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craigslist Conqueror An Expert’s Guide Guide to Getting Laid Usin Using g Craigslist
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idnight, more than an hour from home. On a work night. Driving north on the interstate, a pack of 24 Trojan Trojan condoms on the seat next to me. Good God, God , what the hell was I doing? Had I completely lost my mind? Yes, Yes, I denitely had. And yet nothing could keep me from where I was going.
My destination: a girl. Of course.
I had neverherself met her, her , never spoken to herwas on the the rst phone, didn’ didn’t even knowwhatever her name. In herbut emails she called “H.” I assumed that letter of ther name, it was, it didn’tt really matter. didn’ matter. All that did matter was wa s that she was just about thirty minutes up the road now, waiting to fuck me. And that was propelling me into the darkness. I got to the cheap interstate motel she had found for us. I jumped out of the car with my prized box of condoms, leapt across the hood Dukes-of-Hazard-style and bounded for door 109. A couple of knocks and then the long wait of about ten seconds before the door opened. And there she was. Short, blonde, slightly overweight and looking just as scared scared and excited as I felt. Not exactly the stuff of centerfolds, but then again, not too shabby either. either. “Hi,” she said. “Hi,” I said back, back , waiting for something to happen. After a long moment of staring at each other in silence across ac ross the cheap motel threshold, hormones kicked in. I walked through the door, closed and locked it behind me, pushed her against the wall and began kissing her hard as I started undressing undressing her. her. My rst Craigslist Conquest had begun …
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SOME IMPORTANT DISCLAIMERS: There are dangers present on Craigslist (CL), physical, nancial, nan cial, moral and legal. Always be aware. CL is not moderated. There is nothing stopping dangerous people from luring unsuspecting CL users to a location where they will be robbed … or worse. CL is an active place for all types of scammers who will try to steal your money. And even when you are successful in nding a woman and getting her into bed, every single casual hookup carries with it the dangers of venereal disease, unwanted pregnancies, an angry boyfriend, husband or ex who nds you with “his” woman, or the possibility that you just bedded a stalker … or worse. There is also nothing stopping someone from claiming they are over the age of consent when they really aren’t, which will put you in prison. The author and publishers of this book take no responsibility for the results of your activities on CL, nor no r with any of the people with whom you may interact. Be smart and ALWA ALWAYS watch your back. This book is meant to help nice people nd each other to have safe fun. Those who choose to use any of the information in this book to cause injury, hurt others, ruin lives and break laws will be hunted down and tortured until they literally beg to be put out of their misery once and for all. So don’t do it. This book and all connected projects are in no way afliated with any business, company or other business interest mentioned within these pages. We We have no intention of infringing on trademarks, copyrights, patents, business models or any other proprietary materials or ideas.
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Table of contents:
1. Why I wrote this book..................................................................................................6 2. Why Craigslist?.................................................................................................................13 Craigslist?................................................................................................... ..............13 3. Wha What t kind o of f man can sco score re on craigslist?................................................20 4. The too tools ls you’ll ne need ed to succe succeed ed o on n craigslist craigslist........................................25 ........................................25 5. How to answer o or r place an ad o on n craigslist craigslist...............................................31 ...............................................31 6. The game stra strategy tegy........................................................ ...........................................................................................................37 ...................................................37 7. Buildin Building g your co communi mmunica cations tions stra strategy tegy................................................... .......................................................47 ....47 8. Women and the powe power r of their f fant antasies......................................................54 asies......................................................54 9. Writing your ads: creating success from your first wo word..... rd.......... .........61 ....61 10. It’s no not t a conversa conversation. tion. It’ It’s s forepla foreplay y................................................... ...............................................................81 ............81 11. Answerin Answering g her post post................................................... ..................................................................................................110 ...............................................110 12. The fin final al hurd hurdle le and the first meeting!...................................................115 13. Sp Spam, am, scams and other assor assorted ted douche douchebaggery baggery.................................121 .................................121 14. Achieving you your r more complica complicated ted fant fantasies...........................................138 asies...........................................138 15. The checklist of failu failure....................................................... re........................................................................................142 .................................142 16. Impor Import tant p parting arting thoughts............................................................................145
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Why I Wrote This Book Book I know, I know. You’re horny, you’re frustrated, and you want to nd a woman. I used to be just like you. Hell, in most ways I still am. The only difference between you and me is that I’ve spent 18 months exploring how to break the code on how to sleep with dozens and dozens of women on Craigslist. And I’ve been incredibly successful. More succe successful ssful than I ever could have imagined. And I’m about to teach you yo u all of my secrets. But rst, because I understand what you’re y ou’re looking for, let me tell you this: if you just want to go straight to getting laid, go directly to Chapters 6-12 and start reading. Then log on to Craigslist and use what I’ve taught you in those chapters. But then come back here to learn the rest. There’ There’ss a lot of strategy involved in being a complete Craigslist success. And I think I have an intriguing story that will keep you riveted. But I know you’re eager to start. Chapter Six begins on page 37. So who am I? And why would you listen to anything I have to say? Well, up until my mid-30s, I had only slept with a handful of women. Four to be exact. exa ct. I was overweight, balding, never considered particularly handsome or smooth and certainly not rich. I had never been a ladies’ man, nor did I ever expect to be. But I was recently divorced, lonely, horny and ready to experience all I could. And then I heard a news story abo about ut all kinds of unseemly things happening in the personals section of Craigslist. So I decided to take a look. After all, I was sad, lonely and had nothing better to do. And what did I nd?
Post after post by women looking for a man. Some wanted a quick hookup. Some wanted a longterm relationship. But they were all there, looking for someone. And best of all, the entire personals section was completely free to use. It was completely free to answer posts, and completely free to place posts! There was no risk in trying, and hey, hey, I was lonely anyway anyway.. It took me more than a week of answering ads posted by women before I communicated with my rst real woman via email, and it took another three weeks before I met and had sex with my rst Craigslist woman. But after I had accomplished it once, I knew there had to be some kind of science or art to meeting more. It turns out o ut I was right.
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After 18 months I had met more than150 women in person, and slept with more than 120 of them. Just so you don’t have to do the math in your head, that averages out to one new conquest every four or ve days for a year and a half. And I wasn’t JUST having sex with them. I was living out all kinds of long-held sexual fantasies too: all kinds of role-play, experimenting with BDSM BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism), semi-public sex, having two or three women, individually, in a 24-hour period and even engaging in several threesomes with two women at once. Some were one-night stands, some were passionate relationships that lasted for months. And I met all kinds of women, some of whom will probably be lifelong friends. Yes, I was having great, great fun, living every man’s dream. But over that time, I was also reading the Craigslist posts of other men who didn’t seem to be having quite my levels of success, watching them posts ads like this:
So horny;) - m4w - 24 (Mesa) Date: 2011-03-11, 5:30PM MST Reply To This Post Post Got a boner going on and I need to fuck rite Know! I’m 24 6’4 Hispanic if this sounds like someone you Would do hit me up. Hurry please lol;)
Once the women of Mesa learned this guy needed to “fuck rite Know” they didn’t come running to service him? What’s wrong with the women of Mesa?
need pussy fast - m4w - 20 (central phx) Date: 2011-02-14, 2:39PM MST Reply To This Post Post Looking for female no bi or gay guy ok thanks bye
He needs pussy fast! What woman could possibly resist a sales pitch like that?
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need pussy now - m4w - 38 (Scottsdale) Date: 2011-03-02, 12:48AM MST Reply To This Post i need to fuck someone pussy right now. i can come to you. email me back if ur horney ;)
Look, ladies! He will even COME TO YOU! Why aren’t you responding??? What more does a guy need to say? Maybe if instead of full-blown sex, he was just asking for a blow job?
Head - m4w - 20 (Red ( Red mountain MCC) Date: 2011-03-16, 10:06AM MST Reply To This Post
email me and lets get this done white DDF 20 5’9 6 IN today would be great :D
Still not buying it, ladies? Okay, what if there was more of a narrative behind his need for a blow job?
woke up with a woody - m4w - 20 (28th ave peoria) Date: 2011-03-11, 8:55AM MST Reply To This Post Any lady want to fuck right now I can host too Pic for pic and stats Put your favorite color on subject mine is red FEMALES ONLY
(Penis picture redacted)
He even included a picture of his penis, which I have spared you here. Still no replies, ladies? Maybe this one was a bit too young for you. Or you just didn’t like his verbiage. Let’s have an
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older man try it with slightly different wording and a picture of a different penis …
Need my morning wood sucked away......... - m4w - 35 (North Phoenix) Date: 2011-03-13, 9:04AM MST Reply To This Post
Woke up hard and horny and looking for a nice BJ before heading into work. Must be clean and very di discrete......put screte......put BJ in the subject line to weed out spam....
(Penis picture redacted)
Still nothing, ladies? Really? If someone doesn’t answer one of o f these ads soon, these guys are going to start posting ads like this:
this fucking sucks - m4w - 22 (Phoenix) Date: 2011-02-04, 8:23PM MST Post Reply To This Post
fuck this craigslist sucks it’s nothing but fucking spam not one real woman here
CL doesn’t work - m4w - 30 (Spamville) Date: 2011-02-23, 7:19PM MST Reply To This Post Post
I guess Craigs List sucks ... it’s full of spammers ....
It’ It’ss time to stop the madness. There are real women on Craigslist who want to have real sex with
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real men. All you need to do to get them to respond is to know ho how w. That is why I wrote this book, and I assume that is why you’re you ’re reading it. Who this book is written for As I observed how other men were approaching women on CL and failing again and again, I knew someone needed to write a book to help all the horny men on CL actually succeed with all of the horny women. Since nobody has done that yet, the job fell to me. So this book is for you, horny men.
While Craigslist certainly provides a comfortable online destination for people of all stripes (men, women, heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, lesbian, transgendered, transgendered, etc.) I am a heterosexual man whose experience only involved the search for women. My assumption is that, in reading this book, you are looking for anything from a variety of one-night stands to a more consistent relationship relationship with one or more women. If you’re looking for something different, you will still nd ideas in this book to help you in nding partners partners on CL, although although some of what I write write here will will not apply. apply. Now, there are a million ways to fail when you’re trying to use the Craigslist pers Now, personals onals to meet women. I have found one way that succeeds, and it succeeds repeatedly in the most amazing ways with the most beautiful, sexy and intelligent women. My way is easy, but it’s it’s not simple. There are important rules and strategies. It’s It’s like shing. Any guy with a shing pole can show up at a body of water and start casting. And every once in a while, he may actually catch some kind of sh, even if it’s it’s the of shtypes he didn’t really want. experienced thehungry sh; he knows thetype different of sh that he canBut ndthe at certain spots,sherman he knowsunderstands when they’re and when they’re not. He knows what bait will work best for each kind of sh. And he knows how to catch the maximum amount of sh with the minimum amount of eeffort. ffort. That is what I will show you how to do in this book. Only instead of sh, we’re looking for women. It’s going to be fun! This book is not meant to be a how-to for all sections of Craigslist. If you’re looking for help h elp in using the CL sections that don’t involve dating and sex, you can easily nd books that explain that in bookstores and at sites like Amazon.com. So what exactly are the CL personals? In case you haven’t heard, Craigslist (or CL) is a site originally created by Craig Newmark in 1995 for the San Francisco area as an online community bulletin board. Today it has grown into a worldwide phenomenon in which anyone can connect with people in their area to sell almost anything, announce a public event or meet likeminded others for any number of reasons. More than 55 million people log on to CL every month. Of course, meeting for casual sexual encounters is the most popular reason for people to meet through CL. And CL has become the single most-visited site for casual sexual hookups on the entire internet. I’ll explain why in the next chapter.
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took a right turn, pulling into a quiet residential neighborhood, coming to a stop in front of the third house on the right.
“I’m here,” I texted. “What’s your address?” “Wait there, coming to you,” came the reply.
She came around from a house on the left. Her hair was wa s a little shorter than in the pictures she sent me, but it was denitely her. She waived. I waived back as I hit the unlock switch on the car’ car ’s center console. She walked around the car, car, opened the passenger door, door, dropped into the seat and closed the door. door. “Hi,” she said, leaning in. I leaned in too, closed my eyes and kissed her slowly, passionately. passionately. I felt her hands, one on my chest, the other in my lap. I reciprocated reciprocated with one hand gently on the back of her neck, the other nding its way up her skirt. As my ngers found what they were were looking for, for, she sighed, leaned the seat back and spread her legs farther apart. “Hi. It’s It’s nice to meet you,” I whispered. “Thank you for coming to get me,” she whispered back breathlessly breathlessly.. “My girlfriend has my car today.” With With that she moved my hand, han d, pulled her skirt to the oor, and put my hand back between legs, which was where most of my consciousness was now focused. focu sed. Yet Yet she had made a comment that was quickly forming a question in my mind: “Uh … your girlfriend?” “Yeah. I’m a lesbian,” she breathed. “You know that, right? This will only be my second time with “Yeah. a guy.” “Oh.” With Wi th that thought burning a path through my brain and my right hand rmly ensconced between
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her legs, I turned the steering wheel hard with my left hand, making a sudden U-turn and heading back to my place. We could be there in less than twenty minutes if I drove fast enough …
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Why Craigslist? You’re a busy single man. You’re You’re tired of being alone. And there is an entire world of online dating/ sex sites to explore to nd either the woman of your dreams or a woman to take care of your immediate needs. So you investigate your typical dating/sex d ating/sex site. You You log on, look around aroun d and see there are hundreds of women local to you, most of them rather hot, so you pay your $30-$40 and you join for a month. Then you start sending messages to women. And then you wait. After a couple of weeks, you’re hopefully talking to one real woman, maybe even two. The conversations take the usual course all online dating conversations do: what part of town you live in, where you’re from originally, the makeup of your family growing up, favorite foods, favorite vacation destinations, prior marriages and kids, what you do for a living and what you want out of a relationship. Once you’ve spent a week getting through all of that information, she’s she’s hopefully ready to meet. So you meet for coffee somewhere. If you’re lucky, at the end of that meeting you get a quick kiss, but you’ll you ’ll probably just get a hug. Then a second meeting, a real date, for dinner somewhere and the opportunity to spend more time and money. And if that goes well, there will be more dates, more time and money spent, and still no sex. And, if you play your cards ca rds right, you may get laid after just four or ve weeks of sending emails, going on dates and selling yourself. But to what kind of buyer? Even if the site is more devoted to nding sex partners than to traditional dating, the sex is very very,, very rarely immediate. And the women tend to be looking for something more long term than a casual encounter. Or you could decide to get all dressed up, go to a bar and buy overpriced drinks for the limited number of women there, each of whom you have little chance of taking home that night. Either way it’s a lot of time and energy. energy. And if you pursue women the way I used to, with frequent drinks, dinner and entertainment, that’s a lot of money too. Or … you could be using Craigslist casual encounters. Y You ou get on CL and browse the w4m ads. You answer any that are recent, seem real and appeal to you. Then you post an ad or two of your own, turn on some ESPN and wait for responses. As you’re waiting, you continue to monitor the
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latest posts by women. And then, after 45 minutes, you get a nibble either to a post you responded to or to an ad you posted. The email conversation begins: what are you looking for tonight? Let’s trade pictures. Okay, we both think we each look acceptable. ac ceptable. Will we be doing this at your place or mine? Should we meet somewhere in public rst? Do you hav havee any diseases? What’s your address? And suddenly, you’re preparing to get laid with a woman you didn’t even know existed earlier that day. Even if she decides she wants to meet you in a public place, all yo you’re u’re going to have to do is buy her a drink, spend 15 minutes having a polite conversation and manage to not come off as a potential axe murderer. murderer. And the whole exercise took only a few hours from the time you signed on to CL until you were naked with a woman. The considered purchase versus the impulse buy Marketers have long understood that people peop le buy different types of products in different ways. Some purchases require some thought, maybe mayb e some research. Others are “impulse buys.” Co Consider nsider a woman at a grocery store. In the cereal aisle she picks up a brightly colored box. She reads the contents, checks the calories, maybe the amount of sugar and the price. She puts that box back on the shelf and picks up a different brand, repeating the process. Finally she makes her choice, puts it in the cart and moves on o n to the next aisle. The next time she’s in this aisle, she may simply buy the same brand again, or you may see her examining multiple b brands rands before making her choice. This is
a considered purchase for her. But watch that woman when she gets to the checkout line. She grabs a pack of gum and throws it on the conveyor belt. No real examination of contents, price or anything else. She grabs it and the decision is made. This is an impulse buy. It’ It’ss the same way with online dating/sex sites. The traditional sites are set up to make you a “considered purchase” for her. You You answer questions. You You ll out compatibility surveys. You You write essay questions about who you are a re and what you want. Y You ou give them more information than even the IRS would ask you. By the time she writes her rst word to you, she knows: your height, your body type, your eye color, your hair color, your age, your birth date, whe whether ther you’ve ever been married, if you have any kids, whether they’re living with you, what part of town you live in, your hobbies, your pets, the industry you work within, what you like to do on a date and a variety of other things you may choose to share about yourself. On some sites she even knows all of your sexual proclivities and/or your yearly salary salary.. She approaches that site with a long-term plan: she joins, she carefully lls out everything, and then starts reading the notes she gets from the thousands (yes, thousands) of men trying to get her attention, with the intention of studying each one, and responding to the ones that seem like great prospects. She then starts going out on dates with the expectation of nding the perfect long-term partner. The very fact that a dating/sex site presents so much information about you to a potential date creates the assumption that all of this information is important in nding a date and needs need s to be taken into account. I mean, mean , honestly, do you really care about her eye ccolor olor or what she does for a living? No. But she is paying careful attention to every bit of information she sees on you, and making judgments with each new factoid.
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So you have already been examined, probed and investigated before she even bothers to communicate with you. And if you’re almost her perfect match, except you’re an inch shorter than she’d like, or she’d really like to nd someone with a different eye color, she moves on without so much as a hint that she might have been interested. Most women know they can nd someone a little more perfect if they just keep looking. She owes it to herself to be picky! But CL is the ONLY effective place online where whe re you can position yourself as her “impulse purchase.” She nds herself at home and bored, probably a little horny, so she gets on CL to see who she can meet and an d have fun with tonight. Yes, Yes, there is a pretty good cchance hance she’d rather be in a completely satisfying long-term relationship right now, now, but it takes a great deal of time and effort to get to that point, and she wants to have some fun tonight. It’s time time for her to grab an impulse purchase and put it on the checkout counter! So now, she has no need to see a full explanation of who you are and what you are a re all about. You You don’t have to commit yourself to a single deep dee p exposition into your heart and soul that every woman will read, contemplate and judge. Now, when you’re on CL, you are just the words crafted in a response to her post, specically specica lly for that woman to see. Or you are the words in your own ad, created to appeal directly to one kind of woman who will read what you have written and react with an email telling you she is interested, and interested NOW. With With each communication, co mmunication, you will position yourself as exactly the man she was wa s looking for tonight. She wants to go grab a drink at that new bar that opened ope ned up and then “see what happens from there”? What a coincidence! Y You ou were already planning on going there tonight! She needs someone who can please her orally over and over all night long? Perfect! That’s That’s your specialty! She wants someone she can tie down and use however she likes? Wonderful! Wonderful! You You can even bring the rope! Your long-term goals, your career, your history, history, everything she would focus on if you were a considered purchase, it’s all irrelevant. Because now you’re an impulse buy. Just be fun, honest and safe, and you will get laid. To sum it up: All other dating sites: atleast 4-5 weeks of work, much talking and cost to nally get to the sex. And
once you do, you’re now dating a woman who believes you’re least then somewhat CL casual encounters: a few hours of work, maybe the cost of aatdrink, casual,committed. no-strings sex. Additionally, keep in mind that traditional dating/sex sites serve the entire United States, and some Additionally, serve the entire world. While you may nd hundreds of women near you on a traditional site, none of the traditional sites are exclusively made up of women in your area, so your search is usually complicated by guring out the geography of each woman on the site. Plus, because traditional sites nd little benet in eliminating proles that have been inactive for months or years, even when you do identify the perfect “local” woman, she may never come back to that site to read your messages. But there are no proles on CL. Just ads posted every few minutes. And each CL site is provided exclusively for one and only one city/area. So everyone will be local to you. Not that traditional paid dating/sex sites don’t have a lot to offer offer.. Y Your our soul mate may not be the
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type of woman who would ever consider trying a casual hookup. I don’t want to portray CL as the perfect solution for all of your dating needs, because it may not be. If you want to get laid, quickly and efciently, you will accomplish that on CL. And if you want to look for your long-term soul mate on a traditional site while you’re having fun with your casual hookups, that isn’t such a bad idea. If you’re getting laid regularly with CL hookups, you won’t make the mistake of getting serious with the wrong woman you meet mee t in more traditional ways just because you need the sex. When you’re procient at using CL, it opens up your entire personal life, giving you a wide range of options that didn’t exist before. While this book is not about other dating sites, and it isn’t meant to create expertise on other dating sites, some CL skills acquired through this book may offer insight and be useful if you choose to explore other dating/sex sites. I have spent much time on most of the major d dating/sex ating/sex sites, and each has its own rhythm, its own style and its own strategies. In my experience, however, none of them offers the environment or the efciency in exploiting e xploiting opportunities that CL does.
CL etiquette and vocabulary Like any other community, CL has developed its own culture and language. There is an etiquette to meeting people on CL casual encounters. - In replying to a woman’s post, only email once. If she doesn’t respond to your yo ur rst email, she won’t respond to the second, third, fourth or fth. - Don’t act like a creep, and don’t be a stalker. stalker. - Respect the wishes of the woman posting. posting. She has told you what she’s she’s looking for, if you don’t meet her minimum requirements, move on to the next post. - Represent yourself honestly. honestly. If she’s going to (hopefully) get naked with you, she’s she’s going to eventually see what you look like. So don’t lie about any physical attributes and only send pictures that are really you, taken recently. recently. You You don’t have to lie to get laid on CL, and you will pay the price of embarrassment and frustration if you do. There is shorthand that you need to know if you’re going to successfully navigate CL personals. Here are some of the frequently used terms you should be familiar with: -
M4M = man looking for a man M4W = man looking for a woman W4M = woman looking for a man W4W = woman looking for a woman T4M = transvestite looking for a man MW4M = a man and a woman looking for a man MW4W = a man and a woman looking for a woman MWF = married white female MBF = married black female MHF = married Hispanic female SWF = single white female
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SBF = single black female SHF = single Hispanic female
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DDF = drug and disease free (usually excludes marijuana) 420 = marijuana Skiing = using cocaine Snow = cocaine BBC = big black cock BBW = big, beautiful woman (Sometimes this means the woman is fat. Sometimes it only means the woman THINKS she is fat.) u ndeniably fat.) SSBBW = super-sized big, beautiful woman (This means she is undeniably FWB = friends with benets, a friendship with sex Generous = the type of man a prostitute is actively looking for Gurl = a man who wants to play the role of a girl Hawt = it’s how the younger girls describe a very hot guy, as in “please be hawt” ha wt” Host = where the sex will happen, you host or she hosts HWP = height/weight proportionate, often means “a little overweight, but wears it well” In/out = incall/outcall, a prostitute who will host or will come to you Dom = a dominant, someone who takes charge of a “sub” in the bedroom Domme = a female Dom Sub = a submissive who is dominated by a Dom or a Domme LTR = = long term relationship NSA = no strings attached, a sexual hookup without commitments Roses = money given to a prostitute, as in “I’m looking for 100 roses” Kisses = money given to a prostitute SB = sugar baby, a woman who has sex regularly with her “sugar daddy” for money SD = sugar daddy, a man who pays a woman, his “sugar baby” for regular sex Str8 = a man who acts straight but wants to have sex with men CD = cross dresser, a man in a dress and makeup TV = transvestite, again a man in a dress and makeup Passable = a CD/TV who can pass for a woman in public JO = jack off, masturbation Bottom = man, transsexual or cross dresser who wants only to have a penis in his ass, generally does not care to fuck anyone with his penis on ly to put his penis in another man, Top = man, transsexual or cross dresser who wants only
transsexual or cross dresser, generally does not want to be fucked Vers = versatile, meaning a man who will be a top AND/OR a bottom No recip = no reciprocation, usually used by people (men) offering to give you oral sex to completion with nothing needed in return from you Cuck or cuckold = a man who wants to be denigrated by another man as the other man has sex with the cuck’s woman
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sat down at the table of the upscale seafood restaurant and waited. Five minutes. Ten minutes … My cell phone rang. I picked it up.
“Sorry I’m late. I’m right outside. Are you already inside?” “Yes. “Y es. I have a booth boo th in the back. Come on in. I look just like the picture I sent you.”
I stepped out of the booth to watch her as she came in. She ambled through the restaurant restaurant like she was headed to the electric elec tric chair. chair. She was probably the most awkwardly nervous person I had ever e ver seen – so nervous that it was hard to register register much else about her her.. “Hello,” she said, without looking me in the eye, putting out a small hand for a handshake. “Hello,” I mirrored in my most businesslike tone. “Good to meet you.” She slid into the booth, still not meeting my eyes. I had to do something. “You “You know, know, you are one cool customer. customer. I can’t can’t even tell if you’re simply simply nervous or if you’re the most nervous you’ve ever been be en in your entire life.” That got a slight smile out paused, It evaluated andmy decided to push further. “Iuam not going have sex with anyone whoofisher. this Inervous. would hurt feelings. So can I get yo you drink? Some to dinner? A fabulous new car?” A bigger smile. And this time time she actually looked into my eyes for a moment. I decided to probe for a clue as to what she needed. “So tell me, what’s what’s going on?” Silence. I studied her for a moment, momen t, waiting to hear anything. She was pretty. pretty. Asian. Mid-twenties. Slim. Long, dark hair. hair. She looked like she would be great fun in bed … if I was the type of guy who didn’tt mind having sex with a woman who obviously didn’ ob viously didn’t didn’t want to be there. “You know, if you want to back out, it’s ne. I give you full credit for making it this far. But this is supposed to be fun for both of us. I’m not here to torture torture you. Is there anything I can say that will make you feel better?”
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Looking up for the second time, she met my gaze and held it. “Oral only.” “You only want oral? Sure. That’s no problem at all.” She relaxed a little. “You’ll “You’ll eat my pussy? Then I’ll suck yyour our cock?” “Sounds like my kind of party!” She smiled – genuinely this time – as the personication of nervousness before me transformed into a real, live girl. “You’re “You’re good at eating pussy?” “Oh yes.” A bigger smile. “Good. Let’s Let’s go.” I dropped a twenty-dollar bill onto the table, stood up and followed her out of the restaurant restaurant …
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What Wha t Kind of Man Can Score Score on CL? Let’s be completely honest: if you drove a stylish Italian sports car, had the charisma of George Clooney and the chiseled looks of a Greek god, you’d y ou’d be too worn out from sleeping with NFL cheerleaders and supermodels to even consider visiting Craigslist. I know that if I was any of those things, I never would have bothered, but then this book wouldn’t exist. So let me put this in bullet form so you won’t skim right past it. To succeed on CL: - You don’t need to be great looking. - You don’t need to be in excellent physical shape. - You don’t don’t need to be well endowed, sexually or any other way. way. - You don’t need to be rich. - You don’t need to have a great resume. - You don’t need to be experienced in bed. (Although, if you do fall into any of these categories, that will be very he helpful!) lpful!)
I’m average at best. Some women nd me somewhat pleasant to look at. Others have made it clear that “I’m not their type,” or in other o ther words, I’m completely hideous to them. But that’s that’s okay, at least I have my Ivy League Leag ue education and the resulting high-powered career … oh wait … I don’t have those things either. I live in a pretty average apartment, and drive a below average ave rage car, making it clear that I don’t have much money mone y. And while my job does allow me to travel, I don’t have the kind of career anyone would ever consider interesting, much less glamorous. Now that I think about it, you are probably better suited to succeed on Craigslist than I am in every way. Except for two things: 1. I’m good at testing every part of a system until it’s it’s working perfectly. perfectly. 2. I’m imaginative. I’ve already put in all of the work so you don’t have to worry about creating and testing this system. It worked for me, it’s worked for other men I’ve coached to great CL success, and it will work for you too. As for being imaginative, use every bit of imagination you y ou have and you will experience great CL successes.
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I know what you’re saying … using your imagination is hard. But it’s easier than getting ripped at the gym, making a million dollars, or creating some kind of celebrity status for yourself. Do you think you could manage just a little bit of creativity in order to get laid over and over again aga in with dozens of women? I know you can. There are four qualities you need to succeed on CL: 1. An imagination that will capture a woman’s attention This is vital, and beginning with Chapter Six I will explain everything you need to know. Before we get there, just understand this: the women who read CL personals are there to READ. So give them something intriguing to read, something that stimulates their minds, makes you stand out among all of the other guys – not simply all the guys on CL, but all the guys in their lives – and begins the foreplay process from the rst sentence. This applies whether you’re responding to a post or writing your own. 2. Patience You’re going shing. And the challenge of shing is that once o nce you’ve found your spot, selected
your bait and cast your line, the rest is up to the sh. Some days they’re biting like crazy. Some days it’s not even worth it to get out of the car. But any good sherman will tell you: patience and perseverance will eventually get you all the sh you can possibly eat. 3. Thick enough skin to accept rejection gracefully Everyone is looking for something. You You may be looking to get laid with a girl of any age, race or shape. But at some point you will be trading emails with a woman who is seeking someone exactly six feet tall, 195 pounds, blue eyes, dominant with an 8-inch cock and working in the healthcare eld. That may describe you perfectly, except that your eyes are brown. Oops, sorry, you’re not what she’s looking for, and she’s not willing to settle. NEXT!
Accept the rejection with grace and kindness. DO NOT BE AN ASSHOLE OR A STALKER. STALKER. It’s bad karma, reputation; amongst themselves. know when and her you tastecan in eye edevelop ye coloramay change.women So say,talk “Thank you for your time.Plus Bestyou of never luck in your search.” Then move on to the next woman. She will appreciate your grace and may even contact you a few weeks later with another opportunity to meet. It has happened to me more than a handful of times! The important thing is that you remember there are always more women waiting for yo you u on CL. So don’t get depressed. Move on … 4. Flexibility It’ It’ss late at night and you’re y ou’re tired, but you were hoping to nd a woman to come over to your place and have sex with you before you went to sleep. So you get on CL and, congratulations, you found her!!! But she reveals after you’ve been emailing back and forth for 45 minutes that she doesn’t have a car and she lives an hour from your place. Decision time. Are you going to be exible and
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get laid? Or are you going g oing to throw this sh back? Y Your our answer will determine the extent of you yourr success on CL. I will promise you this: at least lea st half of the women you will nd on CL will offer some inconvenience you have to deal with if you want to meet them. Usually that means you must travel to see them when you wanted to host, or you must host h ost when you didn’t want to invite anyone over to your place. Flexibility is vital to your success.
