Julien PIMP Resume

Female Psychology

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1. What is attraction? Attraction = Value a. b. c. d.

Anything that improves your chance of survival or reproduction. We two basic drives which are survival and reproduction. Value causes attraction. Anything that causes GOOD EMOTIONS.

2. Caveman Times a. What attraction was back then is still what it is today. b. What determines if an Alpha Caveman is dominant? i. Behavioral cues NOT visual cues. ii. Things like dominance, resourcefulness, self assertiveness. c. From a woman’s perspective, what constitutes an attractive male is in the sub-communicated behavioral cues / patterns. d. Woman are going to need a lot more time to screen who is an alpha guy and who is not. e. Women are like a volume knob. 3. Looks and money are not an excuse because of RAW ATTRACTION and VALIDATION. a. You want to tap into that raw attraction. i. Dominance ii. Decisiveness iii. Social Intelligence iv. Assertiveness v. Arousing behavior b. Validation i. Women are constantly monitoring where they are at on the social ladder. ii. If they think sleeping with you will boost them up to a higher social status, then they will do it. c. Being a sex-worthy, naturally attractive guy isn’t something that you do, it is something that you are.

4. Attraction is an emotional reaction and not a logical one a. Men are logical and women are emotional. b. What she logically says she wants is rarely what she emotionally responds to. c. Ultimately human beings are going to do what their emotions tell them to do. d. Women live in the emotion of the moment and they backwards rationalize. i. What is the best way to get a girlfriend? 1. Fuck her as soon as possible. 2. She backwards rationalizes so fast that she will rationalize that you are awesome and fall in love with you. e. Focus on changing her mood and not her mind. f. Three best sub-communications when talking to a girl. i. Adding to the fun ii. Challenging iii. Commanding – Break rapport with your voice 5. Women love sex and more likely more than you. a. Just because a girl likes sex, doesn’t mean that she is a slut. b. Women have two personalities. One for the LOVER and one for the PROVIDER. i. Girls will be whatever you expect them to be. c. Men and women are judged by different socially established standards. d. Women love sex but because of the double standard, they pretend that they don’t. e. The My Boss Michael Analogy i. Picture that you work at Starbucks ii. Michael comes up and offers you a promotion for your dream job / infinite abundance / infinite money / etc…

iii. On top of that there will be a party tomorrow with the hottest 100 women on earth iv. You say yes but Michael says there is a condition. You are not allowed to sleep with any of the women there. If you do, you will not get the promotion. v. You go to the party and ALL the women are hitting on you and trying to have sex with you. You look up and you see Michael overseeing you. So you are caught in a dilemma. If you sleep with a girl then you will lose it all. vi. One of the girls there takes you, drags you to the side by a pole where Michael can’t see and says “Look it’s okay. Michael can’t see. Just fuck me right here and now and Michael will never know.” vii. She has now successfully rationalize what you emotionally want to do. viii. In a social situation, ALWAYS be asking yourself “Where is the Michael” and make the girl feel comfortable doing what she emotionally wants to do. ix. Take all of the accountability off of a girl’s shoulders. f. Always be thinking that women are sex crazed nymphos when talking to a girl from now on.

The Four Pillars Of Sex Worthiness (Inner Game) 1. Purposeful a. You have to be congruent - when your internal feeling of identity and external ways of acting are in alignment. Being real. b. When you step, you are not trying to be her friend. c. You have to be man to woman from the very start i. Lazar eye contact ii. Breaking rapport tonality iii. Being physical – let her know what is up d. There is no direct or indirect in what you say. e. The Millionaire In A Club Analogy i. Every girl in a club is like a millionaire. ii. Men go up to them in the club and they try to be nice or try to be mean but they all want a little bit of their money / value iii. People pleasers – by being real, you immediately have value. f. Ultimately you want to take on the identity of a guy who has good intentions and who likes sex. i. As long as you assume it and you are very clear in it, girls will go along with it. ii. Whoever is more certain, leads the way. iii. If you don’t believe in yourself, why would the girl believe in you? g. Not everybody likes you and you don’t like everybody and that is OKAY. It’s not natural or normal to please everyone. It’s impossible to please everyone. h. Girls don’t care who you are or what you’re into. They want to know that you are real. i. It’s either you like sex and you’re “Man to Woman” or you don’t like sex and you’re friend to friend. You can’t be both so pick one. j. Be unapologetic. k. Realize that girls want to meet a sex-worthy guy and what you’re doing is creating that opportunity for them to meet you. l. Don’t hide it, don’t half-ass it, and don’t be half a gangster. m. Being promotion oriented instead of being prevention oriented. n. Always focus on being congruent but lean a little bit over the edge.

