Indifference Makes The Difference With Women 0 0share 0 0share 0share New December 18, 2011 By Coach Corey Wayne The difference that makes the difference with women… is indifference. What does that mean? It means that even though you find yourself attracted to a beautiful woman, you don’t let her beauty affect you. You don’t come unglued, un-centered or become something you are not when you are around beautiful women you are attracted to. If you are a man or a woman, have you ever noticed a big strong male friend of yours who instantly transforms from a confident man who is sure of himself, into a little girl who doesn’t know how to act when a beautiful woman he likes comes near him? I’m sure you have. You see it in movies
and TV shows all of the time. A group of strong and confident men instantly becomes weak, needy and insecure as soon as a beautiful woman shows up. These men all transform from being themselves into pleasers and butler’s. Years ago when I was still in real estate, my company used to do a lot of advertising on the local Fox affiliate in Orlando, Florida. I got invited to their skybox to watch a major league spring training game at Walt Disney World Florida. The evening female news anchor of the station, I’ll call her Bess, was also in the skybox with us. This was a decade ago and she is now a well known news anchor on MSNBC. She’s attractive, but has the personality of a rock. Everyone at the station called her the “ice Queen” because she had such an icy and unfriendly personality. It was cold in the skybox. One of the sales managers, who was always a hard core negotiator with me when it came time to renegotiate my advertising contract with the station, turns into ass kissing super pleaser as he goes to every woman in the skybox asking if they had a sweater for Bess. I was surprised at how quickly he morphed from confident sales manager, into a feminine super pleaser. That told me that he was clueless with women, and why he was single. It made me a little cockier the next time we negotiated our advertising. When you understand women and you are around other men who don’t, it gives you the upper hand in a negotiation.
Women want to feel safe and comfortable around men. When women are around a man who does not know how to be himself in the presence of beautiful women, they instantly become turned off and only will consider that man as a friend; not a potential mate. He could possibly be a good male girlfriend, but nothing more. Think about it this way, men who are successful with women have lots of choices. Not only that, but they are used to women trying to get their attention. Remember the “Dirty Harry” role that made Clint Eastwood famous for his… “go ahead, make my day” line as he was pointing his 44 Magnum at a bad guy? Clint’s character was always indifferent to the advances of women who wanted him. They would show up at his door with a six pack of beer and maybe some take-out food, hoping he would let them in so they could seduce him. He always seemed to be slightly annoyed when they wanted his attention after he had a long day. However, the women were undeterred. The women always had a joyous and
playful demeanor. Of course he would relent and let them in. That’s what I miss about older movies. Men were always strong and confident, and never let a woman get under their skin. Women were always pursuing the men. Cary Grant was a master at comedy and messing with women in a fun and playful way. “The Philadelphia Story” and many other movies he made in the 40s, 50s and 60s always had him being pursued by beautiful women. Men acted like men in the old movies. In the movies today, men act very effeminate. Men act like women and women act like men. It’s terrible conditioning that teaches young boys and girls dysfunctional false archetypes in relationships. What a woman wants more than anything, is a guy who acts like himself no matter who he is with, or how beautiful the woman he is talking to is. Why? It allows her to feel comfortable being herself. Since girls just want to have fun, men who are indifferent to women who like them are the ones that women always chase. When you’ve interviewed as many women as I have, you learn that they’ll all say things like, “I’m going to catch him and make him mine, etc.” when it comes to getting the guy they want. Feminine energy is about opening up and receiving love. Between the hair, makeup, sexy dresses, etc. that women spend so much time on, it’s all designed to get the attention of a man so she can open up and receive his love.
Women will chase you and pursue you if you give them the space. It’s not that being indifferent means you’re rude to women, it’s simply that you really don’t pay too much attention to women until they go out of their way to get your attention. And even when they have your attention, they still have to work to catch you. But what does the average guy do? Most every guy thinks that the woman he is out with is potentially his
future wife or “the one.” While the woman he is out with, just has the attitude of let’s just see what happens. Men should think like women do when it comes to approaching a date. A woman is not going to give you any higher value than you have earned through your actions over time. How do men normally think? She’s hot! She’s my future wife and I just know it! Impatience never commands success. You should always approach women you date with patience. Make her earn your interest through her actions. Most men are ready to run to the altar before they have even said the first word to a woman they like. If you give your heart away so easily, it will never be valued or appreciated. Women will take you for granted and most of them will reject you. Why? Women want a man who is a challenge. Human beings, and especially women, tend to take for granted things that come easy; but appreciate things or people they had to work hard for. Besides, people can hide who they really are for about 90 days before the real them starts to come out. It’s impossible to get to know what a woman is really like in a long-term relationship until you’ve been dating her for at least 90 days. If you put women on probation like they all do to you, then you will have peace of mind and contentment when you agree to become exclusive. Make her earn your love. If you give it away like it means nothing, then women will treat it like it means nothing. That’s something to think about!
Girls Just Want To Have Fun!!!!! November 30, 2011 By Coach Corey Wayne
Love is fun and playful. It’s not serious. One of the biggest mistakes men make with women they want to attract, is they get all serious when they meet a girl a like. They try to do too much too soon. Men get in their heads and get lost in the details of what could be, instead of living in the moment and just having fun. Girls just want to have fun. They want to act dorky and silly and stupid when they feel like it, and also be serious and focused when it comes to working or taking care of things that need to be taken care of. They want
to play and have fun when their work is done. Feminine energy is about opening up and receiving love. A woman will never open up to receive you or your love if your only focus is putting some kind of label on what the two of you may or may not mean to each other. Women want to be in a love story. A love story just kind of happens. Nothing is more enticing or exciting romantically to a woman, than the thought of running into some random handsome stranger where they both have a deep mutual physical attraction and connection to one another. She wants to get lost in his eyes, their mutual attraction, their chemistry and simply let the love happen between the two of them. To get caught up in the moment of their connection and simply let things happen between them naturally. Men must learn to be patient and not try to force things. The more she touches you, the more you slowly reciprocate. The less she touches you, the more you need to back off. Relax, she’ll start touching you again in a few moments. Women are like cats. You must give them the space to dance into and out of your world as they please. If you let the cat come and go as it pleases, the cat will do more and more to get your attention. She may touch your arm. She may ask you questions about yourself, and who you are which communicates that she likes you and is interested in who you are as a man. She may tell you that she likes the way you are dressed and other compliments that communicate she is interested. The more comfortable she feels, the more she will start touching you, bumping up next to you or standing “too close” as you chat. All you have to do is simply… slowly… reciprocate her touching and affection making sure to stop when you notice that she has stopped. Be patient, because in a few minutes… she’ll be back. But if you chase, she will run away and you will blow your chances as she judges you to not be
worthy because you’re acting like you are not worthy when you chase a woman. When you chase a woman more than she chases you, your actions communicate that you are not very successful with women and do not understand the mating dance… and… that girls just want to have fun! When a woman judges you to be weak, unworthy or not deserving of her opening up to you so you can take her and have your way with her, she simply moves on to the next fun interaction with a new guy in hopes that the next guy will prove himself to be worthy. When you are on a date or are meeting a woman for the first time, always remember that a man’s job in the courtship is to create a fun-filled romantic opportunity for sex to happen. Men should forget about the subjects of boyfriend/girlfriend, relationships, going steady, getting serious, moving in together, marriage, commitment or any other topic related to becoming exclusive. Why? Women are going to do what they want, when they want and with who they want. If she is ready to make you her boyfriend because you have demonstrated you are a catch through your actions and not your words, she will bring it up. Therefore, if she does not bring it up, then it is not yet important to her. If you do everything right with a woman that I talk about in my book, she will fall in love with you. The more a woman loves you and desires you, the more of you and your time she will want. Eventually, she will take most of it. If you do everything right, she will make you her boyfriend and you really won’t have a choice about it. Exclusivity is a woman’s choice to make. It’s your choice as a man to say yes to her. Give her the space and she will make you say… YES!!! Here’s Cyndi Lauper’s video “Girls Just Want To Have Fun” from the 1980′s… nothings changed with women gentlemen. They still want the same thing. Give them what they want, and they will give you everything you want: I come home in the morning light My mother says when you gonna live your life right Oh mother dear we’re not the fortunate ones And girls they want to have fun Oh girls just want to have fun The phone rings in the middle of the night My father yells what you gonna do with your life Oh daddy dear you know you’re still number one
But girls they want to have fun Oh girls just want to have That’s all they really want Some fun When the working day is done Girls – they want to have fun Oh girls just want to have fun Some boys take a beautiful girl And hide her away from the rest of the world I want to be the one to walk in the sun Oh girls they want to have fun Oh girls just want to have That’s all they really want Some fun When the working day is done Girls – they want to have fun Oh girls just want to have fun, They want to have fun, They want to have fun http://www.understandingrelationships.com/let-women-come-to-you/4760
Let Women Come To You November 26, 2011 By Coach Corey Wayne In order for a woman to feel strong feelings of sexual attraction for you, chase you and pursue you, you must let her come to you at her own pace. Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. Since women are emotional beings and not mostly visual creatures like men are, you must give them the space, time and freedom for their feelings for you to grow. If you try to rush it, it’s like taking a cake out of the oven before it has had enough time to cook into a fluffy cake from a liquid batter mix. Trying to force a woman to like you more, and want to see you more before she feels it internally, is just like taking a cake out of the oven before it is fully cooked. What happens when you take a cake out of
the oven before it is finished cooking? It usually deflates. That is what happens to a woman’s interest level in a man when he tries to chase her, and force things to happen before she feels that she is emotionally ready. It causes her interest level in him to deflate. The mother of one of the women I wrote about in my book which you can download from the Amazon Kindle store for only $.99 in under 60 seconds to your PC, Smartphone, iPad or Mac by clicking here, gave me some great advice about how to get her daughter to fall for me. She said, “Corey, you need to let her feelings for you develop over time.” This particular girlfriend told me herself, “Don’t try to force things with me. Let me come to you at my own pace.” Women help you when they like you. So will their mothers if they like you also and think you are good for their daughters. If you are a guy who is needy and insecure like I used to be, it is an art more than an exact science when it comes to maintaining the balance between pursuing her too much and backing off too much. If you pursue her too much, she will lose interest and want to see you less and less over time. If you back off too much, she will think you really don’t care about her and you may lose her to another guy.
