Guide to Female Orgasms

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By Jason Julius

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Mindset For Approaching Orgasms Goal of this module is to introduce you to the healthy mindset you need to have in order to give a woman an orgasm. • The truth is every healthy woman is capable of multiple full body orgasms • Sadly most women will never reach their full orgasmic potential • Stats o Around 29% of women have never had an orgasm at all o Around 70% report never having an orgasm during sex o Only 20% of women have experienced a vaginal orgasm (deeper orgasm than clitoral orgasm) • There are a number of reasons for this but the biggest is lack of knowledge and understanding of how it works • Very few people realize this but guiding a woman to orgasm requires leading both her mind and body • What I’m about to teach you is not just about having more techniques to use in the bedroom, it’s about understanding how a woman’s body and mind come together to give her an orgasm. Having this understanding will give you a lifetime of experimentation and incredible sexual experiences. When you first start out with a woman • You want to teach her to have an orgasm using your fingers and tongue • Allows for direct stimulation

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• Give her an orgasm before sex and she will be orgasmic enough to have more orgasms during sex • Goal is to eventually get her to orgasm so easily that she’ll be able to orgasm with just sex alone • By this point she will want you more, she will crave sex • Things will always get better as you get to know each other and build a bond of trust Correct way to approach giving a woman an orgasm • Whether you are fingering her or going down on her, it should always be something you are doing WITH her, not to her • YOUR goal should be to give her an orgasm. But you do NOT tell her this is your goal. Let her experience the orgasm through you. Don’t tell her about it, bring her to it. • Her goal should never be the orgasm. Approaching it this way will put to much pressure and focus on the outcome and this will cause a mental block for her. • Frame the experience to her like this. “Babe, I want to share the most incredible experience with you to get to know your body, and find out what you like.” • Just enjoy the experience of giving yourself to your partner, take the pressure off and you’ll be amazed how much easier it will be to achieve an orgasm. Different types of orgasms • This goes for the different types of orgasms as well. We will be talking about clitoral orgasms, g spot orgasms, deep spot orgasms, and squirting orgasms. • Don’t get discouraged if you don’t achieve all types of orgasms right away. All women are different Communication

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• The key to achieving orgasms is effective communication • Men don’t be afraid to ask her what she likes best o This opens up the dialogue for her to feel comfortable telling you what she wants • Women don’t hesitate to tell your man what you like o Tell him how much it turns you on when he (fill in the blank) • Remember this is all about having fun and enjoying each other That concludes this module • The goal of this module was to give you the correct mindset for approaching orgasms so you can be successful when you apply the concepts in the rest of this program. Go ahead and move on to the next module and we’ll get into the meat of this program.

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Guiding Her Mind To Orgasm You must guide a woman’s mind to orgasm • Orgasm is the act of letting go and giving yourself to your partner • It is so incredibly important to have her trust and respect o She wants to feel comfortable letting down her guard and letting you lead her to orgasm o She has to let herself be vulnerable and she needs to trust that you will respect her o Email quote “sometimes when we have sex she tells me to stop because she's afraid to lose control.” Perfect example of a woman who needs to let herself lose control and let go completely to allow herself to orgasm. o Tell her this to assure her mind that she can give herself to you completely: “Babe, I absolutely adore every moment I have with you. I love how close I feel when we’re together. I want to come together and be completely close to you. I want you to give yourself to me completely. I want you to know that you can trust me and let go” o DO NOT SAY THIS if you don’t mean it! Don’t tell her to let down her guard and give herself completely if you’re just having a casual relationship. Feelings get involved, never lead a woman on by saying this JUST to get her to let go and get to orgasm! o This will free her mind up and if she really does trust and respect you she will want to liberate herself and let go when she’s with you.

