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BEFORE WE BEGIN...
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Legal Jargon
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A Note To My Customers
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INTRODUCTION
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How I Went From “Let’s Just Be Friends” To “I Want Him” What You Can Expect From This Program How To Use This Program
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SO YOU FOUND YOURSELF IN THE FRIEND ZONE.. WHAT NOW?? 13 How Attraction Works For Women
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The First-Impression Advantage Men Have Over Women
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The Movie Trailer Principle
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The Perfect First Impression
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5 Sure-Fire Ways To Tell If You’re In The Friend Zone
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Your Lucky Number 7
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The 3 Keys To Get Any Woman You Want
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PHASE 1: DESTROY AND REBUILD
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What You Should Do After Getting Friend Zone’d
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The Second Thing You Should Do Once You’re In The Friend Zone
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The First Meet-Up
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After The Meet-Up
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What To Do When She Gets In Touch
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PHASE 2: THE FIRST 15 MINUTES The G-CASSH Principle: Your Secret Key To Sexy
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Grooming
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Clothes
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Accessories
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Shoes
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Scent
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Hair
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Body Language
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Posture
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Eye Contact: Gazing Into The Window Of One’s Soul
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PHASE 3: AMPLIFYING ATTRACTION
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Cardinal Rule #1: Going On The Non-Date
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Cardinal Rule #2: Being A Mystery
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Send Mixed Messages
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Make Her Jealous
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Cardinal Rule #3: Being Sexual
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Touch: The 4 Stages of Escalation
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PHASE 4: CLOSING THE DEAL
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Tread The Waters Carefully
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Lightning Doesn’t Strike Twice
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The Kiss Test: Perfect Is Imperfect, Imperfect Is Perfect
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Last Minute Resistance
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CONCLUSION
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CUSTOMER SUPPORT
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BEFORE WE BEGIN... Legal Jargon This book is copyright 2008, with all rights reserved. It is illegal to copy, distribute or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part, or contribute to the copying, distribution or creating of derivative works of this book. By purchasing this book, you acknowledge that the ideas included in this book are solely the opinions of the author and are for entertainment purposes only. You are responsible for your personal decisions and none of this book should be considered legal or professional advice. The characters in this book are composites and names have been changed to protect their identities.
A Note To My Customers Now, I have faith that you’re an honest person who has no intention of stealing this book and putting it up on file sharing sites, so this probably won’t apply to you. If you feel that you have a friend who could use the advice given in this book, feel free to send him a copy of it. That’s right, I’m encouraging you to pass around the book to people who really need it. The way I see it, it’s just like how you would actually lend a friend a paperback book. If you are going to send it to someone, I would *REALLY* appreciate it if you encourage (push, force, coerce, whatever floats your boat) them to buy the book if they like it. However, there are some nasty people out there with ill-intentions. Is it too much to ask you to please not put up my book for open download to everybody on the Internet? You see, keeping this book in electronic format allows me to keep my costs down enough to keep my little one-man operation running and continue to help guys just like you to turn a friend into a girlfriend and get out of the friend zone.
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If you pirate my book and distribute it to everybody on the Internet, you’re putting me out of business and in turn, won’t be able to help well-meaning guys get the woman of their dreams. That’s it -- my one request to you. With that out of the way, let’s get to blasting away that damned friend zone business, shall we? -Gavin
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INTRODUCTION Congratulations on your purchase of the “Get Out Of The Friends Zone” program. I am saying “Congratulations” because I want to congratulate you on taking the first step. This book will not only show you how you can get out of the friends zone and stay out of it forever, but it will also teach you critical steps towards being a man and improving your relationships with women.
How I Went From “Let’s Just Be Friends” To “I Want Him” “I used to be a shy guy who knew NOTHING about how to talk to women and couldn’t get girls to see me as someone more than a friend.” Whenever I would share this story of my life with women, I ALMOST ALWAYS get, “No f#$@!#%cking way, really?!” as a response back. The idea of me standing in front of them, tongue-tied and stumbling over what words to say next... Or the image of me sitting at home alone, frustrated and heartbroken over a woman who put me in the friend zone... Well, it’s almost an absurd image to them. But the funny thing about it is, it’s a true story. I used to be a bumbling idiot who froze up whenever a girl that I liked engaged me in some friendly conversation. Sometimes, I was able to gather up the courage to talk to her. Things would go well, until the day she finds out that I
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have feelings for her, and she delivers the five words dreaded by every guy in this world. “I just wanna be friends.” (On several occasions, the girl was smart enough to pre-empt anything by delivering an even more killer blow: “You’re like the brother I never had.”) My Story There has been one instance in my life that I keep thinking back as to when I decided to dedicate time to studying the art and science of getting girls to like me. It was about ten years ago. After a couple of back-to-back heartbreaks, I became close with a girl named Andrea. I’ve had a crush on her for a couple of years, but always thought that she was out of my league. I don’t remember how, but we got to talking in class. We would sit together sometimes, and shortly after we’d be talking on the phone. We were really close -- we’d talk to each other on the phone almost everyday, she’d tell me all sorts of stuff, and I’d tell her all sorts of stuff. To be honest with you, it’s been so long ago that I don’t even remember half of what went down. I just remember admitting to her one time that I liked her. There was going to be a big party that weekend, and I thought that if I told her that I liked her a couple of days before, things would go well during the actual party and I’d probably be making out with her. I remember having everything planned out. I even typed out bullet points of what I was going to say. I gave a speech that was supposed to melt her heart and sweep her off her feet. It came as a shock to her, but after she regained composure she gently let me down by simply saying that she doesn’t see me in that way. During the party, she tried to keep things the same, but I never did get that makeout that I wanted to happen. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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What makes this story so painful is that the first time that we got to talking, I sensed that she had a thing for me. During the summer after that school year, I told myself that I was never going to suffer the same type of heartbreak with a woman ever again. I was determined to learn how to make women like me and not put me in the friend zone. Fast forward about seven years and I was no longer the bumbling idiot with women that I once was. I’m in university, I’ve gone through about 6 or 7 girlfriends at this time, have a healthy network of female friends, and had my fair share of naughty stories with women. Then I had a girlfriend that lasted for about two months. Even though it was a long-distance relationship, I felt something special with her. But as with almost all long-distance relationships, we broke up. She decided to get back with the ex-boyfriend who she left for me in the first place (hehe). I wasn’t devastated, but I was saddened. After the breakup, I became determined to REALLY get good with women. Part of this was because I read the book, “The Game” by Neil Strauss at around this time. So I started going to bars and clubs and developing my game. I got together with a group of like-minded guys, and every weekend was an adventure in my quest to learn how to be amazing with women. I’m a pretty quick study and I developed pretty quickly. It took me just about two or three months when I’d be able to consistently meet a girl and be making out with her 45-60 minutes later. My sex life jumped from sporadic to I-can-have-itwhenever-I-want. However, I quickly became bored of this lifestyle. I was tired of one-nightstands and never really having a solid connection with the women I hooked up with. At the end of this story, I got together with a girl that I genuinely liked, both physically and emotionally. She has now been my girlfriend for almost two years. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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I guess the takeaway for this whole “rags to riches” story is that I haven’t been put in the friend zone for a shit long time now. I won’t lie to you and tell you that I can get any woman I want, but I am damn confident that I have a pretty damn good hit rate when it comes to women. Lately, even women who I initially thought I had no chance with (because we’ve been friends for so damn long) feel attraction towards me. Oh, the temptation!
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What You Can Expect From This Program Hard as it is to believe the story above, I can assure you it’s 100% true. On several instances, I cringed while typing it -- the memory of me being that clueless with women is quite appalling to me. It most certainly hasn’t been an easy journey -- I went through my fair share of heartbreaks. I’ve been dumped, dumping girls, been cheated on, cheated on girls, etc. But for many years now, one thing remains consistent: I’m almost always able to get with any girl that I set my sights on. One thing is for sure: I’ve spent years of my life learning this stuff. This program was written to be used as a reference to your interactions with women you know now, and the ones you’ll meet in the future. I wrote this program with the goal of helping you blast through the friend zone and get the woman that you’re after. I will share with you everything I’ve learned ever since that day that I vowed to myself to never get heartbroken again because a woman decided that she just wants to be friends with me. I want to help you become more attractive to women and be a man that females see as sexy. This program comes in four phases: Phase 1 is called Destroy and Rebuild. This chapter *may* not apply to you. This phase is for the guys who fucked up with a particular woman by confessing how he feels for her, saying or making a sexual gesture which she didn’t accept, etc. If this is you, you need to start here. However, if you’re simply looking for general advice on how you can stop getting Friend Zone’d (ie. you know deep down in your heart that your situation with the girl who put you in the friend zone is far from even being salvageable) then promptly move on to Phase 2. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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Phase 2 is called The First 15 Minutes. If you follow the techniques listed here, you will be engineered to reinventing your first impression with a woman -- which is a critical factor in getting women attracted to you and avoiding the friend zone. You will still find value in this section even if you’re already in the friend zone with a girl. That’s because if you want to recover from a friend zone situation, your goal is to reconstruct a woman’s perception of you. This section teaches you how to do just that. Phase 3 is called Amplifying Attraction. This phase deals with going from a casual acquaintance to someone who she’s thinking of getting involved with. While the techniques in Phase 2 are carefully designed to intrigue her and make her want to see more of what you have, this phase is designed to make her want to get with you. If Phase 2 is learning how you can maneuver away from the friend zone, Phase 3 sets up barriers from it and shields you with a giant metal fence. Lastly, Phase 4 is called Closing The Deal. This is a shorter section than the first three, because if you’ve completed Phase 1, 2 and 3 effectively then this should be a piece of cake. I can’t promise you results -- mainly because each situation is unique and different. Some guys will be in situations can be rectified with just a few quick fixes, while some guys will be in situations that have been so damaged that it will take YEARS to fix and recover from. If you fall in the latter group, you have a lot of work in front of you. Not saying that it can’t be done, just that you have a long and arduous journey ahed of you. They say that the mark of a great poker player is knowing when to hold or fold his cards. This is equally true in social situations and relationships. It takes a man of grace to know when he’s defeated and concede. After reading this book, doing things as I instructed, and you still don’t get the girl? Sorry about that man. At the very least, you can’t ever say that you didn’t try. Even if OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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you didn’t get her, you can’t say that you lost. In my opinion, you came out as a true winner -- a true man who is willing to face adversity in the face and aim for triumph. I truly applaud you.
