to be understandable, than understanding”. This not only relates to what we say as parents, but what we do and how we do it. WHY? It is a comment about the damaging confusion and mystification caused by parents’ conduct or contradictions when it doesn’t make sense to the child. Sometimes this can lead to learning and language difficulties, or even significant psychological problems. So, in that sense, it can be more important for parent’s behaviour to be intelligible to their children, than for parents to be able to understand the behaviour of their children. 5
Dr Jan Resnick is a father of three and has been practising as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist for more than 30 years: janresnick.com .
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Consistency, Reliability & Boundaries Even under stressful circumstances, or when you are feeling tired or sick, be as consistent and reliable in your interactions with your children as you can. WHY? Your children will learn to feel safe in the knowledge that they know how you are likely to think, feel and react to something. Feeling safe and confident in their ‘world’ (you), allows them to put basic life stressors into the background and allows them to focus on other aspects of their development. Attachment theorists (a branch of developmental psychology) believe that this leads to ‘secure’ attachment styles, and is more likely to facilitate secure relationship patterns for your children in the future. Firm and consistent boundaries are not only important for the safety and welfare of your child, but also for you. WHY? It is just as important to demonstrate that you have respect for yourself by meaning ‘no’ when you say it, as it is to teach your child about what is right and what is wrong. Now that doesn’t mean that you are never negotiable or never open to another opinion. But it does mean that you will not let anyone, including your child, walk all over you. In doing so, you show your child that you can look after yourself (some children feel that they have to take the parental role), and demonstrate to them how to protect themselves. Boundaries when fair and reasonable tend to help children feel safe and cared for.
And now for the good bits... Allow time for unstructured play and exploration – for you and them! In the experience of play, children learn to explore, understand the world around them, and experience the extent and limits of their physicality and power. WHY? They get to imagine and play with possibilities as well as understanding the consequences of what they do. Sometimes that may involve getting hurt (ie hurting their knee climbing a fence), but more often it involves amazing new experiences. They learn about time and attention in putting something together and managing destructiveness in knocking something down. Play is the source of a growing capacity for creativity. If you can, find the child within you, and come out to play with your child (it’s a great excuse) – and give them plenty of time to play alone too. Children learn best by example. In particular: respect for others (your acceptance of them), acceptance of imperfections whilst building on strengths (acknowledge when you get it wrong, and show how you intend to remedy the situation), identifying and overcoming limitations (supporting them through challenges and difficulties) and most importantly, respect, love and acceptance of oneself.
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Last, but by no means least, make a space to love and be loved. In such a busy society, this basic tenet of life can easily be overlooked. In our rush to be ‘the best parent we can be’, the best partner or employee or business person we can be, we tick off all the technical boxes of things we should do, whilst too often overlooking that which makes life worth living. WHY? Monetary abundance and providing your children with every material thing and every opportunity is unlikely to bring you, or them, the happiness you expect if you are unable to give and receive love. It is just as important for your child to feel you can receive their love (through your actions and direct communications), as it is for them to feel loved by you.
When it is not so easy... So what if you are struggling with any of the above? Well chances are you either missed similar interactions with your own parents and/or you have had some other life experience/s along the way to parenthood that has left you exhausted, fearful, traumatised or cut off.......But don’t worry, if you are then you are certainly not alone, in fact you may well be in the majority of parents. So what can you do? 1. Remind yourself (and others) of those areas of parenting that you are good at and enjoy – build on those. 2. Find a parenting mentor - someone that you can comfortably talk to and who will respectfully listen – without judgement and without interference. They should facilitate your development as a parent – not focus on weaknesses, nor dictate how to be a parent nor take over the parenting themselves. 3. Create a local ‘village’ - people and places that you and your children can feel known by, who form part of your ‘neighbourhood’ and can be there for back up and support when needed. This can include a virtual neighbourhood when insufficient local resources are available. 4. Rely on your intuition. If the latest fad or parenting ‘must do’ or ‘must have’ doesn’t feel right for you or your children – it probably isn’t. 5. Allow time for yourself (if you possibly can). I know it sounds corny, but any time you spend on your own growth and development (or even relaxation for the chronically exhausted) can translate into more enjoyable parenting experiences, and happier and emotionally healthier children. 6. Do get professional assistance if and when you need it. It is not a failure, it is taking action. It shows you are a person, and that you have
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come to terms with some inevitable limitations. Asking for help is never wrong. We accept that we need mentors, coaches and teachers in our workplaces, hobbies and sports – yet somehow expect parenting to ‘just happen’. Perhaps if you have been struggling with parenting issues for a while you may be wondering if it is too late to begin now. If you and your child are still open and available to change and development, then change is still possible. Some people go through a mid life crisis to attend to aspects of their youth or childhood that remain unresolved. Child therapists will tell you that one of the most important ingredients for successful childhood development is the parent. So, working on yourself to feel better about you and how you relate as a parent, will create a wealth of parenting enjoyment and rewards. It is the ‘Law of Attraction’ in action, in the most important job there is – parenting. The emotional development, balance, love, care and involvement that you bring to parenting brings rewards that make it – potentially – the best investment there could be for ourselves, our children and for the future. http://www.naturallyparents.com
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Remind yourself about what you do well 2. Accept your child’s uniqueness 3. Rely on your intuition 4. Create a local village, including a parenting mentor 5. Learn how to receive love as well as give it 6. Recognise that your nurturing, growth development can also support your children
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About the Author Cath Resnick is a mother and psychotherapist. When, as a young parent, she sought information and resources to assist her in the task of parenting, she found plenty of information about WHAT to do but very little information about WHY. Without the WHY, Cath never felt empowered to critically appraise what was right for her and her family in the environment and circumstances they found themselves in. Later, when she began training as a psychotherapist, Cath finally found ideas, concepts and applications about the WHY of parenting, which made sense of her earlier struggle and validated the concerns she intuitively held as a parent. As she continued in psychotherapy practice, she found other parents struggling with similar issues and adults whose suffering may have been avoided if their well meaning and/or struggling parents had the opportunity to learn some very basic principles. What she found difficult to reconcile was why she had to become a psychotherapist to learn how to be a parent. Cath passionately believes in sharing the wisdom of experience and personal insight gained through parenting. In doing so she believes you will feel more empowered in your capacity as parent and better able to embrace the joy and pleasure of parenting and living. As parents, we create future. http://www.naturallyparents.com
Special offer I am so passionate about improving the future for our children and sharing knowledge to empower parents that I have put together a free guide: "The Secret of Empowered Parenting." Download your copy now at: http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts Disclaimer: The information on this chapter is made available for information purposes only. It is not intended to be comprehensive on all matters of emotional development or parenting and is not intended to be a substitute for professional healthcare advice, support, diagnosis or treatment.
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Charyn Youngson “You can only measure the past, you can’t predict the future” Use the past to point the way forward We are the sum total of our past, but what of our future? Well, you can measure what’s happened but no one can predict what’s ahead. Accurate measurement though will give you a dim view of what lies ahead, and a dim view is better than driving blind. The advantage of measuring is it allows you to coldly observe how you’ve travelled, what each turn and bump in the road has meant so that, as your journey continues you can feel confident that whatever happens you will be able to turn it to your advantage. Despite what many people believe, most of us have absolutely no control over what happens in our lives and the only thing over which we have some modicum of control is how we react to what has happened. The current financial meltdown is enormous so how come none of the big financial players saw it coming? If you feel a bit trapped by the crashing piles of money, you’re not alone, but how you respond to it is what will set you apart.
The time to act in a falling property market is NOW Let me explain. I was talking the other day to a cashed up man who said he was holding on to his dollars because he expected property prices to be lower in two to three months. How much lower? I asked. He didn’t know. How did he know, I went on, that at the end of two to three months property prices wouldn’t be ready to fall even further in another two to three months? He didn’t know. So if he didn’t know that, did he really know when he would be ready to buy property? He didn’t know. When it came down to it, he really didn’t know much except that he was
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contributing to deflation, but what was true, was while he was waiting for prices to fall, his money could have been earning him considerably more by buying, renovating and selling properties in a falling market than what he was saving by waiting for prices to fall even further.
Seize the day – opportunities abound I know because buying, renovating and selling is what I do every day and every day I am helping more and more people achieve a maximum return on investment by linking up with my “SOLD! For top $” program. Selling your home, whether it’s the one you live in or your investment property is stressful and the knowledge I share with people gives them the power to not only cope but to flourish. Through helping them achieve what they want I get what I want – satisfaction and a booming business!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Be passionate about what you do. 2. Consult the best advisors you can afford. 3. You don’t have to get it right you just have to get going.
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home or own an investment property, Charyn’s techniques will help you to unlock the value in your home to maximise your profit. To find out more, visit http://charynyoungson.com and http://housestoimpress.com.au
Special offer To download Charyn's free report "10 Proven Techniques to Makeover Your Home to Sell Faster And For More $$$$$" visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts
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Claire McFee “From Rock Bottom to Blitzing the World Wide Web” Until my thirties I didn’t know anything about the Laws of Attraction. I was what is sometimes termed an 'Unconscious Competent.' That is - I practiced the Laws of Attraction without realizing what I was doing. There are many others like me who attract what they want into their life, without even realizing they are doing it. What is really exciting is how much more you can achieve when you learn about this ability…..
When you are ready the teacher will appear When I was ‘ready’ to learn what there was to know about the Laws of Attraction, it came at me full throttle and I haven’t looked back. Admittedly, it does take a leap of faith to accept the principles of the Law of Attraction and absorb them into your life, which I can understand is difficult for some as it goes against everything they have ever known. All I can say to those people is try it for yourself with an open mind, remembering that just because you can’t ‘see’ or prove something (yet!) doesn’t mean that it isn’t true. You only have to think about the Law of Gravity or the old belief that the world was flat to understand this. So how has it helped me in my life and business? - in countless ways that literally amaze me all the time.
Rock Bottom After running Organize Your Life on my own for almost 8 years, I came to a crossroads. I had some great publicity on TV (A Current Affair) and other media and became totally overwhelmed by the enormity of what I had to do to keep the business moving forward and cope with the growing demand. It was almost a case of “be careful what you wish for”, because with two young children the demands were too much. After feeling like I was slowly drowning for a few years, I made the very difficult decision to sell my ‘Baby’. The thought of going into business with anyone else was completely foreign to me and too hard to contemplate how on earth it would work. Too many “What if’s…”
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What happened next came as a complete shock I had the business valued and prepared to ‘let go’ of everything I’d worked so hard and long to create. As with all experiences there were some powerful positives that happened as a result. Some took a while for me to see, but were all there nonetheless. I did some major culling- both physically and mentally, feeling a sense of weight being lifted from my shoulders as I created a fresh space in my life.
The Universe works in Mysterious ways I was part of a Goals Group at the time with 4 other inspiring women. They knew of my plan to sell the businesses and gave me advice on the process. After a short time Deb, one of the members mentioned that she and another businesswoman were looking to start a new Specialized Web Based business. To cut a long story short, we met and they were really interested in the business but with me staying involved. It all felt so ‘right’ and we set about formally becoming equal, joint business partners. That, I didn’t expect, but thank my lucky stars every day for it having happened.
Unfortunately, Fortunately I have people sometimes say to me – “It’s so lucky you didn’t sell you business or you wouldn’t be where you are today.” And I tell them if it weren’t for setting about selling my business I wouldn’t be where I am today. It was how I found my two amazing business partners Deb and Julie and got to still grow it as I had always wanted to –with their skills (ones I didn’t have) to make it happen. Totally ‘meant to be’ in our book! There is always a silver lining – you just have to look for it.
Splash, Mop and Polish Jules, Deb and I joke about how I am the one that comes in and makes a “splash”, Jules “mops it up” and Deb finishes it off with “a good polish”. When we first looked at going into business together we wrote down what our individual skills sets were and what our roles would be in the business moving forward. This was an extremely important part of the partnership building process and is precisely what we do today.
Accepting our Strengths AND Weaknesses Too many business partnerships go under soon after the ‘honeymoon period’ is over and weaknesses are focused on rather than strengths. All the idiosyncrasies have always been there, but as the saying goes “Whatever you resist persists”, so that’s what shows up all the time – driving you nuts and adversely affecting
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the business. This doesn’t happen for us because we very much focus on our strengths and help one another unblock anything that’s in the way.
Matching Mindsets is the Key Jules, Deb and I all believe there’s a reason for everything. This doesn’t mean we let life ‘happen to us’ because it’s all going to happen anyway. We influence our lives in countless ways. We take our business seriously and work really hard, but often comment on how blessed we are to be doing something we enjoy so much that it doesn’t feel like work most of the time – especially when we are together. The amount of laughing that goes on when we work together face to face is hilarious in itself. Good for the soul.
Challenges are still there to be had We still have personal and professional challenges that arise, but the difference with how we approach them is a “What can we learn from this?” attitude, instead of “Why did that happen to us?” mentality. There is always something to be learned that will help us be more effective next time and always, always room for GROWTH. Who could ask for more!?
De-Clutter your Mind & the rest will follow As we all know “A cluttered house equals a cluttered mind”, which makes being open to new opportunities almost impossible. I was lucky that my business idea was literally about organizing your home from the ground up so that I did just that as I came up with each idea one after another.
From 12 lists to over 100! When the idea for the Organizer came to me my daughter was ~6months old. I simply and literally thought I would save so much time otherwise spent searching for paperwork if I kept all the miscellaneous lists and tit bits that end up floating around the house, accidentally getting thrown out or taking forever to find, in the one folder. The ones I had in mind originally were ones like: Items On loan; Health Record; Tradesmen; Contact Details; Books to Read and DVD’s to Watch. All of a sudden it was like the floodgates had been opened and every night as I tried to go to sleep more and more ideas would pop into my head.
Pen and Paper at the ready So as to not wake up my husband - I had a pen and paper by my bed so I could jot down my ideas in the dark and cross my fingers that I would be able to read my writing the next morning. Some days it was a stretch let me tell you, but that was obviously my creative time so I had to capitalize on it. Before I knew it, I had over 100 ready-made lists that I converted to a tabled, formatted list, shaking my head all the while after researching my product-to-be that no-one had thought of this before. http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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Break it down –piece by piece You would be surprised how far the lists are broken down, but how much of a difference it makes when you do just that. When it comes to creating a new habit, it apparently takes around 21 days for the new habit to become automatic. Therefore, when you consciously become more organized by doing ‘like’ tasks together, rather than scattered throughout the day and if you create a daily ‘To Do’ list and tick them off as you go, you will find that you are way more productive and as a consequence save yourself precious time.
Start with the basics After I had my fist baby I often found that I hadn’t even managed to unload the dishwasher at the end of the day. After creating my daily/weekly ‘To Do’ lists it really got me into the right mindset. It got me thinking about what else I could do to save a few minutes here and a few minutes there. This may have meant ignoring the phone if it rang while I was in the middle of something or letting the baby cry for a minute rather than interrupting what I was trying to get done. Even I was amazed by the difference this made, not only to what I was getting done but to my feelings of accomplishment. Instead of thinking – “I didn’t even manage to do … today”, it was “I did this, this and this!” It may not have been breaking news but at that time in my life it was important to my feelings of self-worth in my new role out of the workforce. Importantly, it was a stepping stone toward what I have achieved today.
“The Weakest Pen is better than the strongest memory” Anon Don’t even get me started about the difference it made just getting all the thoughts, ideas, tit bits and so on down on paper that came from my over-flowing mind!!! Well … Ok, just for a minute. My energy levels literally increased by the second as I filled in item after item in list after list. I worked till late at night after the baby was asleep and whenever I could during the day and found that even if I had to get up a couple of times during the night I had energy for that and them some. It was a very freeing feeling that I’d never felt before. I had gradually attacked years of paperwork, then moved on to each room of the house including the dreaded garage which was a big milestone as it was chock-a-block with ‘stuff’ . (My husband is a builder so we have even more stuff than most). After tackling the garage, I really understood the power of what I had created and how much I could help others in a similar way. Excited doesn’t even begin to describe how I felt. I knew very early on I was onto something and that it was going to be big. I had no idea how gratifying it would be to help thousands of people and how much I would learn along the way. Let’s just say I am looking forward to what I manifest next….. Where’s my pen?!
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So simple once you know how I know it sounds too good to be true, but time and time again, we will say to ourselves, “Wow, we’ve just achieved another big goal we set (2,4,6,12) months ago”. And we make sure we keep writing them down, visualizing them all the time and having very much a ‘giving’ attitude to helping others along the way, because “What goes around (really does) come around.”
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Get a pen and paper. And write down what you want to achieve in the next 12 months 2. Visualise it regularly – for example, every night before going to sleep 3. If you are considering taking on a business partner, join a Business Women's group or Investors group and scout them out for potential people. Make sure they are like--minded, have high integrity - evident from past business dealings and that you compliment one another.
About the Author/s Claire McFee – Author of the Original 1999 Organize Your Life Organizer loves helping people improve their lives, so they can have more energy to chase their dreams. Claire treasures the day she met Deb and Julie her business partners, so that she could achieve all that she wanted to with Organize Your Life, having recognized she couldn’t do it alone. “I love how the Universe works – it’s truly amazing.” Deb Wilson- Co Author of the New Interactive e-Organizer brings 'fine detail' to all areas of Organize Your Life, overseeing the business and keeping the business on track with a focus on product development and marketing. Julie McRitchie – Co Author of the New Interactive e-Organizer ensures Organize Your Life reaches more people via website development and internet marketing via her extensive global contacts that have taken the business truly worldwide.
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Connie Boris and Charly Leetham “Aromatherapy – How Ancient Secrets Will Create Success for You Today” We’re Connie and Charly from www.StretchYourMindAndBody.com. Our mission is to help you to establish a successful online presence whilst helping you to remember to “smell the roses” along the way. Balance in your life and a healthy body and mind are the key to success. To be able to put the “Law of Attraction” into action you need to be balanced so you are able to focus. We can teach you many different ways to achieve balance. However, in this article, we’re going to focus on just one method - Aromatherapy. Aromatherapy is very effective, quick and easy to use and we both love it. (Charly says ... ) "I have to agree. I spend a lot of time working on my computer or just hanging around the house and when I need a ‘pep up’ or a ‘wind down’, out comes my oil burner and oils. It’s so effective that both my children also have their own favourites." Four Simple Steps and you are on your way to enjoy the benefits you deserve: Step 1 – gain some knowledge about aromatherapy (this article and our free audio recording contains enough information to get you started) Aromatherapy smells heavenly and is based on the use of essential oils. An essential, or volatile oil (as it is sometimes referred to), is a very concentrated liquid. These oils are totally volatile or “evaporating” in nature. They are derived from plants and come from different parts of the plant, like leaves, petals, roots, bark, berries, seeds…some plants yield 2 or 3 different oils from their different parts, others only one. The oils are very effective in creating balance, relaxation
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and healing. They are used to treat emotional disorders such as stress, anxiety and a wide range of other ailments. The oils are called “essential” because they have a distinctive scent or carry the “essence” of the plant, which is what makes this plant unique. Essential oils can be used in many different ways. Aromatherapy is often used in conjunction with massage therapy, acupuncture, reflexology and herbal remedies. You can use those amazing oils yourself to create balance, harmony and focus in your personal life. In turn, this will help you to be much more successful in business. Essential oils can also be used to enhance your relaxation or meditation so you can visualize your goals more clearly. Studies have shown that Lavender oil helps you to make up to 20% less mistakes while working. (Charly comments ...) "You know Connie, I use Lavender when I have a headache too. A couple of drops on my hanky really helps … or if it’s bad, in my oil burner whilst I get a nap. Does wonders!" Step 2 – choose your essential oils Essential oils are quick and easy to use. You can start with just a couple of oils and then gradually build up your collection as you gain knowledge and confidence. (Charly says …) "Connie shares some of her favourite blends with us in our audio interview. They are really great and I can’t wait to test them myself!" Good essential oils don’t come cheap – often huge quantities of the plant are needed to get a tiny amount of essential oil. There are various processes to extract the oils from the plant. Distillation, expression and solvent extraction are the main methods. Each of these methods has different subgroups again. This all sounds very technical but sometimes it is important to know which method was used because, in some cases, it changes the properties of the oil. The most modern method of solvent extraction is using CO2 (carbon dioxide) which is great because it leaves no chemical residue in the oil or environment and does not heat the oil. However, it is an expensive method and very small operators cannot afford it. (Charly says …) "So this means that if we find essential oils that are extracted using CO2, we should expect a higher price, but know they are a quality product
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that is well worth the price tag. It also means that if the price is considerably lower, the oil is probably a synthetic concoction and not the ‘real thing’." Before you go ahead using these amazing oils, there are a few very important things you need to know: •
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Step 3 – choose how you are going to use the oils and get the necessary tools Now let’s have some fun. There are an amazing number of ways you can use your oils, here are some examples:
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Any type of bath (whole body, hands, feet) – use no more than 5 drops of essential oil in total. Shower – Wash yourself first, then add a maximum of 4 drops of essential oil to your wet washer or sponge and rub briskly all over your body and inhale the lovely scent. Massage or body oil – mix a maximum of 1 drop of essential oil into 2 ml (approx 40 drops) of carrier oil. Only mix enough oil for 1 massage. The choice of your carrier oil will depend on what you want to achieve. Some oils are light and get absorbed into your skin fairly quickly, others are very sticky. They all have healing properties as well. Go to your kitchen cupboard and have a look – you might find something suitable. (Charly asks…) "Connie, what do you use as a Carrier Oil? I like olive oil and almond oil for my massage oils." I also love almond oil and Jojoba, which is an amazing substance. The other one that is really great is coconut oil (the organic version in a glass jar that is sold for cooking). It is solid when it is cooler but becomes liquid at body temperature. It soaks into your skin and you can mix a small quantity of coconut oil with a couple of drops of an essential oil. For children above 6 years of age and elderly people use half the dose of essential oil – only 25 drops of essential oils to 100ml of base oil. Oil burner or scented candles – to freshen up your room, office, shop, restaurant … your customers will be happy – a shame we can’t stream fragrances out of our websites yet! (Charly says …) "I love oil burners and scented candles. I really like the idea of the electric oil burners though, no exposed flames near my paper work!" I fully agree – the electric burners don’t get very hot and I have to admit, I don’t know how often my electric burner has burnt dry and stayed that way for hours . The best thing is, it hasn’t caused a fire and it is still working after many years. Tissue or handkerchief – just put 1 drop of essential oil and take a “whiff” whenever you need to. Light bulb – 1-2 drops maximum on a cold bulb (make sure the oil does not run down into the fitting - it is flammable), then turn the light on. There are rings you
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can buy that sit on the light bulb and you put your oil into the ring. The warmth of the light bulb will make the oil evaporate and gently scent your room. Other uses for your essential oils: Potpourri’s, drawer liners, sheets, linen cup board, coat hangers, bookmarks, stationery … and whatever else your imagination may conjure up! Step 4 – Enjoy the experience and reap the benefits We hope we were able to at least entice you to consider using some of these amazing essential oils. Want to know more? Go to http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts and listen to a recording containing more useful information (Charly says …) "I have always loved aromatherapy and using the scents to set the atmosphere I need to succeed! I’ve even converted my family to it – now the discussion is not IF we will put an oil on, but which one." Connie shares a lot more of her wisdom in our recording on how you can use Essential Oils and aromatherapy.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Go to http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts and download our audio interview 2. Get yourself an oil burner and select a blend of essentials that will work for you 3. Enjoy the benefits and enhanced success you will experience
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About the Authors Charly Leetham and Connie Boris will share with you the secrets to balancing your mind and body connection and the amazing benefits that you will experience in doing so. Charly has over 20 years experience in the IT business and realised very early in her career that all parts of life, body and mind have to be balanced for true success to occur. Connie is an extremely talented Yogi who has the amazing ability to translate ‘everyday’ activities to Yogic principles and balance the mind / body connection. She has over 20 years experience teaching, coaching and motivating people from all walks of life. She has been teaching Yoga for over 16 years. Through our partnership at http://StretchYourMindAndBody.com, we want to help others balance their mind and body connection to achieve true success in your life.
Special offer Connie and Charly have put together a fantastic Relaxation pack that you take action with today. Visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts and receive a 20% discount for The Law of Attraction In Action readers.
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Connie Ragen Green “How to Build your Online Empire by Using the 5 Pronged Approach” Building an online empire is possible when you know how and where to begin. I have created the 5 pronged approach to help my students build a profitable business on the internet that can be done from home, or from wherever you happen to be. Choosing a Niche that is Right for you You first must choose your niche. This comes from looking at what you are passionate about, what life experiences or careers you have been involved in during your life, as well as what will be economically feasible. By looking at these three areas you will find a market of people who are anxious to purchase information, products and services from you in an area that you are knowledgeable about and truly love. The 5 Pronged Approach – Getting Started The 5 prongs are the areas where you will focus your time and energy so that your business can grow as rapidly as possible. You must treat your online business like a real business, which means that you will make a schedule and follow through in all areas. Make sure your family knows that you are working during specific hours and not to interrupt you unless it is truly an emergency. This will make all of the difference if you intend to create an online empire. Prong 1 – Article Writing Writing and marketing articles on a regular basis will build your credibility in your niche. I have written more than 860 articles during the past year and a half and see how powerful they have been. More than 190,000 people from around the world have read these articles, turning them from readers into prospects and finally, into clients. http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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Set a schedule and make a goal for yourself when it comes to article writing. When I first began I challenged myself to write 100 articles in 100 days. This did not happen – it only took me 78 days! Even if you will only set a goal to write one article each week, stick to that goal and make it part of your routine. My articles tend to be about three hundred words in length. I submit them to EzineArticles, the largest article directory in the world. Choose the categories you will be writing in and write enough articles to be included in the top ten authors for that category. For example, I am in the top ten authors for the number of articles I have written in the eBook and article writing categories. This continues to build my credibility as I continue to write and submit more articles every day. Prong 2 – Blogging Blogging builds your visibility in your niche. Consider your blog to be your home on the internet. I use my blog as my primary site, rather than a traditional website. People know they can come to my blog and find out the latest information that will help them in their online business and also to leave comments and questions about what they are working on. When you first start blogging, I recommend something I call ‘power blogging’. This means that you will post to your blog once a day, every single day, for the first six to eight weeks. This will give you a boost in the search engines for your keywords and also get you into the habit of writing fresh new content every single day. I still post to my blog about five times a week and use the opt-in form in the upper right-hand corner to collect names and emails to add to my list. I also announce my weekly teleseminars, my upcoming courses and any other affiliate programs that I am currently promoting. Prong 3 – Social Networking Social networking gives you exposure to people you want to connect with online. With several hundred different social media sites available on the internet, there just isn’t time to be everywhere. The two sites I visit daily are Facebook and Twitter. These are the sites that make the best use of my time. On Facebook I have my own group, as well as a secret group for whom I mentor, where we exchange information and ideas, almost like a membership site. I am also a member of about thirty other groups where I stop by regularly to see what they are doing and to write on their wall. Facebook is also where I announce my
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courses and programs by creating an event and sending out the information to all 4,400 of my friends. Twitter has become my favourite social networking site. I have just started a new practice of ‘tweeting’ one of my articles every single day. Since you can only send out a tweet that is 140 characters long, it takes at least twelve to fifteen tweets to get my article out there, but I have found this an excellent way to repurpose my content. Prong 4 – Teleseminars and Internet Radio When people hear your voice they very quickly begin to trust you and the information you are providing to them. I began holding regular free weekly teleseminars more than a year ago and find this to be the very best way to get to know my prospects. Taking advantage of internet radio also connects you with people in your niche that you can interview and who will want to interview you. Many times people will come up to me at a live event and tell me they recognized my voice before they saw that it was me. Both of these methods are excellent to let people hear what you have to say. Prong 5 – Developing Your Own Product Until you have your own product to sell online, you cannot complete the steps necessary to build your online empire. Even though you can do quite well as an affiliate, promoting other people’s products and services, it is a product of your own that will give you the freedom to take your business to the next level. I recommend creating a digital product at first. This can be a series of audio recordings, transcripts and a workbook. Once it is completed you can sell it online from a web page. People from around the world will be able to purchase and download your product at any time of the day or night. Be sure to create the most excellent product you can so that your clients will feel like they made a wise decision to purchase. Stay in touch with them after they buy to allow them to ask questions, get more information and purchase more products from you as you continue to build your inventory. Your goal is to turn each buyer into a raving fan.
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Choose your niche and start a blog on that topic. Post to the blog and write articles about it on a regular basis. 2. Host a teleseminar or internet radio show to let people hear your voice. 3. Become active in social media and let people tell you what type of product they would be interested in purchasing from you.
About the Author Connie Ragen Green teaches entrepreneurs how to use their writing to create an online empire, as well as how to use the technology necessary to be profitable on the internet. Visit Connie’s blog at http://www.EbookWritingandMarketingSecrets.com
Special offer Please download my Spring Jumpstart course to learn how you can begin building your online empire right away. This course can be found at http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts
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Crystal Thunell “COOL TO BE KIND” - The Art of Generosity and Laughter – a generous gift to your Health! The Generous Quest Generosity is a creative act, as living and acting generously can impact others, but the most transformed is the practitioner of generosity, for by being generous one becomes generous! We live in a waiting, needful ever-regenerating world. Charity is being moved to give. Generosity is being moved to change. The courage to change what is wrong in the world hinges on the courage to also change what is wrong inside one’s own heart. Practising Generosity Generosity can create the spiritual as well as personal, an ability to change and regenerate. When one commences to consciously practise generosity, it is vital to remember that it is not really about giving more money, or even more time, it is about being more generous with one self towards others, including those who criticize you or are threatened even, by your changing. The clearer you are when communicating, the easier it is for others to understand and let go of any residual prejudices or nagging reservations. The generous response to positive support and responses received is, simply to be grateful. Time is the most precious gift. Time can actually slow and expand if you know where you are to share it. You may know how much time to give or to whom you will give, but you also have to know where you are to practise your generosity. Have you ever noticed that when a friend or even a stranger, gives freely of their time when you may really just need an ear to listen, is really one of the most precious gifts on this Earth!! When you know where you are to give,
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then you will find that time doesn’t have such a stranglehold upon your life; time can be on your side. When it comes to personal relationships, you can give someone money, but it is not the same as relating. To relate, you give of yourself, you appreciate and value and understand someone else. Every spiritual law is about visible bonds, but this one especially so. I have a couple of very close friends amongst my circle who have been such a great example of real support and generosity, and I can tell that they truly enjoy giving from the heart. Their friendship is so precious to me and I will always feel privileged just to know them and spend some time with them. Giving time, as an art of right living, actually requires more discernment than giving money. When time is given, it is not just an hour or two, or an evening at a shelter, or a chat on the phone; generous people offer their heart and their gifts to regenerate others. We need to remember ourselves too as we need to give ourselves as much love and support that we give to others! Generosity depends on the practice of virtue and there are three reasons why: First, as a form of wisdom generosity is realized only in action. It gains its strength through constancy and not by being learned as a theory. One needs to pause to be clear about personal motives and discern how one’s choices serve others and express love. This orientation to others is the core of generosity. Second, as generosity will challenge the easy comforts and assumptions considered normal by the status quo, it is essential to prepare for criticism. There are downsides, risks and undersides to all choices. However, with virtue, it is possible to develop a foundation for standing on principle and daring an unconventional approach to life’s problems. Let’s not kid ourselves, practising generosity is often criticized or unwelcome. I’ve certainly experienced it several times in the corporate world and it’s disconcerting to say the least. Sometimes, by being generous and happy, people mistrust you which is always so alarming and disappointing! St. Francis of Assisi taught, “Those who possess one virtue will possess all the others, provided that they do not harm any of them”. A person who hurts one of the virtues offends all of them and does not possess any of them. Ten virtues that when practised and nurtured, inspire and give form to the art of generosity. Those wonderful virtues are: • • • • •
Courage Humility Discernment Compassion Mercy
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An exercise that one can try on a daily or at least weekly basis is to ask: Who have I been compassionate towards today (this week)? Where have I practised humility? etc. and try to think of all of the virtues while going about your day. IT PAYS TO BE NICE – COMMON TRAITS OF INTERPERSONAL COMPETENT PEOPLE 1. 2. 3.
Interpersonally competent people are self-aware. They understand themselves, and as a result they understand others. Interpersonally competent people build solid, long-lasting, mutually beneficial relationships with the people in their lives. Interpersonally competent people are able to resolve conflicts with a minimal amount of problems and upset to relationships.
We always remember those people who have and continue to treat us well and it means so much. Interpersonal competence comes from within. Build relationships and treat people well because it’s the right thing to do – not because you have something to gain from it. People can spot a phony a mile away. Some ideas to become more interpersonally competent are: •
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Work hard at relating well with all kinds of people. People who are different from you might make you feel uncomfortable at first. However, they also have the potential for teaching you something you didn’t know. I have experienced this countless times in my life and am always grateful for being fairly open minded. Listen well and demonstrate your understanding others’ points of view. Ask questions if you don’t understand; paraphrase (repeat your understanding) to ensure you got it right. I find that with the various generations and such a global communication now with different accents, etc. it always behooves one to have the person repeat the message for either reason. Be a consensus builder. If you focus on where you agree with another person, you’ll find that it will be easier to resolve differences and come to agreement. Learn how to relate to all kinds of people. Focus on building mutually beneficial relationships. Put others at ease. Be diplomatic and tactful and whenever possible and appropriate, bring some humour in to the exchange. Be warm, pleasant and gracious, and sensitive to the interpersonal needs and anxieties of others.
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Be receptive to feedback. Take a deep breath when you are angry. Don’t blow up. Present your side of things in a measured tone of voice. Take responsibility for your feeling. Don’t blame others if you are unhappy. Be easy to get to know. Share your feelings. Be open about your personal beliefs. Be attentive to the needs of others. Listen actively. Set a goal of listening twice as much as you speak. We’ve all heard the fact that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason! Avoid judging and criticizing and preparing your response while the other person is speaking. Instead, focus on understanding what they are saying, and the emotions behind what they are saying. Show others the respect they deserve as human beings – listen to them and do your best to put yourself in their shoes. Respond to the feelings they share with you before responding with facts. Be humble, not a know-it-all. Apologize when you’re at fault as promptly as possible. Recognize people and give them credit when they are correct. Speak only when you have something to add to the conversation. Don’t make comments just to hear yourself speak. Don’t state the obvious. Look people in the eye when you are speaking with them. Ask questions to clarify things that are not clear to you. Acknowledge other people for their contributions and talents. Everyone likes to hear nice things about themselves.
