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The Get-A-Guy Guide From Initial Reaction to Life-Long Attraction

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What is Meet Your Sweet? Your new life starts today. With MeetYourSweet.com, you get the ultimate toolkit to creating the success you crave in Life and Relationships. We know that you’ve got the smarts to take care of most areas of your life. So why should dating and relationships be any different? That’s why we here at MeetYourSweet.com take a life coach’s perspective to romance. We don’t want to give you a paint-by-numbers program or dumb down what it takes to master REAL success. Rather, our goal is to empower you by giving you the life skills that you need to achieve a complete personal and social transformation… …the kind that will have you feeling confident, secure, desirable, and powerful, no matter what challenge you face! We’ve done the research, and we know what works. Our thoroughly researched, nonmanipulative approach harnesses capacities that everyone has within them. Whether you’re male or female, young or old, single or in a relationship, we can help you become the absolute best you can be at relating with the opposite sex. Just imagine it. Gone are the days of struggling to get a date. Gone are the days of struggling to keep someone attracted. Gone are the days of worrying about whether you’re good-looking enough, popular enough, or captivating enough or to get attention from the opposite sex! With MeetYourSweet.com, you get expert advice from a team of the world’s greatest writers, life coaches, and counselors in the field of dating and relationships.

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Every Meet Your Sweet course includes collaborations with top names in the field. Our team of contributing authors includes our very own Slade Shaw and Mirabelle Summers, as well as Amy Waterman from 000Relationships.com and Andrew Rusbatch from SaveMyMarriageToday.com. So kickstart your personal and social transformation with MeetYourSweet.com. We look forward to hearing how our courses have changed you!

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CONTENTS PAGE Day 1: How Dating and Attraction REALLY work. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 06 Day 2: How the Female Mind Works – and How to Use This Knowledge to Your Advantage! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Day 3: The MOST IMPORTANT Secret to Having a Woman Want You. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24 Day 4: Become Immune to Rejection by Mastering Your Attitude . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36 Day 5: How to Apply the Dating Principles and Earn MASSIVE Success . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44 Day 6: Prevent the Doldrums from Poisoning Your Loved-Up Bliss. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51 The Meet Your Sweet Course Catalog. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59

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6-Part MiniCourse Day 1: How Dating & Attraction REALLY Work If you’re interested in dating and attraction, you’ll probably know that there are nearinfinite numbers of dating coaches out there on the Net, each marketing his own particular brand of wisdom on how to ‘get more women’ … and each trying to convince us all of his own unique ‘spin’ on the subject. You’ll also probably know that most of this so-called knowledge is based mostly upon EXTREMES of approach. I’m sure you know what I mean: that you’re either out there trying to ‘score’ as many hot women as possible (belt-notches optional but recommended) … … or, you’re trying to find ‘The One’, and therefore should NOT be in the market for any kind of fun, relaxed dating practices, like dating more than one woman at a time. That would just be irresponsible. It’s like there are only two ways of looking at this whole ‘dating and attraction’ thing: you’re either out there to get as much as possible, as QUICK as possible … or you’re out there to find a future wife, ’nuff said. As it turns out, however, there IS an intermediary ‘middle ground’, and it’s called figuring out how to BE the kind of guy that quality women are NATURALLY ATTRACTED to … … so that, WHATEVER your ‘end goal’ is (whether that’s a string of fast’n’furious short-term flings or one superlative relationship), you’re able to act in a way that’s authentic and true to yourself … while still achieving whatever it is that you set out to achieve. Here’s the deal with this ‘middle ground’ approach. Once you become that guy who just instinctively ‘is’ attractive to himself, you never have to bog yourself down trying to ‘role-play’, use ‘canned material’, or hide behind a pseudoAll Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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social mask of witty one-liners and bravado in the hopes of ‘getting’ a woman. Instead, you can literally just be YOURSELF (albeit your BEST self ), and watch in wonderment as a virtual red carpet of quality women and ABUNDANT OPTIONS unfurls in front of you. Let me ask you a question. Are you interested in becoming the kind of QUALITY GUY who’s ‘a natural’ with women? My guess is that, yes, you would be. And I’m not talking about some kind of quickfix magic bullet, since, if you’re truly interested in BEING great with women – not just ACTING great with women – there are no magic bullets. (Sorry about that.) I’m talking about finding it within yourself to use whatever skills and charisma are lurking in there (possibly unknown to you, at this present moment) and creating hot, fun, outrageously successful relationships of whatever nature and length with the women that YOU find attractive. Not the women your friends want. Not the women you think you ‘should’ want. But the women that YOU ACTUALLY want. The women that YOU think of as being ‘quality’. (Why? Because this is about learning to shuck off the dusty old social-masks that so many guys out there are using, and being your REAL self to attract the women that YOU WANT. No side-stepping or B.S. permitted, in your behavior or your goals.) I don’t have to tell you that women are different from us. There are things they do that make no sense to us at all. Our brains are “wired” differently - just ask any neurobiologist. MRI scans are telling us more about what makes a woman tick than at any point in history. So it falls to me to lead you down the path of ‘what happens inside the female brain’ … to give you the science, the statistics, and exact conclusions you need to apply your insider knowledge to ANY woman.

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Over the next couple days, here’s what’s going to happen: - You’ll find out why women are the way they are and what it means for YOU. - You’ll find out how to spark attraction in a woman … how to get to a more intimate level quickly … and how to keep that spark going as long as you want. - You’ll learn how to keep a relationship from getting boring or too serious … how to keep your woman from changing for the worse … and how to feel so secure in how she feels about you that you don’t have to worry about ANY other guy.

Let me give you a blow-by-blow breakdown of how we’re going to proceed over the next week.

HOW DATING & ATTRACTION REALLY WORK Every system has a foundation. Some guys base their seduction science on NLP; others say that it all comes down to the approach and building rapport. There are other guys who focus on entertaining women and demonstrating value. Our foundation here at MeetYourSweet.com is a little different. I’m not interested in giving you the ‘quick fix’ (which, incidentally, is usually the false fix.) How many times have you heard of, or seen, a guy whose life is just too ‘compartmentalized’ to actually be sustainable? During the day, he has his ‘normal’ personality. Then at night, he puts on his sarging clothes, studies up on magic tricks and ‘cold reading’, and goes out to pick up women, hiding behind his ‘social personality’ like an automaton. Sooner or later, he’s going to run out of ‘material’ and ‘things to say’, and is going to run All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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face-first into that brick wall known as, ‘Uhhhhh … what am I s’posed to do next?’ See, that’s the problem with ‘faking it’. At some point, you’re going to run into a situation that’s simply beyond the bounds of what you know … and you’re going to be stumped. But if you’re NOT ‘faking it’, and you’re actually BEING that guy who actually IS good with women, you’re NEVER going to have that problem, because you’re ALWAYS going to be able to trust your own instincts. It’s a simple solution to a complex problem. Oh, and by the way … once you get past the surface-level and really get interested in the MECHANICS of what’s going on here – the ‘behind-the-scenes’ information that helps you to literally BE that quality guy – you’ll find that these skills are actually fundamental to just about every area of life. This isn’t just going to make you better at pickup. It’s going to make you better at LIFE. So, here’s the deal … Over the next week, you’re going to become familiar with the three core principles necessary to rid you of unwholesome and limiting ‘old-style’ beliefs pertaining to WOMEN and YOURSELF … and as a result, you’re going to experience a quantum shift in the kind of success you experience with women, and with life in general.

THE 3 PRINCIPLES OF DATING ENLIGHTENMENT Dating Principle #1: Men and women are different. This is a hugely profound statement, and yet few men actually INTERNALIZE it and cross that boundary between ‘knowing’ and ‘doing’. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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For example, a lot of guys know on a theoretical level that women and men are not the same … and yet they continue, on some level, to expect women to be ‘more like men’. Often, this takes the shape of the guy who’s biding his time and waiting for ‘The Big One’ (a.k.a. ‘the one’) while he ‘has fun for now’ with women who, secretly, he considers ‘beneath him’ and ‘not up to his standards’ … … without realizing that the woman he REALLY wants … the one who implicitly ‘gets it’ and ‘understands him’ … … is NEVER going to show up, unless he decides to take the bit between the teeth and actually take the initiative as far as female behavior patterns go. Guys like these are the ones who never actually invest any effort or time into actually UNDERSTANDING feminine psychology or what ‘works’ with women … and so they end up repeating the same old relationship-pattern again and again. (While all the time, figuring that, at some point, this fantastic woman is going to just show up in their lives without the need for them to make any changes to their attitude or behavior first.) We all know that men and women are different. But if you want to get some SUCCESS with women, you’ve got to understand HOW they’re different … and what that means for YOU. Dating Principle #2: Women are attracted to men because they’re men. OK guys. This is a big one. Have you noticed that there’s a huge tendency towards ‘feminizing’ ourselves as men lately? Everywhere you look, guys are sensitizing, tenderizing, and demasculinizing themselves in the hopes that this will somehow attract women. Here’s a new concept for you: women like men who are MEN. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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You know: strong, masculine guys who know who they are, what they want, and who have the confidence to do and be as they believe best. Not a whimpering, supplicating creature that’s deliberately scrubbed all residual masculinity, like unwanted barnacles, from its personality and who attempts to attract women through its complete LACK of anything that might ‘offend’ … … like being up-front about attraction … like teasing a woman and making her laugh … like daring to cross ‘boundaries’ in a playful, laid-back way … like taking RISKS and being a MAN. Enough of us have bought into the concept that to be ‘a man’, and to telegraph to women the fact that we – like everyone else on this planet – actually enjoy sex, and wouldn’t mind having some from time to time, is a BAD THING if you want to attract a woman. The result? A strange and cloying tendency to ‘befriend’ women, act like their therapists, and generally attempt to repress any shows of genuine attraction or sexuality in the hopes of coming in ‘under the radar’. This kind of behavior positively reeks of spinelessness – and not only that, but MANIPULATION. That’s right: men who try to suppress their own inherent maleness in order to get women are: - manipulating themselves, by pretending that basic aspects of their character are not ‘appropriate’ and do not exist - manipulating HER, by lulling her assumed ‘suspicions’ and pretending to be and want something that, respectively, they are not and do not.