How To Use This Program Being successful with women is a constant, evolving process. Let’s say you want to lose weight so you get your hands on a weight-loss DVD. The videos show you the proper way to do your bench presses and bicep curls. It even gives you a 90-day program on how to get the sixpack abs that everybody wants to have. However, spending all day watching the videos won’t get you that sixpack. It’s one thing to know how to do it right -- going out and actually doing it is a whole other beast. In the same way, this program will teach you techniques to crush the friend zone barrier that’s always been stopping you from getting the woman that you want. I’m giving you a lot of techniques. But you need to actually go out and use them if you want to get any value out of this program. Don’t be satisfied with knowing how to do it. Don’t read the program and be content with telling yourself that you already know the stuff. Master the information through experience. Keep practicing until you have it down. When you finish reading, I want you to do me a favor. Email me your comments, questions, and complaints. I want to hear them all. I want to hear what your favorite section of the book was, what you hated the most, and if anything was unclear to you. Send me a question about your situation and I’ll try my best to answer it. I want to know what you think. My email address is
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SO YOU FOUND YOURSELF IN THE FRIEND ZONE.. WHAT NOW?? How Attraction Works For Women I read somewhere that the opposite of love isn’t hate; it’s indifference. Men who are in the friends zone know this fact very well. As a matter of fact, being put in the friends zone is simply a matter of a woman being indifferent towards you. Here’s a funky image that I found around the Internet. It’s meant as a joke, obviously, but I find it hilarious because it’s so true.
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So what can you do to avoid indifference? First of all, what you must understand is that attraction works differently for men as they do for women. Think about the last time you met a new woman. Maybe a mutual friend introduced the two of you. Maybe you met at the coffee shop. Or she could be someone from class, or maybe the office. Doesn’t matter. Just picture that moment when you first met and ponder it for a while. If she’s an attractive girl, I would bet money that you thought, “Wow. She’s pretty hot. I better not fuck this one up if I want to have any sort of chance with her.” Depending on the type of male you are (read: are you a regular guy or not), you probably had some sort of image inside your mind about the two of you getting physical and intimate. But if you don’t find her attractive, you didn’t think much of the interaction. You could’ve possibly talked to her like she was a regular person. Maybe you were able to appreciate her sense of humor. Maybe you thought to yourself, “Oh, she’s nice. I can hang with her.” So what am I trying to prove here? When men first meet a woman, we put them in two categories: fuckable, or can’t-be-bothered. I call this the Fuckable Factor. This isn’t anything that you don’t know. Even Chris Rock had a routine about this -- that there is no such thing as platonic friends for men; just women we haven’t fucked yet. Men and women aren’t as different as you think. Women actually go through a similar process in their minds. Except instead of the Fuckable Factor, they have different categories: Potentials, or Just-Friends.
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This doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends with her if you’re placed in the Potentials category. Defining friends as two people who enjoy each other’s company, women can be friends with guys of either type. The critical difference is the way she looks at guys from the two categories. You could be friends but still be in the Potentials are just the beginning -those guys are moving their way up the relationship ladder. She hasn’t closed the doors on you just yet, and you still have a foot in the door. On the contrary, Just-Friends friends have reached the peak of the ladder -that’s all they are, and chances are that’s all they’re going to be. Sounds tough, doesn’t it? Doesn’t exactly sound like the advice that you want to hear at the beginning of a brand new book you just bought. Don’t dismay. Things aren’t that bleak for us. Here’s why.
The First-Impression Advantage Men Have Over Women While we judge them strictly based on their looks, women have a lot of other subliminal factors that they consider before putting us in our respective categories. In other words, our advantage is that it takes them longer to determine which category they should put us in. We have time to shape and develop our first impressions with women. My current girlfriend likes to tell me the story of the first time the two of us met. We were introduced by a common friend, and our group of friends decided to grab a few beers on a Friday evening. She was quite indifferent to me for the first couple of hours. But at the end of the night, we were flirting
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heavy and our faces were inches away from each other. I ended up taking her home that night. It was a potentially dangerous scenario, because to her I was simply a friend of a friend that hung out with her social circle.Yet, because I understand the fundamental principles and applied them, I was able to break out and avoid the friend zone within a couple of hours. To get out of the friends zone and stay out of it forever, making a great first impression is the most critical skill that you can learn. And that is what this program is going to be all about.
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The Movie Trailer Principle I remember being in the theater watching some movie in middle of 2007. I was munching on popcorn while watching the one part of the movie that I always look forward to -- the trailers. I distinctly remember a movie trailer that managed to linger in my mind in what seemed like forever. It was a simple 1 minute clip that had audio of what appeared to be two people talking. The screen showed nothing but light beams from the background, and a bat. Near the end, the voice changes into a very sinister one -- concluded with a maniacal laugh. A joker card emerges from the middle of the screen, and it fades to black. As you can probably tell by now, I’m talking about the teaser trailer for Batman: The Dark Knight. The trailers that followed that were longer and actually had footage for the movie, and left me and 22.37 million others wanting to see it on the weekend that it debuted. Why am I talking about The Dark Knight trailers here? Because this is a key principle in making a first impression that will make you avoid the friend zone forever. Her first impression of you should leave her with the desire to see more. Why do I use the metaphor of the movie trailer? With movie trailers, you never get the whole enchilada -- just a 1-3 minute preview of what you can expect.Your first impression works in a similar way. She’s not getting to know the entirety of you (nor does she want to, at this point) -- just a preview of what she can expect. So you better make damn sure that she’s going to want to see what you have to offer.
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Why do I emphasize this so much? As I will explain in a later chapter, recovering from a bad first impression is very tough. I would rather make an okay first impression then build up on it as time goes on. I can even say making a great first impression, fucking up then recovering is a better option than making a horrible first impression and doing everything perfect afterwards.
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The Perfect First Impression If you follow the techniques I teach you in this program, you will learn how to leave a very memorable and lasting impression that will linger in her mind long after you’re gone. What’s going to happen is that she doesn’t know you well at all, but she can’t get you out of her mind. So she’ll keep thinking about you and fill in the blanks herself based on the impression that you left her with. In other words, you are letting her seduce herself for you! Example: You were able to crack a couple of jokes that made her laugh, and she thinks your touch is nice and gentle yet manly. Overall, you made a terrific first impression. Later in the day, she can’t get you out of her mind and she’s wondering if there’s something there that she wants to see. She’s only going with what she knows of you so far, so when she imagines the two of you going on a romantic date, she’s going to picture it as a night full of laughs and sensual intimacy. Do you sense the importance of this yet? Just always remember the Axe slogan: “Because first impressions last.”
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5 Sure-Fire Ways To Tell If You’re In The Friend Zone Sometimes, it’s tough to determine whether or not you’re in the friend zone. It could be our male egos refusing to accept the reality of the situation, but many guys are unaware and/or refuse to look at their situations with a woman in an objective manner. Listed below are 5 sure-fire ways to tell if she’s put you in the friend zone. Think of this as a scoreboard. If you can relate to 3 out of the 5 points, there’s a 60% chance that she doesn’t see you as anything more than a friend. 1.) She explicitly tells you. It could be after you’ve made a grand confession of your feelings to her, it could be a comment she drops casually. Either way, if she tells you that she considers you “just as a friend” or “the brother I’ve never had” (ouch) you can be pretty sure you’re in the friend zone. I would put a lot of weight in this first point -- in some cases, this is enough to truly determine that she looks at the two of you as just friends. 2.) She always asks you for favors and doesn’t do anything for you in return. Ooh, this is a big one. Guys almost always fall for this, and I don’t blame them. A woman’s charm can be oh-so-deadly. A little smile here, a little cleavage there, a little eye-batting everywhere... She’s got you doing her bidding. Women, especially the pretty ones, grew up accustomed to people doing shit for them just because they’re pretty. People work for things they want, not the other way around -- and that goes for both men and women. If she’s constantly asking you to do favors for her, chances are she looks at you as a slave, not as a potential partner.
