David Shade - How to Set the Foundation for a Wild Sexual Relationship

HOW TO SET THE F O U N D A T I O N FOR A WILD SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP

DAVID SHADE

Table of Contents Track 1 Let's Get Started

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Track 2 The Most Important Things To Work On

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Track 3 The Specifics

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Track 4 Metaphor

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Track 5 "It Just Happened"

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Track 6 Powerfully Propel It

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Track 7 The Consumation

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Track 8 Critical Next Steps

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Track 9 Associate Your Voice To Her Orgasm

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Track 10 Introducing Dirty Talk

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Track 11 Be The DOM

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Track 12 Increase Her Vulnerability To You

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Track 13 Let Her Do What She Does Best

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Track 14 Two Weaknesses To Avoid

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Track 15 Questions And Answers

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How To Set The Foundation For A Wild Sexual Relationship

Track 1 Let's Get Started

First of all, I will tell you what my talk is NOT about. My talk is NOT about seduction. Also, This is not about one night stands. Everything that I am going to talk about applies if you want to see a woman again. I am going to talk about how you are going to leverage who she is as a sexual woman, to systematically increase her responsiveness to you, to methodically drive her CRAZY with desire, to set the foundation for a wild torrid ruthlessly expressive sexual relationship. I am going to speak about The Important Aspects Early in the Relationship, and I will give some specific examples. So, let's get started.

Track 2 The Most Important Things To Work On

The four most important things you want to work on are: 1) Earn her respect. 2) Earn her trust. 3) Play to her sexual mind. 4) Patience. Let's talk about earning her respect. Respect is utmost. Without respect, nothing else is possible. When she has Respect for you, she takes what you say seriously. And when she takes what you say seriously, it becomes real for her. As what you say becomes real for her, her responsiveness to you develops. And her responsiveness is the mechanism by which you will bring out the highly sexual creature in her. How do you earn her respect? First of all, walk the talk. Do what you say. Never say something that you don't intend to do. Never talk about something that you never did. Never brag. Be a little mysterious, without being deceiving. There is a delicate balance between being mysterious and being deceiving. Deceiving is to avoid direct questions. Mysterious is to not give it all away. Hold a little back. With time, she will learn things about you, 1 www.Masterfi.il-Lover.com

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and realize that you could have talked about those things as well, but didn't. This will increase her intrigue for you. She will become curious about what other things she may learn about you. Have respect for yourself. She won't respect you if you don't. And certainly, have respect for her. It will earn her respect for you. From her perspective, if you can't respect her, you couldn't possibly respect yourself. Now, for earning her trust. Her trust in you is required in order for her to surrender to you. Earning her trust takes time, a little bit at a time. Earning her trust is mostly a matter of not violating her trust. And then revel in all the small opportunities that will present themselves, for you to demonstrate your worthiness of her trust. Now, Play to the mental aspects of her sexuality. Concentrate on the cerebral aspects of sexuality, not just the sex specifically. Lead her mind, and make her body crave it. Be different than all the other guys. Be the man who awakens that sexual creature within her. Be the man that she wished existed, but never thought she'd meet. With the correct motivation and intent, all of these things will become easy and natural for you. You must have the right motivation and intent. The correct motivation for all of this is that you take this proper woman, and bring out the decedent, primal, insatiably hungry, natural woman in her. Your intent is to excite and then fulfill her beyond anything she has ever experienced before. Be able to look directly into her eyes, and know that, no matter how hard the shell, they all have a soft chewy center. And finally, patience. Work slow, but steady. Be confident in the fact that women want sex just as much as men. Be confident that women are craving to be in an exciting relationship. Those are the four most important things to work on.

