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Forward Congratulations! By purchasing this book you have made a decision to transmute your fantasy of a cuckold lifestyle into an actual reality. You now have access to techniques that will get your woman to willingly want to cuckold you. Many men have successfully used these techniques to realize their desire to live a cuckold lifestyle and I am positive that after reading this book you too can achieve the same results. You may notice that the size of this book is relatively short. That is because I deliberately decided to keep the pages to a minimum and not fill up the book with information that has little relevance in helping you to fulfill your desire to live a cuckold lifestyle. I prefer to give you 70 odd pages of valuable information rather than 250 pages of fluff. Another thing you will notice is that a lot of information in this book is presented in point forms. This way of presenting information has two advantages. First it is easier to retain information when it is presented in this manner. The second advantage is that it then becomes easier to explain to your woman about the cuckold lifestyle. This book contains two parts. Part one teaches you the core information you need to know about cuckoldry and the cuckold lifestyle. Part two teaches you the techniques that will get your woman to willingly want to cuckold you. For best results you should read this book from start to finish. Then read part two again. It is very important that you get a firm understanding of the techniques before you put them into practice. Even when you are putting the techniques to practical use, make sure that you constantly refer to this book to make sure that you are implementing the techniques correctly. This book is constantly updated and you will get updated copies sent to you free for life. Now let us not waste any more time. It is time you learned how to get your woman to willingly cuckold you. Yours,

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Disclaimer The author of this book takes no responsibility for the use or misuse of the information it presents. The reader is warned that this material presents extremely powerful techniques to be used at the readers own peril. The methods and concepts taught in this book are to be used for classroom study and discussion. Although the techniques work in the real world there is no guarantee that they will work in each and every situation. The author unequivocally disclaims any risk or responsibility when the contents or techniques in this book are used in a manner resulting in loss, divorce or lawsuit or any other damages arising from the use of the contents contained herein.

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Table Of Contents My Story................................................................................................... 5 Chapter 1 - Introduction To The Cuckold Lifestyle ......................................... 9 Chapter 2 – Why Women Cuckold Their Men................................................. 13 Chapter 3 – Why So Many Men Desire The Cuckold Lifestyle .......................... 17 Chapter 4 – Why Bulls Love To Sleep With Other Men’s Wives ........................ 21 Frequently Asked Questions........................................................................ 23 Chapter 5 – Types of Cuckolds .................................................................... 24 Chapter 6 – Misconceptions of the Cuckold Lifestyle ...................................... 29 Chapter 7 – Introduction To The Techniques................................................. 34 Meet Jack and Jane.................................................................................... 37 Chapter 8 – Personality Types..................................................................... 38 Jack Picks A Fight With Jane ....................................................................... 46 Chapter 9 – The Challenge Technique .......................................................... 49 Jack Uses The Challenge Technique on Jane ................................................. 54 Chapter 10 – Submissive Body Language ..................................................... 59 Chapter 11 – How To Confess Your Cuckold Desires To Your Woman............... 68 Chapter 12 – Guidelines For A Healthy Cuckold Relationship........................... 71

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My Story I first want to tell you a little about my background, and where I am coming from, as it relates to experiencing the cuckold lifestyle. Knowing that I too was once in a similar position as you are today, will help you to better relate to the techniques that I am going to teach you in this manual. For years I kept my desire to be a cuckold a closely guarded secret. I would enter into relationships and have secret fantasies of the women cuckolding me. I never had the courage to bring up the topic of a cuckold lifestyle to these women. I was too scared of what they would think or say about my desires. On the outside, I used to pretend that I was this macho type of guy. Yet on the inside, I would fantasize about the women in my life cuckolding me. At that time, I honestly did not know where these desires were coming from. One thing I did know was that the idea of being cuckolded was a huge turn on for me and one that I fantasized about very often. As my cuckold desires grew stronger with each passing relationship I decided it was time to do something about it. I reached a definite decision in my mind that I would do whatever it took to turn my cuckold fantasy into an actual reality. I began researching the topic on the net as well as visiting both public and private libraries. I spent hours going through material. Most of the stuff available on the net was mostly smut. The material only served to fuel suppressed fantasies. However, I did find a couple of good books. One that I suggest you read is by David C. Geary. He has researched cuckoldry extensively in both animals and humans and has a lot of insights to offer. While researching the topic, I came across two interesting facts. One, I found out that majority of the male population actually fantasizes about the women in their life cuckolding them. The second fact I found out was that women were actually biologically programmed to cheat and have multiple sex partners. Research at the top institutes has now proven this fact. You can check out the research conducted by doing a quick search on the net to learn more about this. Finding out these facts really helped me a lot and this served as added motivation to realize my cuckold desires.

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The main problem I faced at that time was that I really cared about my girlfriend. We had been together for a number of years and I did not want to risk losing her. I wanted her to cuckold me but I wanted her to still be emotionally faithful to me. I wanted the best of both worlds. I started working on ways to achieve this. In my younger days I was very fond of psychology. Over they years I have read dozens of books, and today, I have a huge library of psychology and human behavior books. Added to this I was fond of seduction techniques and had made use of such techniques in the past to attract some really beautiful women. It suddenly hit me one day that if it were possible to get women to willingly sleep with you then it should be possible to get these same women to willingly agree to sleep with some one else. I began researching and formulating techniques to achieve this. My goal was not only to get my girlfriend to willingly cuckold me, but also to get her to remain emotionally faithful to me and still have her love me like crazy. I spent a lot of time formulating these techniques. It involved a lot of research, a firm understanding of sound psychological principles and a lot of consultation from men who were already living this lifestyle. I came up with a number of techniques. Some worked great, others not so well. In this manual I have included only the ones that work really well. There are a couple of techniques that work, but I have not included them as it is difficult to fully explain them and comprehend them when presented in a book. I do teach these to men who sign up for my coaching program but I want you to know that whatever is taught in this book is more than sufficient to get your woman to willingly agree to cuckold you. The coaching program is designed only for men who are in a super hurry to achieve their cuckold desires. If you follow this manual to a “T” then you can get your woman to agree to cuckold you in a little over a month. However many men write back saying they have achieved this in a much shorter period with many men achieving the same in about 15-18 days. I however recommend that you do not rush things and try to realize your cuckold desires in about 8 to 12 weeks after purchasing this manual. This is the ideal time frame you should be looking at.

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Anyways, back to my story…. I started applying the techniques I formulated during my daily interactions with my girlfriend. I was taking a huge risk at that time because if I failed I probably risked loosing someone l really loved and cared for a lot. I took things slowly and applied one technique at a time. I was careful not to rush things. Gradually I noticed subtle changes. While my girlfriend was becoming closer to me emotionally I could see that she was becoming a bit edgy when it came to the physical side of things. This was what I had intended to happen by using the techniques I had formulated. I knew I had to get her to lose most of her physical attraction to me before I could approach her with the idea of a cuckold relationship. I kept applying my techniques until I was certain that she would agree to a cuckold relationship. I sat her down one day and finally confessed to her my desires. I was nervous as hell but I went ahead as confidently as I could. Her reaction really surprised me. She did not seem shocked or angry at all. She listened intently and I could tell my techniques had done the trick. One thing that cropped up that I had not anticipated was the questions that she kept asking about the lifestyle. She had a lot of misconceptions on cuckoldry and she kept on asking questions. Luckily, I had researched the topic so I was confident when answering her. She later told me that it was this confidence that convinced her that day to go ahead with this lifestyle. This is the reason I always tell people not to skip the initial chapters of the book. You may think you know the basics but trust me, on the day you confess your cuckold desires to your woman, nerves take over and you realize you don’t know as much as you thought you did. Some men apply the techniques and get their women to be mentally conducive to the idea of a cuckold relationship but only because they did not read the initial chapters well enough they stumble at the last hurdle. Believe me the last hurdle is a very small one. You do not want to stumble on it just because you skipped the first parts of this book. After my girlfriend agreed to a cuckold relationship, our relationship

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scaled new heights. I was so relieved to get the whole thing off my chest and actually experience my fantasies of a cuckold relationship. Let me tell you the real thing is a hundred times better than any cuckold fantasy that you may have had. I am still with the same girl today and let me tell you that this relationship has been one hell of an awesome ride, both emotionally as well as physically. My girl has been with over ten men since we started our cuckold lifestyle and she regularly sees some of them. Over the years I started sharing these techniques with other men. I have personally coached people to achieve cuckold relationships. Every one of them realized their cuckold desires and turned their fantasy into reality. Every one of them agreed that the real thing was so much better than any of their fantasies. Not too long ago I decided to share these techniques with a wide variety of men. I knew that this was information that could help thousands and thousands of men. I contacted a number of publishers and nearly all the publishers I found were very interested in the idea, they however wanted me to fill the book up with fillers. My aim was to provide a manual that contained exactly what was needed and nothing else. Since none of them were game for a short manual, I decided to sell the book digitally, and here I am today. My short term goal is to get this information to as many wannabe cuckolds as I can. My long term goal is to invest a part of the proceeds from this book into more research on the cuckold lifestyle. I am constantly researching the topic and any new findings that I find will be mailed across to you. Here is to the beginning of a journey that will get you to transmute your cuckold fantasies and desires into actual realities.

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Chapter 1 Introduction To The Cuckold Lifestyle A good starting point for understanding the cuckold lifestyle is to go through a number of frequently asked questions that most people who are interested in this lifestyle normally have. Who is a cuckold? Historically a cuckold was a man who was married to an adulteress wife. The dictionary defines a cuckold as “a man with an unfaithful wife.” Cuckolding in this form is as old as the institution of marriage itself. Traditionally a cuckold was an object of scorn among the community and was looked upon as someone who could not satisfy his wife’s sexual appetite. It is only in the last century that the term cuckold has come to take a different meaning. Today a cuckold can also be defined as “a man who initiates his wife’s infidelity and gains pleasure from it.” Cuckolds are categorized under two categories based on whether they initiate their woman’s infidelity or not. Cuckolds are today classified as being either “original cuckolds” or “modern cuckolds.” It is not necessary to be married to be a cuckold. If a man is in a relationship and has an unfaithful girlfriend or would like his girlfriend to be unfaithful then he too can be termed as a cuckold Origin of the term cuckold No one is really sure about the exact origin of the term cuckold. However there is a general consensus that the term probably originates from the cuckoo bird. It has been confirmed that the female species of the African Black Coucal which is a type of cuckoo bird indulges in polyandry for breeding and then raises her subsequent offspring with the help of just one particular male. Traditionally due to lack of knowledge about and availability of contraceptives most of the adulteress wives ended up conceiving children who they then raised with the help of their husbands. Because of the close similarity between the behavior of the early adulteress wives and the female cuckoo birds it is probably correct that the term cuckold has originated from the cuckoo bird.

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History of cuckolding Cuckolding has been present ever since the institution of marriage was formed. However the earliest written trace of the word cuckold so far only appears around 1250 under the Middle English derivation, cokewold. Cuckolds were historically referred to as wearing horns because of the fact that the men that were being cuckolded were normally the last to know of their wives infidelities or in most cases never realizing that they were cuckolds. The first recorded instant of a man wanting his wife to cuckold him is traced to the Austrian writer Leopold von Sacher-Masoch whose wife wrote that he would often ask, beg or even threaten her to cuckold him so that he could experience the pain and humiliation of the act. Who is a wittol? A wittol is a man who knows of and tolerates his wife’s infidelity. However the word wittol is rarely used anymore and such a man is now more commonly referred to as a cuckold. Nowadays a wittol is more commonly used to refer to a foolish person without wits rather than a man who knows of his wife’s infidelity. Why does cuckolding develop as a fetish? No one knows for sure why some men seek to be cuckolded. But because of the early scorn, taboo and misconceptions on cuckolding not enough research has been done to conclusively figure this desire out. My take on it is that there may be a particular gene that is responsible in part for men wanting to be cuckolded. I say this because most of the cuckolds that I have interacted and coached have admitted to having no clue as to why they want to be cuckolded other than the fact that the idea of them being cuckolded is a strong sexual fantasy with an uncontrollable desire to be realized. Some of the men who have this fetish will also fantasize and get turned on by the idea of female dominance, erotic humiliation, verbal humiliation and voyeurism. The desire for a cuckold relationship may actually have an evolutionary theory as well. In the upcoming chapters, I will show you the reasons behind the desires of cuckolds, cuckqueens and bulls.

