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© 2009 Underground Dating Seminar Corp. “30/30 Club Workbook” is copyright 2009 and is owned by Brad P. and The Underground Dating Seminar Corporation. Unauthorized duplication is prohibited. By obtaining this book you agree to the following: You acknowledge that the information contained in this book is an opinion, and that you are responsible for your own actions. Each book is individually numbered and coded and can be individually identified. Each book or book segment can be traced back to it's original owner. UDS has retained the Agency Security Group, Inc. to actively search all file sharing networks to track down those who participate in intellectual property theft. We have also retained a number of students and members of the seduction community to monitor the file sharing networks. By opening this file, you agree that you will be held liable for civil damages including, but not limited to, cost of enforcement and lost sales. These civil proceedings will be a matter of public record and your identity will not be confidential.

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TABLEOF CONTENTS Month 1 - Identity and Information....................................................... 1 Identity Exercise 1:..................................................................................... 2 Identity Exercise 2:..................................................................................... 3 Identity Exercise 3: Dreams......................................................................... 4 Your Online Profile.......................................................................................4 Month 2 - Baselining and Modeling........................................................ 5 Exercise: Document at least 30 Approaches.................................................. 6 Month 3 - Presence.................................................................................8 Exercise: Document at least 30 Approaches................................................10 Month 4 - Social Freedom..................................................................... 11 Exercise: Document at least 30 Approaches................................................12 Month 5 - Repertoire............................................................................ 13 Bridging Exercise....................................................................................... 16 Exercise: Document at least 30 Approaches................................................19 Month 6 - Meeting Up........................................................................... 20 Month 7- Physical Escalation and Sex..................................................22 Overview of Month 7................................................................................. 22 Where to touch......................................................................................... 24 Simplified Diagram of the Vagina................................................................ 25 Exercise: Document at least 30 Approaches................................................26 Month 8 - Advanced Social Dynamics................................................... 27 Overview of Month 8................................................................................. 27 Calibrate Your Value.................................................................................. 29 Exercise: Document at least 30 Approaches................................................30 Month 9 - Same Day Lays..................................................................... 31 Overview of Month 9................................................................................. 31 Variable 1: Logistics...................................................................................32 Variable 2: The Female Sexual Microcycle...................................................34 The Non-Factors........................................................................................34 Brad P's Ten Timer Method ....................................................................... 35 Your 3 Candidates..................................................................................... 37 Month 10 - Lifestyles and Relationships............................................... 38 Overview of month 10............................................................................... 38 Month 11 - Club Game.......................................................................... 48 iii

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Overview of month 11............................................................................... 48 Month 12 - Threesomes........................................................................ 51 Overview of month 12............................................................................... 51 The Double Makeout (for beginners and intermediates)...............................54 Afterword............................................................................................. 55

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INTRODUCTION Welcome to the most amazing year of your life. You're going to have more fun and meet more women in the next 12 months than you have in all your previous years combined. It's not going to be easy all the time, but it's going to be worth it. Congratulations on being a part of the most innovative, cutting edge, EFFECTVE curriculum ever in invented for dating and seduction. I've been working for years and years on taking the guesswork out of meeting women, and now I've taken the guesswork out of the learning process too. Everything you're about to learn has been tested, re-tested, timed, streamlined, and turned up to 11 out of 10 to make sure that your learning process will be fun, exciting, and focused. Your Commitment By joining the 30/30 Club, you make a commitment to yourself and to the coaches to approach a minimum of 30 women per month starting in month 2. You also commit to a 12 month learning process. It takes 12 months minimum to achieve a high level of success, and if you're looking for overnight success, you're being unrealistic. It will be the greatest 12 months of your life, packed with personal growth, and you'll be enriching the next 25 years of your life by sticking with it. Remember, there's no quitting in the 30/30 Club. I won't quit on you, so I expect you to stick with it also. Sometimes you'll find the material challenging, but if you can learn and apply even HALF of what is taught in the 30/30 Club, you will greatly improve your life. Is this Doable? I've structured this program to be very efficient. I think approaching 30 women per month is pretty attainable for most guys. It can be done in a matter of 6-10 hours. That's only about 2 hours per week. There's about 4-6 hours of audio and reading to do each month also. Do you think you have 5 hours a week to put into this? Don't let the big binder and the 6 CDs scare you, it's not as hard as it looks. Right now you have the entire month to just listen to the CDs and do some thinking about your identity.

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Your Rewards Stick with the program and do your assignments, and you will be rewarded by having success with women like you've never had before. You will also get special privileges in the 30/30 Club. After you finish Month 3, you are eligible to be on conference calls with Brad and the coaches. This is a privilege you've earned by completing at least 3 months in the 30/30 Program. After 6 months you are eligible to become an Online Coach. After 12 months, you are eligible to take the "Graduate Workshop." This workshop is only for 30/30 Graduates, so you can be sure everyone there will already be at a high level of game. The 30/30 Club is also the proving ground for all future workshop coaches. If you want to coach for Brad's top team, the 30/30 Club is the place to start. Online Coaching Privileges If you do all assignments and file all reports for your first 6 months, you are eligible to become and Online Coach and give advice to the new guys who are currently in months 1-6. If you complete all 12 months, you are eligible to give advice to guys in months 7-12 as well. Helping others is a highly rewarding experience and it will help you to internalize what you've learned even more. Advanced Workshop Privileges Graduates of the 30/30 Club who have completed all assignments and reports are eligible to participate in my Advanced 30/30 Graduate Workshop. Once a year, I offer this advanced workshop. You will go into the field with me and my coaches, and I will personally put the finishing touches on your development and show you my most advanced techniques and strategies. After you have completed all 12 months, you can contact us through www.bradp.com. We're always happy to hear from our graduates.

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THE5 PARTS OF THE30/30 CLUB 1. Your workbook Use it. Do the exercises. Don't just read it and say "I'll do this later." Most people who buy self help products don't even read them. Don't be that guy! Get everything you can out of this. Squeeze every last drop of juice out of it! You can also type up the exercises and post them on the 30/30 Forum. This is a great idea, as it will allow me and the other coaches to help you along the way. 2. The CDs and eBooks. This is where you'll do most of your studying. Every month I'll be sending you a few CDs, maybe an eBook. It'll be something different every month. Some months you'll be given lots of info, some months there will be less. There will also be "bonus" CDs every month. You aren't required to listen to all of these, but many students find them helpful. 3. The 30/30 Forum This is an interactive message board where you can get advice from 30/30 coaches and from me, Brad P, inventor of the 30/30 Club. Here you can file reports on your development, post pictures so we can help you with your look, even upload audio and get help with your voice tone. It's called the 30/30 Club because everyone who is there will commit to meeting a minimum of 30 new women every month of the program, starting in Month 2. It doesn't matter if you meet one a day for 30 days or 30 on the last day of the month, you will be meeting 30 new women every month. Your participation in the 30/30 Forum is optional. I hope to see you there! 4. The Newsletter I'll be sending you a newsletter every week to let you know what you should be working on. I'll also be giving helpful tips on how to get the most out of the program. 5. Openers sent straight to your phone Once a week we'll send an opener to try out right to your phone. I'll be sending some of my best stuff out, so I hope you get some good use out of this. If you find it annoying or your girls are reading your text messages, you can have this option turned off and we will stop sending them.

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THEPRINCIPLES OF LEARNING Before we get into what you'll be doing for the next 12 months, I want to walk you through some of the principles this program is built upon. 1. Success with women is something anyone can learn. I've been teaching workshops and writing books since 2005. I've seen all kinds of guys learn. Short guys, tall guys, guys with learning disabilities, old guys. Anyone can learn it. This is great news. It takes some guys longer than others, but if you stick with it you will learn to succeed with women. Consider these examples: In 2007, I taught seduction to a 53 year old man. On the first night of our workshop, he seduced a 25 year old woman. It took him less than 4 hours from when they met to when they were having sex. From 2005-2007, I taught a male virgin in his early 30s about dating and seducing women. He had substantial learning disabilities, and some physical disabilities as well. The road to success was long. He went from being scared of women to talking to women, then learned to get phone numbers, then he got to the point where he was getting about 1 date per month. This went on for about 6 months, and I'm pleased to say that in the spring of 2007 he lost his virginity, which had been his goal all along. 2. There are many skills to master, and you must learn them in the correct order. There is so much information out there these days, that it can be hard to sort through it all and get started on taking action. Typically, students of seduction and dating spend a period of 6-12 months reading and listing to information before taking action. There are many who read incessantly and never approach or sleep with any women. In the beginning, it's very exciting to discover that this body of literature exists. This excitement gets mixed with the student's fear of approaching, and the result is a prolonged period of reading without going and trying anything you've read. As the reading continues, the student ingests ideas from multiple sources. Some of the info conflicts with things he has read earlier. Some of it is beginner material, some is advanced. The end result is that the student is swimming in a sea of useless information. The sheer volume of information prevents the student from being able to access ideas when interacting with a woman. It's like having a viii

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Rolodex the size of a refrigerator. You'd end up looking all day long for one single phone number. This pattern of paralysis is all too common amongst seduction students, and I've learned over the years how to correct and prevent it. Here are the keys to preventing paralysis: •

The "study only" period should be no longer than 1 month. It's fine to study up and think things over during the first month, but you must take action beginning in month 2. If you do not start approaching in month 2, you reduce the likelihood of achieving your goals and make the learning process harder than it should be.