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Track 3 The Specifics

Now for more specific things, which will probably relate to any of the four main things. If you want a relationship with a woman, do NOT push her hard to have sex. If you push hard for sex, she will think you are only in it for that, and it will reduce any respect she has for you. And it makes you just like all the other guys. Be different. Remember the "one night stand clause." If a woman sleeps with a man on the first night, usually, she never sees him again, especially if he pushes hard for sex. For some women, if she has a one night stand, no matter how good the guy was in bed, she feels cheap, and has remorse. She then has to pretend that it didn't happen by denying it to herself. But that is not possible, so she just denies him. And she believes that he sees her as being cheap. For other women, whether she specifically set out for a one night fling or not, if she meets a man she finds attractive, and he pushes hard for the first night close, she just may take him up on it, for the fling of it. She knows that she throws aside any hope of a relationship with him. In other words, she makes the conscious decision to reduce her respect for him. He is not good enough for a relationship, he is only good enough for a one night stand. There are exceptions, but as a general rule, if you want to see her again, stay out of the one night stand category. Ok, so things you SHOULD do in order to set the stage for a relationship, as opposed to a one night stand. Let's talk about the magical word "Romance." Romance is the socially acceptable word for sexuality. In the context of romance, sexuality is socially acceptable. Think back on any wedding reception you've been to. Everybody thinks it's so romantic. Even Grandma is happy. Everybody is celebrating. And when the bride and groom leave, everybody cheers them on. What everybody knows, but nobody says, is that the bride and groom are going to go up to their room to FUCK! And it's ok with everybody, even the government that gave them the license, even the priest that married them.

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But you don't have to get married to be romantic. Women love romance. In the context of romance, they get everything they need. They get all the feelings they have always wanted to feel. They get the socially acceptable context in which to be sexual. And what they really want, but don't say, is they want to FUCK! And you don't have to immediately promise a committed long term relationship to be romantic. In fact, that would only scare her away. No woman wants a man to instantly fall in love with her just because they had sex. She does not want a man who will put her on a pedestal, or supplicate to her. That would be weak. She wants a man who is strong. She wants a man that is masculine. It is attractive to her because it contrasts her femininity. It makes her feel like a woman. And a woman does not want a man who is too mushy. But you can still be romantic and still be strong, with your own sense of self and with masculinity. How to be Romantic without being mushy: Do little things. For example, while you and her are out, make a paper flower for her. You can do a search on the internet for how to turn an ordinary napkin into a beautiful rose. Recite a poem to her. Women love it. Women love romance. Work on the romance, and the sex will follow. I'm telling you guys, stop thinking about getting to the sex so much. Think about her heart and her mind. Play to her emotions. You will be surprised at how appreciative they can be. Be Strong without being pushy. Stand up for yourself and what you believe, but also respect others and their views. Be emotionally available without being needy. Talk about real interpersonal issues, but always remain self assured. Ask her for advice on some deep issue. Listen when she speaks of her life. Take an interest in her. Remember the things she says about herself and her life. Learn about her, learn what makes her tick. You will use all of this later. The most important thing you can do for a woman is understand her. Now here is an example of using this information: By taking an interest in her, you will learn about what entices her and what frustrations she has. Then write a metaphorical story about a princess and a knight in shining armor that run parallel to her reality, but also introduces you into that reality in a way that avoids her frustrations

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and satisfies her hopes. Then, the next time you two are together, get her into a romantic setting and frame of mind, and read the story to her slowly. Even though it is fantasy, it still has a powerful affect. Women just melt over this stuff.

Track 4 Metaphor

Now let's talk about another magical word, and that word is "metaphor." To preface the discussion of the word "metaphor," understand that women do NOT want you to talk explicitly about sex, early on. It is considered crass and vulgar. It removes the mystery from the sexuality between you two. And you always want there to be some mystery. You should avoid direct talk about sex entirely, early on. Now why is the word "metaphor" magical? Because romance is a metaphor for sexuality. Because to speak metaphorically about sex is a turn on for a woman, in the right context. Don Juan DeMarco was a genius at speaking metaphorically. Well, actually, it was the screenwriter, Jeremy Leven. But Don Juan was passionate about women and savored women. Here is an example of how Don Juan spoke: "A woman is a mystery to be solved. But a woman holds nothing from a true lover. Like the blush of a rose, pink and pale, she must be coaxed to open her petals with a warmth like the sun. It calls for the lust of a whale crashing to the shore, so we may steal up what lies beneath, and bring the foamy delight of passion to the surface." Very metaphorical. But Don Juan was too flowery and too over the top. Here is a more practical example of how to speak metaphorically: This is a post I posted to the internet a few years ago. It is called "metaphorical dessert." Quote: Dinner is all romantic and shit. We enjoy nice conversation. We look longingly into each other's eyes. We giggle and speak into each other's ear and steel a whiff of each other's cologne. Bla Bla Bla. You know how it goes. Then the waitress asks if we would like to see the dessert menu. I say "Yes", turn to my date, deliver a devilish grin, and find that even though she is on a strict diet, she happily, agrees. 5 www.Masterfi.il-Lover.com