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stopped for a moment to straighten my collar before before I entered the bar. bar. I looked up at the sky and thought, if my heart wasn’t wasn’t racing so fast, this would actually be a truly beautiful Sunday.
Checking my reection in the bar’s bar’s storefront storefront window, I decided I was looking as good as I was going to that day. I took a deep breath, breath, thinking I shouldn’ shouldn’tt be this nervous since I’d alr already eady done this nearly a dozen times, but I couldn’ co uldn’tt deny the sound of blood rushing in my ears. “Fuck “Fu ck it,” I mumbled to reassure reassure myself, “I’m “ I’m sure if my looks don’t don’t scare her off, something I say will.” With that calming thought, I reached for the door handle hand le and gave it a pull. My eyes scanned the inside of the neighborhood bar across the street street from my home. It didn’t didn’t take long to nd her. her. Sitting on a barstool at the far end of the mostly-empty bar, bar, there she was, just like in the pictures she had sent me two hours before. But better. Way, way better. Tight, limber runner’s body, long dark hair, hair, olive skin, nishing off some kind k ind of martini. “Walk slowly and deliberately!” my brain screeched at my body, which had b “Walk been een preparing to sprint to her. her. An eternity later I was standing next to her her,, returning her smile, ssliding liding onto the barstool next to her, trying not to look like a nerd nervously smiling as he slid onto a barstool. “You “Y ou made it,” I said through what I hoped she would believe was a condent grin. “I did,” she smiled back. “So, can I buy you a drink?” “Just had one.” “Oh. Can I buy you another?” “No, no. I’m good,” she answered, as the day suddenly seemed far less promising. “Ah.”
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The Tools You’ll Need to Succeed on CL You’re almost ready to start responding to posts and writing your own. There are just a few tools you’re going to need rst. 1. You’re going to need a good picture of your face. No, make that a great picture of your face. One that really captures who you are. One that is recent. One that actually looks like you. One that doesn’t obstruct your face with sunglasses or anything else. The picture is your chance to show that you’re strong, condent, at least somewhat active and attractive, and most importantly, importantly, NOT creepy. So be sure you’re smiling, and putting your best foot forward. Try a picture from a wedding or other formal occasion, where you’re dressed up and looking your best. Or an action shot that shows some personality. Or a picture with yourself and a pet, which will illustrate that maybe you’re not a creep, since you like animals. If you have any picturess that various picture v arious women (friends ( friends and a nd family) famil y) have hav e commented comme nted on in a positive po sitive way, w ay, consider using one of those. Do not use an old picture that shows you with less weight than you have now, more hair, etc. There’s nothing worse than a woman deciding you’re her man for the night, then showing up and deciding you don’t d on’t look anything like you did in your picture and walking away. Awkward! If you don’t have the perfect shot right now n ow,, nd or create the best you can and use that, understanding that you’ll be limiting your success until you have just the picture you want. Find a professional photographer if you must. And if you’re squeamish about sending a picture of your face to strangers, then you need to reconsider using CL at all. I believe it is nearly impossible to meet any an y women on CL without sending a picture of yourself before your rst meeting. Being unwilling to show your face will tell women you have something scary to hide, and will scare away 99% of what could have been successful encounters.
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2. You’re also going to want to have a shot from farther farther away that shows more of your body. body. You should be fully clothed in this picture (women laugh at men who send shirtless pictures) but it should show that you have the majority of your limbs, and give a good indication of your body type. Some women really love skinny guys, some love muscle guys, some love bigger guys or “teddy bears.” Let the woman see what she needs to see to make her decision. de cision. Don’t worry, worry, whatever your body type is, there is a woman on CL looking for it. Having said that, some women are going to want to see R-rated shots, X-rated shots and cock shots. How far you’re willing to go in the pictures you’re sending out to strangers is a v very ery personal choice. I cannot advocate sending naked or even half-naked pictures to strangers, but by not having these pictures, you will lose opportunities. It’s your choice to make. 3. You’re going to need at least two different email accounts that you will use use only for CL. I suggest creating new Yahoo Yahoo Mail and Gmail accounts. accou nts. At least one of each would be smart, because many women you encounter enco unter will want to have a conversation via Yahoo Yahoo Chat, but some will want to use Google Chat. Both Yahoo Mail and Gmail are free and easy to use. Both also have decent spam recognition, which will become helpful (as you will see in Chapter Thirteen). Both are web based, so they can be discreetly accessed from any computer that has internet access, which at some point will come in very handy, especially especially if you nd yourself traveling a lot. Positives of Yahoo Yahoo Mail: - It offers various sufxes (yahoo.com, ymail.com, rocketmail.com) which lets you mix up your email aliases. - Easy to use. - Allows you to easily create multiple folders folders within your mail account to keep track of the women you talk to. - Yahoo IM is the the most popular way of chatting among the CL women I’ve met. Negatives of o f Yahoo Yahoo Mail: Mail : - Spam lter isn’t as strong as it could be.
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Positives of Gmail: - Automatically groups all conversations with one person person into one email chain, making your inbox more manageable. This becomes rather valuable when you have multiple conversations going on. - Very good spam lter. - Excellent search function for searching email addresses and even key words. Negatives of Gmail: - On sign in, Gmail often requires the use of a CAPTCHA, and usually usually not an easy one. This is a pain in the ass.
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There are other forms of free webmail, and they all have their own pros and cons, but I have found that the CL women I have talked with and an d met all over the coun country try predominantly use Yahoo Yahoo Mail and Gmail. And using one of those offers you an immediate commonality. I suggest naming each account with a certain persona in mind (I’ll explain more in Chapter Seven). Do not use your real name in naming these accounts, or any other personal information – such as your birth date or the year you were born – that would allow unscrupulous people to steal your identity or identify you. Make sure you use these accounts only for CL use, never for work or any type of nancial transactions. I also suggest creating one unique pas password sword that will be tthe he same for all of the email accounts you use for CL. The more accounts you have, the harder it’s going to be to keep it all straight, especially in the heat he at of the hunt. 4. You will need to open at least least one CL account. CL accounts are completely free. Each CL account is tied to one email account. I strongly suggest using the same password for these accounts as you’re using for your email accounts. You You don’t need a CL account to answer other people’s posts, but you will need one to post your own ads. The challenge is that each account is limited to only 5 posts in a 24-hour period, throughout all of Craigslist. And at times you’re going to want to post a lot more than ve posts a day. day. So that means you will need … 5. … multiple phone numbers with which you can discreetly receive a text or an automated phone call. CL started verifying CL accounts in late 2010. This consists of giving CL a phone number when you register for an account. They let you choose between receiving a text with a secret code or having a computer call you with an automated voice that will tell you the code. If you have a landline and a cell phone pho ne from which you can verify two accounts, I STRONGLY STRONGLY suggest you use both. In fact, I suggest you verify as many CL accounts as you can get phone numbers for (I think four accounts should be ample). I have experimented with services that give your cell phone additional numbers for “free texting” in trying to register more CL accounts. As far as I can tell, CL will not verify any of those numbers, but I don’t claim to be a technology expert, I may have been doing something incorrectly. Feel free to try for yourself. Keep in mind that the CL software is a little screwy, so a month or two after you verify an account, you will have to verify it again aga in with the same phone nu number mber.. This is the most complicated part of the entire CL process, I promise. One more note: even if you can only get one phone number, and therefore one CL account, you will still want multiple email accounts. I’ll explain why in the next chapter. 6. For the sake of your privacy, privacy, dedicate one browser on your computer to to nothing but playing on CL. Use this browser to browse CL, and to open your webmail acc accounts. ounts. At some point, someone (a friend, a family member, a neighbor or a business associate) is going to be using your computer, just surng around online, and they’re going to discover something you didn’t really want them to see in the browser’s history. history. So download a new browser. I like Firefox. Open it only when you’re using CL, and then close it when you’re not. Someday when your visiting nephew wants to use
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your computer for a second and gets online without asking you rst, you will thank me. So you have ha ve the picture or pictures you’re going to send. You have your multiple email accounts to be used only for CL contacts. And from this point forward, I will assume you have at least two CL accounts. If you have more or fewer, it won’ won’tt be hard to modify my plan to the tools you have assembled.
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t had only been a few emails back and forth, and she didn’t didn’t seem particularly beautiful, but certainly not ugly either. either. Somewhere in her late 40s to mid 50 50s, s, I would guess. About 30 pounds overweight. Needed to do something different with her h hair air.. And her clothing choices were not all that attering. But then I wasn’t wasn’t planning on having sex with her wardrobe, wardrobe, and she certainly seemed ready and willing to have fun. She said she wanted to try anal for the very rst time. Who was I to turn down that kind of honor? As I walked up to the coffee shop, she was right there, outside, sitting sitting at a table, reading a paperback book with a cup of coffee in front of her. her. “Hi! You You look just like the pictures you sent me!” I said, sitting next ne xt to her. her. “So do you,” she said putting down her book. “You “You found it okay?” “Yeah,” I nodded, “my place is just around the corner from here. I get my coffee here most mornings.” “Well, that’s convenient,” she agreed. And then silence. I could tell she was a little nervous but that she knew what she wanted, so I decided just to smile at her for a few moments, allowing her to have the oor, oor, to say whatever was on her mind. “So …” she started, “how do we do this?” “Easy,” I smiled, leaning in to kiss her. her. And she kissed k issed back. She was a very good kisser. kisser. I cupped one of her breasts with my hand, and she kissed back even harder. harder. Good! She was denitely ready. Pulling back an inch, I whispered, “The only question now is: your place or mine?” “Mine,” she said, standing up.
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How to Answer or Place a CL Ad If you’ve ever placed or answered a personal ad on CL, this will be a review for you. It won’t hurt my feelings if you skim ahead to the end of this chapter. Answering an ad on CL has been designed to be easy and take just a few seconds. If you’ve never been on Craigslist before, here is how it works: www.craigslist.org.. You You will be directed to a page for a city that is probably p robably not the one 1. Go to www.craigslist.org you live in, but you only care about the city you’re in. So go to the column that is the furthest to the right. At the top of the column, it will say “nearby cl” and will include cities within a few hundred miles of the city for the page you’re on. Below that you will see links for “us cities,” “us states,” “canada” and “cl worldwide.” Click through those choices to nd your country, your state and your city. 2. Once you’re on the CL page for your you r city, city, you will see groups of links for “community,” “community,” “housing,” “jobs,” “personals,” “for sale,” “discussion “d iscussion forums” and more if you scroll down the page. You You will nd the “personals” category prominently displayed at center-left on the page. And you will be confronted with a decision. There are nine sub-categories under personals: -
strictly platonic women seeking women women seeking men men seeking women men seeking men misc romance casual encounters missed connections rants and raves
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interested in the other categories, go explore exp lore what each has to o offer ffer.. But for the purpose of getting laid, all you need are: -
casual encounters women seeking men men seeking women (in that order)
At least 90% of your time should be spent in the casual encounters section. This is where women post when looking for immediate hookups. And it’s it’s where you will post the vast majority of your CL ads. (We’ll (We’ll get to what exactly you’ll be posting there in Chapter Nine.) 3. Click on “casual encounters.” That will take you to a page that offers “casual encounters” as well as breakdowns of o f w4m, m4m, m4w, w4w, etc. You You may be tempted to click only on w4m, but I would advise you to look at all casual encounters. Occasionally there are a re incredible opportunities to be found in casual encounters categories other than w4m, such as ww4m (two women looking for a man), and being thorough allows you to make yourself available for every opportunity. 4. Once you click on “casual encounters” on this page, you will nally go to the actual listings. Most, about 75%, will be anything other than what a fully heterosexual male looking for female companionship will want to check out. o ut. And 90% of the w4m postings are clearly spam (more about that in Chapter Thirteen). That means that for every 100 postings, maybe two are actually posted by real women. 5. When you nd a w4m ad, click on it. 6. Read the ad, and see what she is asking for. Are Are you in the ag agee range she’s looking for? Did she mention your race or body type? Or did she leave it totally open? If you feel you qualify for what she wants, and if the ad seems real, click on the button that says “Reply To This Post.” You You will nd it under the headline of the ad. In the spot where thesite “Reply To This Post” button a CAPTCHA will appear appear. a7.way of proving to the that you’re a human beingwas, rather than an automated spam. CAPTCHA program. It is will display two words, which you are supposed suppo sed to enter in the box below the words. If you are not sure what the words are, click the reload button to the right of the words to get a new set of words to enter. 8. Once you’ve entered the correct words and hit the reply button, the CAPTCHA will be replaced replaced with a Craigslist-generated email address that is specic to that one CL ad. It will say something like:
[email protected] like:
[email protected].. You will never ne ver see the woman’s email address unless she responds to your email. This allows everyone who posts an ad to receive emails and to still remain 100% anonymous. 9. Once you see the Craigslist-generated email address, if you click on it, your primary email account will come up with the email address already imbedded in it, as well as her ad headline
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in your subject line, but I HIGHLY DISCOURAGE doing this. Y You ou do NOT want wa nt to use your y our primary email for CL. EVER. This is why you need to have several web-based accounts devoted exclusively to your CL adventures. Cut and paste the Craigslist-generated email address into your appropriate webmail account. 10. In the subject of your email response, write a headline that indicates that you have actually read the ad, promising her specically what she says she is looking for. 11. Write the body of your email quickly, more than one or two lines, but not a whole book (more about this in Chapter Eleven). Then send off your email. 12. Wait. Wait. A response response from a real woman will usually take 35-45 minutes. If you haven’t heard anything after 75 minutes, there is little chance you will hear anything at all from the woman who placed that ad. However, on very rare occasions, a response can take as much as 12 hours. Placing a CL ad in the casual encounters section features a few more steps, but after you’ve done it once, it will seem like you’ve been doing it your entire life. 1. Begin on your city’s CL page. Click on “casual encounters” in the personals p ersonals category. category. 2. That will take you to a page that offers “casual encounters” as well as breakd breakdowns owns of w4m, m4m, m4w, w4w, w4w, etc. Click on “casual encounters.” enco unters.” 3. You will now be on the page with with the actual casual encounters listings. listings. Look in the uppermost right-hand corner. You You will see the words “help” and “post.” Click on “post.” 4. This will bring you to a page where you have several choices: you can log into your existing account, apply for a new account or begin writing an ad without having an account. Of course, if you’re serious about meeting women on CL, you really should have a CL account – more than one if you can manage it. If you try to post an ad without having an account, you’re going to have to give CL an active phone number numbe r to verify that you’re not a spammer anyway, so go ahead and create an account. If you already have an account, click on the words “log into your account” in the uppermost right hand corner. corner. 5. The next page asks for your yo ur Email/handle and for your password. Y You ou will ll in the email address associated with this account as well as the password you set up for this account. Then hit the button that says “Log in.” 6. The next page allows you to decide where you’re going to be posting this ad. There are ve choices, but you only want to choose the last one, which is “sex with no strings attached (nsa).” (Also on this page, in the upper right hand corner, you will see your email address. If you click on that, a page will come up that allows you to view all of your previous CL postings. This can come in handy for reviewing past ads you’ve written.) 7. Once you click on “sex with no strings attached (nsa)” a new page will come up that allows
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you to declare who you y ou are and what you you’re ’re looking for. If you’re a man looking for a woman, click “a man” in the left hand box, and click “a woman” in the right hand box. Please get this step right. Getting it wrong will bring you responses that you do not want … guaranteed. 8. In some parts of the country, country, where there are are multiple large large communities very close to each other, you will get a page that asks which of those communities you are in. Click on the appropriate answer. 9. Now you will come to the page in which you actuall actually y write your ad. Write Write your title, title, your age, the neighborhood in which you reside and the actual body of the ad. 10. Once you have the ad fully written, scroll down and you will see where you can upload photos, if you wish to. Once the ad is just the way you want it, hit enter. 11. On the next page, pa ge, you will see your ad as it will appear to the women your CL ad is targeting. Proofread what you have written. Does it sound good? Then hit enter again. 12. Now you’ll have to ll out a CAPTCHA, just to make sure you’re not an automated spammer. 12. Now spammer. Once you’ve correctly lled out the CAPTCHA and hit enter, your ad will be ready for posting. 13. An email will be sent to the email account attached to your CL account saying your ad will be posted within 15 minutes. Now all you have to do is wait. Casual Encounters versus Women Seeking Men/Men Seeking Women Throughout this book when I talk about “getting laid on CL” I’m mostly talking about the casual encounters section. That is where 90% of my success has come from, and it’s where most of yours will come from too.
But the “women seeking men” category offers some use too. Some women, usually n newbies ewbies to CL – desperate newbies! – will post ads for immediate sex in the women seeking men category catego ry,, not realizing that posting in casual encounters would be a more appropriate place for their ads. So there is some value to devoting some time to monitoring that category too. And then, there is the “men seeking women” category. This comes into play on those dark, lonely nights, when you decide that you may want something a little more long-term than a series of onenight stands. Believe me, it happens to all of us. While there are many women reading all of the personals sections, there are also quite a few reading the men seeking women ads who think the casual encounters section is disgusting and won’t read it, and will never meet anyone who posts there. So the ads in the men seeking women section obviously require a different approach than the ads you will place in the casual encounters section, and your encounters will be completely different too. But sometimes this difference is a really comfortable option. Just keep in mind, if you are a re absolutely sure you don’t want to end up with a girlfriend – or worse, end up with a girl who she isabout your who girlfriend – then NEVER post in the men seeking women section, and be THINKS very selective you contact in the women seeking men section too.
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rom my ofce, I heard the elevator doors open and someone step out. It had to be her her.. At this time of night, even ev en the cleaning crew wasn’t wasn’t around anymore. I straightened my tie and I took the ve steps down the hall from my ofce to the lobby.
There she was, dressed for business, exactly as I told her to be. Fresh out of college, not much over ve feet tall, short brown hair, hair, wearing a very conservative business suit. Very Very cute, but also a little nervous … like any aspiring young woman would be who wanted a job with my company. Perfect! I reached out my hand to shake hers, “A pleasure pleasure to meet you, Miss …” “Johnson,” she nished my sentence as she shook my hand and smiled. I guided her into the company conference room, a long oak table surrounded surrounded by old-fashioned leather seats. As she slid her ngers along the smoothness of the oak, I offered, “Please, have a seat.” As she picked a chair and sunk into it, she started her pitch, “I really need this job, job, sir. sir. I’ll do anything it takes to get it.” I smiled to myself as I took my place in the leather chair next to hers. She was ready ready to play. This wasn’tt just going to be fun. It was going to be easy wasn’ ea sy.. Which was good, since it was the rst time I’d ever tried the ofce fantasy, and I was a little outside of my comfort zone. “Well, “Well, Miss Johnson, we ARE hiring right now. now. But we are going to be highly selective in who we choose to ll this particular position,” I dwelled on the last word. We We both grinned at each other other,, almost breaking the fantasy. fantasy. She got herself back into character, character, “I know, know, sir. sir. And I’ll do anything it takes.” “For you to get this job, you’re going to have to prove that you will do whateve whateverr it takes to satisfy my requirements requirements … that you will bend over o ver backwards – at any time – when your boss needs it. She nodded, “Yes, “Yes, sir, sir, I understand. Bend over whenever when ever you need it.”
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Yes, she was making ma king this so easy. God bless her h er.. “Correct, Miss Johnson. But more than that, I need to know that you want this job so much, you’re willing to get down on your knees and beg for it.” Without waiting a beat, she slid out Without o ut of her chair and was down on her knees, looking up at me innocently. I continued, “I need to know that you y ou want this job so badly you can taste it!” “I want it, sir. sir. I want to taste it,” she smiled up at me leaning into my lap. “ And I’ll prove it.” She loosened my belt and unzipped my slacks as I sat back in my leather chair …
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The Game Strategy Welcome to everyone horny enough to come straight here! Le Let’ t’ss get right to it. This is where we begin to separate the men who will be getting laid from the boys who will just keep placing ads until they are certain that no real women can ever be found on CL. Let’s start with a few vital thoughts on your CL strategy: Success on CL is a numbers game. Have you ever played roulette at a casino? It’s a hard game to be comp completely letely successful at. Thirtyeight slots for the ball to randomly land on, and you hav havee to pick one. Your odds aren’t good. You You know just by looking at the roulette wheel that you will lose far more often than you can win. So you play and you lose and you lose and you lose. But then you nally win! And you win so big that it makes up for all of your past losses.
It’ It’ss the same way on CL. Only each of you yourr bets is free. And when you hit the right number, what you win is way more interesting than money. money. Make no mistake, you can play on CL for hours, even when you know exactly what you’re doing, not The get so much as real woman ever seen or readand yourstill posts. purpose of conrmation this book is tothat helpany you nd regularhas success, but your keep emails in mind: you’re contacting women you know nothing about. Usually you will be lacking in the most basic information you need to read the woman you’re communicating with. Since you’re communicating via the written word, you can’t even see her body language. Everything you’re doing will be a welleducated guess. Just like at the roulette table. Most guys posting on CL make bet after bet at the CL roulette table and never come close to winning. So they quit, usually ending their efforts with a frustrated post fuming that there are no real woman on CL, only spam. But take a closer look and you will nd that all of those guys are communicating in ways that women universally ignore. If you communicate on CL as a typical man does, you guarantee you can NEVER win. So what kind of odds can you expect if you’re communicating effectively with women on CL?
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Your numbers will vary depending on how good you are at turning a rst tentative email response into a real in-person meeting. I’ve made mistakes in the communications process and you will too. It sucks, but that’s why the CL personals are open 24/7. I provide the type of odds odd s you can expect below. below. There is a wide variation in these numbers, because your odds will change dramatically as you y ou get more comfortable with CL and my processes for success. No matter how horny you are, no matter how manly and fearless you think you are, the rst time you meet with a woman for sex after talking with her online for only few hours, you will feel fear, excitement, discomfort and several other emotions, all aatt the same time. You You will feel it in every part of your body bod y. These feelings create mistakes, which can make her feel uncomfortable, and her discomfort is your barrier to success. So remember to breathe deeply, smile, and power through it. The greatest success is waiting for you on the other side of that wall. As you’re starting, expect your results to skew toward the higher numbers provided here. With more experience come better odds: -
For every woman you have sex with, you will have to meet one or two in person. To meet those one or two women, you will have email conversations with 4-12 real women. To have those 4-12 conversations, you will need to answer, answer, on average, about 30-100 posts from REAL women (in other words, the spam posts you answer don’t count, more on that in Chapter Thirteen). Or you will have to post, on average, about 20-40 of your own ads.
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Typically, ypically, a single single ad posted posted on CL will yield you, at best, best, one email conversation with a real woman. With the thousands of ads I’ve placed, the very most email conversations c onversations the placement of one ad has generated has been four, and that one instance yielded two immediate sexual encounters and one good ongoing friend. But don’t expect that to happen often. My general rule of thumb is, after I’ve posted an ad, if I get one nibble from a real woman, I consider that ad to have done its job, and I’m ready to move on to my next ad.
That’s a lot of spins of the CL roulette wheel to get one win. Especially if you’re no That’s nott comfortable with the process yet. But, like anything else, the odds improve as you get better at the game. Plus, trying doesn’t cost you a penny! And once you’ve got a brand new female friend standing before you, naked and ready for anything, suddenly all of those tries are completely worth it. Answering CL ads versus posting your own Some men just answer women’s ads. It’s It’s easier than posting your own. Other men go out on a limb and write their own posts. Others do both.
So what’s the right strategy? Let me add this piece of o f information into the equation: some women on only ly read the men’s posts and never post themselves. Other posts andIngure enough that they don’t need to waste their timewomen readingwrite men’s posts. other they’ll words, get if you only responses answer women’ women ’s ads
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or if you only post your own, you will be missing a group of women who are actively looking for a man right now. I strongly suggest posting regularly, then while you’re waiting for replies, go check out the women’s ads and start answering them. But only the REAL ones. Identify and ignore the spam (more on that in Chapter Thirteen). The timing of replying to women’s posts Here is the timeline a woman typically experiences when posting an ad for a man on CL:
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She posts her ad and receives an email conrmation that her ad will appear online within 15 minutes. Her ad appears on CL as a w4m post. After 60 seconds, over 40 emails from men have shown up in her inbox. Another 60 seconds later later and she has over 80 new emails emails in her inbox. inbox. She starts making her way through them. Over 200 emails have ooded her inbox in the the past ten minutes. minutes. The nal one is a notication from Craigslist that her post has been agged agg ed and removed from the site (I’ll explain why women’s ads get agged – and agged quickly – in Chapter Thirteen). For the next ten minutes or so, before her post completely disappears from the CL listings, any man who replies to her post will have his email bounce back as being undeliverable.
She will now attempt to go through her overwhelmingly-packed inbox until she stops on the rst guy who sounds good to her. Once she starts talking to him, she will purge all other emails, even the unread ones. What does this mean to your strategy of replying to women’s emails? 1. Know before you start writing, writing, your carefully-crafted email iiss only one of 200+ she will receive. Yours BETTER stand out somehow, before she even opens it. That means the subject line of your email needs to really compel her to read what you wrote.
2. If she asked for a picture, you better have something attached, because there are at least 100 other guys who followed her directions. She will most likely delete any email that doesn’t have an attachment without even reading the subject line. And unless she ASKED for a picture of anything other than your face (unobscured, without a hat, without sunglasses) do not send pictures of any other parts of your body. 3. You are playing against the clock. She will most likely read the rst 10-20 emails she gets. Some women may even open the rst 40-50. And a small handful will read all of them. But you’re playing a numbers game. The winning email is most often in the rst 20, so be fast. 4. At least 95% of all posts by REAL women will disappear within 15 minutes of when they’re posted. Most won’t last online as much as 10 minutes. There is a reason for this, which seems to be aisvast most CL users, and I’ll explain it indown Chapter Thirteen. thisyou means that,mystery in casualfor encounters, you don’t have to scroll the page veryWhat far until run for out you of
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any more posts from real women. Any post from a woman that is more than 40 minutes old is most likely spam and not worth your time to even open, much less respond to. Here’s the good news: having been invited to look through the inboxes of many of the women I’ve met on CL, I have found that at least half of the eemails mails they get will say nothing but, “L “Let’ et’ss fuck,” with a picture of a penis. Or “What’s up?” with a picture of a mostly naked guy. Yes, Yes, we men are a witty, witty bunch. Sadly, these responses are completely lost on 99% of women. In fact, WOMEN HATE HATE ONE-LINE RESPONSES. It makes them think the man sending it is stupid and/or disrespectful. But that just means a little less competition for you and me. So instead of competing against 200 other guys, you’re competing against maybe 100. You You still need to be compelling. In the words of a famous sports journalist “have a take and don’t suck.” IMPORTANT TIP FOR SUCCESS #1 Pull up the casual encounter page, pa ge, and refresh it very, very frequently. frequently. A new set of posts will be available about every 7-10 minutes. The fresher the woman’s post, the better your odds. So refresh OFTEN! IMPORTANT TIP FOR SUCCESS #2
There are prime times when CL women are posting for men. I dene a prime time as 4-6 real women’s posts per hour. hour. Your Your very best hours of the entire week will be Thursday T hursday night from about 6 p.m. until about 11 p.m. Those same hours Wednesday Wednesday and Friday are a re pretty good too. Conversely,, you could spend every moment of your Sunday and Monday nights in most cities Conversely watching CL and not see more than one on e or two real posts from women for the entire evening. Most women on CL work during the day. Even those that don’t work during the day seldom have enough time to post on CL during work hours, although they will sometimes browse men’s postings throughout the day. Your Your chances of nding real women posting after 1 a.m. in most cities are pretty slim too. I’m not telling you not to reply to women’s posts from 1 a.m. until 6 p.m. Y You ou never know when a real woman will be looking for sex at 3 a.m. on a Monday. If you’re up, go for it. Just don’t allow yourself to have unrealistic expectations of what you yo u can nd at that tha t hour. Writing your own posts For every woman I’ve met by answering a CL post, I’ve met at least four more by posting ads. Posting ads allows you to: Set the rules of engagement. You can dene exactly the type of woman you want. You You can dene exactly the kind of experience expe rience you want. You You can require that they send you pictures before you send a picture. Guarantee that what you write will be read, at least by someone.
As mentioned above,not most women’s women’ s posts never read. I believe b elieve every receive man’s post on CL Igets read. Perhaps byreplies anyonetoyou’d want to meet, andget most m4w posts never ANY
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real replies, but at least they do get read. Harness the power of having your post working for you for several hours. Unlike posts submitted by women, men’s ads usually don’t get agged and will stay up u p for 30 days (see Chapter Thirteen for the explanation). Of course, every few minutes, your post will sink deeper into the casual encounters listings and into obscurity. You have two to three good go od hours during which your post will be read by all women who aare re looking at men’s posts. After that, the
odds drop that your ad will get further views. Sometimes a woman who is looking for exactly what you’ve described will do a deep search and reply to an ad that is up to a week old. Those are the BEST responses you can get! But I have learned that once an ad has been up for three hours, I can generally stop expecting the ad to work for me. IMPORTANT TIP FOR SUCCESS #3 A great post looking for women can work any day at any time, however, there are times when your odds are better for getting an immediate nibble. Again, target Thursday nights from 6 p.m. to 11 p.m. Another good night is Wednesday night. If you don’t get an immediate hit on an ad placed Wednesday, some women on Thursday nights will search through the previous day’s postings.
On any day, at any hour, observe the number of real women who are posting ads looking for men me n over a 30-60 minute period. If you don’t see any REAL women posting (I’ll show you how to spot the spam in Chapter Thirteen), you probably won’t have enough women looking at the men’s posts for you to have much hope of any real success at that time. If you observe an unusually large number of real women posting ads looking for man, that is the perfect time to post your own ad. It means the sh are biting! OTHER IMPORTANT TIPS: The geography of CL success I have spent a great deal of time traveling around the United States in researching this book. I have met women in small towns and in big cities. In coastal cities and in the heartland. Given enough time, patience and skill, Craigslist can work for just about anybody, anywhere.