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What are the differences between an original and a modern cuckold? This has been answered in detail in the chapter “Types of Cuckolds”. However the main difference is unlike an original cuckold, the modern cuckold is one who initiates his woman’s infidelity while remaining faithful to her. The modern cuckold is one who unexplainably has a strong desire to realize his fantasy of his woman cuckolding him. If you are reading this book to learn how to get your woman to willingly want to cuckold you then you fall under the category of a modern cuckold. What is a woman who cuckolds her man known as? Technically a woman who cuckolds her man should be termed as a cuckoldress. But because cuckolding as a lifestyle has been around for a long time many names have sprung up to describe such a woman. It is widely accepted to term an unfaithful wife as a: Hot wife, Slut wife, MILF, Cuckquean and the Queen of Spades. However in my experience most women who enter the cuckold lifestyle don’t like to be termed as slut wives or cuckqueans. What is the general attitude today about cuckolding? Unlike the middle ages, men with unfaithful wives are no longer scorned at. This is because of the ever growing number of men and women who now commit adultery. However due to ignorance of the cuckold lifestyle and a lot of misconceptions on the topic a number of people still consider this lifestyle as taboo. Due to this most couples who indulge in the cuckold lifestyle prefer to do so in a discreet manner. Most couples prefer to indulge in this lifestyle only with people they fully trust. Will my woman leave me if I get her to indulge in a cuckold relationship? This is one of the biggest doubts that men have when it comes to the cuckold lifestyle. If you follow the techniques taught in this book and you incorporate the traits of a “modern cuckold type” which I will teach you later on, then there are absolutely no risks of your woman leaving you. In fact your woman will only become more faithful and committed to you. She will love you even more for understanding and letting her fulfill her physical and psychological needs.

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Hi Kole, Thanks so much. About a week back I sat my wife down and I confessed my desire of a cuckold lifestyle to her. She wasn’t angry at all. We spoke about it and she readily agreed to give it a try. She had a few questions on the lifestyle but the stuff you taught in the earlier chapters really helped me to clear her doubts. Thanks once again. Philip Jones

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Chapter Two Why Women Cuckold Their Men Women have been cuckolding their partners even before the institution of marriage was formed. Right through the ages and right across civilizations and different cultures have women cuckolded their men. Cuckoldry isn’t limited to human beings only but it is also seen in the animal world. In fact the very term cuckold is thought to have originated from the African Black Coucal which is a type of cuckoo bird that indulges in polyandry for breeding and then raises her subsequent offspring with the help of just one particular male. What I have said in the above two paragraphs suggests that women are not only hardwired to cheat on their male partners since it has continually happened over time and across civilizations and cultures but also that the very act of cuckolding may have an evolutionary purpose as it is also common in the animal world. I will explain both these suggestions in detail in this chapter. The first step to understanding the cuckold desires in women is to first understand how women are hard wired. Women are instinctively hard wired to first find a partner who they can depend on to take care of them and their offspring. Back in the prehistoric world finding a reliable partner was of utmost importance to a woman. Back then a woman needed a man to look after her and to make sure that her offspring survived. Back then they were a lot of dangers that made it impossible for a woman to bring up her children on her own. So nature hardwired into her to find a partner that would be reliable and would be best able to provide for her and her children. The very feeling of love can be thought to have evolved due to this hardwiring. Whenever a woman subconsciously finds a reliable partner she falls in love and that is nature’s way of telling her that he may be dependable. In order to be completely sure about the dependability of her man, she will subconsciously run him through a series of tests and challenges. Wannabe cuckolds can actually use these challenges to get their women to willingly agree to the cuckold lifestyle. It’s important to distinguish the feeling of love in a woman from a feeling of attraction. When a woman feels love for a man she thinks about settling down with him and what it would be like after marriage. ©2010 Cuckold Coach

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When a woman feels attraction for a man she feels intrigued by him and in many cases would think of him from a sexual angle but not necessarily think about marriage. Fast forward to today’s world and it is now entirely possible for a woman to have and raise her children on her own without the help of a male partner. However since it is so hardwired in women to find a reliable partner, women still instinctively look for reliable men as their partners. This explains why women will love to date bad boys or jerks but will always prefer to settle down with good guys. It’s because good guys are reliable and won’t leave them later on. It also explains why women instinctively fall in love with very rich men if given a chance. It’s because rich men can provide well for their offspring. All this happens at a subconscious level and is the result of the way women are hardwired. Now comes the interesting part. While women are hardwired to fall in love with reliable men who will be there to support them and their children, women are biologically programmed to mate with a variety of men. This seems odd but that is just the way nature intended it to be. You see from nature’s point of view, a woman mating with a variety of men makes sense as each subsequent child will have a different genetic makeup. Also in prehistoric time with a lot of diseases going around, having children of different genetic make up made sense for a woman as that gave her the best chance of her genes surviving. This hardwiring continues even till today.

“Women are biologically programmed to mate with a variety of men. This seems odd but it’s just the way nature intended it to be” So how does all this play out in a typical relationship in today’s world. Take any relationship scenario. When a man and woman first start seeing each other, it is almost certain that the woman never feels the feelings of love towards the man. What she feels is a level of attraction and is perhaps intrigued to find out more about the man. As time goes by she subconsciously puts the man through a series of tests to see how reliable this man will be. Why does she do this? Remember it’s because she wants to make sure that the man is reliable and won’t ditch her later on. Like I said earlier, it is part of her

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hardwiring. Now if the man proves to be reliable, she starts feeling the feelings of love towards this man and they settle down into a relationship. As the relationship progresses with time and the woman feels more secure, her instincts of seeking out men with good genes will kick in. Now thanks to our social fabric and the institution of marriage it is not acceptable for a woman to seek out the best genes and mate with other men other than her partner. However her drive to seek out the best genes is so strong that a woman may even go against social fabric and even risk her marriage in order to mate with a man who she perceives to have a good set of genes. This is why many men whose wives’ cuckolded them will tell you that it happened at a time when they felt the relationship was strong and secure. This is because when the relationship is at its strongest that the drive to cheat with other men kicks in for a woman. Going by what you read earlier this makes perfect sense as when the relationship is at its strongest the woman feels secure that her partner loves her and is really reliable and wont leave her. This is when her instincts to cheat crop up. So contrary to popular belief, when a woman cheats on her partner it is not because she is immoral of that she doesn’t lover her husband anymore. It is just the way women are hardwired that causes this behavior. There is a lot of smut that goes around that fuels the belief that woman cuckold their partners because they are not satisfied in bed or that they don’t love their partners anymore. While in some cases this may be true in majority of cases it is because of what you just learnt with regards to the way women are hardwired. Most women who cuckold their partners will choose to cheat with men who they perceive to have good genes. That is why these men are often tall and strong as women perceive these traits to be signs of good genes. Women will also cheat with men who aren’t tall or strong but whose personality shows signs of high emotional quotients. High E.Q is perceived by women as a sign of good genes. Many men who women will cheat with are jerks and bad boys as such men come across as having good genes.

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One important point to know is that many cuckolds have good genes and high emotional quotients themselves but because women’s drive for variety is so strong it causes them to cheat on their partners. Chapter Review ♠ Women have been cuckolding men right through civilizations and generations. ♠ Cuckoldry isn’t limited to humans only and can also be seen in the animal world as well. ♠ The above point suggests that a woman cuckolding her man is natural and may have an evolutionary purpose. ♠ Women are instinctively hardwired to find a partner who is reliable and who will be able to provide for herself and her offspring. ♠ Women are also biologically programmed to mate with a variety of men as this gives their offspring different genetic makeup. ♠ Women will cuckold their men with other men who they perceive to have good genes. These men can be either physically strong or perceived to have high emotional quotients. Now that you know why women cuckold their men it is time to move on to the next chapter and learn why men desire that their women cuckold them with other men.

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Chapter Three Why so many men desire the cuckold lifestyle In the previous pages you learnt why women cuckolded their men. You learnt that women are hardwired to find reliable men as their partners and also that women are also biologically programmed to mate with a variety of men and seek out men who they perceive to have good DNA. Now that you know why women cuckold their partners, you must be wondering why a man would want his woman to cuckold him. Why would a man want another man to sexually pleasure his wife? Why would a man want to bring up and look after another man’s child? These are common questions that crop up when people think of the cuckold lifestyle. Let me assure straight away that these feelings are completely natural and are not perverted in any manner. Also like women, these desires are based on the way men are designed. In order to understand where the desire for a man to have his partner cuckold him comes from, you first need to know a little of what types of sperm a man has. Contrary to popular belief only about 1% of a man’s sperm is fertilizer sperm. That is only 1% of a man’s sperm is capable of fertilizing a woman’s egg if it ever reaches it. 83% of a man’s sperm is made up of killer sperm that are designed to attack sperm from another man or that which may already be in a woman. The remaining 16% of the sperm is designed to block out or act as hurdles to sperm from other men. This means that 99% of a man’s sperm is not designed to fertilize a woman’s egg but to compete with sperm from other males. You can read more about sperm competition by searching online. It is an interesting theory first proposed by British biologist Geoffrey Parker in a 1970 paper. There are tons of resources on this subject online. To better understand the role of competing sperm lets take a look at some of our closest relatives the great apes.

“99% of a man’s sperm is not designed to fertilize a woman’s egg but to compete with sperm form other males”

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When an alpha silverback male discovers some other male mating with one of his females he normally has two immediate reactions. 1) He chases the competing male away and 2) He mates furiously with the female concerned. The reason for the first reaction is easily understood but what is going on in the second reaction? Well it seems clear that the male is trying to maximize the chances that any offspring from that particular female will be carrying his own DNA. By vigorously mating with the female he is able to shoot his sperm much further into the female’s belly where he gives his warrior or killer sperm the best possible chance of neutralizing the sperm of the other male before the other sperm can fertilize the female’s egg. It seems to me that this behavior should also be present in humans, and, if it is, it should be perfectly healthy and normal and it should be common because it provides a selective advantage to the survival of the DNA that generates that behavior. So the natural reaction of a man seeing his wife/partner having sex with another man should be to chase the man away then immediately have furious sex with his wife. How would this behavior be created in the man, for he is not going to reason with himself that he needs to supplant the other man’s semen and give his hunter killer sperm a good chance of neutralizing his opponent’s. For the behavior to be successful it is going to have to be totally instinctive. It seems clear to me that this behavior is generated by a feeling of overwhelming sexual arousal – a desire to “fuck her brains out” – exactly what those who seek this lifestyle report. So now you know that men have sperm designed to compete with other sperm. Like the hardwiring of women, killer sperm made sense back in the day. So even though it doesn’t make much sense today due to social fabrics and the institution of marriage, men still have killer sperm. Before I explain to you what role killer sperm plays in a man wanting to be cuckolded I want to discuss with you the instinct of competition present in every man. Man by nature is hardwired to compete. This is a proven fact. Men will compete whenever they get a chance to. At a work place, while playing and even while having a conversation. This perhaps explains why men prefer sports events so much. It stems from their desire to

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compete. The desire to compete serves two purposes. One is as a survival instinct and the second is to attract a female for mating purposes. The best way to illustrate this is to think of a group of male teenagers playing a game of basketball in the evening. If an attractive girl shows up courtside the teenagers are driven to compete harder to attract the attention of the girl. Can you identify with a similar scenario? The point that I am trying to drive home is that men instinctively compete and more so when it comes to a woman. It is a known fact that if a man’s interest in his partner decreases, the mere thought that another man is interested in his partner rekindles the interest of the man and his sexual desire for his partner. Some women instinctively know men are hardwired this way and are thus successful in manipulating men and keeping their men on their toes. Whenever they feel that their partner’s interest in them is dipping they flirt with other men or make suggestions that other men may be interested in them. This is normally enough for her partner to take notice, feel a pang of jealousy and be sexually attracted to the woman once again. The threat of another man can be real or it can be perceived but it will still produce the same reaction in a man. He will feel a strong desire to please his woman, keep her attracted to him and he will feel a strong sexual arousal towards this woman. Now that we know about killer sperm and the desire of men to compete it is time to put these two together to figure out what causes men to want their partners to cuckold them. Society is so designed that once a man is married to a woman, the man and woman are supposed to stay faithful to each other. When a man begins to feel that his woman is faithful and only attracted to him he begins to loose interest in her. It doesn’t matter what the reality of the situation is, if he believes his woman is fully faithful to him he begins to loose interest. He looses interest because he now no longer has to compete to attract the female. He now has one of two options. He can seek an extra marital affair or he can create competition for him self through fantasy.