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When the dessert menu arrives we salivate in awe of the delectable treats available for our hedonistic consumption. I can tell which one she likes. I ask her "Would you like to split the chocolate (whatever the fuck it was called, it was French or something)" "Yes" she says. Splitting the dessert allows and still be ok as she assumes we agree on our selection, are two contriving cats. We conversation.

her to cheat ever so slightly on her diet I will eat most of it. Like a good team, happy with our decision, and smile like slip back into harmless flirtatious

When the dessert arrives, we look at our plate to be shared as if we had just robbed a bank, and then smile at each other. "It looks sinfully delicious." She smirks in agreement. I always let the lady pick up her silverware first, but this time I lift the fork on my side of the plate, take a small corner, which includes a few drops of chocolate syrup, and lift it up. I look into her eyes, then at her lips, and instead of moving the fork towards me, I move the fork towards her. Her gaze moves from my eyes to the delicious morsel and her lips cannot help but open to accept it as she leans forward to partake of the forbidden fruit. I gently place the tip of the fork just inside her mouth and her lips close softly on the catch and I slowly pull the fork back out. Her eyes roll in delight and her tongue finds the chocolate syrup drop on her upper lip. Then she takes her fork, femininely mines a perfect section, and presents it to me. Being a strong, yet cooperative partner, I take the present in the very same fashion, allow the fork to be withdrawn, and then make a point of showing her how delicately I can lick up afterwards. She shivers. I repeat the sharing ceremony. She reciprocates. Each morsel is savored with increasingly theatrical drama. I declare that "dessert should be enjoyed slowly such that it may be totally savored." She blushes. "Oh yes, I do agree" she says. Her diet is long forgotten as we take turns trying to drive the other crazy. I declare that "dessert should be enjoyed over and over and over again." She shivers again. I say "Oh yes, I felt that too!" This really makes her blush as she tries to hide her giggle and affirmation of my knowledge. I shiver just like she did. Then she really shivers. We enjoy it together like two little kids who just got away with something.

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Then I take the fork and coat it with vanilla ice cream. I bring it to my own mouth this time. I lovingly lick the melting ice cream from the underside of the fork as she watches with complete fascination. "I like to lick it from the bottom first" I say. Then I turn the fork over and lick the rest of the vanilla onto my tongue. "And then I turn it over and lick the top." "Oh my God" she exclaims. "I like to lick it slowly." "Oh God." Then she says, "Eating dessert is something that should take all evening to do." I reply "All evening...." Then she leans closer and asks, "Do you like to eat sweet things?" I reply "The sweeter the better." She shivers again. The morning after we enjoyed dessert together I emailed her and wrote: "I like eating your dessert" End Quote. That is just one example of how to speak metaphorically. And talking metaphorically gives her the opportunity to interview you for the position of lover. For example, she may say: "One must never fall asleep right after enjoying dessert." Now most men would respond to that by saying: "No, I never fall asleep after having sex" but that would be lame. Instead, the masterful lover would respond with something that takes it up a notch higher, by saying: "Conversation is the most open and heart felt right after enjoying dessert together." Which goes back to what I have always said: which is: Find the really good ones, let them test you, and your responses as the man that you are, brings her even closer to you. Speaking metaphorically falls into the category of talking suggestively. But it is a socially acceptable way to talk suggestively. It is good to be suggestive, without being forward or presumptuous. Being forward or presumptuous is insulting. But when speaking metaphorically and flirtatiously, women can respond to it. And I hope I don't need to say this, but stay out of your own head. Pay attention to what's going on, think about what she is feeling. Internalize what she is saying. And when dealing with women, you have to be people oriented. Women are social creatures, and you have to play to that.

