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by NAURA HAYDEN When Naura

did a survey in 1997, she interviewed 510 married men from all over the United States. The survey was totally anonymous, making easy be totally honest. it

She gave them 57 questions about

to

the most intimate

details of their love lives: faithfulness, unfaithfulness,

pornography, prostitutes, impotence, sexual stimulants, emotional intimacy,

etc.

Have you ever thought about being

#6.

unfaithful?

Has sex

#15.

to

#1

What

7.

with your wife ever gotten boring

you? is

your favorite

way

of love-

making?

Do you

#44.

think

a

man can be

happily

married without having sex often? #45.

How

#52.

Would you

often would you like sex? like

control of your

Naura was amazed

Women wanted

at the

to

will

be, too.

now finally find out what they've always know about the most carefully guarded lives.

is the first and only book that tells you exactly how keep the sex so exciting that your marriage will last

This

a

answers, and you

will

secrets of men's sex

to

your wife to take sexual

body?

lifetime.

Dear Reader, In 1982,

HOW

my book

EVERY TIME

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.

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TO SATISFY A WOMAN

and have her beg for more! came out

hardcover and swept the country.

in

during 1982 and 1993 doing the

I

travelled all over

TV and radio interviews,

book sold 204,000 copies hardcover and was

New York Times bestseller list. When I stopped promoting it, an amazing

ten

and

weeks

on the

pened.

thing hap-

continued selling by word of mouth, around

It

10,000 copies a year.

Cut selling to

to 1990.

HOW TO SATISFY A WOMAN was

by word of mouth without promotion and

myself "It's doing nicely without

can bring

it

me

I

still

thought

—

I

it

so that more

out again and re-promote

wonder

if I

married couples can find sexual happiness and save their

marriages?"

So 1992

I it

was on

did in late 1991, and hit the it

New

it

really took off.

York Times bestseller

weeks

for sixty-two

list

Times that the same identical hardcover book paperback

and

— came back years

to date has sold

copies and hit the bestseller

two countries

in

which

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again and

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later

on

its

York

— not ever

bestseller

list),

over 2,000,000 copies in the U.S. In

nineteen countries worldwide,

the

early

the second time around 1992

to 1993, (the only time in the history of the

in

By

.

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.

lists in I

I

has sold over 600,000

it

Australia and

promoted write

Germany,

it.

HOW

TO SATISFY A

and have him beg for more! but

I

thought

say,

was

that

would be

so easy

was a

it

Satisfying a man,

silly.

joke. "All a

stand nude on his back porch and a

little

man

used

to

has to do

is

I

breeze could waft

by and give him an orgasm." But

was kidding on the square.

I

men needed no help. to have

why

It

I

truly believed that

was almost impossible

for a

woman

an orgasm through intercourse alone, and that's

HOW

WOMAN

TO SATISFY A

successful, but

men were

was so

incredibly

blessed with a sex organ that

aroused easily and climaxed easily. Finally in 1996, the light bulb sex is so great for

ing forth.

in

my

head. "If

men, why are so many men cheating

on their mates? If sex

many men

went on

is

so exciting for men,

getting divorces?"

Then

why

are so

the ideas started pour-

The psychology of sex dominated me

for

weeks

as the ideas started formulating.

And I have come up

with

many

technique, and a 'master plan' '

to

guarantee that the

man

'

for

original ideas, a sexual

any

woman who wants

she loves will stay faithful to

her because he will never be bored with her sexually. It really

works!

April 1999

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

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.

and have him beg for more!

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Author's Note

You cannot have the quadruple whammy of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual ecstasy unless sex

between two people who love each I

is

other.

believe that sex and love belong together in a loving,

faithful,

This

committed, married relationship. is

a marriage manual.

Foreword

Women

do not understand why men

enormous ignorance about men and

cheat.

There

is

sex.

Men don't cheat because someone else is better-looking. Men don't cheat because someone else is younger.

A man

cheats because sex

becomes

dull with his wife

when she stops paying attention to his penis. She focuses on her

kids, her house, her job, her friends, herself, but

not on his penis.

We've all heard often enough that men don't understand women, but I think it's much more universal that

women

don't have a clue about the enormous impor-

tance of sexual excitement to men.

and

I

didn't say sex.

It's difficult

It is

is to

didn't say love

said sexual excitement.

for us to

sexual excitement

of his ego.

I

I

comprehend how important

a male. His penis

is

an extension

the center of his universe, and his mental,

Foreword emotional, spiritual, and physical selves revolve around

appendage.

this

Not

to say he's totally

sex organ

is

aware of how important

to him. I said totally aware, but

he

his is

definitely

aware that his penis is king and reigns supreme

over his

life.

Penis power to a

important to him than

And

we have

man

is

much more

ever been led to believe.

undoubtedly more important than he has ever

thought, because he's probably never analyzed

Of

course your

man knows you

love

it

before.

him because

you married him, and even though you may not often tell

him

or

show

that

to his sexual needs,

And when he

you love him,

if

you pay

attention

he will feel loved.

feels loved

and sexually

satisfied, the

reason for his fooling around outside his marriage has evaporated.

Would you need

when your body Would you need

is

to take

an amphetamine

bursting with health and energy?

to take a sleeping pill at the

end of a

day in which you ran a 26 mile marathon?

Wives of men who have been caught cheating have always been considered the victims of their husbands' infidelity. stein,

Mrs. Nelson Rockefeller, Mrs. Albert Ein-

Mrs. Frank Gifford, Mrs.

Norman

Mailer, Mrs.

David 0. Selznick, Mrs. Artie Shaw, Mrs. John

F.

Ken-

nedy, Mrs. Jim Bakker, Mrs. Robin Williams, Mrs. Bill Clinton, Mrs. Frank Sinatra, Mrs. William Paley, Mrs.

Franklin D. Roosevelt, Mrs. Desi Arnaz, Mrs.

nedy, Mrs. Henry Ford

II,

Ted Ken-

Mrs. Charlie Chaplin, Mrs.

Foreword

Mick

Jagger, and about 200 trillion

throughout history have

we

also felt sorry for

all felt

them

(if

not more) wives

sorry for themselves as

for having such unfaithful

husbands.

An it

affair is

were, a one-night stand would be

once

and

in a while.

that's

which

new body.

nothing as simple as just a

Every

why men

man wants

all

If

he'd need every

to "fall in love",

risk everything to

have an

affair

not a one-shot deal, but a sometimes long-term

is

sexual relationship outside marriage that keeps the

man

excited. It

has to do with the depression of boring sex.

It

may

appear shallow that the lack of exciting sex can cause

overwhelming depression

in a

for sexual excitement is so his mental, emotional,

without

it,

life

man's

but his need

life,

deep and so important

and physical well-being,

to

that

doesn't seem worth living.

What we women don't comprehend is how deeply depressed a man gets if his sex life has gotten boring. We hear about some man cheating and we think "Oh sure, he found some young thing and just because she's (younger, prettier, bustier, slimmer, etc.) than his wife,

he had to bed her."

But

that's not the answer.

become

his wife

so boring that he thought he'd go

do away with himself) excitement.

So he

Sex with

did.

if

mad

had (or

he didn't find some sexual

.

Foreword

I

am now convinced that it is the wife who is responsi-

ble for the husband's cheating. If she hadn't

become

complacent and allowed the sex to become boring

home, he wouldn't have been forced

at

to look for exciting

sex outside his home.

The lack of sexual excitement

many

there are so this

book

.

.

in a marriage is

divorces, and this

is

why

why

I've written

Introduction

I've been a big fan of

Anthony Quinn's

He's always been a great film

actor, but

man who knew how

he was a

more than

to have,

appeared to be having, a great time.

for years. that,

and always

He was

married in

his twenties to Catherine DeMille, the daughter of the

great film pioneer, Cecil B. DeMille, and

Then he met Italian-born Iolanda on the movie

children. set

had several

of Barabbas in 1961 where she was working as a

wardrobe

assistant,

and they had two sons out of wed-

lock. Five years later third son, they to Iolanda,

And

when she was pregnant with

their

were married. Meanwhile, while married

he had a few other children out of wedlock.

of course several years ago, he had yet another

child (he has thirteen kids to date!), this one with his

former secretary, Kathy Benvin, and when the child was born and his wife found out about

it,

she went crazy,

and demanded Tony leave her (he since had a second

Introduction

child with Kathy).

was a

He came up

with what he thought

—Iolanda

one part of

great solution

live in

huge apartment on the Upper West Side of

New

their

York,

and Kathy in the other part. Iolanda was understandably outraged, said no, and eventually filed for a divorce.

She was heartbroken her marriage was over. What's so obvious had the

affair

someone

else

to

most of us is

that if Tony hadn't

with Kathy, he would have had one with

and could just as possibly had a child (he

obviously loves kids).

It's

not the girl's

mistakenly thought he loved her so

be together forever.

He

fault.

much

Iolanda

that they'd

undoubtedly does love her a

new wife must be making sex exciting for him, and that's why they're together. And the same thing with Pavarotti. His wife Adua

great deal, but

is

I

believe his

very upset because Luciano's been travelling

all

over

the world with his assistant, Nicoletta Mantovani, a

young woman

in her twenties. I believe it's not just

because she's young,

it's

because she's making sex

exciting for him.

Adua knows he loves her, the mother of his children, and he knows she's his best friend. But what she doesn't realize is how boring sex can often become to husbands after many years. Numbingly boring. Most women believe that love conquers all. This is what most churches and philosophies the most important emotion of all.

and philosophies leave out

teach,

and love

is

But what most churches

is that

romantic marital love

Introduction

is

an active

through It's

not a passive one, and must be expressed

state,

deepest expression, sexual love.

its

same

the

its

best advantage.

You

don't passively listen

on your decrepit tape player or dinky car

it

you

music and you

player with super speakers so the music will be

heard to to

really love

CDs and play them on a wonderful

actively pursue great

CD

you

as if

you

actively pursue great restau-

fresh, ripe fruits

and veggies. You don't pas-

really love food,

rants

and

sively wait

cafe or a

radio. If

someone maybe

till

new

recipe.

if

you about a

you love

terrific

to read,

you

books and a very good reading

actively pursue great light next to

And

tells

your bed.

You

don't only read books that

happen upon you passively as you browse through a library or a bookstore.

So many of us love our husbands of spouse

is

passively, but love

an active experience, and to be a great

experience it needs the same dedication as love of music, love of food, love of reading, and any of the other loves.

Now can

love has

kiss,

many

You can

is

sex.

Sex

is

a driving force, a

force screaming to be expressed

understood

moment

hug, you

you can hold hands, but again, the deepest

expression of love life

expressions.

this

women

we would have fewer

trated, angry,

and tense wives.

many

mothers

a hell on earth.

if

sex drive in themselves (forget for the

their husbands),

terrible

— and

My

We

frus-

wouldn't have so

who make their children's lives own mother was almost always

8

Introduction

angry and took

it

out on me. Almost always, because

the rest of the time she

was

of her terrible temper that

way

for

much

of

my

life.

loving, but

I

was so

afraid

tensed up and stayed that

I

She

told

me

once before she

died that she had never had any pleasure in sex. She said she

No

had never had an orgasm.

who

matter

a

woman

really loves, she will

do

make that person happy and keep that person

anything to well.

We

all

she'll get

know

a

up early

woman's to

make

their lunches, she'll drive

sacrifices for her children: their breakfast, she'll

them

them to the doctor and dentist,

pack

to school, she'll take

she'll

go without to make

sure her children are well-dressed, healthy, and happy.

Now we

know not every woman is like that, but most are. Some people are not really capable of deep love. Maybe they were mistreated when very young and this

all

pain built up a wall to keep out any more pain, but

sadly the wall can't distinguish between

so

it

keeps out

all feeling.

good and bad,

That's what fear brings with

it.

Certainly

women, but

there

are

neurotic,

sick

and disturbed

the majority of us are ready, willing and

able to give and receive love.

We don'

t

usually take our kids for granted

they need us at

on a constant

all

— we know

times, they need our help and love

basis.

But oftentimes we do take our

husbands for granted. Sex becomes functional

— we do

Introduction

it

we know we have to in our marriage. But us, if we really had a choice, would give up

because

many

of

sex altogether. This

always,

Many

if ever,

of us

make make it to

have the great pleasure of an orgasm.

make

love),

because we, the wives, do not

is

love (actually

exciting.

We

there and let

all

we need is

to

do

don't

him "do

his

keep him

to

soon super-bored sexu-

with his unimaginative, bored wife (anything would

get boring if one of the partners

obvious wifey, who's doing

bored

have

my

we

passivity,

lie

sexually satisfied. But alas, he

*

allow our husbands

and because of our

thing," thinking that's

ally

we

is

it

bored), and

by

rote, is

it's

pretty

more than

— she honestly would do almost anything not

to

make

love with him.

'Not tonight honey,

I'm

period,

to

I

have a headache, stomachache,

tired, etc., etc., etc."

Obviously,

if

she

knew the top of her head would come off in an incredible orgasm of intense pleasure

in less than ten

minutes

without any struggle, frustration, great effort and enor-

mous expenditure of energy on her stomachaches, period, tiredness, in a flash. In fact, they

the

first

part,

etc.,

her headaches,

would disappear

would never have been

there in

place 'cause she would have been thinking

about her exciting body-pleasure-to-come during the

day and she would be initiate sex.

Ah, but

We

And

that's

were

all

if

thrilled to

have her husband

he didn't, she would.

my

other marriage manual.

meant

to

have sexual pleasure with our

s

10

Introduction

why a woman's sex organ (clit) is there A man must orgasm to procreate, but a

bodies. That's for pleasure.

woman

can have twenty children

have an orgasm. The is

literally

and never

a part of her body that

clitoris is

there only to give her pleasure, only to deepen the love

she already feels for her husband, because hopefully he' the one giving her the orgasm.

woman loves her husband for many other reasons

If a

(he's smart, he's funny, he's loving, he's affectionate,

he's thoughtful), she will forget herself for the

moment

and concentrate on keeping his sex life exciting. Because

when

she's got

him panting

twenty, forty and

more

for her (even after five, ten,

years), she will

be in a position

of great strength, and he will do almost anything she

wants (learn to make incredible love to the beginning of a truly great marriage

who

really like, love,

sex every time they

woman

If a

really

her).

And

that's

when two people

and respect each other have great

make

love.

really cares about her

wants their marriage to

last,

husband and/or

she'd be wise to

revise her thinking and try to understand that, if the

love

is

still

there, sex is the

cement

that

keeps that

marriage glued together. Not just sex, but exciting physia

woman

gives that to her husband on a daily basis, no

amount

cal,

of

mental, and emotional sex, and

when

TNT

or no

And

a wife's age has nothing to do with

H-bomb

could blow that marriage apart. it.

Most

11

Introduction

people tend to think that all a woman has to be is younger to wrest a

man away from

may day many more young women

seem so because every enter the

work

his wife.

Not

true. It

force out of high school and college, so

youth abounds, and

many men wind up

with younger

women.

Look

Prince Charles

at

who

left his thirtyish wife,

Princess Diana, for his fiftyish paramour, Camilla Par-

And

Duke of Windsor, 42, who became King Edward, forsook a gorgeous, much

ker-Bowles.

younger

woman

bilt's aunt,

son,

his uncle, the

Vander-

in her early twenties, Gloria

Lady Thelma Furness, to marry Wallis Simp-

who was

forty,

and for anyone who's ever seen

her photo, not a beauty. In fact, she was rather homely,

but with

mucho money and good

exceedingly well and became

taste;

she dressed

at least stylishly attractive.

But she obviously had strong sexual power over King

Edward

for

him

have given up his throne for her

to

when they married in 1936 (and he and she then became the Duke and Duchess of Windsor), and their marriage lasted their lifetime.

What

attracts a

sensational,

and

man

if his

granted and a younger

is

a

woman who

thinks he's

wife has started taking him for

woman

at

work

treats

him

like

a king, anything could happen and often does. All a

man

really needs to

know and

feel is that his

wife truly loves him above all and will do anything and

.

12

Introduction

everything to

and

make him happy.

A wife

can be any age

she cares enough and has learned how, she can

if

sexually captivate her man. I

don't care

or forty years,

if

two people are married

it is

absolutely possible for a

enchant her husband so feel the

to

much

two years

woman

to

sexually that he'll never

need for another woman. Obviously, a wife has

to really love her

do

for

guy and be willing

to learn

keep him enchanted, but unequivocally

can be done. Read on

.

.

what

to

I state it

1

Why Men Easily

So and So

Often Get Bored Sexually Every

man desires and needs sexual excitement every

day of his

life.

doesn't have to be actual physical sex every day

It

(although that

is

the ultimate

"high"

be just the thought of someone

who

for a male),

turns

it

him on

can that

brings the excitement.