Laughter IS The Best Medicine! We all laugh in the same way and it gives everyone a chance to unite and share. Laughter is a mechanism by which one can influence the emotions of another and we all know how well it can “save the day” by slicing through the air that “could be cut with a knife”, as it certainly knows how to combat tension! Just a Few of the Benefits of Laughter Humour mitigates the effects of stress against our moods etc. With laughter there can be a change or decrease in adrenaline and cortisol and is definitely an upregulator. Laughter can actually help an individual get well in the disease process. It has been said that if you laugh, you don’t fall ill. That may be an exaggeration, however, the immune system can be regulated in something as simple as laughter! When even hearing laughter and others around us laughing, we experience a bit of a positive effect.
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Remember laughter is contagious and the easiest and best laughter usually is not about jokes, laughter causes laughter and can be a helpful tool we use when communicating and developing rapport with someone new. I loved a short story that I read recently about a 92-year old woman who has always loved making people laugh and said that she hoped she would always be able to make others laugh and laugh at herself. I would venture to guess this woman has seldom had a negative thought and has far better than average health!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Give as many people as possible when you see they are struggling, an encouraging word and whenever appropriate and possible, make them laugh! 2. Share some valuable information that you may have about anything at all that could help a friend or anyone, to reach a goal or ease a dilemma whenever possible. Give generously of tips and hints regularly to all and everyone! 3. Practice random acts of kindness consistently and recognize and praise people for their accomplishments and especially for their generosity! 4. Look for opportunities to laugh regularly and try making 3 people laugh every day, including yourself, for a week!
About the Author Crystal Thunell is an accomplished results-oriented entrepreneur and after spending 17 years in the legal field, has turned to her passion – People!! She has always enjoyed empowering others to realize their full potential in various areas of work she has been involved in, and is now happily a personal coach, public speaker and new author. Crystal brings her excellent communication and leadership skills to all of her endeavours and enjoys various coaching platforms at: http://www.igniteyourlifecoach.com and http://www.unlockyourlifepurpose.com
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Special offer Crystal is offering the first 10 people one hour of coaching for the price of 30 minutes. All Gold Book readers can go to http://www.wonderfllawofattraction.com/gifts to see how you can claim 50% off Crystal's coaching and begin living the life you were destined for and deserve!
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Debbie Ducic aka...GutZy Woman “Recipe for Attracting Personal and Business Success: HeartZ, BrainZ, GutZ” Although we spend much less time in the kitchen than we used to...we still LOVE a GREAT RECIPE! But just as our tastes have changed in what we consider to be a great dish, so have our tolerances changed in how we allow technology, the internet and marketing to affect our lives. What used to work just a few years ago just doesn't cut it anymore.
Ready or Not, The Future is Here... IMAGINE THIS...A GutZy Woman walks into her favourite room with her laptop in hand, heading toward the crackling fire in the fireplace. As she sits in her favourite reclining chair, she plays over in her mind just exactly what it is she wants to share with her thousands of followers. She clicks on her laptop, complete with built in camera and microphone and proceeds to address her audience around the world! Now this is amazing enough considering just a few years ago this was just a dream but she now has the capability to remain online and get feedback from her most trusted advisors IMMEDIATELY, in REAL TIME, face to face, through the wonders of computer technology.
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Welcome Back to Real Life... She sets her laptop down and heads into the kitchen to prepare her favourite meal, mulling over how she's going to handle the tremendous challenges ahead of her as a leader in this chaotic world. As she consults the recipe book a thought pops into her mind...she could narrow her plans to deal with those challenges down to a few simple recipes: Recipe for Personal and Business Disaster: Start with 1 Tough Economy Add Heaps of Usual Business Challenges Plus Several Challenges Unique to Women Don't Forget the Demise of Previously Proven Marketing Strategies Add an Avalanche of Change (Rapidly Advancing Technology) Blend in Global Competition Finish with A D D (Attention Scarcity) Epidemic END RESULT: A Society of stressed, overworked, undervalued, cynical, frustrated, confused, scared and broke business women. So what happened? It's a case of... Too Much information multi-tasking to buy to learn noise hype
Too Many choices responsibilities needs teachers messages products
Not Enough time help money mentors focus real solutions
So what do we do?
Let's Get GutZy! Let's MAXIMIZE our efforts by LEVERAGING the time we DO have by HARNESSING the challenges and the change using our HEART Z BRAIN Z & GUT Z
Let's walk away with an action plan for finding NEW CUSTOMERS & NEW PROFITS from a NEW PERSPECTIVE!
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RECIPE for PERSONAL & BUSINESS SUCCESS: #1 Ingredient Heart Z Must add Brain Z Dash of Gut Z New ingredient -
mandatory ingredient hard to do without definitely adds spice! cutting edge technologies- develop a taste for them
Final Dish: Satisfies GutZy Women's cravings for more ABUNDANCE & FREEDOM
HeartZ: The number 1 ingredient. Without this, the dish will fall flat. Vital to giving GutZy Women its' distinct flavor. Adds to a winning recipe. 1. Where to harvest? a. Web 1.0 VS Web 2.0 (Web 3.0 coming soon!) b. Social iMedia (Facebook, Ning, Twitter, LinkedIn, Digg, YouTube, et al) c. Video, Audio, podcast, teleseminar, webcast, blog, d. Forum, group, community, skype room, chat room, etc. 2. New species: a. less hype b. more value c. more honesty & ethics d. FREE! e. pull VS push marketing(Law of Attraction!) f. abundance VS scarcity mentality g. green, sustainable, holistic h. under promise & over deliver i. relationship building, relationship marketing
BrainZ: 1. How to Harvest: a. Life long learning...keep up with the times b. Do research & become a student of your business c. Invest in your business and your education d. Practice open mindedness - new things are discovered daily e. learn by doing - test - survey - ask f. join mastermind groups g. study other industries, countries, cultures, age groups, trends 2. New tools: a. Blogs, blogosphere b. Social iMedia: networking, bookmarking c. Wiki
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d. Podcast/Talkcast e. Video f. Audio g. Teleseminar/Webinar h. Webcast i. Online TV j. Virtual spokesperson
GutZ: 1. How to find: a. Concentrate on changing perception - Which of these is a bad word? change? Nope...change is essential! risk? Nope...risk is an integral part of doing business. leader? Obviously not...you know this one. Leadership is KEY! fear? Yep... even though it's normal and at times a good thing, it often stops us from accepting that change is essential. b. Convince yourself by studying up to date data: Traditional media VS digital media Trust VS Disgust Viral VS Paid Honored guest VS Party Crasher Free VS Profit Honesty VS Hype Maven VS Marketer
So much to learn...so little time! How do we do it? Align with those people and entities we respect, admire, trust and who truly care about helping us reach our highest potential as well as offer products and services we need to succeed ...NOT with those who are merely out to take our money as fast as they can, filling you with empty promises and half truths. At first we joined a GutZy Woman on a journey of the mind into the not too distant future. She then brought us back to the reality of following simple recipes in the kitchen...one leading to disaster, one to success. Whatever our reality is to us, there is no escaping the fact that the world as we know it is changing very quickly. The advances in technology are a HUGE part of that and we have a choice. We can choose to be overwhelmed and frozen by our perceived enormity of the tasks and changes ahead, or we can choose to join others who are willing and ready to take our hand and gently prod us to become the best we can be.
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Let's attract those who encourage us to bring our gifts and talents into the world in the honorable quest to provide the products, services, gifts, talents and leadership that we came into this world to provide...now and in the future... Which do YOU choose? Then LetZ Get GutZy and Take Action!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. HeartZ: Write down a list of your values, beliefs and passions and create a relationship with those of likemind on at least two NEW social networks. 2. BrainZ: Find at least one qualified, knowledgeable and experienced mentor or coach who can help you warp speed the process of educating yourself. INVEST in yourself! 3. GutZ: Step out of your comfort zone by taking one small ACTION … feel the success, then take another. Once a month try out a NEW technology, software or online marketing tool. In just a year, you'll have developed a whole new recipe for your own success!
About the Author Debbie Ducic (Do You See? I See) is the founder and CEO of GutZy Women llc. This International online company strives to attract, motivate, train and develop Gutzy Women (and Brave Men) as a way of life. It’s a belief system. It’s a new innovative and creative way of working together……Of dreaming together...Of manifesting together. Our reason for being is to establish credibility with other members of the GutZy Women community as ethical, qualified, experienced, talented, action oriented, and caring human beings who are passionate about helping others (especially women) create more abundance and freedom in their lives.
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It is our belief that new technologies and the world wide web are the key to opening up more possibilities for EVERYBODY, especially women. But education and involvement is essential. That's where GutZy Women fills the gap. In Debbie's 30 plus years of advocating for women as a community volunteer, as well as her entrepreneurial and career experience, she discovered that many people are intimidated, frustrated, and fearful or overwhelmed by computers and Internet technology. Women, especially baby boomers, want help. She deeply understands that and so approaches them with understanding, empathy and a gentle approach...a VERY DIFFERENT approach than the typical "techie" mentality. You can find her and many other INCREDIBLE GutZy Women from around the world @ http://www.gutzywomen.com http://www.debbieducic.com http://www.gutzywomen.ning.com http://www.youtube.com/gutzywomen
Special offer: For special gifts from Debbie, please visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts
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Gabriela Rosa “How to Find your Life Purpose NOW” Happily fulfilling one's life purpose brings immense happiness, which in turn leads to robust health and physical wellbeing. Does your life's purpose seem to be eluding you? Not sure what your "Life Purpose" is? Well, you have just found it! You may be saying to yourself right now: "Yeah, right! How can that be? I've been searching for my life purpose all this time and here's this crazy loony telling me I just found it!", — Fair enough. Let me explain. The thing about our life's purpose is that we tend to overcomplicate it. We think that if it is not mystical and amazing, it can't possibly be it. However, I'd like to pose a question to you. What do you think is the purpose of your life? If we 'zero base' it, which simply means make it *v-e-r-y* plain and simple-deep down inside, you feel happiest when you are living in unison with the natural laws of the universe (pure physics, mind you). The natural laws, one of which is the law of service illustrates the point well. The grand aim for us in this life is spiritual progression (even if at first we don't recognize it). The way we go about it in our day to day is also simple. In order to continue the experience we need to keep ourselves alive. In order for that to happen we need to work to feed ourselves and being on purpose whilst we do that means being happy whilst adding value and solving other people's 'urgent problems'. Whether you clean houses for a living or run multi-national corporations, you are on purpose when each day you are happy and can't wait to start your day because it is another opportunity to positively touch someone else's life in a positive way--adding value to them.
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You see the creator of all life inscribed in each one of us a very simple program: "become better than you are, whilst helping your neighbour do the same!" It is within our daily activities that we find the opportunity and the lessons necessary to act out that program. These very opportunities help us make the necessary attitude choices in order to gain the most out of our learning: The purpose of this life. You see our purpose as spiritual beings having a physical experience is to improve ourselves and come closer to perfection. In so doing we help those around us do the same and hence improve the collective consciousness. Making the universe a better place for everyone; and it all starts with one person at a time. Precessional Effect Buckminster Fuller explained it best. 'Precession’, which is different to ‘Procession’ is an inevitable consequential result of our actions. A processional activity is one based on linear action, where the outcome is the result of an intention. A precessional effect is a side–effect that is often unexpected and usually operates at right–angles to the ‘Processional’ effects (in the way that when a pebble drops into a pond, the resulting ripples on the surface propagate out at right–angles to the direction of the pebble’s travel). We see precessional side-effects clearly throughout nature. Bees are a good example. The bee needs honey, so it flies from flower to flower, collecting nectar in an intentional and straight–forward cause and effect process. However, the precessional side–effect of this activity is such that flowers are pollinated in the process creating all sorts of beautiful and necessary effects in nature. In His wisdom, the Great Spirit gave bees and humans the need to work to provide for 'self', knowing that in doing so precession would take care of the rest, thus ensuring his creatures' purposes are fulfilled daily. The more conscious you become about yourself and the need to add value to other people's lives the more valuable your precessional impact. This is also how together we can change the world, one person at a time. Cause and Effect Precession is the consequential aspect of our activity - the result of our actions. When looking for your life purpose you only need to concern yourself with answering yes to 3 simple questions.
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1. Am I adding value and having a meaningfully positive effect on the lives of the people that cross my path? 2. Am truly coming from my heart and do I have other people's best interests (not just my own) as my priority? 3. Am I honestly happy in this pursuit? Does it make my heart sing? The precessional effect you have on this world doesn't require outward material success and recognition although you may certainly desire it and (consequentially) receive it—what it does however require is that you go about the business of your heart, diligently. Whether or not you answer yes to the questions above, fundamentally you are already fulfilling your life's purpose. However the ideal is for you to be able to answer YES and joyfully fulfill that purpose. However, be sure to be realistic about it, just because you answer yes to the above questions it does not mean you are going to be 100% happy with your activity 100% of the time. The key is to honour yourself and start making changes (first within yourself) that will accommodate a circumstantial change in direction for you. How do I change course? Here are a couple of ways to help you get started in joyfully fulfilling your life purpose: Get really clear First you need to assess where you are and where you want to be. Get really clear about the simple things in your activities that make you happy in your life and that add value to other people. And start doing more of those, applying leverage wherever possible. There are many processes to help you with this: keeping a diary and writing down your thoughts, meditation, emotional freedom technique and even prayer are some of the ways to gain clarity. Focus on your strengths Playing on your strengths is going to be the one thing that will make you happiest and most successful in adding value to yourself and others. Any professional athlete will tell you that they work to bring their weaknesses to competency level, but their greatest focus and diligence is to further develop their strengths!
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Listen to your heart If you hate something—stop doing it. Get educated, get creative and start doing what you love. Life is too short to be miserable. However, take RESPONSIBILITY for your actions and be smart about your change in focus and remember as the great motivator Zig Ziglar says "You can have everything in life you want as long as you will help enough other people get what they want!" Face your fears Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote: "There’s nothing capricious in nature, and the implanting of a desire indicates that its gratification is in the constitution of the creature that feels it". In short you wouldn't have a desire unless you were capable of its achievement. Believe in yourself and break through your fears. Persist One thing about life is that your commitment will be consistently and sometimes seemingly, aggressively tested. Be ready for this. Just because you are 'on purpose' does not mean it is going to be easy all of the time - we have a lot to learn! Too many say they 'want' and they 'will', but too few 'get' and 'do'—not because they can't but because they DESIST—too often just when they are about to get the desired result. Don't let that happen to you, believe in yourself. Replace negative thoughts with a new mantra: "No matter how bad it is or how hard it gets, I AM GOING TO MAKE IT!" Choose to be extraordinary--the seed is already in you! © 2008 Gabriela Rosa and Natural Fertility & Health Solutions P/L
Action Box So, what are you waiting for?
1. Get clear about your strengths. There are many ways to do this including a great book by Marcus Buckingham, Now, Discover Your Strengths. 2. Listen to your heart. Forget about doing things just to please other people. You will end up pleasing no one to your own bitter discontentment. Choose right now to be true to yourself.
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3. Face your fears. Nothing in life is as bad as we make it out to be in our head. Choose to let it go now! Find out how: http://www.boostyourhealthnow.com/wonderfulwebwomen
About the Author Sydney-based natural fertility specialist, author and researcher Gabriela Rosa is the founder and director of Natural Fertility & Health Solutions—a multi modality, integrative medicine practice specializing in women’s health, men’s health and natural fertility treatment. Gabriela is the author of four books, including 'Eat Your Way To Parenthood: The Diet Secrets Of Highly Fertile Couples Revealed' (GoKo Publishing 2008). Gabriela is truly devoted to creating healthy and happy families by helping bring healthy babies into the world and empowering individuals through better health. Towards this end Gabriela publishes two ezines the weekly ‘Natural Fertility Booster’ and the fortnightly ‘Natural Health Booster’.
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Helen Meader “Weight Consciousness - How to be Your Perfect Weight” Vital Secrets You Need to Know To Be Successful With Your Weight Loss Journey There is a little know secret to losing weight that very few people are even aware of let alone talk about, yet it is the foundation for your success or otherwise. This is what I call Weight Consciousness. Have you ever lost weight only to find that down the track you have put it all back on again – and some? You had it all together when you lost the weight… so how did this happen? Fundamentally you were only working on the symptoms of your weight gain – not the cause! It is no different to any other issue where the body is out of alignment, there are the symptoms that we can see the runny nose, the skin rash, the excess weight yet we know that the runny nose is being caused by something else, the skin rash has erupted due to another influence – yet many times we only focus on the symptoms and treat them, then wonder why the problem keeps coming back or never quite resolves itself!! Welcome to the world of weight ‘struggles’, the ‘I am trying to lose weight’, the ‘I’ll lose weight when….’, ‘Once x is over/resolved I will be able to lose weight’ – WRONG!! Unless you resolve the underlying issues that are driving you to be the weight you are, then I am sorry to tell you – the weight problem will not be resolved permanently.
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Look out for the January 2009 edition of the Oprah magazine where Oprah discusses this issue and what has been her learning. Here is a snippet from the article. “I have to focus on being fully alive, awake, present, and engaged, connected in every area of my life. Right now. What I've learned this year is that my weight issue isn't about eating less or working out harder, or even about a malfunctioning thyroid. It's about my life being out of balance, with too much work and not enough play, not enough time to calm down. I let the well run dry. Here's another thing this past year has been trying to teach me: I don't have a weight problem—I have a self-care problem that manifests through weight. As my friend Marianne Williamson shared with me, "Your overweight self doesn't stand before you craving food. She's craving love." Falling off the wagon isn't a weight issue; it's a love issue.” Did you hear what she just said? It is not about her eating or working out – for Oprah the issues she has identified for herself are about self care and love. What are your issues? Let’s explore these.
What is Weight Consciousness? Your weight is simply an indicator of what is going on in your life. Weight Consciousness is a life affirming process for building your foundation for your weight loss, this is a process for determining what beliefs and life issues are driving your success or otherwise with your weight. Weight Consciousness is about removing the complication and overwhelm which create resistance and lack of connection within you and instead taking the peaceful path to inner harmony and your ideal weight. This is a life affirming process of coming home to you.
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The process requires you to get to know yourself at a deep level; you will be required to really look at yourself and to discover the beliefs that have been driving your lack of permanent success – to date. If you are willing to be honest with yourself you will be amazed how quickly things can change, and you will reconnect to the amazing person inside and feel fabulous about yourself in the process.
What is the Weight Consciousness Process? This simple 7 step process is about building a solid foundation for understanding yourself and your own personal journey. Each of us has an individual journey to follow; Weight Consciousness is about you finding your own journey – your own particular path of ease and grace. In each step you will be reviewing the beliefs that are holding you back from your success, try to be as honest with yourself as you can. Step 1. Set Your Intention Set your intention now for what you wish to get out of this process and set your intention for your own personal Weight Consciousness journey. The more important something is to you, the more likely it will happen. Ask yourself how important is it to achieve your weight goal, and to achieve it now. What is it that you actually want to achieve right now, not in five years time but now? For example, my clear intention is to lose weight easily and simply surrounded by supportive encouraging people. I easily see what I need to clear or change and am able to assimilate and integrate any insights quickly. My journey is safe and effortless; my skin is smooth and clear. I easily choose the right foods to nourish and nurture my body and soul. I am energetic and inspired. I inspire others around me with my achievements. My journey is filled with fun and laughter. Now write your intention. Write down everything you can think of, do not skimp on yourself and have faith. My clear intention for me is ________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________ Step 2. Make Your Decision and Set Your Goal “Our power is in our ability to decide.” Buckminster Fuller
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A decision to do something is like a line in the sand; it is a statement to the universe and yourself that you are choosing to change something in your life, this is a critical step, for without a soul affirming decision the results will be mediocre at best and at worst, will see you revert straight back to the weight you were or heavier. Decide to make the changes that are right for you, decide to live your life with energy and passion; decide to achieve your goals. I your name , have decided to ________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________ You may have some beliefs running that will get in your way even before you start, review the following list and see if anything resonates with you, if so you will need to clear this before you can move forward. Decisions are hard to make Decisions don’t work I might get it wrong I am afraid to make a decision I might make the wrong decision I am afraid to make the decision to lose weight I have to take time to make a decision Making decisions about my weight courts disaster Making a decision about my weight means failure What is your goal? Write it down and see how you feel about it. My ideal weight is ___________ lbs/kgs Is this causing a stress? Is your mind chatter already telling you that this is impossible? Or, that it is not possible until…, by…, before…. or it is not possible ever? Can you see now why you may be finding the permanent solution elusive? Your mind and your beliefs are amazingly powerful and can trip you up if you do not take the time to identify the beliefs that are running your success and then clearing and changing them. Step 3. Are You Committed to Your Intention and Your Decision
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You also need to look at your commitment, are you actually committed to making the changes or are there some beliefs preventing you from making a full commitment? Living life in the body of your dreams is not hard if you are willing to stop doing the few things that are killing your results and start doing the few things that will accelerate your progress and along the way clear any issues as they arise. Do any of the following beliefs ring true for you? I can’t commit to things I can’t commit to things for me I am afraid to commit I can’t commit to my weight loss Step 4. What Got Me Here? “The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.” Winston Churchill Take the time to clear the past and the issues that have got you to here. Your weight is a reaction, a response to something in your consciousness, through this process you can learn to love everything that has happened to you and to learn from each experience. The key to your weight loss and never having a weight issue again is to allow your body the environment where the perfect program for you is activated rather than the current program. Work with your body not against it. The goal is to return your body to the place where it is safer for you to be your perfect weight than to be the weight you are now. When your body is in harmony weight loss will become automatic - easy and inevitable. Here are some beliefs that may be running your outcomes. Weight loss is a long and slow journey Weight loss is hard I am not allowed to be healthy I am not allowed to be my ideal weight I am not allowed to lose weight If I lose weight I won’t be healthy If I lose weight too fast I will get sick I am not allowed to lose weight fast
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Step 5. What Keeps Me Stuck? Think of your body as a pendulum, as a stress indicator. Your weight is then simply an indicator of things not being perfect for you. Weight Consciousness is thus a process of listening to your body; exploring, clearing and re-learning what, at a soul level we already know. You are an individual and your journey will be very different from the next person’s, so be sure to honour where you are at. The path will come from within you, not from outside of yourself. Your weight has happened for a reason, life is perfect, all is meant to be and your life is as it should be. Let go of any attachment you may have to how you think it should be and work with what is presented to you. Your world, your current reality is telling you what you need to know and what you need to clear to achieve your goal. Whatever is around you is a reflection of you, see this as a blessing and use the insights to move forward. Look at your life NOW, use the gift of what is happening in your life right now. Who is being attracted into your life and what experiences are you bringing into your life? List these down as they are a great source of insight and information. What am I seeing around me, what is bothering me or annoying me? Who is around me, what qualities do they possess? What do I like about them or their behaviour? What do I dislike about them or their behaviour? What is this telling me about where I am at in my life right now? Are you doing things to stay fat? There are reasons and benefits for staying where you are currently. Explore what is going on for you and allow yourself to gain insights that will enable you to move out of this place. Are you habitually afraid to move forward to the life and the body of your dreams and your desires? What are the things that you are currently doing habitually that are undermining your weight goals? I am ________________________________________________ And ________________________________________________ And sometimes _______________________________________ And the things I don’t really want to see in myself that I am doing are ________________________________________________________________
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Here are some beliefs that may be holding you in this place. Women in my family are fat Fat is in my genes I am weighed down by all I have done in my life I am weighed down by all I have not done in my life I am meant to be fat I was born to be fat I deserve to be fat If I lose weight my partner won’t love me My spouse prefers me to be fat My family prefer me to be fat My fat keeps my spouse/family safe I always make bad food choices Nothing is healthy for me All the food I love is bad for me Food helps me relax and feel good I am not good enough to be my ideal weight I am not allowed to lose weight I do not deserve to be happy I do not deserve to be happy with my body I will not allow myself to be my ideal weight I will not allow myself to be happy with my weight I will not allow myself to be happy with my body I must stay fat I love being fat Step 6. The Way Forward “To keep a lamp burning we have to keep putting oil in it”. Mother Teresa So you have now cleared a path to move forward, yet there can still be some hesitation. So whilst you may believe that you are ready to move on you may also believe that you are not. This can be a time of ‘Yes’ “I am ready to move forward to my perfect weight” as well as ‘No’ “I am not ready to move forward to my perfect weight”. You must clear these tug-of-war situations that are going on in your body otherwise you will keep reverting back to issues that you thought you had cleared. Look at beliefs like the following. I can’t trust my body
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I need to control my body I don’t know how to listen to my body My body is the enemy I have lost touch with my body It is not really safe to move forward with my weight goals My mind is the ruler, not my heart My head overrules my heart I can’t trust myself It is OK to be stressed about my weight I am starving myself My weight is protecting me from all the changes in my life It is not safe for me to follow my heart I am starving for / longing for Love Fun Joy Intimacy Personal fulfilment Complete the following sentences. I am starving for __________________________________________ I am longing for ___________________________________________ I am waiting for ___________________________________________ Step 7. Maintaining Focus Maintaining focus is about staying on track in the easiest possible way and making life easy for you. What is the easiest way for you to move forward? Where will you get the quickest wins, the easiest success? How will you support yourself daily to achieve your dreams? As your life changes you will need to keep revisiting what is the right thing for you, as you evolve and change so do your challenges and issues, so do not take your eye off the ball, re-focus, re-group and re-develop new foundations - new intentions, decisions, goals and commitments to them.
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Daily review your intentions, decisions, goals and your commitment to them. Write them down and read them morning on rising and nightly before you go to sleep.
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Get support for your journey. Support yourself by following the steps in this chapter, surround yourself with supportive people, and create the physical environment that will support your success.
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Jump and grow your wings on the way down. Go for the ultimate life you desire and see where the journey takes you.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? What do YOU need to do RIGHT NOW to build your Weight Consciousness? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.
Set Your Intention Make Your Decision Commit To It Devote Time To Get To Know Yourself Get Support for Your Journey Have FUN
About the Author Hi, I am a life long advocate of human potential. I fundamentally believe that we human beings have far greater capacity than anyone knows. My passion is about exploring that capacity through Weight Consciousness. For me looking back I can see that at every point in my life where I had an issue with my weight there was something other than what I was eating that was driving the outcome. I actively started my own personal development journey in 1992 and have been a life coach since 2000.
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I was introduced to Theta Healing and became a Theta Healing Practitioner in 2005 and discovered that when a person is ready, healing and change can be instant; the only thing getting in the way of this is you and your beliefs.
Special offer For readers of Law of Attraction In Action Volume 2, 2009 I have 2 FREE gifts. 1. An mp3 of some fabulous beliefs and amazing feelings to listen to that will support you to fast track your journey. 2. Join my eZine list to receive regular updates, articles, interviews and the latest information on beliefs and Weight Loss. Go to http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts where there are links to Helen’s website to receive your gifts.
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Janet Attwood “The Transforming Power of Letting Go” Have you ever let go of it all? The most remarkable things can happen when you surrender completely. Letting go and trusting in the universe is probably the all time greatest challenge anyone can face. Walking in the dark with total blind faith, not knowing where the next safe footing will be, afraid that the unknown will unveil more than we can take. One of my first experiences of consciously handing it all over to the universe was in 1980. I was in a job recruiting disk drive engineers in Silicon Valley and was failing miserably. Luckily for me, one day after work when I was meditating in the local meditation center, I opened my eyes, and glanced upon a sign on the bulletin board that advertised a success seminar called “Yes To Success” to be held in San Francisco the following weekend. All circuits firing, I knew that somehow the answer to my prayers had everything to do with taking that seminar. My intuition couldn’t have been more on! Not only did I take the seminar, but I eventually persuaded the seminar leader, a vivacious and passionate woman named Debra Poneman, to hire me. As luck would have it, Debra was going on her U.S. speaking tour at the same time I was to arrive in Los Angeles where her company was located and she needed someone to housesit. She said I could stay in her apartment, study her success tapes while she was gone and when she returned, I could start my illustrious career, uplifting and speaking to hundreds of people all over the world. I was in seventh heaven! Two weeks later, after Debra and I finalized our plans, I said goodbye to all of my friends at the recruiting firm, packed my bags, filled my vintage red Toyota up http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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with gas and headed down to Los Angeles, radio blaring, singing at the top of my lungs, ecstatic that I was on my way to start my dream career. Two miles into my journey my little red Toyota started sputtering and spurting. Steam started rising up over the front of my car from inside the hood and as I was pulling over to the side of the freeway to see what was going on, my trusty little red car took one big breath, let out the most God awful sound and died. Horrified, I just sat there frozen by the side of the freeway, stunned at what had just happened. After the initial shock of losing my beloved Toyota, I came up with an alternate plan to take a train down to Los Angeles. After paying the tow truck to tow my car, buying my train ticket to Los Angeles, and then taking a long taxi ride to Debra’s apartment in Santa Monica, to my dismay and alarm, I arrived at Debra’s door with $13.00 to my name. Frozen with fear that Debra wouldn’t hire me to go out and teach other people her success principles if she knew I was completely broke, I said nothing while we were together and kept a sunny smile on my face until Debra finally waved good-bye to me. “Now what am I going to do?” I thought to myself. Feeling totally weighed down by the fact that I hardly had enough money to last me more than a few days, I went to Debra’s refrigerator and scooped myself a huge serving of her chocolate ice cream. After eating almost the whole ½ gallon, I laid down on her couch and fell into a drunken chocolate sleep. When I awoke I decided there was only one option when things got this bad. I grabbed the keys to Debra’s blue chevy which she had said I could borrow for emergencies and headed down the Coast Highway with a renewed sense of hope. I knew my poverty state would soon be over. Arriving at the great Saint, Paramahansa Yogananda’s “Self Realization Fellowship Meditation Center” in Pacific Palisades, I immediately felt a deep sense of calm take over me. I walked past all of the beautiful buildings to the majestic and serene gardens that graced this special place. Reaching into my purse I pulled out my treasured, crisp one dollar bills and stuffed all $13.00 into a little wooden donation box that was located in the garden.
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When I had donated all I had, I sat down on a nearby wooden bench and had a very intimate talk with God, pouring out my heart and telling him all that was going on with me and where I could use a little of his support. After a little while, I walked back to Debra’s car, knowing that letting go of all the money I had left in the world absolutely had to be the best thing I could have ever done. I didn’t know why I felt that way, but I did. I headed back to Debra’s apartment and the minute I walked in, the phone rang. “Hello” I said. “Janet, is that you?” “Uh huh” “Who’s this?” I asked “It’s me, Patrick” Patrick was my ex-husband’s father whom I totally loved and hadn’t heard from in over a year. “Hi Patrick, it’s so nice to hear from you, how did you find me?” I asked. After we chatted on the phone for some time, he invited me to meet him for lunch at a nearby restaurant. Patrick was unbelievably animated and talking 100 miles a minute. He had just started selling a natural weight loss program he was really excited about. He put four bottles of the stuff on the table and said this was just the beginning for me. “Janet” he said. “I think this is something you could really make a lot of money on in your spare time if you wanted to.” Patrick still had that same sparkle in his eyes I had always loved and when he spoke about the products he had set down before me, I couldn’t help but start to feel excited about it too. “The opportunity sounds great” I said. “How about when I have some extra money, I’ll order some from you?” “I don’t think you should wait that long” Patrick said to me smiling.
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“I just happen to have $500.00 worth of the stuff in the trunk of my car. “You can have these bottles on the table and the $500.00 worth as well. Pay me back after you sell it and make some money for yourself”. Just as he handed over the four bottles our very overweight waitress walked up to our table and said to me, “What’s that?” I told her everything I could remember that Patrick had just told me about the products. “I’ll take everything you have!” and she immediately whipped out a $100.00 bill from her apron, grabbed the bottles and walked away. I sat there stunned, and overjoyed. Thanking Patrick as we said goodbye, I headed home. This experience was a profound lesson for me. One which I’ve remembered often during the twenty-six years since these events took place. We are always taken care of. Donating my last $13.00 was my way of surrendering to that force which is always looking after us. I learned that all that’s required of me is to let go of my agenda, and surrender to God’s will for me. When we do that, the result is always better than what we could have come up with on our own.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Take a leap of faith and put your trust in the universe 2. Let it go. Surrender to the force that is always looking after us 3. Be open that the result will be better than you could come up with on your own
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About the Author Janet Attwood combines a unique blend of spirituality and practical, useful knowledge that can be put to use immediately. Her passion and focus is supporting people, in every part of the world, in knowing their personal greatness. Janet is the co-author of the New York Times bestseller, The Passion Test – The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Destiny. She is also co-founder of one of the largest online transformational magazines in the world, Healthy Wealthy nWise with 150,000 subscribers and of Enlightened Alliances, a marketing firm that was responsible for arranging 36 of the 52 interviews for the movie and book, The Secret. Janet’s latest passion is working with homeless women in transition and youth in detention Centers.
Special offer Janet shares many gifts for you to help you discover your true passion in life. You can find out more at http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts
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Jashmuna Sabine Nebel “How to unlock your inner source of unlimited creativity” Why struggle is a contradiction to life - a practical life lesson Whenever I hear the word “struggle”, an association with an incisive experience pops up in my mind. It was in the early 70’s, during a vacation in Austria. We were out swimming in a lake, when suddenly my legs got entangled in stems of water lilies that were invisible on the water’s surface. Being in a panic I struggled to get free – and the more I struggled, the more my legs became “knotted” in the stems. I was close to drowning, and would have if a friend had not guided me out. He instructed me to stop moving and calm down. “Relax,” he said, “stop moving and relax, breathe. Now focus on the shore, calmly use your arms only and swim towards the shore”. I did and amazingly, with graceful ease, the stems let go my legs and I could swim away effortlessly. This experience became a key metaphor. What can we learn from it? Struggling is a contradiction to life’s flow. Focus needs stillness. So what do entangled legs have to do with the power of the mind?
The power of stillness We hear it over and over again “where the attention goes, the energy flows”. However, the human mind loves complication. Yet truth is always in simplicity. Harnessing your power has nothing to do with “getting the Law of Attraction working in your favour”, as the Law of Attraction works always and any way and is impersonal. But it has everything to do with mastering and educating your mind.
