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My 5 Turnaround Tools To Transform Your Love Life Starting Right Now Introduction

Dating and relationships can be messy. What if you had a fail-proof compass to guide you – instantly – every step of the way... so that you’re always moving in the direction of connecting more and more with a man? Well, I hope to be that compass for you, and these 5 Turnaround Tools are the first leg of our journey together. They’re the very heart of everything I teach... to get you closer and closer to HIS heart!

5 Turnaround Tools – from Rori Raye

All my years of heartbreak before I met my husband, all the struggle I went through to make our marriage the blissful 20+ year adventure it has been, and all that I’ve learned from coaching thousands of women start right here – with my Rori Raye Mantra and 5 Turnaround Tools. That’s why I wanted to get it to you right away now that you’re a subscriber (yay!) – it’s my gift to you for joining me. Before you read another one of my newsletters, download my eBook, or experience my video programs, I want you to take some time (right now if you can) to really focus on these Tools without distraction. Really take them in, and let them sink in. You might even want to print out this PDF and put it somewhere close to you, and you’ll definitely want to save it to your computer. Download it onto your phone – that’s how much of an impact these Tools can make if you really commit to them. These Tools ask you to make simple, subtle shifts in your words and body language. Yet the payoff is huge: You’ll  see  big  changes  in   the way a man responds to you, because you’re actually giving him what he REALLY needs – a woman who knows how to connect with him through her heart. I don’t want you to spend another minute without experiencing this for yourself, so let’s get started...

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TURNAROUND TOOL #1: Use “The Rori Raye Mantra”  To Instantly Connect With A Man

The Rori Raye Mantra has four parts. All four of them will be guiding voices to help you create the love life you’ve always wanted. One that fulfills you, nurtures you, and makes you and your man happier than you’ve ever been before: I trust my boundaries – I trust myself and take care of myself first. I will not throw myself into the path of destruction, hide from the truth, go along with or tolerate something that is damaging to me. Now I can move to my feelings. I follow my feelings – I follow my emotions around my body and into my heart because they are my compass in the world. I love my feelings and know that I must go where I am, be where I am, feel what I feel, and go through the feeling if I want to feel better. Now I can speak.

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I choose my words – I am committed to clear, direct, feeling-based communication. I honor my feelings by expressing them from my heart without trying to influence or attack my man. If I choose, now I can let go of the result. I allow every moment to be a surprise – I don’t have to know every outcome, I don’t have to manage every situation, I don’t have to make sure everything goes the way I want, and I absolutely don’t have to know what my man is going to say or do next. Because I know what I will not tolerate, because I can feel what I feel, because I’ve stated clearly what I feel and don’t want, I can let go of control.

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TURNAROUND TOOL #2: Translations – How To Speak So He’ll Hear

Your words and how you use them have a powerful impact on how a man will respond, and the dynamic between you. When you’re trying to control the   situation   and   your   man,   you’re using CONTROL SPEAK – and this is very very dangerous. Instead, you need to speak your feelings – I call it SURRENDER SPEAK. When you find yourself thinking and wanting to speak Control Speak – stop yourself! (I recommend simply putting your hand over your mouth – it’s what I do!) Don’t worry or think about coming up with the perfectly stated Feeling Message. Just choose the words from the Surrender Speak list below that feel the closest to what you’re actually feeling, and be as simple, short, and direct as you can. After a few days (really – that quickly), if you’re even just a little bit brave, you’ll get the hang of it! Here are some examples:

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CONTROL SPEAK:  Why is he doing that?  What is he doing?  What is he feeling?  What are you feeling?  What do you mean?  I’ll bet I know why he’s depressed  Oh, he’s just – etc.  Oh, men are just like that  There’s  so  much  tension  between  us.  He  must  be…  mad, upset, having childhood memories, etc.

Instead, use SURRENDER SPEAK: Say: “I feel mad, sad, glad, afraid, scared, angry, happy, disconnected, confused, shaky, uncomfortable, weird, upset, lonely, tired, exhausted”  – instead of:  Why does he always have to do that?  You never listen to me!  I need you to do this or that Say: “I don’t want to do this, what do you think” – instead of:  What if we (you) did that?  Can we (you) please do that?

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Say: “I don’t want to go there; do that, see that, feel this, feel that, listen to this, be there, be here, stand here, tolerate this, have this, worry about this, think about this, take charge of this, plan this – what do you think?”   – instead of “What’s going on with our relationship?" Say: “I don’t want that kind of relationship, what do you think?”  – instead of “I want you to pick me up, open my door, etc." Say: “Thank you. I like that tie, I like how you look, I love this restaurant – I feel so good here, I feel so good with you, that feels so good, etc.”  – instead of not noticing when he does something nice. When you switch from Control Speak to Surrender Speak, everything in your relationship will change. You will change – for perhaps the first time, you will get in touch with what you are really, actually feeling at any given moment, instead of being in your head about what your date or mate is doing or thinking. This will change him – for perhaps the first time, he will experience all the pressure he normally feels actually lift away. He will want to move closer to you.

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The relationship will change – for perhaps the first time, there will be the opening for intimacy. It may be scary. It may feel messy. But you will also feel such relief and happiness at the almost instant positive results, you’ll be motivated to continue using the Tools.