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3.) She’s touch-averse to you. She has no problems giving other guys hugs, but everytime the two of you touch it feels... formal. You sense these things; for instance, her ass is sticking out if/when she does give you a hug. It’s a body language thing that indicates she’s hugging you to be polite. What she’s subcommunicating is that she wouldn’t dare touch your crotch area with a ten-foot pole, much less bring her own crotch near it. 4.) She’s always talking to you about other guys she’s romantically interested in. You’re the guy she calls at 3 AM to cry about a fight with this one guy she’s seeing. She tells you about guys she’s interested in but has no idea if he’s interested in her or not. She tells you how excited she is that she’s going on a date on Saturday night. While it’s tempting to think that these are carefully designed moves to make you jealous, I can assure you that 98% of the time they are not. You’re in the friend zone, buddy, and very deep in it. 5.) She doesn’t flirt back. Most women (especially the hot ones) are trained in the fine art of flirting. Some of them surprise me with how sharp they are, even. But if you’re flirting with her and she doesn’t flirt back, you could be in the friend zone. Of course, there’s a right way and a wrong way to flirt. If you come across as a sleazebag, then she’s probably not going to respond positively to your overt sexual verbal advances (don’t worry, I’ll teach you how to flirt the right way in this program). Read through these five points and score yourself objectively with a particular woman. If all five apply, then there’s no question about it -- you’re in the friend zone, buddy, and you have a lot of work on your hands to be able to recover from it. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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Your Lucky Number 7 Your Lucky Number 7 are the Seven S’s that you MUST have to avoid the friend zone -- FOREVER. As you read through these Seven S’s, you’ll see some overlaps within each point. These seven traits intertwine with each other and work together with each other. To truly be a man and avoid the friend zone forever, you must have these seven traits in your personality. 1.) Sexual. If you want to avoid the friends zone, it is crucial for her to see you as a sexual being and not as some harmless dude. Unless she’s a lesbian, you want her to see you as a regular male. What do males and females do? They have sex. If she can’t see herself having physical intimacy with you, you are headed for the friends zone, baby. This isn’t to say that you have to be a slobbering sleazebag all over her. There are ways you can be sexual and still be smooth. Putting your hands on spots like her lower back while you’re letting her pass, or gently hugging her after teasing her are a couple things you could do to introduce physical touch and not come across as a sleazeball. Notice her earrings, gently touch her ear while you’re inspecting it and tell her she seems like a woman with great taste in accessories. This is so powerful in so many ways. It isn’t really hard to communicate you’re a sexual being. All you have to do is be physically affectionate towards her. 2.) Scarce. Let’s say that there has been a company change at Mars, Inc. and from now on, all M&M’s come only in two colors: blue and red. Every bag is 99% blue OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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candies, except for 1 red one. Now, if I offer you to choose between a blue or red M&M, which one are you going to pick? If you’re a regular human being, you’re going to want the red candy. That’s because you know it’s scarce. And the more scarce something is, the more value we attach to it. The Second S is most powerful if you’re scarce because you’re busy with other women. This is exactly the appeal of the jerk/the bad boy. Women are competitive by nature especially with other women. When your attention and focus is diverted by other girls, you kill off any desperate vibe that you might be projecting towards her. If you don’t have plenty of options with other women, simply communicate that your life does not revolve around girls.You are a man who is going somewhere in life, so pursue your interests and your hobbies. This can be very powerful when you use this as an excuse to flake on her every now and then. Cancel a date, then make it up to her by taking her out and showing her the time of her life. This relates closely to the Fourth S, as you’ll see in a minute. 3.) Seductive. While the First S is about physical touch and body language, the Third S deals with sexual verbal communication. These include, but are not limited to: Subtly implying you’ve been with other girls, telling stories and casually hinting at sexual activities, flirtatious language, even intentionally taking her words out of context and adding a sexual spin to them are all little ways you can communicate to her that you’re a sexual being. What I do is I casually introduce the topic of sex in our conversation. Often, I bring up a something about sex and ask her what she thinks. I play it off as if I don’t know what women think about it -- I play the stereotype role of the clueless male. For example, I tell a story about a friend of mine who hooked up with a girl with no strings attached. Then I might ask, “Do women get attached to guys they sleep with?” Then I guide the conversation towards her, OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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and what she likes/does/etc. I can ask a question such as, “Let’s say you were in her situation. Would you get attached if you got to know a guy and slept with him?” Lastly, I pretend I don’t understand the concepts of what she’s saying and bring myself in the mix. “Wait, I don’t get it. Just as a hypothetical example, say you and I slept together. And then blah blah blah...” This will make her imagine the scenario of the two of you sleeping together. It will plant the seed in her mind that you are someone she can potentially sleep with. You can use this conversational technique with sex or relationship dynamics. It’s powerful stuff. It might not be clear right now, but I’ll explain this in further detail in a later chapter. 4.) Signals. The Fourth S deals with Signals, or rather, giving off mixed ones. “If I didn’t know better, I’d think that you were mine, you’re with me all the time. If I didn’t know better, I’d swear we’re more than friends, you’re touching me again. If I didn’t know better, I’d swear we were in love. Girl, do you wanna tell me something?” - Luther Vandross Ahh, the power of mixed signals. It’s driven plenty of men mad, and is probably one of the main reasons why you bought this program in the first place. If you really want to amplify her attraction for you, throw her a little curveball here and there. Why does it work so well? Honestly, I don’t know. If I had to make a guess, it’s the element of surprise. Just when you thought you had somebody figured out, BAM, you’re hit with something you did not expect at all. It gets you thinking. 5.) Standards. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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The Fifth S is stands for Standards. Meaning to say, she must see you as a man with standards and not as someone who will fuck anything that moves. It is closely related to the Second S, except this is internal as opposed to external. While being Scarce and wanted by other women isn’t something you can always control (although to some extent you can), having Standards is something that is 100% within your hands. You are attracted only to women of high value.Your time and attention is precious and valuable, and it takes more than a pretty face to make you heads over heels for a woman. One of the most powerful lines I’ve learned is, “So, what else is there to [name of woman I’m talking to] besides a pretty face?” If she has nothing intelligent to say, tease her about it (“Man, we can dress you up but we sure can’t take you anywhere..” said with a sly smile). If she does comply and say something, you have successfully reversed the situation and turned the tables. She is now working to impress you, not the other way around. Which leads us to the Sixth S, which is... 6.) Significance. Women desire men of Significance, the Sixth S. In other words, they desire men that they have to work for. I think back to the beginning stages of a girl who eventually became my girlfriend. I was on the verge of the friend zone with her. After school our group of friends would go out for drinks, and I got into the habit of driving her home as she lived so near. I don’t know why I wasn’t thinking properly here. But hey, I thought I was being nice. After about 3 or 4 incidents of this, I realized that if the habit continued she would eventually come to expect this behavior from me -- typical supplicating behavior that only guys in the friend zone did. So the next time we went out OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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for drinks and it was time for her to go home, I stayed put. She said bye, I said bye, and ordered another beer. My thought process: If she wanted me to do these nice things for her, she had to earn it. Try saying “No” every now and then. If you’re in the friend zone, “No” is probably one of the most powerful words you can ever tell a woman who said she just wanted to be be friends. Man or woman, people value things they work for and not just fall on their lap. Make her earn the nice gestures you do for her. Don’t keep a tight score, but if you’re complying to her requests she better be complying to yours as well. 7.) Strong. In other words, you must be a man. This can be mean so many things, but for our purposes let’s say that it means confident, taking the lead and never losing his cool under pressure. Take the lead. Don’t respond with, “Whatever you wanna do is fine with me” when she asks what’s up for the night. I have had so many female friends bitching to me about their boyfriends. One of the girls I used to have a fling with told me about her current boyfriend, and how frustrated she is that whenever they go out on dates she has to make all the decisions. This made me feel good inside, because I always made sure that I took the lead and made sure that she was having a good time. Taking the lead implies confidence in your abilities to show her a good time. One of my favorite things to do for dinner dates is to book 2 or 3 restaurants in advance. Come the date, I tell her, “We can go for either Italian or Japanese tonight. Which would you prefer?” This little gesture on my part communicates that I take the lead without being bossy, and at the same time value her opinion. I’m have a pretty temper, so when problems come up I really try my best to never lose my cool. I put on my thinking cap on and think logically out of my OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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predicament. Women value this because thinking logically without being emotional is VERY TOUGH for them to do. Think James Bond. Think Brad Pitt. Think Barack Obama. Be confident, never lose your cool, and take the lead.
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The 3 Keys To Get Any Woman You Want So what do you do if you’ve been put in the Just-Friends category? Simple: all you have to do is be able to generate attraction in her. It sounds tough, but it really isn’t once you understand the fundamental principles. There are three relatively simple core principles that you must achieve to get a woman attracted to you. 1.) She must feel good about herself because of you. 2.) She must feel that she’s earned the attention you’re giving her. 3.) She must feel sexual tension whenever you’re around. The way it works is simple. When she’s at your presence, you manage to make her feel good about herself. Any sane person wants to be around people who make them feel good about themselves, so she’s going to want to keep you around. However, most men who get stuck in the friend zone stop at this step. To separate yourself from the rest, you must make her feel like she’s working for those good feelings. (Think about it this way: if you had to marry someone, would you marry the woman who was all over you within 10 minutes of meeting each other or the woman who you spent 2 years wooing and fighting other guys for?) But that’s not enough. To really land the plane, she must feel sexual urges whenever you’re around. You don’t have to make her horny in the same way she gives you a boner when she touches your arm. At the very least, she must be able to see herself doing intimate acts with you -- from kissing all the way
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to sex. That way, it isn’t a complete shock to her once you make your move -in fact, she’s been thinking about it and anticipating it. These principles sound easy in writing -- so easy that it almost sounds like bullshit. But you would not believe how tough it is for many men to understand and implement these three core principles in their pursuit of a girlfriend. In this program, you will learn specific techniques to implement these in your daily interactions with girls. I will be constantly referring back to these three principles over and over throughout the program, so keep them in mind.