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You don’t have to work through countless different methods of meditation, exercises, seminars or books. Isn’t this rather experiencing a method than experiencing who you are? So, stop searching for the right way, and start finding yourself, your source. You don’t have to meditate all day even. Instead of meditating half an hour every day – just to fall trapped into the unconscious selftalk for the rest of the day – make your entire day a vivid meditation. Start to perceive how your mind actually works. When you find yourself dwelling on a problem, struggling in circles for a solution, trying to figure out how to reach your desired goal, or focussing on something unwanted, use this to observe your mind. Observe your self-talk, notice the content of your thoughts. Observe objectively: how much of your self-talk is proven, founded truth? Notice how much assumptions, speculations, definitions, conclusions the mind dwells on. If you observe objectively and start to question the truth of every negative thought, you will soon become aware, that the rational mind behaves like a monkey. It almost never has real facts, but because the mind wants security, it rules your being and pretends to understand and know everything. It feels uncomfortable when it does not understand a matter, so it fills the gaps with speculations, which turn into paradigms. Where does the mind take its conclusions from? It pulls out the stored archives from your past experiences. So, it thinks in circles inside the known box. The rational mind keeps you in the trance of your memory, and its projection onto the canvas of your outside reality. It is this trance, unawareness that disconnects you from the source. To awaken, the first step is objective observation. As soon as you become aware of how your mind works, you have created a space between you and your thinking mind. Without this space, you cannot control your life – because your mind controls you. Controlling your life means to control your mind. So, when you catch yourself having fallen unconscious again – stop moving in your mind, defocus and observe your thoughts. Simply observe, and do not change anything. This will lead you to the awareness that in truth your rational mind knows nothing and that you are not your mind. Knowing nothing means freedom: every moment is completely new, has never been before and will never be again, every moment is unique, and it is impossible to know anything about it. It is the assuming, speculating, defining, limiting monkey-mind’s noise that disconnects the awareness from the source that constantly flows into the NOW. Your source, your true eternal being, is stillness. Stillness is awareness, awareness of the Now. Awareness of the Now is the access-point of universal information.
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Releasing blocking beliefs By simply observing your mind, there is no need to dig deeply for any “hidden” blockages. They are not really hidden, but when we are entangled in thoughts, we usually are just not aware of those thoughts being just that: our familiar blocking patterns. While you observe your mind, you now become aware effortlessly, of those unquestioned convictions and thought habits. Now extend your awareness into your body sensations: which emotions are tied up with your thoughts, where in your body do you sense them? Simply observe and do not judge anything. Don’t try to fix or change anything. Simply accept everything as it is. Also, do not name or define it. Just observe your emotions that are there now, and the sensations in your body. Relax and observe. Acknowledge the wholeness of what is now. By observing and accepting you embrace your emotions with acceptance, which means, you lovingly acknowledge your being the way you are in this present moment. That is what your blocking emotions want; just being acknowledged in the light of your consciousness. It is an act of self-love, and in the sun of your loving acceptance, they can melt away. It is important not to define anything, so, you cut the tie between thought and emotion. Observing the emotional sensation as what it is, you will notice, that it is just energy. Observing puts it back into the flow. Just like you would do, if you sit on the shore of a flowing river, observing the water flowing, observing the weed and clutter – you won’t jump into the river, you won’t try to dig the weed out or get caught in analysing where the clutter comes from and why it is there or how terrible it looks like. You simply sit and observe and allow the flow. To help you release, you can gently place your hand on the area where you sense the blockage and observe how your hand feels like on your body. Just observe and allow.
Uniting your whole being in the moment of Now While you objectively observe your thoughts and emotions, extend your awareness and include all your senses. What do you see around you? Which sounds or noises can you hear right now? Are there any smells, what do you taste? Become fully aware of everything that you can perceive in this very moment. Listen to the stillness between sounds, between your thoughts. The stillness where all thoughts, feelings, shapes and sounds emanate from. It is the stillness where you perceive from. You are the observer and the observed is a projection of your observation. The stillness is the source of your being and of everything in your world as all creation that you can perceive is a manifestation of your own thoughts. The stillness is the center-point of your universe.
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Being fully aware in the Now you will find, there is no real problem to solve, there is nothing to struggle, there is no problem and no challenge. There is only peace and grace. The Now is the only reality and flow of life. Being in the Now means, being back home. In the stillness of the Now lies the magic point where the human mind empties into the cosmic consciousness. As you constantly train and educate your mind by defocusing and observing, you are in constant meditation. When you are aware in the Now, you connect with the beauty and perfect harmony even behind trivial daily activities like brushing teeth, waiting in queues, or writing checks. Only in the Now are the rational and intuitive mind, the left and right brain, in synchronicity, and your consciousness is open to the unknown. Here you find answers and solutions, great ideas, and the never ending flow of creativity.
Defocus and focus How often have you heard “stop focussing on the unwanted and focus only on what you really want”? Well, it isn’t always easy to do, is it? If you are stuck in a problem, it is like fighting against a giant, when you try to “not to think about problem x”. And there is a reason why. Actually it is a misconception as shifting the focus alone does not solve the movie that the mind is used to being busy with. It is the controlling mind trying to control itself, and that does not work. We think 10s of 1000s of thoughts a day, so it is not possible to control them all. Instead of fighting against your thoughts, train your mind to defocus as explained previously. When you experience how your mind works and that you are not your mind, it becomes effortless to release unwanted thoughts. If you are going to win a marathon, you can’t start while you are stressed out and your muscles are tired from constant tension. First you need to relax and recharge, releasing tension, so you can use your full resources for the new tension needed for the marathon. It’s the same with the mind. For an effective focus the mind needs to be relaxed. Imagine you drive from A to B. You just know that you will arrive at B and before you started and during your drive, you are effortlessly focused on B. At the same you are aware of the present moment and the road before you. It is effortless. That’s exactly what focus really means. It is not a desperate or stressful concentration or visualization. It is rather your consciousness bundled into a laser beam embracing your goal while fading out everything that is not in alignment with your goal, and at the same being completely aware of the very moment of Now. You keep your desired goal in your relaxed vision, while you are aware of your source in the Now, and it is in this Now where you get signs, hunches, ideas, new
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opportunities or new persons, information – ready to act on them as soon as you perceive them. It is really that simple – yet not simplistic. Defocus by objective observation, be aware in the Now, keep your vision, listen to the signs and ideas etc. that emanate from the stillness of the Now, act on them. Too simple? Of course it takes some effort to educate the mind, but then, to learn how to use a computer or how to drive a car takes some effort as well at first. What could be more important than to train your innate power tool – your mind!
Cause and projection As above, so below; as inside, so outside – the outside reality is an exact reflection of your inside world. It is a projection of your mind. So, trying to solve a problem by controlling outer circumstances is just like struggling to get the legs free from entanglement with water lilies. It rarely solves a situation, but even tightens the knots. There is no answer in a reflection, just like you cannot change your image in a mirror, no matter what you tell the mirror. The source and cause of everything you experience “outside” is inside you. Instead of wasting your energy in dwelling on “he said this, and she did that, why is the recession and I hate my job because…”, shift your attention to your inside world. Observe the cause where the outer circumstances emanate from. You don’t need to understand why you have manifested this situation. Simply acknowledge that you have, listen into your body where you might feel any emotions or sensations, observe them, observe your thoughts, accept and allow them to be released. Feel the peace of the stillness between the thoughts, and be open for the solution and answers.
Awakening into your enlightened being As you see, it does not need complicated methods or 5 decades of meditation. Enlightenment and the mastery of deliberate creation is one. The key is simplicity. There is nothing to add or to become “before”. You are perfect and whole here and now, all you need is to let go of your mind’s chitchat that holds you in a fiction of life and keeps you away from life. Educating your mind is easy to do though it can take some effort and perseverance. The more you practice awareness, the longer the periods will become where you stay aware and your consciousness expands and shifts. The periods where you feel your inner stillness, the sense of who you really are, eternally. Your inner source is the source of everything that exists, it is love, peace, serenity, beauty, infinite creativity, health, power, wisdom – it is your I Am.
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Observe your mind’s self-talk objectively, defocus 2. Observe your emotions without judgement, defocus 3. Be aware in the NOW and your inner stillness 4. Listen to signs, ideas, and hunches in the Now 5. Act on your ideas, signs etc. that you receive in the Now
About the Author Jashmuna, born 1957 in Germany, spent most of her life researching and studying the power of the human mind and the true nature of love. Being a former nurse, she went through a terminal disease in her early years herself, which gifted her an invaluable lesson and quantum leap in spiritual growth, as she learned to connect her unconscious power and the infinite intelligence of the divine source resulting in complete healing and spiritual awakening. She studied and worked with alternative healing methods, such as herbal medicine, acupuncture, and energy healing. She practiced Shamanism, Kundalini Yoga, Taoism, as well as Reiki, and light work. She has developed a powerful light energy system for clearing and healing the physical-emotional-mental bodies, and offers distance energy healing & coaching. She is a workshop leader, meditation teacher, life coach, energy healer, artist, writer, and her heart's purpose is to support others connecting their divine source of bliss, to create their own miracles and live the life they truly desire.
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Dr Joanna Martin “The Four P's to Making Big Money as A Speaker”
It cannot be denied that fame and fortune go hand in hand. So how are you leveraging your talents when it comes to marketing your business? Public speaking is one of the fastest ways to grow a business, and certainly to add a significant amount to your bottom line. Using the simple formula outlined below we have been able to go from business startup to revenue of over $450K in three months. So I believe this system is one of the quickest ways to boost your business profit. However, it is not just a case of standing in front of a group and having a yarn. There are some basic principles you must take into account before you can be sure that speaking is the right strategy for your business. I call them The Four P's of Successful Presenting:
Passion If you don't believe in what you're talking about, you shouldn't be talking about it! Your audience is not dumb, and will see right through you if you are not being authentic. Speak about topics that you are passionate about. Therefore, if you are tired of your business and no longer inspired by it, putting yourself out there and running presentations is not such a good idea- you might just get found out.
People What’s more, the topic of your presentation must be something that other people are passionate about. These people become your target market. If you're the
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only person on the earth who cares about your topic, you won't have a very big audience and you won't get sales! If this is the case, it sounds like your passion is more of a hobby than a business.
Products Next, we have to make some money. Having something to sell is necessary to monetizing a successful speaking business. If you already have a business selling products and services, you are at an advantage. All you need to do is put together a killer presentation to inspire people to buy from you.
Presentation Finally, you must also practice and perfect your presentation. Delivering your message is important and there is a formula to it. If you would like to find out the 7 Steps to A Dynamic Presentation that takes someone from “who the hell are you” to “here’s my credit card, sign me up” then go to http://wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Determine what you are passionate about in your business 2. Determine what topic in your business your target market is passionate about 3. Create products to sell from your presentation 4. Learn and refine a powerful presentation
About the Author Dr Joanna Martin is an internationally acclaimed speaker and sought-after educator who has taught over 40,000 people on three continents. She started her working life as a medical practitioner, then an actor before launching her career as an NLP Trainer and CEO of “Shift Lifestyle”... Joanna started small like most of us - her first business was as a life coach in Australia, and through a series of happy coincidences (and damn dedicated
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study of marketing) she was quickly approached by some of the movers and shakers of Sydney’s business scene. Her odd mix of being intelligent enough to pull off a medical career, with her irreverent performer’s attitude (she was trained at the prestigious “Actors Centre Australia” - other alumni include Hugh Jackman and Nicole Kidman) made her memorable in the field of communications and transformation. A quick rise to success Before long she was consulting to companies such as ANZ bank, John Fairfax Publishing and Ebay, as well as working with individual small business owners and lesser known but very successful firms in the Sydney business scene. She was then invited by Christopher Howard to take on the role of Head of Research and Training for his organisation where her speaking career sky rocketed! Living her dreams Today, she trains entrepreneurs and professionals alike in key communication, leadership, and presentation skills. With her partner Greg, through their business, Shift Lifestyle they provide strategy and support for business owners who want a lifestyle, not just a living.
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Joanne Roibu “Guide To Goal Achievement & The Law Of Attraction” The Law of Attraction is directly related to Goal Achievement If you are like most people in the world, you devote countless hours to thinking about your future and your present situation in life. You wish that there was something that you could do to change your life. Whether it is your family life; your friendships; relationships or finances, you want to change something. You may feel you have a good grasp of the Law of Attraction, you take action and yet achieving your heart’s desire may be slower than you want. Why is that? Is it you? Are you missing something? Or is this Law of Attraction just another pipe dream? You probably know the Law Of Attraction (LOA) experts say that it is crucial to be in vibrational resonance with what you want to achieve and that you should not focus on the HOW but just the WHAT of what you want. So now you are really confused! Isn’t Goal setting and LOA mutually exclusive? The truth is that Goal Achievement and the LOA work very well together if goal setting is done effectively. In fact, goal achievement observes the Law of Attraction and is dependent on it.
When you don’t achieve your Goals, It’s because of One, or More of these 3 Reasons Despite enjoying incredible success in some areas of your life, you might still find that something is missing. Ask yourself how it is that you got some of the things you want, but not others.
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What are you not seeing? What are you not doing? What is the difference between those goals that you did achieve and those that you didn’t yet? After extensive coaching and research with numerous clients, I found that when you don’t achieve that which you set out to do, without exception, one, or all, of these 3 elements are true: 1) You are not clear about what you want 2) You have an all encompassing plan that is usually to big to tackle 3) You do not resonate with what you want to achieve Looking at it in a different way, it follows that by ensuring that you satisfy these 3 elements you will achieve your goals.
The Law of Attraction Works IF you Follow these Simple Goal Achievement Principles Let’s look at what these basic principles of successful goal achievement are because once you understand and apply them, Goal Achievement is attainable, Every Time: 1. Get Clear about What You Want To Achieve. Crystal Clear! 2. Develop a Plan with achievable action steps. 3. Be in vibrational resonance with that which you want to achieve. This is it. Yes, it is this simple, but remember you must understand and apply these in order to have success.
Getting Crystal Clear about What you Want is the 1st Principle in Goal Achievement Getting crystal clear about what you want is not only about making a list of what you want but also getting to the Essence of what you want. Think back to childhood -- you know that time in your life before you did not know that you were not supposed to know how to do something. Remember that time before well meaning parents and role models infused you with patterns and beliefs that they themselves got from their parents and role models. And there’s no blame here – it is what it is. Think of that time in your life when anything and everything you imagined was possible. Yeah, that time when pretend was the same as real (hint: your subconscious mind still can’t tell the difference). It was so simple, wasn’t it? You
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felt like you were on a stage playing different roles and you truly lived, tasted and felt like those characters, you were that character! You saw it and believed it. The world was your oyster. I know that you may be saying: “Yeah, that’s great! But that was then…things were simple and uncomplicated and playing pretend was not the same serious business that I have to contend with today. Today, I have to make a living, provide for myself and my family. I can’t play roles on stages. They’ll come and reposes my car, throw me out of my house, take my furniture away for God’s sake…” Please read on ….I am not talking about living in a fantasy world. I am talking about really getting to the essence of what you want. This is important! Getting to the ESSENCE of what you want! So, now perhaps you are thinking, “What the heck is Essence? You know because I’ve heard about this stuff before and I think this is another way of saying visualization and.... I am not that visual!“ You should know this is not just about visualization. It is ok if you are not visual because the process for getting to the essence of what you want (and I will go over what essence means a bit later), works whether you are able to see the things you want in your mind’s eye, or you think about these things or if you simply feel things. It doesn’t matter how you do it! This process works, every time. Best of all it is simple. Keep It Simple Sweetheart (KISS). You are all for that, aren’t you? And it will work for you just like it works for me and every single one of my clients. Now you may be thinking, “Boy Joanne, I don’t know if I know what I want yet, but I sure know what I don’t want!” Exactly, most of us have an easier time with what we don’t want. So let’s start there. In fact, here’s something you can do right now to start this process. I am going to give you 4 simple steps to start the process of clearly determining what you want. So please do these steps: Step 1 – Write down what you Don’t Want. Make a list of the things you Don’t Want. This could be a list pertaining to a particular issue you are working on. or it could be several things you know you don’t want. For example, let’s say that what you don’t want is, “to work with un-cooperative co-worker’s.”
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Step 2 – Now write down WHY you Don’t Want this. Why you don’t want this is crucial. It reveals to you what you are afraid will happen if this is true. So from our example before ….”I don’t want to feel like I have to work hard to get things done” or maybe “I don’t want to feel unappreciated or taken advantage of.” Step 3 – Look at your list of “Don’t Wants” and now turn this list into “Do Wants”. So, from our example … ”I want to work with cooperative and supportive coworkers.” Excellent, continue doing this for all of your Don’t Wants. Step 4 –Just like you did for your “Don’t Wants” now look at your list of “Do Wants” and write down WHY you want this. Here’s where we get to the Esssence I spoke about earlier. The essence is ... how this makes you feel. So from our example, “I want to feel excited and enthusiastic about working with my co-workers” or “I want to feel joyful, supported and valued by my coworkers”. It only takes 5-10 minutes, once you get used to this process. There is a part b to step 4. Please don’t skip this part b! Look at your Do Wants and the WHY’s or Essence of your Do Wants, and write a little scenario/script of what it is like once this you accomplish this goal. It does not have to be a screenplay, just one paragraph. Remember, Keep It Simple Sweetheart (KISS). Let me give you an example from the scenario we used before … It could go something like this: “I arrive at my office and I am greeted by the smiling faces and warm hellos of my co-workers. I exchange a few pleasant words with them and then go right into discussing our latest project. I am excited about our work and share my thoughts about how we might tackle some of the challenges we are facing vis a vis our low sales volumes. Together with them I look at the pros and cons, discuss them and then agree a few steps we can each take to move forward. We value each other’s opinion and I feel that I am part of a powerful, united force. I am full of expectation and know that we can resolve our issue by applying the principles in Joe’s direct sales marketing plan.” Now you see how I did that? I combined the Do Wants with the Essence of what I want. I used the essence of feeling warm and excited and feeling powerful and united and valued etc... You want to put as many specifics as you can in terms of these wants and their essence. The clearer you are about what the outcome looks, feels, seems the better!
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Let’s recap. To get Crystal Clear About What You Want: Step1 List your Don’t Wants Step 2 List WHY you don’t want this Step 3 Turn your Don’t Wants into Do Wants Step 4 Part a, List WHY (the Essence) for your Do Wants; Part b, write a few sentences about your desired outcome incorporating the Do Wants and the WHY’s. Remember KISS. Getting clear about what you want is just the 1st ingredient. This principle alone will not be enough to help you achieve your goals. You must also take action.
Developing a Plan with Actionable Steps is the 2nd Principle in Goal Achievement You need to take action and to make a plan. You must break this plan down into manageable steps. Now, I know that you can look at Amazon and find many books written about having a plan and I’m sure that you have even heard many coaches and self development experts say things like “If you don’t have a plan, you plan to fail” and so on. You can spend weeks and months reading up on this stuff and trying to make sense of it all and still be none the wiser. I know, I have read a number of these books and listened to a lot of the Guru’s talk about plans and planning and at the end I felt the same way that some of my clients felt. OVERWHELMED - about the sheer volume of information about these plans. Even those of you who may have started despite feeling overwhelmed may find, a lot of times, that your plans were too big and that perhaps you missed breaking them down into small actionable steps. You may have had a plan for a goal that was really several goals expressed as one. If you don’t take baby steps and you don’t break down your goals into actionable steps, you are right back to OVERWHELMED. Here’s an example showing an excerpt of a plan that is too big: The items in red below should not be part of action 1. These extra items make completing tasks unmanageable and measuring your progress difficult. Too Big (Example)
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Goal: To joyfully, easily and effortlessly attract 5 ideal clients to my new business by X. Action #1: Create a one hour promotional talk by Y Sub-actions: a. Review info about promo talks. b. Clearly define the specific solution that I am providing for a very specific problem. c. Create an outline for the promo talk. d. Create a name for my promo talk. e. ID venues to partner with to deliver my promo talk. (Is this about creating a promo talk?) f. Request info from venues on their process for partnering/speaking. (Is this about creating a promo talk?) g. Create flyers for my promo talk. (Is this about creating a promo talk?) h. Create a script for my promo talk. i. Record practice promo talk. j. Create a sign up sheet to capture names & emails for my DB. (Is this about creating a promo talk?) k. Create a raffle for a cool giveaway at the end of my promo talks. (Is this about creating a promo talk?) A more manageable approach might be: Good (Example) Goal: To joyfully, easily and effortlessly attract 5 ideal clients to my new business by X. Action #1: Create a one hour promotional talk by Y Sub-actions: a. Review info about promo talks. b. Clearly define the specific solution that I am providing for a very specific problem. c. Create an outline for the promo talk. d. Create a name for my promo talk. e. Create a script for my promo talk. f. Record practice promo talk. Remember that you do not want to get overwhelmed by all the actions and feel like you are not making any progress. If you do, you are very likely to abandon your plan.
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Is Principle 2 Violating the Law of Attraction by Focusing on the How? As we said before, there is a lot written and said about not focusing on the HOW. You are taught to make your lists, focus on WHAT you want and not worry about HOW it is going to happen. This seems contradictory to making plans and breaking plans down into action steps. Doing this seems like we might be getting into the HOW. Doesn’t it? This is an important point that often confuses. So, I want to address it straight away. It might be easiest to use an analogy of a plane flying from, London to Chicago. In our example we know that the plane has a desired outcome. Its desired outcome is to get to Chicago. So this is a plan. Of course, we know that there are a number of actions steps that need to happen before the plane sets off. For instance, check of all instruments, fuel check and fill, interior cleaning, assembly and assignment of flight crew etc … you get the point. These are manageable action steps. Let’s assume that the plane got to the takeoff action step and has taken off and is now en-route to Chicago following its flight plan. Can you, you tell me about what % of the time you think the plane is on course? What % of time is a plane, following its predetermined flight path, actually on course its path? You may think the plane is on course 98-99% of the time. I thought so too, because it makes sense. Normally I get on a plane and I expect to get to my destination and, so far, I have every single time! In reality, a plane is actually on course closer to 1% of the time. The plane still gets to its final destination with the help of the on board instruments and the pilots who keep making in-flight adjustments for the various weather conditions encountered en-route. Actually, when you think about it, it isn’t all that surprising. We’ve all experienced turbulence or strong winds/currents while flying, yet we still expect to achieve our goal of reaching the final destination. I hope it is pretty clear that if we left it at just writing down our wants and made no plans, and took no action, we wouldn’t get off the ground. Alternatively, if we did get off the ground but rigidly stuck to only one way of getting to the final destination that wouldn’t work either. In our plane example, if the pilots insisted on only flying straight, no in-flight adjustments, then we would get massive delays and loads of frustration, to say the least.
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It is as important to have a plan and take actions toward achieving your desired goal as it is to keep flexible and ready to make in-flight adjustments. I can’t emphasize this enough. This brings us to the 3rd Goal Achievement Principle.
Being in Vibrational Resonance with What you Want is the 3rd in Goal Achievement You got the main idea behind applying principle1- Get Crystal clear about what you want to achieve and principle 2 -Develop a plan with achievable action steps. Now, you may be faced with another challenge. Sometimes even when you start seeing results, and things are going great, you might still get stopped, and feel that you can’t move forward. You may have encountered some exterior obstacles or maybe even some interior obstacles like fear or limiting beliefs such as: “ I’m not good enough to do this.” or “I don’t deserve this.” or “this is too easy, I never get to have it this easy. I always have to work hard for what I have!” Or, you simply don’t know why you can’t move forward on certain actions. Sound familiar? When this happens, the natural response is to get disillusioned and disappointed. So, what do you do? See if you agree with this approach. When you hit an obstacle, the best way to handle it is to ignore the problem and stop altogether. Pretending that the issues don’t exist might make them go away. Right? Have you ever experienced that by ignoring a problem you solve it? I sure haven’t! Usually things get worse when you do nothing to address and resolve an issue. One thing is for certain, the issues do not get better. If you want to continue moving forward, you need to address these fears, this little voice in your mind that passes judgment or evaluates the viability of what you have set out to accomplish. There are various tools and methods developed specifically for the purpose of overcoming your inner obstacles, fears or limiting beliefs. I have tried a few and report that each has its benefits. At the end of the day, it is your personal choice which one you use. Staying true to my nature of keeping things simple and delivering on the promise that I make to my clients of only recommending methods and tools that I have
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personally used successfully, I choose the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). I have personally found them easy and incredibly effective, and my clients have as well. To give just a brief overview, the Emotional Freedom Techniques are based on ancient principles of acupuncture, and are simple tapping procedures that gently re-align the body’s energy system without the discomfort of needles. EFT address unresolved emotional issues as a likely cause of physical disease, psychological dysfunction and personal performance limits. Gary Craig (the creator of EFT) points out that the theory behind EFT is that negative emotions are caused by disturbances in the body's energy field and by tapping on the meridians while thinking of a negative emotion or event alters the body's energy field, restoring it to "balance". The best part is EFT is that they work whether you believe it does or not. I can’t say that about most other techniques. Since we know the Law of Attraction states that we attract to us experiences that are a vibrational match to the thoughts and feelings we are sending out into the universe, how we feel is particularly important. How we feel is an indication of the direction in which we are pointed. Very simply, good feelings are attracting more positive experiences. Feelings of tension, fear or anger attract more of the same, even if you don’t actually want that. So the 3rd principle of successful goal achievement - be in Vibrational Resonance with What you Want To Achieve therefore means removing obstacles and limiting beliefs so that you can move forward.
When you Follow the 3 Simple Principles, Successful Goal Achievement is Guaranteed If you are using all 3 of these integrated principles, I know that you are achieving your goals – Congratulations! If you are using some of these principles but not all three, then here’s your chance to try it and be amazed by the results you get. After all, If you are not clear about what you want and why, you don’t have an actionable plan and you don’t address and remove the obstacles that stop you from moving forward – you won’t move forward! Go ahead, apply these 3 principles together – you will get the results you desire!
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Identify the most important goal you want to accomplish in the next 90 days. 2. Identify the 3 top things you stand to lose from not accomplishing this goal & the top 3 things you stand gain from accomplishing this goal. 3. Identify 1 action per day you will take (each day) for the next 30 days. Please do this for 30 days at a time, even if you are tempted to map out the whole 90 days.
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Judith Pflum, EFT-ADV “Letting Go of Your “old” Stuff to Attract Good into Your Life” Is the clutter in your life causing your stress? The definition of clutter is, “a confused or disordered state or collection: a jumble”. Clutter is also anything unfinished, unresolved, disorganized, broken or unused. A cluttered environment has effects on our thinking, behaviors, and health. It depletes our energy and you feel so tired, have low productivity and loss of focus. People in balanced and harmonious surroundings are much happier. They are more efficient and productive. They understand more easily and learn faster. They feel in control. They enjoy life, themselves, and whatever they do. They respond to healing processes better. They are more open to new possibilities; they heal faster and stay that way. On the other hand, people in disorganized environments feel lost, anxious, dissatisfied, disappointed, overwhelmed, and unhappy. When overwhelmed with time constraints generated on them by others, a feeling of defeat and hopelessness is created. They get sick easily and their recovery takes longer. There are emotional issues attached to all that clutter: feelings of overwhelm, uncertainty, hopelessness, feeling lost, inadequate, out of control and fear of failure.
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Being “organized” is about people’s habits, lifestyles, personalities, what motivates them and how they function. Before you can get organized, you need to understand your ways of doing things. Are you a procrastinator? Procrastination is defined as avoidance of an action or task. This behavior causes anxiety, stress, guilt, and sometimes shows up as physical manifestations in the body in the form of headaches and insomnia. The procrastinating behavior causes loss of productivity, tension and crisis, disappointment in self and others for not fulfilling responsibilities and commitments. It is created by an emotional imbalance in the body’s energy system. Then you may need to consider that clutter in your life includes looking at unnecessary behaviors, objects, people and events. How many extra steps are you taking while you do things just because you assumed that it is the right way to do it? How many objects are stored mostly in the attic, basement, storage facilities, or in the garage and have no value or function in your current life? Do you have people in your life that are very negative and you feel depressed, less productive and upset when in their presence? And how often do you have an overload of activities and events to attend? All of this is a form of clutter taking up energy, time and space in your life and causing lots of stress. But once you release, let go of your stuff, you may find you feel so much lighter as if a weight of ”stuff” was taken off your shoulders. A very proven, effective method to help in this release process is EFT. Now you can successfully use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to unblock, and uncover the underlying challenge. EFT is an easily learned, painless, and drug free method (similar to acupuncture, but without the needles) that addresses the emotional roadblocks to attracting good in all areas of life. When the core cause behind the procrastination is realized it will be much easier to create a solution, or tactic. And if there are emotions and blockages attached to the procrastinating behavior, EFT will create amazing results with the end result being an elimination of guilt, gained clarity, and motivation to take positive action. When going through old boxes of stuff, EFT is a very fast and amazing method to uncover the cause of the problems that are currently present in our lives. Get rid of the physical clutter, and get rid of the emotional clutter. "Old clutter" mostly
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exists in unopened boxes of stuff from previous moves. It can also be found in boxes of things not wanted or needed anymore. Getting rid of things comes with a lot of guilt and regrets. Just think, just because someone sent you something … you don't have to keep it! Even though the clutter is boxed and put away, it still affects us energetically. People who hold onto things get stuck in the past, they can't get over past hurts, and most of the time feel stuck and can't move forward. Opening physical space in our environment frees up emotional space so that new desired changes, things, and people can enter our lives much easier. There is no better time than the present to get started … do it NOW!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Make a list of where you have too much stuff and determine why you are resisting letting it go. 2. Take note of how you feel about your mess and notice if it includes physical pain. 3. Call an EFT practitioner to setup your action plan to release your stuff.
About the Author EFT Practitioner, Judith Pflum, the EFT Lady and personal wellness, wealth and wholeness coach, publishes “Tap Into Healing” a monthly e-zine featuring helpful articles on the various emotional issues being resolved with EFT. She provides intuitive, focused private phone sessions teaching this amazing energy healing tool. As a business owner of Self-Healing Awareness with EFT, she is a speaker, writer, workshop and tele-seminar presenter working with women improving all areas of their lives. Her mission is to teach those open to self healing methods, a positive, easily learned process which allows the body to release emotional pain and suffering in a very gentle way. Having spent thirty years working in a corporate setting and experiencing the stresses, plus being a single parent and also a cancer survivor, she relates to her client’s needs and understands, listens and encourages, providing a healing environment for whatever emotional issues arise. With Judith as your coach you learn to improve relationships, beliefs about money, build self-confidence and improve school or athletic performances, also remove doubts, resistance, judgments, anger, stress, fatigue, and much more without needles, pills or hypnosis. Accomplish this in the privacy of your home through a phone session.
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Special offer 50% discount on an EFT phone session with Judith. Please mention this e-book or Wonderful Web Women to receive this special rate. Go to http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts for details as to how to contact Judith about her special offer.
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Judith Sherven, PhD & Jim Sniechowski, PhD “Changing Your Identity . . . or Not?”
You wouldn’t be reading this if you didn’t desire a larger, more fabulous life. And you’re no doubt going after it in this way and that. But are you ready, really, really ready to change your identity? To see yourself in a new, more successful, more attractive, more loved kind of way? Larger Success always comes with a price, even a loss. Because you have to, You absolutely must give up who you’ve known yourself to be (or at least some part of you) in order to become someone new. That means you’ll necessarily change how others see you and relate to you. It means you’ll have to change the actual quality of your current relationships. You’ll say good-bye to some of your history, allowing it to stay on only as a memory, no longer a daily drag or limitation. You’ll open to new discoveries as a regular, thrilling element of continually moving forward. Sometimes you’ll hesitate, not quite sure of your footing in this new land, when before you knew every square inch of the turf you’d “walked” so many thousands of times.
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Because success is seldom, if ever, the “whisked into wonder” that we imagine. It requires your willingness to overcome your loyalty, your allegiance, to what has been so you can surrender into your new identity. To start, notice who will be there for you cheering you on as you cross the river from your old life onto the fertile soil of your new life, your new identity. Take a moment right now and think about those people who are really in support of you, really in support of you being all you can be. See them there? Then pay very close attention to the specifics of this new life of yours - the one you’ve been dreaming of and yearning for. Again, open your imagination and see yourself living the details of this new life, living the every day activities that you desire. Notice how you feel as you picture yourself living in your new freedom, your new success. So now what is that first step that will begin to take you into this new life you desire? Take some time to write about it, to talk with friends about it, until you are certain what that step is. And, if you’re ready, with our support and those who are there to cheer you on as you move into your new life What do you need to do to take that first step, that all important first step that will move you - even just a tiny bit - beyond the life you’ve been living and begin to deliver you to into your new future? Because when you know, really know - get ready. For you are about to change your identity!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Do the visualisation exercise we described here 2. Write down the first step you need to take 3. Talk to friends about the first step until you are clear what it is
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About the Author Husband-and-wife psychology team Judith Sherven, PhD and Jim Sniechowski, PhD, best selling authors of five books, are famous for their ability to dig deep into the heart of what holds people back while providing the recipe for permanent release from that internal prison. Their “Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous(tm)” program shatters the blindness that holds people back, guiding them through the necessary steps to releasing their hold backs and roadblocks to successful living and loving. As guest experts they've been on over 1500 television and radio shows including Oprah, The View, 48 Hours, CNN, Canada AM, and The Daily Buzz.
Special offer For even more specifics about taking that next step into your new future, Judith & Jim offer you free tips that will support your desires and help you move forward at: http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts
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Kay Proudfoot “A Return To Love” The Key To It All I can’t do that! I am not good enough! I’m not lovable What will others say? I am too fat I ………. Can you relate?????
“What you focus on, talk about, you manifest” One of the most common things I witness in people, especially women, is their lack of self love and worth. They are not able to see their beauty, their talents and gifts. They are not able to receive love. They don’t feel worthy of it. I too was once like that. Love though is the key! More on this in a minute. The other thing that has come to my attention is the fear around cancer. Cancer has reached epidemic proportions. What people do not seem to realize is that it is this fear around it that is responsible for a lot of deaths. This fear has been deeply embedded into us, through programming. Cancer is only a label. It is your body’s way of getting your attention, to tell you that changes need to be made, because you have not been listening. It is the same with any so-called dis-ease or illness. For example, if you take a look at people lifestyles in general today, you have to agree that they are not balanced. People in general have lost touch with themselves, who they are and what life is really about. We are not robots and yet if you were to watch, you would see that the majority of the population is running around like one. Our bodies are walking miracles, genetically pre programmed to heal themselves. However they need some requirements in order to do so, rest being one of them. Human beings are the only creatures that do not have balance, do not take time to properly rest and recharge like the rest of nature.