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Part of creating massive and ongoing success with women is recognizing the fact that you are a man, and that remaining true to that manhood, and never apologizing for it, is an ESSENTIAL aspect of being a high-caliber guy and of being attractive to blue-ribbon candidate women. Dating Principle #3: Non-attachment is what works – don’t get obsessive. The moment you start getting too attached to the outcome of any situation – the moment you start to act like a guy WITHOUT OPTIONS – is the moment that the tables turn, you give up all your CONTROL and POWER, and put HER in the driver’s seat of what happens next. Incidentally, it’s also the moment that she begins to sense your inherent instability … and her attraction for you begins to wane. On the other hand, if you can create a reality for yourself where you have PLENTY of options … and you know that ‘another, better one’ could literally show up at any minute … … then you NEVER get too attached to what happens, you NEVER start obsessing, and you NEVER inadvertently create your own, negative reality by acting needy and insecure. And by the way: this isn’t about trying to ‘not care’, or cultivating an attitude of apathy. It’s simply about knowing your own worth, and never being DESPERATE.

WHAT’S COMING UP… And here’s how those 3 principles are going to be applied over the next few days … Day 2 (tomorrow): How the female mind works... and how to use this knowledge to your advantage! Discover how female brains are wired, and what this means for YOU. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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Day 3: The MOST IMPORTANT secret to making a woman want you So what does it take to ‘man up’? What does it take to inspire irresistible sexual chemistry in a woman? What does it REALLY take to be a man? And why do women want a ‘manly man’ anyway? I’ll give you a quiz to measure exactly how well you’re igniting sexual polarity in a woman and give you concrete techniques to up your sex appeal. Day 4. Become rejection-proof by mastering your inner game How to ditch your overt attachment to a particular outcome, and lose the sense of desperation and neediness that’s keeping you trapped in Rejection Hell. How to update your attitude and approach to dating and attraction so that you become the strong, masculine man who NATURALLY attracts women and keeps their interest … all without a hint of groveling, supplication, or ass-kissing. Day 5. Unravel female flirtation signals to FASCINATE women Find out how you can use your ‘insider knowledge’ of a woman’s mind to maximize your success in attracting women. Day 6. Prevent the doldrums from poisoning your loved-up bliss Why is it that some guys seem to be trapped in a cycle of continuing relationship blahs, while for others, that bond just keeps getting better and better? Why is it that some relationships turn sour after just a month or two, even if they seemed GREAT at first? Learn the secrets of ‘relationship management’ so that your life is IMPROVED by the presence of your female chosen one. This is the basic ‘success package’ that you need to get your feet planted firmly on the road to knowledge and the kind of AUTHENTICALLY high-caliber lifestyle that WILL attract great women. One last thing before I go … this is all completely different stuff from the ‘routines’ and All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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‘techniques’ that you may have learned from other, more ‘commercial’ dating coaches. This isn’t about setting you up with the ‘fake it til you make it’ lifestyle that somehow never seems to QUITE click with the ‘real you’ … this is about shucking the husk of inauthenticity and mediocrity, and effortlessly ATTRACTING ‘quality’ into your life. This is by no means impossible. And it’s my honor to show you the way. Keep an eye out for section two, coming your way tomorrow! Be cool,

Slade Shaw MeetYourSweet.com

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6-Part MiniCourse Day 2: How the female mind works...and how to use this knowledge to your advantage! Ask the average guy to name some examples of HOW men and women are different, and usually the answer you’ll get will include at least one of the following: - Women want commitment more than men - Women want to get married and have kids and men are happy just having sex and hanging out - Women either want ‘Nice Guys’ or ‘Jerks’ whereas guys just want good-looking women - Women give sex to get love, men give love to get sex

Here’s the problem with this method of thinking. When you try to limit your way of thinking about women and attraction to a set of GENERALIZATIONS and STEREOTYPES, you’re seriously limiting your chances of ever getting past the level of ‘mediocrity’ with women. If you want to get interested in attracting some seriously excellent women into your life, you’ve got to go beyond where most men are content to stay (read: where they’ll get SOME women … just not necessarily GREAT women) and actually get a deeper understanding of what’s going on here. Here’s something else that could be secretly crippling your ability to attract women: an unspoken desire that WOMEN WERE MORE LIKE MEN.

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Ever heard a guy say something like this about a woman: ‘Yeah, she’s pretty emotional. Fortunately, I’m more logical’? Or, ‘Why do women always have to blow things out of context?’ A lot of guys UNCONSCIOUSLY think in these kinds of ways about women. Deep down, they wish that women were MORE LIKE MEN. They expect that, if they get ‘good enough’ with women – or meet the ‘right woman’ – all her behavior will start to make sense and they’ll naturally just fall ‘into synch’ with one another. Unfortunately, this is usually code for ‘one day I’ll meet a woman who’s enough like me that we just ‘click’ and everything will be easy. Until then, I’ll settle for whatever comes along.’ These are usually the guys who are WISHING for something better, but who get tied down in ‘accidental’ relationships of convenience … and who develop a pretty serious case of the how-the-hell-did-I-end-up-here’s. So please. Yes, it’s true that men and women are actually a lot more similar than most of us realize … we often both want the same things and even have the same thoughts … … but there are still going to be differences, and if you’re interested in becoming a topnotch kinda guy (read: the kind that excellent women find irresistible), you’ve got to stop hoping that the feminine brain can ever be reverse-engineered or 100% understood by a guy. Here’s a little cold, hard biology to prove my point … did you know that what we think of as ‘gender’ has as much to do with BIOLOGY as CULTURE? In other words, it’s not necessarily ‘nurture’ that makes a woman girly. Give a little girl a choice between a truck and a teddy bear, and studies show she’ll reach All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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for the teddy bear. Translated into ‘grown-up’ speak, that means that women tend to be more interested in PEOPLE than they are in THINGS. Now obviously, there are no ‘absolutes’ in place here, and we all know people who are varying degrees of exception to the norm. But if you can accept the FACT that women are inherently different on a biological AND a cultural level, so much the better. Women are different from us. Expect differences. But at the same time, if you’re trying to bury your confused little head in the soothing sand of gender stereotypes, hear me when I say that to do so is tantamount to broadcasting signals that say THIS: ‘I am just another average guy, just like all the other average guys out there! Quality women need not apply! All excellent women will be hopelessly overqualified to date me! Mediocre women and mediocre relationships, taking applications now!’ Labelizing is childish and immature. Women will know when you’re trying to soothe your confusion with outrage or labels. To succeed in this area, you’ve got to get interested not in what you EXPECT, but in what IS. Following are 10 examples of how you can improve your interactions with women RIGHT NOW.

1. Get her talking about herself. Here’s something a lot of guys do: they start churning out this big list of good qualities and shamefully-transparent Ways That I’m Cool. Unfortunately, this behavior pretty much screams ‘insecurity’, makes it blatantly clear that you’re trying to ‘get something to happen’, makes you seem like a guy lacking in options, and will effectively turn a quality women OFF. To genuinely impress a woman, you have to act with SUBTLETY. Give her the space to decide for herself that you are a ‘cool guy’, and you will ultimately arrive at that destination with a lot more assurance and style than if you’d attempted to pave your own All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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way into her good books. Here’s something that I’ve noticed about human nature: when it comes to ‘intangibles’ like ATTRACTION, words actually mean a lot less than you’d think. And in fact, TALKING about stuff can actually RUIN an atmosphere that was building. So if you’re hanging out with a woman and all of a sudden you start asking her if she’s OK, if she’s having a good time, if she likes you, and whether she ‘sees this going anywhere’, you’re going to kill the mood as quickly as if you’d stuck a pin in a balloon. Same goes for trying to ‘seem cool’ by talking about stuff like how great your car is, how much you got in your last raise, and how much you pay in rent for your place. She doesn’t want to hear it, and it’s just going to make it obvious that her opinion means a lot to you – which IT SHOULDN’T yet. BUT, if you can just play it cool and allow UNSPOKEN stuff to show you how she’s feeling about you, and allow YOUR unspoken behavior to create an impression, and ACT COOL without having to talk yourself up, you’re going to seem a lot cooler than if you’d tried to ‘prove it’ by opening up your big mouth. My suggestion is this: that you stop trying to get something to HAPPEN, and focus instead on just being there with her and making sure she’s enjoying your company in a laid-back and subtle way. Women tend to want men who make them FEEL certain ways … not men who try to logically PROVE that they ‘should be able to’ make them feel certain ways. Let go of your need to convince her of anything. Act like a guy with value. And as a general rule, high-value guys don’t tend to over-explain things, act like they care too much about someone else’s opinion, or explain themselves overly much. They just DO things, and let other people figure out how things stand on their own.

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2. Make her FEEL THINGS when she’s with you. Women are suckers for emotion. They want to FEEL THINGS. They want to get INVOLVED. And when you are talking about ‘dry’ stuff like your job, the weather, and the dinner menu, she’s not going to be feeling ANYTHING. Cue boredom and a burgeoning wish on her part to end the date and go home early. If you want to be the kind of guy that she can’t stop thinking about, you’ve got to involve her EMOTIONALLY … and then SHE will do the rest. And that doesn’t necessarily mean ‘talking about emotions’, it means being a fun, interesting guy who fills her up with all sorts of different feelings. A good way to create emotions is to make her laugh. Be unpredictable. Talk to her about weird stuff (‘what would you do if you had a penis for a day?’). Get her to tell you about stuff that MEANS something. Don’t just sit around eating food together and ‘being polite’ – if you’re out with a woman, do something that will create excitement and adrenaline. Personally, I like to take women out to DO stuff: playing 1-on-1 basketball or going swimming together.

3. Don’t do the whole ‘funny insults’ thing. Guys are often rude to each other. We like it that way. We talk about farts, we belch, we cuss, and we make fun of each other. If you want to create a sexy, flirty atmosphere, treat her like a lady (but don’t take this as an excuse to hold back on the flirting and playful funny-talk.) Focus on making her feel like a woman, and she will respond by being upping the femininity more and more. It’s a hell of a way to create ‘an atmosphere’.

4. Learn how to talk about stuff that’s INTERESTING to women.

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Start broadening your understanding of the world. Read magazines, watch TV and the news, check out blogs and newsposts on the Internet. Pick up quirky facts. Get interested in pop psychology and offer to ‘read’ her personality for her.

5. Know that looks matter … but not as much as you think they do. Women, believe it or not, are NOT as much into looks as you are. Obviously, a toned and muscular body will help you to be more successful with women (and is hopefully something that you’re interested in getting FOR YOURSELF as a mark of self-respect), but it is not essential. The thing that tends to attract women is a feeling that you are socially ‘better’ than they are. Women are very rarely attracted to guys who are further down the status line than they are, but they will often go for a man who has ‘social value’. ‘Status’ can be summed up as a perceived ability to ‘make things happen’. For example, in a club, the owner of the club is usually attractive to lots of women because he has a perceived POWER and ability to ‘make things happen’ within that environment. Women are often drawn to that ability in a man because, to some extent, they want to be with a guy who can protect them and boost their OWN social standing. In fact, most women would prefer to be with a high-status and physically average-looking guy than a good-looking, low-status guy. Other signifiers of social value include: laid-back posture; pronounced personal style; lots of friends; interest from other women; and, to a lesser extent, good looks.