I get a lot of e-mails from men who have been dumped by their girlfriends, wives or blew it with someone they really liked. Women reject men they are dating or in relationships with all for the same simple reason: their men lowered their level of interest in them. Since most men, 97% of men that is, don’t understand women well enough or what they emotionally respond to, it is simply a matter of time before they get dumped. The sad thing is, since most men are too egocentric, they will choose to continually fail with women instead of reading a book like mine, and learning how to apply it successfully so they get the results they really want and deserve. I can’t stress this enough! The phone, e-mail and texting, just like in sales, is for setting appointments (Dates. a.k.a.: Romantic and mysterious fun-filled opportunities where sex can happen. No lunches or movies or activities that friends would do.), not for giving out information! When a woman contacts you, use it as an opportunity to set up your next date. Make a definite date, with a definite day and time to either meet up or pick her up, without any calling back to verify the date nonsense that women bring up when they either a) have low interest in you, b) they are testing you or c) they commit to a maybe date so they can simply cancel the date by ignoring you when you call, text or e-mail to verify that she still wants to see you. If a woman cannot, or is unable to make definite plans with you and instead wants to leave things up in the air, then simply say to her, “Why don’t you just give me a call when your schedule is a little more definite and we will make plans to see each other then?” If she really wants to see you, she will back up and make definite plans. If she doesn’t really care about seeing you or has low interest in seeing you, then she will simply say, “okay” when you do the take away. Your time is valuable. See yourself as a catch. If you see yourself as a catch and are popular with women, you are certainly not going to leave open one of your valuable and limited evenings to plan a definite maybe date. Why? If she cancels on you at
the last minute, you certainly don’t want to be sitting home alone because she wasted your time or took you for granted. If she says, “okay”, then simply wait to hear from her. Don’t contact her anymore. If her interest level is below 51%, you will never hear from her again. If it is above 51%, she will call, text or e-mail you when she has not heard from you. A good rule of thumb is to let women do 70 to 80% of the calling, texting and pursuing. On your dates, you should also let women do 70 to 80% of the talking by simply asking her questions about herself, or things about her that are of interest to you. If you really like a woman, you’re going to be fascinated by her. You’re going to want to know everything about her. It’s not an interrogation, it’s sincere genuine interest in who she is as a woman. If you let women do 70 to 80% of the pursuing, chasing and talking, they will not break up with you. If she is chasing you, she can’t be getting rid of you. However, if the ratio is around 50% where you both are evenly pursuing one another, there won’t be that much sexual polarity or attraction between you two. Some women get upset and mad at me when I talk about this fact. From an intellectual and politically correct perspective, 50-50 sounds reasonable. However, women are the way they are and they respond to what they respond to. Over the past 15 years… myself, my friends, my family and thousands of my clients, have proven that women will love you more and want you more if you let them do 70 to 80% of the pursuing and talking. That way, you will remain a mystery and maintain strong sexual chemistry and polarity. The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Hi Mr. Wayne, About a year ago, my ex and I broke up and went our separate ways after she found a new boyfriend (that is a red flag. She left you for another guy. This woman is not good relationship material. Have an open relationship with her or a friends with benefits relationship, but not an exclusive relationship, unless you want to get your heart
broken). I walked away for 10 months and after a class we have together, she came and sat down next to me and we ended up talking for a good 30 minutes and caught up and laughed and joked around, etc. Over the last 3 months she would always text me in our class and be really flirty and playful, and I would do the same thing back, but she would never commit to actually going out with me (You acted like a friend. Not a lover. You also were seeking her approval.) I even showed the texts to a female friend of mine and she agreed that there is no way she still doesn’t have feelings for me. (Probably accurate.) I found out yesterday that she is now dating a new guy. He lives in Scotland, we live in Wisconsin and he’s really not around a whole lot I would assume. So I feel as though that gives me an advantage in that I’m physically closer to her than he is. I just read your “best strategy to get an ex back” article and I loved it. I was wondering if you thought it would
be a good tactic to use here. (No. That is for someone you just broke up with. This is a relationship that ended over a year ago. She has dated several men since you.) I’m able to walk away. I already did for 10 months and am willing to act on it. Here is what I was planning on telling her though: Look, I saw you’re dating somebody new. I’ve been under the impression for the last few months with the way we were interacting that we were moving towards being something again. The fact of the matter is I still love you and I still want to be with you. You still mean the world to me. I’m not interested in being friends because I can’t be around you without wanting to hold you in my arms again. And I can’t keep doing this flirty text thing because I refuse to be the way you get attention when your man is unavailable. So unless you feel the same way, I don’t think we should talk anymore. I don’t want you to call me unless you want me. I’m happy to have had you in my life, it was a great experience. I wish you all the best. I just can’t settle for anything less than what I truly want. (You should do nothing. Next time she texts you, send three or four texts back and forth between the two of you, and then ask her this, “what evenings are you free this week?” Let her tell you. Then ask her, “how about we meet up at Houston’s at 123 Oak St., etc. for a
drink?” If she won’t make definite plans, then tell her to text you if she changes her mind. Then walk away. If she agrees to meet up, treat it like your very first date. It’s a clean slate. The past is irrelevant. Forget about the boyfriend/girlfriend talk or getting back together talk. Just focus on having some fun. In the meantime, you need to download and read my book 10 to 15 times to the point that you could literally give a seminar on it. You need to learn the basics of what I teach if you want to be successful with women and eliminate rejection.) Thanks for your time, Tom If you have any questions or comments you can post them directly below in the facebook comments system which appears after the end of this article. If you have a question you would like me to answer via email, you can send it to this email address:
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This Just Won’t Go Anywhere! June 10, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne
What to do when you are frustrated with constant fighting & breakups so your relationship becomes what you want. It can be very frustrating when you are dating a woman you love, but who you constantly argue with or butt heads over her saying she does not trust you. I remember when I was dating my wife before we got married, and that
she was often jealous, needy and insecure about our relationship. There was a period of time of where she was constantly accusing me of sleeping with or hooking up with other women behind her back. Deep down she could tell I was not fully present and in love with her. However, at that time I was too weak to admit that the relationship was not what I really wanted deep down, and I therefore stayed in it longer than I should’ve. I got married to her when my heart was telling me otherwise. I finally got to a point where I got tired of her jealousy and insecurity because I never had any intention of cheating on her. I was faithful to her and I simply put my foot down and told her that she needed to get over her feelings of insecurity and inadequacy and to never bring it up to me again. She never did after that. When a woman does not feel you are totally there and present in the relationship, she will often become bitchy or upset with you. The following is an e-mail from a reader who broke up with a girlfriend he is still hooking up with. When she comes back, he chases too hard which pushes her away. He’s frustrated that it’s not going anywhere and writes to me asking for my help. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Corey, Thanks for all of your advice. I am going to order your book today. (You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Here is the situation. I was with this lady for 3 1/2 years. Our relationship was full of sex and fights. (Men who understand women do not argue with them. They communicate in a loving and mature adult manner.) The fights were about her not trusting me. (That tells me that she did not feel you were fully present in the relationship. There were things you should have been doing that you were not. When men tell women they will do things and then they do
not, it causes them to become bitchy because they don’t trust your masculine core. This ruins a woman’s ability to feel safe and comfortable in the relationship.) I am and was totally into this woman and took great offense to her thinking I was not true. We eventually moved in, but the fights won out and she moved out 3 months later. (You don’t understand women, that is why you fight with your girl.) Since then she has been manipulating the crap out of me and I keep letting it happen. She had me over 4 times for sex and to tell me that she loves me. Finally she said “no more, leave me alone, I’ve moved on.” (Sounds like you were chasing her. Chasing women guarantees rejection.) I stopped contacting her. Two weeks later I get this bullshit email to pick up some stuff. (They usually do that to see how you react and if it bothers you that you are not with her. Women will often do things like this when they are unsure of where they stand with you.) She saw that I was doing well and I saw her for a few minutes two days in a row. Hugs and kisses and she says she loves me, but we can’t be together, etc. (Translation: “There’s too much drama being with you.”) I got some help when she moved out. I changed some things in my life and I am now better than ever. (Awesome! Good for you!) She seems the same. (People don’t change, they only become better versions of themselves.) The thing is I truly love this woman, and if there is still a chance I don’t want to give up. I will not contact her as I didn’t last time, and figure a message will come from her at some point. (That’s all you can do. She told you it was over and you should never try to stay with someone who does not want to stay with you.) I’m guessing I should just state what I want and she can take it or leave it? (Stick to what you want when she contacts you, if she is unwilling to give you what you want or treat you the way you want to be treated, then walk away and tell her to call you if she changes her mind. Get busy reading my book and applying what it teaches so you can meet & date better quality women & master your skills of seduction.) Thanks for any and all your help. Rob