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• When a woman has an orgasm she must be completely present in her mind. This means no chatter going on in her head. o When a man or woman lets go to orgasm there is a complete absence of thought o Think about it guys you don’t think when you ejaculate o Email example from woman: “I don’t know what it is, it’s like he doesn’t even give me time to think and next thing I know I’m having an orgasm” o This is something all men who are skilled at giving orgasms are good at is bringing a woman into the present and not letting them think about anything but the pleasure being given to them. o In fact studies have shown that at the time of orgasm both men and women have a reduction of activity in the cerebral cortex in the brain. What this shows is very little thought, almost running on primal brain. o That is why it’s so important for you to create an experience that allows her to be completely present and stops the chatter in her head. • So lets talk about some of the possible mind blocks that might bring chatter to a woman’s head during sex. o Self Conscious about body  If she’s self conscious about her body she will not be able to let go of her inner dialogue  Women with high self esteem usually have an easier time achieving orgasm

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 Woman with a great sense of humor generally has a high self worth  The more comfortable she is with her body and sexuality, the more likely she’ll be able to orgasm o Giver not a receiver  Many people are givers and when it comes to receiving they have a hard time with it.  When it comes time for her to lay back and relax her self worth might start causing dialogue that makes her uncomfortable receiving pleasure.  Some times she will ask you to stop and start initiating sex to over come this  You need to reassure her that you love going down on her and that it turns you on. If she starts to think of it like that she will make it ok in her mind because it’s doing something for you to. o Stress and distractions  People in general have a hard time staying in the present  Our minds are constantly causing unnecessary dialog about the past or future that prevents us from being in the present  She might be thinking about some drama that happened at work rather than being present with you  She might be thinking about what she has to get done tomorrow

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 These thoughts might not be happening consciously but unconsciously her mind is grinding away and she is not fully present o To focused on the orgasm  Like we talked about before if she is to focused on having an orgasm she will not be able to let go to have the orgasm.  It’s the times when she doesn’t think about the orgasm and has complete absence of thought and gives into the feeling of pleasure that she’s going to have an orgasm. • How do we lead her into the present? How do we keep her out of her own head? o Anticipation is our biggest ally  Try this: Send her a dirty text message 5 hours before you’re even going to see her. Make her wet her panties while she’s at work or shopping with her friends. Let her mind start thinking about how good it’s going to be.  Key to anticipation is to change things up. If she know what you’re going to do next or if you get in a routine it will kill it. o Before you start:  Have her lay down and get completely relaxed.  Tell her to close her eyes and take a deep breath  Guide her through a few deep breathes  While her eyes are closed ask her to completely clear her mind and only listen to the sound of your voice

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 “Babe, I want the next hour to be just about us. I want us to come together like we are the last two people on earth. I want you to completely give yourself to me because I will be giving myself completely to you. Let’s escape to our world where we can be free”  Ask her to open her eyes and begin foreplay  Is this cheesy? Not with someone you care about. Obviously you won’t do this with the cocktail waitress you bring home for a one night stand. o Foreplay is extremely important.  Warming a woman up and taking your time will make her 10 times more likely to orgasm.  The more time you take the more she will lose her thoughts and become completely present.  Kissing down her body and not going right for her sensitive spots will build up until all she can think about is how bad she wants you to touch her there. • **The following is for the women reading this** o Many people have success barriers that keep them from getting what they actually want. o You might really want to have an orgasm but deep down inside you might have self-limiting beliefs telling you that you don’t deserve it. o I just want to say that as a woman you absolutely deserve to experience the deepest levels of pleasure. It’s part of your humanity

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and you have every right to explore what makes you feel good. o Don’t ever get discouraged or down on yourself if you are unable to orgasm, you have the rest of your lifetime to explore your mind and body.

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Female Anatomy Introduction (Slide images are available at the end of this document) • This is going to give you an overview of female anatomy • Things discussed in this module will help you understand later modules • I’m not here to describe every single bit of the female anatomy and give you scientific names. I’m here to tell you what you need to understand to make her cum! Slide 1 Vagina Exterior (Vulva) • A lot more to the vagina than most men realize • All vagina’s are slightly different • Clitoris and Clitoral Hood Slide 2 Vagina Spread • Clitoral Hood • Clitoris • Area under the clit corresponds to sensitive part of male penis just below penis head • Urethra o This is where pee comes out o But it’s also where a woman ejaculates • Vaginal Opening – Very sensitive as well • Perineum • Anus • Let’s start by talking about the clitoris Slide 3 Clitoris