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This is the very point where cuckold desires crop up. The mere thought or fantasy of another man sleeping with his wife causes his competition instinct to kick in. This thought or fantasy is enough to cause his woman to seem sexier than ever in his eyes and enough to keep him faithful only to this woman. Many men who are cuckolds say they are extremely turned on by the idea of their women sleeping with another man. This arousal is the result of natural instinct that causes the man to want to mate with the woman so his killer sperm has a chance to neutralize the effect of sperm from other men. You will notice that highly successful men and men with great emotional quotients often have a cuckold fantasy as they have great competitive desires. These men subconsciously for whatever reason do not want to cheat on their partner and as a result they subconsciously create competition mentally with cuckold fantasies. You now see that the desire of a man to have his woman cuckold him stems from his natural desire to compete with other men. So now you know what causes cuckold desires in men. You also now realize that this desire is natural and will hopefully help enhance your cuckold relationship. Chapter Review ♠ The desire to be a cuckold stems from the way men are designed. ♠ The desire to be a cuckold and other related fantasies are completely natural. ♠ 99% of a man’s sperm is not designed to fertilize a woman’s egg but is designed to compete against other men’s sperm ♠ Man by nature is hardwired to compete and more so for his woman ♠ The combination of a man’s desire to compete and the presence of killer sperm results in cuckold desires cropping up.

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Chapter Four Why bulls love to sleep with other men’s wives There are a variety of reasons why bulls love to sleep with other men’s wives. First up I want you to know that the same competitive desire and killer sperm that causes some men to seek the cuckold lifestyle is what causes some men to be bulls. It is just expressed differently. Back in the day before the use of contraceptives it made great sense being a bull. You could pass on your genes and not have to worry about looking after your children because the cuckold would unsuspectingly do it for you. Even today with the use of contraceptives, a lot of bulls father children thanks to the drive of women being so strong that they take the risk of bearing another man’s child. From a bull’s point of view, the relationship with another man’s wife also stays quiet. Also in the event of an unplanned pregnancy the bull has very little to worry about as the woman will either abort or will have the baby on the quiet. There are zero financial implications for the bull and the bull is not faced with any emotional hassles. Many bulls often state that they derive great pleasure in sleeping with a woman in front of her husband. If you haven’t guessed it already it is because of the competition present from the other male that causes the bull to get a higher level of sexual arousal and causes him to mate furiously with the cuckold’s wife thereby subconsciously giving his sperm the best chance to fertilize the woman’s egg. Like I said earlier a lot of cuckolds are men who are successful and have a high emotional quotient. Instead of cheating on their women they prefer to be faithful by seeking competition in the form of a cuckold relationship. A lot but NOT all the bulls are people who one would associate with the bad boy types or jerks. These men are perceived by women in many instances to have good genes even though they are not reliable. These types of men take pleasure in sleeping with wives of successful men and many a time this leads to the bull verbally assaulting the cuckolds. Verbal taunting by the bull towards the cuckold has its role to play in a cuckold relationship.

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Women who cuckold their men love their men and this is why they feel confused as to why the bull’s verbal humiliation towards her man turns her on so much. When a woman hears the bull verbally taunting her man at that moment she subconsciously beliefs that the bull has a superior DNA than her partner and is sexually aroused to mate vigorously with the bull. Many women who will sleep with a bull in front of their men will experience much more powerful orgasms if the bull taunts the husband. It’s not because the woman loves to see her husband taunted but it is a result of her genetic make up. For a cuckold, the act of being verbally taunted by a bull while the bull is with the cuckold’s wife results in the cuckold being sexually aroused. This is because the taunting increases the competitive nature in a cuckold and thanks to his killer sperm and the way he is designed.

“Many bulls often state that they derive great pleasure in sleeping with a woman in front of her husband” The act of taunting by a bull is the result of the same competitive gene and killer sperm but expressed differently. It is an ego trip for the bull and tries to portray his competiveness to the woman in question. Chapter review ♠ The same competitive desire that causes some men to choose to be cuckolds causes other men to choose to be bulls. ♠ Bulls are generally thought to be “bad boy” or “jerk types” but this is not the case for all bulls. ♠ Verbal taunting towards a cuckold by a bull has its role to play in a cuckold relationship.

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Frequently Asked Questions If women are biologically programmed to cheat on their partners why don’t all women cheat? While all women are biologically programmed to mate with a variety of men and to seek out the best genes many women will not go ahead and cheat on their partners. This has to do with the way these women were bought up and conditioned about commitment to relationships and the sanctity of being faithful to one partner. We live in a time where both partners are supposed to be faithful and this belief can be so deep rooted in some women that they will not cheat. However I can guarantee you that even these women will secretly fantasize about mating with men who they subconsciously perceive to have a good DNA. If you are interested in the cuckold lifestyle you can get your woman to willingly agree to cuckold you by using the right techniques. If a cuckold fantasy is normal then why don’t all men have a cuckold fantasy? The desire to be a cuckold stems from a man’s competitive nature. All men have this competitive nature but how they choose to express this nature differs. Some men will seek to cheat on their partner themselves while other men will seek to create completion through fantasy. Remember that both the desire to be a cuckold or a bull stems from the same competitive nature present in all men. Some men may never experience these desires because similarly to women it has a lot to do with their beliefs and social conditioning.

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Chapter 5 Types Of Cuckolds Cuckoldry has existed for centuries. Originally men were classified as cuckolds if their wives were unfaithful. This made the classification very easy. It was mostly the case where wives were unfaithful behind their husbands’ backs and the husbands were mostly not aware of their wives illicit affairs. However in the last few decades, the number of men that want to be voluntarily cuckolded by their women has risen tremendously. This has led to different classifications of various cuckolds. It is important to know the different categories of cuckolds as it helps put into perspective which type of cuckold you are or would like to be. It also helps to clear any misconceptions that your woman may have about the cuckold lifestyle when you confess to her your desire for a cuckold relationship. Given below are the different classifications of cuckolds. Go through them carefully and decide under which category you fall or would like to fall under. It is not uncommon to find yourself having traits from more than one type. According to me, there are three types of cuckolds “The original cuckold”, ‘The modern cuckold” and “The forced cuckold”. The original cuckold The original cuckold is one whose woman is unfaithful to him by her choosing. She herself has decided to have an affair without his knowledge. Many women may at one time or the other commit adultery but the woman of an original cuckold will normally continuously commit adultery. From the earlier chapters you already know that women are biologically programmed to cheat. Most women who cuckold their men under this category eventually end up getting caught and this normally leads to the original cuckold being split into two types. “The non accepter type” and “The accepter type of cuckold”. The non accepter ♠ The woman chooses to cuckold her man out of her own accord. ♠ The non accepter normally finds out that he is a cuckold from his friends or by catching his woman in the act of cuckolding him. ©2010 Cuckold Coach

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♠ The non accepter does not accept to himself being cuckolded. ♠ The non accepter is affected emotionally. ♠ The non accepter may or may not confess to his woman about his knowledge that she is being unfaithful. ♠ In most cases the non accepter will end the relationship after finding out that he has been cuckolded. ♠ If the non accepter cuckold chooses to continue the relationship it is mostly because the couple have children or he fears a split will harm his social status. ♠ If the non accepter cuckold chooses to continue the relationship he will normally seek sexual gratification else where and thus will commit adultery himself. The accepter ♠ The woman chooses to cuckold her man out of her own accord. ♠ The accepter normally finds out that he is a cuckold from his friends or by catching his woman in the act of cuckolding him. ♠ The accepter discovers that the act of his woman cuckolding him arouses him sexually. ♠ In majority of the cases the accepter will confess to his woman about his knowledge of his cuckoldry and give her his consent to continue. ♠ The accepter does not seek to end the relationship with his woman. ♠ The accepter may or may not want to witness his woman in the act of cuckolding him. ♠ The accepter becomes sexually submissive but may remain in control in other areas of the relationship. I have noticed that a large number of men who enter into the cuckold lifestyle do so by being the accepter type of cuckold. Many men only first realize their cuckold desires only upon realizing that their women are committing adultery. The modern Cuckold Most of the men who will read this book and are interested in the cuckold lifestyle will fall under this category. The difference between the original cuckold and the modern cuckold is that the modern cuckold initiates his wife's infidelity and is sexually turned on by the idea.

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The modern cuckold’s main characteristics are: ♠ The modern cuckold convinces his woman to cuckold him and the woman normally enters into this lifestyle upon his request. ♠ The thought and idea of getting cuckolded, sexually excites the modern cuckold. ♠ The modern cuckold has a say in who his woman cuckolds him with. ♠ The modern cuckold normally loves to witness the act of his cuckolding. ♠ The modern cuckold is sexually submissive towards his partner. ♠ The modern cuckold may also want to be verbally taunted and verbally humiliated by his woman. ♠ The modern cuckold might indulge in BDSM if he and his woman are comfortable with it. ♠ In all other areas of the relationship the modern cuckold and his woman are on equal footing. ♠ The modern cuckold does not seek sexual gratification else where. ♠ The cuckoldress remains emotionally faithful and emotionally loyal to the modern cuckold. Of the three types of cuckolds this type is the most satisfying for a man who is interested in a cuckold relationship. It enables a woman to satisfy her core sexual drives and it enables a man to mentally create competition for his wife and thus increases his sexual arousal and love towards her. It also ensures that the relationship is healthy and free from other emotional complications that can arise if a man is an original or a forced cuckold. The modern cuckold’s woman is also emotionally faithful and loyal to her partner. So while she might enjoy sleeping with another man with her partner’s knowledge, there is no risk involved of the woman ever leaving her partner. The forced cuckold A forced cuckold is one whose cuckolding has been forced upon him by his woman. A lot of people who are ignorant on the subject of cuckolding mistake this type of cuckolding to be the norm. Most of the literature available and most of the websites online mostly portray the forced cuckold type.

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The characteristics of a forced cuckold are: ♠ The forced cuckold’s cuckolding is forced upon him by his woman. ♠ The woman either informs her man that she will be cuckolding him or she deliberately lets her self get caught by her man in the act of cuckolding him. ♠ The woman is defiant and mocks her man about his cuckolding. ♠ The forced cuckold is normally forced to watch his cuckolding. ♠ The forced cuckold is normally forced into BDSM activities. ♠ The forced cuckold normally agrees to continue with the lifestyle for fear of loosing his woman. ♠ The man may secretly love the fact that he is a forced cuckold and the whole idea turns him on. ♠ The forced cuckold has no say as to whom his woman chooses to cuckold him with. While the forced type of cuckold does exist it is rare for a woman to treat her man in this manner. This type of cuckold is more of a fantasy than a reality. Men with cuckold desires may at one time or the other fantasize about being a forced cuckold but in reality would not want to be one. If you are someone with a strong desire to be a forced cuckold, then I would suggest you first become a modern cuckold type. The traits of a modern type of cuckold ensure that your woman will not leave you. After that you can confess your fantasy and you can experience it as a role play between you and your partner. Before you go through the next chapter I suggest you mentally have an idea as to which type of cuckold you are or would like to be. To be completely honest with you the accepter type (under the original cuckold type) and the modern cuckold type work the best for a cuckold lifestyle. You learnt in the previous chapters the reasons behind your cuckold desires. You also learnt that women are programmed to first find a reliable partner and once they find such a partner and are sure that the partner will not leave them their urges to mate with a variety of men kicks in. All women go through this cycle. Even women who are conditioned from a young age about the sanctity of a relationship and the commitment and loyalty that goes with a relationship will still have the desire or fantasy to cheat with other men.

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By being a modern cuckold, you not only satisfy your need for competition and your cuckold fantasies, but you are also satisfying your woman’s core drives. Women who enter into a cuckold relationship with a modern cuckold begin to have a new found respect for their partner for being able to understand their psychological and biological needs so well. Chapter Review ♠ Initially the classification of a cuckold was easy. Over the last couple of decades there have sprung up different types of cuckolds. ♠ There are three types of cuckolds: The original cuckold type, the modern cuckold type and the forced cuckold type. ♠ The original cuckold type is split into the non accepter type and the accepter type of cuckold. ♠ Any person interested in the cuckold lifestyle should try and incorporate the traits of a modern cuckold type. ♠ The forced cuckold type is not suitable for a real life cuckold situation but can be experienced as a role play between cuckold partners.