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All information should be timed appropriately. A beginner should not be studying how to get threesomes or anything else advanced. It's a waste of time and creates confusion and paralysis. During the next 12 months, you will be given just enough to keep you moving forward, and we will never overburden you with too much information.

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All lessons should be regarded as self help, not entertainment. There's a big difference between self help and entertainment. If you are seeking entertainment, go to the movies. I'm not here to entertain you.

How can you tell if you're ingesting entertainment or self help? Just listen to your self talk. People who are entertained will say "I liked that" or "I didn't like that." That's what you say after a movie. When it comes to entertainment, "Did you like it?" and "Were you entertained?" are the only questions that matter. People who are helping themselves will say "How can I used this right away? What can I take away from this and apply to my own life." That's what you should be saying. Perhaps you will find the materials I send you enjoyable and entertaining. We did have a blast at those seminars and I had a really fun time writing "Diary of A Pickup Artist"... Just don't let that entertainment be the only thing you get out of it. I wrote those books and spoke at those seminars to motivate and inspire you. Any entertainment value is secondary.

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If you keep these things in mind, you will learn all of your lessons in the right order, slowly building your success, until one day you wake up and realize you don't even have to try hard or think much to get women. It's something that just happens for you because you put in the time and paid your dues. 3. Having lots and lots of information isn't always an advantage. The more you have, the more confusing it can be. The 30/30 Club will give you the right information at the right time, and that's all we'll give you. Nothing extra. Nothing confusing. In fact, we've intentionally built the 30/30 Club Message Board in a way that prevents you from getting lessons that are not timed correctly for your level. Poorly timed lessons are detrimental to your development. You will move backwards if you take in poorly timed information. 4. There are many different levels of learning. The first time you hear an idea, you may agree with it, you may even try to act on it, but it does not truly become a part of you until you've heard that idea many more times and acted on it many more times. Each time you hear or act on an idea, you learn it on a deeper and deeper level. I calls these instances "idea encounters" and this is how they usually work: During "idea encounter" #1, you say to yourself "Yes, that makes sense." During IE #2, you might evaluate the source and say to yourself "Wow that Brad P. is a pretty smart guy." During IE #3, you might think back to a time when something similar happened to you and say to yourself "ohhh, that's why that girl called me back, but the other girl wouldn't." During IE #4, you might take the information and use it in a real interaction. During IE #5, you look back on that interaction and process it using the original idea as the framework, and so on and so forth. Each time you encounter the idea, you learn a deeper and deeper version of it. Eventually, the idea becomes so much a part of you that you don't even have to think about it anymore. You've internalized it. You've made it a habit. It's not just an "idea," it's part of your permanent personality. During the course of the 30/30 Program, there are ideas that will be repeated to you over and over in different contexts. By repeating these ideas to you in different ways, I hope to move you through the process of internalizing them more quickly. I can't do it all by myself though, you have to actually use the ideas in live interactions with real women. If you don't do this, you will never make any of the things I'm teaching you a permanent part of your personality. Don't worry, it's built into the program. I'll be telling you exactly when and how x

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to try out these ideas. 5. Information Timing is very important. "Information Timing" is learning the right things at the right times. Stay away from the advanced stuff when you're a beginner. It will just confuse you. Good information timing is built into this program. 6. Repetition of information is very important. There are some thing you will hear over and over in this program. That's intentional. When we repeat things to you at a later stage of development, they will resonate with you in a different way. 7. In the end, you will not have to think hard about seduction and dating. It will come naturally to you. At the end of this 12 month program, you can take this workbook and all the CDs and put them in your attic. You won't be needing them anymore. The goal of the program is to do intense periods of learning followed by intense periods of internalization. If you internalize the information enough, there will be no need to study and read about seduction and dating ever again. The only kind of "studying" you should do after those 12 months is to give advice to the new guys on my 30/30 forum. They will need your help, and giving help to others is the final act of internalization. 8. Learning seduction and dating is about making permanent changes to yourself. Most dating methods teach you a single system you can apply for seducing a single woman. As effective as these systems may be, they're not nearly as effective as making a permanent change in yourself. If you're just implementing someone's system, it's still work. It still takes effort. In the 30/30 Club, the goal is to change into the kind of man who gets women effortlessly and naturally. Along the way there will be systems to learn and ideas to implement, but the idea here is to learn it, then forget it. By this time next year, you won't be thinking hard about techniques or strategies, you'll be on auto pilot. That's the way it should be. This program is about making a permanent change in yourself.

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MONTH 1 - IDENTITY AND INFORMATION Course Materials: • • • •

“The Underground Dating Seminar” Audio CDs for Seminars 1, 2, and 3. Seminar 1: Identity and Approach Seminar 2: Approach and Follow Up Seminar 3: Meeting Up

Your to-do list: • • •

Identity Essay. List of Goals and Dreams. Set up your Online Profile.

The goal for month 1 is for you to have a surface understanding of what it takes to approach women, attract women, get phone numbers, call women, and go on dates. You don't need to know every strategy and routine in the world just yet, the idea is just to understand the basics. Month 1 should be fun and informative. It's a primer course on what's to come. Your other goal this month is to start to shaping your identity into something that will attract women. This will be the basis of everything you're going to do in the next year. It's crucial to create an attractive identity, and also to project this in an interesting way. Before the creation of the 30/30 Club, it was normal for new students to spend the first 4-6 months reading. During this time, they would not be approaching or utilizing the information. This is the "information absorption" phase, and in the 30/30 Program, it should only be one month long. More than one month of information intake can lead to a lifetime of procrastination. There is a "point of no return" where the information taken in can create a glut, which renders all of the strategies and techniques mentally inaccessible, and hence useless. After this point of no return is reached, most students continue to read message boards and buy dating products, but regard the information as entertainment. Dating strategies should not be regarded as entertainment, they should be regarded as self-help literature. Hence they should be put into action as quickly as possible. So listen to the CDs and do your identity exercises. Next month you'll be out there meeting lots and lots of women.

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IDENTITY EXERCISE 1: Write a full page about who you are and what defines you as a person.

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IDENTITY EXERCISE 2: Focus in on 3-5 distinct parts of your identity. These can be your job, your hobbies, your philosophy on life, your relation to others. Leave at least 2 spaces blank. 1.) 2.) 3.) 4.) 5.) 6.) 7.) Now look at the list and rate each part in terms of how attractive you feel it makes you to women. Put them in order and write them here. 1.) 2.) 3.) 4.) 5.) 6.) 7.) Make a mental note that these are the topics that you should be talking about the most when you first meet women.

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IDENTITY EXERCISE 3: DREAMS Now that you have a clear vision of what your identity is as it exists today, it's time to start thinking bigger. Make a list of your dreams. Even if they seem very far fetched at the moment. Having a dream and pursuing it makes you more attractive to women. Dreams 1.) 2.) 3.) 4.) 5.) Now go back to the last page and add 2 of your dreams on to your identity list. Start incorporating these into your identity as soon as you can, even if you are only taking very small steps. Make a list of things you can do to start pursuing your dreams TODAY. 1.) 2.) 3.) 4.) 5.)

YOUR ONLINE PROFILE Now that you've done some work on your identity, please log on to the 30/30 Club Forum and add your identity to your info. This will help us coach you on your identity and dreams. Remember, you must complete all 30/30 Exercises and put them into your profile in order to be eligible to give advice in the 30/30 Forum and become an Online Coach.

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MONTH 2 - BASELINING AND MODELING Course Materials: • • •

“Instant Attraction” eBook “Diary of A Pickup Artist” eBook BONUS: Real Pickup Audio 2 CDs

Your to-do list: • •

Do 30 Baseline Approaches. Document your results and file a report in the 30/30 Forum.

You are now sufficiently prepared to begin experimental approaches. This month, you will do 30 approaches and keep a record of what kind of reactions you get. The goal this month is to gather some data on what kind of responses you get from women when approaching. In the next few months, we will be comparing your results to this month. This month is the "baseline" which the coaches will use to measure your progress. For this month, it doesn't matter if you get rejected or not. It doesn't matter if you get dates or get laid. It's all about the big picture. There's so much still to learn, and the coaches need to know how much the material in months 3-12 is helping you. So don't worry about getting rejected. Don't worry about getting results. It's all an experiment right now. Perhaps you'll be pleasantly surprised with the results, but it's not important yet. There's lots of ideas on what to open with in the “Instant Attraction” eBook. These openers have been tested by me and my students thousands of times. Use whatever openers you feel most comfortable with. Try to stick with the same 2 openers. They will get more and more comfortable as you use them more and more. If none of these openers feel comfortable to you, just use them anyway- for now. Many students have a teeny tiny comfort zone when they first start out. Using the openers will expand your comfort zone. You're better off expanding your comfort zone than trying to work within it. If all else fails, just use the "psychologist opener." It doesn't matter if you do all 30 approaches in one weekend or if you do one a day for the entire month. Do what feels most comfortable to you. The most important thing is that you get all 30 approaches done and get them documented. If things go well, try to model some of the strategies you read about in “Diary of A Pickup Artist.” That book will keep you inspired if things get rough. If you have a bad day, come home and read a few chapters. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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Approaching women is not easy at first, but try to have fun with it. Women love to be approached in a public place. It's like something out of a movie or a romance novel.