i. Embrace how you feel but push it a little bit further. 2. Controlled a. The person who is reacting lease is the person who has the higher value. i. When talking to a girl, ask yourself “Who is at the cause and who is at the effect of this interaction?” ii. If you change your tonality from breaking rapport to trying for rapport. b. Being the boss / C.E.O. c. Father to daughter i. Go slow motion and assume it is going to work. d. Being the buyer and not the seller i. As a guy, noting is a big deal ii. Everything is part of the plan iii. Be a guy that the girl can rely on. Think of Dennis. iv. If you are on your path / purpose in life, then step by assuming you are a 10. v. You want to position yourself as a guy who’s already chosen by every girl there and you are the one choosing the girl that you like. This comes down to two things. 1. Realizing your own value. 2. Stop placing women on a pedestal a. Most girls are misguided and undecided b. Picture a girl on Christmas morning. Goofy / quirky. c. Realize girls try to be cool as well and that’s not who they really are. e. Ultimately, the best way to do this is to step out of scarcity and to step into abundance. 3. Flowing – feeling of that nothing can go wrong a. When you’re entitled, you have positive assumptions. b. Who you are and what you have to say is good enough.

i. People have heard the same concepts hundreds of times. They will like what you are saying because it is YOU that is saying it. c. You want to lower your criterion to feel entitled. i. Situational confidence ii. Act like a rock star and get treated like a rock star. iii. Why should you feel entitled? Because you are a man. iv. Your entitlement can only be determined by yourself. v. You actions change who you are, it is never the girls actions. vi. Give yourself permission to feel entitled. “I choose to feel entitled.” vii. Accept who you are. Embrace the weirdness. viii. Stop trying to live up to other people’s standards. ix. You set the standard 4. Self Amused a. This is the key to letting go of the outcome. b. Ultimately, this is the key to getting away with putting your personality on the line. c. “Internal fulfillment” as opposed to “External Stimulus” i. Working on yourself ii. Accomplishing something d. You have to game yourself i. I make myself laugh more than any girl can make me laugh ii. My jokes, my voice, me, me, and ME. e. The Key To Consistency = If you’re relying on your actions to feel good you’re always going to be in control of your nights out f. You want to reach a point where you are so into yourself that you don’t even notice the girls reactions g. When your actions pump you up, you put yourself in a position where you want less from someone then they want from you. h. The Awkward Laugh Exercise i. For the first 30 second, do full on interview questions. ii. In between the questions, you have to do a little awkward laugh. iii. The key is that you are doing it on purpose

i. The Awkward Dance i. Get girl attracted and then do ask girl to dance ii. When she starts dancing, do a stupid awkward dance j. The girl is going to go to the party. The better party is the guy who’s having more fun than the girl and who’s giving less of a fuck than the girl. k. Embrace, exaggerate, and laugh

The Tempo Of The Night

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1. Cold approach vs. Warm approach a. Warm approach is something that leads you to talk to a girl i. Both buying a drink. b. You don’t need the approach invitation. You just walk up and act like she appeared out of nowhere. 2. Your opener does not matter a. Focus on the bigger picture b. Girls need a lot more time to get to know who you are c. Girls sense the change in emotion. Therefore it is sometimes better to have a bad opener 3. Your mind is going to come up with a shit load of excuses as to not talk to the girl a. When you’re shoved in your head, you freeze b. How do you prevent this? Lower your time of reaction. You jump in before the excuses arrive c. Your mind fucks with you so lower your time of reaction d. Use a canned opener if you have to. i. Hey I’m Mark ii. Excuse me do you speak English? e. Move fast. Walk with purpose. Straight line and shove anyone in your way to the side and introduce yourself. f. When your actions move faster than your thoughts you get into the moment. 4. Calibrate after the fact a. You’re dealing with human beings. People have things going on in their lives that may make them lash out at you. Be understanding. b. There’s always going to be certain elements of randomness c. It’s impossible to know what is going to happen so don’t try. d. Opening is learning how to calibrate after the fact