Help Getting Her Back May 24, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne How to know when you have a chance at getting a woman back who rejected you & when you don’t. Sometimes I find it sad when I read e-mails from guys who write me about women who blew them off after they spent a year or two of their lives holding out hope that the women they love, will start to love them or want them back into their lives. However, then I don’t feel so bad when I read e-mails from guys like the one I’m about to share with you. Some guys have bought into the media illusion that if they like a woman enough, eventually she will start to feel the same way. The reason I don’t feel so bad is because some of these guys are so dense and it is so obvious that they don’t have a chance at all with the women they are writing me about. A few of these guys have so totally and completely deluded and bullshitted themselves into believing they’ve got a chance when they don’t, that even I am sometimes unable to talk any sense into them. Some people just
need to crash and burn before they will change their ways and let go of things, people and limiting beliefs that no longer serve them. I can only help people who are willing to help themselves. The following is an e-mail from a guy who is ignoring reality and what is easily obvious to you and I. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Hi, I have a female friend for 2 years. Just one year back, I fell in love with her. She was telling me we are friends only. We can’t be more than friends. Now recently she started acting distant from me by ignoring my calls, texts, etc. When I asked her why, she told me when we were friends it was all ok, “until you changed this and messed things all up.” I asked her why she didn’t act like this before? Why now after 1 year she said, “I tried to be friends with you, but you expecting and waiting for me, I can’t to it anymore.” She said, “I will not hang out with you.” If we come face to face we will say hi. (Translation: “You acted needy and clingy. I feel like you are suffocating me. You hovering around me and waiting on me to fall in love with you is outrageous because I am never going to date you, or feel that way about you. I’m removing you from my life because you are creeping me out!) I really feel lost. I lost my good friend and the woman I love. I need help in getting her back if it’s possible. (Dude, she’s not into you. She was never into you. You can not will a woman into liking you when she does not; no matter how much you like her. You can’t ignore the fact she does not want to be anything other than friends with you to the point that it makes her change her mind. You are ignoring reality. You projected your high interest onto a woman you had no chance with. Women make it obvious when they like you. You need to read my book and start meeting and dating other women you actually have a chance with. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Josh
Be Patient With Your Progress May 23, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne Why practicing patience when seeking to improve your success with women is essential to your long term success. In order to improve your success in any area of your life, you must practice the things I teach over and over. It’s a matter of spending a little bit of time every single day doing something to help you improve your life and practicing infinite patience with yourself. It could be reading a self-help book, watching a video, doing some research, etc. Most people who do not achieve their goals or dreams and who live lives that are less than what they are capable of living, become impatient or overwhelmed with fear when they contemplate the amount of time or effort they think they will have to expend in order to master what they are a novice at so they can succeed long-term. Therefore, they often
will do nothing to help themselves and constantly look for excuses or reasons to justify not taking any action that will change their lives for the better. Then their life doesn’t change, and they continue to complain and blame others for their mediocre lives. It’s a vicious cycle that causes them to feel like they are running around in circles and not getting anywhere. The following is an e-mail from a reader who has recently found out about my work, but who has yet to read my book. Therefore, it is obvious from his latest email he is frustrated with his lack of progress which is due to the fact that he still has not modified his approach since he first wrote me several weeks ago. He’s bullshitting himself into not taking any action to learn what he needs to so his life can start changing for the better. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Corey, I would like to thank you for taking the time to make a video response to my email. I really appreciate it, it means a lot. In the video you talk about me purchasing your book, which I will. Being a man about it, growing a pair of balls is what you mentioned. Yes Corey, so you are talking about changing my attitude with females right? (“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer.) Here is where my ambition comes in, I have planned to start a short Photography course in my local college. I plan to start Photography, so that I can run my own business once I have learned enough. It is a long term goal of mine at this present moment. I don’t know how you will take this as I say it, but interacting with the opposite sex, I very rarely interact with them in person. I usually stick to chat rooms and keep to the Internet. Is this my problem? Maybe in the Photography course I may meet a girl, but I am not introverted or anything. I can look people in the eye and hold eye contact. (You need to get your ass to the mall so you can practice and improve your social skills.) It’s all madness man. Just recently the other day, I took a girl out. This girl I spoke to on a chat room. So we went out the next day. I had told her I enjoy seeing museums so we went there, We also sat down in Pizza Express, had a meal together and finished the day with watching the Avengers movie. (Movies are terrible for first dates! How can you get to know a girl and interact with her if you’re both watching a movie? You can’t.) The whole day went fine. We are still in contact although she is seeing someone. Why the fuck do girls do this? (She was looking to upgrade possibly. What’s the best comeback when a woman says she has a boyfriend? “I don’t care about him. He can keep you busy when you’re not with me.”) She is a very genuine person, she isn’t messing with my head or anything, but I just asked her on text does she think I am ugly, she says no, I am not. She just does not find me attractive in that way. (Dude, that’s pathetically weak as a man to say such a thing. NEVER ASK A WOMAN THAT BULLSHIT QUESTION AGAIN… EVER!!!) She has a lot of guys on her university course where she studies, and knows good looking guys, she just doesn’t feel the attraction. (Translation: “Because you act like a little girl instead of a man, I can only see you as a friend because you are seeking my approval which is very unmanly behavior.” Men who understand attraction and other Alpha males would never act this way.)
I think I will just keep her as a friend. Well, I have arranged to take her out again once she is back from Portugal with her friends. (Fuck that shit! Don’t waste your time or money on women you have no chance with or who are very clear they only want to be your friend! You should walk away from this girl completely. Don’t call her any more. Let her call you. Then, if she does, maybe you have a chance.) She is on a four day trip, as it is examination period for her. So it won’t happen between me and this girl, we can just limit the relationship to friendship. I feel as though I am going around in circles Corey. (That is because you are trying to ignore my advice so you can keep believing your bullshit story so you don’t have to do anything to help yourself. You must participate in your own rescue. You need to read my book. You then need to start meeting and dating lots of women so you can learn to master the 3 methods of seduction. Repetition is the mother of skill. If you don’t practice, you won’t get any better.) You told me I am not mature in dealing with women. My question to you is this, how and why am I not mature in that aspect? (You simply do not know how to interact with women in a mature adult manner because no one has ever taught you. You act and think more like a woman thinks because you have watched too many movies and tv shows that have emotionally anchored you to false feminized and dysfunctional archetypes.) I have pushed a lot of girls away from me just because of my attitude and I am still learning how to keep myself composed and try my best not to always be the person who is needy. (“Try not! Either do, or do not! There is no try!” ~ Master Yoda. Trying is for pussies, be a man and just do it!) I always used to think it is normal, like all guys have to just go go go after any girl, and every girl, but it is very damaging and I have learned through my own experiences. In fact, the one girl I thought was the one for me, is now not even in my life. I pushed myself too far that now I regret it, but it is all behind me now. I am at a different stage. All I want is the right girl in my life. I mean I have the ambition in terms of my business plans, but there’s always that thing at the back of my head that says… Faisal, you are still a virgin man! (You need to read my book before sending me any more questions. You need the baseline knowledge if you want to start changing your life. You must be patient and go at your own pace. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Hope to hear from you, Faisal
Why He’s Still A Virgin May 13, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne How to succeed and avoid the mistakes some men make trying to lose their virginity, get laid or get girlfriends. I would say the biggest hindrance to succeeding with women for men who are unsuccessful with women is, acting needy, weak, clingy or insecure. Men who are unsuccessful with women simply communicate through their words and actions
