Also by Noah St. John The Secret Code of Success The Secret Code to Lose Weight Permission to Succeed ® The Great Little Pink Book of Afformations ® (for Independent Business Professionals) The Great Little Wellness Book of Afformations ®
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DEDICATION To those who keep asking the right questions to make our world a better place for all of God’s creatures
Acknowledgements . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 Foreword by Dr. Joe Vitale . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 How This Book Was Written – and Why . . . . . . . . . . 10 Top 10 Ways to Get the Most from This Book . . . . . 14
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Why Traditional “Affirmations” Don’t Always Work as Advertised . . . . . . . . . . . . 18
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Introducing AFFORMATIONS® – A New Way to Get Better Results with Less Effort than You’re Using Now . . . . . . . . . . . 25
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How to Create AFFORMATIONS That Can Change Your Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42
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AFFORMATIONS on Health and Well-Being . . . . 53
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AFFORMATIONS on Wealth & Money. . . . . . . . . 61
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AFFORMATIONS on Self-Confidence . . . . . . . . . 70
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AFFORMATIONS on Work & Career . . . . . . . . . . 78
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AFFORMATIONS on Love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 88
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AFFORMATIONS on Relationships . . . . . . . . . . . 97
10. AFFORMATIONS on Conquering Fear . . . . . . . . 105 11. AFFORMATIONS on Overcoming Bad Habits and Addictions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 114 12. AFFORMATIONS on Spirituality . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 13. AFFORMATIONS on Life & Happiness . . . . . . . 129 14. Now What? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 138 Your Free Bonus Gift . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 144 Spread The Word . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 146 Who Is Noah St. John?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 148
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS Special thanks to: God, who makes all things possible. My friends and colleagues Jack Canfield, Dr. Joe Vitale, Dr. John Gray, and Neale Donald Walsch, for so graciously supporting my work through the years. Graham White of Effective Ethical Marketing, for giving of your time and talents so unselfishly. Dave Montague of Emerald Forest, whose unwavering belief and integrity are an inspiration to so many people. Scott Zimmerman of The Platinum Rule Group, for being a loving drill sergeant. My parents, who sacrificed and gave all they had. Finally, I am deeply grateful for The Faithful: My tens of thousands of dedicated Students around the world. Without you, there would be no life-changing seminars.
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Foreword By Dr. Joe Vitale
FOREWORD BY DR. JOE VITALE here is your mind right now? I don’t mean where is it located within you (which is an interesting question in itself); but what is your mind focused on right now? Exactly where is it?
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I learned a long time ago that my mind will go wherever I aim it. This shouldn’t be any surprise to you. As I explained in the movie The Secret, the Law of Attraction states that you will get more of whatever you focus on. For example, focus on lack and you get more lack. Focus on good and you’ll get more good.
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Good question. And that’s what this little gem of a book is all about: Asking
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the right questions. Ask the wrong question and you can stay stuck in the mud. Ask the right question and you can see choices you never noticed before. It’s all in how you operate your own mind. Noah is an expert in this area. I’ve known him for years now. I first heard of Noah when a reader of some of my own books said I needed to check him out. I did, and liked what I saw. Then he came to visit me at my estate one day. We had an exhilarating afternoon. Noah’s sincerity and boyish curiosity about life’s mysteries, as well as his humbleness about his discovery of the right question, kept me engaged throughout the few hours we spent together. We became fast friends and remain so today. Noah comes from his heart and sincerely wants to awaken people to their own inner power. And he does it through the magic of a question. Not just any question, but a question designed to awaken something miraculous within you – easily, naturally, and playfully. I wonder how many miracles you will experience while reading this book? Enjoy! Dr. Joe Vitale www.MrFire.com
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HOW THIS BOOK WAS WRITTEN – AND WHY
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It happens all the time – you’re minding your own business, holding the shampoo bottle – when suddenly, it hits you. The idea that’s going to change everything. The solution to the problem you’re facing. The answer to the question you’ve been asking. And it was right in front of you all along... This book tells the story of what can happen to you when something like that happens to you! April, 1997. A crisp spring morning like any other in New England. I was living in a dorm room at the college where I was a religious studies major. The dorm room itself was sizable enough, in that, simply by standing in the middle of the room, I could touch the walls on both sides. At that point in my life – as a divorced 30-year-old religious studies major living in a tiny dorm room of a baroque New England college – I realized that something was wrong, amazingly wrong, with my life.
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I had been studying self-help books since I was a little boy, having pulled Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People off the shelf at age seven. (A well-meaning editor told me to leave that story out of one of my previous books, because she told me no one would believe it!) Yet something was missing. Something was gnawing at me, telling me that the answer I’d been seeking was somewhere out there – that I just had to keep looking for it. Then, The Shower happened. The night before, I’d been looking around my diminutive dorm room and realized that I had posted lots of sayings or “affirmations” around the room to make myself feel better; things like, “I am happy, healthy and wealthy” and “I am good enough.” Funny, but for some reason, I never quite believed what I had spent so much time saying to myself. So, on the morning of The Shower, I was asking myself some simple but profound questions. Questions like: “If I keep saying these ‘affirmations’ and have been saying them over and over for so long, why don’t I believe them?” “If I’ve been saying positive statements to myself for years, how come I still don’t feel good about myself ?” And: “There must be a better way to get myself to believe something good about me. But what is it?” That’s when it hit me. (No, not the soap.) I realized that the human brain is always asking and searching for answers to questions. In that moment, I realized that
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thought itself is the process of asking and searching for the answers to questions. If that’s true, I reasoned, then a simple question formed naturally in my mind – a simple question that changed everything. The question was this: “If human thought is really the process of asking and searching for answers to questions, then why are we going around making statements we don’t believe?” I couldn’t think of a good answer to that question. That’s when everything changed for me – and for my tens of thousands of Students (The Faithful) around the globe who’ve since learned how to apply what I discovered in The Shower. You’ll learn what happened next – and how you can benefit from my discovery – in the pages that follow. ~~~ This new, expanded 3rd Edition of the original groundbreaking book was written for you, if you: • Want more control, more freedom and more abundance in every area of your life • Are struggling to overcome procrastination, fear or any other bad habit • Want to enjoy greater self-confidence and get more done with less effort
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• Are seeking to enhance the balance between your faith, your family and your career • Want to find a better way to use the greatest gift you’ve been given: your own mind This little book holds the answers to questions you may have had for years – and provides answers to questions you didn’t even know you had! Enjoy this little book from beginning to end, and share it with your friends, family and co-workers. Then be amazed as the miracle of your abundant life unfolds before you... Ask away! Noah St. John, Founder and CEO SuccessClinic.com
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TOP 10 WAYS TO GET THE MOST FROM THIS BOOK A book should be luminous, not voluminous. – Oliver Wendell Holmes 1. Read it through all at once. This book is short on purpose. I know you’re busy. That’s why I designed it to fit easily in your purse or briefcase. You won’t find any complex psychological theories here (well, just one – but I explain it pretty quickly and it’s easy to understand). 2. Set the book down and wonder. Once you’ve read it through the first time, put it down for a while. Take a walk. Let ideas come to you. 3. Highlight the passages that have special meaning to you. Did a certain phrase or question bring up strong feelings in you? Underline or highlight those passages so you can refer to them later. Also, write the date next to the text you’ve highlighted, so that each time you revisit this book, you’ll see just how far you’ve come.
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4. Use the questions in this book to guide you, but don’t feel limited by them. In Chapter 3, you’ll learn how to create empowering questions of your own. Remember, you are creating your life right now by the questions you’re asking – why not make them work in your favor? 5. Teach this technique twice.
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6. Allow the method to be as simple as it is. Many of our Students at my seminars feel a little embarrassed, because sometimes it doesn’t feel like you’re doing anything! Yes, you often need to work hard and sacrifice to get what you want. But consider that many of the most important things in the world – love, peace, serenity – often appear, not because we work hard at them, but because we allow them.
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7. Yet, don’t be fooled by how easy this method appears. The Faithful – my tens of thousands of Students with whom I’ve shared The Afformations Method – have told me that this process has changed their lives in ways both immediate and long-lasting. But just because it’s easy doesn’t mean you don’t have to do anything. You WILL have to change many of the things you’ve been thinking and saying to yourself, perhaps for most of your life. The Afformations Method will work just as well for you as it has for The Faithful, if you trust yourself and trust the Method. 8. Do the exercises in the book. You can’t do 20 push-ups merely by reading a book about how to do it. You have to roll up your sleeves and do it. You’ll find that the benefits of doing the simple exercises I prescribe will far outweigh the pain of having done them. Really. 9. Write and share your experiences with us. I love to read your success stories! Write and share them with me. My staff and I are also here to help any time you have questions. Just visit SuccessClinic.com for more information. 10.Finally, remember your job on Earth is to serve others and be blessed in the process.
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As you bless others, the blessings will return to you, too. There’s plenty to go around, and through The Afformations Method, you’ll learn how to let abundance manifest in your own life. Share the gift of YOU with others, and watch your own life and the lives of those around you change for the better...for good!
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Chapter 1.
