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dream come true - beer me, i’m a cowboy alone we survive together we thrive stretch your world... evitcepsrep ru oy egnahc... koi philosophy: pieces that build us business news: risk is sexy, so is stanford

a bonus section: the creators’ crypt

10.22

For  22  year  olds  and  everyone  else  Minding  their  way. That  should  be  all  of  us.

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10.22 10.22:  pieces  for  and  by  incredible  you  -­‐  a  story  sharing  book  written  by  people   around  22  for  people  around  22.  Ten  of  the  most  interesting  young  people  I  have  ever   met  have  graciously  contributed  a  story  and  piece  from  their  life  to  this  book.  They  are   from  all  over.  They  have  travelled.  They  are  in  graduate  school.  They  work  hard.  They   are  entrepreneurs.  They  have  battled  cancer.  They  laugh,  play,  and  enjoy  life.  They  are   wonderful  people  looking  to  serve  and  inspire. Have  a  blast  reading  this  book.  Feel  free  to  pass  it  on.  Feel  free  to  share. As  you  read  10.22,  there  will  be  places  for  you  to  think  and  write  your  thoughts.   Look  for  the  notebook  sections.  The  writers  have  provided  an  engaging  question  for   you  to  answer.  Use  the  Mlow  arrows  to  take  notes.  Add  your  own  Mlows.  Doodle  -­‐  there   are  no  rules.  Make  sure  to  reMlect,  integrate,  assimilate,  and  pass  your  thoughts.  The   more  we  can  share  advice  through  story  and  experience,  the  better  we  can  all  be   prepared  for  this  unpredictable,  always,  22  year  old  world. Thank  you  for  taking  a  look  at  our  book.  You  will  likely  be  inspired  by  these  fabulous   authors  to  create  thoughts  of  your  own.  You  are  welcome  to  email  your  story,   experience,  and  advice  to  i2know.org.  Our  contact  information  is  in  the  back.  Enjoy   your  active  reading  and  we  are  excited  to  have  you  join  us.

                                                                               

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my notebook pg. u get your thoughts down use the flow arrows, like this here is an idea which leads to this idea this idea is related to the above

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spread your ideas

so is this one this idea too or two here is a bit bigger idea

and here is another one you try throughout this book

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dream come true - beer me, i’m a cowboy

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brew a new you If  you  would  have  told  me  four  years  ago  that  one  of  my  new  favorite  hobbies   would  be  brewing  my  own  beer,  I  would  have  laughed.  Though,  I  cannot  laugh  now   because  I  am  now  planning  the  recipe  for  my  sixth  batch  and  I  am  completely  wrapped   up  in  the  world  of  beer.   When  I  turned  21  years  old,  I  was  in  the  middle  of  my  college  years.  My  taste  in   beer  reMlected  just  about  every  other  college  students  primary  goal  in  purchases:   Cheap!  I  did  not  like  the  taste  of  beer  at  all.  Probably  a  direct  result  of  the  cheap  beer  I   was  purchasing.  I  was  told  by  many  that  beer  is  like  coffee,  and  you  have  to  acquire  a   taste  for  it.  By  the  time  I  graduated,  I  had  developed  enough  of  a  taste  that  I  could  enjoy   a  light  beer  with  some  hot  wings,  but  it  still  wasn’t  topping  my  list  of  refreshments.  But   then,  I  moved  to  Portland,  Oregon. Portland  is  said  to  have  one  of  the  highest  breweries  per  capita  in  the  country.  So  if   you  want  to  get  to  know  beer,  this  is  the  place  to  do  it.  I  decided  when  I  moved  out  here   that  I  was  going  to  expand  myself  as  a  person;  dive  into  something  where  I  lacked   knowledge,  but  had  slight  interest.  With  the  vast  beer  knowledge  and  breweries  at  my   4

