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I don't wait for moods. You accomplish nothing if you do that. Your mind must know it has got to get down to earth. - Buck, Pearl S.

You are more likely to act yourself into feelings, than feel yourself into action. - Brunner, Dr. Jerome

A positive attitude can really make dreams come true -- it did for me. - Garrison, Zina

It's how you deal with failure that determines how you achieve success. - Feherty, David

It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters. - Epictetus

It is not the position, but the disposition. - Dinger, J. E.

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It's not the situation. It's your reaction to the situation. - Conklin, Robert

Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it. - Berlin, Irving

There are no menial jobs, only menial attitudes. - Bennett, William John

I got a simple rule about everybody. If you don't treat me right -- shame on you! - Armstrong, Louis

Sometimes I'm so sweet even I can't stand it. - Andrews, Julie

It is truly said: It does not take much strength to do things, but it requires great strength to decide what to do. - Chow Ching

We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are. - Nin, Anais

It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.

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- Horne, Lena

Always keep that happy attitude. Pretend that you are holding a beautiful fragrant bouquet. - Pope, Candice M.

Don't ask for a light load, but rather ask for a strong back. - Unknown, Source

Love is not only something you feel. It's something you do. - Wilkerson, David

Certain thoughts are prayers. There are moments when, whatever be the attitude of the body, the soul is on its knees. - Hugo, Victor

Love the giver more than the gift. - Young, Brigham

What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. - Ziglar, Zig

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You can't buy love, but you can pay heavily for it. - Youngman, Henny

It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome. - James, William

People who are sensible about love are incapable of it. - Yates, Douglas

Attitudes are more important than facts. - Menninger, Karl A.

What happens to a man is less significant than what happens within him. - Mann, Louis L.

We are injured and hurt emotionally, Not so much by other people or what they say and don't say, But by our own attitude and our own response. - Maltz, Maxwell

My attitude is never to be satisfied, never enough, never. - Karolyi, Bela

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We would accomplish many more things if we did not think of them as impossible. - Malesherbes, Chretien

Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. - Keller, Helen

That which does not kill us makes us stronger. - Nietzsche, Friedrich

One's destination is never a place, but rather a new way of looking at things. - Miller, Henry

A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears. - Wyatt, Woodrow

A good name is better than precious ointment. [Ecclesiastes 7:1] - Bible

It is at the edge of a petal that love waits. - Williams, William Carlos

Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us. - Nightingale, Earl

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Anyone who doesn't believe in miracles is not a realist. - Ben-Gurion, David

A am realistic -- I expect miracles. - Dyer, Wayne

Where there is great love there are always miracles. - Cather, Willa

She's beautiful, and therefore to be wooed; She is a woman, therefore to be won. - Shakespeare, William

I have never been hurt by what I have not said. - Coolidge, Calvin

Our words have wings, but fly not where we would. - Eliot, George

If the word has the potency to revive and make us free, it has also the power to blind, imprison, and destroy. - Ellison, Ralph

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Words are alive; cut them and they bleed. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

The finest words in the world are only vain sounds if you cannot understand them. - France, Anatole

That's the risk you take if you change: that people you've been involved with won't like the new you. But other people who do will come along. - Alther, Lisa

We don't change what we are, we change what we think what we are. - Butterworth, Eric

If one desires a change, one must be that change before that change can take place. - Bellin, Gita

The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance. - Branden, Nathaniel

You have the power to change. - Brown, Les

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You cannot expect to achieve new goals or move beyond your present circumstances unless you change. - Brown, Les

To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often. - Churchill, Winston

They must change who would be constant in happiness and wisdom. - Confucius

Being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view to a viewing point -- a higher, more expansive place, from which you can see both sides. - Crum, Thomas

Don't fear change -- embrace it. - D'Angelo, Anthony J.

Change happens in the boiler room of our emotions... so find out how to light their fires. - Dewar, Jeff

We cannot become what we need to be, remaining what we are. - Depree, Max

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Of the events of life we may have some control. but over the law of its progress none. - Draper, John W.

Change starts when someone sees the next step. - Drayton, William

The only thing we know about the future is that it will be different. - Drucker, Peter F.

These impossible women! How they do get around us! The poet was right: Can't live with them, or without them. - Aristophanes

To look almost pretty is an acquisition of higher delight to a girl who has been looking plain for the first fifteen years of her life than a beauty from her cradle can ever receive. - Austen, Jane

Inaction may be the biggest form of action. - Brown, Jerry

Who ever is out of patience is out of possession of their soul. - Bacon, Francis

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It doesn't matter what we do until we accept ourselves. Once we accept ourselves, it doesn't matter what we do. - Heavenrich, Charly

If a person lacks self-acceptance, he can't live with himself; if he lacks self-criticism, others can't live with him. - Pike, James Albert

Nothing is a greater impediment to being on good terms with others than being ill at ease with yourself. - Balzac, Honore De

We are constantly invited to be who we are. - Thoreau, Henry David

I'm not trying to prove anybody wrong, I'm just trying to prove something to myself. - Piazza, Mike

It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others. - Harris, Sidney J.

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When fight begins within himself, a man's worth something. - Browning, Sir Frederick

I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self. - Aristotle

The best time for you to hold your tongue is the time you feel you must say something or bust. - Billings, Josh

He who conquers himself is the mightiest warrior. - Confucius

We improve ourselves by victories over ourselves. There must be contest, and we must win. - Gibbon, Edward

Self-disciplined begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don't control what you think, you can't control what you do. Simply, self-discipline enables you to think first and act afterward. - Hill, Napoleon

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He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still. - Lao-Tzu

He that would govern others, first should be the master of himself. - Massinger, Philip

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. - Ball, Lucille

Study to be what you wish to seem. - Bate, John

Work out your own salvation. Do not depend on others. - Buddha

It is easy to live for others, everybody does. I call on you to live for yourselves. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Trust yourself, then you will know how to live. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

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Respect yourself if you would have others respect you. - Gracian, Baltasar

Every new adjustment is a crisis in self-esteem. - Hoffer, Eric

The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings. - Hoffer, Eric

Whatever your job, it is important if it is what God wants you to do. - Jacobsen, Henry

The confidence which we have in ourselves gives birth to much of that which we have in others. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

I'll always be number 1 to myself. - Malone, Moses

Women who set a low value on themselves make life hard for all women. - Mcclung, Nellie

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Nothing profits more than self-esteem, grounded on what is just and right. - Milton, John

Until you make peace with who you are, you'll never be content with what you have. - Mortman, Doris

Whatever good things we build end up building us. - Rohn, Jim

No one can disgrace us but ourselves. - Shaw, Henry Wheeler

I am as my creator made me and since He is satisfied, so am I. - Smith, Minnie

The greatest success, is successful self acceptance. - Sweet, Ben

The person we believe ourselves to be will always act in a manner consistent with our self-image. - Tracy, Brian

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Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true. - Tracy, Brian

Think highly of yourself, for the world takes you at your own estimate. - Unknown, Source

You're not what you think you are; you're not what others think you are; you're what you think others think you are! - Unknown, Source

To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives. - Waitley, Denis

When a woman is speaking to you, listen to what she says with her eyes. - Hugo, Victor

Let others confide in you. It may not help you, but it surely will help them. - Imhoff, Roger G.

The greatest gift you can give another is the purity of your attention. - Moss, Richard

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No one is as deaf as the man who will not listen. - Proverb, Jewish

Learn to listen. Opportunity could be knocking at your door very softly. - Tyger, Frank

Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble. - Tyger, Frank

God gave us two ears and one mouth, so we can hear twice as much as we say. - Unknown, Source

One of the hardest things to do in life is to listen without intent to reply. - Unknown, Source

Hear much, speak little - Unknown, Source

Men give advice; God gives guidance. - Ravenhill, Leonard

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As you walk through the valley of the unknown, you will find the footprints of Jesus both in front of you and beside you. - Stanley, Charles

People are changed, not by coercion or intimidation, but by example. - Unknown, Source

God brings men into deep waters not to drown them, but to cleanse them. - Aughey, John H.

I went to the root of things, and found nothing but Him alone. - Bai, Mira

People see God every day; they just don't recognize Him. - Bailey, Pearl

But from there you will seek the Lord you God and you will find Him if you search for Him with all your heart and all your soul. [Deuteronomy 4:29] - Bible

God hears no more than the heart speaks; and if the heart be dumb, God will certainly be deaf. - Brooks, Thomas

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Every day people are straying away from the church and going back to God. - Bruce, Lenny

God can only do for you what He can do through you. - Butterworth, Eric

We may seek God by our intellect, but we only can find him with our heart. - Cotvos

Why indeed must God be a noun? Why not a verb -- the most active and dynamic of all. - Daly, Mary

One and God make a majority. - Douglass, Frederick

God is at home, it's we who have gone out for a walk. - Eckhart, Meister

God hath entrusted me with myself. - Epictetus

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I believe God is managing affairs and that He doesn't need any advice from me. With God in charge, I believe everything will work out for the best in the end. So what is there to worry about. - Ford, Henry

God is a verb. - Fuller, Buckminster

Tears are nature's lotion for the eyes. The eyes see better for being washed by them. - Bovee, Christian Nevell

The eyes like sentinel occupy the highest place in the body. - Cicero, Marcus T.

The eyes see only what the mind is prepared to comprehend. - Davies, Robertson

It is the eye of other people that ruin us. If I were blind I would want, neither fine clothes, fine houses or fine furniture. - Franklin, Benjamin

One's eyes are what one is, one's mouth is what one becomes. - Galsworthy, John

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What we learn only through the ears makes less impression upon our minds than what is presented to the trustworthy eye. - Horace

Of all the senses, sight must be the most delightful. - Keller, Helen

The eye is the mirror of the soul. - Proverb

It is better to trust the eyes rather than the ears. - Proverb, German

The eyes are not responsible when the mind does the seeing. - Syrus, Publilius

Eyes lie if you ever look into them for the character of the person. - Wonder, Stevie

He does much who loves God much, and he does much who does his deed well, and he does his deed well who does it rather for the common good than for his own will. - Kempis, Thomas

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Don't think so much about who is for or against you, rather give all your care, that God be with you in everything you do. - Kempis, Thomas

When we want to know God's will, there are three things which always concur: the inward impulse, the Word of God and the trend of circumstances. Never act until these three things agree. - Meyer, F. B.

I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much. - Mother Teresa

If the Lord be with us, we have no cause of fear. His eye is upon us, His arm over us, His ear open to our prayer--His grace sufficient, His promises unchangeable. - Newton, John

If you gain, you gain all; if you lose, you lose nothing. Wager then without hesitation, that He exists. - Pascal, Blaise

One on God's side is a majority.

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- Phillips, Wendell

You are within God. God is within you. - Pilgrim, Peace

Man does what he can, God does what he will. - Proverb

God is not external to anyone, but is present with all things, though they are ignorant that he is so. - Plotinus

What men usually ask for when they pray to God is, that two and two may not make four. - Proverb, Russian

Don't worry about people stealing your ideas. If your ideas are any good, you'll have to ram them down people's throats. - Aiken, Howard

An idea is never given to you without you being given the power to make it reality. You must, nevertheless, suffer for it. - Bach, Richard

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A good idea plus capable men cannot fail; it is better than money in the bank. - Berry, John

It is the nature of thought to find its way into action. - Bovee, Christian Nevell

It is useless to send armies against ideas. - Brandes, George

There is no adequate defense, except stupidity, against the impact of a new idea. - Bridgman, P. W.

Get your ideas on paper and study them. Do not let them go to waste! - Brown, Les

If you want to get across an idea, wrap it up in a person. - Bunche, Ralph

Do not follow the ideas of others, but learn to listen to the voice within yourself. Your body and mind will become clear and you will realize the unity of all things. - Dogen

Great people talk about ideas. Small people talk about other people.

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- Gibson, Tobias S.

Ideas move fast when their time comes. - Heilbrun, Carolyn

A mind once stretched by a new idea never regains its original dimensions. - Holmes, Oliver Wendell

Many ideas grow better when transplanted into another mind than in the one where they sprung up. - Holmes, Oliver Wendell

There is one thing stronger than all the armies in the world, and that is an idea whose time has come. - Hugo, Victor

An idea, to be suggestive, must come to the individual with the force of revelation. - James, William

A new idea is like a child. It's easier to conceive than to deliver. - Koysis, Ted

If you are possessed by an idea, you find it expressed everywhere, you even smell it.

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- Mann, Thomas

Everything begins with an idea. - Nightingale, Earl

We are never more discontented with others than when we are discontented with ourselves. - Amiel, Henri Frederic

The easiest kind of relationship is with ten thousand people, the hardest is with one. - Baez, Joan

The only way of knowing a person is to love them without hope. - Benjamin, Walter

If your self-worth is based on anything other than your relationship with Christ, you are in big trouble. - Smith, Hyrum

The Ten Commandments were not a suggestion. - Riley, Pat

A man is literally what he thinks

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- Allen, James

All that you accomplish or fail to accomplish with your life is the direct result of your thoughts. - Allen, James

Our life is what our thoughts make it. A man will find that as he alters his thoughts toward things and other people, things and other people will alter towards him. - Allen, James

You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you. - Allen, James

Thinking more than others about our own thoughts is not self-centeredness. It means that if asked what's on our mind, we are less likely to mention being aware of the world around us, and more likely to mention our inner reflections. But we are less likely to mention thinking about other people. - Aron, Elaine N.

You live with your thoughts -- so be careful what they are. - Arrington, Eva

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The freedom now desired by many is not freedom to do and dare but freedom from care and worry. - Adams, James Truslow

Blessed is the person who is too busy to worry in the daytime, and too sleepy to worry at night. - Aikman, Leo

What's the use of worrying? It never was worth while, so pack up your troubles in your old kit-bag, and smile, smile, smile. - Asaf, George

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. [Philippians 4:6, 7] - Bible

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. - Boom, Corrie Ten

There are two days in the week on which I never worry; One is yesterday and the other is tomorrow. - Burdette, Robert

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As a rule, men worry more about what they can't see than about what they can. - Caesar, Julius

Do not worry about holding high position; worry rather about playing your proper role. - Confucius

Words may show a man's wit but actions his meaning. - Franklin, Benjamin

Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experience. - Waitley, Denis

A well adjusted person is one who makes the same mistake twice without getting nervous. - Heard, Jane

Dreams do come true, if we only wish hard enough, You can have anything in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it. - Barrie, Sir James M.

To the man who only has a hammer, everything he encounters begins to look like a nail. - Maslow, Abraham H.

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Where the heart lies, let the brain lie also. - Browning, Robert

There are strings in the human heart that had better not be vibrated. - Dickens, Charles

The most decisive actions of our life -- I mean those that are most likely to decide the whole course of our future -- are, more often than not, unconsidered. - Gide, Andre

It's better to waste one's youth than to do nothing with it at all. - Courteline, Georges

Just as there is no loss of basic energy in the universe, so no thought or action is without its effects, present or ultimate, seen or unseen, felt or unfelt. - Cousins, Norman

There's as much risk in doing nothing as in doing something. - Crow, Trammell

Many are called but few get up. - Herford, Oliver

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Nothing else so destroys the power to stand alone as the habit of leaning upon others. If you lean, you will never be strong or original. Stand alone or bury your ambition to be somebody in the world. - Marden, Orison Swett

Sitting quietly, doing nothing, spring comes and the grass grows by itself. - Saying, Zen

My friend, why have you drifted so far away? All motion is relative, maybe it is you who have moved away by standing still. - Unknown, Source

Anything you do can get you fired; this includes doing nothing. - Unknown, Source

Doing nothing is the most tiresome job in the world because you cannot quit and rest. - Unknown, Source

Many individuals have, like uncut diamonds, shining qualities beneath a rough exterior. - Juvenal, (Decimus Junius Juvenalis)

Quarrel? Nonsense; we have not quarreled. If one is not to get into a rage sometimes,

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what is the good of being friends? - Eliot, George

A quarrel between friends, when made up, adds a new tie to friendship. - Francis De Sales, St.

Wise men do not quarrel with each other. - Proverb, Danish

The course of true love never did run smooth. - Shakespeare, William

The test of a man or woman's breeding is how they behave in a quarrel. - Shaw, George Bernard

Everything can be improved. - Barron, C. W.

One of the rarest things that a man ever does, is to do the best he can. - Billings, Josh

Who questions much, shall learn much, and retain much. - Bacon, Francis

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For every why he had a wherefore. - Butler, Samuel

A timid question will always receive a confident answer. - Darling, Lord

It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question. - Decouvertes

If you want a wise answer, ask a reasonable question. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

It is not enough for me to ask question; I want to know how to answer the one question that seems to encompass everything I face: What am I here for? - Heschel, Abraham J.

You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions. - Mahfouz, Naguib

Faith has to do with things that are not seen, and hope with things that are not in hand. - Acquinas, Saint Thomas

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To disregard what the world thinks of us is not only arrogant but utterly shameless. - Cicero, Marcus T.

There are two way of establishing a reputation, one to be praised by honest people and the other to be accused by rogues. It is best, however, to secure the first one, because it will always be accompanied by the latter. - Colton, Charles Caleb

Laughter is not at all a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is far the best ending for one. - Wilde, Oscar

None of us can stand other people having the same faults as ourselves. - Wilde, Oscar

I can believe anything provided it is incredible. - Wilde, Oscar

I have found that most of the things I want from living I must get from people. - Conklin, Robert

Our necessities never equal our wants. - Franklin, Benjamin

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Make sure you want it enough. - Kingdon, Frank

Realize what you really want. It stops you from chasing butterflies and puts you to work digging gold. - Marston, William Moulton

I want to be what I was when I wanted to be what I am now. - Prince, Ray

I discovered a long time ago that if I helped people get what they wanted, I would always get what I wanted and I would never have to worry. - Robbins, Anthony

Try to eliminate the word SHOULD from your vocabulary. And try doing so without replacing it with OUGHT or YOU BETTER. - Unknown, Source

Getting anything changes it from being desirable to just being taken for granted. - Unknown, Source

When a man's willing and eager the god's join in.

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- Aeschylus

A man can do all things if he but wills them. - Alberti, Leon Battista

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. - Boese, Paul

Do not let circumstances control you. You change your circumstances. - Chan, Jackie

Colors, like features, follow the changes of the emotions. - Picasso, Pablo

If you want truly to understand something, try to change it. - Lewin, Kurt

Husbands are chiefly good lovers when they are betraying their wives. - Monroe, Marilyn

One man's folly is often another man's wife. - Rowland, Helen

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Let not your mind run on what you lack as much as on what you have already. - Aurelius, Marcus

A man should always consider how much he has more than he wants... - Addison, Joseph

When we are motivated by goals that have deep meaning, by dreams that need completion, by pure love that needs expressing, then we truly live life. - Anderson, Greg

If you surrender completely to the moments as they pass, you live more richly those moments. - Lindbergh, Anne Morrow

That is happiness: to be dissolved into something complete and great. - Cather, Willa

Things don't go wrong, they simply happen. - Ghitis, Jacob

There are few people who are more often in the wrong than those who cannot endure to be so.