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• Same amount of nerve endings in your entire penis are in a woman’s clit. • Small clit is more sensitive • The legs of the clitoris are like two ends of a wishbone Slide 4 Clitoris up close • Clitoris contains 6 to 8 thousand nerve endings • Clitoris is very sensitive, women can get tons of pleasure from having their clitoris stimulated, but always make sure she’s aroused first or it can be painful • Notice wishbone again Slide 5 G Spot and Deep Spot • G Spot is 1-2 inches inside the vagina along the front wall, or about a knuckle and a half to two knuckles deep • Deep spot is located almost all the way back in the deepest part of the vagina just before the cervix • Deep spot is sensitive all the way around • Back of deep spot is slightly deeper because it is tilted • Notice: urethra and urethral sponge • Notice: pubic bone Slide 6 Side view of woman • Vagina • G Spot • Urethral Sponge and ejaculation • Deep Spot • Cervix – don’t rub her cervix, this can be very uncomfortable for her (although a small number of women like this) 12

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• Sphincter – women who ejaculate describe the feeling of trying to urinate after ejaculating as trying to “switch gears”. This is similar to the way a man has to “switch gears” after ejaculating in order to urinate. • Anal – Back of deep spot Slide 7 Another side view • Another view of g spot and urethral sponge Slide 8 Skene’s Glands • Also called periurethral glands or female prostate • Drain into urethra near the opening • Equal to the prostate gland in men • Part of the urethral sponge and swells during sexual arousal • Very small and hard to see Clitoral Vs Vaginal Orgasms Clitoral Orgasm Stimulation of the clitoral body Most Common way a woman usually orgasms How a woman typically masturbates More localized orgasm Very sensitive after orgasm, hard to have multiples Vaginal Orgasm Stimulation of G Spot or Deep Spot Majority of women have never had one Can lead to ejaculation Fully body experience Not overly sensitive after orgasm

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Can have multiple vaginal orgasms What does a Vaginal Orgasm feel like to a woman? Quote from woman about Vaginal Orgasms: “When it happened the first time to me and then a couple more times I didn’t even know what it was. The only thing I knew it felt good, but its different from clit orgasms. Clitoral orgasm is more localized and that other feeling was more like your mind switches off for some time, I don’t even know for how long because at that moment I don’t realize what’s happening.” Quote from woman about Vaginal Orgasms: “I can feel it building up until it takes over me completely and suddenly it explodes and a rush goes from my crotch to my head then it rushes all over my entire body. I can feel it all the way in the tips of my fingers and my toes!”

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Clitoral Orgasms Setting up the experience • Built up anticipation • Plenty of foreplay, plenty of arousal. Always make sure a woman is already aroused and her clitoris is erect or engorged before touching it. Touching it otherwise will be painful • Bring her into the present • Plenty of lube o Grape seed oil (Don’t use with condom) o Astroglide (Safe with condom) • Make sure hand is well manicured o Reason women don’t like their man to use their fingers often times is because their hand is ruff. Warming her up for clitoral stimulation • Never go straight in for the clit • Rub around the outside of the vulva stimulating the wish bone, some women will come from this alone, some women even masturbate this way Basic clitoral stimulation technique • This is how a lot of women masturbate, but it’s always better when someone else does it • Demo Take shaft of clit between fingers • Grab shaft of clitoris and roll it between your fingers • Try stroking up and down • Demo Grab entire pussy – in comparison feels to them like it would to you if you grab the shaft of your penis 15

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• Pull up and down, will almost feel like your jacking off her clit • Hold it still and have her do kegels, this will jack off the head of the clit. We’ll talk about kegels later in the squirting orgasm module. • Demo Read your partner’s body language and see what she likes best. Communication is the best way to find out what she likes. After she’s had an orgasm she will often times ask you to stop touching her clit because it’s to sensitive. Stop stimulating it but try just leaving your finger on it, sometimes you can give her another orgasm from doing this. It can be a little harder to tell when she’s had a clitoral orgasm. Watch for her body to jump, for her to make a sound, or she will ask you to stop. You can also stick the tip of your finger in her anus and watch for an involuntary contraction. Stimulating the clitoris during sex Positions Girl On Top Doggy Style with reach around