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This is due to programming, making us believe that we must be constantly on the go, working hard in order to be successful and accepted. All this does is burn out the immune system and set a person up for illness. When the body is not in balance, dis-ease happens!!! However, from my experience I feel that there is one factor that is even more essential to our bodies healing themselves, and that is self love. Again we are heavily programmed to have low self worth, even self hatred. There is a saying “nothing suppresses the immune system like self hatred.” Having been there myself, I know the truth of this. People with low self-worth, give their power away, relying on others for approval and acceptance. They are constantly judging themselves and others. They constantly worry and complain. This has a big impact on a person’s health and energy. How many people do you know who are like this? You just have to listen to people’s conversations in general to realize how many people have low self worth. Dr Dean Ornish, an American cardiologist, says in his book “Love & Survival” that people with low self worth, that cannot let love in, are 4-5 times more likely to die from premature death!!!! And yet if you stop and reflect on things, you will see how ridiculous this is. As the saying goes, “we are born in the image of God.” Not just spiritual, also in the physical form. The bodies we have are perfect and beautiful as they are. We are perfect and beautiful as we are. We are a unique aspect of God or Source energy in human form. Hello, what does that tell you!!!!!! You are perfect the way you are right now and do not have to prove anything to anyone!!! Every single one of us has gifts and talents waiting to be discovered and used. Every single one of us has the ability to live life with joy and love. Every single one of us has a unique genetic make up, so it is impossible to look like anyone else. It is through deeply embedded belief systems that we feel we are not good enough as we are, and adopt crazy beliefs like, if we have the so-called right kind of body, then maybe we would be good enough. So we start messing with our bodies. And start a vicious cycle that doesn’t work as you probably know. Look at these statistics: • • • •
97% of Canadian women are dissatisfied with their bodies. 70% are yo-you dieters. Girls as young as 6 are dieting. Plastic surgery has increased over 100%!!!
This is crazy and it is time for this to stop. It is time to see the truth and set your Self free. It is time to open your heart ladies and let that love in!!!
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So you may be asking how? The answer does not lie outside you, it lies within you. You set yourself free by learning to love and honour yourself exactly as you are. Become your best friend instead of your worst enemy!!! A lot easier said than done I know. However, I also know that it can be done, for I am proof. Only then can one truly love another unconditionally and secondly, honour and accept others as they are. Whenever you judge another, it is a reflection of how you feel about yourself. For your outer world reflects your inner world. The key lies in awareness and living in the present moment. It means retraining yourself to stop thinking about your body. As the energy group Abraham shared, “If you could never again think about your body, and instead, just think pleasant thoughts – your body would reclaim its place of well-being.” Again I know easier said than done. With practice though you can do it. Every time you catch yourself thinking about your body or talking about it, stop. Shift your attention to something else. This is how you break the patterns. This will take time as the beliefs we carry have been with us for a long time. So be gentle and patient with yourself. As said, the key is awareness. For many generations women have had to rely on their bodies and looks. In some cases, women were literally thrown by the wayside once their looks faded or they weren’t the right size. Take the movie The Devil Wears Prada. What a perfect example, highlighting clearly the mad world we live in. Things are changing though. We are in the process of a huge transformation where humanity is waking up to the truth. Balance, equality, freedom is coming. Your thoughts and feelings about yourself affect the body’s immune system. If you love and accept yourself, you feel vibrant, alive and this boosts it. If you are constantly criticizing yourself, you feel heavy, lethargic, depressed, and this suppresses your immune system. The movie What The Bleep shows clearly how our thoughts and feelings about ourselves affect us. Remember it is important to keep in mind, our belief systems have been with us for a long time and so it will take a little time to change them. Again be patient and gentle with yourself. The key here is to just observe, without judgment. The more aware you become, the faster things change. So how else do you learn to love and honour yourself? •
Congratulate yourself often, give yourself credit for what you do each day. And this is not ego. This is essential to build your self worth.
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Speak your truth quietly and clearly. If you do not feel to do something, say NO. Start letting go of every thing that does not bring you peace and fill your life with what does. Each day before you go to bed, write down 10 things you are grateful for, 5 successes you had, no matter how small they are, what miracles or synchronicities happened to you today, and how many people’s lives did you touch. Ask yourself “What did I learn about myself today?” Find what speaks to your heart and do it. Discover what you feel passionate about. How? What do you do that you lose track of time, that you get completely absorbed in. What things naturally interest you? Learn to meditate. Take time each day to be still. Start with 3 deep breaths and then observe your regular breathing. Take your attention to your nose and follow the air as you breathe in and out. Scan your body, starting at your toes, making your way up as you tell each part to relax. Then just sit quietly observing your body. Notice how peaceful and gentle it becomes when you give it a break. This is how to teach yourself to be present, in the now. When you are present, so-called negative thought patterns are broken. It stops or slows down the mental chatter that drains you. It helps you to tune into who you really are. Spend time in nature. Start to look for the beauty that nature offers. Listen to the birds. Smell the flowers. As your heart opens more, you will naturally feel more attuned to nature, for you are a part of it.
From my own experience, illness or dis-ease, whatever label it is given, shows up to tell us we need to make some changes. And we do!!! • It is time to break free from all the programming, all the belief systems. • It is time to look at what really matters to us, how we can simplify our lives, and make them more enjoyable. • It is time to find out what speaks to our hearts, what brings us joy and do them. • It is time to learn to live in the present moment. • It is time to remember who we really are and return to that love. Love is the answer. Love is the natural force of the universe. Love conquers all. Love is all there is! You are a part of the universe; therefore, love is also your natural way. It is the core of your being and as you use the tools above and your awareness increases, you will realize this. By setting yourself free, the love that you are,
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blazes forth and touches every thing you come into contact with. This is the greatest gift you can give to humanity, to all on the planet. It is time to reconnect with your authentic Self and set your Self free. It is time to return to love for LOVE is all there is.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. When a thought comes up that is negative about your self, ask “Where did that come from?” You will find it originated from someone else. It was someone else’s belief that you took on. This awareness immediately begins to dissolve that belief. 2. Train yourself to be in the present moment. Take 5 minutes a day and tune into yourself. Focus on your breath, go through your body, telling each part to relax and then sit quietly keeping your attention within yourself. 3. Focus on what brings you joy and peace. Make a list and incorporate them into your life daily.
About the Author Kay Proudfoot is a Canadian inspirational speaker, facilitator, teacher, healer, artist and writer, who created her company as a result of her own personal and professional experience. She has freed herself from many addictions and low self worth by reconnecting with her Authentic/Higher Self, and in turn Source/God/ Universe, as well as tapping into her gifts and using them. She has been through many years of intense training, experiencing a wide variety of healing modalities, in order to come from her heart and assist others on their own journeys to freedom. Her passion for her work shines powerfully through to all that work with her. One of her gifts is her voice as it carries a healing vibration that accelerates a person in healing themselves. As a result of this she has created guided meditation CD’s and just created her first children’s audio book. She travels around the world as guided and offers teleseminars, 1-1 spiritual coaching as well as long distance healing.
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Special offer As a gift, Kay is offering a 3 month membership to her Ascension Integration Circle or a 30 minute 1-1 with her. For further details visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts for a link to her offer.
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Kristi Sayles “Lead Generation on a Budget” If you have a hot-selling product with all of the web traffic, list members and money that you desire, this article may not be for you. But, if you want more visitors, subscribers, and buyers, and don't have the luxury of a huge advertising budget, keep reading, you’re going to like this. Does this sound familiar? You know you have a fantastic product or service, but how do you get people interested in coming to your site to sign up for your offer without blowing a huge wad on expensive pay per click campaigns or promotion services? You have put your blood, sweat, tears, and hard-earned cash into creating this Product - and for what? Barely enough to pay for your hosting and autoresponder bills each month! You know that there are millions to be made if you can just get the branding that you deserve. You believe in your product and your service. The problem is that you have a limited budget. So, what can you do? Let's look at your options: *You could hire a copywriter to write your copy for your sales letter. But if you find yourself having to choose between putting food on your table or hiring a decent wordsmith-that's probably not the right solution for you right now. You know your product better than anyone, so you should probably stick with your own ideas and wording until you can afford a professional.
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*You could join a giveaway event and get your name "out there." That works great for those with decent-sized lists, but most of those require that you have a minimum number of subscribers already and if you're rather new, you probably don't have that many just yet. So, what can you possibly do to get your name and brand out there more quickly without having to break into your life-savings or cash in your life insurance policy? You could do article marketing. That’s one of my favorite solutions. It’s not difficult.
Submit Articles to Article Directories All you do is write information-packed articles pertaining to your niche and then submit them to article directories. People interested in your topic will visit the directories and copy your articles to add content to their blogs and sites. Since they are required to include your resource box, which should include your name and website address, you get free advertising! There are lots of good article directories, but EzineArticles.com is the best in my opinion, and every marketing mentor that I’ve interviewed agrees. As the host of my own online radio show called Talk with Experts Teleseminars, I’ve interviewed dozens of the best-known “gurus” on the planet.
Write Free Reports I suggest writing free special reports and sending them out into the world-wide web via submission sites that request them. A special report is basically a 7-10 page article that you write that solves a problem that your target market faces. As the expert on the subject, you provide a free report that provides interesting, timely information that these people want to read. If you've done your job right, they are so impressed with your amazingly helpful content and expertise, that they happily click over to find out more about this fabulous author and what she offers and recommends. Lately, some "big name" gurus, like Mike Filsaime and others, have been generously offering their precious web space to allow everyone-new and experienced-marketers, to add helpful, relevant special reports to their giveaway sites. Go to butterflyreports.com to submit your report. People visit these sites and download the special reports available to gain knowledge about a certain topic or niche. If you’ve never been there, you’re
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missing a valuable resource to do research on as well as to submit your own reports! If you have the ability to churn out a solid information document with an enticing title and description, these information seekers will soon discover your special report and want to know more about you and your offers soon after you submit it. Your special report should make it simple for someone to sign up for your list, newsletter, or gift, so that you can continue your precious relationship with them.
Offer Value Once they are on your list, you have the responsibility to provide them with more good content, but you can also offer products or services that they would find useful as well. These can be your own products or someone else's high-quality offers that you can make affiliate commissions with. Don't make the mistake of offering low quality products for the chance to make a quick buck. Since you're promoting this product, your subscribers expect you to know that it is going to be a good investment of their time and money. Always follow the golden rule… Treat people the way you want to be treated. You now have the chance to get known by sending your very own articles and special reports out to millions of people by leveraging these well-known marketers' popularity! It's time to go viral! Kristi Sayles is the creator of the Special Report Generator and would like to invite you to visit her site at http://SpecialReportGenerator.com to get your own program, a free gift, and the chance to earn cash directly to your Paypal account today with her 100% commissions affiliate program!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Write a killer article or special report. 2. Submit it to Ezine Articles or Butterfly Reports. 3. Treat your new subscribers well, so you can build trust and good relationships.
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About the Author Kristi Sayles is a second grade teacher that supplements her income with information marketing and her own writing software programs. She enjoys sharing this knowledge and invites everyone to visit her blog at http://AskKristi.com where she offers valuable advice, discounts on internet marketing goodies, contests, and even useful freebies. More of Kristi’s sites: http://Instant-Article-Pro.com http://SpecialReportGenerator.com http://SmartAuthor.com http://TalkwithExperts.com http://AskKristi.com http://SmartAuthorSystem.com http://SmartAuthor.com/freebies
Special offer Kristi is offering her lead generation package for only $67-that’s buy one and get one FREE-you get her unique Special Report Generator AND her Instant Article Creator Pro for the cost of only ONE of the programs-just $67! Go to http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts for this amazing discount that only those who read this article will know about!
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Leah Squire “Using Affiliate Marketing to boost your online business and put dollars in your pockets” There are two sides to Affiliate Marketing – firstly if you need to increase sales you can get a workforce for free. Would you like to have a workforce driving traffic to your online business or selling your products but not have to worry about employing them, paying holidays or super, supplying them with a workplace, equipment or in fact never even having to meet them? This is affiliate marketing. Or secondly, use affiliate marketing techniques to earn a passive income working minimal hours from anywhere in the world. I am fortunate to make my income from affiliate marketing via a couple of successful websites. Affiliate marketing gives me the freedom to work when I want and where I want. My passion is travel and I travel with my husband and kids at least four months of every year. If you make your living out of affiliate marketing all the tools you need are an internet café or laptop. So what is affiliate marketing? And how can you apply the principles to enhance your business or life? Affiliate marketing is simply a pay for performance referral system. If you have products to sell and want to use affiliate marketing to increase your sales you are called the merchant. You pay affiliate marketers for sales they generate. The
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great thing about Affiliate Marketing is that Affiliates are only paid when they generate sales for you. They typically work on a commission basis only. If you would like to generate an income from affiliate marketing you are known as the affiliate. Your job is to promote products for merchants. You do not physically touch the product, package it, or place the orders. You get paid for simply referring a buyer. You will receive commission for any sales generated for the merchant. I first become interested in affiliate marketing around 5 years ago when I stumbled across some information on the internet. At the time the concept was growing in popularity in the US and UK but practically unheard of in Australia. I asked around enquiring with literally hundreds of web designers only to find no one really understood affiliate marketing. I researched and read anything I could find on the subject as the concept fascinated me and the thought of making a passive income for life, fascinated me even more. Back then there were so few merchants that it was very difficult to find suitable products to sell but firmly believing affiliate marketing would grow in Australia I started building myself a content rich niche website that people would find informative and enjoy visiting. I was ready when affiliate marketing started to take off around 18 months ago. Hundreds of merchants signed up looking for affiliates and there are now literally thousands of products an affiliate can promote. I am both a merchant and affiliate. As a merchant I use affiliate marketing to drive traffic to my websites. It is an important part of my online marketing strategy. I then offer my readers informative content and relevant products to purchase on an affiliate basis. I have built a substantial database and market to them regularly. Sales, leads or clicks to and from your website are traced via tracking codes. The easiest way to get started in affiliate marketing is by becoming registered with an affiliate network, there are three leading networks in Australia. Some companies run independent affiliate programs avoiding the commission the network makes on each sale. You can investigate setting up your own affiliate program however many affiliate marketers wont use them as it creates a lot more work for the affiliate and the merchant. When you join a network as a merchant your products will be offered immediately to hundreds of affiliates already registered and looking for something to sell. So using a network at least in the early stages is the easiest and simplest way to get started for both affiliates and merchants.
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Affiliate marketers range from people wanting to make a small income to offset the cost of running their sites to individuals and companies working full time promoting to their databases via emails or on websites. Some affiliate marketers make six figure incomes through the promotion of other peoples products. The great news is that you can have these super sellers working for you and you only pay them a commission on any sales they refer. If you had to pay for all the advertising and promotion an affiliate marketer provides free of charge it could cost you thousands so paying them a sale commission is great value. If you want to join as a merchant and increase product sales: Your aim is to have as many affiliates as possible promoting your business, more affiliates equals more links to your website, which equals more visitors and more sales. The main factors that will attract affiliate marketers are: The commission you’re paying. The more money a marketer can earn the harder they are going to work to sell your products. Your sites conversion rate ie the ratio of visitors to buyers on your site. Your site needs to sell. A marketer will not continue to promote your business if they refer thousands of people but no-one buys. They need to earn money for all their hard work. The range of banners or text links you have on offer. Marketers will be looking to fill spots of various dimensions in their newsletters and on their websites so provide a range of shapes and sizes. Also provide a range of colours, static and animated banners. When you join an affiliate network as a merchant include a detailed description of your business and what you sell. The affiliate marketer may want to write a small editorial and the easier you make it for them, the more promotion you are likely to get. Using affiliate marketing either as a merchant, affiliate or both can enhance your business and your life. Putting you on the path to financial freedom and the life you desire.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Sign up to an affiliate network today. Do some research and see how individuals and companies are using affiliate marketing to grow their business or make an income.
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2. Go to your list of goals either personal or business and work out how affiliate marketing can bring you closer to achieving them. 3. If you would like to become a successful affiliate and make a passive income for life start thinking about products you can sell. Build a niche website on something you’re passionate about that’s informative with lots of content and most importantly start growing your database today!
About the Author Leah Squire is a wife, mother of two boys and a successful businesswoman. She is an entrepreneur with a talent for building and marketing lifestyle businesses. Leah and her family are keen travelers and started a family travel blog with $1000, no knowledge of the internet and no idea but a bunch of library books and a passion to build a website and business based around their family holidays. She launched BYOkids …your family travel gurus and was recognized for her business skills being awarded best “new business” in Australia 2007 when in its first year of operation the business exceeded a $3million turnover. She more recently won best “micro business” in Australia 2008. Leah is an author having written a marketing book aimed to help small business owners get their businesses exposure and results on the cheap “Marketing with no money” covers a broad range of strategies from affiliate marketing through to forums, blogs, signatures, competitions and more. Leah is a successful affiliate marketer, director of a travel company, marketing guru and accomplished author. Leah’s websites are: http://www.byokids.com.au http://www.shop-online.net.au http://www.marketingwithnomoney.com
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Lenore Miller “Create the Outrageously Healthy YOU for Life!” How would you like to feel Outrageously Healthy every single day of your life? If you are living any life other than the Outrageously Healthy Life you deserve, then you’re in the right place. Hi my name is Lenore Miller and it has been my privilege to work with more than 1500 women in the past few years through my fitness studio, assisting them to create the outrageously healthy life they desire. As a fitness professional people come to myself and my team looking for a solution to their fitness and weight loss ‘problems’. But here’s the thing - what these gorgeous women really want is what they think getting thin and fit will give them: feeling great about themselves, energy, vibrance and happiness! The other side of this discussion, is the many women I have met who have achieved their ‘ideal’ weight or size, but are still not happy with who they are or how they feel. The reality is they were really looking for what they thought being their ideal weight would give them. Usually what they want is to feel happy, energetic, vibrant; they want to feel Outrageously Healthy! So why when they get to their desired size or weight are they still not satisfied? Why do they then go on to want to adjust other things about themselves – the shape of their bottom, arms or nose? What they want is not really about their weight, or size, what they eat or even how often they exercise. It’s about the quality of their life; how they feel every day when they wake up and then every second of that day - it’s about how they feel in their own skin. If you spend all day thinking about all the ways you’re not perfect, then you’ll never feel outrageously
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healthy - and you will never live the great life you deserve no matter what your shape or size. So what’s the solution? I’m glad you asked. The solution is to learn how to feel outrageously healthy and happy TODAY regardless of your weight, size, shape or health issues. Outrageous health starts with the quality of your life and flows into all areas of your existence. You don’t need to get thin or fit first, because once you know how to feel outrageously healthy easily and effortlessly then everything else follows from there. It’s a natural progression. Will you need to take some action - absolutely - but once you stop focusing on all that is ‘wrong’ with you and focus on feeling outrageously healthy, making steps toward the outrageously healthy you and the life you deserve is easy! What’s getting in the way of you feeling outrageously healthy today? Wouldn’t it be great to feel outrageously healthy today and everyday of your life? I bet the minute you read that question all kinds of thoughts flowed for you – “of course I do but…” So what came after that but? What’s holding you back? Make a list of all of the things that come up for you when you ask this question, or the things you see as reasons you can’t possibly feel outrageously healthy right NOW! Go on write down your list; no-one’s watching and you don’t have to share it if you don’t want to! What did you come up with – I’m overweight, I smoke, I have no energy, I don’t exercise, everyone in my family suffers from… I am sure the reasons are as many and varied as the wonderful people reading this e-book. And you know none of this has anything to do with feeling outrageously healthy, because feeling outrageously healthy is a state of mind, not a state of body. You get to choose an outrageously healthy state of mind and my mission is to show you how you can make this choice and transform the quality of your life and health, easily and effortlessly. You know, once you decide to start feeling outrageously healthy at every opportunity, then you’ll start acting outrageously healthy too! It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. What kind of impact do you think that will have on you and the people around you? You may even find some of the reasons you gave for not feeling outrageously healthy start to move and shift because once you do feel outrageously healthy, you might then start acting like an outrageously healthy person? I bet you will.
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I have a question for you? How many times have you started on Monday? You know what I mean - Monday is the day you’re starting that diet, or exercise program, or giving up smoking, or you’re going to stop biting your nails… Have you started on Monday more than once? Wow I can hear you from where I am sitting! Yes of course you have, and so have I. Why did we need to start more than once? Why wasn’t the first time the solution that got us to our goal? I have an idea why all these Monday starts haven’t gotten us to where we want to be. It’s because we have been using willpower to overcome whatever we see as an issue - we will just stop eating our favourite food, or just stop smoking. We will just decide to do it and that’s it! The thing with willpower is it is only one tool we have at our disposal and it’s a tool of your conscious mind. What does this mean? It means that for you to take action you have to be consciously thinking about it all the time and that is really hard work. You have to be vigilant all the time; aware of what you are doing every minute of every day and it’s exhausting. Guess what happens - you sometimes slip up then what do you do? How do you feel? I bet you feel really awful; maybe even thinking, “oh no I’ve failed again”. And then what do you do? Slide back into the old habit again and feel even worse. That’s right, isn’t it? Today’s the day that is all going to change. Today you get new understanding and new tools to ensure you have the outrageously healthy life you deserve. Did you know that your conscious mind is only 1/6 of your total capacity, and the remainder (5/6) is your unconscious mind? So when we decide that Monday is that day we are using our willpower - in our conscious mind - we are only using 1/6 of our total capacity. The thing about our conscious mind is that it can only do so much at one time before it starts dropping balls and becoming overloaded. However our unconscious mind has a huge capacity. It does all those unconscious things like breathe for us, beat our heart, digest our food and not just that - it stores all kinds of information, in fact everything you have ever learned, heard, seen, thought or felt is stored in your body as part of your unconscious mind. Have you ever had the experience of remembering an event or person that you haven’t thought of consciously for years, but suddenly it or they are there front of mind? Where was that information before it came to your conscious mind? Stored in your very own advanced computer back-up system - your unconscious mind - ready for retrieval.
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So what else is stored there? Well all of our beliefs and thoughts and all the records of every time you started on Monday! Every time someone told you that you were big boned and would never be slim, or that you weren’t sporty, your unconscious mind stored those images, along with images of that person in your life that you loved or thought was cool who smoked. It stores your beliefs about who you are and how your life will be. Some of this information is really old and way past its use-by-date. Maybe it served you at some time in your life, much like the belief that you’re a 10-year-old child that served you when you were 10, but would it serve you to believe that now? Maybe food always makes you feel safe or loved, and this may have helped a troubled child cope, but does it serve you now to hold on to that belief and continue to act it out? We have so many things stored in our unconscious that we are not consciously aware of, which we still play out in our lives today, creating results or outcomes we don’t consciously desire. Once we become aware of these patterns, beliefs or behaviours then we can change them to a new pattern, belief or behavior to get us the life we want and deserve. So stop feeling bad about your current state and get excited, because an outrageously healthy life is yours for the living. What happens when we start on Monday and by Wednesday we are totally off our desired path? You now know there is something else going on, something that’s getting in your way, holding you back from moving forward on your goal something that is stored in your unconscious mind. How useful would it be to remove that old information that’s holding you back? Even better - to replace it with something else; something empowering that will propel you forward into the outrageously healthy life you deserve. Here taking the steps towards those health and fitness goals becomes easy and just part of the way you live your life. This is the business of getting your conscious and unconscious mind working together and moving in the same direction. So first let‘s get you in the right state of mind to begin. Do you have pieces of music that when you listen to them elicit a specific emotion in you – maybe it’s joy, love or nostalgia for another time? Maybe it’s the music you use on your iPod when you exercise to make you feel energetic, or the music you play when you want to relax. The gift I have for you today will allow you to feel outrageously healthy, energetic and positive any time you desire - in an instant. How useful would that be? All you have to do is download the FREE MP3 “Feeling Great for No Good Reason”
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which has a truly ‘cool tool’ for you to use to create a really direct way to feel outrageously healthy in an instant. (Go to http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts to claim your gift). This is a great starting point and puts you in the driver’s seat to an Outrageously Healthy Life and Lifestyle. The next thing I am going to suggest you do is a writing exercise. I want you to write the story of what your life looks like as an Outrageously Healthy YOU! I want you to do it in full sensory detail. Let me explain - I want you to use your senses in the story: •
what do you see - how do you look, what’s happening in your life, what are you doing?
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what do you hear - what are others saying to you, what are you saying to yourself, is there a sound track to your outrageously healthy life?
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what do you feel – how does outrageously healthy feel to you, are you energetic, ecstatic, peaceful, happy? You get the idea.
Use as much detail as possible and cover every area of your life. What are your relationships like - with your partner, children, extended family, friends, work colleagues? How does being outrageously healthy affect your career, your finances, your leisure time, the clothes you wear or the things you do on holiday? Go on juice it right up - it’s your Outrageously Healthy Life, and it all starts TODAY! Next Steps If you have done the exercises in the chapter and listened to Feeling Great for No Good Reason then you’ve taken some great first steps to creating the Outrageously Healthy Life you deserve. The next step is to expand the relationship between your conscious and unconscious mind, to uncover the things that are holding you back and make living an Outrageously Healthy Life both easy and effortless.
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Download and listen to the FREE MP3 I have recorded for you. I promise you will have yourself a really ‘cool tool’ that will help you feel outrageously healthy and happy, any time you choose. 2. Writing activity – three pages in full sensory detail about what your life will be like as an outrageously healthy person. 3. You can also go to www.outrageouslyhealthy.com and join as a FREE member and listen in to our interviews with great experts live, either by phone or webcast.
About the Author Lenore Miller is the Creator and Founder of www.outrageouslyhealthy.com. She brings together both tools of the conscious and unconscious mind to help you create the Outrageously Healthy Life you deserve. You can listen to Lenore’s expert interviews by becoming a FREE member of outrageouslyhealthy.com, where you will hear authorities speak on everything from fueling your body and exercising efficiently, to motivation and having a wardrobe that has you feeling fabulous. She also offers you the opportunity to work at an unconscious level by participating in group and individual coaching calls. Lenore is a Keynote Speaker, Result Coach and NLP Practitioner and she holds a Bachelor of Social Science and a Diploma in Relationship counseling.
Special offer Get your FREE MP3 “Feeling Great for No Good Reason” which has a truly ‘cool tool’ for you to use to create a really direct way to feel outrageously healthy in an instant. (Go to http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts to claim your gift).
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Linda Binns “Creating Environments for Success” To be successful in life and to live the life that you truly want, you need to focus on many things – your beliefs, emotions, the actions you take, who you surround yourself with. You must have a vision, a plan and … you must make sure that your home is not holding you back. This is one area that people often neglect as they diligently focus on everything else. Yet it’s true, your environment truly can hold you back. It can either support you, helping you move forward and achieve your goals with ease, or it can sabotage your efforts, keeping you stuck and bringing up obstacles for you in your life. Here I’m going to cover 3 main areas for you to focus your attention on. If you address just these 3 things in your home, you maybe amazed at the positive change that can happen.
Your Front Door Your front door is the most important part of your home. This is true even if you don’t use it very often. In fact, if you don’t use your front door, I’m going to encourage you to start using it from time to time to keep it activated. The front door is where energy enters into your home. In Feng Shui, it is also the symbolic point for opportunities to come to you in life. You want energy to enter into your home and you want that energy to be positive and healthy. You also want it to circulate freely in your home, neither moving too fast nor too slowly – which I’ll address in a little bit. This means that everything about your front entrance should be good. It should be easy to find – if you gave me directions to your home could I find it easily? Is the house number clearly visible? Once I arrive there, is it obvious where I enter? If the entrance to your house is tucked around to the side or if you have more http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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than one door at the front of your house making it somewhat confusing, then you need to make it really obvious where people should go. Once I do get to your front door, how welcoming and inviting is it? You’ll want to make sure that landscaping is well cared for, that there is something that welcomes people to your home – such as a small table and chairs on the porch, flowers or plants, a welcome mat, a wreath on the door, etc. It’s helpful to have some red by your front door. Painting your front door red can be a good thing to do, but if this is not possible or desirable, simply having some red by your front door can be a very good thing. This is because red is a high energy color and it helps to bring vibrant, positive energy to your door. You can have red flowers or some red in your welcome mat and so on. Make sure the doorbell works if you have one, or if you don’t there must be some other way for people to let you know they are at your door. Have a ‘greeter’ at your door. This could be a beautiful plant or a statue of some kind (for example, an angel or an animal or Buddha). Your front door should open easily – if it sticks or is blocked in any way from opening fully (such as things stored behind it) you may find yourself feeling stuck in life – with opportunities passing you by. When working to enhance your front entrance, think of it this way – when your entrance is welcoming and inviting, you’re inviting not only people to your home, but also good energy and opportunities to come to you in life.
Your Bedroom If the front door is the most important part of your home, the most important room is your bedroom. Your bedroom is the room that’s closest to you and has the biggest impact on you. If you want to bring about positive change in your life then start with your bedroom. First of all, you should love your bedroom. It should feel like your personal sanctuary. Clear any clutter from the room. In particular, do not store anything underneath the bed – doing so creates stagnant energy which can affect you as you sleep, resulting in health issues. Do you love your furniture? Choose furniture that you love and that makes you feel good. It’s best if your bed is made of wood, rather than metal. If you have a headboard it should be solid – no railings or bars. The headboard represents the support you have in life – you want to have solid support. If you have an open headboard with bars or railings see if you can put something behind it or use some fabric. You could use a board that is covered with some nice fabric.
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If you have a king-sized bed, cover the box spring with a red fitted sheet. This is because the box spring has a split in it, which can cause a split in your relationship. The red sheet will help to heal the split, and bring you and your partner closer together. Make sure you have a nightstand on each side of the bed. They should be the same size and have the same things on it – so if you have a lamp on one, you’ll want a lamp on the other as well. Your bed should be in the ‘command position’. This simply means that you can see the door when you are sitting or lying in bed. The bed will be in a part of the room farthest away from the door, but should be facing towards the door, with a wall behind you. It should not be directly in line with the door – remember that energy enters through the doors and you don’t want to block it by having your bed there. If you cannot place your bed in the command position and you find that you have your back to the door, simply hang a mirror on the wall so that as you sit or lie in bed you can look in the mirror and see the door behind you. If you have or want a relationship, the color scheme in your bedroom should be predominantly warm colors. Cool colors (such as blue, green, white, etc.) can create a ‘cooling of communication’, a drifting apart in your relationship. Use calm, peaceful colors – nothing too bright. Also use artwork that is appropriate (nothing too active or loud). You want this room to feel calm, peaceful and romantic. So ideally this would mean no television, exercise equipment, computers, etc. in the room. If you MUST have a television in the room put it in a cabinet so you can close the doors when it’s not in use and when you go to sleep. Otherwise, find a nice throw or scarf to cover it at night. If you have lots of mirrors in your bedroom and you have difficulty sleeping, try covering the mirrors at night. This will calm the room down and people very often find that this helps them sleep. Make sure that you only have things in your bedroom that you love, that it represents you and you feel really good there. This helps your energy tremendously and will help all aspects of your life improve.
Clutter We all know that clutter is bad but it can easily become overwhelming so that we don’t have the time, motivation or energy to deal with it. If you are feeling tired,
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lethargic, stuck in life in any way, dealing with clutter can be one of the most effective things you can do. Everything has energy. Also think of your possessions as being alive with your memories and associations. Everything you own is connected to you energetically and emotionally. This means that when you have an accumulation of clutter – things that you don’t need, use, want or love, it literally drains your energy. Also, when your home is filled with things that you don’t use or want, it means that your life is full and overwhelming. There’s no room for anything new to come into your life. If clutter is a big issue for you, I highly recommend getting started by working with a professional organizer. There are many of them around and it shouldn’t be hard to find one in your area. If this doesn’t feel like something you can do but you don’t know where or how to get started yourself, try getting started with one thing – right now, go and find one thing that you can throw away or give away. Do this every day, just find one thing and take action with it – throw or give it away. Or, you can put together a box of things that you will sell – but you must take action with them. Either put them on e-bay or set a date for a garage sale. You’ll find that if you get rid of one thing every day the energy will start to clear, you’ll start to feel better and things will start to move for you, without it being or feeling overwhelming. If you address these 3 areas within your home – your front door, your bedroom and deal with the clutter – you will find that you feel better, more positive and peaceful and that life starts to flow much more smoothly. Opportunities will appear out of the blue. Who would have thought that you could achieve so much by changing a few things in your home?
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Enhance your front door 2. Turn your bedroom into your sanctuary 3. Clear the clutter
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About the Author Personal Growth consultant and coach, Linda Binns is the author of Feng Shui for Your Relationships: Changing Your Environment to Create Better Relationships and The Energetic Edge: How Changing Your Environment = Big Success. Her web site offers both In-Balance and Full-Life Balance memberships (http://www.harmonyinandout.com).
Special offer Learn how to create a more balanced life by aligning your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, actions and the energy in your environment with Linda’s free 9-Step Ecourse and weekly Harmonize e-zine. Sign up at: http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts
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Lisa Taliga “How To Attract Clients To Your Virtual Assistant Business”
What Is A Virtual Assistant? First of all, what is a Virtual Assistant (VA)? Well, think of all the ‘hats’ that a business owner has to wear when running a business. There’s a myriad of admin, technical, secretarial, creative and marketing tasks that have to be completed and that are essential to a successful business. To succeed, sooner or later, a business owner has to delegate. Often, it’s far more cost-effective to outsource to a Virtual Assistant rather than employ someone in the traditional sense of the word. A VA works from their own office, usually at home, with multiple clients, assisting them with tasks that can be done remotely. The internet has allowed this business model to evolve into the exciting opportunity it is today. Here are some of the tasks that a VA can help with: • • • • • • • • •
Transcription Data entry Writing Organizing events and meetings Editing and proofreading Setting up blogs Submitting articles Creating products e.g. ebooks, audio, video Running membership sites
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Social networking and bookmarking Setting up autoresponders, squeeze pages Setting up and updating websites Researching joint ventures and affiliates Search engine optimization
When using a VA, clients are only paying for actual work done. There are no additional costs such as sick pay, holiday pay, insurance, retirement benefits etc. In recent months, the media has turned its attention to the Virtual Assistant opportunity. Becoming a Virtual Assistant is very exciting right now, as many businesses are looking to outsource the tasks they don’t have time for, to willing and capable VAs.