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Take a step back Use a statement of empathy Change the topic Wash rinse and repeat the above 3 steps (Calibration)

5. Don’t be afraid of changing courses of action a. Go in strong but notice how the girl is reacting to you 6. Set the frame of the interaction a. This will set the pace for the rest of the interaction b. Be “Man To Woman” and not “Friend To Friend” i. You’re a girl and I’m a guy. ii. I’m not talking to you to just chat. I’m talking to you to fuck you. iii. You don’t have to say it but you put it across in your vibe. c. Ways to amplify the Man to Woman vibe i. Laser eye contact (Work on this) ii. Breaking rapport tonality iii. Being physical from the moment you say “Hi”. You have to set it from the very moment you say hi. d. Way to know if you are putting across the Man to Woman vibe i. If you and the girl were suddenly transported to a bedroom and it was just you and her alone. Would it make sense for you to throw her on the bed and fuck her? If not then you are being a friend. e. Assuming Familiarity (Frame) i. Guys are viewing girls as majestic beings or guys are trying to win her over. ii. Assume that you are already on the same team. You are both part of the cool kids. iii. The girls will always go along with the frames you set. iv. Treat her like she is your girlfriend. 7. How a girl gets to know you

a. How does a girl get to know who you are? By emotionally experiencing you. b. How does a girl emotionally experience you? By reacting to you. c. How does she react to you? By you setting the rhythm of the interaction and being at the cause and not at the effect. d. You have to set the rhythm. i. Think of Paul’s cell phone example e. Hey. What’s up? What do you do? Where are you from? f. If you are feeling good from her reactions then she isn’t 8. Recap a. b. c. d. e.

Your opener does not matter Lower your time of reaction Don’t calibrate before, calibrate after the fact Set the frame of the interaction from the start Get her to react to you. Set the rhythm of the interaction

Be Physical

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1. Why should you be physical? a. Because you want to. b. Physicality is just a form of expression c. You see a hot girl. Why wouldn’t you want to touch her? 2. When should you be physical? a. From the very start of the interaction because that is just who you are. b. The longer you wait, the more awkward it is going to be. c. Find any stupid reason to hug the girl. d. Make it a habit of shaking every girls hand. i. Do a 45 degree angle. Not straight out. 3. Verbal game and physical game operate on simultaneous yet separate wavelengths. a. You don’t have to acknowledge the fact that you are being physical. b. You don’t want to be silent while you are being physical. 4. You don’t need to accomplish whatever move you set out to do. a. You don’t need to shake hands, kiss, or hug to fuck a girl. b. Focus on the bigger picture. 5. If you do go for the kiss, don’t become the make out guy. a. You give the girl too much validation. b. Sex is the end and it is not the little kiss. 6. Never feel like you have to justify being physical. a. Yup! I’m a guy who is physical (The attitude).

7. Don’t fele the need to build up to being physical 8. What’s the best form of physicality? Whatever you feel like doing. 9. The six physical moves a. The spin handshake – hand shake > spin to the right > keep on talking b. The Handclasp – just grab both her hands and intertwine your hands while still talking to her. Slide your hands down her arms first for smoother effect. c. The spin hug – when you hug > pick her up > and set her down. You don’t have to spin around, you just pick her up and move her. d. The waltz dance – start waltz dancing with during the middle of conversation e. The neck bite – give a strong kiss / a little teeth on her neck f. The Eyes Close Kiss – command her to close her eyes and go for the kiss. You won’t get the full make out but it is a playful move.