However, I don’t have innite time, patience or skill, and I assume you d don’t on’t either. either. So let’s talk a little about the areas in which CL personals work better than others. Big cities Again, this is a numbers game. Theoretically, the bigger the population of a city, the more women will be checking out CL on a regular basis. The more women checking out CL, the better your odds. If you’re in a large city, your odds of frequently nding women through CL usually are better better.. Small towns with multiple towns nearby We can’t all live in the big city c ity.. But many people, especially in the northeast, live in small towns that are a short drive from other towns. If you’re yo u’re up for a drive, don’t overlook these opportunities. Post your ads looking for women in nearby towns you’d be able/willing to drive to. Y You ou will
increase the female you’re to reach, andfor you’ll increase your odds. and Additincreates the a fact that many smallpopulation towns don’t have trying that many outlets late-night entertainment
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somewhat target-rich environment. The one caveat here is that any a ny woman you nd will either have to host or drive all the way to you. She may not be willing to do either. Well-educated cities Is there a medium-sized, or larger, university in your area? Are there several? Jackpot! I have found students, educators and the people who work among them tend to be more sexually open-minded than the rest of the population. Even if you nd yourself yo urself in a smaller, more isolated town with a
small population, you will nd great opportunities op portunities near universities and colleges. Technologically savvy cities In areas where more people feel comfortable using the latest technology for every aspect of their lives, nding sex partners on CL doesn’t seem so out-of-the-ordinary. out-of-the-ordinary. Make the most of these areas if you’re anywhere near one. Liberal-leaning towns Is your area known as being unusually politically liberal? Opportunity! Snow-covered areas There’s something about a very cold night that makes a single woman want a warm body next to her.
Or on top of her, as the case may be. Again, a lack of entertainment opportunities due to bad weather can mean opportunities for you. Areas that fall into this or any of the above categories can yield great results. Areas where the opportunities are fewer: Isolated towns with populations predominantly over the age of 50 If you’re living in an area like this and looking for sex partners, you’re probab probably ly thinking of leaving anyway. The magic of CL can’t invent a population that doesn’t exist. Cities known for extreme physical tness I assume if you’re reading this book, your yo ur body may not be perfect. If you’re living in an area that
demands physical perfection, many CL readers in your area will share that expectation. If you’re short, chubby and living in Los Angeles, you’re not completely out of luck. You’ll You’ll nd some women who aren’t perfect either, who don’t expect perfection and are happy to meet a man who wants them even though their bodies aren’t perfect. Just know that tha t you’re going to need to work a lot harder, and experience a lot more rejection than you would in the heartland of the United States. OTHER POSTING ISSUES TO CONSIDER: Ghosting posts So you’ve been posting po sting for three months. Y You ou already have more than your share of conquests under unde r your belt. You You post one of your favorite favo rite ads, one that has brought y you ou amazing successes in the past. You giggle to yourself as you wait the 15 minutes for your ad to show up on the casual encounters list.
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And you wait. Suddenly it occurs to you that 30 minutes have passed, and other posts that were written AFTER yours are on the list. And yours isn’t!!! What the hell???? Congratulations! Your Your ad was ghosted. Your Your ad will exist, and it will count against your account’s ve postings for the day. It will just be invisible to the women who are looking at and responding to men’s posts. Your Your post is a ghost. Think of it as a s a CL compliment. You’ve You’ve been recognized recog nized as a heavy CL user! Craigslist has implemented a series of processes and algorithms to prevent spam on the site. The need to register an account with a phone number is on onee of those processes. The use of RE-CAPTCHA codes to post or respond to an ad is another process. Less transparent are the algorithms that seek out ads that may be posted a little too often from IP addresses that are heavy users of CL. Nobody outside of CL management knows kno ws the specics of what their algorithms search for, and it changes regularly. However, However, if you’ve posted previous ads that have been agged agge d as spam, and you post po st regularly from the same IP address, there is a very good chance c hance you will experience ghosting at some point. It’s somewhat random, it’s completely frustrating, but you can work around it. For starters, try not to post any single ad more than once every ten to fourteen days. If you post multiple times a week, or even multiple times a day, that will mean writing a very wide variety of different types of posts. Yes, Yes, that can be a lot of work, but it’s it’s worth it when you’re nding yourself you rself a new woman every few days. At the time of this writing, if you nd yourself being ghosted frequently, you can also work around it by changing your IP address. It’s a small pain in the ass, but only takes a few minutes. Google the question “How do I change my IP address?” for multiple sources that are far more educated on that topic than I am. Once you change your IP address, you’ll nd you yourr ads won’t be ghosted quite as often. Once you start getting ghosted, though, be sure to chan change ge your IP address regularly regularly.. If that doesn’t x the problem, stop placing ads with that account for two weeks. I have found that 12-14 days of inactivity will remove close CL examination of your you r account for awhile. “Haven’t we fucked before?” There is nothing more embarrassing than emailing with a woman from CL when she reminds you that you fucked her just a few months ago. Well, Well, maybe one thing is more mo re embarrassing: giving a woman the opportunity to waste your time, frustrate you or reject you again and again and again.
Most women go to CL once or twice for a little excitement. But some use CL for the bulk of their sexual needs. So at some point you will come across a woman you have either communicated with and didn’t have sex, or you’ll nd someone you actually did have sex with. In either case, it’s it’s so much less embarrassing if you recognize them before they recognize you. So, once a woman has sent you her rst email, always examine the email address before
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responding. First check to see if it could co uld be spam (as explained in Chapter Thirteen). Then search your old emails in all of the email accounts you use for CL to see if you’ve corresponded with that person in the past. Use that information to your advantage: -
If you met and had a great time and would like to meet again, be sure to acknowledge the previous meeting. Even if she doesn’t seem to remember you during your email conversation, she will remember you once you get together for what she believes will be a “rst” meeting. Best to get the past out of the way before you meet. - If you met and you don’t want to see her again, bail out now! If she doesn’t remember your previous meeting, just don’t don’t respond. You You will nd women ake out on CL all the ttime ime and just disappear. Turnabout is fair play. - If you had an email conversation with with this woman in the past and she disappeared BEFORE she saw your picture, and she doesn’t seem to remember that conversation, use the intelligence from that conversation to your advantage. Is there one style of sex she mentioned loving? Volunteer that as your favorite. Did she mention a favorite restaurant or ba bar? r? Act like you don’t know she’s ever heard of the place, but offer to meet her there, asking if she’d like directions. Use any other information you can to act as if you’re slightly “psychic,” letting her think you totally understand her. Are these tactics fair? No. But was it fair for her to engage you in conversation and then just disappear the last time you talked? -
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e decided to arrange our rst meeting at her favorite bar bar.. She met me outside the front door with a warm hug and a kiss on the cheek. She was beautiful. Petite with short dark hair and eyes that sparkled with excitement. She told me in an email that she was fteen years older than me, but she certainly didn’t didn’t look it. She took my hand and led me into the bar bar.. Inside there was live music music and a packed house rocking to the beat. W Wee hadn’t hadn’t even had time to nd a couple of seats before she decided the place was too crowded, and we should continue the evening back at my place. As if I was going to turn that offer down. After 25 minutes of pleasant conversation in the car, car, we were in my living room, room, sitting on my couch with a bottle of wine. I had felt early in our email conversation there was some deeply held secret she had been wanting to share. I was pretty pretty sure that whatever myster mysteriousness iousness she needed to get off of her chest was about to happen, so I let her guide the conversation. And after complimenting my home, the furniture and the wine, she nally got g ot to it. “So I have always had this fantasy,” fantasy,” she started tentatively. “Please don’t don’t judge me.” “Of course not,” I smiled as I took her hand in mine. “You’re “You’re totally safe here.” h ere.” “Good. Thank you. So … I’ve only told this to one other person, but he thought it was sick and wouldn’tt have anything to do with it.” wouldn’ The hackles on the back of my neck went up just a little bit. What could be THAT bad? The realization realizati on that this woman might have a fantasy too sick and twisted for me to help her with suddenly dawned on me. This would either be an amazingly fun night, or a complete disappointment. I swallowed hard and said, “I understand. Go on.” “Well … I’ve always had this date rape fantasy. I’m out on a date with a guy – someone like you “Well – and we go back to his place, and we’re kissing, and that’s that’s where I want it to stop. stop. But his hands start roaming. roaming. I push him away, but he won’t won’t take no for an answer answer.. The more I protest, protest, the more aggressive he gets. Soon, he’ he ’s got me down on the oor, oor, on top of me, with my clothes mostly torn off …” she stopped short, studying my face for any sign of rejection.
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With a condent smile (and a very quiet sigh of relief) I took the wine glass from her hand and With placed it on the coffee table. “Your “Your safe word tonight is ‘or ‘orange.’ ange.’ Okay?” I asked, as I took her in my arms. “Orange, got it!” she said enthusiastically, as we started kissing. I began running my hands ha nds down her back, down to her butt. She murmured “nuh uh,” into my mouth. As my hands made their way up to her chest, she stopped kissing me and began p pushing ushing me away. “No. Just kissing tonight. Nothing else,” she said with conviction. I smiled and nodded, put my arms back around her, her, and we began kissing again. Moments later later,, my hands were back on her chest. Now she was angry. “NO! No means No, fucker!” With that I stood up, grabbed a st of her hair, With hair, pulled her head up to my mouth and said menacingly, “Enough teasing, bitch. I will take what I want.” The hand with her hair pulled her quickly to the oor as the other hand yanked her jeans and panties down around her ankles …
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Building Your Communications Strategy Anything you do that requires persuasion pe rsuasion requires a good strategy. The more you want to persuade someone to do something, the better your strategy needs to be. This is what this chapter cha pter is all about. So let’s create your strategy to persuade women who don’t know you – who may not eve even n nd you all that attractive at rst glance – to want to have sex with you. Step 1: List your strengths I’m sure you’ve already run this drill on yourself yo urself for the sake of traditional dating. Maybe you have a nice smile. Maybe you’re kind to animals. Maybe you’re a hard worker and a good provider. provider. Maybe you’re the life of the party. party. Maybe you have ha ve awesome taste in music. Maybe you have encyclopedic knowledge of the Dr Dr.. Who series. It could be anything.
Every one of your strengths, and even some of your perceived weaknesses, will be attractive to some woman on CL at some point. A strength can be: - Physical
Being tall,being having a nice smile,tohaving a great body, skinny, being a “teddy bear,” having muscles, strong enough lift a woman, etc. being skinny, - Sexual Having a long penis, having a thick penis, having an especially small penis ((some some women want that), having great stamina, having great oral abilities, being able to produce a great deal of ejaculation, etc. - Mental Being especially smart, the ability to make a woman laugh regularly, being especially dominant in bed, being especially submissive in bed, etc. - Emotional Possessing great kindness, great empathy or great maturity, maturity, having a deep love of animals, etc.
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- Financial Having a nice car, having a nice home, having a nice pool, having drinks or drugs available, etc. - Chronological Being especially young (at least 18 please) or especially old. - Trivial You have 12 toes, you were spelling bee champion in 7th grade, you were born in a different state than the one you live in now, etc.
Every one of these strengths, and the hundreds you can come up with on your own, is a starting point for attracting a woman on CL. Important Point: Do NOT start writing an ad that says you want a woman and simply lists your strengths. Y You ou will be ignored. Possibly even mocked. The fact is that ALL of us guys are pretty simil similar. ar. We all have a similar variety of strengths we can list, we’re all horny all the time and we’re all open to having sex at the drop of a hat. And you are competing with literally hundreds of guys just like you, regardless of the strengths you just listed.
In other words, if the best thing you can think of to say to a woman who wants to have sex now is, “I want to fuck,” or “I haven’t had sex in a week. Help!” don’t waste your time unless you’re incredibly attractive, and I mean so attractive that you’re ghting women off so you can get to the computer to place your CL ad. Women already know that if you’re a man, you want to fuck them. And don’t try to be something for every woman in a single post The natural urge you will feel is to try to write in ways that will appeal to the greatest number of women on CL. That way the odds seem to be in your favor. So you nd yourself trying to stay in the middle of the road in a way that will offer something for everyone, and maybe a few women will actually be interested.
Fight that urge. You You will be ignored. The fact is that the vast majority of men on CL are writing posts to “everybody.” Another related fact is that the vast majority of men on CL also believe there aren’t any real women on CL. Keep Ke ep this in mind at all times: you’re not looking look ing to fuck ALL women on CL tonight. Le Let’ t’ss start with getting ONE into your bed and go from there. So now the question is this: what do you need to say to that ONE woman you will be sleeping with tonight to get her to come over and have sex with a man she’s never met? Remember back in Chapter Three when I said that all you really need to bring to the table in this process is imagination and creativity? This is where where that comes in.
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Step 2: Create a persona around one of your current strengths Let’ss marry one of your strengths to some creativity. Let’ creativity. In doing this, we are going to create a persona for you, something that is, at least on paper, more interesting than you generally allow yourself to be in the real world in polite conversation.
We’ll start with something trivial. Let’s say, for example, that you’re originally from a state other than the one you’re living in now. Maybe you’re from South Dakota and living anywhere else now. Irrelevant, right? Completely one-dimensional? No reason to even bring it up? Don’t be so sure. Your home state (or neighborhood, city c ity,, or country) can be a special connection to a woman who is also originally from your home state, or any of the states surrounding your home state, o orr just really likes guys from there. Consider the idea of creating a persona with these values: -
Originally from South Dakota (if that’s that’s where you’re really from). Always thought women from the Dakotas were the the most down-to-earth, sexiest, most beautiful women in the world. - You miss home. - You miss the women back home. - The state you’re in now is very nice, but it would be heaven if you had the type of woman from from back home here with you now. -
And since the (ll in the name of some event that takes place back home) happens right about now,, let’s get together and celebrate as if we were back home. now
And then the cherry on top? Create an email address that reects this persona. Like
[email protected] or
[email protected].
[email protected] or
[email protected]. Now after she sees your email address she’ll know you’re truly serious about the Dakotas, and that you’re not just another guy on CL playing some angle to get laid. (Wink!) (Wink!) Is every woman on CL from the Dakotas? No, of course not (unless you’re living in the Dakotas, but I think you get what I mean). But you’re only looking for ONE woman at a time. And if there is one woman reading your post who is originally from back home, there is a natural connection there that she is far more likely to respond to than “I’m horny! Somebody come fuck me!” And what if there are no women in your area that are from back home, or interested in a man from your home state? Well, Well, that’s why CL lets you post ve times per account eevery very day. And if you have two or three accounts, that’s a lot of chances to nd lots of different types of women every day. Let’s try another persona, one far more challenging, a sexual one that starts as a big negative. Let’s Let’s say you’re a really good, normal guy, but you have erectile dysfunction. Okay, how would you play that? Answer: some women really like a challenge. Take your negative and make it into a challenge for the hottest women out there. - You think you’re hot? If you’re a girl, 99% of guys automatically get hard for you. That doesn’t mean anything. There’s no challenge. -
But if you can get a guy with ED to get hard for you, then you know you’re really hot. Want to come test your self-proclaimed hotness?
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Top that off with the email address:
[email protected] Now,, you’re not going to get a reply every time you post this ad, but no ad gets a reply every time. Now But somewhere, there is a girl who will eventually ev entually respond, just to stroke her own eg ego. o. And you can be sure that she will be hot. If you can create an interesting reason for a woman to consider having sex with you because you have erectile dysfunction, just imagine what you can come up with if you start with a positive: -
I’m a good listener. listener. Guys never listen to you, but I do. Not just in conversation, but sexually too. My email address:
[email protected] Have you ever been with a man that is over 6’3”? Imagine the possibilities! My email address:
[email protected] I have a pool! Have you ever done it in a pool? It’s a beautiful day day,, come sunbathe with me by the pool and we’ll see what happens! My email address:
[email protected].
[email protected].
I hope you’re getting the idea that you need to isolate something that makes you different on CL at that moment, even if it’s seemingly trivial or one-dimensional. There are lots of good listeners out there, but in a universe of men saying, “I need a BJ now,” now,” the man on CL who says he is a good listener is king! Or the fact that you have hav e a pool and you want to share it? Again, having a pool doesn’t really make you “special” except for the fact that very few guys on CL are pushing that as a selling point. So the moment a woman goes to CL looking for sex in a pool, suddenly you become very,, very special. very So of all the strengths you possess, which will be the most popular with CL women? If I could construct the “perfect” man on CL from scratch, someone who would get laid several times a day by CL women, he would wou ld look like this. Keep in mind, I don’t have most of these qualities myself: The perfect CL man - He can host, host, because he lives alone in a place that is safe and clean. Extra points if he has a
secluded (and clean!) pool and/or hot tub. He’s He’s tall: over six feet tall He’ss t. He works out at the gym daily, loves the outdoors and considers himself active. He’ He is somewhere between “hot” and “hawt.” He’ss denitely single. It would be even He’ e ven better if he’s never been married and doesn’t have kids. He’s smart. He’s funny. He doesn’t smoke cigarettes, but he doesn’t mind a woman who does. He doesn’t doesn’t do any drugs, yet he is cool with women who smoke pot, and even better if he has plenty to share. - His penis is at least 8 tto o 10 inches long. And thick! - He has a Harley and an extra helmet. -
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create around one of them will bring you success. Step 3: Reinvent yourself to explore new fantasies No matter how awesome you are with all of your current strengths, with every new post you write, and with every woman’s post you respond to, you get a chance to re-envision yourself you rself and reinvent who you are. Give yourself yo urself the opportunity to make yourself into someone new in at least a few of of your communications with women.
Up until now, like most guys, you’ve probably always been perceived as a regular guy among most women. Nice, perhaps, but nothing too far out of the ordinary. So let me ask you this: if you could be anything you wanted sexually to any woman, what would it be? Would Would it be something different than what you’ve been to the girls you’ve dated in the past? -
You could be the asshole, the bad boy that tells tells women they’re whores, pushes them down, fucks them in the ass and then pees on them. You could be the expert pussy-licker, pussy-licker, the one that has a special skill that all the women crave and seek out. Then when they’re done with you, they share you with their friends. You could be the kind, caring caring gentleman that takes out a woman he’s he’s never met before for a special one-of-a-kind romantic night on the town. You could be the submissive man, the one that allows allows a woman to tie tie him up and do anything she’s ever fantasized about to a helpless man.
You can be any one of those, or a million other personas. Or even better … you can be all of them! Use your imagination. Create different personas, and give each ea ch its own email address. Now you can address one woman as a s “whore” and another as “Ma’am” both in the same night. Y You ou can be “Daddy” to a “bad little girl” at the same time you’re “apologizing to mom for walking in on her while she was playing with herself.” You You can be the guy who takes women out ou t on wonderful dates on Wednesday, Wednesday, and the guy who wh o goes to a woman’s house and uses her h er as the cheap c heap tramp she’s always wanted to be on Thursday. Be whomever you feel comfortable co mfortable being, whomever you think you can actually be. Now all you need to do is match each of your personas with the fantasies of the CL women in your area.
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did some light cleaning as I waited for her to show up. All I’d seen of her were pictures pictures of her body, and they were pretty awesome. Beautiful, near-perfect breasts, just the perfect size to be cupped in my hands, a slim, toned body and long, wonderful legs. I could h hardly ardly wait. For some reason I was feeling hornier than usual. Maybe it was the unusually cold weather weather.. Although she contacted me based on an email promising a night of oral pleasure – for her – I was considering trying to push her against the wall and just start having my way with her the moment she walked in.
My phone rang. It was her. her. “I think I’m here. Can you come out and meet me?” Sure. Meeting her at her car wasn’t wasn’t really in my script, but exibility is important when arranging a casual encounter. encounter. I threw on a jacket and stepped through through the snow. snow. As I approached the car, car, the rst thing I noticed was she wasn’ wasn’tt getting out and the dome light wasn’tt on in her car. The second thing I noticed was the shadow of wasn’ o f what looked like a ball b all cap on her head. Okay, not all that sexy, but who am I to judge her fashion choices? The driver’s driver’s side window rolled down and I leaned in. “Hi! Glad you made it.” Her face was pretty p retty,, but there was something that wasn’t wasn’t quite right. I couldn’t couldn’t put my nger on it though. “Me too,” she smiled back. “C’mon. It’s It’s cold out here. Let’s Let’s get inside,” I advised. She rolled up the window, pulled the key out of the ignition and opened the door. door. Yep, Yep, nice body I thought. Short, a good eight e ight inches shorter than me. Nice. But that ball cap would have to go. As we walked through my well-lit entryway, entryway, it occurred to me, this girl has rreally eally short hair. hair. Really, really short. We We walked into the kitchen, where I offered offered her a glass of wine. She nodded, so I began opening a bottle of red. And then I stopped as she removed the ball cap. She was bald. Completely bald. Bald as a bowling ball. Geez was she bald. She looked at me, examining me carefully, carefully, looking for some kind of reaction. Hmm … great body, body, no hair. hair. Not quite sure what to do, I shrugged and went back to o opening pening the wine. I poured and
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A Brief Discussio Discussion n of Women Women and the Power Po wer of Their Fantasies Fantasies Men are all pretty similar. similar. We We all want sex. And pretty much all it takes to get us in the mood is looking at an attractive half-naked woman. woman . Elaborate fantasies are nice, but pretty muc much h all of us guys just want to fuck. To prove it, would you click on a headline that said: 23 ( ( An An area around around the corner from you) ANY MAN PLEASE FUCK ME NOW! – w4m – 23 Would you click on it? Of course you would! How co could uld you not? And what if the text of the p post ost went on to say: I’m horny now. Need a man – any man – deep inside of me NOW. Take Take my mouth, mou th, my pussy, my ass, or all three. Don’t care about age, height, weight or anything else. Just get here quickly!!! First real email gets me!!! My guess is, if you’re a man, you’d break your keyboard trying to be the rst to respond. But that’s what makes you different from a woman. A woman never would respond to an ad like that. Want Want to prove me wrong? Go ahead. Go to CL right now and post a m4w ad simply saying you you’re ’re horny and want sex, right now, indiscriminately from any woman. Go ahead, I’ll wait. So … how did that work for you? Other than the spam, did you get a single note from a real woman? No, of course you didn’t. But did you notice all of the ads that are up on y your our local CL casual encounters board right now from men saying almost exactly what I just dared you to post? Hmmmm … all of those men will go to bed alone and frustrated tonight be because cause they don’t have any understanding of what women will respond to in a post. THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT SENTENCE IN THIS BOOK: The better you are at wrapping a woman in her fantasy in EVERY way you communicate with her, the more success you will have on CL.
Just to be sure you speed-readers got it, I’m going to repeat it.
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THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT SENTENCE IN THIS BOOK: The better you are at wrapping a woman in her fantasy in EVERY way you communicate with her, the more success you will have on CL.
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Very, ery, very few women on CL are fantasizing about immediate and anonymous sex. And those few who are can nd someone who is far better looking, richer and smarter than you or me. For women, fantasy is the beginning of foreplay. foreplay. And as you already know, know, give a woman enough really good foreplay and she will give you anything you want. So begin the night’s foreplay with your very rst written words. Reinforce her fantasy with every new sentence (I’ll explain how to do this in Chapter Nine). In the email conversation that follows, nd the pace that makes her most comfortable, (it will be slower than yours), and walk her through her fantasy. This could take as little as 45 minutes or as long as a few days of emails and tex textt messages going back and forth. But the average I have found is about 2 hours (more on this in Chapter Ten). Advance the fantasy a little farther with with each new email, giving her a new reason to shiver, reinforcing again and again that she must have you. When you nally meet, make sure you’re continuing her fantasy, approaching her and treating her exactly as you promised in the fantasy you’ve been weaving around her (learn more in Chapter Twelve).
But before we get into how you’re supposed to wrap a woman in her fantasies from your rst written word, we must discuss different types of women, and the fantasies they are typically looking for on CL. There is no ONE fantasy that will cover all the women who are on CL. Different types of women have different emotional needs. Those emotional needs relate DIRECTLY DIRECTLY to their sexual needs. Below is a list of the types of women I have found on CL. This is not a universal overview of all women everywhere. Admittedly, there are many types of women whose emotional makeup would never allow them to use CL to nd a man. But this book is not abo about ut how to get laid with all women. That is WA WAY too much work. This book boo k is about how to sign on o n to CL and nd nd a woman who wants to have sex with you now. The types of CL women and their emotional needs There are several types of women on CL. Some women you meet will fall into multiple categories, but that’s that’s a good thing. It means there are multiple ways to approach those women that will lead to success. The one thing all of these types of women have in co common mmon is they are smart. V Very ery smart. Razor-sharp smart. Most are well-educated. Most are book smart. And those who aren’t book smart have a great deal of common sense. But they’re all in need. Once you identify the type of woman, you will understand her need. And once you understand her need, you know what you must say to get her interested. The Boss She is universally respected in her career eld. She is often a single mom. Everything in her life
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is about responsibility. responsibility. She is always in control con trol and always knows what everyone around her should be doing. Nobody in her life has the balls to tell her h er to sit down and relax, taking control away from her. Any man in her social circle who she would nd for traditional dating would never have the nerve to even try. After all, in our enlightened society, women are SUPPOSED to have all the control they want. She’s spent years making the most of her he r smarts, her education and her perseverance. But … deep down inside … she is tired of always being in control. She wants to lose control, just for a little while. She wants someone to understand her intimately enough to take her back to a space and time when it was okay for a man to be a real man, a man in complete control, and it was a positive for a woman to be treated like a real woman. Because she knows exactly what she wants, once you show her you can provide it, she is in 100%. She is educated, smart, accomplished and usually in her late 20s to late 30s. Show her a good time and you can have her as often as she is able to make time for you. The Fantasy Fulller This is sometimes a subset of the Boss, but not always. She is in enough control of her sexuality that she is taking matters into her own hands. h ands. She has always had a fantasy. One fantasy fantasy.. Usually it’s it’s a really dirty one. Dirtier than anything she could tell any past boy boyfriends/husbands. friends/husbands. Or her fantasy is a reaction to what her current spouse isn’t giving her: not hung enough, not dominant
enough, not enough stamina, her signicant other is a woman and she needs to feel a real cock, etc. Yes, this woman is often in a committed c ommitted relationship, and her time with you will have to be a secret. But you offered her a fantasy online that was exactly the one she has always fantasized about, and she just HAD to try it. Like the Boss, Bo ss, once you’ve shown the Fantasy Fulller that you can provide the experience she wants, she’ll be right over. She is educated, smart, accomplished and usually in her mid-to-late 30s, but can be anywhere from her late 20s well into he herr 50s. She will show up expecting this to be a one-time experience, but if you’re VERY good at giving her what she wants, there may be a repeat repea t performance. In the case that this woman is in a committed relationship with a woman, there is the chance cha nce of turning a future encounter enco unter into a threesome … if you’re very, very smart about it (more in Chapter Fourteen on this). The Fantasy Fulller Couple
This is one I have never personally taken part in, although I have received more than a few invitations, and you probably will too. We all have our own tastes, and this may appeal a ppeal to you. There are many traditional male/female couples out there looking to invite an additional a dditional man into their playtime for various reasons and to play various roles. This can include anything from having sex with the woman so the man can hear about it later, or having sex while he listens in on the phone to engaging in a full sexual experience with both of them. Every couple looking to swing has its own fantasies, and if theirs is complimentary to yours, there will be a lot of fun to be had. Don’t worry about how to approach this opportunity. opportunity. It will approach you if the couple nds the fantasy you describe in one of your posts to be intriguing. And because there is generally a man at the other end of the conversation, once the pictures are exchanged and everyone approves, closing the deal should be quick and easy. The Explorer This woman has some similarities to the Fantasy Fulller, with two major differences. First, she’s
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generally younger, in college or in her mid 20s, 20 s, but she could be a late bloomer into her 30s. Second, she doesn’t have a single fantasy she wants to fulll. She wants to go to the buffet and experience as many small tastes as she can c an before she nds someone to settle down with someday. All she wants to do right now is to learn and enjoy as much as she can. While she certainly has her limits, she will respond to you if you offer her something that sounds like fun that she hasn’t encountered before. In fact, this will be one of your quicker hoo hookups. kups. Generally, you’ll only meet this woman once or twice before she absorbs the experience and moves on. The Neglected Woman This is the saddest type of woman on CL, but the one who feels she needs your attention the most, and the one who will be the most appreciative afterward. She is in a relationship, but her spouse has turned her into a roommate. Maybe they never have sex anymore. Maybe it’s once a month and always in the missionary position. Maybe he never n ever considers her satisfaction. For whatever reason, she has lost her sense of sexuality and desperately wants to recapture it, even if that means it’s with a stranger she just met on the internet. This is one of the most predominant groups on CL. She is likely to be a BBW, her time will be limited and you MUST host. But this is one of the easiest deals to close. And after you meet once, she will be happy to repeat the experience again and again, and there is a high likelihood of making a good friend in the process. WARNING: I’m not going to get into the morality of bedding an aattached ttached woman. You’re You’re a big boy, and you need to make your own choices. All I can say for this one is, you will be doing something that could get you into trouble, possibly even killed by an enraged spouse. The good news is that she will most likely take the secret of your encounters to the grave. And if her spouse is really neglectful, he may not care that she’s sleeping with someone else. Still, be very careful. The Recently Single Woman This is the Neglected Woman Woman in the twelve to eeighteen ighteen months after she nally decides to leave her spouse. Emotionally she knows she is not n ot in any shape to have a relationship. But still she has physical needs, which she can now satisfy without feeling the guilt of cheating on her husband/ boyfriend. Her fantasies are very much the same as the Neglected Woman, Woman, and she can be approached sexually in very much the same way. The only difference is her emotional state. Expect
to be held at arm’s length emotionally, emotionally, making a long-term friendship rather unlikely. However, she will often be up for more than a single encounter. The Bored Woman She isn’t in need of anything. She is just browsing. This is the hardest deal to close and the hardest group to dene. She is smart (as she will sometimes tell you) and cynical (as you yo u will quickly see for yourself). She’s not there to get laid as much as she’s there to amuse herself. Women from this group rarely write their own posts, and when they do they make it clear they know they won’t nd what they’re looking for on CL. But the fact is, she is bored and a nd deep down she really is lonely. lonely. She’s a tough nut to crack, but if you prove that you’re smart enough, quick enough and cynical enough to keep up u p with her, she will consent to a non-sexual meeting. What you do from there is up to you. Warning: it’s it’s not going to be easy and it’s not going to be fast. But it could be interesting …
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The Dater There are some women who choose to cut through the BS of meeting guys in the traditional ways; going out on dates and getting to know them. They have a hard time conforming to the niceties of polite society. But they know they want a steady sexual partner – almost a boyfriend, with the sexual regularity but without the drama and emotional baggage – aand nd they nd him through CL casual encounters. You’ll You’ll nd that she is almost always highly eeducated ducated and smart, but also a bit outside the mainstream in a number of ways. She can be any age and can range from incredibly attractive to a little below average in the looks department. Whether she spends most of her time riding Harleys or smoking pot or spitting, belching and an d cursing like a sailor, you will nd this may not be a woman you would want meeting your parents, your coworkers, your friends or your neighbors, but then again, you just might. She will hang around and have sex with you every night if you let her. The Crazy Dater This is a subset of the Dater. She takes the idea of living outside the boundaries of polite society to a whole new level. She isn’t just odd … she’s absolutely freaking nuts. She goes from CL guy to CL guy, guy, pretty much spending all of her time with one, until he nally tells her to get the hell out. Be careful, she can sometimes be hard to spot. Trust your gut. If you meet someone that seems great but raises that odd feeling in the pit of your stomach, you’ve probably just met the Crazy
Dater.. But on the bright side, it is true that the crazy ones are BY FAR Dater FAR the best in bed. The Wannabe She could come off as any of the above, and you will feel that she is completely sincere in wanting to meet. And she is. She’s just just … petried, no matter how condent her words seem. She will disappear mid-email conversation or promise to come meet you, but never will. Nothing you can say or do will change her decision to leave you hanging. I will get more into this type of woman in Chapter Fourteen. I bring her up now because you will run into her occasionally on CL. Don’t take it personally when she promises to show up but doesn’t. She wants to, she’s just scared.