Some men

sublimate their

sexual

energies

into

socially constructive or creative channels. Others deflect their biological urges into business transactions.

But the

basic sexual needs and desires are there.

What seems

like just a small part of his

his life actually controls his mental

anatomy and

and emotional well-

being. I

am

ment

going to liken a man's need for sexual excite-

to a diabetic's

need for

insulin. If

you give a

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

14

diabetic a daily dose of insulin, the diabetes

and he

healthy. If

is

and the marriage If you

coma.

don

And

f

t

if

is

for a healthy like

it

you don't pay

will die of marital

to

it's

orgasm, so

as often as he can get

don't

coma.

the greatest physical pleasure

is

—bar none. And man

and focus on the

attention

very simple and easy

mean boredom with

no wonder he'd

it's

But

it.

his wife has lost interest in sex, I

controlled

give the insulin, the man will die of diabetic

Having an orgasm this planet

is

healthy.

man's penis, the marriage

on

controlled

you give a man a daily dose of

need for sexual excitement

oral sex, his

is

he's married and

if

boredom sex,

I

will set in.

mean boredom

with the person he's sexing with.

When

a man's mate

is

too sure of

him and

fails to

keep sex exciting, he will look around for excitement. It's

as simple as that.

Many wives know their husbands love them and know they're their husbands' best friends. After living many

together for

years, having kids, sharing the joys

and the pains, the love

is

women

is

males

if

don't realize

you

just expect

very strong. But what so

how him

many

boring sex becomes to to put

it

in,

pump away,

and quickly orgasm. That would be infinitely worse than eating only dry toast at every meal in a very small

with no windows.

would be a

treat,

In a recent

Now when

room

you're starving, the toast

but otherwise

— BOR-RING!

Women's Health Conference in Washing-

Why Men ton, D.C., research

.

.

Get Bored Sexually

.

showed

75

men have sex to feel and most women have sex

that

physical pleasure (surprise!),

to strengthen the relationship through sexual intimacy.

men want

All

because

it is

comes so

If

Most want

easily to them.

"UP"

And

also

it

And

that's

makes them

feel

afterwards (lots of endorphins

men do

as easy a time orgasming as

(feeling the incredible pleasure), relentlessly as they do.

for a

often.

in!).

women had

difficult

it

such incredible pleasure and the pleasure

so good and so

kicking

sex.

we would

seek sex as

But we don't because

it's

very

— almost impossible without my technique

woman to orgasm during straight man-on-top inter-

course, and the other

ways

(oral sex, hands) are not

nearly as exciting and fulfilling as the "missionary."

The

difference

or hands

is

is that

a female orgasm with oral sex

only around the genital area, the sex organs,

whereas a female orgasm with intercourse makes every nerve ending in your body explode

—your

knees, your

elbows, your legs, your arms, your neck, your shoulders,

your stomach

every nerve ending!

So because sex doesn't come as easy times relegate

it

way down on our

for us,

priority

we many

list.

Almost

everything becomes more important than sex: kids, furniture, clothes, hair style,

cure,

new

having a good

car, terrific diet, great

fabulous apartment, and the the bottom.

list

figure,

new

mani-

movie, exciting job,

goes on with sex near

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

16

Now men women be

all

want more or

less the

same things

do, but their priorities are different.

of the

at the top

list,

as

Sex would

not the bottom.

And when women really realize this, we will actively become

great lovers. I'm talking both technically

and

psychologically great lovers.

To that

man

drive a

wild, insane, crazy in

you love each other in the

that relationship will last.

exciting,

first

When

bed (assuming

place) will guarantee the sex

is

constantly

he will think about you when you're not there

and want a replay as quickly as possible.

Many

feminists will scream that no

ever have sex with a

demeaning

to

man just

woman

should

to please him, that that's

womanhood. They say

it

has to be always

mutual pleasure. But when a wife really loves her husband, look at the great pleasure she would feel giving her beloved

much needed

love (an oral sex orgasm)

every day or as often as possible. Goodness

is its

own

reward!

And If

look

at other aspects

you can't wait

at 4:59:59, or if

you take

lots

of

life,

to leave the office

your focus

is

particularly work.

and are out the door

not on your work and

of personal calls on

company

time,

do you

think your boss will treasure you as a valued employee?

A

working

woman

office to finish a

with a boss might stay

late in

her

job because she knows that will make

points with her boss and help get her promoted.

And

if

Why Men a

woman

.

.

.

running her

is

17

Get Bored Sexually

own

business she might take

a client out to dinner, even though she really doesn't

want her

to,

way

be loyal

How

but she

that

when

she does go out of

for the client, the client will be

more

likely to

to her business. is this

your husband? him,

knows

is it

different If

from pleasing or not pleasing

you know promptness

is

him

loving for you to meet

important to

thirty

minutes

And if you know he desires and needs a lot of sex, why not cater to his pleasure? If you do it in your job and you do it for your kids, why not do it for the man you love and married? late?

Feminists tend to have a problem whenever sex

When my book, HOW TO SATISFY A WOMAN EVERY TIME ...and have her beg comes

into the picture.

for more! came out, feminists picketed a bookstore in

my title (which

San Francisco. They were outraged with I

loved because the "begging"

is

most feminists are not known for

amusing

to

me, but

their great senses of

humor!)

The

really

amusing part is

that the

Los Angeles Times

printed a question from a reader asking if any lesbians

were buying the book. yes,

some bookstores had reported

booksellers that

And when

if that

was

I

saw

the reply, that

that, I started

their experience.

Many

asking

said yes,

even though the huge preponderance of buyers were

heteros, there

were some lez couples asking for it, which

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

18

only goes to prove that no matter what your sexual proclivity, to learn I

everyone

how

who

is

looking

to satisfy that sexual partner.

definitely consider

supported myself,

bought

someone

cares for

I

myself a feminist

—

I've always

believe in equality in every area,

I

my own house, etc. I've never believed that men

women or that women are better than men. Some women are smarter and some men are smarter— it's an individual thing. But most men are sexually needier than most women, and women must are better than

understand world.

I

this to coexist

also believe in the

happily in a male/female

power of sex

Everybody knows the power of love not everyone understands

expression of love)

in a marriage, but

how powerful sex (the deepest

is.

I've read of two situations with that I

in marriage.

two

found very enlightening. The

Vanity Fair (a great magazine)

first

'The

Your Average Joe" about one of

different couples

was a

story in

Screenwriter:

the

Not

most successful

screenwriters in Hollywood, Joe Eszterhas,

who was

married to Geri and had a teenage son and daughter with her.

Basic

He has

Instinct,

written

starring

many

big screen hits including

Michael Douglas and Sharon

Stone. In the spring of 1993, he and his wife had a

houseguest for several weeks,

whose husband had

left

Naomi Baka Macdonald,

her for Sharon Stone, and she

was recuperating emotionally at their house. Naomi says that Geri

had gotten "lost

in her children ... she didn't

Why Men

.

Get Bored Sexually

.

/£

see a lot of things that she should have seen and could

When

have seen."

Naomi

place in a car,

her to

sit

them would go some-

the three of

says that Geri would encourage

in the front seat of the car with Joe.

talking to you,"

Naomi

Is

it

buy a

would love

short black silk

on you."

it

possible anyone could be or

and so blind

'He likes

says his wife would say. Geri,

the wife, even encouraged her to robe, saying, "Joseph

'

would be so naive

to reality? In a short period of time in the

midst of Naomi's stay, Joe

left Geri,

moved

in with

Naomi, divorced Geri, married Naomi, and then had

two children with that

Naomi

is

a

her.

Joe says, "that his ex-wife feels

demon." As

I

see

it,

she's not a

demon,

and Joe would not have fallen in love with Naomi their marriage

The second

had been

if

satisfying.

situation I read about in a wonderful

book, Haywire, by Brooke

Hay ward, daughter of a very

famous show-biz couple of the 1940s and 1950s. Her father,

Leland Hay ward, was one of the biggest actor's

agents of his era (he discovered Henry Fonda and Jimmy Stewart, and represented stars like

of the top Hollywood

Greta Garbo, Judy Garland, Gregory Peck,

Fred Astaire,

some of

many

etc.)

and then

the greatest

etc.),

wife, Margaret Sullavan,

Hollywood

became a producer of

Broadway shows (Mr.

Gypsy, Sound of Music,

Door, Voice of the

later

and her mother, Leland'

was a star on Broadway (Stage

Turtle,

star (Little

Roberts,

Sabrina Fair,

Shop around

the

etc.),

and a

Corner with

— HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

20

Jimmy

Stewart,

They had

Back

Street with Charles Boyer, etc.).

three children and

were very happy together.

His work was mainly on the West Coast in the film biz,

and she hated Hollywood, so she took her own

money and bought there

a house in Connecticut and lived

most of the time with the

kids, her

husband flying

back whenever he could.

She was so upset when she found out

that

he was

fooling around in her absence (what did she think he

would do when she on end?), play in

deliberately left

him alone for weeks

that she decided to test their marriage

and do a

London for six months, even though her husband

begged her not

to go,

and told her how vulnerable and

lonely he was at that time. Quoting Leland from the

book,

'

'Basically,

I'm absolutely monogamous. Basi-

cally romantic. Faithful.

As

long, that

is,

as

I

know I'm

cared about."

While

his wife

went

to England,

he took another

woman, Slim Hawks, ex-wife of director Howard Hawks, to Hawaii (which news devastated his wife again,

what did she think he would do for

alone?),

and when

they got a divorce.

time

all

six

months

came back from England, Everyone who knew them at that

his wife

agreed that Maggie had an arrogance of wanting

things the

way she wanted them without

thinking of or

caring about what her husband needed or wanted.

eventually married Slim

Hawks, who

later also left

He him

alone for long stretches of time, and they eventually

Why Men

He

divorced.

knew how If

to love

how

.

.

Get Bored Sexually

then met Pamela Churchill,

both his wives

imagine

.

27

who

really

and keep a man (see next paragraph). left

Leland alone so much, you can

important they must have thought sexual

pleasure for their husband was. This kind of arrogance

and complacency couples

the bottom line to

is

why

so

many

split.

Any and all women really successful in love relationships know and practice giving their lovers great and loving

sex.

Churchill

The

recently

deceased Pamela Digby

Hay ward Harriman, one of the

tury's great

paramours

(if

not the greatest),

three extraordinarily successful

intense relationships with

men

in the world:

whom

twentieth cen-

who married

men, had long-term and

some of

the

most powerful

Randolph Churchill (Winston's son)

she married, William Paley, Jock Whitney,

Edward R. Murrow, John F. Kennedy, Aly Khan, Gianni Agnelli, Elie Rothschild, Leland

married, and Averill Harriman,

Obviously, she

knew

the

Hayward,

whom

she

whom she also married.

overwhelming power of

sex.

She also was very caring and nurturing of whatever

man

she was with, so with great love and even greater

some of

sex she conquered

the

most powerful men of

this century.

Whenever ing.

there's

fun,

Think of any movie

what was going to

no

to

walk out of the

no

that

surprise, things get bor-

bored you

— you knew

happen next and you couldn't wait

theater,

and you probably did before

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

22

it

was

over.

Think of people you know who bore you.

They repeat and repeat you never hear an

the

same

things over and over,

original thought

from them, and when

you spot any of these dullards walking toward you, you

know

they're going to corner

and have

you and you'll be trapped

to listen to tedious, uninteresting, obtuse, tire-

some conversation. So you

either pretend

you see some-

one you know across the room, wave and walk away.

Or you

minutes and then say you're

talk for several

going to get another drink, hors d'oeuvres, coffee, or anything you can think of to get away. Well, that same boredom

man

is

what happens when a

realizes that sex with his spouse has gotten to the

point of putting into a wife

it

in,

pumping a few

times, and

who's even more bored than he

coming

is,

but at

least she just has to lie there.

He, as a male, has to excited,

first

and then 'do it."

he could do

'

it

desire his wife's body, get

Now sometimes he's so horny I'm not talking

to a knothole, but

I'm talking about

his normal,

everyday

needs mental stimulation to "get

it

life

up."

that.

when he

And

if that

stimulation ain't there, he's going to go looking for

because sex

is

it,

very important to him.

And he might not even have to go looking. There are lots of women out there who can sense when a man is

looking, and you really can't blame her for being there

when he needs her. unconsciously) the

It is

he

who gives out (consciously or

initial signal,

and she responds.

Why Men Believe me,

and

when

truly satisfied

by

.

.

a

.

Get Bored Sexually

man

his

is

happy sexually

one and only (and not

23

home at home

at

alone or on the road alone travelling for weeks at a time),

no woman can seduce him.

You're going to find out what you can do to absolutely guarantee to keep him un-bored and sexually stimulated, satisfied,

and

faithful to

you

.

.

—

2 What Every Man Looking For You

can't seduce a sexually satisfied married

Is

man

you can't break up a sexually exciting marriage.

Everybody

is

looking for the same thing

love and to stay in love. Not to say that

of

this.

Men

attractions,

—

men

to fall in

are

aware

are usually only aware of sex, sexual

and sexual feelings; most just don't know

that falling in love

always

starts as

a sexual attraction,

and the sexual pull must be there or he can't and won't fall in love. is

And

exciting for

only

him

if

will

the sex (or the promise of

it)

he keep the relationship going

which thereby gives love a chance

to happen.

Now when a man falls in love, that guarantees sexual excitement for him.

As long

as he's in love, he'll stay

sexually excited and as long as he's sexually excited, he'll stay in love. If a

woman (from a co-worker) who cares for

wife would realize that any

mistress to an affair-ee to a

What Every Man

Is

Looking For

25^

man and who's sexy and pleases that man, works at it. Any woman who seduces a wife's husband (who a

what

signalled that he could be had), focuses on

make him

Why the is

really

will

happy sexually and then she does

woman who

doesn't a

same focusing?

"My

it.

loves her husband do

me"

wife doesn't understand

not a cliche or a joke. She really doesn't understand

her husband's sexual needs. so foolish to just assume (because you feel his

It's

love) that your husband loves

know

he'll

you so much

you

that

What complacency! What

never leave you.

arrogance!

Of

yourself to

become so complacent

course he loves you, but that

you allow

if

you get too sure

of him, you might be surprised (shocked?) to find he's secretly

been looking for some excitement.

The one

absolutely, positively infallible

his life with

you exciting

sex so exciting to

"do" him to

him

to

sexually. If you've

is

that

way

he can't wait

to

keep

made

have you

again, he's not going to be giving off signals

any hot tamales in his workplace that he's not sexually

tied to

someone

at

home.

Women always blame the

'

you can't seduce a sexually

'other woman,' but again, '

satisfied

married man.

you are a great cook and make a good breakfast

him every morning, whip up every night,

make

If

for

great delicious dinners

sure his clothes are always washed,

cleaned, and pressed, keep the house looking neat and clean,

keep yourself spiffy-looking

at all times, take

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

26

really

good care of the

kids,

and

him always know

let

you love him with hugs and kisses, but

him get bored

let

with you sexually, you're in for some trouble.

Of course he be vulnerable

may

or

may

loves you, he loves you a

any and

to

make

not

the

lot,

hot-looking babes

all first

move.

If he's

excitement, he probably will give off the

and you can't blame her for responding If

but he'll

open for

first

signals

to his cues.

he does fool around and you find out about

will probably

who

be a shock to you and you'll

it,

it

feel sick

You may even be so upset you'll ask for a divorce. Unfaithfulness is many times the end of the trust about

it.

in a relationship

And woman

and leads

of course the sex

end of the marriage.

to the

may be

so great with the

he's cheating with that he's willing to give up

everything he loves to keep the sexual excitement she brings to I

knew

him going on every day of a

man many

years ago

his life.

who

travelled a lot to

Chicago on business, and one night he brought a

woman

he'd just met back to his hotel room. In the middle of the night the

phone rang and the woman,

haze, answered

New up.

it.

It

was

the

in her sleepy

man's wife

calling

from

York, and the wife was so shocked that she hung

He

got the hotel operator

asking for him, so he

and he knew for sure

knew he was

knew

who

said

for sure

it it

was a woman was

his wife,

that his wife, a very smart cookie,

cheating.

What Every Man

He

called her

back and

wrong room, but she and not

come

to

told

Is

Looking For

27

tried to tell her she got the

him

their

marriage was over

back. She said she would pack

all his

belongings and ship them wherever he wanted, but she

He was

never wanted to see him again.

asked the out the

woman

first

he called the

to leave,

so upset he

airline to find

plane the next morning back to

New

York,

he packed, checked out and went directly to the Chicago airport.

From

the airport at dawn, he called several

business associates and

emergency and had and would

When

call

He

to cancel that day's

them from

New York

told

me

let

him

in.

later that day.