10.22 disposal,  I  decided  that  I  was  going  to  be  beer.  The  expansion  started  with  simply  trying   new  beers.  Then  more  new  beers.  I  started  to  get  the  “taste”  that  people  talk  about,  and   I  began  really  enjoying  beer.  I  started  to  get  to  know  what  types  I  liked  and  what  Mlavors   stood  out  to  me.  Finally,  with  my  biology  background  and  having  the  scientiMic  mind   that  I  do,  I  started  to  ask  myself,  “How  does  the  beer  process  work?”  The  question  led  to   brewery  tours  followed  by  my  own  research  of  how  to  scale  the  big  factory  process   down  to  something  I  could  do  at  home.  The  more  research  I  did,  the  more  I  wanted  to   know.   Now,  I  bottle  my  own  beers  in  my  little  apartment  and  even  have  some  hops   growing  on  the  balcony!  I  enjoy  the  process  of  making  the  beer  even  more  than  I  enjoy   drinking  it.  I  Mind  myself  spending  hours  just  looking  up  new  styles  to  try  or  some  weird   ingredient  to  use  in  my  next  batch.  I  recently  made  a  pumpkin  beer  where  I  used  over  4   pounds  of  actual  baked  pumpkin!  Tweaking  recipes  and  Miguring  out  what  ingredients   lend  different  tastes,  colors,  and  aromas  makes  me  feel  like  a  brewmaster  at  work.  It’s   like  an  ongoing  science  experiment  where  I  am  both  the  professor  and  the  student. This  expansion  process  has  even  spilled  over  into  other  parts  of  my  life.  I  have   traditionally  been  a  very  picky  eater,  but  lately  I  have  a  motto  that  I  will  try  everything   once  and  give  it  a  fair  shot  before  making  my  decision.  I  urge  anyone  out  there  to  try  a   similar  course  of  action.  Find  something  in  which  you  have  a  little  bit  of  interest,  but   5

10.22 that  is  completely  outside  of  your  box.  Do  some  research,  and  expand  your  knowledge   on  the  subject.  The  next  thing  you  know,  you  may  Mind  a  new  hobby  that  you  thoroughly   enjoy  and  that  you  never  saw  yourself  doing  in  the  Mirst  place.

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- Curt

brew a new you

In what new interest will you engage yourself this week? Which resources will you need to fully immerse yourself?

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wrangling life as a cowboy As  a  kid  I  always  dreamed  of  being  a  cowboy.  I  loved  hearing  stories  about  the   Wild  West.  The  stories  were  always  Milled  with  good  guys,  bad  guys,  action,  robberies,   whimsy,  and  romance.  It  always  seemed  too  good  to  be  true.  How  could  cowboys  be   real?  They  got  to  save  run-­‐away  trains,  have  duels,  and  they  always  got  the  girl.  I   recently  found  out  that  cowboys  are  real.  Then  I  became  one.  Now,  I  have  not  been   involved  in  any  gun  duels  or  captured  any  bad  outlaws,  but  I  do  have  a  rope.  You  have   have  to  start  somewhere,  right?  I  feel  that  many  people  have  abandoned  their  childhood  hopes  and  dreams.  They   love  the  “idea”  of  becoming  that  dream,  but  few  ever  follow  through  with  ever  actually   making  it  happen.  I  hate  that.  I  love  to  imagine  a  world  full  of  people  who  actually   become  what  they  wanted  as  a  kid.  We  would  have  more  cowboys  and  scientists,  and   Batman  wouldn’t  just  be  a  movie  watched  on  a  big  screen.  It  is  hard  to  even  think  that   way  because  so  many  of  us  have  lost  our  ability  to  imagine  or  dream.  The  fear  of   disappointment  is  so  overwhelming  that  many  don’t  even  dare  to  dream.  Luckily,  not   everyone  has  lost  their  imagination.  The  stories  of  whimsy  and  action  are  still  alive   today.  They  may  just  not  involve  run-­‐away  stagecoaches. 7

