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]dct Rdks Lnna Ks Cjb Dnw Rn Vsf Kt Rdfrf crf icjy onipnjfjts tn mrnwkjm c Rwkttfr cjb icakjm kt sn fjmcmkjm tdct pfnpgf ocj‛t mft fjnumd ne kt. Rdf juilfr 3 sakgg, clnvf cgg ntdfrs, ks wrktkjm. Njf tdkjm Rwkttfr bnfs--lfttfr tdcj c lgnm nr c jfwsgfttfr--ks fxpnsf wdn ks c trugy c tcgfjtfb wrktfr. K gcumd wdfj pfnpgf tcga clnut sdcbnw-lcjjkjm nr dnw tdf Rwkttfr cgmnrktdi iust dcvf odcjmfb lfocusf subbfjgy tdfkr kiprfssknjs, fjmcmfifjt, nr jfw enggnwfr onujt ks bnwj. Kj tdf ? yfcrs nr sn tdct K dcvf lffj sfrknusgy fjmcmfb kj uskjm tdf pgctenri, K‛vf wktjfssfb cotucg tfodjkocg odcjmfs noour nj tdf pgctenri cjb bforfcsf tdfsf juilfrs. Dnwfvfr, wdfj tdfsf tdkjms bkb dcppfj, FUF\[NJF‛_ coonujt wcs ceefotfb.  C pfrsnj dcs c strkjm strkjm ne guoa wdfrf tdfy tdfy dcvf cj cj kjegctfb kjegctfb injtd lut lut ke tdfy tdfy bnj‛t ajnw ajnw dnw tn wrktf enr tdf pgctenri--nr wrktf wfgg, kj mfjfrcg--tdfy wkgg ekjb tdfkr mrnwtd nj tdks pgctenri spnrcbko cjb bkeekougt tn ickjtckj. Rdks lnna ks bfskmjfb tn tfcod ynu dnw tn wrktf enr Rwkttfr sn tdks bnfsj‛t dcppfj.

]dkgf K lfgkfvf wdct K‛i mnkjm tn tfcod ynu wkgg icaf ynu c inrf fjmcmkjm cjb kjtfrfstkjm oniiujkoctnr kj cjy ifbkui, wdct ynu‛gg gfcrj kj tdks mukbf ks dnw tn wrktf fjmcmkjm twffts tdct wkgg trfifjbnusgy lnnst ynur enggnwfr onujt, kiprfssknjs, cjb fjmcmfifjt. K bnj‛t ajnw wdy ynu lnumdt tdks mukbf. Icylf ynu wcjt tn sfgg nj Rwkttfr. K ocj‛t dfgp ynu sfgg, lut K ocj mft inrf pfnpgf tn sff wdct ynu wrktf, enggnw ynu, cjb kjtfrcot wktd ynu. Fxpnsurf ks fssfjtkcg tn icakjm inrf scgfs1 cetfr cgg, ke pfnpgf bnj‛t ajnw ynu fxkst, tdfy ocj‛t luy erni ynu. Rdks mukbf wkgg dfgp ynu lukgb kt kj c sustckjclgf, nrmcjko, cjb ujkquf icjjfr. Ke ynur mncg ks tn brkvf inrf pfnpgf tn c wflsktf nr lukgb cj fickg gkst, tdf prkjokpgfs dfrf wnra enr tdct cs wfgg. ]rktkjm wfgg enrofs pfnpgf tn fjmcmf ynu tdf wcy c pkgf ne onockjf enrofs brum cbbkots tn sjnrt kt ujtkg tdfy nvfrbnsf. Rdf brum cbbkot ajnws tdct tdf brums crf lcb enr tdfi, lut tdfy ocj‛t dfgp tdfisfgvfs lfocusf tdfy‛rf cbbkotfb cjb tdf skrfj‛s snjm ks tnn strnjm. Rdf onockjf enrofs tdf cbbkot tn fjmcmf. [nur wnrbs wkgg lf gkaf onockjf. [nu wkgg enrof tdf usfrs tn fjmcmf. Rdfy wkgg lf suoafb kjtn mnkjm tn wdctfvfr wflsktf nr prnbuot sktf ynu wcjt tdfi tn mn tn. ]rktkjm twffts gkaf tdks ks tdf njgy wcy tn mrnw ynur coonujt. Fvfj ke cgg ynu wcjtfb tn bn ks kjorfcsf ynur enggnwfrs enr purf vcjkty, ynu dcvf tn wrktf mnnb twffts tn mft tdfi tn enggnw ynu. Rdks lnna ks enr cjynjf wdn wcjts tn mrnw nj Rwkttfr enr wdctfvfr rfcsnj. Kt‛s jnt c sfrkfs ne odfcp trkoas cjb dcoas. K wnj‛t lf tfggkjm ynu tn enggnw coonujts tdfj ujenggnw tdfi--tdct ocj mft ynu c enggnwkjm, lut kt wnj‛t lf fjmcmfb cjb, eurtdfrinrf, ynu‛gg gnsf tdfi ke ynu ujenggnw. ]nrtdwdkgf coonujts wnj‛t enggnw ynu njgy lfocusf ynu enggnwfb tdfi.

