Femina India - 14 October 2015

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A Times of India publication

Bepable unstop Reinvent like

FIRST-TIME

PRIYANKA CHOPRA

HOW TO FEEL LIKE IT AGAIN

Do you have a persecution complex? We tell you how to ditch it now

SEX

STYLE APPRAISAL

BOSS SPEAK

WORKWEAR GOES FUN

That one move every 9-to-5 ninja should know

YOUR NEW LOVE DICTIONARY

CONGRATULATIONS! THAT JOB YOU ALWAYS WANTED IS 30 PAGES AWAY

OFFICIALLY HOT

THE ULTIMATE CAREER HANDBOOK

BRAIDED TOP KNOT

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MONEY-SAVERS TO GET YOU A FOREIGN VACAY

EDITOR’S LETTER There is no such thing as the perfect job.

There are, however, perfect CVs and presentations. But first, let me fish out some CVs from hell. I get many of those, where people claim to be fond of ‘grammer’, misogynistic men who state they ‘can write better than women so why can’t they be Femina staffers’ and young stylists who put it down in writing: ‘if given an opportunity to intern with you, I will turn around the fortunes of your brand’. Yet the best is when a covering letter addressed to me starts off with how the applicant is very keen to work with me at . Really! FROM THE EYE-CATCHING There’s a reason why professional CV writers are big money. And the CVs I quoted from COVERING LETTER TO making that reason. A word of caution: you need to be NEGOTIATING THE ZEROES IN are careful when handing over your resume to somebody YOUR PAY PACKAGE—OUR BIG whose job is to make you look good on paper. About STORY HAS IT ALL COVERED. four years ago, a girl who looked like her monthly pocket money would equal our company turnover walked into my office for a job. She professed her love for fashion and all things high-end while being interviewed yet her CV clearly mentioned her community work, charitable involvement and human interest stories. When I asked her about her charity work she mumbled something about feeling terrible for beggars who line up at signals and promptly led the discussion back to her passion for fashion. Many a slip… Our land-that-dream-job-manual addresses all the issues that can crop up. From an eye-catching covering letter and that-power-outfit-for-the-interview to negotiating the zeroes in your pay package— our Big Story has it all covered. In All About You, find tips that will add the first-time sizzle back to your between-the-sheets escapades. We help you deal with being judgemental around your friends and also in sussing out the man in your best friend’s life. The world would be so much better if you did not suffer from a persecution complex so if you do, we’ve got clues and then cures. We also have super pointers from Priyanka Chopra’s reinvention story on how to stay ahead of the game. As always, you are our biggest KRA. Now go, take on the world…

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A Times of India publication

Be unstoppable Reinvent like

FIRST-TIME

PRIYANKA CHOPRA

HOW TO FEEL LIKE IT AGAIN

Do you have a persecution complex? We tell you how to ditch it now

SEX

ON THE COVER

VOLUME 56 NUMBER 21

MODEL: PRIYANKA CHOPRA PHOTOGRAPH: JATIN KAMPANI/FEMINA

STYLE APPRAISAL

BOSS SPEAK

WORKWEAR GOES FUN

That one move every 9-to-5 ninja should know

YOUR NEW LOVE DICTIONARY

CONGRATULATIONS! THAT JOB YOU ALWAYS WANTED IS 30 PAGES AWAY

BRAIDED TOP KNOT

THE ULTIMATE CAREER HANDBOOK

OFFICIALLY HOT

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MONEY-SAVERS TO GET YOU A FOREIGN VACAY

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ALL ABOUT YOU 18 Love

ALWAYS SINGLE VS NEVER SINGLE Two women tell us how their relationship status defines their personality

20 Love

YOUR NEW LOVE VOCAB Bae, it’s time to update your love vocab

22 Passion

GET THAT FIRST-TIME FEELING BACK Bring back that hot and heady rush

25 Relationships

IS HE GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOUR BFF? Sifting the good guys from the bad

26 Lifeline

IS IT OKAY TO JUDGE YOUR FRIENDS? Testing the boundaries of friendship

27 Life

ARE YOU SUFFERING FROM A PERSECUTION COMPEX? Take a quiz and find out

4 HABITS THAT ARE BANKRUPTING YOU (AND HOW TO LOSE THEM) The little things that eat into your bank balance

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Rose-tinted

29 Career

THE SMART GIRL’S GUIDE TO AN OFFICE PARTY The tricky terrain of office bashes

FASHION 32 Front row

PERFECT PAIR Blush pink meets military green

33 Front row

SKIRT THE ISSUES Pencil, peplum or pleated skirts

34 Accessories

HARD WORKERS Invest in cheerful extras

35 Front row

FALL/WINTER TREND ROUND-UP Your front row guide to Lakmé Fashion Week Winter/Festive 2015

38 Debut

SIMPLE PLEASURES Meet fashion's biggest secret— designer Rina Singh

41 Fashion

TRENDING The latest news, views and buzz in fashion

42 In conversation

HIGH STREET HERO We travelled to Sweden to go behind the scenes at H&M

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Pillow talk

CONTENTS

8 The Big Story FROM CV TO OFFER LETTER

YOUR GUIDE TO LANDING THE PERFECT JOB Let’s face it. The job hunt can be heartwrenching. The good news? Our nifty guide includes advice from experts, recruiters and potential employers, all to make your quest easier

BEAUTY

44 Masterclass

GET THE LOOK The regular top knot gets updated with a cool braid

46 Trial-a-trend

ALL-SEASON SHINE Decoding the best runway looks

47 Hair spotlight

QUIET ELEGANCE Nimrat Kaur shows us the glamour of a simple, side-swept hairdo

48 Hero

PRIME TIME Strengthen and smoothen your skin with The Body Shop’s Tea Tree Pore Minimiser

49 Hot right now

All you need on your beauty shelf

50 Nail edit

SHEER BLISS Look polished with glassy nail paints

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Trade secrets

52 Tried and tested

GEL-TASTIC We tried out the ZA Total Hydration Amino Mineral Refreshing Gel

53 Fitness bulletin

5 MINUTES TO THE PERFECT BUTT And you can do it at home

REALITY

56 Cover girl

HOW TO REINVENT LIKE PC Movies, music or television— Priyanka Chopra can do it all

57 On my own

THE STORYTELLER Shradha Sharma tells us about her company, Yourstory.com

60 Role model

‘AMBITION KEEPS DRIVING US FORWARD’ An insight into the Indian woman by businesswoman Naina Lal Kidwai

65 Man we love

ARUNODAY SINGH BARES ALL We’re swooning over the actor

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Shape shifter

LIVING 68 Food

A FEW GOOD ELEMENTS You need just five ingredients to whip up this feast

72 Travel

MAKE THE MOMENT LAST A beautiful coastline and delicious food—book your tickets to Portugal

JUST IN

76 The Buzzmakers

STREAMING NOW: SAINA NEHWAL 2.0 She’s taking charge, on and off the court

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WE’RE LISTENING ONLINE The case where a man flashed an American woman in Mumbai had our Facebook readers fuming. Here’s what they had to say… Aanha Verma These mentally sick people don’t know to respect women. They are the reason girls feel uncomfortable and insecure in their own country. Such instances make women travellers in India also feel unsafe, and tarnish the country’s image. Palak B These perverts know that they will not be caught and even if they are, there is always the option of an easy bail. Obviously, there is no strict deterrent. Before we expect these perverts to toe the line, we need stringent laws. Pavit Nanda Anand The eveteasers should be put behind bars but that never happens because we choose silence. It is due to a society that loves to blame the victim. I appreciate the courage of the woman and the people who have supported her. facebook.com/feminawoman

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Reading Femina makes me feel young! I love the sensitivity with which the magazine portrays women while covering issues related to them. The cover line of August 31, 2015 issue—laugh, pray, drive, eat, live the life you want—caught my attention. ‘Free to be’ (The Big Story) inspired me greatly. I believe that although many women are educated, they’re still not aware of their rights. We need to be more informed as far as our rights are concerned. I want to thank Femina for being the voice of women and applauding those who made an attempt to change the system. Shirley Mathews via email The article on equality in relationships (The Big Story) in your July 31, 2015 issue perfectly echoed my sentiments. We often come across women who boast about how their husbands make tea for them. But is there a rule that says men are not meant to do these tasks? I hope articles like these make women realise the importance of an equal partnership. Shweta Latkar, Pune My mother is an avid reader of Femina. She has always spoken to me about the relevance of this beautiful magazine in a woman’s life. Femina has changed my life and played a big role in shaping my

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personality as a modern Indian woman with a bold and practical approach. Thank you, ladies! Yolanda Mehta, Dehradun In your August 31, 2015 issue, I was delighted to read the article on how one can stop being a helicopter parent (All About You, Lifeline). I firmly believe that being overprotective of your child is bound to hinder his or her growth. It’s important to keep an eye on them, but, at the same time, give them the freedom to make certain choices. Savitri Patil via email I liked the article on equal parenting (All About You, Celeb Cheat Sheet) in your August 31, 2015 issue. These days, many couples share equal responsibilities as parents. This differs largely from the traditional marriage in which the man goes to work and the woman stays at home and takes care of the household and children. Today, men and women are making different choices. Neither of them want to be pigeonholed into roles that rob them of their ability to experience the bounty of parenthood. Nevertheless, imploring men to do more seems a little shortsighted, given the complexity of roles we all have assumed in recent decades. Vani Acharya, Hyderabad

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THE BIG STORY

FROM CV TO OFFER LETTER

YOUR GUIDE TO LANDING THE PERFECT JOB The bad news? Thousands of great candidates are applying for your dream job. The good news? You can gain an edge over them. We speak to HR experts, recruiters and potential employers for the definitive guide to getting you in the door, on the rolls and to the top of the heap. Those other great candidates? Make sure they don’t see this

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f you’re looking for a new job, now is the perfect time— around 66 per cent of recruiters expect new jobs to be created in the second half of 2015, and the most opportunities will be for people with four to eight years of work experience, according to a Hiring Outlook Survey by Naukri. We decided to throw in some expert opinions, easy hacks and unheard of tips to help you clinch the deal. While every industry may have its specific set of norms, our etiquette rules apply across the board. You don’t need our help to do your job. But this guide might be able to help you land it.

LAUNCHING BRAND YOU: THE FIRST STEP CV, résumé, bio-data—what’s in a name, as long as it gets you noticed by recruiters. However, you’ve got to first figure out where you’re applying. Mumbai-based career counsellor Smita Singh says, “The first step towards landing the perfect job is to find out which industry you see yourself in. Pages you liked on Facebook years ago can give you an insight into forgotten interests.” Join groups related to that industry on LinkedIn. Once you’ve found your dream company, it’s time to get your hire-me kit in order.

THE PERFECT CV With everyone’s achievements at par today, writing the perfect CV is an art. Are you a writer or a ‘content specialist’? Are you an HR person or a ‘resource manager’? With niche job profiles becoming more and more common in India, it’s important that you make that distinction in your CV.

Why you should consider a headhunter They might be recruiting for or have contacts at companies you want to join. They are privy to unpublicised job openings and can also help you negotiate a better package. It’s also easier to express doubts and concerns to a headhunter, and seek industry-relevant advice.

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Photo: High-visibility positions, like in the hospitality industry, might ask you to submit photos, but even there, unless specified, you don’t have to attach one to your CV.

Your name should be in big bold letters, followed by contact details like your phone number, email and your LinkedIn profile/online portfolio. Age and gender: You don’t need to offer these details in your first round of interaction—it’s the 21st century and if a company is going to judge you by your age or gender, you might want to reconsider working there. Objective: This particular header is no longer in fashion. Skip it and start with your work experience. Work experience: If you’re already working, you start with your work experience, in reverse chronological order. `Avoid mentioning short stints. If it `Use bullet points to specify your was three months or less, you don’t accomplishments and job description need it at each job `Give more details of positions you’ve

held for a while or had successes at Education: If you’re a fresher, this is where your CV will begin. List your educational qualifications, in reverse chronological order ` Mention your course title or your

` There is no need to specify marks,

degree, followed by grade, e.g. ‘First Class’, college name and city

unless you’re asked specifically

Languages: In a shrinking workplace, language skills could make you a star. Specify your level of proficiency in each. Extracurricular activities/hobbies: Once you’ve gained a few years’ experience, you can drop these sections from your resume. References: Furnish them only on request, don’t put them on your CV.

THE PERFECT CV IS KEPT AS SHORT AS POSSIBLE. IDEALLY, FRESHERS AND YOUNG PROFESSIONALS SHOULD RESTRICT THEIRS TO A PAGE. In order of achievement or date?

While it’s conventional to provide background information in reverse chronological order, this is not a hard and fast rule anymore, suggests Bharat Amar, HR Manager at an IT firm in Chennai. “Put the best thing you’ve done right at the beginning; chronological order isn’t mandatory. People lose interest if what they read initially isn’t attractive enough. Use action words in your CV and don’t be vague—don’t say you ‘helped’ with a project, instead clearly state your role in the project.”

THE BIG STORY

GET YOUR COVERING LETTER IN THE DOOR

A covering letter is your elevator pitch—something that can get you noticed within seconds. Small things, like your email address (emailing from ids like [email protected]), could queer the pitch. Follow our tips to ensure that you’ve got this covered Enter offical email id of your prospective employer Use your full name and specify a clear subject, e.g. application for post as per xyz.com. Thanks to filtering and spam controls, your email might otherwise find its way to the trash can.

Salutation ‘Dear Mr/Ms Last Name’ or ‘Dear Hiring Manager/Human Resources Director’. If that’s not your style, then just start with Hi or Hello and move on.

SHOULD YOU BOTHER MAKING A VISUAL CV?

Those infographics you love to share on FB? They could get you hired. Most information we consume online today is presented visually—think memes, posters, comics—and getting with the programme shows your adaptability. Besides, your CV is easier to read this way, it stands out and is more likely to be remembered. A survey by job search and recruiting network ExecuNet found that 77 per cent employers use search engines to learn about candidates. Why not use it to your advantage? Websites like Vizify, Easel.ly, ResumUP and Kinzaa help you create visual CVs for free. Choose a template, enter your details, choose from the available formats and you’re done! You’ll get a unique link to your online résumé, which you can share with your potential employers, as well as on LinkedIn or in your Twitter bio.

Beginning Start by mentioning the ad you’re replying to or the name of the person who referred you. Clearly state the position you are applying for.

Body Summarise your own experience, briefly. Brevity is key. Read the job listing and match your experience to what’s needed, providing short, specific examples and compelling anecdotes, if any. For instance, if the job listing says the candidate should have good communication skills, write about conferences where you were the speaker or if you handled any media-related activities for your previous organisation.