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- La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

If there is a wrong way to do something, then someone will do it. - Murphy's Law, (Edward A. Murphy, Jr.)

Two wrongs do not make a right. - Proverb, English

Those who are once found to be bad are presumed so forever. - Proverb, Latin

The remedy for wrongs is to forget them. - Syrus, Publilius

Never do wrong when people are looking. - Twain, Mark

Some people would rather be wrong than quiet for a minute. - Unknown, Source

He is rich or poor according to what he is, not according to what he has. - Beecher, Henry Ward

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Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well. - Chesterfield, Lord

No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another. - Dickens, Charles

Your worth consists in what you are and not in what you have. - Edison, Thomas A.

Everything that's really worthwhile in life comes to us. - Nightingale, Earl

Only so far as a man believes strongly, mightily, can he act cheerfully, or do anything that is worth doing. - Robertson, Frederick W.

Anything not worth doing is worth not doing well. Think about it. - Schwartz, Elias

All good things are cheap: all bad are very dear. - Thoreau, Henry David

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Nothing is worth making that does not make the man. - Unknown, Source

You must be worthy of the best, but not more worthy than the rest. - Waitley, Denis

Whatever muscles I have are the product of my own hard work and nothing else. - Ashford, Evelyn

Hard work has made it easy. That is my secret. That is why I win. - Comaneci, Nadia

There is no substitute for hard work. - Edison, Thomas A.

I learned the value of hard work by working hard. - Fitzpatrick, Margaret M.

No one has ever drowned in sweat. - Holtz, Lou

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I believe in work, hard work, and long hours of work. Men do not breakdown from overwork, but from worry and dissipation. - Hughes, Charles Evans

There are few things that you can't do as long as you are willing to apply yourself. - LeMond, Greg

When a man tells you that he got rich through hard work, ask him whose? - Marquis, Don

If I am anything, which I highly doubt, I have made myself so by hard work. - Newton, Sir Isaac

Hard work is the yeast that raises the dough - Unknown, Source

The daily grind of hard work gets a person polished. - Unknown, Source

Work joyfully and peacefully, knowing that right thoughts and right efforts will inevitably bring about right results. - Allen, James

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In order that people may be happy in their work, these three things are needed: They must be fit for it: they must not do too much of it: and they must have a sense of success in it --not a doubtful sense, such as needs some testimony of others for its confirmation, but a sure sense, or rather knowledge, that so much work has been done well, and fruitfully done, whatever the world may say or think about it. - Auden, W. H.

Work is either fun or drudgery. It depends on your attitude. I like fun. - Barrett, Colleen C.

Inspiration comes of working every day. - Baudelaire, Charles

Anyone can do any amount of work, provided it isn't the work he is supposed to be doing at the moment. - Benchley, Robert

To each man is reserved a work which he alone can do. - Blow, Susan

The way to push things through to a finish effectively must be learned. - Book, William Frederick

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When our eyes see our hands doing the work of our hearts, the circle of Creation is completed inside us, the doors of our souls fly open and love steps forth to heal everything in sight. - Bridge, Michael

Take the world as it is, not as it ought to be. - Proverb, German

The man who graduates today and stops learning tomorrow is uneducated the day after. - Baker, Newton D.

Be quick to learn and wise to know. - Burns, George

Learning how to learn is life's most important skill. - Buzan, Tony

Only those who have learned a lot are in a position to admit how little they know. - Carte, L.

Wear your learning like a watch and do not pull it out merely to show you have it. If you are asked for the time, tell it; but do not proclaim it hourly unasked. - Chesterfield, Lord

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One should always think of what one is about: when one is learning, one should not think of play: and when one is at play, one should not think of one's learning. - Chesterfield, Lord

Never seem wiser, nor more learned, than the people you are with. Wear your learning, like your watch, in a private pocket: and do not merely pull it out and strike it; merely to show that you have one. - Chesterfield, Lord

Personally, I'm always ready to learn, although I do not always like being taught. - Churchill, Winston

The wise are instructed by reason, average minds by experience, the stupid by necessity and the brute by instinct. - Cicero, Marcus T.

Learn as though you would never be able to master it; hold it as though you would be in fear of losing it. - Confucius

Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you will never cease to grow. - D'Angelo, Anthony J.

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A little learning is a dangerous thing, but a lot of ignorance is just as bad. - Edwards, Bob

The years teach us much the days never knew. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

No man ever prayed heartily without learning something. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Jealousy is no more than feeling alone against smiling enemies. - Bowen, Elizabeth

Wisdom is knowing when to speak your mind and when to mind your speech. - Evangel

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. - Roosevelt, Eleanor

He who goes unenvied shall not be admired. - Aeschylus

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As iron is eaten away by rust, so the envious are consumed by their own passion. - Antisthenes

None of the affections have been noted to fascinate and bewitch but envy. - Bacon, Francis

Envy and wrath shorten the life. [Ecclesiasticus] - Bible

Let age, not envy, draw wrinkles on thy cheeks. - Browne, Sir Thomas

I never admire another's fortune so much that I became dissatisfied with my own. - Cicero, Marcus T.

Nothing sharpens sight like envy. - Fuller, Thomas

Fools may our scorn, not envy, raise. For envy is a kind of praise. - Gay, John

How much better a thing it is to be envied than to be pitied. - Herodotus

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It is not enough to succeed, others must fail. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

Envy aims very high. - Ovid

Rust consumes iron and envy consumes itself. - Proverb, Danish

Envy eats nothing, but its own heart. - Proverb, German

They that envy others are their inferiors. - Saying

Oh, what a bitter thing it is to look into happiness through another man's eyes. - Shakespeare, William

Whenever a friend succeeds, a little something in me dies. - Vidal, Gore

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To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly - Bergson, Henri L.

There is nothing that makes its way more directly to the soul than beauty. - Addison, Joseph

Beauty is one of the rare things that do not lead to doubt of God. - Anouilh, Jean

Things are beautiful if you love them. - Anouilh, Jean

Strange that the vanity which accompanies beauty --excusable, perhaps, when there is such great beauty, or at any rate understandable --should persist after the beauty was gone. - Arnim, Mary

The best part of beauty is that which no picture can express. - Bacon, Francis

There are as many kinds of beauty as there are habitual ways of seeking happiness. - Baudelaire, Charles

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Beauty is in the heart of the beholder. - Bernstein, Al

Exuberance is beauty. - Blake, William

There is no cosmetic for beauty like happiness. - Blessington, Marguerite Gardiner, Countess of

Beauty. The power by which a woman charms a lover and terrifies a husband. - Bierce, Ambrose

The beauty seen, is partly in him who sees it. - Bovee, Christian Nevell

Beauty will be convulsive or will not be at all. - Breton, Andre

The beautiful seems right by force of beauty, and the feeble wrong because of weakness. - Browning, Elizabeth Barrett

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In life, as in art, the beautiful moves in curves. - Bulwer-Lytton, Edward G.

Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it. - Confucius

Beauty is not caused. It is. - Dickinson, Emily

It is generally a feminine eye that first detects the moral deficiencies hidden under the dear deceit of beauty. - Eliot, George

Beauty is the pilot of the young soul. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

A beautiful form is better than a beautiful face; it gives a higher pleasure than statues or pictures; it is the finest of the fine arts. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Beauty ought to look a little surprised: it is the emotion that best suits her face. The beauty who does not look surprised, who accepts her position as her due -- she reminds us too much of a prima donna.

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- Forster, Edward M.

There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it's going to be a butterfly. - Fuller, R. Buckminster

Beauty is an outward gift, which is seldom despised, except by those to whom it has been refused. - Gibbon, Edward

Beauty in not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart. - Gibran, Kahlil

Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror. - Gibran, Kahlil

Beauty is everywhere a welcome guest. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

Beauty is a manifestation of secret natural laws, which otherwise would have been hidden from us forever. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

The plainer the dress, the greater luster does beauty appear.

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- Halifax, Edward F.

Nothing's beautiful from every point of view. - Horace

Beauty is only skin deep, but it's a valuable asset if you're poor or haven't any sense. - Hubbard, Kin

No woman can be handsome by the force of features alone, any more that she can be witty by only the help of speech. - Hughes, Langston

Beauty is worse than wine, it intoxicates both the holder and beholder. - Immermann

Beauty is truth, truth beauty -- that is all ye know on earth, and all ye need to know. - Keats, John

Beauty is as relative as light and dark. Thus, there exists no beautiful woman, none at all, because you are never certain that a still far more beautiful woman will not appear and completely shame the supposed beauty of the first. - Klee, Paul

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That which is striking and beautiful is not always good; but that which is good is always beautiful. - L'Enclos, Ninon De

Beauty is whatever gives joy. - Nibley, Hugh

It is easy to be beautiful; it is difficult to appear so. - O'Hara, Frank

The real sin against life is to abuse and destroy beauty, even one's own --even more, one's own, for that has been put in our care and we are responsible for its well-being. - Porter, Katherine Anne

A poor beauty finds more lovers than husbands. - Proverb, English

Beauty, unaccompanied by virtue, is as a flower without perfume. - Proverb, French

Beauty is a good letter of introduction. - Proverb, Portuguese

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Beauty is power; a smile is its sword. - Reade, Charles

Nothing can be beautiful which is not true. - Ruskin, John

Let us live for the beauty of our own reality. - Robbins, Tim

The beauty that addresses itself to the eyes is only the spell of the moment; the eye of the body is not always that of the soul. - Sand, George

What is beautiful is good, and who is good will soon be beautiful. - Sappho

Truth exists for the wise, beauty for the feeling heart. - Schiller, Johann Friedrich Von

If you have never seen beauty in a moment of suffering, you have never seen beauty at all. If you have never seen joy in a beautiful face, you have never seen joy at all. - Schiller, Johann Friedrich Von

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Beauty is the promise of happiness. - Stendhal, Henri B.

You can take no credit for beauty at sixteen. But if you are beautiful at sixty, it will be your soul's own doing. - Stopes, Marie Carmichael

Beauty when unadorned is adorned the most. - Thompson, Roy

Trust not too much to an enchanting face. - Virgil

I do not pray for a lighter load, but for a stronger back. - Brooks, Phillips

None knows the weight of another's burden. - Herbert, George

God gave burdens, also shoulders. - Proverb, Yiddish

It's easier traveling the road of life when I don't have so much to carry on my back.

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- Mitchell, Silas Weir

Saint. A dead sinner revised and edited. - Bierce, Ambrose

Saintliness is also a temptation. - Anouilh, Jean

People who are born even-tempered, placid and untroubled -- secure from violent passions or temptations to evil -- those who have never needed to struggle all night with the Angel to emerge lame but victorious at dawn, never become great saints. - Gallienne, Eva Le

Born a saint, die a sinner -- born a sinner, die a saint. - Horton, Doug

God creates out of nothing. Wonderful you say. Yes, to be sure, but he does what is still more wonderful: he makes saints out of sinners. - Kierkegaard, Søren

It is a miracle that curiosity survives formal education. - Einstein, Albert

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There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. - Einstein, Albert

And why do you look at the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? [Matthew 7:3] - Bible

We ought to see far enough into a hypocrite to see even his sincerity. - Chesterton, Gilbert K.

With affection beaming in one eye, and calculation shining out of the other. - Dickens, Charles

At the entrance of a second person, hypocrisy begins. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Clean your finger before you point at my spots. - Franklin, Benjamin

Never to talk to ones self is a form of hypocrisy. - Fredrich

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For neither man nor angel can discern hypocrisy, the only evil that walks invisible, except to God alone. - Milton, John

Better to be known as a sinner than a hypocrite. - Proverb

The wicked work harder to preach hell than the righteous do to get to heaven. - Proverb, American

All humans are hypocrites; the biggest hypocrite of all is the one who claims to detest hypocrisy. - Wastholm, Peter

How clever you are, my dear! You never mean a single word you say. - Wilde, Oscar

The only thing worse than a liar is a liar that's also a hypocrite! - Williams, Tennessee

Avoid being impatient. Remember time brings roses. - Unknown, Source

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Surprises are foolish things. The pleasure is not enhanced and the inconvenience is often considerable. - Austen, Jane

Time changes everything except something within us which is always surprised by change. - Hardy, Thomas

The only thing that should surprise us is that there are still some things that can surprise us. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

The husband who decides to surprise his wife is often very much surprised himself. - Voltaire

Note how good you feel after you have encouraged someone else. No other argument is necessary to suggest that never miss the opportunity to give encouragement. - Adams, George M.

Look up, and not down; Out and not in; Forward and not back; And lend a hand. - Hale, Edward Everett

Repeat anything often enough and it will start to become you.

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- Hopkins, Tom

Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality. - Nightingale, Earl

You affect your subconscious mind by verbal repetition. - Stone, W. Clement

We climb to heaven most often on the ruins of our cherished plans, finding our failures were successes. - Alcott, Amos Bronson

If at first you don't succeed; you are running about average. - Alderson, M. H.

For true success ask yourself these four questions: Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now? - Allen, James

It's simply a matter of doing what you do best and not worrying about what the other fellow is going to do. - Amos, John R.

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We fall forward to succeed. - Ash, Mary Kay

Success is a journey not a destination. The doing is usually more important than the outcome. Not everyone can be Number 1. - Ashe, Arthur

Many a man owes his success to his first wife and his second wife to his success. - Backus, Jim

If at first you don't succeed, try to hide your astonishment. - Banks, Harry F.

Most of the successful people I've known are the ones who do more listening than talking. - Baruch, Bernard M.

Character is more important than intelligence for success. - Beaux, Gilberte

Ones best success comes after their greatest disappointments. - Beecher, Henry Ward

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When all is said and done, success without happiness is the worst kind of failure. - Binstock, Louis

Very often we are our own worst enemy as we foolishly build stumbling blocks on the path that leads to success and happiness. - Binstock, Louis

Success doesn't mean the absence of failures; it means the attainment of ultimate objectives. It means winning the war, not every battle. - Bliss, Edwin C.

The first and most important step toward success is the feeling that we can succeed. - Boswell, Nelson

My definition of success is control. - Branagh, Kenneth

To guarantee success, act as if it were impossible to fail. - Brande, Dorothea

I hope I have convinced you -- the only thing that separates successful people from the ones who aren't is the willingness to work very, very hard.

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- Brown, Helen Gurley

A minute's success pays the failure of years. - Browning, Robert

Success doesn't come to you you go to it. - Collins, Marva

I can't imagine a person becoming a success who doesn't give this game of life everything he's got. - Cronkite, Walter

The road to success runs uphill. - Davis, Willie

To succeed you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you. - Dorsett, Tony

Success... it's what you do with what you've got. - Dyke, Leroy Van

A person is a success if they get up in the morning and gets to bed at night and in

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between does what he wants to do. - Dylan, Bob

Success has a simple formula: do your best, and people may like it. - Ewing, Sam

Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go. - Feather, William

When I am delivering my very best, then that is when I feel successful. - Fettig, Art

You will find the key to success under the alarm clock. - Franklin, Benjamin

The elevator to success is out of order. You'll have to use the stairs... one step at a time. - Girard, Joe

I have got tow reasons for success and I'm standing on both of them. - Grable, Betty

There is a way to look at the past. Don't hide from it. It will not catch you -- if you don't repeat it.

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- Bailey, Pearl

The past should be a springboard, not a hammock. - Ball, Ivern

A safe but sometimes chilly way of recalling the past is to force open a crammed drawer. If you are searching for anything in particular you don't find it, but something falls out at the back that is often more interesting. - Barrie, Sir James M.

Yesterday is a canceled check: Forget it. Tomorrow is a promissory note: Don't count on it. Today is ready cash: Use it! - Bliss, Edwin C.

If you are carrying strong feelings about something that happened in your past, they may hinder your ability to live in the present. - Brown, Les

Your past is important, but it is not nearly as important to your present as the way you see your future. - Campolo, Tony

O Lord! thou knowest how busy I must be this day: if I forget thee, do not thou forget me.

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- Astley, Sir Jacob

Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you. - Augustine, St.

It is not well for a man to pray cream and live skim milk. - Beecher, Henry Ward

The wish to pray is a prayer in itself. God can ask no more than that of us. - Bernanos, Georges

So I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. - Bible

But if it were I, I would appeal to God; I would lay my cause before Him. He performs wonders that cannot be fathomed, miracles that cannot be counted. [Job 5:8-9] - Bible

Pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks. [I Thessalonians] - Bible

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Pray. To ask the laws of the universe to be annulled on behalf of a single petitioner confessedly unworthy. - Bierce, Ambrose

Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men. Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your tasks. - Brooks, Phillips

God answers sharp and sudden on some prayers and thrust the thing we have prayed for in our face, like a gauntlet with a gift in it. - Browning, Elizabeth Barrett

In prayer it is better to have a heart without words than words without a heart. - Bunyan, John

We know little of the things for which we pray. - Chaucer, Geoffrey

If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough. - Eckhart, Meister

Most men pray for power, the strength to do things. Few people pray for love, the quality to be someone.

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- Foster, Robert D.

Work as if you were to live a hundred years. Pray as if you were to die tomorrow. - Franklin, Benjamin

Prayer is a confession of one's own unworthiness and weakness. - Gandhi, Mahatma

Prayer is not an old woman's idle amusement. Properly understood and applied, it is the most potent instrument of action. - Gandhi, Mahatma

Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul. It is daily admission of one's weakness. It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart. - Gandhi, Mahatma

Prayer is the key of the morning and the bolt of the evening. - Gandhi, Mahatma

Let everyone try and find that as a result of daily prayer he adds something new to his life, something with which nothing can be compared. - Gandhi, Mahatma

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Just pray for a tough hide and a tender heart. - Graham, Ruth

I have not placed reading before praying because I regard it more important, but because, in order to pray aright, we must understand what we are praying for. - Grimke, Angelina

Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths, or the turning inwards in prayer for five short minutes. - Hillesum, Etty

Prayer is the voice of faith. - Horne, William Van

There are thoughts which are prayers. There are moments when, whatever the posture of the body, the soul is on its knees. - Hugo, Victor

There is no greater distance than that between a man in prayer and God. - Illich, Ivan

Religion is in the heart, not in the knees. - Jerrold, Douglas William

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Take God for your spouse and friend and walk with him continually, and you will not sin and will learn to love, and the things you must do will work out prosperously for you. - John of the Cross, St.

Your prayer must be for a sound mind in a sound body. - Juvenal, (Decimus Junius Juvenalis)

The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays. - Kierkegaard, Søren

Prayer does not change God, but changes him who prays. - Kierkegaard, Søren

The time of business does not with me differ from the time of prayer, and in the noise and clatter of my kitchen, while several persons are at the same time calling for different things, I possess God as if I were upon my knees at the blessed sacrament. - Lawrence, Brother

A simple grateful thought turned heavenwards is the most perfect prayer. - Lessing, Doris

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All who call on God in true faith, earnestly from the heart, will certainly be heard, and will receive what they have asked and desired. - Luther, Martin

It is good to pray for the repair of mistakes, but praying earlier would keep us from making so many. When puzzled, go to prayer and listen. - Macaulay, J. C.