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PHASE 1: DESTROY AND REBUILD “Let’s just be friends, okay?” Heard those words lately? If so... My friend, I’m afraid you just got friend zone’d. It hurts to know that the girl you’re head over heels for doesn’t see you as anything more than a friend. It stings to know that she has feelings for another guy and just wants her relationship with you to stay as it is. It sucks to know that, even though you know in your heart of hearts that you’re the best man for her, she doesn’t see that and chooses to “just stay friends.” Sometimes, they don’t even have to explicitly say it.You can just feel it lingering around the air. 4 out of the 5 ways to tell if you’re in the friend zone applies to your situation. This section of the book might not apply to you if you don’t have a woman you’re specifically after, and just want to fix up some qualities to avoid getting friend zone’d in the future. If that’s you, start at Phase 2. However, if you’re looking to get out of the friend zone with a particular woman, then this section is for you, and you should begin here. Your goal during this phase is to destroy any preconceived notions she has of you that lead you to the friend zone, and rebuild your image as an attractive man that she can see herself being involved with romantically and intimately. So where do we start?
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What You Should Do After Getting Friend Zone’d This is simple. Not easy, but simple. Don’t “try harder.” Seriously. Pursuing her more than you’ve already done immediately after getting friend zone’d is only going to make her want to stick to her guns even more. Trust me on this. Most guys make this mistake. They think that they landed on the friend zone because they didn’t try hard enough. As a result, they “try harder” which only drives the woman further away. The friend zone is a distant cousin of the breakup. When my girlfriend of one and a half years and I broke up, it was just like being in the friend zone. I want her, I couldn’t touch her. So I took some time off to get my shit in order. I went back to my music, hung out with the boys and killed time with a PS2. I started going to clubs and bars again and hooking up with women (I know, I know). Three months later, we were back together again. Why do I tell you this? Because the second time we broke up, I made the mistake of ignoring what worked before and taking some bad advice on the matter. “You should pursue her harder,” or “You should show her that you still care for her,” inadvertently suffocating her in the process and driving her further away. Needless to say, that was the end of that relationship. Here are some basic rules you should tattoo on your forehead: 1.) Begging and nagging won’t get you out of the friend zone. 2.) Trying to convince her that putting you on the friend zone was a mistake won’t get you out of the friend zone. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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3.) Showing her how heartbroken you are won’t get you out of the friend zone. 4.) Telling her and her friends how much you miss/want/love her won’t get you out of the friend zone. 5.) Pursuing her even harder won’t get you out of the friend zone. Got it? Good. Oh, yeah, in case you’re wondering... I did all of these. No dice.
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The Second Thing You Should Do Once You’re In The Friend Zone As soon as you get friend zone’d, let her know that everything’s all right. If you haven’t already done so, send her a casual text like this after getting the, “I just wanna be friends” speech: “Hey [name of girl]. Don’t worry about it, everything’s all right. Figured you were worth a shot anyway ;) Haha. We’re cool. See ya tomorrow, punk =P” You don’t have to use it word for word; feel free to customize to your own voice, but keep the context. This is especially powerful if she keeps saying sorry for rejecting you. Let’s analyze this text message, shall we? First, you’re communicating the fact that you’ve got a cool head on your shoulders and don’t let little things like this bother your swagger. Real men don’t let little issues like this ruin anything because they believe it’s better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all. James Bond would have no problems sleeping with a girl he was working with -- if she rejects him, he remains calm and brushes it off. So why shouldn’t you? Second, you’re letting her know that she’s a woman worth taking the risk for. I don’t care who she is -- every woman wants to be adored, whether or not she reciprocates the feeling. Lastly, you’re not worried about “ruining the friendship.” That’s what she’s most worried about at this point. But you...You’re taking the burden on your shoulders without being dramatic about it. It’s only awkward if you make it awkward, and you’re not about to do that.
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The First Meet-Up Mess the first meeting up, and any chances you might have of recovery is done. That’s how crucial the first meet-up is. What you want to do is to reassure her that everything’s all right. That all is the same and she doesn’t need to worry about anything. What for, I hear you ask. You’ve said your piece verbally, haven’t you? Unfortunately, that’s not enough. She’s going to want to confirm that you really do mean what you said -- that you’re really cool with everything and you can back your shit up. That’s why we focus on your subcommunications -- women are VERY SHARP in detecting the truth through body language. It’s called women’s intuition, folks. This might be tough to pull off especially if she’s feeling awkward about the situation. There’s nothing you can do about that -- except to destroy any reason for her to feel awkward. And she feels awkward because she just rejected you -- you might be harboring some ill feelings toward her.You might be a ticking timebomb and contact with her might set you off. The suspicious woman might think you’re up to something underhanded. Whatever it is, your goal during the meeting is to destroy any reasons for her to feel awkward with you. And you do that by reassuring her that you’re all right. She really does like you, just not in that way.Yet. Ideally, you two would meet at the same environment you two are usually in. Class, hanging out with friends, whatever. If you two don’t meet regularly unless you plan it, go for a casual non-date. Ask her to go with you to pick up a new shirt, a book, movie tickets, whatever. Grab a quick lunch together. Anything casual will do, and something that she would normally do with you anyway.
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I once asked a girl who I was sort of in the friend zone with to come with me to the bank and pay some bills. To say thanks, we stopped by a coffee shop after and her coffee was on me. That’s exactly the concept of a non-date. It’s kind of sneaky, but it’s very powerful. We’ll cover this further in a later chapter. When you two meet up, be sure to follow these steps: 1.) When you first see her, give her a warm smile. Act like you haven’t seen each other in a long time and you’ve never been happier to see somebody before, even though the thought of being at her presence makes you cringe at yourself right now. 2.) Go for a casual hug. Don’t hug her like a horndog would -- just wrap your arms around her protectively, and be sure it’s a warm one. Like you haven’t seen her in a long time. 3.) Make sure you maintain eye contact the whole time. If you’re having trouble with this, an easy way to fake eye contact is to look between her eyes or at her eyebrows. Nothing says “Shitthisisawkwardwhatthefuckamidoingmeetingupshitfuckballshelpme” more than not being able to hold her gaze. 4.) Maintain your sense of humor. Tell funny stories or make a casual observation about your surroundings and make something funny out of it. Jokes are always good -- laughing releases a lot of tension that’s in the air. There’s no better way to make somebody comfortable than to make them laugh. 5.) If you two meet within a group, don’t ignore her. Act how you would normally act with her as if the “I just wanna be friends” incident didn’t happen. This is actually easier than it sounds like.You don’t actually have to say anything to her within the group. When you’re talking to the group, make eye contact with her about 40-50% of the time that you’re talking. And when everyone goes off to have their individual conversations, make conversation with her. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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It might sound tough to pull off, but you can do it.You’ll probably be feeling all sorts of emotions -- disgust at yourself for being stupid enough to put yourself at risk like that, embarrassed of what she thinks about you, dejected over getting rejected. Get over yourself. Keep in mind that she’s feeling just as awkward about it as you are, and as a man you need to take control of your environment and ensure that others are comfortable in your presence. Remember your goal during this meet-up! It isn’t to get her to like you. It isn’t to pursue her harder. It isn’t to beg or to plead or show her how heartbroken you are over her loss. Your one and only goal is to reassure her that everything is all right. Capeesh?
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After The Meet-Up After the meet-up, now you’re going to take some time off to get your head on straight and focus on yourself. You’ve obviously been pursuing her, so your efforts have probably been focused on her for the past couple of weeks (maybe even months). At this point, you would probably claw at any chance you might have to spend some time with her. Don’t. Cut back on the time you two spend together, ESPECIALLY if you two spend so much time with each other. Don’t disappear on her completely -- just cut it back by at least half. Hey, you have other friends too, right? If she just wants to be friends, then that’s exactly how you treat her. If you’re feeling down, distract yourself from feeling any emotions of remorse/ regret/depression/etc. Spend some time with the boys. Get reacquainted with your hobbies and interests. Meet some new people, doesn’t matter if it’s a he or a she. Oh, what wonders meeting new girls will do for you. How long should you keep this up? Sadly, there is no hard and fast figure. I really don’t like giving specific figures because each situation is different. I’ve waited as short as 3 days and as long as 3 months. The only “rule” is that you should take as much time off as you need to refocus and get your head straight. The point of this “time off” is for you to start over from scratch and rebuild your image in her eyes. Obviously, what you were doing before didn’t work so you’re going to need to change *some* things. It’s going to take some time for
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you to develop good habits and erase the bad ones.You will learn how to do more of that in the next phase.
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What To Do When She Gets In Touch I said the friend zone is a distant cousin of the breakup. I didn’t say they were exactly the same. Since you two are “still friends” she’s probably going to stay in contact with you to keep the “friend” vibe alive. Just so nothing changes too much. However, that’s the LAST thing you want to do right now. What you want to do is to create a new relationship with her. Do NOT be a bitter man. Stay warm and friendly during these initial stages. But start saying no once in a while. If she asks you if you want to go for coffee, gently let her down and tell her you already made plans for the day. Even if you’re not doing anything in particular. Don’t worry, you don’t have to lie -- you could just be clocking in for your regular me-time. You don’t have to say no all the time, but if intuition serves me right you probably claw at any chance you might have to spend some time with her. Cut it back by at least half. Truth of the matter is, you can’t rebuild your image with a snap of your fingers. You can’t disappear and suddenly show up a new man who she’s going to fall head over heels for. Depending on how badly you got friend zone’d, odds are you’ll need to make constant contact and change her opinion of you gradually. If she just wants to be friends, then at this point you act like a friend. A powerful technique is to acknowledge and verbalize your friendship. Phrases like, “Hey, how’s it going buddy?” or “You’re such a brat” said with a sly smile works wonders. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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By doing this, you are immediately distancing yourself from all the other guys she’s put in the friend zone. You are lowering her defenses and eliminating any suspicion on her part, which will allow you to gradually rebuild your image and get her to see you in a light that she never did before. Remember: Don’t be a tidal wave. Be a constant drip, ala Chinese water torture.