EXERCISE: DOCUMENT AT LEAST 30 APPROACHES For each approach, circle one of the following: B=Blowout C5 Conversation lasting more than 5 minutes P/E Phone#/Email close You can also write notes on each approach.

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MONTH 3 - PRESENCE Course Materials: • • • •

“Brad's Fashion Bible” eBook “Perfecting Your Body Language” eBook “Perfecting Your Voice Tone” eBook BONUS: Interview on CD: Brad and Glenn on Fashion and Presence

Your to-do list: • • • •

Do 30 Approaches. Document your results and file a report in the 30/30 Forum. Buy a few new outfits and post pictures- so the coaches can critique you. Video tape yourself talking and do a self-critique. Post it online if you need help.

Now that we have a "baseline" to measure against, it's time to start making changes and fixing things. This month is the first month where you'll be really working hard on your game. Now it's getting serious and it's time to do some real hard work. Month 3 is extremely important, and you must be sure that you can make the 30/30 Club a priority this month. Don't take on any extra projects or overtime at work. Don't take on new commitments of any sort. You're going to be very busy working on your presence. Don't worry, the overtime will still be there when you get back, except you'll enjoy it more because you'll have women calling and emailing you all day long at work. Presence Presence is one of the first variables that will affect your success with women. Guys who have charismatic presence can succeed even if other parts of their game are lacking. For instance, if you have a great look and great posture, women will be interested in you even if your opener isn't very good or you tend to lose steam 15 minutes in. Presence can save you from cockblockers too. Having presence increases your social value and everyone around will respect you more. There are 3 main components to presence: 1. Fashion 2. Body Language and Positioning 3. Voice Tone This month you will work on these three components. You will focus on them even if it means sacrificing other parts of your game. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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For this month, "What do I say?" isn't important. We will deal with your conversational repertoire later. Presence gives power to everything you say, so it's important to develop that first. Without presence, you won't be able to tell what parts of your repertoire are working and which are failing. Listening skills aren't important this month, neither is getting phone numbers. All of this will come in time. Take a moment to think about what kind of presence you want to have. You've probably heard women talk about what kind of guys are attractive and what kind of presence they have. A commanding presence. A dominating presence. A charismatic presence. A comfortable presence. A sexual presence. These are all good things. Guys who fail with women have a bland presence, or no presence at all. So be sure you are making your presence felt to the people around you. Ready to take action? Once you've reviewed the materials we sent you, make some adjustments before doing your 30 approaches. If your look needs adjusting, adjust that. Adjust your body language or voice tone if you need to. Once you have started making adjustments, begin your approaches. Many students will still have some jitters about approaching. This is normal and you've got to fight through it for now. Next month we will work on eliminating your approach anxiety. The point this month is not to be anxiety-free when you approach, the point is to work on your overall presence. Just like last month, it doesn't matter how long it takes you to do 30 approaches. You can do them in 2 days or 2 weeks. Just be sure to get them done and get them documented. I encourage you to go beyond the minimum requirements and do 50 or 100 approaches if you really want to get good with women. Remember, the key to success is to make the right adjustments. The guys who make the smartest adjustments will always succeed the most. So make any adjustments you can by yourself, and consult with the coaches to make even smarter adjustments.

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EXERCISE: DOCUMENT AT LEAST 30 APPROACHES # 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30

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MONTH 4 - SOCIAL FREEDOM Course Materials: • • •

Seminar on CD: “How to Beat Approach Anxiety” PDF: “18 Degrees of Social Freedom” BONUS: Student Success Stories

Your to-do list: • • •

Do the 18 Social Freedom Exercises a minimum of twice a week. File a report on the 30/30 Club Forum telling the coaches about your experience with the exercises. Approach 30 new women and file a report detailing your results.

About the Seminar At the time this seminar was recorded, the curriculum was so new that no one knew what the long term effects would be. After doing the 18 exercises, students reported a drastic improvement in approach anxiety as well as an improvement in their overall mood. The students felt outgoing and fearless, and it had only taken about 45 minutes to go through the exercises. Since then this seminar has become increasingly popular and hundreds of men have beaten approach anxiety using these exercises. Many students continue to use the exercises long after their approach anxiety has subsided, because they act as a “State Builder.” The effects makes their entire night go better and improves their results drastically. How to do the Exercises The first time you do these 18 exercises, you shouldn't be trying too hard or pushing yourself. The idea is just to pay attention to the experience and to your anxiety as it rises and fades, giving way to a feeling of freedom and accomplishment. You might not make it through all 18 exercises on the first try. That's fine. Just do as many as you can give each one an honest rating. Rate the entire experience. There's usually a "buildup" phase, this is when you're getting mentally prepared to do the exercise. Then there's the exercise itself, then there's how you feel after. Rate that complete experience. As you do the exercises over and over, you should start pushing yourself more and more. Try to get through a few more exercises than you did last time. See if you're feeling more comfortable. See if your score is improving. You'll know it's time to stop doing the exercises if your score stops improving. There comes a time when you've gotten everything you can get out of the exercises and it's time to move on. For some people, this comes in the first 2 weeks. For others it takes months. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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EXERCISE: DOCUMENT AT LEAST 30 APPROACHES # 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30

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MONTH 5 - REPERTOIRE Course Materials: • •

The Routine Encyclopedia eBook BONUS: Interview on CD: Brad and Glen on Conversational Repertoire

Your to-do list: • • • • •

Approach 30 new women and file a report detailing your results. Choose 2 new routines and try them out each day you go out. Generate 2 of your own routines while in field and write them down when you get home. Create an inventory of routines when you know which ones work for you. File a report online and get guidance from the coaches.

About the Routine Encyclopedia The Routine Encyclopedia was a joint effort between myself, FastSeduction.com, BadboyLifestyle.com, Love Systems, and The Mystery Method. Inside you'll find seduction routines from many different pickup artists. Some of them are from as far back as 2001. The creators of these routines have graciously agreed to have them included in this book. These routines are the best of the best. There's something in there for everyone. Even if some of it seems like it's "not your style," keep reading on and you'll find something you can use. When I was learning, I was mostly self taught. I often wished someone would just tell me what words to say to get women interested instead of me having to try everything under the sun. I would have killed for the chance to read something like The Routines Encyclopedia. So keep in mind: you are lucky to be learning in an era where such good information is available. Don't let it slip through your fingertips by not taking action. About the Interview with Glenn I decided to interview Glenn for month 5 because he used these same types of routines when he was learning. Glenn improved very quickly by taking these same routines from The Routines Encyclopedia, and using an "embrace and extend" strategy with them. "Embrace" means you commit to the scripts and fully understand them. "Extend" means you add to them and make them your own. By embracing and extending, Glenn became tremendously successful with women. Glenn also developed a great natural flow along the way. This is typical of guys who use the "embrace and extend" approach. The Purpose of Routines For the next 30 days, you will try out conversational ideas that have been thoroughly tested. These ideas are proven ways to attract women. Some of them you'll love, some of them you might be uncomfortable with at first. The point is to start understanding what kinds of www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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conversations get women interested and turned on. You can modify them or create your own as you go, but the book will give you a good starting point. Some people are turned off by the idea of using routines, but for this month, you should try to use them as a learning tool. Even if you end up ditching them later, you'll learn a lot by experimenting with them. I've often had students complain to me that routines don't feel natural or comfortable when first learning them. They want me to help them write their own watered down batch of routines instead. This is not the answer to the problem. The problem here is having a small "comfort zone." When you have a small comfort zone, the solution is to enlarge it little by little. Then you will grow and improve. If you try to work within the confines of your small comfort zone, you will remain an uncomfortable, anxious man as long as you live. Don't make this mistake. It's month 5 now, and it's time to stop being a pussy. There are 3 ways to generate conversational repertoire, and you should learn them all. Pro Scripts Pro scripts are routines like the ones in The Routine Encyclopedia. These were created by professional dating coaches and pickup artists. Most students are not likely to create scripts that are as effective as these, so the upside is that they are incredibly powerful once you get the delivery down. The downside is that they won't feel "natural" at first. There's one more thing I should tell you about pro scripts. You now have a huge book of almost every great script out there. So that's pretty exciting at first. Remember, just because you have the book, doesn't mean you have the ability to use any of them. The only way to learn to use them is to take 2 per day and practice them at least 5 times in the field. If you don't do that, they won't work very well. I've had many students come into my live workshops with a database printout of more than 50 routines and they couldn't do anything with them. Start with 2 per day. Build up your repertoire slowly and carefully. Nobody needs 50+ routines in their 5th month of learning. Having 10 that you know well will take you much further. Self Scripts When you go out and meet women all the time, you'll naturally start to say things over and over if they're working for you. Everyone does this. Even people who aren't working on their game tell the same stories over and over. The idea of "self scripting" is to recognize your most effective conversational ideas immediately and write them down in your repertoire. Next time you're out and you're having a great time talking to women, you'll probably have 1 or 2 real zingers. Save these. Put them in your bag of tricks so you always have something good when you need it. The upside to self scripting is that it will always feel natural, and this makes the delivery easy. The downside is that they are not usually quite as strong as the atomic powered routines generated by me and the other professionals. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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Natural Flow This is where most of your conversation will come from. You don't need to be a non-stop playback system for routines, 10-20% will suffice. Women usually only remember the best 10% and the worst 10% of what you talk about, so using non-stop routines is overkill. If you truly have nothing to say and you're tempted to use routines for 90% of your conversation, rewind to month 1 and work on your identity. If you have plenty to say, but you're too scared to say it, rewind back to last month and work on your social freedom. Here's some ideas for natural flow: 1. Know your best topics. Some of my favorite topics to talk about with women are traveling, dating, social dynamics, psychology, music, and myself. I'm no good at talking about movies, so I usually stay away from that topic. Some of Glenn's best topics are yoga, fashion, hairstyling, and movies. 2. Control the Frame. "Frame control" is something I talk a lot about in the CDs. Women are attracted to dominance and leadership. Controlling the flow of the conversation is one way to show dominance and leadership without seeming cocky or bossy. Frame control is a subtle aspect of attracting women. 3. Riff on what she's saying. Don't be afraid to take what she's talking about and have some fun with it. Expand on it. Exaggerate it. Tease her on it. Empathize with her. Agree with her. Tell a similar story from your own life. 4. Bridging. You can bridge from one topic to the next to keep things moving. It's not as hard as it might seem. "Funny you mention that movie Bruce Almighty, I heard Jim Carey travels to Germany a lot, have you ever been there?" I just bridged off a topic I'm bad with toward a topic I'm good with. Another easy way to bridge is to mention a friend, relative, or co-worker while you bridge. "My Mom LOVES that movie. She's always telling me to quit giving seminars and become an actor like Jim Carey. Of course everyone's mom thinks they're funny enough to be famous, but I've always been much more interested in psychology than acting."