WHY TRADITIONAL “AFFIRMATIONS” DON’T ALWAYS WORK AS ADVERTISED Every sentence I utter must be understood not as an affirmation, but as a question. – Niels Bohr, Nobel Prize winning physicist ave you ever wanted to change your life? If you want more control over your business, more money to enjoy the fruits of your labor, or more freedom to do the things you really want to do, the answer is almost certainly “yes.”
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• Trying to get support from your spouse • Writing or saying “affirmations” Hey, what’s that last one! A great many of us have tried using “affirmations” to change our lives – but the questions is: why? Because that’s what a lot of very successful people have told you to do. For decades, many very successful people have built fortunes persuading you and me and millions of others about the importance of using “affirmations” to change your life. The second question we should be asking when it comes to “affirmations” is: do they really work? The answer is: sometimes. Wouldn’t it be helpful to know what actually makes “affirmations” work – and what makes them sometimes NOT work?
HOW THE HUMAN MIND WORKS Consider this: the human mind has created every work of art, poetry, science, religion, philosophy, mathematics, history, and romance that has ever existed. Here are just a few of the things you can do with your wonderful mind: Arrange, blueprint, chart, construct, create, design, devise, discover, dream up, engineer, evoke, fabricate, fashion, form, frame, generate, hatch, imagine, improvise, invent, lead, manipulate, make up, mastermind, originate, produce, provoke, plan, plot, prepare, rig, scheme, shape, spark, think, throw together, whip up, work out.
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Isn’t that amazing? And you can do all that before breakfast! We often think of ourselves as being static, fixed, unchanging beings: “I am what I am and that’s that.” But think a new thought for a moment. Have you ALWAYS been that way? Were you the way you are now when you first learned to walk...first learned to ride a bicycle...went to your first day of school...opened your first bank account...went on your first date...had your first child? All of these stages in life meant one thing: CHANGE. You had to accept a new reality when you went from crawling to walking...from being dependent on your parents to being independent...from working for someone else to starting your own business! So your life really is the process of changing from one set of circumstances to another (hopefully better) set of circumstances. Now, here’s where it gets interesting...
WHAT THE TRADITIONAL SUCCESS TEACHERS TOLD YOU What is an “affirmation”? Simply put, an affirmation is a statement of something you’d like to be true in your life. William James, often called the father of modern psychology, has been widely quoted as saying, “The greatest discovery of my generation is that anyone can alter their lives by altering
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their attitudes of mind.” What’s rarely pointed out, however, is that since William James died in 1910, that means several generations have had the chance to “alter” their lives by changing their thoughts. Your thoughts are very literal seeds that you plant every minute of every hour of every day, whether you’re aware of it or not. These thought-seeds are planted (whether or not you’re aware of them) in the fertile soil of Infinite Intelligence, which simply takes your thought-seeds and hands them back to you as Your Life. You would think, then, with the millions of self-help books published that support this notion, that by now we’d all know how to change our lives simply by changing our attitudes of mind. All you have to do is look around you to see that, unfortunately, that’s not exactly the case. Yet. The question is...
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WHAT TRADITIONAL SUCCESS TEACHERS FORGOT TO TELL YOU Let’s say you’re having trouble with money and you’d like to
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change that. (Actually, the only “trouble” with money is you have some, and everyone else has all the rest!) And say that you’ve been raised on the traditional method described, which says that in order to change your life, must first change your thoughts.
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Makes sense so far. You know and realize the truth of the statement, “As you sow, so shall you reap,” the fact that thoughts are the seeds you plant. And let’s say that you went back to your childhood and realized that you grew up experiencing lack, and identified that the thought that’s holding you back is, “I don’t have enough.” Now that you’ve identified the main thought that’s been holding you back, you realize that your next step is to change that thought. In other words, you want to stop planting negative thought-seeds (what you don’t want) and start planting positive thought-seeds (what you want). So now you begin to do what the traditional success teachers have been telling you: start using “affirmations” or positive statements. Why? Because you’re trying to change your thoughts, and naturally the way to do that is to say, write or think different statements – changing the negative to positive. So, to combat the negative thought-seed of “I don’t have enough,” you begin saying, writing and thinking the positive thought-seed of “I have enough” or even, “I am rich.” And, because you’re such a good student, you do this over and over and over...which would change your attitude, which would change your results, which would mean your money problems are over!
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Right? ~~~ All right, let’s try it. Say to yourself right now, “I am rich.” Say it again. “I am rich.” What just happened in your mind? Did you hear something else in there? A voice... a voice that said something like... “Yeah, right.” Let me ask you a question – friend to friend: Do you honestly believe your own “affirmations” – or do you doubt them? The plain and simple truth is that many of us doubt our own “affirmations.” Why? Because you’re trying to convince yourself of something you don’t believe is true. Now, traditional success teachers realized that you may not believe that you are, in fact, rich and that you do, in fact, have enough. So they told you, with very good intentions, that all you had to do was repeat your “affirmations” a million kajillion times until, eventually, you believed them. Have you ever realized you were holding onto a negative
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thought (for example, “I’m poor, I’m lonely, I don’t have enough”)...decided you wanted something better...wrote and said positive “affirmations” (for example, “I am rich, I’m happy, I have enough”)…… And then had... Absolutely nothing happen? Me too. And about a gazillion other people. Why? If it were as easy as they said, why did nothing happen? Were we simply incapable of thinking a positive thought? Were we not smart enough, not motivated enough, not educated enough...or did we just not try hard enough? Dear friend, the answer is none of these. The answer is: you were using conscious statements when your subconscious mind responds to questions. You were trying to overcome negative beliefs using statements, when it’s so much easier to overcome them using questions. You were telling when you should have been asking. What on Earth do I mean?
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Chapter 2.
AFFORMATIONS® – A NEW WAY TO ASK POSITIVE QUESTIONS FOR GREATER RESULTS I don’t pretend to have all the answers. But the questions are sure worth thinking about. – Arthur C. Clarke, author of 2001: A Space Odyssey id you see what just happened? I ended the last chapter with something that made you curious: a question. The dictionary defines “question” as: “an expression of inquiry that calls for a reply.” So when you ask yourself a question, what happens?
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WHAT EVERY PROBLEM YOU’LL EVER FACE REALLY IS Do you know what every problem you’ll ever face is? We
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typically fear, try to avoid, ignore, or get away from problems. But really, a problem is simply a question that hasn’t been answered yet. Any problem, from the trivial to the tremendous, is really a question searching for an answer. Here are a few serious global problems and their associated questions: Global warming: “How can we stop destroying the Earth and still live the lives we want?” Poverty: “How can we equally distribute the wealth of the world so that people don’t have to go without the basic necessities of life?” Unemployment: “How can we get everyone working in jobs that produce wealth for themselves and help society function better as well?” (Notice I didn’t say these were easy questions. That’s why we haven’t found all the answers yet!) What about the problems people face on the personal or professional level? Wanting to be more successful: “How can I be more successful in my life and business?” Lack of organization: “Why can’t I find what I’m looking for?” Wanting companionship: “Why can’t I meet the person of my dreams?” If you’d like to change any of these, you could use the traditional “affirmation” method by saying things like: “I am a suc-
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cess, I am organized, I don’t procrastinate” and so on. You may believe these statements, and you may not. Many people have responded to “affirmations” like these in a simple manner: by not believing them (the “Yeah, right” response). Now, if “affirmations” work for you, that’s great! If, however, you’re not totally satisfied with the results, why not try something so simple, yet so powerful, that the traditional teachers skipped right over it on the way to breakfast: Rather than making a statement you may not believe, why not ask yourself a question that can transform your life!
HOW YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE The staggering realization I made in The Shower on that fateful morning in 1997 was that you are creating the reality of your life at this very moment in two ways: by the statements you say to yourself and others, and by the questions you ask yourselves and others. Traditional success teachers have focused a great deal of energy telling you to change your statements. But until The Shower happened to me, no one had fully realized, or shown how to harness, the awesome power of
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what happens when you change the questions. Your mind has what you might call an Automatic Search Function, which means that when you ask yourself a question, your mind automatically begins to Search for an answer. (Psychologists have referred to this function of the human brain as the “embedded presupposition factor.”) The greatest teachers throughout history have taught the truth of the statement, “As you sow, so shall you reap.” This is often called The Law of Sowing and Reaping (Emerson called it “First Law”) or The Law of Attraction, which means that what you focus on (the thought-seeds you continually plant) will grow and bear fruit. As we’ve seen, traditional teachers told you to change your thinking if you want to change your life. And that’s quite correct. What they said, however, was to change the statements you’re making, yet almost completely ignored the questions you’re asking. Yet the Bible tells us, “You have not because you ask not,” and “Ask and you shall receive.”
If you only change the statements you say without changing the questions you ask, you’re missing out on one of the easiest, yet most powerful ways to change your life that’s ever been discovered!