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And always, know that she is a sexual woman. Know that she is going to experience unbridled passion and pleasure when she surrenders to your touch. Know that it is a given. Well, you never assume anything, but you certainly believe in yourself.

Track 5 "It Just Happened"

Ok, with all that romance, she will eventually end up with you in your living room. Put on some good fuck music. Of course, you don't tell her that, you just tell her that you have a CD that you like, and you would like for her to enjoy it as well. Now, she knows exactly what's going on. She's alone with you in your place, and you put on some sexy music. She knows the deal. But whatever you do, do NOT say it! Do not articulate it. Do not give it words. Women never want to talk about what they are doing, when they are going in a sexual direction. But they want it to happen none the less. You want to just let things happen as if "it just happened." She should always be able to rationalize it later by simply saying "it just happened." And that is only possible if you do NOT talk about it. Even while it's happening! You want it to be like... two people got swept away in passion. But eventually things escalate. Two people are making out passionately on the couch. And at some point, things are going to move into the bedroom. But you don't SAY that. Instead, you simply stand up, take her hand, and lead her into the bedroom. Note: You do not SAY what is going to happen. You do not ASK for permission. You just do it. Now she is free to just pull you back onto the couch, and that is fine. You can later figure out how you misjudged the situation, and you can make the move again another time. I am specifically staying away from the seduction talk, because it is already discussed in exhausting detail elsewhere.

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And I am specifically staying away from seduction talk of dealing with last minute resistance. But frankly, if you do your job properly, everything will happen in it's due time. But eventually she will simply follow you. She is not going to SAY that she is going to follow, she will simply follow your lead. "It just happened!" Ok, so now you two are on the bed making out passionately. By this point, a woman has already decided how far she is going to go. She has already decided in her mind what she will and will not do that night. There is nothing more you can say or do in the bedroom to change her mind, without loosing respect. But she will not SAY what she is willing to do or not, and you certainly can't ask her, because that would violate the "it just happened" rule. And you do not know what decision she had made. So, you have to find out for yourself by doing all that silly clumsy stuff like taking off her clothes one piece at a time while she's lying on her back. It's silly, I know, but that's how it goes when you are doing the incremental "it just happened" stuff. Keep the talk metaphorical. Avoid using the names of body parts. It is all about being swept away by passion for each other. It is all a mind thing. At some point she may stop you. If she does, do NOT push hard past that. If you push too hard, she will loose respect for you. If it doesn't go further that night, let it be. Act like nothing wrong happened. I know this is hard for some of you guys to swallow, but be confident in knowing that she WILL melt in your arms. So let's assume that you don't close the deal, but the date eventually ends, and she goes home.

Track 6 Powerfully Propel It

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when she gets home and gets into bed, she is going to fantasize about you and she is going to masturbate. Absolutely guaranteed. You can use this the next night. The following night, she will be ready to go all the way. You are going to leverage that fantasy that she already has for you. You are going to use that to increase her sexual responsiveness to you. You can bridge that fantasy into the present and into reality. And you are going to do that in a powerful way by sharing a taboo with her, an activity that for most women is VERY taboo. When you get her onto your bed again, get her undressed while you keep your clothes on, and say to her: You: I know you were a bad girl. Her: What? You: The other night, you thought naughty thoughts. Her: What? You: You took this hand (take her hand and guide it down to her clit) and you placed it right here. Her: No I didn't. You: And you thought about what it would be like, (continue guiding her hand up and down.) Her: (kiss her before she fibs again.) You: And you began to become very excited. Her: (silence) You: And you thought about how it feels. And you thought about how good it feels. And you thought about how excited that makes you. And you thought about how excited that makes you feel. Her: (closes her eyes and moans) You: Yes, that's right, even more excited. And you thought about how I feel. And you thought about how good I would feel. And you thought about how good it would feel to be with me. Her: Oh God You: Yes Baby. So excited. And you thought about how fucking good that would feel! And you thought about how fucking excited you are! And you thought about how you want to fuck me so bad that you can't control yourself! Her: Oh God You: And you totally loose control because you want to fuck me so fucking bad! And you want to fuck me so fucking hard! And you want to fuck my hard cock so fucking hard! And you want to cum so fucking hard all over my hard cock! And just before she comes, you say...