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I just bridged off the "movie" topic and on to the "psychology" topic.

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BRIDGING EXERCISE Identify your 5 strongest topics: 1.) _______________________ 2.) _______________________ 3.) _______________________ 4.) _______________________ 5.) _______________________ Now for each of the following topics, write a sentence that bridges to one of your strong topics. 1.) Seinfeld ____________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ 2.) Basket Weaving

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options and you limit your power. As for self scripts, you're already doing them. You've been doing them for your entire life. Everyone has been doing them. Ready to get out in the field? Name 2 pro scripts that you're going to try when you get out there. 1.) _______________________ 2.) _______________________ When you get home, identify your best 2 moments and jot those down as self scripts. 1.)

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Do this every time you go out. By the end of the month, you should have at least 5 pro scripts and 5 self scripts that you are comfortable with. Within a few months, you should have 15-20 of each. By the end of your 12 months of studying, you won't need any of them, but you'll use them sometimes just for fun. Keep an inventory here: Pro Scripts

Self Scripts

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EXERCISE: DOCUMENT AT LEAST 30 APPROACHES # 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30

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MONTH 6 - MEETING UP Course Materials: • •

“Planning the Perfect Date” eBook BONUS: Interview on CD: Brad and Gabriel on Meeting Up

Your to-do list: • • •

Go on a few dates. Write up a report and get advice from the online coaches. If you haven't made enough progress to get dates yet, do 30 approaches and file a report on those. If you're going on at least 4 dates this month, feel free to skip the usual 30 cold approaches.

The focus this month is very simple. Go on a few dates and try to get them to end at either your place or hers. Read “Planning the Perfect Date” and follow the formulas as closely as you can. Feel free to visit the 30/30 Club Forum if you have any questions. If you're not getting dates just yet, don't panic. We will help you keep working on your fundamentals. Tuck a way everything you're learning about dates in month 5, you'll be needing it soon enough. Keep doing a minimum of 30 approaches per month. This would also be a good time to look back on the last few months and review anything you haven't perfected yet. You've been through a lot. • • • • •

Completed 120+ approaches. Made changes to your style, body language, and voice. Grasped a deeper understanding of your identity and how to communicate it in an attractive way. Read Hundreds of routines and scripts. Enhanced your ability to create natural conversation.

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That's a lot to absorb and it's a good time to start double checking yourself. Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10 in the following areas: Identity Understanding of Theory Motivation Body Language Voice Tone Style Conversational Repertoire

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All of these factors are starting to come together into a coherent whole. When you go on dates, you have a few hours of interacting with one single woman and you can really focus in on everything you've learned. This month it's a good idea for you to go on as many dates as you can. It's also a good idea for you to be spending a lot of time on the phone with women. Practice, practice, practice and everything will start coming together and working. What's your strongest area? Congratulate yourself on a job well done in that area. What's the area where you've made the most progress? Take a minute to pat yourself on the back for improving. Leave a post on the 30/30 Forum telling everyone where you've improved the most. I'd like to personally congratulate you on that. What's the are where you need the most work? Look back on the books and CDs related to that area. You'll understand more about it this time since you're further along in your development now. That's the way repetition of information works. The 2nd and 3rd time you hear something, you'll take a different meaning from it. You now have more experience being around real women, so things will make more sense.

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MONTH 7- PHYSICAL ESCALATION AND SEX Course Materials: • •

“Underground Dating Seminar” Part 4 BONUS: Interview with David Shade

Your to-do list: • •

Do 30 Approaches and be sure to touch all the women you speak to. File a report on the 30/30 Forum. Continue going on dates that end at your place, concentrate on escalating the women effectively. Use the series of best practices described here in your workbook.

If you're not getting dates and sex just yet, don't panic. This information will all come in handy later. Just keep doing your 30 approaches per month, and we'll keep advising you on the forum if you need help.

OVERVIEW OF MONTH 7 By now the idea of "taking the lead" should be getting familiar to you. This idea is especially important when dealing with sexual escalation. The woman is not going to do it for you! It's up to you to take the lead and do the escalating. Here's a list of best practices to keep in mind as you communicate sexually with women. 1. Don't be afraid to touch women right away when you first meet them. A simple touch on the shoulder or arm will establish that this is flirting, not some "friend-zone" interaction. Touching a woman as soon as you speak to her will begin a physical dialog. 2. Pay attention to how the woman responds to your touch. Some will respond well right away. Others take a little while to warm up. Then there are some women who are sexually damaged and aren't going to respond positively no matter what. When you meet one of these, don't get down on yourself. It's not your fault. Even if you did something to turn her off, it's nothing for you to get upset about. Women are often flaky and weird, and it's not something you should take personally. If she does respond well, escalate the dialog a bit more. Go slowly at first and throw mixed signals. 3. Move on to a secondary sexual area like the back of the neck or the small of the back. Stroke a little behind her neck like it's no big deal. This is an exhilarating feeling to a woman. Put your arm around her waist like you guys have been fucking for months already. This puts a woman in the mood. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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4. If you've touched her neck, waist, face, hair, and/or hands, she's probably ready to be kissed. Go ahead and kiss her. If she goes with it, don't go too crazy. Be sure you stop her before she stops you. This will get her wanting more. If she doesn't want to be kissed yet, just shake it off and try again in 10-15 minutes. Do not sulk or react negatively in any way. It is not a rejection, it's just a 10 minute delay. 5. Use a pretense for getting her alone. Say "I gotta show you this Book/CD/ Movie/Cat/Picture/Laptop/Whatever." Women who are wanting sex will generally tell themselves they're not going to have sex. It's just part of the process of getting turned on. A sexually aroused woman is a woman in conflict. Being conflicted is part of the fun. Using a pretense allows a woman to go through her normal stages of sexual conflict. 6. Once you've got her alone, use sexual tension to slowly get her heated up. Women love the feeling of not knowing what's coming next. Go a bit slower than you think she wants you to go. 7. Any time she gives you resistance or says to stop, mirror it back by saying "I was just about to tell you the same thing." Then pause your escalation for 10-15 minutes. Then re-escalate her. If she makes any logical arguments, just agree and start touching her in a subtle way. For example, if she says "We have to stop, I have a boyfriend," you say "Great tell me all about it" while stroking her neck and thigh. The whole idea is to say one thing with your words and say the opposite with your body. Don't be the argumentative guy. Don't use "convincer behavior" like "come on, pretty please??" It's easier to just say one thing and do the opposite. For some reason women find this to be a turn on. 8. After pausing, always start again within 10-15 minutes. You can chit chat in between, but make no mistake, it's not over yet. She may stop you 5 or 6 times. Never ever take it personally or react negatively. It's just normal female behavior. Rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat. I've done rinse and repeat as many as 12 times in a single night. 9. Never let your inner wimp come out when escalating. Don't say to yourself "She doesn't like me" or "This is embarrassing." It's normal male-female interaction. Try to enjoy the "rinse and repeat" process. 10. Try out all the sexual techniques you hear in the CDs.

