Blow Each Other Away

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Janet and Bill were living in the conservative Midwest, and neither of them had much education about sex. Their parents never talked about sex, and they had very little “hands-on” experience when they came to see me just three years into their marriage. Bill had been diagnosed with prostate cancer a year earlier, and after surgery he found that he was impotent. They loved each other but were very frustrated with their sex lives. Neither Janet nor Bill was having orgasms, and secretly Janet was thinking of having an affair. They had no idea that sex could be more than just a penis in a vagina. They’d never really thought about sensual massage or oral lovemaking as a way to stay intimately connected. I thought they were both going to die when I mentioned strap-ons as an alternative. I had to go slow with them on that idea. Once Janet overcame her shame around receiving oral pleasure, she had some of the best orgasms in her life. Bill was happy to feel like a good lover again. Plus he received the benefits of Janet learning to enjoy returning the favor. The smiles and blushes on their faces told me they were having a fantastic time kissing, touching, and playing with mouths on genitals. Bill started to get his erectile function back (maybe because he finally learned how to relax about the whole deal). Janet swore I saved their marriage. I wrote this book for my many students like Janet and Bill, but also for my students who just plain want to improve their already scintillating

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2 sex life. For example, David and Meg had both love and passion when they came to see me. It was a treat to watch them gush all over each other, their love spilling into the air. Meg decided that she wanted to give David multiple orgasms, and she wanted to master the art of fellatio. David just wanted to serve her. He derived so much pleasure from watching her in ecstasy. They both wanted to give to the other, with no expectation of getting anything in return. That made my job easy. I had plenty of techniques to feed their hunger to please. If you already have an amazing sex life but want to take it to the next level, there are plenty of techniques here for you too! Blow Each Other Away gives lovers . . . • The opportunity to dive deep (no pun intended, okay maybe a little pun) into unexplored pleasure through mastery of more than a hundred techniques. • Knowledge on how to kiss exquisitely and give orgasmic cunnilingus, fellatio, and anilingus. • Leading strategies for deeper connection and intimacy with your partner while giving superb oral pleasures!

I expect you to drop this book to eagerly try out the techniques. These tips are proven successful, so I guarantee you’ll be coming back for more.

What’s Unique About This Book? the pleasure wave. I’ll present an innovative and original formula that empowers you to invent and explore your own techniques. a pleasure wave is • A simple formula that helps couples create their own unique techniques for mind-blowing pleasure.

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• A proven method for optimal arousal, leading to optimal pleasure.

clinically proven techniques. I am an avid researcher. I like to research, then practice, then teach. I believe experts must be students first and always. In my private practice, I coach men, women, and couples on the art of oral lovemaking. I teach only the techniques that I have practiced and found most effective in getting the best results over and over again. Even more than all the effective techniques included here, this book also teaches you how to make the techniques work. I could teach hundreds of specific techniques, but for many couples it wouldn’t make a difference. So what does make a difference? Having a framework to help you enjoy performing and receiving each technique. It’s not actually the technique that gets the results, it’s how you use it.

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• An innovative way for you to develop touch skill—anyone who can wiggle a finger can do it!

the joy of hand-and-mouth combos. Oral sex isn’t just about mouths on genitals. It’s about hands, eyes, bodies, lips, tongues, and oh so much more. The majority of techniques in this book are focused on extraordinary combinations of body play for you and your lover to indulge in. When it comes to oral sex, most couples just think of their mouths, and they leave one of the greatest sexual assets out of the equation completely. Using your hands in combination with your mouth is what creates really scintillating experiences that can knock your partner’s socks off! focus on your connection with your partner. Most books on oral lovemaking are geared toward one gender or the other. They focus on oral techniques for a woman or oral techniques for a man. This book

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4 is a comprehensive guide to oral lovemaking for couples. Your connection to your partner, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, is the foundation from which great sex is born and relationships are sustained. adaptation of ancient techniques. One of the most unique qualities of the book is the adaptation of ancient techniques from female sexual masters, called the “White Tigresses,” who believed that giving oral sex could actually help them attain immortality. I studied the practices of these female masters for over a year and still dabble with them. I have creatively adapted the techniques for the modern-day woman. The inclusion of these ancient practices and techniques helps women to understand the importance of giving oral pleasure to men. The White Tigresses claim that oral sex is their “fountain of youth” and “secret to female health.” Guys, when women read these benefits, they will be all the more excited to give. You have the opportunity to learn a lot within the pages of this book. Feed your brain with great information, and it will help you improve your sexual life . . . practice what you learn, and you might just change your life! how can a book on oral sex change your life? • Maybe you’ve never had an orgasm, but by learning oral sex you were able to experience the joys and wonders of your first big O! • Maybe you’ve always wanted to experience a fantastic blow job, but your partner is disgusted by the idea. Imagine that she comes to love giving fellatio and is so turned on she begs you to let her give. • Maybe you can’t have intercourse due to pain or disability, but oral sex provides the opportunity for you and your lover to stay physically connected. • Maybe your entire relationship with someone you love is being affected by your lack of sexual skill. Imagine that you can become

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Sex is part of your life, part of being alive, and a big part of being in a relationship. Sex is you.

