Daniel Blake How to Create Sexual Tension eBook

Hit her e, I fy ou’ r er eadi ngt hi sgui de,t heny ou' r et ak i ngy ourf i r s ts t ept o bec omi ngamor eat t r ac t i v eman.I nt hi sbookI ' m gi v i ngoutt i pst hat wi l l hel py ouat t r ac tt hebeaut i f ul womeny oudes i r e.Nomat t erwher e y ouar ei ny ourj our ney ,t hi si nf or mat i onwi l l i mpr ov ey ourdat i ngl i f e. Ther ewi l l beex ampl esi nt hi sbookofex ac t l ywhatt os ayanddo,us e t hi s ,t ak et hes eandadoptt hes easy ourown. Iwanty out ok nowt hatal l oft hes et i pshav ebeent es t edi nf i el d t hr ough1000' sofhour sofappr oac hi ngwomeni nt hes t r eetandt hat ' s whyIk nowf orc er t ai nt hatt hes ewor k .Al s oI ’ v et aughtt os t udent s i nf i el dandt hr oughSk y pewhohav eal s ous edt hes et ogetl ai d.Ihav e f ai l edmanyt i mes ,gi r l sr ef us i ngt ot al kt ome,gi r l snott ex t i ngme bac k ,gi r l ss t andi ngmeupondat es .Butt hr oughal l oft hi s ,Iwas l ear ni ngandal l oft hos er ej ec t i onshav et aughtmewhatIam s har i ng wi t hy oui nt hi sgui de. Not hi ngi smor er ewar di ngt hanhel pi ngmenl i k ey our s el f ,bec ome s uc c es s f ul wi t hwomen.I ' v ebeent her ebef or e,l onel y ,s ex ual l y f r us t r at edandk nowex ac t l yhowi tf eel s .WhatIwant edwass ome s ol i d,eas yt oappl y ,s t epbys t epi nf or mat i ononhowt oi mpr ov ey our gameandt hat ' sex ac t l ywhatI ' ms har i ngi nt hi sgui de.

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WhyI sSexualTensi onI mpor t ant ? Sex ual t ens i oni sef f ec t i v el ywhatget sy oul ai d.I fy ou' r enotget t i ng l ai d,mos tl i k el yy ou' r enotv er ygoodatc r eat i ngs ex ual t ens i on,mos t menar en' t .Ius edt obet hes ame.Iwoul dhav ec onv er s at i onswi t h gi r l sbutt heywoul dn' tgoany wher e.Nowf as tf or war daf ewy ear sand Ic anpul l gi r l sof ft hes t r eeti nac oupl eofhour s ,s omet i mesev enl es s . Ther eas onIam abl et odowhaty ous eei nmyi nf i el dsi sbec aus eof myabi l i t yt oc r eat el otofs ex ual t ens i oni nas hor ts pac eoft i me. Sex ual t ens i oni sef f ec t i v el yt hedi f f er enc ebet weenaf r i endt of r i end c onv er s at i onandani nt er ac t i ont hati smov i ngt owar dss ex . Sex ual t ens i ongi v est hegi r l t hatf eel i ngt hats hewant st of uc ky ou, t hatt al k i ngt oy ouandbei ngs oc i al i snol ongerenough,s hehast o hav ey oui ns i deherr i ghtnow.Notonl yar et het ec hni quesI ' m goi ngt o bes har i ngwi t hy oui nt hi sgui deef f ec t i v e,butt hey ' r ec ons i s t ent ,ex ac t s t epst haty ouc anf ol l owt oc r eat es ex ual t ens i onandampl i f yi t .The bot t om l i nei ss ex ual t ens i oni sk eyt os educ i ngwomenandmos tmen don' thav eanyi deahowt oc r eat ei t .

Whati sSexualTensi on? Sex ual t ens i onwasat er mc oi nedbyps y c hol ogi s t sf orwhent wo par t i esf eel s ex ual des i r ebutt hes exi spos t poned.Whys ex ual t ens i on?Bec aus ei t ' sex ac t l yt hat ,i t ' saf or m oft ens i on.Whati s t ens i on?Tens i oni st hef eel i ngofbei ngpul l edt owar dss omeht hi ngbut s i mul t aneous l ybei ngpul l edaway .Twof or c esac t i ngonanobj ec t s i mul t aneous l y .I nani nt er ac t i onwi t hagi r l ,t hi si sherwant i ngy ou,but s i mul at enous l ybei ngpus hedaway ,hers ex ual des i r ei st hepul l i ng f or c eandy ouhav et opus hherawayatt hes amet i me.Thes ear et he t wof or c esofs ex ual t ens i onandwewi l l c ov ert heex ac tmet hodsof c r eat i ngbot hoft hes ef or c esi nt hi sgui de.