How Can You Attract Clients As A Virtual Assistant? So, if you’re interested in becoming a Virtual Assistant, or maybe you’re already a VA but want more clients, how can you make 2009 your most successful year yet? How can you attract the clients you want to work with? First of all, you need to really think about what you want for your VA business. Because if you don’t really know what kind of services you want to offer, and with whom you want to work, your business will be without direction, and you’ll find it hard to get clients. Let’s talk about the Law Of Attraction (LOA) for a moment - a very popular topic these days. The LOA is universal and works in any situation. The key is knowing exactly what you want, because unless you know exactly what you want, the universe will not deliver it. If you have unfocused thought, then you will attract unfocused results. As is true in life, if you are unsure of your destination, then you will simply never get there. You will never reach your goal until it is specific, positive and affirmed in the present tense. So, what do you want as a Virtual Assistant? What kind of clients do you want to attract, what kind of work do you want to do, what kind of relationship will you have with your clients, how much will you earn? How many billable hours will you work each week? What will it FEEL like sitting in front of your computer, working from home, with a full day ahead of you, exactly how you want it? If you know what you want, you’ll start to attract those things into your life. Opportunities will present themselves to you, and because you know exactly
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where you’re going, you’ll know whether a particular opportunity is suitable for you. This is one of the keys to success as a Virtual Assistant. At first, I didn’t really know what I wanted. I just wanted to work at home with pretty much any client that came along. And so, I found myself with an odd assortment of clients, some of whom I didn’t really enjoy working with. Others panned out really well, so I began to visualize getting more clients like these and being quite specific about it. I took appropriate actions to get those clients and I immediately recognised when suitable ones came along. It really worked! You can apply this on a daily basis and make it part of your everyday thought process. Every morning, before you start your day, set your intentions for your Virtual Assistant business - not only for what you want in a month’s time, but what you want for that day. Each day must include specific actions to attain your ideal life. Once you have these things formulated in your mind, you’ll find it much easier to stay focused in spite of distractions. This is an excellent way to attract your ideal Virtual Assistant business, by constantly thinking of your grand vision and working towards it. As for the specific marketing strategies that will actually land you your ideal clients, remember that you can use a mixture of online AND offline techniques to get all the clients you could wish for. Online marketing strategies include having your own website and networking on Facebook, Linkedin and small business forums. Offline strategies include networking at your local Chamber of Commerce and business networking groups such as Business Network International, and volunteering in your local community. Consistent thought and action is key. Start today, and in a year’s time you will be enjoying the fruits of positive intention and focused action.
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Decide exactly what kind of clients you want for your Virtual Assistant business 2. Visualize your ideal business on a daily basis 3. Every day, take daily action toward that vision – no matter how small that action is
About the Author Lisa Taliga has been a Virtual Assistant since 2002 and is based in Melbourne, Australia. Originally from London, she emigrated to Australia ten years ago. In 2006, she published her first information product – an ebook called ' Freelance from Home! The 5 Key Steps to Your Successful Virtual Assistant Business'. She is now an Internet Marketing Virtual Assistant working with clients to bring them success on the internet.
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Lorraine Pirihi “The 3 Secrets Every Female Entrepreneur Needs to Know to Stay Sane and Have a Life!” Many female entrepreneurs subconsciously sabotage their efforts in having a life because they try and do everything themselves. Why waste your precious time working on tasks, which are definitely not your forte when you can delegate or invest your money on a product or service which will free up your time? You’ll then be far more productive, much more profitable and enjoy time with your family. Debbie's Story Debbie was the Director of her own computer company, employing four staff. Debbie had a hectic lifestyle. She worked long hours, had three children and a husband to organise. On top of all that she was in the middle of a major renovation of her own home. As if she didn’t have enough to , Debbie was also studying for a Bachelor of Computer Science! No wonder she was stressed out! Here was a situation where she had overburdened herself unnecessarily. She had far too much going on in her life and something was about snap! Debbie was unable to sleep properly with all the worry and strain of juggling everything and had neglected her own self in the process. She looked tired and haggard when I first met her. She was 15 kg overweight and looked at least 10 years older than she really was. She had lost touch with what was really important to her. Debbie was trying to be superwoman! She had taken on far too much and was forced to review her lifestyle (or lack of it) or she would either have a nervous breakdown or die in the process.
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The Solutions In working with my clients I always get them to write down all the activities and responsibilities they are currently involved in, both at work and home. By writing them down you can clearly see what is really important and what isn't. You can also see where you fill up your day with unnecessary activity. With Debbie there were many areas where she could free up her time to give her the time for herself as the number one priority and get some sanity back into her life. Before Adding, Look at Subtracting I suggested to Debbie that she needed to look at which activities and responsibilities she could defer, delete or delegate. This is what she chose to do: • • • •
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Defer her Computer Science Degree until the following year. Organise a building company to project manage her home renovation. Up until that time she had been organising the whole project on her own! Hire a babysitter with a car who could pick her kids up from school and run them around to their activities. The babysitter would also cook the dinner and do other light domestic duties. Utilise her bookkeeper much more by delegating to her basic administration tasks, which she was very capable of doing. Her bookkeeper was only employed three days a week and was delighted to work an extra day assisting Debbie with other tasks. Attend her local gym at 6.00 a.m. three mornings a week and once on the weekend. She also sought advice on her diet. Within four weeks you could see the change in Debbie. She was more confident now that she had taken control of her situation. Her life was getting back on track!
The Final Word It's really easy not to invest money in yourself. Do you spend money on your car, your computer, your business, your home and other 'things' in your life? Are you not worthy enough to invest in yourself? Is the price you pay for neglecting yourself really worth it? What can you defer, delete or delegate so that you can have more time for living your life?
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Defer – ‘everything’ is not urgent. Sometimes you have to ‘put things off’. 2. Delete – Get rid of the ‘unimportant’ 3. Delegate – Free up your time. Get help!
About the Author Lorraine Pirihi is the founder of productivityqueen.com and creator of “The Productivity and Profit System” the complete one-on-one training program for solopreneurs and small businesses. Lorraine is also the celebrated author of “The Productivity and Profit Home Study System” which helps you to easily organize your time, your marketing, your people and your systems so you are much more profitable and have time to enjoy life. She is a speaker, author and productivity expert who specializes in helping small business owners how to reclaim their business and reclaim their life.
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Ludwina Dautovic “Marketing & Dating The Two go Hand in Hand”
You don’t ask the guy to marry you on the first date; do you? So why then, do we expect our prospects to say ‘yes’ the first time we meet them?
Dating Marketing is like dating. If you want to close the customer, you have to flirt with them a little. You have to give them a reason to be attracted to you. Think about when you went on a first date. You wore your red lippy, sexy perfume, you looked hot, you listened intently, you laughed at their bad jokes and then low and behold he asked you on another date. Well, marketing is just the same. If you’re wondering why you are not attracting your ideal client and closing the sale, then you might not be flirting enough!
Marketing Strategy Many businesses fail to consider where the client might be at in the sales process. Some people are quick decision makers, but only some. Most people need to have a few points of contact before they’ll buy anything let alone your major product or service. If they don’t have any options other than a $3000 product, chances are they won’t buy from you.
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Consider this scenario… Julia is a business coach who when we first met, was surprised that she wasn’t closing many clients for her business mentoring program valued at $2997. It was a great program that supported the client ongoing for a period of three months. It had all sorts of bonuses and I could see the value in it. However, Julia wasn’t offering anything else other than this program. What she failed to see was that people needed to trust her and connect with her before they would hand over a large sum of money like that. What she needed was a marketing strategy which I call ‘The Marketing Funnel’.
Marketing Funnel A Marketing Funnel is a series of options that allows your customer to be seduced by you in a way that is easy and comfortable for them to accept. It gives them the opportunity to sit back and decide if they like what they see. This forms the basis for your marketing strategy and it looks like this… Step 1. Lead Generation – Light and flirtatious. Your marketing tactics are the things you ‘do’ to attract your target market. They will be – article writing, blogging, speaking, newsletters, networking, advertising, mail drops, strategic alliances, competitions, directories, referral systems, build your database etc. etc. etc. Step 2. Irresistible Offer – You need their number if you want a first date! Once they are attracted to you they will want to see more. Before you can ask them on a date you need their phone number; right? Offer them something that is so attractive that they’ll whip out their pen and jot down those precious details! The offer might be an e-book, an audio or both. It might be a copy of this book you are reading right now. Whatever it is, make sure it’s enticing enough so they will be happy to give you their phone number and email address! Step 3. Relationship Building – The first date! Now that you have their details, you can directly market to them via your regular newsletter. This essentially, is your first date. It’s your chance to showcase who you are, your services, your style, your look and feel of your business. But beware; don’t go straight for the sale. Always give them something of value before you show them all your wears!
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Step 4. Low Cost Product - The first kiss! Here is your chance for the first kiss. Now that they’ve been reminded of you, they are more likely to buy from you. Give them an option of a few products that range between $20 and $50. Better yet, make it a downloadable product they can buy and get instantly. This will leave them with a nice taste in their mouth and a reminder of how sweet you are! Step 5. Vary your Range – Second and third date! Once you have had your first date, it will only be a matter of time before you go on a second and third date. This can only lead to an engagement! Offer products that are priced at different levels but lead them further towards your bigger pricing item. You might offer them a workshop, a home study program, or a mentoring program. Create something that suits your market and leads to an engagement! Step 6. The Final Step – The Wedding! Once you have developed a relationship and they keep coming back for more, the wedding is a given. They are regularly connected with you via your newsletter and other points of contact. They trust you and know that you offer a high quality service. So picture this – when they are ready for your ultimate service or product, who do you think they will buy it from? They won’t go anywhere else. They’ve already invested so much in their relationship with you that you are now the only option. You have successfully put all the elements in place for an ‘I do’. Remember, everybody has different buying strategies. Some are quick decision makers, some take a little while and others need a lot of time and trust before they will buy. By installing a system like this you will be certain that you can attract your target market and ultimately get that ‘yes’.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Decide what your lead generation tactics will be 2. Set up a relationship building system e.g. newsletter 3. Create products that have a progressive pricing structure
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About the Author Ludwina Dautovic is the founder and director of The Red Tent Woman, an organisation that supports women in small and home based business through business coaching, mentoring, business resources, training and speaking. Ludwina was the 2008 MCEI National Marketing Award Winner for the category of ‘Women in Business’. The Red Tent Woman hosts monthly networking events at various locations around Melbourne and in 2009 will be hosting these events around Australia. The events have an organic approach enabling women to feel comfortable and connected whilst creating business alliances and joint venture partnerships. The Red Tent Woman is also the producer of 'The Business Success Series’ which is a range of interviews with highly successful men and women aimed at providing powerful and practical information to business owners. It helps you make better business decisions and will arm you with the information you need to grow and sustain your business. Some of the interviews include - Di Williams, Fernwood Founder and Managing Director, Shelley Taylor Smith, 7 times world champion marathon swimmer, Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of ‘On the Shoulder of Giants’. http://www.theredtentwoman.com.au
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Margaret Saunders “How What You Love Doing CAN Make YOU Money!” Hi, I’m Margaret Saunders and I’m a very contented mother of two wonderful daughters. I love being a mum and run a parenting business which came about after I started to write a book which I never finished about what I love most.
How It All Came To Be My business is mainly about bedtime and toilet training solutions. Yes, it has nothing to do with internet marketing or teaching people how to make money. However the success of my business is because I run it along similar lines as if I was teaching people how to make money or run a business – internet style. The only difference is that I teach parents how to toilet train their children in just one day and how to get the little ones into bed happily and quickly and in a loving way. In my early life if you had told me I was going to be a successful marketer and mother I would have given you the big “No Way” and crossed my arms. I didn’t even know I would be a mum until my late 30’s. And that’s because I became very clucky. Up until then I had had considerable work experience in office work, secretarial skills, running an office and managing activities for teenagers in a drop in centre. I then became very New Age and learnt new age methods of counselling and communicating skills.
Our Past Experiences Help Our Present Day Experiences As you can well imagine all my past experiences were very useful when I started to create what I do now.
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When I discovered I was really good at getting my daughters into bed and falling asleep fast and my eldest daughter Alicia, was asking me to put her to bed at 6.00 pm on a Saturday night I knew I was onto something. A year later I was introduced to my method of toilet training which took only one day. This was so impressive to all my friends with children that they were asking how to do it for themselves. So that led to me thinking I could write a book about my parenting ideas and skills and pass them onto other mums. I really did love what I was doing. I started in sections and before the book was finished I came across internet marketing. And that was the beginning of my business. Instead of finishing one book I created four different parenting packages and used the internet techniques of marketing and promoting and my business took off. You Too Can Do This. If you have a hobby, an interest, something that you love doing and are really good at, maybe you’d like to use your skills to develop a product, such as an ebook, a CD, a home study course or more. My life has become much more fulfilled and interesting due to my day to day contact with the people who need my advice, or just to tell me their success stories. Internet marketers and members of Wonderful Web Women have become close friends and advisers and I give thanks every day for these people who are now in my life and that I am able to share something that I truly love doing. So don’t put it off, take some positive action, think of those ideas and start today.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. What is it that you really love doing that could add value to other people like you? 2. Start somewhere.
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3. Charge what you are worth and enjoy every minute. 4. Use the many resources that are available to help you with your journey. 5. Give thanks every day.
About the Author Margaret Saunders is a later in life mother. She had her two daughters when she was 39 and 41. Margaret lives in a seaside village called Dromana which is 1-1/2 hours out of Melbourne Victoria, Australia. She runs her successful parenting business Bedtime And Toilet Training Solutions from home whilst her two daughter attend the local Secondary College. To find out about Margaret’s winning parenting style and receive her free information package go to http://www.BedtimeAndToiletTrainingSolutions.com.au and to find out about her Baby Sleep books visit http://www.BedtimeAndToiletTrainingSolutions.com.au/babysleep.lp
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Margaret Sims “How to be Memorable when Speaking in Public … look good, be remembered positively and attract more clients” Whether you love or hate speaking in public, most business owners decide at some stage to put themselves in front of a group audience. It is one of the most cost-effective ways to reach your potential target market. When you speak in public, you are a visual example of the result of using your product or service. If the way you dress is in harmony with this, then the Law of Attraction is at its most powerful. The audience will feel a connection to you. They will also feel safe starting to build a relationship with you. And they have an emotional reason to buy from you. It’s a courageous act to speak on a stage and reveal who you really are to an audience of strangers. So here are three action steps and one bonus to help you be the best and most confident YOU possible. The first two steps relate to your audience and the third relates to you.
1. Dress to look like the Best of Your Target Audience Ask the Organiser if the group or venue has dress standards for speakers. If they don’t, ask what their members or speakers usually wear. This is important. Organisers and guests have often spoken to me about how they have been disappointed by the way their guest speaker has dressed. If you have never spoken to this group before, a pre-visit will help you check out how the members dress.
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It will also show your interest in them and your interest in their goals and aspirations. Dress like someone they can aspire to without being too far above them. There are now more solo entrepreneurs and they are discarding the corporate suit and dressing in a more relaxed business style. It is important to know how to dress to appeal to this target market. If you are not sure how to do this well, consult an Image Coach. Always wear the best quality clothes you can afford. This shows respect for your audience and pride in yourself.
2. Check out the Venue so You Stand Out from the Background This is the one I find that many speakers overlook. Ask the Organiser about the background colours of the room where you will be speaking. Find out the colours of the walls and the background curtains, the height of the stage and what the lighting is like. Many groups meet in rooms that are also used for entertainment and you may be standing in front of dark curtains as well as in the shadows under poor lighting. You do not want to blend into the background. I have been in venues where the walls or curtains behind the speaker have been brown, yellow and even green. Many speakers who are not aware of the background colours and lighting have turned up in either a matching wall or curtain colour or colours that are low contrast (eg black and plum or any two colours that are very dark). I have seen speakers who have literally disappeared because of the colours they have worn. A better option is to wear two colours that are a medium contrast (ie a lighter or brighter coloured top with dark coloured skirt or pants). This appeals to most people as they can see your face and you look more enthusiastic. A medium contrast appeals to everybody. Ask the Organiser about the characteristics of the group. I belong to Business Swap and this group contains a high proportion of lively extroverts. So to a group like this or if your topic is high energy, then you can choose to wear high contrast colours (eg purple and orange, bright red or bright yellow). Only do this if it suits your colouring and your personality and the Organiser feels that the group will respond positively to you. Natural Extroverts and some people with skin colouring that aligns with certain colour seasons feel very comfortable wearing high contrast colours. If this is you,
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be aware that these combinations can discourage potential clients who are quieter in nature. Your personality can overwhelm them. It can also have the opposite effect of attracting dependent clients who see your strong personality as meaning that you will do all the work for them. On your pre-visit or when you arrive to speak, check the lighting so you stand where the audience can see you clearly. Check where the President or the MC stands and note whether you can see their facial expressions. Use this as a guide for the best place for you to present your talk. A word of advice for those who look good in slim fitting skirts. From experience I have learnt that if you look good in a slim skirt, it is best to wear one with some stretch in it as some venues have steep steps or no steps up to their stage. When you ask these questions, you appear very professional. The Law of Attraction is working in your favour as word spreads about your attitude and commitment to your audience.
3. Be Remembered by Being the Real You This is often the scary and courageous part. To be remembered and attract those to whom your message appeals, you need to show the real YOU. It’s a combination of dressing for the parts of your body that you like (Yes! You do have good body bits) and dressing for your personality. When you show your true personality through your clothes and accessories, you are revealing your courage. You are daring to be yourself rather than dressing in the safe, conservative style of everyone else. It is important to understand the three elements that make up your personality and wear clothes and accessories that are in harmony with these elements. Have a look in your wardrobe. The clothes that you don’t wear are either the ones that don’t reflect your personality or you have lots of clothes that show only one side of your personality. Consult an Image Coach if you need help with this as it will do wonders for your confidence and sales. As a speaker, you want people to concentrate on your face. I suggest that you wear a colour that draws attention to your eyes or your hair because, depending on your colour season, this is what the audience sees first. They may not remember the colour of your eyes or your hair but they will remember that you looked good. That perception re-enforces the positive result of using your product or service.
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Leave some open skin space at your neckline so that your face shines. You can then wear a statement piece of jewellery or scarf that reveals part of your personality. Women (and some men) will notice an interesting piece of jewellery or scarf. Accessories attract people to you and they are great conversation starters when you are mingling with the audience before you formally speak to them. What women call ‘female intuition’ and men call ‘gut feeling’ is you believing your eyes before your ears. Your eyes take in messages from the way the speaker dresses and their body language. So dress confidently and let the audience see all your facial expressions. Those who will be your potential clients can then decide whether they trust you enough to buy from you or start a business relationship with you. For more Image, Colour and Business Etiquette Tips to help you reveal the REAL YOU, go to my website listed in ‘About the Author’ and click on the Tips Library link.
Bonus Tip When you provide a jpeg image for promotion, make sure it is a current image that brings light to your face and shows something of your personality. People buy YOU first. So show them who you are, dress to give them something to aspire to and be surprised by who and what you attract.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Create a Checklist of questions to ask the Speaking Organiser about the Venue and the Guests 2. Test and record the results of wearing different clothing to speaking events 3. When you’re serious about success, visit an Image Coach for advice
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About the Author At the age of 53, Margaret Sims left a career teaching business and computing skills to go into business for herself. She’s now a down-to-earth Business Image Coach and solo-entrepreneur owner of YourFutureDirection. It took me, Margaret, a number of years to discover what I’m passionate about after leaving high school teaching. I now teach businesswomen and businessmen over 40 how to have the courage to use their naturally best colours and the clothes they wear to reflect who they truly are and spontaneously attract more clients. Courage as a mature-age businesswoman is something I am still developing. I live in Brisbane in sunny Queensland, Australia and am a proud member and past Vice-President of Brisbane Business Swap. With two adult sons and no grandchildren on the horizon, I’m joining the ‘Too Young to Retire’ brigade. My goal is to inspire women and men to confidently show their individuality so the world is richer for all their different perspectives on living. I see the Internet as a wonderful force for connecting people all around the world and I’m taking my soon-to-be retired husband on this journey with me wherever it leads. Come and find out more at http://www.yourfuturedirection.com.au.
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Margit Robson
“A Rich Life”
“When the student is ready, the Teacher will appear...” Helping people discover strength of spirit to create an extraordinary life.
Your extraordinary Life Do you wonder who you are and what you’re life purpose is? Like many people today, there are so many life challenges that it’s hard to know where your life is heading let alone how to get through and rise above these lessons. Let’s begin with you, the most important person in your life and how you can create more abundance. It’s not only possible; it’s simpler than you think.
Finding your WHY What’s your intention, your purpose and your motivation for success? Your reason has to be bigger than any doubt. The ‘Why’ is your soul energy, the fire in your belly, the passion in your heart and the repeated mantra of your mind? Your ‘why’ has to be big because when life throws challenges your way, it will only be the passion in your heart and soul that motivates you towards action. Your mind wants to justify a hundred reasons why not to take the unknown road, yet your inner ‘why’ is the strength that will encourage you to rise above fear. Ask yourself, how will your life change for the better? As you move through fear what accomplishments will you achieve? To ignore, even procrastinate with your dreams and desires can hold you back as you may be short changing your life.
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In creating a better life the on flow is also a better life for your family and friends as well. Be the best you can be and set your natural gifts free. How do you know what your gifts are? Start by asking your friends and family what they admire in you, and funnily enough, you may find you’re not aware of some of your natural talents. For some people being the best they can be is to be a great Mother or Father and is reward enough, yet for others, contributing to their community or environment enriches their soul. There are those that stand out in leadership and create examples for the rest of the world. It doesn’t matter what it is you want to be the best at, it’s far more important that you believe in yourself and try. It’s not what your dream or what you desire, rather how you allow your dream to manifest. Limiting thought patterns are inside each person and to become aware of what emotional issues are sabotaging your delivery of abundance requires paying attention to dominant thoughts. If you believe that your life is lacking in any way or that you live less than you want, these thoughts can dominate your days and nights and you will continue to create a life of limitation. If your mind focuses on what you don’t like, what you don’t want then sub-consciously your dominant thoughts constantly attracts the very things or situations that you don’t want. It’s not easy turning your thoughts around but through persistence and daily practice of listening in to your limiting thoughts, you can change to abundance in a matter of weeks and months. It’s like emptying a deep well of water, just when you think it’s empty you find a little bit more. Remember that your limiting thoughts have been gathering over a life time, therefore allow time and be patient for these changes to empower your life. Students question their ability to create abundant thoughts citing that when they’re surrounded by a society that questions and judges, that staying on a positive thought track can be difficult. There are many way to retrain your mind, one is to find a mentor, a spiritual teacher who is a great guiding light when negativity and doubt reign. Write down a list of all the dreams and goals you long for. Next to these write how these dreams will impact your life, how they will benefit and enrich your life? Express all your feelings and emotions, right down to how they will relieve stress and worry. As you write your list start to become aware of any limiting thoughts that arise in your mind. Thoughts that say, ‘if only this were true’, or ‘why am I doing this, these things never work for me’ and ‘I’ll only wish small because I don’t want to be judged as being greedy’. As you hear thoughts of doubt or limitation rising within your mind, stop writing and ask yourself this question, ‘Why am I restricting myself?’ and ‘why do I think this way?’
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The truth is that you are not consciously aware of how you limit yourself and your life. If, for example, your dream is to travel and see more of the world, yet the dominant thought that constantly rises is, ‘I’ll never be able to have the money to do that’ or ‘I want to travel with a partner’, be aware of how you have immediately desired something from within your soul (travel) and then squashed your dream through limited thought (reason why not). Your reality is created in an instant. When you next think of a dream you really want, and then hear your mind suggesting why it won’t happen, what if you could change from limitation to creativity of mind to hear yourself instead thinking, ‘I’m not sure how that dream will come true, and I’m not sure when it will come true but I sure want it to come true so I’m going to keep that dream alive and will think, feel and act like it’s already on its way’. As a spiritual teacher I encourage you to keep your dreams alive. Never let any other person or any circumstance or situation take your dreams away. Your responsibility is to keep a burning desire in your soul, heart and mind. For something magic happens when you do this, you begin to work with an energy that is all around and delivers what is called the law of abundance. In taking a step back, letting go of control and allowing the universe to deliver without expectations, you open yourself and your life to an abundance of rewards. What happens is that people all too often want what they want, when they want it and on their terms. Life doesn’t work that way. Take a look around you at the plant kingdom and the animal kingdom and you will see that Mother Nature allows. To create a life of abundance you are required to allow the universe to deliver without control or demand. Therefore if you want riches beyond your imagination, be specific, ask, give thanks, step back, act like it’s on it’s way to you, keep believing and patiently wait. When abundance starts to manifest in your life you need to be ready for anything and everything to arrive. Remember, no limits. Not even in delivery. In fact that is what most people fear. They keep a certain amount of control on their desires because they don’t trust that they will know what to do or how to handle their request when ‘it all’ comes flooding in. It’s interesting that true abundance scares people, yet they won’t readily admit it. Abundance requires trust. Not that you know for certain that you are clever enough or wise enough to know how to handle this unlimited abundance when it arrives in your life, but that you just know you trust yourself and that however and whenever it arrives, you will trust the effects and how abundance changes your life. A rich life is a full life. An abundant life is not only materialism, wealth, health and happiness but also a life of inner peace, poise and wisdom.
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Abundance is all around, we see it in the blue sky, green grass, white lines on the road, groceries in a supermarket and yet abundance for many people is like a fish trying to find water, it’s everywhere yet they cannot appreciate it. When your eye is trained to look for abundance you will always notice it is everywhere. The challenge is when abundance is limited by differing values. To one person an abundant life is only wealth and yet to another person, abundance represents only health. Spiritually abundance is unlimited and eternal, manifesting everywhere, interconnected with everything. When a student views a particular class as a difficult lesson, another student will view the class a potential to learn something new. How do you view your life? Do you see the abundance in some areas but not in others? Is it possible to view those areas of your life that seem lacking or limiting as holding some abundance? Could you possibly have an alternative outlook? Write a list of everything you want or desire. Look at your list and keep writing until you feel you’ve unlocked every desire inside your heart and soul that you’ve ever wanted. Read over your list and adjust it as necessary, adding words or removing words and creating a list that is specific. Look at your list once again, could it be more specific? Where you have asked for something materialistic, write more details about it, write the time frame you wish to have it by and then write what it costs and how many you want. Remember you need to have no limits to your desires. The law of abundance is listening, watching and waiting to deliver to you. If you are controlling in any way you are delaying the arrival. For example if you request a new car you need to specify the make, the colour, the year of manufacture, the cost, the time of year and month that you want it, where you will get it from and who will drive it. Hear your dominant thoughts as they limit you and override yet by understanding you don’t need reassurance as to how this car arrives at your doorstep, because the law of abundance takes care of that, you just need to keep your dream alive. As you visualise your new car and all the details you’ve described, allow yourself to feel what it will be like when you have this new car and how you will feel receiving it, driving it, being seen driving it, how family and friends will respond and how joyous you may feel. The next step in the law of abundance is action so do not be surprised when one day you get the urge, the intuitive feeling that you desire to take this dream car, in real life for a test drive. You see the law of abundance encourages that the more a dream or desire lives as energy within you, the more you co-create it. You have a part to play in having a rich life and that is to speak, think, walk and act like you already have all the riches you seek.
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Students sometimes say that they feel like they’re eluding themselves by dreaming this way, yet by learning to turn their limiting thoughts towards allowing possibilities they already have riches in their life, for every cell and fibre of their being radiates a brighter light. Cells that make up your body; brain and heart vibrate energy that empowers and enlightens when at a higher frequency. In this equilibrium, atonement the body, mind and spirit align, become uplifted and in turn you will become balanced, have greater clarity and more energy. Like meditation, when the mind, heart, body and soul unite and equalise, rejuvenation, replenishment and re-energising occurs. Likewise, when align your mind, body, heart and soul with a life dream, step back and surrender control, the interconnected life force called the universe, God force, steps in and guides, guards and opens doors that you have only ever dreamed about. A rich life is a life where one wants for nothing and understanding everything is possible. Spiritually everything the heart desires, the mind manifests and as a person is aligned with their life purpose, inner peace dwells. If your desires are for the greater good of your life and the lives of others, then be prepared to witness some amazing rewards take shape in your life and in the lives of others. At no time are you to limit your dreams or goals or limit the way you view your life for your future. I have a spiritual gift, but in no way is it different to the gifts which lie inherent within you. The only difference between us is that I am in touch with not only who I am, who I can be and also with where I am going. This means I am clear about my future, my life path and infinite abundance. When I am envisioning an abundant life for me and my family quite often I hear my spirit, my soul intuition reminding, ‘dream bigger’. It dawns on me at these times that human strengths are amazing and dreaming big is under stated and under valued. There is plenty of abundance to go around in this world; no one will miss out because you have your share. Richness does not lie in martyrdom as profit is derived so as to help more people. Gone are the days where having just enough is good enough for these days enriching lives of those less fortunate comes from understanding the flow of abundance never ends and is in fact destined to be continually on flowing, like the cycle of life. Judgement is a dangerous past time yet all too often you will judge yourself let alone others judge you. Who are you to be brilliant? Who are you not to be? What will people think if you living a rich life when they are still struggling? Who are you to presume that others want what you want? What will you say to others who choose not to open their minds and hearts to the possibilities of greatness? Who are you to keep company with procrastination or ignorance? Understand that others may know and that’s ok. Your role is to be all
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that you can be and allow your heart and soul to open fully guiding you to your life purpose. Forgive yourself that you have limited your life so far but that now you know and understand you will give yourself permission to step forward with courage and trust. It will feel like it’s on a wing and a prayer, yet the rewards for diligence and tenacity are life turning. Affirmations are great tools to use as they visually remind you of positive thought principles and what dreams to keep alive. In the example of the new car dream, a great affirmation is ‘I’m in love with my new white BMW that I own, enjoy and share and I give thanks for this abundance in my life’. Remember you need to be specific at all times therefore when in gratitude you still need to be specific. Other great tools are angel cards or any affirmation books that can give you a daily message, inspiration, poetry, music, meditation CD’s, similar to the ‘Red Rose’ CD that I have produced and guides you into relaxation. All these tools support you while you are manifesting your dreams and desires. When you fall off track and doubt creeps in, these tools remind you that you are being guided and that abundance is your birthright. Listen to your soul in times when you are quiet. Sit in the garden; feel the breeze gently lifting your hair as the sun shines on your face. Remind yourself there is more to this world than meets your eye and you are discovering, exploring and testing this world, you call your life. Find inner peace through self trust and belief. Know that abundance is within you and around you and through daily practice patiently learn how to train your mind to work for you in creating the life you’ve always wanted. Be at one with your heart, mind and soul and get off the round-about called ‘being busy’ every now, understanding your dreams and goals are so vitally important and relative to the quality of life you wish to live. A rich life is a life you have inside of you aching to come out and manifest. Let the law of abundance help you to create all that you need and want and then some. Everybody needs somebody, sometime. Help is only a question away. Reach out and grab with both hands your birthright to abundance. God Bless.
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Write a list of all your Dreams. Be specific. Check your feelings and dominant thoughts. 2. Notice limiting thought patterns. Correct outlook. 3. Follow your intuition. Have courage with inspired action to walk, talk, think and feel abundantly. 4. Keep your Dream alive. Believe, Trust and read and write affirmations to keep you on track manifesting abundance.
About the Author Margit Robson is a Spiritual Teacher with over seventeen years experience in the intricacies of teaching spiritual & psychic development. Margit’s teachings guide students to align with the spirit and soul within, helping people create extraordinary lifestyles. Margit coaches through private consultations on managing stress and life challenges. She is a sought after Inspirational speaker and spiritual life coach. Margit is renowned for her gift of insight helping clients nationally and internationally. She teaches through her online website Mentoring and Membership programme and facilitates workshops and seminars regularly throughout Australia. Margit’s award winning e-newsletter titled, ‘Spirit e-zine with Margit’ is free and full guidance, recommendations and spiritual articles always encouraging you to become the best you can be and have the life you’ve always dreamed of. Margit lives in Perth, Western Australia, with her family and works from several consultation rooms. As a published author Margit writes a regular column for the Sound Telegraph newspaper titled, ‘Sound Spirit with Margit’ giving practical advice on life’s challenges. ‘Breakthrough to Abundance’ e-book is available from Margit’s website http://www.margit.com.au Private consultations are by appointment. Margit has recorded and produced a guided meditation CD titled, ‘Red Rose’ which can be ordered online. Her motto ‘when the student is ready, the Teacher appears’ exemplifies her wisdom knowing people in the cycle of life.
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Michelle Greene “3 Key Elements To Creating Your Dream Lifestyle” A Formula for Success Planning for your personal success is all about mapping out the various areas of your life. Just like planning a road trip, you need to map out the following details: the origin, the destination, the vehicle, the suitcase, the landmarks, and finally, the route. You see, your wonderful mind – your mindset will determine how far your journey of success will take you. This relates to your health, your relationships, your finances, or anything else. Mindset is the way you look at things and is a driving force when it comes to creating your dream lifestyle. Developing a winning mindset starts with taking personal responsibility. One of the most important things you can do to manifest your heart's desire is to take 100% responsibility for everything that happens to you. Now most people don't like this concept of accepting complete responsibility for their lives. The main reason? It's just so convenient and easy to have someone outside of yourself to blame. Who doesn’t want to pass off their failures to someone else? Plus, it's comforting to have a scapegoat to justify past failures and disappointments when you don’t get the outcome you desired. Some common scapegoats that easily come to mind are: parents, bosses, the government, gender, race, age, the economy, the media, and basically anyone or anything you feel that's preventing you from creating your dream lifestyle. So what does it mean to take full complete responsibility for your life? First off, you have to use your personal power to create the abundant lifestyle you desire.
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But here's an eye opener – you've always had the power. This power has always been inside you, but you simply chose not to exercise it. It's been lying dormant, simply waiting for you to summon this power. Perhaps you've been afraid of it, or didn't know how to use it to its full potential. Whatever your past or current circumstances, know that the past is past. You can't go back and make changes. Guilt is a terrible way to live. As far as I know, there's no time machine currently available to permit you to travel back in time to correct any mistakes or to set things right. The past is the past, so make peace with it, accept it and move on. The only thing you can do is learn from past mistakes and chalk it up to experience. Once you accept this fact, you are now ready to take 100% responsibility for your life. Stop looking to outside sources to create your success. Look inside yourself and you'll find the answers there. Success, however you define it, is inside you, and not external. You have everything you need now to create your dream lifestyle. Of course, there will always be new knowledge to gain, but first appreciate that you have everything you need right now. You just need to be willing to take action. Maybe this isn't the first time you've looked for a way to make money online. You may have a bookcase full of 'shelf-help' books, CDs and DVDs. I'm sure to a certain degree you may have tried several programs and methods that have worked beautifully for others. You then get inspired and want to achieve similar results. Unfortunately, you fail to get the same outcome. You may start to wonder, "Is it just me? Am I the only one who can't make money online"? You're not alone; many people are singing this same song. So let's look at three key elements you can use to break through the barriers and create your dream lifestyle. Key Element #1: What Is My Vision? Having a vision for yourself is what will keep you motivated. It will also get you through the rough spots. Working at home and having a dream lifestyle is a goal for many people. But why don't they accomplish this goal?