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with a powerful, in-control guy is that you DO NOT get freaked out by tears or her upsets (even if they are directed at you.) Sometimes a woman will get upset because, on some level, she needs to know that she can trust you and that she’s ‘safe’ with you (i.e. she can rely on you to be in control.) If you can stay calm and not get fazed if she’s upset, crying, or frightened, this will increase her overall regard for you MASSIVELY.

7. Let her get it off her chest. Suggestion: unless she has SPECIFICALLY ASKED for your advice, resist the urge to give it to her. If she’s venting about something, put your attention on just being with her and letting her talk. Don’t interrupt, and try not to offer solutions. Just let her talk, and empathize with her while keeping it short and sweet … so no trailing anecdotes about the time that you did X. (Stick to ‘I know how you feel.’

8. Allow for feminine subtlety. Expect it. A lot of women were brought up with a huge focus on being ‘polite’ (particularly the sweet ones.) Unlike a lot of guys, who are quite happy to say exactly what they feel like doing or don’t like, many women will ‘suggest’ things and hope (silently) that you are one of the UNUSUAL MEN who can pick up on subtlety. Try listening between the lines. For example, if a woman says, ‘Wouldn’t it be nice to do X?’ you can translate that as meaning, ‘I want to do X.’ If she says, ‘I don’t know …’, translate that as meaning, ‘No, thank you.’ If you can do this without making a big deal of it, she’s going to know that you’re one of a kind.

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9. Learn how to talk with your body. Learn to use your body to convey status and interest to a woman. Have you ever noticed that men who women find ‘attractive’ often have a very similar way of holding and moving their bodies? It usually involves 3 attributes: - Slowness. Don’t move quickly. - Smoothness. No jerky movements. - Steadiness. Don’t fidget around a lot. Holding your body in this way comes across very powerfully to women and instantly lends you more authority and power. Get some male role models from movies and real life and pinpoint what about them it is that conveys easy, powerful masculinity.

10. Spend money on your skills. If something matters to you, don’t skimp on it. If you want to figure out how to ‘get good’ with women and with LIFE, sometimes you’ll need to strategically spend some energy – in the form of cash – to get the ball rolling. Consider what is important to you and be OK with investing in it. If a seminar or a book or a course seems to be ‘speaking’ to you, and you get that feeling that goes, ‘I think I need to know this,’ do it. Never stop improving your skill base – and the best way to do that is to RESEARCH. Hopefully, these tips have given you a position of strength from which to start your improvements. In tomorrow’s lesson, you’re going to learn about the most important SECRET to making a woman want you (and it’s NOT what you think it is.)

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Be cool,

Slade Shaw MeetYourSweet.com

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6-Part MiniCourse Day 3: the MOST IMPORTANT secret to making a woman want you Today it’s time to take a look at the Holy Grail of attraction: what REALLY makes a woman want you. And yes, we really are going to take a stab at this – possibly the most universal of ALL questions about women – right here and now. What behaviors can YOU implement that are known to make the women that YOU DESIRE MOST to want you? First of all, it’s time for a small but important distinction. Be aware: there is a difference between LIKING and WANTING. A woman can like you perfectly fine, and still not be ATTRACTED to you. (Hint: this is called ‘friendship’.) Unfortunately, a lot of guys TRY to create ‘attraction’, when in fact, what they’re ACTUALLY doing is creating FRIENDSHIP. Many guys attempt to do things for a woman which (he thinks) will make her want him … … but which, in actual fact, do nothing but broadcast his COMPLETE lack of perceived control over the situation, his DESPERATION to effect a certain ‘end’, and his cluelessness about ‘how attraction works’. Such men include those who preface a conversation with a female counterpart with the words, ‘Hey, can I buy you a drink?’ and ‘You’re pretty’ … … as well as guys who assume the ‘therapist’ role (hearing all about the ex, the guys who’ve ‘done her wrong’, and about the guy she’s currently seeing – even how great the sex is) … … as well as guys who ROLL OVER and play ‘dead’ for a woman (being the chauffeur, All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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buying her stuff, putting up with weird behavior and temper tantrums, and generally pandering to the idea that SHE is in control and YOU are supplicating to her.) Fortunately, there are many women out there who have too much self-respect, compassion, and BETTER OPTIONS than to encourage that kind of behavior from men … … but on the other, less-fortunate hand, such women DO exist who WILL accept (and in fact, blatantly orchestrate) such behavior … some, who even EXPECT IT. Such women are toxic, and you would do well to avoid all interactions with them. Sex is not a valid currency in the mind of ANY man who has a modicum of value. So here’s the point: those are the kind of women who ‘like you’ (or appear to) rather than actually WANTING YOU. (They are also, often, the kinds of women who believe that ‘men are rats’, that they’re only out to ‘get one thing from a woman’, and that your funds are a valid exchange for such shreds of time and fleshliness as she’s prepared to throw your way.) … and let’s be honest here. Most of the time, that fleshliness is REFERRED to often, but rarely actually MATERIALIZES. So she’ll hint, infer, and otherwise make you THINK that you’re maybe going to get a ‘reward’ for all your troubles … but it almost NEVER actually HAPPENS. There is an important lesson here: if you want to make a woman WANT you, you have got to be in control of yourself, and not seem DESPERATE. The easiest way not to seem desperate is, of course, to actually not BE desperate. And the best way to genuinely avoid desperation is to actually HAVE OPTIONS when it comes to women and dating. If you ever catch yourself feeling as though you’d ‘do anything’ for a woman just to have her hang around, she will SENSE it and be repelled.

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Why? Because women don’t like weak, needy men who are OK with receiving poor treatment simply to bask in her presence. Power corrupts. And absolute power corrupts absolutely. So lesson one: don’t give away your power. Don’t supplicate. Don’t beg. Don’t be desperate. For now, put your attention on the necessity of not ‘faking’ anything (i.e. not having to PRETEND not to be needy or desperate, while all along your heart’s hammering away and your palms are sweating because this is Your Big Chance) … and of actually HAVING OPTIONS. A few solid guidelines: - Don’t be on call for her. - Don’t drop everything for her. - Don’t wait for her to validate you. - Don’t offer to purchase anything or expend any resources in order to talk to her or see her. (If taking girls out is something you already do for fun, then fine. But if you’re doing it because you want her to ‘like you’, then consider that your first red flag and drop that behavior like a hot potato.) - Don’t be the one she calls ONLY when she ‘needs something’. - Be a man, not a puppy-dog. But enough with the doom and gloom. So now you know how to make a woman ‘like’ you as opposed to ‘want’ you … … so how do you flip the coin? How do you make her WANT YOU? All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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Is it looks? Is it wealth? Is it confidence? Is it power? All those things are part of it, but they’re not THE SINGLE MOST FUNDAMENTAL THING. I want you to think deeper than what everyone else is telling you. Think deeper than ‘conventional wisdom.’ What is the single most fundamental thing that a woman wants in a sexual partner? Think about it… What’s the one thing she HAS to have? I can tell you straight off that it isn’t looks. There are plenty of average-looking guys with beautiful women in their lives. And quality women don’t tend to be overly impressed by wealth. Confidence is definitely a big one, but it’s still not ESSENTIAL a full 100% of the time, with 100% of women. … so WHAT IS IT? Here goes: the MOST important thing that a woman needs in order to WANT YOU is … … that you are a MAN.

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That you know what it means to be a man … that you’re OK with it … that you don’t APOLOGIZE for it … that you have the strength to BE it … and that you ARE it, through and through, 100% congruence … meaning, there’s no ‘act’ here. (Because women can smell FALSITY.) Women are attracted to MEN, plain and simple. A MAN is someone who’s different from her in every way. A MAN is someone who has integrity, knows who he is, and knows where he’s going. A MAN is someone that a woman can trust to guide her and lead her into a great future. A MAN is someone who has the strength to let her be her most feminine self without ever making her feel that SHE’S the one who’s going to have to ‘carry’ them both. Who can let her know that everything’s going to be OK. Who’s not fazed by her femininity. Who supports her EMOTIONALLY, not just MATERIALLY. Who validates HER instead of looking TO her for validation. Here’s what ‘being a man’ ISN’T: - Trying to be her ‘friend’ in order to come in ‘under the radar’. - Paying for attention, affection, or conversation. - Disguising your truth in order to ‘create an impression.’ (For example, hanging out in the VIP lounge and flashing your money-clip around in order to get ‘highclass’ women, when it’s actually beyond your means to maintain.) - Freaking out when she reacts emotionally to a situation. - Relying on her for validation and approval.

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- Looking to her for decisions and opinions. A woman will go to other women to share feelings, gossip, and talk about the neighbors. She’ll go to a MAN for her other needs. She’ll go to a MAN when she wants to lean on someone strong. She’ll go to a MAN when she wants to let loose and go wild. A woman wants a man because he’s a MAN … not because he’s ‘just like her’ or ‘just like a friend’. I want you to get this concept, because it’s THAT important. Have you ever been in the situation where you’re the guy a girl goes to when she has ‘boy problems’ and wants to talk them through … but if you try to kiss her or move things forward physically, she balks and backs off and makes an excuse? This sort of thing happens when a woman just isn’t ‘feeling’ your masculinity. You’re not making her feel safe, supported, or that you’re strong enough to LEAD. And by the way … making a woman ‘feel supported’ is NOT about doling out relationship advice, telling her she’s ‘too good’ for other guys, or being the shoulder to cry on. It’s about letting her know, tacitly, that YOU are always in control, that you are someone she can RELY on, and that you can ‘handle it’, whatever ‘it’ is. See, this is something that a lot of guys struggle with. They’re AFRAID to be ‘men’ because they don’t want to SCARE anybody (like women). They’re scared to just be a man and be OK with it. By trying not to give too much ‘air-time’ to aggressiveness or masculinity, they’ve actually NEUTERED themselves and become a ‘blank cartridge’ in terms of ATTRACTION. This is why so many women seem to prefer ‘jerks’. Not because they actually WANT a ‘jerk’, but because, when faced with a choice between a ‘sensitive new-age guy’ and a JERK, they’d rather pick the jerk … because at least HE knows how to be a MAN. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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(Sadly for many women, they literally are unaware that there is a middle ground here – that great men do exist who are neither SNAGs nor jerks, who are EXCELLENT men who also know how to BE MEN. This is why ‘jerks’ have such a cachet for many … because they literally don’t know of anything else that’s out there that’s still capable of being a man. Fortunately for these women, you will be able to convey this quality to them soon.) When you suppress your masculinity in order for women to ‘be OK’ with you, you actually just guaranteed that a woman’s going to feel NOTHING around you. Just that. Neutrality. Not aroused. Not hot. NOTHING. Guys have LOST the ability to be men … and, in the process, they’ve lost what it takes to attract women. Now, I’m making no assumptions about YOU personally. But for those guys out there who feel like they could use a little more instruction on what it takes to be a man … I have something to say to you. It’s NOT the end of the world. You’re not resigned to being the guy you are now for always. Think about how much you’ve changed from the way you were at 13 years old … or even at 3 years old. You have the potential for AMAZING growth and development. In five years, you could look back on the guy you are now and feel like you have nothing in common with him. You could be the MAN that takes attracting excellent women for granted. You could be so transformed that you barely even remember what it's like to feel stuck in your old life.