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G Spot Orgasms Setting up the experience • Built up anticipation “I can’t wait to touch you where only I touch you” • Plenty of foreplay, plenty of arousal, maybe already given her clitoral orgasm. Always make sure a woman is already aroused before penetrating her. • Bring her into the present • Plenty of lube • Make sure hand is well manicured • Probably want to position yourself to the side of her or between her legs Stimulating the G Spot • G Spot is 1-2 inches inside the vagina along the front wall • At rest the g spot is flat • When a woman is aroused the g spot with begin to swell • G Spot has a wrinkled or ridged feel compared to the smooth part • As you stimulate the g spot and she gets closer to climax it will begin to swell and balloon out Single Finger Technique • Insert the middle or index finger about 1 ½ to 2 knuckles in. You will feel a spongy area on the front wall • Use a come here motion, almost like your trying to pull it out of her • Firm pressure and build intensity

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• Vary it up between short firm strokes, and long strokes • Use two fingers if necessary • Use your other hand and press down on her pubic bone from the outside, it will feel like your hitting her g spot from both sides • Talk to her during this and tell her how good her pussy feels to you • Can take up to 30 minutes to climax, don’t go longer than this • Your hand might get tired, but deal with it Two Finger Running Man • Insert both index and middle finger • Make sure she is warmed up, never jam two fingers in her right away • Same as before but you’re going to run both fingers in come here motion Two Finger Bull Horn • Demo • Might seem kind of ruff but remember this is where babies come out. Make sure to watch her breathing and remind her to breathe deep Best Way to know what feels best is to communicate with your partner. • Women don’t be afraid to tell your partner what you like

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You will know when she has an orgasm, you will feel her muscles of her vagina squeeze down on your finger. They might flutter a bit then let go. In the case of female ejaculation her g spot will balloon out and actually push you out of her. If you are still unsure whether she’s had an orgasm stick the tip of your finger up her anus. When she has an orgasm there will be an involuntary contraction. Sexual Positions • Doggy style aimed down • Woman on bottom, elevate her butt with a pillow • Shallow strokes will put the head of the penis in contact with the g spot

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Deep Spot Orgasms Setting up the experience • Built up anticipation “I can’t wait to feel myself deep inside your body” • Plenty of foreplay, plenty of arousal, maybe already given her clitoral orgasm. Always make sure a woman is already aroused before penetrating her. • Bring her into the present • Plenty of lube • Make sure hand is well manicured • Probably want to position yourself to the side of her or between her legs Stimulating the Deep Spot • Deep spot is located almost all the way back in the deepest part of the vagina just before the cervix • Deep spot is sensitive all the way around. We call it the front and back of the deep spot. Back of the deep spot is slightly deeper because this part of the vagina is tilted • Be careful not to rub the cervix as most women do not like this. A small percent of women actually do like it though. • Cervix will feel like the tip of a nose or a button with a dimple in it. We want to stimulate the smooth area just before it. • Deep spot orgasms can be very powerful and women can have multiple. • I’ve made women squirt from deep spot orgasms, even though it’s more common from g spot stimulation. Single Finger Technique – Front of Deep Spot 20

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• Insert the middle finger about 3 ½ to 4 ½ inches in. You are going past the spongy area and looking for the smooth part just before the cervix. • Make sure knuckles don’t press into her • Don’t worry if you can’t get all the way to the back with your finger, go as far as you can. • You might feel a rim, sort of like the rim of a Frisbee. • Use a come here motion • Firm pressure and build intensity • Vary it up between short firm strokes, and long strokes • Use two fingers if necessary • Use other hand and press down on her pubic bone, it will feel like your hitting her deep spot from both sides • Talk to her during this and tell her how good her pussy feels to you. • Can take up to 30 minutes to climax, don’t go longer than this Twist your finger technique • Try varying it up using this technique • Remember the deep spot is sensitive all the way around Back of deep spot technique • Flip fingers around or try it doggy style • This will be a different feeling to her • Some women say at first it almost feels like they’re getting butt fucked • Women can have a powerful orgasm from anal sex if you are able to hit this spot

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Sexual Positions • Any position that hits the deep spot • Girl on top can work well for this • Doggy style • Girl on bottom with pillow under her butt • Anal sex for back of the deep spot

