#2 - Friendzone Houdini

 

DOWNLOAD #2 - FRIENDZONE HOUDINI

Unchain yourself from her friendzone. In this part of your Transformation Package you'll find:    

3 laws to avoid the friendzone How to become her lover again 5 keys to escape the friendzone within 5 days 7 phrases to show up on her boyfriend-radar again

Friendzone mistakes that'll lock you in 'friendly territory'

We welcome Average Joe into our midst. Unfortunately, his love life is excruciatingly boring.  And in this this instance, instance, Average Average Joe Joe is our typical typical bro bro trapped trapped in the friendzo friendzone. ne. Let's see if you can relate to him by asking a few questions. Riddle me these:    

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Does Joe agree with around 98.7% of what she says? Is Joe only nice, considerate and sweet to her? Does Joe have long, rational conversations with her? Does Joe carefully listen to all of her personal problems and then give informed advice afterward? Does Joe hope that, after months of getting to know each other, she finally realizes what a catch he actually is?

Did you answer fuck Dan, you just perfectly described me!' to these questions? Then'YES!' keep or on 'Holy reading. Because the first step for escaping the friendzone is: Acceptance

It's easy to lie to yourself. You're close to her, you probably share every part of your lives with each other, and you're sure she'll soon figure out what a great guy she's been overlooking. Right? Unfortunately, you said the exact same thing to yourself 6 months ago.

 

Don't fool yourself. She won't just magically change her mind. You need to accept:   

The reality of your situation Your actions that put you in her friendzone That those same actions won't change your situation

The first step towards getting out of the friendzone is accepting that you're IN it. Still though, you should be 100% certain about this. Being 100% sure about where you stand

Is it obvious that you're in her friendzone? For example, does she talk to you about the amazing dates she's got going on with other dudes? Or when you drop by her place, does she greet you at the door in her old bathrobe? Yes, yes and yes? Then I can tell you for a fact that the friendzone's cuffs are cutting deeply into your wrists. If only you had a set of keys to set you free… How thrilled would you be?  A second second chance chance to redeem redeem yourself yourself with her? Well, well, my dear bro; this second chance exists. So stick those keys into the cuffs and unchain yourself to make use of this second chance. You deserve it.

 

determining that you're  After determining you're in the friendzo friendzone ne with 100% 100% certainty, certainty, I must must tell you you there are very few rules for picking up women that apply 100% of the time. Seducing women is one large paradox. I call these 80% rules. Generally it's better to be dominant, but there's always exceptions…

Then there's friendzone-land. There, the laws apply 100% of the time. No weird exceptions, no secret shortcuts. I've got 3 laws to share with you that you'll never want to disregard again. Law 1: Never let this happen

Just like women don't want to hear about past girlfriends or dates you're having, you'd rather not know about the other men in her life either. That brings me to the first law:

 

Law 1: "Never accept a woman talking about other men she likes in your presence." 

Period. I allow NO exceptions. Is she talking about other men? Then don't give her your attention - or interrupt her with a new topic. That's how you show her what's okay and what's not okay in your relationship with each other. She shouldn't be getting the idea that you're her gossip buddy, right?! That's the deepest end of the friendzone and you sure don't belong there. Law 2: Who's responsible?

Every week I receive emails from men who are "always put in the friendzone". She sees you as a friend because you act like her friend. How can you blame her for that? It's a victim mentality. So, take note of the following: Law 2: "She's not putting you in the friendzone, you've earned yourself a spot there." 

The reason why I'm never friendzoned? Cause I'm the smoothest mofo out there. ;) Ha-ha nope. I don't even give the women I flirt with the chance to consider a potential friendship with me. My flirty behavior sends a clear message: will we end up as romantic partners, yes or no. I go for what I want, and I demonstrate that clearly. You're a man and you're in charge. Women tend to accept a man's lead.

 

The way you take charge will be reflected in the way she views you. There's no way around it: Giving away your control is in itself a form of control! That is, you're making the choice to put the outcome of your relationship in her hands. She'll see you as a friendly and mild man… And such men are destined to remain chained in the friendzone. So, don't come crying that she has friendzoned you again. You've friendzoned yourself! Perhaps that will help you see both sides of the coin. Which is good news! It means you can begin taking charge and making your way out of the friendzone. But before navigating you to the exit, here's law number 3. Law 3: Don't believe what you see You'll learn specific phrases and techniques to unleash yourself from the friendzone shortly. But the thing many men don't understand is that there isn't one single sentence that provides the magical solution. While this might prove to be useful in Disney movies where the right spell will unchain you from all your misery… …in the real world, one attempt is more like opening just one lock of her friendzone chains, while there are still many other locks holding you down tightly. That's why the third law is: Law 3: "Show her continuously that your place is not the friendzone but as a romantic partner".