End Finish by thanking them and suggesting a next step—‘I will get in touch in a week to confirm your receipt of my application and to see about arranging a meeting.’ Get in touch when you say you will—it proves your ability to follow through with promises. Also, enclose your contact information again at the end of your letter, ensuring that the details are accurate.

HOW TO RUIN YOUR CHANCES ● By not proofreading your cover

letter. It’s true, you’re not going to get a second chance at making a first impression. ● By making your résumé look like a typographical train-wreck. Pick a conservative font in a size that’s easy on the eyes (not less than 11-point). ● By not saving your cover letter as a PDF file, thus letting formatting go haywire.

THE BIG STORY CAN YOU FIND A JOB THROUGH FACEBOOK? It’s possible, but you’re more likely to lose a job based on what you put online. While social media can be used to network with people in your industry and stay informed of trends, you should know that recruiters today use it mainly to do casual background checks. Archana Karthikeyan Shah, who works at a top Chennai-based firm says, “Your social media profile gives them (recruiters) an idea of what you look like, your personality, how you communicate, etc. They can check it and decide if they are wasting their time by calling you for an interview.”

ACING THE PHONE INTERVIEW

You’ve nabbed an interview, but you’ve been asked to chat with your potential employer via phone or Skype. We give you the low-down on taking that call Being interviewed on the phone can be unnerving, given that you cannot rely on body language to assert your confidence and ability. No less daunting is the rising trend of video interviews. A recent survey by OfficeTeam, a global staffing service, shows that more than 6 in 10 American HR managers judge applicants this way. But don’t panic, just get ready for your close-up.

PUTTING THE NET TO WORK Keep it clean and professional “Don’t put up too many photographs of yourself on holiday and make sure you don’t say anything derogatory that could put off prospective employers. Else, use privacy settings to control what others can see,” says Archana. Something that might put off a prospective employer? Whining about your current job. Your LinkedIn profile is a CV of sorts “Your LinkedIn headline is your selling point. Use keywords that will turn up in recruiters' and companies' searches. Ask for at least one relevant recommendation, from co-workers, per position you’ve been in,” says Archana. Share right Share posts or find other ways to engage with your potential employers and other industry insiders. You want to be seen as clued in to current events. Don’t skip the photo Don’t leave your photo blank on your online profiles; you miss an important opportunity to establish engagement and trust. Use a professional looking shot (no family or pets!).

SPEAK UP

TAKE THAT CALL Nix interruptions Close the windows to block out street sounds, turn off the TV and drink water before, never during, the interview. Dress the part According to Paul Bailo, author of The Essential Phone Interview Handbook, everything—including your tone, inflection and choice of words, becomes more professional if you’re dressed for the occasion. Don’t say ‘Hi’ Keep things formal and avoid filler words like yup, ummm, like, etc. Cheat sheet Have your notes in front of you to give you a confidence boost. End it right Thank the interviewer at the end. Ask for their email id and write a note of thanks that also acts as a follow-up. Be an active listener Show you’re paying attention through the questions you ask. Don’t bring up money Unless the interviewer brings them up, don’t discuss salary or perks.

HR professionals in India say that many employers prefer telephonic conversations as the first-round of an interview process. “Come up with answers that are on point, without being abrupt, and convince the interviewer about what you’re saying,” advises Rita Bhimani, PR professional and corporate trainer, who also stresses the importance of sounding confident and happy. Even just smiling can make your voice sound more warm and compelling.

LET’S SKYPE! According to Sujata Guin, corporate director and associate vice president, HR, Apeejay Surrendra Park Hotels, who has been on selection panels for Air India and IIM-Ranchi, Skype interviews are probably the most popular recruiting tool in India at the moment. She suggests a mental exercise to help you feel less nervous. “You have to imagine you are a television presenter addressing an audience that is listening to you because of your personality, and also for the credibility you bring. Presence of mind is the most important factor, and one you’ll be judged on.”

THE BIG STORY

POWER DRESSING

RIGHT FIT Thoroughly research the company’s culture or typical dress code. Some fields require Indianwear, while at corporate gigs, the uniform is usually suits, or skirts and trousers worn with shirts. If you’re opting for trousers, make sure they’re cut just at the ankle and don’t sweep the floor. Keep skirt lengths sensible, but most importantly, make sure everything fits you just right. If you’re buying something new, try it out well before the day of your interview.

PLAY WITH COLOUR Don’t be afraid to add a splash of colour or prints to your outfit. Opt for a bright blouse under a classic jacket, a printed wrap dress or a single coloured skirt with a basic white shirt. Just remember not to go overboard, keep your accessories neutral and opt for colours that are easy on the eyes. For Indianwear, choose an outfit that’s not heavily embellished or has a lot of frills and tassles.

ACCESSORY FOCUS When you get up for that first handshake, your interviewer’s eyes will end at your feet. Unless you’re comfortable walking in heels, choose flats or a low heel. Ballet flats, polished brogues or loafers all work. When it comes to your bag, choose a neat, shoulder bag or satchel in a classic colour like black, tan or beige, that will work with all your looks. Keep your jewellery classic and minimal—opt for ear studs or simple bracelets. Sometimes a delicate, statement watch can be all you need.

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Okay, let’s get one thing clear: the right interview outfit does not guarantee you your dream job. But what it does is leave a great first impression. Read on for our style cheat sheat

THE BIG STORY

BEST FACE FORWARD

From picking the right ensemble to getting your hair and makeup right, the smallest details can help make an impactful first impression. Keep your look neat and fuss-free with these practical beauty tips

LOOK 1

HAIR Wash and condition your hair the night before. Apply a good smoothening serum to get rid of frizz and flyaways. If you have time, opt for a simple and sophisticated hairdo like the waterfall braid to keep your hair in place in the front. This hairstyle works for medium to long hair. MAKEUP Moisturise and use just a BB cream, covering any blemishes or uneven skin tone with a lightweight foundation. Do your eyes up with light pink eyeshadow, a thin line of kohl and a few coats of mascara. Swipe pink blush on the apples of your cheeks with a round brush. Finish with coral or pink lipstick.

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LOOK 2

HAIR A side fishtail braid is super versatile and works for most occasions, including a formal interview. However, make sure you do a neat braid instead of the popular messy one. For a twist, start your braid from the crown. Use bobby pins to ensure it stays in place and pin up any strays. Finish with shine spray. MAKEUP Keep your base clean and minimal. Apply a pastel cream eyeshadow on the crease of your eyes. Use light brown kohl on your lower waterline. Swipe a little peach blush on your cheeks for a hint of colour. Finish with sheer lipstick.

LESS IS MORE ● Don’t use flashy hair accessories. ● Don’t fidget or play with your hair

during the interview. ● Stay away from lip glosses and bright lipsticks. ● Apply a little blush for a healthy glow.

Don’t go for heavy contouring. ● Make sure your eyebrows are groomed. ● Stick to eyeshadows in cream, brown and taupe. ● Avoid shimmer makeup.

LOOK 3

HAIR If you have long hair and are pressed for time, pull back your hair in a neat ponytail. Choose a parting according to what suits you. Make sure your fringe is neatly pinned out of your face. MAKEUP Apply foundation on a moisturised face to ensure it doesn’t look caked up. Use a brown eyeshadow on your eyelids and finish with mascara. Apply blush for a natural flush. Swipe a lip stain for a hint of colour.

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THE BIG STORY

WINNING THE FACE-TO-FACE INTERVIEW About 80 per cent of how much people understand during a conversation comes down to a collection of non-verbal cues that we call body language GAIT IT RIGHT “Women usually have awkward, shrunken or closed body language. They should walk into the room with great confidence, and a smile on their face,” says Suhasini Mehta, image consultant and PR professional.

THE ENTRY Upon entering, greet everyone on the panel. “If there are 10 people, shake hands with all 10 of them. Wait for someone to ask you to sit down. If they don’t, ask them if you may sit,” says Suhasini. Don’t sit cross-legged

THE HANDSHAKE “The handshake should be firm and brief, lasting two to three seconds. Look the person in the eye, say your name, smile and shake hands,” advises Suhasini.

THE POSTURE Sit straight, with your back touching the chair. Don’t lean in too much and don’t slouch or hunch, either. Keep your handbag to one side and put your phone on silent. Do not carry any additional bags.

Before the interview, use the ‘circle of confidence’ technique

Don’t take any calls

1. Draw an imaginary circle on the floor in front of you. 2. Pick a time when you felt confident, and step into the circle, thinking about that moment. 3. Remember it as vividly as possible, as if you were actually there. 4. Step out of the circle when you’re ready, take a look around the room. Repeat three times.

Don’t give off a casual vibe

ILLUSTRATION: SUMIT SAKHUJA

HOW IT WORKS:

Sit straight with feet firmly on the ground

We can trigger a specific state or mood by ‘anchoring’ a desirable memory to a simple ritual, which, in this case, is stepping inside the circle. This technique strengthens your ability to trigger a sense of calm confidence whenever you need it. At the interview, imagine your seat to be in the circle.

THE DEATH QUESTIONS

“TELL US SOMETHING ABOUT YOURSELF.” What it means: They’re trying to gauge how well you can pitch yourself for this job. How to answer: Tailor your answer to the position you are applying for. For instance, if the job is that of a field reporter, say you are adventurous and enjoy outdoor activities. If you’re interviewing for the position of a restaurant manager, talk about how you like meeting new people. “WHY DO YOU WANT TO LEAVE YOUR CURRENT JOB?” What it means: It helps employers figure out whether you will work well with your immediate supervisor. How to answer: Never suggest that you disliked a previous employer. Try “I’ve learned all I can in my position and I feel now is a good time to move on,” or “I haven’t had the chance to use my skills there as much as I’d like to, so I’m looking for a new opportunity.” “WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES?” What it means: This is the easiest way to find out what you think of yourself. How to answer: Talk about an actual weakness and how you are trying to fix it, like, “I used to get nervous about calling up clients, but then I realised that the more I did it, the easier it became.” Showing that you took care of a weakness demonstrates that you’re willing to grow. “HOW MANY STAIRS DID YOU CLIMB ON YOUR WAY?” What it means: This is a trick question to see how you handle the situation. How to answer: Smile and keep your answer light: “I took the elevator’ or ‘I usually check that at the end of the day on my fitness app”.

THE BIG STORY

‘We’ll get back to you’

Waiting for a response after an interview can be nerve-wracking. We got the experts to tell you how to use the waiting period effectively

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SAY THANK YOU Globally, sending a short thank you note after the interview is the norm. A 2012 survey of HR managers by Accountemps, an international specialised staffing service, says 91 per cent of them appreciate being thanked by candidates.

FOLLOW UP, NO PRESSURE “Two emails, with appropriate time in between, and a final phone call is the maximum you should do. Following up on WhatsApp or via text messages could be construed as over-familiar,” says Delhi-based career counsellor Jitin Chawla.

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DON’T BE A STALKER Do not add your prospective employer on Facebook or immediately start following them on Twitter. If you end up speaking again, then request permission to add them on LinkedIn. If they don’t respond, don’t force the issue.

WAIT IT OUT "If you have been asked to wait for two weeks, do that and then send an email enquiring about the status. You might have gotten interviewed in the first lot of candidates and the whole process might take a while to wrap up," says Anil Garg, founder of the Delhi-based ACD Consultants.

HOW TO RESIGN RIGHT

Don’t use office resources to plot an escape: Use a private email account and your personal mobile phone to communicate with potential employers. Keep your plans confidential, especially with respect to your current colleagues. Be honest: “If you are contemplating resigning, speak to your immediate boss, let him/her know the real reasons. If there is a possibility of any change, then wait,” says Swati. Make a good last impression: Complete all formalities, serve the full notice period and ensure you’ve handed tasks over properly to your successors. Do not crib or throw discretion to the wind during your last days in office. Thank everyone: Thank your colleagues before you leave. Send a farewell mail and share an alternate email id so they can stay in touch.

increment cycle, “negotiate for a salary increase as if you were working in the organisation,” says Pune-based HR consultant Gautami Salunkhe. STATE YOUR PRIORITIES: Does salary top your list followed by location, leaves or flexible working hours? Communicate what you are looking for and look for mutually beneficial tradeoffs.

MAKING YOU AN OFFER DON’T BE VAGUE: A Columbia Business School research suggests that quoting a precise number shows you are a detail-oriented person, and makes for a more powerful anchor in negotiations. RAISE THE ISSUE: If you join a company close to or after the

PREPARE FOR THE JOB: Don’t tailor responses to the personality of the interviewer. Sukriti Khanna, 29, says, “Once I was so obsessed about creating a good impression, I didn’t prepare for questions related to the job.” GET REFERENCES RIGHT: Make sure your references are aware of your job hunt. “It is never a good idea to give the reference of someone who you haven’t shared good relations with. This can backfire easily,” says Chennai-based Julie Varughese. EXPLAIN WHY YOU WILL BE AN ASSET: Explain how your skills, experience and work ethic can help your bosses look good.

GETTING REHIRED

Get an update: Be aware of the changes that have happened in the industry/workplace since you left. Connect with contemporaries to understand the new requirements. Focus on the future: Think about how you can use your past experience but don’t compare your new job to the old one. Accept the changes, adapt and move on. Prepare for the tricky parts: Be ready to talk about why you left the company or the industry. Talk about the value you would bring if rehired.

By Reema Behl, Neeti Jaychander, Upneet Pansare, Anindita Ghosh, Hemchayya De, Samreen Samad and Butool Jamal

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BE YOURSELF: Swati Salunkhe, a Mumbai-based career counsellor, says employers prefer candidates who are not pushy or talkative.

EXIT

VOX POP

How to stand out at work

“As creativity is the key component in my business, people who tap into their quirkiness and think outside the box, who bring in a new, fresh perspective to work along with the zeal to succeed are always a hit.”

Anisha Chaudhari, 26, founder, Threads & Buttons

“It’s more important to have the ability to listen than try and impress with how much you know. A person who listens is more likely to be open to feedback and fit better in a team than someone who comes in with fixed ideas and knowledge.”

Diya Koshy, 39, deputy editor, India Syndicate

“You need to have good communication skills—it’s very important to be understood (and to understand!). Another thing that I really value is punctuality. To get things done in time and to always be on time are great qualities to have.”

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Pooja Dhingra, 29, owner, Le15 Patisserie

“Be a solution finder. Problems and road blocks always surface while you are trying to complete a task at hand—most of these are within your control, while some may not be. In situations like these, it is important to have a positive approach and work towards finding a solution that is as good as the initial plan.”