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PHASE 2: THE FIRST 15 MINUTES Remember the first lesson from the last section of the program about how women place men in two categories the first time they meet? In this section, I’m going to teach you principles and techniques on how to make sure that women are categorizing you under Potentials and not the JustFriends category. To grasp the importance of the first impression, get this. They say that in job interviews, the interviewer usually knows if he’s going to hire the interviewee within the first 2 minutes and that the rest of the interview is just for formality’s sake. That is why I don’t advocate meeting new women when you’re shitfaced drunk (even though yes, I’ve done it plenty of times... luck was just on my side). It is very difficult to recover from a horrible first impression, so you better be putting your best foot forward at all times, especially during this crucial phase. Now, despite the title of this section this phase might actually take longer than 15 minutes. Maybe you two get introduced but don’t actually have a conversation. Or maybe she’s so dense that it takes her an hour to really form an opinion of you, I don’t know. Either way, what I’m referring to here is 15 minutes of engagement with her. It is actually just a guideline on how long it takes on average for a person to have an idea of who you are. So don’t constantly look at your watch and think, “Fuck, my 15 minutes is running up!” Let’s get started.
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CASSH principle probably accounts for a 40% factor of whether or not a woman will see you in the friends zone. No, G-CASSH doesn’t mean acting gangsta and flaunting money. G-CASSH is an acronym, which stands for: Grooming Clothes Accessories Shoes Scent Hair While looks aren’t nearly as important to women as they are to men, I would be lying to you if I say it doesn’t play an important part. Don’t let your looks be an excuse for not being able to attract women -- just as any woman can slim down, put on makeup, or get breast implants to look hotter, any guy can become better looking than they currently are. I recommend you buy this month’s issue of GQ and take note of what’s hot in the world of men’s fashion. I personally subscribed for a year. Look at what grabs your eye, and keep it in mind before you go shopping for stuff. Let’s examine them one by one.
Grooming Proper grooming is key to making a great first impression. Women would take a properly groomed but average-dressed man over a well-dressed and fashionable slob with BO any day. What can you do to improve your grooming?
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-Remove excess hair. Get yourself a pair of tweezers or a nose-hair trimmer and remove any excess hair in your nostrils, between your eyebrows, in your ears, or the back of your neck. Consider getting waxed if you have chest hair peeking out of your shirt. -Whiten your teeth. With the amount of teeth-whitening products available over the counter, stained teeth shouldn’t be an excuse for anyone. I smoke heavily, so I make sure to use whitening toothpaste as well as Crest Whitening Strips to prevent my teeth from going uber yellow. -Freshen your breath. This one should go without saying, but I am amazed at the amount of people who ignore their breath. Bad breath is a huge turn off not just for women but people in general. Carry a pack of gum or Tic-Tacs at all times, and be sure to take it regularly especially if you smoke or drink coffee (coffee breath is eeewww). -Get rid of acne. I used to be ridden with acne when I was young, and all it took was a daily washing with Clearasil for a couple of months to start cleaning up my face. Head to a cosmetics store and ask for advice on facial products for men with your type of skin. -Join the gym. Do this one for yourself. With obesity rising through the roof, you should be working out and keeping yourself in shape. Join the gym, or buy weights for at home workouts. I have a few pounds to shed, but I personally follow The Abs Diet to keep myself in shape. Do regular cardiovascular exercise and resistance training to increase muscle mass and burn fat. -Trim your fingernails. You do not want to be a guy with natural french tips. Keep your fingernails trimmed at all times, get rid of the habit of biting your nails and always be sure your nails don’t have any gunk underneath. -Get rid of body odor. Ugh, nothing is a bigger turn off than someone with bad BO. For blue-collar workers, I understand that this might be tough to control. Consider packing Axe bodyspray with you at all times if you sweat excessively. This should go without saying, but shower everyday and apply underarm deodorant. I personally like the dry Axe anti-perspirants. Keep those pit stains in check, too.
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Clothes Take that issue of GQ and note the styles of clothing that you like. Watch some videos of musicians that you like (I constantly use Justin Timberlake, TI and Chris Brown as references) and note the clothing they wear. Optional Excercise: Go to a shopping center and commit to approaching five female strangers for a recommendation on where to go shopping. Approach the attractive ones, not the ones that look like they’re easy to talk to.You’re just asking them for a recommendation, nothing more. The first couple of approaches will be tough, especially if you’re not used to talking to strangers, but the third one will start being a breeze. The fourth one will be easy, and the fifth one you will be beaming with confidence.You can stop once you’ve approached five women, but if you want to push yourself aim to get five recommendations. It can be as simple as saying, “Hi. I’m here to shop for clothes and I want to know if there are any stores you could think of that carries really cool clothing for men. This might seem a little random, but you seem like you have a great sense of style and the type to know where men could go for good fashion.” If they ask, “What kind of style are you looking for?” say you’re looking for the GQ look. If they say, “I don’t know” simply thank them for their help anyway. But when I did this, every woman I approached gave me an answer. Why? Women love shopping, as you probably already know. There’s nothing more that they love other than talk shopping with other people. If they give you a good solid answer and they look like they’re doing some shopping themselves, you might want to ask them to accompany you if they’re up to it. Something like, “Hmm.You seem like you have a fashionista inside you. I’m OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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pretty clueless about this stuff; maybe you can help me look for stuff if you’re up for a good time.” If she says yes, introduce yourself. Treat her to a cup of Starbucks after to thank her for her time. Congratulations, you have made yourself a new friend. This is a great exercise to build your confidence. Not many people have the balls to pull this off -- the male ego usually refuses to acknowledge that they need help from other people, what more if they’re strangers? If you do choose to perform this exercise, you will feel like a thousand bucks afterwards.
Accessories Spice up your attire with accessories. One look at music videos and you will notice that hardly anybody wears jeans and a t-shirt -- more often than not, they are accessorizing. Some of the essential accessories for a man: - A watch: With the widespread use of cellphones these days, who REALLY needs a watch? Men who pay attention to style, that’s who. About 60% of all watch purchases aren’t for practical purposes but rather for fashion. Investing in a nice and classy watch will do you loads of good in the future. - Sunglasses: I personally didn’t start wearing sunglasses until about 2 years ago. I don’t know why; maybe I felt it was a little too try-hard. But ever since I started wearing them, I’ve fallen in love. So far, I own four pairs. I like them branded (I have Ralph Laurens, D&G’s, and two Ray-Bans) but that’s just me. If you don’t have the budget, feel free to buy the $10-$20 pairs on side stalls -however, they get flimsy really easy and if you’re lazy on maintenance, just invest in a nice $100 pair from Sunglass Hut or a store of the like. - Jewelry: I love jewelry. I never leave the house without my necklace, and I don’t take off my earring studs nor my bracelet (mainly because if I do, I’ll forget to wear it back). If you’re going to go the route of never taking off
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your jewelry, make sure you buy authentic silver that won’t rust or stain even after prolonged water exposure.
Shoes I don’t need to tell you that women LOVE shoes -- that’s Women 101. But in case that you didn’t know that -- WOMEN LOVE SHOES!! It always amazes me whenever I realize how keen a woman’s sense of sight is when it comes to shoes. Even though I’m a typical guy and two or three pairs of shoes do it for me (basketball shoes, everyday sneakers, and formal shoes), I still try to pay as much attention as I can to my footwear. I make sure to keep them as clean as possible, and since I like white Adidas sneakers, I have to clean them every 2-3 weeks. Be sure to clean them as frequently as possible to keep them squeaky clean. If you already wear shoes that you like but it’s really worn out, it might be better to invest in a new pair rather than trying to salvage this one. Be sure to buy the shoe cleaner that the staff at Foot Locker offers you as an upsell. Back in university, I liked to buy new white sneakers after 4-6 months. I also had a rotation of 2-3 shoes which I switched around depending on the jeans I was wearing. It was perfect for people who I saw frequently. No one type of shoe is best -- what’s important is that the type of shoe that you wear fits your sense of style and the environment (wearing suede leather shoes in a casual environment screams trying too hard). I prefer white sneaks (ala Run-DMC) because my fashion style is a little more on the urban side. Converse Chucks are real nice casual shoes as well. For references on formal footwear, again GQ is your best resource.
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Oh, last point about shoes: the next time you’re out with your friends, try this experiment for fun. This will work wonderfully if the girl you’re after is with a guy, and this is a perfect technique to try and embarrass the other guy: 1.) Take the couple and ask them if they want to play a quick game to test their wits. If you want to maximize the results of this technique, you can offer a drink to the winner. 2.) Tell them that this game only has one rule, and that is to answer just one question AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE. 3.) Once they’re ready, pause, then ask them both: “In one line only, describe the color and kind of shoe that your partner wearing right now.” 4.) Watch the girl erupt out her answer and the guy sit silently in embarrassment. You can dig his hole even further by rubbing it in (“I can’t believe you didn’t know what she was wearing? Even *I* noticed it!”) 5.) If you offered a drink to the winner, LEAD her to the bar (“All right, let’s go get that drink -- I’m getting thirsty”). If you’re with other friends, she will not hesitate to follow your lead and leave the guy behind.