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Chapter 6 Misconceptions Of The Cuckold Lifestyle While cuckoldry as a fetish has existed for centuries, men with this fantasy have only been open about their desire to be cuckolded in the last couple of decades. Because this lifestyle has come to the fore only recently, most people and even most men with cuckold fantasies are often confused about cuckoldry and what the lifestyle encompasses. Added to this misunderstanding has been the role of various websites that have sprung up. Barring a few good sites, most of these websites only seek to fuel the fantasies of men who have a desire to be cuckolded. This has resulted in a lot of misconceptions about the cuckold lifestyle. While this chapter will help clear most of the misconceptions you may have, its main purpose is to enable you to clear the doubts that your woman may have when you confess to her your desire to be a cuckold. Men who want to be cuckolded suffer from a psychological disorder. Many people who are unaware of the cuckold lifestyle and at times even men with cuckold fantasies think that the desire to be cuckolded is a result of a psychological disorder. There has not been any research done on the subject as yet that proves that the desire to be cuckolded is a psychological disorder. Like I mentioned earlier, I believe that a particular gene is responsible for creating this desire and that the cuckold lifestyle may have an evolutionary purpose. Most of the cuckolds that I interviewed while writing this book, admitted to having these fantasies much before they even knew that the word “Cuckold” existed. This clearly shows that the desire is inbuilt. Cuckolds are normally weak and sissy type of men. This is one of the common misconceptions that people have about cuckolds. Most of the literature available on cuckolds and the cuckold lifestyle stereo type the cuckold as being emotionally weak and the sissy type. This is definetely not true. In real life most men who seek the cuckold lifestyle are exactly the opposite of what you would term as weak and sissy. They are normally men with strong emotional quotients and are highly successful at their chosen profession. There are also many of them that are in prime physical condition. While a wannabe cuckold may like to fantasize about being weak towards his woman, in real life this is not always the case. ©2010 Cuckold Coach

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You learnt earlier that the reason a man desires a cuckold lifestyle is because he is subconsciously creating competition for himself. This comes about due to the presence of killer sperm and a man’s natural instinct to compete for his woman. For whatever the reasons, many men subconsciously choose to create competition instead of cheating on their partners. Nearly all the men that I know who are into the cuckold lifestyle are men with strong emotional quotients. They may be a bit submissive to their wives but are strong men in society. These men are also very successful at their chosen fields or professions. Cuckolds are homosexuals and bisexuals. Another common misconception bought about by false literature is that cuckolds are homosexuals and bisexuals. This is definitely not true in majority of the cases. Most of the men I have interviewed and coached have often questioned me whether their desire to be cuckolded is any indication of them being homosexuals and bisexuals. While a few men who are interested in this lifestyle definitely have bisexual tendencies, majority of the men are straight with no inclination whatsoever towards other men. It has become a norm in cuckold videos to portray the man as a bisexual. Like I said, a lot of stuff that goes around with relation to the cuckold lifestyle is all smut and is designed to fuel the suppressed desires of a wannabe cuckold. Cuckolds are not well endowed. A common misconception of the cuckold lifestyle is that the men who want to be cuckolded are not well endowed. Many websites and a lot of false literature on this topic are responsible for this misconception. The desire to be cuckolded has nothing to do with whether a man is well endowed or not. In fact some men who are cuckolded are better endowed than the men their women will cuckold them with. While there will be men who seek the cuckold lifestyle that are not well endowed, it is important to understand that it is not because of this fact that they seek the cuckold lifestyle. There are millions of men who are not well endowed who do not have desires to be cuckolded. The desire to be cuckolded has nothing to do with size. Having said that, a lot of men who aren’t well endowed are relieved of a lot of pressure to perform and satisfy their partners sexually, when

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they engage in the cuckold lifestyle. Again false literature has conditioned men to believe that men who aren’t well endowed aren’t able to satisfy their partners sexually. While this is not true, this repeated and reinforced conditioning causes a lot of mental stress and affects the performance of men. Once a man enters into a cuckold relationship, he is relieved of the pressure of being solely responsible for satisfying his wife’s sexual appetite. The women of men who want to be cuckolded are extremely sexy. Most people are led to believe that men with cuckold fantasies are average Joe’s who have extremely hot women as their partners. This is definitely not true. In fact in some cases this is the other way around. Some of the women are plain Jane’s while the men that want to be cuckolded are extremely good looking and metro sexual. In most cases the women are not super sexy bikini models the way people are led to believe they are. In fact one of the most common reasons why women get scared to enter a cuckold lifestyle is the fear that other men will not find them sexually attractive. When you do confess your desires of a cuckold relationship, your woman may not explicitly admit it but this will be one of the reasons that may cause her to fear the cuckold lifestyle. Most women fear that they may not be as attractive as they once were. It is important to address these fears in your woman. Men use the cuckold lifestyle as a gateway to eventually sleep with other women. This is a common fear among women. It is a valid argument because at first it may look like the man only wants to enter into a cuckold lifestyle so as to be able to later sleep around with other women. It is important to understand that if a woman is being asked by her man to cuckold him then the man falls under the category of a modern cuckold. Remember modern cuckolds remain sexually and emotionally faithful to their women. Once the different types of cuckolds are explained to the women I have seen that this misconception always seizes to be a problem. If the man also wants to sleep with someone else then the man is proposing a swinging lifestyle and not a cuckold lifestyle.

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A lot of diseases spread because of the cuckold lifestyle. This is another fear rather than a misconception that women have about indulging in the cuckold lifestyle. Like any other sexual encounters, sufficient precaution should be taken to prevent disease and pregnancy. Make sure you use your commonsense before indulging in any activity that could spread disease. Do not blindly follow the activities that are shown on cuckold websites unless you’re sure you know what you are doing. The cuckold lifestyle is extremely safe if basic precautions are taken. The cuckold lifestyle ruins relationships. If the man is an original non acceptor cuckold or a forced cuckold then in most cases a cuckold lifestyle will ruin the relationship. This is because the man does not accept to his cuckolding. However in the case of an original acceptor cuckold or a modern cuckold who has initiated his own cuckolding then the cuckolding lifestyle only enhances the relationship between the cuckold and his woman. If you follow the techniques taught in this manual then there is absolutely zero risk of the lifestyle ruining your relationship with your partner. The cuckold lifestyle has to involve BDSM activities. Many people believe that the cuckold lifestyle has to involve BDSM activities. One of the main reasons for these believes is that the word Sadomasochism or the SM part of BDSM comes from the name Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. In the introduction to cuckoldry chapter you read how he was the first man to be recorded as having wanted to being cuckolded. Other reasons include false literature available on cuckoldry. While there are cuckolds who enjoy a bit of BDSM in their cuckold lifestyle there are many cuckolds who do not enjoy any BDSM activities. It all depends on the cuckold, the cuckoldress and their comfort level. If you are someone with a BDSM fetish then you can incorporate this into your cuckold relationship. Remember even if you include BDSM you should still maintain the traits of a modern cuckold type. You have to be married to be a cuckold. The dictionary definition of a cuckold requires the man to be married. However in the real world there are many men and women who are not married but still enjoy a cuckold relationship. Like I said in the

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introduction, if you have an adulteress girlfriend or initiate your girlfriend to cheat on you then you too are classified as a cuckold. It is important that you go over this chapter a couple of times before you confess your desire of a cuckold lifestyle to your woman. You have to be in a position to confidently clear any doubts and misconceptions that she may have about the lifestyle.

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Chapter 7 Introduction To The Techniques Before you learn the techniques that will make your woman willingly want to cuckold you, there are a few things you need to know about these techniques and why they work so well. This chapter will not take long to read but once read it will give you a proper understanding of what these techniques are about and what you are trying to achieve by the application of these techniques. Once a firm understanding is grasped, you will find yourself understanding and applying the techniques both quickly and confidently. Why should you use techniques to get your woman to cuckold you? Most men who have a fantasy of being cuckolded often do not realize that their women do not share these same fantasies. While a lot of women will cheat on their men during a relationship, the idea of doing so with their men’s knowledge and consent seems taboo to them. Women are taught as young girls to be faithful to their men. Cuckolding their men seems anti relationship. It is important to remember that in order to get your woman to willingly cuckold you; you will have to mentally prepare her to be receptive to the idea. The correct application of the techniques that you are about to learn mentally prepares women to be receptive to the cuckold lifestyle. Your woman has already refused to cuckold you. Will these techniques still work? Definitely! The reason why most women refuse to cuckold their men is because the idea of a cuckold lifestyle was sprung as a surprise to them. The men who did so had no idea that they had to mentally prepare their women before confessing their desires. Even if your woman has already said no, if the techniques are correctly applied then the woman will become mentally receptive to the idea of a cuckold lifestyle and will willingly agree to enter the cuckold lifestyle when asked again.

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Why do these techniques work if women are conditioned to be faithful? Women are taught when they are young to be faithful to their men. They are socially programmed and conditioned to be sexually and emotionally faithful to one man. However scientific research reveals another story all together. You know that women are biologically programmed to mate with many men. It is an evolutionary trait that helps women to seek the best genes. These techniques appeal to the biological side of women. The techniques help women subconsciously realize that through a cuckold lifestyle they will be able to satisfy their sexual urges that they are biologically programmed with, while at the same time still have a man that is faithful and loyal to them. What is attraction and why is it so important with regards to the techniques? Women are always attracted to strong confident men. Men who women are strongly attracted to are perceived as being sexy and having good genes. It is very difficult if not impossible to get women to cuckold men who they are attracted to. In order to get your woman to indulge in the cuckold lifestyle you will have to first reduce a lot of the attraction she has towards you. However just reducing her attraction towards you can be harmful for the relationship in the long run. To guard against this you have to increase the amount of love and affection feelings that she has towards you. Each technique in this book helps to slowly reduce your partner’s attraction towards you but at the same time amplifies love and affection so that your woman remains emotionally faithful and loyal to you. What do these techniques seek to achieve? The ultimate goal of these techniques is to get your woman to willingly want to cuckold you. This goal is achieved by mentally preparing her to be receptive to the idea of a cuckold lifestyle. The techniques if applied correctly will help your woman realize that she can cuckold you with out the fear of loosing you. The techniques taught are also designed to keep her emotionally faithful and loyal to you. Many men feel that using psychological techniques to get your woman

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to cuckold you is wrong. These men feel that psychology based techniques are wrong. They feel that such an approach is underhand, sneaky and just down right unethical. These men often advocate that if someone has cuckold desires then he should just confess these desires to his woman and if she really loves him she will agree to a cuckold relationship. Their school of thought is flawed on many levels. For starters, the truth is that none of the techniques that I am about to teach you are anything close to underhand, sneaky or unethical. If you have read the book from the beginning, you will be better able to understand the techniques and what they are trying to achieve. The techniques are designed to help your woman realize her core drives. They increase her affection and love feelings towards you and make you seem super dependable and reliable in her eyes. This gives her biological urges a chance to crop up and when the other techniques are used it makes her very receptive and very eager for a cuckold lifestyle. Confessing a cuckold desire out of the blue like many men on various forums advocate will not only result in your woman saying a flat no but can also cause damage to your relationship. You will be frustrated that your desires are not being met and she will feel hurt that you are pushing her towards such a lifestyle. Another major flaw in the advice rendered by such men is that if your woman loves you she will agree to the lifestyle. Let me tell you that nothing can be further from the truth. If you go up to your woman and ask her to cuckold you, her saying no to you does not mean she doesn’t love you. I know this seems like a funny scenario but I have actually seen people dole out this kind of advice. The safest way to get your woman to cuckold you with out any repercussions is to use the techniques first and then confess your desires.

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Meet Jack and Jane Jack and Jane are a couple from New York. Like so many men Jack too has a cuckold desires and yearns to see Jane with other men. They are both going to play a big part from now on. I am going to use Jack and Jane to showcase how each technique should be used in a real life scenario. I felt that just teaching the techniques without giving you a live example of how they should be implemented would be wrong on my part and might prove difficult for you to fully comprehend and implement. Jack Smith; Location: New York Occupation: Investment Consultant Age: 47 Jack is a normal type of guy. He works hard for his living and he is doting and caring towards his wife. For the last two years, Jack has had a fantasy to see his wife Jane sleep with other men. After buying the cuckold coach manual he now knows the reason for his desires and he no longer feels guilty about them. He has decided to implement the techniques taught in the manual. Jane Smith; Location: New York Occupation: Housewife Age: 39 Jane is a housewife. She takes good care of herself and is in great shape for 39. She is traditional in her outlook and is socially conditioned to be faithful and loyal to her man. She does have fantasies about other men but she feels guilty about these fantasies. Lisa Raymond is going to follow Jane right through the techniques and explain to you from a woman’s perspective how Jane is subconsciously reacting to the techniques that are being discretely applied on her.