Don't put people down, unless it's on your prayer list. - Michalski, Stan

There are few men who dare to publish to the world the prayers they make to Almighty God. - Montaigne, Michel Eyquem De

Answered prayers cause more tears than those that remain unanswered. - Teresa of Avila, St.

Practical prayer is harder on the soles of your shoes than on the knees of your trousers. - O'Malley, Austin

When you pray for anyone you tend to modify your personal attitude toward him. - Peale, Norman Vincent

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Praying without ceasing is not ritualized, nor are there even words. It is a constant state of awareness of oneness with God. - Pilgrim, Peace

No one can pray well, but those who live well. - Proverb

Short prayers reach heaven. - Proverb

Ask God for what man can give, and you may get it. - Proverb, English

When we take one step toward to God, he takes seven steps toward us. - Proverb, Indian

Pray that you will never have to bear all that you are able to endure. - Proverb, Jewish

Pray to God but continue to row to the shore. - Proverb, Russian

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Prayer and practice is good rhyme. - Proverb, Scottish

Practice in life whatever you pray for and God will give it to you more abundantly. - Pusey, Edward Bouverie

If you can't pray a door open, don't pry it open. - Rader, Lyell

Ask God's blessing on your work, but don't ask him to do it for you. - Robson, Dame Flora

It is from prayer that the spirit's victory springs. - Schillerbuch

Prayer should be short, without giving God Almighty reasons why he should grant this, or that; he knows best what is good for us. - Selden, John

Do not ask for what you will wish you had not got. - Seneca

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Bow, stubborn knees! - Shakespeare, William

Common people do not pray; they only beg. - Shaw, George Bernard

We often want one thing and pray for another, not telling the truth even to the gods. - Seneca

Prayer is talking with God and telling Him you love Him, conversing with God about all the things that are important in life, both large and small, and being assured that He is listening. - Strait, C. Neil

When you lie down with a short prayer, commit yourself into the hands of your Creator; and when you have done so, trust Him with yourself, as you must do when you are dying. - Taylor, Jeremy

When I pray, coincidences happen, and when I don't, they don't. - Temple, Sir William

There are more tears shed over answered prayers than over unanswered prayers.

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- Teresa of Avila, St.

Prayer is the slender nerve that moves the muscle of omnipotence. - Tupper, Martin

You can't pray a lie. - Twain, Mark

Prayer is a passport to heaven. Your communication with God. - Unknown, Source

Do not make prayer a monologue -- make it a conversation. - Unknown, Source

Our thanks to God should always precede our requests. - Unknown, Source

Pray for what you want, but work for what you need. - Unknown, Source

Prayer moves the hand that moves the universe. - Unknown, Source

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Seven days without prayer makes one weak. - Unknown, Source

We turn to God for help when our foundations are shaking, only to learn that it is God who is shaking them. - West, Charles C.

When the gods wish to punish us they answer our prayers. - Wilde, Oscar

Prayer is less about changing the world than it is about changing ourselves. - Wolpe, David J.

Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day. - Angelis, Barbara De

Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. [Genesis 2:24] - Bible

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for

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her. [Ephesians 5:25] - Bible

Before marriage a man yearns for a woman. Afterward the y is silent. - Clarke, W. A.

Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery. - Brothers, Dr. Joyce

The less you talk, the more you're listened to. - Buren, Abigail Van

It is a rare person who wants to hear want he doesn't want to hear. - Cavett, Dick

One who cares is one who listens. - Clarke, J. Richard

Listen. Don't explain or justify. - Dyer, William G.

Nature gave us one tongue and two ears so we could hear twice as much as we speak. - Epictetus

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One of the most valuable things we can do to heal one another is listen to each other's stories. - Falls, Rebecca

Listen to life, and you will hear the voice of life crying, Be! - Freeman, James Dillet

A person hears only what they understand. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

Never speak of yourself to others; make them talk about themselves instead; therein lies the whole art of pleasing. Everybody knows it, and everyone forgets it. - Goncourt, Edmond and Jules De

So when you are listening to somebody, completely, attentively, then you are listening not only to the words, but also to the feeling of what is being conveyed, to the whole of it, not part of it. - Krishnamurti, Jiddu

Listening well and answering well is one of the greatest perfections that can be obtained in conversation. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

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No one really listens to anyone else, and if you try it for a while you'll see why. - McLaughlin, Mignon

A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while he knows something. - Mizner, Wilson

Women make love for love, men make love for lust. - Harge, Derrick

Immature love says: I love you because I need you. Mature love says: I need you because I love you. - Fromm, Erich

When you are in it up to your ears, keep your mouth shut - Unknown, Source

There is only one rule to become a good talker, learn how to listen. - Unknown, Source

His thoughts were slow. His words were few and never formed to glisten. But he was a joy to all his friends, you should have heard him LISTEN! - Unknown, Source

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Romanticism is not just a mode; it literally eats into every life. Women will never get rid of just waiting for the right man. - Brookner, Anita

Only your mind can produce fear. - A Course In Miracles

An ugly sight, a man who is afraid. - Anouilh, Jean

It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live. - Aurelius, Marcus

It is a miserable state of mind to have few things to desire and many things to fear. - Bacon, Francis

Fear secretes acids; but love and trust are sweet juices. - Beecher, Henry Ward

Fear is met and destroyed with courage. - Bell, James F.

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Anything I've ever done that ultimately was worthwhile... initially scared me to death. - Bender, Betty

We must travel in the direction of our fear. - Berryman, John

Take courage! It is I. Don't be afraid. [Matthew 14:27] - Bible

There is great beauty in going through life without anxiety or fear. Half our fears are baseless, and the other half discreditable. - Bovee, Christian Nevell

Panic is a sudden desertion of us, and a going over to the enemy of our imagination. - Bovee, Christian Nevell

First you jump off the cliff and you build wings on the way down. - Bradbury, Ray

Fear does not have any special power unless you empower it by submitting to it. - Brown, Les

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Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. - Brown, Les

When you face your fear, most of the time you will discover that it was not really such a big threat after all. We all need some form of deeply rooted, powerful motivation -- it empowers us to overcome obstacles so we can live our dreams. - Brown, Les

No passion so effectually robs the mind of all its powers of acting and reasoning as fear. - Burke, Edmund

The first duty of man is to conquer fear; he must get rid of it, he cannot act till then. - Carlyle, Thomas

If you want to conquer fear, don't sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy - Carnegie, Dale

Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it... that is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear. - Carnegie, Dale

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to

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conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. - Carnegie, Dale

You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind. - Carnegie, Dale

If you are not concerned about the outcome of a circumstance, you will experience no fear. Whatever the outcome will be, will be, whether you fear it or not. - Ching Ning Chu

He has not learned the first lesson of life who does not every day surmount a fear. - Dryden, John

Fear always springs from ignorance. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Do the thing we fear, and the death of fear is certain. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Always do what you are afraid to do. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

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The next best thing to saying a good thing yourself, is to quote one. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I may not forget you. - Arthur, William

Correction does much, but encouragement does more. Encouragement after censure is as the sun after a shower. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

Those who are lifting the world upward and onward are those who encourage more than criticize. - Harrison, Elizabeth

A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success. - Unknown, Source

If I could define enlightenment briefly I would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is. - Dyer, Wayne

The real meaning of enlightenment is to gaze with undimmed eyes on all darkness.

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- Kazantzakis, Nikos

Still your mind in me, still yourself in me, and without a doubt you shall be united with me, Lord of Love, dwelling in your heart. - Bhagavad Gita

Meditation brings wisdom; lack of mediation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what hold you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom. - Buddha

Through meditation and by giving full attention to one thing at a time, we can learn to direct attention where we choose. - Easwaran, Eknath

In deep meditation the flow of concentration is continuous like the flow of oil. - Patanjali

Health, a light body, freedom from cravings, a glowing skin, sonorous voice, fragrance of body: these signs indicate progress in the practice of meditation. - Upanishad, Shvetashvatara

Our dreams drench us in senses, and senses steps us again in dreams. - Alcott, Amos Bronson

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Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil. - Allen, James

I'll do my dreaming with my eyes wide open, and I'll do my looking back with my eyes closed. - Arata, Tony

You are never given a dream without also being given the power to make it true. You may have to work for it, however. - Bach, Richard

If there were dreams to sell, what would you buy? - Beddoes, Thomas Lovell

You have the courage and power to live your dreams. - Brown, Les

Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours. - Brown, Les

Dream manfully and nobly, and thy dreams shall be prophets.

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- Bulwer-Lytton, Edward G.

Our heart oft times wakes when we sleep, and God can speak to that, either by words, by proverbs, by signs and similitudes, as well as if one was awake. - Bunyan, John

Lovers never get tired of each other because they are forever talking about themselves. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

I've given up reading books. I find it takes my mind off myself. - Levant, Oscar

Self-worth comes from one thing -- thinking that you are worthy. - Dyer, Wayne

Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got. - Joplin, Janis

How could I have been anyone other than me? - Matthews, Dave

The inner speech, your thoughts, can cause you to be rich or poor, loved or unloved, happy or unhappy, attractive or unattractive, powerful or weak.

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- Charell, Ralph

The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. - Confucius

The more faithfully you listen to the voices within you, the better you will hear what is sounding outside. - Hammarskjold, Dag

Every waking moments we talk to ourselves about the things we experience. Our self-talk, the thoughts we communicate to ourselves, in turn control the way we feel and act. - Lembo, John

Self-suggestion makes you master of yourself. - Stone, W. Clement

I talk to myself because I like dealing with a better class of people. - Tartakower, Savielly

Let me listen to myself and not to them. - Stein, Gertrude

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I have just about all I can take of myself. - Behrman, S.

They cannot take away our self-respect if we do not give it to them. - Gandhi, Mahatma

He that respects himself is safe from others; He wears a coat of mail that none can pierce. - Longfellow, Henry Wadsworth

Self-respect is nothing to hide behind. When you need it most it isn't there. - Sarton, May

If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself. - Angelis, Barbara De

Resolve to be thyself: and know, that he who finds himself, loses his misery. - Arnold, Matthew

When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and bring joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life. - Bolen, Jean Shinoda

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Our first and last love is... self-love. - Bovee, Christian Nevell

Don't worry about growing older or pleasing others. Please yourself. - Brown, David

Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults. - Brown, Les

Self-love for ever creeps out, like a snake, to sting anything which happens to stumble upon it. - Byron, Lord

How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something, but to be someone. - Chanel, Coco

Do not wish to be anything except what you are. - Francis De Sales, St.

If we really love ourselves, everything in our life works. - Hay, Louise L.

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The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved, loved for ourselves, or rather loved in spite of ourselves. - Hugo, Victor

There is a voice inside which speaks and says: This is the real me! - James, William

Be that self which one truly is. - Kierkegaard, Søren

The snow goose need not bathe to make itself white. Neither need you do anything but be yourself. - Lao-Tzu

Accept yourself as you are. Otherwise you will never see opportunity. You will not feel free to move toward it; you will feel you are not deserving. - Maltz, Maxwell

You will always have to live with yourself, and it is to your best interest to see that you have good company -- a clean, pure, straight, honest, upright, generous, magnanimous companion. - Marden, Orison Swett

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The less routine the more life. - Alcott, Amos Bronson

Lovers should also have their days off. - Barney, Natalie Clifford

All mankind loves a lover. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

See the man wise in his own conceit? There is more hope for a fool than for him. [Proverbs 26:7] - Bible

Nobody can be kinder than the narcissist while you react to life in his own terms. - Bowen, Elizabeth

I've never any pity for conceited people, because I think they carry their comfort about with them. - Eliot, George

It is possible to have a strong self-love without any self-satisfaction, rather with a self-discontent which is the more intense because one's own little core of egoistic

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sensibility is a supreme care. - Eliot, George

Always hold your head up but be careful to keep your nose at a friendly level. - Forman, Max L.

A person wrapped up in himself makes a small package. - Fosdick, Harry Emerson

Whatever accomplishment you boast of in the world, there is someone better than you. - Proverb, African

Conceit in weakest bodies works the strongest. - Shakespeare, William

People who do not know how to laugh are always pompous and self-conceited. - Thackeray, William M.

Conceit is incompatible with understanding. - Tolstoy, Count Leo

Conceit is God's gift to little men. - Truman, Harry S

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Conceit is bragging about yourself. Confidence means you believe you can get the job done. - Unitas, Johnny

Conceit is a queer disease -- it makes everyone Sick except the person who has it. - Unknown, Source

There is nothing so agonizing to the fine skin of vanity as the application of a rough truth. - Bulwer-Lytton, Edward G.

The knowledge of yourself will preserve you from vanity. - Cervantes, Miguel De

If there is a single quality that is shared by all great men, it is vanity. But I mean by vanity only that they appreciate their own worth. Without this kind of vanity they would not be great. And with vanity alone, of course, a man is nothing. - Karsh, Yousef

Possibly, more people kill themselves and others out of hurt vanity than out of envy, jealousy, malice or desire for revenge. - Murdoch, Iris

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Never underestimate a man who overestimates himself. - Roosevelt, Franklin D.

The common practice of keeping up appearances with society is a mere selfish struggle of the vain with the vain. - Ruskin, John

There was never yet fair woman but she made mouths in a glass. - Shakespeare, William

Our vanity is the constant enemy of our dignity. - Swetchine, Anne Sophie

Vanity is a mark of humility rather than of pride. - Swift, Jonathan

Cure yourself of the affliction of caring how you appear to others. Concern yourself only with how you appear before God, concern yourself only with the idea that God may have of you. - Unamuno, Miguel De

The last time I saw him he was walking down lover's lane holding his own hand. - Allen, Fred A.

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It's a fine thing to rise above pride, but you must have pride in order to do so. - Bernanos, Georges

God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble [James 4:6] - Bible

I cannot dig; to beg I am ashamed. [Luke 16:3] - Bible

Proud people breed sad sorrows for themselves. - Bronte, Emily

There is this paradox in pride -- it makes some men ridiculous, but prevents others from becoming so. - Colton, Charles Caleb

There is nothing that will kill a man so soon as having nobody to find fault with but himself. - Eliot, George

Most of the trouble in the world is caused by people wanting to be important. - Eliot, T. S.

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Never look down on anybody unless you are helping them up. - Jackson, Jesse

Pride costs more than hunger, thirst and cold. - Jefferson, Thomas

Pride does not wish to owe and vanity does not wish to pay. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you're looking down, you can't see something that's above you. - Lewis, C. S.

To be proud and inaccessible is to be timid and weak. - Masillon, Jean Baptiste

Pride is the mask of one's own faults. - Proverb, Jewish

There are two things people want more than sex and money... recognition and praise. - Ash, Mary Kay

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Pretend that every single person you meet has a sign around his or her neck that says, Make me feel important. Not only will you succeed in sales, you will succeed in life. - Ash, Mary Kay

No matter how busy you are, you must take time to make the other person feel important. - Ash, Mary Kay

The praise that comes from love does not make us vain, but more humble. - Barrie, Sir James M.

Praise does wonders for the sense of hearing. - Best of Bits and Pieces

Let another praise you and not your own mouth, a stranger and not your own lips. - Bible

Praise is not seemly in the mouth of a sinner, for it was not sent him of the Lord. [Ecclesiasticus 15:9] - Bible

Attach yourself to those who advise you rather than praise you. - Boileau, Nicholas

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Praising an honest person who doesn't deserve it, always wounds them. - Boileau, Nicholas

Applaud us when we run, Console us when we fall, Cheer us when we recover. - Burke, Edmund

Appreciative words are the most powerful force for good on earth! - Crane, George W.

Few things in the world are more powerful than a positive push. A smile. A world of optimism and hope. A you can do it when things are tough. - DeVos, Richard M.

Some natures are too good to be spoiled by praise. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

If you treat an individual... as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

When someone does something good, applaud! You will make two people happy. - Goldwyn, Samuel

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I know, indeed, of nothing more subtle satisfying and cheering than a knowledge of the real good will and appreciation of others. Such happiness does not come with money, nor does it flow from a fine physical state. It cannot be bought. But it is the keenest joy, after all; and the toiler's truest and best reward. - Howells, William Dean

Praise God even when you don't understand what He is doing. - Jacobsen, Henry

The real satisfaction which praise can afford, is when what is repeated aloud agrees with the whispers of conscience, by showing us that we have not endeavored to deserve well in vain. - Johnson, Samuel

Everyone has an invisible sign hanging from their neck saying, Make me feel important. Never forget this message when working with people. - Kay, Mary

The surest plan to make a man is, think him so. - Lowell, James Russell

There is no stimulus like that which comes from the consciousness of knowing that others

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believe in us. - Marden, Orison Swett

There is no praise to beat the sort you can put in your pocket. - Moliere

So long as you are praised think only that you are not yet on your own path but on that of another. - Nietzsche, Friedrich

You can handle people more successfully by enlisting their feelings than by convincing their reason. - Parker, Paul P.

We are apt to love praise, but not deserve it. But if we would deserve it, we must love virtue more than that. - Penn, William

Many know how to flatter, few know how to praise. - Phillips, Wendell

Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right. - Asimov, Isaac

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It is far easier for a woman to lead a blameless life than it is for a man; all she has to do is to avoid sexual intercourse like the plague. - Carter, Angela

A man can do what he ought to do; and when he says he cannot, it is because he will not. - Feoude

A woman can look both moral and exciting -- if she also looks as if it was quite a struggle. - Ferber, Edna

Men are more moral than they think and far more immoral than they can imagine. - Freud, Sigmund

Moral choices do not depend on personal preference and private decision but on right reason and, I would add, divine order. - Hume, Basil

Whenever you are to do a thing, though it can never be known but to yourself, ask yourself how you would act were all the world looking at you, and act accordingly. - Jefferson, Thomas

There are few things more disturbing than to find, in somebody we detest, a moral quality

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which seems to us demonstrably superior to anything we ourselves possess. It augurs not merely an unfairness on the part of creation, but a lack of artistic judgment. Sainthood is acceptable only in saints. - Johnson, Pamela Hansford

The great rule of moral conduct is next to God, respect time. - Lavater, Johann Kaspar

The purpose of morality is to teach you, not to suffer and die, but to enjoy yourself and live. - Rand, Ayn

We have in fact, two kinds of morality, side by side: one that we preach, but do not practice, and another that we practice, but seldom preach. - Russell, Bertrand

Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. So aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something. - Thoreau, Henry David

Never trust a man who speaks well of everybody. - Collins, John Churton

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Woe to the man whose heart has not learned while young to hope, to love -- and to put its trust in life. - Conrad, Joseph

You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. - Crane, Frank

Trust instinct to the end, even though you can give no reason. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Instinct is untaught ability. - Bain, Alexander

Instinct is the nose of the mind. - Girardin, Madame de

You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you'll discover will be wonderful. What you'll discover is yourself. - Alda, Alan

Our lives improve only when we take chances -- and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

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- Anderson, Walter

All serious daring starts from within. - Baez, Joan

You cannot be wimpy out there on the dream-seeking trail. Dare to break through barriers, to find your own path. - Brown, Les

Risk comes from not knowing what you're doing. - Buffett, Warren

No crime is so great as daring to excel. - Churchill, Winston

In order to conquer, what we need is to dare, still to dare, and always to dare. - Danton, Georges

Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far they can go. - Eliot, T. S.