Scent Has a woman ever walked past you and made your head snap backwards the moment you sniffed their perfume? She might not have been that attractive in the first place, but the sheer fact that she smells so damn good just had to make you take a second look. Or maybe you smelled something and an influx of memories just came flushing in your brain. Basic fact: smells, emotions and memories are all processed in the same general area of the brain. These three are highly interconnected with each other. By wearing a signature scent that the woman of your choice smells on you consistently, you are conditioning your woman to think of you whenever she smells it. She will have no other choice OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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but to think of you whenever the scent comes around. By wearing a great smelling perfume, you are priming her emotional responses (no matter how little they may be) and highly increasing the chances of her responding to you in an emotional way. It might be a wise idea to take a female friend with you to get a second opinion on your choice. Be sure to choose carefully. There is no one cologne that fits everybody (except perhaps Tommy Hilfiger or Davidoffʼs Cool Water) because they all react differently to the chemicals our bodies produce. With that said, Iʼve tried on a lot of scents, and here are some of my favorites:
- Dolce & Gabbana by Dolce & Gabbana - Obsession Night by Calvin Klein - Emporio Armani by Giorgo Armani (try Emporio Armani Diamonds too -haven’t bought it yet, but from my initial sniff it’s a good one) - Reaction For Men by Kenneth Cole - Very Sexy For Him by Victoria’s Secret (my secret weapon; most people laugh when I say I wear Victoria’s Secret cologne, but the effect it has on women is very deadly) Although I have several signature scents, I own several at a time simply because I rotate them appropriately for the time and place. I have a casual daytime cologne, club night cologne, and date time cologne.You could have more rotations if you want to, but that one works for me.
Hair You should know by now that a man’s hairstyle can make or break a man’s entire look. More often than not, this is the key element to looking good for us. If ever you’re bored with your look, all you have to do is switch up your hairstyle and you’ll feel a significant change. Hey, if women get haircuts whenever they breakup, that should tell you something about how therapeutic changing your hairstyle can be. Unless you want to live with an ugly hairstyle for at least 3 weeks, don’t make the mistake to go to a hairstylist without any idea of what type of haircut you OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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want. Look up hairstyles for men on the Internet and bring several sample pictures if you wish in order for him/her to be able to give you the cut you want. I have to include facial hair in this section. Facial hair can make you look manlier if you have a babyface, but if you naturally have a “mean” mug then keeping it clean could add the friendly and sensitive touch to your demeanor. If you’re one of the lucky ones who don’t have problems growing facial hair, try it and see how women react to it. If you’re getting looks from women you pass on the street, then you know you have a winner.You can always shave it off if it doesn’t work. I always get a mixed response about this with women. Some prefer facial hair while others prefer clean. From my experience, women find it difficult to kiss men with a mustache, so I keep a goatee and a small soul patch and maintain it every week or so instead. *** Follow the G-CASSH principle on a daily basis, and you will start turning heads before you know it. If you don’t think you can make all these changes in one big go, it’s okay to take it one step at a time. The important thing is that these things will immediately make you feel sexier and more deserving of the girl you want, and even better, women in general.
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Body Language If you’ve seen the movie “Hitch” with Will Smith, then you probably remember the line, “Over 90% of what you’re saying ain’t coming out of your mouth.” This isn’t just a movie euphemism -- this is a real study performed back in the 1970s by a professor at UCLA by the name of Albert Mehrabian. Only 7% of what you actually say is taken and understood -- the rest is accounted for by your tone of voice and body language. Having great body language that induces attraction in women is the key to getting out of the friend zone. In this section, we will talk about three main things that you need to add to your repertoire if you want to get out of the friend zone: your posture, eye contact, and touch.
Posture Your body posture says a lot about the type of person that you are. Although it’s not an end-all be-all solution, your body posture subcommunicates a lot of messages to her. If you want to get out of the friend zone, you have to learn how to be “open” and “direct” with your body. One of the general tips that I like to give is to own the space around you. Act big -- when sitting down, spread your legs open, relax your shoulders, and open your arms. This projects comfort in your surroundings. Since a man’s genital area is the most sensitive part for us, having this wide open by spreading your legs projects confidence. When you’re walking, stand straight and broaden your shoulders. Puff your chest out if you must (don’t overdo it though) and avoid walking in small strides. I call it the big dick walk -- walk as if you have ten-pound balls between your legs.
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Avoid “closed” body postures such as crossing your arms, pointing your body’s direction away from the person you’re talking with, or holding something between you and her such as a drink (some women tightly clench school books cross their body as a way to ward off unwanted attention). Don’t close yourself up and play it safe, even if it feels like the best thing to do -- you want to convey a smooth and suave man, not one who cowers under the slightest risk of failure. Tons and tons of books have been written on this subject, so I won’t waste your time repeating stuff that they explain much better than I do. Head to your nearest Barnes & Noble (or Chapters, if you’re in Canada) and buy the two books: “The Definitive Book On Body Language” by Allan and Barbara Pease and “What Every Body Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide To Speed Reading People” by Joe Navarro and Marvin Karlins If you have some money to spare, go and get a David Lieberman book: either “Get Anyone To Do Anything”, “You Can Read Anyone” or “Never Be Lied To Again.” Yes, they apply to reading people, but you can take the lessons he teaches there to sub-communicate messages with your posture.
Eye Contact: Gazing Into The Window Of One’s Soul Many men have problems with holding eye contact for long and start to feel uncomfortable after a while. But making and holding eye contact sends a very powerful image about your confidence, maybe because very few have the power to look at someone’s eyes for too long. Eye contact is essential to building rapport with someone. It also boosts physical attraction, both yours and hers. When you’re talking to her, it’s OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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important that you make solid eye contact. It conveys interest in what she’s saying, and when you hold her eyes as you talk you are showing a lot of selfconfidence. But don’t stare -- a 70:30 looking:looking away ratio is a healthy balance. Your eye contact must be complimented with a genuine smile, or else you’ll just be staring at her. A nice and warm smile has the power to melt a woman’s heart. It demonstrates confidence, friendliness and a positive attitude to life. It also gives the impression that you are fun to be with, and are probably not dangerous. Many women still subconsciously believe that men are the stronger sex -- smiling helps her alleviate this fear of you hurting or violating her. If you have problems holding someone’s gaze, here’s a tip: instead of looking them in their eyes, look at their eyebrows instead. It gives off the same impression that you are giving deep eye contact without actually doing so. With this technique, you will neutralize any feelings of fear or embarrassment that comes with making eye contact.
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PHASE 3: AMPLIFYING ATTRACTION Recap: The goal of the past two phases were to change her perception of you as harmless and non-threatening and transform it to a man she can potentially see herself having a romantic and sexually intimate relationship with. Here in phase 3, our goal is to take those altered perceptions of hers and amplify it to make her SERIOUSLY consider getting with you. There are three rules you need to follow when it comes to this stage.
Cardinal Rule #1: Going On The Non-Date If there’s one dating principle that I have found to be the most effective in my life, it is the principle of taking her out on what I like to call as Non-Dates. In many people’s minds, taking her out on a date means picking her up, dinner at a fancy restaurant, a movie or a casual stroll after eating, possibly flowers. Now, in my experience, the concept of the traditional date works -- but ONLY if she feels some attraction towards you in the first place. If she doesn’t, any and all gestures and attempts to sweep her off her feet like they do in the movies will only work to your disadvantage. So what’s the solution? You do need to go out together for you to be able to amplify her feelings, but not with anything over the top. As a matter of fact, I use Non-Dates to casually sneak my way in without her even knowing it. Non-Dates are casual get-togethers with just the two of you doing regular, everyday things. As a loose definition, I define a Non-Date to be anything other than the normal thing you would ask her out for. But in general my Non-Dates OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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involve asking her to accompany me to do something I was going to do by myself anyway, ie. go to the bank, pick up some groceries, finding a gift for a friend’s birthday, drinks with some common friends, etc. They are perfect especially if you’ve made a major blunder with her such as confessing your feelings or if she’s explicitly told you that she doesn’t want to be anything more than friends, because they are perceived as non-threatening and takes an intense amount of pressure off her shoulders. Imagine: no need to bother spending 2 hours to doll herself up! This might seem a little contrary to your thoughts right now -- you need to get out of the friend zone, so don’t you need to do more couple-like activities? In a single word, no. Fact of the matter is this: everytime I was in the danger of being Friend Zone’d by a girl, any attempt to take her out with the idea of sweeping her off her feet got blown off and rejected. On the other hand, whenever I tell her to come with me to do some mundane activity (look for a book, shop for a few clothes, etc.) women would almost always agree to come with. Remember the principle of escalation -- small things first, then you can always escalate to the next level once she’s there. It is a must to escalate to the next level, but you want to do it as if it’s spontaneous and thought of right on the spot. Taking her out to dinner at a nice place is a lot easier if she’s already out with you somewhere. What I do is I would let her know that I’m getting hungry, ask her if she wants to eat, then tell her I’m having cravings for dinner at some nice restaurant. There will be an instance that she didn’t bring much money with her, so be prepared to pony up part of the bill in this situation. Once you’re on a Non-Date and managed to escalate, you have opportunities to execute the following techniques in order to amplify her feelings of attraction towards you, as small as those feelings may be. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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Cardinal Rule #2: Being A Mystery Now that you’ve sparked up some sexual attraction in her, it’s time to really amplify that. Done properly, playing coy and being a bit of a mystery will get her chasing you in no time.