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Chapter 8 Personality Types Women will subconsciously classify men into one of three personality types. They are the Lover personality, The Provider personality and the Looser Chic. Women will classify you into one of these personality types irrespective of your looks or your social and economic standing. Each of these personality types affects your chances of getting your woman to cuckold you in a different way. Given below is a description of each personality type and an explanation on how each personality type will affect a cuckold relationship. Later on in this chapter you will learn how to mould your personality in the eyes of your woman into the personality type that is most conducive to be cuckolded. The Lover personality Men who fall under this category are generally fun to be around with. They are mostly guys who love adventure, are spontaneous and most of them can be socially classified as bad boys. These men arouse strong sexual feelings in women. Women love to sleep with guys who fall under this category. Most men who seek a cuckold relationship do not fall under the Lover personality but there are exceptions. It is very difficult to get your woman to cuckold you if you are a lover personality because you are strongly triggering feelings of sexual attraction. If you fall under this category you will have to change your personality type (only in the eyes of your woman) to one that is conducive to be cuckolded. Don’t worry as it is easy to do so and in the following pages you will learn how to change your personality type in the eyes of your woman in no time at all. The Provider personality Men who fall under this category are normally men who provide a security blanket to women. The men need not be very rich and most of them are normal guys who draw fixed monthly incomes. Women will secretly admit to finding such type of men boring as they lack a sense of adventure and are not spontaneous. Women will remain with such type of men because they are extremely loyal and caring in a relationship. Men under this type are normally regular type of men. They do not trigger strong sexual feelings in their woman but rather trigger strong feelings of affection. Most men who seek a cuckold lifestyle already fall under this category. This ©2010 Cuckold Coach

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personality type works best for a cuckold relationship. If you do not fall under this category do not worry as all you have to do is incorporate the traits of this personality type in your dealings with your woman. We will discuss this personality type in detail on the next page because this is the personality type that you must incorporate if you want to have a satisfying cuckold relationship. Looser Chic These are men who can neither trigger sexual attraction or feelings of security or feelings of affection. They are not the spontaneous adventurous bad boys nor are they able to provide a security blanket to women. This personality type is the most risky for a cuckold relationship because while the woman may be extremely receptive to the idea, there is a huge risk that she may eventually leave the looser chic for someone else. If you fall under this category and want to enter the cuckold lifestyle it is much safer to incorporate the traits of the provider personality. As I said earlier, the traits of a provider personality can be easily learned and are easy to be incorporated in your dealings with your woman. Most men under this category do not normally have a desire to be cuckolded as they are always afraid of loosing their women. Very few men fall under this category. Normally most men are able to trigger affection feelings in their women. Why the provider personality type works best for a cuckold relationship The provider type of personality is most conducive for a cuckold relationship for a variety of reasons. ♠ Unlike the lover personality the provider personality does not trigger strong sexual attraction in the woman so the woman is generally receptive to the idea of a cuckold lifestyle because it gives her an opportunity to satisfy her sexual urges. ♠ Women who are in a relationship with provider personality men genuinely love their men at a conscious and subconscious level for the security they provide. When these women indulge in a cuckold lifestyle they remain emotionally faithful and loyal to their men. Also unless the man turns in to a looser chic

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personality the chances of the woman leaving the man are zero. ♠ Most women who are in a relationship with men of the provider personality type are secretly bored and would love some spontaneity and adventure. Such women are more receptive to a cuckold lifestyle because such a lifestyle provides them with a sense of adventure and spontaneity. ♠ Women who are in relationships with provider personalities already tend to use sex to their advantage to get what they want from their men. Such manipulation by women towards their men creates an environment that is conducive for a cuckold relationship. ♠ Most women who are in a relationship with men of the provider personality type are already in control of the relationship. So the idea of a man having a fantasy where the woman is in control does not come as a big surprise for them. As seen the advantages of having the traits of a provider type of personality before confessing your desires of a cuckold lifestyle to your woman are enormous. It can be the difference between your woman accepting to go ahead with the cuckold lifestyle or not. As I said earlier, most men who seek a cuckold lifestyle are already of the provider personality type. However if you belong to another personality type then I realize that you may be a bit apprehensive of changing your personality type but the good news is you do not have to. All you have to do is learn the traits of the provider personality type and incorporate them in your dealings with your woman. Once your woman sees these traits in you she will subconsciously start to classify you as a provider personality. It does not matter under what category other women place you in as long as the woman you want to cuckold you classifies you as a provider personality. How to get your woman to classify you as a provider personality Most of the men who I coach are under the misconception that to be classified as a provider personality you have to be extremely well settled and be able to provide a rich and flamboyant lifestyle to a woman. This is definitely not true. Yes, rich guys are classified in most women’s minds as provider personalities but the fact is that most men that women will subconsciously classify as provider personalities are

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just normal regular men who can provide women with some level of stability. Given below is a list of techniques that if done correctly will get you to be classified as a provider personality. They are easy and you can begin incorporating them in your dealings with your woman as soon as you are done reading them. Be a nice regular type of guy. One of the most important things that you can do to be classified as a provider personality is to start behaving like a regular nice guy. Remember the old cliché that nice guys finish last. Well guess what? If your goal is to get your woman to cuckold you then being a regular nice guy will actually work wonders for you. The reason being that women have a strong sense of emotional loyalty to nice regular men however at the same time nice men do not arouse them sexually. So when a nice guy tells his woman about the cuckold lifestyle the woman may appear a bit surprised at first but you can bet she is secretly happy about the whole idea and that it arouses her. It gives her an opportunity to be emotionally faithful and loyal to her man and yet lead a sexually satisfying life without feeling guilty of cheating on her man. Stop being spontaneous. This means stop all the surprise flowers, surprise gifts and all the other spontaneous stuff that you might normally do. Spontaneous behavior is a strong trait of a lover personality. Spontaneous behavior creates sexual attraction and if you are creating sexual attraction then your chances of your woman agreeing to cuckold you are minimal. Your aim is to stop creating sexual attraction but rather create feelings of emotional loyalty and faithfulness. Once your woman has cuckolded you then you can go back to being spontaneous. Start being stable. That means both financially and emotionally. Even if you do not have a job you can still appear stable by genuinely searching for one and focusing on your goals. Being stable or appearing to be stable is very important for a cuckold lifestyle because it keeps

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you from being classified as a looser chic. Remember if you are classified as a looser chic personality the woman will almost certainly agree to the cuckold lifestyle but you run the risk of her leaving you for someone else. Give into her demands. Women will always be demanding towards men. It is a way for them to test you to help them figure out how strong your emotional quotient is. If you pass these tests you maintain control over the relationship and create strong sexual attraction. As I have said before creating attraction is not a good thing when you want your woman to cuckold you. Giving into her demands gives her control over the relationship. Normally when women are in control over the relationship they do not feel strong sexual attraction towards their partner and they then become very receptive to the idea of a cuckold relationship. Pick up fights and apologize. You are about to learn a powerful yet simple technique to get yourself classified as a provider personality type and at the same time get your woman to realize that she is in control of the relationship. The next time your woman does something wrong, pick up a minor argument about it. Women never like to admit that they are wrong. She will try to defend herself and it is at this junction of the argument that you see her point of view and agree that she is right and apologize for being wrong. Use submissive body language that you will learn later on in this book and explain to her how you understand her point of view. It does not matter how silly her argument is. Just apologize and tell her that she is right. This instantly lets her know that she is in control of the relationship and she will mentally classify you as a provider type of personality. You can either make the apology during the argument itself or wait for a little while after the argument and then apologize. Be loyal and caring. Most women who subconsciously classify their men as provider personalities do so because their men appear to be loyal and caring. Most men who want to be cuckolded are already loyal and care a lot about their women. Reinforcing this fact helps a great deal. Make sure you often tell your woman that you are

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lucky to be with her, how you will never leave her and how you will always be faithful to her. You need to start showing her that you care. Small deeds and actions can let her know you care in a big way. Being loyal and caring is important as it helps keep your woman emotionally loyal and faithful towards you and this is important in a cuckold relationship. Trigger feelings of security and stability. A provider personality triggers feelings of security and stability in a woman. Most men feel that in order to do this you have to be rich. This is not the case. One great way to trigger these feelings in your woman is to pick up the tab every time you’ll go out. You’ll do not have to go anywhere fancy or the bill does not have to be a big one. It can be for a movie or a shake and the bill can be just a few dollars but it is important that you get the tab every time from now on even if you’ll have a policy of going Dutch Let her know your lucky. Nothing tells a woman she is in control of the relationship more than the guy telling her often how lucky he is to be with her. While this seems like a nice gesture, it does wonders to reduce sexual attraction which is good for a cuckold relationship. At the same time it amplifies her sense of loyalty and faithfulness to you. Personally I would recommend telling your woman how lucky you feel to be with her at least once in three to five days. Use the challenge technique. The challenge technique is a neat and fun game to play with your woman. Its role in successfully getting your woman to cuckold you is so vital that I have devoted a whole chapter to it. It is easy, lots of fun and it gives you an opportunity to get a glimpse of what the cuckold lifestyle with your woman will be like. Make sure you read the chapter on the challenge technique carefully. Once you put it into use it will not only reinforce to your woman that you are a provider personality but it will give her more control of the relationship. You will find that after using the challenge technique your woman will instantly become more dominant towards you which helps when your goal is to have a cuckold relationship.

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Submissive Body Language. Apart from demanding behavior and tests, women read men’s body language at a subconscious level to determine how strong their emotional quotients are. Strong positive body language helps in creating strong sexual attraction which as I have already said is not going to get her to cuckold you. In the chapter on body language you will learn about submissive body language. It does not matter if your body language towards others is strong and positive. If your body language towards your woman is submissive, she will classify you as a provider personality. The above techniques if used correctly will definitely get your woman to subconsciously classify you as a provider personality. However do exercise caution in using the above techniques. Do not get up one morning and apply all the techniques at once. Your woman will realize something is cooking and it will backfire on you. Instead apply each technique slowly, one by one until you are at a stage where you are applying all the techniques in tandem. Lisa Raymond: Personality in men is a big issue when it comes to women. Unlike men we are not attracted by looks but rather personality. The two personalities that really catch a woman’s eye in general are the lover personality and the provider personality. While lover personalities do get our attention, we don’t normally fall for them because we instinctively know that they are not dependable. However a lot of women fantasize about lover personalities and in a cuckold relationship would love to sleep with lover personality type of guys. Women love men who exhibit signs of a provider personality because we instinctively know that these men are reliable and are ready to spoil and fuss over us. Women love this. Before we entered the cuckold lifestyle, I would say Kole was a mix between a lover and a provider personality. He had this lover personality streak at one time and a provider personality streak during other times.

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When he started being a total provider personality I didn’t realize it at first and I guess it is a good thing because you don’t want us women to realize what’s going on. I did eventually realize the loss of spontaneity but because he was sending all the other signs of a provider personality type I had this warm glow towards him and felt a stronger bonding. I feel the bonding that this personality type provides makes it a really important technique to employ when you’re goal is to get your woman to willingly agree to a cuckold lifestyle. For me the technique where Kole would pick up small arguments with me over something that was clearly my fault and then later apologize really drove the point home that he was a dependable guy and one who wouldn’t leave me. At that time I felt I was in control, I had no idea it was actually a technique being used on me. All I can say is that when this technique was applied on me it worked very well!! Hi Kole, I bought your book two weeks ago and yesterday I tried one of your techniques. I picked up a fight with my partner over something trivial and something which I new was her fault. Like you said she argued that it was not her fault. I think I took her by surprise when I apologized to her but I could see that she was really happy about it. She gave me a big hug and I knew right then that I had come across as a provider personality. Your stuff really works. Jose Fernandez

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Jack picks up a fight with Jane Jack has been studying the techniques in the cuckold manual for about three weeks now. He already tells his wife how lucky he is to have her and is very loyal and caring towards her. He now feels ready to try another technique on her. He decides that as his next move he is going to pick up a fight with her whenever she messes up so that he can apologize to her later. This week seems like a good time to try this technique. Things are going well between them and Jane has been in a really good mood of late. Monday and Tuesday passes by without any real opportunity for Jack to pick up a fight with Jane. Jack understands that you have to be patient and wait for the right moment to pick up this fight. This is the key to this technique. Instead of picking up a fight over the most trivial issue, wait for an incident where a fight seems natural. Remember women are very intuitive. You don’t want her to guess something is cooking. The next day Jack comes home and realizes that Jane has forgotten to pick up a couple of his suits from the drycleaners. The drycleaners are right next to her gym and she was supposed to pick them up on her way back home. A couple of times in the past, Jane has forgotten to pick up Jack’s suits and the couple has argued over this issue. Jane normally states that she forgot about it and that since Jack has plenty of suits to wear to the workplace it shouldn’t be a big deal. Jack always argues that he likes to wear particular suits on particular days. Jack has picked up a good incident to argue over. He knows that Jane always argues back when it comes to her forgetting to pick up the suits and he is targeting an incident that isn’t attacking Jane personally. Jack: Hey babe, I am meeting with a client over lunch tomorrow and I can’t choose between the grey suit and the navy blue suit. (Both these suits are at the cleaners) Which one do you think I should wear? Jane: Instantly realizes that she has forgotten to pick up the suits from the dry cleaners. Hey babe, I really think that you should wear a black one. Both the other suits look better at night. (Notice how Jane suggested the black suit? Women will always subconsciously create a situation where they believe that their mistake isn’t going to cause any problems.)