There are risks and costs to a program of action, but they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction.

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- Kennedy, John F.

If the creator had a purpose in equipping us with a neck, he surely meant us to stick it out. - Koestler, Arthur

Dare to be wise. - Motto

Risk is essential. There is not growth of inspiration in staying within what is safe and comfortable. Once you find out what you do best, why not try something else? - Noble, Alex

?How does one become a butterfly? she asked pensively. You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar. - Paulus, Trina

Where there is much to risk, there is much to consider. - Platen

We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be. - Sarton, May

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To save all we must risk all. - Schiller, Johann Friedrich Von

Why not go out on a limb? Isn't that where the fruit is? - Scully, Frank

Who bravely dares must sometimes risk a fall. - Smollett, Tobias G.

Be bold, be bold, and everywhere be bold. - Spencer, Herbert

The irony is this: If you don't go in, you can't find out. - Stine, Richard

To save oneself, one must take risks and struggle. - Unknown, Source

Life is inherently risky. There is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing. - Waitley, Denis

Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others, cannot keep it from themselves.

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- Barrie, Sir James M.

I have no greater joy then to hear that my children walk in truth. [John 4] - Bible

Joy is the feeling of grinning on the inside. - Colgrove, Dr. Melba

We ask God to forgive us for our evil thoughts and evil temper, but rarely, if ever ask Him to forgive us for our sadness. - Dale, R. W.

Joys divided are increased. - Holland, Josiah Gilbert

One can endure sorrow alone, but it takes two to be glad. - Hubbard, Elbert

Occasionally in life there are those moments of unutterable fulfillment which cannot be completely explained by those symbols called words. Their meanings can only be articulated by the inaudible language of the heart. - King Jr. Martin Luther

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The primary joy of life is acceptance, approval, the sense of appreciation and companionship of our human comrades. Many men do not understand that the need for fellowship is really as deep as the need for food, and so they go through life accepting many substitutes for genuine, warm, simple. - Liebman, Joshua Loth

The most profound joy has more of gravity than of gaiety in it. - Montaigne, Michel Eyquem De

The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy. - Rohn, Jim

The surest mark of a Christian is not faith, or even love, but joy. - Shoemaker, Samuel M.

Joy is free, unrestrained passion - Stukane, Eileen

May your joys be as deep as the ocean, your sorrows as light as its foam. - Unknown, Source

Joy is not in things, it is in us. - Wagner, Richard

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Joy, has no cost. - Williamson, Marianne

There is no comparison between that which is lost by not succeeding and that which is lost by not trying. - Bacon, Francis

Life doesn't require that we be the best, only that we try our best. - Brown Jr., H. Jackson

Trying is a part of failing. If you are afraid to fail then you're afraid to try. - Cunningham, Mrs.

Somehow the people who do as they please seem to get along just about as well as those who are always trying to please others. - Edwards, Robert C.

If at first you don't succeed, try, try, try again. - Hickson, William E.

Set your target and keep trying until you reach it. - Hill, Napoleon

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Nothing is to small to know, and nothing too big to attempt. - Horne, William Van

People are always neglecting something they can do in trying to do something they can't do. - Howe, Edgar Watson

Try, try, try, and keep on trying is the rule that must be followed to become an expert in anything. - Stone, W. Clement

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; and don't lean on your own understanding. In all things acknowledge him, and he shall direct your way. [Proverbs 3:5, 6] - Bible

The man who trusts men will make fewer mistakes that he who distrusts them. - Cavour, Camillo Benso Conte Di

Destiny has two ways of crushing us -- by refusing our wishes and by fulfilling them. - Amiel, Henri Frederic

Chance happens to all, but to turn chance to account is the gift of few.

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- Bulwer-Lytton, Edward G.

The wheel of fortune turns round incessantly, and who can say to himself, I shall today be uppermost. - Confucius

We make our fortunes and we call them fate. - Disraeli, Benjamin

It is all right to hold a conversation but you should let go of it now and then. - Armour, Richard

Never hold anyone by the button or the hand in order to be heard out; for if people are unwilling to hear you, you had better hold your tongue than them. - Chesterfield, Lord

Talk ought always to run obliquely, not nose to nose with no chance of mental escape. - Colby, Frank Moore

The most wasted of all days is that on which one has not laughed. - Chamfort, Sebastien-Roch Nicolas De

Do something every day that you don't want to do. This is the golden rule for acquiring the

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habit of doing your duty without pain. - Twain, Mark

You can't live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you. - Wooden, John

I have yet to see any problem, however complicated, which, when you looked at it in the right way, did not become still more complicated. - Anderson, Poul

Let God's promises shine on your problems. - Boom, Corrie Ten

A problem clearly stated is a problem half solved. - Brande, Dorothea

The only difference between a problem and a solution is that people understand the solution. - Brande, Dorothea

It isn't that they can't see the solution. It is that they can't see the problem. - Chesterton, Gilbert K.

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Focus 90% of your time on solutions and only 10% of your time on problems. - D'Angelo, Anthony J.

Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them. - Einstein, Albert

A problem is your chance to do your best. - Ellington, Duke

There are no big problems, there are just a lot of little problems. - Ford, Henry

When I can't handle events, I let them handle themselves. - Ford, Henry

You must live with people to know their problems, and live with God in order to solve them. - Forsyth, Peter T.

We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as unsolvable problems. - Gardner, John W.

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We have no problems, only situations. Not all problems have solutions, but all situations have outcomes. - Gray, John Edward

The other day I got out my can-opener and was opening a can of worms when I thought, What am I doing?! - Handey, Jack

Don't tell your problems to people: eighty percent don't care; and the other twenty percent are glad you have them. - Holtz, Lou

The best way out is always through. - Keller, Helen

To every problem there is already a solution whether you know it or not. - Kleiser, Grenville

For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong. - Mencken, H. L.

Problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain, forever a

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barrier to the growth and development of the spirit. - Peck, M. Scott

I am grateful for all my problems. After each one was overcome, I became stronger and more able to meet those that were still to come. I grew in all my difficulties. - Penney, J. C. (James Cash)

Problems can become opportunities when the right people come together. - Redford, Robert

The best way to escape from a problem is to solve it. - Saporta, Alan

When you can't solve the problem, manage it. - Schuller, Robert H.

Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines. - Schuller, Robert H.

Avoiding a problem doesn't solve it. - Thornley, Bonnie Jean

Successful people are simply people who learn to solve their problems... they are not

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people without problems. - Unknown, Source

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. - Dyer, Wayne

I was never less alone than when by myself. - Gibbon, Edward

What makes loneliness an anguish is not that I have no one to share my burden, but this: I have only my own burden to bear. - Hammarskjold, Dag

It is very lonely sometimes, trying to play God. - Holmes, Oliver Wendell

We are never the same with others as when we are alone. We are different, even when we are in the dark with them. - Maeterlinck, Maurice

To most people loneliness is a doom. Yet loneliness is the very thing which God has chosen to be one of the schools of training for His very own. It is the fire that sheds the dross and reveals the gold.

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- Martin, Bernard M.

People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges. - Newton, Joseph Fort

If you are lonely when you are alone, you are in bad company. - Sartre, Jean-Paul

When thinking about companions gone, we feel ourselves doubly alone. - Scott, Sir Walter

Of my friends I am the only one left. - Terence

We are most of us very lonely in this world; you who have any who love you, cling to them and thank God. - Unknown, Source

When people are lonely they stoop to any companionship. - Wallace, Lew

The gift of loneliness is sometimes a radical vision of society or one's people that has not previously been taken into account.

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- Walker, Alice

We are all sentenced to solitary confinement inside our own skins, for life. - Williams, Tennessee

The surest cure for vanity is loneliness. - Wolfe, Thomas

Stay is a charming word in a friend's vocabulary. - Alcott, Louisa May

When one is a stranger to oneself then one is estranged from others too. - Lindbergh, Anne Morrow

Anything done for another is done for oneself. - VIII, Pope Boniface

To love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance. - Wilde, Oscar

Love is, above all, the gift of oneself. - Ardele, Jean Anouilh

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Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship, never. - Colton, Charles Caleb

Men mistake friendship, but not sex, for love; women mistake sex, but not friendship, for love. - Wastholm, Peter

Friendships that have stood the test of time and chance are surely best, Brows may wrinkle, hair grow gray, Friendship never knows decay. - Unknown, Source

Friendship is to be purchased only by friendship. A man may have authority over others, but he can never have their hearts but by giving his own. - Wilson, Thomas

To each one of us friendship has a different meaning. For all of us it is a gift. Friendship needs to be cherished and nurtured. It needs to be cultivated on a daily basis. Then shall it germinate and yield its fruit. - Unknown, Source

There is no stronger bond of friendship than a mutual enemy. - Moore, Frankfort

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Friendship is essentially a partnership. - Aristotle

Friendship is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. - Aristotle

The worst solitude is to have no real friendships. - Bacon, Francis

That is what friendship means. Sharing the prejudice of experience. - Bukowski, Charles

Friendship is like money, easier made than kept. - Butler, Samuel

Friendship is Love without his wings! - Byron, Lord

The world is round so that friendship may encircle it. - Chardin, Pierre Teilhard De

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Life is nothing without friendship. - Cicero, Marcus T.

Friendship is a sheltering tree. - Coleridge, Samuel Taylor

There is a scarcity of friendship, but not of friends. - Fuller, Thomas

True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable. - Gentry, David Tyson

Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity. - Gibran, Kahlil

Friendship is to have the latchkey of another's mind. - Godospeed, Edgar

Friendship multiplies the good of life and divides the evil. - Gracian, Baltasar

Friendship needs no words... - Hammarskjold, Dag

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Friendship is a horizon -- which expands whenever we approach it. - Hazlip, E.R.

The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love. - Humphrey, Hubert H.

True friendship ought never to conceal what it thinks. - Jerome, St.

Plant a seed of friendship; reap a bouquet of happiness. - Kaufman, Lois L.

Rare as is true love, true friendship is rarer. - La Fontaine, Jean De

Your friendship is your needs answered. - Proverb, Danish

For the friendship of two, the patience of one is required. - Proverb, Indian

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The ideal friendship is to feel as one while remaining two. - Swetchine, Anne Sophie

The language of friendship is not words but meanings. - Thoreau, Henry David

Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes. - Unknown, Source

Friendship is love with understanding. - Unknown, Source

He whose hand is clasped in friendship cannot throw mud. - Unknown, Source

Love is a friendship set to music. - Cossman, E. Joseph

Love comes from blindness, friendship from knowledge. - Bussy-Rabutin, Comte De

Time makes friendship stronger, but love weaker - La Bruyere, Jean De

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Confidence is the bond of friendship. - Syrus, Publilius

Many a time from a bad beginning great friendships have sprung up. - Terence

Friendship is like vitamins, we supplement each other's minimum daily requirements - Unknown, Source

Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together. - Wilson, Woodrow T.

Friendship consists in forgetting what one gives, and remembering what one receives. - Younger, Dumas The

Love is rarer than genius itself. And friendship is rarer than love. - Peguy, Charles

There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity. - Johnson, Samuel

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A man's friendships are one of the best measures of his worth. - Darwin, Charles R.

'Tis the privilege of friendship to talk nonsense, and have her nonsense respected. - Lamb, Charles

He who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love. - Basil, St.

There is no friendship, no love, like that of the parent for the child. - Beecher, Henry Ward

Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joys, and dividing our grief. - Addison, Joseph

Friendship without self-interest is one of the rare and beautiful things of life. - Byrnes, James F.

To like and dislike the same things, this is what makes a solid friendship. - Sallust

Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant.

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- Socrates

Precious gifts of friendship... knowing the heart of another, sharing one's heart with another. - Unknown, Source

An acquaintance that begins with a compliment is sure to develop into a real friendship. - Wilde, Oscar

Friendship is a priceless treasure never to be bought or sold -- it can only be cherished. - Unknown, Source

I had three chairs in my house; one for solitude, two for friendship, three for society. - Thoreau, Henry David

The little trouble in the world that is not due to love is due to friendship. - Howe, Edgar Watson

True friendship is like sound health, the value of it is seldom known until it be lost. - Colton, Charles Caleb

The best things in life are never rationed. Friendship, loyalty, and love. They do not require coupons.

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- Hewitt, George T.

No love, no friendship can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever. - Muriac, Francois

Friendship is the source of the greatest pleasures, and without friends even the most agreeable pursuits become tedious. - Aquinas, St. Thomas

Friendship is genuine when two friends can enjoy each others company without speaking a word to one another. - Ebers, George

In the New Year, may your right hand always be stretched out in friendship, but never in want. - Toast, Irish

Among Life's precious jewels, Genuine and rare, The one that we call friendship Has worth beyond compare. - Unknown, Source

Friendship is a strong and habitual inclination in two persons to promote the good and

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happiness of one another. - Budgell, Eustace

Of all things which wisdom provides to make life entirely happy, much the greatest is the possession of friendship. - Epicurus

Friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world. - Roosevelt, Eleanor

Friendship is a living thing that lasts only as long as it is nourished with kindness, empathy and understanding. - Unknown, Source

Marriage, for a woman at least, hampers the two things that made life to me glorious -friendship and learning. - Harrison, Jane

If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love. - Montaigne, Michel Eyquem De

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Perhaps the most delightful friendships are those in which there is much agreement, much disputation, and yet more personal liking. - Eliot, George

There are no rules for friendship. It must be left to itself. We cannot force it any more than love. - Hazlitt, William

I always felt that the great high privilege, relief and comfort of friendship was that one had to explain nothing. - Mansfield, Katherine

Life is to be fortified by many friendships. To love and to be loved is the greatest happiness of existence. - Smith, Sydney

Some friends play at friendship, but a true friend sticks closer than one's nearest kin. [Proverbs 18:24] - Bible

It can never be bought or borrowed or sold A gift to be cherished, True friendship is a treasure beyond compare. - Unknown, Source

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Friendship is a comforting smile, A familiar voice that warms the heart, and the freedom to be the person God intended. - Unknown, Source

You cannot raise a man up by calling him down. - Boetcker, William

Life takes on meaning when you become motivated, set goals and charge after them in an unstoppable manner. - Brown, Les

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. - Buscaglia, Leo

Nobody motivates today's workers. If it doesn't come from within, it doesn't come. Fun helps remove the barriers that allow people to motivate themselves. - Cain, Herman

There is only one way... to get anybody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.

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- Carnegie, Dale

What comes from the heart, goes to the heart. - Coleridge, Samuel Taylor

I want you to be everything that's you, deep at the center of your being. - Confucius

If you would lift me up you must be on higher ground. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. - Fink, David Harold

Instruction does much, but encouragement does everything. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

A message prepared in the mind reaches a mind; a message prepared in a life reaches a life. - Gothard, Bill

Some of us are like wheelbarrows, only useful when pushed and easily upset. - Herbert, Jack

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Motivation is simple. You eliminate those who are not motivated. - Holtz, Lou

To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart. - Laird, Donald

We talk on principal, but act on motivation. - Landor, Walter Savage

What we see depends mainly on what we look for. - Lubbock, Sir John

One of the reasons it has seemed so difficult for a person to change his habits, his personality, or his way of life, has been that heretofore nearly all efforts at change have been directed to the circumference of the self, so to speak, rather than to the center. - Maltz, Maxwell

I've always felt it was not up to anyone else to make me give my best. - Olajuwon, Akeem

You are what you think. You are what you go for. You are what you do! - Richards, Bob

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It is simpler and easier to flatter people than to praise them. - Richter, Jean Paul

There's always the motivation of wanting to win. Everybody has that. But a champion needs, in his attitude, a motivation above and beyond winning. - Riley, Pat

Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. - Ryun, Jim

We may think there is willpower involved, but more likely change is due to want power. Wanting the new addiction more than the old one. Wanting the new me in preference to the person I am now. - Sheehan, George

Help people become more motivated by guiding them to the source of their own power. - Thomas, Paul G.

Next to excellence, comes the appreciation of it. - Thackeray, William M.

There is nothing that fear and hope does not permit men to do.

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- Vauvenargues, Marquis De

Children smile on the average 400 times/day; Adults: 15 times/day. Ever wonder why? - Unknown, Source

A smile is a light in the window of the soul indicating that the heart is at home. - Unknown, Source

The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so gland that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end. - Alan, Robert

If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love. Don't be surly at home, then go out in the street and start grinning Good morning at total strangers. - Angelou, Maya

Smile and others will smile back. Smile to show how transparent, how candid you are. Smile if you have nothing to say. Most of all, do not hide the fact you have nothing to say nor your total indifference to others. Let this emptiness, this profound indifference shine out spontaneously in your smile. - Baudrillard, Jean

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smile they only grin. - Bovee, Christian Nevell

Your smile will give you a positive countenance that will make people feel comfortable around you. - Brown, Les

Thinking a smile all the time will keep your face youthful. - Burgess, (Frank) Gelett

Smiles form the channel of a future tear. - Byron, Lord

She gave me a smile I could feel in my hip pocket. - Chandler, Raymond

Most smiles are started by another smile. - Clark, Frank A.

Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles. What do we live for if not to make the world less difficult for each other? - Eliot, George

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Start off everyday with a simple smile and get it over with. - Fields, W. C.

If you're not using your smile, you're like a man with a million dollars in the bank and no checkbook. - Giblin, Les

Youth smiles without any reason. It is one of its chiefest charms. - Gray, Thomas

Smiles are the language of love. - Hare, David

Smile, damn it !! Smile. - Hathaway, Dame Sybil

Smile, it's free therapy. - Horton, Doug

Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again.

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Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail. - Mandino, Og

Smile at each other, smile at your wife, smile at your husband, smile at your children, smile at each other -- it doesn't matter who it is -- and that will help you to grow up in greater love for each other. - Mother Teresa

The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection. - Paine, Thomas

A smile cures the wounding of a frown. - Shakespeare, William

A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks - Unknown, Source

A smile is a curve that sets everything straight. - Diller, Phyllis

A smile on the face is a sign that the heart is at home. - Unknown, Source

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Today, give a stranger one of your smiles. It might be the only sunshine he sees all day. Source unknown A spark of kindness starts a fire of love. - Unknown, Source

A winning smile makes winners of us all. - Unknown, Source

All people smile in the same language. - Unknown, Source

Attitude Adjuster: When you smile at someone, nine times out of 10 the other person will smile back and you've made two people's days brighter and better. - Unknown, Source

If I thought that a smile of mine, might linger the whole day through and lighten some heart with a heavier part, I'd not withhold it -- Would you? - Unknown, Source

It takes 26 muscles to smile, and 62 muscles to frown. - Unknown, Source

There are hundreds of languages in the world but a smile speaks them all.