Elisha Saigal, 31, founder and CEO, El Sol Strategic Consultants “Women often shy away from attention. To really stand out and make an impression, I would tell them to be proactive. Take up extra work or assignments, especially big projects where you can shine and have the spotlight on you.”

Archana Ashok, 33, chartered accountant and partner, JAA & Associates

ALL ABOUT YOU love

Always single REHA REWAL, 27 J: Reha, I haven’t told you yet, but I think I’m getting married next year. R: I actually don’t know the story of how you met. This is Karan, right? J: Yeah, we had originally met at a friend’s party. He added me on Facebook. Eventually we started messaging each other and then started dating. We’ve been together for three years now. R: I have dated, but really long ago. This was either in school or college. But I have been single since 2008. J: Before Karan I was dating somebody, this guy named Steve for about two years. Before Steve there were flings, but nothing serious. R: The last time I was with somebody, it was just so overwhelming. When it finally ended, I decided enough was enough, that I couldn’t do it again. That whole idea of being answerable to somebody else, someone who wants to know where are you, what are you doing—it was too much. As a person, I need my space. Ever since I was a child, I’ve known that I do need my alone

vs The grass is always greener on the other side. Or not? Butool Jamal sits with two women—one who’s always been in a relationship and one who hasn’t been in one in a long time— to see how life is on the other side of the fence

Never single JINELLE D’LIMA, 25 time. I live the way I want to live. I live on my own terms. I see people living their lives based on their partner. Also, in Mumbai we are constantly surrounded by people so I really appreciate the time I get alone. If I date somebody now, I might have a different approach to it. J: I like knowing that there is someone I can depend on. At the same time, we make sure each of us has space. Everyone has their own kind of relationship after all. R: I’m sure if I did enter a relationship again, I would be more prepared and things would be on my own terms. That is something that also changes with age. But I’m fine where I am right now. Whenever I feel like I should be in a relationship, it’s mostly due to external pressure. Say, when I go back home, the first thing people start talking about always is that how I should get married. Even those who are younger than me and married, suddenly think they are qualified to give me advice. It’s actually harder in Mumbai than in Lucknow. Everyone has a partner here. At a party, people pair off or come with a plus one. But haven’t you noticed? When people get married, they suddenly turn into different people. I should add here, ever since

ALL ABOUT YOU love

I naturally gravitate towards being in a relationship. When I get attached to someone I like to spend time with them. —Jinelle D’Lima

I don’t know how to explain why I’m still single. Post 25, I became such a moody person and honestly, I don’t know how to date. —Reha Rewal

J: You’re right! See, the thing is that I spend half my free time with his family and the rest with mine. There are so many obligations, but you do it because you know that is what will make your family happy or will make your partner happy. Of course, we both know that it’s okay to take a day off sometimes. Recently, Karan had dengue and his dad caught it at the same time, so I had to spend time in the hospital looking after him. Stuff like this keeps happening. It’s challenging of course, but he’s such a great person and he makes me a better person as well. Before this relationship, I was very self-centered. I was pampered, always looked after, but then I had to start thinking about someone else, and I wanted to as well. When I was with Steve, our relationship was something like what you were describing—I had to report to him each time I did something. But then as you mature, you get into more mature relationships. When I met Karan, I had just started working, I was becoming more exposed to the world. R: Maybe a relationship will do the same thing for me, make me more accommodating or diplomatic. I would take whatever issues we had in my stride, but that doesn’t mean I would like it. Jinelle, you were talking about obligations to the family and I’m glad I don’t have those, but I have enough obligations on my own. I don’t need to add any more. That’s one of the few times I feel relieved I’m not in

a relationship. That also happens when I see nasty break-ups. I’ve seen situations where people just become numb for years. J: Do people ever say anything to you about being single? R: I don’t know how to explain why I’m still single. It’s my personality, I guess. Post 25, I became such a moody person and honestly, I don’t know how to date. I grew up in a city where everyone always monitored what you were doing, and I hated that and eventually walked away from it. So now I don’t ever want that again. It’s very contradictory. Before I turned 25, if I did date it was an issue. Now, however, as I approach 30, it’s more a question of why you aren’t dating anybody. I don’t understand why and when that switch happened. When people ask me, I just say that I can’t find somebody suitable. Earlier, I used to try and explain it to them that I don’t want to find anybody, but then that just seems too unusual. What about you? J: Since we’re not married and we live together, there are those who judge that. But you know, I think I do naturally gravitate towards being in a relationship. When I was single, it was nice. But I know that when I get attached to someone, I like to spend time with them. I like taking care of that other person. I’m very family-oriented that way. But in the end, it’s about being yourself—you can be yourself in a relationship or even when you’re single.

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you have started dating Karan I haven’t met you. Earlier, we used to meet pretty often.

ALL ABOUT YOU love

YOUR NEW LOVE VOCAB

Language changes with the times. Update your love vocab in the age of selfies and smizing

Manicorn (n):

The elusive perfect man. He may not exist, but it feeds many industries to believe that he does

Dad-bod (n):

Bae (n):

It’s neither a paunch nor a ripped tummy on a man. It’s something in the middle, soft enough to play with

A shortened version of baby or babe

Ex-hole (n):

A satisfying way to refer to your cheating, good-fornothing ex.

Precop (n):

FOR EXAMPLE:

Whogle (v):

Look up a person online

A pre-sex agreement between two adults I saw Karishma stating that they won’t get emotionally speaking to my involved with each other

ex-hole. Why would she do that to me?

Ourgasm (n): When both of you have orgasms at the same time

Martyrmony (n): State of marriage that persists purely out of duty

Masturdating (n): Going out alone to a movie or a restaurant

Attwaction (n):

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When there’s an attraction between two users on Twitter

ALL ABOUT YOU passion

GET THAT FIRST-TIME

FEELING BACK Feeling a bit blah in bed? Anindita Ghosh tells you how to get back that hot and heady rush

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ne of the pitfalls of a long-term relationship is the sexual rut that many couples find themselves in. With the comfort of familiarity, and other commitments vying for attention, action between the sheets often gets put on the backburner and before long, not having sex becomes a habit that is difficult to get out of. “There never seems to be enough time to have sex,” laments Rajyasree Sen, 29, physiotherapist. “Between my clinic, his long work hours, and the kids, it’s almost impossible to eke out time for sex. I would do anything to get back the excitement of the early days of my marriage, when we would get it on like rabbits!” Reduced sexual activity is a modern malady that affects a large number of urban couples, especially those in long-term relationships, say sexologists and marriage counsellors. The good news is that it’s easily remedied with our roster of practical tips and an equally eager partner.

TEST THE LIMITS Part of the fun of first-time sex is that it’s new and often forbidden. Get back the excitement of those rushed, hormonecharged frenetic sex sessions by getting it on in forbidden places and times, all within legal limits, of course! “There’s nothing that makes my boyfriend and me feel like horny teenagers again than a long drive out of the city with regular stops for much kissing and other interesting sexual activity,” says Brinda Shah, 26, copywriter. “Making out on the road, with the thrill of getting

Is that a phone in your pocket, or...?

HOW ABOUT SOME ROLE PLAY? The thought of dressing up as Catwoman might seem a little silly and out of character, but then, who said sex had to be serious? The whole point of role play is to lose those inhibitions by pretending to be someone you are not. So go on, dazzle him with superhuman sexual powers while in character. The fun thing about role play is that there as many roles as your imagination allows. Keep changing your repertoire… climbing into bed as Catwoman every night might just be a little creepy, not to mention boring! “We sometimes pretend to be our favourite sexy characters from a movie or book—it works every time especially when he is Christian Grey to my Anastasia Steele!” says Mona Singh, 36, interior designer.

THE THOUGHT OF DRESSING UP AS CATWOMAN MIGHT SEEM A LITTLE SILLY AND OUT OF CHARACTER, BUT THEN WHO SAID SEX HAD TO BE SERIOUS?

TIME TO PLAY GAMES An easy way to make sex more fun is by turning it into a sexy game or giving any game a sexy twist. Send him off on a sexy treasure hunt with dirty little clues and dirtier rewards. Or maybe you can play 20 questions about your sexual fantasies. And, there’s always strip poker if you can’t think of anything else. “You are as old as you think and you are never too old for sexual play. Indulging in a sexual game will get you all charged up and the sex that follows will be intense. Plus, it’s a lot of fun,” says Mumbai-based sexologist Dr Raj Brahmbhatt.

SET THE SCENE Electrify your love games by choosing a good location. “Since sex is all about engaging the senses, make an extra effort to play the right music, choose the perfect fragrance, set the correct temperature and ensure that the lighting is just as you both like it,” says Dr Brahmbhatt. “Your partner will be pleasantly surprised to see that you have made an effort and a changed setting will make a difference to your sexual routine as well.” You could also plan a holiday away from the stress of everyday life, switch off your phones and make time for uninterrupted nooky. “It’s not a bad idea to plan out your sexual activity. In these hectic times, it is a good idea to consciously chalk out some time for sex in your daily or weekly routines. Waiting for spontaneous sex might leave you with no sex at all,” says Dr Brahmbhatt.

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caught, is a fantastic high I thought I had forgotten.” While we would not recommend that you risk getting hauled up by the cops, test your limits by catching a quickie while the kids are watching TV in the next room, making out in a friend’s bathroom while the party is still on in the living room, taking a steamy shower together, having sex on the terrace, or skinny-dipping in a private pool. “Sex doesn’t only have to happen on the bed. Try the couch, kitchen platform, office table. Just make sure it’s private and legal,” says Dr Avani Tiwari, senior consultant psychiatrist, Metro Multispeciality Hospital, Noida/Delhi.

ALL ABOUT YOU passion

YOU CAN PROLONG THE SEXUAL TENSION BY ALLOWING YOURSELVES TO ONLY TOUCH BUT NOT HAVE INTERCOURSE TILL IT’S SO BAD YOU CAN’T HOLD BACK ANY LONGER.

LOOK AFTER YOURSELF One of the things that make first-time sex so memorable is the effort that we take to impress our partners. Sexy underwear bought just for the occasion, a cute little dress that shows off your toned legs to perfection, that seductive perfume on your pressure points…it’s easy to forget the importance of these things when your partner has seen you in a bedraggled nightie and smelled your stale morning breath. “It is really important is to stop taking yourself and your partner for granted. Take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. Exercise regularly, take up a healthy diet, shed the kilos you always wanted to, pamper yourself with pedicures or hair spa, a nice dress. Get ready for your partner,” says Dr Tiwari. “Remember that sex is in the mind, if you feel sexy, you do sexy.”

SEXPERIMENT! Introduce some sexy surprises. Good sex is about engaging all our senses— smell, taste, touch…and sometimes, indulging in sensory deprivation, a form of sensation play where a person is deprived of a certain sense, like sight, to make other senses more sensitive to stimuli, leading to blow-out sex. You might not want to go the whole hog on this, but simple devices like ear plugs, blindfold and handcuffs can kink up your sex life like never before. “There’s no better way to amp up your sex life than by injecting some variety into it. Let go of your inhibitions and don’t be afraid to experiment. Sex is not only about our sexual organs but about pleasuring and stimulating all our senses for a complete experience,” says Dr Brahmbhatt. “Try multiple sexual positions and routines with your partner.”

TAKE IT SLOW Sex does not have to be a mad rush towards orgasm. Prolong the pleasure by recreating your first few date nights when you would stare at each other for long hours, hold hands and kiss but not have sex. You can prolong the sexual tension by allowing yourselves to only touch and kiss, but not have intercourse till it’s so bad that you can’t hold back any longer. “I love cuddling with my boyfriend and kissing and making out without having sex,” says Shayoni Shaha, 28, PR executive. “I feel really connected to him and a couple of nights of this kind of bonding over movies and wine really prep us for a great session in bed later.” Plan out a no-sex date night twice a week where you can massage and sensually explore each other.

ALL ABOUT YOU relationships

How do you know if your friend is dating a good guy? We give you helpful tips to figure if he’s a keeper

It’s a well-known fact that love makes you stupid. You end up dating the worst men. Best friends are your douche divining rod, helping you steer clear of the losers. When my friend Shrina was introduced to a guy who liked that she was a feminist and shared her love for bad Bollywood films from the ’90s, she asked me to assess him. I did, and they’re still dating, but that made me want to put my test-tactics down on paper. Your time starts now. Step Ste tep p 1 tto o be b being ein iing ng n g a good goo go ood friend: her fri riend eend nd d: Help Help ellp el p he h eerr make make akke goo goo good od cchoices ho h hoi oiice o cces ess

IS HE A PLAYER? AND NOT AT CRICKET

DOUBLE DATE

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double date,” says relationships

his reaction to when your friend

counsellor Preeti Kar. “That way,

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personnel. If he is dismissive with

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your friend off.

Cheque, please.

Your friend is in love

OPPOSITES ATTRACT. OR DO THEY? Everyone says it’s important to have common interests— and it’s true. If your friend is a homebody and he likes to party, chances are they’re not going to get along for too long. “Look out for similarities or differences in their personalities,” says Preeti. “For any relationship to work long-term, the two people have to have a similar take on things. For example, if your friend has strong views on smoking and he is a smoker, she may be okay with the habit for a few years, but eventually there will be a lot of fights.”

BAD SIGN: WHEN HE CURSES MORE THAN TARANTINO “My ex was very explicit when it came to abuses,” says Dhara Desai. “Every second sentence was peppered with Hindi versions of mother and sister f *****.” Dhara didn’t think this was a big deal till a friend pointed it out. “She told me that a man who called women names is likely to treat them that way too. I dismissed it till once while fighting he called me a c***. That was the end of us.”

7 seconds to assess a man It takes only seven seconds for us to judge another person when we first meet them. In that time, we decide if they’re trustworthy, straight or gay, smart, promiscuous, dominant, successful and adventurous. “It’s not a conscious process, so we don’t even realise we’re doing it. But it goes back to our primitive roots when we couldn’t afford to make wrong decisions,” says Linda Blair, clinical psychologist and author of Straight Talking. Judi James, author of The Body Language Bible, adds, “Judging other people in the first few seconds of meeting them is part of our survival response. We’re looking primarily to see if we should feel threatened, but we also make several assumptions about attraction and personality. Because we tend to be timepoor, we use assumption as a short-cut.”

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IS HE GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOUR BFF?

ALL ABOUT YOU lifeline

IS IT OKAY TO JUDGE YOUR FRIENDS?