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HOW A 13-YEAR-OLD GIRL CURED HER COMPULSIVE WORRYING I got a call one day from Mary, a professional salesperson from Wisconsin who had attended one of our Secret Code of Success workshops. The first words out of her mouth were, “Your work has been life-changing to me!” When I asked her what she meant, she told me the following story: After attending your seminar and learning how to use Afformations, I realized that if it could work for me, it could also work for my 13-year-old daughter Stefanie. She’s a high achiever who gets all A’s in school, but she’s also a chronic and compulsive worrier. Stefanie worried so much that she had severe sleeping problems. She’d lay awake many nights worrying, until finally she’d come into our bedroom and wake us from a sound sleep so we could comfort her. We tried everything. We read to her. We prayed with her. We were even considering taking her to therapy. Still the worrying – and the sleepless nights – continued. She would cry and ask me, “Why do I worry so much?” It broke my heart because I couldn’t help my own daughter. Finally, when I heard you teach Afformations at
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your seminar, I realized this could be the answer I’d been praying for! When I came back from your seminar, I taught Stefanie how to use Afformations, and we talked for a long time about what questions would make the most difference in her life. She was as excited as I was! The questions we came up with were: “Why am I worry-free?” “Why do I enjoy a full night’s sleep? “Why do I put trust in God’s hands?” “Why do all my friends love me?” “Why do I love me?” Now she’s a different kid! From the very first day she started using Afformations – it was truly miraculous, like turning on a dime! – Stefanie’s worrying stopped. She also became much happier, more relaxed and seems to be at peace in her own skin. And you know how hard that can be for teenagers nowadays – especially teenage girls! Your books were first self-help books I’ve ever read where I actually did the exercises. Thank you for making such a difference in our lives! Mary then told me that not only did Afformations improve her own business and enable her daughter to quit worrying,
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she also started sharing Afformations with everyone she met. When her husband Scott told her that he wasn’t passionate about his work, Mary began afforming, “Why is the right calling coming to Scott?” Within weeks, he landed his dream position. And get this: it was a job working at Stefanie’s high school!
EMPOWERING vs. DISEMPOWERING QUESTIONS Do you know what most people are doing with their lives? Most people are going through life asking negative questions – and wondering why they’re not getting the results they dream of! Let’s examine these empowering vs. disempowering questions. We’ll start with disempowering questions, because while they’re the kind you may be used to, they’re also the ones you want to get rid of immediately. These are questions like, “Why am I so afraid? Why doesn’t anyone love me? How come I never get the breaks other people get?” No one says these questions on purpose, but you may be asking them without knowing it. Now I’d like you to try consciously asking these common disempowering questions, and see how you feel: “Why don’t I have enough money? How come I’m so lonely? Why am I such a loser? Why can’t I do anything right?”
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As I explain in my weekend Secret Code of Success seminars, each of us has a Negative Reflection in our subconscious mind – that negative “voice” that tells us we can’t do anything right. The Negative Reflection always asks negative or disempowering questions. The ultimate result of these negative questions is that you will manifest what you focus on. In other words, when you ask yourself negative questions, you get negative results. Use the space on the next page to list the five most disempowering questions your Negative Reflection asks you on a regular basis. Yes, I mean right now. They may have come from someone in your past, or it could be something you made up on your own. It’s vital that you know exactly what your own disempowering questions are, so you can begin to turn them around. (Note: You might want to write the date next to your questions, so when you come back to this book later, you’ll see just how far you’ve come.) Please do this right now. I’ll be right here when you get back.
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3. 4. 5. Whew. Pretty bad, aren’t they? Are you ready to find a better way?
EMPOWERING QUESTIONS – THE RIGHT QUESTIONS Now that you’ve identified what your personal disempowering questions are, you may ask, “What are empowering questions – and how can I start asking them instead of the negative ones?” Glad you asked! Empowering questions cause your mind to focus on the positive. The only answers to empowering questions are answers or experiences that produce feelings of self-esteem and a positive self-image! Empowering questions lead to answers that tell the Truth about Who You Really Are. Let’s change your disempowering questions on the previous page to empowering questions. How do we do this? Simply reverse the negative question to a positive! For example, if your disempowering question is, “Why am I such a loser?”, your empowering question would be, “Why am I such a success?” All right, grab your pen and get ready to experience the difference. Here goes...
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5 NEW EMPOWERING QUESTIONS I’M GOING TO START ASKING: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Pretty cool, huh? Did you notice something shift in your mind? Guess what? You’ve just begun an amazing journey...
The purpose of The Afformations® Method is to change your disempowering questions to empowering questions. This will give you conscious control of the thought-seeds you’re planting, which will, through The Law of Attraction, change your life.
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HOW AN INSURANCE SALESMAN WENT FROM $1,500 A MONTH TO $120,000 A YEAR Brandon, an insurance salesman from Utah, called our offices one day and I happened to pick up the phone. I liked him immediately. He was warm, open and told me that he had spent over $30,000 on every self-help program under the sun – yet he was still only making about $1,500 to $2,000 a month. Brandon had heard about our Secret Code of Success programs and decided to invest in the home-study materials we offer. Here’s what happened, in Brandon’s own words: After spending over a decade and more than $30,000 on everything from books, tapes and seminars to actually becoming certified as an NLP practitioner, what has happened to me as a result of using Afformations is nothing short of amazing. After going through Noah’s home-study materials just once, I realized that I was asking myself disempowering questions that were stopping my growth, like “Why can’t I get any new referrals?” I immediately started asking myself positive Afformations. First, I began asking, “Why do I get referrals every day?” Within 4 days I had received 9 new referrals to new clients – that was completely unlike any numbers I had gotten in the past.
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And the fun didn’t stop there! I wrote a list of 150 different Afformations that I began carrying around in my pocket. My favorite? “Why is it so easy and so okay for me to have, do and be anything I want?” Before I met Noah, my sales averaged between $1,500 and $2,000 a month. In the first month of using Noah’s program, my sales tripled. (Remember, these numbers are crunched by an insurance company!) By the end of the year, my personal income had increased by 560% and I was named Agent of the Year. This was in spite of going through a divorce and my grandmother passing away. After that first year, I realized I was ready to get back into a relationship. So I began afforming: “Why am I so lucky to meet the perfect girl for me so quickly?” In less than 40 days, I met a fantastic woman – but what’s truly miraculous is that if we’d met just one week earlier, I wouldn’t have been open to meeting her, because I wanted someone over 21 years old (I was 27 at the time) – and we met just 4 days after her 21st birthday! My advice? Do this work. It can save you years of your life and many thousands of dollars!
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WHY ARE THEY CALLED AFFORMATIONS? Let’s return to what we’ve learned already: the human mind operates by asking and answering questions. Therefore, when you ask yourself a question repeatedly, your mind must Search for an answer to your question. I named this process of using empowering questions the use of Afformations, or The Afformation Method. So where did the word Afformation come from? After my discovery in The Shower, I realized the process of asking empowering questions was something that could completely revolutionize the field of self-help and personal development. I also realized that I had to come up with a word to describe the process of asking empowering questions, so people would be able to fully understand the amazing power of their own minds. One of my favorite subjects in high school was Latin. (Yes, I was a geek long before they put the word “computer” in front of it.) After The Shower, I discovered that the word “affirmation” comes from the Latin word firmare, which means “to make firm.” I began asking myself, “If ‘affirmations’ are positive new statements, what would the perfect word thought be to describe empowering questions?” Then the answer came to me (of course!):
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I realized that when we ask questions of ourselves or others – whether positive or negative – we are really FORMING new thought patterns, which can FORM a new life for us. The word “form” comes from the Latin word formare, which means “to form or give shape to.” That’s when it hit me: what if you’re making something FIRM, but in the wrong FORM? It was at that moment that I realized the real reason “affirmations” aren’t very effective for changing our lives – because we’re trying to make something FIRM before we’ve FORMED what we really want. I realized that instead of making something FIRM, we needed to FORM questions that would change the thought-seeds we were sowing, which would change our lives. And that’s how the word – and the teaching of – AFFORMATIONS® was born. (By the way, it’s perfectly legitimate to invent a new word to describe a new way of looking at the universe. For example, remember the first time you heard the words Internet, CD-ROM, or even software? Just a few short years ago, these words had no meaning because the technology they describe didn’t exist. There was no context for the words; no context, no meaning. Now you use those terms every day. In this book, I’m teaching you a new technology of the mind – hence, AFFORMATIONS: a new word to describe a new technology.)
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THE BOTTOM LINE: YOU’RE ALREADY DOING THIS! In case you’re still wondering if this works, or thinking this is the nuttiest thing you’ve ever heard, let us offer you one final fact:
You are already using AFFORMATIONS all the time anyway. Thoughts like “Why am I so stupid?” or “Why can’t I do anything right?” are simply negative Afformations! These questions are really the Negative Reflection forming itself inside your mind, thereby forming your very life. Once, during one of our Secret Code of Success seminars in Virginia, a young couple came up to me, literally jumping up and down with excitement! They said they’d heard me speak about afformations at the annual Mary Kay Seminar in Dallas, where over 50,000 business professionals from around the world come to learn from some of the world’s best speakers. Here’s their story: At your workshop, we heard you explain how to use afformations to change your life. We’d been doing “affirmations” for the past four years just as we were instructed: we made “affirma-
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tion” tapes, said them to one another, placed them on our refrigerator, even hung “affirmation” signs in the shower. Well, all we got was a bunch of wet words. After hearing you speak about Afformations at your workshop, we were very excited. We realized the power of asking ourselves empowering questions and letting our minds Search for the answers. We started to use Afformations in exactly the same way we’d been using traditional “affirmations”: we asked each other our new questions, placed them on our refrigerator, and talked about our new Afformations day after day. The results were absolutely amazing! We heard you speak at Seminar in July. By August, we realized we were doing a lot of things differently because of the Afformations we were using. And in September, we qualified for our first Pink Cadillac! After more than four years of using traditional “affirmations” with little to show for it, we got the exact results we wanted in less than 3 months using Afformations. This professional couple had been very committed to using the traditional method. They’d even said “affirmations” out loud to one another – now that’s commitment! Yet “affirmations” simply didn’t enable them to overcome their negative subconscious beliefs.