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CONTENTS

Chapt er01-Hav i ngAnI mpac tOnTheWomenYouMeet

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Chapt er02-Teas i ng

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Chapt er03-Pr ox i mi t y

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01HAVI NG ANI MPACTONTHE WOMENYOUMEET

1.Havi ngAnI mpactOnTheWomenYouMeet Thi sf i r s tt r i c ki showy ouc anhav eani mpac tont hewomeny oumeet , t hi si snec es s ar yi fy ouwantt ot r i ggeranyk i ndofemot i on,i nc l udi ng s ex ual des i r e.Thi si showy ouc angof r om hav i ng" ni c e"ands oc i al c onv er s at i onswi t hwoment oac t ual l ymak i ngt hem phy s i c al l y ar r ous edandt hi r s t yf ors ex . Fory ourc ommuni c at i onwi t hwoment obeef f ec t i v ey ouhav et o under s t andBr oc a’ sAr ea.Br oc a’ sAr eai sapar toft hebr ai n r epos ns i bl ef orc ommuni c at i on.Br oc apl answhatwe' r egoi ngt os ay , howwe' r egoi ngt os ayi tandpr oc es s esi nc omi ngl anguageand c ommuni c at i on.Br oc asAr eai sc ont ant l ypr edi c t i ngwhati saboutt o bec ommuni c at edandi fi t ' spr edi c t abl ei t ' sdi s c ount ed,t hi sl as tpar ti s k ey . I fi t ' spr edi c t abl ei t ' sdi s c ount ed.Wheny ou' r ewi t ht hegi r l ,y ouc an’ t hav eani mpac torgeti nt ohermi ndi fy ouar epr edi c t abl e.Andi fy ou ar en' tpr edi c t abl e,y ouwi l l hav eani mpac t ,y ouwi l l t r i ggeremot i ons andf eel i ngs .Thi si sc ompl et ef ac t ual br ai ns c i enc e,we' v eal l gota par tofourmi ndst hatpr edi c t swhati sgoi ngt obes ai dandi fi t ' s pr edi c t abl ei t ' sdi s c ount ed. Sohowdowemak eouri nf or mai t onby pas st heBr oc a’ sAr ea?I ' m goi ngt os har ewi t hy oubel ow2t r i c k sIus et omak emy c ommuni c at i onwi t hgi r l sby pas st heBr oc a’ sAr eaandt r i ggers ex ual des i r e: 1)Sex ual s pi k es 2)Rol ePl ay i ng

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SexualSpi kes Sex ual s pi k esar eac ommonl yus edt r i c kamongmanyt op day gamer s .As ex ual s pi k ei swher ey oubr eakr appor twi t ht hegi r l , wi t has t r ongs t at ementofs ex ual i nt ent .Thi si sunpr edi c t abl eand i ns t ant l ymak est hei nt er ac t i onmor es ex ual .Her ear es omeef f ec t i v e ex ampl es . Look i ngatt hegi r l sl egswhi l es hei st al k i ngandt hens ay i ng, c heek i l y ,“ Sor r yIj us tgotdi s t r ac t edbyy oul egs . ” Look i ngt hegi r l upanddownwi t hel ev at orey esandas k i ng,“ Doy ou wor kout ?Youl ookl i k ey ouwor k out . ” Gent l yhol di ngt hegi r l shandi ng,s l appi ngi tands ay i ng" Naught y " Ther ear eal s omor es ubt l eway st omak et hec onv er s at i ons ex ual by t al k i ngabouts ex ual s ubj ec t ss uc has50ShadesofGr eyandwhi ps . Got hr oughmyi nf i el dsandl ookf oral l t hes ex ual s pi k esy ouc anf i nd, Ius et hem al otbec aus et hey ' r es uperef f ec t i v eats t oppi ngt he c onv er s at i onget t i ngbor i ngandampl i f y i ngt hes ex ual t ens i on.