that deep down they don’t deserve the women they want. They in essence communicate, “I know I am not worthy of you Your Highness, but I was hoping that you will like me anyways.” Women want to be with a man who feels and acts like he deserves her. Who wants to date someone who is constantly communicating that they don’t think they are good enough for you? It might be cute at first, but it gets old really quick. Most women have realized that men who act needy and clingy are also the same men who turn into stalkers, psychos and abusive control freak boyfriends. That is why when a man exhibits those kind of behaviors, most women will give him no slack at all on making those kinds of mistakes and reject him outright. Why? Women are simply not going to take the chance and put themselves into situations with men who may cause them physical or emotional harm by being forced to do something against their free will because they are physically unable to resist. The following is an e-mail from a 23-year-old virgin who wonders why he’s never had a girlfriend, and why it never seems to go anywhere with the women he dates. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Corey, My name is Faisal, I am 23 years old and I am from the UK. In my 23 years of life experience, I have seen a lot. I have met many different girls. I just don’t understand how most guys my age even have solid relationships going on for them. I, at this stage of my life, haven’t found the right person. Is this normal? (You need to meet and date a lot of different women to figure out what you really want and what’s most important to you. Otherwise, you’re just buying into the myth of “the one.”) Let me put it another way. I have not even had a serious relationship with a woman. All my encounters that I have had, slowly died off. (That tells me you are doing something to turn women off. Therefore, your approach needs to change.) I haven’t had a serious, committed, long term, person in my life, ever? This worries me a lot, because I am going to explain why I think it is. I grew up listening to Hindi music. In our culture a lot of the music affects us emotionally, and I think through listening to such music affected me in an indirect way, I am not sure. (That sounds like bullshit to me. You simply are not employing a successful strategy to help you seduce the women you like, and who like you.) Anyway, with the opposite sex Corey, if I do not have regular contact with a female, it affects me. (That is your problem. You act needy and clingy when you don’t hear from a woman. Therefore, you start to chase in order to gain certainty of where you stand. This communicates that you do not feel you deserve them. When you call or text a woman, you must have the balls to wait to hear from her. Some women purposefully wait to call you back to see how you handle it. You must outwait and outwit women.) I get upset, why is this? (You have been conditioned to believe and assume a woman will not like or want you. Therefore, you’re always looking for it to happen. When you become fearful, you chase and confront the women with an attitude of they’re purposefully doing this to you. This will turn any woman off and make her think you are a stalker. Act like a stalker, get rejected.) I feel alone most of the time if I do not get a call or a text from a girl. This is regardless of if I am with her. She doesn’t need to be a girlfriend, but as long as the communication is there, I am ok. Why is this? (Neediness, low self-esteem, cold unaffectionate parents who only yell at you when you do something wrong, but who
never make you feel loved, lovable or special, etc. Therefore, you assume and never give the women you like a chance to develop feelings for you. Women fall for a man slowly over time. If you’re constantly calling, nagging her and acting needy, instead of hanging back like a man who is successful with women does, her feelings CAN NEVER develop because you are always making her feel uncomfortable by not waiting for her to get back to you. When she does, you’re probably usually pissed off she did not call you sooner. Science has proven that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.) I just do not understand. I am a mature guy for my age. (Not when it comes to acting mature around women. You act like a needy little boy who needs love. Not a man who has love to give.) I have a part time job which is sixteen hours, and I live with my parents. I do not think I am an ugly looking guy. I just do not know what it is about me. (Your approach sucks.) I would like to think I am confident. (Confidence comes from doing something you know how to do, and doing it really well. When it comes to women, you are a novice. Confidence comes from talking to women and other strangers to improve your social skills, getting phone numbers, calling to set up dates, going out on dates and seducing women at the end of, or during your dates.) I am not introverted or shy, but why Corey, why have I not met the girl yet? (You simply have not practiced what I teach on enough women to become good at meeting and dating the kind of women you want.) Why have I not found myself a girlfriend? (You need to change your approach because what you are doing is not working.) Being a virgin at 23 is crazy man! I need your advice! I am not asking for much. I am a good guy. I deserve a good girl. (You need to read my book ASAP!!! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Please help me Corey, Appreciate it Faisal
Make Her Want You More April 10, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne Here’s how to properly build or re-build sexual tension so women you’re dating, your girlfriend or your wife starts wanting & chasing you more! When you first start dating a woman, she’s going to watch how you behave and act like a hawk! She’s looking for weakness and the signs of dominant male behavior. If you are weak and unworthy, she wants to find out ASAP so she doesn’t waste too much time with you. When you go out on dates and during the time in between your dates, your actions should be flawless in order to get her to fall for you romantically. The more things you screw up and the more weakness
you display, the more you will lower her interest level in you and cause her to back away. You must constantly monitor a woman’s words and her actions on a daily basis in order to determine how she emotionally feels about you. When she seems lukewarm and unenthusiastic about seeing you, you should back off and contact her less. If she’s calling you and blowing up your phone because she wants to see you, she’s chasing you and trying to cause you to arrange more dates because her interest level is going up. It’s the exact opposite of what men have been taught and conditioned to do by society. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He’s realized that he’s been acting dopey and uncentered to the point he’s actually been lowering her interest in him lately. He’s not paying attention to her actions and it appears he’s completely in the dark about how she really feels about him. If he does not clean up his game ASAP, she’s going to reject him! My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Dear Corey Wayne, I read your article “Don’t Act Dopey Around Women!” This article is pretty much on key to what’s happening with the girl I’m currently dating. My question is, how do I get out of this bind? I guess you could say I screwed up by letting her know I liked her too soon so she already knows how I feel, and what my intentions are. (Giving compliments is not bad or communicating what you want is not the problem. It’s when you communicate that you are unable to deal with or control your emotions to the point where you are run by them, instead of remaining centered like a man does. When you let a woman’s beauty and sex appeal uncenter you to the point where you start acting like an overly emotional woman, acting submissive, seeking her approval, waiting for her to tell you what to do, etc. instead of being a strong masculine man who already has a happy and complete life, you lower her level of interest in you romantically until she loses respect for you and therefore, she rejects you!) Lately shes been a bit more “stand-offish” and seems to be less interested than she was in the beginning, (You’ve communicated low value and that you are not much of a challenge to her. She knows that you like her more than she likes you. You must be patient and wait for her feelings to build SLOWLY OVER TIME!!! Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. If you make it too easy for her, offer compliments while ignoring the fact she never or rarely compliments you, you’ll communicate low value and that you don’t think you’re much of a catch and she will reject you.) but she still wants to see me and date me so I don’t think its too late to fix. What would you recommend? (Start paying attention to her actions. Get real familiar with the interest level table in my book that starts on page 120 so you can determine what her CURRENT true level of romantic interest in you is. It’s obvious to me you have no idea. That is how you make EPIC MISTAKES that lead to rejection.) Should I give her more space i.e. not text, call, etc. and let her think I’m being less interested in attempt to undo what I’ve done? (You should only be using the phone and texting her to set up dates. Not to chit chat. At this point, she should be doing 70%-80% of the calling and initiating contact. Therefore, you should back off enough so that the ratio gets to the percentages it should be. If you don’t hear from her, only text her once per week to set up a definite date. As you do everything right as the weeks go by, she’ll start calling
and initiating contact more and more. Then you go out on more dates per week instead of just the one. However, the difference that makes the difference is by hanging back instead of trying to force things, she’ll start contacting you more as her feelings for you rise over time due to your INACTION. That way, when you see her more than once per week, you can be sure it’s her idea. It’s always better if the woman thinks it’s her idea to get together.) I’m normally not a sucker like this, but she’s so damn cool and she’s the kind of girl I could see myself with in the long run. (KEEP ACTING LIKE THIS AND I GUARANTEE SHE WILL REJECT YOU!!!) I was really surprised how your article described basically my situation. (You should read my book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) I hope you answer, thanks! John
Go For The Kiss, Not A Hug! April 8, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne Here’s why you must always go for the kiss at the end of your first dates instead of a hug, or you’ll get rejected! When a woman knows that you like her romantically, but you hesitate to go for what you want, she’ll judge you as being weak and therefore unworthy to be her lover; but she thinks, maybe you can be her friend instead. The only way to know for sure if a woman likes you romantically, is to go for the kiss at the end of every one of your first dates. Women who like you romantically will kiss you back. Women who don’t like you romantically will turn their heads and only give you their cheeks. If you fail to go for the kiss, but instead give her a hug like a friend would, then you walk away from the date unsure of whether she likes you or not. She walks away either thinking you’re too weak to make a move, or that you only like her as a friend. Imagine going out on several dates without going for the kiss. Then, after you’ve blown several hundred dollars and over a dozen hours of your life on dates with her, you finally get up the nerve to go for a kiss… and… she turns her head! Congratulations! You’ve just wasted several hundred dollars and hours of your life you’ll never get back on a woman you had no chance with! Don’t be that guy! The following is an e-mail from a reader who has had a small crush on a woman he’s known for over eight years. He’s taken her out on two dates, but only gone for a hug each time. It appears she had some romantic interest in him, but he failed to capitalize on several good opportunities. He’s still wondering after all these years if he’s got a chance after recently taking her out for the second time, but still only giving her a hug at the end of the date! My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Hey Corey,
