Evidence Regrets From the Dying

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Ruth Mery Montalvo Acosta Evidence: Regrets from the dying This evidence is divided into two parts. Read the instructions below and make sure you complete both tasks.

Fuente: SENA A. In 2012, Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative nurse, wrote a book called “The

Top Five Regrets of the Dying”. Read the following article about that book and answer the questions below. To answer questions 1 and 2, follow the grammar structure in the example: Example: They wish they hadn’t wasted time in silly arguments. Source: http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regretsof-the-dying

Top five regrets of the dying A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life? There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. "When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently," she says, "common themes surfaced again and again". Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware: 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. "This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it". 2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard. "This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence".

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. "Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result". 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. "Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying". 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. "This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again". What's your greatest regret so far and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die? Questions: 1. What is one of the most common regrets dying people, particularly men, have? 2. When dying people are asked about their regrets, what are the most common themes they mention? 2. In the article they mentioned that happiness is a choice. What do you think this means?

Answers: 1.The most common regret that dying men have is “I wish I hadn't worked so hard”. That is because they spent their whole life working so hard for sure have much more money for themselves or for their family despite of share time with their children and their wives so, many people specially men regret of worked so hard. 2. When dying people talk about their regrets the most common themes are: to work so hard and have no time for their relatives, they regret about have no courage to express their feelings and live their life in sadness because they didn’t let themselves be happy by thinking in others’ opinion, also they regret about no stayed in touch with their friends. 3. I think “Happiness is a choice” means that many people live their life in the misery without think about it can be different, they can change the way they do the things but they are used to live like that all their life and it is only when they are about to die when they realise that the things can be different change some things and do it for living better. B. Using the answers from part A question 2, describe how things would have

been different if they had changed their actions in each situation. Read the example below: Example: Regret: They wish they hadn’t wasted time on silly arguments. Reflection: If they hadn’t wasted time on silly arguments, they would have enjoyed the company of others more.

Answer: Regret: They wish they had the courage to live a life true to themselves, and not the life others expected of them. Reflection: If they had courage to live a life true to themselves and not the life others expected of them, they would have enjoyed their life living one in truly. Regret: They wish they hadn't worked so hard. Reflection: if they hadn’t worked so hard, they would have spent much more time with their family and they’d have enjoyed their children’s youth. Regret: They wish they had the courage to express their feelings. Reflection: If they had the courage to express their feelings, they would have been happy because they’d have enjoyed their life. Regret: They wish they had stayed in touch with their friends. Reflection: if they had stayed in touch with their friends they would have shared their life with people, who really care of them, Regret: They wish they had let themselves be happier. Reflection: if they had let themselves be happier they would haven’t regret about their sad life, and they would have enjoyed much more their life.

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