Send Mixed Messages If you’ve already told her how you feel about her, STOP DOING SO RIGHT NOW. Even if she’s reacted favorably. She might enjoy the flattery, but by having such easy access to you, it’s not making her like you more. It won’t be increasing her attraction to you! To attract a woman and get out of the friend zone, you need to make her wonder. She needs to wonder what you’re doing, what you’re thinking about, who you’re with, and most importantly, how you really feel about her. Cut your phone calls short. End your dates early. Hell, break a date every now and then. Some people might not approve of this move, but it works for me. If I’m trying to turn a friend to a girlfriend, I like to make dates that I have no intention of keeping. Yes, I ask her out on a date even if I KNOW that I’ll eventually cancel on her. This works well if she asks you to go somewhere with her and you initially agree. Yes, I’m risking pissing her off. But by not making it so easy for her to see me, I am actually creating distance between the two of us. With distance comes mystery and intrigue -- two of your best friends when it comes to getting out of the friend zone! OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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And even if you piss her off a little bit, that emotion is a lot better than her not caring at all. It also gives me the opportunity to sweep her off her feet, because now I have a legitimate excuse to do something really sweet for her. We all want what we can’t have, and that’s what women really want. It’s a weird paradox, but by denying her the chance to be with you so easily, you’re actually creating a much stronger desire for her to be with you. Give her the opportunity to actually look forward to being with you. Be a little distant, and even break a Non-Date (or even an actual date) every now and then. Send her mixed messages, and she’ll come running into your arms in no time.
Make Her Jealous Remember this fact and tattoo it on your forehead if you have to: the opposite of love isn’t hate -- it’s indifference. If you’re in the friend zone, then chances are she’s really indifferent towards you. She doesn’t feel any sparks of attraction towards you. If she knows that you have feelings for her, believe it when I say that she will do whatever it takes to keep your attention and stop her from losing to another girl. It’s one of those things that men will never understand about women. She knows you want her, but she doesn’t want you back -- yet, she will do everything in her power to make sure nobody else gets you. Let her crave for your attention.You can do this by talking to other girls in front of her without paying much attention towards her.You have to be really subtle about it though -- if she knows that you’re intentionally trying to make her jealous, you are negating all your efforts. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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If you know that she has a little bit of an unspoken competition going on with one of her friends, be a little extra friendly to her friend the next time you three are all together. Flirt with waitresses and bartenders. Let her see you talking to pretty women if you’re out at a bar or a club. Approach it with this frame of mind: “I’m having more fun talking to her than I am talking to you, so I’m going to focus all my attention on her instead.” If you really believe that, she will sense it. It gives her a feeling of rejection way before she is even rejected -- and women CANNOT handle rejection. CAUTION: Be careful to not go overboard and swing into the douchebag category. For instance, you cannot overtly break a date with her if you choose to go with another girl instead. That will instantly put you in the jerk category, and will make her hate you, not like you more. Any regular woman will protect her man (and yes, she sees you as her man in some way) from the eyes of a prying woman. If you can get a woman’s green glands going, you are money.
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Cardinal Rule #3: Being Sexual The number one rule for this stage is to start amplifying sexual tension between the two of you. You do this by following the touch escalation patterns that we discussed in the previous chapter, as well as introducing the topic of sex into your conversations. No, you do not have the come across as a horny pervert. What I like to do is to wonder out loud about a certain social dynamic between male and females and asking for her opinion. You can start it off easy by asking something related to relationships. As soon as you two are heavily engaged in debate or discussion about that topic, you can gently navigate the conversation and introduce the topic of sex. One of my favorite ways of finding social dynamics to talk about is watching standup comedy. My favorite comedians are Chris Rock, and his stuff is always full of clever tidbits and observations about men and women that I pull from all the time.
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“Never ask your woman how many men she’s slept with” - http:// www.youtube.com/watch?v=M3IIVHxAtFk Once she’s engaged in the topic, it isn’t difficult at all to maneuver the conversation into deeper into the topic of sex. The idea is to just get her used to talking about sex with you. This portrays you as a sexual being -- a man who’s not afraid to admit his own sexuality. Believe me, this is a rare trait in men today, and as long as you’re not coming off as a horndog, you WILL be fine. I also like to drop hypothetical situations that are designed to make her imagine the two of us doing sexual activities. I will pretend that I would need clarification about what she said, and somehow manage to squeeze myself in her thoughts. Done well, this is a very effective (and subtle) technique. For example, I just had this conversation recently with a sexually conservative friend of mine: Her: I don’t feel comfortable with the notion of having multiple sex partners at the same time. Me: Really? So does that mean you have a problem with me then? *grin* Her: No, no, I’m just saying that I don’t necessarily agree with the concept, that’s all. I don’t have a problem with people who do it. Me: OK, I’m interested to know more about that.You know that I don’t have a problem sleeping with other women as long as I’m not in a committed relationship. Take this hypothetical situation then. Say we’re both single, and after one night of drinking, you and I start making out and end up sleeping together. The problem is that even if you and I are both physically attracted to each other, we both know that getting in a relationship isn’t necessarily the best thing for both of us. What then will you.... (You read about this in the Case Study #3. As you know, this “friend” of mine ended up making out with me at the end of our beach vacation.) OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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Do you see what I did here? It is to get her thinking about situations where the two of you are together. It is subtle hypnotism in effect. In my professional opinion, the art of subtle communication played A HUGE FACTOR in me getting this girl to make out with me. One of the main reasons guys stay as “just friends” with a girl is because they don’t allow the girl to see them in a sexual manner. There are only two ways you can get her to do that: 1.) If she’s already attracted to you in the first place, then all you have to do is act sexual, and 2.) If she doesn’t see you in that way, then you have to MAKE her think of you without being a pervert about it. That’s the main advantage of subtle communication. It’s somewhat of a “brute force” tactic -- but it works. Because of this tactic, more than half of our conversations ended up having a very subtle but noticeable sexual undertone. It allowed me to transform her image of me from “just a harmless guy friend” to someone she is constantly imagining having physical intimacy with. Your conversation will end up having very overt sexual undertones. With this conversation, she started asking me other hypothetical questions, such as how would I react if we slept together for a one night thing. She’s not necessarily going to act out on it (we’ll deal with that in phase 4), but using this technique you can make sure that she’s definitely thinking about it. If you think you have a problem with getting her to see you in a sexual manner, then use this tactic, and use it mercilessly. This is VERY EFFECTIVE during the getting to know you stage when she’s still trying to decide what her first impression is of you -- but it’s just as effective no matter what stage of the game you’re in. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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Touch: The 4 Stages of Escalation This is one of the best “techniques” unknown to men everywhere. Many of us are touch-averse especially towards women we have feelings for. We seem to feel guilty for touching her in fear of violating her personal space and coming off as a pervert. If you hold this belief, then you need to erase this type of thinking RIGHT NOW. Listen: knowing how to touch a woman in such a way that generates sexual attraction is the one advantage average Joes have over muscular jocks and rich models. Touching people you meet makes them feel comfortable in your presence almost immediately, if you do it right. Funny story: I was with some friends at a club some time ago. We came across one of our acquaintances from school who was slightly tipsy. He was one of those popular guys. I started to get bored, so while a few of my buddies were chatting with him I decided to go to the bar and grab some drinks. After a while, two of my female friends found me. When I asked them what happened to our acquaintance, they told me that they left him because they felt creeped out because he was too touchy. The funny thing about it is that they were telling me this with my arms on both of their shoulders.You can’t make this stuff up. Go figure, right? Here’s the thing: There are tons of ways to touch a woman wrong, but there’s no one magic way to touch a girl that induces sexual attraction. The only thing you need to do is focus your touching on constant escalation. What do I mean by escalation? Think of touching as a ladder.You start with small touches and gradually work your way up the steps.You can’t go from no touching at all, to kissing, to sex in two giant leaps.You have to take one small step at a time in order for the next step to “feel right.” OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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Have you ever heard a woman say that holding hands with, even kissing her man just feels right? That’s touch escalation executed properly. What you’re doing is getting her used to the idea of you touching her, and slowly (but surely) increasing the level of touching.You start with casual and nonthreatening and work your way to sexual and intimate. The following is a series of steps to follow from beginning until the time she’s ready to be kissed. While you must stick to the regimen, don’t stick to it RIGIDLY -- don’t turn away her invitations to kiss you if you’re only at the second stage, for example. Use your better judgement. If you have any questions, email me for clarifications. STAGE 1 - Casual Upon the first time you meet her - Shake her hand and hold it for a tad bit too long - Casually touch her on the arm to emphasize a point you’re saying. - Stand next to her with your arm touching hers. - Hell, even high fives are good at this stage. STAGE 2 - Protective Once she’s comfortable with you touching her, you can move on to the next step. - Give her a friendly hug after you tease her, or touching the small of her back when opening the door for her. - Sit next to her with your legs touching each other - Admire her necklace by getting close and grabbing it to examine it closely. Of course, your fingers will lightly graze her neck when you do so. STAGE 3 - Romantic OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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Once you’ve done those, she’ll feel comfortable with the next few semiromantic touching moves - If the environment is extremely loud, feel free to talk to directly to her ear (don’t shout!) and gently brush your lips against her ear. The ear is a really sensitive area especially when in contact with the lips, so use this situation to your advantage. - You can also brush her hair off her face, or just pretend she has something on her cheeks and wipe it gently. STAGE 4 - Sexual As soon as she’s comfortable with these, I guarantee you that she will be very comfortable with your touching, and chances are she’s starting to see you in a romantic and/or sexual light already. Time for the next big moves, which is to: - Run your fingers through her hair - Stroking her face with your fingers while looking deeply into her eyes - Holding hands or walking arm in arm with both of your faces really close to each other’s - Kissing her on the cheek If you notice, these different stages go from platonic to deeply intimate. As soon as you reach the final stage, going for a kiss on the lips will feel perfectly natural -- no more awkardness. There are plenty more of touching moves you can do, so feel free to improvise a little bit as long as you know what stage you’re in. Don’t stray too far though as you absolutely cannot mess this step up. Also, keep in mind that it’s not enough to do these things one time and leave it at that. The more constant your touching, the better. What do you do if you’ve OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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made the mistake of not establishing touch early on? Better late than never, my friend. Start small -- no need to jump into holding hands right away. (Note: Stage 1 and 2 of the touch escalation pattern should be executed during Phase 2 of the process)
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PHASE 4: CLOSING THE DEAL Congratulations, you’ve done the toughest of the tough. You’ve worked on revamping her image of you, generated sexual attraction, and started to exude qualities of a sexy and confident man.You’ve successfully maneuvered your way out of the friend zone and got yourself to Phase 4. If you execute the steps in Phases 1, 2 and 3 properly, it won’t be long until you can feel that it’s time to close the deal.