Hook

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1. The “Hook Point” is a point that you reach in the interaction where there’s a shift in the girl’s mind. 2. There are two hook points. a. The Social Hook Point i. When the girl realizes the guy is making the moment more fun with you. ii. This doesn’t mean that she is going to spread her legs for you. b. The Sexual Hook Point i. This is when the girl starts emotionally investing ii. You can see it in the eyes and the tonality. iii. This is when her voice starts going up in a trying for rapport tonality. iv. The Megan Fox Analogy 1. You are a mathematician and you love numbers but Julien isn’t into math. 2. He doesn’t like math so much and you don’t have his full attention at first. 3. Then you change the subject and you say “Julien, my sister is actually Meghan Fox. She wants any guy to fuck her right now and she is right around the corner. 4. His demeanor will go from blasé to VERY interested and fully engaged. v. The social and sexual hook point can happen simultaneously. 3. You have to create the opportunity for her to see that you’re sex-worthy a. One way to do this is through Ploughing i. By doing this you are giving her a glimpse into your personality. b. You offer the girl a bigger sample of your personality by plowing. c. What is plowing? i. Plowing is keeping on talking and setting the rhythm until she sees that you are sex-worthy.

ii. You give her a big sample of what your personality is by talking for a good amount of time. iii. Shift around different topics / emotions, lead / command, and challenge her and she will know you are sex-worthy. d. Sometimes you want to trigger the arousal a bit more proactively. You may want to say or do something that tingles the girls emotions. What are some ways to do this? i. Say or do something that either challenges her or that creates some sort of intrigue. Exercise to reach the Sexual Hook Point: Walk up to the girl and say “What’s up I’m Mark. Nice to meet you.” She says “Oh hey I’m Stacey”. Then you challenge her by saying something (in a breaking rapport tonality) along the lines of “Are you from Tampa?” She says “um yeah.” You say “Hmmm interesting.” Then look away and say nothing. She will then say “Wait wait. Why is that interesting?” To which you say “Oh never mind it’s not that important.” Her reaction will then be “Wait what does that say about me?” Her tonality will go up and her eyes will go anime. 4. Start coming from the mind frame of “Yup I said that. Whatcha gonna do?” a. It is a mistake to ALWAYS go with the flow of what a girl says. Sometimes you need to go against the grain. b. If she says “I like the color blue.” Say (In a playful way) “You know what, I HATE the color blue.” c. This is flirting 101. You want to fuck with the girl a little bit. Fuck with her head and make her think a bit. 5. Playful challenges / pushes – you’re expression needs to be laser eye contact + a twinkle of a smile a. You and I would not get along.

b. You know what. I can’t talk to you. c. You’re too nice / tall / short / beautiful. I can’t deal with this shit. 6. Teaching her something of interest a. Just roll up and start talking about something you are massively interested in. 7. The 90/10 rule a. Before you reach the social hook point, you want to be doing 90% of the interacting. b. The easier she can respond to your comments, the better. 8. Be passionate, be committed, and you will hook every single girl that you talk to.

Pass Her Tests

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1. Congruence / Shit Tests a. She will say to herself “He seems cool but is he cool” then she will test your personality to see if you are who you present yourself to be. b. She’s going to test you or challenge you back to see if you’re congruent with the way you presented yourself to be c. Expert it, assume it, and be happy when it happens d. It means you have presented yourself in a sex worthy way. i. Girls don’t shit test guys they are not attracted to. e. They’re creating an opportunity for you to demonstrate your sex worthiness. i. I’m not seeking her reactions ii. I’m on my purpose and path f. Girls love to test guys just to experience you passing the test. It is a massive turn on for them to experience your masculinity. 2. The best way to pass a test is to remain emotionally unreactive a. The more passive, the better i. You don’t need good reactions or validation. ii. I’m going to do what I’m going to do no matter fucking what. b. Being emotionally unreactive does not mean being unresponsive. 3. Responding to tests a. Responding straight forward and logically i. She says “Is that your pick-up line” you say “Actually it is”. b. Don’t acknowledge what she says or answer it at all. i. You are leading and you are setting the rhythm c. Embrace it, make it your own, and then challenge her back. i. “You’re too young / old” to which you say “Yeah I’m just so old, I have so many wrinkles, I could be your like your father, or Grandfather. Tell me you like me. Call me Daddy. You know