First off, your book and daily emails are awesome and they help keep me on top of my game in relationships, and even better, remind me of the man I want to be. Thanks! Now, I’m writing because I have a situation I don’t know how to approach. The history with this girl is this: I had a crush on her in our freshman year of college in fall 04, only saw her very rarely sophomore through senior year. I didn’t see her at all since 08. We’ve stayed in contact with random facebook or twitter comments over the years; nothing worth even remembering. In summer of 2010, I got some free tickets to a concert with her favorite country band at the time, and invited her 4 days before the concert. I invited her via facebook, lame I know, (Women are more attracted to men who have the balls to ask and be direct. It’s better than nothing, but it’s always best to do it in person if you can.) but I’ve grown up, and she didn’t respond in 3 days. So I took someone else even though she responded the day before saying she could go. (Smart man.) Since then, it became a running joke between us; where I’d invite her to something every now and then if I got some good tickets for something I thought she’d like with no real effort for anything else from either of us. (Pay attention to her lack of enthusiasm to get together. That should tell you something about her romantic interest level in you. Signs of low interest.) About a month ago I invited her to something and she turned me down, but countered and invited me to dinner! (A counter offer date is a sign of high interest. Especially her suggesting dinner.) Stoked! We went and had a great time just catching up on life since college. Our dinner lasted about 2.5 hours at a fairly quick serve sushi bar. I was the perfect gentleman. Let her do 60-70% of the talking and was relaxed as if she was just a friend. During the course of conversation we talked about future plans. I told her I’ll be enlisting in the Air Force in September, and she responded with “well that’s not, like, a deal breaker or… oh god… oops!” and she blushed. (I would have said, “Don’t be so shy honey, bring those sweet lips over here and kiss me!” and kiss her when she does. That sounds like she had some romantic interest in you IN THAT MOMENT, but you failed to capitalize on it. Missed opportunity. You got to pay attention! When women know you like them, but are hesitant to make a move, it conveys you are weak, unsure and insecure about yourself. Not attractive!) Ha ha man, she was cute when she did it too! I ended by picking up the tab, and made a joke about she could pay me back by taking ME to a concert if she wanted to. (That’s something you say to a friend, not a lover or potential lover.) She laughed and we ended the date in the parking lot with a slightly awkward semiside hug… thing. (Always go for the kiss. You just communicated to her you were thinking friendship, or that you simply got no game with women. Either way, its a turn off. If she would have kissed you back had you gone for the kiss, then you would have known she liked you romantically. Instead you’re left wondering where you stand and spending too much of your valuable and limited life obsessing over what may or may not happen with this girl. You’re giving her way too much consideration before she has earned it.) So I wait the 3 agonizing days like you say, and texted a follow up to her saying I had a great time with her and we’d have to get together again soon. (You only contact women to make dates! This is a BS unnecessary text.) I get a pretty flat response back of “It was good hearing what God has been doing in your life.” (Translation: “Thanks FRIEND.”) We’re both former missionaries in the baptist church. That kinda perplexed me… why so
serious? I let it go because I thought she wasn’t engaged and basically forgot to ever contact her back. (That is correct. She has low romantic interest in you.) And now 5 weeks have gone by because of several crazy work trips, and we’ve not talked at all since that text. I guess I just have no idea where I sit with her (You did not know the material in my book well enough. That’s why you fail and are confused now. If you would have gone for the kiss, you would have known where you stood. You need to read my book at least 10-15 times so you know the material so well you could teach it. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) and I’m not sure how to gauge her interest before I ask her out again. I’m not stuck on her or anything, but I do want to get it right in case she could be “the one,” ya know? (“The One” is a myth.) I’m to that point in my life where I’m ready to have a serious relationship moving towards more. (Slow down cowboy. You’ve got to walk before you can run. You need to focus on learning and practicing what my book teaches so you can improve your skills. This is simply one girl out of over 3 billion on the planet.) I want to have the girls I date worth my effort, (That is why you must date women who have a HIGH level of romantic interest in you to start with. It makes dating fun, easy and effortless that way!) and I think this one is but I might just be delusional. The 2 dates I’ve been on with different girls since then have showed me that I’m past the “low hanging fruit” phase of life and looking for better. (You must improve your skills and game with women by practicing! Repetition is the mother of skill. You can’t put your life on hold for any one woman until she’s earned it. You need to keep meeting and dating as many women as you can find so you can practice and learn how to properly seduce women who like you, and tell the difference from those who do not. Then, once your skills and confidence are where they need to be, you’ll meet a really amazing woman, and simply start seeing more and more of her and less and less of the other women you’re dating until she makes you her boyfriend exclusively.) Any thoughts? (Text her and say, “I’d like to take you out for dinner. What evenings are you available over the next few weeks?” Make a definite date. Then on your date, GO FOR THE KISS!!! If she turns her head and you kiss her cheek instead, it means you ain’t got a chance. Forget her and move on.) Thanks again bro, Tom
How To Get Women To Approach You First March 19, 2011 By Coach Corey Wayne
Here’s my favorite technique for getting women in bars, night clubs, public places, social functions, etc. to approach you and your friends first. Before I tell you how to use it, I want you to understand the mindset behind this. You and your friends must all agree to do this together because if one person does not have the same physiology and body language, women will not approach your group. The object of going out is not to meet or get girls. This is the most important part. You and your friends should go out with the goal to make each other laugh and have a good time. That’s it. When you get to the bar or social event, find a high traffic area where you and your friends can be near the bar for easy access to drinks and the women that will be walking by your group. As far as you and your friends are concerned, it’s your party and you have fun where ever you go and are. Focus on your friends and making each other laugh and have a good time. Don’t walk around the bar looking. It makes you and your friends appear that you are like every other guy in the place that is trying to meet someone but never does. Guys that have choice with women know that women come up to them all the time. The hardest thing they do is decide which girl to spend their time with. How would you and your friends act if women approached you all the time? If women not only approached you but asked for your phone number or gave you theirs without you having to bring it up? I know this, you would not be hungry or running around the bar approaching women. Why? Your phone is already ringing off the hook with girls wanting to see you. The only frustrating thing is trying to decide who you really want to see the most. Guys that have lots of women in their lives don’t have to run around chasing them. So act as if this kind of thing happens all the time. Act as if women are always hitting on you and that every evening always ends up with you deciding who you want to go home with. DO NOT hang in the back corner with the groups of guys holding their drinks in front of their body. Everyone avoids them in these places, especially the women. It’s like the insecure men who are unsuccessful with women all congregate together. Don’t lean against the bar or a column or a wall. Be near or next to where everyone is walking by. By putting yourselves in high traffic areas away from things to lean against it communicates that you and your friends are comfortable with yourselves, confident and fun.
Try to keep your arms down at your sides with your beers or drinks in your hands. Keep your chest out breathing into it. Stand and look confident the way I teach in my book. Smile, and make eye contact with everyone. Keep your hands out of your pockets. Touch your friends on the shoulders as you would with anyone you are comfortable with and close to. It communicates that you are fun, friendly and approachable. EVERY woman in the place will take notice of you and your friends. Put your weight on one leg and keep the other one out stretched in a comfortable position (60 degrees perpendicular to the one you have your weight on) as if you are taking up too much space. Don’t rock back and forth. Act like you own the place. Seriously, if everyone there was a guest at your bar, night club, or social event how would you act? How would you stand? You would be very comfortable, you would look comfortable, and you and your friends would radiate this. Everyone, especially the women would notice this. Women like confident men or men that look like they are confident. Now for the fun part. As a consequence of you and your friends looking like they are the most fun and most confident group in the whole place, women will naturally feel attraction and feel comfortable walking over or walking by hoping to join in the fun. So what do you say when a group of beautiful women walk by? Make sure they are willing to smile and make eye contact at you. If they are not then just ignore them and let them walk by until some walk by that do look you in the eye. Here are some easy openers… Hey, what’s up? How are you? How’s your evening going? Are you guys having fun? What are you guys up to tonight? Have you guys heard of any new fun places to go lately? This is important; even if they are ugly be friendly. Talk to them for a few minutes just to practice and then when you want to move them along you can just say “well it was nice meeting you, enjoy the rest of your evening” and then turn back to your friends and continue having a good time. After a while the other women will notice that you and your group seem to know everyone, because so many women are coming by. They will feel compelled to come over and see what all the fuss is about. This communicates to the other women there that you are popular with women. That means you have high status and are successful with women. Then more of them will come over to say hello. Remember as I say in my book, the ones asking the questions are the ones in control of the conversation. Here is another good tip on how to not be affected by the beauty of the women you are talking to. At some point no matter how amazing you think a woman is, you will get bored of her. Well how would you act if you were already bored with her? If you realize the truth
that you will get bored with every woman at some point, if you act as if it’s already happened, then the intimidation factor of her beauty will melt away. Make sure to use your hands and laugh and just have fun. After a while you may catch yourselves not smiling or staring at a tv, etc. As soon as the energy of the group changes from being fun, smiling, and laughing to everyone zoning out you will feel it. So will the women, because they no longer will be coming up to you. Simply go back to having fun and joking and they will start coming over again. You will come back to this goal throughout the evening. It’s natural that you and your friends will settle back into your normal routine. It happens to everyone, so when it does just remind your friends of the mission. The mission to just have fun with each other. Meeting some women is just a bonus, but not the goal. Try it! You don’t have to do shit! Its the lazy man’s way to pick up chicks Everyone is always STUNNED at how well this simple technique works the first time they try it! As a matter of fact, bookmark this page and come back to it often. It ALWAYS works! Take it with you in your smart phone so you & your buddies can refer to it during the night.