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If you’re happy with the man you are now and the life you have now, then by all means stay with what works. But if you’re NOT completely happy … if you feel STUCK in old patterns of getting rejected and beating yourself up … if you’re absolutely 100% willing to make a CHANGE in your life and take that risk... …Then you’re ready for the next step in your seduction instruction. TAKE A SHORT QUIZ Answer “yes” or “no” to each question below. 1. I don’t have too much of a problem attracting women I find attractive. 2. I often find myself adjusting who I am or even making things about myself up to seem attractive. 3. I can think of a lot of reasons that a woman wouldn’t be attracted to me. 4. I find it hard to meet women whom I want AND like. 5. There’s not much that embarrasses me about myself. 6. The women I want rarely, if ever, want me back. 7. I’m confident that someday a woman will come along who will recognize what a great guy I am. 8. As long as the sex is good, I’ll put up with a lot in a woman. 9. I don’t have any problem with being assertive. 10. I find it upsetting when a woman gets upset or starts throwing a fit. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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11. I’m confident that I can handle most things that life throws at me. 12. I feel like I have a pretty good relationship with my Dad. 13. It annoys me when things don’t go as planned. 14. I’m not really a “picky” person, I’m pretty good at going with the flow. 15. I’ve got a good idea of what I want my future to look like in the next couple years. TOTAL UP YOUR POINTS For every answer that matches below, give yourself a point. For every answer that doesn’t match, subtract a point. 1 – YES, 2 – NO, 3 – NO, 4 – NO, 5 – YES, 6 – NO, 7 – NO, 8 – NO, 9 – YES, 10 – NO, 11 – YES, 12 – YES, 13 – NO, 14 – YES, 15 – YES WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR RESULTS Now, you may be expecting me to tell you whether or not you’re a “real man” based on your score, but I’m not going to tell you what your score “should” be. There’s no threshold that you cross over that tells you that NOW you’re a man. Clearly, the more points you get, the better you’re doing … but this is a PROCESS we’re talking about here. You’re going to continue learning more about what it means to be a man until the day you die. But if your score wasn’t as high as you thought it should be, I’m going to give you three mind-blowing principles right now that, if you master them, have the power to completely transform your life. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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CRASH COURSE IN MANHOOD Tip #1: Get passionate about something other than women. There’s nothing less attractive than a guy who’s OK with ‘settling’ for a life that he’s not PASSIONATE about. If you are living your life without energy and enthusiasm, then you are going to find it difficult to EVER get a really excellent woman interested in you. And by the way … ‘passion’ doesn’t count if it’s only WOMEN you’re passionate about. You need to have interests other than simply ‘getting good with women’ if you want to be a compelling man. Here’s what most guys do: they get comfortable, get a steady job, rent a decent place in an apartment complex, and spend all their free time on some combination of the following: the computer, working out, and/or drinking. And then they complain that they don’t have a girlfriend! If you want to be the kind of MAN that a WOMAN desires, then you have got to get interested in living a full life. And this isn’t something that you ‘do’ to ‘get women’. Living a kick-ass life is hopefully something you want to do FOR YOURSELF – otherwise I’m going to assume you don’t have a lot of self-respect (in which case, you’re going to find it difficult to EVER get a quality woman.) Tip #2: Don’t give when you don’t WANT to give. Some guys find it too easy to become a ‘yes-man’. You know – the guy who agrees to do things, give things, and say things when he doesn’t really want to and he doesn’t really mean it. For example: the kind of guy who’ll agree with a woman, EVEN WHEN he doesn’t All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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ACTUALLY agree, just so she’ll ‘like him more’. Or the kind of guy who’ll compliment a woman on something he could not care less about so she’ll think they’re ‘on the same wavelength’. Or the kind of guy who’ll inconvenience himself massively for a woman because he’s afraid that, if he doesn’t, he’ll ‘lose his chance’. Here’s the truth: it is THAT VERY ATTITUDE that will ‘lose you your chance’, because a great woman will not stay attracted to someone who’s so petrified of ‘losing her’ that he can’t even bring himself to be authentic. Learn how to say ‘no’ in a way that’s NOT A BIG DEAL. Don’t get freaked out if you have a different opinion to someone. Get excited about radical honesty and the revitalizing effect it can have on your relationships with women. Consider the fact that a conflict of opinion, when handled well, is interesting and creates the friction that leads to passion. Be interesting. Be OK with being interesting. Tip #3: Get validation from something in your life other than women. If you are relying on success with women to validate you and make you feel worthwhile, then your satisfaction with your life and your sense of confidence as a man is forever going to be ephemeral and linked to external events that are, BY THEIR VERY NATURE, constantly shifting. As a result, you’ll put way too much emphasis on the outcome of ANY situation with a woman. The worst-case scenario is that you’ll be unable to relax around women, and your weird All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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urgency and intensity will creep her out. The best-case scenario is that you’ll be strapped to a life-long roller-coaster of ‘I totally rule!’ and ‘Man, I SUCK’ because you’ll never be in control of your own value … and this can be exhausting. This is where ‘creating and living a GREAT life’ comes in. When you have a full life that interests you and from which you derive pleasure, suddenly ‘women’ are NOT SUCH A BIG DEAL. That’s not to say that you can’t WANT a woman … but you no longer NEED ONE in order to feel ‘normal’. And as a result, women everywhere sense your innate control and ability to create SELFSATISFACTION, and will immediately start showing up in your life. But careful now … they can smell inauthenticity. This will only work if you’re doing it FOR REAL, not just as a ploy to ‘get women’. I’ll talk to you again soon. Be cool,

Slade Shaw MeetYourSweet.com

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6-Part MiniCourse Day 4: Become Immune to Rejection by Mastering Your Attitude Today: how to ditch your overt attachment to a particular outcome, and lose the sense of desperation and neediness that’s keeping you trapped in Rejection Hell. Also: how to update your attitude and approach to dating and attraction so that you become the strong, masculine man who NATURALLY attracts women and keeps their interest … all without a HINT of groveling, supplication, or ass-kissing. The way I see it, the biggest thing that’s keeping most guys back from experiencing real, ongoing success with women is FEAR. It’s the fear of REJECTION. And no matter how much you ‘know’, on a conscious level, that you’re a great guy who women ‘should’ be attracted to, that rational, LOGICAL part of your mind doesn’t even make a DENT in your emotional, gut-level response to situations involving ‘instinctive responses’ like FEAR. All the rationality in the world doesn’t affect that deep-down part of your brain … the part where EMOTIONS hold sway. Emotionally, you don’t want to have to experience rejection: the fear of ‘not being good enough’ … … the fear that you’ll end up at a loss for words, or that you won’t know what to say, or that you won’t be able to make her laugh, or that you won’t be able to make her WANT YOU. But don’t worry. This is COMPLETELY NORMAL. Most of the dating advice out there centers to a large degree around ‘talking yourself out of it’, and going out there and focusing on things like talking to lots of women, being All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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sociable, and improving your social skills in order to combat a fear of rejection. And this is all important stuff that I’m very much 100% behind. It’s true, success with women DOES rely massively on a strong set of social skills … and it’s true that the only way to IMPROVE those skills is to get off the couch, get out there, and talk to people. But that advice alone isn’t giving you the full story. There’s something missing. There are lots of men who know what they ‘should’ be doing … but somehow that’s still not enough to actually cross that divide between ‘knowing’ and ‘doing’. And what’s getting in the way? FEAR. Emotions. Instincts. All the gut-level reactions that need more than LOGIC to counteract. If you don’t have a solid ‘game strategy’ about rejection and how to ‘deal’ with it, you’re always going to be balanced on the knife-edge between self-confidence and rock-bottom complete lack of self-esteem. You’re never going to be in control of how you feel about yourself … and you’re ALWAYS going to be handing over your power to EXTERNAL situations that you have no control over. Can anyone say … EMASCULATED? Don’t get me wrong here, guys. This is a BIG DEAL. For most men, all it takes is one little ‘failure’ with a woman to scramble up all the good work and progress they’ve made so far. And if you’ve experienced ‘rejection’ on a REGULAR BASIS, without a lot of ‘successes’ to counteract it, you’ll be feeling SERIOUSLY scrambled up. It’s taken me a long time to figure this out for myself … but ‘logic’ simply doesn’t cut the mustard when rip-roaring emotions and instincts are concerned. If you want to get a handle on rejection and transform it from a barrier to your success to NOTHINGNESS, All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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then you’ve got to ‘fight fire with fire’ and rely on gut-level KNOWLEDGE to counteract gut-level EMOTION. This is where ATTITUDE comes in. There’s nothing ‘logical’ about attitude. It’s not all about ‘rationality’ and ‘words’. It’s about who you choose to BE. Consider this for a fact: most men think their attitude is something that ‘just happens’ and that they have very little control over. Subsequently, they set themselves up to LOSE when it comes to dating and women. If you’ve ever felt that the cards have been stacked against you, or that you’re somehow lacking the ‘advantages’ that other guys have, or that on some level you’re ‘not enough’ to be successful with women, I KNOW you know what I’m talking about here. And this is why so many men end up literally entraining themselves for failure. Here’s what usually happens. Many guys are COMPLETELY at the mercy of circumstance when it comes to women – and this is a situation that they create for themselves. Why? Because they believe that, if a great woman is attracted to them … a woman who’s ‘above’ what they’d ‘normally’ be able to get … they take it that this is somehow a ‘fluke’, or that they’ve ‘lucked in’, or that she’s ‘one of a kind’ … … and they’d better make the most of this amazing opportunity and ‘seal the deal’ before she gets a clearer idea of what kind of guy she’s dealing with here (i.e. someone out of her league.) This is what’s known as a self-fulfilling prophecy. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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Here’s the sequence of events: - The guy can hardly believe his luck. He figures he must have ‘lucked in’ to this one. He instantly figures that she must not know what he’s ‘really like’ (i.e. lower status than her) and begins to worry that she’ll figure it out, so he starts trying to ‘wall her in’ before she can make a quick getaway. - This behavior inevitably strikes her as strange and unattractive. She begins to pick up on the stifled needy/desperate vibes coming her way and figures that this isn’t congruent with her original impression of a dude with confidence, masculinity, and OPTIONS… that, in fact, he’s acting like a desperate, feardriven guy who’s trying to ‘lock her down’ before she ‘escapes’. - She is driven away by the neediness and desperation inherent in his behavior, which triggers a ‘call and response’ situation wherein her increasing distance and aloofness causes even MORE neediness and desperation … thus sealing the deal. - She walks. He is left with a belief that his instincts were right all along: he’s not capable of sustaining attraction with a woman of that caliber – which of course REINFORCES that type of self-fulfilling-belief-based behavior the next time he unexpectedly attracts a hottie. In other words: this guy’s ATTITUDE is the thing that let him down. He saw himself in a certain way … and that belief was so strong that it eventually permeated the way SHE saw him, too. Imagine what could have happened if he’d acted on beliefs that SUPPORTED his strength and attraction instead of sabotaging them. This is a home truth that not a lot of guys are aware of. They think that, if you can ‘fake it til you make it’, or just ACT in a certain way to ‘get the girl’, then she’ll be ‘fooled’ and All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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everyone will go home happy. But that’s nothing but a pipe dream. Sure, a certain ‘type’ of woman might be fooled by a few routines, openers, and one-liners … but a really EXCELLENT woman will be able to sniff out incongruence, and sooner or later, she’ll be REPELLED by it. There’s just no getting around it. You attract what you believe. And this is something you can’t ‘fake’. So here’s a suggested attitude for you to try on for size, instead. If your attitude was one of ‘it’s not such a big deal’, and you believed that, since you’ve got what it takes to attract ONE woman, you’ve got what it takes to attract MORE … … then you wouldn’t do what most guys end up doing, which is that she will INEVITABLY ‘find out’ about the ‘real you’ and be turned off. (Which of course, is usually EXACTLY what ends up happening.) The attitude is what CREATES the REALITY. Suggestion: instead of focusing on FEAR, consider the notion of ABUNDANCE. In a very real way, there are A LOT of women out there. And some of these women are going to find you attractive. Count on it. So how about this … instead of thinking that you’ve ‘fluked it’ when you feel a spark with an excellent woman, how about looking at it in a way that actually supports your lifestyle as a quality man. Namely: take it as incontrovertible PROOF that you have now improved to the level that you can actually attract women of this caliber ACROSS THE BOARD. No ‘luck’ and no ‘coincidence’ involved. If it happens once, it’ll happen again.