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First off, your vision must be bright and vivid enough to keep you excited. You must see and believe that it's really going to happen. Failing to create a vision is what causes people to sometimes become overwhelmed. Entering a state of overwhelm can happen when you are unclear of your vision. When you lose focus, you start bouncing around from goal to goal. This is what I like to refer to as chasing bright shiny objects. As much as you've heard about setting goals, if I were to say, I'll give you $10,000 dollars if you can show me your written goal(s), would you be able to walk away with an easy $10,000? If not, it's time to create a set of written goals. Not taking time to do this can be a barrier to creating your dream lifestyle. Consider the following section from a classic childhood story, 'Alice's Adventures in Wonderland', by Lewis Carroll. In one part of the story, Alice comes upon a Cheshire Cat and decides to ask his guidance on where she should go. She approaches him and says, "Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?" "That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cheshire Cat. "I don't much care where—" said Alice. "Then it doesn't matter which way you go," said the Cheshire Cat. "So long as I get SOMEWHERE," Alice added as an explanation. Most people live their lives just like Alice. They wander around in life wondering how come they don't get what they want. They don't care much where they go, as long as they go somewhere. When you fail to plan and don't know where you want to go, then any road will take you there. Don't let life happen to you, take control by setting written goals. Now when it comes to what your heart desires, this can sometimes be a challenge. Here's an exercise you can do if you're struggling with what you want. Consider this, most people can quickly rattle off what they DON’T want. If this is your case, make a list of the things, emotions, or anything you no longer want to experience. Once this list is complete, go back through it and write the opposite of what you wrote. For example, if you said, "I don't want to be poor," then the opposite of that is, "I want to be wealthy. If you don't want to be overweight, the opposite would be, “I want to be a healthy weight.” Do this as many times as it takes. Once done, choose only one goal that makes you the most excited. This is the one goal that you're going to be absolutely
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proud of yourself for accomplishing. The reason for only choosing one goal is so that you will focus your time and energy on making that goal a reality. Once you've decided on a goal, make sure to write it down and put a date on it. A goal without a date is just a wish. For example, you can say, "On or before February, 2010, I will earn $13,000 a month working at home, or better. Notice how I added the words, "or better" at the end of the goal. This is so that if something better comes along, the universe will help attract 'the better' goal to you. Be sure to write this goal down and keep it close to you. Place it where you will see it often throughout the day. One thing you may want to do is have several written copies of your goal. You may want to write this single goal on the back of a business card and place it in your wallet. This way, when you open your wallet throughout the day, you'll be reminded of your goal. Also consider placing a copy on your nightstand. This way, you can review it first thing in the morning and the last thing at night. Keep your goal as visible as possible so you can be constantly reminded of it throughout the day. Think of a goal as simply a dream with a deadline. Key Element #2: What Is My Plan? Now that you've got your written goal with a date deadline you're totally excited about, this is where you will focus all of your energy. You'll want to have a map, or plan, something to follow – a type of methodology that you can use to make your goal a reality. Look to someone who is getting the result or outcome you want. Find out what they did or are currently doing to make this happen. Consider taking them out to lunch, or contacting them by phone. Most successful people are thrilled to share their knowledge with you. All you have to do is ask. Take some time putting your Plan together. You now have an exciting goal to work on and it's time to apply laser focus. This is where you will spend your time and energy on making your goal a reality. Another key element to address is a lack of focus in reaching your goal. This often leads to being overwhelmed; not knowing what steps to take next, and can cause you to lose momentum, simply because you've become unfocused. Make a promise to yourself that you will follow through and stay focused on your goal. See it through to completion. Do all the steps you set out to support your
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goal. Be aware of all the things that compete for your attention on a daily basis. Awareness sometimes is the cure. Now's here's a big factor – give yourself permission to fail. What? Is that last statement a typo? Don't you mean, give yourself permission NOT to fail? No, it's not a typo! By giving yourself permission to fail, you create the knowledge that the process of being focused is what will enable you to achieve this and future goals. During the process of achieving your goal, some common thoughts you may encounter are, "What if it doesn’t work?" "What if I can't lose the weight?" "Do I know enough to do this, am I smart enough?" "Who do I think I am that I can create my dream lifestyle?" Sometimes when you're unfocused, you become disillusioned. This may cause you to start looking for the 'next big thing'. You may even subconsciously create anxiety for yourself. By giving yourself permission to fail, you remove the stress and doubt that this goal has to be a complete success. Stress and doubt can sometimes reduce your excitement and confidence in achieving your goal, which may cause you to abandon it. When you start experiencing these types of thoughts, it leads to self-doubt. This is the beginning of a downward spiral. And pretty soon, you lose interest in achieving your goal. Partial success will teach you that it is possible. And then the next time you set out to reach your goal, the knowledge you gained will help you reach your goal. Remain focused and stick to your plan. Key Element #3: Notice Your Outcome Finally, you'll want to periodically review your progress. You can do this at weekly intervals. This is basically a 'goal checkup'. You want to take notice as to whether you're making progress or standing still. You want to see what your outcomes are. Keep in mind you'll either do things to get you closer to your goal or further away from your goal. The reason I suggest doing this weekly is to take corrective action if your goal is off course. Remain flexible. Remember the 'or better' words at the end of your goal? This may be the time to make adjustments to get you closer to your goal, "or better". Continue to make changes along the way until you reach your goal. Don't think that your goal must be set in stone. Keep varying your approach until you find what works. Don't get locked into being rigid.
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If you don't like the outcome, change the actions that produce this result. It's been said that if you continue doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got. This is the definition of insanity! Creating the lifestyle of your dreams is certainly within reach. Just follow the three key elements outlined in this article 1. Have A Vision 2. Make A Plan 3. Notice Your Outcome Before you know it, you'll have reached your goal and you'll have a winning formula to achieve future goals. Wishing You Love and Abundance,
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Have A Vision 2. Set A Plan 3. Notice Your Outcome
About the Author http://www.MoneyMakersLifestyle.com Michelle Greene is an 'old school' Internet Marketer. She has created multimedia training products for the entry level/newbie marketer. Her focus is on teaching clients how to create profitable online-based lifestyle businesses with a shoestring budget. Michelle has uncovered an amazing online treasure chest of free tools, software and resources that rival their paid counterparts. Combined with her dynamic screencast tutorials, her virtual coaching can help you create a profitable online business and live your dream lifestyle.
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Monika Newman “Is Letting Go Difficult?”
Is Letting Go Difficult for you? Is your inability to ‘let go’ hampering your company’s growth? • • • •
Are you an entrepreneur or business person whose business has the potential of so much more growth and success? Is your paperwork gradually piling up? Are you turning business away because you can’t manage? Are your stress levels rising because you are trying to do it all yourself?
Could it be that you have problems ‘letting go’ of your paperwork? Sometimes people just aren’t ready to let go of their administrative tasks and this is understandable as your business is a huge part of your life (your baby) and it took a long time to nurture it and build it to the point at which it is now. Perhaps your business has outgrown you? Not letting go can affect your ability to perform at your best. Is it time to consider outsourcing some of your ‘busy work’ to enable you to gain some clarity and decide in which direction you want to head and to keep those creative juices flowing and your passion for your business alive. Revisit the original purpose and motivation that lead you to start up your own business in the first place – it probably wasn’t to become so busy running the administration side of it that it didn’t leave you any time to develop your business or work on your own personal growth.
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The task of letting go need not be too arduous – you need to be able to gently let go one step at a time to enable you to get used to the idea of outsourcing. Tackle it small chunks at a time. You need to take some time out though in order to plan and decide on how you are best going to break down your tasks into manageable chunks and what tasks you would be willing to let go of first. Consider all the tasks that you undertake at present and make a list to determine which ones you enjoy the least and start with these. After a little while you will start to build a relationship with the support people you have chosen and develop a level of trust, a sense of confidence in their abilities and a sense of security in the knowledge that your business is in capable hands. This will position you in the right frame of mind to outsource more and more of your tasks. This freeing up of your time will be a very liberating experience and you will wonder why you hadn’t done this before. What a great feeling it would be to be able to go on holidays knowing that your business will be looked after (babysat) and you won’t have to work overtime to catch up or you may use the extra time to gain new skills and become reacquainted with your friends and family. Think how liberating it will be when you think of all those jobs that you can outsource; accounts, diary management, correspondence, email management, ebook creation, marketing materials, mail outs, data entry, phone answering the list can go on and on depending on your business requirements. Now letting go of all the personal stuff? This is too big to deal with hear, let’s save it for another story!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Take some time out to list all the tasks involved in your business. 2. Decide which ones you personally need to deal with and those tasks that you would like to pass on. 3. Find a reliable service provider to whom you could out source your overload administration work to.
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About the Author Monika Newman, Principal of Absolutely Virtual, has more than 20 years experience in Secretarial, Personal Assistant and administrative positions. She has worked with a variety of companies, ranging from small to large multinational enterprises; they include import/export, travel, government, major oil companies and independent consultants. Absolutely Virtual can work with you in an ongoing capacity, for long-term or oneoff projects. This will be achieved through effective communication, ongoing education, monitoring outcomes, and continued improvement in delivery of client services. Absolutely Virtual, giving your business that professional edge! Please visit Absolutely Virtual at http://www.absolutelyvirtual.com.au for a list of the services provided and don't hesitate to get in touch for more details if you don't see the services that you require listed.
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Nicole Scott “Solve all the problems of the world, and your own, with a few laps of the pool, easy really” Warning: This information may cause you to feel relaxed and on top of the world. In our part of the world, Australia, the beginning of the year marks summer school holidays. This is a great time to dust off the bathers and towels and jump back into the water with your family and friends. Don’t be a fish out of water when it comes to knowing just how amazing swimming is for your mind, body and soul.
So, why is swimming so good? Swimming works the whole body, improving cardiovascular conditioning, endurance, flexibility, muscle strength and toning all at the same time. Personally I love the calming feeling of being submerged in the water. Hearing the sound of your breathing is meditative. My cares seem to melt away and yes I can solve the problems of the world and even a few of my own!
Like to know some more health benefits? Low risk of injury There is a low risk of injuries because there is no stress on your bones, joints or connective tissues.
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Low–impact exercise The elderly, pregnant women and people who are covering from surgery can all benefit from swimming due to its low impact, it helps to relax stiff muscles and isn’t weight bearing. Swimming also increases blood circulation. Stress reduction Swimming is very relaxing because it allows oxygen to flow to your muscles and forces you to regulate your breathing. With the regulated breathing and rhythm of your strokes comes the rhythm of calming the mind and things seems to get clearer. Answers seem to come to you to those questions which have been bugging you as you have taken the focus off the questions. Seems weird but it works. This form of meditation can leave you with a sense of well-being, leaving your session refreshed and ready to go on with the rest of your day.
That’s all well and good but how do I get started? A reason Personally I think you need a reason to get started. My reason initially was asthma. My mum enrolled me in swimming lessons and then swim club to help manage my asthma. It worked. After high school I wanted to learn to teach swimming to help me get through University. When I was pregnant with both of my children, I wanted to keep fit and this was the best low impact exercise. After having my children I had problems with my lower back, I ended up having a bulge removed from my lower disc, swimming was the best form of rehabilitation. So … I have had many reasons to get back in the pool. Now my reason is relaxation, de-stressing, overall well being, keeping my back in check and meeting friends. What is your reason? Get motivated I always find that going along to the pool with a friend or group of swimmers is the best motivator. If you have pre-arranged a time each week you have made a commitment to yourself and your group, this works all the time. I also find swimming in the morning much easier as you seem to find all the excuses in the world during the day, not to swim.
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Setting goals is always important. Just as in other parts of your life setting goals is paramount. This may seem boring and I’ve heard it all before. I was like that but once I took the time to set out my goals everything else fell into place and I became more invigorated and had a sense of achievement, great for your selfesteem. Get the look I must admit I love fashion. I like to look funky and comfortable. Go for the bright bathers with the matching goggles, fins and cap. Colour co-ordination is vital for your swimming confidence. Go out and spoil yourself you need to look the part (I hope this doesn’t sound too shallow?) Get some help If you haven’t been in the pool for a while, one-on-one lessons will help you to get back your confidence. Swimming is like riding a bike it is a life long skill which will come back pretty soon. If you lack the confidence in the water and have a childhood fear of the water, don’t worry, there are heaps of fantastic adult learn to swim programmes at your local pool, worth a look. Go for it! If you know how to swim just start off slowly. Set a goal of the number of laps you want to swim and then set a goal to increase the number of laps you do. Break it up with swimming laps, kicking, pull throughs (arms only) and walking in the water. There are heaps of programmes on the internet you can use for FREE. Relax I always find that if I am nervous or apprehensive about getting into something that I haven’t done before, I think of something that I am good at, and that I really, really, enjoy. I remember the last time I had that experience and take the time to really be with that memory, creating pictures, sounds and feelings that went with the experience. This is the state of mind you need to take with you to the pool before you jump in and take the challenge. Don’t be hard on yourself. Progress comes with fits and starts. Keep practising and always remember how far you have come. Take the time to watch others around you and see how they move through the water and look at how much fun they are having. In no time this will be you!
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. What is your reason for wanting to swim? 2. Call up a friend and get down to the pool. 3. With your friend set out your goals. How many laps are you going to achieve this week?
About the Author I am a mum with two gorgeous children. I live in a coastal town, south of Perth in Western Australia. I am a swimmer - swimming is one of my passions. Along with swimming, my family and teaching people the great benefits of swimming are other passions of mine. I have been fortunate to combine my passions into a successful online business. In order to keep the “balance” in the family I decided to set up my business on line, where I can work anywhere, anytime and still be there for my kids, and keep the wheels turning at home. My business idea came when I decided to return to swimming after a back injury. I remember telling my husband that I was going back to swimming and with a strange look on his face he said with a smile. “Great you’re going to start smelling like chlorine again.” As Oprah would say “I had a light bulb moment.” I started swimming as a young child due to my asthma. Like most Aussie kids I learnt to swim through the Austswim Program, I joined a swimming club and whilst studying at University in Perth, WA I became an Austswim Instructor. When I fell pregnant with my first child Riley, I took up swimming again to keep fit and kept it up while pregnant with my second child, Sophie. When Sophie was just 2 years of age, I competed as part of a team in the Rottnest Channel Swim in 2002. The Rottnest Swim was an amazing experience, one I will never forget. In 2005 I injured my back and had an operation to remove a bulge in one of my discs. After the operation I couldn’t believe the instant relief I felt. Swimming was the best rehab for me; I really wanted to get back into the water. My skin was always dry, especially in winter. A return to swimming made my skin even drier. I tried to find a product to moisturise my skin after a swim. Some worked for a short period of time. Then I thought what about a product to put on my skin before you swim, to protect it. Summersalt Body Care was born, with its first product aptly named “Swimmer’s Skin”.
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Pat Marcello “Blogging - 5 Tips to Help You Build Rapport with Your Audience” Building a relationship with your readers means the difference between the success and failure of your blog.
Blog Like a Pro Everyone is astounded by the amount of money that can be made blogging. Look at guys like Darrell Rowse of ProBlogger.com and Jeremy Shoemaker of Shoemoney.com, and you’ll see two of the most successful bloggers in cyberspace. But their success didn’t happen overnight. It took years of giving great content with their personal slant. Their personalities shine through and people bond with them, though virtually. It's an interesting dynamic about the Internet. People build relationships with the online "celebrities," though they may never speak to them or meet them in person. But when you get down to it, blogging is like anything else in business. You have to focus and stay with it to make it work. You have to visualize what your life will be like when blogging becomes the greatest tool in your traffic generation arsenal. When you start blogging, you should blog every single day. You can write, post a video, embed an audio, or maybe even just a picture, but you have to be consistent to keep people coming back. And blogging can definitely work for you, just the way it does for the pro bloggers. How? Let me give you a few tips:
5 Ways to Build Rapport 1. Be consistent: As mentioned above, blog at least once a day or even more. Blogs like BoingBoing.net, for example have posts running continuously throughout the day. They have established a rhythm and a
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readership through their team of investigative bloggers who scour the Web for interesting and fun things. Once you're established, you can cut back to as little as three posts per week. I still blog Monday through Friday, with an occasional weekend post thrown in, if I'm excited to tell people about something. But you should never blog less than three times a week, even when you're an established blogger. 2. Entertain: Blogging isn’t about dry and boring. Blogging is about entertainment and showing your personality. Write about things that other people will be interested in reading about, not what you had for breakfast or how cute your dog is. Choose a hot topic in your niche and write a series of posts about that on a regular basis and you’ll get tons of traffic. Not only will you build a readership through your posting, but the search engines will certainly take notice and you'll be ranking in the search engine results pages, too. In fact, if you write with a keyword in mind, you can be on Google Blog Search in a matter of seconds! But be funny or at least fun. Give people tips and tricks about your niche. Teach them or entertain them, and you've got it made. Be sure to let your opinion show, too. That's you and that's who people want to know. 3. Don’t sell: Unless your blog is specifically for marketing, you should never try to sell things in your blog posts. If you're an affiliate marketer, like I am, you can write reviews. Then, have a link to the product in your sidebar so that when people read your review and are interested in the product, they'll have a convenient path to it, and you make money. For example. I wrote about AWeber once, and have a flash banner in my sidebar so that anyone who enjoyed the review and was interested in having this great autoresponder that I'd just mentioned, they had an immediate way to get to it. I didn’t try to sell my readers in that review. I gave the good and the bad, and giving the downside to the product or service is important! It makes the review balanced and people always prefer to see both sides to any argument. If you just laud the product, people see right through your attempt to sell then, they may be insulted and not come back. 4. Never veer off course: Don’t write posts that aren’t about your niche. I’m not saying NEVER do it, but if you do it once a year, that’s enough. Seriously. People who are interested in reading your blog because they’re golfers won’t care about the newest Internet marketing seminar. It's just a total disconnect for them, and may alienate them. This is something that you have to avoid. You'll lose total credibility and probably, a few readers. If you're in the golf niche, stick to golf. If you're in fitness, stick to that. But, if you have built a relationship with your readers and want to mention something personal now and then, that's OK. If you're writing about the
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golf niche and took a great golf holiday in Hilton Head, South Carolina, then, that's worth writing about! People love getting to know you better. 5. Be yourself: Always write with your own voice. Don’t try to make your grammar and punctuation perfect. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t spell correctly or that your writing shouldn't make sense. I am saying that it's OK to use one-word paragraphs or ellipses when they don’t really apply or other "mechanisms" to get your point across. I’m great for doing that. But I never wrote a book that way, but blogs require a "conversational" tone and lots and lots of you. Write like you talk. That's the best writing and blogging advice I can give you. Just hear it in your head and write it exactly that way. It's the best way to communicate when you can't really talk to or see the people you're communicating with. If you follow these five tips, you’ll be well on your way to pro blogger status. Just write with your readers in mind. What will attract them and keep them coming back to read more? Figure that out. That’s the key to your success.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Set up a blog, preferably a WordPress blog on your own hosting account. 2. Write in it every day or post videos, audios, or pictures and write captions for them. 3. Put as much of your personality into your blog as you can. Let your readers get to know YOU.
About the Author Pat Marcello is a professional writer, turned SEO and Blogging ninja. She came online to sell her books, but got caught up in the excitement of Internet Marketing. Two years later, she became a coaching client of Tellman Knudson, who was so impressed with her skills that he asked her to come onboard at Overcome Everything. Today, she is the content manager, SEO, blogging, and
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Web 2.0 specialist for the company. She also has two web sites of her own http://EasyBlogTricks.com, a free video tutorial site about blog tech, and http://Blogging4Boomers.com where she teaches people of all ages to make money from blogging.
Special offer Special Offer: Lifetime Membership in Blogging4Boomers for $77. This includes a one-hour group coaching call with Pat twice each month, and more than 50 videos to improve your blog and to get more traffic and make more money. For more information about the site, you can go to http://Blogging4Boomers.com, but don't join! Visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts for details on how to get this special offer directly from Pat.
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Phyllis Briggs “How I Risked $27,000 to Get my Figure Back and How you Can Succeed too!” She Succeeds How I applied my business success principles to finally lose 33 kilos and get my figure back.
I Challenge Me! Recently I was in a change room trying on some dresses when I heard a woman ask what size the shop clothing went up to and when she was told size 14 I heard an all too familiar disheartened sigh and a parting thank you. Just a short time ago that was me! I could not fit into anything from a normal sized clothing shop and it was disheartening! In 2008 I decided to step up and tackle the one thing that eluded me and that was a trim healthy body! I had a great business, a fantastic income and loving relationships, but I also had 30 kilos of excess fat that I carried around with me. I was tired even though most people saw me as a high energy achiever. What I didn’t know was how good being slim would feel and so I tricked myself into thinking life was grand and for the most part it was, except under my clothes. It’s not until you become slim that you look back at who the world was seeing and realise that that person is not you! Not the real you! Yes I’m still the same person but at the same time – I’m not! Does that make sense? To the people who have lost all their weight yes, to the people who just play at weight loss – no. Just a short year ago I was still having those conversations, you know standing in front of the mirror ready to go out saying how nice I look but this little voice in my http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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head saying…”come on, who are you kidding, you fat b&tch! You said last Monday you were going to stick to this diet and you didn’t! You are never going to be slim, you are just not strong enough and besides you have no will power! You just aren’t meant to be slim! Go eat something!" l have not weighed 57 kilos since I was 18 and so at 45 it’s hard to imagine that I could even achieve it. I had to use vision boards and other strategies to see my vision because I couldn’t get a picture of what I would look like in my mind. I have to tell you how great it feels and the difference it makes to all that you do in your day.
So How Did I lose 72 pounds (33 Kilos) I set myself a very public challenge with a very heavy penalty if I didn’t succeed. Read the full story http://www.shesucceeds.com/magazinestory.html The magazine and its readers became like my board of directors that I had to report to on a monthly basis. The $27,000 I put up to give away if I didn’t lose the weight became the consequence if I didn’t succeed. I am not suggesting you do something so outrageous but can you see how I was suddenly highly motivated to follow through and take action everyday! Just like our businesses and our families, we nurture them and would not stop doing all the tasks that need to be done to grow our business’s and just like some aspects of your business – you can’t outsource weight loss but you can ask for support and a mentor. Most people set themselves goals at the beginning of the New Year. The list of goals people come up with could probably lap the world a few times over. "I will give up smoking, I will lose weight, I will start exercising, I will, I will, I will." Then their “will” fails them and they end up pretending that they never wanted it in the first place. There is a saying, “what your mind can conceive - it can achieve". As I see it, if you weren’t meant to have it then you wouldn’t have thought of it. All achievements start with a thought. It’s the action that follows that makes the difference. I love the movie “The Secret” but what’s missing is an action plan. That's why this book title is fantastic, “The Law of Attraction – in Action”. I stumbled across a new way of setting myself goals after once reading about how goals can sometimes work against us and can trap us much like a jail if we aren’t careful. You can read more about this on my website. The secret I discovered and developed a system around is setting yourself “challenges” and then daily action plans that you pursue like someone is holding your head under water and you need to breathe! If you really want it then going after it with zero tolerance protects you from yourself, your failing “will” and from others. When you
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step up and take what you desire, your place amongst the slim, your place amongst the successful, your place amongst those with great relationships, careers or whatever it is your heart desires. Your family and friends can feel challenged about their own lack of will in some areas and want you to return to who they know. You can also be your best saboteur as getting out of our comfort zone can be very threatening and some of us are afraid of success as much as we are afraid of failure.
Mini Challenge! On a serious note, if you do have weight to lose and are serious about it then go to your local supermarket with someone you love and trust. Go to the potato section and load up the amount of weight that your BMI or your doctor says you should lose, not what you think you can lose but what you are supposed to lose if you were super human and could do it. Don’t worry if you think it’s too much, just do it. Take those potatoes home and put the bags on the floor in your dining room and several times a day for a week go past and pick them all up at once. Get help! Think about the effect this is having on your heart, your internal organs, your self esteem, your children, your work, your love life, anything that you can think of that it effects. Even more profound is what I did and that was to get my excess fat in fat cut offs from the local butcher and I looked at it for a day! It is disgusting and I don’t recommend it. The potatoes will do if you are willing to really see how much weight it is and think of it as excess fat on your body.
I Challenge You! I challenge you to live the most wonderfully imperfect but always growing life! Embrace the person you are and the person you are yet to become! She is hiding in there waiting for you to “challenge” her to step up and take what is rightfully hers! An attitude of gratitude is necessary if you are going to receive more. How can you be ready to receive if you aren’t grateful for what you already have? Come on, I challenge you to take a moment now to just feel grateful for all that you have and all that you are yet to receive. Close your eyes for a second and don’t forget to smile while you take that moment - it adds to your body’s sense of satisfaction plus if you are reading this in public people will wonder what you have to be so happy about!
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I always treat everything as a beginning not an end so I look forward to the beginning of the rest of my life. Who knows where we will be in five or even ten years time! Isn’t life wonderful!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Download the life list from she succeeds and reflect on where you might like to challenge yourself to start showing up. 2. Find a quiet time and think about an area of your life that could do with a challenge and make a plan. 3. Visit http://www.shesucceeds.com/ success story
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About the Author Phyllis Briggs is the owner of several business’s both online and offline, one being a New Zealand wide Recruitment company which she started in 1999 with a little over $1000 and has grown into a multi million dollar success story. Earning a little over $13,000 in 1999 to a 6 figure income in 2008, it’s very clear Phyllis knows a thing or two about attracting success. Phyllis is the founder of the She Succeeds Group and has a series of books due to be released in 2009. Every year Phyllis sets herself a challenge and wants to share her strategies with other woman because she believes as women we can have it all!
Special offer I would love to give you two gifts: “Powerful You” The first is a wonderful story about how we are all more capable than the effort we are putting in. This story will make you reflect on where you are at now and where you want to be. The second is an MP3 recording with Adro Sarnelli, Australia’s winner of the Biggest Loser”. Gifts can be found at http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts
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Renee Austin “The Law of Attraction and Day-to-Day Life, Taking Time to Take Measure” Back to Basics: Sometimes one just simply has to stop, take several deep breaths, and look around at where they are on their journey. It started about a week ago when I had an experience that completely caught me off guard and caused me to question over 20 years in my field and to rethink a personal quest for success on my own. Granted, after a bit of work I was able to muffle those internal negative voices, but the whole event shook me. Not a pleasant situation considering that I’ve always encouraged self development and confidence building with those who have worked around me. Plus, over the past year I’d become a student of the Law of Attraction, the practice of positive thinking and living, and had worked hard reshaping my mindset to formulate a method for achievement. This event did not involve tragedy or failure; rather it was a wonderful opportunity that threw me. Here was a most incredible prospect and instead of being energized I was in a panic! Not only that, but for 3 days leading up to this point I had already set the intention for success by finally taking action and doing two specific things to validate my own abilities. I was witnessing a wonderful example of how positive thinking and intent can bring opportunity and yet I was paralyzed by a sudden return of my old feelings of inadequacy. This was an occasion to stop and think, to review recent events and habits, to take stock again. In doing so I discovered I had regressed almost back to where I had started without realizing it. Day to day we are all faced with the tasks at hand and the business of accomplishing as much as we can or must in a very short span of time. We are fortunate enough to have many resources and modalities to help improve our lives, shorten our work day, to bring in more wealth on all levels, to be more content, to just be more. Sometimes it seems that there is so much out there that http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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information overload can completely overtake us. The very tools we use to rebuild ourselves can become as cumbersome as the baggage we’re attempting to release. It is also easy to become so immersed in our daily schedules that we miss some critical warning signs of shifts back into our former selves. Even the most grounded and balanced individual can be pulled back into negativity without realizing it. Sometimes one just has to stop and regroup. If you have already begun your journey to discovering how the Law of Attraction works for you and are comfortable with where you are, then this is not for you just now. If you are just starting out on transitioning into a new stage of life, or if momentum has slowed, the creative flow has stopped, or old habits are resurfacing, then set aside some time to review and take measure by checking your available resources, reassessing your less than positive influences, and taking a close look at your support systems. Resources There is an abundance of information on the internet and all around us, especially with the wealth of gifts offered to draw potential clients into web sites and special programs. Sometimes it seems like a full time job wading through all of the possibilities. Maybe you don’t have the time to review and disseminate everything or perhaps the material isn’t specific to your needs. It can be confusing. Ask yourself: Are you having difficulty managing the volume of offers and emails you receive? Are there so many choices that you feel thrilled but also inundated? Are you frustrated because you want to spend time in a program but have committed to other systems? Do you have difficulty remembering what resources you thought you might want to get back to, but can’t remember where you saw them? Simplify (organize the flow of information): • Prioritize your e mail and open it accordingly. Delete the junk first to get rid of clutter, open those which you are fairly certain will need immediate action (top priority) and dispense with them. Then, what I like to do is shift back working quickly and methodically on clearing from the least important on up. This way you have a fabulous series of small instant successes. • Just say ‘No’. It is hard to pass up an opportunity to learn and grow, but if you aren’t inclined to read beyond the initial part of a newsletter or offer or blog, then unsubscribe. If you aren’t certain, then let the contacts from a
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particular source cycle through a few times. After 4 times or more if you are not ‘hooked’, then let them go. What if you just know you’ll want to get back to a certain page or site or program-someday? Then file it electronically. Make a ‘chase’ or ‘downtime’ file in saved emails, bookmarks, or favorites and go back to it later. Do routine maintenance and clean out what you have not reviewed within a set period of time. If you are just beginning, or if you have too many options on your plate, decide on two to three on-line resources and chose a couple inspirational books or journals that absolutely resonate with you. Use just these and refer to them frequently. File anything else away for now. Once you feel that you have control over your time and are able to participate at the level you would like then consider adding on some others to expand your scope of information. This does not mean that you can’t explore other avenues now. Just remember that it might be best to minimize for a bit.
Influences Every now and then old ghosts of our character might creep back in without us realizing it. We can become so involved with just functioning on a day to day basis that we forget to look up and recognize what transitions, positive and negative, are taking place. The good news is that as you rediscover old bad habits and negative emotions, you’ll see that it requires less time and effort to tamp them down and readjust your course. Ask yourself: What are your issues now and how do they differ from when you started or from other times in your life? What is keeping you from moving forward? Loss of confidence, lack of organization, fear, stress, too many ideas circling in your head? What are your time zappers? What are your stress triggers; picking up the children on time, not having quiet time first thing in the morning, dishes in the sink, too much noise, too much quiet? Are you restless? Do you need to energize, or relax? Do you know when you need one versus the other? Simplify (define your issues/apply solutions one at a time): • We all have an abundance of lists I know, but take a few moments to revisit some key issues over which you’d like immediate control. Choose one at a time, write it out on a piece of paper, and keep it where you can see it. Work on this one thing for a week, a month, however long it takes for you to manage.
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Are you confidence challenged? Write your own business biography-make it professional, target your intended client base and your contemporaries and include everything. If you are having trouble verbalizing the ideal professional you, then have someone write it on your behalf. Is your space organized? Develop a plan to manage it. As difficult as it is to stop for a few hours, do just that and only work on tidying up. Then look around and see how relieved you are to have systems in place. Discover your favorite relaxation methods and use them to redirect your attention. Determine what your energy boosters are and have them ready and easily accessible. Prepare in advance to fit in your tasks and special projects. If necessary, time yourself or set mini goals to get through the more mundane items. Consolidate: Maintain an ‘ideas’ file, by keeping an electronic file or a notebook, or better yet, get some functionality out of your ‘overdrive’ and keep a blog. This way you’ll validate yourself, vent your energy, record your ideas and thoughts, and discover some clarity. When you are not making progress, be willing to recognize when to outsource; a mother’s assistant, an after high school office assistant to do basics, a professional organizer. Just a couple hours a week can bring you incredible relief.
Support Systems Cocoon yourself in as nurturing an environment as possible. If outside negative influences are unavoidable, practice some blocking techniques to help reduce the wear and tear on your resolve. Surround yourself with positive energy. Ask yourself: What is your support base; do you have one? Are you surrounded by positive, encouraging people? Who are the people who have inspired you over time? What do you appreciate the most about yourself? What do you love the most about what you do? Simplify (organize and draw upon that which inspires you): • Get out into the world and join a local women’s networking group, enjoy the entrepreneurial spirit, bask in the synergy. • Join a mastermind group to keep yourself accountable, receive valuable insight, and to share your successes. • Reach out to family and friends who love and support you. Try to limit interaction with the naysayers and enthusiasm busters when it comes to
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your plans and goals. Or, consider sweeping them along with you on the journey to success and discovery. Remember those who inspire you the most. I keep a board on the wall across from my desk where I can see it when I look up. On it is a list of people (along with a few images) who have been leaders, innovators, and explorers in their fields. Their originality and daring remind me that I have such potential within me as well. Some self acknowledgment is always in order. Recognize your strengths, talents, and abilities and bring this consciousness into every endeavor that you seek out. Treat yourself and take a busman’s holiday. Save a favorite task for a time when you can relish the experience and celebrate the accomplishment instead of having to rush on to the next item on your list.
What about YOU? (nurture yourself) You and the life you are shaping are your own masterpiece. Regardless of who and what you are responsible for, you are a work in progress and will always be evolving. Always remember to maintain some consistent level of self awareness as a means of providing checks and balances as you navigate through your journey. It is ultimately up to you. Put yourself first on a conscious level, at least for a few minutes out of each day. Be deliberate in the way you manage your decisions and affairs. Commit and follow through. Manage your space and environment. Be patient with yourself. Perfection is over rated. Seek exceptional outcomes instead. Take time to actually look and recognize yourself in the mirror. Read your biography several times a week and remind yourself of who you are and where you want to go. Look around you, be curious, notice life in motion and feel the connection you have with the universe. Smile frequently-even when you are alone. Turn up the corners of your mouth ever so slightly while you are working and see just how good you feel. Maybe even take a peek in a mirror and see the sparkle that others see. Laugh out loud and frequently. Be gentle with yourself and forgiving, but always employ constant, gentle pressure to stay on task. Dress with intent and for the results you are looking for. If you are working at home, consider trading the pajamas for something less informal. It is
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fine to dress cozily and casually on occasion, although be sure that you feel energized and empowered by what you have on. Pay attention to your posture and adjust it frequently to maintain comfort and avoid fatigue-especially if you are alone or in a casual environment. Choose your meals and snacks carefully and maintain hydration. Taste your food, smell the aroma, relish the moment. Know your values, standards, principles. Maintain these. You may not be able to do many of these things at once, especially if you are out of practice. But taking a deliberate, thoughtful and simple approach to ‘tweaking’ aspects of your life that you feel are in need of adjusting will help to soften some of the bumpy spots on your road. May you have a wondrous, delightful journey filled with discovery, love, happiness, and much success. R
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Print out this article-strike out what does not ring true for you, highlight what resonates and make an action plan one step at a time. 2. Write a few sentences as a beginning for your biography and shape your professional persona. 3. Pause to take a good look at yourself in the mirror every morning, and smile.