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Using Afformations, their minds began to Search for new, creative ways to find solutions to their problems. And the results spoke for themselves. The power to create your life using Afformations lies within you and your miraculous, marvelous mind. You’re already using them anyway...why not do it consciously to create the life you want, rather than unconsciously creating a life you don’t want? By the way, if you still doubt the power of Afformations, there is a sentence eleven letters long that represents the genesis of every work of art, science, philosophy, and religion in human history. If you are still not sure whether Afformations will work for you, here are the eleven letters that have, in a very real sense, created human history: “Why am I alive?” ~~~ You’ll find the easiest way to create Afformations that can change your life beginning on the next page...
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HOW TO CREATE AFFORMATIONS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE Take the attitude of a student: never be too big to ask questions, never know too much to learn something new. – Og Mandino Author of The Greatest Salesman in the World reating empowering Afformations can be one of the most significant steps you’ll ever take to gain more control over your business, raise your self-confidence, improve your personal relationships, or enjoy a deeper relationship with God. Use the following four steps to create powerful Afformations that will help you use your mind to create the life you really want:
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is you really want, or start from scratch. You decide. This little book is organized into the 10 major areas of life – from Wealth & Money to Health to Self-Confidence to Life & Happiness. Go through each category and determine what you really want. (Please note that traditional success literature stops right here! Traditional success teachers have told you to set your goals and then say “affirmations” that attempt to convince your brain that you “will have” or even that you “do have” what you want. While this can also work, The Afformations Method makes reaching your goals so much easier, because it uses your mind’s Automatic Search Function to discover positive answers to your new, empowering questions.) So, for example, you might decide that your goal is to be happy, healthy and wealthy (hard to imagine anyone NOT wanting those things!). So in Step One, you would write: “I want to be happy, healthy and wealthy.” Now we go to the essential step...
Step 2: Form your desire into a question that assumes that what you want is already true. In Step 2, you start asking a question that assumes that what you want is already so, has already happened, or is already true!
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This is the most essential step to create empowering Afformations that can change your life! In the example above, what you want is to be happy, healthy and wealthy, right? Well, in this step you ask yourself WHY this is already so! Your Life is a reflection of the thought-seeds you plant and give energy to. More precisely, Your Life is a reflection of the unconscious assumptions you make about life and your relationship to it. For example, if you grew up in an environment where there wasn’t a lot of money, and your family made you aware that the lack of money was the cause of their unhappiness, you might conclude that there’s a lack of money in the world that leads to unhappiness, and that’s just the way life is. If you could find a mechanism that could record your subconscious thoughtseeds and play them back to you, they might sound something like this:
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WHAT YOUR LIFE IS So here you are, asking yourself these often negative questions. What do you think would be the answers to the negative questions in the example above? The answers would be your life showing up as the negative results of the negative questions you’ve been asking. For example: If you’ve been asking, “Why am I so unhappy?”, you’ll get the answer as your unhappy life. If you’ve been asking, “Why don’t I have enough?”, the answer will appear as your lack in life. If you’ve been asking, “Why am I so lonely?”, the person of your dreams will keep not showing up.
REVERSING THE CURSE When you do this step of The Afformation Method, you will take what has been subconscious (hidden) and make it conscious (visible), and take what is negative (disempowering) and make it positive (empowering). Let’s reverse all the negative questions from the last page. The reverse might look something like this: Why am I so happy? Why do I have enough? Why am I so loved?
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These questions may seem unfamiliar to you right now. But what if you allowed yourself to accept those questions as the truth about your life? Wouldn’t you have a life that’s different than the average person’s – a life that’s different from the one you have now?
Your quality of life depends on just two things: the quality of your communication with the world inside yourself, and the quality of your communication with the world outside yourself. Step 2 of The Afformations Method is to begin to change the quality of communication with the world inside yourself. You will begin to ask yourself new, better, empowering questions, and stop asking yourself negative, disempowering questions. This is the fastest, most effective way I’ve ever seen to immediately change the quality of your communication with both your inside and outside worlds. So Step 2 in The Afformation Method is to ask yourself, “Why is [what I want] true in my life now?” Using our example above, you would ask yourself, “Why am I so happy, healthy and wealthy?”
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Step 3: Let your mind Search for the answers to your question. The point of Afformations is NOT to answer the question you are presenting! The point of Afformations is to begin to use your mind in a new way – to begin focusing on things you may never have focused on before. I got the following letter from my friend John Adams of The Golden Key Ministry in Phoenix... Dear Noah, I want to tell you a true story about my friends Sam and Shirley, two people I had taught The Afformations Method to about three years ago when I first read your Afformations book.
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Shirley had been accepted into the ministerial program at Unity in Missouri, so they planned to sell their home and move to Kansas City. They put their home on the market in early April with no results. People would come and look but no one was buying. On Saturday, May 5, Sam and Shirley told me about their lack of a buyer for their home.
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Because they needed to leave in early June, they were getting nervous and wanted my advice. I suggested they go through every room in their home, bless it, and begin afforming, “Why is this house now easily sold to the right party for the right price?”. That was Saturday. The next afternoon, a couple came and looked at the house. On Tuesday, they made an offer which was too low. Sam & Shirley kept their Afformation going and made a higher, counter offer which was accepted on Tuesday afternoon! Everything went through quickly and the deal closed on May 31st. Sam & Shirley are on their way to Missouri as true believers! Your mind is like a computer. Once you put your Afformation in motion (and keep asking your new, positive questions!), your mind will begin to Search for the answer without your conscious volition. Which brings us to the fourth essential step of The Afformations Method – the one you must do if you want this method to work for you...
Step 4: Take new ACTIONS based on your new assumptions about life!
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You are, right now, making assumptions about life and your relationship to it. These assumptions form the basis of how you go through life – with positivity or negativity, confidence or shyness, love or fear, acceptance or resentment. If you assume that life is for you, you will take actions formed by the belief that “things will work out for the best.” If you assume that life is against you, then your actions will be formed from hesitancy, fear and the belief of why bother?”
The Afformation Method makes conscious that which has, until now, been only subconscious. For example, a confident person will have an easier time in life, whether building relationships or building a business. But where does confidence really come from? It comes from the underlying, subconscious assumptions about how life is going to treat you. You are continually forming assumptions about life and your relationship to it; but these assumptions are nearly always subconscious – so hidden, you don’t even realize they’re there. As a result, the great percentage of your actions are governed by assumptions you may have formed years – even decades – ago! If you grew up with the assumption that “life is lack”, what would your actions be? How confident would you be about building your business or meeting new people? Now what if you were Donald Trump and grew up in the lap
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of luxury? What would your subconscious assumptions about life be? Probably something like, “I can have whatever I want” or “There’s plenty of money out there, and I have the ability to get it.” In other words, you’d probably believe the statement: “There’s more than enough wealth to go around.” As you can see, someone who believes that “life is lack” is going to do things (take actions) that spring from that assumption. And you can also see that someone like Donald Trump, who grew up with great wealth, is going to literally live in a different universe than the individual who believes “life is lack.” I am not espousing Donald Trump’s lifestyle; nor do I believe the purpose of life is to gain money or possessions. I am simply pointing out that your internal, subconscious assumptions are going to form the very essence of how you walk through life. Remember, the point of The Afformation Method is not to find “the answer” to your questions. Since you are now going to be forming positive questions that assume that what you want is already true, your mind will work to find a way to make it so. Can you see how this process must, by definition, change your life?
HOW YOU’LL KNOW WHEN IT’S WORKING The question I get most often about Afformations is: “How will I know when it’s working?” (This question, by the way, typ-
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ically comes from people who haven’t tried it consciously yet.) Many people who start using afformations report an almost instant feeling of calm and peace of mind.
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However, the Afformations Method is based on science, not magic. You cannot ask yourself, “Why am I so thin and healthy?” while continuing to eat unhealthy foods, and expect to lose weight. You cannot break the Laws of the Universe by sowing positive questions and continuing to do negative or self-defeating behaviors, and expect to get what you want. The point of Afformations is not to try and trick your mind, but to use it properly! As we’ve noted, you’re already using this method anyway, but most people are using it unconsciously, in a negative or self-defeating way.
Use Afformations, but don’t worry about doing them “right.” There’s more going on in the subconscious mind than science will ever be aware of. But using conscious afformations will enable your mind’s Automatic Search Function to produce remarkable results in your favor, rather than negative ones you don’t want.