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A natural byproduct of this belief is GENUINE RELAXATION and an ability to just ‘chill’ and know that, whatever happens, it’s really NOT such a big deal. If she walks, so be it. Not a big deal. You can attract other women instead - one of whom, at some point, will hit all the right buttons … and vice versa. This is the attitude that will consistently get you women. You simply have to DETACH from any kind of obsessive, fear-based need to ‘make something happen’. That need will literally PREVENT you from attaining what it is that you want. Instead, why not take some of the pressure off yourself – and get more success at the same time? If you know there are going to be other chances, and that you’ve got other OPTIONS (even if you don’t know about them yet), you’re not going to feel compelled to stress and strain with THIS particular option. This lack of pressure then frees you up to just CHILL OUT, relax, and let things take their own natural course … … which, of course, leaves YOU feeling way more relaxed, and able to act APPROPRIATELY to the situation. So does this mean, then, that a few butterflies aren’t normal? Nope. Nervousness is normal. This isn’t about ‘not caring’ or being apathetic … it’s just that the pressure of ‘get it right, or be humiliated’ is now REMOVED. The stakes aren’t so high, so YOU can take more of a back seat, feel more chilled, and just relax into the present moment … which of course is going to help you come across as more confident and more INHERENTLY MASCULINE and ATTRACTIVE to a quality woman … with ZERO neediness or desperation. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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You will embody the character of a Man With Options. So what if you don’t actually HAVE any options? Simple. Act as though you do. FORCE YOURSELF to relax. And that attitude, that embodiment of confidence and relaxation, is literally going to be what CREATES those options for you. But you’ve got to take that leap of faith first before you’ll see any results. Make no mistake: women like LEADERS. It’s a little hard to seem like a leader if you’re paralyzed by a fear of ‘what might happen when she loses interest’. But it’s EASY to be a leader, and to set the stage for a laid-back, fun, relaxed atmosphere that’s conducive to ATTRACTION, if you know you’ve always got more options. And THAT is what a woman is looking for. She wants to be able to feel that you’ve ‘chosen’ her … not that you’ve desperately latched on to whatever opportunity that Fate has so whimsically provided you with, because you didn’t have anything better going on. And look. I know this is a lot to take in all at once. Truth be told, for most men, it involves a FUNDAMENTAL SHIFT in the way that they look at the whole concept of dating and attraction. And, it requires a certain amount of ‘faith’ that, in a phrase, the Universe has got your back and that you are an inherently quality guy who women will find attractive. So don’t stress too much about internalizing all this at once. Just keep this concept of ‘abundance’ in the back of your mind, and every time you feel yourself starting to experience that desperate feeling, or worrying that ‘there’s not going to be another one’, FORCE yourself to calm down. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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Take a deep breath, and expel it slowly and forcefully through pursed lips. (In horsetraining circles, this is known as ‘letting out the butterflies’.) Then, mentally take out the concept of ‘abundance mentality’ from the back of your mind. Look at it. Know that this concept has been around for longer than you can imagine. Know that your beliefs shape your reality. Know that the SECOND that you attract the attention of a woman, that can be taken as incontrovertible proof that you are now capable of attracting that ‘level’ of quality on a fundamental level … proof that you’ve got what it takes to get more of the same. And as time goes on, your skills will improve … and so will the caliber of the women you attract, until you’re getting ‘blue-ribbon’ quality – the kind of women that YOU, personally, find the most attractive of ALL. Remember: this is about ‘manning up’. Women dig MEN. And a man, by definition, is someone who ‘feels the fear and does it anyway’ … and preferably, without SHOWING her that he’s afraid. No mewling, puling, or cringing permitted. Keep an eye out for tomorrow’s lesson, because I’m going to delve at length into how to actually APPLY these principles into two of the ‘Big Ones’: how do you ATTRACT a member of the opposite sex … and what do you DO with that attraction once you’ve got it? Be cool,

Slade Shaw MeetYourSweet.com

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6-Part MiniCourse Day 5: How to Apply the Dating Principles & Earn MASSIVE Success Good news. If all the theory so far has been boggling your brain, then you’ll be glad to know that TODAY’s newsletter is all about PRACTICE… …in other words, how to APPLY everything you’ve learned so far. Obviously, there’s not enough time here to go into everything in depth, but I want you to be aware that the Dating Principles we’ve given you over the past three days have enormous power and potential. Here’s how to use them. As a quick refresher, here are the three Dating Principles you’ve learned: Dating Principle #1: Men and women are different. Dating Principle #2:Women are attracted to men because they’re MEN. Dating Principle #3: Non-attachment is what works – don’t get obsessive. And now, for the ‘how-to’ part. DATING PRINCIPLE #1 APPLIED: Men and women are different. Most guys act in a way that presumes women will respond to the same things that men respond to, in a similar way. Case in point: most guys beat themselves up over their looks, expecting that women will have a hard time experiencing attraction for a guy who’s not particularly good looking. (Whereas the truth is, it tends to be his perceived ‘status’ and his air of CONTROL and CONFIDENCE that does it.) All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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Another example: take body-builders. Huge guys. Ripped as. Many men think of them as the epitome of masculine grace, strength, and aesthetics. But do WOMEN necessarily find them attractive? The answer is, Not as often as you’d think. (And in fact, many women are ACTIVELY REPELLED by the ‘walking anatomy chart’ look.) When you get right down to it, women are looking for a guy who can PROVIDE for them on an emotional and psychological, as well as physical, level. Although it’s true that looks will certainly get you ATTENTION from women, it’s also true that unless you’ve got the solid game to back those looks up, you’ll get a lot of first dates – but not much more than that. This is where you need to understand what she REALLY WANTS, and be able to give it to her … WITHOUT compromising yourself as a man, or what you’re willing and able to give. Now, I want to talk for a minute about the importance of MOOD and FEELINGS for a woman. If you want her to think that you’re an interesting guy, you need to concentrate on creating that atmosphere for her. Don’t expect her to do it. Again, it’s about ‘manning up’: YOU have to be the one to talk about interesting things and get a reaction out of her, or else she’s going to get bored … and put the responsibility for that boredom squarely back on your shoulders. A lot of guys approach a woman with a cleverly thought-out opening line, but have very little to say afterwards. They figure that attraction should be ‘fair’, and, seeing as how they’ve put their ego on the line by approaching her, it’s now HER turn to ‘carry’ the conversation. This may be logical, but it’s not going to get you anywhere. My best suggestion to you is to really just focus on what’s happening around you, RIGHT All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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NOW. If you’re talking to a woman, don’t get all tied up in what you should be saying next, what that look she’s giving you means, and whether you’re being ‘funny’ enough. Just BE THERE with her and stop getting in your own way. This is known as ‘presence of mind’ and is a very powerful tool to use – especially on very attractive women, as these are the ones used to guys ‘double-tracking’ their thoughts and putting a lot of time and energy into how to ‘seem cool’. If you’re not getting distracted by that little voice inside your head, and you’re able to just be present, fun, outrageous, and actually get a rise out of her, that is going to create FEELINGS. And those feelings are going to prove to her that you’re an interesting guy … and that you’re not like the rest of them. Secondly: don’t try TOO HARD to get her to like you. It will sabotage your masculinity. Know that the ‘average approach’ for most guys, when talking to an attractive woman, is to BOW DOWN and REFRAIN from challenging her in any way, because they’re afraid that to disagree with her is to damage their ‘chances’. This is false, and will effectively sabotage your progress. Challenging her is GOOD. It creates reactions, responses, FEELINGS. So if you’re having a difference of opinion, roll with it. It should be obvious that any kind of insulting behavior, mockery, or ‘nuttiness’ is not a good thing (so don’t be rigidly inflexible), but be OK with who YOU are and don’t kiss ass. Man up. Third: don’t be afraid to interrupt. There are a lot of dating gurus out there (especially in the online world) who advertise ways to ‘get women to approach you’ … sorry, but this just doesn’t float. If you’re waiting for a woman to approach YOU, you’re advertising that you’re NOT ENOUGH OF A MAN to approach HER. But if you wait for ‘just the right moment’ before approaching her, you’ll likely be waiting all night. Ditto if you’re one of those guys who lurks around, hoping for her to disentangle from her group in order to visit the toilet or the bar. All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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Attractive women are rarely alone. So you must be able to just roll on up and interrupt her conversation. If you’re OK with it, she will be too. Remember: you have to LEAD. This is what she wants you to do: LEAD, with strength, audacity, and a marked lack of apology. (Again, though: rudeness will get you nowhere.) Pay attention to who you’re approaching. Does she seem to be having fun? Does she have energy? Those are the women who are easiest to approach, because they’re in a mood to be ‘outrageous’ and go with the flow. (This is true even of inherently non-social situations, e.g. at the mall or the park or whatever.) Comfort and trust are also huge issues for women, which is another reason why you must take it upon yourself to CREATE that atmosphere that will set her at ease. If you seem nervous and uncertain, she’ll wonder what’s wrong and either get bored, or feel anxious. Hopefully I don’t have to belabor this next point, but let me just point out that ‘being a guy that women can trust’ is NOT the same as ‘being the guy she can trust to jump when she says jump’. It’s about allowing her to sense that you’re in control, you’re confident of your abilities, and you can handle whatever happens – INCLUDING, a brush-off from her. Often, a woman will brush you off as a ‘test’. She wants to see what will happen next. If you handle it well, this will often cause a MASSIVE RISE in her attraction to you, because you’ve just demonstrated that you’re not easily shaken. It’s simple: if she can’t faze you, then you must be socially ‘better’ than her. (A.k.a. ‘value’.) And as you know, this is a fundamental KEY of attraction for women. DATING PRINCIPLE #2 APPLIED: Women are attracted to men because they’re men. OK. So we all know by now that being a MAN is what cuts it for women.