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TURNAROUND TOOL #3: Stop Rowing The Relationship Boat I use the word “Overfunctioning” to describe working so hard in a relationship: Giving, leading, stepping in, rescuing and doing stuff that your man is supposed to be doing. Stopping Overfunctioning is the fastest way to get connected to a man. When you stop leading, you get to experience how it feels to follow: Sometimes it feels wonderful, sometimes it’s disappointing, and sometimes it’s scary. Are you always feeling drained by your relationships, as though you’re the one always rowing the relationship boat? Well, I’m going to ask you to stop rowing. To actually put down the oars, sit back in the boat and enjoy the ride. If you'd like to learn DOZENS of specific ways to inspire your man to pick up the oars and start rowing all by himself – without you asking him, directing him, pleading with him, or explaining why he should – then I urge you to start your FREE eBook Trial now. It's where you’ll find everything you need to know, all in one place, to stop overfunctioning and start transforming your love life... practically overnight. But for now, onto:

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TURNAROUND TOOL #4: Appreciate Men

Sometimes, we get so used to complaining, finding fault, and looking at the downside of men, we can’t even give the man in front of us a chance. If you’re with a man now, when he does something you like – anything, even something small, something so tiny you would normally dismiss it – say “thank you." If you’re dating, focus on the man who is sitting next to you watching a movie, or sitting across the table from you trying to carry on a conversation, or standing in front of you awkwardly trying to get up the courage to walk over and start a conversation – instead of focusing on how he’s already not measuring up to your “Dream Man."

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TURNAROUND Tool #5: Appreciate Yourself

Men can’t love us for what we do. They love us for who we are. And most of us still haven’t made peace with who we really are. In fact, most of us have spent our lives figuring out how to keep people at a distance, rather than how to draw people in closer. And often, we deliberately keep the men who would love us the most and make us the happiest as far away from our hearts as we can. Use the Rori Raye Mantra and Translations to speak from your heart and let good men in. Invite them in. Trust yourself to follow what feels good to you – not necessarily what feels thrilling and exciting and dramatic – but what feels warm and, well, good! When things feel stressful, and you want so much more than you’re getting from your man, instead of picking up the oars and rowing the boat, instead of retreating to your defenses and pushing him away, Trust Your Boundaries, Follow Your Feelings, Choose the Feeling Words of the Rori Translations, and then, Be Surprised.

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You may find your man picking up the relationship oars, leaning in toward you, turning off the television to pursue you into the kitchen, asking for a commitment, or rekindling the fire of what you thought was a dead marriage. Believe that you deserve what you dream of. Appreciate yourself rather than asking your man to appreciate you. Give to yourself instead of giving to him. Treat yourself like a Queen, and so will he.

What You Can Look Forward To (Get Ready!) If you practice these 5 Turnaround Tools, you’ll experience great change in your love life. Your man will be more affectionate, and you’ll feel more connected to him. You won’t be worrying all the time if he’ll leave, or why he’s acting a certain way, or why he isn’t “showing up”  the way you want him to. Changing your energy around a man can have profound and instant results that will improve your relationship and can turn your relationship around on a dime!

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It’s taken me many years of heartache and trial-and-error to discover the secret to what makes a relationship WORK between a man and a woman, and how to improve any relationship, regardless of how many bad feelings there are right now.

These Turnaround Tools Are Just The Beginning... What I’ve just shared with you is really a mini version of my eBook Have The Relationship You Want – where I teach you, baby step by baby step, how to shift from that controlling/doing vibe that pushes a man away... to a beautiful space where you are completely ready to express your feelings and to accept love from good men. Basically, we need to “undo”  what hasn’t been working for you up until now. As women, we’re taught to believe all sorts of things about what attracts men to us: We think we need to show him what a great catch we are, we think that if we do the “right things”   and act the “right way”  that a man will see our worth and fall deeply in love. And this is just not true. Yes, a man wants to feel turned on by you. But he also YEARNS to find a woman who makes him feel completely safe to be himself. How do you do this? By being a woman who is able to feel comfortable with herself FIRST. The more in touch you are with yourself, and the more you can express what you’re feeling to him in a way that connects deeply with his heart, the

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more he can let himself fall in love – until he can’t bear the thought of being without you. That’s the critical piece of the puzzle, and it’s the main theme of my eBook. Not only do I expand on my 5 Turnaround Tools in detail, but you’ll get 200+ pages with all my best insights and advice, including over a dozen more Tools and exercises – along with my story. Because I really want you to understand that if I could create such a passionate, connected, enduring relationship with a great man – you really can, too. Go here now: Download My eBook After you read the book, here's what I suggest you do next... Take a moment and just imagine something. Imagine what it would be like to have me with you, whenever and wherever you need me, supporting you and sharing EVERYTHING you must know to create the relationship of your dreams... step-by-step from start to finish... whether you've just met a great man or you've been together for years. Now stop imagining! After teaching THOUSANDS of amazing women how to create the relationships of their dreams quickly and easily, live and inperson, I've created 8 in-depth "Live" video programs designed to share this experience with YOU.

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My full catalog of video programs takes you by the hand and guides you through every possible relationship challenge... all while delivering the expert advice, real-world Tools, and detailed "how-to" instructions you'll ever need to succeed at every stage of your love life. I invite you to explore my programs and see which ones might be just right for YOU, wherever you happen to be on your journey toward finding secure, passionate, forever love. You can learn more about them (and even start watching them 100% RISK-FREE) right here. But, for now – whether you're ready to download my eBook or try my programs, the most important thing to remember is that you don't have to wait to start changing your love life... You've already started by joining me as a new subscriber – and now it's my turn to take action by giving you all of the support you need when it comes to finding and keeping the forever love of your dreams. I can't wait for us to continue this life-changing journey together!

Love, Rori