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- Unknown, Source

You can say no and smile only when there's a bigger yes burning inside you - Unknown, Source

You haven't lost your smile at all, it's right under your nose. You just forgot it was there - Unknown, Source

Smile; it the second best thing one can do with one's lips. - Unknown, Source

A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside. - Waitley, Denis

A warm smile is the universal language of kindness. - Ward, William A.

Strengthen me by sympathizing with my strength, not my weakness. - Alcott, Amos Bronson

One cannot weep for the entire world, it is beyond human strength. One must choose. - Anouilh, Jean

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Sympathy is never wasted except when you give it to yourself. - Draper, John W.

No man needs sympathy because he has to work. Far and away the best prize that life offers is the chance to work hard at work worth doing. - Roosevelt, Theodore

Joy runs deeper than despair - Boom, Corrie Ten

Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels. [Hebrews 13:2] - Bible

Were we as eloquent as angels we still would please people much more by listening rather than talking. - Colton, Charles Caleb

Make friends with the angels, who though invisible are always with you. Often invoke them, constantly praise them, and make good use of their help and assistance in all your temporal and spiritual affairs. - Francis De Sales, St.

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Peace is the first thing the angels sang. - Leo The Great

A man does not have to be an angel in order to be a saint. - Schweitzer, Albert

In Heaven an angel is nobody in particular. - Shaw, George Bernard

Great things are done when men and mountains meet. This is not done by jostling in the street. - Blake, William

When you've got something to prove, there's nothing greater than a challenge. - Bradshaw, Terry

We only think when we are confronted with problems. - Dewey, John

Mountains cannot be surmounted except by winding paths. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

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One must be aware that one is continually being tested in what one wishes most in order to make clear whether one's heart is on earth or in heaven. - Khan, Pir Vilayat

Never underestimate your problem or your ability to deal with it. - Schuller, Robert H.

It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out; it's the grain of sand in your shoe. - Service, Robert W.

When people keep telling you that you can't do a thing, you kind of like to try it. - Smith, Margaret Chase

Dreams can often become challenging, but challenges are what we live for. - White, Travis

The highest qualities of character must be earned. - Abbott, Lyman

It is in the character of very few men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered. - Aeschylus

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It is not what he had, or even what he does which expresses the worth of a man, but what he is. - Amiel, Henri Frederic

Dignity does not consist in possessing honors, but in deserving them. - Aristotle

Character is that which reveals moral purpose, exposing the class of things a man chooses or avoids. - Aristotle

If you don't run your own life, somebody else will. - Atkinson, John

Character builds slowly, but it can be torn down with incredible swiftness. - Baldwin, Faith

As a man thinks in his heart, so is he. [Proverbs 23:7] - Bible

Character contributes to beauty. It fortifies a woman as her youth fades. - Bisset, Jacqueline

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Let us not say, every man is the architect of his own fortune; but let us say, every man is the architect of his own character. - Boardman, George D.

You don't get in life what you want; you get in life what you are. - Brown, Les

There is never a better measure of what a person is than what he does when he is absolutely free to choose. - Bulger, William M.

The best index to a person's character is (a) how he treats people who can't do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can't fight back. - Buren, Abigail Van

Integrity has no need of rules. - Camus, Albert

Show me the man you honor, and I will know what kind of a man you are. It shows me what your ideal of manhood is, and what kind of a man you long to be. - Carlyle, Thomas

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Every human being is intended to have a character of his own; to be what no others are, and to do what no other can do. - Channing, William Ellery

Character must be kept bright as well as clean. - Chesterfield, Lord

You must look into people, as well as at them. - Chesterfield, Lord

Of all the properties which belong to honorable men, not one is so highly prized as that of character. - Clay, Henry

Character is what you know you are, not what others think you have. - Collins, Marva

When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves. - Confucius

Our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconcious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character

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- Covey, Stephen R.

Characters do not change. Opinions alter, but characters are only developed. - Disraeli, Benjamin

There is no greater index of character so sure as the voice. - Disraeli, Benjamin

You can construct the character of a man and his age not only from what he does and says, but from what he fails to say and do. - Douglas, Norman

No change of circumstances can repair a defect of character. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Do what you know and perception is converted into character. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

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Character is the sum and total of a person's choices. - Fitzwater, P. B.

I have only got down on to paper, really, three types of people: the person I think I am, the people who irritate me, and the people I'd like to be. - Forster, Edward M.

You can buy a person's time; you can buy their physical presence at a given place; you can even buy a measured number of their skilled muscular motions per hour. But you can not buy enthusiasm... you can not buy loyalty. You can not buy the devotion of hearts, minds, or souls. You must earn these. - Francis, Clarence

The final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands. - Frank, Anne

Human improvement is from within outward. - Froude, James A.

Success is always temporary. When all is said and one, the only thing you'll have left is your character. - Gill, Vince

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Men show their character in nothing more clearly than what they think laughable. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

Talents are best nurtured in solitude. Character is best formed in the stormy billows of the world. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

The formation of one's character ought to be everyone's chief aim. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

Character, in great and little things, means carrying through what you feel able to do. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your lips. - Goldsmith, Oliver

When God measures man, He puts the tape around his heart -- not his head. - Guideposts

Man's character is his fate. - Heraclitus

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Character is our destiny. - Heraclitus

Character is the result of two things: Mental attitude and the way we spend our time. - Hubbard, Elbert

Everyone has three characters, that which they exhibit, that which they have, and that which they think they have. - Karr, Alphonse

By constant self-discipline and self-control you can develop greatness of character. - Kleiser, Grenville

Keep in mind that the true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - Landers, Ann

You are not very good if you are not better than your best friends imagine you to be. - Lavater, Johann Kaspar

Action, looks, words, steps, form the alphabet by which you may spell character. - Lavater, Johann Kaspar

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To succeed is nothing -- it's an accident. But to feel no doubts about oneself is something very different: it is character. - Leneru, Marie

We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it. - Lincoln, Abraham

In this world a man must either be anvil or hammer. - Longfellow, Henry Wadsworth

Your character will be what you yourself choose to make it. - Lubbock, Sir John

While an original is always hard to find, he is easy to recognize. - Mason, John L.

Character consists of what you do on the third and fourth tries. - Michener, James A.

A man's reputation is what other people think of him; his character is what he really is. - Miner, Jack

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If anyone tells you someone has changed their character; don't believe it. - Mohammed

Character is what you are in the dark. - Moody, Dwight L.

Reputation is what men and women think of us. Character is what God and the angels know of us. - Paine, Thomas

When men speak ill of thee, live so as nobody may believe them. - Plato

I would rather be adorned by beauty of character than jewels. Jewels are the gift of fortune, while character comes from within. - Plautus, Titus Maccius

Character is simply habit long continued. - Plutarch

I have conquered an empire but I have not been able to conquer myself. - Peter The Great

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Some people are born hammers, others anvils. - Proverb

A man never discloses his own character so clearly as when he describes another s. - Richter, Jean Paul

Character isn't something you were born with and can't change, like your fingerprints. It's something you weren't born with and must take responsibility for forming. - Rohn, Jim

It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself. - Roosevelt, Eleanor

It is with trifles and when he is off guard that a man best reveals his character. - Schopenhauer, Arthur

Good character is not formed in a week or a month. It is created little by little, day by day. Protracted and patient effort is needed to develop good character. - Sivananda, Sri Swami

The man who cannot believe in himself cannot believe in anything else. The basis of all integrity and character is whatever faith we have in our own integrity.

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- Smith, Roy L.

You must regulate your life by the standards you admire when you are at your best. - Thomas, John M.

Before you advise anyone Be yourself! reassess his character. - Unknown, Source

The test of any man's character is how he takes praise. - Unknown, Source

It is better for the development of character and contentment to do certain things badly for yourself than to have them done better for you by someone else. - Unknown, Source

Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions. - Einstein, Albert

To know is nothing at all; to imagine is everything. - Einstein, Albert

Reason can answer questions, but imagination has to ask them. - Gerard, Ralph

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No one ever discovers the depths of his own loneliness. - Bernanos, Georges

The eternal quest of the human being is to shatter his loneliness. - Cousins, Norman

Columbus discovered no isle or key so lonely as himself. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

In cities no one is quiet but many are lonely; in the country, people are quiet but few are lonely. - Fisher, Geoffrey F.

At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with one's lost self. - Francis, Brendan

We enter the world alone, we leave the world alone. - Froude, James A.

One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.

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- Ashe, Arthur

The history of the world is full of men who rose to leadership, by sheer force of self-confidence, bravery and tenacity. - Gandhi, Mahatma

Self-confidence is the result of a successfully survived risk. - Gibb, Jack

Those who believe that they are exclusively in the right are generally those who achieve something. - Huxley, Aldous

A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity. - Long, Lazarus

I have great faith in fools; My friends call it self-confidence. - Poe, Edgar Allan

Calm self-confidence is as far from conceit as the desire to earn a decent living is remote from greed. - Pollock, Channing

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There's one blessing only, the source and cornerstone of beatitude -- confidence in self. - Seneca

Do not attempt to do a thing unless you are sure of yourself; but do not relinquish it simply because someone else is not sure of you. - White, Stewart E.

Without self-confidence we are as babes in the cradles. And how can we generate this imponderable quality, which is yet so invaluable most quickly? By thinking that other people are inferior to oneself. - Woolf, Virginia

A gentleman doesn't pounce he glides. If a woman sits on a piece of furniture which permits your sitting beside her, you are free to regard this as an invitation, though not an unequivocal one. - Crisp, Quentin

Seduction is often difficult to distinguish from rape. In seduction, the rapist often bothers to buy a bottle of wine. - Dworkin, Andrea

He in a few minutes ravished this fair creature, or at least would have ravished her, if she

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had not, by a timely compliance, prevented him. - Fielding, Henry

You have to penetrate a woman's defenses. Getting into her head is a prerequisite to getting into her body. - Guccione, Bob

The trouble with Ian is that he gets off with women because he can't get on with them. - Lehmann, Rosamond

The most important thing about goals is having one. - Abert, Geoffrey F.

For the truly faithful, no miracle is necessary. For those who doubt, no miracle is sufficient. - Gibbs, Nancy

An act of God was defined as something which no reasonable man could have expected. - Herbert, A. P.

If the grace of God miraculously operates, it probably operates through the subliminal door. - James, William

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An event described by those to whom it was told by men who did not see it. - Hubbard, Elbert

Miracles do not, in fact, break the laws of nature. - Lewis, C. S.

Don't believe in miracles -- depend on them. - Peter, Laurence J.

Everything is a miracle. It is a miracle that one does not dissolve in one's bath like a lump of sugar. - Picasso, Pablo

There are no miracles for those that have no faith in them. - Proverb, French

There are two types of people. Those we who come into a room and say, Well, here I am! and those who come in and say, Ah, there you are. - Collins, Frederick L.

No matter where or what, there are makers, takers, and fakers. - Heinlein, Robert

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Sad people dislike the happy, and the happy the sad; the quick thinking the sedate, and the careless the busy and industrious. - Horace

Some people can stay longer in an hour than others can in a week. - Howells, William Dean

The person who can be only serious or only cheerful, is but half a man. - Hunt, Leigh

All the people like us are We, and everyone else is They. - Kipling, Rudyard

A person well satisfied with themselves is seldom satisfied with others, and others, rarely are with them. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

There are people who in spite of their merit disgust us, and others who please us in spite of their faults. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

In each of us there is a little of all of us.

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- Lichtenberg, Georg C.

I've always been interested in people, but I've never liked them. - Maugham, W. Somerset

When you have a taste for exceptional people, you always end up meeting them everywhere. - Orlan, Mac

That you may please others you must be forgetful of yourself. - Ovid

There are only three types of people; those who have found God and serve him; those who have not found God and seek him, and those who live not seeking, or finding him. The first are rational and happy; the second unhappy and rational, and the third foolish and unhappy. - Pascal, Blaise

There are three kinds of people; those that make things happen, those that watch things happen and those who don't know what's happening. - Proverb, American

We are the people our parents warned us about.

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- Unknown, Source

There are two kinds of people; those who can count and those who can't. - Unknown, Source

There are two kinds of people in the world. Those who walk into a room and say, There you are and those who say, Here I am - Van Buren, Abigail

We are all what we pretend to be, but, we had better be very careful what we pretend. - Vonnegut Jr., Kurt

To live happily is an inward power of the soul. - Aurelius, Marcus

What shall it profit a man if he shall gain the whole world and lose his own soul - Bible

The soul gives unity to what it looks at with love. - Carlyle, Thomas

It is only to the individual that a soul is given. - Einstein, Albert

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Two souls with but a single thought, Two hearts that beat as one. - Halm, Fredrich

The soul, like the body, lives by what it feeds on. - Holland, Josiah Gilbert

Man is so made that when anything fires his soul, impossibilities vanish - La Fontaine, Jean De

Age wrinkles the body. Quitting wrinkles the soul. - Macarthur, Douglas

Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up interest wrinkles the soul. - Macarthur, Douglas

The soul is not where it lives, but where it loves. - Proverb

A little body often harbors a great soul. - Proverb

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Great souls endure in silence. - Schiller, Johann Friedrich Von

What the inner voice says will not disappoint the hoping soul. - Schiller, Johann Friedrich Von

From the looks not the lips the soul speaks. - Unknown, Source

I sought my soul, but my soul I could not see. I sought my God, but my God eluded me. I sought my brother and I found all three. - Unknown, Source

To be rooted is perhaps the most important and least recognized need of the human soul. - Weil, Simone

A person who is keen to shake your hand usually has something up his sleeve. - Guiness, Sir Alec

To read between the lines was easier than to follow the text. - James, Henry

We should often be ashamed of our finest actions if the world understood all the motives

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behind them. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

Whenever a man does a thoroughly stupid thing, it is always from the noblest motives. - Wilde, Oscar

The unhappy derive comfort from the misfortunes of others. - Aesop

A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can. - Austen, Jane

An accident is an inevitable occurrence due to the actions of immutable natural laws. - Bierce, Ambrose

We should look to the mind, and not to the outward appearance. - Aesop

The center that I cannot find is known to my unconscious mind. - Auden, W. H.

What impresses men is not mind, but the result of mind.

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- Bagehot, Walter

The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend. - Bergson, Henri L.

Where there is an open mind, there will always be a frontier. - Brande, Dorothea

The hand is the cutting edge of the mind. - Bronowski, Jacob

You've got to watch your mind all the time or you'll awaken and find a strange picture on your press. - Buckley, Lord

All things tend to corrupt perverted minds. - Cicero, Marcus T.

Have a strong mind and a soft heart. - D'Angelo, Anthony J.

Prayer puts you in touch with the infinite and prepares your mind for the finite. - Daniel, Peter

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It is not enough to have a good mind, the main thing is to use it well. - Descartes, Rene

Minds are like parachutes, they only function when they are open. - Dewar, Thomas Robert

The more you use your brain, the more brain you will have to use. - Dorsey, George A.

The trouble with most people is that they think with their hopes or fears or wishes, rather than their minds. - Durant, William J.

The chief function of the body is to carry the brain around - Edison, Thomas A.

We cannot see things that stare us in the face until the hour comes that the mind is ripened. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

The mind is like an iceberg, it floats with one-seventh of its bulk above water. - Freud, Sigmund

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Ninety-nine percent of who you are is invisible and untouchable. - Fuller, Buckminster

A girl with brains ought to do something with them besides think. - Loos, Anita

Much of your pain is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self. - Gibran, Kahlil

I am not a disbeliever in those who have told me they went to bed in the evening with an unsolved problem on their mind and woke up in the morning to find, waiting for them there in their consciousness, the correct answer. - Hanson, Dr. Jean

The beauty of the human mind is that any decision that is made can be unmade. - Hendricks, Gay

Just as our eyes need light in order to see, our minds need ideas in order to conceive. - Hill, Napoleon

Remember, when life's path is steep, to keep your mind even.

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- Horace

The closed mind, if closed long enough, can be opened by nothing short of dynamite. - Johnson, Gerald W.

Not all those who know their minds know their hearts as well. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

The mind is its own place, and in itself can make heaven of hell, a hell of heaven. - Milton, John

Your world is a living expression of how you are using and have used your mind. - Nightingale, Earl

There's nobody out there. It's all in here. - Pancoast, Mal

We are that which activates the body. - Pilgrim, Peace

The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled. - Plutarch

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How are you ever going to stop being weary until you've made your mind up to be strong. - Praise, Endless

Money spent on the mind is never spent in vain. - Proverb

It is the mind that makes one wise or ignorant, bound or emancipated. - Ramakrishna, Sri

The incredible thing about the human mind is that is didn't come with an instruction book. - Riley, Terry

We employ the mind to rule, the body to serve. - Sallust

He who has a mind to do mischief will always find a pretense. - Syrus, Publilius

Don't let your mind go wandering, its too small to go out by itself. - Unknown, Source

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One dull pencil is worth two sharp minds. - Unknown, Source

Some minds are like concrete, all mixed up and permanently set. - Unknown, Source

What you THINK about reveals what you ARE. Sometimes we need to do a check-up from the neck-up. - Unknown, Source

We term sleep a death by which we may be literally said to die daily; in fine, so like death, I dare not trust it without my prayers. - Browne, Sir Thomas

Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise. - Franklin, Benjamin

Sleep is a reward for some, a punishment for others. For all, it is a sanction. - Lautreamont, Isidore Ducasse, Comte De

Six hours for a man, seven for a woman, and eight for a fool. - Proverb, English

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Hope is a waking dream. - Aristotle

Hope is the dream of a waking man. - Aristotle

Hope is a good breakfast but a bad supper. - Bacon, Francis

A generation which ignores history has no past and no future. - Heinlein, Robert

Learning isn't a means to an end; it is an end in itself. - Heinlein, Robert

Belief gets in the way of learning. - Heinlein, Robert

Any man who does not accept the conditions of human life sells his soul. - Baudelaire, Charles

Dear to us are those who love us... but dearer are those who reject us as unworthy, for they add another life; they build a heaven before us whereof we had not dreamed, and

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thereby supply to us new powers out of the recesses of the spirit, and urge us to new and unattempted performances. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

We keep going back, stronger, not weaker, because we will not allow rejection to beat us down. It will only strengthen our resolve. To be successful there is no other way. - Graves, Earl G.