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And what’s an ESSENTIAL part of manhood (that, by the way, many guys overlook)? It’s this: not caring too much about what women think. Have a focus and passion in your life that is OTHER THAN women. And while you’re at it, focus on building the qualities that make you feel more like the MAN you were born to be. I’m talking about courage, discipline, and drive. If you’re having a tough time thinking beyond the next pay-check, the next pizza, and the next party, you’re going to have a tough time sustaining attraction with a top-notch woman. Discipline your body at the same time you discipline your mind. Take it from me: your body was designed to move. You will feel better and look better and DO BETTER if you take even a little more care of yourself. Feed yourself nutritious food that sustains and nourishes you. Get outside and get moving before I come to your house and make you do it. Above all: I know, I know, it’s that counterintuitive thing at work again, but your success with women will astound even yourself if you can stop PRIORITIZING it so much. The hungry don’t get fed … and if you can channel your energy and enthusiasm into living a life that YOU LOVE, that you wake up every morning feeling enthused and excited to be a part of … … and (the clincher) it’s not just some big ‘act’ to get women … …THAT is when the cogs are going to engage and your whole life is going to shift into a higher gear. So take a step back and focus on yourself for a change. The more you want her approval, the less you’ll get it. The solution, of course, is to create a life for yourself where her approval NATURALLY is not that important to you – because you’re an interesting guy who’s ‘up to stuff’. Stuff that All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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she’ll probably want to be a part of. Natch. DATING PRINCIPLE #3 APPLIED: Non-attachment is what works – don’t get obsessive. Getting rid of that pressure within yourself to ‘see some results’ and ‘get some women’ and ‘MAKE IT WORK THIS TIME’ is going to go a long way towards helping you create the attitude of strength, calm, and ‘It’s all going to be OK’ that women LOVE. These principles all tie into each other. The more of a kick-ass life you’re leading, the less needy and desperate you’ll be, because you’ll be building up a self-image dependent upon a life that YOU have control over, as opposed to random things like the opinions of women. Instead of focusing on WOMEN, focus on YOURSELF, instead. This is a fundamental principle of success. Don’t fall down the slippery slope of approval-seeking, because that’s just going to creep people out. (And as you know, ‘creepy’ is the ultimate no-no. If you want to turn a woman off a guy, imply that he is creepy. Does the trick every time. You don’t want to become that creepy guy.) So it’s completely natural to care about what others (women) think of you … but just don’t care TOO MUCH. Don’t get needy, now. The more unfazed and self-controlled and RELAXED you can be about what happens in ANY given situation – a conversation, a phone-call, an argument, dealing with an upset woman - the more successful you’ll become. Learn not to take things so personally. When a woman brushes you off, it’s not about you. It’s not even about her. It’s just that the conditions weren’t right to create a connection. It’s up to YOU to see where things went wrong so that you can modify your approach next time.

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TIME FOR A LITTLE EXERCISE Before I conclude this lesson, I want you to whip out a sheet of paper and grab a pen. I’ve given you a lot of ideas so far about how you can modify the way you interact with women to increase your success in attracting them. Now I want you to PICK 5 ideas that appeal to you – they don’t have to be my ideas, they can be ones that you thought up while reading these lessons – and write them down. Once you’ve finished writing down the five concrete steps that appeal to you most, I want you to write at the top of the sheet of paper the following headline: “MY GOALS FOR THE NEXT WEEK.” I want you to put each of those five ideas into PRACTICE in the following week. That’s right – each and every one. Look, I know how most of us are. We come across a great idea and think, “Oh! That sounds great!” And then we sit on our hands and do absolutely nothing about it. I also know that when we’re not good at something, we’ll do everything in our power to resist getting better. That’s because practicing stuff that we suck at, quite frankly, sucks. But you’ve got to do it. Don’t let your mind talk you out of getting better. Success is your BIRTHRIGHT. Who the hell is your mind to talk you out of getting what’s yours? That’s it for today. Tomorrow we’re going to talk about how to apply these principles to the fine science of Relationship Management. Be cool,

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6-Part Minicourse Day 6: Prevent the Doldrums from Poisoning Your Loved-Up Bliss One of the biggest problems that guys everywhere face is that, once you’ve gone and created that attraction … WHAT ARE YOU MEANT TO DO NEXT? How are you supposed to keep that spark alive? How do you prevent a great relationship from turning sour over time? And is it true that sex wanes in intensity over time? (I’m just going to get last that question out of the way right now, because it’s a completely poisonous MYTH: NO, it absolutely DOES NOT wane over time. Not if you’ve chosen a great woman, you haven’t settled for someone less than, and you’re both committed to being honest with each other on a consistent basis. If the intensity DOES wane, that’s not ‘normal’: it’s a sign that you’re either settling for less, or that something in the relationship is not right.) So it’s quite clear that there’s a lot of confusion about what’s ‘meant to happen over time’ in a relationship. And to a great extent, we’ve all been acculturated to believe that things will naturally become ‘less than’ over time. The perfect example, of course, is the myth that ‘sex becomes less intense and less frequent over time’. Believe me: if you’re with someone who is EXCELLENT, and who you have not just desperately ‘settled for’ because they happened to represent the best option at the time … then the sex NEVER gets less than. You can take my word for it. Believe it or not, this widespread practice of buying into the B.S. applies JUST as much, if not MORE, to the ‘well-read’ among us … the guys who make a point of checking out the current wisdom of today’s ‘cottage industry’ that’s sprung up around the common goal of meeting a GREAT woman. This is because there’s a lot of information available on CREATING attraction, but very little quality advice indeed on the fine science of relationship management (a.k.a. ‘what do I do with her once I’ve got her?’) All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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How do you move a casual dating relationship along into a ‘real’ relationship? And once you’re exclusive, how do you prevent the relationship from morphing over time into a mirror image of every other mediocre relationship you’ve had before … including (but not limited to) the arguing, the nagging, the petty resentment, and general sense of SOURNESS? Yes, it’s true. Being a GREAT man is about having the SKILLS to not only create attraction, but also MAINTAIN and INTENSIFY it over time … so that you can end up with the kind of knock-your-socks-off QUALITY woman that you deserve. So here, without further harping on the intro, is the meat-and-potatoes of how to apply the Dating Principles learned on this course to RELATIONSHIPS. DATING PRINCIPLE #1 APPLIED: Men and women are different. There are going to be times in your relationship when misunderstandings take root. We are all imperfect human beings, so disagreements and miscommunications are NATURAL. (Please note: it is NOT ‘natural’ to deal with these miscommunications in a way that makes RESENTMENT ‘natural’ or ‘inevitable’. Take this at face value: it’s normal to DISAGREE. It is NOT normal to FIGHT about it … or to try and ‘cover up’ the fact that something’s not right, and pretend everything’s GREAT when it’s not, out of a fear of rocking the boat.) Here’s what I suggest: that when a disagreement, miscommunication, or other potentially difficult situation arises, instead of leaping to conclusions, being spurred on by fear, or being influenced by doubt … that you make a CONSCIOUS decision to believe the best of your partner. Give her the benefit of the doubt and, if torn between believing one thing or the other, make a deliberate decision to believe the ‘better’ option.

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Why? Well, first of all, because doubt and resentment will poison any relationship if you let them. But that’s obvious. Here’s the real reason: and it’s simple, really. You’re the one that chose to be with this woman. And if you’ve truly been living the lifestyle of a QUALITY MAN, then you will have CHOSEN this woman, not just SETTLED for her. So how about stepping up to the plate and demonstrating some faith in your own ability to choose well? Have some trust in yourself that you picked a great partner, and leave it at that. And thirdly … because that’s how all great relationships work, stoopid. DATING PRINCIPLE #2 APPLIED: Women are attracted to men because they’re men. First of all: forget everything you’ve ever been brainwashed into believing about how ‘relationships are equal’ and ‘in a good relationship, EVERYBODY wears the pants’. That is cataclysmic rubbish and will effectively poison your relationship. Yes, relationships are EQUAL, but that doesn’t mean that you both contribute the SAME THINGS to it. YOU are the man; YOU are the leader. You are the one whose leadership is going to infuse her with a sense of stability, with a belief that you can be trusted and that she is safe around you, and that everything is going to be OK … because YOU believe that it will be. Obviously, a woman is capable of reassuring herself on these matters anyway – but we’re talking about RELATIONSHIPS here, not ‘individual self-care’. So if she’s upset about something, the last thing you want to do is get freaked out, start shaking, and tell her that tears upset you and that you ‘can’t deal with it’ when she gets upset like this. To do so is going to prove to her that you can’t be trusted, that she is most likely stronger All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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than YOU, and that you have little to offer her in terms of masculinity. (Of course, it’s doubtful that these literal words will trundle through her brain; more likely, what will happen is that she’ll get a ‘bad feeling’ about you which will eventually translate into feelings of resentment and uncertainty. The effect, of course, is the same, and I’m sure I don’t have to tell you what it is.) Instead, what you want to do is LEAD. Take her in your arms, murmur in a calm, calm voice that it’s going to be OK, take the leading role, and COMFORT HER. Try not to be the one who needs to be ‘carried’. You’ve gotta man up, and any time that her emotions are pitching and yawing is one of the most powerful areas that you can demonstrate masculinity and control. (By the way … being ‘in control’ and being a ‘control freak’ are not one and the same. This isn’t about being bossy or setting ‘rules’. It’s about knowing how to gently take charge of a situation and subtly lead her into a healthy resolution that naturally takes her feelings into consideration.) When a woman feels like she can trust her man, she feels free to express her natural radiance. She laughs more, teases more, is more affectionate and playful, and tends not to hold back in the bedroom. By the way … this is why, if you’re always doing things like changing your mind, cancelling plans, or keeping her guessing about where she stands, she’s going to tighten up and become insecure, controlling, and jealous. Why? Because you’re demonstrating to her that you CAN’T BE TRUSTED. This isn’t just about the ‘big stuff’; every little action you make contributes towards that impression she has of you as being either someone she’s ‘safe with’ … i.e. someone who’s a trustworthy ‘leader’ … or someone she’s UNSAFE with … i.e. someone who can’t be trusted.