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The rest of this book includes powerful Afformations for the 10 major areas of your life, career and relationships. Of course, no single book could cover every afformation, because the number of afformations is literally infinite. That’s why I’ve left room between the Afformations for you to write your own, personalized Afformations that suit your individual situation. You can also refer to the other books in The Afformation Series (see Helpful Resources at the back of the book, come to one of our Secret Code of Success seminars, or visit SuccessClinic.com) Use them, go over them in your mind, read them again and again, and write them out as you would traditional “affirmations”– but notice that Afformations may flow very easily for you! That’s because rather than trying to force yourself to believe something that you may not really believe, you’ll be forming new assumptions about life and your relationship to it, based on what you really do want. I know of no other method that can yield such dramatic results with so little effort. ~~~ And now, enjoy discovering your new incredibly simple questions – and reaping your amazingly powerful results in every area of your life!
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AFFORMATIONS ON HEALTH & WELL-BEING It’s no longer a question of staying healthy. It’s a question of finding a sickness you like. – Jackie Mason, comedian t’s been said that if you don’t have your health, it doesn’t really matter what else you do have. Mark Twain once said, “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”
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again! Since switching to Afformations, she says that the weight has stayed off and that Afformations have helped her reach her weight-loss and fitness goals. She long ago replaced her “affirmation” poster with an Afformation poster – with definite results. What’s your definition of “health”? Is it just “the absence of sickness”? I don’t know about you, but there seems like a big difference to me between being healthy and being not-sick.
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Why am I so healthy?
Why do I take responsibility for my health? Why are healthy people so magnetically drawn to me?
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Why do I radiate with perfect health and well-being?
Why does everything in my body operate so perfectly?
Why do I eat a healthy, balanced diet?
Why do I take such good care of myself ? Why do I thank God for my good health?
Why do I enjoy such perfect health of mind, body and spirit every day?
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Why do I trust God with my health?
Why do I make sure to include exercise in my plan for health?
Why is my life so balanced and harmonized?
Why am I so emotionally healthy?
Why do I love my body?
Why am I so happy and comfortable in my own skin?
Why does my body treat me so well?
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Why am I so lucky to have the body that I have?
Why am I so lucky to have the face that I have?
Why do I look at my body with eyes of love?
Why is my body such a gift from God?
Why do I see only beauty when I look in the mirror?
Why did God create such beauty in and as me?
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Why do I treat my body with such love, respect and admiration?
Why do I graciously accept compliments from other people?
Why do I attract only emotionally healthy people?
Why do I accept compliments so easily?
Why am I so strong?
Why is my stamina unstoppable?
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Why am I so grateful that I’m so healthy?
Why is my life so healthy?
Why do I have the perfect shape for me?
Why do I enjoy peace of mind and fulfillment every day?
Why do I celebrate my health today?
Why am I so grateful for being so healthy?
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Why am I so grateful for my healthy life and lifestyle?
Why am I so trim, firm, and healthy?
Why do I give thanks for my abundant health?
Why am I so emotionally, physically, financially, and spiritually healthy today and every day of my wonder-full life?
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AFFORMATIONS ON WEALTH & MONEY The question isn’t at what age I want to retire, it’s at what income. – George Foreman, entrepreneur and grillmaster hoever said that money doesn’t buy happiness obviously didn’t know where to shop. Seriously, if there’s one area where people are holding onto negative beliefs, it’s in the area of wealth and money.
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bills so we can enjoy things like electricity, water, food, clothing and shelter. That takes money. Even worrying about how we are going to pay our bills is thinking about money! Yet, how many of us ever admit– even to ourselves – how much time we spend thinking about money: trying to get more, save more, make more money? I bet even thinking about it now may be making you uncomfortable. Why? Have you ever noticed that there is not one positive word in the English language to describe someone who loves money? We think of words like “miser, hoarder, selfish, greedy” when describing someone who loves money, or remember old Ebeneezer Scrooge from A Christmas Carol (before the ghosts visited him). We don’t want to be like that, do we?
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money are somehow not as “good” as you. Remember, printed on every piece of currency in The United States are the four words we should all have tattooed on our foreheads:
IN GOD WE TRUST You can do so much more with money than without it. You need to take the guilt and shame out of your relationship with money, and realize that you can help many more people by being wealthy than being broke. Use the following Afformations to improve your relationship with money, and watch it become one of the most fulfilling relationships you’ll ever have!
Why am I so rich and so richly blessed?
Why do I always have enough money?
Why is my credit so strong and healthy?
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Why is money no object? (This question is literally true: money has no form and no substance. It is merely a manifestation of perceived value among human beings. Consider this point carefully.)
Why do I have more than enough money?
Why do I have so much worth AND value? (Worth = an intrinsic quality of you that makes you deserving of respect. Value = an amount regarded as a worthwhile trade for something else. You have Worth just because you ARE. Your Value is determined by you and those who want what you do. Think about the difference between Worth and Value when you set your prices or ask for a raise in pay.)
Why does money come to me so easily?
Why am I worth having a positive net worth?
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Why does my income always exceed my expenses?
Why do I allow myself to be rich and happy, too?
Why is it OK for me to have lots of money?
Why do I use my life of abundance to enrich the lives of others?
Why do I enjoy finding new and creative ways to share my abundance?
Why am I so happy being so rich?
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Why does God bless me so much for my work?
Why do my investments pay off so richly now that I seek sound advice?
Why do I invest, tithe and spend in balance?
Why is money so magnetized to me?
Why do I give myself permission to be wildly, happily wealthy?
Why does my wealth grow in perfect proportion, both financial and spiritual?
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Why am I a happy, sharing, caring money magnet?
Why do I enjoy the benefits I bring to others through my true abundance?
Why can I be wonderfully wealthy and deeply spiritual at the same time?
Why am I worth being wealthy?
Why do I happily accept wealth and gratefully tithe too?
Why is it so easy to talk about money to my spouse?
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Why do I never use the words, poor, not enough, broke, or I can’t afford it any more?
Why has God given me the power to obtain great wealth?
Why is my credit finally being repaired?
Why is money such a wonderful gift to me?
Why do I teach my children the fine art of giving and receiving with grace?
Why do I trust that God always provides?
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Why do I thankfully ask and abundantly receive?
Why is abundance attracted to me? Why am I so rich?
Why does money love being with me?
Why is it so easy to express my spirituality by being financially abundant?
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AFFORMATIONS ON BUILDING SELF-CONFIDENCE I never really address myself to any image anybody has of me. That’s like fighting with ghosts. – Sally Field, Oscar-winning actress n our Secret Code of Success workshops, we often include a “fill-in-the-blank” questionnaire that gets people to look at their inner beliefs about themselves.
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There’s more to building self-confidence than just being able to accept a compliment; that’s just one behavior that reveals your level of confidence. However, if you’ve been holding onto a negative self-concept or find it hard to accept a compliment, use these Afformations to rebuild a positive self-image and let your light shine from within!
Why do I gratefully accept every good thing that comes my way today?
Why am I so magnetically attractive to the best, most loving and wonderful people on Earth?
Why do I look in the mirror and see enoughness?
Why do I accept compliments so graciously and easily?
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Why are leaders so attracted and magnetized to me?
Why do I seek and see only the best in life?
Why am I so comfortable in my own skin?
Why did God create such beauty in and as me?
Why am I so comfortable being Who I Am?
Why am I more than enough; therefore, I attract more than enough?
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Why am I so confident?
Why do I so easily see my own Worth and Value?
Why am I so respected in my work and my life?
Why am I so calm?
Why am I enough, even if I’m not perfect?
Why am I so loving and capable?
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Why do I have so much natural ability?
Why am I always in the right place at the right time doing the right thing?
Why am I exactly who I’m supposed to be?
Why is it okay to like and love myself?
Why am I safe to succeed?
Why do people enjoy being around me?
Why do I feel confident sharing my talents with the world?
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Why do people value and appreciate me?
Why did God create perfection in Who I Am?
Why do I feel better knowing God doesn’t create junk?
Why am I so respected by friends, family and colleagues?
Why do I feel safe knowing that God is the Doer and I am the vessel of His plan?
Why am I so confident putting my trust in God?
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Why am I so loved?
Why am I so poised?
Why am I loved so easily and so much?
Why do people want to help me reach my goals? (Perhaps because I help them reach theirs!)
Why am I so good at seizing opportunities and allow people to prosper me?
Why am I allowed to be, do and have all that I really want in this life?