Tread The Waters Carefully You’ve gone this far in your journey out of the friend zone -- always remember to tread the waters carefully. Never assume that just because things are normal between the two of you that she’s ready for a relationship with you.You need to look for crystal clear signs that she is definitely attracted to you and no longer sees you as just a friend. How do you know if you’re already in this phase? You’ll know it when you see it. It requires a little bit of intuition, but you can tell that it’s time to close the deal once you start seeing these signs: - Whereas you used to start all forms of communication with her, she now starts contacting you first on a regular basis - You feel her looking at you while you’re doing something, and when you catch her looking she either 1.) smiles warmly at you, or 2.) looks down then away - Getting her out on a date was nowhere as difficult as it used to be - She starts responding well to physical touch - She starts laughing at almost everything you say (making you wonder, “Since when did I become so funny?”) OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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- She bluntly asks you out on dates (disguised as Non-Dates), wants to have drinks with just the two of you, or even asks you to come over at night These are just some of the telltale signs that will indicate her growing interest in you and signal that you need to seal the deal and make her yours. In this case, just trust your intuition -- if she’s sending strong messages, you’re probably right. Just be careful and always analyze the situation.You know more about her than most guys -- by now, you should probably be very well aware of how he is with other guys, especially guys she likes. Use that as your point of comparison, and try to match yourself as to where you are on the scale.
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Lightning Doesn’t Strike Twice You’ve already landed yourself in the friend zone once. But because you executed the tactics in this book so perfectly well, you’ve managed to get yourself out of that black hole. But if ever you get yourself there again, trust me -- there is NO getting out. This is not the time to go back to old habits that got you in the friend zone in the first place! Don’t start chasing her around like she’s the only woman in your life again (even if she is). Never confess your feelings and tell her how you’ve loved her ever since the first day you’ve known each other. No buying gifts unless it’s a special occasion -- and if she’s not buying gifts for you, then you probably shouldn’t do the same. If you’ve successfully revamped your image in her eyes, then you need to uphold to that -- otherwise, everything will just be a big fat lie and she will feel like she’s been lead on. I know several guys who I’ve helped get out of the friend zone, but sadly they got too overconfident and started believing they could do no wrong. They reverted back to their old ways, and sadly, lost the girl for good. While there’s no exact rules on the right things to do with a woman, there are the clearly wrong things that you should never even think about doing. Not the way you want to go out, my friend. You’ve put in all this work successfully so far -- tread the waters carefully, because you’re actually in a more vulnerable position now than you were in before. OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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The Kiss Test: Perfect Is Imperfect, Imperfect Is Perfect Whatever happens, do NOT wait to set up the perfect moment to make your move. It is tempting to try and do it like they do in the movies.You know, just like how everything is perfect and right and the male hero just manages to sweep the female actress off her feet. I’m going to tell you right now that this moment will just happen. When you realize that it’s your time, pounce on the opportunity and don’t let it slip away. When do you know if she’s ready to be kissed? A good guideline is the moment you start asking yourself, “Should I kiss her now?” then you probably should. But be warned: you have to really trust your instincts if you choose to follow this rule. When the two of you are alone and you can feel the sexual tension building, do what I like to call the Kiss Test. 1.) Find an excuse to smell her hair. I usually like saying something to the effect of, “I smell something good. Is that your hair?” and lean over and give it a sniff. 2.) Pull away, but keep your hands on her hair and start touching the tips. If she lets you do this, even smiles, then you’re a go to continue. 3.) Keep stroking her hair, this time brushing it with your fingers and gently scratching her scalp. There’s something very comforting about this (you ever wonder why women brush their hair so often?) and then look her in the eye.
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4.) When she looks back, look down at her lips, then look her in the eyes again. If she let’s you keep stroking her hair and keeps looking at you in the eye, then the green light is on, and you should go in for the kiss. Why does this work so well? Again, it’s the concept of escalation in effect. You’re escalating towards a kiss, but you’re not giving her anything too overt to reject or object to. By slowly climbing that ladder of escalation, moving on to the next step is easy. Do this, and you will find out easily whether she’s ready to be kissed -guaranteed.
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Last Minute Resistance So you’ve managed to squeeze yourself in.You can hardly believe you’re actually kissing her and making out with her! Just as everything is going as planned, she pulls away and tells you, “No, we can’t do this.We’re FRIENDS.” Now, most guys would not have an idea what to do in this situation. The natural instinct for many would be to convince her otherwise -- “No, we should be. It feels so right” or something to that effect. When faced with this situation, do not, by any means, try to convince her LOGICALLY to continue the physical intimacy with you! This is a crucial point of difference between men and women. With men, straight facts and logic is enough. Notice how our stories always involve the what, when, who, and where, sometimes the how and the why. But with women, it’s always about how they FEEL. Their stories are laced with feelings; how they got annoyed when the checkout counter girl was rude to them, how angry she feels with this one person at work, etc. To be able to make a woman relate to you, you need to start talking less in facts, and more about feelings. Less logic, more emotions. No, this is not me being sexist -- it’s what has worked well for me so far. Back to the topic at hand: what do you do when you encounter last minute resistance? Say this:
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“You’re right, we can’t do this, this is bad...” and keep on kissing her. She will kiss you back. If she pulls away again and says, “I can’t,” acknowledge what she says, and keep on kissing her. Continue until the third time she resists. After that time, pull away for real. Give it a couple of minutes. If you have the TV on, watch whatever’s on there for a short while. Then turn to her and start escalating again by quickly going through the Touch Escalation pattern. Hold her hand, then sniff her neck, give her ear a quick nibble, and start kissing her. The trick is to turn the tables on her and start making her the aggressor. Pay attention to your body language, and adjust it so she’s actually doing some of the work.You can do this by pulling her towards you as you slowly lay back while the two of you are making out. If you can maneuver her to get on top you, even better. One of the reasons she is resisting is because she is scared of her social reputation. If ever this gets out to your circle of friends, she’s in danger of getting thought of as a slut. So if she resists, tell her this: “We’re in our own world right now darling, what happens right now stays between us.” Then start kissing her again. This advice might seem counter-intuitive, but it works. I don’t exactly know why, but I have an idea. I’ve also asked women I’ve been with, and they seem to agree with my explanation of it: By the time that she actually tells you that you two can’t do what you’re doing, that’s her logical mind speaking. Her logical mind and her body is actually conflicting right now, so the trick is to let her body win the conflict. By taking a short break, she wonders, “Wait, did he really just stop?” She starts wanting the good feelings brought upon by the act of making out with you, which kills off the logical mind in the process. When you stop, the sexual OutOfTheFriendZone.com
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tension between the two of you exponentially builds -- when you start again, making out with you is a great release. (Notice that she’ll be letting out a heavy breath after the stop-start process -a sign of tension getting released on her end. It is because of this which is why the perfect time to move to the next base is after a short break.) Note: Keep in mind that there are no hard, solid rules for last minute resistance -- there are only guidelines. Note: If she firmly tells you to STOP and starts pulling away -- do so right away. Going further would be rape. Don’t do that.
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CONCLUSION Congratulations, you’ve successfully managed to get yourself out of the friend zone! You have everything I could possibly know about women and how you could navigate your way out of the friend zone and turn a friend into a girlfriend. Please don’t abuse this knowledge. This is very powerful stuff, and has the power to destroy a woman’s heart if done carefully. While I cannot guarantee that EVERYBODY will succeed in their journey out of the friend zone, by following the tactics in this book you are dramatically increasing your chances of doing what many think to be impossible. Use it only for good. Don’t play with anybody’s feelings -- karma will come around and bite you in the ass if you do. Fortune favors the bold. To your success! Gavin Ferenzo PS. I really want to hear your thoughts. Write me at:
[email protected] That is my personal email address, and you can ensure that I will receive and read any and all emails sent there. I would really love to hear your success story.
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