 

[nu onugb pcy enr c lnt ecrikjm sfrvkof tn crtkekokcggy puip ynur enggnwfr juilfrs, lut tdct‛s pnkjtgfss kjegctknj ne c vcjkty iftrko. Dcvkjm pgfjty ne crtkekokcg enggnwfrs bnfsj‛t icaf ynur coonujt cjyinrf fjmcmkjm lfocusf tdfrf crf jn rfcg pfnpgf tn enggnw kt. Kt‛s gkaf trykjm tn mft dkmd erni sjnrtkjm lcly pnwbfr--jnt njgy wkgg jntdkjm dcppfj, lut ynu‛gg euoa ynursfge up kj ntdfr ujpgfcscjt wcys tdct wkgg bn bcicmf nvfr tdf gnjm tfri.

Kt bnfsj‛t icttfr wdct ynur jkodf ks nr dnw ynu cbb vcguf1 wdfj ynu wrktf fjmcmkjmgy, pfnpgf ocj‛t dfgp lut enggnw ynu. Vgtkictfgy, tdf ourrfjoy ne snokcg ifbkc ks cttfjtknj. Cttfjtknj ksj‛t mnnb nr lcb cjb K wnj‛t `ubmf ynu enr dnw ynu usf kt1 lut ke ynu wrktf kj cj fjmcmkjm icjjfr, K mucrcjtff tdct ynu wkgg dcvf inrf ne kt. Fjmcmkjm wrktfrs bnj‛t dcvf tn usf sdnoa tcotkos nr wckt enr trfjbs kj tdf ifbkc tn ocpktcgkzf nj. Rdfy bnj‛t jffb tn trngg nr kjsugt pfnpgf. Cj fjmcmkjm wrktfr bnfsj‛t jffb tn enggnw pfnpgf kj c qukb prn qun fxodcjmf nr ‗pgcy jkof’ wktd ntdfr up cjb onikjm Rwkttfr pfrsnjcgktkfs. ]dfj ynu wrktf fjmcmkjm twffts, ynu feefotkvfgy nwj cjb bnikjctf ynur crfc nj Rwkttfr. Ke ynu bn kt gnjm fjnumd, kt ks kjfvktclgf tdct ynu wkgg mrnw lfynjb ynur jkodf.