About the Author Renee Austin works in the veterinary field as a practice consultant and emphasises creating work environments that encourage personal development, peer to peer mentoring and professional achievement. With the belief that vision based, positive-energy work settings are integral to healing environments and successful business, she focuses on linking the medical and administrative staff, patients, and clients all together to make a lasting long-term relationship. Renee
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has developed innovative veterinary hospital space designs incorporating natural elements for patient and client well-being, has worked with business marketing concepts through community support and outreach programs, and has structured youth mentoring programs for the entry level workforce. She serves on the National Association of Professional Pet Sitters’ Committee for the Youth Education Program. Renee also owns and operates a specialized home care business for cats with chronic medical conditions and special needs. She is available for feline behavioural consults, pet loss grief counselling and speaking engagements on ‘All Things Cats’. She also is a supporter of community services encouraging development of the Human-Animal Bond through therapeutic riding groups, service animals, and pet visitation. She is a practitioner of Usui Reiki Ryoho, as well. She resides in Northern Virginia just outside of Washington D.C.
Special offer Go to http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts for a link to a more in-depth look and my complimentary series, The Basics of Bringing Attraction and Success into Your Life, or if you’d like assistance developing your biography.
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Rick and Jo Harrison “The 5 Critical Mistakes Women Make When Looking for Love ... Revealed” There are more women 'single and 30-something' than ever. Contrary to popular belief it is NOT due to a "Man Drought". A generation of women are self-sabotaging their love-life because of 5 critical mistakes that either get them into relationships that do not last or prevent them from attracting many men at all. The top 5 mistakes being made by women are: Mistake # 1 - Women become exclusive and committed too early in the dating phase. (Sometimes referred to as the "mini-marriage" or "the one-night stand that never left!") This is the deadliest mistake because both partners suffer trying to make it work before the inevitable end. They think there is something wrong with themselves or their partner or the relationship, when it simply boils down to the fact that they were not really conscious when they became a couple. Mistake # 2 - They believe there is a limited supply of possible partners, and have to settle for whoever they can get, which is usually someone they don't truly want to spend the rest of their life with. This really is a self–fulfilling prophecy. Often a woman will settle for a partner simply because he is interested in her and then she sets about trying to turn him into her soulmate or puts up with a relationship that leaves her unfulfilled and eventually unhappy. Mistake # 3 - Women listen to poor advice on how to play the relationship 'game' and so attract men who are playing 'games' and are not a good match for them. Women and men are encouraged by the media to focus on elements that have little to do with attracting a soulmate. Mistake # 4 - Many women have a list of what they want in a partner, but the list is missing the key qualifier for a lasting relationship ... the Deal-Breakers. So they http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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waste time forgiving, being nice and giving second chances until they realise he's not the one ... and another one bites the dust! Deal-breakers are elements of a relationship that express each person’s individuality at a deep level. It takes guidance by someone qualified to uncover your deal-breakers so you are able to quickly separate the “wheat from the chaff”. Mistake # 5 - They have hidden Limiting Beliefs which are not 'SoulmateAttractive'. Unconsciously they believe they don't deserve to find love, or think they are unattractive, or believe there are no good men left. These beliefs are expressed unconsciously, in different ways by different people. They might come across as 'needy’ at one end of the spectrum or ‘untouchable' at the other end. Either way - a BIG turn-off for men.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Review the 5 Mistakes. Mark which ones you know/feel you fall in to. 2. Create a strategy to avoid repeating these mistakes. To do this; ask yourself “How could I avoid repeating these mistakes in the future?” “What do I get out of making these mistakes?” “What would I have to give up to more forward?” 3. Take Action! Write a list of actions, prioritise them, and then schedule them. Each time you achieve one of them make sure you reward yourself.
About the Authors Rick and I had many failed relationships and then discovered the secrets to attracting our soulmate. Rick had been married twice and I had been engaged twice... we didn’t have a very good track record when it came to relationships. Rick fell in love too easily and I wouldn’t commit! Now, every day we get to experience our extraordinary love and soulmate relationship – we are truly blessed. Every day people ask us - how did we do it and how do we stay so “in love”?
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Our mission is to share our experiences to empower you to get the same wonderful feeling we have in finally being with our soulmate and experiencing a deep love we never thought possible. And then to have every child grow up in a family where there is an abundance of love from and between their parents. So they too can learn to experience bliss in their relationships and pass this precious gift onto future generations. We believe that a relationship is the greatest opportunity to become the best you can be... and that is a great gift to give to the world and most importantly to yourself!
Special offer Still searching for your soulmate? Discover the secrets to attracting your soulmate through our FREE CD and Video e-Course “Secrets To Soulmate Success”. Get your Secrets to Soulmate Success CD and Video e-Course (valued at $297) today and begin attracting your soulmate by applying our simple step-by-step attraction process. To get your FREE CD and Video e-Course visit: http://www.wonderflawofattraction.com/gifts
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Sally Curtis “Turning myself inside out to make it happen” Not a contortionist, just a Twisted Connector!
Understanding our challenges It’s important to understand what it is in our lives that enrich us and what it is that challenge us and life itself becomes a joyous starburst when we can turn our challenges into that which enriches us.
Slow descent My mother has been the chief cheerleader of my life. A vibrant, energetic woman I did and continue to adore. She and my father lived in the granny flat behind our house and we were close in the best possible way. Then, one day, not so long ago, time came knocking and delivered my mother a stroke and she has started the slow descent into oblivion and inevitable death. Cheering heaven’s ante room At the old folks’ home where mother now lives, there is a room where one day she will be moved. It is the dying room and when I saw it I thought no way is my mother ending her life in this dungeon. The view from the only window in the room was of a blank wall. With all the possibilities that lie beyond life as we know it a blank wall has to be the bleakest. I always imagined heaven’s ante room would be its own haven where everyone could relax to say goodbye and really mean it. I called my friend and between the tears told her what I wanted to do. She spoke with an artist friend and organised her teenage niece and four young students to turn the room into a visual glade and the wall beyond the room into a garden of
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unlimited possibilities into which the earthly mind and the eternal soul could wander. I approached local businesses to organise the handiwork, to supply paint, provide a superior sound system to enchant the dying and comfort those holding their hand, a quality reclining chair for the hardy who choose to spend the night with those departing so they have some comfort in their fitful sleep, electrical goods so a cuppa is only the flick of a switch away, a modern trolley, a supply of biscuits – the small things I thought would make a sad time a little more cheery. When they wheel my mum into this room I know she’ll be smiling. It all happened thanks to the generosity of the people I approached and when others expressed amazement at what I had done and asked how I managed it I said, "I connected people". Some have needs, others have wants and there’s always a match. When it has to be done with good humour, it’s a role for the Twisted Connector! The right connections are what makes businesses flourish. I’ve now turned that into what I do because it’s what I’ve always been doing. It feeds my soul and since I’ve turned the Twisted Connector into a business, it’s feeding my family too!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Make a mind map of all the people you know. 2. Draw a line connecting those who need to meet 3. Make it happen
About the Author Sally Curtis runs a small internet-based business called www.kidscraftsgifts.com.au through which she inspires businesses and families to stimulate the imagination and tap the potential of children through craft. As a result of continually connecting with people she has launched twistedconnector.com, because connecting people, according to Sally, is a bit like a game of Twister – difficult but so much fun! Visit Sally's website www.twistedconnector.com
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Special offer Click here www.twistedconnector.com and register to receive my free newsletter and I’ll give you the ten fundamental tips to being a great and profitable networker. It will help you identify your own network (you’ve got one even if you don’t know it), link up with other networks you can tap into and how you can grow your network and turn it into 24/7 money making machine, all while working from home!
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Sandy Kumskov “How to Release Financial Fear” Fear is a low frequency emotion that can be very difficult to move or rise. With the current climate of fear about all things financial, this simple five minute technique could make the difference between failure and fantastic!
The Frequency of Fear Teachers of the Law of Attraction say that your feelings about what you want to attract are vitally important. Often, our desired results are undermined by sneaky little “tail-enders” that stem from us not really feeling deserving or some other, often unknown, fear. (We’ll discuss tail-enders later). Fear is a normal, natural human emotion, though one that we would not be able to experience if our bodies weren’t designed to handle it. The problem for most people is that when fear is present, much of our logical resourcefulness just melts away as stress hormones flood our bodies and brains. It is a low-frequency emotion, calibrating at around 100 on Dr David Hawkins’ Map of Human Consciousness. When you’re stuck in the low frequency of fear, you feel contracted, unable to move, unable to take action, certainly not able to think; and what do you imagine you’ll be attracting more of? Yes, more circumstances to fear. In the current climate of endless media dissection of every aspect of the financial crisis, fear is everywhere: fear of losing jobs, homes, families. It’s helpfully refreshed every day, or several times a day if you talk to people living in fear, or pay any attention to the media. Some researchers have found that we can ‘catch’ fear simply by being with fearful people. http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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What to do? Traditional therapy tells you to get moving when you’re feeling afraid, to burn off some of those stress hormones that would otherwise not be reabsorbed by the body for many hours, if not days. Or we learn to have a conversation with ourselves; to logically test what is real and what is imagined becoming aware if we’re catastrophising or have slipped into black-and-white thinking. Those techniques really do work, if you have the clarity of mind to have a logical, cognitive, conversation with yourself, or even feel like you’ve got a spark of energy or optimism to drag yourself out of the fear funk. Or, you could change your emotional state by working with your body’s energy system. Emotions are after all, just energy: e-motion = energy-in-motion. For most of us in the Western world, we’re more likely to experience energy-instuckness because we’re taught from a very young age to suppress emotions that we or those around us, find uncomfortable. Then we travel through our lives gathering more of the same feelings to suppress. It takes a huge amount of energy to keep all those bad feelings suppressed, and eventually we explode in anger, or dissolve in tears. Often we then regret or are embarrassed by that loss of control. There is another way; a technique that if you choose to use it consistently, will help you move to a whole new level of emotional freedom in every part of your life, where you access all of your adult skills and experience to make the most of your life. It’s called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and is one of the new wave of energy psychology techniques sweeping the counselling and coaching professions and moving vast amounts of emotional pain that stands before it. The best news of all is it’s very easy to learn and to use yourself.
Learning EFT EFT Founder, Gary Craig, says that the root of all discomfort is a blockage in the body's energy system. To correct the blockages you simply tap your fingertips on the beginning or end point of each of the body’s main energy pathways; what ancient Chinese healers called meridians. That tapping movement sends a little pulse of energy into the pathway, and combined with the words we say and the body’s wisdom, the blockage seems to clear. It may take a few ‘rounds’ to clear one specific issue, or it may clear in just one round.
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Remember: It’s your energy. So you can choose exactly what to do with it: let it stay stuck and keep you feeling badly, or consciously decide to let it move on so you get out of fear, and get on with your life.
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Remember, this is a tapping movement so the pressure would be about the same as if you were tapping your fingertips on the table. You don't have to bash yourself. It's just a light tapping movement on each point a minimum of about seven times; just keep tapping on the point until you’ve said the words in the script below.
Setup Statements, Not Affirmations First of all, we need to have a short discussion about affirmations. They can be wonderfully effective to change your beliefs or experiences, or they can really bomb. EFT says that affirmations only work if you don’t have any “yes buts” – the tail-enders mentioned earlier - lurking in your mind in the form of that damned inner critic with its whiny dominating voice. Therefore, a ‘round’ of EFT begins with a “setup statement” that can sound like a negative affirmation, and that’s a stumbling block for some people. What’s really going on is that you are acknowledging the truth about what you’re experiencing in that moment, rather than suppressing it, and that’s very different than an affirmation. The end result will be that you won’t need affirmations to help you think positively, you just are positive as the negative has transformed.
EFT Clearing The EFT Tapping Points 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11
Crown of Head – C Eye Brow – EB Side of Eye – SE Under Eye – UE Under Nose – N Chin – Ch Collarbone – CB Under Arm – UA Under Breast – B Wrist – W Crown of Head - C
Follow this script to try EFT. Say the words (below) while tapping the corresponding point 6 or more times.
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Firstly, focus on an issue about which you’re feeling fear right now. On a scale of 1-10 where 1 is very peaceful and calm, and 10 very fearful, rate your intensity and write it here: _____ Before you have a little conversation with yourself about whether that can be true or not, the correct number is usually the one that first pops into your head. Your intuition gave you that number; it’s usually very accurate, pay attention to it even if you don’t like the answer. Now tap with one hand on the karate chop point of the other hand (doesn’t matter which hand), while you say the setup phrase three times: “Even though I feel really afraid about all the chaos in the financial markets and the economy right now, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.” “Even though I feel really afraid about all the chaos in the financial markets and the economy right now and I’m worried about how it might affect me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.” “Even though I feel really afraid that I might lose my job (or something else – say what) because of all the chaos in the financial markets and the economy right now, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.” Following the diagram above, with two fingers, tap seven to ten times on each point while saying the reminder phrase. In this case, say “this fear”. Move fairly quickly, it doesn’t have to be exact or slow. 1. Top of head – tap 7-10 times and say, “this fear” 2. Eyebrow – tap 7-10 times tap and say, “this fear” 3. Side of Eye – tap 7-10 times and say, “this fear” 4. Under Eye – tap 7-10 times and say, “this fear” 5. Under Nose – tap 7-10 times and say, “this fear” 6. Chin/Under Lip – tap 7-10 times and say, “this fear” 7. Collarbone – tap 7-10 times and say, “this fear” 8. Under Arm – tap 7-10 times and say, “this fear” 9. Under Breast – tap 7-10 times and say, “this fear” 10. Creases of wrists: inside of one wrist tapping 90 degrees across the other – tap 7-10 times and say, “this fear” 11. Top of head again – tap 7-10 times and say, “this fear” 12. Now check in with your feeling of fear, look for the number on the scale of 110, and write your rating number here: ______. Hopefully it is a lower number.
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If there is still a bit of charge left on this issue, tap another round beginning at the top of your head, this time saying “this remaining fear”. And again rate your feeling. Hopefully by now you’re down to a 1 or even 0. That’s it, you’re done. Yes that’s really all there is to it.
If Your Fear Didn’t Go Down What were you thinking about? Was it about your partner losing their job? Something else very specific to your situation; like not being able to make your house or car payment, or something else? That is a different aspect of the financial fear, and you can ease that by tapping a round or two for that specific fear.
Where to From Here? You can use EFT on any issues you have. Simply come up with your own setup and reminder phrases or even just tap without words, just focusing on the feelings.
Some Cautions EFT is incredibly powerful, and can shake loose energy that you’ve been suppressing for years. This can make you really sleepy the first time you do it, so be prepared for a slow few hours. It’s really important to keep well hydrated during and after EFT. If EFT is not working for you, often it’s because you need more water. Keep a glass or bottle of water beside you, and have a drink between tapping rounds. And finally, sometimes when you shift a bunch of old stuck energy, you can have some strange dreams! I do not believe that dreams signify anything, but if you do, please pay attention to that in any way you feel is right for you. Other than that, please give EFT a go and do what Gary Craig says – try it on everything!
Top Five EFT Tips 1. You can’t do it wrong. 2. You can tap in any order you prefer. I recommend the order above because it’s easy to remember and makes sure you get all the meridians. 3. It doesn’t really matter what words you use when you put your attention on the feeling you have. 4. Any tapping is better than no tapping. 5. You can’t do it wrong.
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Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 2. Have a big drink of water, and find somewhere to be on your own for five minutes. 3. Follow the diagram and script to release your fear OR read on to access my FREE BONUS that will make this clearing even easier for you! 4. Use EFT on any other issues you have, simply by changing the setup statement.
About the Author Sandy Kumskov is a holistic counsellor and energy coach. She uses leading-edge energy therapies to help you zap from fearful to fabulous and boost your life to exactly where you want it to go. Sandy’s particular interest is in helping women boost their body image. She offers a free e-book uncovering shocking secrets the diet industry doesn’t want you to know, when you sign up for her newsletter at http://www.sandykumskov.com.
Special offer If you’d prefer to be guided through tapping away your fears, Sandy has made a video of this script FREE just for Law of Attraction in Action readers. Simply click play on the video and follow the clear instructions to immediately feel a release of fear, to help you get on or move faster on the path you want to be on! Click here to access the video - special for GOLD 2009 Book readers! http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts
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Sheila Betker “Anyone Got a Match? How to Rekindle Your Passion for Life” Do you remember when you jumped out of bed before the alarm clock rang excited to take on the day? Are you missing the passion and joy that used to fill your days... and nights? Sometimes life becomes too hectic and overstuffed with tasks and responsiblities. You get lost in the shuffle and lose your sense of direction. Then one day you notice that you’ve lost the energy and eagerness that used to define you. The good news is that at any moment you can stop, reassess and rekindle your spark for life. Often when trying to reclaim passion and rejuvenate energy, people tend to focus on a single area in their life. They may increase their amount of exercise to rev up their energy. They may return to a hobby they loved to reconnect with their creative self. While these are excellent strategies, it is important to remember that you are multidimensional and all of you needs to be cared for – body, mind and spirit. To rekindle your passion for life, select strategies from each of the three categories. Embrace the activities with eagerness and anticipation. Know that the time and energy you channel to these activities is a gift and revel in the love that you’re giving yourself. Don’t make these a chore added to your already overloaded to-do list. It’s within a state of love and self care that the magic of the universe flows to you. Body Your body is the vehicle that carries you through this life. It is the only one you get. If you do not care for it, it will wear out and break down before you reach your final destination. Without regular maintenance, it won’t operate at peak
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performance and you will lack the energy, ability and motivation to participate in life with passion and joy. Here are some regular maintenance routines to keep your body road-ready: Get physical - Your body is made to move. It needs to stretch, strengthen, and exert itself beyond its usual demands in order to stay in tip top shape. Especially if you have a sedintary desk job, you need to plan exercise into your daily routine. Choose an activity that is fun for you. For me, my two dogs provide the perfect encouragement to take a brisk 30 minute walk each evening. Nourish your body – It’s easy to get caught up in the convenience of processed and fast foods. But so often they contain artificial preservatives, colourings and flavourings that don’t belong in your body. Dedicate one week to eating entirely natural, whole foods. Start with fresh ingredients and create meals that are delicious and nutritious. It doesn’t have to be elaborate or time-consuming. Poached chicken breasts, steamed fresh vegetables, and fluffy rice are staples in my house. Dance to your favourite song – There is something special about music. It touches you at the deepest level. I can’t think of anything more inspiring than turning on a groov’n song and dancing like no one is watching. You enjoy it so much that you don’t even notice you’re getting a great workout. Dancing strengthens muscles you don’t usually use, builds your cardiovascular fitness and enhances coordination. Best of all, you don’t need any special moves or steps. Simply listen to the music and let your body move to the rhythm. Play – Children are wonderful role models for this. They can burst into play at any moment with little provocation. Their play is spontaneous, physical and joyful. Next time you hear a cascade of giggles coming from your kids, join in. No kids – no problem. Remember back to your own childhood and revive some of the activities that brought you joy. Some of my favourites include making snow angels, rolling down hills, playing tag, climbing trees and catching fire flies at dusk. Remember, no planning needed - just let loose and laugh. Do a cleanse – Our bodies are exposed to and absorb toxins from a variety of sources including poor diets, environmental pollutants and stress. These harmful substances accumulate in the body and contribute to poor health, low energy and lethargy. Cleansing is the process of ridding the body of toxins. While there are many types of cleanses, they generally include restricting your diet and exposure to common toxins for a week or two while supporting your body with herbs and vitamins. Always work with your doctor, nutritionist or health coach to determine if a cleanse is right for you.
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Mind You have been given an incredible gift that has capabilities beyond what you are currently using. It’s kind of like receiving a new top of the line mobile phone for your birthday. There are so many features that you use the minimum functionality and are darn proud of that. The catch with your mind is that if you don’t use it you lose it. To rekindle your passion for life and keep that flame burning you must engage your mind in meaningfully ways. Here are a few ways to build mind muscle: Read a book – When you are involved with a good book hours can pass in a flash. Whether you prefer fiction or nonfiction, historic or futuristic, personal development or biographical, you can find a book to capture your imagination and stretch the boundaries of your knowledge. For extra benefit, pull together a group of friends and form a book club to discuss the tome. Take up a new hobby – The mind gets a special kind of work out when you engage it in creative tasks. By learning a new hobby you are investing time in yourself to develop skills, commit to personal time and focus your mind. Hobbies, especially the kind that produce something - provide a deep sense of accomplishment and satisfaction that you can carry over into other areas of your life. Teach your skills to another – Nothing solidifies your comprehension of a topic more than teaching it to another. In teaching you need to review the knowledge you have, synthesize it into a concise packet of information and explain it in a way others will understand and engage with. Teaching allows you to develop a new skill set while contributing to others’ development. Talk about a win-win. Sing a song – Not only is music great for the body, but it’s wonderful for the mind as well. Music has been used in cultures and generations to pass down traditions and bond people together. Music literally shapes your brains and involves more parts of your brain than even language. In fact music is so powerful that it is used to help people recover from strokes and other neurological damage. The benefits of music to a healthy mind cannot be overestimated. So go ahead... sing a song, sing out loud, sing out strong. Dream – Despite what you may have been told as a child, day dreaming is, in fact, a very productive activity. When you spend time dreaming about what you want your life to be like, you are creating new neural pathways that help you make it a reality. If you read interviews or biographies about people who have achieved great success, without fail they created a strong vision or dream of their
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goal to keep them focused and motivated. As the law of Attraction tells us, whatever you think about, you bring about. Why not make it your dream life? Spirit Sometimes it’s easier to focus on the tangible, physical reality you see in front of you. The physical fitness and beauty industries can attest to that. But just as important, if not more, is caring for your spiritual needs. When you support and nourish your spirit, the energy and love that you gain carries you through the other activities you take on. Use your feelings to guide you in selecting ways to care for your spiritual needs. If you listen closely, you will hear everything you need to know. Here are some suggestions to keep your spirit soaring: Visit your local botanical gardens – Nature has a special way of filling you up. Spending time in nature, noticing its beauty – its colours, patterns, textures, sounds – brings calm and peace. It allows you to connect with a deep and divine energy that resounds with you to the core. If you can’t head out of the city, make use of the green spaces in your community. Visit the local parks, gardens, zoos, and aquariums. Send a thank you card – Gratitude is the fastest way to achieve the life of your dreams. By focusing on and being grateful for the blessings in your life right now (even if they are blessings of “opportunity”) you can, in an instant, change your life. Invariably gratitude brings with it a sense of prosperity and peace. And when you take the additional step of expressing gratitude to another person, you not only add magic to your own life, but to theirs as well. Learn a new joke – Then tell it often and laugh with exuberance. You’ve heard that laughter is the best medicine. Research shows that laughter prevents inflammation in the body and reduces the effects of stress. It raises your spirit in an instant and bonds you to others with whom you are sharing the laugh. Laughter helps you restore emotional balance and even a simple smile can dissolve tensions and create ripples of harmony. Pamper yourself – If I asked you to make a list of all the people you take care of, how long would it be? Would you be on that list? When life becomes hectic often the first responsibility that goes unmet is self care. Yet if you are not replenished and nourished, you cannot tend to your other responsibilities. Take time to pamper yourself. Decide what that means to you. For some pampering is a manicure or massage at the spa. For others it’s quiet time alone to reflect, read or simply rest. For others it is the hot bubble bath by candle light. Make a list of what you find pampering and start indulging.
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Meditate – One of the greatest teachers you will ever have is your own heart. You can access its lessons through meditation. Meditation is the purest form of listening. Although there are many techniques, the essence of meditation is to get still, breathe slowly and consciously and listen internally. Meditation teaches you to experience more of the present and more of yourself. It allows you to tap into your divine wisdom and fills you with peace. You are a miraculous being. As such you deserve to be cared for and nourished in body, mind and spirit. At every moment you are one decision away from creating the life of your dreams. It is your choice to make. Will you choose to continue at a frenetic pace barely noticing life flying by you? Or will you choose to dedicate time each day to rejuvenate and strengthen yourself? Your life is meant to be a joyous adventure. Replenish your tanks and soon you’ll be cheering, “Woo hoo, what a ride!”
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Select at least one strategy you can use to keep your body in tip top condition. Once that becomes a lovely routine, add another one. 2. Identify ways you are currently building your mind muscle. Add new strategies to the list. Now start working your way through the new strategies. 3. Create a list of actions you can take to send your spirit soaring. Then complete one of those actions every day.
About the Author Sheila Betker is a life coach who brings energy, expertise and experience to her coaching, workshops and training. With over 15 years of experience in the personal development and organizational development fields, she has helped people as they explore career paths, enhance their personal excellence and achieve their dreams.
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As a habitual life-long learner, Sheila has completed a Master in Business Administration, a Master of Arts, a Certificate in Adult and Continuing Education, and the CTA Certified Coach Training Program. She is always on the lookout for new resources to share with you. Through Freedom to Dream, Sheila draws from her personal exploration, professional expertise, and formal learning to assist women in building the life of their dreams. If you believe her strengths match the support you are looking for, contact Sheila for a free 30-minute coaching consultation by emailing
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Stacey Barr “The Single Most Powerful Driver of Business Success”
And it's not what you think, almost certainly not what you're doing, and so easily within your grasp! The Law of Attraction requires that you have a clear, vivid sensory map in your mind of specifically what you want to attract. It requires that you be able to summon or conjure up this sensory map of what you want on demand, and keep it as the dominant thought in your mind. It’s a simple concept, but for many, not at all easy. It can be hard to get clear enough about what you want, what you really want. Hard to paint, tune and sculpt the details that bring it to life in your mind strongly enough to begin bubbling up the emotions of excitement and burning desire that fuel the attraction process. It’s not enough to chant to yourself “more customers are coming” or “more revenue is on its way” or “I have all the time I need to do what matters” or “my customers are loyal raving fans”. The more clearly that you can create that sensory map of what you really want and in intricate detail, engaging all five senses; sight, sound, smell, taste and touch, the more magnetic it will be. But will that do? Actually, nothing.
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If the Law of Attraction were that straightforward to apply, everyone who has tried it would be transformed. Rather, it takes some very deliberate practice: 1. You have to stay focused, very focused on what it is that you want. 2. You have to be able to recognise when it’s happening. 3. You have a responsibility to allow it to happen. If you want to accelerate your skill at attracting the results you want in your business by practicing these three things, there’s something that will help you and it will work like magic. It’s something few business owners have but anyone can get. It’s very misunderstood, but relatively easy to do, when you learn to see it for what it really is and not for what you’ve always assumed it was. It’s seen as boring by those that don’t have it, but those that do wouldn’t be without it. It’s what many would perceive as being at the opposite end of the spectrum to Law of Attraction, even though it’s very roots are in the language of the universe. You probably won’t like it. But it’s power to paint, tune and sculpt the sensory map of what you really want to attract and to keep your attention riveted upon it, is astounding. It’s… measurement. Measurement is essentially about understanding patterns and change objectively and dispassionately, without bias or ambiguity. Measurement is a descendant of mathematics, the language of the universe, the language that describes all we know about the inconceivably small phenomena of sub-atomic particles, to the mind boggling immense phenomena of the cosmos. Don’t see measurement as trivial quantification of intangible qualitative experiences. Don’t see measurement as the mind-bending-back-onto-itself domain of dusty grey university professors. Measurement can be found in things as beautiful as snowflakes, as elegant as the Earth’s orbit around our sun, as intriguing as da Vinci’s Vitruvian man.
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And in your business, measurement can be an eloquent expression of its purpose, the language that communicates so clearly, crisply and concretely what you have designed your business to attract. Meaningful measurement, strangely, begins with our language, the language of words. It’s an interplay that is a compelling sensory map of the results that together define success for your business.
Measuring helps you stay focused, very focused, on what you want to attract. With fewer than 20 fun-loving and energising hours of my time each week, my business is generating a healthy profit of $50,000 minimum each month, and releasing at least 500 people each month instantly from their back pain and discomfort in fewer than 4 caring visits. A chiropractic practice might use such words to describe their idea of success, what they want to attract. It might not be as sophisticated as the numbers that decide the shape of a fern frond, but certainly more sophisticated than despondent desperation for “a more successful business”. There are four measures implied by the words in the chiropractic example above. The first is the weekly hours the owner works. The second is the profit that the business makes. The third is the number of customers the business serves each month. The fourth is the speed with which customers get the relief they sought. The measures together keep you focused on what types of results you want to attract – the story of success for your business. But measures can do more than that.
Measuring helps you recognise when you’re actually attracting what you want. Currently giving 55 exhausting hours of my time each week, my business is generating a reasonable profit of $10,000 on average each month, with about 80 people having 6 visits each month to relieve their back pain and discomfort. Probably the toughest part of measuring your business is letting the measures show you where you actually are now, before you’ve attracted the success you want. Feedback that is honest and dispassionate can sting and tempt you to make like an ostrich and bury your head in the sand.
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Even a fern frond begins small, timid and stunted, but unfolds and stretches out to become the beautifully exquisite frond it was designed to become, in its own good time. Your business measures will track that process from where you are beginning now, all the way to where you want to be. They’ll be the feedback that excites you as you see that what you want to attract is indeed coming. Your business measures will also nudge you when you’re blocking the attraction process.
Measuring helps you enact the responsibility to allow the attracting to happen. To grow our customers from 80 to 500 this year, we need to find and keep 10 new customers per week. Our marketing currently attracts 5 new customers and we keep only 3 of these. How can we attract 12 new customers a week and keep 10 of them? What about our marketing campaigns, can we improve? What about our customer relationship management, can we improve? Your business measures are connected to one another; they weave the threads of your business into a coherent story of relationships. Just as the fronds of a fern can be modelled by simple mathematical equations, measurement reveals the often very simple patterns and relationships among the various activities and processes in your business that give rise to how successful it is. But unlike a fern, you can use the knowledge of those relationships you measure in your business to change how successful it is. When you’re wondering why the customers aren’t coming in droves, there’s something better you can do than blaming the economy and deadening the pain with a little too much chocolate. You can ask your measures, the measures that track the results of your marketing campaigns. Your measures will tell you which campaigns are wasting your money and which campaigns are giving you the greatest return on your money. Your measures will help you diagnose, learn, test and tune all the parts of your business so they work better and better and better together to make the business as a whole more successful.
Don’t feel daunted by measuring, despite that being a natural reaction. Practice measuring, play with it and don’t worry about perfecting it. Measuring in some form is superior to not measuring at all.
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Start to unfurl the success in your business by giving 15 minutes at the start of each day to practice measuring, so you begin with the end in mind.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Spend some time to create that rich, sensory map of what you want to attract into your business, in the language of results. Remember, it’s not about just one result, like profit. It’s about the interplay of several results that give your business sustainability and balance. 2. Create just a few very relevant measures of those results, measures that build on the sensory description by making those results far easier to recognise when they’re happening. 3. Refer to your measures every week (maybe even daily) to remind you of what matters most in your business, to help you stay focused on attracting those things, and to give you the feedback on how well they are manifesting.
About the Author Stacey Barr is the maven for measuring what matters to move your business from where it is to where you want it to be. She’s absolutely passionate about showing business owners how easily and painlessly they can tap into the power of numbers to stay focused on what really matters, to have feedback that replaces guessing with knowing and to leverage their time and money. Her practical and simple programs help micro and small business owners lift their business results from where they are, to where they want them to be, faster and easier than ever before.
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Special offer For a copy of Stacey’s Free Report “7 Clues To Measure What Matters in Micro and Small Business”, visit http://www.wonderfullawofattraction.com/gifts to receive a great practical tip to measure and improve your business performance, twice a month, in Stacey’s free email newsletter Lift The Barr.
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Susan Winlaw “Car Tips to keep you and your family safer and more secure so you can really enjoy life in 2009.” Most of us take it for granted that we will be able to have food, water and shelter for ourselves and our families. These things are the most basic elements to life. In order to get those things as adults, most of us have to leave the home on a regular basis and produce something that pays for those basic elements. That definitely leads to transportation and a vehicle of our own. As women, our biggest concern is safety when it comes to that car. We assume all of the vehicles sold today are safe, but there is much more to the subject and there are many things we can do to increase that element on our own.
Most women sit too close to the steering wheel The manufacturers have been designing cars with the average sturdy 5' 8" male in mind for years and that is still the norm. That means the seat and pedals and all of the adjusting knobs are ergonomically great if you are 5' 8" tall. Since most women are shorter and of smaller stature, we find it a challenge to reach the foot pedals without cramming ourselves up to the steering wheel. The danger here is when we are in a crash or hard braking situation. If we do not have about 12" between the wheel and our chest, there is great danger of being injured by the air bag that is there to save us. Unless you have seen it happen, you cannot imagine the force that is exerted upon your body when an air bag deploys. You definitely do not want to be only 3-6 inches away that I constantly see. The immediate solution is to start moving the seat back further or changing the slope of the back rest until you are about a foot away from the wheel and can still see properly to drive. In case this still does not give you enough room, look for someone to install pedal extenders. And don't accept the inconvenience of the other driver who is taller than you as an excuse to keep you from being safe. The
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future solution is that your next car needs to be equipped with adjustable foot pedals. Insist your next car is equipped that way.