How To Attract More Wealth June 2, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne Here’s how to attract more wealth & money into your life & why the rich get richer & the poor stay poor. Becoming wealthy is more due to your beliefs and focus around money, and less around what you actually do to earn money. People who are broke or who have very little money tend to stay that way. Why? They do not understand what creates wealth. A lot of people who don’t have money think that people who do have money only have it because they are dishonest or they must have ripped someone else off. Earning money and earning wealth is simply the result of trading your time, expertise and skills for digital or physical paper dollars. How much you get paid is directly proportional to how much value you add, and how much people are willing to pay for the value that you add to their lives. If you are an employee of someone or a company, you’re earning potential is limited only by the amount of value, knowledge, experience and expertise you have to offer your employer and their customers. The more necessary you are to other people, the more you can earn. If you don’t add to your skill set or never learn anything new, then you’re not going to be able to increase your earning potential very much. You should always be trying to expand and grow in all areas of your life in a healthy and balanced way. In nature, things either grow and contribute, or they die and are eliminated. The following is an e-mail from a reader who wants to know why those who have are given more even when they are not in need of more, but those who are in need seem to be ignored and stay in need. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Hello Corey,
One question truly baffles me. Why is it that those who have are given more even when they are not in need of it; and those who don’t have are ignored even when they are in dire need of it. (It’s the way the universe works. Like attracts like. Wealth comes from focusing on providing a useful service people want to pay for because it adds value to their lives. People who have no money usually focus on the fact they don’t have money and complain about it instead of doing anything useful to improve their situation. Making money is 80% psychology and 20% mechanics. A NEED is a statement of something one lacks. Wanting to be rich won’t make you rich. Getting a job you love and becoming great at it or starting a business you love and spending a decade or more to make it successful and profitable will make you rich eventually. Most people have impotent goals or goals that do not inspire them. If it’s not emotionally compelling you won’t do what’s necessary to make it successful and earn the money you deserve. If you don’t love what you are doing, you will NEVER be very good at it long term. So instead of focusing on lack and what you do not have, focus on finding a way to add enormous value to peoples lives either by working for someone else or starting your own successful business. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Bob
How To Lose All Of Your Fears June 2, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne How to lose your fears of approach anxiety & other people so you become confident & more successful with women. We tend to fear the unknown. Our fear of doing something is always worse than actually doing it. What you fear in life, you attract into your life. What you look at disappears. Fear causes most people to run and try to avoid what they are fearful of. However, when you understand the law of attraction and how the universe works, you realize that when fear drives you it actually drives you to attract more and more of what you fear, which is usually very undesirable. Men who are insecure or unsure about themselves and where they stand in their relationships with women, will do and say things from a place of fear as they try to avoid what they fear most, which is rejection. Unfortunately, and without realizing it, they will actually attract and cause what they fear most to happen… rejection. They don’t realize it, but when they speak and act from a place of fear, they are communicating that they don’t feel worthy to be with the woman they are fearful will reject them. Therefore, what they fear they attract. The only way to dissolve and conquer your fears is to move towards what you fear and do what scares you most. For a lot of guys, talking to women is terrifying. The following is an e-mail from a guy who is not only afraid of women, but people in general. He’s also fearful he is weak and can’t defend himself or protect a woman. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
Hi Corey, I’m often anxious just going about daily tasks. Even things I have done millions of times. The fear is far less with those things than in my early 20′s because I’ve worked at it, but it’s still there despite repetition. I wonder if I’m better to master daily tasks on my own using ideas you mentioned so I do them with low levels of anxiety, and then think about dating once I’ve achieved that. Thoughts? (You are letting fear use you instead of using fear to help motivate you to take action. Flip the fear script by asking yourself “what are the consequences of not working to improve my skills? What will this cost me in 6 months, 6 years, etc. if I don’t take the action I know I need to improve my skills so I am no longer fearful?” You’re looking for excuses to not practice your skills with women and improving your social skills in general. YOU MUST PARTICIPATE IN YOUR OWN RESCUE. Find a way, not a way out!) Also not feeling physically safe at night is a problem for me. Worried I can’t protect myself. Would confidence in general help with that? (Yes, but confidence is nothing more than doing something you know how to do and doing it really really well. Confidence comes from success. Success comes from taking action so you learn. You may want to consider Martial Arts. I would recommend Aikido as it is a martial art practitioners can use to defend themselves while also protecting their attacker from injury. Aikido is performed by blending with the motion of the attacker and redirecting the force of the attack rather than opposing it head-on. Martial Arts will help center you and balance your energy so you don’t feel so fearful.) I’m thinking if I can’t do daily tasks with a reasonable level of confidence on my own, how the hell would I be able to impact a date in a positive way? (I believe you are simply looking for an excuse to do nothing because you are afraid of rejection. The bottom line is most women are not going to like you. You will get rejected more than you get accepted. It’s a numbers game. Until you start practicing your skills in the easy and low risk ways I teach, you’re not going to get any better and your success with women will still be non-existent. You miss 100% of the pitches you don’t swing at! Once you start practicing what I teach, you will start to see that your fear of talking to people is far worse than actually doing it.) Just being on a date would raise my already strong feelings of anxiety. (Well, then you should get used to being single the rest of your life and watching guys like me have all the fun. You can’t help but feel a little nervous on a first date; all guys feel it a little, even me. Repetition is the mother of skill. No practice = NO PROGRESS = NO PUSSY!!! Feel the fear and do it anyways.) I’d find it hard to convey I could protect her, when I have concerns about whether I can protect myself. (It sounds like you don’t feel any physical safety in your body either. Network Chiropractic Care will help you feel safety in your body. CLICK HERE to find a level 3 certified Doctor near you; don’t go to any Doctor who is not level 3 certified. Network Care will change your life. It’s the single greatest confidence booster and personal growth modality I’ve ever encountered. You can see what just four days of Network Care adjustments and my coaching can do for a man’s confidence by watching the TV show I did several years ago with one of the best Network Care Doctors in the world, Dr. Dominick D’Anna. He explains how it works and what it does. It’s the worlds most cutting edge Chiropractic Care that gets results like nothing
else! The TV show is located in the website sidebar located to the right in the box titled: “From Dud To Stud In 4 Days.” You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Tim
Working Through Social Phobia May 27, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne How to overcome social awkwardness, insecurity & become confident enough to attract the kind of women you want. Every man who struggles with women in some way, has some kind of inner confidence game issue he is struggling with; and hopefully trying to overcome! The experiences I have now are kind of bizarre to most people. When I go out to a bar or nightclub or other public venue, I literally can feel and sense the energy and insecurities of everyone around me. I have so trained my eye of what to look for in human beings and how they interact with one another, that I’m constantly observing. I find people watching to be fascinating. It’s especially fascinating when you know what to look for and can observe the patterns and trends that I speak about in my book in the people you observe and interact with in your own life. You literally will feel like you are psychic at times. When you observe with your own eyes that most men, that is 97% of them to be exact, are absolutely clueless around women, you can’t help but feel 1000 times more confident and masculine than every other guy. It’s an amazing feeling to be chatting with a group of beautiful women as you chuckle inside laughing at other men who try to cock block you and get the attention of the beautiful women who are talking to you; and by simply hanging back and asking a few questions every now and then, the women ignore the other men and only focus on you. It’s Jedi pickup skills! And once you know them, no man anywhere can touch you. They will all seek your counsel and want to know how you do it. The following is an e-mail from a guy who has recently found out about my work and is trying to work through his social phobia, awkwardness issues and feeling fearful around other men and especially women. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Hi Corey, My questions are: Is your fee flexible? (No.) I’m a student. I live in New Zealand and can only afford the $60.00 I get from the government. (I guess you’ll just have to save up your money and book sessions when you can. It’s simply a matter of desire on your part. If you feel investing in yourself to ensure your future success and happiness is worth it to improve your situation in life, then you’ll find a way to come up with the money. You can book your first session by CLICKING HERE.) I’d be interested though. I see your title is life coach. How are you different from a counselor? (I have several clients who have counselors and psychologists. They help you with your issues and medication. As a life coach, it’s my job to help you create a plan to achieve your
dreams, goals and hold you accountable to it. I teach you the fundamentals of pickup, dating, and healthy loving relationships. I also teach you how to become more successful with women by becoming a more successful man by focusing on being at your personal best in all areas of your life: health, exercise, relationships, wealth creation, career, entrepreneurship, leadership, team building, sales training, discovering/living your purpose, marketing, etc. It’s about helping you identify what’s most important to you in your life and what you want to create; and then helping you implement a balanced plan, strategies and success rituals that will guarantee your success.) I’m working through social phobia. Despite my efforts, anxiety can still show as I learn to control it. First dates will be challenging. Is it ever ok to just admit I’m anxious to a girl? (Sure, however, it’s all in how and the way you say it. Just say, “wow, I feel a little nervous around you. That does not happen except when I’m around really special people.” You acknowledge what you are feeling, but say it in a way that is a compliment about her instead of a shortcoming of yours you are ashamed of. Plus, if she likes you also, she’s probably feeling a little nervous too. If she says she is too, then you can say, “great! let’s kiss right now so we will both feel instantly comfortable.”) Or tell her I’m working through stuff? (Everyone is working thru stuff in some way or another. However, it’s not going to do anything for her interest level in you to basically communicate: “I feel like I am broken, will you please love me?” Keep that shit to yourself and share with only your closest buddies. You know, your actual friends who love you despite your shortcomings, flaws and insecurities.) I feel ashamed of my anxiety, especially around women. (God created you the way you are for a reason. You need to start trusting your heart and moving towards your grandest goals and dreams if you want to be happy long term in life. The more successful you become at doing something you love, the happier and more confident you will feel inside. Confidence is nothing more than doing something you know how to do and doing it really well. Repetition is the mother of skill. Practicing the fundamentals I teach in my book will build your confidence and sensory acuity.) But also men. I feel unmasculine because I get anxious. I have trouble accepting the way I look. (So what if you’re fugly! Women are more attracted to confidence, not looks. That’s a fact. When you do something for a living that makes you feel alive and proud, women are naturally attracted to your passion and your drive. Plus, you’ll make good money doing it if you understand what really creates wealth. They figure they can share in your happiness and create a love story with you.) Both things screw me up in daily life. I take the wrong energy with people because I lack confidence. (That is why you need to go to a mall to practice your social skills so you can lose your fear of people in general once you realize that most people are kind and friendly and love to give you their opinion on things. That will make you feel fearless.) As a child I was scared of my dad, bonded to mum who encouraged being overly nice. (Nice guys never get laid.) How can I control my anxiety so it doesn’t go through the roof and become obvious to the girl? (You’ve got to practice your social skills and interacting with people in the ways I describe in my book and in this YouTube video.) What are good ways of accepting and being happy with the way I look? What are good ways just to feel good about myself generally? (Stop giving a fuck what others think about you, it’s irrelevant. You can read this article & watch my YouTube video to overcome shyness & feeling inferior.
