What is Counselling; What are Counsellor qualities etc........
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Prof. Lakshman Madurasinghe, PhD Consultant Psychologist Psychologist,, Attorney
What is Counselling ? Why do we need it ?
Counselling may be defined as 1.providing help and support to a client
2. creating a climate of acceptance
3. Assisting the client to explore, understand and act (EUA)
It is a dynamic relationship between two or more persons- A QUANTUM MODEL
consilium….grasp with sellan….to sell or deliver counselling is delivered and counselee grasps together with counsellor
To understand the counselee’s current situation. To understand how he has tried to handle the problem. To understand his view of the problem……….
To understand his emotional reactions. To evaluate the total problem. To help him clarify his life situation
Triple filter of Integrity Honest Accountable Just & Equitable
Herrmann Brain-dominance instrument Left brain- logical thinkers left brain –limbic- sequential thinkers Right brain- holistic thinkers Right-brain-limbic- emotional thinkers
Spect Analysis What happens if full brain is not used
What is the reality around us ?
Confucius in Analects says Wealth We alth and honour are a re what every person desires. But if they have been obtained in violation of moral principles, they must not be kept
Socrates in Apology says The moral person does not put money or anything above virtue
Taoism: Lao Tse 580-500 BCE Confucianism: Confucius 551-579 BCE 100 CE Christianity: Jesus 1-33 CE Shinto: 100 CE600 CE Islam: Muhammad 570-636 CE
Shakespeare on Roses
A rose by any other name smells as sweet……..
Mini wars, hostages, hi-jackings, hundred other horrors and terrors is disquieting. Inside society there is societal entropy entro py.. Crimes are escalating. Violence and vices are spiraling.
Advice giving Opinion giving Sympathizing
Giving practical help Not simply interviewing Not simply listening
Skills are gradual not sudden , so constant practice is vital a few months……
to Counselling Client Centred- Carl Rogers Psychodynamic- Freud Gestalt- Frit Perls Humanistic- RET-Ellis Personal Construct- Kelly Behavioural- Watson, Skinner Transactional AnalysisBerne
WHAT ARE THE 3 P’S
Premise Person Process
Premise Human interaction is primary to life 1. 2.
Interdependence Independence
Person Accept 3 factors 1. Recognize importance of spiritual values 2. Love others as self 3. Accept self as human
Counsellor’s qualities
Empathy Some answers Implies risk emotional involvement concern connection between you and the man
Empathy To understand someone from his point of view, by sensing and experiencing his feelings and perspective Apathy; Empathy, Sympathy
Counsellor’s qualities 1. Empathy- Your hurt is my hurt 2. Positive regard 3. Genuineness 4. Concreteness
Counsellor’s qualities 5. Clear thinking 6. Common sense 7. Self awareness 8. Warmth
Counsellor’s Motivation
Counsellor’s Motivation 1. The need for relationships 2. The need to control
Counsellor’s Motivation 3. The need to rescue 4. The need for information
Counsellor’s
Motivation
5. Just fashionable…..
Some don’ts in Counselling Don’t Moralize Don’t compare with your experience Don’t offer advice on personal and emotional issues Don’t tell the client they don’t feel a certain way- of course you are not depressed…..
Counsellor’s Role
Counsellor’s Role 1. Being hasty instead of deliberate 2. Being disrespectful instead of sympathetic
Counsellor’s Role 3. Being judgmental instead of unbiased 4. Being directive instead of interpretive
Counsellor’s Role 5. Emotionally over involved 6.Artificial- not authentic
The Counselee
The Counselee’s rights must be respected 6.Right to speak and be heard 7.Right to his/her opinion 8.Right to defend him/herself 9.Right to personal hil h
The process
Moving Interviews forward
3 Stages Understand Explore Act
Check list of essentials
1. Why does he need help at this time 2. What has he already done towards solving the problem 3. What help has he already received
Check list of essentials 4. What help does he still need 5. Spiritual needs 6. Plan of action
4.Me too 6.If I were you 8.Yes, but
Active listening is a learned skill and not a natural attribute
Listening Assessment
Effective Listening behaviour SOLER 1. Sitting squarely 2. Open position 3. Leaning forward 4. Eye contact 5. Relaxing
Be Be Be Be Be Be
accepting concerned patient specific honest faithful
1. Be Accepting
Take a non-judgmental stance Accept him for what he is Accept him for where he is
2. Be Concerned
Caring and willing to get involved Attentive to what the client says Your motivation is love
3. Be patient
The client sets the schedule Giving time suggests interest Do not force the pace
4. Be specific Ask specific questions Give concrete statements Confront inconsistencies
5. Be honest Respond in a way that reflects your feelings Your responses are to be congruent with your feelings Your responses should be gracious
6. Be faithful Absolute confidentiality Refrain from passing along info given by client Always keep an appointment with client
The Complete Message Please fill out the % ?? % Content
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The Complete Message Nonverbal – 55 % Tone of voice- 38 % Actual words- 7 % !!
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