Tears are the summer showers to the soul. - Austin, Alfred

Tears are the symbol of the inability of the soul to restrain its emotion and retain its self command. - Amiel, Henri Frederic

Tearless grief bleeds inwardly. - Bovee, Christian Nevell

The soul would have no rainbow had the eyes no tears. - Cheney, John Vance

If you wish me to weep, you must first show grief yourself. - Horace

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There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. - Irving, Washington

What soap is for the body, tears are for the soul. - Proverb, Jewish

Tears are the silent language of grief. - Voltaire

Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose. - Addison, Joseph

Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. - Addison, Joseph

To live we must conquer incessantly, we must have the courage to be happy. - Amiel, Henri Frederic

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No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change. - Angelis, Barbara De

Now and then it's good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy. - Apollinaire, Guillaume

Happiness is a sort of action. - Aristotle

Remember that very little is needed to make a happy life. - Aurelius, Marcus

Real happiness is cheap enough, yet how dearly we pay for its counterfeit. - Ballou, Hosea

Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response. - Barthel, Mildred

When one is happy there is no time to be fatigued; being happy engrosses the whole attention. - Benson, Edward Frederic

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Not only is there a right to be happy, there is a duty to be happy. So much sadness exists in the world that we are all under obligation to contribute as much joy as lies within our powers. - Bonnell, John S.

Happiness comes more from loving than being loved; and often when our affection seems wounded it is only our vanity bleeding. To love, and to be hurt often, and to love again -this is the brave and happy life. - Buckrose, J.E

The secret of happiness is something to do. - Burroughs, John

To have joy one must share it. Happiness was born a twin. - Byron, Lord

To be happy we must not be too concerned with others. - Camus, Albert

But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a person and life they lead. - Camus, Albert

The only happiness a brave person ever troubles themselves in asking about, is

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happiness enough to get their work done. - Carlyle, Thomas

Remember, happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have, it depends solely upon what you think. - Carnegie, Dale

They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world. Someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for. - Chalmers, Allan K.

The creed of a true saint is to make the best of life, and to make the most of it. - Chapin, Edwin Hubbel

Happiness is a continuation of happenings which are not resisted. - Chopra, Deepak

We think a happy life consists in tranquility of mind. - Cicero, Marcus T.

Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness. - Chuang Tzu

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The greatest joy of life is to love and be loved. - Clyde, R.D.

Happiness is a hard thing because it is achieved only by making others happy. - Cloete, Stuart

Happiness, or misery, is in the mind. It is the mind that lives. - Cobbett, William

Happiness seems made to be shared. - Corneille, Pierre

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. - Dalai Lama

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. - Dalai Lama

Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul. - Democritus

The greatest happiness is to know the source of unhappiness.

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- Dostoevsky, Fyodor

A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes. - Downs, Hugh

Enjoy your happiness while you have it, and while, you have it do not too closely scrutinize its foundation. - Farrall, Joseph

Some of us might find happiness if we quit struggling so desperately for it. - Feather, William

One of the indictments of civilizations is that happiness and intelligence are so rarely found in the same person. - Feather, William

If we cannot live so as to be happy, let us so live as to deserve happiness. - Fichte, Johann G.

When what we are is what we want to be, that's happiness. - Forbes, Malcolm S.

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Whoever is happy will make others happy too. - Frank, Anne

Happiness consists more in small conveniences of pleasures that occur every day, than in great pieces of good fortune that happen but seldom to a man in the course of his life. - Franklin, Benjamin

Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length. - Frost, Robert

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. - Gandhi, Mahatma

It is not our exalted feelings, it is our sentiments that build the necessary home. - Bowen, Elizabeth

The advantage of the emotions is that they lead us astray. - Wilde, Oscar

When I repress my emotion my stomach keeps score. - Powell, John Enoch

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universe which he inhabits. - Sheen, Bishop Fulton J.

Real love stories never have endings. - Bach, Richard

If you have it [Love], you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have. - Barrie, Sir James M.

To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Nothing in life is so hard that you can't make it easier by the way you take it. - Glasgow, Ellen

What happens is not as important as how you react to what happens. - Golas, Thaddeus

Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it. - Holtz, Lou

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If you have a positive attitude and constantly strive to give your best effort, eventually you will overcome your immediate problems and find you are ready for greater challenges. - Riley, Pat

Great effort springs naturally from a great attitude. - Riley, Pat

Don't be against things so much as for things. - Sanders, Col. Harland

Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. - Schlessinger, Dr. Laura

Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one. - Selye, Hans

This is the precept by which I have lived: Prepare for the worst; expect the best; and take what comes. - Speer, Robert E.

There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. That little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative. - Stone, W. Clement

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The remarkable thing is, we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. - Swindoll, Charles

We cannot change our past. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. - Swindoll, Charles

If you can't change your fate, change your attitude. - Tan, Amy

We lost because we told ourselves we lost. - Tolstoy, Count Leo

Take everything easy and quit dreaming and brooding and you will be well guarded from a thousand evils. - Uhland

Whether a glass is half full or half empty depends on the attitude of the person looking at it. - Unknown, Source

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If you look for the positive things in life; you will find them. - Unknown, Source

Your attitude determines your altitude. - Unknown, Source

A healthy attitude is contagious but don't wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier. - Unknown, Source

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. - Unknown, Source

There are things I can't force. I must adjust. There are times when the greatest change needed is a change of my viewpoint. - Ward, C. M.

Some men have thousands of reasons why they cannot do what they want to, when all they need is one reason why they can. - Whitney, Willis

Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out. - Wooden, John

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Nothing will work unless you do. - Wooden, John

Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will. - Ziglar, Zig

Keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars. - Kasem, Casey

There are many kinds of smiles, each having a distinct character. Some announce goodness and sweetness, others betray sarcasm, bitterness and pride; some soften the countenance by their languishing tenderness, others brighten by their spiritual vivacity. - Lavater, Johann Kaspar

We cannot pass our guardian angel's bounds, resigned or sullen, he will hear our sighs. - Keble, John

Millions of spiritual creatures walk the earth unseen, both when we sleep and when we awake. - Milton, John

We are each of us angels with only one wing, to fly we need only embrace each other.

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- Unknown, Source

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. - Shaw, George Bernard

Change is the end result of all true learning. Change involves three things: First, a dissatisfaction with self -- a felt void or need; second, a decision to change to fill the void or need; and third, a conscious dedication to the process of growth and change -- the willful act of making the change, doing something. - Buscaglia, Leo

Two basic rules of life: 1. Change is Inevitable 2. Everyone Resists Change. Remember this: When you are through changing... you're through. - Unknown, Source

I've met a few people who had to change their jobs in order to change their lives, but I've met many more people who merely had to change their motive to service in order to change their lives. - Pilgrim, Peace

People who wait for changes to occur on the outside before they commit to making changes on the inside will never make any changes at all. - Unknown, Source

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Change your thoughts and you change your world. - Peale, Norman Vincent

Things don't change, but by and by our wishes change. - Proust, Marcel

To change and change for the better are two different things - Proverb, German

Change yourself, change your fortunes. - Proverb, Portuguese

People do no change with the times, they change the times. - Shaw, P.K.

Anything that changes your values changes your behavior. - Sheehan, George

Change is inevitable. Change for the better is a full-time job. - Stevenson, Adlai E.

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God give me the serenity to accept things which cannot be changed;Give me courage to change things which must be changed;And the wisdom to distinguish one from the other. - Niebuhr, Reinhold

You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. - Murdock, Mike

When it becomes more difficult to suffer than change -- then you will change. - Unknown, Source

Growth means change and change involves risk, stepping from the known to the unknown. - Shinn, George

What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself. - Maslow, Abraham H.

We do not succeed in changing things according to our desire, but gradually our desire changes. - Proust, Marcel

A fanatic is one who can't change his mind and won't change the subject. - Churchill, Winston

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We are restless because of incessant change, but we would be frightened if change were stopped. - Bryson, Lyman L.

The art of progress is to preserve order amid change, and to preserve change amid order. - Whitehead, Alfred North

Sometimes the answer to prayer is not that it changes life, but that it changes you. - Freeman, James Dillet

Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced. - Baldwin, James

If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get results. - Dixon, Jack

Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others. - Braude, Jacob M.

The self-image is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self image and you change the personality and the behavior.

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- Maltz, Maxwell

The most valuable of all education is the ability to make yourself do the thing you have to do, when it has to be done, whether you like it or not. - Huxley, Aldous

If you want to be happy for a year, plant a garden; If you want to be happy for life, plant a tree. - Proverb, English

Many people lose their tempers merely from seeing you keep yours. - Colby, Frank Moore

The worst-tempered people I've ever met were the people who knew they were wrong. - Mizner, Addison

A strong man and a waterfall always channel their own path. - Unknown, Source

Build up your weaknesses until they become your strong points. - Rockne, Knute

Strong character is brought out by change, weak ones by permanence.

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- Paul, Jean

Our self image, strongly held, essentially determines what we become - Maltz, Maxwell

Women wish to be loved not because they are pretty, or good, or well bred, or graceful, or intelligent, but because they are themselves. - Amiel, Henri Frederic

The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together. - Angelis, Barbara De

Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and others have greatness thrust upon them. [Twelfth Night] - Shakespeare, William

Everyone admits that love is wonderful and necessary, yet no one agrees on just what it is. - Ackerman, Diane

Love is a great beautifier.

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- Alcott, Louisa May

Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible -- it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could. - Angelis, Barbara De

Love's greatest gift is its ability to make everything it touches sacred. - Angelis, Barbara De

There is love of course. And then there's life, its enemy. - Anouilh, Jean

Well-ordered self-love is right and natural. - Aquinas, St. Thomas

Oh, love is real enough; you will find it someday, but it has one archenemy -- and that is life. - Ardele, Jean Anouilh

In a great romance, each person plays a part the other really likes. - Ashley, Elizabeth

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What does love look like? It has the hands to help others. It has the feet to hasten to the poor and needy. It has eyes to see misery and want. It has the ears to hear the sighs and sorrows of men. That is what love looks like. - Augustine, St.

God loves each of us as if there were only one of us. - Augustine, St.

Love is the beauty of the soul. - Augustine, St.

Love, and do what you like. - Augustine, St.

Not all of us have to possess earthshaking talent. Just common sense and love will do. - Auvil, Myrtle

What the world really needs is more love and less paper work. - Bailey, Pearl

The motto of chivalry is also the motto of wisdom; to serve all, but love only one. - Balzac, Honore De

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Do you want to know a good way to fall in love? Just associate with all your pleasant experiences with someone, and disassociate from all the unpleasant ones. - Bandler, Richard

Love is just a system for getting someone to call you darling after sex. - Barnes, Julian

The fate of love is that it always seems too little or too much. - Barr, Amelia E.

If it is your time, love will track you down like a cruise missile. - Barry, Lynda

The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they're still alive. - Battista, Orlando A.

Where love is concerned, too much is not even enough. - Beaumarchais, Pierre De

Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out... - Collier, Robert

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Every day is just one day. - Unknown, Source

Patience is passion tamed. - Abbott, Lyman

Our real blessings often appear to us in the shape of pains, losses and disappointments; but let us have patience and we soon shall see them in their proper figures. - Addison, Joseph

Slow and steady wins the race. - Aesop

Perhaps there is only one cardinal sin: impatience. Because of impatience we were driven out of Paradise, because of impatience we cannot return. - Auden, W. H.

Little by little, through patience and repeated effort, the mind will become stilled in the Self. - Bhagavad Gita

Patience. A minor form of despair disguised as a virtue. - Bierce, Ambrose

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Nature thrives on patience; man on impatience. - Boese, Paul

Never think that God's delays are God's denials. Hold on; Hold fast; Hold out. Patience is genius. - Buffon, Georges-Louis Leclerc

Patience is not active; on the contrary, it is active; it is concentrated strength. - Bulwer-Lytton, Edward G.

Our patience will achieve more than our force. - Burke, Edmund

If you are right, take the humble side -- you will help the other fellow. If you are wrong, take the humble side -- and you will help yourself. - Unknown, Source

Appearances are deceptive. - Aesop

Outside show is a poor substitute for inner worth. - Aesop

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Regardless of how you feel inside, always try to look like a winner. Even if you are behind, a sustained look of control and confidence can give you a mental edge that results in victory. - Ashe, Arthur

Clothes and manners do not make the man; but when he is made, they greatly improve his appearance - Beecher, Henry Ward

Think not I am what I appear. - Byron, Lord

You and I do not see things as they are. We see things as we are. - Cohen, Herb

You are only what you are when no one is looking. - Edwards, Robert C.

He that has a great nose, thinks everybody is speaking of it. - Fuller, Thomas

Things are seldom what they seem.

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- Gilbert, W. S.

Beware, so long as you live, of judging men by their outward appearance. - La Fontaine, Jean De

The Lord prefers common looking people. That is why he made so many of them. - Lincoln, Abraham

First appearance deceives many. - Phaedrus

All things are becoming to good people. - Proverb

The best mirror is an old friend. - Proverb

Be not deceived with the first appearance of things, for show is not substance. - Proverb, English

We see things as we are, not as they are. - Rosten, Leo

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When two people relate to each other authentically and humanly, God is the electricity that surges between them. - Buber, Martin

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. - Aristotle

Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart. - Aurelius, Marcus

Do not worry about whether or not the sun will rise. Be prepared to enjoy it. - Unknown, Source

Sex. In America an obsession. In other parts of the world a fact. - Dietrich, Marlene

No woman needs intercourse; few women escape it. - Dworkin, Andrea

Sex is two plus two making five, rather than four. Sex is the X ingredient that you can't define, and it's that X ingredient between two people that make both a man and a woman

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good in bed. It's all relative. There are no rules. - Feldman, Marty

Whoever named it necking is a poor judge of anatomy. - Marx, Groucho

Skill makes love unending. - Ovid

Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go it's one of the best. - Unknown, Source

Sex is like money; only too much is enough. - Updike, John

Sex is a conversation carried out by other means. If you get on well out of bed, half the problems of bed are solved. - Ustinov, Peter

Seek always for the answer within. Be not influenced by those around you, by their thoughts or their words - Caddy, Eileen

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Prudent, cautious self-control, is wisdom's root. - Burns, Robert

When the fight begins within himself, a man's worth something. - Browning, Robert

A little kingdom I possess, where thoughts and feelings dwell; And very hard the task I find of governing it well. - Alcott, Louisa May

It is better to light one small candle than to curse the darkness. - Confucius

Worry not that no one knows of you; seek to be worth knowing. - Confucius

Most people would rather give than get affection. - Aristotle

In nine cases out of ten, a woman had better show more affection than she feels. - Austen, Jane

The heart will break, but broken live on.

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- Byron, Lord

The heart always sees before than the head can see. - Carlyle, Thomas

Men, as well as women, are much oftener led by their hearts than by their understandings. - Chesterfield, Lord

Their is a road from the eye to heart that does not go through the intellect. - Chesterton, Gilbert K.

The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers. - Chopra, Deepak

Within your heart, keep one still, secret spot where dreams may go. - Driscoll, Louise

Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts. - Einstein, Albert

Love conquers all; let us surrender to Love. - Virgil

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Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit. - Ustinov, Peter

But I always think that the best way to know God is to love many things. - Van Gogh, Vincent

We were two and had but one heart between us. - Villon, Francois de Montcorbier

No three words have greater power than I Love You. - Unknown, Source

If there is anything better than to be loved it is loving. - Unknown, Source

I define love for our purpose as the passion of one being for another in the hope of being loved in return. - Unknown, Source

Once you have learned to love, You will have learned to live. - Unknown, Source

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LOVE, the feeling, is the fruit of LOVE, the verb. - Unknown, Source

Love will find a way. Indifference will find an excuse. - Unknown, Source

Love may be blind, but it can sure find its way around in the dark! - Unknown, Source

Love is the bridge between two hearts. - Unknown, Source

Love is like a poisonous mushroom -- you don't know if it is the real thing until it is too late - Unknown, Source

Live for love. Without love, you don't live. - Unknown, Source

It is well to be happy and wise and well to be honest and true; it is well to be off with the old love, before you are on with the new. - Unknown, Source

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Many will detest you if you spend all your love on yourself. - Unknown, Source

Without His love I can do nothing, with His love there is nothing I cannot do. - Unknown, Source

What's so remarkable about Love at first sight? It's when people have been looking at each other for years that it becomes remarkable. - Unknown, Source

What most people need to learn in life is how to love people and use things instead of using people and loving things. - Unknown, Source

True love means two seeds grow separately until they join in Matrimony forever. - Unknown, Source

All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. - Tolstoy, Count Leo

The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.

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- Tracy, Brian

Listen! Encourage. Say something. Do something. Be yourself. Love - Turner, Rev. Dale

There is no remedy for love than to love more. - Thoreau, Henry David

Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame. - Thoreau, Henry David

Love is stronger than justice. - Sting

What force is more potent than love? - Stravinsky, Igor

To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough. But is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be. - Strong, Anna

To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven.

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- Sunde, Karen

After the verb To Love...To Help is the most beautiful verb in the world. - Suttner, Bertha Von

We live in the world when we love it. - Tagore, Rabindranath

I pray Thee, O God, that I may be beautiful within. - Socrates

One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life; that word is love. - Sophocles

To love and be loved is the great happiness of existence. - Smith, Sydney

Love is not a matter of counting the years -- it's making the years count. - Smith, Wolfman Jack

Love sought is good, but given unsought is better. - Shakespeare, William

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Everything comes to us from others. To Be is to belong to someone. - Sartre, Jean-Paul

Love... Force it and it disappears. You cannot will love, nor even control it. You can only guide its expression. It comes or it goes according to those qualities in life that invite it or deny its presence. - Seabury, David

True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked. - Segal, Erich

Those whom true love has held, it will go on holding. - Seneca

If you wish to be loved; Love! - Seneca

There is only one happiness in life -- to love and to be loved. - Sand, George

I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them,

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heard by them, to be understood and touched by them. - Satir, Virginia

Charm is a glow within a woman which casts a most becoming light on others. - Brown, John Mason

Charm is a way of getting the answer yes without having asked any clear question. - Camus, Albert

There is no personal charm so great as the charm of a cheerful temperament. - Dyke, Henry Van

The charm of history and its enigmatic lesson consist in the fact that, from age to age, nothing changes and yet everything is completely different. - Huxley, Aldous

There are charms made only for distance admiration. - Johnson, Samuel

Charm is a product of the unexpected. - Marti, Jose

Charm is more than beauty.

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- Proverb, Yiddish

A plain woman is one who, however beautiful, neglects to charm. - Saltus, Edgar

Charming people live up to the very edge of their charm, and behave as outrageously as the world lets them. - Smith, Logan Pearsall

Charm is the ability to make someone think that both of you are quite wonderful. - Unknown, Source

All charming people, I fancy, are spoiled. It is the secret of their attraction. - Wilde, Oscar

It's absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious. - Wilde, Oscar

She learned to say things with her eyes that others waste time putting into words - Ford, Corey

O Polly, you might have toyed and kissed, by keeping men off, you keep them on. - Gay, John

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God created the flirt as soon as he made the fool. - Hugo, Victor

All women are flirts, but some are restrained by shyness, and others by sense. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

No matter how happily a woman may be married, it always pleases her to discover that there is a nice man who wishes that she were not. - Mencken, H. L.