He begged

to himself.

all

her, but

the

no

he got semi-hysterical and was physi-

cally sick with remorse for having

and

appointments

he got home, she had the chains on

doors and wouldn't soap.

messages saying he had an

left

She

told

done

this to his

wife

him she wanted a divorce and

never wanted to see him again.

He

finally

moved

into a hotel later that

barded her with phone

calls (this

day and bom-

was before everybody

had answering machines). He said he was so distraught he couldn't eat or do business. After several weeks (and he lost twenty-three pounds)

she agreed to have dinner out with him to discuss the divorce. Because he felt he couldn't live without her,

he convinced her of his great love and asked her to forgive him.

He swore

it

would never happen again

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

28

because he would never go anywhere without her. said that he looked so haggard pity

and sick

on him and said she wanted

Finally she took

many

years,

Angeles

him back and he kept

and then one night

rather unattractive lot to

at

woman

his

it.

word and

didn't see

I

him

to his wife, a

(looks don't have an awful

do with a strong sexual hold), and they looked

very happy together. The next day he called and

me in on what had happened

since

decided to change their lives

Los Angeles

and his

attention to

him

He

filled

saw him. They

so they

moved

to

went back together and

said she started to

pay a

lot

sexually than she ever did before,

that their marriage got

one

I last

totally,

right after they

then sold their house.

more

for

a restaurant in Los

saw him. He introduced me

I

that she took

to think about

never travelled again without her.

He

much

stronger because of

fling.

A woman

friend of mine, married for over thirty

years (and happily she thought),

husband

at

was looking

for her

a party. Told he stepped outside for some

him and found him in a parked car necking with a girlfriend of hers. She was shattered, but because they were both Catholics, she forgave him air,

she went looking for

and

tried to forget

it.

She

tearfully

asked

me why would

he do that when they love each other so much and for so long?

some

I

considered not telling her the truth, but after

thought,

I

decided

I

had

to.

What Every Man

Is

Looking For

29

"Because sex with you had become so boring,"

When

told her.

was exciting told

me

I

asked her when was the

for her, she couldn't

last

time sex

even remember. She

she never had an orgasm with what she called

"regular sex," but she proudly said she never faked I

I

it.

asked her what she did and she said she just laid there.

"Boy,

that

must be exciting

for

him,"

I said.

She'd

never thought about her boredom boring the bejeesus out of her husband. She thought that just "putting

it

in" was exciting enough for him. I told

her there's gotta btfun in sex, the same kind

of fun you have

when you

game like bored when

play an exciting

You never get when you make sex

charades or tennis or poker. you're having fun, so

fun, your

partner will never be bored, and neither will you, and

when he's really turned on by you, after you've given him the greatest orgasm he's ever had, you'd be amazed what he'll do to make sex incredible for you!

Why are games fun? Because everything is a surprise. With charades, you have no idea what

the person

is

going to act out; with tennis, you don't have a clue

where your opponent

is

going to

poker (or any card game including

know what

card

is

coming up

and with

hit the ball; solitaire),

you don't

next. Surprises are not

only fun, they're exciting.

So

to

make

surprise her

sex exciting,

I

told her she'd

husband and take charge of

his

have

body

to

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

30

really take charge of

it

— and

think of things that would

him wild and crazy and insane coming up!). drive

She

me

told

later

let

that

had always been

mar-

in charge of everything in their

seemed

to love

it,

but

went crazy! In

fact,

often, that's

how much he

liked

She said he began

to relax

when she took over

he wanted her to do

it

it.

more with not having

to

And sex was definitely anymore. She had so much fun with his

be The Big Boss not boring

the time.

all

passivity and her taking charge of his to the point of climax

really is a sign of

Again, a

man

him

than his wife.

It just

fall in

woman

prettier than his wife. It's

until

she decided

it

was

his orgasm.

does not

his wife for another

body and exciting

and then stopping (which

POWER!)

the right time to give

tier

he became totally

the years of their marriage he

all

sexually, he

him

she

her do whatever she wanted. The part that

shocked her was that in

riage and

bed (Chapter 9

shocked when

he was

announced she was taking charge, passive and

in

love with and leave

because she

because she

is

is

younger or

more

exciting

happens that she's sometimes

pret-

and sometimes younger, because usually younger

people are more receptive to to try

new

things,

Married

women

security.

"I

and

that

new

ideas,

more

makes them more

willing

exciting.

often are lulled into a false sense of

know he

loves

me

and the kids and

he'll

What Every Man

Is

Looking For

never leave us." But the truth

is

on her husband. All she

about

talks

3/

she's stopped focusing is

the kids or local

gossip or things only interesting to her, and he's bored

be bored too to him.

if

And

it,

she would

hubby talked about things only

interesting

out of his skull.

The reason

if

wifey thought about

she's not bored with

him (and

hey,

may be bored) is that he's living an exciting life, thinking new and exciting thoughts, and meeting lots of new and exciting people. And one of those exciting people is HER. Her age is irrelevant to him. She could be older she

than he, she could be his age, or she could be younger.

But she

is

always exciting to him. Their conversation

exciting, she's

on the same

sometimes thinks and

level as he,

is

whereas wifey

acts (and feels!) like he's the star

of the family and she's just a supporting player.

When I was down in Australia in 1992 with HOW TO SATISFY A WOMAN EVERY TIME ...and have her beg for more!, a

I

read an excerpt in a magazine of

book by Noelene Hogan who was married

Hogan and was now his ex-wife. Crocodile Dundee you know how and he had fallen ski,

to

in love with

you saw the film

charismatic Paul

is,

an actress, Linda Kozlow-

divorced Noelene and married Linda,

who happened

be younger and more beautiful than his wife. But

after reading part of I

If

to Paul

can understand

Noelene' s book in the magazine,

why he

left.

Noelene

is

very sweet,

unassuming, pretty, but with zero self-esteem.

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

32

Paul had a habit of not introducing I

would stand

there like a lily

feel totally insignificant. I I

met

Stuart Wagstoff.

me

on a

remember

He and

to people.

dirt

the

bin and

time

first

Paul were chatting

away and yours truly was standing there not having been introduced.

I

uncomfortable but so

I just

to all this

show

stood quietly by. Finally Stuart said:

bled I was.

I

looked

at the floor

and

'

biz,

'Are

mum-

When I looked up again Paul and Stuart

had moved

it

was new

I

you Mrs. Hogan?"

Now

could see Stuart was slightly

off.

might appear

you must remember

that Paul

was mean

that people accept

you at your own

evaluation. If a wife sees herself as a timid

who has no value but the love she feels

to her, but

little

nothing

for her husband,

her husband isn't going to value her either. Throughout their marriage,

he was the king and she was the serf

100 percent of the time. That cannot ever work! The excerpt

was

full

cally telling her

of put-downs like her husband sarcasti-

how

pretty she looked as she scrubbed

the floors in old clothes and her hair in curlers.

"Gone

certain point she says

wife," but alas,

it's

too

Several years ago

I

is

the timid

little

At a

house-

late.

went looking for a houseboat.

Ever since I was a kid and was crazy about Huey, Dewey

and Louie, Donald Duck's three nephews,

I

dreamed

of living on a houseboat. They were on a houseboat and

What Every Man the fun never stopped, so

some day I'll have

up, I

looked and

one

I

in Australia

was looking

Then

I

even went

York

grown

get

Over the years I

went

to

sailboats, but not

one of what

for.

found out why. After finding a boat dealer

Long

to

Island in

in

New

to see a houseboat, the dealer said that the reason

anyplace on

box

sitting

forty-foot

there

33

and there wasn't even one houseboat.

no one wants a houseboat anymore

a

I

shows.

to boat

Yellow Pages and going out

the

"when

thought

I

a houseboat too!"

Hundreds of yachts and I

Looking For

Is

it.

There's no motor on

on

it

which you

motor yacht

that

and you could travel on

it

it,

live in.

was

were different levels

is

(a

like a

that

you can't go

it's

a barge with

He showed me

houseboat except

houseboat cabin

on water

to

a

is flat)

almost anywhere

you wanted. I

then changed

would be lot

terrific,

my mind

and decided a motor yacht

but I'd have to wait 'cause they're a

more expensive. The dealer

see just one look.

Wow!

more moored It

told

at the

was fabulous.

me

he'd like

marina, so

I

me

to

took a

Fifty feet with everything

a person could ever want on a boat. Unfortunately didn't have

enough money, but

it's

I

definitely in the

future.

The fellow who owned the fifty-footer was very warm and personable and through our several-hours told

me

about himself.

two grown

sons.

When

He

visit,

he

used to be married and has

he and his wife divorced a few

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

34

years ago, he'd bought this boat (he'd loved boats since

he was a kid) and lived on

it

ever since.

a girlfriend and he said she was in her

He

said he

had

thirties (he

was

and he said

in his fifties). I asked about his ex-wife,

he's crazy about her and goes

down

to

Key West on

his boat to see her several times a year. I said like

you

still

it

love her and he said yes, he loves her as

much

a friend, and they have so

in

common

too, but

he doesn't want to be married to her because the he

now I

dates

looks

is

asked him

woman

very sexy.

if

he had a

lot in

common

with her too,

and he said no, hardly anything, but the sex was great. He said she didn't like boats or water (which he obviously

adored) and even more importantly, she didn't like animals.

He had

a Persian

cat,

only adorable but brilliant

Michelangelo,

who was

— he taught himself

not

to turn

a door knob with his two paws and get into any of the cabins.

The owner showed me by closing

the stateroom

door and in about twenty seconds Mikey opened

walked

in.

like cats,

Mikey knew

that this

and one night he peed

expensive shoes. Very smart

Now who

I

man's

asked him

how

and

it

girlfriend didn't

right in

one of her

cat!

could he be with a

woman

hates cats, boats, and water, the three things he

loves the most, and he said,

everything."

And it does,

"Her

lovin'

makes up

for

unfortunately (or fortunately,

depending on your viewpoint). Millions of people get married because of sexual attraction, and

when

that

What Every Man wears let it

off, as

wear

it

off,

Is

Looking For

almost always does because most people they find they have nothing in

and go looking for another sexual

You wouldn't

take a lifetime job you're not suited

very similar to marrying someone

on but with

whom

and

dislikes,

both of you learn

marry

how

till

office, but

who

turns

you

common. you find someone

you have nothing

What you should do is wait who has the same values, same likes

common,

attraction.

you love the looks of the

for just because it's

35

else in

sense of humor, same

that person

to satisfy a

and make sure

man/woman

that

every

time and have him/her beg for more!

Those are the marriages that will last a happy lifetime

To make

get up early, rush to

make

stay late to finish a job, put

their tails off.

They

sure they're not late, spend

on

eight hours a day focusing

ies,

work

a living, people

their duties,

sometimes

up with job-related jealous-

back-biting, catering to the boss

—

all to

make

a

buck.

Now

you have your marriage, which

But few of us ever

treat

treat a job. In marriage,

the other person to just see

how

silly

compare marriage the

it

we

is

with the same respect

and foolish

same energies on our

we

usually expect (and want)

do most of the work.

to work),

a love-job.

that is (and

we might be

relationships as

If

we

we

could

can

if

we

able to focus

we do on

our

jobs.

At

the office

do we not expect each person

to clean

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

36

up the kitchen/dining area

after he/she uses it? I've seen

enough signs around demanding don't

up or

that slobs clean

come back! But how many of us leave the kitchen/

bathroom/bedroom

mess and expect spouse-o

in a

we make an effort even when we don't feel

be

to

the servant? Don't

at the office to

be pleasant

terrific?

But

—

at

home we feel free to snarl, be rude, be selfish we wouldn't and couldn't get away with at the

office.

Probably the third time you snarled

you'd

be

fired,

and you know

believe the reason so

value each other more great after a

is

make an effort to long way at home.

so you

that,

be nice. That same effort will go a I

at the boss,

things

many married people

don't

because sex becomes less than

few months and years of marriage.

When

the sexual excitement goes, so does the need for sex

with that person go. The respect comes back

need

and

returns,

asserts his/her

the

happens when your beloved

power over you with sex so

you again can't

A woman

that

when

live without

exciting that

it.

absolutely can keep her husband faithful,

keep him from

cattin'

around, and keep

sex with her and only her throughout his

him wanting life.

Would you ever think of cheating on your guy, the man you love and are married to, if he knew exactly which buttons were '

to

in charge of

'a little to

push

to turn

you on sexually?

If

he

your body and you never had to say

the right, honey,"

'

'not so hard, sweetheart,"

What Every Man and he was able he wanted

to,

would you ever think of another man?

my

way

nique, a

to

'

'faithfulness

will begin to understand

credo"

is

& physical tech-

work your husband's body and pleasure

it

so intensely that he'll want

it

to him.

it

as often as you'll give

Another part of my 'faithfulness credo' '

logical technique, a

he will

of

is

a psycho-

literally captivating (captur-

that for

you

capture

him you

will let

to continue being his captor,

to capture

Nothing

be your captive.

literally

And once you how

way

'

him so intensely in the mental and emotional realm

ing?) that

37

make you have an orgasm whenever

to

As you read my book you that part of

Looking For

Is

you

(that's

my

in life or marriage

him know

he has to learn

other marriage manual!).

can be one-sided.

If things

aren't fair, they don't work.

Now the

you probably noticed

in the

above

that

word "work," but even though some work

cult,

other kinds of

much

work

I

used

is diffi-

are not only easy, they're so

fun that you wouldn't even think of them as

"work."

When you back

is

give great pleasure to someone, the feed-

so immediate and intense that you will receive

mental and emotional pleasure.

When

you're in charge

of a project (decorating your home, planning a party, capturing your husband sexually), the feeling of power that you're not only

doing the job, you're succeeding

.

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

38

fabulously in

it

(your

home

a smash, and your husband for sexual excitement

and

obviously

if

gorgeous, the party was

is totally

dependent on you

satisfaction) is the headiest

kind of self-confidence that

Now

is

exists.

you're married to someone

whom

you no longer love or who no longer loves you (and it's

irretrievably over because drug addiction, violence,

serious character flaws, a

new awareness of having no

basic compatibility, a realization that she doesn't really

love you anymore, get out as soon as

This book

is

etc.,

you

are present), then

you should

can.

for wives

who truly

love their husbands,

love making love to them, and want to keep them faithful forever

.

.

3

Why Some Men Kinky Sex

Get

If

into

you're not in love, sex can

physical experience.

An orgasm

still

but not

excitement beyond physical pleasure.

how do you

ual surrender, and

much

real

An orgasm is sex-

totally surrender to a

who's no longer loving, or someone

stranger, or a wife

you don't think

be a feel-great

is terrific

enough

to fall in love with?

Now some men are afraid of love, afraid to surrender to a

woman

any

woman

— and

these are the

men who

frequent prostitutes. Just pay the money, take off your clothes and let her

A man

"do"

you.

can be married and have live kids and

be afraid of the surrender that being

in love

still

demands.

When a man's not in love, he needs much more stimulus to

have an orgasm.

A

guy can be

in like

with his wife,

love her dearly, but not be in love, with the accompa-

nying great sexual attraction that goes with romance.

So he cheats on her and gets the temporary excitement

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

40

new

new body and maybe his stimulus is his imagination with this new body, and that does it. Maybe he wants to be spanked or maybe he wants to of a

face and a

do the spanking.

When needed

love

to

is

make

missing, lots of "incidentals" are the sex exciting.

Sometimes pain

is

And it can start out solely imaginavelvet whip. You can only imagine

needed as a stimulus. tive pain, as with a

the humiliation of having the velvet hit your flesh,

because there won't be any pain.

But as time goes on, the velvet whip loses ment. Real pain

to

excite-

stimulate the sexual

A man will seek out real whips and a woman

response.

who's into to

needed

is

its

S&M,

and the pain must gradually increase

keep sex exciting.

Without love, there and

dirtier

A

is

few years ago when all

be a romance), he told heard

it,

I

To look

more pain

magazines and tighter chains.

biggest radio stars of

hair,

a constant need for

was turned at

very handsome

started dating

one of the

time (and he was hoping we'd

me

off,

him you'd

I

his turn-on.

but

think

As soon

as

I

we did remain friends. macho tall, dark wavy

— hut he was

—

into submission to a

female dominatrix. His fantasy was crawling on his

hands and knees toward his woman/master and grovelling at her feet.

And

that's all

he wanted to do, he

did not want to reverse roles or do anything else but grovel.