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You: Don't cum yet. Not yet. You want me so fucking badly! Don't you! Her: Oh God Yes! You: You want to show me how flicking badly you want me, don't you! Her: Yes, David, oh God. You: You want to show me how fucking hard you can cum for me, don't you! Her: Yes! You: And you want to cum so fucking hard for me don't you! Her: Yes, Oh God! David! You: Show me how fucking hard you can cum for me Baby. Her: OH DAVID! You: Show me how good you can cum for me baby. Cum now. CUM NOW! HARD! Her: (spectacular orgasm) You: CUM NOW baby! CUM for me! HARD! Show me how fucking hard you can CUM for me baby! This is the kind of thing that submissive sexual women respond to VERY powerfully. They are lead through an experience that was once very taboo, but is now extremely exciting with YOU. Leveraging all these things together is what makes her wildly crazy about YOU!

Track 7 The Consumation

After she has had a clitoral orgasm, use your finger to go for the deep spot. By massaging her deep spot, you will find out if she is vaginally orgasmic or not. If she is, move to intercourse, but make damn sure you give her a spectacular vaginal orgasm. If she is not vaginally orgasmic, you need to fix that, and you need to fix that soon. If you have intercourse with her, and she does not have a vaginal orgasm, you will fall into the same category of all the other guys. Getting a woman to be vaginally orgasmic is a subject in itself. Refer to my book for all the things you do to make a woman vaginally orgasmic. But let's continue with the early parts of the relationship.

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Track 8 Critical Next Steps

Early in the relationship, do not be greedy. Do not ask for things, such as a blow job. There will be plenty of opportunities later on to be greedy, or even to be very sexually dominant and demanding. But that is the BDSM DOM/sub subject, which we will cover another time. But for now, let's get back to what happens on the night of the consummation. Right after having intercourse, pillow talk is critically important. Make her feel good about what happened. She will be drawn even closer to you. Good things to say are: "You make me feel so close to you. 1 just cannot hold you close enough." Also is: "The most heart felt and honest conversation happens right after." This demonstrates that you are capable of emotional intimacy. Something every woman looks for in a man. It also verifies that you appreciate her for the person that she is, which is crucial for a woman. Now I have said many times in my talk that you have to demonstrate that you appreciate her for the unique individual that she is. I am assuming here that you actually do appreciate her for the unique individual that she is. This stuff only works if you have the belief systems. The next day after the consummation, chances are, she will not call you, but she will wait for you to call her. It is a test to see what you are made of. Do not shower her with affection and attention or expensive gifts, like some needy lush, but also do not ignore her like some thoughtless jerk. Instead, initiate communication by keeping it simple. There will be something about the previous night that may be amusing when looked back on. For example, she may have had a muscle cramp in her leg during sex. You can use that. Call her up and leave a message for her that says: "Hi. I've been thinking about you. And I hope your leg is better." and then hang up. This shows that you are thinking about her, but you are not fawning all over for her. By making the comment about her leg, you refer back to something that is somewhat amusing, but more importantly, it is also an opportunity for her to call you back. 12

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She will probably call back and start the conversation by saying: "Hi, yes, my leg is much better now." And then it is up to you to pick up the conversation from there.