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Oral Sex Oral sex on a woman is sometimes called Cunnilingus • I like to call it eating pussy or tasting my girl, sounds much sexier! • Never treat oral sex as a way to get to sex, make it a main event in of itself • Women can be self conscious about the way that they taste. If you can show her that you really love the way that she tastes it’s going to make her excited about it. Text her and tell her you can’t wait to taste her tonight. While performing oral sex tell her how good she tastes and how hard it makes your cock. • Positioning can be tricky. Position her at the end of the bed and get on your knees. Use a pillow under your knees for comfort The key to eating out a woman is patience • Number one complaint women have is men go straight for her clit • You want to wait until she’s practically begging for it. Demo • Start with plenty of foreplay • Lick all the way down her body • Kiss her inner thighs and work down • Kiss and lick the entire outside area of vulva • Take your time as you work your way around • Lick smooth area below clit, above urethra (area that corresponds to sensitive part of man’s penis just below the head. Talked about this in Female Anatomy Module) • Lick opening of vagina and do an ice cream lick, from bottom to top 23

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Sucking the clit • Once she’s completely aroused and practically begging for you to touch her clit go for it • DO NOT FLICK YOUR TONGUE • Flicking the tongue is often learned from porn. This is the wrong way to do it. They do it this way in porn to allow for a better camera angle, it’s called painting the fence. • Make face as if you’ve just bitten into an apple and you are trying to stop the juice with your bottom lip • Suck on the clit like a small penis • Move your tongue vertically and horizontally • Work in moaning or humming to create a vibrating sensation Penetration During Oral Sex – Finger in and down • Hook your fingers in and push down to the deepest part of the pussy. Her cervix rests on top of your fingers • This will make her feel like she’s getting fucked • No poking and jabbing • There is a ligament here that needs to relax during sex G Spot • Vary it up and try g spot and deep spot stimulation while sucking her clit Jack Lawrence technique • Idea is to create a vacuum to cause the g spot to swell • Put fingers inside the vagina, press against the g spot and flick them away slowly • As you flick them away it works like a penis pump 24

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• Makes the g spot swell • Put fingers together, must be air tight. Try dripping water through • When entering her with two fingers first go down first until she opens up and relaxes. Then pull out and twist. • Create vacuum by putting mouth all the way around clit with lower lip meeting with the fingers. Suck while you flick your fingers backward. • This makes blood rush to the g spot • Once it’s swollen finish her off with basic g spot techniques Pay attention to her body language, take note if she grabs your arm, or shifts her hips, this is a huge indicator that she likes what you’re doing.

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Squirting Orgasm Female ejaculation or Squirting orgasm is when a woman ejaculates during orgasm • Ejaculate comes out the urethra during orgasm, NOT VAGINA • What you see in porn is generally not real female ejaculation • Female ejaculation is not pee • Female ejaculate is sweet tasting because it contains glucose. The fluid is not urine, but is similar to a man’s prostatic fluid • Comes from the Skene’s Glands also known as the Female Prostate • Squirting orgasms are generally from G Spot stimulation, however some women can have them from deep spot and clitoral stimulation • During g spot stimulation the urethral sponge begins to swell when it is aroused. • Urethral sponge will often times balloon out and push you out of her just before she comes • Most women, before they orgasm, feel the urge to urinate • This is the ejaculate filling up in the female prostate • Most women think they are going to pee so they tighten up their PC muscle • This keeps the ejaculate from coming out during the orgasm and forces it up into the bladder • This is why many women have to pee right after sex • To ejaculate she needs to let go of her pc muscle and push out like she would when she urinates at the time of orgasm

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• Most women will not do this because they fear peeing on their partner • Take note whether your partner has to pee after sex or after you give her an orgasm. • This is a good indication that she was close to squirting Approaching her about squirting • If your partner tells you that she often time has to pee after orgasm, or you notice this on her own tell her about female ejaculation • Say: “Babe, the reason you have to urinate is because you are holding back your ejaculate. Next time push it out” • Go on to explain what female ejaculation is and that it’s perfectly normal. • Encourage her to push out next time she has an orgasm as if to urinate. • Explain to her that it will not be pee, it will be ejaculate Getting her past her fear of peeing • Before you even start tell her to empty her bladder • Tell her how much it would turn you on to see her soak the bed • If she’s still afraid of peeing explain the worst case scenario is she’ll pee a little bit and it will be cleaned up afterward. • If that’s not enough take her in the bathtub or shower Have her push out • Just before she has an orgasm you will feel her g spot balloon out, and often times it will actually push you out of her