WHAT WHA T CAN YOU DO WITH WI TH THESE PSYCHOLOGICAL SKETCHES?
Now that you know whom you’re potentially talking to, you can strategize ideas to communicate with them. And since you know what each group is thinking, thinking, you can make them want to come to you, a complete stranger, and fulll your fantasies as you fulll fulll theirs. In the next chapter I’ll explain which types of women’s fantasies are appropriate for each type of woman. woma n. But rst, since we’re talking about the types type s of women that are out there, I want to discuss something that is probably on your mind that I haven’t yet touched on: What do CL women look like? The expectation is that women looking for casual encounters online are all trolls. After all, an attractive woman doesn’t have to go online to nd a man for sex. If you believe that, you will be surprise surp rised d…
In my travels, I have met all types of women on CL. Some were amazingly beautiful. A couple of
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them you would probably think were truly physically unattractive. And most were somewhere in between. But you may be more selective than I am. Or you may be less selective. Either way, every time you look for women on CL, you yo u have the opportunity to make new choices in the women you will meet or won’t meet. You You need to consider these types of women and ask yourself who you want to meet and whom you want to avoid. After all if you’re not sure what you want, you’ll never know when you nd it. If all you want is anything with a pussy, feel free to skip the rest of this chapter. White, Hispanic, Asian and Black women Let’ss set aside political correctness for a moment. Are there any races you’re really into? Are Let’ there any you’re y ou’re just not into? It’ It’ss something important to consider. consider. You You don’t have to share your answers with anyone, just know what you’re into and what you’re not. In every city I have studied, the racial makeup of the town is very much reected in the women on CL. So if you’re living in a city that is predominantly white, that’s mostly what you’re going to nd on CL. If you want to nd someone more exotic, post ads specically de describing scribing who you’re looking for. If that doesn’t work, consider spending time in another city where the racial makeup is a little more to your sexual preferences. BBWs There are a lot of big, beautiful women in the general American population. So you know there is no shortage of them on CL. The question is: how big does a woman have to be to be a BBW? I’ve run into women who were a hot size 8 who considered themselves BBWs. And I’ve run into size 26s and higher who put themselves into that same category. So the question you should ask yourself is whether you care about body size. If you do, start studying the different dress sizes. Know how a size 12 is different than a size 16, and an d how that’s dif different ferent than a size 20. Where on the spectrum do you decide a woman is too fat for you? Or do you care?
You will nd some men on CL looking specically for BBWs. Some have a fetish. Others just believe that BBWs are more desperate than t women. I’m not sure that those men are correct. If you want to increase your odds of success, be open to BBWs. Older women There aren’t that many women on CL over the age a ge of 50, but you will occasionally nd them if you’re looking hard enough. Of course, if you’re 18 years old, a woman in her 30s seems pretty old too. So consider the age group you’re looking for. A man looking for a much older woman is offering something special to the lucky older woman. You You will nd women – “cougars” – who are interested in that on CL. If you’re not no t interested in women much older than you, be sure to indicate exactly the ages that interest you. Younger women There are not many older guys who will turn down a chance to fuck a much younger woman (at least 18 years old, please, let’s keep it legal). The challenge is nding a young woman who wants an older
man. You can nd them if you use the right fantasies to attract them. Understand that if a younger woman is what you want, you will use a different type of bait than you would for other women.
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should have been at my desk taking care of long-overdue paperwork. Instead, I was headed to one of the wealthier neighborhoods in the area, just outside the city. But I didn’ didn’tt really have that much choice. She said she had been a bad girl. She said she needed a strong man to come punish her. her. Who was I to deny her the discipline she needed, even if it was 10:30 on an otherwise busy Wednesday morning? Iindrove amongQuite the old willows and the expansivewhat lawns. found address address andIparked front slowly of the house. a respectful neighborhood, the Ihell wasthe I doing here? popped the trunk and took out my bag of toys. I closed the trunk and walked up the long walkway past the striking landscaping. I knocked on the thick front door and waited. After a few moments, moments, the door was opened by an older woman in a bathrobe. Mid-50s, curvy body, not overly fat but ccertainly ertainly not skinny either, either, a hairstyle that probably would have been a little mor moree comfortable in 1972. In other words: someone’s someone’s mom. But right now she was about to become the subject of my discipline for the next couple of hours. “Have you been a bad girl who needs to be punished?” I asked. “Oh yes. So, so bad,” she smiled back. I reached down and untied her robe, revealing revealing a full set of breasts and a freshly shaved pussy pussy.. “Very “V ery nice,” I said as much to myself as to her he r. “Thank you,” she replied, turning and heading into her house. We walked past pictures of children, family times, and a variety of what I assumed were keepsakes collected over decades. decade s. Leading me into a large, comfortable living room, she stopped and turned. “So where do you want your bad girl?” I walked behind her and pulled off her robe, placing it over the arm of an overstuffed chair. chair. “Down on your hands and knees,” I said sternly. I watched her go to her hands and knees, sticking her naked butt up in the air for me. I reached into my bag for my paddle …
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Writing Your Your Ads: Creating Success From Your First Word Everything we’ve discussed up until now has h as focused on the science of success on CL. With enough observation and experimentation exp erimentation it’s it’s not too hard to map out and quantify what leads lead s to success and what doesn’t. You You now know where to post, when to post and who will be reading your posts. You You also know what NOT to post. And I’ve given you some ideas of strengths to consider when you’re writing a post or answering a woman’s woman’s ad. It’s all science so far, learned through careful experimentation. But science only takes us so far. There is also some art involved in foreplay and seduction. This is where the creativity really comes in. Now let’s nwrite the words that will bring the women into your bed. Everything that happens on CL occurs through the written word, so the importance of the words you choose and the ideas they convey will be at the core of your success. For this chapter, I want to focus on writing your ads. There is a lot to learn from this one aspect of CL that you will nd useful in replying to women’s posts, managing the conversation that results from successful contact and the in-person meeting that follows. Writing a successful post Picture a woman in your mind. Just one. The woman you are going to fuck tonight. Y You ou don’t know her yet, and she doesn’t doe sn’t know you. But within the next two hours she is going to log on to CL and read your post. And you are going to say something that so completely captures her imagination that she must reply.
But who is she, this woman you will be meeting tonight? In the previous chapter I gave you a list of types of women I have found in various cities using CL. Let’s go through each type of woman and discuss what you might write to each one. The Boss
Have you ever wanted to see a successful, accomplished woman naked, on her knees, kneeling before you? As I stated stated in Chapter Eight, if she’s she’s on CL, it’s it’s probably to nd someone capable of
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taking control from her. So do it. From your very rst word. I found success running ads like this:
It’s time for you to get your spankings - m4w - 38 Date: 2010-01-10, 10:38PM PST Post Reply To This Post
You’ve been such a bad girl, haven’t you? You’ve been letting your responsibiliti responsibilities es go, and now you’re having trouble t rouble getting back on track. You’ve You’ve been looking at dirty posts on Craigslist, getti getting ng all wet and playing with yourself when you should be doing something more productive. Well, it’s time for you to nall nally y get what you’ve been needing for too long. You know you deserve it. You know you need it. So here’s what you are going to do: you will message me telling me what a bad girl you’ve been and tell me that you’re ready for whatever a strong man has in store for you today. You You will come to t o me, and I will wil l I bend you over my knee, I will yank down your panties, and I will spank your ass until it’s all nice and red. First with my hand, then with a paddle. Then, if you’ve been really bad, we will determine whether you require further discipline. I don’t care about your age, race or body shape. Just make sure the subject line of your email says, “Please spank me, Sir.”
With that post I have generated a great deal of response from very smart, very strong, very accomplished women. Why? Because it promises exactly what they don’t get in their lives right now: -
Someone who will take control so they don’t have to plan everything. Someone who has the power to identify when when they need discipline discipline and administer it. Someone who can take them back to a time when they had no control (as a child) but at the same time, they felt safe and protected. Someone who is forceful enough to “put them in their place.”
But that’s not all this post does. It also: - Focuses completely on the female reader reade r. The word “you” and variations of it such as “your” appear 27 times in just three paragraphs. - It doesn’t focus on me at all. Did I say anything about what I want? Did I mention that I was horny? Did I mention I need to get laid? No, I didn’t do ANY of those things. Because nobody cares that I’m horny. It’s It’s not news and it doesn’t make me seem endearing, e ndearing, interesting or attractive. - Offers a step-by-step explanation of what the reader will experience. Where will this happen? My place. How will she be spanked? She will be over my knee, rst with my hand then with a paddle. I am building a fantasy storyline in her mind. - Stands out from most most of the other posts around it. Even the few where a guy wants to spank someone. Most of those posts say something like, “Is there anyone around here who wants a good spanking? I’d be happy to do the honors!” There is no art to it, no fantasy described, no
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storyline, no greater psychological game at play. No foreplay. foreplay. Opens the door to any woman reading. You may choose to be more discriminating. My philosophy has always been “cast the net wide.” You You will trade pictures before meeting anyway, and if either of you are turned off, the meeting won’t happen. So I have never seen a reason to say something like, “please no BBWs.” But you may choose a different path. Just keep in mind before you exclude an entire group of women that there may be a few women who would put themselves in your excluded category who you might nd extremely attractive. - Promises that that I will host. That means I own my own place place and that I don’t have a wife that I’m hiding from. A woman who responds may ask me to come to her, which I certainly will, but being able to host puts me miles ahead of many, many, many men on CL. - Creates two two ways to differentiate differentiate real real responses from spam. spam. More on this in Chapter Thirteen.
Now, a post offering spankings will not appeal to every woman. It won’t even appeal to every Now, woman in the Boss category. Not every woman who wants to lose some control wants corporal punishment. But you only need one tonight. And this post has worked for me many times. One more note about this post: do you remember in Chapter Seven when I discussed creating a persona? Have I done it here with this ad? Can you imagine more about this persona than what is stated here? It sounds like he is experienced, ex perienced, doesn’t it? It sounds like he is knowledgeab knowledgeable le enough and smart enough to be in control of any situation. Do you get the feeling that if you looked in his bed stand, he’d have handcuffs in there? And maybe a length of rope under the bed? Do you get the feeling that maybe he’s successful in business because he’s condent enough to take as much muc h control in the boardroom as he does in the bedroom? In three short paragraphs, I have created a three-dimensional character for the reader to think about. abo ut. I’m not just a random guy saying, “let me come over and spank you, because I really like spanking women, then let me fuck you because I’m horny as hell.” This ad – and each ad I will show you – presents a persona. You will see some personas repeated in these ads. Some personas will only show up once. For this to work – from placing the ad, to the email exchange, through the complete sexual experience – each persona has had to reect one aspect of my personality. personality. Your Your personality and your fantasies may support an entirely different cast of personas. The fact is that we are all capable of having many different personas within us, and there is great satisfaction to be discovered in letting them all come out and play p lay.. The ads I’m showing you are only meant to be a starting point for your adventures on CL. If you feel you can support one of the personas presented here, feel free to use some or part of any of these ads as your own. They are a re all presented here as successful case studies for you to learn from, adapt to your own personality and an d hopefully improve on. Please don’t deny yourself the thrill of creating your own personas, writing ads for each of them, and letting each one experience a life it never has. It will be a much more exciting and satisfying experience for you than just copying my words and getting laid. Here’ss another one that has served me well with women in the Boss category: Here’
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You are desperately in need of a Dom tonight - m4w - 35 Date: 2010-01-28, 10:50PM PST Post Reply To This Post
Simple: You You contact me, you wi will ll come to my home where you do exactly as you are ordered. You You get stripped naked and you spend all night taking my hard cock in every hole. Throughout the night you will be lled with cum repeatedly. This is for now. If you are obedient, this can become a regular thing. If you’ve never been used as a sub before, I will go slow and train you. If you are experienced, I will go a lot faster and harder on you. This is vital: any age and body type is completely welcome, BBWs, average to thin, older women and younger women, as long as you are obedient. Put “Please use me tonight” in the subject so I know you’re for real.
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First, it says I’m a Dom. That’s a promise of BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism) action. For a woman who has h as fantasized not just about losing control, but of becoming a “sub” for a “Dom,” this is an offer she has to consider. consider. However, for anyone who has ever watched BDSM porn, it can get a little rough. So there is a promise of “going slow” if “you’ve never been used as a sub before.” This opens the door to the woman who has only fantasized about BDSM but isn’t sure she can han handle dle it. Again, it promises that that once she shows up, she will no longer have to think. I will take full control. She just has to exist and experience. I’m still focused on her. I didn’t say, say, “I’m a Dom who needs a sub,” or “I’m horny and I need to fuck a sub tonight.” Throughout the entire post I use the word “you “you”” and variations of the word fteen times. I give the reader a mental picture for her to fantasize about. No, it’ it’s not a fantasy every woman will share, but again, I’m only looking for one at a time. This time I include a promise of sexual prowess. p rowess. We We will go “all night.” Make this or similar promises only if you think there is a good likelihood you will be able to fulll them. Again I open this up to all women, and then I ask them to differentiate themselves from the spam.
Ask yourself this question: if you know that there is a type of woman who very much would love someone to take control co ntrol from her, but only in a SAFE, SANE manner, how else would you y ou approach her? I think there are a variety of ways. Think about it. Consider writing an erotic story to draw her in, then stopping in the middle and asking if she wants to hear more. Watch some softcore porn in which a woman gives up power to a strong man and write out what happens, focusing on the woman’s point of view. Ask any strong female friends you may have about a bout their fantasies, and write those out. There are countless ways to create your perfect post for the Boss.
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The Fantasy Fulller Remember back in Chapter Seven when I had you list your strengths? I am sure that you have at least one strength that you can use to fulll the fantasy of at least one woman you will nd on CL. For example, there’s the fantasy of having sex outside. Do you have a pool? There are women who have never had that opportunity opportunity,, and on a beautiful summer day would love to give it a try. While While I have never been able to offer that fantasy, fantasy, I have been able to offer this one:
Do you have an outdoor fantasy? So do I! - m4w - 35 Date: 2010-05-09, 1:19PM PST Reply To This Post Post
I’ve always wanted to have sex outdoors. Always. So I woke up today and, behold, it’s a fabulous day. day. Incredibly fabulous. Perhaps the greatest day this city cit y has ever experienced. So I started thinking, thi nking, why waste such amazing weather with another day not fullling this fantasy? Not gonna do it. I have just the place. Zero chance of getting caught, or even being seen, but just public enough to be really interesting. Now all I need is the girl. I’m average height, HWP, HWP, single, educated, clean, well-groomed, sweet-smelling, DDF and a nice guy with a fantasy to fulll. If this sounds at all interesting to you, let me know by sending me a note titled “Ah, the great outdoors” so I know you’re not spam.
So what did I do with this post? - I communicated a fantasy that you don’t see often on CL, but one that many women have on their list of things they’d like to do some day. - I made it simple for her to fulll. I already have the place. All she needs to do is get in touch with me. I cannot stress this enough: this ad would never work if I put the responsibility on her
for nding the right place to do this. I made it clear that it’s safe. “Zero chance of getting caught, or even being seen.” While some women may really get off on a higher h igher risk of getting caught, I know that I don’t want that for myself, so I didn’t make it part of the fantasy. This was a personal preference, yours could be different. But another preference of mine when I wrote this ad was that I wanted a woman who is somewhat sexually adventurous, but b ut not into taking stupid risks. The fantasy spoke directly to that preference. - I described myself in a positive and truthful way. way. I didn’t say I was hot, but I did list my positive physical attributes. Don’t overlook overlook “well-groomed and sweet-smelling” as attractors for women. No matter who you are, with a small effort you can be bo both th of those things. - Notice that I ran this ad in the early afternoon on a beautiful weekend day. I was targeting women who were at home in the afternoon, bored, horny, looking outside and wishing -
they something fun to do out did violate my rule writing While “you”had does appear prominently inthere.I the headline, this one was on more aboutfor my“you.” fantasy. fantasy . When I ran
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this ad, I didn’t know how many women had this fantasy, fantasy, I just knew I did. I soon found out that many women did, especially on o n really beautiful days. If I were to run this again, I might rewrite it around the woman’s experience. Having said that, since this ad allowed me to fulll this fantasy, fantasy, I didn’t run it long enough to experiment with it. If you choose to run an ad like this, you might want to consider writing it from the woman’s point of view. Again, I ask the woman to prove that she isn’t spam.
Let’s try another fantasy. This one is rougher than the outdoor fantasy. Let’s fantasy. For the Boss we discussed offering her the fantasy of becoming a submissive. At rst glance, this next one is the same fantasy, fantasy, but in the mind of the woman, there is a world of difference between the submissive fantasy and what I will offer below:
You dirty, worthless whore - m4w - 35 Date: 2010-03-11, 1:25AM PST Reply To This Post
Down your knees, you fucking whore. the one thingand you’re every you inchare of all my night, hard cock in every one of on your holes. You’ve You’ve been waiting forDo a man to come treatbest youat. asTake the whore and now I’m nally here. I don’t even care about your age or your body type, as long as you’re a woman ready to be treated like the whore you know you are. So stop wasting my time, bitch. The subject of your email needs to say, “I’m your whore” if you’re going to get any attention att ention tonight. And be ready to get your tight little ass over here quickly. Women ONLY. I’m going to need all three holes tonight.
How is this different than the submissive fantasy for the Boss? - I treated the Boss with some respect. I told her exactly what I was going to do to to her, her, giving her the full storyline. In this case, I’m just saying “I’m going to treat you like a worthless
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whore, fuck in any every way.”She is I never and called theyou Boss names. is not a whore, a slut or a bitch. While the Boss wants to give away control, she usually doesn’t want to be degraded. Many in the Fantasy Fulller group do have a fantasy of being degraded.
So while your role remains similar in this fantasy for the Fantasy Fa ntasy Fulller as it is for the fantasies for the Boss, the role of the woman changes dramatically in this one, at lea least st in the mind of the woman. What else did I do with this ad? - I wrapped her in the fantasy from the rst word. I am talking to her as if she is already in the room with me, naked and on her knees. I know from the experience of women I’ve met from running this ad that if she already has this fantasy, she will start getting wet once she reads this headline. She will then read the body of the ad and an d get wetter and wetter.
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I’ve opened this up to all women. I will see a picture before we arrange a place to meet, so I will be able to back out soon enough if I’m really not attracted to her. - I’ve subtly created scarcity and urgency. urgency. The fact is, at the time of night I’m running this, she probably doesn’t believe she’s she’s going to nd too many men online that interest her. I have reminded her that if she doesn’t respond, she’s probably not going to get this fantasy anywhere else. Now, that probably isn’t technically true, since she could post her own ad saying “treat me like a whore” and get 100 responses in minutes, even at 2:00 a.m. But still, my bet is she’s she’s not thinking that clearly at this time of night. - And I have demanded “Women ONLY ONLY.” Why? As you get later into the night, you will nd more and more non-women (gay men, cross dressers, transgendered, etc.) responding to your posts. This is simply because as it gets late, many CLers go to sleep, and there are fewer posts appearing for anyone still up to respond to. If you make it very clear, “Women ONLY” ONL Y” you will preempt most non-women from contacting you. When I state that I “nee “need d all THREE holes” I have found I pretty much eliminate all responses from non-women.
What other fantasies can you think of o f that the Fantasy Fulller will jump at the chance to try? Sex on your desk in your ofce or in a boardroom? Role playing the bad employee having a meeting with the boss? Maybe you have h ave a variety of sex toys that she’s never had the nerve to buy and bring home, but you have them and they’re totally ready for her? Maybe you have a physical trait or ability that she has always wanted to check out, but never had the opportunity? The possibilities are only as limited as your imagination. Whatever you choose, c hoose, she will see you as head h ead and shoulders above all of the other guys on CL who are just saying they’re horny and need to get laid. The Fantasy Fulller Couple Here’ss the bad news on this one: I’ve never looked for or Here’ o r wanted a M/F couple to play with, so I don’t have any experience on how to nd them. But here’ here’ss the good news: if you want to nd an M/F couple, they post on CL constantly throughout the day and night in most big cities, especially in cities that make good vacation vac ation destinations (if you’re not seeing any posts in your area, plan a trip for a weekend to your nearest big city). If you want to nd them, you will. And on occasion, they will answer one of your posts p osts targeting women. The Explorer Any post that attracts the Fantasy Fulller will also interest the Explorer Ex plorer.. The only difference between the two groups is that this one is looking for a variety of interesting, new sexual experiences instead of one in particular p articular.. And this one tends to skew younger. For that reason, I have found this to be a very effective ad:
Daddy’s home - m4w - 35 Date: 2010-01-02, 4:18PM EST Reply To This Post Post
Oh, princess, I know you’ve been reading those t hose dirty CL posts again. Have you been having dirty thoughts? Tingling Tingling down there in your private parts? I know it’s fun to play on the computer, but that t hat doesn’t mean it’s okay to play with
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yourself as you read dirty, dirty things online. What a bad little girl you’ve been today. You know that when you’re good you get rewarded in all kinds of ways, but we’ve been over this again and again and again. I’m afraid this time you’re going to need to be punished. Pull down your panties and bend over my knee, princess. If you have something to say for yourself before I start spanking your little ass, send me a note with the words, “I’m sorry,, Daddy” in the subject line. sorry
The rst thing you’ll probably notice is there are some parallels between this fantasy and others we have just covered. Power exchange and spankings to be specic. Part of this comes down to my personal tastes and strengths. I happen to be very good at administering spankings. But beyond that, power exchange is a societal taboo, and that makes it hot, exciting and different to many kinds of women, the Explorer included. Plus, since the Explorer tends to skew younger, if you’re an older man, there is a na natural tural role play fantasy there for a horny woman in her 20s looking for something she’s never tried before. If you are an older man who really enjoys younger women, the Daddy/daughter, Uncle/niece, Professor/ student and other similar role plays are all great ways to attract younger women who usually wouldn’t be interested. What else did I do with this ad? - I described how she is feeling as she goes through the CL ads. Describing her as “tingling down there” makes me look like I know a lot more than I really do. Note, I only said “tingling,” I didn’t overdo it by saying she was wetter than she has ever been in her life. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to gure out that if a woman is going through the CL personals, she is probably beginning to get turned on, at least a little. If she was intrigued enough by my headline to click on it and read my ad, then there is an even greater chance she is feeling a little tingly down there. But “knowing” this intimate bit of information makes it seem like “Daddy” understands her body almost as well as she understands herself.
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Iathave herison the “fact”We that sheinisa touching herself. actually is or she isn’t that called moment irrelevant. live society that looksWhether down onshe masturbation, and telling her to stop at a moment when whe n she is feeling horny reinforces me as an authority who has some right to tell her what to do. This is a template that will serve me well after she contacts me and I tell her how Daddy wants her dressed d ressed and what she needs to do to see Daddy. - I haven’t haven’t just threatened to spank her. her. I have offer offered ed her both punishment and reward. How she responds to me will determine where this fantasy goes. goe s. Some who reply will very much want to be Daddy’s dirty little slut, and Daddy is happy to accommodate ac commodate them. But an equal equ al number would rather be Daddy’s little angel, doing all she can to make Daddy proud of o f her rather than being punished. Be exible enough in your scenarios to accommodate the preferences of the woman answering your post. - Again, I have asked her to differentiate herself from the spam this ad will accumulate. Because the Explorer is looking for any interesting sexual scenario she hasn’t experienced yet, I
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don’t feel the need to waste your time analyzing multiple ads that will work for this category. Just think of interesting scenarios that some women haven’t had the opportunity to try, but would want to. For ideas, look at women’s porn, racier romance novels, women’s magazines like Cosmo and others offered at grocery store checkout lines, fantasies of close female friends or even the lyrics of some pop songs. Again, endless possibilities. The Neglected Woman/The Recently Single Woman I am putting these two groups together, because both have h ave the same need and a nd respond to the same fantasies. Unlike the previous groups, your best bet is NOT getting too deep into any kind of role play.. And power exchange is going to generally be way over the top for this group. What play What they really need is tender loving care. So how do you approach them? Here is one of my all-time favorite and most successful ads:
Here’s why you need my tongue between your legs tonight Here’s m4w - 35 Date: 2010-01-07, 6:55PM PST Reply To This Post Post
You will never meet a man who takes as much joy in giving oral as I do. I love it at several levels. First, I love the power of being completely responsible for a woman’s woman’s complete satisfaction, especially women who have never had a very good experience with receiving oral in the past. And I love when I’ve made a woman cum hard, and she’ she’ss expecting me to mount her and fuck her, but instead I very lightly continue to use my tongue on her, and feeling her go from, “no, it’s okay, I just came,” to “oh my god, I’m going to cum again!” Second, I LOVE the feeling of accomplishment of what I can do to a woman using nothing by my tongue, my lips and a nger or two. I don’t believe that every man can be an expert at pleasing a woman orally, so every time I do, I get quite a rush of pleasure. Third, I take great pride in the compliments I’ve received in my talents. It’s not like you can just go down there and lick the same way on every woman every time ti me and get satisfactory results. You have to listen closely with all of your senses to do it right. Your tongue and lips almost need to become an extension of the woman you’re with, you need to lose yourself in her pleasure and go where she needs you to go rather than followi following ng any prior moves that may have worked for someone else. Fourth, I just enjoy the act itself. The feel, the taste, everything. If you’re interested, send me a note with the words “Eat me” in the subject line ...
Do you see what I did with this ad? I have offered an incredibly valuable service to just about any woman, an experience in which they will be orally pleased, and completely satised. Does that alone make me unique? Of course not. In every CL city, there is at least one posting an hour from a man saying, “I want to eat some pussy,” pussy ,” “Let me lick your clit,” or some other completely non-sensitive way of conveying what I’ve managed to say here. What makes make s this ad special isn’t so much the offer as the sensitivity with which it has been phrased. Let me show you what I mean using ads I’ve found at random from men that probably weren’t nding much success. I do NOT suggest trying the following approaches:
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looking to give nsa oral sex to a very hairy women - m4w – (anywere) Date: 2010-01-07, 6:55PM CST Reply To This Post Post
I like it hairy I want to eat a pussy with a big hairy bush the more hair to better I don’t mind if it a little strong smelling to no strings no questions any size women I don’t care must be std free and have your own place
looking to eat pussy - m4w – 21 (Philly) Date: 2010-01-07, 6:55PM EST Reply To This Post
I’m a 22yo virgin looking to eat clean pussy for the rst time if u wana help me loose my virginity, write me back
I LOVE TO EAT PUSSY - m4w – 50 (Little Rock) Date: 2010-01-07, 6:55PM CST Post Reply To This Post
I LOVE TO EAT PUSSY ITS AS SIMPLE AS THAT WE MEET I EAT YOUR PUSSY UNTIL YOU HAD A FEW ORGASMS OR UNTIL U HAVE HAD ENOUGH THEN WE PART WAYS, NO RECIPROCAL NEEDED !!! UNLESS YOU WANT WANT
Putting aside the misspellings and grammar issues, what did these three men say that was different than what I said? We We all made the exact ex act same offer. offer. The difference between us is that I have had sex
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with dozens of women thanks to that ad. How many women would you think these other three ads scored in total? I’m thinking zero. So what made my ad special? From a man’s perspective, if a woman wrote, “Let me suck your cock,” you’d be totally down with that. That’s exactly the type of ad you’ve been waiting for. Total Total simplicity.. So a man writing, “Let simplicity “Le t me eat your pussy,” seems like a pretty great offer too, if you’re thinking like a man. But think about it from the woman’s perspective. Her pussy is delicate, and you y ou are a strange man. If a woman really wants to have her pussy devoured and conquered in a manly way, you’re probably better off hitting her with a role play idea in which you devour her entire body. body. A woman who just wants a very nice oral experience, followed by equally fullling intercourse, needs something more subtle and sensitive. If you’re good at giving oral to a woman, you know that you get the best results from most women by being careful and sensitive an and d paying attention to their every movement. So let your words be every bit as sensitive as your tongue. Let’s go through the post I’ve gotten such success with and break down what I did right: -
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The headline, “Here’s why you need my tongue between your legs tonight,” is all about the woman and her needs. It doesn’t say anything about what I want. It’s about what she NEEDS. I don’t use the word “pussy” at all in this post. Not in the headline, nor in the body. I’m a lot more subtle than that. I used a far more classy way of explaining the act. And if I’m subtle and respectful on paper, she can only assume I’ll be the same in person when I’m in the act of satisfying her. I don’t use the word “eat” in this post either, until the nal line. And when I do use the word, it’s it’s making fun of an idiom that has nothing to do with the act of oral sex. Eat is such a strong word for such a soft set of actions. The fact is that, when performing oral, you’re not really eating anything. You’re You’re not using your you r teeth or chewing. ch ewing. You You are kissing, you are licking, you are teasing, but you are certainly not eating. She denitely knows the difference. With my word choices, I show her that I know the difference too. I have demonstrated knowledge of oral sex that most women have come to expect that
most men won’t have. Women Women know that most men just use oral sex to get the woman ready for intercourse. Many men don’t worry about bringing a woman all the way to orgasm even once orally. And very rare is the man who brings about a woman’s orgasm orgasm orally, and then goes for a second, third or fourth round before getting to the sexual acts that he will nd more physically satisfying. - I obliquely mention compliments from past lovers, establishing my experience and my expertise. I do not go over the top with it though. I k keep eep it subtle. To To do otherwise would be bragging and sound untrue. - I ascribe ascribe my own joy to her satisfaction. I make the entire fantasy about her total and complete happiness. I don’t even mention having intercourse with her, h er, although I do fully intend to fuck any woman I meet on CL. The few times I’ve had a woman ask me to just come over and do as I promised in this ad, without them returning favors of any a ny kind, I have declined, de clined, telling them I’m a very generous lover and I only play with lovers who are equally generous. It gives me the moral high ground, puts them in their place, and it allows me to invest my time in meeting
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women who offer me similar satisfaction. And again, I end with the request that they differentiate differentiate themselves themselves from the spam this post post will be receiving.