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Jack: No I still prefer the grey one. I think it’s just nice to wear when meeting a client. Besides I consider it to be lucky for me. Jane: Already jumpy cause he turned down her suggestion on the black suit. Hey babe, the suits are still at the cleaners, I was supposed to pick them up today but I was so tired after my work out that I drove straight home. I guess you will just have to wear the black one. Jack: What do you mean you forgot? You always forget to pick up the suits from the cleaners. The place is right next to your gym. I got to meet with a client tomorrow and I don’t have my lucky suit. Jane: You’re being really irrational about this. What do you mean by a lucky suit? It’s just another suit. You have plenty of suits. You always behave like this. I told you I was really tired after my work out. Jack and Jane argue over this for another five minutes and Jack walks out of the room. Jack goes into another room quite happy with how the argument played out. The argument was natural and Jane was trying to defend her self. He waits for around 10 minutes and he goes back to Jane. The key is to not wait too long before tendering the apology. Jack: Hey Babe, You know what? You were right. I was acting a bit irrational. I am really sorry for loosing my cool. I guess I have been a little stressed out at work lately and I took it out on you. Besides your right, the black suit makes for a better lunch meeting any day. Jane: Hey love, don’t worry about it. I am glad you saw my point of view. By the way I will pick up the suits from the cleaners tomorrow for sure. Jack pulled of this technique really well. Jack pulled off the technique well because of the following reasons: ♠ He picked up the argument over a seemingly trivial issue. The argument wasn’t personal. ♠ He picked up the argument over an issue he knew Jane would try and defend herself. ♠ He made sure that the couple only argued and that the fight wasn’t a full blown one. This made it easier to apologize later and for Jane to readily accept the apology. ♠ He waited just for around 10 minutes before going back and making an apology. He didn’t delay in tendering the apology.

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Lisa Raymond: When Jack first bought up the topic of the suits, Jane would have instantly realized that she forgot to pick up the suits from the cleaners. Since this was an issue the couple has argued upon in the past, she was already conditioned to get defensive and argue on this topic. Even though Jane knew that she was in the wrong, she still argued and put her rationale across. When Jack came back and apologized to her, it probably did surprise her. I can tell you as a lady that the apology did a couple of things for Jane. First it secretly made her very happy that Jack apologized for something that she messed up. It tells her that even if she messes up a couple of times that Jack will still be there and be understanding about the whole situation. At this point Jack is coming across as a dependable and a reliable mate. The second thing that happens is that she starts to feel strong feelings of affection and love towards Jack. This is because Jack has come across as dependable and reliable. Kole Raymond: As you can see the above technique isn’t very hard to apply. One thing to remember is that you don’t want to over use this technique. You shouldn’t use this every day or your woman will guess that something is cooking. You can also use this technique in a scenario where your woman picks up an argument with you and that you are sure that you are in the right. I haven’t given examples of the other techniques in this chapter because they will either follow in the proceeding chapters or their application is very simple and I felt that there was no need to explain theses techniques in detail.

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Chapter 9 The Challenge Technique Whenever a woman is in a relationship she will always try to challenge her man. Some people refer to these challenges as tests. These challenges or tests like most other women’s behavior happen at a subconscious level. Women will challenge their men to see how strong their men are and how strong their men’s emotional quotients are. It is widely believed that good genes in men are directly linked to strong emotional quotients. So when a woman challenges you she is basically doing so at a subconscious level to figure out how good your genes are. It is important for women to figure this out because women have a limited time span in which they can reproduce. Challenging men helps them pick out good mating material or in other words men with good genes. In this chapter you are going to learn how women’s’ challenges actually work in favor of men who want to be cuckolded and how to use the powerful ‘challenge technique’ to get your woman to willingly agree to cuckold you. How do women challenge men? There is no fixed pattern or way as to how women challenge men but they do it all the time. It might range from showing up late on dates, purposely forgetting to do things, making you jealous or even small minor thing that you may hardly notice. Most of the time men do not even realize that they are being challenged. Sometimes women do not realize it themselves because this is all happening at a subconscious level. Another thing to remember is that women never stop challenging men. I honestly do not know why this happens but they just do not stop. You can win their challenges a hundred times but they will just keep challenging you. If you are seeking to be cuckolded then this behavior is actually an advantage for you. What happens when your woman challenges you? Every time your woman challenges you one of two things will happen. You will either appear as emotionally strong in her mind or you will appear as emotionally weak in her mind. There is no in between. If she challenges you she is not going to mentally classify you as 80% emotionally strong and 20% emotionally weak. You are going to be classified either as being emotionally strong or emotionally weak. Never forget this point. ©2010 Cuckold Coach

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So every time your woman challenges you and you win that challenge she feels that you have an emotionally strong quotient which then makes her feel your genes are good and which then leads to strong sexual attraction. As you already know when a woman feels strong sexual attraction towards you the chances of her cuckolding you are absolutely minimal. However every time you are challenged by your woman and you loose that challenge it leads her to classify you as having a weak emotional quotient which in turn leads her to think that you do not have the best genes and thereby reduces sexual attraction. At this point of time you are probably thinking that all it should take to kill sexual attraction and get your woman to cuckold you is to start loosing her challenges. This is not the case for a variety of reasons. ♠ Most of the time it is very difficult to tell when your woman is challenging you. Woman do it so subtly that most men hardly realize that they are being challenged. If you do not realize you are being challenged then it is difficult to purposely loose her challenges. ♠ In my research and my interaction with all my students, I have found that most men who want to be cuckolded have extremely high emotional quotients. So whenever your woman challenges you and you do not realize you are being challenged, chances are extremely high that you are going to win her challenge and thereby create strong sexual attraction. ♠ Sometimes you might realize that you are being challenged but because you have a strong emotional quotient you may find it extremely difficult to give into her challenges. So how do you use challenges to help with your desire for a cuckold relationship? I am about to teach you one of the most powerful techniques that you can use to get your woman to cuckold you. You can mess up with all the other techniques that I teach you but if you do this one right you can still get her to willingly agree to cuckold you. The best part about it is that it is so much fun and it actually gives you a glimpse of what your woman is going to be like when she cuckolds you. You will find her automatically becoming more dominant and assuming more control in the relationship.

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The Challenge Technique The ‘Challenge Technique’ is a method where you actually dare your woman to accept a challenge with you and then use that challenge to create an environment that is absolutely conducive to her cuckolding you. This technique is very simple and very easy to apply. Irrespective of how simple this technique is make sure that you follow the exact steps to get good results. You know that women are always challenging men. So when they are actually presented with a challenge that they think they can win and one that will help them figure out their men’s emotional quotient they willingly jump at the opportunity. Remember to read through all the steps properly before challenging her and to pick a day when your woman is in a relatively good mood before you challenge her. ♠ Pick a day when your woman is in a good mood. Cuddle up with her and spend some quality time talking to her. Make sure you spend at least an hour with her alone before you dare her to the challenge. ♠ Make sure the topic of the conversation is fun and casual. This is particularly important because it sets the mood for you to dare her to the challenge. It is at this point that you use the technique. Basically what you got to do is challenge her that she can not get you to sleep with her within an hour’s time. All women secretly like to think that their men can not keep their hands off them so do not be surprised at how readily she will accept your challenge. ♠ It is important that you give her an incentive into accepting the challenge. Tell her the looser of the challenge has to treat the winner to dinner and buy the winner a gift. Normally this is enough incentive for a woman. Just to be clear, if you sleep with her in an hour’s time then you are the looser and she is the winner. ♠ When the dare takes place, make sure you pretend to put up a fight but loose the dare in less than fifteen minutes. You got to loose in less than fifteen minutes for the technique to be successful. It does not matter if you can hold out. Holding out is not the purpose of the technique. You can carry on making love to her but when you are done admit to her how difficult it was to resist her even for fifteen minutes.

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♠ You will notice that she is extremely happy that she has won the challenge and will go on gloating about it for the next few days. Treat her to dinner and buy her the gift you promised. Choose your gift properly. You want to gift her something that will remind her that you lost the challenge. ♠ Once you are done with the challenge and given her the treat and the gift you can bet that you would have reduced the amount of sexual attraction feelings that she may have had for you. She will now start to mentally classify you as a provider personality and subconsciously believe that you have a low emotional quotient. All this is good when you want your woman to cuckold you. How the challenge technique helps in your cuckolding While the technique is very easy to execute I have come across people who struggle to understand why the technique works so well. I often get emails from people asking me to explain the technique to them. The technique basically gets three things done simultaneously. 0. It greatly reduces sexual attraction. ♠ It gets your woman to mentally classify you as a provider personality. ♠ It gets your woman to subconsciously believe that you have a low emotional quotient. ♠ It increases her affection towards you because she beliefs that you are a reliable personality. By her winning the challenge so easily she believes that you lost her challenge big time. That in her head means that you have a weak emotional quotient and she the subconsciously thinks that you do not have good genes. Women are biologically programmed to seek out men with good genes. So if your woman does not consider you as having good genes you can bet that she is secretly fantasizing about other men who she perceives to be good mating material. Once you loose the challenge and keep your word by treating her and giving her the gift you promised, you prove to her that you are of the provider personality type. This helps in keeping her both emotionally loyal and emotionally faithful towards you.

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Why you have to use the “Challenge Technique” more than once Sometimes you may feel the need to use this technique more than once. I personally encourage and recommend it as it will reinforce the notion that you are a provider personality in her head. The important thing is to not have the challenge immediately but to space it out over eight to ten days. Just telling your woman that you want to have the challenge again may not appeal to her as she has already won the challenge the first time. One great way to get her to go along with the challenge a second time is to tell her that last time she took you completely by surprise with her seduction moves and that you were not expecting her to be so seductive. Tell her you have come up with some counter strategies and that you are so sure that you will win this time round that you are even prepared to raise the stakes. Give her a better incentive than the previous challenge. This will definitely get her to agree to have the challenge a second time. This time follow the same routine but you can give in after a little more time. Giving in around half an hour on the second challenge is a good idea. Do not forget to implement the earlier steps taught to you on the Challenge Technique before challenging her the second time. Once you loose a second time you will end up frustrating her sexually along with reinforcing the other notions that she has formed about you in her head. If you have used the technique properly you can be sure that your woman will be more than willing to cuckold you when you confess your cuckold desires to her. Most people often email back saying that their woman did not seem sexually frustrated after winning the challenge. The truth is that she really does feel frustrated even if she does not show it. This technique yields the desired results when it used after you have established yourself as a provider personality. This is why this technique is taught after the personality types. It is important for your woman to have already classified you as a provider personality type in her head in order for this technique to have the desired effect.