10.22 A  friend  recently  made  a  comment  that  has  stuck  with  me,  and  has  made  a  huge   impact  on  my  life.  He  said,  “In  life,  if  you  are  not  standing  on  the  edge,  you  are  just   taking  up  space.”  The  reason  it  made  such  a  difference  in  my  life  is  that  up  to  that  point,   I  was  playing  it  safe.  I  am  a  cautious  person,  and  living  life  on  the  so-­‐called  “edge”   scares  me  to  death.  After  his  comment,  I  looked  over  the  edge,  became  terriMied  of  what   might  happen  if  I  jumped,  and  leaped  off  of  that  edge.  My  life  hasn’t  been  the  same   since. In  the  summer  of  2010,  I  had  that  opportunity  to  jump  off  the  edge.  I  got  the   opportunity  to  come  and  work  at  a  real  live  dude  ranch  called  Lost  Valley  Ranch  in   Sedaliam,  Colorado.  I  applied  to  the  ranch  thinking  it  would  be  great  to  work  on  the   maintenance  crew,  having  worked  construction  in  high  school,  it  just  made  sense.  My   world  got  rocked  when  they  let  me  know  that  I  would  be  working  as  a  wrangler  that   summer.  I  had  been  on  a  horse  twice  in  my  life.  Were  these  people  crazy?  I  was  the   furthest  thing  from  a  cowboy.  Also,  letting  me  take  people  riding  on  a  creature  of  which   I  was  terriMied  just  seemed  insane.  Needless  to  say,  I  took  my  leap  of  faith.  The  Mirst   month  was  absolutely  terrifying,  but  I  have  been  working  at  Lost  Valley  for  two  years   now.  Things  are  much  better  and  I  am  thrilled  to  tell  people  on  a  daily  basis  that  I  love   my  job.  I  would  have  never  known  I  could  experience  such  an  adventure  if  I  hadn’t   decided  to  be  daring  enough  to  live  a  little  on  the  wild  side. 8

10.22 We  wake  up  every  morning  with  an  adventurous  invitation.  Many  let  the  invitation   pass  them  by.  We  are  invited  to  live  a  life  that  is  not  normal  and  mundane.  We  are   invited  to  a  life  that  is  full  of  imagination,  dreaming,  and  action.  An  invitation  that   pleads  for  you  to  not  let  your  childhood  dreams  die.  An  invitation  that  demands  you  live   on  the  edge.   So  the  question  at  hand  is:  what  are  you  going  to  do  with  the  invitation  you  have   been  given?  Are  you  going  to  continue  to  settle  with  life  just  being  normal?  Nobody   turns  down  an  invitation  to  go  see  the  President,  but  I  have  seen  plenty  of  people  turn   down  an  invitation  to  fully  live.  Maybe  it’s  time  to  start  letting  those  dreams  that  might   seem  “crazy”  resurface.  So,  get  out  your  rope  and  guns.  Anything  that  is  full  of  whimsy   and  action,  and  maybe  a  high-­‐speed  car  chase  is  something  worth  pursuing  to  me. -­‐Schwab  (Jake),  23

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-Schwab (Jake)

wrangling life as cowboy

What are you choosing to do differently each day to make your life more exciting and less mundane?

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winners embrace the word us As  I  watched  my  mom  pass  away  six  years  ago,  I  knew  I  would  not  be  able  to   continue  living  life  as  the  steadfast,  unwavering  rock  I  had  painted  myself  during  the   year  she  had  been  sick.  After  she  was  diagnosed  with  lung  cancer  at  the  beginning  of   my  senior  year,  I  put  on  my  game  face  and  continued  living  my  high  school  life.  But,   when  she  passed  away  just  six  days  before  I  graduated  and  just  three  months  before  I   ventured  to  college,  something  inside  me  gave  way.  The  slow  process  of  learning  what  it   meant  to  accept  the  support  of  others  began.  While  transitioning  to  a  new  chapter  of   life  away  from  home,  away  from  comfort,  I  leaned  on  my  then  boyfriend,  now  husband.   I  allowed  Shane  to  comfort  me  through  my  grieving  and  dry  the  tears  that  expressed   what  words  could  not. Even  though  I  allowed  Shane  to  be  a  support  during  my  grieving,  if  I  had  known  at   age  18  what  I  know  now,  I  would  have  opened  up  many  more  opportunities  for  growth.   If  I  had  known  then  what  I  know  now,  I  would  have  allowed  more  people  to  form  the   network  that  they  so  badly  wanted  to  create  in  order  to  surround  me  with  love  and   comfort.  Five  years  after  my  mom  passed  I  uncovered  a  truer,  deeper  understanding  of   what  it  meant  to  allow  the  support  of  others  in  my  life.  At  the  age  of  23  I  was  diagnosed   10