Here’s another ad I’ve used that works quite well for me with the Neglected Woman and the Recently Single Woman. Woman. At rst glance, this may sound like I’m breaking one of my cardinal rules about trying to be everything for every woman, but after you read it, I’ll explain how this is far more targeted than it seems:
I make fantasies come true - m4w - 35 Date: 2010-01-11, 11:02AM PST Post Reply To This Post
You know that secret fantasy you’ve had in the back of your mind for years? Oh, you know, the one you haven’t wanted to trust anyone with? Maybe it was just SO unlike you. Maybe it was a little too dirty. Maybe you just didn’t want to be judged. Maybe you’ve been in a relationship and didn’t know how to ask. Well, if you’re willing to take a chance, today iiss your day!!! Just whisper in my ear. I’m not here to judge. Just to help you nd joy in that idea you’ve always wanted to play with. Is it role play? Awesome. Finding a secluded semi-public place to get dirty? No problem. Want to be with someone who will make your pleasure his singular goal for the evening? You You got it. Just want to spend the day with someone who will treat you like a lady and pay complete attention to everything you’re thinking and feeling? Consider it done. Just send me a message titled tit led “I have a fantasy” and the rest of the day is yours! Don’t just sit there at your computer, wondering what today could have been ...
If you read between the lines, what am I actually offering here? I’m offering the reader someone who will listen to whatever she wants. That is all. Do you know what every single woman who has responded to this ad had in common? They were starved for companionship. Starved to be taken out to dinner and to be listened to and engaged in real conversation. Starved to be taken home and treated like a princess, to feel taken care of, to feel loved.
Between careers and paying bills b ills and raising children, I believe that the pressure imposed by today’s society on long-term relationships has made having a satisfying sex life very, very hard. And some couples nd it impossible even to nd the energy – much less the excitement – to keep those res burning after being together for ten to twenty years. If you consider that women are
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extremely sexual beings, even more than men, it begins to explain why so many married women are unhappy and why so many are divorcing. All the Neglected Woman Woman and the Recently Rec ently Single Woman Woman wants is to be treated the way they had been promised they would when they began their long-term relationships: with care, with respect and with passion. Knowing that, what ideas can you come up with that will talk directly to these women, making it clear you understand their needs, and you’re ready to give them everything they have been needing? Here is one more ad that has had awesome results for me:
It’s one of those nights where if I was married … - m4w - 35 Date: 2010-01-01, 11:26PM PST Reply To This Post Post
... I would turn t urn to my wife and say say,, “Hey, wife, let’s have some fun tonight!” But I’m not. Married, that is. And if you’re reading this, you’re probably not either. And if you are married, you’re probably feeling even more alone than I am. Anyway, it’s getting kind of late, and if I knew what was good for me, I would be thinking about going to bed. Not looking for trouble here in CL. Yet ... here I am. And here you are too. Hmmmm .. .... interesting ... I’m a normal guy. Pillar of the community, salt of the earth and all of that. I just have a knack for needing something when everyone else in the world is on their way to bed. If you’re with me so far, send me a note with the words, “I’m with you” in the subject line. Maybe we can gure out a way to push away the loneliness before the night is completely over.
What have I done with this ad? - I’ve just just described the reader’s reader’s situation, situation, but attributed it to myself. myself. Who Who better to understand her loneliness than a clearly sensitive man declaring dec laring to the world how lonely he is? - I’ve made it clear that I’m not married. That means that if she can nd a way to get to me, I will likely be able to offer a safe place for us to share in our loneliness. - I have delicately asked the question, “What are you doing on CL casual encounters at this time of night if you’re not looking for trouble?” Of course she’s looking for trouble, even if she only believes she is bored and entertaining herself. Eventually she WILL answer an ad. It might as well be mine. - Notice: I NEVER SAID ANYTHING ABOUT SEX. I didn’t say I’m horny. I didn’t say I was
looking to get laid. This group IS looking for sex, but they’re not willing to say it out loud.
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What they want want is is “companionship.” But show them a ffew ew hours of that and they can’t can’t wait to get you into bed.
The Bored Woman You know two paragraphs ago when I said, “Of course she’s looking for trouble, even if she only believes she is bored and entertaining herself”? Well Well that doesn’t apply to this group. She is literally in it for her own entertainment and nothing more. And that means laughs, not sex. And if there ever is sex, she’ll make you work for it over o ver several weeks, not several hours. If you’re looking for the quick score, there’s nothing you can write to this woman to make it happen quickly. However, if you’d like her to reply, I recommend humor. Something like the following will get you noticed, and replied to, but if it actually gets you laid, you’re a better man than I am.
You know how celebrities tend to die in threes? Here’s an ad I roll out on occasions when that happens. Of course, I change the names to include the newly dead celebrities:
Gary Coleman: dead. Dennis Hopper: dead. - m4w - 35 Date: 2010-06-02, 8:40PM EST Reply To This Post
Me: horny. Let’s Let’s not allow there tto o be any more tragedy this sad, sad week. I’ll host. I’ve got the wine. You show up with a smile. Message me now ...
So what does this ad do? - It says, “Hey, I’m entertaining. And I’m as timely as today’s headlines!” - It says my sense of humor is borderline inappropriate, and therefore therefore interesting.
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Because I’ve got wine it says I’m at least a little little sophisticated sophisticated and at least somewhat interested interested in stocking something that women tend to be more interested in than bee beerr.
Because I can only run this when at least two high-prole celebrities have recently passed away, I have only run this a few times. It never fails to get responses. Just not ones from women looking for sex. I include this ad because beca use it does get responses and ca can n prove to even the most frustrated male poster that real women DO exist on CL. Here is another funny one that often gets responses, and has occasionally even led to a sexual encounter. The women who respond to this one too, are really just looking to be entertained, not meet in person or have sex. Converting them into sexual partners requires deeper investments in time than any of the previous p revious ads I’ve shown you. However, if you really like smart, funny women who don’t easily go to bed with a stranger, this is a good one:
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Good news. :) Bad news. :( - m4w - 35 Date: 2010-03-12, 3:12PM EST Reply To This Post
Bad news: the other day I was really, really horny. horny. Good news: I got on Craigslist and put up an ad! Bad news: it wasn’t easy for me to write anything as interesting, charming and funny as I actually am in person. Good news: I came up with w ith something halfway decent! And I got a LOT of responses!!! Bad news: all the responses were spam. Most were from someone named “Madison.” Good news: it’s another beautiful evening in Boston, the most fun city in the world ... or at least the most fun part of New England ... Bad news: I’m still really, really horny. Good news: hopefully you are too, and you’re looking for a kind, creative, experienced man who knows how to satisfy a woman! Bad news: there’s a high probability I’ll get a dozen emails from “Madison” responding to this t his post. Good news: if you answer this ad with the words “Madison is a complete bitch” in the subject line, I’ll know at least one of my responses is actually real this time!
What does this ad do? - It pokes fun at the one thing thing that everyone on CL has to deal with: spam. It’s It’s a shared
experience that many people complain about. Instead of making another complaint, this is written in a way that is fun and engaging. - I repeat that “I’m really, really horny” twice. Because it’s done in a humorous format, women think I’m making fun of all of the other guys who are posting on CL saying seriously, “I’m horny,” horny ,” adding to the sense that I’m entertaining. - It offers offers a story that, evidently, evidently, women are interested interested in. Every woman who has responded to this ad has begun by asking whether I ever got a real response on CL. I believe the women who have responded to this ad see someone fun who is not a player, because I’m making it clear I’ve been looking but that I have only gotten spam so far. And that is attractive enough for them to want to talk, even if they were only reading for entertainment. Here is one last ad that almost always gets responses from very ve ry,, very hot women. Sadly, it’s it’s never resulted in a sexual conquest for me. After much thought, I have come to realize the following ad creates a fantasy in the reader’s reader ’s mind that includes a man attractive enough to be a presidential
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candidate. I do not physically ph ysically qualify, qualify, and once a woman sees my picture, the fantasy ends and they lose interest. I include this ad because if you happen to look at all presidential, this will get you laid, quickly and by very hot women:
So I’m thinking of running for President of the United States m4w - 37 Date: 2010-04-18, 2:21PM CST Reply To This Post
I’m educated, smart, a problem solver, and I’m damn good at speaking in public. I’m only missing one thing: a salacious secret. Something sexually based. Something that will sell newspapers and lead on all the cable news shows. Now, I’m not married, so it’s it’s got to be better than JUST having a mistress. This has to be REALLY REALLY interesting. I’m open to ideas. I’m thinking it needs to be really dirty. Of course, being a future President, it wouldn’t look right for me to come up with something that dirty myself. And I hate to ask my advisors for ideas on something so personal. So I look forward to hearing your ideas. But no guys, please. I’m not running for Pope. Just President. Thank you. Good night. And God bless America.
So what does this ad do? - It makes it clear, clear, I am smart and funny, funny, and it implies that I am fun, interesting, successful and hopefully attractive enough to look good in a televised debate. - It says I’m single and available. - It doesn’t doesn’t demand sex. It doesn’t even put forward a sexual fantasy. fantasy. Instead, it asks the woman to submit her fantasy, asking her to make it “really dirty.” This ad even gives the reader a fun story line that explains why I can’t volunteer a dirty d irty sexual fantasy myself.
Can you think of other ways to be funny, cool and charming, distancing yourself from the horny and crude ads that most men are posting? For more ideas watch a romantic comedy, read an issue of Cosmo or go to a bookstore bo okstore and pick up one of the latest novels for women about relationships. I’ll warn you, it’s a lot of work, the payoff takes a lot longer and what you’ll end up with is closer c loser to a girlfriend than a casual encounter. But if you want the Bored Woman, you know what you need to do now. The Dater Up until now, I have tried to coach the guy who is average in every way. way. In fact, back in Chapter Three I specically said: To succeed on CL:
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You don’t need to be in excellent physical shape. You don’t don’t need to be well endowed, sexually or any other way. way. You don’t need to be rich. You don’t need to have a great resume. You don’t need to be experienced in bed.
I hope I have shown you at this point how an average guy can get laid on CL without being special in any of these departments. However, if you want to get the attention of the Dater, you will need to be special in at least one or more of these ways. I don’t like saying that, but I have to be honest with you. If you are unable to offer any of these attributes, focus on any of the other types of women I have mentioned. The Dater is going to nd a guy to have sex with regularly. He will become her “boyfriend.” I put boyfriend in quotation marks, because it will be an odd relationship in which there isn’t the kind of knowledge of each other or deep caring that would be the center of a traditional relationship. In fact, in this relationship, neither person truly cares enough to really get to know much about the other. You can’t even call c all it friends with benets, bene ts, because friends are usually curious about each e ach other’s background, likes, dislikes, passions, etc. No, this is really just two people spending lots of time fucking and eating meals together because, well, you’re probably fucking before and after the meal, so it’s silly not to eat together. together. The Dater is really just looking for good sex over and over aand nd over. So if you’re better than most guys at some aspect of sex, and you’re able to communicate that in a way that appeals to her, you will have her attention. If you can ca n talk the talk through an email conversation, she will usually be willing to meet within a few hours of your rst contact. And if you can show that you walk the walk in your rst physical encounter, you will nd that you can have her h er as often as you want. One of the ads that works very ve ry,, very well with this group is the rst ad I showed you for the Neglected Woman/Recently Woman/Recently Single Woman Woman titled, “Here’s “Here’s why you need my tongue between your legs tonight.” It makes perfect sense why that ad works for the Dater: as long as she’s she’s going to be spending lots of time with a guy and having lots of sex with h him, im, he might as well be very ve ry good at giving oral. It’s simple math. Here’ss another one that works very well with this group: Here’
Here’ss the thing ... Here’ .. . it’s my thing ... it’s extra-wide - m4w - 35 35 Date: 2010-01-11, 9:21PM PST Post Reply To This Post
And right now it’s extra hard too. Looking for a woman who will really appreciate some girth, some hardness and some all-around fun tonight. Completely open to age and body type. But you MUST be a woman to play.
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So if you’re a WOMAN and serious about feeling yourself being stretched out tonight, send me an email with the words “Girth is good” in the subject line.
What have I done with this ad? - It’ It’ss pretty simple. I have offered offered the reader an extra-wide penis. It may not be something every
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woman craves, but it’s not a bad thing to have either. either. Some women will be very v ery interested, and not just the ones in the Dater category c ategory.. But I have NOT shown a picture of my penis. Women nd that gross. Now, some will ask for proof before they are willing to meet, in which case, a penis picture needs to be forthcoming. But the difference between sending a picture when wh en asked and putting it in your post is the difference between taking off your pants for a woman who has told you she wants to have sex with you and ashing random women on the street. I have been lighthearted and discreet in my word choices. Do the words “penis,” “cock” or “dick” ever appear in this ad? No. I used the word “thing.” I opened it up to all women and asked them to differentiate differentiate themselves themselves from the spam. And I repeated that you must be a woman. Why did I do that? Well, Well, I have discovered that men with larger or thicker … things … are often sought out by b y other men on CL. Even if you’re placing your ad asclearly a m4wand entry, gay menthat willyou’re often only often contact you just see if usually they have a chance. Stating repeatedly looking for to women eliminates awkward questions.
So what out-of-the-ordinary thing do you have h ave to offer the Dater? It doesn’t have to be purely about sexual ability, ability, as long at it adds to her sexual experience in some way. It could be physical (you’re very tall or very strong), nancial (she can come hang out in a beautiful home and have sex on the hood of your beautiful Italian sports car), or any other asset you have that would put you ahead of other guys in the minds of the women in this group. The Wannabe The Wannabe Wannabe will never meet anyone an yone from CL. There are certainly ads that will get her attention and that will have her emailing e mailing all night with you. Y You ou may even get her to promise to come right on over. But she never will. I will get more into the Wannabe in Chapter Thirteen.
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y phone made a familiar chime. I smiled knowing exactly who was trying to get my attention. I took my eyes off of o f the empty interstate, picked up the phone and read the text:
Master,, when will you be here? I am so wet. Master My car’s car’s GPS system said I was just minutes away. away. I punched a few words into my phone: Your Master is nearly there, slut. Are Are you prepared to follow all of o f the orders you have been given? A moment and another chime: Yes, sir. Please hurry. Your slut needs you. Both the GPS and the directions she had emailed me indicated I had made it to my destination. I found a visitor’s visitor’s space in front of the upscale apartment complex, parked the car, car, and popped open the trunk. As I grabbed my bag, I punched a few more words words into the keypad: Your Master is here, slut. Do I need you to remind you what to do? I closed the trunk and shed through my bag as I walked toward toward where I thought apartment 212 should be. The phone chimed again: No sir. sir. Your Your slut is ready ready to obey. Standing in front of unit 212, blindfold in one hand, handcuffs in the other, I took a deep breath. I reached for the doorknob and opened the unlocked front door. door. Stepping into the darkened apartment, I locked the door behind me and took another deep breath to calm myself. As my eyes adjusted to the darkness, over in the living room I saw the light of a candle reecting on her skin just a few feet away. Naked, on her knees, with her back to the door, door, exactly as her Master had ordered. order ed. As I placed the blindfold around her face an and d tied it at the back of her head, I said, “ “V Very nice, slut.”
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“Thank you, Master.” I got down on my knees behind her and gently closed one handcuff handcu ff around her right wrist, wrist, then one around her left. Fully bound, she leaned against me, melting her body into mine. With my lips against her right ear, I whispered, whispered, “Are you ready for you yourr Master to use you in every way now, slut?” “Oh yes, Master,” Master,” she whispered back. I stood and slipped off my pants, throwing them onto the couch. Now in front front of her, her, I gave her my next order, order, “Open your mouth, slut,” and I stepped closer …
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It’s Not A Conversation. It’s Foreplay. The rst time you get a response to one of your posts from a real woman, it’s really exciting. Hell, the 100th time you get a response from a real woman it’s pretty exciting too. But don’t let that excitement cause you to trip over ov er your own dick. You’ve You’ve made it to rst base. Congratulations! Co ngratulations! But don’t get cocky. There’s There’s still a long way to go. She has decided you’re interesting enough to risk sending one email. Whether or not there’s a second, a third or even a meeting is all about how you play it from here. I can’t coach you to be successful in every single email conversation you have. When I’m at my best I only convert about 60% of my conversations into meetings. But when I started, that number was closer to 10%. Practice denitely sharpens your abilities. Here are the rules of engage engagement ment I have learned in converting a real response into a meeting: 1. This is foreplay. She came to CL for a reason. Whether she consciously admits a dmits it or not, that reason is at least partially sexual. She may not want sex immediately, immediately, but she wouldn’t be on casual encounters if she wasn’t looking for a sexual encounter within the next week or two. You You have piqued her interest
enough to send you an email, and that means she is sexually interested. Let the email foreplay begin. The better at it you are, the quicker you’ll get her into your bed. So what does it mean to use your email conversation for foreplay? Le Lett me answer that question with a metaphor: Have you ever tried coaxing coa xing a squirrel out of a tree with a nut? You You know the squirrel wants that nut, but its fear keeps it from coming up to you and taking it from your hand. So the squirrel sits there and observes you. If you are very calm, very quiet, very patient and move very ve ry slowly slowly,, eventually,, that squirrel may just come a little closer and try to get that nut from you. But any eventually sudden movements or loud expressions, and you’ll never see the squirrel again. Coaxing a woman on CL into a meeting isn’t much different. You You know she wants it, but she’s a little scared. The type of woman she is and your skill at email foreplay will determine whether she
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will actually come out and take your nut. In other words, email foreplay means taking your time. It means being more mindful of her concerns than your physical needs. It means engaging her senses. It means being playful. It means moving her from intrigued, possibly feeling a little tingly down there, to getting her absolutely sopping wet using nothing but your you r words. 2. Don’t be a victim of premature invitation. When you’re in bed with a woman, when is the best time to end foreplay and move into intercourse? Do you wait until she’s wet? Do you wait until she has an orgasm? Do you wait until you’ve been doing it for an hour? My answer would be: the best time for foreplay to end is when the woman is begging you to stop and please, please, please just fuck her right now.
Email foreplay is no different. Making the formal request, telling her she needs to meet you now, getting her address or getting her to agree to come over to your place right now requires much patience. Regardless of how long you’ve been talking, regardless of how horny you are, you are a stranger to her, and her default position on meeting is going to be “no.” The only thing that will change her “no” to an “I’ll be right over” is getting her so hot, so horny, wanting you so much that her need overwhelms her reasoning and a nd she starts making decisions with parts of her body other than her brain. 3. Remain in character. character. You chose a persona for the CL ad you placed. She has replied to THAT THAT persona. Do not n ot disappoint her. When When you get her email, you will see the CL email address in the email. The aaddress ddress will include your post’s unique identication number. The address will look similar to this: pers-pws2g-2207511290@craigslis
[email protected] t.org.. The identication number in that sequence is: 2207511290.
You can go back bac k to the CL site and check your account to see the posts po sts you’ve sent out from that account. Before you reply to her, take a moment to go back and read the post she is replying to. If you have multiple posts running, as you should, you want to be certain that you are replying as the persona she wrote to. 4. End every email with a question. It is remarkably easy for a woman to stop an email conversation at any point. All she has to do is walk away from her computer and the conversation ends. You’re hard as a rock and waiting to fuck her, while she’s in the kitchen cleaning out her refrigerator. Or maybe she’s begun another conversation with someone she nds more interesting. Or maybe she’s gone to sleep for the night. Or maybe she had an embolism and died. Either way, you’re horny and waiting to get he herr next message when, to her, you’re a long-forgotten memory.
How do you discourage her h er from walking away? Ask questions with every email, ones that are hard not to answer. It shows an interest in her, and more importantly, importantly, it doesn’t make her have to think too hard about what to say next to keep the conversation going. Y You ou do the work, just let her respond to your questions.
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Your questions will not only keep the conversation going, you will use them to further the foreplay to get her into your bed. Let me show you how a couple of typical conversations have gone from ad placement to successful sexual conquest: I’m going to start with one that is a little complicated, so I can illustrate several concepts with one story.. In this case, it was a Thursday night, the best night for nding success on CL. I began the story evening fortunate it happened to be the best night ofnight, the week for shing on CL. I createdhorny, severalfeeling ads. I was reallythat hoping for a Fantasy Fulller on this because I was feeling lazy.. I wanted to get a woman hot and bothered, have her come over after a minimum of email lazy foreplay. On this evening, only one of my ads received a real response. Here’s the ad:
Here’ss what you will experience tonight - m4w - 35 Here’ Date: 2010-03-11, 8:21PM PST Reply To This Post Post
There’s a knock at your door. You open it and see a handsome man, in his mid 30s. He grabs you around the waist, pulls you into the room, and whispers in your ear, “Have you been a bad little girl looking for some sexy fun on Craigslist? Good.” He draws you closer and kisses you hard on the lips. He kisses down your cheek to your neck. He explores your neck with his lips until he nds that one spot that makes you gasp ... at the back of the neck along the hairline. Once he nds that spot, he kisses down your chest. Once his mouth nds those sweet nipples, you start to moan. A hand nds its way down to your hot wetness, giving you a taste of what you’ll be experiencing down there once his mouth arrives. And so he begins kissing down, down, down, until he nds himself at your most private of parts. Tongu Tonguee and lips and ngers explore and you begin to breathe heavier and heavier heavier.. For -- how long? Minutes? Hours? Days? -- an amount of time that has you going out of your mind, his expert tongue drives you crazy. crazy. But just as a climax is about to nally occur ... he stops! He puts you down on your knees, unzips his zipper and says, “I’m going to use that mouth of yours now.” Suddenly your mouth and throat are full of his hard, thick seven-inch manhood. In and out. In and out. Your Your universe becomes nothing but his big, hard cock. As he comes closer and closer to gagging you, your hands instinctively rise to protect you from his thrusting member. Strong hands quickly grab your wrists, lifting them above your head, making it clear that, for now at least, you will be using only your mouth, your lips and your tongue to please him. Finally he removes himself from your mouth and pushes you forward onto your hands and knees. He circles behind you, and and SLAP! spanks you you hard. SLAP! SL SLAP! AP! SLAP! SLAP! Until Until you feel yo your ur ass getting a little red. red. With each successive slap, you feel your little ass getting redder, and still he continues. SLAP! SLAP! SLAP! SLAP! SLAP! SLAP! And then, thankfully, thankfully, the spankings stop. You You feel a shift in his weight, as you feel pressure against your tight little ass.
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Do you want to know what happens next?
At this point, I’ve taught you enough that you can analyze what I was doing throughout this ad without my having to explain it. But I will point out, this ad is all aabout bout her experience and her needs, not mine. It’s literate and spell checked. And instead of just telling an entire story then asking if she’s interested, interested, I stop the narrative in the middle, so if she was interested enough to read all the way through, she’s probably going to want to know kn ow how it continues. Sure enough, an hour after the ad appeared on CL, I received this email reply:
SUBJECT: Here’s what you will experience tonight – m4w ** CRAIGSLIST ADVISORY CRAIGSLIST ADVISORY --- AVOID SCAMS BY DEALING LOCALLY ** Avoid: Avoid: wiring money, crosscross-border border deals, work-at-home ** Beware: cashier checks, money orders, escrow, shipping ** More Info: http://www.craigslist.org/about/scams.html I am dripping wet!! What next??? Sent via BlackBerry from BlackBerry from T-Mobile
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Okay, dripping wet! That’s That’s a very promising start. And the question, “What next???” next??? ” had con contextual textual relevance and proved to me that this was probably not spam. Fortunately, Fortunately, I had already written multiple components to this story months before for a previous CL conquest. I saved every word of that story to use again later. So I waited about 20 minutes so it wouldn’t look like the next part of my story had been previously written, cut and pasted from an existing document, even though it had been. My email reply to her:
SUBJECT: Re: Here’s what you will experience tonight – m4w Very well, I will continue... He pauses for a moment. His breath seems to catch in his throat just a little and you can somehow feel him become even more excited. You You feel him stand up, walk away for a moment and walk back. With a sudden move, your world goes completely dark as you realize you’ve been blindfolded. With you still on all fours, he slips behind you once again, but this time he grabs your arms, rst your left, then
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your right. Your Your face hits the oor as your ass automatically rises into the air, and with a CLICK, CLICK, you know that your hands have just been shackled behind your back. He is so excited that you can almost hear his heart thumping in his chest. He moves his body closer behind you, and you begin to feel pressure on your ass. He grabs your hips rmly and pushes into you. Slowly you feel him entering your tightest hole, one excruciating inch at a time. tim e. Once he’s all the way in, you feel him jerk back, then plunge right in again. And now he is pounding your ass, as if it was created for the sole purpose of pleasing his hard cock. In and out, in and out. Occasionally, he pulls all the way out, plunges deep into your wet and wanting w anting pussy, then pulls back out and returns right to your ass. After what seems like an eternity of ass pounding, he stops, still evidently not done. He lifts you roughly by the shoulders. You You stand just long enough to walk to the coffee table, where he pushes you back down onto its hard wooden surface, face down on the wood, butt but t back up in the air. He grabs a length of rope and starts attaching your feet to the t he table. He un-cuffs your hands just long enough to tie them behind your back, and wind the rope under the table and around the table legs. Within minutes you are his exquisite coffee table art, as magnicent and as unmoving as any piece he could buy at a museum. With you unable to move, covered in rope from neck to toe, he pauses to survey his work. Then he advances. You You expect him to move back around to your backside, but instead you nd him in front of you. If I still have your attention, let me know how much you’re enjoying my little story...
A best-case response to my email would have been an X-rated photo of her enjoying my story with a plea to please let her he r come over. That has been a frequent outcome in the past. But in this case I waited. And waited. And there was no response at all. How do you react to that? Do you send another email to that woman? Do you ask her what happened? Do you whine about all the work you put into the previous email and the fact that she couldn’t even bother to say thanks? thank s? No! You You forget about it and place a new ad. I hoped that someday I would have another an other bite at that apple, and I wouldn’t poison it by making myself look like an ass tonight. Fortunately, I didn’t have to wait too long before my next bite at this particular apple came along. In this case, since I had just found the second part of the story that I sent in my last email, I dec decided ided to re-purpose it for a new ad. Here’s Here’s the ad I placed:
Tonight you will get exactly what you’ve been needing - m4w - 35 Date: 2010-03-11, 10:48PM PST Reply To This Post
With you on all fours, blindfolded, he slips behind you. He grabs your arms, rst your left, then your right. Your Your face hits the oor as your ass automatically rises into the air, and with a CLICK, CLICK, you know that your hands have just been shackled behind your back. He is so excited that you can almost hear his heart thumping in his chest. He moves his body closer behind you, and you begin to feel pressure on your ass. He grabs your hips rml rmly y and pushes
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into you. Slowly you feel him entering your tightest hole, one excruciating inch at a time. “Take it, slut,” you hear him say.. Once he’s all the way in, you feel him jerk back, then plunge right in again. And now he is pounding your ass, as if say if it was created for the sole purpose of pleasing his hard cock. In and out, in and out. Occasionally, he pulls all the way out, plunges deep into your wet and wanting pussy, then pulls back out and returns right to your ass. After what seems like an eternity of ass pounding, he stops, still evidently not done. He lifts you roughly by the shoulders. You You stand just long enough to walk to tthe he coffee table, where he pushes you back down onto its hard wooden surface, face down on the wood, butt back up in the air. He grabs a length of rope and starts attaching your feet to the table. He un-cuffs your hands just long enough to tie them behind your back, and wind the rope under the table and around the table legs. Within minutes you are his exquisite coffee table art, as magnicent and as unmoving as any piece he could buy at a museum. With you unable to move, covered in rope from neck to toe, he pauses to survey his work. Then he advances. You expect him to move back around to your backside, but instead you nd him in front of you. If you’re prepared to experience what happens next, respond with a subject line that says, “I’m ready, Sir.” Sir.” As long as you’re female, serious and obedient, I’m open to t o any age, race and body type.
This time I didn’t have to wait very long to get a reply. About ten minutes after my post appe appeared, ared, I got an email from a familiar address … the same woman I had been emailing with just a couple of hours before:
SUBJECT: “I am ready, ready, sir” ** CRAIGSLIST ADVISORY --- AVOID SCAMS BY DEALING LOCALLY ** Avoid: Avoid: wiring money, crosscross-border border deals, work-at-home ** Beware: cashier checks, money orders, escrow, shipping ** More Info: http://www.craigslist.org/about/scams.html Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile
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Well, well, well … the game was back on! No, she didn’t say anything in the body of he herr response to me, but she didn’t need to. “I am ready, sir” was enough. Our email exchange con continued: tinued: ME: Are you ready to be used like my little slut? To have your body used in every way? about! Wet just thinking about it! HER: it is what I have fantasized about!
ME: Then I am prepared to fulll your fantasy, using you in every way for hours. Describe yourself, slut.
Notice, I have already sent her two emails. I have not yet asked for a meeting. Instead, I am eshing
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out the fantasy I started in the ad I placed. And in this second email, I am giving her my rst order. HER: 39 110 pounds 5”2. And t body ME: Okay, slut. Here is what I’m going to do to you: you will be waiting for me, naked, on your knees, with your back to the door and the door unlocked. I will come in, blindfold you, bind your hands behind your back and I will begin to fulll your fantasy. Do you have any further questions?
I have now given her h er my second order, telling her how she will be waiting for me. Now, this is a risky order, because no matter how much she wants this fantasy, waiting naked, with her back to the door while a stranger walks in is a little much for many women. So I ask her, “Do you have any further questions?” This allows her to volunteer that she may not no t be comfortable with my order and to ask if she can modify it. If she asks, then I will allow it. If she just says she’s she’s excited, then I know she’s ready to follow that order. order. HER: Can hardly wait D o you have any further questions, slut? ME: If you are ready to obey, you don’t have to wait. Do
HER: Any pictures for me? She asks for my picture. This is a good sign. If she was just playing a game with me, and not willing to meet, she would never ask for my picture, and then never really agree to a meeting. But she did ask! Now, I just have to make sure that she doesn’t doe sn’t nd me too unattractive. ME: This is me, slut. Do not let the kind smile fool you ... (I attached a picture) I don’t just send her a picture, but I also add the line, “Do n not ot let the kind smile fool you.” This does two things. First, it draws attention to my kind smile. It makes it clear that I really am a nice person, that this is just a game, she’s she’s not in any real danger. Second, if she looks at the picture and she thinks I seem too kind to play this role, I’m preempting that idea by telling her, “I might look like a nice guy, but trust me, I can be very ve ry,, very dominant and maybe even a little dangerous.” dange rous.” HER: What do you plan on doing to me once I am tied up? She doesn’t comment on my picture. She Sh e accepts it and goes right into asking exactly what I’m planning on doing to her. Another great sign! ME: I will use your body as I please. Y Your our mouth, your pussy and your ass wi will ll all be mine. m ine. No pain, no blood, no urine, no excrement, of course. Do you have any further questions, slut? HER: my pussy is throbbing With that statement, she has just said “yes” to everything.