Flirting is the gentle art of making a man feel pleased with himself. - Rowland, Helen

The hardest task of a girl's life, nowadays, is to prove to a man that his intentions are serious. - Rowland, Helen

Why does a man take it for granted that a girl who flirts with him wants him to kiss her -when, nine times out of ten, she only wants him to want to kiss her? - Rowland, Helen

Whoever loves above all the approach of love will never know the joy of attaining it.

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- Saint-Exupery, Antoine De

When a flirt fishes for a man, she fishes merely for the sport. - Unknown, Source

He never does a proper thing without giving an improper reason for it. - Shaw, George Bernard

Your talent is God's gift to you; what you do with it is your gift to God. - Buscaglia, Leo

Because thou must not dream, thou need not despair. - Arnold, Matthew

Reverie is not a mind vacuum. It is rather the gift of an hour which knows the plenitude of the soul. - Bachelard, Gaston

The moment of enlightenment is when a person's dreams of possibilities become images of probabilities. - Braden, Vic

I have dreamed in my life, dreams that have stayed with me ever after, and changed my

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ideas; they have gone through and through me, like wine through water, and altered the color of my mind. - Bronte, Emily

Before your dreams can come true, you have to have those dreams. - Brothers, Dr. Joyce

Follow your bliss. - Campbell, Joseph

If your dream is a big dream, and if you want your life to work on the high level that you say you do, there's no way around doing the work it takes to get you there. - Chapman, Joyce

I do not understand the capricious lewdness of the sleeping mind. - Cheever, John

Nothing is as real as a dream. The world can change around you, but your dream will not. Responsibilities need not erase it. Duties need not obscure it. Because the dream is within you, no one can take it away. - Clancy, Tom

One of the characteristics of the dream is that nothing surprises us in it. With no regret,

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we agree to live in it with strangers, completely cut off from our habits and friends. - Cocteau, Jean

Dreams get you into the future and add excitement to the present. - Conklin, Robert

When your heart is in your dream, no request is too extreme. - Cricket, Jiminy

Don't be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so. - Davis, Belva

Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die tomorrow. - Dean, James

If you have a dream, give it a chance to happen. - DeVos, Richard M.

No person has the right to rain on your dreams. - Edelman, Marian Wright

It is never too late to be what you might have been.

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- Eliot, George

Dreams are real as long as they last. Can we say more of life? - Ellis, Havelock

To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to do. - Gibran, Kahlil

If you don't have a dream, how are you going to make a dream come true? - Hammerstein, Oscar

Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true. - Hill, Napoleon

All men of action are dreamers. - Huneker, James G.

All human beings are also dream beings. Dreaming ties all mankind together. - Kerouac, Jack

It's not what the dream is but what the dream does.

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- Johnson, John

It is on the whole probably that we continually dream, but that consciousness makes such a noise that we do not hear it. - Jung, Carl

There are those that look at things the way they are, and ask why? I dream of things that never were, and ask why not. - Kennedy, Robert F.

The more you can dream, the more you can do. - Korda, Michael

It may be those who do most, dream most. - Leacock, Stephen B.

All men dream, but unequally. Those that dream at night in the dusty recesses of their minds awake the next day to find that their dreams were just vanity. But those who dream during the day with their eyes wide open are dangerous men; they act out their dreams to make them reality. - Lawrence, Thomas E.

You will achieve grand dream, a day at a time, so set goals for each day -- not long and

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difficult projects, but chores that will take you, step by step, toward your rainbow. Write them down, if you must, but limit your list so that you won't have to drag today's undone matters into tomorrow. Remember that you cannot build your pyramid in twenty-four hours. Be patient. Never allow your day to become so cluttered that you neglect your most important goal -- to do the best you can, enjoy this day, and rest satisfied with what you have accomplished. - Mandino, Og

Dreams are necessary to life. - Nin, Anais

Everything starts as somebody's day dream. - Niven, Larry

We are near waking when we dream we are dreaming. - Novalis

The smaller the head, the bigger the dream. - O'Malley, Austin

Big thinking precedes great achievement. - Peterson, Wilferd A.

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All that we see or seem, is but a dream within a dream. - Poe, Edgar Allan

Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night. - Poe, Edgar Allan

If a little dreaming is dangerous, the cure for it is not to dream less but to dream more, to dream all the time. - Proust, Marcel

If you want your dreams to come true, don't over sleep. - Proverb, Yiddish

I dreamed a thousand new paths. I woke and walked my old one. - Proverb, Chinese

A man's dreams are an index to his greatness. - Rabinowitz, Zadoc

It has never been my object to record my dreams, just the determination to realize them. - Ray, Man

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The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. - Roosevelt, Eleanor

Know thyself, believe in God, and dare to dream. - Salley, John

Nothing happens unless first a dream. - Sandburg, Carl

Dreams show you that you have the power... - Schucman, Helen

Are you disappointed, discouraged and discontented with your present level of success? Are you secretly dissatisfied with your present status? Do you want to become a better and more beautiful person than you are today? Would you like to be able to really learn how to be proud of yourself and still not lose genuine humility? Then start dreaming! It?s possible! You can become the person you have always wanted to be! - Schuller, Robert H.

You can often measure a person by the size of his dream. - Schuller, Robert H.

Build a dream and the dream will build you.

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- Schuller, Robert H.

Thought are but dreams till their effects are tried. - Shakespeare, William

And our dreams are who we are. - Sher, Barbara

You must go after your wish. As soon as you start to pursue a dream, your life wakes up and everything has meaning. - Sher, Barbara

Aim for your star, no matter how far, you must reach high above and touch your life with love, you must never look back, but charge on! Attack! See your goal your star of desire, see it red hot, feel it burning, you must be obsessed with it to make it your true yearning, be ready my friends for when you truly believe it, you will certainly achieve it and by all of God?s universal laws you will always receive it! - Smith, Bob

How many of our daydreams would darken into nightmares, were there a danger of their coming true! - Smith, Logan Pearsall

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I dream, therefore I exist. - Strindberg, J. August

Our truest life is when we are in our dreams awake. - Thoreau, Henry David

If you're going to be thinking, you may as well think big. - Trump, Donald

You can make the dream come true if you wake up and work. - Unknown, Source

Your dreams will come true... if you can see it... if you believe in it... then you can achieve it. - Unknown, Source

A house is made of walls and beams; a home is built with love and dreams. - Unknown, Source

Oversleeping will never make one's dreams come true. - Unknown, Source

Dreams are free.

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- Unknown, Source

No dreamer is ever to small; no dream is ever to big. - Unknown, Source

Like dreams, small creeks grow into mighty rivers. - Unknown, Source

His life was a sort of dream, as are most lives with the mainspring left out. - Unknown, Source

A dream is your creative vision for your life in the future. You must break out of your current comfort zone and become comfortable with the unfamiliar and the unknown. - Waitley, Denis

No one every listened themselves out of a job. - Coolidge, Calvin

Only if we can restrain ourselves is good conversation possible. Good talk rises upon much discipline. - Erskine, John

I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never

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listen. - Hemingway, Ernest

The right to be heard does not automatically include the right to be taken seriously. - Humphrey, Hubert H.

When I am getting ready to reason with a man, I spend one-third of my time thinking about myself and what I am going to say and two-thirds about him and what he is going to say. - Lincoln, Abraham

Listening well is as powerful a means of communication and influence as to talk well. - Marshall, John

The word is half his that speaks, and half his that hears it. - Montaigne, Michel Eyquem De

Are you really listening... or are you just waiting for your turn to talk? - Montgomery, Robert

To be listened to is, generally speaking, a nearly unique experience for most people. It is enormously stimulating. It is small wonder that people who have been demanding all their lives to be heard so often fall speechless when confronted with one who gravely agrees to

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lend an ear. Man clamors for the freedom to express himself and for knowing that he counts. But once offered these conditions, he becomes frightened. - Murphy, Robert C.

We only consult the ear because the heart is wanting. - Pascal, Blaise

Nature has given us two ears, two eyes, and but one tongue-to the end that we should hear and see more than we speak. - Socrates

The first duty of love is to listen. - Tillich, Paul

You can judge a good listener by asking the talker at the end of the conversation what the listener's position is on the topic. If the talker doesn't know, then the listener has probably done a good job of listening. - Unknown, Source

Opportunities are often missed because we are broadcasting when we should be listening. - Unknown, Source

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Skillful listening is the best remedy for loneliness, loquaciousness, and laryngitis. - Ward, William A.

A good listener tries to understand what the other person is saying. In the end he may disagree sharply, but because he disagrees, he wants to know exactly what it is he is disagreeing with. - Wells, Kenneth A.

Who would not rather trust and be deceived? - Cook, Eliza

Trust men and they will be true to you; treat them greatly and they will show themselves great. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Self-trust is the essence of heroism. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

All I have seen teaches me to trust the creator for all I have not seen. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

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It is impossible to go through life without trust: that is to be imprisoned in the worst cell of all, oneself. - Greene, Graham

If women believed in their husbands they would be a good deal happier and also a good deal more foolish. - Mencken, H. L.

A faithful companion is a sure anchor. - Motto

Never trust the man who tells you all his troubles but keeps from you all his joys. - Proverb, Jewish

She knew how to trust people... a rare quality, revealing a character far above average. - Retz, Cardinal Jean Francois de

If you can't trust people, who can you trust? - Widdiconbe, Hohn

One should never trust a woman who tells her real age. If she tells that, she'll tell anything.

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- Wilde, Oscar

Must is a hard nut to crack, but it has a sweet kernel. - Spurgeon, Charles Haddon

If you want something done, ask a busy person to do it. The more things you do, the more you can do. - Ball, Lucille

It is easier to go down a hill than up, but the view is from the top. - Bennett, Arnold

Easy DOESN'T do it. - Bernstein, Al

I want you to start a crusade in you life -- to dare to be your best. - Danforth, William

Much effort, much prosperity. - Euripides

Things don't turn up in this world until somebody turns them up. - Garfield, James A.

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Effort is only effort when it begins to hurt. - Gasset, Jose Ortega Y

If one has not given everything, one has given nothing. - Guynemer, Georges

Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit. - Hill, Napoleon

God gives every bird his worm, but He does not throw it into the nest. - James, P. D.

What we hope ever to do with ease, we must learn first to do with diligence. - Johnson, Samuel

Start early and begin raising the bar throughout the day. - Jenner, Bruce

When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another. - Keller, Helen

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Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction. - Kennedy, John F.

I made up my mind long ago that life was too short to do anything for myself that I could pay others to do for me. - Maugham, W. Somerset

Welcome the task that makes you go beyond yourself. - Mcgee, Frank

Do your duty, that is best; leave unto the Lord the rest. - Mckay, David O.

What you can't get out of, get into wholeheartedly. - McLaughlin, Mignon

It is vain to do with more what can be done with less. - Occam, William Of

The struggle alone pleases us, not the victory. - Pascal, Blaise

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Always make a total effort, even when the odds are against you. - Palmer, Arnold

If a man has done his best, what else is there? - Patton, George S.

The healthiest competition occurs when average people win by putting above average effort. - Powell, Colin

If a job's worth doing, it's worth doing well. - Proverb

One may go a long way after one is tired. - Proverb, French

For every disciplined effort there is a multiple reward. - Rohn, Jim

You have to accept whatever comes and the only important thing is that you meet it with the best you have to give. - Roosevelt, Eleanor

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The one thing that matters is the effort. - Saint-Exupery, Antoine De

Life does not require us to make good; it asks only that we give our best at each level of experience. - Ruopp, Harold

Nothing can come of nothing. - Shakespeare, William

You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try. - Sills, Beverly

When you do something, you should burn yourself up completely, like a good bonfire, leaving no trace of yourself. - Suzuki, Shunryu

Whenever a man does the best he can, then that is all he can do. - Truman, Harry S

Remember that the faith that moves mountains always carries a pick. - Unknown, Source

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It's the last inch that counts. - Unknown, Source

The results you achieve will be in direct proportion to the effort you apply. - Waitley, Denis

If you have enough push, you don't have to worry about the pull. - Ziglar, Zig

You have such strong words at command, that they make the smallest argument seem formidable. - Eliot, George

The finest eloquence is that which gets things done; the worst is that which delays them. - George, David Lloyd

True eloquence consists in saying all that should be said, and that only. - La Rochefoucauld, Francois De

In an easy matter. Anybody can be eloquent. - Ovid

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For me, elegance is not to pass unnoticed but to get to the very soul of what one is. - Lacroix, Christian

We must never confuse elegance with snobbery. - Saint-Laurent, Yves

Enthusiasm releases the drive to carry you over obstacles and adds significance to all you do. - Peale, Norman Vincent

Between good sense and good taste there lies the difference between a cause and its effect. - Bruyere, Jean De La

There is no future in any job. The future lies in the man who holds the job. - Crane, George W.

Love seeks no cause beyond itself and no fruit; it is its own fruit, its own enjoyment. I love because I love; I love in order that I may love. - Bernard, St.

The man who is aware of himself is henceforward independent; and he is never bored,

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and life is only too short, and he is steeped through and through with a profound yet temperate happiness. - Woolf, Virginia

To be happy is to be able to become aware of oneself without fright. - Benjamin, Walter

Ain't no man can avoid being born average, but there ain't no man got to be common. - Paige, Leroy ''Satchel''

Remember: the average is as close to the bottom as it is to the top. - Unknown, Source

Grace is available for each of us every day -- our spiritual daily bread -- but we've got to remember to ask for it with a grateful heart and not worry about whether there will be enough for tomorrow. - Breathnach, Sarah Ban

Out of difficulties grow miracles. - La Bruyere, Jean De

Ingenuity, plus courage, plus work, equals miracles. - Richards, Bob

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The miracle on earth are the laws of heaven. - Richter, Jean Paul

Man is still the greatest miracle and the greatest problem on this earth. - Sarnoff, David

It is difficulties that give birth to miracles. - Sharpe, Dr.

A miracle is an event which creates faith. That is the purpose and nature of miracles. Frauds deceive. An event which creates faith does not deceive: therefore it is not a fraud, but a miracle. - Shaw, George Bernard

Do anything, even the impossible; it may only take a little longer when a miracle is required. - Unknown, Source

Miracles sometimes occur, but one has to work terribly hard for them. - Weizmann, Chaim.

Seeing, hearing, feeling, are miracles, and each part and tag of me is a miracle.

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- Whitman, Walt

Miracles occur naturally as expressions of love. The real miracle is the love that inspires them. In this sense everything that comes from love is a miracle. - Williamson, Marianne

What allows us, as human beings, to psychologically survive life on earth, with all of its pain, drama, and challenges, is a sense of purpose and meaning - Angelis, Barbara De

Never be afraid to treat the path alone. Know which is your path and follow it wherever it may lead you; do not feel you have to follow in someone else's footsteps. - Bellin, Gita

What we must try to be, of course, is ourselves and wholeheartedly. We must find out what we really are and what we really want. - Boswell, Nelson

The only true happiness comes from squandering ourselves for a purpose. - Brown, John Mason

If you don't stand up for something, you may fall for anything. - Brown, Les

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You have to know what is right for you and go after it regardless of what others say. - Brown, Les

Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it. - Buddha

What mankind wants is not talent; it is purpose. - Bulwer-Lytton, Edward G.

Each of our acts makes a statement as to our purpose. - Buscaglia, Leo

The purpose of man is in action not thought. - Carlyle, Thomas

The first thing to do in life is to do with purpose what one purposes to do. - Casals, Pablo

Blessed are the single-hearted, for they shall enjoy much peace. If you refuse to be hurried and pressed, if you stay your soul on God, nothing can keep you from that clearness of spirit which is life and peace. In that stillness you will know what His will is. - Carmichael, Amy

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A just cause is not ruined by a few mistakes. - Dostoevsky, Fyodor

The secret of man's being is not only to live but to have something to live for. - Dostoevsky, Fyodor

It is good to follow one's own bent, so long as it leads upward. - Gide, Andre

What is my life if I am no longer useful to others. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

Every person above the ordinary has a certain mission that they are called to fulfill. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for. - Hammarskjold, Dag

Strong lives are motivated by dynamic purposes; lesser ones exist on wishes and inclinations. - Hildebrand, Kenneth

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The meaning of life is to give life meaning. - Hudgins, Ken

Great minds have purposes; others have wishes. - Irving, Washington

Fear God and work hard. - Livingstone, David

I see no business in life but the work of Christ. - Martyn, Henry

Make sure the thing you're living for is worth dying for. - Mayes, Charles

You are only as strong as your purpose, therefore let us choose reasons to act that are big bold righteous and eternal. - Munro, Barry

To forget one's purpose is the commonest form of stupidity. - Nietzsche, Friedrich

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It's not so much how busy you are, but why you are busy. The bee is praised. The mosquito is swatted. - O'Connor, Mary

The world is my country, all mankind are my brethren, and to do good is my religion. - Paine, Thomas

It is your work in life that is your ultimate seduction. - Picasso, Pablo

Mix a conviction with a man and something happens. - Powell, Adam Clayton

Battle doesn't need a purpose; the battle is its own purpose. - Proverb

Everything happens for a reason and a purpose, and it serves you. - Robbins, Anthony

People should follow their own energy. - Schultz, Will

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Why do I not seek some real good; one which I could feel, not one which I could display? - Seneca

Every why has a wherefore. - Shakespeare, William

What we determine we often break. Purpose is but the slave to memory. - Shakespeare, William

Nothing contributes so much to tranquilizing the mind as a steady purpose-a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye. - Shelley, Mary Wollstonecraft

In a just cause the weak will beat the strong. - Sophocles

When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand. It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it. - Stone, W. Clement

Without knowing what I am and why I am here, life is impossible. - Tolstoy, Count Leo

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Ordinary people think merely of spending time. Great people think of using it. - Unknown, Source

Are we interested in sight seeing or soul saving? - Unknown, Source

He who clings to life shall lose it -- but losing it in a right cause will gain it. - Unknown, Source

Pep without purpose is piffle. - Unknown, Source

Your cause belongs to those that can avenge your wrongs. - Winkworth

You, betrayed by time and space, Seek and find your proper place. - Wizard, Her Majesty's

Don't become a wandering generality. Be a meaningful specific. - Ziglar, Zig

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No duty is more urgent than that of returning thanks. - Ambrose, St.

Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness. Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts. - Amiel, Henri Frederic

It is up to us to give ourselves recognition. If we wait for it to come from others, we feel resentful when it doesn't, and when it does, we may well reject it. - Berkowitz, Bernard

Cherish your human connections: your relationships with friends and family. - Bush, Barbara

If human beings are perceived as potentials rather than problems, as possessing strengths instead of weaknesses, as unlimited rather that dull and unresponsive, then they thrive and grow to their capabilities. - Conklin, Robert

One we discover how to appreciate the timeless values in our daily experiences, we can enjoy the best things in life. - Hepner, Harry

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Is there some principal of nature which states that we never know the quality of what we have until it is gone? - Hofstadter, Elbert

Count your blessings. Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage, and confidence. - Mandino, Og

That which we obtain too easily, we esteem too lightly. - Paine, Thomas

There's a basic human weakness inherent in all people which tempts them to want what they can't have and not want what is readily available to them. - Ringer, Robert J.