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your partner’s ultimate lover and have him or her writhing beneath your fingers and tongue.

About Me I have been teaching sex through unconventional methods for almost fifteen years. I’m a sexological bodyworker, which means that I have worked “hands on” with many of my students. When a couple comes to see me, we don’t just talk about sex; we dive into practices that will help them move past their blocks. For example, we don’t always sit in my office. We go on field trips: to the adult toy store, to a striptease class for her, to a massage class for him. Learning about sexuality is an experiential activity. I’m an award-winning sexologist, author of Red Hot Touch, and the founder of New World Sex Education, a company dedicated to using “real” sex education to help men and women get the sex lives they desire. I understand that throughout life sexuality changes, and I strive to meet my students wherever they are on their personal path to greater pleasure. My mission in the world is to shift the cultural view of sex as something bad or wrong to something that is cultivated and celebrated. I am passionate about helping women and men overcome sexual issues, usually stemming from a lack of education, that may hold them back from exquisite sex as their birthright. You may have seen me on Good Morning America, Nightline, Anderson Cooper, The Tyra Banks Show, TLC, CNN, the Oxygen Network, or Playboy TV. The tips and techniques in this book come from a variety of resources and personal experience. As a sex expert who actually makes the time to have sex (not with my clients, with my loves), I practice what I preach. I’ve tried out every technique in this book!

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6 I believe that releasing shame around our sexuality and learning about sex can change a person’s life. At the very least, it can help a person have a happier, more fulfilling existence. Every week, almost daily, I get an e-mail, a tweet, a call, or even a handwritten letter from someone telling me how much their life has changed since they started to apply what they learned from my books or DVDs. Just recently I got a letter from an organic farmer. It was one of those letters that brought tears to my eyes. I was so touched by his story. He wrote: Now I share this with you because I want you to know how much you have helped me in the past . . . six years ago when the kids had grown and gone I found out I had cancer—a tumor in my right kidney. They told me that the kidney had to be removed. I had never been in the hospital before—my wife . . . couldn’t deal with this so she filed for divorce . . . I made it through the surgery but ended up with an infection to my right testicle, which made sex painful and impossible for almost two years. Plus when they took my kidney they took something else—all my feeling and passion were gone. I did not feel bad or good. I just did not feel. A year ago I heard about you and ordered the DVD (Red Hot Touch) on erotic massage. Then I began to feel again—I later ordered your DVD on oral sex. I thought that if sex was painful to me I could at least learn how to please someone else. I guess it has helped because a few months ago a girlfriend told me that I have a lesbian tongue, so for this I can thank you. Your work helped give back the passion I had lost so please keep doing what you are doing. I am a gardener and learned long ago that when you garden with your heart you never garden alone . . . Take care and thanks again for what you do, Keith

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This book will help you learn how to enjoy giving and receiving oral sex with a deeper connection to your partner. Shame and guilt are out. Longer-lasting orgasms are in. Relationships are strengthened, and the journey to get there is fun. My mantra is—“Pleasure is your birthright.” However, the truth is— shame, fear, and lack of education about our sexuality inhibit us from claiming this basic desire. This book will help you not only improve your pleasure and relationships but also change the way you feel about oral sex and sexuality. I want to give you permission to have more pleasure in your life, to ask for what you want in the bedroom, and to overcome obstacles that may hold you back from exquisite pleasure. Hot sex is wonderful, and many books are available on how to have better, hotter sex. This book too has techniques for how, but I am interested in something more, something that really works. I am interested in the emotion, the thoughts, and the hearts of people like Keith, who want to find their passion and reconnection to their aliveness; like David and Meg, who want to take pleasure to the next level; and like Janet and Bill, who needed support to reclaim their sexuality together. I want you to use this book 99 percent of the time to focus on your thoughts and emotions about oral sex. This 99 percent will help you to create what you desire. The remaining 1 percent is the techniques and actions that you take. This may be different from what you have heard in the past, but your thoughts about sex, love, and your relationships are what makes them great or makes them miserable. Instead of flipping straight to the techniques in this book, you start at the beginning and analyze your thoughts. As for practicing the techniques in this book, I highly recommend that you set aside time for them. You don’t have to do all of them. Find the techniques that work, and practice them over and over again. This

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8 is superfun practice, and the more you practice, the more pleasure is derived! Allow the rich and explicit stories in this book to inspire you, as they have greatly inspired me. Won’t you join me in claiming the pleasure, orgasms, and connection that are your birthright? Won’t you join me in strengthening relationships through strong physical and emotional connections? Won’t you join me in shifting the world’s view about sex? This is a mission, and it starts one orgasm at a time! Let’s get to it!

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