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ingles or throbs. It is mine now. Do you understand, slut? ME: You are not to touch it, slut, no matter how it ttingles
Now I am giving her my third order. order. This not only keeps the fantasy going, of a strong man ordering her around, but it also discourages d iscourages her from giving herself an orgasm and then deciding de ciding she doesn’t want to play anymore. HER: Will it be only me or others?
ME: You will have my full, undivided attention, slut. At this point she asks about exclusivity. It’s It’s a fair question to ask, but when I haven’t even seen her picture yet, much less met her in person, it’s not a question I’m going to take all that seriously. I don’t promise her that she is the only person pe rson I will ever have sex with aga again. in. I am vague, but she hears what she wants to hear. If she is very, very good in bed and she can make herself completely available to me, she has the chance to become the only one I am sleeping with very quickly. HER: I am very horny! ME: I am sure you are, slut. What are you wearing right now? HER: a t shirt and panties Take them off now, slut. I want your body naked when you speak to me. Do you understand, slut? ME: Take
HER: Yes sir. They’re off. She has been given her fourth order, and presumably, she is following this one too. ME: Very good, slut. What part of town are you in? HER: just north of downtown ME: Very good, slut. I’m not far from there. Do you have any more questions before I come and use your body in every way?
HER: No sir ME: Very good, slut. Then it is time for you ttoo give me your address, and your body’s use will begin. It has taken more than an hour for me to nally begin arranging the meeting. If I would have asked for her address any sooner, she would have stopped returning my emails, and this encounter would never have happened. HER: um, you’re not some kind of serial killer? This is the vital question! If she didn’t ask it, I would know that she isn’t really serious about meeting.
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ME: No. I’m going to come over and spend all night using your body. The only threat I pose to you is extreme soreness down below tomorrow. HER: Call me. (She included her phone number in this nal email.) So what happened in this conversation? - 29 emails went back and forth over 100 minutes in response to my second ad. That is about half the number of emails and two-thirds the amount amoun t of time you can usually expect. However rst contact occurred nearly two and a half hours before I placed the second ad. So the foreplay process had gone on all evening. Even when we weren’t talking, my fantasy had gotten into her mind, and it was driving her crazy. - From the beginning, I’m not pushing for a meeting. Instead, I’m making making it clear that I’m ready ready to fulll HER fantasy. This is still for her, not for me. - I never step out of character. character. I am the bad boy who keeps calling her slut in every message. There is only one email in which I don’t call her “slut.” That is when she asks me if I am a serial killer. killer. That is an important question, and I will explain fully in Chapter Twelve why I stop playing and answer that ONE question q uestion seriously. seriously. - With each email, I reinforce her fantasy or reveal a little more of what will happen to to her. her. With With each response you can probably tell that she is getting more and more excited. I am using the principles of foreplay to drive her crazy until she feels she must throw all caution to the wind and invite me over. - I did not ask her for a picture. Many women, although they are about to have sex with a stranger, are freaked out about sending a picture. They feel it endangers e ndangers their privacy. So, since it’s it’s late, and I don’t want to create a barrier to meeting, I asked h her er to describe herself. Most horny guys would be extremely satised with that description. - Notice that nearly every one of my emails ends with a question. The only ones that don’t are direct responses to her questions. Each of my questions leads to her next communication, even if she doesn’t exactly answer my question each time. - Before I ask for her address, I ask her if she has any questions for me or if she understands what I’m going to do to her, and I ask the question ve times. This allows her to voice any barriers she may have instead of internalizing them. Any barrier she voices I can probably talk around.
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Once she sent me her phone p hone number, I called her. In her voice I could hear the battle b attle between fear and excitement, but excitement was on the verge of winning the ba battle. ttle. All All I needed to do now was not step on my own dick. ME: Are you ready to have your body used, slut? HER: I think so, sir.
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ME: Do you have any questions for your Master before he comes to take what is his? HER: You’re not going to kill me are you? ME: No. All I want from you is sex. You You have my picture, you have my email address and you have my phone number now. Would Would you like li ke any more personal information? You You can send it all to a friend before I get there. okay. HER: No, it’s okay.
With that she nally gave me her address and directions to her home. I reminded her that when I got there I wanted her naked, on her knees with her back to the unlocked u nlocked front door, which she agreed to. Less than 30 minutes later, our sexual encounter was underway. After she answered that second ad, the conversion from email exchange to meeting was about as easy as a conversion can be. But I’m sure you can see that with every new email there was the chance for me to make a mistake that would end the conversation and eliminate any chance of meeting. That is why I urge you to: - Choose every word and every thought expressed through your email conversation carefully. carefully. The great thing about email is that your conversation doesn’t happen in real time, aass it does in
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Now here is another conversation that I was able to convert to a successful meeting using a different persona. Actually, it was a lot more than a successful meeting. It was the beginning of a deep, passionate friendship that lasted for months. This one took ve days to convert c onvert from rst
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contact to rst meeting, but I was looking look ing for a considerably different kind of woman at this point. In this case, I really wanted to nd nd someone who would be more of a girlfriend than an immediate conquest. You’ll You’ll remember this ad from the last chapter: chap ter:
Good news. :) Bad news. :( - m4w - 35 Date: 2010-03-11, 3:12PM EST Reply To This Post Post
Bad news: the other day I was really, really horny. horny. Good news: I got on Craigslist and put up an ad! Bad news: it wasn’t easy for me to write anything as interesting, charming and funny as I actually am in person. Good news: I came up with w ith something halfway decent! And I got a LOT of responses!!! Bad news: all the responses were spam. Most were from someone named “Madison.” Good news: it’s another beautiful evening in Boston, the most fun city in the world ... or at least the most fun part of New England ... Bad news: I’m still really, really horny. Good news: hopefully you are too, and you’re looking for a kind, creative, experienced man who knows how to satisfy a woman! Bad news: there’s a high probability I’ll get a dozen emails from “Madison” responding to this t his post. Good news: if you answer this ad with the words “Madison is a complete bitch” in the subject line, I’ll know at least one of my responses is actually real this time!
I ran this ad on a Thursday afternoon while I was still at work. An hour later I got a response: SUBJECT: CL ** CRAIGSLIST ADVISORY --- AVOID SCAMS BY DEALING LOCALLY ** Avoid: Avoid: wiring money, crosscross-border border deals, work-at-home ** Beware: cashier checks, money orders, escrow, shipping ** More Info: http://www.craigslist.org/about/scams.html
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Now, she didn’t respond with the words I asked for in my post, “Madison is a complete bitch.” Now, My rst thought on seeing the subject line was that this email was spam, but I read the text of her email anyway and I found it did speak directly to what I had written in my ad. Not only that, that, but she responded with a similar type of humor, so I decided she was probably a real woman. I responded back. As you read through this conversation, note that I don’t push her for a meeting. And I don’t push for sex talk either. She originates all of that. None of my personas push pu sh for a meeting, simply because pushing forso a meeting is theconversation number one that wayit’s to ensure that there will be I get the woman wet through the woman who begs forno themeeting. meeting.Instead, You You will see that this is a long conversation that took place over ve days, but she needed every moment of that to really prepare mentally me ntally for meeting a stranger. stranger. I want to bring in this conversation for your consideration specically because this is the type of conversation you can expect when you don’t describe one specic fantasy and immerse the reader in it in such a way that she feels she needs it now. Keep this idea in mind with every e very ad you write and post: some personas will work best for the quick hit, getting laid within a few hours of posting. Others will require several days of communication. In this example, instead of describing a fantasy, fantasy, I made this about a persona. In the ad, my persona is kind, understanding and funny. I continue that persona through the entire conversation with the understanding that this persona isn’t meant to get me laid within a few hours: ME: You’re telling me... I mean, don’t get me wrong, I LOVE getting any response at all. On a strictly philosophical level, I suppose it proves my own existence. But then again, if a dozen people who don’t really exist respond to my ad, does that mean that I don’t exist either? Hmmmmm ... Well now I’ve gone and done it. I’m tired AND I may not even exist. Nice! I wonder if this means I don’t have to le my tax returns this year...
HER: Hmm. Pretty sure the IRS wants you to do that. On the other hand, if you don’ don’tt exist how would they ever nd you? So, tell me about you. Even though you apparently don’t exist I’m still really intrigued…
ME: A little more about me? We Well, ll, that’s a pretty general question. Okay,, I’ll start from the beginning. Okay (Deep breath ...) It’s a dark, stormy night. An extremely pregnant woman in a log cabin gasps in pain as her water breaks. A doctor is called, and eventually she is on her back breathing, pushing, sweating and screaming in the beautiful miracle we call childbirth. After just 18 short hours of labor l abor (mom would later say it’s i t’s the kind of pain you really don’t mind ... but then mom always was, clinically, out of her freaking mind) a baby comes into this world. Already wearing his signature beard and wearing his festive stovepipe hat, the 16th President of the United States is born. Yes, that’s right. I am Abraham Lincoln. Honest Abe. Ol’ Stovepipe.
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I could tell you all about me, but if you just Google me (on that newfangled Intraweb thingy), I’m sure you’ll get all the basics. And if you’d like a picture, may I suggest my likeness on the penny? I’ve always been partial to my profile. So, do you like older men? Like 200 years older? I mean, I realize we may not listen to the same music or read the same blogs or react the same way when an airplane passes overhead (I jump and yell “ACCCKKK!!! Iron bird!!!” What do you do?) but still, I’m thinking we can get past all that ... Anyhoo... where was I? Oh yeah! Can you be more specic in what you’d like to know?
HER: Okay, the basics.. favorite food, song, movie, book?.. And the fun stuff… favorite sex position, favorite song to fuck to, and... a general general description? I’ll answer all the same if you’r you’ree interested.
It’s her third email to me, and she slips in some sex questions at the end. She hasn’t said she wants me, or that she is ready to meet, but she is already slowly ope opening ning the door to sex talk, asking about my favorite sex position and my favorite song to fuck to. Notice that instead of jumping on her sex questions, which is really what she is most interested in, I will answer her questions in the order she asked them, showing that I have patience. Again, this is foreplay foreplay,, so patience is key. When I do answer her questions, I keep the answers clinical, speaking in general, rather than saying “here is how I will fuck you.” ME: Oh ... THOSE basics ... okay then. Favorite food: Anything that doesn’t eat me rst. And if it’s a tie, I still sti ll may be interested. Favorite book: “Team of Rivals: the Political Genius Geni us of Abraham Lincoln” by Doris Kearns Goodwin. For obvious reasons. (I’m a media whore.) Favorite movie: The Godfather II Favorite song: that changes from day to day, day, but for now, let’s say anything by Dean Martin. Favorite sex position: doggie. Without question. It’s the one position that t hat offers me the best leverage. From behind, it’s easy to go slow, go fast, go hard, go soft, or change it i t up as needed. And having a woman’s hips in my hands allows me to take control and show you a great time. Favorite song to fuck to: this is actually a great question, and I have an original answer. I prefer no music at all. It only distracts me. I either eit her start singing along, or I decide I hate THAT THAT particular song and that is all I can think of. Either way, I want to be concentrating on you, not on the music. As for general description, what part of the penny were you not able to look at? (I
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myself, not one of Abe Lincoln.) At this point I send her a picture p icture because I can sense this is go going ing to take a while to get the foreplay to the point where she will be ready to meet, which is n ne. e. But I want her to see my picture quickly, before I invest too much more time into this process. If she nds me hideous, she will bail out at this point, and I can move on to someone who will be interested in meeting me. HER: I like those answers. Want to know mine? Too bad, you get them anyway anyway..
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Food.. Eggplant parm Book: Breaking Dawn (Yes, I am aware this makes me a complete dork) Movie: Blow Song: Elsewhere by Sarah McLachlan (I’m such a chick sometimes) Sexual position.. Doggy. Doggy. You’re right it really does have the most to offer. offer. Grab my hips? Denitely. Denitely. Song to fuck to: There is always alw ays the classic “In The Air Tonight” Tonight” ala Risky Business... but we have no trains here and I just don’t think it’s the same without the train. So, I think my fav would have to be slow like honey by ona apple. Of course cutting the music all together and just fucking our brains out is always a nice option. My description: 5’3, 155lbs not “skinny” but not really over weight either. either. Great cleavage, legs that look hot in a skirt and heels. Long brown hair hair,, blue eyes. More questions from me: Married or Single? What times are you available to meet. Any vices? Do you drink? Smoke?
At this point, after six emails going back and forth, she said a few magic words, “I like those answers,” which really means, “I think I like you.” Plus I’ve sent her my picture, so evidently she doesn’t nd me too hideous to consider con sider meeting. Notice that she then mirrors my answers, talking about favorite food, book, movie and song before getting to the sex stuff. I also want to point out o ut that she is purposely agreeing with my favorite position. I would eventually nd out after we had been seeing each other for a while that doggie style wasn’t at all her favorite position, but she was agreeing with my favorite sexual position to make herself seem more compatible with me. Remember: honesty is important, but compatibility is more important. If you hate doggie style, don’t claim you love it. But if you like it and your potential partner says she loves it rst, then you should say that you love it equally. equally. After describing herself, she asks when I would be available to meet. SHE JUST OPENED THE DOOR TO MEETING! She only opened it a crack, but it’s it’s there now. My patience is paying off. From here on, all I have to do is let her lead the conversation, and as long as a s I don’t make a stupid mistake or get all pushy, she will eventually be mine. ME: Great answers! Especially the doggie part. More answers from me: I am recently divorced. Not sure yet where I’ll be in my life 6 months from now or a year from now or 5 years from now, and I don’t want to cause additional misery in i n this world by actually dating someone who wants (and deserves) to know where a relationship is going. That’s why I posted in casual encounters. All I know is that the loneliness can crush the soul. And if maybe there’s someone else out there looking to t o make the loneliness go away for a while ... I need to work tonight, but I can meet you tomorrow for lunch if you’d like. Or if I can get out early (doubt it) maybe even tonight ... Vices, hmmmm. Smoking, no. Drinking, maybe the occasional beer every so often, if I’m in a mood. How about you?
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Notice, I make it clear I don’t know where my life is going but I want someone to make the loneliness fade. In this persona, I don’t want to portray myself as a man looking to use a woman for his own sexual gratication. I’m just in the middle of a complicated life, and looking to make the loneliness hurt a little less. This is how Day 1 of our communication ends. There was no “good night” and no explanation that she was going to sleep. This is prettyoccur standard in these CLtime, conversations, at least before a rst meeting. These conversations frequently outside of real so that there is rarely anyone saying, “good night” or “good morning.” I believe that is because, at this point in the process, she considers me more of a fantasy than a real person, and fantasies don’t break to go to sleep, they carry on through the night. This means that conversations that take more than a few hours will have long breaks when one or both participants are asleep, at work, spending time with family, etc. Often these breaks are an excuse for a conversation to end en d permanently, but in this case, while I was excited to hear her he r reply, reply, I was condent that I would hear from her the next day. She had matched my style of humor, joke for joke, in all of her previous emails. She seemed to really be engaged in the conversation, so I knew that I’d be hearing from her h er again. The next afternoon, I did. Day 2 of our conversation begins … HER: Honest answers are great. :) So I’m recently separated, still married though. I hope that doesn’t freak you out. He’s not living here anymore. I have kids so I generally only have time tim e to meet during tthe he day on weekdays when they’re in school. Occasionally I can get away on the weekends but it’s more difcult and takes more planning. My vices … yeah I’ve got a few. few. Shoes. LOL Wine, especially red. Tequila, but only when it’s it’s mixed up in a really good Mexican martini with extra ol olives. ives. And I’m 420 friendly. So how about you. No questions of your own? I wish I could have met you today for lunch. I had already made plans with a few friends for today. today. Rain check?
Notice how she asks, “No questions of your own?” She almost busts me here. She has been asking me questions in every email. I’ve been bee n answering them but not showing quite as much interest because I haven’t been asking HER questions. But then, women always tend to ask a lot more questions than men. Still she needed an answer as to why I hadn’t been asking her questions. I offered her what I hoped was a decent one. ME: Of course, I’ll give you a rain check! And I completely understand your situation, and I’m happy to work around it. I can manage to slip out for an afternoon here and there when I need to. As for your vices, the shoes, wine, wi ne, martinis and 420 don’t scare me at all. Haven’t really had tthe he opportunity for 420 since college, but maybe it’s something worth revisiting at some point with the right person ... I actually do have a LOT of questions for you, but honestly, it will be a lot more fun for me if I can get most of them answered in person. I’ve always been more of a discoverer than an asker ... But let me ask you this: what part of town do you work in?
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HER: Explain this “work” thing to me? As in a *job*?? LOL I do not work. I used be a city planner ... but then I decided I should be a stay at home mom and have done that for about 5 years. The kids are all in school now so I’ve been more of a housewife lately ... I don’t have to do the mom part till about 3pm. Someday, Someday, hopefully not to far in the future I would love to do personal chef type work. My real passion is food. My best friend calls me a food and shoe whore. LOL So what do you do for work?
ME: I’m an accountant. I work outside the loop. Big, formal ofce and all that. So, since you’re a food and shoe whore, what is your favorite restaurant in town and what is your favorite type of shoe?
I have just brought up the “big, formal ofce” I work in. Some women have an ofce fantasy. I’m not going to push it, but if she has the fantasy, once she knows I can offer her a b big, ig, formal ofce, there could be some fun. I will nd out later in our email conversation that she does have the ofce fantasy,, and that planting this seed here fantasy h ere helped pave the way to a meeting. Furthermore, I am now recovering from the fact that I haven’t asked her many real questions yet. So I reach back to her passions, food and shoes, to ask her about the things she loves the most. She immediately responds with a compliment … HER: Well now those are GOOD questions. Restaurant. Hmm. Man. Do I really have to pick just one? Really? I’m not sure I can do that. Shoe question is easy easy.. Black stiletto peep toe pumps. I have at least ten pairs. And saw another pair I must have today. But the restaurant. No, can’t do it. T Too oo many to choose from. See, Food Food WHORE. Oh one more question from me. While the image of Honest Abe just got me all kinds of hot and wet... what do you really look like
ME: Oh, you didn’t get the picture I sent you last night? It was in the email that said “What part of the penny were you not able to look at?” And here I was feeling all self condent because you’d seen my picture and liked it enough to keep irting ... Ok, here it is again.
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Here’ss mine. Denitly not my favorite pic of me, and it’s HER: Okay so I’ve seen your pic. Still irting ;) Here’ from a few years ago, my hair is different now.. But you get the general idea. (And she attaches a rather hot picture of herself.)
ME: I’m still flirting too! Actually you are very beautiful. Way out of my league. But I think I can rise to the occasion.
I took a small risk here. Most women LOVE to be attered about how they look. And this woman totally deserved attery. But the hotter a woman is, the more she hears the attery from men and the less she believes it is sincere. If you are a re talking to a woman who declares herself to be “hot” or “hawt” DO NOT compliment her on her looks before having sex. Compliment her on her brains, her ideas, her personality, her cleanliness, or anything else other than her looks. The fact that a hot woman is talking to you about the possibility of meeting for sex means she already sees you differently from all of the OTHER guys, the ones she could be having sex with right now, now, the
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ones who hit on her all the time, the ones who always a lways tell her how beautiful she is. But she isn’t talking to any of them. She Sh e is talking to YOU. So do NOT be like all of the OTHER guys, the ones who never get her in bed, no matter how hard they try. I have made this mistake myself. But if the woman sounds like she’s down-to-earth, an ex-wife, a mom, and she’s never mentioned that she is hot, then by all means, tell her that she is! She probably needs n eeds to hear it! ages?? I can’ can’tt remember. remember. I’m 28. you? HER: Well damn, now I’m blushing. Did we discuss ages
She’s blushing! I gambled and won! ME: Blush away! Really, you got a real physical reaction out of me when I saw your picture and was like, “This is who I’m fantasizing about??? Awesome!” Awesome!” I’m 35 years old. fce huh? I have serious fantasy’s fantasy’s of working in an ofce HER: 35 is perfect. :) So you work in a big formal oofce like that ... just so I can wear my shoes and great clothes.. LOL Need part time assistant?? LOL
Well, well, well … the ofce fantasy emerges. e merges. I just became even more attractive to he herr. Since she’ss opening she’ offering to tbe my in part-time I’m going towill pushdothe fantasy a little further further. . Notice,that I’mdoor, not going to put pu HER the roleassistant, of the assistant – she that herself. I leave the fantasy open to having a random “naughty part-time assistant.” She can put herself deeper into that role if she so chooses. ME: Oh, the things I could do with a part-time assistant ... You see, we have this conference room, with this really nice view of downtown. And a 20-foot-long oak conference table, with antique leather seats surrounding it. I would love to bring a naughty part-time assistant in there some time, discipline her for not working hard enough, then allow her to make up for her mistakes by bending over the conference table, while I get behind her and ... um ... take care of business.
HER: Scary Scary.. Thats pretty much exactly what I had in mind. ME: Weird. And you haven’t even seen our conference room yet! But I have a feeling you will ... Again, I’m acting kind of innocent. Of course I knew she had exactly that in mind. Nothing weird about it. She said she had ha d an ofce fantasy, so I described the prototypical ofce fantasy. But in portraying this typical fantasy as one of my deeper, secret fantasies I have made her feel like there’ there’ss something else we share sexually. Her response is short, but telling … HER: Mmmmm.. Hopefully I will. So, how tall are you? ME: Somewhere between 5’8” and 5’9”. How about you? HER: Just under 5’3. But I’m always in heels, unless I’m in bed and even then sometimes ;) She just opened the door to a little more sex talk: heels in bed. I’m happy to go there …
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ME: Yes, I love any woman willing to wear heels to bed. I do so enjoy getting hit in the side of the head by a high heel!
Of course, if I’m getting hit in the side of the head by a high-heel, that means I have her on her back with her legs up by my head. I’m not explicitly talking about fucking her. I’m just just letting her imagine the idea of her being b eing on her back with her legs up around my head. You You will see the results with the rst words in her second paragraph in her response: HER: LOL Heels in bbed ed only work work in doggie style at the edge of the bed. I know this. ;) Once you’re ready to move on to other things that require both in the t he bed, it’s time for shoes (and any remaining clothes like the dress you had pulled down at the top and up at the bottom) to come off. I really want to meet you ... I just can’t gure out when. I was going to see if you wanted to have lunch next week and then my kids came home from from school totally stoked that it’s it’s now spring break. *groan* I hope you’ll be willing to keep emailing while I gure out when I can come see you and that conference room.
DING! DING! DING! We We have a winner! She S he wants to meet me! But she hopes I can wait for her. Who is pushing for a meeting now? Not me! Now I just have to be patient enough to wait eight days until her kids’ k ids’ spring break is over. Of course, now n ow that she’s said she wants to meet, I can be a little more sexually overt with her. And And if I continue with this email foreplay, I bet I can get her h er to nd a way to get to me long before spring break is over … ME: You think I’m going to stop pestering a woman as sexy as you who wants to meet me? Are you out of your mind? Yeah, Yeah, I’m not going anywhere. So some ideas on when and where after spring break ... I can do lunch just about any workday. workday. With a little planning, I can take an afternoon off. If we have a night when we can stay out late, I can bring you up to the ofce so we have it all to ourselves. Same goes for most Saturdays and some Sundays. But I really, really want to meet you too, whenever you can. And until then, I think you’re pretty cool just to talk to here.
HER: Okay... that sounds awesome. I love the idea of your ofces at night. I gotta get going for now. I’m supposed to be getting ready to go to dinner with one of my girlfriends. girlfriends. Talk to you soon. :)
I have agreed to everything she wants. Y Yes, es, we’ll meet. Yes, Yes, I’ll wait for you. Yes, we can do lunch or dinner and you can see my ofce. And I’ve even subtly suggested meeting “whenever you can,” meaning maybe even before b efore spring break is over. ME: Talk to you soon. And be a good girl out there ... I wasn’t expecting to hear from her again that day. But when I woke up the next morning, I found a new email from her.
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Day 3 of our conversation begins: from m dinner with my girlfriend. 2 shakers of ma martinis rtinis later I’m home and hoping hoping your up HER: So I’m back fro and online.
ME: CRAP! Sorry I missed you! I bet you’re a lot of fun with a couple shakers of Mexican martinis in you. So sad I missed it. I had just gone to bed, probably only 20 minutes before you wrote this ... drama ama free but fun. The girlfriend I HER: Good morning :) Oh wait, it’s afternoon now huh? My night was dr went to dinner with is my next door neighbor. She never gets out but her man was going to a bachelor party last night and she didn’t want to sit at home alone worrying about him drinking. I’ve got the rest of today to chat online with you. Are you here to keep me company? So I have an assignment for you... In great detail, describe walking into a hotel room with me … start with closing the door and pulling my back up against your chest. I’m wearing a short dress with no panties underneath and sexy black heels or knee high stiletto boots… your choice ;) How wet can you get me in an email? P.S. I *am* a lot of fun with a ccouple ouple of shakers of martinis in me. ;)
I usually would have spent the whole day engaging in conversation with her, but this was a very hectic Saturday for me, and I was only able to be in front of my computer for about 40 minutes for the entire day. I felt terrible about it, because she has just invited me to engage in the most intimate possible sex talk with her. her. She is asking me to literally describe everything I will do to her the moment we are alone. This is a very important moment, and there is a good g ood chance to screw up all of the work I’ve done up to this point if I’m not thoughtful in describing exac exactly tly what will happen to her. So I need time to think and to write it all out. ME: That is my kind of assignment. One question: how dominant do you like your men? In real life I’ll be watching your body for feedback. On here I need just a little help. Tell me and you will be rewarded ...
This an important woman hassuccess her unique wants, needs aand nd limits. If you can guessiscorrectly everyquestion. time, youEvery will have great in describing a fantasy for a woman you’re talking to. But I had come too far to guess and be wrong. So I politely asked for a little help, and promised her a reward for her help. And she told me everything I needed to know … HER: I’m not into pain at all, a litt little le spanking is okay, but not excessive.. I mark easily LOL. As far as dominant I denitly like men to take the lead and fuck ME.. does that make sense? I *love* receiving oral (from men and women actually.. have we discussed that yet?) I love 69 but generally prefer being on top and comfortable with the person. But yes, I want you to pull my dress up push me down on to the bed on my knees and fuck me senseless until I am crawling away from you. Oh and I do love having my wrists held down above my head so long as your doing something really yummy to t o me at the same time. ;) Too much info?
Yes, she just opened the door d oor to being with other women. But I’m not going to push it, or even mention it. Why? Because, is thethis cha is chance nce forthe a threesome theit.future her and oneallof her girlfriends (there wouldifbethere several!) not time to get g etininto This with foreplay is still
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about her. If I begin to make this about her arranging a threesome, the conversation will turn into me and what I want. While that would be a fun conversation, I need to keep my eye on the ball: just get the meeting with her. Once she is completely comfortable with me, there will be time to fulll other fantasies. ME: You know, the more I read from you, the m more ore I smile. I will wi ll be returning the favor tom tomorrow orrow.. Tomorrow? row? Well damn. I wanted to get hot and wet tonight... HER: Tomor
I spent the entire night thinking of what wh at I was going to write her and the next morning writing it. This was a dening moment between her and me. You will see I included as much about her as I could glean from everything she had already told me about herself. This couldn’t be a generic description of sex. It needed to be thoughtful, sincere, realistic, passionate and hot. So I needed some time to make it just perfect. I hated to make her wait, but I had to make a judgment between making it fast and making it perfect. I usually advocate for speed. In this case, however, I have set her expectations so that she’s not expecting to read the fantasy until un til the next day, and it gives me time to make it perfect. Day 4 of the conversation begins: ME: Sorry you’ve had to wait for this, but sometimes anticipation is half the fun. And hopefully this will have been completely worth the wait. So … After an awesome hour or two of drinks, food and conversation at one of the upscale restaurants around here, you lean over to me and whisper my three favorite words, “I’m sooooo wet.” I’ve already paid the check, so without a word, I take your hand, we rise from the table and head for my car. Within moments we’re back at my place. The door closes behind us, and with wit h a nal CLICK w we’re e’re both nally alone. Y You ou feel me right behind you, hot breath on the back of your neck as two warm lips come down to meet that sensitive skin at your hairline. Two strong hands cup your breasts as I pull your body into mine. My tongue explores your neck as one hands drifts slowly down your body. Y Your our belly, your abdomen, your thigh, then right back up, proving you’re really not wearing any panties. As eager ngertips begin lightly lightl y exploring, you hear my breath coming harder and you can feel my pulse quickening. You You hear the words, “I want you, baby.” At that, you nd yourself simultaneously spun around and pinned to the wall. Your hands are above your head, with one of mine holding hol ding both of them iin n place. The other hand slowly drifts teasingly up and down your body. One beautiful breast makes its way out of your dress and quickly into my mouth. First it’s just the nipple being icked at by my tongue, but soon most of your breast is receiving the attention it so desperately needs. Y Your our eyes close and you begin to breathe harder. You feel my mouth moving up your breast, back to your neck. Now lips and tongue are examining every inch of your beautiful neck, chin and lips. The strong hand that had been holding your hands in place releases them, as it slides down one of your arms to your back where it begins unfastening the irritating fasteners holding your dress in place. And in a moment your dress is down by your high heels. Y You ou lean hard against the wall as my mouth follows the path of your dress. Down your breasts, down your belly, belly, down your abdomen, to your secret wetness. W Warm arm kisses
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turn into slow, delicate circles that respond as you move your hips. And all time stops as I take you on a journey to our own personal heaven without moving from that spot. Your hands nd purchase around my head, helping to guide the work of the lips and tongue. Soon you begin to feel the tingle that crosses your toes and stands the ne hairs on your arms up on end. It grows, rolling through your body with deepening intensity. And the slow delicate circles continue as the tingle becomes a living entity within you, multiplying your pleasure with every millisecond of its existence, until … The earth begins to shake around you. If not for strong hands supporting you against that wall, surely you would be plummeting into a chasm of warmth and pleasure even faster than you already are. And nally, nally, the tingle that turned into a living entity can grow no more, and explodes within you, setting every cell of your body aame, and stopping time throughout the universe. Y You ou detect heavy breathing and moans and screaming, and you reach out trying to locate the source of the noise before realizing it’s coming from you. There are lifetimes of happiness and pleasure and warmth that pass without the acknowledgement of anyone anywhere, because time for everyone else has stopped. You You keep your eyes closed, savoring the feeling as strong arms gather you up and lead you somewhere. Y You ou recognize the soft feeling of bedding and pillows around your mostly naked body. Those strong arms are followed by the feel of warm skin against yours, my body very close and getting closer. So where do we go from there? I could write it out here. But I’d rather show you in person … ot me really wet. I really can’t wait to meet you now. HER: Mmmmmmm. You just ggot And yes, the anticipation has been almost torture... Very Very very good torture. I liked the bit about pinning my arms above my head up against the wall... Very Very nice. Oh and not to worry about annoying fasteners on my dress.. the one I’m planning to wear when I meet you has none.. you just untie the bow in the back and it’ll come right off. ;)
Yes, this is denitely foreplay, foreplay, and she is getting wetter and wetter. wetter. I don’t think I’m going to have to wait until spring break is over to meet her at this point. Note, by the way, I could have gone on to make the story MUCH longer, longer, but instead I interrupt the story saying I want to show her in person. It’s a very subtle way of cutting her off from hearing more. It tells her there’s a lot more to say, say, but she’ll need to be there in person for me to d divulge ivulge much more. ME: You see? That is the kind of thoughtfulness I love in a woman. Just pull one string and the dress is off? Awesome! In fact, if you wear that dress, we may need to nd a restaurant that doesn’t have a problem with me bending you over the table and having my way with you right there ... which, by the way, is another of my major fantasies … restaurant.. Y Yeah. eah. One of my major fantasies as well. I’m really loving the HER: Being bent over a table in a restaurant.. fact that we seem to have like fantasies. fantasies. Tell me an another...? other...?