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Some guys think that the best way to keep a woman happy in a relationship is to let her get her own way all the time and just capitulate on issues that are important, simply to ‘keep her happy’. In the long run (and the short run too, come to think of it) this is destructive to the fiber of the relationship, because you’re showing her that SHE is leading YOU rahter than the other way round. Careful here. This isn’t about arbitrarily contradicting her or thwarting her plans to ‘keep her in line’. It’s about having the confidence to stay true to yourself and communicate your truth on matters that you believe in, EVEN IF she disagrees with you. Make authenticity your watchword. Compromise if it’s a compromise you BELIEVE IN, but if you feel strongly about something, stick to your truth and man up. Do it. DATING PRINCIPLE #3 APPLIED: Non-attachment is what works. The great thing about ‘non-attachment’ is that it literally PREVENTS you from EVER becoming needy. And as we all know, neediness is tantamount to premature death for her attraction to you, and the overall health and wellbeing of the relationship. If you’ve ever been in a relationship where things start off great … but over time, you feel as though she’s losing interest … things are getting kind of stale … she’s not smiling as much as she used to … and that you’re losing your ‘power’ in the relationship, then you’ve very likely experienced NEEDINESS first-hand. There really is no quicker way to kill a spark. And – like most everything to do with attraction and relationships – it all boils down to CONFIDENCE and SELF-ESTEEM. If you’re truly self-confident, and you truly have solid self-esteem, you’re going to implicitly trust that ‘you’ are ENOUGH to be attractive to her … … without the need to ‘amp it up’ by getting all up in her grill and being NEEDY or DESPERATE.

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Needy guys are the ones who, deep down, don’t trust that they themselves are actually ‘enough’ to attract her and sustain that attraction. They’re expecting, on some level, that sooner or later she’s going to lose interest, so they try as hard as they can to keep her attracted to them. Only thing is, their MOTIVATION (which is FEAR) shines right on through, and this is something that she picks up on … and it drives her AWAY. Why? Because it’s just one more way of proving to her that you aren’t a MAN. You’re not in control, of yourself OR the situation. You’re EXPECTING failure. All this is about as repellent to her as a can of bug-spray right between the eyes … and inevitably ends up with your self-fulfilling prophecy coming TRUE, and her high-tailing it off to where the grass is greener (and less needy … and more manly … and, well, you get the picture.) Something that I’ve found extremely helpful as a NATURAL counteractive to feelings of neediness and desperation and FEAR is to stop worrying about the FUTURE. Instead of thinking about what ‘might happen’, take a step back, take a deep breath, and remind yourself that NOW is literally the only moment you will ever have. If you’re living intensely in the moment, and you’re not poisoning yourself with fears of what ‘might happen’, or regrets about what you’ve ‘already done’, but are just being RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW in your own life and your own relationships … … it becomes literally IMPOSSIBLE to be motivated by fear. If you want to know more about this stuff, go read ‘Working On Yourself Doesn’t Work’ by Ariel and Shya Kane. You can probably get it on Amazon. Or, go to www.ask-inc.com Another suggestion: stop focusing so much on her. The weird thing about being needy is that, as a direct by-product of feeling ‘out of control’, you actually become MORE of a All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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control-freak … meaning, you TRY to control things (like her feelings for you), but you’re so freaked out and fearful that you’re not able to do it EFFECTIVELY and just wind up driving her further away. Try this one on for size: she’s another human being, dude. You CAN’T control what she does or what she thinks. So how’s about losing the Little Dictator act and just focusing on what you CAN control … … which is YOU. Take a look at yourself and YOUR life before you start trying to ‘get her’ to do or feel anything. Are you being the kind of guy that a quality woman would be interested in sticking around for? Are you being fun? Are you being present? Are you being a leader and demonstrating control, calmness, and strength? Are you living a kick-ass life that’s full of things and people that you are passionate about? I suggest that, instead of focusing on HER and what she’s up to, that you instead take all that energy and focus it on YOURSELF … and experience the dramatic turnaround in your self-esteem, your feelings of fulfillment, and – most likely – her opinion of you that will come as a NATURAL RESULT of this healthier, more attractive lens through which you see your life. SO YOU’VE FINISHED THE COURSE … NOW WHAT? You’ve come to the end of your 6-day course. Hopefully you’ve gotten some great insights into attraction, dating, and women. By the way … getting this side of your life sorted may be more important than you even think it is. The skills that you learn in order to ‘be good with women’ actually have something of a holistic effect – meaning, they affect EVERY AREA of your life in turn, from your business to your friendships to your family to your ability to stay happy and healthy. It’s like a domino effect … the more you develop your skills in ONE area, the more of an overflow into other areas you’ll experience. Try using THAT for motivation next time you’re dithering over whether to stay in with the All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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couch and the TV, or go out and meet some people. And one more thing, incidentally: if you like what you read here, do me a favor and spread the word. If you’ve got any friends who could do with a kick in the proverbial pants when it comes to women, dating, self-image, and general ‘manning-up’, then make sure you point him in the right direction. (And let’s not forget the women … Mirabelle’s got a 6-day course for women, too, which is taking off big time - and which, like Mirabelle, is the real deal for sure. So if you’ve got any gal pals who you’ve been ITCHING to take aside and straighten a few issues out, but haven’t wanted to seem presumptuous or ‘big brotherly’, here’s your big chance – Mirabelle will do it for you.) I’ll be writing at you again soon, so keep an eye out. Be cool,

Slade Shaw MeetYourSweet.com

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The Meet Your Sweet Course Catalog Transformational 12-Issue Course: A 12-Month Education in Total Attraction Transformation Ultimate Attraction Transformation Series – For Men............................................................ 60 Men’s Foundation Program: The core essentials to creating the success you crave in Love… Fireworks With Females..................................................................................................................... 62 Technique and Life Skills Programs: The specific skills, tips and techniques in your ultimate toolkit to creating the success you crave in Life and Relationships… Connect And Commit: How To Take Things To The Next Level Of Commitment.......... 64 Supreme Self-Confidence in Dating, Relationships & Social Situations........................... 66 Conversation Chemistry – How to use the power of communication to create and maintain unstoppable attraction with the Opposite Sex!........................................................................ 69 2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex..................................................................... 72

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Ultimate Attraction Transformation Series – For Men Created by the Meet Your Sweet Team Edited by Slade Shaw Success with understanding and attracting women is an elusive skill that evades most men. You know what you want and what you like in women, but when it comes to actually getting it, Doogie Howser is probably better at getting chicks than you. Many experts and pickup artists will share the techniques that work for them, but you’re not them. You’re not going to wear black eyeliner and do magic tricks, are you? You want a method that works for YOU, all the way from start to finish. That may mean closing on a girlfriend, not always another one-night stand. The problem with most other guys and PUAs is that they think there’s a magic bullet: ONE thing, one secret, one new skill that will guarantee success with women. But women are so much smarter than that. They want the WHOLE picture, a man that not only has the SKILLS, but the CONFIDENCE, ATTITUDE and the CHARISMA to back it up. As far as most women know ... attraction just happens. And when they see the whole package, sparks fly! But first, I have a few questions to ask. Have you ever had any of these things happen to you? • You wished you were someone else in order to become more attractive to women. • You’ve finished a conversation, knowing you didn’t really say what you needed to and left her with a poor first impression. • You really like women but usually end up being their friend rather than their lover. • You wish you had a social circle and social skills to impress a woman and show her you are a man of value. • You’re confused about attraction and what women truly want in a guy (Do they want a nice guy? Do they want a jerk? Do they even know what they want?)

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• You’ve found yourself in a relationship where the love and attraction is waning, but you don’t know what to do to fix it. If you want to truly understand attraction in a way that you never have before, you need to know that it’s about much more than just ONE opener, ONE affirmation, ONE part of your body, or ONE aspect of your character. It’s about you actually being the COMPLETE PACKAGE, a man of integrity and a man of power, who understands attraction is about more than just looks, attitude, or intellect. It’s about being ALL THREE. No matter if you are 26 or 62, we have created a course that is going to change your life, starting today, with the first of 12 life-changing issues. It’s never too late to see the big picture and truly transform yourself into the attraction master you want to be.