Friendship is supposed to be a judgement-free zone, but sometimes you can’t help but play judge and jury. Neeti Jaychander finds out when it’s okay to call your friend to order You love your friend for the most part, but let’s face it, you can’t help but be annoyed, especially if whatever’s bothering you is destroying them as well. Here are some instances when you can get judgemental:

and even drugs, it’s definitely okay to be critical. Health is of vital importance, and if she’s not looking after herself on a regular basis, it’s definitely a matter of concern. Similarly, if you see her slipping into depression at any time, her mental and emotional health being unstable, it’s okay to ask her to seek help.

WHEN SHE SPENDS LIKE A RICH GIRL, BUT ISN’T

What did you just say!?

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WHEN SHE’S DATING A MARRIED MAN Yes, she’s a big girl and can look after herself. But when she’s dating a married man, ask yourself (and her) a few hard questions—is he toying with her or is there a future in this relationship? Are they on the same page as far as emotional involvement goes, or has she invested more than him emotionally? Is he lying to her about leaving his wife for

her? Is he using her for sex, money or anything else that’s painfully obvious to you, but not to her? If the answer to one or more of these questions is yes, it’s perfectly okay to speak with her.

WHEN HER IDEA OF FUN IS HARMFUL Sure, we all like to have a bit of fun, but if your friend’s idea of fun involves binge drinking, excessive smoking

While overall, it’s no business of yours what she does with her money, when she’s living beyond her means, it is always dangerous. If she’s been spending too much— more than what she can afford—it can mean running into debt, not being able to keep up with mounting bills, and generally having no clue about setting money aside for a rainy day. You’re definitely entitled to take a stern view of that.

WHEN SHE’S BEING NASTY When you have a friend who acts like a diva and treats people badly, it’s not okay—no matter how nice she is to you. If she keeps ill-treating her domestic help, her partner and people she encounters on a daily basis, like storekeepers, she’s only going to create negativity around herself. Also, disrespecting people is seriously not cool.

HOW I DID IT Leave him!

“My fiancé would always ask me for money and I would oblige. I soon realised he was using my money to party with friends and giving me nothing in return. My friend brought it up with me casually, and told me to be careful. At first I was angry, but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense. The next time my fiancé asked for money, I said no, and saw an ugly side of him. I knew I had to break up with him. So I’m glad my friend decided to stick her nose in my business!” —Aahna Shah, 29, marketing executive

How to broach the sensitive topic Bad relationship? Not directly, for sure. Have a gentle conversation with her. Rather than telling her for instance, that her married boyfriend is using her, ask her what she wants from a relationship and whether he is capable of giving her that. Money or health issues? Try and get her to see a counsellor. You could even tell her about another ‘friend’ with the same problems, who got help and sorted out her life. If all else fails, talk to her parents or spouse, and get them to seek help. She may be angry with you at first, but will thank you in the long run.

ALL ABOUT YOU life

ARE YOU SUFFERING FROM A

PERSECUTION COMPLEX?

Feel like you are always under attack or unfairly treated, at work or in life? A persecution complex is an irrational, obsessive feeling or fear that you are a target of collective hostility. Take a quiz to find out if you are a victim or not. By Upneet Pansare

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When a group of colleagues converge at work, do you

a. think that they are talking about you or something that you have done. b. feel upset because you weren’t invited to be a part of the discussion but respect their privacy and stay away.

WHAT CAUSES A PERSECUTION COMPLEX? The cause of this psychological condition is not completely understood, Some personality types are more susceptible to it. These include people with a high external locus of control; that is, those who think that everything is out of their control and their life is controlling their actions, or people with a defensive personality who take even the smallest comment as an insult or personal affront.

a. feel like the colleague is doing this on purpose to annoy you.

c. politely disagree but listen to the other side.

When you fail at a project and you are pulled up for it, do you

You are invited to dinner by your colleagues at the last minute, do you

c. take failure in your stride and think about your next move.

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a. feel like you were kept out of the planning process on purpose and the invitation to you was an afterthought.

a. think that someone from the group has plotted your failure and try to put the blame on him/her. b. find yourself saying any or all of these: “I’m not a lucky person” or “I never get what I deserve.”

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b. feel like your opinion is more valid and try to impose your views on him/her instead.

c. gauge the situation to see if you can join them. Else, stay away.

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A colleague raises doubts about or disagrees with your point of view on an issue during friendly banter Eo you

b. feel anxious about what you are going to talk about at dinner. c. join in the fun.

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There is a deadlock during a discussion in a meeting and you suddenly think of an idea which might solve the problem, do you

a. keep quiet and let it go because it might not work and you might instead invite ridicule.

You seem to have all the symptoms of a persecution complex. You see yourself as a victim in almost every situation, you are extremely defensive about everything and feel like you are powerless or that nothing is in your control.

Mostly Bs: It is likely that you may develop a persecution complex if you do not strive to change right now.

Mostly Cs: Congratulations! You seem to be well-adjusted.

b. not talk about it during the meeting but decide to tell your boss later, in private, to avoid being judged by other colleagues. c. state your idea loud and clear and await everyone’s reactions.

DEAL WITH IT: Everything doesn’t need to be about you-you-you all the time. Bangalore-based psychologist Dr Samita Handa agrees, “Do not think of every situation from only your point of view. Don’t think that you were an afterthought for the dinner; be thankful that you were at least invited. When something goes wrong, don’t start a blame game. Offer plan B. If there’s a disagreement, wait till you’re calm to have a conversation. The idea is not to win an argument but to state facts clearly.” While the treatment varies from person to person, cognitive behavioural therapy is often advised in such cases.

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ALL ABOUT YOU money

4 HABITS THAT ARE BANKRUPTING YOU (AND HOW TO LOSE THEM) Battle out these everyday habits and save enough for a trip or a gadget by the end of the year! By Reema Behl SAY NO TO PRICEY JOE

This coffee cost me how much?

You don’t always need coffee. “There’s now a need to start the day with coffee or carry takeaway cups to work, as on the TV shows that most people in the age group of 16-35, in the metros, are hooked on. This wasn’t as prominent five years ago,” says Delhi-based sociologist Anantya Singh. Switch to cheaper brands or make coffee at home and carry it with you, or try this unusual hack: apples. They can have an effect similar to that of caffeine because of their natural sugar levels. An apple costs only `40.

Cost of 1 cappuccino

`250

(at an outlet like Costa Coffee or Starbucks)

Money spent annually

(assuming you have 5 cups in a week from a coffee shop)

5 cups * 4 weeks * 12 months = `60,000 By cutting the number of cups in half You save `30,000 By cutting the number of cups to one-fourth

`45,000

STOP SMOKING UP YOUR CASH

DON’T ALWAYS SHOP PREMIUM “Expensive brands are eating into our pockets like there’s no tomorrow. Buying the same products from a different brand at a cheaper price can make a difference of 10-30 per cent in your budget,” says Mumbai-based financial consultant Anirudh Singh. Most apps like Uber, Paytm, FreeCharge and Grofers offer cashback options so you earn points every time you spend. Also, remember to use your discount vouchers before they expire.

Amount spent on monthly shopping `10,000 Money spent annually `10,000 * 12 months = `1,20,000 Money saved by using apps: `12,000 (10 per cent cashback in most cases)

Money saved by using the right deals, brands and discount vouchers (10-30 per cent)

Total money saved

`36,000

`48,000

DON’T GO SOLO

It’s bad, it’s unhealthy—you know all the caveats but nothing stops you from buying a pack of cigarettes every other day. “Smoking is bad for women’s skin and causes hormonal imbalances that lead to PCOD and related disorders,” says Dr Sudhaa Mahajan, gynaecologist. While it is not easy to quit cold turkey, reduce gradually to avoid withdrawal symptoms. Switch to e-cigarettes or try Strides, an app that tracks goals and habits, and shows you graphs and glowing diagrams to give you a sense of how far you’ve come.

‘Exclusive’ and ‘customised’ luxury services might be enjoyable but will devastate your bank account. Sharing your resources whenever possible, like car pooling, can help your bottomline stay healthy. Use Whatsapp to create groups within your housing society or nearby localities and make it simpler to coordinate. Websites like commutesolutions.com can also help you calculate the exact amount you save through car pooling by entering details like distance to work, parking chargers, etc.

Cost of one cigarette pack Money spent annually

Amount a car owner in the metros spends ` 500

`200

(assuming you smoke 5 packs a week)

5 packs * 4 weeks * 12 months = `48,000 By cutting the number of packs in half You save `24,000 By cutting the number of packs to one-fourth You save

`36,000

on fuel if the distance to and from work is 40 km

Money spent annually (assuming it’s a 5-day week) `500 * 22 days * 12 months = ` 1,32,000 Money saved by car-pooling (assuming you pay `5,000 per month or `60,000 annually

in your setup)

Total annual saving `2,01,000 * ALL PRICES QUOTED IN THE STORY ARE APPROXIMATE VALUES OF COMMODITIES/SERVICES

`72,000

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You save

ALL ABOUT YOU career A WORD OF CAUTION: “It may be a party, but it’s still an official do. Your wardrobe choice for the evening should be stylish without being OTT,” says Prajakta Albuquerque, image consultant, Cybage Software.

KEEP CONVERSATION STARTERS HANDY

OFFICE PARTY

Veteran or newbie, letting your hair down with your colleagues—and bosses—needs a fine balancing act. Urvashi Pant tells you how to successfully navigate the tricky terrain of office parties OFF LIMITS! SHOW UP Unless you’re busy duelling with Voldemort, make sure you attend the party. Not turning up reflects poor manners and you don’t want to be known as the office snoot. Image consultant and corporate trainer Greeshma Thampi’s advice is to stick around for 30-45 minutes before making an exit. “Meet the people who matter—your immediate boss and CEO, for example—before you leave.” A WORD OF CAUTION: Don’t be the overenthusiastic party animal that refuses to leave and has to be ushered out (read: thrown out) by the organiser (read: bouncer) long after everyone has left.

READ THE DRESS CODE. THEN READ IT AGAIN. Pay attention to the part of the invite that specifies dress code—you don’t want to go too risqué or too staid. Being labelled the office bore or a word that rhymes with ‘bore’ would be terrible.

There are some things you just don’t do at an office party.

1 Getting drunk—a terrible idea. Damning evidence like photos and videos will make you squirm later. 2 So you hit it off with the hot guy you bump into at the coffee machine—good for you—but hands off, at least until you leave the venue. 3 Not everyone appreciates having their photos up on Facebook. Before you hit upload, check if your colleagues are okay with it. 4 Unless the invite specifies, don’t bring family or friends along.

What would you do if you found yourself in the company of the CEO, with whom, so far, you’ve only exchanged polite greetings in the office corridors? Don’t wait for someone to ‘rescue’ you, instead, use the opportunity to strike up a conversation. Plan in advance the things you can talk to seniors and bosses about—it could be a recently-launched project by the company or an upcoming event. “Be in the loop about what’s happening not only in your organisation, but your industry as well. These work as excellent conversation starters at official gatherings,” says Greeshma. A WORD OF CAUTION: Do enough research on topics you plan to bring up. You may look foolish if you initiate a conversation with incorrect information.

STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE Perhaps your finance head can really work the electric guitar, or your HR manager shares your love for slasher films; an office party is a great opportunity for you to get to know the fun side of your co-workers, especially if you are new. Don’t stick to your friends from work the entire evening. Instead, break the ice with someone you don’t know well in your team or network, or a colleague from another department. A WORD OF CAUTION: “Stay away from tricky topics like religion and politics that can escalate into a heated debate,” advises Prajakta. “Steer clear of people ridiculing their bosses, colleagues and the workplace.”

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THE SMART GIRL’S GUIDE TO AN

STYLE CONTRACT

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Polyester culottes, `5,000, Sapphire

RAJESH PRATAP SINGH

FELDER FELDER

TEMPERLEY LONDON

BODICE

CARVEN

Getting ready for work can feel like a task in itself, until you learn to have fun with it. Experiment with unexpected colour combinations and skirts that work overtime to mix business with pleasure, and come away a winner

Brass earrings, `1,700, Mehtaphor

Crêpe shirt, `3,499, Marks & Spencer Patent leather loafers, `5,890, Call It Spring

Lace shirt, `2,295, Vero Moda

SHIRT STORY

Swap your crisp white shirts for blouses with ruffled necks, Chinese collars and embellished shoulders

FASHION front row

Faux leather handbag, `2,899, Caprese

Lycra and foil-print dress, `8,999, Bebe

If blush pink feels too delicate to face the nineto-five grind, toughen it up with some military green

PERFECT PAIR

Steel and glass neckpiece, `2,556, Accessorize

FYODOR GOLAN

Leather bag, `13,999, Da Milano

Cotton T-shirt, `2,899, Promod

Cotton and lace playsuit, `4,700, Asos.com

STYLE TIP Leather sandals, `7,500, Dune

A structured bag will sharpen up this look even further.

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Polyester spandex skirt, `3,290, Dorothy Perkins @ Jabong.com

Cupro shirt, `3,990, Zara

FASHION front row

Leather watch, `7,995, Fossil

Georgette T-shirt, `1,995, Only

Faux leather handbag, `3,499, Caprese

Polyester skirt, `3,990, Zara

SKIRT THE ISSUES Pencil, peplum or pleated— the perfect skirt will boost your confidence. Just what you need to nail that job

TOPSHOP

Metal neckpiece, `1,350, Pipa+Bella

Knit skirt, `3,400, Forever New

Faux leather and metal block heels, `2,895, Lavie

STYLE TIP Keep it sensible. Pick a hemline that falls below the knee so you don’t freeze in the air conditioning.

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Polyester peplum skirt, `799, StalkBuyLove.com

FASHION accessories Wooden phone case, `1,599, DailyObjects.com

Metal glasses, `4,990, Vogue Eyewear

Faux leather handbag, `4,500, Éléspry

Synthetic scribble pad, `500, Cupidity

HARD WORKERS

Faux leather laptop sleeve, `1,200, Happily Unmarried

Invest in cheerful ex extras. These are the little things that can help you beat the Monday blues c

Silic Silicone watch, wat `17 17,200, Calvin Cal Klein Kle

iPad stand, `1,400, Propshop24.com Leatherbound diary, `1,012, Amazon.in

Wood-finish sunglasses, `17,990, Ray-Ban

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FALL/WINTER TREND ROUND-UP

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Create graphic eyes with black kohl to complement bold prints

JODI

URVASHI JONEJA

Forget those boring florals. With tongue firmly in cheek, designers sent out some weird and whimsical graphic prints this season. We spotted giant tomatoes, apples and cabbages at Aartivijay Gupta, painterly horses at Masaba and bold, bright stripes at Urvashi Joneja. This is definitely not for fashion wallflowers.