Rol ePl ayi ng Rol epl ay i ngc apt ur est hegi r l sf ul l at t ent i onandal l owshert oi mmer s e her s el fi naf ant as ywor l d.Wheny ouar er ol epl ay i ngwi t hagi r l ,y ou ar el i t er al l yt ak eheri magi nat i onoutofherbor i ngdayt odayl i f eand t hr owheri nt oawor l dwher eany t hi ngc anhappen.Rol epl ay i ngi s anot hermet hodatby pas s i ngt hegi r l sBr oc a’ sAr eaandbui l di ng c hemi s t r y .Thi nkaboutt het y pi c al bor i ngc onv er s at i ons ,wher ear e y ouf r om,whatdoy oudo,c onv er s at i onst hatanygi r l hashear da t hous andt i mesbef or e. Andnowi magi nehowdi f f er entt hegi r l woul df eel ,i fy out ol dher“ I

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l i k ey ourbi gl eat herboot s ,y oul ookl i k ey ou' v ebeenr i di ngahor s e i nt ot ownt oday . ”Thes ec ondi sgoi ngt ohav eal otmor ei mpac t ,goi ng t ogos t r ai ghtt oherc or eandi sgoi ngt ohookheront hec onv er s at i on. Nowwe' v egotr ol epl ay i ngands ex ual s pi k i ng,y ou' v egot c onv er s at i onal t ool sandf l i r t i ngt ec hni quesaty ourdi s pos al .I t ' s i mpor t antnott oov er us et hem.I fy ougoupt oagi r l andbar r ageher wi t hc ons t ants pi k esandr ol epl ay i ng,i t ' sgoi ngt obet oomuc h,i twi l l c omeac r os st ooov ert het op.Thet r i c ki st obl endt hes ewi t hnor mal c onv er s at i on,t hi ss t opst henor mal c onv er s at i onf r om get t i ngs t al e andt hef l i r t i ngf r om bec omi ngt oomuc handal l ov ert hepl ac e.

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02TEASI NG

2.Teasi ng I nor dert ol eav et hegi r l al way swant i ngmor e,y oual s ohav et ot eas e. Thr oughf l i r t i ngwi t hr ol epl ay i ngands pi k eswear ec r eat i ngt hatpul l f or c e,dr awi ngt hegi r l i n,c r eat i ngt hats ex ual des i r e,butt hr ough t eas i ngwear ec r eat i ngapus hf or c e,bot har enec es s ar yf ors ex ual t ens i on. Teas i ngi sef f ec t i v el yc r eat i ngr eas onswhyy ouc annotbewi t ht hegi r l andt hendi s gui s i ngt hem wi t hpl ay f ul bant ers ot hati tdoes n' tc ome ac r os sasbei ngmeanorbul l y i ng.I fy ouwer et oj us tpoi ntoutr eas ons whyy ouc oul dn' tbewi t ht hegi r l ,y ouwoul dc omeac r os sasadi c k , butbypl ay f ul l yj ok i ngaboutr eas onsy ouc antbewi t ht hegi r l ,y ou' r e br i ngi ngt hef un,y ou' r es el famus i ngandy ouwi l l hav et hegi r l qual i f y i ngher s el ft oy ouaboutwhyy out wos houl dbet oget her . Fur t her mor et eas i ngi sgr eatbec aus ei tdi s pl ay snonneedi nes s ,what doc hodesdowhent heys educ eagi r l ?Theygoupt oherandgi v ea c ons t antnev erendi ngs t r eam ofc ompl i ment s .I magi nehowbor i ng t hi si st oagi r l ,i t ' ss opr edi c t abl es hek nowss hec anhav et hi sc hode atanyt i me.Whati sf armor ei nt er es t i ngt oheri saguy ,s hec ons t ant l y doubt si si nherr eac h,andas k sher s el fdoeshes t i l l l i k eme?I n Rober tCi al di ni s" Per s uas i on"hes t at est hathumansv al ueandwanta l otmor e,whatt heyper c ei v et obei ns c ar c i t y .Andwi t ht eas i ngy ou ar edoi ngex ac t l yt hat ,c r eat i ngas ens eofs c ar c i t y . Nowt her ear et opi c st haty ous houl dav oi dt al k i ngaboutwi t ht eas i ng, t hes et opi c sr ai s et oomuc hnegat i v eemot i ons ,andi fy ou' r es t ar t i ng outy ouwi l l l i k el ybl owy our s el foutofs et .