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AFFORMATIONS ON WORK & CAREER Einstein was a man who could ask immensely simple questions. And what his work showed is that when the answers are simple too, then you can hear God thinking. – Jacob Bronowski, mathematician
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years, I bought your Permission to Succeed® course and started studying your material in late 2004. After hearing you teach about Afformations and reading about them in your books, I decided to turn around the questions I was asking myself. Instead of asking myself why I wasn’t happy at work and why I didn’t find fulfillment there, I started asking myself, “Why do I enjoy my work so much?” And, “Why is work so fulfilling for me?” I wasn’t really diligent in asking myself these questions, honestly. But, whenever I found myself starting to think negatively about my job or catch myself asking why I didn’t like it, I would quickly turn to my Afformation questions and ask them several times, instead. In early December 2004, I looked at my role in the company and compared that to several new projects the CEO had said needed to be done, but didn’t know who would do them. I realized that my skills, my abilities, and everything I could be doing at work fit those projects perfectly. I just didn’t have the job to do them! Taking this new thinking into consideration, I used my Afformations more frequently. I started asking myself those new questions without even knowing that there could or would be a new role
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for me. About a week and a half later, I found the perfect opportunity to approach the CEO about those projects. I told him that I thought the company needed to hire someone to take on those projects, and that the person they should hire was me! I even found the courage to tell him that I was dissatisfied with the way my pay had been negotiated the last time I had been given a new assignment at work, and I deserved something more if I took on this new role. Well, within a week the deal was done. The CEO created a new position in the company and approached me about the new compensation he would be willing to pay. I now had a new job with more than twice the pay! At first I didn’t even realize that what I had been doing with the Afformations had any connection to what had just happened. But, as I’ve been looking over your home-study materials again, it finally hit me. I had significantly altered the way I was interpreting the world. I had gone from seeing my world negatively and asking why it was so, to asking myself why I was so blessed and work was so wonderful. Just as you teach, the world had been returning exactly what I was asking. Once I changed what I was asking for, the
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world produced something completely different! I know now I went through your home-study materials much too fast the first time. But, thank heavens the whole thing about Afformations had the impact it did! Sincerely, Michael M. P.S. I’m on my way through your Course a second time, and looking forward to getting even more out of it! You really are stronger than you think you are. You are more capable than anyone, including yourself, may currently recognize. Begin asking yourself new questions about your own skills, abilities, and the world around you, and don’t be surprised to see a brand new you springing forth!
Why do I get to do what I love, and get wonderfully paid for doing it? Why is my work supremely satisfying to me?
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Why am I so lucky to be doing the work I do?
Why do I love expressing Who I Really Am –– and being fabulously well paid for doing it?
Why am I so valuable to people?
Why do I love what I do?
Why do I have the courage to do what I love and ask for the money I’m worth?
Why am I so successful?
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Why am I so confident in my work?
Why can I get what I want?
Why am I always doing the right thing at the right time with the right people?
Why does opportunity come to me so easily and so often?
Why do I take full advantage of every opportunity that comes my way?
Why am I so rich and so richly blessed?
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Why do I have so much?
Why do I have more than enough?
Why does having what I want help others get what they want?
Why do I visualize my plan so vividly?
Why am I at peace with success?
Why am I fundamentally unstoppable?
Why is my foot off the brake now?
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Why is my career growing beyond my wildest dreams?
Why do I love what I do and do what I love?
Why are my goals coming to me as fast as I’m coming to them?
Why am I so clear about my vision for success?
Why do I act always with integrity?
Why do I give myself permission to succeed?
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Why am I safe to take risks at work?
Why am I secure in my work?
Why do I have the courage to do what I love and ask for what I’m worth?
Why do I love to win and prosper?
Why do I feel comfortable asking for the sale?
Why am I safe to succeed?
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Why am I good enough to succeed and win?
Why am I so appreciated for the work I do?
Why are my talents recognized and well compensated at work? Why do I allow myself to be more successful than I ever dreamed?
Why do I let myself live the life of my dreams?
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AFFORMATIONS ON LOVE If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question? – Lily Tomlin, comedienne and actress nce, during a seminar in Denver, something happened to a young woman in our audience. She was a doctor and was clearly intelligent, caring, and very magnetic to everyone around her.
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Less than 90 days after the seminar, our office phone rang. It was the young doctor. She could hardly breathe, she was so excited! After she caught her breath, she told me that the seminar had been the turning point in her life – because, for the first time, she saw that she was asking the wrong questions and they were ruining her life.
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She came to realize that a dear friend of hers whom she had known for some time, but was several years her junior, was in fact the man of her dreams. But she hadn’t allowed the possibility to enter her mind before, because of so many years of disempowering (subconscious) Afformations.
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She decided to take a leap of faith. She took ACTION! Her new Afformation allowed her to open her mind and heart to the possibility of true love. She took a risk and told her friend how she truly felt. Today they are happily married and living the life of their dreams. All because she dared to ask herself a new question! If you’re looking for love in all the wrong places, it’s because you’re asking the wrong questions. If you’re in a dead-end relationship, you are using disempowering Afformations that are causing you to focus on the negative rather than the positive. As I’ve said throughout this book, and as the greatest teachers in history have told us: what you focus on, grows. Use these Afformations to re-focus your mind on the gifts of love you have and the gift of Love that you are.
Why am I so loved?
Why do I enjoy healthy, happy, giving and peaceful relationships?
Why is my love life so fulfilling?
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Why is it easy for me to ask for and accept the love I really need?
Why do I love unconditionally?
Why am I so willing to give love a chance?
Why did he/she finally come to me and stay?
Why do I make myself so loveable?
Why am I safe to love and be loved?
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Why do I love purely?
Why do I have such passion?
Why is my spouse/partner so wonderful?
Why am I so supportive of my spouse/partner
Why do I catch my spouse/partner doing something right every day and tell them I noticed?
Why do I easily and gratefully let go of the past?
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Why does God want me to love again?
Why are my relationships precious gifts from God?
Why am I a faithful partner?
Why am I so forgiving?
Why do I dare to love again?
Why do I respect my spouse/partner?
Why do I appreciate all that my spouse/partner does and is?
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Why do I reinforce that my spouse/partner is more than enough for me just as they are?
Why is my spouse/partner so passionate about me?
Why is our love an extension of God’s Love?
Why is Love so easy for me?
Why are my relationships so much fun?
Why do I have a sense of humor in dealing with my partner’s little slip-ups?
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Why do I not expect my partner to be perfect?
Why is Love so easy for me to let in?
Why is my life so filled with Love?
Why am I so loved for being Who I Really Am?
Why is my soulmate right here right now?
Why am I an expression of God’s Love here on Earth?
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Why do I have permission to love?
Why is Love Who I Really Am?
Why do I love Love?
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Chapter 9.
AFFORMATIONS ON RELATIONSHIPS Cherish your human connections: your relationships with friends and family. – Barbara Bush, former First Lady ears ago, one of my first coaching Students was an independent business owner from Alabama. She had Googled “fear of success” and found The Success Clinic web site. She called and asked if I would coach her personally (I no longer do individual coaching, but at the time I did).
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Why do I have so many wonderful friends?
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Why are the most fun, successful people on Earth so attracted to me?
Why can I count on my friends to be there when I need them?
Why are people so generous with me?
Why am I so generous with others?
Why are such great people so magnetically attracted to me?
Why do people see the wonderful person I really am?
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Why do my friends tell me the truth about me?
Why do I have so many Loving Mirrors? (In our Secret Code of Success Seminars, I show you that a Loving Mirror is someone who sees you for Who You Really Are and believes in you when you may not even believe in yourself. It’s the #1 secret of Success that almost everyone ignores. Visit SuccessClinic.com to see when we’ll be holding a seminar in your area.)
Why do I find something to love in everyone I meet?
Why am I so supportive of my children?
Why do I support my friends unconditionally?
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Why do I catch people doing something right every day?
Why am I always rewarded when I give from the heart?
Why do I enjoy such incredible, rich relationships with wonderful people?
Why do I listen attentively to my friends’ needs?
Why do I have such a strong support network?
Why is my family so loving?
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Why do we forgive one another?
Why is my family understanding and supportive of me and what I’m doing?
Why does my family strive to understand me?
Why do I strive to understand them?
Why do I love my family, warts and all?
Why do I take full responsibility for my life once and for all?
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Why do I strive to enrich the lives of all I touch in a positive way?
Why am I a Loving Mirror to my family and friends? Why do I allow my children to make mistakes?
Why do my children accept and love me just the way I am?
Why do I support my children’s efforts in school and life?
Why am I so lucky in relationships?
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Why are my relationships a reflection of God’s Love?
Why am I so rich and so richly blessed in all that I am and all I experience on Earth?
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Chapter 10.
AFFORMATIONS ON CONQUERING FEAR Fear is a question. What are you afraid of, and why? Our fears are a treasure house of self-knowledge if we explore them. – Marilyn French, author Did you realize that, no matter what business you’re in, your main job is actually selling? As one CEO put it, nothing happens until someone sells something.
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four-letter word: Fear. The fear of selling is really the fear of rejection wearing a nice suit. The fear of rejection is one of the oldest, most primal fears we have. We fear rejection because we fear being alone. Human beings used to live in tribes that depended on every member for survival. If someone were banished or “rejected”, they stood a great chance of not surviving. That ancient fear of not-surviving appears today as the fear of rejection. At our Secret Code of Success seminars, I remind my Students that, when you’re trying to “sell” something, you don’t face the possibility of rejection. You face the certainty of rejection! Why would I teach something that sounds so negative? Because I want you to stop beating yourself up when someone says “no” to you. Even if you have the best product, service or idea in the world, it’s just not possible for every person to want what you’re offering or to agree with you. When someone says “no” to you, what they’re really saying (without knowing it) is: “Thank you for sharing your product, service or idea with me. I’m declining your offer right now, because I don’t see sufficient value to change what I’m currently doing or using.” That’s all that ‘no’ really is! It’s not a “rejection” of you at all. The next time someone says ‘no’ to you, remind yourself that their ‘no’ really has nothing to do with you. All they’re really saying is, “Thank you, but I perceive the value of what you’re showing me to be less than my desire to change.”
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Use this new awareness, and the following Afformations to overcome the fear of rejection, fear of failure, or any other fear. Then create your own Afformations – and your own Success Story!