MASABA

PRINT NT NIA MANIA

JEBIN JONNY

When clashing prints, opt for patterns in a similar colour palette so your look stays sleek.

SAHIL KOCHHAR

AARTI VIJAY GUPTA

SWATI SWA S SW WATI VIJA W VIJAIVARGIE JAIVARG IVAR A IE AR E

Your front row guide to Lakmé Fashion Week Winter/Festive 2015

PAYAL SINGHAL

To work the trend by day without going overboard, choose one key piece and let it be the star of your look.

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RARA AVIS

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Keep your base flawless and minimal with a CC cream

ARPITA MEHTA

Put on your sunglasses, because this season is all about sparkling sequins, glittering paillettes and shimmering lamé fabrics. From Arpita Mehta’s head-totoe gold to Monisha Jaising’s reflective minis or even the blingy, updated Indianwear at Payal Singhal, the motto of the season was clea clear—brighter is better.

CHARCHIT BAFNA

MONISHA JAISING

HIGH H AGE VOLTAGE

NACHIKET BARVE

Give neutrals a break by playing up your lips with pop colours

PHOTOGRAPHS: VINAY JAVKAR/FEMINA

MONO MANIA

There’s something clean, simple and reassuring about black and white—whether it’s stripes and checks as at AM:PM by Ankur and Priyanka Modi, a graphic abstract pattern from Gaurav Gupta or even embroidered on as flowers and feathers as at Nachiket Barve. And remember, it may seem simple, but it’s definitely not boring.

URVASHI JONEJA

MASABA

Add a hint of shine to your look with metallic accessories. A bright red lip takes it up a notch.

AM:PM BY ANKUR AND PRIYANKA MODI

MUNKEE.SEE.MUNKEE.DOO

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FASHION debut

SIMPLE PLEASURES Critics love her and intelligent women want to wear her clothes. Meet one of fashion’s best kept secrets, Eka by Rina Singh. By Butool Jamal The designer Rina Singh

(Above) A photo from Eka’s fall/winter 2015 lookbook; (Below) Models walk the ramp for Eka at Amazon India Fashion Week Autumn/ Winter 2015

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hat do Kajol, Kiran Rao and Arundhati Roy all have in common? The answer to that fashion hared love for puzzle is a shared hi-based Eka. The brainchild of New Delhi-based Rina Singh, Eka has become thee go-to nking label for confident, creative, thinking women. These are clothes that you can slip into with ease, that don’t’t ort. shout luxury, but whisper comfort. They are characterised by their soft, ailing handloom fabrics, minimal detailing and muted colour palette and, as Rina says, they are meant to be an extension of your personality. A graduate of Wigan and Leigh College, London, Rina’s CV includes stints at NIFT as researcher and teacher, and in the design department of ITC Group’s Wills Lifestyle. It was at NIFT that she became aware of the importance of supportingg local, ethically sound fabrics andd crafts. And Rina is clear that Ekaa es. It’s also is not just about beautiful clothes.

Eka on the runway

part of a bigger movement for sustainable fashion. “In India we’ve been exposed to sustainability right from the beginning, it’s just that in the process of development, those values got left behind.” The focus on handloom was influenced by her childhood. Her father still cultivates land and she recalls how her grandmother used to sit at her spinning wheel making yarn. “I just never imagined that I could blend, say my thoughts on Armani, with my roots. The depth really comes from going back to your roots, not from training or exposure.” When she started her label in 2010, Rina admits that there were few takers for her clean, made-inIndia aesthetic. “Gradually awareness grew and eventually supporting ethical fashion became a statement.” Now she is stocked in 50 stores across the world, including Ogaan in New Delhi and websites like Exclusively.com. Her recent fall/winter 2015 collection was titled Seekers Keepers. The cosy, lived-in looking line was imagined as a collection of tributes to her friends and family. Everyone from a well-dressed neighbour to an artist friend played muse. “I realised these people I know are such strong personalities. In my head, I was dressing all of them up.”

FASHION HION in my city

SNEHAL FERNANDES 22, Styleseekers.in Mumbai I keep experimenting with my style. Some days I like to go OTT with my look and at other times, I just like keeping it simple and clean.

RUHI SHEIKH 28, Republicofchic.in Bangalore While my style is minimal and nonfussy, occasionally, pieces that make a strong statement are the way to go.

IN FOCUS: BLOGGERS

They’re usually out on the streets, chronicling the style quotient of their favourite cities. Now we put our favourite bloggers in front of our lens RITU ARYA 23, Razzledazzlepickle.com Bangalore Comfort matters to me. I like to keep my style effortless, personal and offbeat. What I wear daily is influenced by my state of mind.

SHRISTI SOUMYA 24, Stylefashionetc.in New Delhi My style is very eclectic. I like to experiment with various trends and have always been a fan of thrift buys. There are amazing vintage styles out there.

FASHION mandate

I’m 5 ft tall with an hourglass figure and I love palazzos but I’m too short for them. How can I wear them without drowning?

I am attending a wedding in New Delhi this December. Can you help me with outfit ideas that will keep me warm as well as fashionable?

I’ve seen a lot of models and celebs wearing neckpieces as headgear. How can I incorporate this trend into my look? What can I wear it with?

— Anaisha Bamboat, Chennai

— Niharika Mehta, Kochi

— Avni Oza, Pune

This is a tough one. What you can do is opt for palazzos in dark colours like black, navy and wine. Give the illusion of an elongated frame by pairing them with a fitted tee. Put on a pair of block heels or platforms for an extra boost.

Jackets over lehengas or saris are very trendy. Get your hands on an elegant silk jacket and pair it with any traditional ensemble to rock the winter wedding.

DEEPIKA GOVIND

MASABA GUPTA

Renowned Bangalore-based fashion designer, also an associate member of Fashion Design Council of India

Mumbai-based fashion designer who sells under her label Masaba

All neckpieces can’t multi-task; you’ll need ones made with linked pieces so they’re flexible. Try an Indian polki or ghungroo neckpiece and use simple black pins to fasten them behind the ear. While they work beautifully with Indian and fusion-wear, be careful when pairing them with western outfits. They work well with long, flowy maxis or even dhoti pants and jackets, but should be avoided with short sheath dresses.

SUHANI PITTIE Hyderabad-based jewellery designer who graduated from the Gemological Institute of America in Carlsbad, US

STYLE REHAB Three fashion experts answer your style queries Send in your queries to [email protected]

FASHION

Launches we love Here are two more reasons to love Reliance Brands—their introduction of Dutch brand Hunkemöller’s lingerie range and Japanese brand Muji’s lifestyle collection. Both will be available at independent stores across several major cities in the country. It’s nice to be spoilt for choice.

Right on If you’re nostalgic for the ’70s, Shivangi Sahni’s eponymous label is just what you need. Easy-breezy silhouettes and a boho-chic vibe underline this retro collection. The bell sleeves, flared pants, fringes and folksy embroidery will have you feeling free-spirited in a jiffy.

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WORLDLY CHARM IT-BAG ALERT

We love this serene green satchel from Lavie's autumn/winter collection. Its nature-inspired print almost conjures images of enchanting woods. Accessorise your little red dress with this domeshaped satchel and be the updated Little Red Riding Hood. AVAILABLE AT: Lavie outlets PRICE: `3,660

You can have the universe on your wrist with Ulysse Nardin’s Classico Lady Luna dress watch. This slim timepiece has a mother-of-pearl dial set with diamonds to ensure elegance every second, and a miniature moon rotating around the earth-dial to offer you your private universe. AVAILABLE AT: Leading outlets PRICE: On request

New in town

We love the indigo-and-gold-leaf motif of Anju Modi’s store at New Delhi’s Couture Street as much as we love her prêt and couture collections. It’s quite an experience browsing through the ready-to-wear outfits, the handcrafted occasion wear, the one-of-a-kind couture pieces and the statement showpieces.

FASHION in conversation

HIGH STREET

HERO

An iconic high-street Swedish brand is finally making its way to India this year. Creative advisor Ann Sofie Johansson spoke to Baishali Chatterjee about what to expect from the brand

(From far left) Creative advisor Ann Sofie Johansson; singer Solange Knowles in H&M; clothing from the Conscious collection; (Above) H&M collaborates with French house Balmain

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t was exhilarating— landing in Stockholm, walking down streets that housed some of the world’s biggest brands and stepping into the unrealistically spacious H&M store. What was even more exciting was witnessing how the designers, collaborators and sales staff came together to create each article of clothing. In our conversation, Ann Sofie Johansson gave us an idea of what it takes to pull this off.

I started out as a saleswoman in one of the stores in Stockholm. While working there, I studied design and pattern-making at evening school. In 1990, I became a design assistant and, since then, I’ve been working as a designer in various H&M departments. I’ve been head of design and now I’m creative advisor. I love fashion and the staff here, which is why I stayed.

Tell us your H&M story.

We saw some parts of the design process. Can you take us through it?

I have worked with the brand since 1987—

It starts with research. We analyse and create a story

as they are not sustainable, but I believe limitations make you more creative. It is now part of our business idea— sustainable fashion and quality at the best price.

or trend to pursue, keeping the customer group in mind. Next, we create the moodboard. Colours and fabrics are chosen, after which the actual sketching and development of styles begin. Fittings follow, and finally, the collection is out in stores. How do you balance green ambitions with being a fast fashion retailer?

We consider ourselves a fashion brand. We can’t work with all materials

H&M really launched the designer collaboration trend. Tell us about the latest one with French house Balmain.

Collaborations have made our brand stronger. The designers we collaborate with reach out to so many more people with our brand than they usually do, so it’s a win-win. We chose Balmain because it’s an iconic fashion house. I think creative director Olivier Rousteing has not only been very true to the label’s couture DNA but has also added a streetwear attitude that’s glamorous and fun.

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Top knots are boring and braids ds are done to de death, but what if we comb combined the two? We mixed up the classics and gave them a twist for a fabulous work look

Turn to find out how to get this look.

BEAUTY masterclass

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Makeup artist andd hairstylist Richard Wilkinson gives the regular top knot a unique touch by adding a braid. Samreen Samad takes notes

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App Apply A p ly a repair serum on the lengths of your hair. If you have limp hair, spritz some sea-salt spray or texturiser for volume.

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Intertwine both the braids and twist them into a top knot. Use bobby pins to hold the braided bun.

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Your hair ir around the crown may get a bit messy in the process, but tame the strands by using a fixing mousse or even water.

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Rub some mousse between your palms and swipe across your crown. Use a brush to o comb hair from all sides for a neat look.

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BEAUTY trial-a-trend

ALL-SEASON SHINE If you love all things sparkly, then the glitter accents seen on Guy Laroche’s runway show at Paris Fashion Week will light up your day. Joyoti Mahanta decodes ecodes the look

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his big spring trend has made its way into fall and winter as well. These futuristic sparkles can take the form of shimmer as well, for nippy evening parties. On the models at Guy Laroche’s autumn/winter 2015 show at Paris Fashion Week, the makeup was essentially a combination of dove grey and white shimmer shadows on the eyes. This has the effect of making that region the focal point of the look.

The look

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BEAUTY hair spotlight

Nimrat Kaur

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ELEGANCE Red carpet looks aren’t always about bold pouts and OTT hairdos. At a recent awards ceremony, Nimrat Kaur pulled off a simple, side-swept hairdo with élan. Priya Chaphekar decodes the look

Nimrat Kaur stands apart among the usual bevy of Bollywood beauties. There’s a freshness and grace to her, whether she’s playing the lonely housewife (Lunchbox) or a hardened ISI agent (American TV series, Homeland). She’s also a hit on the red carpet, as her appearances at the Cannes Film Festival have shown. At a recent awards event, Nimrat Õaunted a look that was the perfect blend of sensuality and elegance. While the one-shoulder bustier gown made her look like a glam goddess, it was the simple yet

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Start by washing your hair with a smoothing shampoo and conditioner. Apply some heat-protectant spray and blow-dry. Using an iron, curl the ends of the hair. Create a rough side parting with a tail comb and let hair fall loosely over one shoulder. Spritz some hairspray. Take a small front section of hair on the smaller side of the part and begin twisting it, working your way back and around the lower hairline. Secure the twist by slipping a pin just below your ear. On the other side, pin the hair in the front and carefully cover the pins with cascading curls to make the style look more natural. Finish with a light misting of curl-shaping spray.

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FACES Tail Comb

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PRIME TIME

Strengthen and smoothen your skin, and nix shine with The Body Shop’s Tea Tree Pore Minimiser, raves Samreen Samad

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he Body Shop is known for its globally acclaimed tea tree line. Whether you’re fighting blemishes, oily skin or acne, the tea tree range has a solution. This range also has the award-winning Tea Tree Pore Minimiser. While there are several gels, creams and serums out there that promise to minimise enlarged pores, this one really delivers. It works in more ways than one. Apart from making pores shrink, this gel-like cream primes the skin for makeup and mattifies it instantly. A small bead is enough to cover all the shine zones because it spreads smoothly and is absorbed quickly. It has the characteristic fragrance of tea tree oil but does not cause a tingly sensation like the other products in this range. You can use this cream after your usual CTM ritual or under makeup as it makes for a brilliant primer. Apart from creating a good base for foundation, it also increases the longevity of makeup, without clogging your pores. So, whether you want an even skin tone, a matte finish or just a light primer, The Body Shop Tea Tree Pore Minimiser is a winner all around.

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I have tiny black spots all over my legs, especially around my thighs. I exfoliate twice a week and moisturise regularly. But these black bumps just won’t go away. Is there any other solution?

I don’t have dark circles but my eyes look sunken. Is there any makeup trick that can make my eyes look brighter and youthful?

I have wavy hair that is a little above shoulder-length, and extremely frizzy. It only looks good ironed, but that’s not possible every day. Which hairdos will make my mane manageable at this length?

—Sanja Jones, New Delhi These black spots are marks due to hair removal or ingrowth. This is a common problem among people who wax or shave. To avoid these dark marks, go for laser hair removal. Try the Soprano Ice Laser as it is one of the most advanced techniques and can rid you of even thick hair. After the laser treatment, a few sessions of TCA peels will help you get rid of the marks completely.

—Riddhi Sabnani, Indore Use colour correctors in shades of orange or yellow before applying concealer under your eyes. Use an off-white pencil on the waterline to open up your eyes. Using a lash curler also helps. When doing eye makeup, skip smoky eyes and try winged eyeliner instead. You can wear only mascara as well to make your eyes look wider.