Now. The three laws have been spoken.  Allow these these rules rules to guide guide you far far away from from the friendzone friendzone..

 

Now, it's about time that I hand you the 5 keys to free yourself from the friendzone. How to escape, understand this

Your dreams of being with her will be shattered when you put yourself in the friendzone. We've all been friendzoned at some point. I'm reminded of my many embarrassing stories while I'm writing this. You want out. But avoid doing it like this:  Arguing or rationalizing rationalizing your your way out out of her friendzo friendzone. ne. Don't try to convince her that you're her best option. The saying actions speak louder than words applies here in spades. Because it's your actions that put you in the friendzone in the first place.  And that's that's why the the 5 keys keys are based based on taking taking action action to remove remove yourself yourself from from the friendzone.

 

don't be tempted  Again, don't tempted to persuad persuade e her that that you are are her most most appealing appealing option. option. Don't work harder, work smarter. Change your actions, change your outcome. Time for the first key, which will show her more attractive behavior. Key 1: Say 'no' to the friendzone

This is the first step to making her view you in a different light. It starts by changing this common misconception: "As long as I do everything for her, she'll eventually give me what I want." 

Nope. She doesn't owe you shit. Even when you're nothing but kind and considerate to her and do anything she asks. Now, I'm sure I don't need to explain to you that you shouldn't become some blunt selfish prick either.

 

What I'm trying to say is:    

Don't agree with her 100% of the time Stop listening to her man problems Don't go shopping with her  Don't hold her bag when clubbing with her just so she can dance

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Don't relationship when you're the one want in love with date her  Don't give haveher a friendly drink advice with her, when you actually a real

In short: Stop being her friend. Research has shown that if you do everything for her while she does nothing in return, she'll never be attracted to you.

Why?  Attraction  Attracti on is about about emotion. emotion. You simply being affectionate won't convince her to get in the sheets with you. Showing her a different range of emotions will though. Say no, say yes, seduce her, and playfully turn her down once in a while. This is your first real step outside the friendzone. The next time she says something a little odd, raise your voice a bit and say:

 

"Oh, I REALLY don't agree with that!" 

Then, put on a big smirk and look her straight in the eyes. It says "I'm messing with you a bit… CAN YOU HANDLE IT?"  These are things women want from a man, but you're too busy doing everything 'right' to push the bounds a little. Now, that superficial layer of friendliness between you is removed, meaning the friendzone's chains are starting to rust away.  After playfully playfully disagreein disagreeing g with her her a couple couple of times, times, you're ready to to use the next key… Key 2: Make her doubt

Did you think it's time to be her sweetie again? Nah, sorry pal. You've probably done enough of that already. Which is why we need to kick it up a notch. Yup, it's time to diss her. 'Teasing the misses, asking for kisses.' We had it right in elementary school. First things first:   

Stay away from stuff like her weight and appearance. No sarcastic intonation or serious faces. It's teasing, not bullying. Instead, exaggerate piddling things to tease her with.

This key is one of the fundamentals of my game.  A technique technique I like like to use is dissing dissing her about about something something that that is clearly clearly not true. true. For example, by calling her dude. Or bro. You can go way further with your diss, because you both know it's not true.

Examples: When she looks especially girly:

 

"Ah, you look incredibly handsome today." 

Small hands? "Wow, what big manly hands you have!" 

Is she slim? "You're a savage Laura. I'm wildly intimidated by your biceps." 

This'll throw her slightly off balance. She'll start noticing that you're different. Different from the other dudes she's friendzoned. Maybe she'll realize instantly that the friendzone might not be the right place for you. To make it inescapably clear to her, you stick key 3 in the lock. Key 3: Drive her crazy

Do you know Average Joe's biggest friendzone mistake? He's afraid of losing her. Scared to be humiliated, scared to be rejected. By Joe's logic, being in the friendzone makes him closer to his goal than losing her. Funny thing is: By staying within the friendzone, you'll never be her lover. However, by losing her you reset the relationship between you two. This way you'll have a much better chance with her further down the road, as opposed to floating around in the friendzone forever. You'll have to put her on the line in order to really have her. Now you need to be able to communicate just how much you want her. Luckily, now that you're already in the flow of teasing her, you can easily get away with more obvious compliments.  And I'm not not talking talking about gentle gentle niceties niceties that that you would would give your granny. granny.