Why is God always with me? Why am I free from worry? Why do I love... (what you fear: speaking in public, rejection, etc.)? I know this sounds crazy, but loving what you fear is the best way to conquer that fear!
Why do I love my critics? Why is Peace Who I Really Am? Why am I more than good, strong, and capable enough to handle this?
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Why am I so valuable to people? Why do I demonstrate and manifest Peace in, and through me every day of my wonder-filled life? Why does God take such great care of me? Why am I so confident and relaxed? Why am I so safe? Why is Peace All That Is? Why am I so peaceful?
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Why is my life so peaceful every day of my wonder-full life? Why does peace manifest as my world now? Why are those who create peace so much stronger than those who wish to destroy? Why am I greater than my fears? Why is there no fear with God? Why did peace win in me? Why do people see the wonderful person I really am?
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Why am I loved so easily and so much? Why are people so friendly and helpful to me and those I love? Why do so many wonderful people love me? Why is loneliness an illusion and gone forever? Why is every day filled with pleasure and peace? Why do I so easily and gratefully let go of past hurts? Why do I let myself win?
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Why do I have Permission to Succeed? Why did I finally achieve Peace? Why do I let go of irrational beliefs and allow myself to be happy? Why do I allow God to fill my life with calm? Why am I enough just as I am? Why am I strong enough in my mind, body and soul to do anything? Why am I invincible?
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Why do I have the Power of Infinite Intelligence in me? Why do I forgive and let go so easily? Why am I so confident? Why do I know everything will turn out great? Why am I so protected? Why do I say “next” when someone says “no”? Why am I safe to_________ (fill in with whatever you fear: public speaking, going for a job, enjoy healthy relationships, succeed, etc.)
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Why did everything work out perfectly? Why is God in charge, so I am safe? Why do I feel good sharing my talents with the world? Why do I love making sales/opportunity calls? Why do I get to serve others through my products/service/ideas? Why is lack the only thing that’s not real? Why am I completely protected in God? Why does f.e.a.r. now stand for “Feel Everything...And Relax”?
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Chapter 11.
AFFORMATIONS ON OVERCOMING BAD HABITS AND ADDICTIONS Life’s most urgent question is: what are you doing for others? – Martin Luther King, Jr. n our Secret Code of Success seminars, I often ask my Students: “When did you get ‘points’ in your family?” In other words, when did you get praise and encouragement? A large majority of women say they got points when they:
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• Didn’t cry • Got straight A’s • Worked hard • Did everything right Does any of that sound familiar? In your life today, are you still trying to “be quiet, stay out of sight” or “be perfect, do everything right”? For example, let’s say you’re about to pick up the phone to make a sales call. Do you stop yourself by thinking, “What if this isn’t a good time…What if they don’t like what I’m selling...What if I don’t make this sale, then I’ll never make quota…?” The irony is, all these beliefs floating around in your subconscious cause the habits of avoidance and procrastination. Procrastination and other bad habits are simply a subconscious way to put off feeling pain (the pain of rejection, the pain of failure, etc.). Now, you may not have that particular bad habit. But I bet there’s at least one habit you’re not thrilled about, that’s getting in the way of you getting what you want.
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same things you’ve always done, and expect your life to change. However, if your disempowering subconscious questions are keeping you stuck in self-destructive behaviors, changing your questions can be the first step to making big changes in your life. Use these Afformations to form new behaviors around procrastination, overeating, or any other self-destructive habit you’d like to get rid of. Then take new ACTIONS, and watch what miracles occur for you!
Why am I finally free from addiction?
Why do I love myself ?
Why does God Love me too?
Why do I turn to God for love, instead of to substances?
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Why is my life in such perfect balance, order and harmony now?
Why is addiction no longer part of my life?
Why am I so happy being free?
Why am I in control of my life now?
Why do I find it easy to throw things away that I don’t really need?
Why do I love having a clutter-free home?
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Why did I finally stop?… ____________ (fill in the self-destructive behavior: procrastinating, overeating, smoking, drinking, drugs, overspending, physically or emotionally abusing yourself or others, misusing sex, compulsive hoarding?…)?
Why am I finally free?
Why am I finally clean and sober?
Why am I already so loved?
Why do I feed my body properly?
Why is my life in perfect balance and harmony?
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Why did I stop trying to be perfect?
Why do I see and treat my body as a temple?
Why do I have control of my emotions?
Why do I love being so healthy and happy?
Why do I go to my friends and God for Love, instead of something that hurts me?
Why am I the master of my feelings?
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Why do I allow myself to eat properly? Why am I so fulfilled and happy?
Why do I appreciate myself as I do my friends?
Why do I do what I need to do when it needs to get done?
Why do I turn to God for my strength?
Why do I know that with God, all things are possible?
Why am I stronger with God? Why do I always trust in the Power within me?
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Why do I have such inner and outer strength through the power of God?
Why does God lead me to the perfect help I need?
Why does God always find a way for me to win?
Why does God love me, no matter what?
Why am I safe in God’s hands?
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Chapter 12.
AFFORMATIONS ON SPIRITUALITY I had a million questions to ask God: but when I met Him, they all fled my mind; and it didn’t seem to matter. – Christopher Morley, novelist and journalist ould you like to get closer to God? (It’s a trick question.) Many people come up after our seminars and say they want to feel closer to God. I always ask them, “Why don’t you feel close to God right now?” They invariably answer that they’re going through tough times, or that they’ve lost something very important to them – for example, a spouse, a job, a parent or a relationship they weren’t ready to let go of.
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I then ask them, “Why do you feel that God isn’t close to you because you lost something?” And they reply, “Because God wouldn’t do something like that to someone He loves.”
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like it? Or because we’ve been “bad”? Simply because you’ve lost something that’s important to you doesn’t mean an All-Loving, All-Forgiving God has abandoned you. Loss and gain are human ideas, not God’s. You may like the “gain” part better. But to God, it’s all just Life. There can be no loss in Spirit. All things are One, but we experience them as Separate. Use these Afformations (and create your own) to gain a deeper understanding and appreciation of the fact that to get close to God, all you need do is realize that there is no spot where God is not.
Why is my life so perfect and so perfectly wonder-full?
Why is it so easy and so okay for me to have, do and be anything I want? (One of my Students used this every day for 60 days and tripled his income!)
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Why am I so grateful to be me? Why does Love manifest as my life now?
Why is happiness Who I Really Am?
Why is God so happy with me?
Why is life so fulfilling for me?
Why am I so enchanting? (A 7-year-old Student in Alabama taught me this Afformation!)
Why do I live by the Golden Rule? Why do I choose to be a good steward?
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Why do I enjoy God’s love today?
Why is my life filled with light, love, marvelous people and fun times?
Why am I so connected to God?
Why does God always take such perfect care of me?
Why can I do anything with God’s help?
Why am I always in the right place at the right time, being the right person?
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Why do I ask for and accept miracles?
Why do I give and receive in such joyful abundance?
Why do I have such a strong spiritual center?
Why do I bask in God’s Love today?
Why is God as close as my next breath? Why am I always taken care of? Why does God provide everything I need today?
Why am I so abundantly provided for?
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Why am I right where I should be in life?
Why do I find comfort knowing God is right here?
Why did I ask the right questions to manifest the perfect partner for me?
Why is my life such a gift? Why do I have so many gifts to share with the world?
Why do I get to enjoy all of God’s gifts today?
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Why do so many miracles come true for me today
Why have so many miracles always happened in my life?
Why do I have so much to give?
Why is my life such a miracle?
Why do I ask God for miracles, knowing they’ve already happened?
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Chapter 13.
AFFORMATIONS ON LIFE & HAPPINESS The most important questions in life can never be answered by anyone except oneself. – John Fowles, English novelist his letter arrived at our office the other day:
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The ONLY sign in a yard was at my stepfather’s! I panicked, thinking he had negotiated (without my consent) for a new roof. Ready for an ulcer, I got home and STILL no sign of the phone. My phone service said it was probably found or destroyed by the way it was ringing straight to voicemail, so I prepared to file a claim on my cell phone insurance. They had closed 13 minutes prior, so I couldn’t call it in. As I continued for the phone, I realized I had lost not one, but TWO, missing checks for nearly $10,000 each that had arrived several days earlier and I had not had time to take care of. Searched the desk, piles of papers, bank bags...no checks!! By now, I am nearly crazy! Ready to drown myself in my hot tub, I called my friend for “mental garbage take out.” Her usual techniques to get me back up failed. Since we’d both read your books, she and I decided to try using afFORMations. We created one for her and then I decided mine would be, “Why am I so happy?” I half-jokingly decided that taking a sleeping pill and sleeping until Tuesday when offices opened so I could resolve some issues on all three matters might be my best option! Off to bed I went, sarcastically muttering, “Why am I soooo happy?!” Just as I turned the
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corner to my bedroom, what should appear looking right at me from a bookcase but my cell phone!! The battery was dead (hence the no ringing). I had come home from tree trimming in a VERY big rush to shower before my dinner guests arrived and in my rush had slung the phone in an unusual place. Thankfully, I had NOT been able to file a claim for a new phone. Early Monday morning (July 4th, no less), I decided to call the roofing company on the very long shot that their office would be open at 7:10 a.m. Much to my surprise, the office worker answered and after a short search was able to tell me that the roof in question was not being replaced (or even in need of replacement, YEA!) but the sign was left in the yard as advertisement for the roofing man. Whew! Next, I looked in the tote bag where I keep my bank bags and lo and behold, there in plain sight was the envelope with the two $10,000 checks! I couldn’t believe how quickly (and on a holiday to boot) all three BIGGIES were dissolved. Afformations really did the trick! Thank you!