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I fs hei st oool d Herr el i gi on Pol i t i c sofherc ount r y Herwei ght Nowl et ' sl ookatgoodt opi c sf ort eas i ng: : Thec ol ourofherc l ot hes Herhai rs t y l e Herhei ght Si z eofherhands I fs hei st ooy oung Herbehav i our s Wi t hal l oft hes e,r emembert omak et hem aspl ay f ul andl i ght hear t ed aspos s i bl e. I ft hegi r l i ss hor tt el l her" You' r es os hor t ,y our emi ndmeofas qui r r el , Ic ani magi ney our i ghtnowr unni ngar oundandc ol l ec t i ngnut st o br i ngt oy ournes t " I ft hegi r l i swear i ngal l bl ac kt el l her" You' r ewear i ngal l bl ac k ,y ou' r e pr obabl ys omek i ndofemowhos pendsy ourday swr i t i ngpoet r y abouthowev i l t hewor l di s . " Not i c et hepat t er nIus eher e,aneas yf or mul af ort eas i ng St at ementabouther-Compar ehert os omet hi ng-Al i t t l emy t hol ogy aboutherc ompar i s on Thi si saneas yt of ol l owf or mul af ort eas i ng,t hemor ey oudoi t ,t he bet t ery ouwi l l getatc r eat i ngt eas esont hef l y .

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03PROXI MI TY

3.Pr oxi mi t y Sc i ent i s t shav ef oundi nex per i ment swi t hmenandwomen,whi c h c onf i r medt hatpr ox i mi t yal onei senought ot r i ggerat t r ac t i on.Hav i nga manandawomans atc l os et oeac hot herwi l l t r i ggeral l t hephy s i c al s i gnsofar ous al .Sowhyi spr ox i mi t ys uc hapower f ul t ool i ny our day gamet ool k i t ?I t ' sbec aus ei tr equi r esnowor ds ,bys i mpl ymov i ng c l os ert ot hegi r l ,y ouc ant r i ggerat t r ac t i on.I t ' sat ool t hatc anbeus ed ony ouri ni t i al appr oac h,ondat esandev eni nt hebedr oom t o ov er c omel as tmi nut er es i s t anc e.

Ont hei ni t i alappr oach Remembery ouwantt omak ei tunpr edi c t abl e,asdi s c us s edbef or e unpr edi c t abl ec ommuni c at i oni sbyf art hemos tpower f ul .Ont hei ni t i al appr oac h,af t ery ouhav es t oppedt hegi r l ands hei sengagi ngy ou, y ouc ani nt r oduc ey our s el f .Tak eahal fs t ept owar dsher ,ex t endy our handandi nt r oduc ey our s el f .Butt hent ak eas t epbac k ,t hes t epbac k i st hec ount erf or c eoft hes ex ual t ens i on. Thr ought hei nt er ac t i onwheny oumeett hegi r l ,y oudon' twantt obe s t andi ngt hes amedi s t anc ef r om t hegi r l t hewhol et i me,notonl ydoes t hi sl ookl i k ey ouhav ey ourf eets uper gl uedt ot hef l oorbuti t ' sal s o pr edi c t abl e. I ns t eadmov ebac kandf or t hc as ual l y ,r oc kbac k war dsandf or war ds ony ourheel s oy ouar eal t er nat i ngbet weenc l os i ngt hedi s t anc eand c r eat i ngmor edi s t anc e.