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WHERE TO TOUCH Here's an easy map to follow. Touch the shoulder, arm, or below the knee first. Once she starts responding, move on to the other areas.

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SIMPLIFIED DIAGRAM OF THE VAGINA Here's a few simple diagram you can use to find your way around the vagina. It can be a confusing space if you don't have a good map! •

Clitoris: This is the place to get things started. Always go lightly at first. Once she's warmed up you can go faster. Pull back the lips if it's slipping away from you.

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G-spot: Once you've warmed up her clit, put your finger in and grab a hold of the g spot. Don't be afraid to use a firm touch. The G spot is usually a good bet to make her orgasm, even for a woman who is young and inexperienced. Push down on her stomach to get extra stimulation on the G-spot.

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Front Deep Spot: Get her as hot as you can before going for this one. It only works on some women. Hit this spot hard. It's all or nothing with the front deep spot. This spot is also known as the "anterior formix."

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Back Deep Spot: If you can get this one working, it will make her head spin around 360 degrees. Go all the way back and to the bottom. If it feels like you have a bone under your finger, you're in the right spot. The deep spots work better on older and more experienced women, but young women can be trained to be responsive. At first it will just feel weird to her, but as she gets used to it, she will start enjoying it. In the beginning you should mix clitoral stimulation with back deep spot stimulation. It offsets the initial weirdness of this spot.

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EXERCISE: DOCUMENT AT LEAST 30 APPROACHES # 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30

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MONTH 8 - ADVANCED SOCIAL DYNAMICS Course Materials: • •

Interviews with Coaches: Savoy Interviews with Naturals: Joe Natural

Your to-do list: •

Do 30 Approaches and file a report. Try to use the new techniques you've learned in the interviews.

OVERVIEW OF MONTH 8 Now that you've gotten your basic social skills together and you are competent enough to date and escalate women without having to think to hard about it, it's time to start shooting for the hotter women. To land the real hotties, you're going to need to know about advanced social dynamics. This is a topic that has been analyzed quite a bit by professional dating coaches. As usual, I think it's important to hear from a natural who games at a high level in addition to hearing from a professional coach. Many of the things they talk about are similar, and hearing from both of them will give you a deeper understanding of social dynamics. Here's some concepts to remember: Frame Control: Controlling the flow of the conversation. Talk about what you want to talk about. Don't let people sidetrack you unless they introduce a thread that helps your cause. Social Proof: Every woman in the room will be more attracted to you if you surround yourself with women. Even if it's only one or two women who are with you, you have far more value than if you were alone. Guys are always trying to prove how cool they are, and they will lie and exaggerate in order to get laid. Women want to see proof that you are cool. The proof is that you have other women with you. You must be cool, cause they wouldn't be seen with you if you weren't. Obviously, having hot, high value women around you works the best. Jealousy: Jealousy is the most powerful human emotion. If there's a girl you like, and she doesn't like you yet, it often makes sense to make her jealous. She will fear losing your attention and will go after you much harder. This gets her more invested into the interaction than she was before. Jealousy touches a nerve in very attractive women in particular, since they are used to getting any guy they want.

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Carpet Bombing: This is when you approach every single woman in the room without showing interest in any of them. Joe Natural explains this technique in his interview. He tells the story of approaching 50 women with the Horse Girl Shocker in under an hour. Pawning: This is when you approach a woman just for the purpose of creating social proof for yourself. Then you ditch her later when you are dealing with the women you are really interested in. She's not the girl you're after, she's just a pawn in the game. Devious? Perhaps, but it's all relative. Women use men as pawns all the time. They make no apologies and they don't see anything wrong with it. It's more common than you might think. Merging: This is when you do an approach on a group of women, then you do a second approach with them in tow. Introduce the women to each other, and now you have twice as many women around you. This maneuver creates social proof, jealousy, and sometimes the women become competitive. Hard Game/Soft Game: You need a good balance of hard game and soft game in order to attract top tier women. Hard game consists of things like shockers, cocky/funny, jealousy, backturns, etc. Soft game is when you use empathetic listening, showing genuine interest, showing vulnerability, or the occasional compliment. Value Calibration: Women will only be attracted to you if they perceive your value as being slightly higher or the same as their own value. Sometimes you will have to raise your value. For example, if a woman has been hit on over and over again and she is thinking highly of herself, you will have to raise your value or lower hers in order to be seen as desirable. You might do this by teasing her. You can also bait her to try to win you over, then act indifferent when she does. Other times, the woman might perceive you as being too high-value. For example, you may have quite a bit of social proof, and a woman might feel that there's no chance she could get you to be her boyfriend. You must seem attainable or she will not be interested. You can bring your value down by showing a vulnerable side or bring her value up by complimenting her.

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CALIBRATE YOUR VALUE If your value is too low, she's going to think you're a social liability. There's a risk that she might seem like a loser being seen with you. If your value is too high, she'll be uncomfortable around you. She's afraid you might be stuck up or snobbish. She'll feel like she has no chance with you, so why should she even bother getting to know you?

Women want men with value higher or the same as their own. Having the appropriate value gives you a chance to show dominance, which will ultimately be the factor that creates attraction. Women are only attracted to dominant men. Having well calibrated value does not create the attraction, it's more like a prerequisite that allows you the opportunity to show dominance. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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EXERCISE: DOCUMENT AT LEAST 30 APPROACHES # 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30

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MONTH 9 - SAMEDAY LAYS Course Materials: • • •

“The Underground Dating Seminar” Part 5 “Interviews with Naturals: The Pheromone Kid” Bonus: Student Success Stories: Ricky Ricardo

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Do 30 approaches and file a report. Go for the same day lay every time you go out. Don't settle for phone numbers, really push yourself for the immediate results. Use the frameworks from the CDs, "Brad's Ten Timer Method," and The Pheromone Kid's "Ten Minute Seduction Technique."

This month is filled with very advanced material. Do your best to internalize it, but don't feel pressured to have one night stands if it's not what you want. It's not for everyone, although understanding how it works is something everyone should know.

OVERVIEW OF MONTH 9 If you asked the average man off the street or anyone in the mainstream media, he'd say that women don't like one night stands and only sluts have sex with guys they just met. This couldn't be further from the truth. Every woman out there has a special place in her heart for a man that can sweep her off her feet, attract her, and seduce her on the first night. Women love to be seduced. It's one of the best kept secrets in the world but it's true. There are many factors that come into play. This month you're going to learn how to manage and recognize a few of the most important factors that go into getting sex on the first day. The first thing to remember is that everything you've learned in the past 8 months still applies now. This is not the time to do a total 180 in your game plan. You should still be using the same openers, same strategies, and continue using your conversational repertoire the same way you have been using it since month 5. What we're going to do this month is add a new layer of strategy and awareness to give you a high probability of taking a woman home. Same day lays will test every part of your skill set, so this is a good time to solidify everything you've learned. Last month we learned that escalation is a matter of using a consistent procedure. Figure out the best steps to take, then take those steps every time. Pulling a girl home the same night is also a matter of using proper procedures. Learn these procedures and use them consistently, and you'll always have a decent chance at getting laid. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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SAMEDAY LAY VARIABLES VARIABLE 1: LOGISTICS You should be figuring out the logistics for the pull within the first 10-15 minutes of meeting the woman. Logistical issues include: End location: Your place or hers? Is your place nearby? Is it OK to bring her there? Does she live with roommates? Women or men? Does she live with parents? Does she live in a college dorm? Is there any chance that someone she lives with will judge her as a slut for having sex with you? If neither place is suitable, will you be trying to have sex with her in your car? In an alley behind the bar? Figure this stuff out before you get too involved in the interaction. Transportation: How will you get to the next place? Extra venues: It often makes sense to bring a woman to another location before taking her home sometimes. It reinforces the idea that you two are "together" for the night. The idea is for the venues to get lower and lower in energy. This allows for increased intimacy and conversation.

Bar/Club--->Lounge--->Diner--->Home Don't bring her to extra places if it's not necessary, sometimes she's ready to go straight home. Do have these locations figured out in advance so you have options and you can easily take the lead. Peer group and social contracts: Smaller groups are always more desirable. If she's got lots of friends with her and they already have an agreement to leave together, it's a lower percentage maneuver than if the agreement was looser. Learn to recognize 3 types of social contracts: 1. Full Travel Dependency: This is a group that traveled together in the same car, and they have a firm agreement that they will leave together. Among women, this is a serious social contract. Part of the intention of this agreement is to prevent any of them from having sex. It's sort of like a modern day chastity belt. The women will tell you it's all about safety, but safety is only part of it. By preventing their friends from having sex, each woman in the group protects her own social value. When you encounter this situation, it's not a total wash, you can sometimes get back to the place they're all staying at and get a "slumber party" vibe going. The peer group must adore you if you're going to make this work. Or if you're working with a wingman, sometimes he can take care of the extra girls.