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• She should relax her pc muscles at the time of orgasm and push out. • Help guide her to this by telling her to push out at the time of orgasm, you will get to know when she’s going to come because she will balloon out • When she relaxes and pushes out she will feel an involuntary contraction and ejaculate will be expelled out the urethra • Her entire body might shake and contract involuntarily as the orgasm pulses throughout her entire body • Women typically feel a sense of release similar to the way a man feels after he ejaculates • The amount of actual ejaculate that comes out varies from just a few drops to a lot. Will likely be more and more as she becomes used to it. Kegel Exercises • Squirting is all about muscle control • Teaching her to do Kegel exercises will not only help her to achieve squirting orgasms but it will give her more powerful orgasms in general • Kegel exercises are designed to strengthen the pelvic floor • Originally created to help pregnant women strengthen the pelvic floor in preparation for child birth • Two ways to locate the muscles o Try stopping the flow of urine midstream and then release o Insert a finger into the vagina and try squeezing down with the surrounding muscles, then relax and feel the pelvic floor return to the starting position 28

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o This should isolate the muscle to contract during exercises • Contract the pelvic floor muscles. • Hold the contraction for three seconds then relax for three seconds. • Repeat 10 times. • Once you've perfected three-second muscle contractions, try it for four seconds at a time, alternating muscle contractions with a four-second rest period. • Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions. • Perform a set of 10 Kegel exercises three times a day • Make sure you are isolating the muscle and only contracting that muscle. Try not to contract the abdominal, thigh, or buttocks muscles. • Vary it up by performing sets of quick mini-kegels one second contractions with set of 15 then relax for 15 seconds • Within a week or two you should see a dramatic difference • She will likely notice a big difference in the power and intensity of her orgasms, plus have more control over her ejaculate. • Make sure she continues to do kegels, once she stops she’ll lose what she’s gained. • Extra note: men can do kegel exercises to strengthen their pc muscle. This gives you more control and prevents premature ejaculation

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Troubleshooting This section is designed as a reference incase you are still unable to get your partner to orgasm. Even if you’ve already achieved giving your partner full body orgasms it’s good to be aware of these issues as eliminating all of them is the best path to total orgasm mastery. If your partner is unable to have an orgasm, only able to have clitoral orgasms but not vaginal, or can not orgasm during intercourse it could be one of the following. • Make sure your partner takes care of her body, doesn’t abuse alcohol or drugs, eats healthy, is not over weight, and is overall physically healthy. • The biggest obstacle to achieving orgasm is a woman’s mind. Make sure of the following o She has a sense of humor o She is comfortable being naked with you, and is overall comfortable with her body o She trusts you and is able to give herself to you completely o She respects you and will follow you as you lead her to orgasm • Women who are very visual in nature can have a hard time being in the moment or letting themselves concentrate on the feeling of pleasure. If you think this is the case try using a blindfold on her and tell her to relax and let you guide her. • Make sure she is relaxing and letting go of her PC muscle to allow orgasm. Tensing her body or her PC muscle will hold her orgasm back, she needs to learn to let go. 30

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• Women who use vibrators can become accustomed to climaxing only from the vibrating stimulation. Over time this can make it difficult for her to have an orgasm using any other stimulation. If your partner uses a vibrator you might want to bring this up. Masturbation is healthy and you should not make her feel shame for using the vibrator. When you approach her explain that you would like to help her to achieve a much more intense level of orgasm and using the vibrator may inhibit some of her sensation during other types of stimulation. If she is going to masturbate she should use her finger or a sex toy that is very similar to a real penis. • Some women get the urge to pee when their g spot is stimulated. It is important to help her get over the fear of peeing. She should not be tensing her PC muscle. Ask her to concentrate only on the feeling and let go of the fear. If she is still afraid of peeing tell her nothing would turn you on more than to see her totally soak the bed! The worst thing that could happen is she makes a puddle and it gets cleaned up afterward! •

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giving her a massage just prior to intercourse and/or other sexual activity. If you don’t know how to give a massage I highly recommend learning this skill. You can also have a couple’s massage at a spa. This is where both of you lay side by side and enjoy a massage together. Final Note – All women respond differently to different types of stimulation. As long as you take the time to get to know her mind and body and apply the techniques you’ve learned here you should be able to get her to orgasm. It will take some time for some women as you get to know what they like and what they respond to. For others you will get very powerful responses right away. With a little bit of patience and your new found understanding of female orgasms you will be sure to be the best she’s ever had!

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