 

No, I'm talking edgy compliments to let her know how hot you think she is. Look: 1. "Shit your lips are great, you know that."  2. "You look incredibly sexy in that dress."  3. "You simply can't keep wearing those clothes around me."  4. "Don't take off your jacket in front of me, you're giving me too many wild fantasies."  5. "Don't look at me like that, you're making me want you." 

For more flirty phrases, check out your "12 Opening Lines that Always Work" in your Transformation Package.

Now you're an escapee from her friendzone-prison. You're not shackled anymore, but you're not completely free either. Give up now, and she'll put you right back in your cubicle.

 

Time for Key 4. Key 4: Follow your own plan

Now it's time to make your move. To make it absolutely clear that you do not belong in the friendzone. Have a look at the tale of an old female friend of mine: She attended weekly improv classes. One of her classmates was a man called Sander. Rigid, but incredibly shrewd. She really wanted to find him attractive. There was a profound intellectual connection, but the physical connection just wasn't there. Logically, she really liked him, but emotionally he was lacking in masculinity. Until one day after class, he chased her down on his bike. Once he caught up with her, he calmly and confidently proclaimed: "Since we first met and I saw your smile, I became obsessed with the fantasy of kissing you. You're an improviser - just say 'yes'." 

 And without without waiting waiting for an answer, answer, he he kissed her. His bold action brought them together, after which they spent three years in a relationship. From that one bold gesture, she suddenly thought of him as a real man.  A man that that goes after after what what he wants, wants, regardless regardless of the repercussion repercussions. s. He was open about his feelings without shame and he approached his goal in a romantic yet respectful way. What am I trying to tell you with this story? You can be as clear as you want about not belonging in her friendzone, but as long as you don't step outside, it's where you'll remain. So, after you've shown her a different you by disagreeing with her, teasing her and adding in a sexual element, there's only a small step left to exit the friendzone.

 

Make your move, it's time for action! If all of this still hasn't worked, it's time to bring in Key 5. Key 5: The red button

Does she enjoy your flirtatious attention, but still distances herself from your advances? Then consider the decision to cut ties with her. She's not worth your attention and energy at the moment. There's a plethora of women who will  see  see your potential. Escaping the friendzone requires following the steps, patience, confidence and some good quality keys ;)  Anyway,, you only  Anyway only live once. once. When you knowindeep down that or she'll whether you're the friendzone not.never give you the attention you desire… Make the healthy choice for yourself and walk away from her. 3 Laws and 5 Keys against the friendzone

Now you know your way around the 3 laws that'll prevent you from ending up in the friendzone. In addition, you've received the 5 keys that will help you escape friendzone purgatory. Michael Scofield would be impressed. But before you jet off from this section of your Transformation Package, I've got a bonus for you: Bonus: DON'T say this when you like someone

When you're balls deep in the friendzone without any prospect of escape, I can understand why you might consider the following way out: "Confess my boundless feelings to her." 

 As your last resort, resort, you may may think being clear clear about about your feelings feelings for for her is THE way to convert your status from buddy to boyfriend.

 

Just like when you have a crush on somebody, when you don't even really know each other yet. Due to your lack of awareness of the situation, it might be tempting to play your cards that way. Don't do it! Put yourself in her shoes. What would it be like for her if you suddenly bombarded her with your deepest feelings? You'd turn her world upside down. Now she has to deal with your feelings for her. I can imagine that's intense. I would feel the same if some random woman suddenly asked me to marry her. No joke. The first thing that would cross my mind is: Get lost! She'll also think this, and do it herself. If you're in the friendzone, she'll probably respond by telling you she doesn't want to sacrifice your friendship. That's why it's important to keep your feelings at bay, only expressing them gradually. Keep operating on the same bandwidth of the feelings she's expressing to you. Sometimes a bit more, sometimes a little less. Slowly more and more, but no big jumps. This wraps up today's masterclass

Now you know how to unshackle yourself from the friendzone like a real Houdini.  And how how to avoid avoid the pitfalls pitfalls of the the friendzone friendzone in the the future. future. So that she'll consider you her romantic partner, instead of her cute friend. Before we part our ways, there's one more thing I want to share with you.

 

Men that who to get the women they want or always end up in the friendzone often have a lot of excuses. They blame her for not seeing how well he's treating her. They assume that the perfect woman will suddenly appear at their side, or that all women take them for granted. But your unwillingness to invest in being the best version of yourself doesn't give you the right to complain. Continuously improve yourself, and you'll notice that increasingly attractive women will find you interesting. The ones you really want at your side. Improve yourself daily. Before you know it, success becomes second nature and it will flow automatically. It will start to define you. This article and the other parts of your Transformation Package are a big step in the right direction. Keep it up. Your bro, Dan de Ram