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di f f er enc ebet weeni tf eel i ngl i k eaf r i endl yc hatort wopeopl ei nt hei r owns ex ual bubbl e.Somanyguy smak eav i t al mi s t ak eondat est hat k i l l sal l s ex ual t ens i onandc hemi s t r y .Themi s t ak e?Si t t i ngoppos i t e t hegi r l f ort heent i r edat e.Thi nkaboutev er ys i t uat i onwher ey ouar e s atoppos i t et os omeonei tei t herf eel spl at oni corf or mal ,i t ' sei t hery ou t al k i ngwi t haf r i endory ouataj obi nt er v i ew. Sowewantt obr eakt hi s .WhatI ' v ef oundef f ec t i v e,andi fy ou' v es een anyofmyi nf i el dsI ' ms ur ey ou' v es eenmedot hi sc ount l es st i mes .I s i toppos i t ef r om t hegi r l whenwef i r s tar r i v eatt hev enue,t hi sl et sher t or el axandgetc omf or t abl ei nt hev enuewi t hme.Thenaf t er1015 mi nut esIbr i ngt hegi r l t owar dsmys i de,byt el l i ngher" Heyt hi sf eel s l i k eani nt er v i ewIwanty out oc omeands i ther e. ”AndIl eadt hegi r l s os hei ss atnex tt ome,f r om her eIc anr ampupt hes ex ual t ens i on andgetherr eadyt oc omehomewi t hme. Yours eat i ngpos i t i oni s n' tt heonl ywayy ouc anus epr ox i mi t yt o c r eat ec hemi s t r yondat es .Nowi magi net hes et wos i t uat i ons : I nt hef i r s ty ouar es atnex tt oagi r l ,af t erabout30mi nut es ,y ouput y ourar m ar oundher ,t heny ouar ebot hmak i ngoutf r equent l yf ort he nex t20mi nut es . Nowi magi net hi ss ec onds i t uat i ony ouar es atnex tt oherandaf t er20 mi nut esy ouputy ourar m ar oundher ,af t er10mi nut esy out ak ey our ar m bac k ,t hen10mi nut esl at ery ouputherar oundheragai n.Then y oumak eout .Theny out ak ey ourar m of fheragai n.Thi ss ec ond s i t uat i oni sSO muc hmor eex c i t i ngt ot hegi r l ,bec aus ei t ' s unpr edi c t abl e,andy ou' r ec r eat i ngas ens eofs c ar c i t ybyhernotk now i fs hehasy ouornot .Andf ur t hermor ey ou' r ewi t hdr awal sar ec r eat i ng s ex ual t ens i onbypr ov i di ngt hef or c ei nt heoppos i t edi r ec t i onofher s ex ual des i r e.

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I nTheBedr oom Ihads eenpl ent yoff i l mswher et woc har ac t er sar r i v eatoneoft hei r apar t ment s ,t heys t ar tmak i ngoutpas s i onat el yt hendon' ts t opwhi l e t heyc ompl et el yundr es seac hot her .Thi si sj us toneoft hemanyway s wher eHol l y woodi swr ongwheni tc omest opi c k i ngupwomen.I woul df r equent l yat t emptt hi sandex per i enc el as tmi nut er es i s t anc e t henwonderwher ei thadal l gonewr ong.I twas n' tunt i l Idi s c ov er ed t wos t epsf or war dandones t epbac kt hatIbec amemuc hmor e ef f i c i entatov er c omi ngl as tmi nut er es i s t anc e. Twos t epsf or war dr ef er st opus hi ngt hei nt er ac t i onc l os ert os ex , t ak i ngof ft hegi r l sc l ot hes ,hol di ngy ourbodyagai ns ther s .And1s t ep bac kr ef er st oany t hi ngi nt heoppos i t edi r ec t i on,s uc hass t oppi ng k i s s i ngher ,s i t t i ngbac kupwhi l ey ouc hanget hemus i c .I nt he bedr oom i sex ac t l yt hes amepr i nc i pl easondat es ,y ouwantt obe pus hi ngt hi ngsf or war dandt ak i ngas t epbac k .Thes es t epbac k s mai nt ai ns ex ual t ens i onr i ghtt ot hec l i maxwi t ht heoppos i ngf or c e, c r eat i ngs c ar c i t yands howi ngy ou' r eac hi l l nonneedyguy .

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OneFi nalNot e. . . Toendt hi sandens ur et haty ougooutandt ak eac t i onont he i nf or mat i onI ' v es har edwi t hy ou,Iwantt or emi ndy ouwhyget t i ngt hi s whol ear eaofy ourl i f es or t edi si mpor t ant . YOUc anc hos ewhatwomeny ouwanti ny ourl i f e YOUhav et heabi l i t yt obui l dahappi erdat i ngl i f ewhi c hwi l l c aus e y out obehappi er YOUwi l l hav ehi ghs el fes t eem andf eel goodabouty our s el f YOUwi l l l i v el i f et ot hef ul l YOUwi l l c r eat egr eatmemor i esandadv ent ur est hatwi l l l as twi t hy ou f or ev er . Your s , Dani el

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