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Jack uses the “Challenge Technique” on Jane After Jack picked up the fight with Jane over which suit to wear, he spent the next couple of weeks reinforcing the fact that he was a provider personality. He implemented all the tips given in the previous chapter and he was really happy with his progress. He could tell that Jane was being really affectionate towards him but at the same time he could tell that the provider personality was making her yearn for some excitement. After a few more days he decided that the time was right for the “Challenge technique”. He waited for a couple of days and on a day he could tell she was particularly in a good mood he decided to implement the technique while they were laying about in bed. Jack makes sure that he spends time talking to her and cuddling with her and makes sure the mood is playful. He intently listens to her and carefully controls the conversation. He is careful not to allow the conversation to drift into anything too serious. After about an hour he decides to put the challenge technique to use. Jack: Hey Babe, the other day I was thinking about us and I am really happy with what we got going. Jane: That’s so sweet. I am glad with what we got going as well. Jack: Leans in and gives her a quick kiss. In a playful tone adds: You sought of compliment me really well. He flashes a naughty smile. Jane: Sought of??? Jack: Laughs. I am just teasing you. You know you compliment me completely. I don’t have to tell you that. I think I am really lucky to be with you. You’re smart, you’re hot and you really understand me. Jane: Very true. She laughs at her statement. No but seriously I think we are great together especially after all these years. Jack: I totally agree. Time has definitely made us grow closer. Though I guess a couple of things have changed. Jane: Like what?? Jack: In a playful tone. Nah, I don’t think I should tell you this. (Jack

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has given her a hook, women can’t resist this) Jane: You got to tell me. Pleaaaaaaaaaaaaase!! Jack: okay fine. In a playful and teasing voice - You see when we first started dating I just couldn’t keep my hands off you. Over the years, I have developed great self control. I bet I can now resist any of your advances. Well at least I think I can. Jane: Is that so? Who are you fooling? You know you can’t resist me. Jack: Well I bet I can. Tell you what. Let’s have a game to prove it. I am so sure that I will win that I am ready to buy you a new dress if you win. Jane: What’s the bet? Jack: Well let’s see, Pretends to think up a bet on the spur of the moment. Well okay. If you can get me to sleep with you in an hour’s time then you win. If not then I win. Jane: Sure thing, Why not? Just don’t say I didn’t warn you when I win. Jack: I know you’re really going to gloat if you win. Laughs – (he is conditioning to gloat about her feat once she wins.) Jane: You bet. You’re the one who thinks he has great resisting powers. She laughs at her statement again. Jack: Some ground rules first. You got to give me a fair chance to win. You can’t be unfair. Jane: No ways. I can do anything I want. Jack: okay fine. Let’s begin. They begin the bet and Jane starts to try and seduce Jack into sleeping with her. After 15 minutes Jack states that he can’t resist her anymore and that he has to have her and thus looses the bet. Jane seems really happy with the fact that she has won and can’t stop gloating about it. She taunts Jack about her victory over him. Jack is happy that the bet went so well. He is also pleasantly surprised to see

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her verbally taunting him about her victory. Jack loves to fantasize of Jane verbally taunting him and he is happy to experience this side of her first hand. He is really happy with all the progress he is making. Jack is good to his word and the very next day he goes out and picks Jane the dress he promised her. The dress plays an important part as every time she sees the dress she will subconsciously remember the game that she and Jack played. While Jack and Jane may be two fictitious characters used to help you understand how the techniques should be applied, the details of the example are very real. You see roughly about ten years ago, When I first used the “Challenge Technique” on my girlfriend Lisa, this was the very conversation that I had with her to coax her into the game. I still remember that day vividly because that was the day that I first realized that Lisa indeed had it in her to verbally tease. Now let’s move on to what is happening with Jack and Jane. Lisa Raymond: Before Jack proposed the bet; Jane was feeling very affectionate towards Jack. She really liked the compliments that Jack was throwing her way. Since Jack’s tone was playful throughout, he was able to easily convince her into having the bet. Like you have already learnt, women cannot resist challenges. It is an opportunity for us to test men. We don’t instinctively know why we test men but we do sometimes realize that we are doing it. A direct bet from Jack and that to one that involved an incentive would have been too difficult for Jane to pass up. Also women also love to believe that men aren’t able to resist our advances. I guess this belief has come about due to the way we are conditioned by the media since a very young age. When Jane wins the bet she does feel a level of satisfaction and gloats about her victory but what confuses her is that on the inside she feels frustrated with the fact that she won so easily. It is as if Jane was secretly hoping that Jack would have been able to resist her for an hour. Even though Jack and she did sleep together when he caved in you can bet that she was frustrated. Following her victory, Jane would find her self finding a lot of other men sexually attractive. This is pretty much what happened to me

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when Kole used the technique on me. As soon as I won I was gloating on the outside but the fact that I had won frustrated me a little bit and made me loose quite a bit of my sexual attraction towards Kole. However the fact that Kole kept up to his side of the bargain and got me the dress the next day made me subconsciously classify him as a provider personality. So even though I had lost a bit of sexual attraction towards him, I felt very affectionate and loyal towards him. Kole Raymond: The reason why this technique worked so well in Jack’s case is that he followed the guidelines laid out in the manual really well. ♠ He made sure he picked up a day when Jane was in a good mood. Remember her mood plays a big part on how the situation will pan out. ♠ He made sure not to rush the techniques. He listened to her for an hour. Made sure the conversation was fun and steered it away from anything serious. ♠ He made sure his tone was playful throughout. If you follow the guidelines properly I can assure you that a woman will just not be able to refuse the bet. This has to do with the way nature programmed her. Women use these tests to check the emotional quotients of the men they are with. Seduction experts also use this knowledge but for a whole different purpose. They know that women test men in order to check their personalities and emotional quotients. They also know that testing men comes naturally to women. What they do is create situations where women will challenge and test them. Then they make sure they win these tests and challenges. This makes women subconsciously believe they have good genes and thus the women find these men sexually attractive. The reason I have bought up seduction techniques is to bring to your notice how strong this instinct in women is and how you can use it to get a woman either sexually attracted towards you or to reduce her sexual attraction towards you. There are literally hundreds of seduction experts out there operating in a multimillion dollar industry all teaching more or less the same thing in different words. If you’re a wannabe cuckold, then challenging your woman and then

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loosing the challenge does wonders to kill parts of her sexual attraction towards you. When used along with the traits of a provider personality it will get your woman to feel high levels of commitment and loyalty towards you but still find her self unexplainably sexually attracted to other men. By this stage your woman should be already fantasying of sleeping with other men. Once you successfully apply the technique a second time you can be quite confident that you are very close to getting your woman to cuckold you. A lot of men write in that they feel that the dialogue between Jack and Jane may not work in their case. My answer to them is that the dialogue between Jack and Jane is an example and the dialogue isn’t supposed to be copied into your dialogue with your woman while challenging her. It is important to remember that all relationships are different. No one knows your woman better than you do, so you yourself will have to figure out how to go about the conversation for the challenge technique. It does help if you can visualize the scenario and what you plan to say before hand rather that trying to come up with impromptu.

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Chapter 10 Submissive Body Language Submissive body language is a great way to let your woman know that you would like her to take control of the relationship with out actually having to express it to her in words. Women unlike men instinctively pick up on body language cues and translate them to their correct meaning. When submissive body language is used for a while before confessing your desire to be a cuckold it has the effect of mentally preparing your woman to be receptive to the idea of a cuckold relationship. Submissive body language has the effect of reducing the attraction feelings which as I have said before is very important if you want your woman to willingly agree to cuckold you. Most men who desire the cuckold lifestyle are normally strong personalities with strong positive body language. They are often apprehensive about using submissive body language. However you do not have to change your positive body language into one that is submissive. You just have to fake it when dealing with your woman. It does not matter if your body language towards others even in her presence is strong and positive as long as your body language towards her is weak and submissive. Also once you have got your woman to cuckold you there is no need to continue to use submissive body language if you are not comfortable with it. However in my experience I have noticed that most men will however continue to use submissive body language even after they have been cuckolded. Submissive body language is a vast area and the techniques laid down here are by no means the last word on submissive body language. However for the purpose of mentally preparing your woman to be receptive to the idea of cuckolding you the techniques below have been tried and tested and have proved to be sufficient. Submissive body language can be broken into three main parts. 1) Submissive body language and body movements. 2) Submissive walking, seating and sleeping gestures. 3) Other submissive gestures.

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Each part contains various submissive gestures that I have found women instinctively pick up on. If you apply these gestures correctly you should find your woman taking more control of the relationship and being more dominant towards you. Submissive body language and body movements This category of submissive body language is best used after the challenge technique and after you have picked up a fight and have apologized to your woman. While the other two categories of submissive body language are encouraged to be used all the time it is preferable that you refrain from using these gestures and movements on an every day basis as you run the risk of appearing too weak and being classified as a looser chic personality type. Head down gesture The head down gesture is a perfect gesture that shows submissiveness. The head bends down with eyes slightly facing towards the floor. Not much eye contact is maintained even while in the course of conversation. This gesture works best immediately after admitting to your woman that she is in the right after an argument. Preferably the apology is tendered to the woman with the head in this position. I have found that many men also like to use this gesture after the challenge technique and later on when they are witnessing their cuckolding. You just have to bow your head down a little bit. You do not have to look as if your woman has punished you. Reducing body size Reducing the body size by a male when in conversation with a female is instinctively perceived as submission on the male’s part by the woman. This gesture is achieved by hunching inwards along with the head down gesture that lead to the body reducing in size. Women love being in the right after arguments and nothing shows that men agree that they are in the right than men reducing their body size along with the head down gesture. Again remember that women instinctively pick up body language cues so no need to over act on this or any other gesture. A slight hunch with a light bow of the head is good enough.

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Widened eyes This is one gesture that has to be used all the time when you are with your woman. It is achieved by widening your eyes more than you normally do. Occasionally widening your eyes and letting them appear as if they are dilated is perceived as a courting gesture and sparks attraction. Continuously dilated pupils’ however makes you look like a baby and hence signals your vulnerability and submissiveness and will end up reducing the attraction feelings. Just widen your eyes a bit more than you normally do and your woman will instinctively pick up that you are being submissive. Open Palms The open palm gesture has the primary intent of showing submission and is commonly used as a pleading gesture. People use this gesture everyday when dealing with authority. In this gesture palms face upwards with open fists while talking to the woman. This gesture works best when used during an argument and not only does it convey your submissiveness towards your woman but it also subconsciously tells her that you think of her as an authority figure. Submissive walking, seating and sleeping gestures Most men are not aware that even the way they walk, sit and sleep can help mentally convey to a woman their desire to be submissive towards her. Unlike submissive body language, the walking, seating and sleeping gestures can be used continuously throughout the relationship without any fear of being classified as a looser chic personality. Walking gestures The next time you are walking on the street or are in the mall take a look at all the couples walking around you. Notice how majority of the men are walking on the outer side of the woman? Men normally subconsciously do this to protect the woman and to show the woman that he is the stronger personality of the two. Switching this around so that you are walking on her inner side has the effect of her mentally classifying you as the weaker personality. However in order for the walking gesture to have its desired affect you

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will have to employ it every time you and your woman are walking until you have entered the cuckold lifestyle. Just occasionally adopting this gesture will not achieve the desired effect. Seating arrangements Seating arrangements not only plays a role in establishing the woman’s dominance in the relationship but also comes in handy when you confess your desire to be cuckolded. One such sitting arrangement involves letting your woman sit at the head of the table during meals. Historically the man has always sat at the head of the table. Giving up this seat to her will be perceived by her as you handing over control of the relationship to her. For this arrangement to work it is important that you’ll dine at a table and not the sofa. Also the table has to be square or rectangular and not round. Sleeping arrangements Sleeping arrangements are a lot similar to walking arrangements but might require a bit of preparation. First position your bed so that one side directly touches the wall. Now when the bed is placed in such a manner most couples would assume the sleeping arrangement where the woman is sandwiched between the wall and the man. This is a dominant for you to let her prepare her to be will have to sleep wall.

protective gesture on the part of the man. However establish control in the relationship and mentally receptive to the idea of a cuckold relationship you so that you are sandwiched between her and the

Majority of the women love being sandwiched in and might not agree to the sleeping arrangement but you will have to convince her to let you sleep sandwiched between. This sleeping arrangement like all the other gestures in this chapter helps convey to your woman your desire to be submissive towards her. Other Submissive gestures Under this part of submissive body language you will learn how the smallest of acts will help mentally prepare her to be receptive to the idea of cuckolding you. You have to be consistent in performing these gestures for them to take effect. Like the walking, seating and sleeping

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gestures and arrangements you can safely use these gestures through out the relationship without fear of being classified as a looser chic type of personality. Woman on top position Whenever you have sex with the woman that you seek to cuckold you, make sure it is in the woman on top position. Try not to indulge in the missionary position as it portrays dominance on the male’s part. The woman on top position is a female dominant gesture. If your woman is insistent on the missionary position tell her you have picked up an injury and that the missionary position hurts your back. If you do not know what these positions are you will have to look them up on the internet. Hand over control of the remote Men always hog the remote control when watching television with a woman. What you probably did not know is that men do this at a subconscious level to show dominance over the woman. A great submissive gesture is to let her slowly take control of the remote control. When you hand over the remote you not only hand over control of the television but you also subconsciously convey to her that you would like her to take more control in the relationship. Let her pick the channels she wants and go along watching those TV channels. Serve her during meals In most relationships the woman normally serves her man during meals. Historically the man was the bread winner so serving a man during meal times was a submissive gesture carried out on the woman’s part. Now days this gesture has carried on even though most women are independent. In some relationships the men and women serve themselves during meal times. This shows that the woman considers herself as an equal in the relationship. In order to give her control of the relationship and appear submissive you should start serving her during meal times. Initially this will appear romantic and may spark attraction feelings but over time it gives her the feeling of dominance. The key to this and all other gestures is consistency in their application. Using these gestures inconsistently will not help much.