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2. Separate Travelers: The members of the group have traveled separately. They have a social contract to remain together for the time they are at the venue, then when it's time to go home they are allowed to do what they want. If you're gaming a girl in this situation, be sure it looks innocent when you leave together. "Just going to grab a quick bite" or "He's giving me a lift home." You can add "I really can't stay out that late, got an early morning tomorrow." 3. Floaters: Floaters are women who have a loose set of social obligations for the night, but they have an independent mentality and they don't have heavy social contracts weighing them down. They will meet 2 or 3 different social groups during the night, but they have no obligation to stay with them for long, or to travel with them at the end of the night. Sometimes female bartenders or cocktail waitresses can be found "floating" on their night off. They know people at every bar in town, so they can roll into any place and have an instant group of friends. A floater is the best case scenario for logistics. It's easy to determine which category a woman falls into. Open, then attract, then ask a few questions. Mix in some attraction material and cold reading if you like. Example:

"Where are you from? Wow you guys drove all the way in from Pasadena? Who's the designated driver? Is it you? You seem to be the responsible one. No? I knew it. You're a bad girl deep down. OK are you guys having a slumber party tonight or are you all bankers who have to wake up at 6am? No, wait, I know, you all do yoga at 5am. Why are yoga girls always out drinking the night before? Doesn't that sort of defeat the purpose? Ah screw it, let's get wasted. Not too wasted though, you have to keep your hands to yourself. No taking advantage of me!" Now you know where they're going at the end of the night, how they're getting around, who's in charge, and what kinds of social contracts are in effect. Determining logistics is one of the easiest parts of the game, so don't be afraid to ask these normal questions.

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VARIABLE 2: THE FEMALE SEXUAL MICROCYCLE If you think back on month 6, you read “Planning the Perfect Date.” There's a diagram in there that I want you to have another look at. For quick reference:

It's a good idea to try to figure out where your girl is at in her cycle. This isn't a huge factor, and it's not something you need to figure out right away, but if you know she's in party mode or boyfriend search mode, you know you have a better chance at same-day sex.

THE NON-FACTORS Your game: Assuming your game has gotten pretty good by now, you are not a variable in the equation. You are a constant factor. If you use my method of 10 approaches, your inner game and performance will not vary much. Caliber of women: Assuming you only approach women you are attracted to, this should not be a variable. During warm up approaches, it's fine to approach any woman, but once you've begun your real approaches, you should only be approaching women you are attracted to.

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BRAD P'S TEN TIMER METHOD Here's a procedure you should be using to get same day lays. The idea here is that you're going to put in your due diligence every time you go in the field. You're not going to get down on yourself when things go wrong, and you're not going to get too high on yourself when things go well. You're going to stay even and focused throughout the night. Be confident in the process and don't be swayed by temporary successes and failures. A blowout is gone as quickly as it arrives. What remains is the rest of the process and your faith in the process. Stick to this method and your confidence won't get tossed around like a rag doll. The Ten Timer Method will keep you solid and grounded. Out of ten approaches, most of the time you will get approximately the same results: The first 2 or 3 are just warm-ups and they don't matter. You'll get 1-2 blowouts You'll get 2-3 that are boring and go nowhere. You'll get 2-4 women that are attracted to you. This is normal and it's what you should expect. Don't panic when you get blown out. Don't think the game is over just because 2 women are attracted to you. You've got to get all the way to ten to give yourself a good chance of getting to the goal. Here's how to handle each result. The warm-ups should just get you in a social mood. You're just activating all the things you've learned these past 8 months. You may have some jitters and lingering approach anxiety. Warm-ups will help you get past this. Blowouts are a good thing because they save you some time. Blowouts are your friend. If you are still so fragile you can't handle the occasional blowout, rewind back to month 4 and do your social freedom exercises some more. It's not likely that you will get good with women if you still fear rejection. I have given you the tools to get over that fear, and now it's up to you to use them. If you don't have at least a few quick blowouts, you might do as many as 5 20-minute-gonowhere approaches. These are your enemy! That's 100 minutes of wasted time. Most cities only have about 3-4 hours of prime nightlife time. Don't waste time on boring or incompatible women.

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The go-nowhere conversation is your worst enemy. During months 1-8, it was fine to have a 20 minute talk with a woman and then just say goodbye and have nothing come of it. You were honing your social skills and getting yourself to the point where you could start getting same day lays. Things are different now. You're past the stage where you need an extra 20 minutes of practice time. It's better to use high impact material so the woman will either be massively attracted to you immediately or she will tell you to get lost immediately. I call this the "Blow me or Blow Me Out" mentality. Then there are the women who are attracted to you. This is where the game is played. This is when you should start to use your new strategies. Typical Results After you've been doing this for a while, the attracted women will be the only ones you really notice. The rest is just background noise. You know the attraction is coming, it's not a matter of "if," it's just a matter of when. That's your new reality. Let's say there are 3 women who are attracted to you, and you are attracted to all 3. The idea is to determine which one has the best logistics for a same day pull. Then you take phone numbers from the other 2 while focusing your energies on the best candidate. This doesn't mean you're not going to go after the other 2, you're still going to call them, but why bother spending time on them now if there's better options that are more immediate? If it falls through with your #1 candidate, you can always try for the more difficult pull on candidates #2 or #3. Or you can try to circumvent logistics by using The Pheromone Kid's Ten Minute Seduction Technique. By now this probably seems like a lot of strategy so let's look at some diagrams to clarify it.

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YOUR 3 CANDIDATES

In addition to this method, you also should become familiar with The Pheromone Kid's Ten Minute Seduction Technique. It's not for everyone, and it is not a requirement that you try it. It's just a little something extra to have in your bag of tricks for when there's no other options. It may sound like a far out idea, but what he recommends is repeatable and learnable. I learned it in about a month and it worked on the first try. My student Ricky learned it even faster than me, he was using the technique the first day I taught it to him.

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MONTH 10 - LIFESTYLES AND RELATIONSHIPS Course Materials: • •

“The Underground Dating Seminar” Part 6 Interviews with Coaches: Glenn P.

Your to-do list: • •

Do 30 Approaches and file a report. Do workbook exercises on defining your lifestyle.

OVERVIEW OF MONTH 10 By now, your skill set and identity should be considerably improved from when you first started the program. You have a lot more options than you had a few months ago. It's a good time to start figuring out what you're looking for in a relationship. Here's a few of the options you might be considering: • • • • • •

One Night Stands Friends with Benefits Short Term Sexual Relationship Long Term (Open relationship) Long Term (Committed relationship) Multiple Long Term Open Relationships

Now that you're starting to have your choice of women, you can get into any of the above situations without feeling like you're coming from a place of desperation. Many guys get into committed relationships because the girl threatens to leave if he doesn't, and that's never a good idea. It's also a good time to envision what type of lifestyle you want to have, and choose relationships that support that lifestyle. For example, if you want to have a non-stop party lifestyle, it probably wouldn't be a good idea to have a committed relationship. Here's a few concepts to keep in mind for each type of relationship. One night stands: See month 9. Friends with benefits: There's plenty of women out there who are interested in this kind of thing. Modern women have so many expectations to live up to- professional, educational, social, family obligations, etc. Sometimes they just want sex and they want it to be the sure thing. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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You have to be able to give her great sex or it won't make sense for her to go "outside the rules" and have sex with you without a commitment. Review month 7 to be sure you can give her a nice orgasm every time. Short Term Sexual Relationship: There's some guys who want to have sex with a girl 3 or 4 times and they they start getting bored and wanting a new girl. There's plenty of women out there who are up for this kind of thing. The hard part with this is cutting them loose. Be sure you're not giving her any false hopes of a relationship. That can get messy. If you frame yourself as "The Seducer" and not "The Provider" (see month 6) from the beginning, you usually won't have any problems. Long Term Relationship (Open): This works well with adventurous women who aren't primarily focused on their love life. It's perfectly reasonable to have a sexual relationship that lasts a year or more and never get into a commitment. Just be sure of a few things1. 2. 3. 4.