Now she is pushing for me to tell her a whole new story, story, spending hours writing to get her wetter and wetter. But I’m not going to do that. Watch Watch how I give in just a little to her request, then bounc bouncee the question right back to her … ME: Oh, I have SO many ... it’s hard to choose one.
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We already discussed my conference room table and the t he fantasy I’ve had about having to discipline an assistant, but that is one I think about a LOT. Then there’s the one that takes place in a hot tub, even though I don’t have one, or even a pool, that we could use. Then there’s the cop/hooker fantasy. That has always been a dirty, fun one that I like to revisit every now and again. There are a lot more, but I’d like to hear some of yours ...
HER: hmmm... I’ve always had a big fantasy of working in an ofce and having a wild affair with my boss. It’s hot that we both think about that one a lot. I love water sex… hot tubs, pools, pools, in the lake, in the ocean, in a big bathtub... Did I mention that I love water sex? I love lots of touching and kissing during sex... in other words, really passionate passionate sex. Feeling strong hands smooth down from the small of my back and wrap around my hips and pulling me back while I’m on my knees in front of you... I’ve had the intense pleasure of living out most of my 3some and 4some fantasies. fantasies. I love having both a man and woman to suck and fuck me. There is just nothing better than having a girl spread out in front of me while I’m on my knees getting fucked doggie style. And vice versa. The feel of a woman’ woman’ss soft hair spread out over my thighs while her mouth gets pushed into my pussy each time the guy behind her thrusts into her is amazing... to watch and feel. Those are a few... ;)
Okay, that is her second reference to being with a woman … something very good is brewing here. h ere. I do love being with two women at once. You You probably do too, even if you haven’t had a chance to try it yet. The key here is to embrace the two-girl scenario without dwelling on it. Just say it’s it’s exciting and move on. This way you’ve made it clear you’re interested without making this all about her bringing in a friend. ME: Wow. Okay Okay,, you totally got me hard with the mental picture of me fucking you from behind while your face is deep in the pussy of another woman. And yes, I am a big fan of the water ttoo. oo. To be surrounded surrounded by cool water, except for the one part of me that iiss surrounded by your inner heat. Ye Yes. s. Absolutely. I’m also a HUGE fan of kissing. I would be happy to just make out for hours and hours ... if I didn’t get so hard when that happens ...
HER: Oh man.. You You just had me right there at making ou out. t. I *love* kissing. I too could make out for hours.. hours.. sometimes I honestly wish I could go back to high school when that’s all I did. LOL Well, Well, not really.. the amazing sex after the making out I don’t think I could live without. But you get my point. I was hoping that little mental image would get you hard. You got me insanely wet and I just gured I should return the favor for you. So... tell me about what you have done and what you want to try...
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bring alive for me. She’s She’s trying to measure just how much experience I have. If was in in a more dominant persona, I would make it clear that there’s not much I hadn’t tried, and that I was able to fulll any of her fantasies because I’ve done it all. In this case though though,, I’m in a persona who is a nice guy, a respectful guy. He’s He’s certainly not a virgin, but he’s not exactly the g guy uy who has tried everything under the sun. Because she seems proud of her experience with threesomes and foursomes, I would be the less-experienced part of this couple and allow her to enjoy leading the way in fullling my fantasies … ttle, um, private time, thanks to that t hat ME: Yes, you absolutely, positively returned the favor. I had to take a lilittle, mental image. And it was AWESOME. So, things I’ve done ... not much. All pretty conservative with conservative girls. If I went into everything I haven’t tried, I’d seem like the most boring lover in tthe he world, but that’s because when we get close, I don’t like to push anyone beyond their comfort zone, unless they SPECIFICALL SPECIFICALLY Y ask for that. As for what I want to try ... right now, just kissing you, holding you, touching you, then putting you on your hands and knees and fucking you hard for a while whil e is really what I’m looking for. Once we get that out of the way, I am open to just about anything you would like ... Going out for a while ... but I’ll be back online late tonight ...
Do you see what I did there? 1. I made it clear that I’m not going to push her out of her comfort zone, because I’m a nice guy guy.. 2. I was clear that despite her talk of threesomes, threesomes, I wanted her alone, satisfying her, her, more than I wanted anything exotic. 3. Once I got to have her alone, I was then open to ANYTHING.
In other words I want her, but I also have additional ad ditional fantasies that she can help me fulll. HER: So, are you this outgoing in person, or shy? I hate to admit, but I am so much more shy in person than I am online. It doesn’t take much to loosen me up and break me out of my shell, though. Think you’re up to that challenge? I hope so.. I have a feeling you and I have the potential to have a lot of fun together. See ya later tonight. I need to get out and ru run n some errands myself. wouldn’t dn’t say that I’m the MOST outgoing person iin n the world. ME: Well, I’m certainly not shy in person, but I woul But I KNOW I can break you out of your shell. And yes, I think that we are going to have a ball even before the rst article of clothing hits hit s the oor. I’m going to be here for about another 45 minutes. Then I’m going to t o a party downtown. Want to join me?
Now, I’ve offered her a very informal last-minute meeti Now, meeting. ng. I wasn’t expecting her to say yes, but we were still a week out before spring break ended for her kids. I wanted her to consider nding a free hour here or there to meet me et as soon as possible. Several hours later, she replied to my last-minute invitation. HER: I wish I could have. I was actually killing a bottle of red wine with my neighbor when you sent this. LOL
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I’ve got a great red wine buzz... and I swear, *nothing* gets me horny quite they way red wine does. I bet you wish I was with you right now, huh? So do I. Did you have a good time at the party tonight? I think you’re right...we’re denitly going to have a ball together …
No, she is not going to be able to hold out the entire week. I just need to keep the foreplay coming. An hour later, I was back at home in front of my computer, and I brought home some foreplay ideas to get her even hotter … ME: Well, I’m home. It was a pretty good party. I realized as I was walking in that I was in a party where I knew exactly one person. So I walked around, thought, huh, there’s a great place to sit and have a drink ... there’s there’s a good place to make out ... there’s a private-ish bathroom for ... whatever. whatever. But since I was alone, and not in much of a mood to make new friends tonight toni ght (just takes too much energy at 10:00 on a school night). So I came home. And now here I am, wearing boxers, typing t yping at my computer. And yes, if you couldn’t guess, I DEFINITELY DEFINITELY wish you were with me. We would have kept the night going until sunrise. Especially in that private-ish bathroom …
HER: I wish I could have gone to the party with you.. we’d have made good use of make out corners and private-ish bathrooms. ;) Wearing just boxers, huh? Very nice. I’m not in much more.. a cami top and a thong. btw.. all I can think about is you coming up behind me, moving my hair off my shoulder, sliding the strap of my shirt off my shoulder and kissing me down my neck to my shoulder.
She keeps reinforcing the fact that the foreplay is working. ME: Okay, so, I am a HUGE fan of the thong. REALLY BIG FAN!!!! Just sayin’. Hmmm. Now that is all I can think of too ...
now.. HER: Well at least we’re both distracted now
ME: Yeah, I’ve completely given up on guring out this spreadsheet. Now I’m listening to Marvin Gaye and kind of, um, considering what I’d do if I had a personal assistant here wearing nothing but high heels. ...
HER: I’ve got my mp3 going to “me and mrs. jones”...so apparently we’re on the same page... again. I would help you with that if I could... actually i might be able to... give me a second.
ME: I’ll give you all the time you need ... HER: ;) (x-rated photo of her attached, evidently taken moments ago) ME: God bless you, baby, It IS helping! If you’d like to see how much, I’d be happy to share ... I almost never send a penis picture. But in this case, the moment was not only right, after the
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picture she sent me, it would have been selsh for me not to reciprocate. And it was the natural next step in this foreplay dance. I knew she wanted to see it, and, judging by the picture she sent, she couldn’t hold out much longer. HER: Well, fair is fair.. I shared with you. Did you notice how *wet* I was in that pic? Um, yeah. I’ve been studying your picture rather intently. I will show you exactly what you’ve done for me ME: ... this will take a minute ...
HER: I’m waiting as patiently as I possibly can… but damn, I want to see what I get to play with so hurry. ;)
Again, she is giving me permission to send a penis picture. This would have been inappropriate before this point. But now, now, after four days of foreplay, foreplay, she not only wants to see it, she wants me to hurry.. And notice in sending it, I’m making it clear this is not something I do regularly hurry regu larly.. She needs n eeds to know how special she is to be receiving this picture. ME: Okay ... not the greatest picture I’ve ever taken, but then, it’s the rst time I’ve taken a picture of my own cock ... please be kind ... (penis picture attached) HER: Oh the things I would like to do with that. Yum. I want you to fuck me. That’s what that pic did for me. Okay, she is now 100% ready to meet. Everything before this was just her warming up to me. But this is the moment where she begins to drop all other commitments so that she can see me as soon as possible. ME: Well, great then, because that is EXACTLY what I want to do to you right now. No, need to, actually. I just want you to come in, let me kiss you for a few minutes until I am really ready to just explode, then get down on your hands and knees and I will take things from there ... I’m afraid our rst time would be like 60 seconds at this point, but give me ve minutes to recover and I will give you a proper fucking. Like until we’re both sore. Really, I’ll call into work sick in the morning if we’re not both sore by 7 am ...
In case you missed it, that was a formal invitation for her to come over right now. No pressure, just an invitation. To sweeten the deal, I slip in the detail that I can go multiple times a night. That is a detail I’d been purposely holding back bac k until the right moment. This is the right moment. HER: That’s my kind of sex... a good hard fast mind blowing orgasm to get that “God I need you right fucking now” part out of the way.. and then hours and hours of long amazing sex. I’m happy to hear that you can keep going after the rst orgasm.. I love making a man cum more m ore than once, because I’m going to cum dozens of times…
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which invariably leads to (me giving) oral sex. After that, it’s back to some hard fucking, but this time it can be more relaxed, because I don’t just HAVE HAVE to get the t he cum out of me, so we can experiment. I L LOVE OVE going off-bed as much as possible. Floor, living room, kitchen, garage, bathroom, closet, it doesn’t matter to me, but I want to be somewhere that is just a little different than usual. And that session can go anywhere from 30 to 90 minutes, with occasional water breaks (hydration is a must ...). Then comes the light touching and talking and kissing and holding and dozing off for an hour or so. Then right ri ght back to it. And the BEST way is to call in i n sick the next day, just holding each other and continuing the fun ...
Notice that now I’m pushing just a little bit. I’m trying trying to take the foreplay to yet another level describing in detail what I’d do to her if she came over right NOW. But that is a bit of an overreach, so she takes a step back. HER: Okay... so if I were to cook dinner for you, what would you have me make you? ME: I’d love anything you would take the time to cook for me. Now, if you’re asking what I LOVE ... steaks and potatoes and a green vegetable always says, “Welcome “Welcome home important person!” And that always puts me right in the mood ... as if I wouldn’t already be in the mood with you. But having said all that, if you were to cook me dinner, the moment we were all alone, I would come over to you and start kissing your neck, up to your chin, down to your shoulder, and then all thought of dinner would be over. Really, I can go without food for days if sex is involved.
Notice that I saw her pull back, so I’ve pulled back a little myself, going from talk of fucking all over the house to talk of o f kissing her neck, chin and shoulders. And that brings her back to wanting me now. HER: My idea of fucking heaven … I’m so turned on right now.. I wish I could walk into your house and be fucked senseless.
ME: How far do you live from my neighborhood? Because I am REALLY turned on right now too. I mean, if you were here, forget the niceties, you wouldn’t woul dn’t make it past the entry way before you were down on your hands and knees. I would so be there right now if I had someone to watch the kids. I don’t think I could nd someone now at
HER: 1am.. god but if I could Now we’ve both made it completely clear: we should be together NOW having sex. We We have passed a new milestone in our foreplay. foreplay. It’s It’s no longer a question of if we’ll have sex, it’ it’ss not even a question of waiting until spring break is over. The only question now is: when can she get away for a couple of hours? Having said that, a little extra teasing will only make her work that much harder to get free for a few hours … ME: And here I am all alone in this big house ... just as horny as hell ... But I totally understand. Just know that if you could ... I would be happy to stay up all night just lling you with me.
HER: If I can get someone to watch the kids tomorrow night, could you make time?
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JACKPOT! Never underestimate the power of email foreplay. foreplay. ME: YES! DEFINITELY! HER: Good. Let me try. If the chemistry in person is as strong as it is just through email and pictures (and you know it’s going to be)... I have a feeling we’re going to need a bed close by.
ME: I can make that happen. Hell, the tough part for me would be NOT making it happen. HER: I can’t wait. But right now I’ve got to get to bed ME: Night, baby. I need some sleep too. Dream about lips on your neck, chin, lips, shoulders, breasts, belly and so on and so on ...
HER: I denitly will... So long as you promise to dream of how good your cock is going to look sliding into my mouth and my pussy. pussy. ME: Oh yes. Already there … see you tomorrow. This ended our fourth day of talking. By 6 pm of Day 5 she was at my place. I am sure you can see the evolution of this conversation, and how I brought it there. I allowed her to dictate the speed of the conversation, the amount and depth of the sex talk and I even got her to change her mind from waiting until her kids’ spring break was over to meeting me six days earlier than she originally planned. When we nally did meet, she walked into my home, kissed me passionately,, walked over to my sofa, took off her dress and bent over. passionately over. The prior four days of email foreplay had worked exactly as they were supposed to. Always keep in mind, every woman you meet on CL has the power to make an encounter happen or not happen. No amount of bullying, whining or “talking her into it” will change that. THE CONQUEROR’S EMAILinto RULE: There oneyou wayccan and ONLY one way make a meeting happen. She has to talk herself it. The onlyispart an play in helping hertotalk herself into it is using email foreplay to get her so excited that she has to throw aall ll caution to the wind and meet a strange man for sex. Become very good at email foreplay and the meeting will happen.
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he email read, “I’m just 10 1 0 minutes away, Daddy. Your Your dirty girl is so so wet.” I replied back, “Drive safely, princess. Daddy wants you here in one piece. And don’t don’t touch yourself as you’re driving. I know you want to, but your pussy belongs to Daddy, and only he gets to touch it.”
I looked around the hotel room room one more time. Enough lights wer weree on that you could easily see the whole room, but with two icks of a light switch, the room would go to seductively dark. Bottled water and soft drinks were cooling in the mini-fridge. The maids had made up the room earlier in the day, so everything was clean and fresh. My suitcase was even closed and stowed in the closet. Her next email showed up in my inbox. “I’m here, Daddy.” Daddy.” I replied back, “Room 302, princess.” I checked myself in the mirror one more more time. Tie looked good. Shirt looked good. Slacks looked good. Yes, Yes, I looked like a Daddy, albeit a slightly slightly nervous one. Deep breath, in through the nose, out through the mouth. Then another. I looked in the mirror again and all I saw was a calm, cool Daddy. Perfect. The knock came at the door and I opened op ened it with the relief of a man who was never completely sure that he’d have company that night. She was short, early 2 20s, 0s, dark hair, hair, in a too-short mini-skirt, smiling from from ear to ear. ear. “Hi, Daddy.” “Hello, princess,” I smiled as I guided her into the room and locked it behind me. I leaned in for a kiss, and she put her arms around me and kissed me passionately. I could feel her getting hotter and hotter,, knowing that if the kissing hotter k issing continued, she’d probably bail on the Daddy/daughter fantasy and just rape me. I pulled away. “Have you been a good girl for Daddy today?” She stood there looking guilty, eyes wide with a smirk on her face. “Um … how do you dene good?” “Did you play with yourself in the car on the way over ove r, princess?”
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Looking down, “Yes, “Yes, Daddy.” “You “Y ou know what wh at that means, right, princess?” “You’re “Y ou’re going to have to spank me?” “That’s right, princess,” I said sitting down in the middle of the executive suite couch. “Now bend over my knee.” “Yes, Daddy,” she said, raising her mini-skirt as she lay over my knee. I pulled off her panties and “Yes, caressed her soft bottom. Then I raised my hand as she braced herself …
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Answering Her Her Post We’ve covered a lot of o f concepts in the past two chapters. ch apters. All All of those concepts are relevant to how you should answer an ad placed by a woman on CL. And, if you paid attention to how to use a conversation as foreplay, you now know how to handle the conversation that may result from you answering a woman’s ad, and how to turn that into a meeting. There are a few things, though, that I would like to discuss that make a woman’s post unique: 1. When a woman responds responds to your ad, she is probably able or willing willing to meet you, eventually, eventually, but there is no guarantee that she will ever meet anyone from CL. However, when a woman posts her own ad, she is looking for somebody to have sex with right now. now. If she isn’t looking for someone to have sex with immediately, she will usually explain her timeline in her post. 2. When you’re posting an ad, you’re very much playing the odds, trying to guess the fantasies of the female reader that you wish to have responding to your post. But when a (real) woman po posts sts an ad, she is usually looking for something very specic. She will ex explain plain the type of sex she is looking for and the type of man: body type, age, sexual prowess and any other specications she wants. There is very little guessing here. Either you are her type or you’re not, and either you can fulll her sexual needs/wants of the moment or you can’t. 3. By the time a woman has placed an ad, she has already talked herself into the idea of meeting a strange man for sex, so you yo u don’t have to do that for her. her. That means that if you respond to her ad and she responds back, the amount of email foreplay needed to set up the meeting will be about half of what it would take if she was responding to your ad. The amount of work needed to make a meeting happen could be as little as fteen emails back and forth over a 30-minute period. 4. When you post your ad, that post will usually remain remain on CL for 30 days, although, every few minutes it will be buried a little deeper into the listings until it’ it’ss so deep that it won’t ever be seen again after a couple of days. And in the time your ad is accessible, if you get ge t two responses from real women, you are doing very, very well.
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As we discussed back in Chapter Six, when a real woman posts an ad, that ad won’t won ’t stay up for more than a few minutes before getting agged. And in the minutes it is still up, she will be deluged with responses, sometimes more than 200. So what does all of this mean? It means that when you nd an ad placed by a real woman, if her sexual needs describe something that you are perfect for fullling, and you are within her age range, body type, etc., then you have just found an excellent prospect! On the other hand, you do have two challenges to deal with: erce competition and a very short amount of time to get your response in. For those reasons I embrace three approaches that come into play in answering any woman’ woman ’s post: APPROACH 1: No matter how perfect I believe I am to give her the experience she talks about in her ad, I understand before be fore I start writing that the odds of her even reading what I’ve written are very,, very slim. I would estimate that every response you send to a woman’s ad on CL has about a very 15% chance of even being opened. If you remind yourself of that with every note you send off, you won’t be too disappointed when you get no response.
APPROACH 2: I try to respect requests she height, makes weight, in her ad.etc., If she “noall pic, reply” then I send a (face) picture. If sheany wants my age, thensays I send ofno that too. There are too many guys who will send her everything she asks for to not be willing to play by her rules. If I don’t wish to send her what she asks for, then I don’t respond at all. a ll. Why waste my time? APPROACH 3: Have a few compelling responses on paper before you start reading through women’s posts. You will nd that about three or four thoughtful standard responses will adequately answer about 80% of the real posts you see from women. Y You ou should have one that makes you sound funny, one that makes you sound caring, one that makes you sound interested in what they’re looking for, and maybe one for each potential fantasy you’d like to fulll. Each pre-written response should include your age, your height, your body shape or weight and a few compelling things about you that relate to what is requested in the post you’re responding to.
This way, instead of wasting valuable moments writing a paragraph or two about yourself, you can quickly cut-and-paste an already written response into an email. Be sure to tailor it to what she actually wrote in her post, to show you’re not cutting and pasting the same thing to every woman on CL, even though you are. Be sure to say SOMETHING that proves you actually read what she said in her post. p ost. With With a little – JUST A LITTLE – customization of several standard responses, you will be saving valuable time and getting your email in, so that hopefully, yours is one of the rst she receives. If yours is one of the last she receives, no matter how perfect it is, it probably won’t ever be opened. Of course, if she describes a specic fantasy, answer as the persona that is perfectly suited to carry out that fantasy for her. Make it abundantly clear that you have great expertise with exactly the experience she is describing, and you could make it both exciting and safe for her.
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Once she messages you back, you’re in the foreplay email phase. Just do as I outlined in Chapter Ten, and you’ll be making a new conquest, perhaps within the next hour.
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bviously, she was scared. “I’m sure I sound nervous,” she quivered through the phone line, but I really need to do this. I just never have.” ha ve.”
“I understand,” I replied slowly and calmly, “but meeting someone on Craigslist is no different than meeting them in a bar or at a party. You’ve You’ve learned more about me this evening from our email conversation than you would have h ave learned at a noisy bar, bar, right?” “No, that’s that’s not what I mean. I mean, I’ve never done this before. Sucked a cock. Taken one in my butt. I’ve only had regular sex.”
I paused, confused. “But … didn’ didn’tt you say you were married for a few years?” “Yes,” “Y es,” she said, as if that explained everything. “Okay,” I replied, deciding not to try to dissect anyone’s anyone’s past relationships. “My place is ready for you. How long until you’re here?” here?” “I’m pulling up now.” now.” “Good,” I said, feeling myself getting harder, harder, “I’ll see you in a moment.” “Okay. Um … you will tie me up right? I’m not sure I’ll be able to go through with this if you don’t don’t force me.” “Yes, you will be blindfolded and bound.” I heard her take a deep breath. “Okay. “Okay. Good. Coming up now.” A moment later there there was a knock at the door. door. I opened it to a very pretty pretty,, tall, athletic woman with long brown hair down to her waist, wearing a little black cocktail dress. Perfect! Without a word, I took her by the hand han d and led her into my home. I felt the cold sweat from her hand in the palm of mine.
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“I want you to stand right here,” I ordered, in the middle of my living room, which she did. “Now, take a nice deep breath … and let it out through your mouth,” which, again, she did. Feeling her relax just a little, I walked around behind her her,, moved her h er hair to the side and started kissing the back of her neck, which made her relax even more as she leaned into me and moaned just a little. She was ready to begin. I grabbed the fabric from the coffee table and wrapped it around around her head. Completely blindfolded, I slipped her cocktail dress off off of her body to discover she had followed my orders not to wear a bra or panties. Her breasts were absolutely perfect on her slim body, and her pussy was perfectly trimmed. I took the handcuffs from the table and secured her wrists behind her back. “So you say you have never sucked a cock before?” “No, sir.” sir.” “Ever?” “No, sir.” sir.” I put my hands on her hips and guided her to the couch. I carefully sat her down and then slipped off my slacks and boxers. I climbed onto the couch so that my feet were standing to either side of her hips, and my groin was at the level of her face. She was about to get a taste of something she had never experienced before …
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The Final Hurdle and the First Meeting! So, you’ve gotten through initial contact and you’ve been engaged in email foreplay for anywhere from 45 minutes to several days. She is so ready to meet you that you can taste it. And now comes her single most important question in the entire process: “You’re “Y ou’re not an axe murderer are you?” Answer this vital question in the right way, and you WILL get laid tonight. Up until now, she has been ghting an internal battle between sexual gratication and fear. On one hand, she wants to fulll her fantasy with you. On the other, she has read all of the stories about women being killed after being lured somewhere by someone she met on CL. So in one simple question, she lays all of her fears before you. “Are you going to kill me?” It’ It’ss a seemingly innocent question, asked in a somewhat joking manner. I understand why. She likes you enough to come fuck you, so she doesn’t want to insult you by asking you in a serious way if you’re a murderer. However: Nearly every single woman I’ve ever met on CL has asked me that question, or a variation of it just before we met for sex. So understand that this is your nal hurdle. And it’s it’s the easiest one to get past. You You MUST answer her question sincerely, sincerely, with complete respect and seriousness, no matter how much she made the question seem like a joke. Here is how I successfully answer that question every time it comes up: “I want to (fuck you/fulll yo u/fulll your fantasy/do whatever we’ve been discussing) tonight. I promise you will be completely safe with me. If I cause any harm to you at all, it will just be a little soreness in your private parts tomorrow from the overuse they receive tonight. And even that won’t be intentional.” That should be all you need. However, if you feel the need to up the ante, give her the link to your
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Facebook page and encourage her to forward it to a friend, so someone knows who she is spending the next few hours with. With that, she will either be in the car on her way to you, or she will give you her address and be waiting for you at her place. First impressions Even though you’re meeting her h er in person, the foreplay continues. It just changes from email foreplay to more traditional in-person foreplay. But the persona and the storyline you have established don’t change. So consider “costuming” for the meeting. What would this persona you’ve assumed wear at a rst rst meeting with a woman? A tthree-piece hree-piece suit? Jeans and a t-shirt? Dockers and a nice shirt? Spandex unitard and a cape? Overalls and wrestling mask? Up until now your words have painted a fantasy around her. Now you actually need to ccreate reate it in real life.
That is why I recommend having the appropriate clothes (and props!) in your closet to create the right look for any persona you wish to use. The personas you choose to assume, and how they dress, are highly personal decisions. You You should only be using personas that you can convincingly conv incingly pull off in person. The important thing to point out about wardrobe and props is that you need to think these things out in her advance advance, , because you’ve run timeminimum, to go shopping whenstart it’s this 1:00 a.m. and a woman is on way over to your place. Atout theofvery don’t even process without having condoms and lube on hand. Don’t overlook the things that women on CL most frequently demand in their posts: be clean, have good hygiene and smell good. A simple simple shower with some nice soap and shampoo, regular brushing, ossing and dental appointments, the use of deodorant and a nice shave should take care of just about everything you need ne ed in this department. Oh, don’t forget to pop a mint or two just before meeting! The environment sets the mood. If she’s she’s coming to your place, of course, you want to make sure you have set the mood to match the fantasy you have created for her. Keep in mind, you don’t want to turn on every single light in the house, but keep enough light on for her to see that there aren’t any threatening people lingering in the corners, enough to see that you’re not hiding anything tha thatt could endanger her. Do not ask her to step into a very dark room on her rst visit, unless the fantasy you have constructed is all about her being in dark rooms where anything or anybody could be. Unless her fantasy is an “uncertain” environment, let her see that you have created a safe place for the two of you to spend a few hours together.
And by all means, before you start placing ads and answering posts on CL, make sure your home is presentable. You You don’t need it to be spotless, but at least make it woman-friendly: clean bathroom, no laundry on the living room or bedroom oors, all garbage in the trash can where it belongs. Also consider all of the senses, not just sight. Soft music or white noise can be very ve ry relaxing to a woman showing up at your home for the rst time. You You can engage the sense of smell by using different types of air lters and air fresheners. You You don’t want your home to smell like a hospital (unless you’re creating some kind of medical-based fantasy) but bu t the hint of fragrances such as
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vanilla, lilacs or fresh-baked cookies can be a subtle way of creating a relaxing environment. And don’t underestimate the feel of a warm breeze on naked skin. When the weather is right – and if you live in an appropriate neighborhood – open windows capturing the breeze can also be stimulating for both of you. Always have a couple bottles b ottles of wine on hand at all times. One red, one white. Y You ou may not even enjoy wine. But if she shows up nervous, offering her wine not only gives he herr something that will help her relax, it shows that you understand what most women like, and you have been actively planning ahead to make her experience with you perfect. Having a variety of cold soft drinks on hand, including but not limited to diet ones, is also a memorable and thoughtful touch. If you’re going to her place, you still have a role in preparing the environment. If you have been leading the foreplay, you can dictate what she will be wearing wea ring (if anything at all) when you get there, any kind of music that should be playing, and how light or dark you want her place to be when you get there. Take Take the opportunity to actively guide what she is wearing and how she prepares her place for your arrival. Even if you don’t care what her place looks like, you will heighten the experience for her if you guide her in how you want her place to be when you get there. And now you’re in the same room … Hours – maybe days – have gone into setting up this moment. No matter how many times you’ve done this, you’re going to be nervous. So:
CONQUEROR’S RULE OF MEETING: Stop, take a deep breath, then focus on moving slowly and talking deliberately. deliberately. It’ It’ss not an original idea, but b ut it works. People who are nervous n ervous tend to talk just a little faster than people who are cool, calm and collected. So concentrate on being more deliberate de liberate in your words, and slowing your speech pattern down d own just a little. It will give you an extra moment to think before you speak, and you will feel more in control of the situation. Slowing down your speech pattern will calm her down too, which is vital. Her nervousness is the only thing now standing between you and a several hours of sex. So now that you’ve taken take n a breath, smile and slowly walk toward her. If she doesn’t step back, take her in your arms and kiss her. If she does step back, simply say whatever it would make sense for your persona to say at this moment. In some cases, that would be, “Are you ready to feel your Master’s hard cock in every one of your yo ur holes, slut?” In other cases that would be, “Hi! It’s so nice to nally meet you.” Understand that it’s hard to predict how nervous the woman you’re about to meet will be. Take two women, both with the same fantasy, both with the same needs, both bo th living in the same town, one will be ready to plunge into her fantasy the moment you walk in the door, while the other needs 10-20 minutes of talking and a glass of wine to feel comfortable with you. Be sensitive enough to read her body language and understand what she needs. Arms crossed against her chest, inability to make eye contact, not speaking or speaking very quietly are just a few indicators that she needs you to talk for a few minutes to get her past her nervousness. Once you’ve started talking, be bold
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enough to reach out and touch her. If she doesn’t push you away awa y, slowly start getting ccloser loser.. I have found that when I meet a woman who is overcome with nervousness, I suggest relaxation exercises. We We both stand up. I tell her, “Let’s “Let’s both take a deep cleansing breath through the nose, and then let it out through the mouth.” Then I say, say, “Let’s do it again,” but this time I have my hand on her upper stomach to “monitor” her breathing. As I tell her to take a third and fourth breath, b reath, keeping one hand on her stomach, I move around behind her and start kissing the back of her neck. Never underestimate really sensual kisses on the back of a woman’s woman’s neck as a way of opening her up to anything else you want to do. Of course, all of this is done in the guise of helping her relax. Nothing sexual at all about it! At this point, as you kiss the back of her neck, she should be allowing herself to melt into you, breathing a little faster, faster, perhaps moaning a little and maybe even beginning to grind herself against you. Congratulations! She is becoming putty in your hands! Y You ou have created the persona and the fantasy she has been wanting for so long. You wrote words that appealed to her and made her want to start a conversation, then you used email foreplay to get her ccompletely ompletely stimulated before she agreed to meet. Now she’s here, in front of you. Even if she was nervous before, now she feels comfortable enough for you to start undressing her, and if you keep touching her and an d kissing her just right, she will give you anything you want all night. I just just hope you brought brought enough enough condoms condoms … Of course, every once in a while, you will meet a woman that shrugs off any kisses, pushes you away every time you try to get close and refuses offers to try to relax. This usually results from the combination of nding a girl who isn’t particularly experienced, strong or even very smart, and not spending enough time performing email foreplay to make sure she even has it within her to get into the mood. She was just horny and said, “come on over,” which usually sounds like a terric offer. But she did it without really thinking it through, and in this case, every part of her body is telling you she regrets setting this meeting up. Unless you have the very special skills to be calm enough, smooth enough and reassuring enough to make her nervousness disappear simply by talking and smiling, it’s time to offer to leave. This will give her the chance to “put up or shut up” and it will give you the opportunity to nd out whether you’ve got a willing participant or it’s time to cut bait, go home, get on CL and nd someone who is actually willing. Shit happens, but no matter what happens: NEVER, NEVER, NEVER PUT YOURSELF IN A POSTION IN WHICH YOU COULD LATER BE ACCUSED OF RAPE, SEXUAL ASSAULT OR ANY OTHER KIND OF UNWANTED UNW ANTED ADVANCES. ADVANCES. Keep this in mind at ALL times! Even if you’re acting out a rape scene, try to make sure you have it in writing in her emails that “rape” “rape ” is what she wants, and then save those emails.