Why Some Men Get

into

Kinky Sex

4i

This guy, so charming and so successful but so unable to give real love, could only

putting

woman

be excited by a

him down. He had been married and had

a

daughter, and he truly broke his wife's heart. She loved

him so much but

he, for

whatever reason, was unable

He craved humiliation and was got it. He never told his wife about

to deeply love her back.

when he his sexual needs, maybe because he didn't think she could dominate him because she loved him so much, or maybe he was afraid or embarrassed to tell her, but only happy

a shame, because every

it's

woman

could play out

this

maybe if she had known and made it like a game, just maybe he could have again been sexually excited by her and stayed with her, and maybe she who loved him dearly could have gotten him to try some scene, and

other sexual games.

Another man, one of the biggest all

political

tycoons of

times was also the head of an American political

dynasty.

men

He was one of the wealthiest and most powerful

in this country,

and he was also a sexual

But he had enough money pay a show

girl at the

the late 1930s an

him

to beat her

a suite in a

cover up his sadism, to

Latin Quarter in

enormous sum so

New York

that she

up frequently. He also paid her

New York midtown

and during each that

to

visit

he

sadist.

in

allowed rent for

hotel for several years,

inflicted so

much

he had to have a nurse stay with her

injury

on her

in the

for several days after he physically abused her.

room

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

42

woman was a friend of a close friend told him how this sadistic man would

This particular of mine and she

punch her and beat her up, and one day in the hotel

and saw

this

my

man emerge from

friend

was

the elevator

and walk through the lobby with a hat on, overcoat and a

collar up,

false

nose (a false nose!!!). Just from

my reading knowledge of him with his large and famous family, and particularly with his long-suffering religious wife,

it

was

pretty apparent that

he was incapable of

real love.

He

also

had a long-time

and she told dealings.

stories of his cruelty

My

after years of

the her.

affair

favorite story

with a famous actress

and dishonest financial

was when he dumped her

being together, and then stole some of

money back from

her that he had previously given

Whattaguy!

Can gentle,

a person be loving and cruel?

and sadistic?

and be a

Can you be

tender,

A person can act the loving virtues

tyrant, but real love displaces

any and

all

cruelty.

One great

of the giants of the Big

band and dozens of

divorced several times. aberrations, his

Band

hit records,

Era,

who had

was married and

He had some

strange sexual

one of which was giving dinner

home, and as the guests

a

ate at the large

parties at

and long

dining table, he had a girl under the table doing him

while everyone

ate.

When

she was finished she'd crawl

out and of course everyone was shocked (he laughed

Why Some Men Get

into

and he got a reputation with those

and loved

it),

knew him

well as a very kinky cat

Many

43

Kinky Sex

times those

men who

who

are extraordinarily rich

or famous or both have sex thrown at them by "group-

ies"

who

man

does not have incredible sex

dozens of larly

are eager to

women

when

a different

than one!).

go

to

it's

a

home, and has

at

throwing themselves

he's travelling),

When

bed with them.

at

him

(particu-

so easy to have sex with

woman every night (and many times more And lots of these groupies will do wild and

crazy things, and a man, not earing a whit for any of these

women, could

easily get into kinky stuff.

—

Some men get their kicks with a menage a trois two women and a man interacting. Or some men want to just watch two women make love, or watch another man and woman make love. Or participate in an orgy where everyone everyone

else.

is

Besides the obvious disease possibility

(probability?), the

emotionally. love.

They

sucking and intercoursing with

They

men needing

this are constricted

are not able to give or receive real

are only seeking physical pleasure, and with

love out of the picture, a lot of mental stimulation

needed

to get

it

up. Pain, humiliation, animals,

is

and

punishment are just some of the mental 'naughty things '

you're not supposed to ing.

Why

do"

that are temporarily excit-

would a man need two or more women when

he only has one penis?

I

know

there are other things

he and they could do, but the bottom

line is the

orgasm

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

44

happens with his penis, and the

more women, enough so

etc.) is

only to

his penis will

rest

make

of

it

(the

two or

sure he gets excited

orgasm (which would happen

automatically and with the ultimate pleasure

if

he were

in love).

But what

if

he's depressed because of a repressed

childhood with his mother and father, or his church's teachings, or

someone who got

tive impact, frightening

to

him emotionally?

spiritual

whammy of physical,

If he's not

woman and

able to open up totally to one

quadruple

him with some negafeel that

mental, emotional, and

soul-mating that this kind of total ecstasy

brings, he

would be wise

to seek counseling to get to

the root of his inability to love and be loved.

Sex without love ily exciting

and soul and

It

may be temporar-

feel better

by getting

and releasing endorphins, but the mind spirit are

and of itself;

lation,

not fulfilling.

and make the body

rid of tension

in

is

it

empty. Kinky sex never grows

always needs more and stronger stimu-

whereas sex with love (naturally where both

spouses have orgasms) always grows more exciting just

because of the love.

As men

get older and dissipate through drinking,

smoking, eating too too

little

many

rich

and junky foods, having

exercise, or all the above, the wonderful sex

diminishes because their bodies diminish. So physically they

may need more and more

stimulation. Playboy

Why Some Men Get

into

45

Kinky Sex

centerfolds, Penthouse pictorials, Screw, porno flicks, etc. It's

grow

a sad but true fact that as most of us mature and older, our bodies

the better.

Most

get

change and sometimes not for

weaker as we age, but some of us

who work at it get better as we get older. If we never took care of our bodies in our youth, if we never exercised and we ate lots of junky foods, we went downhill. Then, as we start recognizing that our bodies are starting to fail us as we grow older, we start to exercise and really make an effort to keep out sugar, booze, cigs, caffeine, etc., we can get stronger, our skin can get "juicier," and we can look and feel much younger. But for those who do not treat their bodies as temples of God, their sex drives start to slow down. And it takes more and more stimulation to be aroused and to orgasm. There are many reasons for circulation.

Of

your blood

isn't

course

this.

One

is

a person's

an individual thing, but

it's

flowing as easily as

it

if

once did because

now you have excess cholesterol and plaque taking up a lot of room in your veins and arteries, or your heart isn't

pumping

as strongly as

it

once

did,

your penis will

not engorge with blood and get as rigid as

And even though

the desire

doesn't respond to sexual logically feel that

So

all

may be

it

used

there, if the

to.

body

commands, a person might

more mental

stimulation

is

needed.

kinds of fantasies run through your mind, and

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

46

maybe some very kinky thoughts are included in the hope that maybe the wilder the kinks are, the faster the erection will happen. But when your body is not in great shape, Marilyn Monroe could come back in person nude at

her most gorgeous time of

happen

to

your penis. But

if

thinking about a nude female

life,

and nothing

your body

body

is

will

healthy, just

will arouse you,

and

your penis will respond to your sexual desires without

any outside prodding necessary (see Chapter 7

re:

ginkgo biloba, vitamin E, and

CoQIO which

help your heart and circulation

— and no matter what

your age,

it's

never too

The bottom healthy, that's

erections are the

woman

late to start!).

line is that

when sex most

(and to you!).

is

when your body

the

and satisfying

rigid

And

if

you

your

to

stay healthy as

you

become more and more

you and your woman.

But the very most important thing

when you

really

is

most pleasureful and the

get older, sex without kinks can satisfying for both

will all

truly fall in love,

to

kinky sex

is

know

is

that

replaced by

an overwhelming desire to kiss and hold and make love in a

normal fashion with your beloved. Because making

love in a normal fashion with your beloved exciting sex there can and will ever be.

is

the

most

4 The True Sense of Being In Love Loving and being "in love" are two completely

dif-

ferent states.

Loving can be compassionate or caring, or both. Being "in love" can be compassionate and caring, but

it

must also be sexually

exciting,

which loving does

not have to be.

You can

love your

sister, brother,

mom and dad,

and

your kids, but you can't be "in love" with any of them unless you have an incestuous relationship.

When you master, the

are in love, your beloved

"one who has

you (Webster's

masochism

dictionary).

the

your sexual

power of controlling"

Being

in love is a

To

be

for both parties.

feel like a love slave

is

truly

— powerless

in the

touch of

in love is to

hands of your

beloved.

But this power over you is something you consciously and willingly give

to

your beloved. She does not make

—

—

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

48

you make yourself her

you her slave

slave. Willingly

and happily.

Because someone is your sexual master doesn't mean that the person is necessarily

aware of

this.

Remember

you have made her your master through your imagination

and your innate desire

Because you

feel

to

have a sexual master.

you don't want

sexual master you get married. At great and your sexual master turns at the

to live without first

you

married

on.

beginning because in your mind she

is

Sex

your

life is

is

great

your sexual

master and definitely in charge of your body. She

a

is

goddess and you are in awe of her hold on you. She has incredible sexual powers that she uses with you,

and you love the feeling of being under her power.

It

makes you super-sexy. Because she's not aware ter, is

that she's

she thinks the power she senses she has over you

just the strong love she feels

that

your sexual mas-

you want

to

make

from you

love often. She

— and

the fact

knows you need

her body.

But she's wrong. You don't need her body. There are millions of female bodies in the world, dozens in

your world, and you're not interested in only a body.

You want someone not your

life,

your body. on.

to take charge of

not your mind, not your

You want a

And because

your body

money— but

sexual master. That's the turn-

she's not aware of this, she can't

understand why, after a while, you're not as sexy

The True Sense of Being In Love

49

around her as you once were. She senses you're getting bored, but she doesn't All you

know

know why. And

you

is

make

don't want to

Once

a

man

has

her you're

start telling

you've been working hard love as

made

all

his

body and soul

And once you

let

tired,

day, and you honestly

much

as

you used

to.

body

the decision that your

and soul are the only body and soul

merge

neither do you.

with, he

that

is in

he wants to

love.

him down and don't keep

body

his

and soul excited with the promise of great body-andsoul-exploding sex on a constant basis, he will

make

the decision (consciously or unconsciously) to fall out

of love with you.

He

will probably

still

love you

if

you

still

love him,

but he won't be "in love" with you anymore.

Maybe he abilities,

will

still

love your soul, your mothering

your personality, your sweetness, and maybe

even your brain.

He

will

still

need your help

fortable, cleaning life.

That

is,

woman who

up

after

in

him

until

sexually.

he won't need you anymore. you're not too angry and

if

feel

com-

him, your presence in his

he will need you excites

making him

He

he finds another

When will

that happens,

still

you allow him

love you to

still

if

love

you.

But he won't

still

be

in love

with you.

Think of people you know who are

Now

really in love.

think of famous people you've read about

who

50

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

have stayed

What do

in love with the

they have in

same person

common? What's

all their lives.

different about

them? Bess and Harry Truman

Georgiana and Ricardo Montalban Clark Gable and Carole Lombard

Alma and

Colin Powell

Betsy and Walter Cronkite

Helen Gurley Brown and David Brown Lydia and Charlton Heston

Renee Taylor and Joe Bologna Veronique and Gregory Peck

Nancy and Ronald Reagan Gloria and Ellin

Jimmy

Stewart

and Irving Berlin

All these couples are (or were) together and in love for their lifetimes.

Why have they stayed in love? What do (or did) they as couples all have in clearly looked

up

to

common?

First,

and respected the

each partner

other.

Harry, a very strong person, always called Bess The

Boss when talking about

her,

and for the President of

the United States to put his wife

on

shows the kind of respect he had

that

kind of pedestal

for her.

Clark and Carole weren't married a long time when she died in a plane crash during World

War II,

but I've

The True Sense of Being In Love always thin.

felt

they would have lasted through thick and

She called him "The King" and he always said

made him feel like don't know about

she I

51_

one. the intimate details of the sex

lives of these people, but I'd bet a

bundle they enjoy

You just know bed partners. And I have

or enjoyed sex a lot with each other.

Renee and Joe

that

my own

are lusty

private visions of Harry (a rather small

man)

just losing himself literally with his beloved Bess (a

woman) when

very big

they went to bed.

I'd bet another bundle that

now and have always had an 'cause Helen

life

sex in

all

is

Helen and David have active and exciting sex

super-aware of the importance of

of our lives, and she's written about

it

in the

books she's penned. There's no doubt in

my mind

her husband, bringing her

fies

that she sexually satis-

own

unique focus that

she uses in everything she does from exercising every

day

to

(aka

watching her diet to having helmed Cosmopolitan

Cosmo)

to sex in her marriage.

These couples

all

have or had wonderfully happy and

successful marriages which lasted

all their lives.

And not

one of the couples ever had any gossip about infidelity on either part.

They obviously loved each

you think two people could fifty

other, but

do

live together thirty, forty,

years without sex being a strong part of that mar-

riage?

I

don't.

there'd be so

You'd

much

get on each other's nerves and

tension and friction that the union

—

.

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

52

could never

And

last.

relieves tension

that's

where sex comes

and creates a pleasure bond

and will carry two people through and keep the sparks of love

Why

this incredible

male

woman

to reproduce, but again, a

man

is

the

man who

One of my

is

a pleasure-

gives her that incredible sexual pleasure

make

'

in Playboy. I've it

hope

in

.

saw

in a story

The Perils of Adultery' by A. J. Benza '

much

that I

wacko, zany comedy

that I

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in his

he wanted to have an

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how many

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men were obviously unhappy and wanted to fool around.

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

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At that time I didn't understand how utterly important sexual excitement was to a man, and

wanted

to see happily

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asked him to

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men

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men and sex. When writing HOW TO SATISFY A MAN

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was just

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me

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they love a man, that's

and

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said that

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feel that their

faithful,

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husbands

women

again

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because he verified

all

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pointed out that even though having an orgasm

always exciting,

orgasm.

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it's

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there are millions of

women who

have

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56

never had an orgasm, or have hardly ever had one. So

because of their

this difference,

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wives orgasm every time

keeping a marriage happy. So

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believe the two books

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women how

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to

I've written this book.

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who

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to

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to

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going on a long car

some games

trip,

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to

they start complaining and kvetching about longer,"

planning

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someone

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the

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when you

first fell

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in love

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and

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weren't aware

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men. I'm printing the survey so you tions,

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will give

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answered each question either yes, no, or more in depth.

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in their marriages

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63

SURVEY OF MARRIED MEN This

You

is

a survey in which your identity

will not sign

filled

it

it,

and no one

is

anonymous.

know

will ever

that

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out.

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Your

truthful

answers will help millions of married

realize that they are not alone, that their

men

problems are shared

by millions of other married men.

Thank you

for taking the time to participate in this very

important marriage survey.

NAURA HAYDEN Author

of:

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HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME SURVEY OF MARRIED MEN

1.

How

long have you been married?

2.

How

old are you?

Month, Date, Year 3.

Are you a

What

religious person?

religion? 4.

How

5.

Have you ever been

6.

Have you ever thought about being

7.

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many

times

have

you

unfaithful

in

been

married?

this

marriage?

you ever cheated on your wife did

unfaithful?

affect

it

your

marriage? 8.

Do you

have

How many

boys? 9.

Does your wife ever use

How first

10.

often?

time, or did

Do you

How many

children? girls?

oral sex with

Did she

you?

offer to

do

this the

you ask her to?

have an orgasm every time through oral

sex? 11.

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to bring

you

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Have you ever masturbated? have, do you always have an orgasm?

13.

Do you smoke? Do you drink?

14.

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How much? How much?

masturbate

since

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you've

been

often?

Has sex with your wife ever gotten boring

intercourse

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17.

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do

to

you

always

have

an

orgasm?

your favorite way of lovemaking? Mark

is

your favorite way, 2 as second favorite way,

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(man on

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you?

why?

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16.

married?

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as

3, etc.

top) top)

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receiving

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Do you

love your wife?

Are you

in love with

anyone else besides your wife

now? 19.

Do you

20.

Do you

21.

Do you

like

feel

your wife? an emotional intimacy with your wife?

use oral sex on your wife?

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to

be on top or

do you prefer your wife on top? 23.

Do you

feel that affection (hugs, kisses, etc.) is as

important as having an orgasm? 24.

Do

you

feel

your

wife

sexually

is

selfish?

Are you? 25.

How

26.

How

27.

Do you feel your wife is concerned that you are possibly

were you when you

old

when you

old were you

first

first

made love?

had an orgasm?

not sexually satisfied? 28.

Do you

think your wife has ever faked an orgasm with

you?

29.

Do you

think you'd be able to

Do you

think that

tell

if

she were?

some women may be

naturally

"frigid"? 30.

Have you ever wantedto make love but not been

able to

because you couldn't get an erection? 31.

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you

ever

lost

an

erection

during

love-

making?

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have

any

idea

why? Alcohol,

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drugs,

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33.

Are your best orgasms during intercourse (you on top)?

think you are a

good lover?

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Fellatio?

Other? 34.

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35.

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think your penis

is

a good size?

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after penetra

tion?

36.

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to a prostitute?

it?

37.

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38.

Do you like anal

39.

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like giving

40.

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like stimulating

you on?

turn

stimulation, her fingers or tongue?

your wife oral sex?

your wife's

clitoris

with your

hand? 41.

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42.

to

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told or

make sex you

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hardly

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all

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man can be

think a

happily married without

having sex often? 45.