DR JAISHREE SHARAD Celebrity Cosmetic Dermatologist and CEO of Skinfiniti Aesthetic Skin & LASER clinic, Mumbai

—Sheetal Batra, Pune If you prefer straight hair, opt for permanent hair straightening. If that’s not what you want, use products that tame frizz. There are several in the market like the Sebastian Taming Elixir, and Sebastian Potion 9 for curls. You can also tie your hair in a ponytail, keep it half clippedup or go for a low messy bun.

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Gel-tastic The Za Total Hydration Amino Mineral Refreshing Gel claims to minimise stickiness and thoroughly replenish skin’s moisture, giving it glow and vibrancy. The Femina panel puts it to test

UPNEET PANSARE,

ASSISTANT FEATURES EDITOR Skin type: Combination Since I have an oily T-zone, I am always on the lookout for creams that feel light. This water-based gel was perfect for me because it offers adequate moisturisation without oiliness. Not just that, the Za Total Hydration Amino Mineral Refreshing Gel also gave my skin a subtle glow.

JOYOTI MAHANTA,

ASSISTANT BEAUTY EDITOR Skin type: Normal A dollop of this gel is enough to hydrate the entire face. It refreshed my skin, controlled oiliness for a few hours and provided a matte finish. But strangely, my skin started feeling dry after a couple of hours. The fact that the Za Total Hydration Amino Mineral Refreshing Gel is not parabenfree can be a cause for concern, but the levels are minimal.

SAMREEN SAMAD,

SENIOR FEATURES WRITER Skin type: Combination I have acne-prone skin, so I’m always looking for creams that moisturise without feeling sticky. Za Total Hydration Amino Mineral Refreshing Gel seemed to fit the bill. My skin felt smooth right after application. The product is enriched with vitamin B that enhances hydration. However, I didn’t quite like the fragrance.

ASSOCIATE EDITOR Skin type: Dry I was really excited about trying this gel—I adore gel-based products and in humid weather, I feel like they are absorbed better. Za Total Hydration Amino Mineral Refreshing Gel is a basic hydrator. It’s easily absorbed and would be something I’d use at work, over or under a heavy cream.

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JAYEETA MAZUMDER,

SENIOR FEATURES EDITOR Skin type: Combination The texture of Za Total Hydration Amino Mineral Refreshing Gel is quite creamy even though it is gel-based. I was initially sceptical about using it, but I noticed a considerable drop in stickiness after applying it. My skin felt replenished and well moisturised in the mornings. I have used it as a primer too, and haven’t been disappointed.

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CIRCULAR LEG RAISES How to do it: Get down on all fours with your hands at right angles to your shoulders and palms resting fully on the floor. Make sure your shoulders and hips are parallel to the floor throughout the workout. Straighten one leg behind you, along the floor. Then without moving or tilting the pelvis or lower back, lift the leg up, hold it straight. Imagine that your foot is a paintbrush and you want to paint circles on the Tip: Yasmin back wall. Try to do Karachiwala explains which this up to a count area to focus on, of 10, both in the “Make sure to clockwise as well as use your gluteal the anti-clockwise muscles (the directions. ones in your Repeat the same butt) to lift your legs instead of with your otherr your back. Hold leg.

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your breath and keep the abdominal core muscles taut while doing this exercise.”

MINUTES TO THE PERFECT BUTT

50 SUMO SQUATS AND LEG LIFTS How to do it: Place your feet as far apart as you can while keeping your balance. Bend yyour knees, with the toes pointing outwards at about a 45-degree angle. Lower yo your body till your thighs are parallel to the floor—this is your starting position. Place your palms on your hips. Lift your right leg and kick towards the side. Get back to the Tip: Prashant starting pposition and Sawant has notes on the posture, flex your foot with your toes downwards “Don’t forget to keep your chest and heel off the stretched out and ground. N Now repeat back straight while the same with your doing this workout.” left leg.

Yoga expert Bharat Thakur, personal trainer Prashant Sawant and Pilates exponent Yasmin Karachiwala draw up an at-home routine to get you a firm, toned derrière. By Sayanti Banerjee

SIMPLE WARRIOR POSE How to do it: Stand firm with your legs shoulder-widt shoulder-width apart. Put one foot forward, positioning it two feet ahead. Str Stretch your other leg behind. Your toes should be Tip: “Avoid doing pointing in the same direction. Balance exercises on these exer yourself. Raise both arms over your head surface as you a hard sur and join your palms as you breathe in. your knees. can hurt y Exhale and bend forward so that your Make sure that you head, arms and torso are in a straight line, use a good mat. For those with lower back perpendicular to the floor. Tighten your problems, do not put pelvic muscles and hold this position for too much pressure on 30 to 60 seconds. Release and repeat your knee knees while in the other direction. bend.” adds your bend Thakur. Bharat Th

Make it snappy! On days when even five minutes sound too much, skip the lift and take the stairs—two steps at a time. When at your desk, contract your butt and release it several times in succession.

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arkha Madan was 19 when she participated in the Femina Miss India pageant in 1994— the same year that Aishwarya Rai and Sushmita Sen stole a big share of the limelight. Barkha went down the modelling-acting route too. What stuck with her though was an answer that she gave during the Q&A round at the pageant where she was asked what she would do if she won the crown. “I wanted to reach out to children and ensure that they are brought up in the right manner so that we can shape the future of our world well,” she remembers. Today, almost two decades later, Barkha is living up to her answer at the pageant. Ordained as a Buddhist nun three years ago, she is now on a mission to do her bit to make the world a happier, better place. “During my modelling and acting days, happiness was always so elusive, irrespective of whatever work I did. The competitiveness, the attitude of people around me—all these things put me off. Around that time, I came across a book written by His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama, and in 2000, attended one

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TO BUDDHIST NUN Actor and model Barkha Madan speaks to Reema Behl about the exact moment, more than 20 years ago, when one dream slipped away and another took shape

of his sessions in Dharamshala. Since then, the Buddhist philosophy became central to my life.” Barkha (her ordained name is Gyalten Samten) realised that the answer to her happiness lay in reaching out and helping others. In fact, renouncing the ‘material world’ was not a difficult decision for her at all. “My friends were shocked. Some even stopped talking to me. I could not help them style

their clothes or talk about their boyfriend issues—they couldn’t relate to me any longer.” However, Barkha’s parents were supportive of her decision. “The decision to become a nun was taken overnight. I was at Sera monastery in Karnataka to see my guru and I asked him if I should ordain for the benefit of everyone. He said yes. The ceremony was happening the next morning and

I knew I had to do it. I was apprehensive if I could promote my upcoming film Surkhaab though but I was told I could.” So, she sought her parents’ permission, borrowed a set of robes, got her head shaved and got ordained. “Feeling a razor on my head for the first time was tough but eventually you get used to it.” Barkha later promoted her film in the attire of a Buddhist nun and got a great response.

That was her last film. Today, she is involved with the Maitreya School in Bodh Gaya that provides free education to kids. Barkha teaches there and is raising funds for the school. She’s also associated with the Tara orphanage, the first of its kind in Bihar, for HIV positive children. “We are fighting the stigma associated with the disease and bringing up these kids in a normal way.” She eventually wants to start a Buddhist nunnery in India—presently, there are only Tibetan nunneries. “Some girls show interest in joining Buddhism but the texts are in Tibetan or English and not everyone can understand them. We translated one of the books into Marathi and Hindi recently but a lot still needs to be done. I am trying to ensure that region or language is not a barrier for the spiritual development of these women.” All those years ago, on the Femina Miss India stage, Barkha felt a spirit move her. She may have known then that it was a significant moment, but she could not have guessed how far it would take her.

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How to reinvent like PC There’s no one who’s changed the rules of the game more than Priyanka Chopra. Here’s how you too can roll your dice right

START SMALL, AIM HIGH

Priyanka Chopra started her career with films that, looking back, probably weren’t the best. B-grade films like The Hero and Andaaz were followed by films like Krissh and Don with A-listers. Since then, she’s moved to bigger and better films, one of which, Fashion, won her a National Award.

GIVE THE OUTRAGEOUS A SHOT

Almost everyone from Bollywood has tried to make it in the West. But few have managed to make a go of it. Thanks to her headlining act in Quantico, an American show, Priyanka is now a well-known entity in Hollywood. “I try and set really high standards. I don’t follow a path, I create

NETWORK WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE Whether it’s being seen at

BRANCH OUT

Hollywood parties or partying with Gerard Butler, Priyanka is

Priyanka’s career was going great, but she decided to switch tracks to singing.

always networking. In an interview

She sang three songs with international artistes like will.i.am, Pitbull and covered

with Hollywood Reporter, she said,

Bonnie Raitt’s I Can’t Make You Love Me. “I need something new to work on all the

“Kerry [Washington] and I locked eyes

time,” she has said. “I can’t work on just being pretty or saying almost the same

and she screamed my name. Can you

lines.” Last year, she also wrote a column in The Guardian, discussing female genital

believe we’ve never actually met?

mutilation and child marriage. And in December 2014, she wrote an opinion piece

We’ve just had a virtual love fest over

for The New York Times on the importance of education for girls.

the phone and on Twitter. It was great to finally meet her in person.”

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my own,” she says.

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THE STORYTELLER

In just seven years, Shradha Sharma’s YourStory.com has become the go-to site for every other Indian start-up and investor. She tells Reema Behl how the idea was born

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ery few names in the Indian start-up space create the kind of effect that Shradha Sharma’s has. Born and raised in Bihar at a time when women were considered a liability, she wanted to prove herself to the world and make her mum proud. “The glint in my mother’s eyes, when she would flaunt a trophy I’d won for topping my class, inspired me to work even harder,” says the 35-year-old. She wanted to prove that there was more to her and women across the globe. YourStory.com was her answer to this— one of the largest online platforms for India’s entrepreneurs.

Nocturnal brilliance In 2008, while she worked night shifts for a news channel, she turned to an old passion. “I had a dream—to write great stories, share them with the world and have fun doing it.” So she started writing a blog that covered Indian

start-ups in her free time. “People all around were doing great things but because they were not famous, they weren’t given any coverage. I decided to become their voice.” Though, initially, Shradha didn’t have a business model, her strong and unique content was her USP. Three years later, as YourStory grew, money started pouring in.

Money, money, money Currently, revenue is being generated by the website in three ways— advertising, events

CEO 101 Don’t wait for people to come and tell you you are doing great, keep telling yourself that Don’t sit on an idea, get your research in place and execute Read as much as you can. Some suggestions are brainpickings.com and Bird by Bird by Anne Lammot

“I had a dream—to write great stories, share them with the world and have fun doing it.”

and consultation. “We reach over one lakh visitors every day and advertisers are interested since we offer very focussed, outputbased advertising. We organise events called TechSparks, MobileSparks etc. There is a process to select the participating start-ups in such events— almost 60 per cent of start-ups get funded after each event. We also connect corporates with startups, giving them an insight into the startup space. That too generates revenue.”

A crazy team For the longest time, she worked by herself. “There were times when I was ill-treated or asked to leave when I would go for interviews, because no one knew about YourStory.” Eventually Shradha got her best friend to help her out, but today her team comprises names from some renowned media houses and top B-schools. Shradha stresses the importance of a good team for start-ups.

“For entrepreneurs, there is no rational way of putting a team together in the beginning. I too just went with my gut and hired people who I found a certain connect with. We are an eclectic, crazy and committed team. Over the last seven years, we have written a story every single day and today we have covered over 18,000 start-ups on YourStory.”

Next big thing Shradha now wants to reach people across the country and is taking the product route. “We are launching the YourStory app where people can share their own stories in vernacular languages. The app will also give the option of voice and video recording and will be available in all Indian languages and give everyone a chance to share their stories.” She recently raised Series A funding ($3-6million) for the product platform in her first ever round of funding.

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PUTTING life in style

It pays off beautifully when one invests in oneself, inside and outside, says Chhaya Momaya

Chhaya Momaya is a Mumbai-based image consultant

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ome years ago, I was commissioned to host a talkshow series on Akashvani. The radio show turned out to be one of the most enlightening experiences for me. People from remote parts of India called up to ask for tips on grooming and presentation. A woman from rural Maharashtra wanted to know about food styling—her brother was planning to visit her after a long time and she wanted to make the meal look perfect. “I am a good cook, but I don’t know much by way of dressing up the food,” she said shyly. “My floor is smeared with cowdung, that’s how poor I am.” She was a humble farmer’s wife. I was stumped for a minute, but then I decided to rely on that simple philosophy that works best in nearly every situation in life—work with what you have. I told her to do a rangoli around the plate, light incense near the seating area, make sure the bronze vessel in which she was going to offer water was gleaming, and that the hand towel was clean and smelling of camphor. A few episodes later, the woman called in again to thank me. She said her brother had been so happy with all the effort that she had taken that he had gifted her `51 while leaving. I confess I became a little emotional when I heard the innocent joy in her voice. When people ask me what glamour is all about, I always tell them it’s not about being part of the upper crust—it is all about style. And style is all about discipline and effort. It is easy to assume that one must be vain and self-absorbed to be spending any length of time preening for a soiree. But the effort you take to look impeccably groomed for a party says a lot about you—that you care enough about the host to make that attempt to be at

your best and that you care about yourself. Of course, inner beauty counts. But, honestly, do we really have the time to peel all the layers and get to know every single person that we meet in our lives? It may not matter much if you own a Cavalli or an Armani. But there is a certain sheen to you when you wear well-ironed clothes, when your nails are filed impeccably and your shoes are polished. Quality lies in the details, not in the price tag. In a world that is fast snuggling upto to SMS language, quality also lies in the way you speak and behave. It has as much to do with the way you choose not to utter the F-word as an adjective when you are trying to emphasise a point. There are more than a million words in the Oxford dictionary—what does it say about you when you lazily use just a handful more zealously than all the others to express

“When people ask me what glamour is all about, I always tell them it’s not about being part of the upper crust—it is all about style.”

yourself? Make the effort to get to know a language, any language, well, if you are going to use it. Years ago, I met Maharani Gayatri Devi at the CCI Club. When I asked the Maharani to share the secret of her style statement, she laughed and said, “Oh nothing, I like my glass of whiskey, and I stay up till two if it’s a great party and I enjoy the conversation.” In her chiffon and her pearls and with that beautifully wrinkled face, she indeed looked like someone who carried the wealth of all her years— both joys and sorrows—in her eyes. She was testimony to the belief that one should always try to be the best that one can be—in mind, body and spirit. Set demanding standards to reach out to, but love yourself enough. That is the best style statement you need.