Dnw tn Vsf Rdks Lnna K lfgkfvf tdfrf crf fssfjtkcg fgfifjts tn c twfft tdct icafs kt fjmcmkjm. Ly c systfi ne trkcg cjb frrnr, K‛vf gfcrjfb wdct icafs c twfft inst gkafgy tn mfjfrctf ‗dcrb fjmcmfifjt’. Ly dcrb fjmcmfifjt, K ifcj c rftwfft, quntf twfft, nr enggnw. Neekokcggy, gkafs cjb prnekgf vkskts fjmcmfifjt crf onjskbfrfb fjmcmfifjt ly Rwkttfr cjcgytkos, lut enr nur purpnsfs--mfttkjm fxpnsurf cjb enggnwfrs--tdfy‛rf krrfgfvcjt. ]dkgf tdf twfft tdct c pfrsnj gkafs wkgg noocsknjcggy  sdnw  sdnw up kj tdf tkifgkjf ne tdfkr enggnwfrs, cjytdkjm tdfy rftwfft cgwcys bnfs. cgwcys  bnfs. Xfnpgf jffb tn sdcrf wdct ynu wrktf, enggnw ynu, nr lntd. Rdfsf crf tdf njgy fjmcmfifjts tdct icttfr. Cs ne wrktkjm tdks, K dcvf 52a enggnwfrs, cjb K bn 34- [nu dcvf tn wrktf wfgg. Inrf spfokekocggy, ynu dcvf tn wrktf wfgg enr Rwkttfr. [nu jffb tn lf njf-pcrt onpywrktfr, njf-pcrt pdkgnsnpdfr, c icstfr ne duicj psyodngnmy, cjb clnvf cgg, prngkeko. Rdf rfcgkty ks tdct inst pfnpgf crf wnrsf wrktfrs tdcj tdfy tdkja tdfy crf. Rdfy fktdfr ocjjnt wrktf wktd c purpnsf nr tdfy crf njf-bkifjsknjcg. Ke tdfy ocj bn cgg tdf tdkjms ifjtknjfb, tdfy ocj‛t bn tdfi ct c rfcsnjclgf pcof nr tdfy gcoa tdf clkgkty tn wrktf stygkstkocggy. Rwkttfr rfwcrbs mrfct wrktkjm cjb kjskmdt. Kt ks jnt enr pfnpgf wdn gcoa wrktkjm clkgkty, wnra ftdko, nr mfjfrcg kjtfggkmfjof. K ocj‛t bn cjytdkjm clnut tdf gcst twn1 ke ynu crfj‛t sicrt fjnumd tn octod pcttfrjs kj gkef nr ynu crfj‛t wkggkjm tn wnra tdks pgctenri, K ocj‛t dfgp ynu. Lut ke ynu dcvf mnnb kbfcs cjb ynu wcjt tn mrnw c enggnwkjm--enr wdctfvfr rfcsnj--tdfj tdks mukbf wkgg dfgp ynu.

 

Fjmcmfifjt vs Kiprfssknjs0 Rdf _tcts cjb ]dct Rdfy Ifcj ‗Rdf bkeefrfjof lftwffj kjvngvfifjt cjb oniiktifjt ks gkaf dci cjb fmms. Rdf odkoafj ks kjvngvfb1 tdf pkm ks oniikttfb’ -Icrtkjc Jcvrctkgnvc [nur twkttfr iftrkos crf bkvkbfb kjtn twn octfmnrkfs0 kiprfssknjs cjb fjmcmfifjt. Kiprfssknjs crf dnw icjy pfnpgf crf ocpclgf ne sffkjm ynur twfft. Fjmcmfifjts crf dnw icjy pfnpgf kjtfrcot wktd kt nr tcaf cj cotknj nj lfdcge ne ynur twffts.

Kiprfssknjs ]dfj ynu sfjb c twfft nut, kt lfonifs njf ne icjy tdct pnpugctf tdf tkifgkjf ne cjynjf wdn enggnws ynu. ]dfj cjy ne ynur enggnwfrs rftwfft ynu, tdf twfft tdfj ekggs tdf tkifgkjf ne tdfkr enggnwfrs. Kj tdfnry, tdks ocj onjtkjuf ujtkg kt ekggs tdf tkifgkjf ne fvfrynjf wdn fvfr usfs Rwkttfr. Rwkttfr dcs jn wcy tn ajnw ke ynu cotucggy rfcb cgg ne tdf twffts tdct onif up nj ynur tkifgkjf. Fvfj ke ynu quntf twfft kt wktd tdf inst vcguclgf kjskmdt fvfr icbf kj tdf gcst