Don't hang out more than once a week Pay attention to the "point system" I describe on the CDs this month. Don't get too involved with her friends and don't attend her family events. Don't try to move the relationship backwards. Women cannot accept that on an emotional level, even if they have agreed to it verbally or they understand it on an intellectual level. The best thing is to stay still or make very slow progress. 5. Remember, women read your actions, they pay little attention to your words. They are looking for any evidence of "relationship progress" and will disregard anything you say if there's evidence of progress. For example, if you tell a woman "I don't want anything serious" and then hang out with her 4 times a week, she will assume you want something serious and will become emotionally invested into that possibility. The talk where you said "I don't want anything serious" never even happened in her world. It "doesn't count." Multiple Long Term Relationships (Open): Same as above, except you do it with more than one woman. Long Term Committed Relationship: If you want to have a serious girlfriend, there's a specific process you should use for getting into that arrangement. If you don't do this right, your girlfriend may take your commitment to her as a sign of weakness or desperation. When it comes to relationships, women have a conflicting set of instincts and urges that you must be aware of. 1. Women want alpha males. 2. If they get an alpha male, they will usually try to dominate him and turn him into a beta male. 3. If a woman succeeds in turning you into a submissive beta male, she will lose all attraction for you and begin seeking other alpha males. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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The reason is simple. This set of instincts and the behavior patterns that go with them have served women very well for thousands of years. In order to raise a child successfully, it's in a woman's best interest to get an alpha male (good genetic material) and then turn him into a submissive beta male so he will not sleep around and will give all of his wealth and time to his family. The confusing part is that the woman will always lose attraction for the man after she has turned him beta. It seems like she is intentionally sabotaging the relationship. Women have instincts that tell them to do this, it's not done because she's intentionally trying to hurt your feelings. If a woman can succeed in turning an alpha male beta and keeping him in a committed relationship, she will often begin a new sexual relationship with a new alpha male. If she is able to become impregnated by the new alpha male and have the beta male raise the child, she increases her chances for reproductive success. Again, modern women don't seem to do this intentionally, it's just something that "just happens." The idea of things "just happening" with no willful intention is a powerful part of the female psyche. It means "my instincts told me to do this, and I don't know why." This pattern of getting pregnant outside of her committed relationship still exists in todays modern, urban society. Check out The Jerry Springer Show and you'll see it over and over again. Men have been confused by this behavior for thousands of years, but you shouldn't be. A woman will frequently challenge your dominance in order to reassure herself that she is with an alpha male. If you let her win the challenges on a regular basis, she will lose respect and attraction for you. Many women preach that a 50/50 power share is vital in any successful relationship. However, most women who have a 50/50 power share are resentful and spiteful towards their boyfriend or husband. They resent him on an instinctual level for not being "the man" of the relationship. If you want to have a successful long term relationship, I suggest you retain 80% of the power. Notice I used the word "retain." That means never give up that power in the first place. Trying to get the power back after you've given it up is very difficult. It's a process that takes months or even years. Don't put yourself in that position. If you're not desperate or needy, and you know you can get women any time you want, you're in a great position to retain your power in any relationship you enter.

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Here's the process I recommend for creating a committed long term relationship: 1. Seduce her in the same way you would seduce any other woman. Don't think just because you want her as your girlfriend, that it's a good idea to do some kind of 3 month courtship ritual. Courting sucks. Period. Be the seducer. Always. 2. Let her start wanting more, but don't give her too much more just yet. Give her more time with you little by little. Play hard to get for a minimum of 6 months. During this time, test her loyalty. Make absolutely sure she's 100% behind you in everything you do. You should never get into a committed relationships with a woman who isn't 100% loyal and supportive. Most women have a powerful "loyalty instinct" when they are in love. If it's not there, something is wrong. 3. After you've determined that she is loyal and supportive, start giving her more time with you. Hang out with her 3 or 4 times per week. This will throw the "boyfriend switch" I talk about on the CDs. After a month of that, she'll be begging you to be her boyfriend. You are the prize she's been chasing after for months. This is the right context for starting a serious relationship. It's OK to stretch out this process even longer. Use your common sense and knowledge of psychology to read where she's at. By now you've probably gotten pretty good at reading people. Whatever type of relationship you decide on, always remember that they all have their pros and cons. Nothing is ever perfect. We're all dealing with the Male Conundrum, and it's always going to be a series of adjustments. Even if you had sex with a new hot chick every single night, you'd eventually get tired of that too. Believe me, I've been there. Speaking of the Male Conundrum, let's take a quick look at it now. Just like women, men have a set of conflicting instincts that have served us well throughout evolution, but tend to confuse us in the modern world. 1. Men have urges to fuck lots and lots of women. 2. Men have urges to be with one main woman, and be devoted to her. Most men create some compromise between the two urges, and it generally leaves him feeling fulfilled in some ways and unfulfilled in others. Commitment Guy This kind of guy represses his natural drive for sexual variety in order to stay committed to one woman. Pros: Stability, family, sometimes a good relationship. Cons: Repression, boredom, sometimes resentful of his woman. Cheater Guy This kind of guy has a committed relationship but has sex with other women on the side. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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Pros: Stability, family, sometimes a good relationship. Cons: Guilt, getting caught, divorce. Lonely Guy This kind of guy sleeps with many women until he's no longer fit enough to do so, then leads a lonely life. He avoids emotional attachment with the women he sleeps with. Pros: Sexual variety, independence. Cons: Loneliness, lack of emotional support. Most normal guys fall into one of these categories. This is the male conundrum: How do we satisfy the urge for sexual variety while also satisfying the urge to be devoted to one woman? It's not a question that has ever been solved completely. However, if you complete your full twelve months in the 30/30 Club, you will be well equipped to have an enjoyable experience with women in any type of relationship you happen to be in at the moment. You can improve your skills, identity, and your relationships, but it will still always be a journey, not a destination. We are simply not wired to be 100% happy for very long. True happiness is a fleeting feeling, which is generally replaced within a few minutes by the desire for getting more of something. More pussy, more money, more love, more status, the list goes on and on. What you can accomplish is a permanent improvement in your quality of life, and this is one of the goals of the 30/30 Club. Too many people suffer from poor quality of life due to loneliness or dysfunctional relationships. This suffering is something that can be reduced greatly by learning to interact with the opposite sex in a way that serves both people's instincts. Lifestyle Defining Exercises Write down the things that are most important to you. Put them in any random order.

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1.) _______________________________ 2.) _______________________________ 3.) _______________________________ 4.) _______________________________ 5.) _______________________________ 6.) _______________________________ 7.) _______________________________ 8.) _______________________________ 9.) _______________________________ 10.) ______________________________

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Describe your perfect day. Go into great detail and take your time.

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Now look at your perfect day and take note of the things you are already able to accomplish. List the things you already have, the things you already do, etc.

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Now write the goals you still haven't achieved and list the resources you can draw on to achieve them. These should be resources that you already have access to.

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Remember, most people don't do the lists and exercises presented in self help literature. They just say "I'll do it later." Don't be that guy! Making a list may sound like some cheesy thing that your mom used to make you do, but it helps you clarify the vision you have for your life. The point isn't the list itself, it's the thought process leading up to the list. You may sit for an hour or two and only write 20-30 words, but that entire time, your brain is crystallizing the vision. It's your vision that steers your unconscious thoughts, and it's these unconscious thoughts that determine most of your decisions and your life's path. It's my opinion is that the lists themselves hold no power to compel you to act, and they do not dictate any of your actions. Readers of self help know this instinctively, and this is why they slack off on doing the lists. Yet year after year, motivational gurus continue to tell people to make lists. The gurus know that there is a correlation between list-making and results. However, there is a disconnect in the way "list making" is presented. Readers may be assuming that the list itself keeps you on track. Not true. The changes in your life actually come from the realizations and changes that occur during the thought process. The point is to change your unconscious thoughts and habits. This comes from changing the vision you have for your life and starting a positive feedback cycle. Now is the time to make changes to your vision. This will force change and improvement into this cycle. Without changes in vision, you will do the same things over and over again. This is why we're doing exercises and lists. Now that you understand the purpose of the exercises, go back and do them. Set aside two hours just for this.

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MONTH 11 - CLUB GAME Course Materials: • •

“Crocodile Style” (Club Game and Social Circle) Seminar Bonus: Student Success Stories: Andrew

Your to-do list: • •

Do 2 weeks of Club Game Networking and Set-Up (Minimum 2 Nights out per week). Do 2 weeks of Social Circle Club Game (Minimum 2 Nights out per week).

OVERVIEW OF MONTH 11 Your journey to mastery would not be complete without learning the most high stakes environment in the game: Dance clubs. It's the most difficult and intimidating setting for most guys, but the rewards are worth it. Dance clubs have the highest ratio of super hot girls in them. Even if you hate clubs and you find this material to be difficult, try to be open to the ideas and you might be able to re-apply them in a different social circle. Club Game is not for everyone, but everyone should understand how it works. All the strategies you're going to need are contained on the audio CDs and PDFs this month. After you take in that information, I want you to start focusing on implementation. The idea of my social circle club game is to do things the easy way. The system is efficient and effective, but it does require some set up time. Be sure you're willing to spend 2 nights a week out in the loud clubs. The first 2 weeks are just about making connections and getting comfortable in the club environment. Remember: the people who run dance clubs intend to create an intimidating environment. That's part of the business. It's supposed appear to be exclusive, and part of being exclusive is scaring away people who are broke, average, or less than attractive. Dance clubs want "Elite" people to come in. Many guys get so intimidated by the club environment that they think it's a good idea to pay $800 to sit at a table and get bottle service. Don't do it! If you need an $800 table to pick up women, your game is probably weak. Work on your game and your social networking, and you might just end up in the VIP section for free. Don't believe the hype. None of these places are as exclusive as they pretend to be. None of the VIP areas are as magical as they'd have you believe. I've been in dozens of VIP areas, and it's still just a bunch of people sitting around talking while loud music plays. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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It's all just an illusion created to get you to fork over large sums of money in exchange for artificial social value. The people who have the true value are the clubs insiders, the promoters and sometimes the DJ or staff. You can become an insider by getting to know these people and offering them value. Set Up Time During your first four nights out, you will get to know the club insiders and get comfortable in the club atmosphere. Start building your network and getting to know people.