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“THE EFFORT YOU TAKE TO LOOK IMPECCABLY GROOMED FOR A PARTY SAYS A LOT ABOUT YOU.”

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‘AMBITION

KEEPS DRIVING US FORWARD’

With her new book, 30 Women In Power: Their Voices, Their Stories, Naina Lal Kidwai, one of the country’s most powerful businesswomen, wants to change how the world sees India and its women. She gives Reema Behl an insight into her life, struggles and core beliefs

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t a beer festival in south Mumbai, I found myself amidst a sea of officegoers letting off steam unable to stop looking at a woman who seemed very familiar. I kept darting glances at her but my brain refused to make connections. Until she got up to leave. ‘Naina Lal Kidwai is at a local beer festival in a parking lot in Mumbai,’ my brain screamed at me. I dashed towards her, the handcrafted beer fumes in the air adding to my fearlessness. I stopped her and introduced myself in staccato sentences. She nodded courteously, gave me her card and asked me to connect with her the following week. Later, when I finally met her, she told me that she wasn’t even meant to go to that festival. She was there just briefly to support her daughter’s friend, the organiser. Considering I don’t even like beer, I could only ascribe this to serendipity! After an interview that was rescheduled seven times, I finally ended up on a cosy couch in a Mumbai hotel, with Naina’s warm smile putting me at ease almost instantly.

‘It is about the whole support system that assists in making her a winner’ Interviewing Naina Lal Kidwai is intimidating. She is the first Indian

woman to graduate from Harvard Business School; the first woman to be employed by PricewaterhouseCoopers (PwC) in India; the first woman president of the Federation of Indian Chambers of Commerce and Industry (FICCI), and the first woman to guide the functioning of a foreign bank (HSBC) in India. But Naina the person is far more memorable for her spirit and energy. Instead of priding herself on these firsts, she questions why other women didn’t accomplish them before her. And through her book, 30 Women In Power: Their Voices, Their Stories, she is trying to ensure that stories of women in power reach other women in the corporate space, and more importantly, their parents too. “I knew so many women with interesting leadership stories but you’d never come across their names.

“I’ve been struck by how many guys have bought my book. They’re trying to understand their wives or daughters better through it.”

I picked women from across industries, who, like me, believed it was important that their stories, vision and leadership advice reaches others. I’m not surprised that a lot of young women in companies are excited. But I’ve been struck by how many guys have bought my book. They’ve come up and said they’re trying to understand their wives or daughters better through it. Many fathers have bought the book for their daughters. I also want parents and teachers to read it since they are major influencing factors in our lives. For me, the book is beyond just the women—it is about the whole support system that a woman needs—parents, teachers, husbands—and their role in making her a winner,” she says. I was curious to know how she fared as an interviewer since she has always been on the other side of the table and asking questions is tougher than giving answers! “Oh, there was a fair amount of persuasion, coercion and making people feel ashamed for saying yes and not meeting the deadline that was involved! (laughs) Many of them were first time writers. At least half a dozen threw their hands up halfway through and said, ‘I can’t do it’. Initially, quite a few talked mostly about their company, so I had to make them focus on themselves. Also, I had to get them to give advice—in each chapter, more

than half of the essay is on learnings and advice. I had a big debate with the publishers as they thought it gave it a sort of a textbook flavour but that’s what I wanted. I wanted people to be able to skim through the book if they wanted and still learn from it.”

‘A woman in your everyday life can be a real source of inspiration.’ Who was Naina’s inspiration, though? “I entered the workplace in 1982. I can’t say I found any role models in the work environment. But influences at home played a major role. My mother had a strong value system that has shaped me. My younger sister was very driven in terms of her achievements and she went on to become one of India’s best known golfer. People at my workplace also served as great support systems. In 1993, when Mumbai was in flames, we had given out strict instructions to people that they should not come to work. I was heading retail banking at Standard Chartered then and knew I had to be at work. When I reached office, I saw my executive assistant there. When I asked her why, she said, ‘I just felt I needed to be here if I could make it’. She left her threeyear-old child with a neighbour because her maid hadn’t shown up, and came on local trains that were hardly functioning. When you see such women you think, ‘Who am I to even think twice about coming to work when I am driving a car and staying much closer?’ A woman in your everyday life can be a real source of inspiration.” ‘You don’t start by thinking you could be CEO.’ I asked her about Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In that has sold over two million copies worldwide; that she wrote the foreword for. Sheryl speaks of how ambition in men is valued as dynamic and attractive, while in women it is ruthless and unnatural! “I think as

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Naina Lal Kidwai at a FICCI conference

Naina photographed at an event

long as ambition is not ambition at all costs, it’s a great driver for ensuring that you can get the best out of yourself. You don’t start by thinking you could be CEO. When you join, you only see the next two steps ahead of you and you think well, maybe I can get there. If you’re ambitious, and I think you’ll see that trait in all the women in the book, you begin to find the traits that you want to embrace, and that keeps you going. Benchmarking yourself against people who have got to certain positions and imagining why you too could be there helps. Self confidence, always looking around, and ambition keep driving you forward.” She recounts how she inculcated this attitude: “I would often top my class and my father would say, ‘The fact that you’ve come first is not important. Have you done your best? If you do your best and still don’t come first, it’s good enough.’ It gave me a different perspective on things because then you’re not competing against the world, you’re competing against yourself. So the qualities that come with that are far more constructive, rather than trying to destroy others, as you look to move ahead.”

‘Women can’t have it all or can they?’ Naina was one of the first women to

“I think women are often their own glass ceilings... Sometimes, it is about that little bit of push and you find you’re actually pushing against an open door.”

be hired by PwC and in many ways she has broken the glass ceiling in the corporate cosmos. “I think women are often their own glass ceilings. PwC said they don’t hire women, but it just needed a little nudge and it happened. I don’t know how many women even applied earlier or if they just said, ‘Oh, they don’t hire women so we won’t even try’. Sometimes, it is about that little bit of push and you find you’re actually pushing against an open door. However, discrimination does take place against women, and many have spoken about it in the book as well. Lawyers like Zia Modi say they had to struggle to be noticed, even if they belonged to some of the big legal families. Zia had to prove her mettle in arguing cases in court.” I ask her what she made of Indra Nooyi’s statement that ‘women can’t have it all’. She corrects me gently with, “Actually, if you see the exact wording, she posed it more like a question, ‘or can they?’ She doesn’t make a categorical statement, but she recognises that there are a lot of balancing factors that need to be taken care of. I really do also define it as crystal balls which you want to keep in the air—your work and your family are crystal, so there’s no way you can let either drop. So the thing that you do give up on is the ‘me’ time. I refer to it as a rubber ball, because that’s the

thing you sort of allow to bounce away. So that’s what I felt she implied by not having it all.”

‘I’ve actually renegotiated a birthday celebration with my daughter!’ Did she ever experience ‘mummy guilt’? “You feel guilty all the time! You’re doing this balancing act and you’re making decisions at every stage—sometimes you should have been at work, and you chose to be at the birthday party that you felt was important for your daughter or the times, when you did the opposite. The guilt is something which we have to learn to manage. I would be absolutely untrue to myself if I said that I didn’t feel it. You always have to choose, and sometimes that is very hard. So you begin to arrive at solutions around it, and negotiate your way. You shift what you can and ask others to step in where they can. I’ve actually renegotiated a birthday celebration with my daughter!” Naina has stressed upon the importance of choosing the right husband in her book. She got married, at 30, to Rashid K Kidwai, who currently runs an NGO named Grassroots. “That I was on a work trajectory and in a leadership role was known to him and that made it easier,

REALITY role model because the person I was marrying knew where my ambitions lay, and loved me for it. It makes it easier if you’ve chosen the right person, but it better be someone who’s secure himself. If the person loves you, they celebrate your success as if it’s their own. But you have to be sensitive to this and make sure that everything isn’t about you, you and you. There’s a lot of give and take along the way.”

‘For me, feminism was about having inner toughness...’ How did Naina perceive feminism? “When I was growing up, feminism was very noisy and out there. I didn’t understand why anyone would do that. Even at business school, there were

“I’m not out here trying to change the world and establish anything other than the fact that I can work and I should be rewarded on merit. ” girls who would slam the door in the face of the guy who opened it for them. I’m very happy with people opening doors or carrying bags for me. I have grown up reading Simone de Beauvoir and people of that order who were feminists of their time. So it had its influence but for me, feminism was about having inner toughness, without needing any demonstration like, ‘Hey, I’m a woman, you know, right out there’. I’m not out here trying to change the world and establish anything other than the fact that I can work and I should be rewarded on merit. At work, I wasn’t going to stomp out of a room or fling things on male colleagues’ faces because they used bad language or because they were talking about something which I didn’t think was right. You bring about the change very subtly rather than fight that battle. I really appreciate those who raise their voice against injustice towards women. I love the Pink Chaddi campaign in Bangalore. I love that there were people who did candlelight vigils over the Nirbhaya case. I think that these shows of support are very, very important, especially when they’re collective. They don’t have to be women doing it for women.”

‘I am only going to retire from HSBC, not from working.’ The ‘dominant deal-maker’ retires in December this year. What are her plans post-retirement? “I am only going to retire from HSBC, not from working. There’s a lot of work in the not-for-profit space. I will continue to work in the renewable energy sector. These things take a lot of energy and time, because you’re building something from scratch. But there’s a lot of enthusiasm from the people who come on board, whether it’s the government or the World Bank. As to what a regular day would look like, you’ll have to ask me this question a year from now (laughs). I would want to spend more time in safari parks. Our family trips were always short ones. I like Indian classical and western classical music. It’s been ages since I went to a Hariprasad Chaurasia concert. I’d want to do that. Also I love reading but I haven’t read a book in forever. I read just business literature magazines. I know life will be different and I’m excited about it because I will be able to do what I want and say no to what I don’t want to do, which you can’t always do in your day to day life.”

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‘Women should push their cause, something which men do quite shamelessly...’ So what advice would she give to women in the workplace today? Naina elucidated that with an interesting anecdote, “At work, when I would go from my room to the washroom, guys would be waiting to catch that opportunity to trot alongside and establish a connection. They would follow me into the washroom if they could. (laughs) However, women never took any initiatives in terms of getting to know their management. It’s an indication of how women don’t use opportunity to be noticed, to push their cause, something which men would do quite shamelessly. I encourage women to do that—I know it helped me. I think women find that harder to do, because sometimes going for events, etc comes off their personal time, especially in the evenings. I think they should be seen at such events and build their own networks. Also, meeting people outside of one’s workplace, but within one’s industry is crucial. This helps one perform better within the organisation—you’re better informed, you have somebody you can call to get information, you’re able to use that for the job you do.”

Naina speaking at a HSBC event

Women across Nepal are currently protesting for a gender responsive Constitution. Radha Paudel’s organisation AWON is at the forefront of this fight

‘THE ABSENCE OF WAR IS NOT PEACE’

Tell us a bit about your organisation Action Works Nepal (AWON)? AWON is a borderless campaign for peace and justice at the global level. In November 14, 2002, I witnessed a huge massacre during the Maoist insurgency and somehow I survived. It spurred me to take responsibility for representing the poor, rural, non-political people, especially women. Right now, we are working on seven projects related to

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ver 10 years ago, Radha Paudel, then one of the first anaesthetic nurses in Nepal, found herself in the thick of a civil war between the Maoists and the government army in Nepal. Day after day, she found herself tending to hundreds of women in the Karnali zone, a mountainous, conflict-ridden area. To make matters worse, she was targeted by both the Maoists and the government, as each side suspected her of assisting the other. Eventually, the armed groups started to trust her, and she started a dialogue for peace between the two parties. Radha went on to write a book on life during the 10-year-long civil war Khalanga Ma Hamala (The Attack On Khalanga). In an e-mail interview with Femina, she talks about what spurred her to start her crusade.

“I WROTE THIS BOOK (KHALANGA MA HAMALA) TO HELP POLICYMAKERS UNDERSTAND THE PAIN AND STRUGGLE OF PEOPLE DURING WAR, AND ALSO TO URGE OTHERS TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE WELFARE OF THE RURAL POOR PEOPLE.”

peace building, human rights and women empowerment in the most remote, poor, war-affected and geographically desolate areas, like Karnali, Nepal. Besides this, training, research, lobbying and advocacy work are going on at the national and international levels. AWON also provided immediate response and aid for a month to 1,200 families from eight earthquake-affected districts in Nepal. What is the situation in Nepal now, post the earthquake? This is a time of recovery and reconstruction. There are some gaps and lapses in earthquake response related to policies, donors, media and others. Various forms of sexual and gender-based violence are being seen, including trafficking, abuse, rape, etc. The problem is two-fold: firstly, policies are not being enforced. Meanwhile the young people in Nepal, who are unaware of safety nets and the modus operandi of criminals are falling into the vulnerable bracket. Your book received the Madan Puraskar, Nepal’s most prestigious literary honour, last year. What it is about? My book Khalanga Ma Hamala is all about reframing or redefining peace and justice— because the absence of war is not peace, not at all. It is about 10 years of Maoist conflict in Nepal and gives the perspective of a civilian woman, from the battleground. I wrote this book to help policymakers understand the pain and struggle of people during war, and also to urge others to be responsible for the welfare of the rural, poor people. Through the book, I urged everyone to rethink their every action and whether it’s contributing towards peace or conflict.

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Nurse by training and social worker by calling, ‘Nepal’s nightingale’ Radha Paudel grew up knowing what it meant to be powerless. Her mission, she tells Deepa Suryanarayan, is to support the rural poor, worst affected by the country’s problems, whether it’s the Maoist conflict or the devastating April 2015 earthquake

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WOMEN FOR PEACE

They say women cause wars. Then the examples offered range from Helen of Troy, Cleopatra to Draupadi—all mythical legends. Recorded history does not name a single woman at the forefront of terror and war. However, it does say that women and children are the worst hit in troubled times. Femina’s new campaign, Women For Peace, throws the spotlight on soldiers who form the army of white flags

MAN WE LOVE

ARUNODAY SINGH BARES ALL Nairita Mukherjee catches up with the hot actor only to discover that he’s a book-loving nerd, a poet at heart, and a total mushpot

MY BIO IN MY WORDS “I grew up in Kodaikanal and studied in an international boarding school there, since I was six.” “I CAME TO MUMBAI IN 2009 AND THE FIRST THING I DID WAS SOURCE CONTACTS OF DIFFERENT CASTING DIRECTORS AND START AUDITIONING. I LANDED A SMALL ROLE IN SIKANDAR, WHICH WAS PRODUCED BY SUDHIR MISHRA. HE LIKED MY WORK AND CAST ME IN YEH SAALI ZINDAGI. THAT WAS THE TIME I ALSO AUDITIONED FOR AISHA, JISM 2 AND A COUPLE OF OTHER FILMS, AND SOON EVERYTHING SORT OF FELL INTO PLACE.”