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46.

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often

would you

like sex?

your wife to give you oral sex every

like

day? 47.

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think

an orgasm as

it's

it is

48.

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50.

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think

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to

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husband?

for her

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yourself

wife

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married?

happily

happily

married?

or were you happier

single? 51.

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52.

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about

like

marriage

do

you

like

best?

your wife to take sexual control of your

body? 53.

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like to take sexual control of

your wife's

body? 54.

Would you other's

55. Is

like taking turns

body?

your wife your best friend?

who

being in charge of each

is?

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56. If

you didn't know your wife and you met her

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Why

would you marry her now?

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39.

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40.

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41.

to

size?

too soon after penetration?

^%

"^% you on?

turn

85%

yes

your wife oral sex?

like stimulating

10Q%

make

good

anal stimulation, her fingers or tongue?

Have you ever you

a

to a prostitute?

it?

37.

is

your wife's

clitoris

with your

y es told or

shown your wife what

sex better for you?

°^%

to

do

to

74

42.

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moderately not at

all

Do you

man can be often? 13% yes

every day 94% would you like sex? 3 X week 5% 2 X week 1%

How

46.

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47.

Do you think

often

an orgasm as

you

79%

it's it

wife to give you oral sex every

just as important for a

is

for her husband?

consider yes

yourself

49.

Do you 79%

50.

Are you happier

as a married

single? married

92%

51.

happily married without

think a

45.

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1%

hardly

all

having sex

48.

67%

Very

32%

moderately not at

1%

hardly

43. Is your wife affectionate?

44.

^1%

Are you affectionate? Very

think yes

your

wife

is

man

woman to have 98% yes

happily

happily

married?

married?

or were you happier

yes

What about marriage do you

like best?

companionship, sex often, kids

52.

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take sexual control of your

Sex Survey of Married

53.

Would you like to take 100% y es body?

54.

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being in charge of each

1Q0% y es

55. Is your wife your best friend?

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you didn't know your wife and you met her as you

are today, 57.

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sexual control of your wife's

like taking turns

body?

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Why

would you marry her now?

did you get married?

fell in

63% love

yes

98%

6

Some Very Important Male

Health Info Health all

is

everyone's most precious possession, and

of us, both males and females, must do everything

in our

power

to stay healthy

energy do go together!). their bodies

and energetic (health and

Men

have a particular part of

which needs special

attention

and

that is the

prostate. I've researched

and found some extraordinary

natural plants and herbs

which can help males keep an

extra-healthy prostate without drugs.

But before

I

tell

stances, let's get into

The

external

testicles.

The

of these wonderful natural sub-

male anatomy.

male sex organs are the penis and the

testicles are inside the sac called the scro-

tum. Penises and testicles

come

and shapes, and the only time

man whose

penis

young and

at that

I

in

many

different sizes

have ever been with a

was unusable was when time rebellious after

I

was very

my

religious

schooling that said no sex before marriage, so naturally

Some Very Important Male Health I

had

to find out as often as I could

was about

ment are

(I

have since agreed

what all the brouhaha

that love

and commit-

the prerequisites for incredible sex).

This particular

man had

was over a

seen.

It

touch

when

of every

77

Info

I

put

my

foot long and

my

man who

the largest penis

hands around

him

ever saw

the truth of the matter

it.

in a

I

have ever

fingers couldn't

He was

the

envy

men's room, but

was he couldn't have intercourse

woman could ever get it in her mouth He was extremely good-looking, tall

with anyone and no or anywhere else.

with dark hair, and very successful as a "garmento" in the fashion industry in

Los Angeles, but never married

and hardly ever had sex, and stimulated

that only

when

him with her hands. He was

a

woman

truly a pathetic

case.

So much

for that old wives' tale!

Back to male anatomy: during an erection,

the spongy

around the penis become engorged with blood

tissues

making

the penis bigger and

muscles in a penis so

it

more

can't be

erect.

made

There are no

bigger by any

kind of exercise.

The head of

the penis

men, particularly the part

is

the

most

sensitive to

that connects the

head

most to the

shaft.

The

internal sex organs are the testes

which produce

both sperm and testosterone, the male sex hormone. The vas deferens are the two tubes which extend from the testes to the prostate,

and the sperm, having travelled

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

78

through the tubes, they

mix with the

is

stored at the top of the tube until

secretions

from the prostate and semi-

nal vesicles just before ejaculation.

seminal

The

fluid,

urethra

The prostate secretes

and only a tiny percentage of this is sperm. is

a tube from the bladder which goes

through the penis and ends in a tiny hole

bend

at the

of it. Both urine and seminal fluid go through the urethra, but never at the same time. The prostate wraps around the urethra right

where

it

begins at the bladder, and

that's

why many men

when

the prostate enlarges, compressing the prostatic

over

fifty

have urinary problems

urethra causing the obstruction of urine flow from the

bladder making urination difficult and sometimes painful.

Too many of my male problems, and

I

want

friends have

to quote

doctors in the United States,

one of the

who

is

had prostate finest

very

preventive medicine, John A. McDougall, article in

Veggie

Life,

medical

much M.D.

into

In an

he explains that routine prostate

examinations have never been proven to reduce the risk of cancer.

Understanding the growth rate of cancer will help explain

why

early prostate cancer detection and

treatment are of limited value. Prostate cancer begins with one malignant

cell.

This transformed cell grows and divides into two cells at a steady

rate— called

For prostate cancer

the doubling time.

cells (as well as

most other

Some Very Important Male Health

79

Info

solid tumors) the average doubling time is approxi-

mately 100 days. In other words, four malignant cells

would be present

in the prostate after

days, and only twelve cells after

200

would have formed

one year.

In six years, the cancer

mass would contain one

million cells (about the size of the tip of a pencil).

A mass of this size is undetectable by PSA, digital rectal examination, or ultrasound. In essentially

every case, by

this

time the cancer has already

spread to other parts of the body. Only after an

average of ten years does the mass grow to a size detectable by present day techniques. the disease has

most

At

this point

likely spread to the liver,

lungs, bones, and brain, soon resulting in death.

Therefore, routine screening does not improve the patient's outcome.

The American Cancer Society released guidelines advising individuals to avoid all red

meat

because of its very strong link to colon and prostate cancer.

They

high in

fruits,

also

recommend following

vegetables, and

whole

a diet

grains.

A

low-fat, pure vegetarian diet is our best defense

for preventing prostate cancer,

slow

its

and may actually

progress even after the cancer has started.

I've been a vegetarian for over twenty-five years,

and I'm bursting with health and energy. Unfortunately

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

80

some people think vegetarianism is weakening, and that we humans need to eat meat to be strong, but that's totally incorrect.

The

strongest animals in the world,

elephants, are vegetarians, as are hippos and rhinos, and

one of the

fastest animals in the world, the

race horse, I

is

thoroughbred

also a vegetarian.

stopped eating

all

meat and

because

fish

animals and abhor cruelty to and killing of but the side effect for health. It

me

then? But

love

beings,

has been incredible good

was a bonus, because

clue that eating meat

all

I

was bad

at that

for you.

now we do know, and

time

I

hadn't a

Who knew

back

fortunately lots of

people are giving up animal protein and biting into faux

sesame chicken, soy hot dogs (with mustard on a bun), pseudo beef with orange sauce, sunshine burgers (with tomato, onions, and mustard on a sesame seed bun) Talk !

about delicious! portobello

And what

about barbecued marinated

mushrooms? They're one of my

all-time

favorite dishes.

So when you decide

to give

up eating animals

for

eating veggies, you'll discover a brand-new world of truly delicious foods. Plus you'll start getting healthier

than you've ever been.

A healthy prostate is one of the most important parts of a strong male sexuality.

It's

also vital to

good repro-

ductive function.

But by the age of

fifty,

half of the

male population

And

over the age of

will develop prostate problems.

Some Very Important Male Health of

sixty, seventy-five percent

men

81

Info

have developed

will

enlargement of the prostate gland, called benign prostatic

hyperplasia, or

BPH, which

is

caused by a buildup

of testosterone in the prostate. This in turn

DHT, which

to dihydrotestosterone,

it

converted

stimulates the cells

of the prostate to multiply excessively.

grows larger

is

As

the prostate

presses against the urethra, which starts

to obstruct the urine flow

from the bladder.

An

almost

constant need to urinate (especially at night), burning

weak

sensation while urinating, bling,

are

and feeling

that

urinary stream, drib-

you can't urinate

"all the

way"

symptoms of BPH.

However, there are that

of natural plants and herbs

lots

can reduce these prostate disorders. Often hormone

imbalances can create prostate problems and some nontoxic plants,

saw palmetto

for one, can produce hor-

mone-like activity thereby correcting the imbalance.

And

the

wonder of plants and herbs

side effects as there can be with

Two

some

many

no

drugs.

possible side effects: impo-

tence, decreased libido, dizziness,

the

mends

that there are

of the biggest-selling prostate medications on

the market have as

And

is

FDA

that

be used

if

and lightheadedness.

(Food and Drug Administration) recom-

one of them, because of a

man

will

its

toxicity,

be ejaculating into a

never

woman

of

childbearing age because of the possibility of a male fetus developing birth defects. Scary,

Saw

palmetto

is

no?

a small palm tree which produces

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82

berries,

ment

Many men

for enlarged prostate.

using

Saw

and the reddish-brown powder is a natural

it

as a preventive

palmetto extract

and

have ever been reported in

BPH

over forty

that's a very

good

and no negative

is safe,

treatstart

idea.

effects

clinical trials. It relieves the

by preventing the conversion of testosterone

to

dihydrotestosterone, thereby not allowing the prostate

and keeping the prostate from en-

cells to multiply

larging.

Saw palmetto is also getting a reputation for stimulating hair re-growth, so you not only help your prostate,

you might

also help your hair follicles.

Pumpkin seeds

are another natural treatment for

enlarged prostate, particularly metto.

A

when used with saw

quarter to a half cup of

raw pumpkin

seeds,

day along with one 500

(a big handful) eaten every

pal-

mg

capsule of saw palmetto with each meal can be very beneficial.

Some men

500

take two

mg

capsules with

each meal for a more intense dose.

Obviously a healthy a good diet,

life-style is

booze, no cigs, and lots of exercise

little

(even ten to fifteen minutes a day

and nutrients chapter,

after

I list all

meals

is

and

also

most people

excellent).

Vitamins

the vites and mins and antioxidants

body needs every day list

is

also important. In the next

that a I

important along with

how many

to stay well

I take,

take, but not too

which

and healthy, is

more than

many people have my

Some Very Important Male Health energy and feel as good as

I

do (dare

83

Info

say hardly

I

anybody?).

Of

all

the minerals, zinc

is

most commonly

the one

used to bring about male sexual health. This say that

all

a

man

needs to do

sex

—

all

working together

vites

is

is

not to

take zinc to have great

and mins are synergistic and you need them in

your body to bring about health,

energy, and sexuality.

But zinc

is

concentrated in the prostate more than in

any other part of the body. to take at least

mg

50

It's

very important for males

a day for testosterone synthesis

and the making of sperm, which obviously one needs to

have a healthy and satisfying sex

recommend up

to

50

mg

life.

Some

doctors

of zinc three times a day after

meals.

Vitamins A, C, and E, three strong antioxidants which strengthen the

immune

to help eliminate prostate

(minimum) in the

problems.

units of beta carotene

body

work with

system, will

I

suggest 25,000

which

into vitamin A, 3,000

the zinc

is

converted

mg (minimum)

of

vitamin C, and 400 units (minimum) of vitamin E. Chap-

how much how much I

ter

7 has details of

we

all

need plus

Selenium

is

of

all

the vites and mins

take every day.

another antioxidant and a mineral that

is

extremely important to your prostate health, so be sure to

look

at the labels

that all the

of any multi-vitamin you buy and see

above antioxidants are contained

in

it.

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84

Men

need sexual pleasure for other reasons besides

pleasure; they need is

it

for health reasons too.

An orgasm

a release of tension and a flooding of the body with

endorphins which flow through you and immediately

make you

Now

feel good.

obviously a

man

needs not only his sexual

apparatus to be healthy, he also needs the rest of his

body

to function at

When of

it,

you

your body will

peak standards. is

healthy, and

you take good care

have a natural energy

you, and you'll go through

life

that never leaves

without anxiety or

depression, but with a natural high!

7

You

Can't Be Healthy and Be Impotent! You Can't Be Impotent

and Be Healthy! TV

my many When I spoke

learned something really interesting on

I

and radio tours around the country.

about smoking being very bad for your health

(I

don't

think there's anything worse!) and particularly bad for

your heart and lungs, I'd never get any big

call-in

response from the radio listeners (and sometimes on particular

TV

shows, from viewers

who

could

call in

live).

But when

I

said (as

I

always did) that smoking was

an almost certain end to sex-organ strength, the phone calls

poured

bad smoke is,

in.

is

You

see,

almost everyone knows

for your lungs

how

and how carcinogenic

it

and almost everyone knows how smoke causes free

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

86

and do irreparable damage

radicals to increase

heart and lungs, but not everyone

can seriously

curtail

knows how smoke

activities

and pleasure.

can render you impotent!

It literally

Over

your sexual

your

to

thirty million

American men have had some

degree of impotence making them unable to achieve

Most

erection for intercourse.

(but certainly not

impotence happens to those over the age of the cause for ease.

One

most of these men

is

fifty,

all)

and

cardiovascular dis-

of the culprits (besides animal fats and lack

of exercise)

is

smoking.

Many people think cigs are relaxants, but they're not. They're stimulants, and when we smoke, the nicotine constricts our blood vessels and makes them so much smaller that the blood has a harder time getting through, particularly

when

there

is

plaque and/or other debris

clinging to the sides of our blood vessels.

Now is

the swelling of the blood vessels in his penis

what gives a man an erection. The swelling also brings

with

it

great sexual excitement.

monoxide reduces duction.

The lung capacity

ability for

an erection to

Every man start

the blood

is

different

having problems

cut

down and

with

it

the

during intercourse.

and some male smokers don't

till

start in their early thirties.

smokers

the inhaled carbon

oxygen and hormone pro-

is

last

And

their forties

and others can

But eventually any and

all

who have not succumbed to heart or lung prob-

lems will have sexual problems.

You Can't Be Healthy and Be Impotent!

The AMA's Thomas Houston is

the only product in the U.S. that,

by the manufacturer, predictably I

quoted: "Tobacco

is

when used as directed

loving and ing with

needed a

warm

person.

I

TV

several times

host, he's a very

remember discussing smok-

makeup room before the show (I gas mask), and he was far in denial about

him

in the

harming himself, and because terribly sad

knowing

would soon

either

When

user."

kills the

was on Morton Downey Jr.'s TV show

and he's not only a wonderful

87

him so much

I like

that he, being a

I

was

heavy smoker,

have a heart attack or get cancer.

the inevitable

happened recently and he was

operated on successfully for cancer, he did a 180-degree turn and started warning everyone

smoke

is

how dangerous

cig

is.

What a shame we usually have to wait till the damage done to see the harm, but better late than never. Once

you stop smoking, the nicotine and

tar is

cleaned out

of the body in a few months. It's difficult,

believe

me

I

know.

It's

the toughest

thing I've ever given up. Dieting and giving up foods is

easy compared to stopping smoking. But the results

are phenomenal. better,

sex

you

from your eyesight

to

starts to function

your breathing to your

life.

And ing

Your whole body

all

don't ever feel that because you've been smok-

your

life that it

stop, that all the

won't make any difference

if

damage has already been done.

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

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That's not true.

Your lungs

go back

will

smoking condition a few months

And your

sexuality will also

after

you

go back

smoking condition. You'll get erections ier,

your

you'll

PQ

stop.

your pre-

to

faster

and eas-

way very happy woman.

up, and

(pleasure quotient!) will go

make your mate

Because

to their pre-

a

this is a chapter all

didn't mention that everything

about and for men, I

said about

smoking

constricting the blood vessels in the penis also for the clitoris (the female penis).

can be impotent too.

If the

I

is

true

So women who smoke

woman's sex organs

are not

swelling and being engorged with blood, she's also not

being aroused and her

not being sexually

clitoris is

excited.

So

if

both of you are smokers, you're eventually

going to have very

little

sex!

Liquor can also be deadening to the sex organs. Particularly if

are

you overdo

it

and/or do

it

often. All drugs

bad for all your cells throughout your body. Cocaine,

marijuana, speed, tranquilizers, antidepressants, and

blood pressure medications are

all

drugs that alter your

sexual appetite and sexual apparatus.

More

than a million prescriptions are being given to

patients each

month

for depression.

The

gigantic use of

Prozac began in 1993 when Dr. Peter Kramer wrote Listening to Prozac which

became

a bestseller.