NOTE: You must project high value in the club to become an insider. Be sure your fashion, body language, and voice tone are SPOT ON! Review month 3 if necessary. Game Time Once you've started getting to know the insiders, there's no need to try too hard when gaming. This is not cold approach, where you have to carry 90% of every conversation and overcome the stigma of being a stranger. This is "warm game." Everyone knows everyone, and people will assume you deserve to be there until you prove otherwise. By now you've been in the 30/30 Club for a long time. You probably have enough "natural" game that you won't need tons of scripts and techniques to carry you. Follow your instincts and don't think too hard. The women in clubs are looking for state enhancement, which mostly comes from kino and alcohol. Anything too mentally challenging will bore them. Just be cool and have fun. Don't do anything needy, and be very sexual and touchy-feely toward all the women around you. A few simple rules: 1. It's OK to touch women immediately in clubs. You can hop to secondary sexual areas very quickly. 2. Conversations seldom last for more than 3 minutes in clubs. 3. You should flirt with as many women as possible to build up social proof. 4. You must resist the urge be try-hard. So it's all about your non-verbal game. Your verbal game and sub-communication skill will come into play more after leaving the club environment. Other Social Circles I created this system for Social Circle Club Game by deconstructing the business structure and social structure of dance clubs in New York City. You can apply this same process to other www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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social circles. Some students and coaches have re-purposed this strategy for colleges, gyms, and all sorts of things. A key point to remember is that there is little mobility in social circles. If you come in at the bottom or in the middle, that's probably where you're going to stay. In large social groups like colleges, high status groups leave (they graduate) and and replaced by new high status groups. So it may seem that there is some mobility. However, this is mobility between groups, not between individuals. The same people that were at the top of their social group in sophomore year will usually still be on top during senior year. Intra-group social mobility (between individuals) is so rare and fascinating that it's often featured in movies as a huge, dramatic plot point. Grease, The Girl Next Door, Weird Science, and many other movies use this idea of intra-group social mobility to captivate their audience. It always takes some unlikely event to turn a nerd cool, like a porn star moving in, a computer generated woman, or in the case of Grease, a bad-ass makeover for the nerdy girl. Look for opportunities to enter at the top of a social circle whenever possible. Always know who's on top. Always know the motivations of the people in the group.

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MONTH 12 - THREESOMES Course Materials: • • •

“Interviews with Naturals: Buzzy” PDF: “Threesome Primer Report” BONUS: The Unreleased "Get More Sex" Seminar

Your to-do list: • •

Do 30 Approaches and file a report. Attempt to set up a threesome every week this month.

OVERVIEW OF MONTH 12 You've come a long way and this is the last major theme you should learn about. Before I go on to talk about threesomes, I want to first state that threesomes are not for everyone. This last month of the program is optional, and you will still be eligible to be an online coach and attend the Graduate Workshop even if you don't get a threesome or you're not interested in threesomes. However, I would like everyone to be prepared for a threesome if you end up in the situation. Now for those who want to give it a shot, I'll give you my best tips on making it happen.

Question: Why bother going for threesomes? Couldn't you be just as happy having sex with one woman at a time? In my opinion, you will always be curious about threesomes if you've never had one. It's something everyone should experience at least once in their lives. To me it's kind of like visiting the Empire State Building. It doesn't really change your life that much, but everyone wants to do it at some point. You don't want to be laying on your death bed thinking, "I got everything I wanted out of life... but I never had 2 women sucking my dick at the same time." I think it's worth putting some time into figuring this out. For me, it took years and years to figure out how to get a threesome. There was one KEY realization that made all the difference for me... The woman is not going to do it for you, you must take the lead and make it happen. If I would have known that from the beginning, I would have had threesomes years earlier www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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than I did. Let me tell you a story about my old college roommate, we'll call him Bill. Bill was dating a bisexual woman when we were in college and they would talk about having threesomes all the time. He would suggest different women, they would have long talks about it. When we were out, his girlfriend would even point out women she was attracted to. It looked like it was in the bag. It was just a matter of time. One day I was talking to Bill's girlfriend, who was a good friend of mine, and she said "You know I'm never gonna do it, right? I'm just having a little fun with him." She would dangle the threesome in front of him and make him jump through hoop after hoop trying to get it. She knew it was never going to happen. What I realized later is that many women will use the idea of a threesome to get power in the relationship and to get you to comply with her wishes. The more compliance you give to her, the more she loses attraction to you, and the threesome thing sort of becomes a practical joke in her mind. It becomes a little game she plays in order to turn you beta (see month 10). It took me years to figure this out, and I even had girlfriends myself who would do this same thing to me. I just didn't realize it at the time. Let this be a lesson to you. Don't make the same mistakes Bill and I made. If you're going to get your first threesome, it's probably going to be because you earned it and you created the situation. It's not likely that any one is going to hand it over to you like it's a Christmas present. That's a male fantasy that's been proliferated in porno and the media, but it rarely happens in real life. Like many unrealistic fantasies from the mainstream media, women can tell what the real deal is, and they know how to leverage the fantasy for their own benefit. Don't be a sucker. Waiting around for your chick to hand deliver pussy to you will not get your very far. Are there women out there who will hand deliver pussy to you? Yes, but it's a certain kind of woman and a certain kind of relationship. You must set the precedent in the relationship by making it happen early on if you're ever going to get there. If you've had zero threesomes so far, and your girlfriend doesn't know what's going to happen when you have the first one, it's not likely she's going to do all the legwork to make it happen. Another lesson that I can pass on to you is this: You must be willing to risk losing one or both of the girls in the threesome if you're going to make it happen. Having a threesome is risky business. Feelings can get hurt. People can get angry. Women can get sensitive and jealous. You may even get sensitive or jealous yourself. www.bradp.com | [email protected]

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I myself lost a woman I really liked in a threesome that went wrong. Still, I have no regrets. It's like anything else in seduction: the guys who are too worried about what they have to lose won't get good results. Most of what you'll need to know about threesomes is covered in the Buzzy CDs and the PDF, but I'll add one more thing here to make sure you have every tool I can give you.

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THE DOUBLE MAKEOUT (FOR BEGINNERS AND INTERMEDIATES) You might need to first get comfortable being intimate with two women. Projecting comfort will make everything easier when you're going for the real thing. I've done this maneuver many times, and I haven't found that it closes the deal very much, but it does help build your comfort level. It works well when you are gaming two girls who are friends. Get them both attracted to you using the usual stuff, then go into this:

You guys are really cool, I'm glad to be hanging out with you, because most women try to make out with me or start molesting me within the first fifteen minutes, but you guys really have excellent self control. (They talk). Well thank you guys for being slow with me. I've had some bad experiences with girls who move too fast. You know it would make me a little more comfortable if you guys would both sit on your hands....you know, just so I could feel even more safe around you. (They sit on their hands. Now you've got to keep it moving, cause they won't stay like this for more than 30 seconds). Thanks so much guys. I was getting really scared that you two were going to start...you know.... rubbing your hands... all... over me... but I feel better now. The only thing is, you're both looking at me like I'm a big ice cream cone, and you just want to run your tongue... up... and... down.... but it would make me feel a bit better if you would both just close your eyes for a couple of seconds. Just so I can get my composure here. Now that their eyes are closed, and they're sitting on their hands, the sexual tension will be very high. You should start making out with one of them. As you do this, you stop now and then and tell the other one "Keep those eyes closed, you." Then after about 30 seconds, you start making out with the second girl. As you do this, you tell the first girl "Keep your eyes closed." You can then keep switching back and forth for a while, and eventually there will be a pretty decent three-way makeout session going on. Be sure to visit the 30/30 Club Forum so we can help you get your threesomes set up the right way.

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AFTERWORD Congratulations! You've made it through all 12 months of my 30/30 Program. I hope you had a great time and spread lots of fun and happiness to the people around you. The best way to reinforce the growth you've made in the last year is to give advice to the new guys who are just coming into the 30/30 Forum. You now have a unique and valuable point of view that can enrich the lives of those around you. Spend a few months helping others learn, and everything you learned will be even more solid in your mind. I've also included a special bonus, my "Get More Sex" seminar. It's a relaxed overview of everything you've learned in the last year. It was recorded live in 2008 and represents the latest and greatest version of my thesis currently available. Take a listen to that and it will reinforce everything one last time. I hope you've accomplished all your goals. If you still need extra help, my coaches and I will be running workshops on a regular basis and we'd be glad to help smooth out any rough edges. Please stop in to the graduate board of the 30/30 Forum, and if you are able to travel, check in with the office on when the Graduate Workshop is going to be held. Contact info is available here. Good Luck!

Brad P.

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