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What makes you feel happy? What makes a fulfilling life? As much as you’ve heard this before, it really is not dependent on having an amount of money. I’ve met people earning in the high six figures who were miserable, and those making a lot less who are blissfully happy. Having that rich, happy, fulfilled life comes from doing what you’re here to do and blessing others through being Who You Really Are. Many times, however, the questions you’re asking do not support the life you want, because they keep you focused on what you don’t have. Now that you’re near the end of this book, you now have the power to change your life by first changing what you focus on – by changing the questions you ask – then taking new ACTIONS that support your new beliefs. Use these Afformations to help you change your focus, and allow yourself to live the life you’ve always imagined!
Why am I so happy?
Why am I so lucky?
Why are the good times here to stay?
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Why am I so delighted to be me every day of my life?
Why is Love all that really matters?
Why do I forgive myself ? Why am I finally free, at last?
Why am I so blessed?
Why is life such a miracle?
Why am I so sunnily confident and springfully happy?
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Why do I have more than enough time, money and energy to do all that I want?
Why am I so lucky to be me?
Why do I seek first to love, and know understanding will follow?
Why does my family life express Love?
Why do I enjoy such balance and harmony in my life?
Why do I so easily let go of the past?
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Why do I accept and love the people in my life just the way they are?
Why is it more important for me to be happy than to be right?
Why is my family life so healthy and happy?
Why are such wonderful people so attracted to me?
Why do I have so many Loving Mirrors?
Why do I have the best family in the world?
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Why do I let the dead bury their dead?
Why am I so supportive of my family?
Why did I stop trying to change people?
Why do I allow people to be who they are and love them no matter what?
Why do I praise my family so easily and sincerely?
Why do I catch my children/spouse/partner, etc. doing something right at least twice a day?
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Why am I so grateful for my life?
Why am I so grateful for all that I am and all that I have today?
Why do I allow people to make mistakes and still love them?
Why is it not a sign of weakness, but of strength, to say, “I was wrong”?
Why do I thank God for the gifts of my life every day?
Why do I allow myself to succeed, be wealthy, and be blissfully happy – today and always?
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Now What?
Chapter 14.
NOW WHAT? A good question is never answered. It is not a bolt to be tightened into place, but a seed to be planted and to bear more seed toward the hope of greening the landscape of idea. – Henry David Thoreau his book, like the others in the Afformations and Secret Code of Success series, was written to help you become wildly successful in your life, career and relationships.
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But what do you do now that the book is over? If you really want the results and benefits you desire for your life – things like more money, better relationships, or a closer connection with God – you must do what I shared with you in Chapter 3: Take ACTION! In Chapter 2, I introduced you to The Afformations Method: the simplest, easiest way I’ve ever seen to get what you want in your life. I showed you how to use what you’re already doing – asking questions – to create the life you’ve always wanted. In Chapter 3, you learned the 4 steps to create empowering Afformations that can change your life. I recommend you commit to doing these 4 simple steps daily, because this will root these principles into your mind. Eventually you will find your-
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self looking at life very differently. From there you will make new choices, take new actions, and create new results. If you want change to be permanent, you must re-wire your brain. All this means is that you must put the steps into practice. Not just read about it, not just talk about it, and not just think about it, but actually DO it! Beware of the little voice in your head saying something like, “I can’t do it...it’s too hard...I don’t have time.” As I explain in my Secret Code of Success programs, that’s your Negative Reflection talking – that voice in your head saying you can’t make changes. Remember, its job is to keep you right where you are, in your Familiar Zone. Don’t listen to it. Do the steps, use your new Afformations, and watch your life take off! I also suggest you reread this book from beginning to end at least once a month for the next year. What? Your little voice might be screaming. I’ve already read the book, why do I need to read it over and over again? Good question, and the answer is simple: repetition is the mother of learning. Again, the more you study this book, the faster the concepts will become natural and automatic for you. After my discovery in The Shower, I realized it was my duty and responsibility to bring this teaching to tens of millions of people around the world. My mission is to create a nation and a world of Loving Mirrors, and to assist those with the same vision on the way to true wealth, peace and joy. I am truly blessed to lead teleseminars, workshops and camps that transform people’s lives quickly and permanently.
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Now What?
From my heart to yours, now that you know how to change your life by using empowering Afformations, I invite you to take the next step and learn the 7 Steps to get your foot off the brake for good in your life, career and relationships – for good! You can do that with my all-new Secret Code of Success System. I know you’re going to reach your dreams. The simple fact that you’ve read this far means you're smart, talented, creative, and highly motivated to succeed. But here’s something else I know about you… Even though you’ve spent tons of time, money and energy on every “how-to succeed” program out there, you are still not where you want to be in life. Otherwise, you would not still be reading! My Secret Code of Success System shows you why you’re holding yourself back from the success you’re perfectly capable of – and gives you the simple, practical tools that enable you to get your foot off the brake in your life… for good. What is The Secret Code of Success, exactly? My Secret Code of Success System is a self-paced Course that lets you go as fast or as slow as you want. It includes the audio recordings of the complete course I did recently with a select group of Students, who paid nearly $1000 just to be there. You can put the recordings on your iPod, your MP3 player, or your computer to listen while you're working out, checking
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your email, exercising, or practically anywhere. But that’s not all… You also get: • The Complete Course Transcripts – so you can read along with the recordings, print them out, highlight and go over the steps again and again until they become second nature to you ($295 value) • Action Guides so you can follow along with each Module and absorb the teachings even faster ($195 value) • Executive Summaries – checklists to make your training quicker and easier ($95 value) • Bonus Training Sessions and Teleseminars – You also get Bonus training from guest experts that I’ve had on my training calls including: • Secrets of Money Manifesting Magic with one of North America’s top personal development coaches – who reveals how he went from $100,000 in debt to over $1 million net worth in less than 4 years! • Secrets of Champions with Dr. George Carlo, America’s leading performance neurophysiologists, who will show you how champions think, talk and act that separates them from the rest of us • Noah’s Key to End Relationship Self-Sabotage with me, Noah St. John – where I reveal the 5 key steps that put an end to sabotaging your personal and professional relationships
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Spread the Word
SPREAD THE WORD The 3 steps to True Success: 1. Find something that works. 2. Tell everyone about it. 3. Repeat. – Noah St. John Okay, so now you know the steps to create Afformations that can change your life. The only question now is: are you going to share what you’ve learned or keep it to yourself ? As I’ve shared with my Students for years now, the only things you have to do to succeed in life are: Learn, Do and Teach. First, Learn what it takes to succeed. That’s what this book and my other courses and programs are all about. Second, Do the steps. It’s one thing to know, and quite another to take what you know and put it into ACTION. But taking action is the only way to manifest the wealth and happiness you desire. And finally, Teach what you’ve learned to others. The best way we can learn ourselves is when we share what we’ve learned with others. Because this is true, I encourage you to share what you’ve experienced in this book with others. Get the message of this book out to as many people as possible. Commit to telling at
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least one hundred of your friends, family, and associates about it or consider getting it for them as a life-changing gift. Not only will you be introducing them to a new (and easier) way of thinking that can change their lives, they will also learn a new way of Being in this world that will uplift everyone who gets this message. What better way to make a difference than to help those you care about to use the greatest gift they’ve been given: their own mind?
What are you waiting for?
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Who Is Noah St. John?
WHO IS NOAH ST. JOHN? Noah St. John, Dr. Do It Now!, is Founder and CEO of The Success Clinic, Inc., a productivity/ relationship company. People and organizations in over 40 countries have used Noah’s proven success strategies to get better results with less effort. Noah is the author of five books including The Great Little Book of Afformations® series, now in their 3rd Edition. Jack Canfield of CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE SOUL® says, “Noah’s work represents one of the most significant breakthroughs in the study of success in decades!” Noah has appeared on CNN, NPR, ABC, NBC and Fox News, and in PARADE, Woman’s Day, Los Angeles Business Journal, Chicago Sun-Times, Selling Power, Bottom Line/Personal, and Money Makers Monthly. To get Noah’s FREE Special Report, “The Foolproof Formula to Get Your Foot Off the Brake In Your Life, Career and Relationships – For Good!”, and watch video clips of Noah’s seminars and media appearances, visit online at:
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SEND US YOUR SUCCESS STORIES Noah loves to hear your Success Stories! Tell us how Afformations have improved your results in business, relationships, health, or any aspect of your life. Your Story could appear in an upcoming Afformations book! Please send your Success Stories to:
[email protected] We look forward to hearing from you! To get Noah’s FREE Special Report: “The Foolproof Formula to Get Your Foot Off the Brake In Your Life, Career and Relationships – For Good!” Plus watch video clips of Noah’s seminars and media appearances, visit online at
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