1995 Dr. Peter Breggin wrote Talking Back in

which he likens Prozac

to

to

Then

in

Prozac

y

amphetamines, and very

You Can't Be Healthy and Be Impotent!

much

like speed,

it

89

boosts the level of serotonin (a neuro-

transmitter) in the brain. Serotonin gives

you a feeling

of great energy and confidence. Most neurotransmitters act is

on only

certain areas of the brain, whereas serotonin

found everywhere

in the brain, including the places

relating to sex. Prozac destroys the three phases of sex desire, arousal,

and orgasm.

If

anyone

is

taking Prozac

or any other antidepressant (not including cerely urge if

you'd

you

I sin-

to read Dr. Breggin's great book.

like to

Ana Asian's

GH3),

know more about GH3

And

(the late Dr.

great formulation for depression

which has

GO*D IS ALIVE AND WELL AND LIVING IN EACH ONE OF US. Also no side

in this

effects),

book

I

go

John's

last

book,

into detail about

antioxidants which St.

my

read

I

many

of the strongest

take every day.

Wort (hypericum perforatum) found

most health food

stores, is

and has been proved

in

in

widely prescribed in Europe,

many

clinical trials to

have

antidepressant activity equal to that of Prozac and other synthetic antidepressant drugs (which all have serious side effects ranging

and of course it

St.

from anxiety attacks

to impotence,

John's Wort has no side effects). Take

four times a day in the form of an extract which has

0.2 to 1.0

mg

dried herb.

GH3

of hypericum, or a 500

mg

capsule of the

The reason drug companies don't market

or St. John's

Wort

so there's no gigantic

is

that they can't

money

to

be patented,

be made. Prozac made

over one billion dollars ($1,200,000,000) for Eli Lilly

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

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in

one year, and

—hold

everything!

— now

comes

in

peppermint flavor for the hundreds of thousands of kids

now

taking

So

to

it.

f/n-believable!

have a robust sex

body must be

in

good shape. Your sexual organs

true barometer of

functioning the

with your beloved, your

life

your overall health, and

way you'd

if

are a

they're not

look to what you're

like,

putting into your body.

In

two of

my

previous books, Everything You've

Always Wanted to Know About ENERGY, but Were Too

Weak

to Ask,

and

Isle

of View (Say

it

out loud),

into depth in layman's terms about all the vitamins

minerals, what they are and

how

you should take and where you not to go into detail again.

they work,

how much

tell

about the John

Ellsworth Hayden Foundation (named after father) giving

away

institutions (prisons,

free

and

find them, so I decided

also

I

go

I

my

late

Dynamite energy shake®

mental health

institutes,

to

old age

homes, youth centers) where people obviously can't get out to

buy the Dynamite

information I

is

at health stores. All this

in either of those

two books.

have never made any money from the

shake because taking

it

totally

changed

my

from being a physical and mental wreck healthiest,

most energetic person

way of showing my

I

sale of the life

around

to being the

know. This

is

my

gratitude for having been led to

invent the Dynamite energy shake®.

You Can't Be Healthy and Be Impotent!

The only two vitamins you should not

A

of are vitamins

91

take too

much

and D, and certainly the amounts

I

take are very safe and far under what could possibly

be toxic, but more than the lously low. All the

and

soluble,

if

B

vites

USRDA, which is and vitamin C are

you ever did get a

surplus,

flushed right out of your system.

take

them every morning with

shake®, but

A

vitamins

I

make

couldn't

and

E

as

those Bs!

all

pressure

(I

don't),

my

I

Dynamite energy

the tablets as potent in

wanted for myself because, for

I

instance, if a person has a

the

nervous

formulated the Dynamite vites® for myself, and

I

400

water-

would be

it

And your

system would sure be in good shape with

ridicu-

problem

like

high blood

he or she should not take more than

units of vitamin

E

Dynamite vites®).

a day (which I

want 2,400

take 2,000 units extra of vitamin

is

the

amount

in

units a day, so I

E and

12,000

mg extra

vitamin

C (everyone needs a different amount of vitamin

C, and

my

It's

up

vitamin

requirements are very high).

to

C

each one of us to find the right amount of

that

we

collagen and no

need, and the barometer

more

colds.

I

is

stronger

haven't had a bruise, or

even one cold in over twenty-five years.

I

start to get

'em, then zap 'em with huge amounts of vitamin lots

of liquid (and I've taken as

vitamin

C

much

as 50,000

C and mg of

and sometimes more throughout one day,

always followed by a

lot

of water).

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I

take 4 table-

spoons

Vites

&

Vitamin

Mins

I

take 12

Dynamite

tablets

energy

Dynamite

shake®

vites®

A

30,000 I.U.

(Beta-

carotene)

Thiamine

25

mg

150

mg

25

mg

150

mg

125

mg

250

mg

125

mg

250

mg

1,000

mg mg mg

2,000

mg mg mg

(Vitamin B,) Riboflavin

(Vitamin

B

2)

Niacin (Vitamin

B

3)

Niacinamide (Vitamin

B

3)

Calcium

25

Iron

Vitamin

B6

25

36 150

400 meg

800 meg

meg

200 meg

Iodine

210 meg

300 meg

Magnesium

560

Folic acid

Vitamin

B

12

Zinc

Copper

100

50

mg mg

2mg

Biotin

300 meg

Pantothenic acid

100

PABA

100

Choline

1,000

mg mg mg

800 30

mg mg

4mg 600 meg 300

300 1,000

mg mg mg

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mg mg mg

Papain

100

mg mg mg

Selenium

100

meg

200 meg

Ribonucleic acid

100

200

Betaine

100

mg mg

Molybdenum

100

meg

Chromium

100

meg

Vanadium

100

meg

Inositol

1,000

Potassium

1,000

Manganese Vitamin

3

1,000

198

200

200

mg mg

200 meg

mg

10

C

3,000

mg mg

(I

take 12,000

mg Vitamin

D

Vitamin

E

93

extra)

3,000 I.U.

400

I.U.

(I

take 2,000 units extra)

Phosphorous

200

Citrus

100

mg mg

200

mg

bioflavanoids

Glutamic acid

One of the reasons why is

the

Dynamite energy shake®

so important for older people

people

all

need

it

is

too, but older

calcium so they won't have

the calcium.

Younger

people urgently need

brittle

and porous bones

that break easily as they mature.

And

actually the bones are the last parts of the

that lose calcium.

cium

in

your

diet,

When

body

you're not getting enough cal-

which then leads

to a

calcium

defi-

ciency, the nervous system and the skin and other

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

94

body

nonvital

parts are the first places that lose precious

calcium.

So when your bones

become

start to

brittle

and

porous, you must realize your body has already lost

calcium and that's

why

you're tense, nervous, and not

sleeping well. Four tablespoons of the Dynamite energy

shake®

in

any liquid (juice or water) gives the calcium

equivalent of a quart of milk!

And

it is

six different flavors that you'll find

that anything that tastes that

it

so delicious in

hard to believe

good can be

that

good

for

you!

The ginkgo tree is the longest-surviving living species of tree on earth, growing during the dinosaur era 250 million years ago, and

As

far

it

back as 4800 years ago (2800

treated memory loss

Age

in Asia.

B.C.) the

Chinese

survived the Ice

and poor circulation with this herbal

mixture.

Ginkgo biloba

is

made up of

flavanoid glycosides

(a part of the bioflavanoid family),

culation,

which benefit

keep the capillaries from becoming

cir-

brittle,

aid the healing process, and have an anti-inflammatory action. It's also

made up of ginkgolides, which work syner-

gistically with the flavanoids to

reduce inflammation,

and prevent the clumping of blood

cells,

which can

lead to clots, which could cause a stroke or heart attack.

You Can't Be Healthy and Be Impotent!

Then

in 1985 a

German

was done with

study

showed some mental

stated that the

The

deterioration.

researchers

ginkgo biloba extract had a positive effect

on the deterioration of mental performance and

was

that this

reflected in the patients' behavior.

I've been taking

a difference in

seems

that

it

for over

my memory

was twenty and

it's still

two

years,

and

I

can see

(which was awful when

awful, but getting better).

I It

because ginkgo helps the circulation it can be

a brain stimulant, and being an antioxidant, free radicals before they can I

sixty

and they

patients, fifty-seven to seventy-seven years old, all

95

do

their

it

neutralizes

damage.

take two dropperfuls of the almost tasteless liquid

ginkgo biloba in a glass of water twice a day.

It' s

recom-

mended to take 30 mg of ginkgo from one to three times a day.

When

I

got back from

South, there

York.

It

was a

tiny

my TV

package waiting for

was an audiocassette

of the Scoot Paisant show in all

and radio tour of the

sent to

New

me

me by

Orleans, and

it's great. It's fifty

I

New

a listener it

told

knew ordered some and

about Pycnogenol, something about which

nothing. After listening to the tape,

in

I

times stronger than vitamin

E and

twenty times stronger than vitamin C in their antioxidant strength, but

it

works with them and magnifies

then-

power.

CoQIO

is

manufactured in the body and found in

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

96

some

foods, particularly polyunsaturated

oils. It's

an

essential substance in cell respiration, electron transfer,

and the control of oxidation reaction.

It

works

in the

transport of electrons from the inside to the outside

of cell membranes,

necessary for energy production,

is

and is an antioxidant acting as a free-radical scavenger and protecting

cell

membranes from

their

damaging

actions.

CoQIO strength,

has helped heart ailments, increased muscle

improved gum tissue, helped with the synthesis

and secretion of

insulin,

and

in animals restored

of the age-induced decline of the I

heard about

it

my

through

immune

and

started taking

90

mg

health books,

about six years ago.

it

small capsules of 10

many

system.

Herb Bailey,

late friend

a medical researcher and writer of

mg

some

I

take three

each after every meal, so

I

get

a day.

One of the most important things I learned from Herb was about

SOD

enzyme found

(superoxide dismutase), a protein

in all

body

cells

— whose function

— an is to

fight the aging effects

of superoxides (the medical term

for free radicals) in the

body

— and

the body

is

constantly

creating these awful by-products.

These

free radicals are

oxygen molecules

one molecule, making them unstable, which

that lack

starts their

degenerative work.

Dismutation (deactivation)

is

what the

SOD

does

You Can't Be Healthy and Be Impotent!

by transferring the

free radical into stable

97

oxygen and

hydrogen peroxide. This prevents irreparable

cell at-

tack and damage, which causes rapid aging and deterioration.

two

I've been taking

SOD

pills

a glass of water an hour before

shake®, and

me

all

my

every morning with

my

Dynamite energy

other vites and mins, to help keep

strong, energetic,

and healthy.

I've always been a big fan and user of dolomite, a natural combination of calcium

and magnesium

in the

best proportion of two to one. I'm repeating this because I

feel it's really important for

healthy and natural relaxant.

on

me

money (after

to

know about

Whenever

this

stress creeps

up

because of time (a deadline for something) or (a late bill), I

which

enough, utes

you

I

I

chew

three or four dolomite pills,

drink a glass of water), and

if that's

not

take three or four more. In a matter of min-

I start

to feel tension draining out

and relaxation

setting in. I

'em so much,

like

in fact, that I've formulated

something delicious called Dolomints®, which are minty

and yummy. and small

them

in

I

am

bottles,

packaging them two ways: in large

and

like

Lifesavers® so you can carry

your purse or pocket and

know

that you're

doing something good (and healthy) for yourself to relieve stress.

98

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

For SOD,

call

Gero Vita

Int'l. at

1-800-406-1314.

Dynamite energy shake®,

Dynamite vites®, and Dolomints® available in

most health food

stores or call

1-800-255-1660. All other natural supplements in this book are available at health food stores.

So drink

eight to twelve glasses of water a day,

some

take lots of vites and mins, lots of antioxidants, exercise,

or no booze, no cigs or other addictive

little

drugs, and you'll be

amazed

at

how speedy your

sexual

recovery will be.

And how

quickly your self-esteem will climb

you're able to give the in intercourse (and

you're making

it

and marriage

...

woman you love several orgasms

you know she's not faking cause

happen for

Sexual happiness

when

is

her)!

one of the greatest joys of love

8

Why

Marriage Is as Important to a Man as to a

Woman I

learned a lot from

my

sex survey of married men.

I'd always heard that statistically marriage is

good phys-

and psychologically for men, but I'd

ically, socially,

never observed that firsthand.

When

I

got the results of the survey back

surprised by

some of

by the answers

Some men "Because

it

answers that

to

said

the answers, but really surprised

"Why

did you get married?"

"Because

was time," but I

I fell

let

me

some

in love,"

give you

some

said

other

find enlightening.

•

"Because

•

"I never ate regular meals because

I

was very lonely

living alone." I

didn't care

or take the time to cook for myself and

a lot."

was

I

I

was

sick

100

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME Because

it

was very

come up with a "I

felt

date for the weekend."

sad 'cause

I

and feeling loved loves I

always having to

stressful

anybody loved

didn't think

important to me.

is

My

me

wife

me."

lived with several girls over a period of four

years and

I still felt

lonely with

them (one

for three

months, one for two and a half years, and one for a

little

so

over a year).

much

in

other three, to

spend

common I just

my

When

(which

had sex

more

I

I

was

knew I wanted

and when

buddies a

thought I

met

should be.

I

my

wife

and

lot

life

I

I

was

became

exciting."

and had sex with each one it

we had

didn't have with the

my

"I went out with a different

and

wife

with her."

life

wasn't as happy as lot

my

met

on-call), I

"I used to hang out with

bored a

I

girl

(this

every nite

was before AIDS)

was fun but something was missing and

love. I

found

it

with

my job

my

at

meet

was lonely and

so

I

that

wife."

"I worked hard girls

(sic)

and didn't have time

good care of my health which

to

didn't take very

my wife does now."

men have been married, most divorced and widowed men remarry. The

An

interesting statistic is that

marriage rate for both

is

once

higher than the marriage rate

Why Marriage

Is as

Important

to

a

Man

.

.

.

101

men. Half of all divorced men remarry within

for single

three years.

So once a man experiences (even though

knowledge and

not always a deep intimacy), and the

it's

someone not only loves him but wants

that

to take care of

him

physically, mentally, emotionally,

spiritually, those feelings

to resist

and almost impossible

as food

and water.

Men free

(as

the feelings of intimacy,

do women)

of being loved are hard to live without, the

want

instinctively

be

to

and have fun as often as possible, and

relationship being loved brings hugs

same

stress-

in a

good

and kisses and sex

and home-cooked food and fun.

Some men choose

to live with different

they're very

ment.

I

say they're afraid of marriage so they

happy with

know

ness, the

this

women, and

it

appears

noncommitted arrange-

man

a very important

in the

music busi-

CEO of a giant worldwide conglomerate, who

lived with

two

different

women

over a period of eleven

years (five and a half years each, just missing the

com-

mon law

Then

statute

which was probably

deliberate).

he lived with another

woman

was sure

the one to marry him.

that she

was

for three years,

and she

But

alas,

moment he met a friend of mine, a darling PR woman, he fell madly in love, got the three-year relationship to move out, and he married his "true love."

the

Sometimes

it

does work out that people living

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together finally

tie

the knot, but too

many

times

it

doesn't.

When love hits a man, I mean HITS

a man, he wants

her commitment, he wants to make sure that she

woman, and

that's

what marriage does.

It

is

his

makes two

And you let the whole world know This is my man" and "This is my woman." All insurance companies know that the health of a married man is much better than that of his single buddy. And it's the truth. commitments.

'

Marriage brings friendship, a relaxed atmosphere, steady sex, normal eating patterns and hours, and being

needed by someone you love

man

—

the things that

make

a

healthier than life without them.

Milton Mayeroff in his book

The man who

is

On

Caring says,

not needed by someone

.

.

.

does

not belong and lives like a leaf blown about in the

wind.

As I mentioned earlier,

my

little

all

the years

red marriage manual,

WOMAN EVERY TIME

.

.

.

I

HOW

was publicizing

TO SATISFY A

and have her beg for more!

me when I was going to write HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME ...and have everybody used to ask

him beg for more!

And

every time someone did ask me, from three

waiters and a captain

who work

at

The Four Seasons

Why Marriage

Is as

Important

a

to

Man

.

.

103

.

New York to Richard Bey on his fabulous TV show, I'd always give the same answer:

restaurant in

syndicated

know this,

Well, you don't it

(at this I

but I've already written

got a nice reaction).

book, actually

body looked

at

it

It's

only has one page

me

(at this

every-

strangely) and at the top of the

page are needed only two words

Show

a very small

to satisfy a

man:

up!

That always got a big laugh which was fun for because

never made up a joke before and

I

me

loved

I

making people laugh. But then cheat,

and

I

started thinking about

it

must be because sex

why so many men at home isn't that

and how important exciting sex

exciting,

is

in life to

men.