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For the purpose of keeping this book as short as possible I have given only a few examples on other submissive gestures. As you start putting them into practice you will find yourself figuring and applying your own submissive gestures. Remember that submissive body language is a very important part of getting your woman to willingly agree to cuckold you. If you are one of those men who are not too comfortable with submissive body language remember that you only got to fake it until your woman agrees to cuckold you. Now let us get back to Jack and Jane and see how Jack is progressing. You have already seen that Jack was very successful in applying the “Challenge Technique” as well as picking up a fight with Jane and quickly apologizing. What I didn’t tell you back then was that Jack also made great use of submissive body language when putting the earlier techniques in to use. Like I said earlier, women have a great sense of intuition and added to that they are naturals at reading body language cues. Whether you are implementing the techniques taught to you in the manual or you are confessing your desires of a cuckold lifestyle to your woman, you will be served well if you can fake your body language to come across as submissive to your partner. Some men implement the techniques taught in this manual really well but because they skip this chapter or because the do not bother to fake their body language their women instinctively and intuitively pick up that something doesn’t add up. Even if they don’t realize it at a conscious level, you can be sure that women will subconsciously know that something is not right and start to feel a bit weird when the techniques are applied on them. So when Jack picked the day to fight with Jane he made sure that he was sending the right body signals at the right time. When he first picked up the fight he had strong body language and made a fair amount of eye contact. This subconsciously told Jane that Jack was indeed angry. He needed to have strong positive body language while picking up the fight or else Jane may have realized that something was not right. When Jack came back after a while, His body language was in stark contrast to what it was when he had earlier picked up the fight. He came back and made his apology and while he did make a little eye

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contact to show that the apology was genuine he also made sure his head was slightly pointing downwards so as to come across as submissive towards Jane. He also dilated his eyes and reduced his body size by hunching slightly. While he tendered his apology to Jane he made sure that his palms were open and facing skywards. Whenever people make an apology, they usually adopt most of the gestures that Jack faked when making his apology to Jane. Men don’t normally notice these gestures because we aren’t very good at reading body cues and signals but women definitely do. So when Jack made his apology and all his body cues matched what he said then Jane really believed that Jack was sorry and that gave her a sense of control over the relationship. Lisa Raymond: Whenever a man picks up a fight with a woman the woman will always try to gauge his body language. If his body language appears weak while he fights then we intuitively know that the man can be conned with a quick apology. Weak body language tells us that the man isn’t serious about the fight but just needs his ego stroked. So we immediately tender a quick apology and almost instantly the man will calm down. Women use fights as another way to challenge a man. We have learnt that weak body language on a man’s part means that he isn’t really serious about the fight and hence we don’t even bother challenging him by fighting back. Some women may not realize that they do this but a lot of us women are actually conscious of this fact. If you have a really close friend of the opposite sex you can ask her if she notices body language when fighting with her husband or boyfriend. Then ask her if she can gauge the level of his anger just by reading his body language cues. Most women may not readily admit this point for fear of coming across as manipulative but if the woman is very close to you then she should give a smile and readily admit it. So when Jack picked up a fight with Jane the first thing Jane did was to try and gauge his body language. Had Jack not used positive body language at that point, Jane would have realized he was not serious about the fight and quickly tendered an apology to Jack. This would have worked against Jack who was trying to implement a technique so that he could come across as a provider personality.

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The moment Jane realized that Jack was indeed serious about the fight she instinctively took this as an opportunity to challenge Jack. This behavior seems a bit odd but it is just the way women are programmed to be. It is when Jack is angry that Jane gets to test his temperament and thus his emotional quotient. She then uses this to mentally draw conclusions on whether he is a weak or strong personality. When Jack came back and apologized to Jane, she would have first looked at his body language cues to judge if his apology was fake or genuine. The moment she realized that his body language was submissive and matched his verbal apology she immediately felt in control of the relationship. The moment she feels in control she subconsciously starts to believe that Jack is a dependable mate and reliable. We already know that once a woman feels that her mate is dependable her attraction feelings towards him reduce and her attraction feelings towards other men increase. All this is beneficial when you are trying to get your woman to willingly agree to this lifestyle. Kole Raymond: I think what Lisa just shared with you is enough evidence of how important submissive body language is when you are trying to get your woman to agree to a cuckold lifestyle. When I first developed the techniques I knew that body language cues would play a big part if I was to get my woman to agree to this lifestyle however I didn’t know that they played such a big part and that women were so good at reading these cues and signals. Women will not only try to read your body language when you pick up a fight with her but also when you try to use the “Challenge Technique”. The reason I didn’t tell you this earlier is because I felt this bit of information would have more value if presented to you towards the end of this chapter rather than earlier on. When you implement the “Challenge Technique” make sure your body language is strong and positive when making the challenge to your woman. If your body language comes across as strong, positive and most importantly playful then you can be sure that the effect of loosing the challenge will have a better effect on your woman. Since women are designed to challenge men, even if you don’t pay

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much attention to your body language your woman will still readily accept the challenge because this is how women are naturally programmed. However I strongly recommend you use strong and playful body language when making the challenge to your woman. It is very important that when you loose the challenge that your body language comes across as submissive and weak. You should try to use the head down gesture as well as open palms and widened eyes. Loosing the challenge and then exhibiting weak and submissive body language towards your woman will cement your position as a reliable mate and reduce her attraction towards you. One by one start incorporating all the submissive gestures into your relationship. Don’t rush it but instead one by one introduce one new gesture at a time until all the gestures are being used in tandem. Once again, if you aren’t too comfortable with submissive body signals just remember that you only need to fake it till your woman cuckolds you. Once you have successfully applied all the techniques that I have taught you your woman will be ready to willingly agree to this lifestyle. If you use all the techniques correctly then your woman will be mentally receptive to the idea of a cuckold relationship.

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Chapter 11 How To Confess Your Cuckold Desires To Your Woman Confessing your desire of a cuckold lifestyle to your woman can be both daunting and scary. It would be a huge risk to do so without implementing the techniques taught to you in this book first. Confessing your desire for a cuckold relationship without implementing the techniques taught could cost you your relationship. However if you have successfully implemented all the ideas and techniques taught then you yourself will be surprised at how receptive your woman will be to the idea of a cuckold lifestyle. It is important to understand how most men and women view relationships. Men put a lot of emphasis on sex while women normally put a lot of focus and attention on the relationship. Most men who confess their desire to be cuckolded always make the mistake of only explaining the sexual part of the cuckold lifestyle. They directly tell their women that they would like them to sleep with other men. This often results in the women not agreeing to be a part of the cuckold lifestyle. In order to get your woman to agree to the cuckold lifestyle you have to explain the lifestyle to her in detail and make sure you put the emphasis on the growth of the relationship rather than only the sexual act of it. You have to make sure you have implemented all the techniques in this book and that they are working. Many men apply only few of the techniques before confessing their desire to be cuckolded only to have their women say no. I have spent a lot of time developing these techniques. These techniques are designed to supplement each other to get your woman to willingly agree to cuckold you. If you are serious in realizing your desire to be cuckolded make sure that you implement all the techniques taught to you. Next you have to pick the right time to confess your desire for a cuckold relationship Remember that timing is everything. Do not bring up the topic when she is stressed out or if you’ll have recently had an argument. Use your commonsense on this one. Some women are more relaxed in the morning and some at night.

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There is no hard and fast rule on this one. You know your woman the best so pick a time when you think she is most relaxed. If you are not sure then I suggest you observe her for a while and try to figure out at which time she is normally most relaxed. Make sure you use submissive body language when making your confession. You have already learnt about submissive body language in an earlier chapter. Many men email me asking if they should set up any particular ambience before they confess their desire to be cuckolded. To be honest I do not think that this is necessary. The reason being that if you have successfully applied all the techniques taught in this book then there is no need to do anything extra. However some men do prefer to set up an ambience with candles and other stuff. If you think that setting up an ambience will help then go ahead. If you have correctly applied all the contents of this book then your woman should either willingly agree to cuckold you or ask for a day or so to think it over. Some women ask for time to think it over for fear of looking sluttish if they agree straight away. Have patience because when a woman asks for time she is most probably going to agree to cuckold you. Quick review of the steps to take before confessing your desires of a cuckold lifestyle Step 1: Keep in mind how men and women view relationships. Remember to be completely honest with your desires. Remember not to put the emphasis on the sexual aspect of a cuckold lifestyle but rather on how a cuckold lifestyle can help enhance the relationship. Step 2: Remember to use all the techniques before you confess your desire to be cuckolded. Not using all the techniques may end up in your woman not agreeing to cuckold you. Step 3: Timing is everything! Make sure you confess your desires to be cuckolded at a time when your woman is normally calm and relaxed. Step 4: Do not forget to use the submissive body gestures that you learnt earlier. Remember women instinctively pick up on body language cues.

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Lisa Raymond: You got to remember how women will feel when you make your confession. Speaking from experience, if the techniques are applied correctly the woman will be receptive to the idea however she will not readily admit it for fear of looking slutty. It is at this point that you have to be confident on the topic and clear any misconceptions that a woman may have. Focus on the relationship rather than on the sexual act of things. When Kole first bought up the topic to me, I was very receptive to the idea but I still had many doubts about the lifestyle. I asked a lot of questions that night but seeing Kole so confident really helped me. Kole also paid a lot of attention on the relationship and stressed how this lifestyle would actually bring us together. Ten years later and I can say that he was right as we have really become very close to each other.

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Chapter 12 Guidelines For A Healthy Cuckold Relationship Both partners should define boundaries. Before indulging in the cuckold lifestyle it is very important that both partners sit down and define boundaries that they are comfortable with. Talk to each other and make sure that both of you know exactly what is acceptable and what is not. Explain clearly to each other which activities of the cuckold lifestyle you are comfortable with and which activities you are not. As long as any activity is mutually agreed too it will not cause any damage to the relationship. Remember indulging in the cuckold lifestyle without laying down clear boundaries can lead to one partner getting hurt and it will end up causing damage to the relationship. Make sure you are in compliance with the law. Before indulging in the cuckold lifestyle do make sure that you are in compliance with the local law. In some countries cuckoldry is illegal. While most countries will not have a law specifically relating to cuckoldry there will be laws in relation to adultery. Make sure that you go through these laws first. Make sure that you understand the law relating to adultery in your country clearly. Some countries allow cuckoldry by definition of their adultery laws. If cuckoldry is illegal in your country and you do go ahead remember that you are doing so at your own risk. Practice safe sex. Like any other sexual encounter make sure that you practice safe sex. Remember that there are a lot of diseases out there. Remember that some of the sexually transmitted diseases do not even have a proper cure yet. It is not worth getting infected just because you want to indulge in your fantasies. Make sure you use your common sense. If at all you decide that there is a need to exchange body fluids then make sure that you are absolutely certain of the other person’s health status. If in case you are already infected then please make sure that you take precautions

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not to spread the disease to anyone else. Choose the bull with care. It is very important that you select the other man well. Make sure that both you and your woman are comfortable with him. Most couples choose a man that they already know and are comfortable with. However if you do not know the bull make sure that you get to know him before indulging in any sexual activity. Try to choose a bull that fits into your strata of society. No matter how rich or poor you are they will be bulls from the same section of society. Only if both you and your partner are comfortable with him should you go ahead. If you are not comfortable with him it is okay to say no. Remember that there are a lot of guys who are willing to play the role of a bull. Be patient and you will find one that both you and your woman are comfortable with. Take sufficient precautions Make sure you take sufficient precautions before indulging in the cuckold lifestyle. There are a lot of nasty people out there who pose as bulls and will later turn around and try to blackmail you for money. Other guys pose as bulls to try to make a quick buck by robbing you. Make sure that cell phones and cameras are not allowed. Always perform any sexual acts in the comforts of your home or a place where you are sure of its safety. Remember in the previous point I told you to choose a bull from your strata of society. The most important thing is to have fun. Remember that the most important thing is to enjoy the cuckold lifestyle and have fun. I have found that when all the other guidelines in this chapter are followed the cuckold lifestyle is both enjoyable and fun for both partners. The man realizes his desire to be cuckolded. The woman satisfies her biological need to have a variety of sexual partners and the relationship blossoms.

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Here is to a happy cuckold lifestyle. Yours truly,

Kole Raymond

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