Most other people are weak and lazy. At least you’re reading my site. Most men are too weak to admit they need help. Therefore, they continue to fail. Where they have failed, you will eventually succeed. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Tim
How Life Can Be Effortless… May 20, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne How becoming more successful with women spills over into other areas of your life so your life becomes effortless. As I discussed in my book, the more successful you become with women, the more successful you will become in all areas of your life. Men who display the leadership characteristics of dominant alpha males always seem to be in the right place at the right time when great opportunities are abundant. It’s like a snowball effect. In beginning the snowball is really small as it starts to roll down the hill, but by the time it gets to the bottom of the hill it’s a giant almost immovable force. As you start practicing what I teach, your little successes eventually grow into big wins for you. It’s a process and you must do the work in order to succeed. However, since repetition is the mother of skill, even your fuck-ups will help you become better. As you slowly lose your fear of doing and saying the kinds of things that deep down you’ve always wanted to do and say… women, circumstances, opportunities and other people will show up to conspire with you to help you make the life and lifestyle of your dreams a reality. The following is an e-mail from a phone coaching client of mine. I’ve been coaching him for about a year and a half now. He is a retired combat wounded Army veteran from the Iraq war. He was originally determined to go into law enforcement once he graduated from college. However, he really struggled to get hired as a police officer. It seemed like every door was getting slammed in his face. His guidance counselor suggested he change his major from criminology to business and that maybe life was trying to tell him something and that maybe, law enforcement was not the ultimate career that the universe has planned for him. When I first started working with him he couldn’t get a date to save his life. He felt he had lost his mojo. A year and a half later with my coaching and his relentless application of what I teach, he’s getting laid all the time, and employers are making special exceptions in their job offers just to make sure that he will come work for them. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Coach Corey, Anyways, Dude, Corey, I got a call this week from my school asking me if I want to meet and have a ‘sit down talk” with the Secretary of the VA. He’s making a stop in my town next week and only 10 student veterans were selected to meet him. I was one of them. So of course I jumped on it and said I would be honored to meet him. So I’ve been drafting up
questions and concerns I have for him. So I thought that it was pretty cool that I got selected for that when there are so many student veterans. (When you act like an alpha male and start succeeding with women, you demonstrate the body language and physiology of a leader of people simply by your presence. Opportunities and success will effortlessly flow your way and other leaders will find out about you and want to meet with you. This is the way it’s supposed to be! Get used to people seeking out your advice and input.) On the Job front, well it looks like I’m going to get that job that I mentioned to you. It was fucking cool Corey. Remember how I had told them my conditions for the job? Well lo & behold they gave it to me with Great Pay! (They made you an offer to take the position and you responded with terms other than what they were seeking. Since you carry yourself like a leader and an alpha male, they modified the position criteria to accommodate your needs & availability. Just like the Denver Broncos NFL Football team rolled out the red carpet for Peyton Manning! It pays to be an alpha male winner!) I was thinking at first, they were going to tell me to “fuck off,” but no dude, they gave me the job with $17/hr pay. That’s pretty fucking good here in my city. Especially just for a summer gig. I was a bit amazed. To tell you the truth Corey, I just wanted the summer off from school. I was about to light my fucking books on fire this past semester LOL. So I’m pretty stoked about this job. I’m going to be driving an RV looking thing with computers and shit like that in it. I’ll be taking it to Job Fairs throughout the state. Helping people find jobs, set up resumes and things of that nature. So I’m looking forward to it. (Awesome! Good job!) Dude Corey, it looks like things are finally starting to look good for me in multiple aspects of my life. (Success with women makes you feel more complete and confident as a man. Most men do not feel this way inside. Those that do get treated like royalty and opportunities just seem to effortlessly flow their way.) I have yet to have the feeling of complete fulfillment, but I know it’s all within due time. (The more your life evolves and changes as time goes by and you are able to spend more and more of your time doing things you want to do when you want to do it, the more content, confident, peaceful and balanced you will feel. It’s a process to make your life ideally the way you want it. Rome wasn’t built in a day.) In regards to women, I’ve developed a great sensory acuity knowing if I actually have a chance, and if I don’t. I’ve learned to not get attached to results as well. It’s a great feeling Corey, to be able to walk away from a female if you don’t get what you want… where as before I would often get pissed when I would get shot down. Now I don’t give a fuck. Dude Corey, I still get scared like a little girl sometimes when I approach a fine female, but I just tell myself she’s just another gal, and often within a few seconds/minutes I feel like the dominant one. It’s fucking great. However, I know that there is still room for improvement. I haven’t read your book in a while, however, the last time I read it, I highlighted parts/pages to serve as a reference. Especially in what I believe to be my weak aspects of where I need improvement. (Good job! I’m so proud of you! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
Bob
Mixed Signals From Women June 7, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne How to decipher mixed signals from women you like so you can tell if they’re really into you or not. Sometimes along your journey of life you’ll end up working with, riding the train or subway with or seeing someone who works in the same office building you do every day that you feel attraction for… and… who you think feels attraction for you too. Because you can’t help but see one another or run into each other, you end up becoming friendly towards one another. So what do you do when you find out that the hot girl you’ve been chatting with or bumping into occasionally has a boyfriend, but you think she’s interested in you? The following is an e-mail from a reader who sees a girl he likes on the same train sometimes. He thinks about her often, but she has a boyfriend and he wants to know how to bring the subject up so he can get a shot if it does not work out with her boyfriend. He feels he’s getting mixed signals from her at times. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Dear Coach Corey Wayne, Long story short, I met this girl on the train who has been giving me the green light, but after I got her number… it has been mixed signals ever since. (That is because you see what you want to see. You are projecting your strong feelings of attraction onto her and ignoring the fact she has a boyfriend. Women in this situation will chat and remain friendly with men like you, but they are loyal to their men. However, if she breaks up with him, she will let you know. You should initiate no contact with her and only respond to her contacting you first. Why? She has a boyfriend. There are plenty of hot and single ladies who are ready to mingle with men who get it. You can spend your time with them. If you bump into her on the train in the future once again, and she brings up the fact she’s single, it more than likely means she is romantically interested in you. Invite her to meet you out someplace for drinks or tea. Make definite plans or withdraw the offer charmingly saying, “let’s just do it some other time when your schedule is a little more open.” Then change the subject. If she really likes you, she would agree to meet you. If not, then she’ll only give you excuses.) She told me, “Yes of course friends is fine as I am talking to someone, so friends it is.” (Translation: “We’re just friends.” In movies and entertainment we constantly see men and women who become friends with someone they like in order to hook up because they don’t have the guts to ask for what they want directly. In the movies the “friends first” approach works. In real life it does not.) However, when we see each other on the train, she would look at me when I am not looking. When I catch her looking she would smile at me. Another thing is, when I sit at the end of the train where she sits, she would stay there until I leave the train. When I sit at the other end of the train she would come to where I would sit. She would initiate the conversation and try to keep it going. Plus, she would at least pretend to have things in common with me, at least the way I feel about it. She told
me she has never been to “such and such place” when I tell her I am going to “such and such place.” I would like to ask her out, but the “talking to someone” barrier has stopped me from doing so. (Dude, she has a boyfriend. You should be asking out women who are single and available. Maybe someday this girl will become available. If she does and she actually likes you, she will let you know she no longer has a boyfriend. Then you can ask her out. Otherwise, practice meeting and dating other women so you can improve your skills of seduction.) I was going to ask her out and do the “take away” as you described in your book. (The take-away is used when she won’t make a definite date to gauge if she really wants to see you or not. This tells me you don’t know my book very well. That means you need to read it at least 10-15 times so you get to know it so well you could give a class on it. Your knowledge has so many gaps still, that you will make way too many unnecessary mistakes to get very far with women. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) I was going to tell her in person: “Listen, I know you are seeing someone and I hope you two stay together if that’s what you want, but just so you know when you become single, I’d love to take you out. I care about your happiness. I just want you to be happy. You have my contact info. Contact me either by texting, calling, or emailing me when you become single.” From there I will leave it up to her to contact me and not contact her at all until she does first. I barely see her on the train now. I was thinking about telling her this by writing an email to her instead. Would it be okay if I told her that in email? (She already knows you like her. Women know that if you are talking to them that you like them. If she becomes single and actually has interest in you, she will email you. You don’t need to tell her that. She has a boyfriend. Let it go. Spend time practicing your social skills talking to women who are actually available.) Looking forward to your reply. Thanks, Justin
Knowledge Is Only Potential Power June 5, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne Why knowledge is only potential power when attracting women & how to apply yourself in a directed & focused way to improve your success with women. Unfortunately, men are not taught in school how they should properly handle their interactions with women. So unless you came from a healthy family, there is a good chance there is some area of your pickup, dating or relationship game where you have a knowledge gap that can only be closed with repetition and experience using skills and techniques that work. I constantly stress in my articles the need to practice what I teach in order to get better. The following is an e-mail
from a reader who is new to my work. He has a lot of friends and is very popular. However, with the ladies he always seems to get stuck in friends zone. He wants to know what he should do to start making dates with some of these women instead of being looked upon as a guy to only be friends with. My comments on are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Hey Corey, I have recently read your book “How to become a 3% Man” and I enjoyed it. I was wondering if it would be possible for you to give me some more personal advice. (If you really want to take your success to the next level, book a private phone coaching session with me personally by CLICKING HERE.) I am entering my second year of college. I am extremely outgoing, am very well known and have a ton of friends. However, I don’t have that much success with the ladies. (That is because you have never applied yourself in a directed and focused way applying what I teach to start to become successful with the ladies. Repetition is the mother of skill. My book gives you the baseline knowledge and a plan of how to implement it. If you play sports, you know you only get better thru practice right? Practice makes perfect. You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start… in order to become great! If you’ve read my book, then the first step is to improve your social skills. Get busy. Also, you should start focusing on your goals. The more successful you become living the life and lifestyle of your dreams, the more successful you will become with women. Women love driven, self-motivated men who charge fearlessly in the direction of their greatest goals and dreams. Becoming successful with women is a byproduct of feeling successful as a man and becoming the success you’ve always dreamed of.) Part of it is that since I am so outgoing and friendly I am quickly friend-zoned and not looked upon seriously. (You’re probably acting too nice. Nice guys finish last.) What are some substantial ways I can change this? (Start focusing on relentlessly pursuing your goals and dreams as you practice meeting & dating as many new women as you can to improve your skills of seduction.) Especially in an American university setting today? (Imperfect action is better than no action at all. Get busy practicing, it’s the only way you will get better! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Any help would be much appreciated. Thanks, Jon