Then

marriages there are

men were

how many unhappy and how many divorces, and if the

started thinking about

I

really sexually

would do anything

to

happy

in their marriages, they

keep those marriages going.

Now

true,

many

divorces are precipitated by the wives, but

even

if it's

50/50 wives and husbands, half the husbands

are sexually dissatisfied

enough

to

probably seek sex

outside their marriages and eventually to divorce.

So even though most healthy men have only an attractive

woman

to

to see

become aroused, and they have

an easy time reaching orgasm, there must be a reason

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

104

why

so

many men who

obviously were in love enough

with their wives to have married them, are fooling around, having affairs, just all-around cheating, which

almost always leads to the end of marriages. Cheating sexually

is

the real barometer that sex with spouse-o

has gotten boring and won't

last

much

longer.

One of my favorite examples is George and Nena O'Neill, who wrote Open Marriage a few years ago. I remember watching them on radio telling

and how I

really

it

last.

New

and hearing them on

they both had outside sexual partners

worked

never believed

never the

how

TV

it

Then about

to

keep

their marriage strong.

and knew

marriage could

their

three years ago

saw a

I

story in

York Times that George and Nena O'Neill had

gotten a divorce.

Of course open marriage mate part of marriage the pleasure to

is

How

the spouse.

ever survive knowing that

if

is

being given

could any trust

she sees an attractive guy

probably seduce him and

bed her?

inti-

being shared with outsiders,

bond of sexual excitement

someone other than

she'll

The most

can't work.

if

he sees a hot-looking

Why be married? What's the point?

babe

he'll

Why

not stay single and have each other as friends and

keep sex out of

it.

Obviously the sex

enough with each other

to

want

to

keep

isn't exciting it

just

between

them.

That

is

the point.

When sex is truly exciting, psychologically and phys-

Why Marriage

Is as

Important

to

a

Man

always go together when sex

ically (they

.

.

105

.

exciting,

is

they must go together for sex to be exciting, and they are always together

when two people

love)

first fall in

then the point is to keep that excitement there throughout

your marriage.

Now but

obviously everyone would

when

happens

it

.0000000001 of

1

incredibly

so

we

percent),

like that to

happen,

seldom

begin to doubt

(like

even

it's

possible to happen in a long-term relationship. Isn't that

why

people cheat, to have sex with someone

promises to be exciting? him,

Of

would probably get

it

course

if

new who

you married

dull after a while too.

her/

And

usually (but not always) does.

So Well,

it's

the

if that

exciting sex

Now

newness

were

seems

to

really true, the only

would be

there are

that

to constantly

some men who

cheat on their wives.

Of

make

it

answer

exciting. to

having

change partners.

will possibly never

course for the "in love" hus-

bands, there's no desire or reason to cheat, but for the others,

it's

not because they wouldn't like

because the opportunity hasn't presented

itself.

all

to, it's

Some

men will never be the aggressor because they're so filled with fear or

guilt,

and

this

could be religious guilt and/

or subconscious fears, which can and will paralyze a

person through these negative emotions. the fear that his wife will find out

But

if

another

woman

is

And

always

of course there.

senses a man's need and desire

(which would be emanating from him) she might make

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

106

move

if

respond

if

a

if

she did, he would

he believed that no one would ever find

man

There's no is

And

she liked him.

alive

who, although he loves

out.

his wife,

not "in love" with her, won't have a secret affair

if

the circumstances are right.

So when never cheat, minds,

it's

be known

say there are some

I it

isn't that the

men who

him

maybe

thought hasn't crossed their

only that in each case no to

will

woman

that she is interested in

has

let it

having him

as a lover.

Recently a friend of mine said to

me that psychologi-

cal problems, not lack of exciting sex, cause cheating

and divorce. He said

I

was

on the importance of sex

putting too

much emphasis

in keeping a couple together.

And I answered that psychological problems cause fear, lack of

trust,

anger

at spouse, etc.,

and these negative

emotions destroy sexual desire. Fear, lack of

trust,

and

anger are not conducive to sexual intimacy and when sexual intimacy leaves a marriage, the "marriage" over.

The

is

relationship might continue because she's

afraid of being alone

and he needs the security of having

someone take care of him,

etc.,

but the union of two-

people-as-one is over. They are now two separate people living under the

same

roof,

and they may love each

other as friends, but the deep intimacy I

also believe that the

are so powerful that

is

over.

dynamics of sexual pleasure

no matter what psychological prob-

lems a married couple

may have

(he's a compulsive

Why Marriage gambler, a

liar,

Is as

a thief,

Important

a

to

Man

.

107

.

.

they love and respect

etc.), if

each other enough to focus on and keep the sex exciting

between them, the marriage will endure.

Now

comes

the

complex

part.

compulsive gambler (drinker,

enough

to love

and respect

Can

a

man who

is

a

respect

himself

his wife? If he's

"out of

etc.)

control" (as a gambler or alcoholic obviously

is),

could

he respect himself? Self-respect comes from inner strength and a compulsive gambler (drinker, etc.) as strong as his compulsion. If to control

it,

is

not

he were, he'd be able

and he cannot. So without self-respect there

can't be other-respect, and without respect for the other, real love

cannot exist and grow. Need can

exist,

but not

love.

But he could love her enough her,

to

be afraid of losing

and he could make a decision

to

change himself

so that his self-respect would strengthen because he

overcame a compulsion, and his wife

would grow

in the

his respect

same

and love for

ratio as his

own

self-

respect. I

know

a

and he with

woman who her. After

fell in

love with an alcoholic

about three months she gave him

an ultimatum: stop drinking or I'm leaving you. She kept her word and

left,

and said he couldn't to drink again,

and four days

live

later

he called her

without her, and

vowed never

and he never

did.

They've been happily

married for over thirty years.

So when

it

comes

to psychological

problems, which

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108

many

of us have,

it

how

love of spouse

is,

or neurosis

and

is,

really

if

depends on

how

strong our

strong our negative compulsion

our inner strength

overcome the negative so

is

that our self-love

enough

to

and spouse-

love will thrive.

But although most of us don't have major compulsions and neuroses,

we do have minor

ones.

And

the

physical pleasure of sex is so strong that it will overcome just about anything

and everything, and bring a couple

closer together every time they share the intimacy of

each giving the other the

And what band's libido

gift

of an orgasm.

about physical problems where the husis

dulled by medication or drugs?

these problems don't totally stop a

Even

man from some form

of sexual pleasure, usually masturbation.

Most husbands masturbate. The only ones who don't are those

day.

whose wives take care of them sexually every

Even those who drink too much or who

other drugs, masturbate. it

With those not

are

on

in great health

doesn't happen every day or every few days like those

who don't take any

stimulants, tranquilizers, high blood

pressure medication, sleeping

But unless he

stances.

pen,

if

only once a

'

or other toxic sub-

almost comatose,

week

it

does hap-

or once a month.

man who is not "in with his wife (although he may still love her) will

The bottom love'

is

pills,

have an

line is that every

affair if he's healthy

presents

itself.

enough and the opportunity

Why Marriage But the

man and

Is as

woman

Mia Farrow's

a

Man

.

.

.

109

when

life is

a

marry, and stay "in

fall in love,

love" as long as they In

to

and happiness of

real thrill

a

Important

live.

What

great book,

writes about working with

Roman

directed her in Rosemary's Baby.

day while waiting to shoot,

Falls Away, she

Polanski while he

She recounts how one

Roman was

saying that

monogamy was impossible because a man's attraction for one woman only lasts a short time.

long-term sexual

John Cassavetes, the in the film

late actor- writer-director,

working as an

was

also

and he very excitedly

actor,

Roman that Roman knew little or nothing about women or relationships, and that he, John, was more attracted now to his wife Gena Rowlands then he ever

told

was

since they got married years before.

Roman was

that

so taken aback by John's outburst that he

could only stare times, and

Mia writes

at

had no

him, then he blinked

at

him a few

reply.

Arnold Schwarzenegger was interviewed

in

Cosmo

about his marriage, as were several other actors, and

how important their wives were to them and how much better their lives are since they've been

they

all

stated

married.

Arnold said

that

mother took care of after their house,

when he grew up his father

and

that's the

thought he'd marry. But

in Austria his

and cooked and looked kind of

when he

woman Arnold

finally did fall in love

and married Maria Shriver he got much more than just

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a wonderful care-giver as his mother was, he also got

an exciting career woman.

Denzel Washington his wife Pauletta, that

is

so thrilled with marriage and

he married her twice so

and the world would know how happy he

much he

is

that she

and how

loves her after a decade and a half of being

together.

Suzanne

Fields, a syndicated columnist in the

York Post, had an

article titled

Food of Love," and

in

it

"When

Marriage

New

Is the

she quotes Leon Kass, a

professor of social thought at the University of Chicago,

"Marriage

is

not something one

tries

on

for size

and

then decides to keep," writes Kass in a provocative essay in The Public Interest. "It

is

rather something

one decides with a promise and then bends every

effort

to keep."

Ms. Fields goes on doesn't do what that couples

it

who

to tells us that living together

proposes to do. She says

live together

it's

a fact

and then marry have a

higher percentage of divorce than those

who

don't live

together before they get married.

"Sex

cuts into the friendship stage,

which can pro-

vide the basis for a long-lasting marriage. Passion quickly fulfilled reduces the need for commitment, the

need to

sacrifice

something of oneself in the tender trap

of marriage.

She continues

that

men, anxious

to try

any woman's

sexual favors, hardly ever pursue depth in friendship

Why Marriage

Is as

Important

a

to

Man

"Men

with them. She quotes Rousseau:

.

.

.

Ill

will forever

women, but only if someone exerts over their sexual power and sets the standards

strive to please

control

for that pleasing."

Then she says that with encouragement, young people can channel their desires into the 'slower rituals of self'

restraint in courtship."

In a wonderful article in Cosmo, Keith Blanchard

explains

"Why Men He

Big Ultimatum."

Secretly

Want

states that

to

"Marriage

rubber-stamped version of living together

tum

leap into a

new

life is

He

existence."

case, after getting married:

'

be Given the

'Beyond

—

isn't just a it's

a quan-

says that in his

all

expectation,

my

immeasurably richer, with a fulfilling complexity I

was unable

My

to imagine."

late aunt, Phyllis

McGinley, who won not only

the Pulitzer Prize for her wonderful

she also

won

book Times Three,

the very prestigious Laetare

Catholic church. Times Three

decades of her

is

brilliant, clever,

Medal of the

a compilation of three

warm, and always witty

poetry about marriage. Aunt Phyllis and Uncle Bill were

happily married for many years, and

up connubial

bliss very well

when

In a successful marriage, there as one's way.

There

only the bumpy, dusty, path!

is

I

think she

she wrote:

is

only the

difficult,

summed

no such thing

way of

both,

but always mutual

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I

agree with Aunt Phyllis, and the reason

why mar-

women is because men have the same emotional need to be loved as women riage

is

as important to

men as

to

it is

do, and both are overtly seeking and searching for the

same togetherness and the same soul mates

down

"My

is

walk with

mutual path.

that

So even though some men riage

to

only for

wife

is

yell

and scream

women, and make with

that

mar-

the jokes that

married, I'm not!" and call the "little

woman"

a "ball and chain," the statistics prove that

marriage

is

possibly

as important to

more

so.

men

as

it

is

to

women,

9 The Master Plan: How to Keep Your Husband Happy and Faithful Forever The most important

•

•

•

part of marriage

is

love.

But

again, the deepest expression of that love is sex. Certainly

you can hold hands and hug and kiss, but sex is

closest

the

two people can ever get emotionally, mentally,

spiritually,

and obviously physically.

Two

people can't

get any closer physically than intercourse.

So love.

to

have a happy marriage the

And

part of that love is like.

first

It is

ingredient

is

not a cliche to

say your spouse should be your best friend.

To have a lasting relationship you must have interests in

common and you must like the person you're sexually

attracted to. If like theater

you love movies and don't

and your spouse hates

flicks

particularly

and adores

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stage plays, you're going to have to If

compromise a

you love the shore and your beloved

you love rock and spouse-o loves gonna be a Again,

life

let

quoted on the

lot.

likes the desert,

classical, there's

of compromise.

me

bring up Donald Trump,

TV

show

who was

E.T. about his separation

from

Maria:

Maria

is

not a person that's into the world of the

am. She would rather

materialistic, as perhaps I

walk down the beach

400 calls I

I

have

to,

to bankers

and

I

for three hours than

make

and associates and people

would rather make the phone

like

calls.

believe that the reason they didn't see (or didn't

care to see) that they had

little

in

common was

because

Donald, like most husbands in long-term marriages, was probably so bored sexually and was so turned-on by the exciting sex with his

new amour,

that nothing else

mattered but to continue with the exciting sex. exciting sex led to their getting married.

As

And I

the

see

it,

once the sexual excitement died down, the important differences in their personalities

she craving peacefulness

—he craving

action and

—became more obvious and

less acceptable to him.

So don't go

to

bed with every person of the opposite

sex you meet 'cause sex

comes

to

is

very persuasive

when

it

making a commitment, and you can believe

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when what

you're "in love"

and

after a

nothing in

When

while you

may

it

really is is "in lust,"

you actually had

find out

common.

reality sets in

total opposites,

you may

you are almost

find

and even though opposites may

attract,

they sure don't stay together.

We want to be with someone who has our same sense of humor (boy,

same

is

that important!), our

fell in

values, our

sames.

sensitivities, plus all the other

Peter Falk

same

love with and married Shera Danese

because he says she makes him laugh, and Johnny Depp says of his sweetie, Ms. Moss,

'

'Kate

makes me laugh!

But once you've met someone special truly like,

and you have

bed and sex

is

lots

whom

'

you

of sames, and you go to

divine, that's the person to spend your

lifetime with.

There's a well-known quote that

When

sex

is great, it's

I

don't agree with:

ten percent of

a marriage.

When

sex

is

bad,

it's

ninety percent

of a marriage.

The bad sex being ninety

when to a

sex

man.

is great, it's It

may be

percent,

I

also ninety percent of a marriage less important to a wife, but it's

ninety percent important to a husband. is

ever 'bad' '

'

is

agree with, but

The reason sex

because when your spouse

starts

taking

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you

and doesn't

for granted

A man

sex gets boring.

pay attention

really

will not

marry a

to you,

woman

if

he's not sexually attracted to her (unless of course he's

marrying her for her money or

if it's

an arranged mar-

riage).

So

the love

you wouldn't have gotten

there (or

is

married), and hopefully the like

and when you have

really compatible,

sex can that

make you

two people

also there and you're

is

all

the rest, great

put up with a lot of sass and problems

living together

always encounter that

might otherwise overwhelm your relationship.

Now remember, get,

so great sex

is

sex

is

two people can ever

the deepest expression of your love

One of

for each other.

the closest

the

main reasons why sex

boring later on in a marriage

gets

because one or both of

is

The excitement has died

the partners are bored sexually.

because you've allowed yourselves to forget the "sexual

master" part of sex. Once a husband learns

how

to give

her an orgasm through intercourse alone (he takes charge

much and

of her body), she'll want sex as does!

And

she'll

do anything

for

him

as often as he

sexually to

make

it

exciting to assure he'll continue giving her the greatest

orgasms she's ever had. his body, he'll

Because

And once

do anything for

this

book

is

a wife takes charge of

her.

a marriage manual,

I

have

to

assume you love your spouse. Maybe sex has gotten boring, but dated,

you

still

love each other.

you were very sexually

When you

first

attracted to each other

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and when you made love (assuming you did before you got hitched), the sex was phenomenal. Just being near

each other got you excited and you both started really feeling like

That's

you were "in love."

why you wanted

to get married.

You, the

husband, liked her of course, but the sexual excitement

was overpowering and you wanted

to

make

love to her

forever!

Did you ever wonder why you were was so much

in

love? Didn't you feel that she was in charge of you sexually? She

was

the one

who

you on,

really turned

you were charged up every time you were near her and you got incredibly excited thinking about going with her, but she was the one

was

in control of the sex,

her and her body to

She was the

like

who had

to say

to

bed

OK. She

and you were dependent on

make you

surrender in an orgasm.

your sexual master inasmuch as she had

power within her body and her mind

to get

you and

keep you excited, and then she had to respond to you

and your desires before you could have an orgasm. Well,

you could have masturbated and thought about that's not real surrender

her

may have

her, but

even though your fantasies of

played a big

part.

There's no mystery with masturbation, no surprises.