10.22 with  my  own  cancer—Hodgkin’s  Lymphoma.  Four-­‐hundred  Mifty  miles  from  home,  I   quickly  realized  that  I  would  need  to  cherish  any  and  all  encouragement  and  love.  In   poured  the  cards,  flowers,  teddy  bears,  presents,  and  calls  as  physical  signs  of  the   emotional  partnership  I  had  across  the  country. A  new  honesty  developed  in  relationships  with  family  members  and  friends.  I   quickly  welcomed  the  strength  and  empathy  people  were  offering.  And  even  though  I   felt  as  if  I  was  Minally  understanding  how  to  accept  the  support  of  others,  I  discovered  a   new,  different,  beautiful  angle  of  support  when  I  reMlected  on  the  care  from  my  oncology   nurses.  Two  weeks  after  I  Minished  my  Minal  session  of  chemotherapy,  when  I  would   normally  be  returning  for  another  round  of  drugs,  I  found  myself  missing  them.  I   missed  the  nourishment  they  were  providing  my  soul.  The  smiles  they  brought  each   time  I  walked  through  the  door.   The  nurses  were  more  than  physical  care.  They  each  administered  a  special  soul   nurturing  of  which  I  am  still  realizing  the  depths  today.  They  made  me  feel  normal  in   the  midst  of  a  very  unusual  bi-­‐weekly  routine  of  potent  chemotherapy  drugs.  Their   positive  attitudes  and  comforting  words  made  me  feel  like  cancer  was  simply  a  small obstacle  to  surmount  rather  than  a  lifetime  diagnosis.  As  I  sorted  through  the   complicated  emotions  of  missing  my  nurses,  I  realized  they  had  been  contributing  not   only  to  my  health,  but  also  to  my  understanding  of  what  it  looks  like  to  accept  the   11

10.22 strength  of  others  in  my  life.  Because  of  these  very  important  ladies  I  grasp  the   tremendous  individual  growth  that  can  come  from  embedding  oneself  in  a  network  of   support. For  me,  that  network  certainly  included  family,  but  in  the  immediate,  450  miles   from  home,  my  nurses  helped  me  realize  that  accepting  support  does  not  mean  you  are   weak.  Accepting  support  simply  means  you  are  smart  enough  to  realize  how  much   stronger  you  will  be  with  the  support  of  others.  Alone  one  individual  can  survive,  but   with  the  support  of  others  we  thrive. -­‐Lori,  25

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- Lori

winners embrace the word us

In what areas of your life can you welcome the support of others so that you may thrive?

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passion is not the pursuit, love is As  the  hour-­‐long  bus  ride  slowly  ticked  by,  I  had  a  great  deal  of  time  to  think.  I  was   growing  increasingly  discontented,  and  I  became  aware  of  guilt  that  I  couldn’t  shake.  If  I   didn’t  spend  12-­‐16  hours  a  day  working,  I  felt  guilty  for  short-­‐changing  my  future   career.  If  I  did  spend  12-­‐16  hours  a  day  working,  I  felt  guilty  for  not  thoroughly   investing  in  my  home  life  now.  The  constant  tension  wore  on  me  daily. Based  on  these  working  hours,  you  may  assume  that  I  used  to  be  a  lawyer  or   doctor.  Based  on  these  working  hours,  you  may  assume  I  made  well  over  $100,000  per   year  and  had  decided  to  exchange  my  time  and  balance  for  money.  I  wasn’t  and  I  hadn’t.   I  was  a  classical  musician  pursuing  my  graduate  degree  at  Indiana  University.  During   my  undergraduate  degree  at  Truman  State  University,  I  successfully  paid  my  bills  by   building  my  own  private  studio,  I  recorded  with  ensembles,  performed  at  international   conventions,  built  a  network  of  colleagues  spanning  the  globe,  and  I  managed  to  get   into  one  of  the  most  sought  after  graduate  programs  for  music  in  the  country.   My  career  path  was  well-­‐defined,  and  everything  was  going  according  to  my  plan.   There  was  one  problem:  this  career  path  defined  my  existence.  Wake  up,  ride  the  bus  to   13