what, say Daddy I’m 12. How long have you liked wrinkles for, Girl.” d. Exaggerate in the opposite direction and challenge her back. i. She says “You’re too old”. You say “You know what, you’re too young. You could be my daughter. You could be my Grand Daughter. You know what, I just love little girls” ii. She says “I don’t like your shirt.” To which you say “Yeah it makes me more attainable. I would look too intimidating with a nicer shirt and I want girls to believe they have a chance.” e. Calling her out on trying to step up or trying a little too hard i. She says “You’re too old.” You say “Hey! Look, you don’t have to try so hard, it’s alright, I like you.” 1. Also remember the laser eye contact. No flinching, this is a Wild Wild West stare down. 4. Imagine the whole interaction is like clay a. Whatever tests she throws at me is just more material for me to add to the sculpture that is the interaction. 5. Not everything is necessarily a test a. The less you make out of a test, the better b. Don’t fall into the trap of me versus the girl.

Different Sets

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1. Always open the girl that you want, no matter what the situation is a. Always step up and talk to the girl first then acknowledge other factors after. Set the frame, and be clear in your intentions. b. Say Hi to her and calibrate after the fact. c. Don’t say hi to the friends first, say hi to the girl. 2. The Two Set – A girl and her friend a. b. c. d. e.

Make sure that you engage them both When you talk to the girl you want, you are man to women With the friend, it’s flirting for the sake of flirting With the girl, it’s flirting for the sake of fucking If it’s two girls and two guys, the situation is perfect

3. The Group Set – Girls night out a. Same thing applies as the two set i. Say hi to the girl first and calibrate after b. Remember that at some point you will want to engage the friends to show them you are sex worthy i. The girl is the group and the group is the girl. c. Do the bare minimum with the group and engage the girl 4. The Mixed Set – Guys in the group a. Walk up and say hi to the girl first b. Get the girl to notice you first i. Walk by the girl and as soon as she stares, put your hand out ii. Walk by and tap on the should to a hand shake / high five c. You want to get her attention and then reach out i. She will comply and everyone will be okay with it ii. Or she could just stare and in that scenario, you just move past it and keep talking. But gage the scenario

d. The first thing you want to do is determine the relationship within the group. Figure out how they all know each other i. Always try and ask the girl as soon as possible ii. And ask the girl removed from the guy 1. Turn her away, get in close, and ask her iii. She may say that it is her boyfriend 1. Then say cool and roll off iv. She may say this is my male friend 1. In that case, be cordial. No AMOGGING 2. Do the bar minimum with him 3. Stand your ground, chat, then back to the main girl 5. This is a guy I just met set a. In this case, you can ignore him b. Still ask the girl how they know each other. If she says she just met him then you can blow him out / pay very little attention to him c. The girl is going to go for whoever reacts the least

Logistics

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There are two ways to determine her logistics 1.) Simply ask for them by working the following questions into your conversation.        

Who are you here with? How do you know each other? What area of town do you live in? Do you have room mates? Are your friends here your room mates? How did you get here? How are you getting home? What are you doing tomorrow?

2.) Bating her for them. Talk to the girl and bring up the “After Party”. Then she will disclose her logistics to you. 3.) What about your logistics? Whenever Julien goes out, he always asks himself the following questions.       

Where am I staying in relation to where I’m meeting this girl? How did I get there? How am I getting back? How am I going to bring this girl back to the sex lair? What is the deadline? / How long can I stay up til? Where are some of the places that I can bounce her to in between the venue and my place? Where is her download bar or buying temperature at?

Verbal Structure 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.

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“Hey I’m Mark” (Adding to the fun) “Are you from…?” (Challenging) “What’s your name?” (Commanding) “What do you do?” (Commanding) “Who are you here with?” (Adding to the fun)

If you think interview mode questions are boring then you are just looking at the SURFACE LAYER of things (and not reading the subtext ) In his interactions Julien always tries to ground what he is saying in these interview mode questions by sub-communicating something much more powerful. The 3 Sub-communications 1. Add to the fun a. Oh cool! What’s your name  2. Challenging a. Hmmm, what’s your name? 3. Commanding a. Tell me your name. There are two ways to ask the questions 1. Asking her about herself. 2. Asking her about yourself. a. Do you think I would like being a nurse? In between, you need to improvise off of whatever answer she gives you. When improvising with the questions, you are going to want to add some push/pull. 80% of the time, go with the flow and 20% of the time, add some push.