It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor. - Seneca

The greatest need of every human being is the need for appreciation. - Unknown, Source

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Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention. - Anderson, Greg

Happiness depends upon ourselves. - Aristotle

The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one does. - Barrie, Sir James M.

Be happy or die. - Cohen, Rob

Who we are never changes. Who we think we are does. - Almanac, Mary S.

People can cry much easier than they can change. - Baldwin, James

Change your life today. Don't gamble on the future, act now, without delay. - Beauvoir, Simone De

Any change, even for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts.

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- Bennett, Arnold

Change is difficult but often essential to survival. - Brown, Les

We must all obey the great law of change. It is the most powerful law of nature. - Burke, Edmund

Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me. - Burnett, Carol

In pain is a new time born. - Chamisso, Adelbert Von

Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely. - Clark, Karen Kaiser

You do not notice changes in what is always before you. - Colette, Sidonie Gabrielle

Become a student of change. It is the only thing that will remain constant. - D'Angelo, Anthony J.

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Change is inevitable. Change is constant. - Disraeli, Benjamin

It is change; all yields its place and goes. - Euripides

We must have the courage to allow a little disorder in our lives. - Weininger, Ben

We do not stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing. - Unknown, Source

Character develops itself in the stream of life. - Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

I hope for the day when everyone can speak again of God without embarrassment. - Tillich, Paul

The man or woman who is wholly or joyously surrendered to Christ can't make a wrong choice--any choice will be the right one. - Tozer, A. W.

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To pray is to pay attention to something or someone other than oneself. Whenever a man so concentrates his attention -- on a landscape, a poem, a geometrical problem, an idol, or the True God -- that he completely forgets his own ego and desires, he is praying. The primary task of the schoolteacher is to teach children, in a secular context, the technique of prayer. - Auden, W. H.

Spiritual favors are not always to be looked for, and not always to be relied on. - Barr, Amelia E.

The man who says his evening prayer is a captain posting his sentinels. He can sleep. - Baudelaire, Charles

If I regard wickedness in my heart the Lord will not hear. [Psalms 66:18] - Bible

If this obstacle is from Thee, Lord, I accept it; but if it is from Satan, I refuse him and all his works in the name of Calvary. - Kuhn, Isobel

That prayer has great power which a person makes with all his might. It makes a sour heart sweet, a sad heart merry, a poor heart rich, a foolish heart wise, a timid heart brave,

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a sick heart well, a blind heart full of sight, a cold heart ardent. It draws down the great God into the little heart; it drives the hungry soul up into the fullness of God; it brings together two lovers, God and the soul, in a wondrous place where they speak much of love. - Magheburg, Mechthild of

Gratitude bestows reverence, allowing us to encounter everyday epiphanies, those transcendent moments of awe that change forever how we experience life and the world. - Milton, John

Whatsoever we beg of God, let us also work for it. - Taylor, Jeremy

Battering the gates of heaven with the storms of prayer. - Tennyson, Lord Alfred

Unless you can find some sort of loyalty, you cannot find unity and peace in your active living. - Royce, Josiah

Suspense is worst than disappointment. - Burns, Robert

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It is easy -- terribly easy -- to shake a man's faith in himself. To take advantage of that to break a man's spirit is devil's work. - Shaw, George Bernard

Follow your instincts. That's where true wisdom manifests itself. - Winfrey, Oprah

Accept fate, and move on. Don't yield to the seductive pull of self-pity. Acting like a victim threatens your future. - Unknown, Source

To give real service you must add something which cannot be bought or measured with money, and that is sincerity and integrity. - Adams, Douglas

If I feel depressed I will sing. If I feel sad I will laugh. If I feel ill I will double my labor. If I feel fear I will plunge ahead. If I feel inferior I will wear new garments. If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice. If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come. If I feel incompetent I will think of past success. If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals. Today I will be the master of my emotions. - Mandino, Og

Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later. - Mandino, Og

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Deliver more than you are getting paid to do. The victory of success will be half won when you learn the secret of putting out more than is expected in all that you do. Make yourself so valuable in your work that eventually you will become indispensable. - Mandino, Og

Never allow anyone to rain on your parade and thus cast a pall of gloom and defeat on the entire day. Remember that no talent, no self-denial, no brains, no character, are required to set up in the fault-finding business. Nothing external can have any power over you unless you permit it. Your time is too precious to be sacrificed in wasted days combating the menial forces of hate, jealously, and envy. Guard your fragile life carefully. Only God can shape a flower, but any foolish child can pull it to pieces. - Mandino, Og

To do anything truly worth doing, I must not stand back shivering and thinking of the cold and danger, but jump in with gusto and scramble through as well as I can. - Mandino, Og

The victory of success is half won when one gains the habit of setting goals and achieving them. Even the most tedious chore will become endurable as you parade through each day convinced that every task, no matter how menial or boring, brings you closer to fulfilling your dreams. - Mandino, Og

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Sound character provides the power with which a person may ride the emergencies of life instead of being overwhelmed by them. Failure is... the highway to success. - Mandino, Og

The great difference between those who succeed and those who fail does not consist in the amount of work done by each but in the amount of intelligent work. Many of those who fail most ignominiously do enough to achieve grand success but they labor haphazardly at whatever they are assigned, building up with one hand to tear down with the other. They do not grasp circumstances and change them into opportunities. They have no faculty for turning honest defeats into telling victories. With ability enough and ample time, the major ingredients of success, they are forever throwing back and forth an empty shuttle and the real web of their life is never woven. - Mandino, Og

It is those who concentrates on but one thing at a time who advance in this world. The great man or woman is the one who never steps outside his or her specialty or foolishly dissipates his or her individuality. - Mandino, Og

Let your actions always speak for you, but be forever on guard against the terrible traps of false pride and conceit that can halt your progress. The next time you are tempted to boast, just place your fist in a full pail of water, and when you remove it, the hole remaining will give you a correct measure of your importance. - Mandino, Og

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I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person. - Mandino, Og

Happiness is secured through virtue; it is a good attained by man's own will. - Aquinas, St. Thomas

To convert somebody go and take them by the hand and guide them. - Aquinas, St. Thomas

If the copying machines that came along later had been here during the war, I'm not sure the allies would have won. We'd all have drowned in paper. - Dickey, Alan

Fortune cannot be flattered by such fetish worship. But she can be wooed and won by

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hard work. - Beaverbrook, Lord

Luck marches with those who give their very best - Brown Jr., H. Jackson

Teach only love for that is what you are. - A Course In Miracles

Bear the inevitable with dignity. - Streckfuss

Change is not only likely, it's inevitable. - Sher, Barbara

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. - Casey, M Kathleen

The mode in which the inevitable comes to pass is through effort. - Holmes, Oliver Wendell

The mark of a good action is that it appears inevitable in retrospect. - Stevenson, Robert Louis

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Every life is a profession of faith, and exercises an inevitable and silent influence. - Amiel, Henri Frederic

Your level of belief in yourself will inevitably manifest itself in whatever you do. - Brown, Les

It is the mark of a good action that it appears inevitable in retrospect. - Stevenson, Robert Louis

Unexplained joy is always so keen that... it seems to hold enough to reconcile one to the inevitable. - Fremont, Jessie B.

We inevitably doom our children to failure and frustration when we try to set their goals for them. - Lair, Dr. Jess

There is no good in arguing with the inevitable. The only argument available with an east wind is to put on your overcoat. - Lowell, James Russell

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more

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important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes. - Swindoll, Charles

I am responsible. Although I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening, I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have ? life itself. - Anderson, Walter

If I were asked to give what I consider the single most useful bit of advice for all humanity it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and when it comes, hold you head high, look it squarely in the eye and say, I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me. - Landers, Ann

The effects of our actions may be postponed but they are never lost. There is an

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inevitable reward for good deeds and an inescapable punishment for bad. Meditate upon this truth, and seek always to earn good wages from Destiny. - Fu Wu Ming

Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls. A joyful heart is the inevitable result of a heart burning with love - Mother Teresa

The most essential factor is persistence -- the determination never to allow your energy or enthusiasm to be dampened by the discouragement that must inevitably come. - Riley, James Whitcomb

When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece. - Ruskin, John

Family life is too intimate to be preserved by the spirit of justice. It can be sustained by a spirit of love which goes beyond justice. - Niebuhr, Reinhold

The law of harvest is to reap more than you sow. Sow an act, and you reap a habit. Sow a habit and you reap a character. Sow a character and you reap a destiny. - Allen, James

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Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved. - Bryan, William Jennings

Destiny is an absolutely definite and inexorable ruler. Physical ability and moral determination count for nothing. It is impossible to perform the simplest act when the gods say no. I have no idea how they bring pressure to bear on such occasions; I only know that it is irresistible. - Crowley, Aleister

A consistent soul believes in destiny, a capricious one in chance. - Disraeli, Benjamin

Thoughts lead on to purposes; purposes go forth in action; actions form habits; habits decide character; and character fixes our destiny. - Edwards, Tryon

Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

I knew what my job was; it was to go out and meet the people and love them. - Diana, Princess of Wales

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We are not permitted to choose the frame of our destiny. But what we put into it is ours. - Hammarskjold, Dag

Success is sweet and sweeter if long delayed and gotten through many struggles and defeats. - Alcott, Amos Bronson

You don't pay the price for success. You enjoy the price for success. - Ziglar, Zig

If a man has talent and cannot use it, he has failed. If he has talent and uses only half of it, he has half failed. If he has a talent and learns somehow to use the whole of it, he has gloriously succeeded, and won a satisfaction and a triumph few men ever know. - Wolfe, Thomas

Material possessions, winning scores, and great reputations are meaningless in the eyes of the Lord, because He knows what we really are and that is all that matters. - Wooden, John

It is most difficult, in my mind, to separate any success, whether it be in your profession, your family, or as in my case, in basketball, from religion. - Wooden, John

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Success is no exclusive club. It is open to each individual who has the courage to choose his own goal and go after it. It is from this forward motion that human growth springs, and out of it comes the human essence known as character. - Whitman, Howard

There is no royal road; you've got to work a good deal harder than most people want to work. - Wilson, Charles E.

I would rather fail in a cause that will ultimately succeed than succeed in a cause that will ultimately fail. - Wilson, Woodrow T.

I couldn't wait for success, so I went ahead without it. - Winters, Jonathan

The great accomplishments of man have resulted from the transmission of ideas and enthusiasm. - Watson, Thomas J.

There is always room at the top. - Webster, Daniel

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Only a life built into God's place can succeed. Half of our discouragements are due to the fact that we are not in tune with the infinite harmony of the Great Power, We should be helpers in building the city of God. A city that will endure when all earthly - Welch, Bishop Herbert E.

Success in life is a matter not so much of talent as of concentration and perseverance. - Wendte, C. W.

Success and money have nothing in common. - Unknown, Source

Success consists of doing the common things of life uncommonly well. - Unknown, Source

Success is best measured by how far you've come with the talents you've been given. - Unknown, Source

A successful person is a dreamer whom someone believed in. - Unknown, Source

We don't need more strength or more ability or greater opportunity. What we need is to use what we have.

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- Walsh, Basil S.

Success is not a doorway, it's a staircase. - Walters, Dottie

Success can make you go one of two ways. It can make you a prima donna, or it can smooth the edges, take away the insecurities, let the nice things come out. - Walters, Barbara

The secret of success is to do all you can do without thought of success. - Unknown, Source

You can never have real success till you meet the real person -- YOU. - Unknown, Source

Make service your first priority, not success and success will follow. - Unknown, Source

Formula for Success... and then some. The top people do what's expected of them, and then some. They are thoughtful and considerate of others, and then some. They meet their obligations and responsibilities fairly and squarely, and then some. They are good friends to their friends, and then some. They can be counted on in an emergency, and then some. And so it is when we do what is assigned to us in our lives and in the church,

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and then some; then the Lord pays in full, and then some. - Unknown, Source

If the truth be known, most successes are built on a multitude of failures. - Unknown, Source

Big men become big by doing what they didn't want to do when they didn't want to do it. - Unknown, Source

There's always something about your success that displeases even your best friends. - Twain, Mark

Success is more attitude than aptitude. - Unknown, Source

You already have every characteristic necessary for success. - Unknown, Source

Success occurs when opportunity meets preparation. - Unknown, Source

Success is failure turned inside out. - Unknown, Source

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The road to success is lined with many tempting parking spaces - Unknown, Source

You don't have to stay up nights to succeed; you have to stay awake days. - Unknown, Source

The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear. - Tracy, Brian

Success depends on our using, and not opposing... - Troward, Thomas

All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, and then Success is sure. - Twain, Mark

We need not worry so much about what man descends from; it's what he descends to that shames the human race. - Twain, Mark

We must walk consciously only part way toward our goal, and then leap in the dark to our success. - Thoreau, Henry David

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You have not lived a perfect day... unless you have done something for someone who will never be able to repay you. - Smeltzer, Ruth

The only place you find success before work is in the dictionary. - Smith, May V.

There is no success without hardship. - Sophocles

To be what we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming, is the only end of life. - Stevenson, Robert Louis

Here is the basic rule for winning success. Let's mark it in the mind and remember it. The rule is: Success depends on the support of other people. The only hurdle between you and what you want to be in is the support of other people. - Schwartz, David J.

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. - Schweitzer, Albert

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To climb steep hills requires slow pace at first. - Shakespeare, William

The path to success is to take massive, determined action. - Robbins, Anthony

Not in time, place, or circumstances, but in the man lies success. - Rouss, Charles B.

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it. - Ruskin, John

Success, in a generally accepted sense of the term, means the opportunity to experience and to realize to the maximum the forces that are within us. - Sarnoff, David

The man who has done his best has done everything. - Schwab, Charles M.

Success is doing what you want to do, when you want, where you want, with whom you want, as much as you want.

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- Robbins, Anthony

If you want to succeed you should strike out on new paths, rather than travel the worn paths of accepted success. - Rockefeller, John D.

I am never upset for the reason I think. - A Course In Miracles

Everything that is beautiful and noble is the product of reason and calculation. - Baudelaire, Charles

Personal beauty is a greater recommendation than any letter of reference. - Aristotle

There is nothing impossible to him who will try. - Alexander The Great

To the timid soul, nothing is possible. - Bach, John

Impossible is a word only to be found in the dictionary of fools. - Bonaparte, Napoleon

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Most of the things worth doing in the world had been declared impossible before they were done. - Brandeis, Louis D.

If someone says can't, that shows you what to do. - Cage, John

Impossibilities are merely things which we have not yet learned. - Chesnutt, Charles W.

Attempt the impossible in order to improve your work. - Davis, Bette

Every man is an impossibility until he is born. - Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Start by doing what's necessary, then what's possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible. - Francis of Assisi, St.

It is difficult to say what is impossible, for the dream of yesterday is the hope of today and the reality of tomorrow.

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- Goddard, Robert H.

The impossible is often the untried. - Goodwin, Jim

Nothing is impossible to a willing heart. - Heywood, John

All limits are self imposed. - Icarus

With love and patience, nothing is impossible. - Ikeda, Daisaku

When anyone tells me I can't do anything. I'm just not listening any more. - Joyner, Florence Griffith

All who have accomplished great things have had a great aim, have fixed their gaze on a goal which was high, one which sometimes seemed impossible. - Marden, Orison Swett

Nothing is impossible to the man who will. - Mirabeau, Gabriel Riqueti

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The only lack or limitation is in your own mind. - Moos, N. H.

Something which we think is impossible now is not impossible in another decade. - Motley, Constance Baker

If you can't, you must. If you must, you can. - Robbins, Anthony

You must do the thing that you think you cannot do. - Roosevelt, Eleanor

The Difficult is that which can be done immediately; the Impossible that which takes a little longer. - Santayana, George

The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking. - Schuller, Robert H.

Impossible situations can become possible miracles. - Schuller, Robert H.

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Today's accomplishments were yesterday's impossibilities. - Schuller, Robert H.

To the timid and hesitating everything is impossible because it seems so. - Scott, Sir Walter

Apparently there is nothing that cannot happen today. - Twain, Mark

A man's limitations are not the things he wants to do and can t; they are the things he ought to do but doesn't. The difficult we will do eventually, the impossible will just take a little more time. - Unknown, Source

I didn't know it was impossible when I did it - Unknown, Source

In dreams and love there are no impossibilities. - Unknown, Source

Man can believe the impossible, but man can never believe the improbable. - Wilde, Oscar

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We must do our business faithfully, without trouble or disquiet, recalling our mind to God mildly, and with tranquility, as often as we find it wandering from him. - Lawrence, Brother

Faithfulness and sincerity are the highest things. - Confucius

It is better to be unfaithful than faithful without wanting to be. - Bardot, Brigitte

By faithfulness we are collected and wound up into unity within ourselves, whereas we had been scattered abroad in multiplicity. - Augustine, St.

Faith is a continuation of reason. - Adams, William

In faith and hope the world will disagree, But all mankind's concern is charity. - Alexander The Great

May it not be that, just as we have to have faith in Him, God has to have faith in us and, considering the history of the human race so far, may it not be that faith is even more

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difficult for Him than it is for us? - Auden, W. H.

Faith is to believe what we do not see; and the reward of this faith is to see what we believe. - Augustine, St.

Any woman who thinks the way to a man's heart is through his stomach is aiming about 10 inches too high. - Gusoff, Adrienne

Difficult times always create opportunities for you to experience more love in your life. - Angelis, Barbara De

You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity. - Angelis, Barbara De

A human being is a single being. Unique and unrepeatable. - Caddy, Eileen

The open-minded see the truth in different things: the narrow-minded see only the differences.

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- Unknown, Source

A mother understands what a child does not say. - Proverb, Jewish

Only he who believes is obedient and only he who is obedient believes. - Bonhoeffer, Dietrich

Those who know the least obey the best. - Farquhar, George

No principal is so noble, as there is none more holy, than that of a true obedience. - Giles, Henry

I have thought about it a great deal, and the more I think, the more certain I am that obedience is the gateway through which knowledge, yes, and love, too, enter the mind of the child. - Sullivan, Anne

Obedience without faith is possible, but not faith without obedience. - Unknown, Source

Unwavering obedience to the true principles we learn will assure us spiritual survival.

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- Unknown, Source

Every great person has first learned how to obey, whom to obey, and when to obey. - Ward, William A.

People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. In the end, it is between you and HIM not you and them. - Mother Teresa

The poor will always be with you. [John 12: 8] - Bible

Having been poor is no shame, but being ashamed of it, is. - Franklin, Benjamin

Make sure you visualize what you really want, not what someone else wants for you. - Gillies, Jerry

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