10.22 campus,  practice,  sit  through  a  lecture,  practice,  go  to  rehearsal,  practice,  move  some   gear,  practice,  perform  in  a  concert,  move  some  more  gear,  ride  the  bus  home  (study   scores  on  the  bus),  practice  at  home,  read  textbooks,  kiss  my  wife,  go  to  sleep...repeat.  I   had  allowed  my  supremely  passionate  pursuit  of  my  dream  career  become  the  entirety   of  who  I  was. Everyone  tells  you  to  find  your  passion  and  chase  it.  Everyone  tells  you  that  when   you  do  this,  everything  else  will  fall  into  place.  With  the  first  part,  I  agree;  passion  is   important.  However,  the  idea  that  if  you  chase  something  with  every  Miber  of  your  being,   then  “everything  else  will  fall  into  place”  is  naïve.    Always  remember  that  more  to  life   exists  than  that  thing  called  your  passion.  Whether  that  consists  of  your  career,  a  sport,   an  art  form,  or  anything  else,  I  guarantee  that  it  does  not  amount  to  100%  of  your  life. I  made  a  change.  I  loved  my  life  and  my  wife  more  than  my  career.  I  loved  the  time   we  spent  together,  and  I  discovered  balance.  Working  hard,  Miring  on  all  cylinders,  and   pursuing  something  with  everything  you  have  can  be  fun  and  rewarding.  A  dangerous   line  exists,  however,  when  that  pursuit,  and  solely  that  pursuit,  defines  you. Webb  Simpson  provides  a  great  example  of  someone  who  pursues  his  passion  and   maintains  balance.  Most  known  for  winning  the  2012  U.S.  Open,  Simpson  plays  golf  at   an  incredible  level.  Needless  to  say,  it  takes  dedication,  hard  work,  and  passion  to  get  to   14

10.22 this  elite  status.  Despite  this  competitive  Mield,  Simpson  is  able  to  maintain  balance.  This   quote  from  Simpson  sums  it  up  nicely:  “You  know,  I  tend  to  want  to  give  it  all  I  have   when  I'm  at  the  golf  course,  and  then  when  I  leave  I  don't  want  to  think  about  golf  at  all.   And  I  just  remind  myself  almost  daily  that  golf's  just  my  job,  it's  not  who  I  am.” So  would  I  take  back  five  years,  thousands  of  dollars  of  debt,  and  a  degree  and  a   quarter,  all  for  a  career  I’m  no  longer  pursuing?  Not  in  a  million  years.  First  of  all,  it  was   an  absolute  blast.  But  mainly,  what  I  was  chasing  would  not  have  mattered.  I  needed   that  time  to  learn  an  important  lesson.  Pursue  your  dreams,  but  don’t  let  that  pursuit   define  your  existence. -­‐Shane,  24

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- Shane

passion is not the pursuit, love is

Have you ever allowed your passion, or pursuit of a goal, to force you out of balance? How can you realign yourself and your goals to create better balance in your life?

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stretch your world...

evitcepsrep ru oy egnahc...