“I love writing; I write almost every day, and I am currently trying to get a book published—if anybody is still interested in publishing a book of poems in this day and age, that is. I started writing in school, and it was a means to woo girls. I used to be this brooding guy and I thought writing poetry would add to my appeal. And then it stuck with me. I want to eventually get to the point where I can write scripts too.”

“Currently I’m just finishing off Ashutosh Gowariker’s Mohenjo Daro. We’re about to finish the Mumbai schedule of the movie; prior to that we were in Bhuj since January. And then, there’s an independent British film that’s in the pipeline, but I can’t talk about it just yet.”

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“My parents live in Bhopal but I have probably lived there only for about three months a year. After boarding school, I went straight to Brandeis University in America to study English literature, and that’s where I started doing theatre in college.”

MAN WE LOVE

YOUR FOOLPROOF GUIDE TO WOOING A GIRL

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THINGS YOU DIDN’T KNOW ABOUT ME

Make her laugh, try to smell good while you’re doing it and don’t say anything stupid. Just be honest. Take her out as often as you can.

Complete the sentence: ‘Before I go to bed, I...’

Well, there have been a few, but the first one was in August 2010. A bad heartbreak is as traumatic as any severe injury.

Read. I’m currently reading an anthropological work called Sapiens. I read any book that comes my way. y.

SEXIEST WOMAN IN BOLLYWOOD? Almost every girl is ridiculously sexy. But if I have to name someone, it’s got to be Deepika Padukone.

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A rival you enjoy competing with... Everyone is a rival but there are no rivals worthy of me (laughs).

TURN-ONS AND TURN-OFFS Anybody who can keep me engaged in a conversation and pique my interest has me turned on. Stupidity is a turn-off. I’m not talking lack of intelligence, but when people wilfully refrain from meaningful conversations, I find it to be a major turn-off.

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LONG STORY OR CUT TO THE CHASE?

WORKOUT OR MAKE OUT? Both. A good make out can be a good workout.

PILLOW TALK OR SNOOZE OFF? Pillow talk, always.

The last time you got into trouble? Ah, just this morning, with my girlfriend. I’d rather slap four people and get into a brawl than trouble her!

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YOUR FIRST HEARTBREAK

Nobody goes straight to sex— you have to build chemistry. Trust me, sex is boring without chemistry. And that happens only when you have a meaningful conversation and get to know if you really like the person. And if you don’t like the person, there’s very little chance that you’re having sex at all.

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Dogs or cats?

I’m a dog person. I have two dogs, Daaku and Lilu.

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Exercise high

Calisthenics or running, and I like to take to the streets for my workouts, using monkey bars wherever I can find them. I usually follow a four-day workout and one day-off regime.

Diet rules

Diets get difficult with all the hectic shooting schedules, but I usually stick to a high-protein one.

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Top 5 movies

The Jungle Book, Shawshank Redemption, The Usual Suspects, Warrior and When Harry Met Sally.

Have you ever used your star status to get out of a sticky situation?

(Laughs) If I had star status, I’d know! When I do, we’ll see. And I am huge like a gorilla, so I rarely get into sticky situations.

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If you weren't an actor, you would be…

A writer.

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Your tombstone will read... Lived well, died well. Actually, make that ‘Well done.’ It’s more hopeful.

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CHEMISTRY STATS

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this fortnight The latest in food, travel and interiors DÉCOR DIY

Découpage tabletop

You need:

A table, patterned or colourful paper, scissors, Mod Podge glue and brush

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Zucchini pasta 1 large zucchini 1/4 cup tomatoes, chopped 1/4 cup carrots, diced 1/4 cup olives, chopped 1/4 cup extra virgin olive oil

1 clove garlic, crushed salt and pepper, to taste 2 tsp lemon juice 1 tsp parmesan cheese, shredded 1 tsp red chilli flakes

1.Take a peeler and shave the zucchini into thin ribbons. Pat dry with a cloth. 2. In a bowl, combine the zucchini ribbons, tomatoes, carrots

and olives. Lightly sauté in a pan with olive oil and garlic. Season. 3. Take the pan off the heat. Sprinkle with lemon juice, cheese and chilli flakes.

ÎMake sure that the surface of your table is clean and dry. Î Coat the surface of the table and the non-coloured side of the paper with a layer of glue and place the paper with the

coloured side up on the table. Î Smooth out to make sure that there are no air bubbles. Let it dry completely. Î Apply a coat of the glue on top of the coloured paper. Let it dry. Your tabletop is ready.

AM INTROVERT, WILL TRAVEL

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ravelling can be tough for those who don’t like socialising. UK-based Lisa Avebury, a selfproclaimed introvert, understands this. In May, she set up the Sacred Introvert Retreat Tours. Unlike other tours which involve social gatherings and interaction with other tourists, Sacred Introvert emphasises activities like yoga and meditation to help tourists ‘listen to their own thoughts and take things in.’ In 2016, the group has planned excursions to American national parks and the Scottish Highlands, among other places. For details, log on to sacredintrovert.com.

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AFEWGOODELEMENTS

Delicious meals don’t require a ton of ingredients. With just red pepper, mushroom, tomato, feta and flour forming the core team, chefs at Olive Bar and Kitchen, Mumbai conjure up a delectable feast. By Upneet Pansare

SOUPY TALES

ROASTED RED PEPPER SOUP WITH MUSHROOM DUXELLE AND FETA A hearty soup that is both sweet and tangy

150 g mushrooms, chopped finely

300 g red peppers 200 g tomatoes, chopped 25 g flour

5 cups water

3 tbsp butter

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salt and pepper, to taste

100 g feta, crumbled

Serves four PREP TIME: 15 minutes > COOKING TIME: 45 minutes TO MAKE THE SOUP 1. Preheat the oven to 180ºC. Once heated, place red peppers in and roast for 45 minutes. Remove and let cool. Then cut each in half and scrape out the insides of the peppers. Then slice the peppers. Set aside. 2. To make the roux, melt 1 tbsp butter in a saucepan on medium heat. Once melted, stir in 1 tbsp of flour and 2 tbsp water. Stir for two minutes and remove. 3. For the soup, add 1 tbsp butter to a saucepan. Once the butter has melted, add the roasted red peppers and tomatoes. Cook for three minutes, then add the roux. Stir constantly to ensure that the roux doesn’t stick to the pan and gradually add water. Increase the heat to high until the liquid starts to bubble. Then simmer for 15 minutes. Season with salt. After cooling, blend in a processor. TO MAKE THE MUSHROOM DUXELLE 4. Add 1 tbsp butter to a saucepan on medium heat. After it has melted, sweat the mushrooms. Season with salt and pepper. Once cooked, remove from the pan and let it cool. Place in a bowl. 5. To assemble, ladle soup into a bowl and top with a quenelle of feta. Serve with the mushroom duxelle.

TIP: WHILE MAKING THE DUXELLE, ADD SALT ONLY AT THE END ELSE IT WILL MAKE THE MUSHROOMS WATER.

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QUICK BITES

FETA-STUFFED MUSHROOMS WITH RED PEPPER COULIS, CONFIT TOMATOES AND LAVASH A delicious, low-calorie Mediterranean starter

150 g red peppers 100 g tomatoes

1 tbsp butter

3 tbsp oil

1 cup water

3-4 sprigs of thyme

salt and pepper, to taste

500 g mushrooms 200 g feta 1 tsp parsley, finely chopped

150 g flour 1 tsp yeast

PREP TIME: 15 minutes > COOKING TIME: 45 minutes

Serves four

TO PREPARE THE MUSHROOMS 1. Remove the stems. Stuff them with feta and parsley. Preheat the oven to 180ºC. Place the mushrooms in a pan and bake for 12 minutes. TO MAKE THE RED PEPPER COULIS 2. Coarsely chop the red peppers. Add 1 tbsp butter to a saucepan on medium heat. Once melted, add red peppers and cook until tender. Add ½ cup water. After they become soft, remove from heat and let cool. Whisk in a blender till you get the consistency of a thick sauce. Season with salt and pepper. TO MAKE THE LAVASH 3. In a bowl, combine 1 tsp lukewarm water and yeast. Add flour and salt. Knead the dough with your hands. Allow dough to rest for 20 minutes. Divide dough into even-sized balls and roll each one out into thin rectangles. Place on a greased baking sheet and bake at 180ºC for five minutes or until crispy. TO CONFIT THE TOMATOES 4. Blanch the tomatoes. Cut in half. Remove the skin, core and seeds. Place on a baking sheet with oil and thyme. Season with salt and pepper. Bake for 15 minutes or until tender. 5. Place the stuffed mushrooms on a plate and serve with the red pepper coulis, confit tomatoes and lavash.

TIP: LAVASH, WHEN WRAPPED IN A KITCHEN NAPKIN, CAN BE STORED FOR SEVERAL DAYS AT ROOM TEMPERATURE.

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MAIN

COURSE PIZZA WITH SAUTÉED RED PEPPER, MUSHROOM AND FETA Easy-to-make, thin crust pizza with flavourful toppings

150 g tomatoes 100 g red peppers, diced 100 g mushrooms, chopped

250 g flour

100 g feta, crumbled

100 ml water 3 g yeast

1 tbsp butter

3 g sugar

salt and pepper, to taste 1 tsp oregano 1 tsp basil, chopped

Serves four PREP TIME: 30 minutes > COOKING TIME: 15 minutes TO MAKE THE DOUGH 1. In a bowl, combine 1 tsp water, yeast, sugar, salt and flour. Knead the dough and allow it to rest for 20 minutes. Knead it a little more to push the air out with your hands. Roll out to the desired size, in a circular shape. TO MAKE THE SAUCE 2. Blanch the tomatoes. Remove the skin, core and seeds. Coarsely chop the tomatoes. Melt butter in a saucepan and add the tomatoes. Add a little water and simmer for 15 minutes. Add chopped basil and oregano and mix. Season with salt and pepper. TO MAKE THE PIZZA 3. Preheat the oven to 180ºC. Place the rolled dough on a greased baking tray. Pour a layer of tomato sauce. Add mushrooms, red peppers and crumbled feta. Bake for approximately 15 minutes. Serve hot.

TIP:

WHILE MAKING THE PIZZA DOUGH, WARM THE WATER FIRST AND THEN ADD IT TO THE OTHER INGREDIENTS.

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WATER WORLD

Portugal has plenty of cliffs, strangely shaped outcrops and caves, whose almost unreal beauty is set off by the clarity of the waters. Between the rocks long stretches of sand alternate with tiny coves that can only be reached by boat.

MAKE THE

MOMENT LAST The hope of spotting footballer Christiano Ronaldo may take you to Portugal. But you’ll return smitten with its fantastic coastline and easy pace of life

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PICTURE POSTCARD BEAUTY

The charmingly-rustic Azenhas do Mar Village is located in one of the most beautiful settings in Portugal, with the cliff-side village leading to the beach and a natural pool. The village is a UNESCO World Heritage site, with charming shops, fascinating palaces and amazing views.

PRODUCING CHAMPIONS

A horse being trained at the Queluz Equestrian School, which has been recognised as one of the four great riding academies of the world. The school is steeped in centuries of tradition, history and knowledge of classical horsemanship. It has produced three Olympic winners.

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EUROPE AT ITS BEST Porto, Portugal’s second-largest city, is situated on the banks of the Duoro river. Porto is known for its medieval relics, soaring bell towers, extravagant baroque churches and stately beaux-arts buildings piled on top of one another.

Portuguese cheese is overlooked by much of the world. But Portugal boasts of various high quality artesanal cheeses, which are primarily produced using sheep’s and goat’s milk. There are approximately 15 known styles of Portuguese cheese; (right) A corridor of Monserrate Palace in the state of Sintra. The palace is a 19th century stately home and blends Portuguese, Arabian and Indian architectural styles. The palace was commissioned by Francis Cook, an English textile baron, who used the estate as a summer retreat.

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A TREAT FOR THE SENSES

THE BUZZMAKERS

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SAINA NEHWAL 2.0 What made you shoot those fun Dubsmash videos? It was hilarious to act as Babu Rao (Paresh Rawal from Hera Pheri) and Govind (Sunny Deol from Damini). I’d like to thank Akshay (Devalkar), a fellow badminton player, who helped me out with this. The format makes it easy to shoot such videos.

You’re very active on Instagram and Twitter. What is the experience like? I like social media, as it allows me to connect with people. I mostly put up posts and photos of my performance and tournaments. I check my handles at least twice a day.

A recent public appearance you made and enjoyed. I really enjoyed being on Comedy Nights With Kapil. He was so nice to me! He came to my vanity van and asked about my well-being.

Any favourite designers? I have no specific favourites, but Pallavi Jaipur and Maharaja I like P Designers from Hyderabad. Des

You seem to love Bollywood lot. Which are your favourite a lot films and actors, and what did you recently watch that made an impact?

I like Shah Rukh Khan, Aamir Kha Khan, Ranveer Singh, Ranbir Ka Kapoor, Salman Khan and Ayus Ayushmann Khurrana. I loved wat watching Bahubali, 2 States a and Bajrangi Bhaijaan.

Tell us how your achievements coincide with the goals you have set for yourself. My passion has always been badminton and every trophy is precious to me. I won a bronze medal in the 2012 Olympics, the Uber Cup bronze medal in 2014 and a silver in the World Championship 2015. At the Gold Grand Prix, I have won nine titles and been a runner-up once. I have also won a bronze medal at the Asian Games, a gold, silver and a bronze medal at the Commonwealth Games, and a bronze at the Asian Championship. My ambition is to repeat these performances as long as I am associated with the game.

—As told to Neeti Jaychander

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You do a lot of fashion shoots. Do you like dressing up? I like it and I mostly do what I’m told. I’m kept cosy in a vanity van and people adhere to the fact that I’m very professional. However, I want to be spoken about more for my game than for the way I dress.

HOW HAVE YOU EVOLVED AS A PUBLIC FIGURE IN FRONT OF THE CAMERA? It is easy to be in front of the media and face the camera. Although they seem to like me, many times I’ve had very little time because of my busy schedule. Initially, it was difficult dealing with the whole publicity thing because your words can have repercussions in the entire country.