Track 9 Associate Your Voice To Her Orgasm

So let's assume you see her again. Here is the next example of how to make things powerful: The next time you have her in your bed, have some Astroglide handy, and do the Welcomed method on her. Most likely, no man has ever done that for her before. If you don't know, the Welcomed method is a special way of stimulating the clitoris. You can read about it at masterful-lover.com. Then, with the Welcomed method, you bring her up very slowly. You tell her to relax. This is different than anything else she has ever experienced before. Even when she gets really close and wants to come, tell her not to, Tell her to relax and tell her to continue to enjoy the pleasure that you are giving her body. She will be begging you to let her come. And then, after an appropriate amount of time, tell her to come. When she is coming, further plant the suggestion for her to come. This associates your voice, telling her to come, with her orgasm. For her, it becomes a matter of her pleasure being a response to you. This further increases her sexual responsiveness to you. This makes you an increasingly important part of her sexuality. This is Very powerful stuff.

Track 10 Introducing Dirty Talk

The next time you two go out, you can apply more dirty talk.

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Here is an excellent example of what you can do. This example was sent in by a woman to an author of a book on sexuality. She wrote: "On our third date we went to a museum, and while we were walking around, he started whispering things in my ear about how he'd like to tie me up and how he'd like to spank me right there in the museum and let everybody see me with my skirt pulled up and how much I'd probably enjoy exposing myself because I was a naughty little slut. I almost ran out of the museum. But I wanted to hear more, even though I was horrified. Now that I look back I realize that I was horrified because he was saying exactly what I wanted to hear." End Quote. This is very powerful mental stuff for a sexually submissive woman. A word about dirty talk. In our last teleseminar, we talked about the Art of Sexy Dirty Talk. Dirty talk is very important in an ongoing relationship. But early in the relationship, it must be done sparingly, and done appropriately. The idea is to give a small taste of what is possible down the road. The idea is to perk her interest. The idea is to show that you are comfortable being dominant without being domineering. In control without being controlling. Masculine without being macho. It makes her feel like a woman. But really, the opportunity for a little dirty talk will probably present itself.

Track 11 Be The DOM

For the really good women, what they will do is they will test you. They will bring up a subject or present a hypothetical situation to you, such as, she will challenge you. The way you respond is critically important. Instead of being challenged, you reply to her with a challenge back. For example: if she says "Are you the type of man who can be dominant?" Do NOT reply to her by saying "Yes." That would be the WRONG thing to do! That is NOT what a dominant man would say. 14

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Instead, say to her: "Are you the type of woman who can surrender to her dominant man? Can you become lost in the passion of the moment?" and just leave it at that. Never allow yourself to be challenged. Another thing. Women do not like to admit it, but women like to feel protected by her man. There will be situations that arise in that you can demonstrate that. If someone hurts her feelings, or mistreats her, step in and say something. Don't get in a fight or anything, but stand up for her. That's all she needs to see. She will feel protected. Do not take this over the top or it will backfire.

Track 12 Increase Her Vulnerability To You

It is time for another example. At this point in the relationship, you will further increase her sexual responsiveness, by giving her a taste of how exciting it is for her to surrender herself to you completely. The next time you have her in your bed, take two silk ties, and tie her wrists to the bed posts. Don't ask her for permission to tie her up. Just do it, as you say to her: "I know you trust me completely, and because you trust me completely, it is very exciting for you to be tied up." Once she is tied up, she may try to escape. But if she tries, she will find that she cannot, and then a switch will go off. She must accept. And it is like the woman in the book "9 1/2 Weeks" wrote: "If control was out of my hands, I then, was allowed to be out of control." At this point, she is very vulnerable to you. Tease her by bringing her very close to orgasm, but then denying her. Then do it again. Then again. While she is delirious with desire, say to her: "You do realize that you are completely helpless to me right now. You do realize that I am in complete control of everything you feel." She must affirm. And then, fuck her like she needs to be fucked. This is the kind of stuff that sexually submissive women dream about.