Contain all loose objects in the car When you are driving along the city streets or on the highway and you are seat belted in, you feel perfectly safe. In the cup holder is your coffee cup, some loose change for the toll booth, a pen and notepad and your cell phone. Beside you on the passenger seat is your purse. Now I don't mean the delicate little bag we take to the theatre. I mean the every day "holds all of our essentials plus anything my family might need at any emergency" handbag. In the back seat you have your toddler in her car seat all belted in and your 10 year old - also with seat belt done up securely. Between them are a lunch box, school books and a wrapped birthday present. Your daughter has just finished figure skating lessons and her skates are on the floor in the back. Since it was raining, the umbrella is in the back window rest. If it was snowing, translate that into the long ice scraper. And at the last moment, Fluffy scurried out of the house and is also bouncing around in the back seat looking out the windows. All of these things are part of our everyday, hectic lives and since we are only going 20 minutes away, they are all in the main body of the car. But once we have to slam on the brakes for a near miss or we actually have an accident, all of those items become projectiles. None of them are seat belted in and are now flying forward or all around in the off chance that the car flips over. If the reality of this has not sunk in yet, please have someone take those same objects and throw them at you. The point is quickly made. The solutions here are numerous and will take constant vigilance to maintain, but they are all easy and so very worth it. Pen, note pad or paper, coins can all be stored in a fabric pencil case that will contain them and disperse any weight if it should hit you - no more "pierced by your pen". Get an aftermarket attachment to hold your cell phone in place. Seatbelt your purse into the passenger seat. You can still get into it when stopped at a drivethrough, but it is held from flying about. A mesh laundry bag is sturdy, see through and usually has a draw string that can contain other large items in one place and you can seat belt it into the back between the kids. Be cautious with all pointed objects like umbrella or ice scraper or skates or golf shoes. I have found that a soft tote bag will contain them and live easily on the floor of the back seat or better yet - in the trunk or held in place with the mesh cargo containers in vans and SUV's. And lastly, there are special belt devices for dogs that should be used. It will certainly be a noisy trip but better that than your child witnessing Fluffy's demise or Spike actually knocking you unconscious as he flies around in the car.
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Don't be lulled into submission by the Crash Rating and Bigger IS Better for safety Safety laws are built and crash tests are mostly performed with the same model that the car companies have used to design their comfort - the sturdy male of 5' 8". The 5 Star rating system for frontal crashes involves very limited and specific collision circumstances. Oh - and the last factor that hardly ever gets mentioned is that the test is done with a vehicle of exactly the same weight category. So when you see a lovely small car with a 5 Star Crash Rating, please do not think that means you are totally safe out there on the roads. Every safety council in North America, Australia/Asia and Europe states deep in the records that weight is a factor. So you would be safer in a mid sized car with a 2 or 3 rating than in that small vehicle with 5 Stars mentioned above. You have to think about the types and numbers of other vehicles on the road with you. Sure, you are going to always be driving carefully, but accidents do happen and there are a LOT of them. For safety, you want to be in the biggest vehicle you can afford. Many of the new ones have very good fuel efficiency numbers and they are getting better all of the time. The safest location in any vehicle is the middle of it where you are as far away from anything that can hit or crush you in an accident.
Be Informed about Your Car - Take Ownership Sure we all know we'd rather clean the oven than read the owners' manual for our car, but there are vital things in it that can help you maintain your car to keep you safer and will actually save you money. It is one of our Old Husbands' Tales that tells us to change our oil every 3 months. Many women think this is still the case. And it is reinforced by the service centre that places a sticker on our windshield when we have our oil changed to remind us of our next visit. This is how they make their money. Let's remember that oil has improved a great deal in the past 10 years and newer cars engines are built differently than they were in the past. Reading your manual will tell you exactly what fluids need to be changed and with what frequency. Yes, I know, the car manuals are a very boring read, but that is the best way to get to the specific needs of your vehicle. Highlight the important bits in the manual and follow the schedule. And get a licensed place to do the servicing. They have the equipment to operate smoothly and quickly and the means to dispose of the old product in an environmentally responsible way. Changing your own oil is not hard, but then you are left with the old waste product. Find out the correct pressure for the air in your tires and then follow a schedule every month to check the pressure and fill when it is down. You will improve your fuel economy because the car rolls best when the tires are optimally inflated. This piece is so easy to do and is so commonly ignored.
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Drive with your Religious Values in your constant thoughts In June of 2007, the Vatican put out a paper on the Guidelines for the Pastoral Care of the Road and it included a list of 10 Commandments of the Road. Following those words of advice would yield a much safer place for all of us. You don't have to be Catholic or even Christian to see the merit in them. Our web site has them listed on it and our book expands into more of the teachings. Most religions on the planet hold life in the highest regard. When we are driving, if we keep that upper most in our minds and live by the Golden Rule to do unto others as we would have them do unto us, the amount of accidents will fall incredibly and we'll all be more considerate during our journey. Allowing someone to merge instead of cutting them off and giving way instead of honking the horn are all things that can keep us calmer and reduce road rage from the other party. Phoning in an accident instead of gawking might just save someone's life. Taking the trip at a slower pace and not racing everywhere leads to a gentler highway for all - plus we get to enjoy the scenery that God made for us. And wouldn't it be nice to arrive at our retreat with a serene state of mind than the crazed state most of us are in all of the time? Not only will you be calmer, but you will save money on gas and save wear and tear on your car by treating it in a smooth manner. There are many more topics in our book Car Advice For Women (and Smart Men), but these will give you some immediate action items to improve your safety and security and those of your family as well. I wish you all the best in 2009 and may you always be safe on the road.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Buy those soft containers to bundle loose objects in your car. (the fabric pencil case, the coin purse, the mesh, draw-string laundry bag, the gym bag or large zipper bag) and start using them every day. 2. Start sitting a bit further back from the steering wheel each time you drive, until you have 12" from it to your chest. Get pedal extenders if you need them.
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3. Read and highlight your owners' manual and get appointments placed on your calendar for monthly air pressure checks and the correct dates to change fluids. (It may not be even as often as the service center is recommending). 4. Remember the Golden Rule every time you get behind the wheel. Drive with your Religious Values in focus at all times.
About the Author Susan Winlaw was born and raised in Woodstock, Ontario. She attended the University of Guelph where she received a BASc (Bachelor of Applied Science) in Home Economics/Textiles in 1973. A long career at Sears Canada Inc. followed with a variety of management roles (Textiles Lab, retail department manager, assistant buyer and PM in Information Technology). Susan is married to Alexander Law (1975) and traveled periodically with him in his early years as an automotive journalist. She found it so interesting that much of her private time in the past 15 years has been spent doing the same thing. This has put her behind the wheel of over 1,500 cars and on the road to vehicle launches and auto shows in England, France, Germany, Italy, Japan, Korea, Sweden, Switzerland and -- her favorite -- Monte Carlo. Susan speaks to groups about safety and security for women, especially as it relates to their cars. Susan and Alexander wrote Car Advice For Women (and Smart Men) and it can be found at http://www.caradviceforwomen.com. The latest in news of import and interest to women about cars can be found at http://carnewsforwomen.com.
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Susitha P. “How to Enhance Self Esteem and Claim Abundance”
Self Esteem and Abundance The Emotional Guidance System as explained by Esther and Jerry Hicks is a range of emotions beginning with the highest and best vibrations like love, appreciation and gratitude and going down to negative vibrations like anger and shame. A person with high self esteem will be in the positive vibrations most of the time and a person with low self esteem and past baggage stays in the lower vibrations. Positive vibrations helps in the manifestation of abundance and lower vibrations block the flow of abundance. Suppose a person (let us call him ‘A’) has a good self esteem. A colleague at his work place comments that ‘A‘ is dominating and negative. ‘A’ does a self analysis to check how true the comment is. He realizes that he has always been appraised well and his team members have always been friendly and supportive of him. More over he realizes that even team members from his previous projects contact him for advice. For him the comment does not make sense so he lets it go. He realizes the person who commented may have been jealous or insecure about his progress. The comment has no power over him. The words ‘Dominating and Negative” do not have a vibrational match with his energy and he lets it go.
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On the other hand another person, let us call him ‘B’, who has a low self esteem will be immensely hurt from this kind of remark and B’s thoughts would be something like “I am not good enough” , “People always criticize me”, “How could he say something like this” , I am never appreciated”. ‘B’ has completely given his power away to the situation and the person who commented on him. Why does this happen? ‘B’ has past memories where he was not appreciated and he was criticized. This current criticism awakens the vibrations of the old memories. The energy of criticism has found a vibrational match in ‘B’. ‘B’ is upset for hours or days depending how much of past burden and pain he is carrying. In the process of manifesting abundance it is very important for you to maintain high vibrations of love, gratitude and appreciation. These vibrations keep you aligned to your divine source and abundance. Negative vibrations disconnect you from your source and from abundance. Since A has a good self esteem his visualizations will manifest more easily than B who in spite of visualizing his goal regularly may remain stuck because of his negative vibrations. Low self esteem is a very common problem but we can resolve this with Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). People are not born with low self esteem, negative life experiences make one feel that he/she is not good enough. Example: A mother expresses disappointment over her child’s failure in a subject in a harsh manner and comments about how well his older sibling has done. This may make the child feel that he is failure, he cannot make his mother happy, his brother is better than him and he is not good enough. This belief of not being good enough gets reinforced from recurring difficult experiences.
Creating a new self esteem with Emotional Freedom Techniques Make a list of every bothersome memory from your childhood until now. Do not recollect each memory, just give it a title. For each memory give a SUD (Severity of Distress) Number. This is a number on a scale of 0 to 10. 0 Indicates the memory does not cause pain and you are calm and 10 indicates that the memory is very intense and painful. Apply EFT for these memories. Dedicate at least 3 months to this process. Remember you accumulated these memories over years and it is quite fair to invest at least 1 hour in the next 3 months to release this baggage. Even if you work on 1 memory a day in 3
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months you would have cleared 90 Memories. If the memories are intense please contact an EFT Practitioner. EFT is a natural therapy but as with any healing modality, you must take complete responsibility for the use of this technique. Once you have done this process, • You will feel light and happy • You will notice that people’s negative comments no longer bother you • Your goals will manifest more easily • You will feel really good about yourself • You will manifest good health. Remember physical ailments are a cry from your body to resolve the underlying emotional issues. • Your visualizations will feel more real and will manifest easily. Remember with this process you have already embraced an abundance of wellness. We are all divine and though life’s journey we sometimes forget our true nature. By doing this process you will embrace the real divine you. From my experience I feel that people with low self esteem block abundance and they conclude that the Law of Attraction does not work. The Law of Attraction is a universal law and it works. But we need to be in vibrational alignment with your goals and with vibrations of love, gratitude, appreciation and abundance. For this, enhancing self esteem is the first step. If you are passionate about Abundance, do not run around in circles, take a systematic approach. Even if you have to spend some time on this process remember you are not only building a strong base for abundance but you are also embracing your personal power. You can now live life with confidence and peace. So make a decision today to create a good self esteem.
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Get familiar with EFT. Instructions for an EFT Short cut process and details on how to work on individual memories are here http://www.innerheaven.net/EFTTappingPoints.html 2. Make a list of every specific bothersome memory from your childhood till the current date. Apply EFT to each memory.
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3. Note down all positive changes that you experience, small or big. Notice yourself shifting from complaining like a victim to taking responsibility like a divine child of god and a co creator
About the Author Susitha P. is an Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Practitioner. She helps people who are stuck in the process of manifesting Abundance. She helps them identify and clear blocks to Abundance with Emotional Freedom Techniques. Blocks include Low Self Esteem, Self Sabotage, Fear of Success/Failure, Limiting beliefs to name a few. If you would like to embrace personal power and a wonderful new self esteem or if you have a fairly good self esteem and yet you feel stuck in the process of manifesting your goals with Law of Attraction, Visit http://www.innerheaven.net
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Notes What actions will you take today?
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Suzie Williams “Are you Suffering from Compassion Fatigue?” Why it is so important to take care of YOU first!!! After all...no-one else will - or can!
Are you a carer? Most women are natural nurturers and caregivers and put everyone else first, with themselves much further down the line. Usually after the children, husband or partner, job, housework, keeping in touch or helping extended family, paying the bills, managing all the little “bushfires” that occur throughout the week in everyone else’s life, voluntary work for the kids school or sport, those extra few hours at work “just to get the job finished”, keeping deadlines and appointments, taxiing the kids and their friends everywhere, maintaining contact with your friends, etc. The list goes on and on. Many women are also home-based caregivers with the additional commitment of providing care for a loved one at home. Sometimes you just wonder when it is going to be your turn! When will you get some time to just do something for yourself, or just some time to sit and be? In reality, this time may never come in quite the way you fantasise, because your life perhaps really is too complicated at this present moment, or this particular stage in your life. Somehow you feel as if you care a bit less and don’t have the energy to cope, to respond, intervene or to advocate on any one else’s behalf. You are flat out just getting through your own day, hanging on by a thread yourself. The other thing that everyone else around you notices (you often don’t see it at first) is how you start to over-react to little things or minor problems in an
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inappropriate way. This is a sure sign that you are feeling stressed and out of balance and need to take charge of the moment. Now! The term Compassion Fatigue comes from the extreme emotional impact suffered by relief workers – both volunteers and professionals - who work tirelessly to provide whatever physical and emotional help is required to the victims of monumental disasters – bushfires, earthquakes, bombings, floods or violence of some sort. The overwhelming scale of such widespread suffering often leaves them feeling ill equipped to deal effectively with the subsequent emotional effects and they can start to feel useless, even doubting that what they contribute will have any effect at all. Over time they can start to lose their sense of humour and their usual coping mechanisms and become numb inside, feel isolated, depressed, become moody or angry, overindulge in alcohol, food or drugs to cope and many other symptoms. Unfortunately, they lack simple and effective techniques that can help them to cope by clearing away the emotional pain and debris. Many Dru Yoga techniques have been used with remarkable success from war zones to therapy centres, helping dispel fear, anger and compassion fatigue, allowing them to open up to feelings of hope and peace. This is the extreme end of the scale of compassion fatigue. There are however varying degrees, and many times I have seen similar effects within people who have the ongoing responsibility for caring for someone at home. Often they also work in caring professions and so are constantly giving out in all directions everyday. Many carers (home-based or professionals such as nurses, counsellors, police, fire-fighters and doctors) unconsciously reach this point that is now referred to as ‘Compassion Fatigue’. Where they get a little (or a lot) numb inside through constantly dealing with the expectations and commitments of looking after everyone else’s sufferings, traumas and problems. Or, if you have a disabled, mentally or physically ill or an elderly person living in the home the continual stress and worry builds up over time, leading to many of the symptoms described earlier.
Seizing the Peaceful Moment The solution could be just a breath away! You can learn to claim small moments for yourself throughout the day that can bring a sense of calm and peace. This can then help you maintain your focus and
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strength by replenishing that inner well, so that you have the resources within to keep on giving out to those you care about. This is where you truly can put the Law of Attraction into Action! Over many years I have worked as a nurse and a therapist, treating and caring for many people suffering from the after effects of stress - on their minds and their bodies. I have always worked in a caring role. Now, one of my specialist areas is teaching Carers how to look after themselves, as well as their loved ones, using natural therapies and Dru Yoga in their home. They have to combine caring for someone at home with all the usual demands of life. The people may have cancer, dementia, autism, ADD, ADHD, ‘stroke’, mental illness or a myriad of other chronic illnesses. When you think about it though, we are all carers. Women particularly seem to fall into that role being the mother, daughter, wife etc. Often it is just assumed that you will do whatever it takes - pick up the pieces, organise this or that, be there to console or help. However, many men are equally committed in their roles as carers too. We all care, and generally we all care so much that we forget to take the time to look after ourselves. The days can sometimes be daunting as they seem to fly by and you just don’t seem to get through everything that you had hoped to do. If you continually put pressure on yourself to do too much, or give too much of yourself, you can become physically drained, worn out or even become sick. If we ignore the early warning signs of stress, the next thing the universe sends to warn us is ”the Mac truck” …usually in the form of an illness that forces us to stop. Overwhelm can indeed be overwhelming!
Remember the KISS principle (keep it simple sweetheart!) One of the simplest techniques anyone can use to control their stress and regain control of their emotions is the simple art of deep breathing or, in yoga terms, practising the Deep Yogic Breath (DYB).
Just remember to BREATHE Practising DYB is quite easy, and gets easier with repetition. You can do it anywhere, anytime. Sit, stand or lie somewhere comfortable. While you are learning you may want to find a few minutes in a quiet place and just do a few breaths until you get the hang of doing the breathing slowly and deeply. You may want to place your hands near your navel so you can feel your tummy rising up and down. This, for some people is often the unusual part. Most of us only take shallow breaths into the upper part of our chest, which is why we tend to feel so tired and fatigued due to the lack of fresh oxygen circulating through our body.
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Take a deep breath in through your nose and focus on feeling the cool air flowing down through your nostrils and into the top of your lungs, silently and slowly counting to 4. Continue to focus on your breath as it fills your lungs completely, gently pushing your diaphragm down towards the pelvis as the abdomen rises up and out slightly. Hold the inbreath momentarily … just enjoy it … and then breathe slowly all the way out, silently and slowly counting to 4, completely emptying your lungs. Pause for a moment and enjoy the emptiness briefly, before once again breathing in deeply, completely filling the lungs. Pause, and enjoy the fullness of your breath. Then exhale slowly and completely. Repeat several times.
Feel into your mind and body Notice how quickly you have changed from feeling anxious and stressed to feeling calm and more in control of your feelings and thoughts. We can transform all negative emotional states with our breath. I know it sounds too simple but it is true. Breathing (pranayam) has been used for thousands of years in yoga and meditation as a key to inner peace and calm. It really can be as simple as breathing in and breathing out, just using our awareness of the actual process of breathing to refocus and relax our mind. During the inbreath silently say in your mind ‘I am breathing in peace’, and on the outbreath silently say ’I am breathing out anxiety/anger/frustration’ (whichever emotion or feeling that is in play at that moment). If you are sitting somewhere where it is safe to do so, close your eyes and allow yourself to really feel into the whole experience of breathing the breath, and feeling the release of the tension and the subtle difference in your mind and body as the transformation of the emotion occurs. (You do not have to re-experience the emotional trauma or incident in order to let it go.) It may feel slightly different for everyone. For example, I often experience a softness within my body as my muscles relax and a calmness seems to gently flush through my mind and body which leaves me feeling clear and centred. I am not suggesting that you sit and meditate and do specific breathing techniques for hours on end. Many of you would never make, or have, the time do that! But, if you can find little triggers throughout the day that remind you to take that deep breath and slow down, you will find that you suddenly start to take a few slow, deep, calming breaths every so often. And you will enjoy it. Before you know it, you will have gone from doing it just a couple of times a week, to a
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couple of times a day to perhaps several times in an hour. Add that up over a day … and then a week, and then a month, and it becomes quite easy to see how different you will feel in a short period of time. I suggest you start with doing 2 or 3 breaths when you stop at every traffic light as you drive to and from work or anywhere else that you drive. If you commute, it is even easier to do some quiet, slow breaths while you are sitting on the train, plane or bus. And then, add a calm and centering breath every time you sit down at the computer, or check your emails, or go to the bathroom. Just another 1 or 2 deep breaths. Before you realise it, you will be enjoying little moments of peace throughout your day and experiencing the positive effects in your life. Your improved calm responses (not knee-jerk reactions!) to those in your family or workplace will soon be noticed and appreciated. And, when you are feeling relaxed, calm and clear your mind is in the perfect place for really visualising and creating the life of your dreams!
The Law of Attraction in Action - Immediate results can be the reward of taking action One of my students in a recent Dru yoga class had an interesting experience with the power of the Law of Attraction. She came wanting to learn some techniques to help her relax and hopefully to feel a bit more flexible. She has an adult son with severe autism who she has patiently and lovingly cared for all his life. But it is still a huge commitment organising his care and wellbeing while still working as a nurse herself, and continuing to seek out and organise the various support services available, in order to create the best possible quality of life for him. Her son is very intuitive and sensitive, and knows her so well that he can immediately pick up on how she is really feeling, even if she is using her “nice, calm, everything is okay” voice. He sees straight through it and reacts to her inner tension. He then gets upset and his behaviour escalates, and that is when they experience a difficult time together. She was amazed and excited at how she really felt much calmer within herself after her first Dru Yoga class. When she arrived at the next class she commented that she felt much clearer and calmer after doing just a few rounds of deep breathing during the week. Some days she only remembered to do it once, other days 2 or 3 times. Apparently her son sensed very quickly that she was genuinely more relaxed and calm on the inside, and consequently he then responded to her with calm behaviour instead of an upset reaction! She was astounded at the immediate ripple effect the simple act of consciously breathing in and out, slowly and deeply, had on her life.
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By taking the simple action of spending a few moments on herself doing something as basic as breathing she was ultimately able to affect those whom she was caring for, in a very positive way, very quickly. By creating a sense of peace and harmony within her own being, it drew the same kind of qualities towards her from others. Another great success story is of a woman who had 2 grown children with Cerebral Palsy (one also had uncontrolled epilepsy necessitating constant 24 hour hands-on supervision). Often she and her husband had to resuscitate one child several times a day, and frequently needed to call the ambulance for extra help. They barely slept, yet valiantly tried to live as normal life as possible. The mum loved doing the deep breathing because she could do it anywhere, including when sitting on the floor protecting her child during a seizure. She quickly learned the benefits of instant relaxation and stress relief. Doing the DYB took the panic out of her initial reactions and helped her to respond calmly and think clearly while waiting for the ambulance. She was even able to go to the dentist and not have a needle! Instead she visualised doing the DYB with some flowing arm movements. What she discovered was that simply breathing deeply had a powerful and tangible effect on the way she coped with her unusually stressful and unpredictable daily life and was thrilled with the results. It was empowering! And she began to think more positively, drawing more positive experiences into her life. So, what are you waiting for ???? If these women can have such dramatic results …imagine what could happen in your life! Start breathing deeply and slowly right now and watch your life change!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Remember the KISS principle. Sit, stand or lie down in a comfortable place. Put your hands above and below your navel. Breathe in slowly and deeply to the count of 4. Pause, to enjoy the fullness of your in-breath and breathe out slowly and completely to the count of 4. Pause, to enjoy the emptiness and space of the full out-breath. Repeat 3 – 6 times.
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2. Do step 2 at every red traffic light! Then breathe deeply whenever you sit down to use the computer or go to the bathroom. 3. Breathe deeply whenever you can. Then, start to take notice of how you feel AND how other people change the way they respond to you when you are in this peaceful space within yourself. Start enjoying the benefits of enhanced awareness and inner calm.
About the Author Suzie has worked within the health and healing industry for many years. She has developed aromatherapy, massage and relaxation programs within nursing homes and hospices, and has a special affinity and empathy for carers helping them identify strategies that restore inner peace and happiness using easy to learn skills. Suzie teaches the Art of Swedish Relaxation Massage in Massage Schools and is involved in the Skills for Carers program, a government funded project that teaches carers vital skills for coping with the challenges of caring for a loved one at home or in an institution. By learning how to care for themselves using Dru yoga, massage and relaxation techniques they can better cope with the continual emotional and physical impact of caring for their loved ones. Suzie is currently developing a range of products and workshops/courses combining the benefits of Aromatherapy, Massage and Dru Yoga so everyone can experience these amazing results within their own lives at home and work.
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Yee Wah Choong “7 Keys to Finding the Right Lawyer for You” There are legal ramifications in all aspects of your business. These legal ramifications can have a serious impact on your wealth and health. The nature of the impact will depend on how you structure your business, buy and sell, build your team, manage your business and protect your personal and business assets. This list is by no means exhaustive. As a business owner, do you have a lawyer to help you understand these legal ramifications? Whether you are already in business or are thinking of starting one, it is important to have a lawyer on your support team. Ignorance of applicable laws may result in your inadvertent breach of the law. Some breaches may have unpleasant consequences for you and your business. You may also find yourself exposed to risky business ventures. All these may lead to financial loss, wasted time and heartache – all of which can be easily avoided by having proper legal advice upfront. Legal advice does not always have to cost “an arm and a leg” as is the popular myth. Some times, all that it takes to save you a lot of time, money and heartache is just a phone call or a short visit to the lawyer. A young man once came to see me angry and bewildered - he was being sued for $48,000. Let us call him Joe which is not his real name. Joe was among 4 directors of a company who had given a "joint and several guarantee" to a creditor who had supplied building materials to their company. When Joe signed the guarantee he was under the mistaken belief that his liability would be limited to 25% of the outstanding debt of as there were 4 guarantors. Joe did not know then that in a "joint and several guarantee", the creditor could choose to sue all of the guarantors, or one or more of them, for the entire outstanding debt.
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The creditor decided to sue Joe alone for the entire outstanding debt because he was obviously the one with deep pockets. Joe finally reached a settlement with the creditor and paid the creditor $40,500.00 plus the creditor’s legal costs. He decided not to seek recourse against his fellow directors because he knew that 2 of them would have had to suffer financial hardship to pay him back their portion of the settlement sum. Joe felt it was unfair to just pursue the third director for payment while letting the other 2 off the hook. He lives in hope that one day he will get his money back from all 3 of them even though the company no longer exits! Joe told me that if he had understood the meaning of a "joint and several guarantee", he would have resigned his directorship rather than sign the guarantee. If he had come to see me about the guarantee upfront, it would have cost him $250.00 to get the advice he needed. This could have saved him $48,000.00 (when legal costs are added to the settlement sum), and the many long hours and heartache he had to endure in defending the case. The proverb, a stitch in time saves nine, now rings true for Joe. You can always ask a lawyer what is involved in your matter, what needs to be done and how much it would cost before deciding whether you want to proceed. Be mindful and take responsibility to ensure you are on the right legal path. If you have any lingering doubts about how the law applies to you and your business, now is the time to take action to bolster your ability to stay in business and to grow your business confidently and successfully. One way to do this is for you to find the right lawyer to be on your support team.
Finding the Right Lawyer for You How do you find the right lawyer for you?
Identify 3 lawyers and have a meeting with each of them There are several ways to find a lawyer. You may search for one by looking up a directory or by googling. Your friend or accountant may also refer a lawyer to you. A lawyer who is suitable for your friend may not be the right lawyer for you because each business is unique and no 2 businesses are exactly the same. It is important to find a lawyer whom you can work with on a long term basis. A lawyer who has been on your team for a while will gain a thorough knowledge and understanding of the history and background of your business. This enables the lawyer to respond expeditiously and to provide you with advice not only relevant to the matter at hand but also relevant to your business as a whole.
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The lawyer you choose is very much like your family doctor who knows your medical history thoroughly and is well placed to ensure you get the right medical treatment and follow ups. If there is any complication, the lawyer, just like your family doctor, will be able to refer you to an appropriate specialist to further assist you. To kick start your search for the right lawyer, you may want to create a short list of 3 lawyers and arrange for a face to face meeting with each of them. The purpose of the meeting is for you to identify who will be the right lawyer for you. Before meeting with each lawyer, it will be good to ensure that the meeting is on a “no obligation basis” and that you will not be required to pay the lawyer for the meeting.
7 Keys to Help You Find the Right Lawyer for You Here are 7 keys to help you to choose the right lawyer for you. Key 1
Relevant Expertise and Experience
The first key is to find a lawyer with expertise and experience relevant to your business. For example, If you are a retailer with several stores in major shopping centres, you may want to have a business lawyer who has a large number of clients in the retail business and who is also well versed in retail leasing. You will not choose a family lawyer to advise you on your business matters just as someone with a heart problem will not consult a brain surgeon but will consult a cardiologist. Doesn’t this seem obvious? Yet many business owners consult a lawyer based on a referral without first ascertaining that the lawyer is really suitable for them and their business. Consequently, they often do not get the advice which they need and deserve. You can avoid this common pitfall by ascertaining whether the lawyer has the expertise and experience to advise you in your area of business. Find out whether the lawyer has handled matters which are relevant to your business, how long the lawyer has been handling such matters and the percentage of such matters to the rest of the lawyer’s current practice. Key 2
Your Values
The second key is to have a lawyer who shares your values or at least understands and supports them. Many business owners have an uneasy
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relationship with their lawyer and feel that they are pulling in different directions at the same time. The cause of this predicament often stems from a mismatch of values between the business owner and the lawyer. In order to have an excellent relationship with your lawyer and to ensure you are both headed in the same direction with your business, it is best that you find one who will at least understand and support your values. For example, if you value peace and win-win solutions, you would want a lawyer who can appreciate and support these values and better still, if the lawyer shares these values. Otherwise, it can be stressful for you if your lawyer happens to be a very tough and competitive negotiator who drags out negotiations by holding out for a “win” for you and a “lose” for the other side. Be clear on your values – especially your business values. Make a list of your values and consider each of them to ensure that they resonate well with you. Once you have finalised the list, discuss the list with your short-listed lawyers. Take note of their responses carefully and gauge who will best support your values and help you to reflect them in your business dealings. Key 3
Risk Profile
The third key is to check on the risk profile of the lawyer and ensure that it fits your risk management style. Are you someone who enjoys taking huge business risks and love the adrenalin rush that goes with it? If you are, then can you imagine what it would be like if your lawyer is highly conservative and prefers to play safe all the time? Your response could be “That is great! At least here is someone who will make sure I don’t run straight into trouble”. On the other hand, another business owner may have a totally different response and say “That scaredy cat lawyer will just drive me nuts! I need a gung-ho can-do lawyer who will help me operate at the fringe (of legal limits) because that is where big money is made”. When you meet up with your short-listed lawyers, find out whether the lawyer shares your approach to business risks. If not, then you may consider whether you see their approach as a benefit or a hindrance to the way you conduct your business. Each of us may have a different response to the same risks and ultimately, only you can decide on the lawyer to help you manage your business risks.
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Key 4
Communication
The fourth key is to ensure that your lawyer is able to communicate clearly with you. No matter how brilliant a lawyer may be, it is pointless if the lawyer is unable to explain legal concepts and issues in simple layman’s language or in a manner in which you can understand clearly. If you are unclear about what you need to do to stay out of trouble in the legal arena, it is like playing Russian Roulette – it becomes a game of chance and if you happen to be unlucky, you may find yourself in deep trouble with the law. While meeting with your short-listed lawyers, listen closely to their language. Is it filled with legal jargon or is it simple to understand? If your lawyer is able to explain things clearly to you, it is likely that the same lawyer will be able to communicate clearly with third parties on your behalf. This would help your legal matters to move quickly and be resolved expeditiously. The benefit for you is that it will save you time and money in the long run. Key 5
Service
The fifth key is to ascertain if the lawyer is readily available to provide you with the service you desire. It is pointless to have a lawyer who is too busy to talk to you or do your legal work. For business owners, time is money. The sooner you conclude a deal, the sooner you start making money. While it is unrealistic to expect things to happen immediately and for contracts to be drawn up on the spot, you want to avoid unnecessary delays. Find out from your short-listed lawyers what is their existing work load and whether they will be able to take your calls and devote sufficient time and attention to your matters. What is their response time? If someone else will be doing the work instead of the lawyer, you need to find out who they are and their level of expertise and experience. Will the lawyer be supervising their work? It is best to set out your expectations of the level of service you want upfront and to get a commitment from the lawyer that these expectations can be readily met. Otherwise, you may find one of your business deals in the pipe line going through a bottle neck just when you want it to be concluded expeditiously - this can be very frustrating for you and the party on the other side of the deal. Key 6
Billing and Payments
The sixth key is to test how flexible are the billing and payment options of the lawyer especially when your business cash flow has peaks and troughs during
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the year. Different lawyers have different ways of charging legal fees and disbursements. Some lawyers have flexible arrangements and you may negotiate on a case to case basis on whether you will pay legal fees on a time basis or on a fixed fee basis. The advantage of having a fixed fee arrangement is that you know the legal costs upfront for your matter. However, most lawyers will list what is included in the fixed fee. If there are other items of work which are not on the list, the lawyer will usually let you know about them before hand and you will be required to pay for them. If you agree to be charged on a time basis, you would need to know what are the hourly rates and what is the approximate total cost for your matter. In addition, you may also want to request that you be notified when the legal bill reaches a certain sum so that you have some measure of control over how your matter is being run. Some lawyers offer different billing periods such as fortnightly or monthly intervals. Some may agree on billing intervals when a certain amount of legal fees have been incurred eg. billing at $2,000 intervals. Some business owners prefer to have itemised billing from their lawyer ie. the lawyer provides a list of each item of work done in relation to the matter. This allows the business owner to gauge generally whether the legal costs have been incurred fairly. You may want to discuss with your short-listed lawyers their billing and payment options. Test how flexible they are with their options and whether they are prepared to consider other options. Ascertain what suits you best and how this works with the cash flow of your business. Key 7
Trust and References
The seventh key and a very important one is the trust you have in your lawyer. The level of trust must be such that it will enable you to be totally honest and open with your lawyer. It requires disclosing the good, the bad and the ugly so that your lawyer will have the complete picture and understanding of the background, facts and circumstances of your matters. Such information is vital for your lawyer to act in your best interest at all times. Only you can tell whether you trust a particular lawyer. For some, trust is based on a gut feel. For others, it is the result of painstaking checks and references.
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Whether trust for you is based on a gut feel or otherwise, it is prudent to ask each lawyer on your short list for at least 3 references. Take the extra step of checking out these references and make sure that there are no adverse findings against the lawyer in disciplinary proceedings.
Make a Decision These 7 Keys are intended to help you to find the right lawyer for you. They are by no means exhaustive and you can add others. The responses of your short listed lawyers will show their strengths and advantages as well as their weaknesses and disadvantages. Ultimately the choice lies with you and the weight you place on these responses in helping you to reach a decision. Deliberate on your findings and make a decision. Good luck in your search and may you soon have the right lawyer on board as part of your support team!
Action Box So, what are you waiting for? 1. Identify 3 lawyers to meet with and contact them 2. Prepare a list of questions based on the 7 Keys and meet with the lawyers individually 3. Review their responses, check their references and decide on the right lawyer for you
About the Author Yee Wah Choong is a founder and director of Younique Business, a company which helps young businesses to grow and realise their true potential. She is also Special Counsel with Aequitas Attorneys, a Sydney law firm where she was a founding partner. Yee Wah is a certified Master Results Coach, a certified Master NLP Practitioner and certified Trainer. She is a Mentor Coach for The Coaching Institute, one of Australia’s largest registered training organizations for coaches and has been a Business Mentor for Business Chicks, a nationwide network for business women in Australia. Yee Wah’s legal career of more than 30 years includes being a law lecturer, General Counsel of an Australian public listed company, working in top tier legal firms and being a partner in highly successful boutique law firms in Australia and overseas. Her clients have included individuals, small and medium sized http://www.wonderfulwebwomen.com
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enterprises to large multinational companies, public listed companies, major banks and government corporations. Her practice has ranged from small transactions to large scale commercial, corporate and property transactions in the hundreds of millions of dollars. Yee Wah’s passion however lies in working with small business owners to achieve their big dreams.
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