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Fireworks With Females By Slade Shaw Success with high quality women is a total mystery to most men. In fact, most women won’t be able to explain to you why they are attracted to certain men and not others. At least they won’t necessarily understand what is really going on. The reason they can’t tell you is because women don’t just decide that they are going to feel attraction for a man. It isn’t a decision based on what you dress like, what you look like, what kind of things you say and how much money you have. As far as most women know ... it just happens. This book is a combination of that research, my own YEARS of experience of being ‘that guy’ with women, the input of my ‘natural’ friends, and Mirabelle’s incisive professional insight as a female dating coach. It’s based upon the THOUSANDS of hours I spent meeting guys, talking to them, and observing their behavior around women, and the THOUSANDS of hours I spent doing extensive research into human behavioral psychology, and the emotional and psychological underpinnings of self-confidence and dominance. I’ve seen in REAL LIFE how the application of these concepts and ideas can literally TRANSFORM the lifestyles of HUNDREDS of men. I know this stuff works, because it’s worked for me my WHOLE LIFE... it’s worked for the thirty or so guys I grew up with... ... and MOST IMPORTANTLY, it’s worked for the HUNDREDS of guys who learned it, applied it, and went from ‘abysmal failures’ with women... to being the kinds of guys who can walk up to an UNUSUALLY ATTRACTIVE woman, and get her phone number... in about 3 minutes flat. The “Fireworks With Females” course has been specifically designed to teach you how to: • • • • • •

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• change your self image for dating success • use the power of body language to become irresistible to women • take control and develop unshakeable confidence

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Connect And Commit: How To Take Things To The Next Level Of Commitment by Amy Waterman This course is all about building the love, affection, and long-lasting relationship that you want and deserve. Imagine how it would be to have someone in your life who is genuinely and deeply committed to you and your relationship? Imagine never feeling insecure about the future again? Imagine knowing that you can attract and create a relationship where the two of you want exactly the same things, and are going to grow from strength to strength together? If you want to put an end to unfulfilling relationships, take things to the next level of commitment, attract emotionally available women who take you seriously and support you in your life goals, if you want to learn how commitment really works for women, then you’ve got to read this book. It’s crucial to your success. Amy’s discovered a foolproof method of magnetically attracting your partner to grow in closeness and commitment – on physical and emotional levels – as time goes on. How would it be to be completely immune to the death of love and closeness in your relationship? To not be worried when the lust and romantic love starts to fade, because you know something even greater is in store? Do you want to be in a relationship with your best friend, your favorite person, the woman you love more than anyone in the world … and have those feelings reciprocated? When your love life is going well, everything else works like magic. But the best part is, it’s not actually magical at all – it just takes knowledge and a little skill. That’s where this course will give you the step up in your love life that you really need. Amy’s life-changing course is one of the most thorough courses on helping you understand, create, maintain, and foster commitment through every stage of the attraction and relationship process, If you want to create the ultimate relationship… improve your relationships starting RIGHT NOW… create better communication with everyone around you… achieve true and lasting All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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physical passion in your relationship… and strengthen your relationship with your partner, even in times of stress and change…then I strongly recommend you read this book. It’ll change your life in ways you never knew was possible. In addition to the course, there are a number of bonus ebooks and audio files that will further assist and enable you on your search for commitment in your love life and relationships.

You can access the “Connect And Commit” course at this web address right here: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/commitment/men

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Supreme Self-Confidence in Dating, Relationships & Social Situations by Slade Shaw Let me ask you a few questions: • Have you ever seen a woman from across the room that you really like, or who you’d really love to meet.... but were too overwhelmed by fear and nervousness to go over and start a conversation? • Have you ever felt like you don’t deserve the kind of woman that you are REALLY attracted to, that they might be out of your league, and as a result always settle for second best? • Have you ever felt yourself shaking with self-consciousness when you are talking to a girl that you’ve got a crush on? Lost your words? Can’t be your best self? • Have you ever been in a relationship where you got emotionally insecure and ended up driving your partner away by your clinginess and insecurity? • Have you ever fallen in love with someone before you’ve even dated her and got jealous and upset when she pays others attention and goes out with someone else? If you answered YES to any of the above questions, then this book is a great fit for you. I strongly believe that this information could help you lift yourself above the rest when it comes to attracting and maintaining relationships with women. When you’re not self confident, then you get nervous and act differently at times when you feel stressed or need to be at your best. For example: on a date, or when you’re talking to a woman you’re attracted to. If your confidence betrays you at these vital times, then you may actually struggle to make your life turn out the way you want it to. Confidence is attractive and a crucial tool for men to have when dating, and without it, it’s difficult to attract a really good catch. Why? Women base their assumptions of you on what they know of you. That’s why first impressions can count for so much and be so hard to change. If that impression she gets in those first few All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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moments is all she knows of you, then as far as she’s concerned, that image she has in her head of you IS YOU. So if you meet a woman you are attracted to and act nervous, fumble your words, and run out of things to say… then as far as she knows, you are the kind of person who is nervous, fumbles their words and runs out of things to say. And in those crucial first few moments, you lose your credibility and social status. (Of course, a little nervousness - with a smile! - can be endearing and can even help you, but if you can’t let your best self shine through quickly, your love life is going to be characterized by a series of stilted interactions and misunderstandings of who the REAL YOU is.) Also, it’s really unfortunate that people may assume from your shy or nervous behavior that you simply don’t like being around them. They pick up on your discomfort. Women expect you to take the lead when you approach them, so its crucial that you are able to follow through and hold a conversation. And this is exactly the kind of problem that this book deals with in detail. By reading Slade Shaw’s book, you’ll become a guy who enters a relationship with confidence and charisma, without needing someone else to ‘complete’ you. You’ll be looking for a woman to ‘complement’ you instead of asking her a favor by dating you. This is one of the most powerful and special characteristics that you could possibly offer to a relationship. The self-confidence that Slade teaches you will instantly help you become a more socially adept man who is able to manage the challenges and negotiations that all relationships and interactions bring.

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You can access ‘Supreme Self-Confidence’ at this web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/selfconfidence/men/

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Conversation Chemistry – How to use the power of communication to create and maintain unstoppable attraction with the Opposite Sex! by Mirabelle Summers (co-authored by Amy Waterman) When renowned online relationship experts Amy Waterman and Mirabelle Summers started researching and writing Conversation Chemistry, they were initially going to write 2 separate books: one for people who are single or dating, and one for people who are already in a relationship. But the feedback received was an overwhelming number of suggestions that they combine them both together, as there was so much essential information in each of them for people at all stages of a relationship. Hence, Conversation Chemistry was created and is actually the length of two full books (298 pages) and is packed full of essential communication secrets for you, no matter whether you are single or in a long term relationship! We’ve broken it up into three specialized sections: Section 1: The principles of great communication with the opposite sex. Section 2: Secrets to talking to and communicating with the opposite sex during dating. Section 3: Communication inside a relationship Inside this life-changing and engaging course, you will uncover a whole host of conversation tips and strategies, including: • The principles of great communication. These principles differ between men and women, find how and why! • How to adapt the way you talk to suit the man you’re talking to - this may determine whether or not she develops a romantic interest in you. You’re going to find out in detail how and why men and women communicate differently, and how to communicate in such a way that builds unstoppable attraction. • Find out the surprising results from a study of singles bars, conducted by a couple of doctors. They proved the theory that there is a definite sequence to the process All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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of attracting a mate. You’ll hear what this process is, and how you can use it to your advantage in sparking attraction. If you follow this process, you’ll build up an incredible attraction for you when it comes to the ladies! • Find out the form of intuitive communication that NLP practitioners, psychologists and even pickup artists alike agree is crucial to forming a lasting bond with another person… • The ‘magic’ ingredients necessary to build potent rapport with women. This is truly powerful stuff you won’t want to miss out on! • Find out the key secret to become a charismatic and high-status man who has no doubt that what you’re saying is interesting to your audience. • The 5 conversation turn-ons that when applied diligently, you’ll find that people will not just enjoy talking to you... they’ll go out of their way to talk to you! • How to overcome approach anxiety. If you suffer from approach anxiety, you’re not alone. Going up to someone and starting a conversation can be incredibly difficult! You’ll learn how to calm these nerves right here with our highly effective 5 step strategy. • The one thing that you absolutely must say to put people at ease and dramatically reduce your chances of getting“brushed off”by a woman when you try to strike up a conversation. • How to spark chemistry and sexual chemistry with women. You’ll learn some incredibly powerful secrets here, and they are a lot easier than you imagine! • The communication skills required for a great long-lasting relationship are different to those that spark attraction and get you through the first month or two of dating. In this exciting section, you’ll discover vital communication skills that will bring the two of you together and you’ll find out common communication mistakes so that you don’t make them yourself! • What to do if communication stops. Rarely go out for an evening alone together? Feel like you’ve run out of things to say to each other? Find out how to revive your communication and get to know your partner again. • Discover the 3 traits of happy couples who know how to disagree in a healthy, nondestructive way. • Uncover essential secrets on how to forgive. Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle, so it’s essential you master this crucial relationships skill!

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• How to argue properly and grow together as a result, rather than grow apart. This is an incredibly important chapter for you to read as arguments have been proven to be severely detrimental to many relationships, and yet seen as strengtheners for others who know how to argue properly. • Using the power of talking about the future to further enhance your long term relationship success. Discover the next step and how to assess your progress at regular intervals. Conversation Chemistry is designed to take you to the ‘next level’ of communication, whether you’re out to meet someone new, enjoy a fun and flirtatious conversation, master the art of flirting, or make a relationship into the best one you ever had.

You can access ‘Conversation Chemistry’ at this web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/conversationchemistry/men/

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2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex by Mirabelle Summers (co-authored by Amy Waterman) If you’re going through the emotional turmoil of a break-up with a woman that you really didn’t want to happen (or now regret happening), then you have my whole hearted sympathy. I know what you are going through, I’ve been there, it isn’t a happy place and it isn’t an exaggeration to say that can even feel like someone has just died. Breaking up is an awful experience. And in this book, I’m going to reveal to you my powerful methods for winning back your ex. Essentially, I’ve written this book to guide you through the process of healing the pain of a breakup; recognizing why it happened in the first place; figuring out whether it genuinely is a good idea to get back with your ex; and, if it is, I tell you exactly – EXACTLY! – what you need to heal the wounds and make your relationship better than it ever was before. But first I have a very important question to ask you before carrying on ... • Why Do You REALLY Want To Get Back Together With Her? • And Is It REALLY A Good Decision To Make? • Were you and your ex really good together? Did she treat you the way you deserve to be treated? • More importantly, did she support you in your goals - and did you support her wholeheartedly in hers? I’m asking that question in particular as it is the biggest determining factor in long-term relationship success according to numerous studies. The first thing that you need to do right now is STOP doing what ever you are doing to get her attention back. No more sending flowers or begging for forgiveness! (Yes, really. Even if you genuinely feel that you are ‘in the wrong’, stop apologizing and stop begging.) Before you do anything that you think will win back the love of your ex, you need to listen to what Mirabelle Summers has to say. 2nd Chance is a course that guides you through the whole self-reflection, consideration, and negotiation process that characterizes a relationship breakup and rescue. If you are committed to getting back with your ex, and giving your relationship every chance of success, you can’t afford to be getting information that could All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com

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potentially set you back or even end any chances of saving your relationship. You have listened to the advice of friends, family, indeed anyone who feels they would like to share their opinion with you. But now it’s time to get advice that is GUARANTEED to work. 2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex is a course that is specifically designed to: • Maximize your chances of winning back your ex • Help you get your life back on track so that you are happy again and have a positive and exciting future ahead of you... no matter what happens. • Help you gain perspective and work through what really went wrong, and discover relationship secrets to help you avoid going down the path that caused your breakup again. And get your relationship back on track towards mutual growth and bonding.

You can access ‘2nd Chance’ and win back the love of your ex at the following web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/2ndchance/men/

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