How

could there be? You're the one in charge!

could you not

So

know what

you're going to do?

for masturbation (vs. intercourse), there

render,

no master, only

How

fantasy.

is

no

sur-

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To have

orgasm

perfect total

and

trust

takes a person

is!)

feel is

dumber than you.

strong and

really love

beneath you or weaker than

A man wants a woman who's

who knows she's in charge of him, and who's

really focused

on him,

really crazy about him,

you were

you

And you're never turned

and are turned on by.

on by someone you you, or

what a

real sexual surrender (again, that's

paying attention to him,

really

and

what you had when

that's

dating.

During the dating phase, even have an orgasm,

she'll fake

it

if

a

woman

doesn't

many

(as I did too

times)

because she loves him and wants to have a permanent relationship with

important sex

is

him and she to a

instinctively

man. So the sex wasn't

that great

you got mar-

for her (I'm talking intercourse), and after ried she

knows how

stopped being your "sexual master," she

stopped consciously using her power over you, and sex started slowly getting less exciting for

you

till it

started

getting actually boring.

That's the point at which most

around and fooling around.

It

man and

his

start

looking

could be after twenty

years, or eight years, or. two years

the

men

—

it all

depends on

boredom/excitement threshold to

how

quickly he will cheat. There's nothing deadlier to a

marriage than boring sex.

Now we sexing you

all is

woman who

know

sex

never boring but the person

is

boring, so he' s will turn

him

gonna find another exciting

on.

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The woman

to!

assume

he's married to can once again

her power and become his sexual master and take charge

of his body. It

all

can't be just one of the partners

the time. That

who

is in

charge

would be constantly exciting

for the

making him or her have

recipient of the sexual master

an orgasm every time, but

it

would soon become very

boring for the one in charge always to be in charge. take turns.

One time one

in charge, is the sexual master

and drives the

So what you have of you

is

other crazy with not

to

do

is

knowing when

him or her have an orgasm, and

(or if!) you'll

make

the next time the other

spouse does the same.

What

you're going to learn in this book, the very

most important

technical/physical

important.

How

show him

that

woman who bites

it,

and the

thing, is that the psychological

part

of lovemaking

you physically make love you have taken charge of

grabs his penis and squeezes

then grabs his balls

charge, she's a roughneck.

down

it,

him must

to

his body. it

they hurt,

The woman who

at his penis, then gently takes

brings her tongue

till

equally

are

hard and is

not in

first

tenderly licks

to his balls

A

looks it

and

and gently runs her

tongue over them and goes back to his penis and runs her tongue over the top, gently sucking the

woman

is in

tip,

that

charge of his body and really loves his

body, and he knows

it!

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She has taken over

his psyche!

You, the wife, when you take charge of

his body,

make him have an orgasm after sweetly him and driving him crazy with his not knowing

are going to

teasing

when you're going

make him come

to

or even

if you 're

going to make him come.

You're going of sex.

And

if

A

have fun with him and play the game fun to be in charge of somebody's

it is

body and have and

to

the

power

you decide the time

little

him an orgasm when

to give

is right.

sweet, loving torture

is

a big turn on!

Remember:

Sex

is

Love

You

always a game!

is

never a game!

never tease with love.

You always

tease with

sex.

Teasing really turns a

woman on when

her husband

drives her wild with physical promises of

orgasm

he deliberately keeps lovingly withholding

till

that

she's

absolutely crazy with desire.

And

as exciting as that is for a female,

exciting to a

man

to

have

his

woman

it's

just as

take charge of his

body and drive him wild by sexually teasing him and

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him

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orgasm he's ever had

the greatest

in

his life.

When you do

decide you're going to take charge of

your husband's body, you should

he leaves for work, or

call

him

at

him

tell

just before

work, that tonight

is

the night you're going to take complete control of his

body and tease him

him

think about

it

he goes out of his mind. Let

till

all

day.

And when he comes home, and slowly take off and underwear, and Slowly

start to

lead

him

bedroom

to the

his shirt, belt, slacks, undershirt, tell

him

to lie

on the bed.

take your clothes off,

first

your dress

or blouse and skirt/pants, then your bra, and then your

Go

panties.

over to him, and take both of your hands

with your fingers extended and lightly run them over his chest

Tell

and arms.

him

he's not allowed to

that's part of the deal of

his chest

and arms and

move

or to touch you,

you taking charge. So tease

softly tease the inside of his

thighs with the pads of your fingertips.

bend

to

his legs,

Then

and gently go with your

tell

him

fingertips

behind his knees and tease him there.

At a certain point (and you are you want), gently touch over.

Then go

up and down the

tip,

shaft,

in control of

his balls

to his penis

whenever

and tease them

and gently run your fingers

Wet your fingertips and run them across he gets more aroused, go back down the

it.

and as

all

then do the same thing with your tongue.

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When he his penis

Do

really gets hot, stop

and go back

not

let

what you're doing with

to teasing his chest

and arms.

him touch you.

He must be passive because you are actively in control. You can continue going from teasing his arms and legs

and nipples back

many

to his penis. Start over again as

times and as long as you want.

your game

It's

and you are the coach calling every play.

Something

you

your husband

that is very sexy to

to masturbate

up and down

as

you play with

it.

wet because you've been sucking into

it is

it

move

If it's not already

it,

your hand, or better yet give

very wet suck so

for

him with your hand.

Put either hand around his penis and begin to it

is

put

some

saliva

a nice loving and

slippery as your

hand goes up

and down. Gently keep moving your hand up and down, and

you can every once head of it

it

and

it,

lick

roll it.

in a while put

your mouth over the

your tongue around

Then go back

it

and gently suck

to playing with

it,

wet and moving your hand up and down

comes. Or,

I

if

promise you he will love

you

feel that after

keeping until

he

it.

you have teased him with

your mouth and hands, the time has come for you to give

him an intercourse orgasm, you very gently climb

onto his body, straddling him, and slowly lower your self onto his penis, very slowly.

way

in, raise

up a

little,

When it's

about half-

very slowly go in and out

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halfway down a few times, then slowly go

all

the

way

down.

You

are

in charge,

still

still

on

top,

and he will erupt

very soon. Just keep slowly going up and penis

his

he explodes into your body with the most

till

orgasm he's ever had.

intense

Or,

down on

if

you'd rather give him an oral orgasm, once

you've got him really aroused, go back to his penis and tongue-teasing

start softly

hand around

it

and

start

it

and then put your

again,

moving

it

up and down the

He will love it when you take control and make it harder and bigger by playing

slippery wet shaft.

of his penis

with

with your hand and

it

at the

and licking the head of it, except

same time sucking

this

time you're going

way to make him erupt into the greatest prolonged pleasure he's ever had. You move your hand to the base of his penis and begin to slowly and gently move your all

the

mouth up and down, your tongue gently going it.

The sensation

to

your husband

your mouth," and that

As you

is

is

that he's

all

"fucking

very exciting to him.

continue, very gently teasing his throbbing

penis with your tongue, and gently sucking

it,

let it

tenderly in and out of your mouth, and as you feel

more and more

getting

mouth

tighter

and down it

feel for

until

around

it

excited, as

a sense of love.

go

him

you can make your

you move your mouth up

he has an orgasm.

And what the man you

will be.

over

And what

an orgasm

power and love

you'll

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Or, let's say you both have to get to

don't have

much

you decide

time, but

work and you to give

him a

"quickie" and take charge of his body on the spur of the

moment. Your husband

is

already in bed and you

reach under the covers and gently take his penis in your

hand and

softly caress

continue fondling as

Now

you

mouth over

it

it.

pull the covers

back and

your mouth and suck

let's

softly put

the tip and very gently suck

down

it till

real quickie (about five minutes)

But

and you

grows bigger and harder.

run your tongue gently up and all in

to get hard,

It starts

it.

your

Then you

the shaft, put

it

he comes. That's a

and

he'll love

it.

say you're not in a tremendous hurry, so

you've got him where he's out of his mind with pleasure

and probably seconds away from orgasm when you take your mouth away and begin to softly kiss the inside of his thighs.

You can

gently whisper,

heart, to give

"I'm not ready

you an orgasm." This

yet, sweet-

will really stun

him, because you have totally taken over his body. are in charge

and he knows

it.

"I'll let

You

you know when

I'm ready," you whisper. After gently kissing the inside of his thighs, you

might want to go back to his penis and tease a

little

more. The more you tease, the stronger the orgasm when

he

finally If

has

you want

it.

to continue teasing,

you might go

to his

nipples and very gently rub your tongue around the

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and very

sides

softly kiss them.

him while you

to continue fondling

By now

And you might want kiss his nipples.

he's fully crazed with desire, and you might

feel you're ready to give

him an orgasm.

It's

your

call,

so do whatever you feel you want to do, and he'll be so attuned to the fact that you took control, that you

made him wait till you wanted him to have an orgasm. What a turn-on to a guy to be sometimes passive. The more fun you have with sex the better it always is. Maybe you'll get on top of him and use his penis to play with

That

your

own

clit till

a huge turn-on to a

is

his penis to masturbate

And maybe rubbing your put

it

you're crazy with desire.

man

to

know

you're using

and drive yourself crazy.

you'll actually give yourself an orgasm,

clit

with his penis

inside yourself and

till

you come, and then

move up and down on

it.

Believe me, he won't be able to control himself and he will also

orgasm

as

you move up and down.

Oral sex and woman-on-top are the two best ways for a

woman

to take

charge of her husband's body.

Man-on-top, aka intercourse missionary position,

most exciting and satisfying sex

to both a

is

the

husband and

my new technique in HOW TO SATISFY A WOMAN EVERY TIME ...and have

a wife only if

done with

her beg for more!

One

very exciting

play. In

my

which

based

I

game (and

lots

of fun)

1981 sex survey of married

is

to role-

women from

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TIME

.

.

.

and have her beg for more!, one of the women

wrote an addendum on the back of one of the pages telling

that

how

she drove her husband wild by telling him

he was a "bad

little

boy" and wasn't allowed

to

touch any part of her body until he apologized, and even then she wouldn't

let

him go

all

the

way

she

until

felt

appeased that he was really sorry for being so "bad." I

have taken her idea and dramatized

it

in a very

sexy way: After you have slowly taken front of

your clothes off in

all

him and then slowly taken

(when you're

in charge,

all his

clothes off

you do the undressing

— when

he's in charge, he will), you will begin the real fun. first

you play with

his penis

and get

it

big and hard and

then say:

You know, you've been a naughty boy and I don't know if I should let you touch me or not. I don't think we should make love," you tell him as you lie

next to

him on

the bed. "I don't

want

to allow

anyone as naughty as you to ever touch my body."

As he

stares at

"Are you

you

in

At

wonderment, you

sorry you've been such a bad

say, little

boy?" and when he says "Yes" (which he has to say to continue), you ask him "Are you going to apologize for being so

naughty? 'Cause

don't, we're not going to

make

love."

if

you

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And

and then 1

my

make sure he says "I'm sorry" make him say "I apologize."

then you

'Okay, you apologized, would you like to touch nipple just for a second?"

"Yes," and he touches

"Would you

like to

it.

my

suck

nipples just for a

minute?"

"Yes," and he puts it

his lips

on one and sucks

few moments, then on the other one.

for a

"Would you hot between

my

boy can do,

just touch

touches

me where

legs? But that's it

all

I'm

a bad

for a second,"

all

little

and he

with his hand.

it

Then you play with

touch

like to

say, "I think

I'm going

to let

you

my pussy for a minute and get me hotter,

but just for a minute."

He

starts to softly

you want

it

As you aroused), gized,

get

clit.

more aroused (and he

you say

to him, to let

him know

to let

gently) play with your

I'm going

tiny bit

(make sure

is

already

"Because you've apolo-

you put

— you can only put

it in,

but only a

the head in and

no

more."

He you

gets

say,

on top and puts the head

"You

And

did say you were sorry for being

so naughty, so I'm going to inch, but

into you.

no more than

let

you go

that ..."

in another

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"Okay, you can put only go in halfway

—

it

in a

little bit

more, but

halfway."

that's all, just

"You know, I'm going to forgive you for being such a bad, naughty all

little

boy and

let

you go

in

the way, but very, very slowly."

And you keep

Now

it

up

till

orgasms happen.

you can write any scenario you want. Remem-

game and you've

ber, it's a

gotta have fun.

Maybe

he'll

play the young, shy delivery boy and you are the older,

married

have

woman

hot for his young, hard body, and you

By

to seduce him.

woman's

tits

him look

at

before, and

asking

him

if

he ever saw a

you open your blouse and

your bra, and ask him

if

he'd like to unhook

your bra and touch your nipples, you can really get "little

you'll be a

young schoolgirl

seduce, and he'll ask you to he'll

ask

he'll

ask

if you'll let if

(if

sit

and then

little

pussy.

By

this

time

hot.

tries to

his teacher at school, he's a kid,

seduce you by asking

prettiest teacher in the school lot.

his lap,

take your panties off, then

school and talk to you. Then he

a

on

that he'll try to

you're really focusing on each other)

Or maybe you're and he

him

he can touch your

both of you

be

this

kid" horny for you.

Maybe

will

let

He

tells

if

tells

he can stay

after

you you're the

and he dreams about you

you he's never thought about a woman's

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body

until you, but

now

all

he can think about

is

your

body.

You to

could

have

to

after

he's spanked

off,

your

and

tell

him

to

him

he's naughty and you're going

spank him for talking

what you do

crazy; or

tell

you take

maybe

like that (and that's

his pants off),

and then

you'll suck his penis

till

after

he goes

you could slowly take your blouse or sweater skirt,

and get down

him you're going

do

as his first

to

your bra and panties,

to

show him what you want

lovemaking lesson. Anything you

can imagine, you can play.

How

could he ever get bored with

women you with?

Of

different

are inside yourself

and

all

will

the girls and

be teasing him

course you can use wigs to really look like

women

needed because

you want, but they're not

if

it's

your attitude

really

that's important.

You

can wear a schoolgirl dress or a hooker's G-string and panties, or a pseudo-leather outfit with a whip, or a

riding habit with a riding crop.

The women you can become

are unlimited (but

don't have to have any costumes

if

you have

you

the right

attitude!).

Or you can just use your imagination and your partner will never

you or all

know how

that she's got

you're imagining he's spanking

you

tied to the

bed as she's licking

over your body, slowly getting closer to your penis.

To me, costumes

are fun, but superfluous, because

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME

130

if

you use your imagination and

someone

else,

you go back

it

in

stifled

of different personalities

lots

because

we were

many

inappropriate to act in

But

if

memory and remember when you old, or eleven or fifteen? And each

one of us has within us

we have

can you be uptight

your

were seven years

that

How

frees you.

really pretend you're

taught that

it

was

different ways.

that's the secret to play-acting.

An actor unlocks

a different character and personality with each role he plays.

Now

Academy Award,

you're not out to win an

you're out to turn your spouse on.

And

as long as

you

believe you could be a schoolteacher seducing a young

boy, that's

all that's

You can be riding crop

needed.

shy, tough, innocent, sadistic (with your

which you

both get into

it,

it's

flick

not only fun (because you're really

not yourself anymore) but

be his sexual master or or next

week

onto his behind). Once you

it's

also sexy. You'll either

be yours.

he'll

And tomorrow

or later today, you'll reverse your roles.

Most of the time you may just want to have beautiful sex with your spouse without any games, and an amazing thing happens.

You will remember whatever favorite

role really turned

you on, and you'll be making love

the master in that role,

were

which

when you

in love with

Whether you recognize

it

is

the

same one

first fell

to, that

person

who

you

in love.

or not, each one of us

is

we

look

has the power to control us.

You

and always has been searching for someone

up

that

to

The Master Plan can deny other

it,

131

but in reality that's what you were to each

when you

fell in love.

And when you become

each other's "sexual master" again, the tremendous excitement will It s all

a

start all

over again.

game and anything

goes!

Falling in love, being in love, and expressing that

love in orgasms of mutual pleasure and profound love is

the closest

we

will ever

be to heaven on

this plane.

What a pity churches don't comprehend this and teach it, because

if

they did, married couples would be infinitely

happier and that

'

much more

'pleasure bond'

'

likely to stay together.

With

cementing them together and with

a sense of fun, the sexual excitement, the love and the marriage will all

last

'

'as

long as you both shall

.

live

.

.

J

.

.

.

Afterword

To

you women out there who are putting

all

action what

you have just read, and are with open hearts

and much love and passion pleasuring your men thank you

And

to all

practicing

much

.

all

all

of you lots

who

.

.

are giving and receiving

of that love

when you're more

all

but are, with

is spilling

over and

the rest of us, and because we're

when I'm more we're

.

.

and making love,

We're

.

and tenderly pleasuring your

gently

because from

nected,

.

you men out there who are no longer

thank you

touching

.

THE BIG BANG THEORY,

love,

women

into

loving

all in this

one.

it

loving

it

all

con-

touches me, and

touches you.

together,

and love makes us know

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