Then you loop through all of these items. This will make the buying temperature continuously rising.

Closing

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1. The attitude a. The outcome of EVERY SINGLE INTERACTION is SEX. i. It’s not to go on a date/kiss/whatever, it IS sex. ii. Always aim for it and go for sex as soon as possible. b. The way you learn is by going through the ENTIRE process each and every time. Always go for the close, EACH AND EVERY TIME!! c. Take on the KILLER INSTINCT. i. The attitude is “I am the man and it is up to me to make this happen. I am going to take this as far as I can NO MATTER WHAT. I’m going until the end. ii. You have to make this shit happen. iii. Think of it like sales. You have to be proactive and making things happen at all times. iv. How far would you push it if someone walked up, put a gun to your head and said “If you don’t have sex with this girl, I’m going to kill your family”? d. Always aim to pull the girl. e. If you can’t pull her then go with her. f. Always be ready for something to happen. Always have a condom on you when you go out. START EXPECTING SEX. 2. Plan A: Pull her a. Something to ask yourself if the girl is at a great point in buying temperature is… i. If this myself and this girl were magically transported to our own hotel room / the perfect sex location, would it make sense for me to throw her on the bed and fuck her? Or would she be like what are you doing?! ii. If the answer is YES then you are GOOD TO GO!! b. A big part of pulling is aligning the emotional brain with the logical brain. i. Take her to a place where Michael cannot see her / fire her.

c. Giver her logical reasons / excuses for her to do what she emotionally wants to do. There are two ways of doing this in this program… i. Leading – Move her around the environment. Lead the interaction verbally and physically. 1. When you do it this way, she can tell herself that “It just happened”. 2. Lead, lead, and lead some more. DO NOT ask for permission. You just fucking DO IT!! 3. A girl is either going to say nothing or say no but never expect her to say yes. 4. It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission. 5. Be the guy who’s the first to push for it but you’re also the first to back off as soon as you get that serious no. ii. Step Two: Giving her little bits and pieces that she can take and rationalize why it’s okay to go home with you. 1. If you’re talking to a girl and you want to take her back to your place to sleep with her, you are NOT going to say “You know what, let’s go back to my place and FUCK.” 2. An easy one is saying “Let’s go to this AFTER PARTY. AFTER PARTY!!”. 3. “Adventure” is another one. “Look, it’s a fun adventure. Let’s be fucking crazy”. 4. When you start saying these things, it is very rare that a girl is going to just go with you. THIS IS WHERE THE PICKUP BEGINS!!!! The girl HAS to say this in order to not be a slut. Now you start looping through solutions. 5. So if she says she is stuck with her friends say “Listen tell your friends that you’re going to talk to me for a bit. We’ll be right over here.” 6. Or if you are already isolated, say “Text your friends that you had a little bit too much to drink and you’re sorry that you couldn’t deal with it and you just had to get out of there and go home.”

7. Or say “We’ll be right back, we’re just going to the After Party.” 8. Say whatever it takes to find the solutions to her objections. 9. How far should you push it? a. Am I sex worthy? Yes or No? If the answer is yes then the girl knows what’s up and she will be okay with it just because the sub-communications are on point. b. What’s the worst thing that could happen? 10. What you ultimately want to reach when doing this, is a “You have nothing to lose” type of scenario / attitude. Present it to the girl and let them decide. 11. Create a sense of urgency as well a. Leading will help b. You also can amplify it with your words as well by saying “Now”. c. “You don’t have to go if you don’t want to but let’s go NOW.” 12. Baby stepping the pull. Always be aware about how much compliance you are asking for. a. How can I get her ONE step closer? b. Just get her this much..then this much…then this much….and so on….. c. Every step she takes is another form of investment. d. Once she’s gone so far, she will eventually not want to go back and want to go to the after party. 13. Master the art of CHANGING YOUR MIND. a. Fuck that. Let’s do this instead. 14. Once you start, you need to go all out. If you go to the bathroom, she has time to slow down and think. Once you decide you are going for the pull, never stop. 3. Plan B: Go with her a. “It doesn’t count as sex”

b. “It makes it sexier”