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Track 13 Let Her Do What She Does Best

So, you start seeing each other more, you start talking on the phone more. You give a little more of yourself. But do NOT profess your love or throw yourself at her. Do not go and change your life because of her. That will scare her away. One very important thing to remember about how a relationship begins: A woman wants to earn her man's heart and devotion. Do not rob her of the opportunity to do that by giving of yourself totally to her right away. Think of the romantic novel. In the romance novels, a man is attracted to a woman for her beauty and femininity. He does not need her. But he begins to admire her for her courage. He begins to be swept away with passion for her. Once she gets him to give a little of himself to her, she then starts on the quest of taming him by teaching him how to love. I am going to quote a paragraph from a book called: "Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women." It is a collection of essays by 19 leading romance authors on the appeal of the romance novel. Quote: "It requires that the final union of male and female be a fusing of contrasting elements: heroes who are gentled by love yet who lose none of their warrior qualities in the process and heroines who conquer devils without sacrificing their femininity. It requires a quintessentially female kind of victory, one in which neither side looses, one which produces a whole that is stronger than either of its parts. It requires that the hero acknowledge the heroine's heroic qualities in both masculine and feminine terms. He must recognize and admire her sense of honor, courage, and determination as well as her traditionally female qualities of gentleness and compassion. And it requires a sexual bonding that transcends the physical, a bond that reader and writer know can never be broken. Thus, as the romance novel ends, the contrasting elements in the plot are entirely fused and reconciled. Male and female are integrated. The heroine's quest is won. She has succeeded in shining light into the darkness surrounding the hero. She has taught the devil to love." end quote. That is too flowery and over the top, but it gives you the idea of the direction things should take.

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Track 14 Two Weaknesses To Avoid

Now I want to discuss two weaknesses that a lot of men have: Do not be in love with the idea of being in love. A lot of men have that problem. What they end up doing is choosing a person who is not right for them. And certainly the relationship would be for all the wrong reasons, i.e., out of need. Being in a relationship is a reward, it is not a goal to seek. It is something that two people create together, based on what they develop together, as a result of who they are. To just seek a relationship is to take away from the genuineness of it. Second, do not be afraid to be alone. It is better to be alone than with the wrong person. Believe enough in yourself to know that you will find what it is you require in a person. Have the self respect enough to not stay with a person who is wrong for you, and have the self esteem enough to be attractive to the really worthy women. Of course, you have to define what it is you require in a person, but that's another subject entirely. Craig will now talk about asking questions.

Track 15 Questions And Answers

"If a woman responds to romance, does that mean she wants a long term committed relationship?" No, especially not the good ones. A high self esteem woman is not going to decide if she wants a relationship with a guy until she gets to know him better. But she still wants a sex life. In the context of romance, she can have sex, without being a slut. By responding to romance, a woman does not imply a commitment to a relationship. And she certainly is not going to say that she wants a committed relationship, but she will respond to the romance, because it allows her to have sex without being a slut. "How can you tell if a woman wants a one night stand or a relationship?" If a woman is at a night club by herself, there is a good possibility she is looking for a one night stand, but not always. But other than that, you really can't tell. And women often give the wrong 17 www.Masterfi.il-Lover.com

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information anyway. They may say they want a relationship, but only say that so they don't look like a slut when they fuck you that night. Others may move things along very quickly, and it is going to look like a first night close, but it is only to get into a position to sink their long term relationship teeth into you. Actually, most often, the woman is waiting for you to tell her what you want, so she can decide if she wants to play by those rules. The best thing to do is present your frame and then let her decide. Yeah, you may miss one or two on the way who may happen to be looking for something specifically different, but being indecisive is placating and results in far more lost opportunities. "If she offers last minute resistance to taking off her clothes, can't you just stimulate her through her clothes to turn her on?" Certainly you could stimulate her through her clothes to get her so sexually excited that she will keep going, theoretically, but that would later result in her being mad at herself for allowing her body to take over her mind, and you certainly don't want her to get mad at her own sexuality, if you have long range plans for her. And to leverage her body to change a decision she has made will only make her think that you see her as just an object. Instead, know that she will return and she will want it.

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