Brad P - Approach Anxiety and Social Freedom

18 Degrees of Social Freedom Brad P. Approach Anxiety Seminar www, BradPpresents.com c. 2(J(J7 1.nderground Dating Seminar Inc.

Exercise 1- Eye Contact

Make eye contact with 3 people. Hold it as long as possible.

Rate vour comfort Level

- - - -

Exercise 2- Got the time?

Ask a stranger what time it is.

Rate your comfort Level - - - Exercise 3- Directions

Ask a stranger for directions.

Rate your comfort Level

~_

Exercise 4- Small Talk

Ask for directions and then make small talk for 30 seconds. Rate your comfort Level 4.

Exercise 5- Store Clerk

Small talk with a store clerk for 2 minutes.

Rate your comfort Level - - Exercise 6- rapport Seeker

Try to last" minutes in a conversation with a rapport seeker (homeless guy. charity collector. comedy flyer guy)

without giving in to their demands.

Rate your comfort Level

_

Exercise 7- Small Talk 2

Small talk with a store clerk even after the next customer is getting rung up.

Rate your comfort Level - - - Exercise 8- Tell a Joke

Tell ajoke in front ofa safe group (someone you know).

Rate your comfort Level

_

Exercise 9- Dancing 1

Dance a little bit in a public place. Not too much. Just bounce a little or snap your fingers.

Rate your comfort Level

_

Exercise 10- Walk and sing Walk down the street while singing or rapping. There's already a lot of people who do this. maybe you've seen them. Rate your comfort Level

_

Exercise 11- Make that guy laugh Walk up to a stranger and stan a conversation. You must make the stranger laugh. You can't leave the conversation until you make him laugh. Rate your comfort Level

_

Exercise 12- Butting In Walk up to a group or people you don't know. Listen in on their conversation for a short time. Then as soon as possible butt in and start talking to them as if you've been in the conversation the whole time. Rate your comfort Level

Exercise 13- Dancing 2 Dance full out on the street or in a public place. Rate your comfort Level

_

Exercise 14- Embarrassing Memory Recall an embarrass: ng moment in front of a safe group- laugh at yoursel f. Rate your comfort Level

_

Exercise 15- Embarrassing Memory 2 Recall an embarrassing moment in a I on I conversation with a stranger. Rate your comfort Level

- - -

Exercise 16- Random Joke Tell ajoke in front ofa group of strangers in a completely random place (the train. a store). Rate your comfort I evel

_

Exercise 17- Moonwalk Moonwalk in a circle around a group of strangers. Rate your comfort Level

_

Exercise 18- Telling Secrets Tell a deep dark secret to a stranger. Rate your comfort Level- - -

How to use these exercises: Go to an area where there will be plenty of people around. Do as many exercises as you can. Rate each one on a scale of 1-10 on how comfortable you felt. A rating often is the most comfortable. For any exercises you can't do, write in a zero and go on to the next one. Be sure you rate the complete experience for each exercise. This includes the few moments leading up to the exercises. Give an honest score to each exercise. These scores arc just for you, it's not a competition. One your first attempt, there's no need to push yourself too hard. Your first try is just a test to measure your level of social freedom. Take note of what kinds of things run through your brain during the lead up to each exercise. Most students report back that the lead up is the worst part. !Join!.'- the exercise itself never results in anything as scary as what your mind invents during the lead up.

It should take you approximately 4::'-60 minutes to complete these 18 exercises on your first try. Then add up your score. Keep track of all your scores as you repeat the exercises. Do these exercises twice a week for as long as you continue to see improvement. Start pushing yourself more on the second and third tries. Bring a friend with you and push each other to do 1110re and more. Always monitor your scores. When your score is no longer going up every week. then you know you've gotten everything you can out of these exercises and it's time to stop using them. Ifused consistently. these exercises will reduce ) our approach anxiety. increase your social freedom. and give you confidence in all social interactions. Good luck!

-Brad P.