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Well, well, well. Not No t only did I have my answer to last night’s night’s mystery, but now she was back, requesting my attention. And now I had the best possible motivation for punishing pu nishing her: rejection! This was going to be great fun. Of course, I would have to miss a morning of work. Before I could write her back, another note came from her address: Please, Sir. Sir. Call in sick sick and let me come over to be properly punished.
With Wi th a smile, I responded: You have my address and my cell number from last night. Text me when you get here. Your punishment awaits, slut.
Instead of preparing for my workday, workday, I prepared prepared my living room and bedroom bedroom for her arrival. Blindfold, restraints, restraints, handcuffs, ball gag, rope, paddle, I even brought out the seldom-us seldom-used ed whip and nipple clamps. Oh, she was going to pay for last night’ night’ss betrayal. Once the stage was fully set for her arrival, I took a quick shower, shower, brushed my teeth and vacuumed the carpet, after all, she was going to spend a lot of time with her face in the carpet. Finally,, I heard my phone chime signaling an incoming text. Finally Your dirty little slut is here sir.
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Good. I texted back: You will come to my front door, slut. You will knock once and turn your back. You will hear the door open behind you. You You will be blindfolded. blindfolded. Y You ou will be led led into my home, home, and your discipl discipline ine will begin.
I stood at the door, door, looking through the peephole. W Within ithin moments she was in my line of sight. Short blonde hair,scared, hair, thin, wearing a tight her tanktake top a covering and pair of jogging shorts. She looked but I watched breath, small knockbreasts on my do door or aand turn her back. I waited a beat and opened opene d the door door.. I could sense her fear peaking as she felt me behind beh ind her. her. I quickly blindfolded her and grabbed her h er around the waist as I half carried her her,, half dragged her into my living room. “Don’tt hurt me! People “Don’ Peop le know where I am,” she pleaded in a shaky, throaty voice. “I don’t don’t care, slut.” And with that her hands were cuffed behind her back and her shorts and panties were on the oor. oor. With With a SLAP I spanked rst the left side of her well-toned ass, then the right. Then I pulled the front of her tank top over her head and behind her neck, exposing her small pink nipples. “We’re “We’re going to have some fun now, now, slut.” She trembled as I allowed those words to hang in the air. air. I carefully placed a nipple clamp around her right nipple. She bit her lip and whined a little, but didn’t yell out in pain. I carefully placed the other clamp on her left nipple. Again, she accepted the nipple torture. Impressed with with her control, I pushed her roughly roughly down toward the couch, so that her face was buried in a sofa cushion, her knees on the oor and her ass up in the air. “So, slut,” I asked, “how did the man you chose last night use you?” “He didn’t, didn’t, Sir. Sir. He just wanted to have gentle, boring sex.” “I see. That’s That’s too bad. Did he use your tight little ass last night for his own pleasure, slut?” “No, Sir. He didn’t.” “Good,” I said, as I maneuvered myself behind her. her. “Let’s “Let’s start off by correcting his mistake …”
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SPAM, Scams and Other Assorted Douchebaggery In a non-descript one-story building just outside of Minsk, the capital of Belarus in eastern Europe, row after row of men sit at long berboard berboard tables in a large, windowless, cigarette-smoke-lled room, under cheap uorescent lighting. In front of each man is a bottom-of-the-line PC connected to the internet. The internet hookup is state-of-the-art. Each man has a variety v ariety of webmail accounts open on his screen: Hotmail, Y Yahoo, ahoo, Google and AOL. All free accounts, of course, that allow unlimited u nlimited anonymous registration from a single IP address. But the most important window for each man is the Craigslist page of his assigned city, opened to casual encounters. Each man has two jobs. The rst job is placing as many w4m ads as he can through each 12- hour shift. The second job, and nearly as important, is to ag every seemingly real w4m ad that appears on CL – any that was not placed by a fellow spammer. Some of the men in the room speak a little English. Most don’t. But they don’t d on’t really need to. Each man is provided with a list of headlines head lines and another list of paragraphs to mix-and-match with the headlines. On occasion, one of the men at the tables will come up with an idea for a new ad, write it in his native language, run it through Google Translate and place the results in an ad on CL. At other times, before agging a w4m ad, a man will copy the real ad onto his document of accepted ads, and use those words for his own o wn ad on a CL page for another a nother city at another time. Sure, the ads they place don’t always make perfect sense, but many men in America are stupid and lazy. These fake ads don’t have to make that much sense to get replies. Hund Hundreds reds of replies. T To o every single ad they place, in every single city. It’ It’ss not just easy ea sy.. It’s lucrative. Every man who answers one of their bogus ads will get an automated reply. Usually the reply is from a “woman” who is completely turned on by whatever the man sent, even if he sent a blank email. She really wants to meet him. All he has to do is go to a site. Make a prole! Or verify that he’s not a stalker or something simply by entering in his credit card number. No matter what the “woman’s” offer offer is, the man is going to be charged $30-$45 a month for something. So even if only one of every 100 men is gullible enough to actually join a site or give a credit card number for verication, the men in the non-descript building sitting at the long tables make at least $30 for every ev ery ad they place in every CL city, city, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. y ear.
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And that doesn’t even take into account the amount of money made by the multiple semi-automated emails that hit every post written by a man. It’ It’ss been said time and time again that you’ll never go broke underestimating a horny American male. Ah yes, business is good. *** It’ It’ss so sad. You You will hear from longtime users of CL casual en encounters counters in every city that spammers have destroyed the category. Probably 90% of all w4m listings are spam, and a nd if you’re a real woman trying to post, your ads don’t d on’t stay up very long because the spammers ag you. Just in the 18 months that I was experimenting on CL, I noticed a huge increase in the amount of spam I was dealing with. It can be incredibly frustrating. Every day on CL casual encounters, in every city, there is at least one man who posts an ad saying that CL is nothing but spam. This chapter is dedicated to all of those guys who just throw up their hands ha nds and give up. There’s no need to. Not when so much of the spam is so pathetically fake, so certainly not written by a real woman, much of it not even written by someone who speaks English. Once you know what you’re looking for, most of the spam is laughably easy to spot. Here are the rules to consider when evaluating whether you’re looking at the words of a real woman or spam.
The Conqueror’s 20 Rules of Spam I put these rules into three groups. There are general rules about spam that are just go good od sense. There are rules to consider when you’re looking at w4m posts, trying to decide if they’re spam. And I have rules for deciding if a response to your ad is spam.
Four General Rules: Rule of Spam #1: No real woman on CL will ever send you to another site. EVER! Not to look at her pictures, not to verify yourself, not to join another dating site. Real women ccome ome to CL to nd someone quickly. If they supply you with any link to anything any thing other than a Facebook Faceboo k page or a MySpace page, it is denitely spam.
LEGITIMATE verication site to which YOU have Rule of Spam #2: There is no such thing as a LEGITIMATE to give your credit card number. There are sites through which she can check you out for prior arrests and similar problems, but for that SHE would have to pay for a subscription, not you. yo u. She would need your name and either your address or your social security number, not your credit card number. (And of course, don’t give anyone your credit card number or your social security number!) Rule of Spam #3: Ifon a woman has asites, prole another site, there is no forshe hercan to ever visit CL. Even the less claims popularshe dating sheon will be inundated with all reason the men
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handle on the original site on which she’s set up her prole. This is just a way that dating sites try to recruit new (paying) members. Furthermore, if any woman EVER mentions her “prole” in an ad, that is simply a spammer cutting and pasting text written by a real woman on another dating site. Don’t waste your time. p lace, that makes you ask, “Why Rule of Spam #4: Any time you notice anything that seems out of place, did the woman write that?” it’s probably spam.
Ten rules for detecting spam posts: that are found on the standard computer Rule of Spam #5: Real women only use characters that keyboard. If someone is cutting and pasting paragraphs from other documents to be posted on CL, apostrophes, quotation marks and other punctuation punc tuation can show up as all kinds of weird symbols once the ad is published. One variation of this is posts featuring the “anti-apostrophe.” Some spammers have realized that CL has problems with apostrophes when they are cut and pasted from a document, so if you see a post that skips the apostrophes altogether like, “I m horny” or “Id like to meet someone” … well that’s spam. Rule of Spam #6: Real women put a little thought into their posts. A lot more than some men do. Therefore their headlines hea dlines will AL ALW WAYS have something to do with what they write in the body of their ads. Most spam posts can’t manage that one simple accomplishment. This is actually the easiest way to spot the most laughable of the spam. Rule of Spam #7: Real women looking for sex usually have a pretty good idea of what they’r they’ree looking for. They will offer offer some explanation of why the they’re y’re looking and who they’re looking for. for. Very few real women will ever run an ad with less than three sentences. And for those very, very few that do, those sentences will make some sense. If all you get ou outt of a casual encouters post is a woman’s favorite favorite type of music and the fact that she likes cooking, that is spam. Rule of Spam #8: Real women don’t include their names in a post. If you see a woman mentioning
her name in a post, there is a 95% chance you’re either looking at spam, or an ad placed by someone who wants your money. Rule of Spam #9: Real women don’t write their posts in one language, run it through an online translator and post the hilarious results. When you see a post that uses phrasing that no real woman living in North America in the 21st Century would use, that is denitely d enitely spam. Rule of Spam #10: Real women who post on CL ll out all of the identifying information after the headline. That means if it’s a real post, you will see the woman’s age and the name of her neighborhood/city next to the title of the ad before you even click on it. A real woman will want you to know her age, ag e, so you’ll know if you’re too old or too young for her h er.. Spammers don’t want any man to rule himself out, so they often don’t include an age near the title. When you see an ad
that doesn’t have eitheryou an age or the name of a ad. neighborhood/city next to the title, you know there is only a slight chance are looking at a real
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Rule of Spam #11: Real women who post on CL know how old they are. When an ad says a woman is one age next to the title, but in the text or the headline of the ad, she indicates her age is something different, that is denitely spam. po st on CL know where they live. A real woman on CL Rule of Spam #12: Real women who post usually won’t refer to where she lives as generically as “I love living in this area.” If she mentions men tions
what part of town she’s in, it will be a part of town that actually ac tually exists. If she says she’s in Evanston, do a Google search on Evanston (hint: if you’re not living in Indiana, that is spam!) You You will nd w4m ads from the same non-parts-of-your-t no n-parts-of-your-town own showing up again and a nd again. Rule of Spam #13: Real women who post po st on CL know what day, month and season this is. When a woman mentions wanting to nd a valentine, unless it’s February, February, that is spam. When a woman mentions that the holiday season makes her horny, if it’ it’ss not the holiday season, that is spam. If the woman says her long weekend starts tomorrow and it’s only Tuesday, Tuesday, that is spam. If the woman complains about how cold it is, if it’s it’s not cold out, that is spam. Rule of Spam #14: Real women do not n ot post their IM addresses in CL posts. Usually Usually,, when a “woman” posts her IM address she is just trying to lead you to a cam ca m site where she or other
women will perform on camera. For a small fee, of course.
Six rules for detecting spam replies to your posts: Rule of Spam #15: A real woman will reference what you talked about in your post. If you wrote something fantasy based, she will either continue your y our fantasy, fantasy, or at least tell you how hot it is. If you used humor, she will either joke with you or will tell you how funny you are. In neither case will she just launch into a paragraph about her that is totally disconnected from anything you wrote. Rule of Spam #16: Real women will have email addresses that make sense in some way. It will not feature a long stream of random numbers or letters. Their email addresses are not misspelled versions of the names on their account. A real woman will usually reference her city, her state, sex,
her name or some kind of o f hobby. If the name that comes up with her email add address ress is Jane Smith, but the email address itself is
[email protected] that
[email protected] that is denitely spam. Rule of Spam #17: A real woman will not send you an email from one address, then have your response automatically go to a different address. Anytime you’re sending an email to a reply you’ve received, make sure the address that you see on your response matches the address of the incoming email. If it doesn’t, you’re replying to spam. Rule of Spam #18: If you received any photos, check their titles. Real women will have titles such as “photo1.jpg” or “me.jpg” or “smile.jpg” or “boobs.jpg.” If the title of a photo is a string of seemingly random letters and numbers, such as 2uETl4YU5H6BSH8BPmrJqAxx.jpg, you may be looking at spam. Rule of Spam #19: If you’re running multiple ads at the same time, you will nd the same spam
messages coming in from similar names or identical names, but sometimes from different email
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addresses. If you’re not sure if a message is spam, look through the other responses you’ve received lately.. If you’re seeing similar names coming again and again, they’re all spam. lately numerical codes in their replies. Rule of Spam #20: Real women don’t include complicated numerical Sometimes these codes are written in white type so they are invisible until you highlight the entire email. If you see any numerical codes in an email reply, reply, you’re looking at spam. Got all of those rules? Good. Now let’s let’s put some of them to work. Take a look at a t this ad. Tell me what indicates that it’s not written by a real woman?
Named like the Story of O - w4m (Chicago) Date: 2011-02-07, 1:23AM EST Reply To This Post
I like to spend my time writing poems on the beach, or going to parties with friends. I am a very social person and i love to dance. I like to take long walks on the beach, and play solitaire at night on my lap top.
Start with the title. The Story of O is a classic BDSM story. story. So where is the explanation exp lanation of the BDSM needs of this woman in the text of the ad? It’s not there. It’ It’ss almost as if the title was written separately from the text of the ad … well that’s odd! Add the fact that the “woman” who placed the ad didn’t bother to put her age in. SPAM! SPAM! Here’ss a similar one … Here’
I wanna F**K all night - w4m (West (West Palm Beach) Date: 2011-02-07, 1:13AM EST Reply To This Post
i workout when i can. I go to school and trying to get a degree. I work part time in an accounting ofce. trying to meet new people.
Let’s start again with the headline. For Let’s Fo r starters, there is nothing on Craigslist keeping an ad writer from using the word “fuck.” So I don’t understand why the writer is using the F and the K without including UC in the middle. That doesn’t make sense. And then the body text of the ad doesn’t have anything to do with the headline. h eadline. Why does she want to f**k all night? What kind of man does she want for this? Why tonight? If I want to f**k her, does it matter that she works part time in an accounting ofce???
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Again, no age posted. SPAM! SPAM! Next …
looking for a ing - w4m (downtown) Date: 2011-02-06, 11:18AM EST Reply To This Post Post Guys, if ya want to chat to me then you can add my YM, on nada3415
Okay, let’s let’s start again with the headline. I could c ould see “looking for a ing” tting with the body text. However, look at the neighborhood: downtown. Sometimes a real woman will be posting from downtown, but usually, “downtown” is a good generic neighborhood for any spammer to use, since every town has a downtown. And again, no age is posted. But the real giveaway is the mention of “her” Yahoo Yahoo Messenger handle. Go ahead, a head, use it now. She’ll talk to you for two minutes then ask if you’d like to see her perform pe rform on camera. For a small fee. Do you have a credit card? SPAM! SPAM!
I need a cuddler - w4m (downtown) Date: 2011-03-03, 12:34AM EST Reply To This Post Post
It might sound kind of wierd but I’ve always kind of wanted a hunk to blow his load on my feet.
Again, we have an ad being posted from “downtown” with no age provided. Now, Now, there are plenty of guys out there who are happy to cuddle, and a nd I’m sure it’s not hard to nd a guy willing to blow his load on a woman’s feet feet either. But I question question how cuddling leads to blowing a load on someone’s feet. Obviously, this is a headline that was written for one purpose and text that was written for another. And someone who was working too fast to pay attention, or proba probably bly couldn’t even understand English in the rst place, was in charge of this operation. Major SPAM!
Keep me me warm tonight ;) - w4m (Evanston) Date: 2011-02-08, 2:01AM EST Reply To This Post Post
Whippings to my rear end i quite enjoy. I like when my ass turns red, can you handle that?
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Who talks like this? “Whippings to my rear end”? end ”? Really? Add in the fact that this ad did not run in Indiana, which is the only state in which you’ll nd a city or an area called Evanston. Oh, and again the headline doesn’t match the subject of the text, and no age is provided. SPAM!!! SPAM!!! Here is one of my favorites:
Want some - w4m (west) Date: 2011-02-08, 9:14PM EST Reply To This Post
Now im a twenty-four, Latino babe, residing in the midst of the town. I have only just gone to live li ve in this particular city however not able to go to a good bar or maybe lounge. The reasons why don
Have you ever seen anyone work harder to not no t mention where they live? It’s almost as if this post was written somewhere far from any place where anyone speaks English to be run generically in any city. And no, I didn’t edit the end of this post. This is exactly as it ran. If you look very closely, you will nd that MANY w4m posts end where an apostrophe should be. Again, no real woman looking for a man would have written this. I’d call it spam, but its not even smart enough to be spam. What’ss that? You What’ You want to see an example that is even worse? Okay …
Come over! - w4m w4m (your place) Date: 2011-02-08, 11:05PM EST Reply To This Post My mummy and I moved to this fresh state after my mom have broken down from my pops. I just had gotten entrance in freshman and i also am all of shy to make fresh good friends in my institution. Although from the time that I moved to this particular state my sex-life had a pause. I am bitch while having intercourse, naughty and even outrageous, despite the fact that laid-back when it comes to creating new buddies. So I want somebody that wants a great and fuck adventures, really a true sexy bang friend. If you believe you are sizzling and untamed then mail me or even contact me. Nate!
Um … you gure it out. This wasn’t written by a real woman. I’m not even sure this was written by an Earthling.
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I enjoy sexy fun - w4m (Fort Worth) Worth) Date: 2011-02-09, 2:37PM EST Post Reply To This Post
I have constantly had this strange dream that none of them of my previous boyfriends were ready to indulge in. Actually they have been not even sufciently strong that helped me to meet my desire. My wish is to play out a rape. I wish to connect with a stud who’s got a large man member and is particularly ready to play the role of the person who rapes whilst I am going to get raped. You You may handle me as you may like and i will never even hassle as this is one dream which has continually turned me on. Message me your details along with a photograph.
I’m including this example because I’m certain it got go t a lot of responses. The rape fantasy is one many men will happily volunteer for. And I’m sure every last one of the guys who answered this ad was disappointed to get a reply that invited them to join a site or verify themselves with a credit card. I also include it because this sentence makes me laugh eevery very time I read it: “I wish to con connect nect with rapes a studwhilst who’sIgot large to man who amagoing g etmember get raped.” and is particularly ready to play the role of the person
interested in d/s - w4m (Orange County) Date: 2011-02-09, 2:37PM EST Reply To This Post
Love is with the air-Huh! I need this to can come lower, down to my own bedroom. I am wild bitch wanting to get shagged as well as tamed by some sort of great, attractive dude. P.S. I am normally inuenced with the height and width of the penis. Take a look at when you can suit me or you cannot. I’d seriously like l ike to exchange a few pictures prior to actually reaching your bed. Certainly no false pictures pls. I enjoy make hand jobs and also blow jobs too. If you think you could be my personal intercourse int ercourse partner partner,, drop me personally a good e-mail along with a few your current naked chest photos.
I bring this ad up for one word: shagged. Unless you’re hoping to meet up with Austin Powers, when you see the word “shagged,” you’re reading something that was not written in North America. Evidently, this is one of those ads written in a different language and run through a translation program. A really bad one. And here’s the sentence that is the che cherry rry on top of the whole crap sundae: “I enjoy make hand jobs and also blow jobs too.”
Here’ss one that pretty much violates Here’ v iolates every rule of spam:
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****unfullled**** - w4m (downtown) Date: 2011-02-12, 1:55AM EST Reply To This Post
I am 18 and right out of secondary school. I have a luscious l uscious pussy which has by no means been carressed (besides by myself). I am ready now to reduce my virginity and also for a bit of big person to make really like to me again and again. I’m white and have no preferences as of now. I don
If you’re going to spend a great deal of time replying to po posts sts written like this, you deserve to be frustrated and angry. Since you now know what to look for, I’m condent you won’t be falling for these types of shenanigans. Recognizing incoming email spam Every time you place one ad on CL, you can expect to get up to six spam emails within 45 minutes
of your post appearing online. Over the course of 24 hours, you can expect a total of 10-15 spam emails to your CL post. So if you post ve ads in a day, you can expect to receive at least 50 spam emails pretty quickly. Fortunately 80% of it is pretty transparent. Most spam emails are written long before you placed your ad. They are usually written to be as generic as possible, so if you’re not running generic ads that say “I’m horny. Let’s Let’s fuck,” you will nd that most of these spam messages don’t make much sense as responses to your posts. There are specic names that will show up in your inbox again and again no matter what part of North America you’re in. Many times you will see the same rst name again and again with a different last name each time. And sometimes you’ll see a last name repeating with different rst names. These names do tend to change over time, but these are the names that are almost always spam as of the writing of this book: Nicole Lewis Maggie Roberts Diana Richardson April Parker Alex (Anything) asking in the subject line for you to send your photos Maddison or Maddie (Anything) Babicke (Anything) Rascoe (Anything) Rutledge ::MELISSA:: :-:SARA:-: Brittany Brandy Hennersen
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Kate Macneill (Anything from) @juicybang.com
There are specic words to look out for too: lad, chap, shag, advert, adve rt, keen, pub and the term, “I’m a desirable lady.” At the time of this publication, there are four main types of spam emails that will show up in your inbox: 1. Emails that contain nothing having to do with what you wrote 2. Emails that contain a few few random random words words 3. Emails that simply contain the title of your post, your age or the area you’re from followed followed by a question mark, as if seeking clarication of something you put in your post 4. Emails that are blank but include a .html or .doc attachment How do you deal with all that spam? 1. Don’t run ads that are so generic that a spammer could write you a convincing reply without reading your ad. 2. Ask for real responses to to include something in in their subject line that will will identify them as being
real. This will make it easy to identify 99% of the spam that shows up in your inbox. inbo x. Keep in mind that some very smart spammers will occasionally read your ad and write whatever you’re looking for in the title of their spam email. 3. Question every part on every email you receive, including the email address and the names of any attachments. 4. If you’re not sure you’ve received received spam, you can always always answer it with a question, such as: what was it exactly that excited you about my ad? If you get an answer that makes sense, you’ve found a real person 5. Even if you end up having a “conversation” with a spammer, as long as you don’t pull out your credit card or give any personal pe rsonal information, all you’ve done is waste a little time. Prostitutes
Sometimes you will come across woman who is real, butenough not justto looking some no no--, I’m strings fun. on SheCL wants/needs money and ashe knows you’re horny give itfor to her. Now Now, not here to to judge what what you do with with your time, time, your money money or your penis. penis. I will tell you that if you follow my steps you’ll find enough real women on CL that there will never be a reason to pay pa y a prosti pro stitut tut e. If prostitutes are your thing, I wish you the best b est in avoiding diseases and the repe repercussions rcussions for breaking whatever the individual laws of your state and county happen to be. For everyone else who doesn’t want to break the law, here are the key phrases ph rases in her communications to indicate she’s a working girl: -
“Looking for generous men” Use of the dollar sign ($) anywhere in her post She mentions “roses,” or even better: ro$e$
Need a SD or Need a sugar daddy
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“Make me your SB” or “Make me your sugar baby” “If you give me what I need, I’ll give you what you need.” “Be willing to compensate” “Need help with a bill” “Need to go shopping” “Recently lost my job”
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“I only charge for my time. Not for any sexual favors that may or may not be rendered.” “In/out” or “Incalls/outcalls” If she includes includes a phone number in any manner, she’s she’s probably probably selling her services. services. If she spells out the digits of her phone number and hides them in the text, she’s she’s a hooker. If she includes a phone number and says “no texts, no blocked numbers” she is denitely selling her services. - If she she mentions that she can bring in a second woman if you’d like, they are probably both prostitutes. The more “friends” she has available for you to choose from, the more you’ll know they’re all prostitutes. Whoa, it’s a dude … Sometimes, especially later at night or with more extreme fantasies, even though you clearly clea rly posted
as an m4w, you will get an email from a real person … just not a person who is a woman. Maybe it’s it’s a guy. Maybe it’s a tranny. Maybe it’ it’ss a transgendered person. Either way you’re yo u’re not talking to a woman in the traditional sense. At that point, you have a very personal choice to make. As I’ve said, I’m not n ot here h ere to judge. ju dge. What you do at 3 a.m. when you’re you’re incredibly incredibly horny horny is your own business. business. But if you choose to respond in a negative way to this person who answered your ad, I would ask for your own sake that you respond kindly. At this point no harm has really been be en done, has it? Someone you weren’t interested in sexually took a chance. Don’t be offended and don’t get angry. The last thing you need in the middle of the night is a ght with an angry, horny gay guy who has your email address. Starting a ght is not in your best interest. Your best choices are:
1. him.for his interest 2. Ignore Thank him interest and wish him well on his search. After all, he’s he’s just as horny as you are at this time of night. You You just don’t happen to share his sexual tastes. Be nice and move on. You will also sometimes see a w4m ad showing a picture of a slim woman in a cocktail dress, and she will talk about how she wants to make you cum using nothing but her tongue and lips. Odds are that’ss not actually a woman. It could be a cross dresser or a tranny. that’ tranny. Beware of posts from “women” that offer only oral. While some women very much want only to give oral and will place ads ad s saying that, keep in mind that some ads offering oral are from men. Furthermore, an “ass pussy” is not a pussy, pussy, and is not offered by anyone any one who actually has a pussy. pussy. Also, if a “woman” offers to set up a “glory “ glory hole” that is probably a man. In case you’re not familiar with the concept, a glory hole is a false wall with a hole in it at just the right height for
your penis. The idea is you walk into the room, pull down your pants, and stick your penis through
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the hole. There will be someone on the other side happy to suck it. Of course, if there was someone available who I wanted sucking my penis, she wouldn’t need a false wall with a hole in it to get me to take off my pants. Seriously,, if you only want women touching you, don’t mess with glory holes. Seriously Yes, she’s real. A real time waster. I touched on this at the end of Chapter Eight with The Wannabe. She will reply to any ad that attracts her attention. She will play the email foreplay game with you for hours, or even days. She will send you picture after picture, which at a t some point you may realize are not really of her. As the game begins to come to an end, she’ll even agree to come on over … but she never actually will. And then she’ll stop answering your emails. She is the classic tease in every sense o off the word. She will use you for your entertainment value, leaving you with nothing.
What do you do about a bout time wasters like this? Keep her email add address. ress. The more you post on CL, the more likely you are to run into her again. It might be several months before you meet her again, but you probably will. And the next time you see her email address show up in your inbox, it’s it’s your turn to have fun with her, if you’d like. Choose whatever twisted game you’d like to play, it doesn’t matter. matter. You You know she’s never going to meet anyone, so choose a way to fuck with her mind and go for it. My personal favorite favo rite is going back and reading everything she wrote in our prior conversation, then freaking her out by predicting everything she has to say, because her story won’t differ that much from conversation to conversation. The Freaker This is a sub-set of o f the time waster, only she’s not a Wannabe. She wants you. She wants the fantasy you’ve offered her so desperately that you can smell how badly she needs n eeds it from her rst email. In fact, you will never email with a woman who wants you more than this one does. Only she freaks out before she completely commits to a meeting. Not only does she end the conversation, she deletes her email account so that, without warning, your emails to her are suddenly bouncing back, notifying you that you’re sending to an account that doesn’t exist.
What happened??? She freaked out. But it’s not your fault. She is the Neglected Woman-in-tr Woman-in-training. aining. She knows k nows she needs the sexual attention, but she’s not quite ready to go all the way in cheating on her spouse. She typically has more years invested in her relationship, 20-35 years, and multiple children. Her need ne ed to meet you suddenly clashed with her conscience, and she deleted her email account, erased her surng history and promised herself never to think about doing this ever again. And she probably never will. There’s nothing you can do about it. Move on. Hey! You got called out! So you ran an ad that was just a bit … controversial. Maybe you called the reader a slut and a whore. Maybe you said you yo u wanted to fuck her in the ass, then pee on her. Or maybe your general tone was a little offensive for some people. Hey, it happens.
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Sometimes the offended party will send you an angry email. Sometimes they’ll post an ad about your ad calling you all kinds of names. Sometimes they’ll just keep opening your post and hitting the upper right hand button to ag your post until it is removed from the list of active posts. What can you do about these busybodies? Nothing. Ignore them completely, completely, and just keep placing p lacing your ads. It doesn’t matter that one or two cranks c ranks doesn’t like you or what you wrote. Y You’re ou’re not on CL to make friends with everyone, especially not with the frustrated men who can’t nd any real women and get mad when they see someone placing ads they don’t understand. Now, I didn’t always take my own advice on this one. Let me show you how I made a mistake Now, that could have gotten out of hand. I placed an ad in which I called the reader a slut, a whore and a bitch. And that night I met met a woman who wanted to be used exactly as I described in my ad, and I spent the entire night fullling every promise I made to her. The next morning, when she nally had to leave, she asked if she could come back the next night. Who was I to say no? An hour after she left, I booted up my computer and found this email waiting for me: > From: Glenn S From: Glenn S