Relax, You’re A Work In Progress May 10, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne
Here’s how to keep a positive outlook when progress towards achieving your goals is slow and you feel discouraged. When you are trying to improve yourself and striving to achieve your greatest goals and dreams, you’re going to have moments of doubt and weakness. If you’re trying to overcome your fear of talking to women, you might chicken out a few times before you get up the nerve to try it. Even though you may be getting phone numbers and have no problem making conversation with random women, you might not be setting many dates even though you feel like you’re doing everything right. Maybe the business that you started three years ago because you had a passion for it, but the fact that it’s still losing you money today is causing you to doubt that it will ever be successful or make you enough money so you can tell your boss to take your job and shove it up his ass when you quit. It does not matter the situation or circumstances you are trying to improve or enhance in your life. Every man must deal with things feeling like they are hopeless, futile, a waste of time, etc. People who are trying to lose weight often feel guilty they are so big. When they feel guilty they start to feel like something is missing inside of them. So what do they do? Eat excessively to fill themselves up which is satisfying for a moment, but then they get even more mad at themselves because of all the junk they just ate. Therefore, they feel worse which causes them to eat even more making their situation even worse. It’s a vicious cycle. I see many guys doing what I used to do when I was unsuccessful with women. They keep chasing and hitting on women who they have no chance with. Since they’re chasing what they cannot have, or what does not want them, they’re unable and often unwilling to notice, recognize or acknowledge the presence of abundant female goddesses who are all around them. One client I was talking to today fears success. Therefore, he’s been bullshitting himself into continuing to try to make something happen with women who are not interested so he doesn’t have to talk to anyone new. He doesn’t risk anything and does not talk to anyone new, but gets frustrated that his social life is not changing or getting any better as quickly as he would like. You miss 100% of the pitches you don’t swing at in life. The following is an e-mail from a reader who is struggling to get back into shape after spending several years being romantically hung up on a woman who was married. He’s having success getting laid, but not with the kind of women he really wants. How he feels about his weight is affecting his self-image, his exercise habits and his ability to be successful with the kind of women he really wants. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Hey Mate, I used to be a super fit guy and because of my looks I got away with many mistakes you talk about. I was married and I’m now 38. I’m doing well with money, etc. I have started to date hot women and want to get back some fitness, but I seem to get emotional about this and lose track quickly. (How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.) I had a bad split up and I spent a long time trying to make a woman love me who was married. So I fucked up and wasted a few years, but it was also positive business wise. Do you think I need a motivational person like a trainer, (Firstly, you need to stop being so hard on yourself and succeed at your own pace. Then, when you have some success no matter how small of a success it is, you must celebrate your victories. Being successful or fit
and healthy is a daily discipline. It’s making the right choices on a daily basis to be healthy, go to the gym, etc. instead of making poor choices that push success and your goals further and further into the future. If you want someone to hold you accountable to the goals you set for yourself, to help you make rapid progress and if you are coachable, then you should sign up for a phone coaching session with me personally by CLICKING HERE. You should also read my book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) or maybe is it more a mental issue? I don’t want to start to feel insecure if I meet the right woman, and it becomes more long term. (That is why you workout for you, not for a woman because you are doing it to make her happy. You need to take care of you first. If you are taking care of yourself, then what women are or are not doing in your life will be irrelevant and have no affect on your health and overall well being.) I’m bedding a few girls that are not to the standard I want at the moment. (By meeting & dating as many new women as possible, this gives you experience and builds your skills. Repetition is the mother of skill. The more women you meet and date, the more women you will have to practice your seduction moves on so you can master the 3 different methods of seducing women. This gives you swagger, which helps you attract even more women by simply being the best version of yourself that you can be. Success with women breeds confidence and gives you choice with women.) Bob
Be Friendly To Everyone! June 10, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne Here’s why you should be friendly & talk to people everywhere you go to help improve your social skills. If you notice, most strangers when they walk by one another try to ignore each other as if they don’t even see each other to avoid conversing. It’s as if they are afraid to talk to each other. Talking to people anywhere and everywhere I go is like breathing to me now. However, there was a time in my life when I was much younger and I was terrified to talk to other people. If you talk to my friends from high school, they would all tell you that I was very shy and quiet. So if you have a hard time talking with other people or engaging other people in conversation, but you wish to improve your skills so you can start meeting and dating the types of women you’ve always wanted so you can have some choices with women, then you need to get into the habit of being friendly to everyone everywhere you go! A great topic as a conversation starter is the opinion opener. It’s where you simply ask an opinion or advice from a person or group of people you would like to interact with. Women especially love to talk about the topic of dating and relationships and offer their opinion, advice or insight on what they think you should do. A lot of things I talk about in my book and in my articles are controversial to many people and can be fun topics to ask people
their opinions about. Some people in general become uncomfortable when you talk about the topics of sex, pickup, dating, relationships, etc. Ultraconservative or politically correct people will often get offended or upset when the topic is discussed in the brutally honest way I talk about things. Always being worried about offending other people and trying to bend yourself into a pretzel so people will like you and accept you, will only make you miserable and resentful. Not everyone is going to accept or like you in life. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships. You should always say hello to people everywhere you go to start out with. Everyone likes a friendly kind person. The world has enough assholes! This way, everywhere you go you naturally will recondition yourself to expect and to get into the habit of having conversations with random people in the grocery store, the checkout line or other public places where there are lots of people who are having similar experiences as you are. Most people have dull and boring lives, but are more than happy and willing to engage in a conversation with a friendly person. Yesterday I was walking outside with a box of doughnuts in my hand, and an old woman who is smoking walked in front of me and immediately turned her back to me so she would not have to make eye contact with me. As I was about to pass her she turned to the left and continued to have her back towards me. I simply said, “how are you?” She was very friendly and eager to return my greeting and make a funny comment about my box of doughnuts. I totally lit her up and made her feel good when I could of just as easily walked by and ignored her like she was ignoring me. That’s something to think about.
He’s No Longer Happy She Calls 0 0share0 0share0shareNew June 7, 2012 By Coach Corey Wayne How to successfully make dates & hook up when women you blew it with previously start contacting you again. When you have displayed weakness which results in your getting rejected, dumped or put into friends zone, you must be aware that when women start contacting you again after you have walked away, they will test you excessively to probe for your weaknesses. Even if they start calling you and you try to make a date with them, they may be difficult or turn you down at first. When they won’t make a definite date with you, the only thing you can do is withdraw the offer saying, “let’s just do it some other time when your schedule is a little more open.” It can be frustrating because you are excited she called, but disappointing when she won’t make a date with you. The key is not to get upset and to instead remain objective and indifferent knowing she will probably call again. When you walk away stating you’re not interested in friendship, women are going to test you when they do start calling you again to see if they can get you to go along with what you state you won’t go along with. It’s important to not have a moment of weakness where you agree to going along with being friends when you previously told her you were not interested in friendship only. Some guys make the mistake of doing this because they
rationalize that “hey, she’s calling me and it’s just a matter of time before she’s mine again.” Women are sexually attracted to men who say what they mean, and who mean what they say. The following is an e-mail from a reader whose cheating former girlfriend has been calling him again. He tried to arrange a date, but she gave him a flaky response. He got upset with her and writes me saying that he is no longer happy that she calls him. He wants my take on what I think his next move should be to keep her as a sex playmate only. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail: Hi Corey, Thanks for your reply to my first message. I just want to keep you updated. The last time she called with a private number I forgot to mention last time; I asked her to meet up. She said she would call me later to let me know, but that she was going away with her friend for the whole weekend. So I kind of got upset. (Bad idea. You became unglued when she did not do what you wanted. This communicates weakness and that you don’t feel like you deserve her. Nothing a woman does should ever diminish you in any way. You need to exercise emotional self control. If you don’t it will ruin her level of comfort and safety with you which will cause her to back away from you.) I told her that next time to only call me if she really wants to meet up or do something. She just kept silent and said, “I don’t know what to say.” Then she said that she was going to call me later. After that I e-mailed her saying, “let’s do it some other time baby when your schedule is more open.” Two weeks passed and then I received a private call. Deep down I knew it was her, but I didn’t answer. I answered after the fourth ring, but this time she said, “I hear you are taking bad about me to your friend?” I said I didn’t have any idea what she’s taking about. Then I said, “I’m kind of busy, would you like to talk about it another day?” She says, “no, I don’t really care” and hung up. It was a strange call I thought. (It sounds like she was looking for a reason to call you and totally made it up. She thinks you don’t like her and calls to see if you still have some interest. She’s uncertain of where she stands with you because you have started acting like a man who is a catch. Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.) Then I got some other private calls at night time, but I didn’t answer. The next day she called again, but this time I answered after like 4 calls. Well, it was her this time asking me for a pair sunglasses that she wanted back that she left at my place like 5 months ago. (Women purposefully leave things at your place so they have a reason to come back over or call you.) All of this sounded really silly. I used to feel happy when she called, but now I don’t have that feeling anymore. As you said, she is only sex playmate material. (She cheated on you. She’s not a loyal woman. Not good relationship material. Just a great girl to have a fun open relationship with.) I just see her like that and more now that I feel more confident showing my six-pack lol. I’m having a lot of fun and a few chicks approached me. I’m still reading your book and it is helping me a lot. (You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $0.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Thanks Corey! I just wonder what you would do in this
scenario? (Do nothing. When she calls, make definite plans, or withdraw the offer and get off of the phone.) I appreciate your help. Bob