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solo en sevilla Travel  alone.  Very  alone.  Perhaps  where  you  don't  speak  the  language,  or  at  least   not  Mluently.   Have  I  done  this?  Yes.  Was  it  a  lifelong  dream?  No.  Then  why,  why,  why? My  junior  year,  I  went  to  Spain  to  study  abroad  for  Mive  months.  No,  this  was  not   party  abroad;  it  was  study  abroad.  Like  go  to  class  with  the  Spanish  students,  work  in   groups  of  only  Spanish  students  (who  speak  faster  than  any  New  Yorker  can  attempt),   live  with  Spanish  people,  and  hope  the  American  friends  you  just  met  take  a  class  with   you  so  you’re  not  the  only  clueless  one.  So  study  I  did,  along  with  a  few  extracurriculars   that  we  can  Mile  under  “Life  Experience.” Now,  the  beginning  of  this  journey  was  a  stunner  for—let’s  face  it—anyone  who   has  ever  met  me,  as  I  traveled  alone  just  to  get  to  Spain.  No  one  from  my  college  was  on   the  trip  and  I  wasn’t  even  sure  many  other  Americans  would  be  attending  the   university  I  had  chosen.  And  if  I  found  them,  would  I  be  able  to  force  them  to  be  my   friends?  (Kidding!  I  promise  I  made  friends!)  So,  all  this  from  a  girl  who  lives  by  her   16

10.22 planner,  writes  in  only  one  kind  of  pen,  and  adores  color  coordination,  was  quite   unexpected.  And  quite  a  test  of  courage. One  week  near  the  end  of  my  Mive  months,  I  must  have  decided  that  my  courage   needed  a  Minal  exam  to  top  off  the  semester,  because  I  took  a  solo  trip  to  Sevilla,  Spain. Wait,  that  super-­‐Type-­‐A  girl  is  going  on  a  trip  by  herself  in  a  foreign  country?  Has   she  lost  her  mind?! As  it  turned  out,  no,  I  hadn’t  lost  my  mind.  Well,  small  confession...  I  almost  did   when  I  forgot  to  print  my  boarding  passes  the  night  before  my  Mlight.  The  print  shop   down  the  street  was  still  closed  at  the  time  I  needed  to  leave  (the  relaxed  Spanish   lifestyle  strikes  again!),  so  I  had  to  wake  up  my  Spanish  roommate  to  use  her  printer.   Live  and  learn. Anyway,  traveling  alone  may  have  helped  me  Mind  my  mind,  or  at  least  some  great   headspace.  The  room  I  had  to  think,  to  learn,  and  to  overcome  the  little  challenges  of   those  solo  travel  days  was  irreplaceable.  I  have  not  found  an  activity  since  that  has   presented  me  with  that  same  kind  of  space  for  both  thinking  and  feeling.

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10.22 I  was  able  to  experience  the  top  attractions  on  my  list,  lingering  in  my  awe  at  la   Catedral  de  Santa  María  de  la  Sede  and  la  Plaza  de  España.  I  could  weave  my  way   through  the  city,  using  my  map  and  Fodor’s  guidebook  to  maintain  some  sense  of   direction  (not  my  strong  suit).  Even  when  I  did  get  a  bit  lost,  the  only  person  counting   on  me  was  me,  so  I  could  take  the  scenic  route  and  spend  time  in  places  my  guidebook   didn’t  mention.   And  if  I  was  really  lost,  I  had  to  be  the  one  to  ask  a  passerby  where  to  go.  Even  after   nearly  Mive  months,  my  Spanish  vocabulary  could  be  quite  elusive  if  I  was  even  a  tiny  bit   nervous  about  speaking.  But  there  was  only  me,  so  I  had  to  be  the  one  to  speak.  And   somehow,  maybe  because  it  was  just  me,  I  had  all  the  conMidence  in  the  world  for  those   two  days. At  the  end  of  one  day  I  simply  sat  in  Parque  de  María  Luisa,  soaking  up  my   surroundings…  watching  Frisbee  games,  listening  to  a  guitarist,  writing  some  tidbits   about  my  adventure  on  the  postcards  I  had  selected  with  friends  and  family  in  mind.   Letting  the  Spanish  language  swirl  around  me  made  it  easier  to  hear  the  English  inside   me.  I  was  lost  in  my  freedom  of  feeling  and  thought  while  being  found  in  the  very  same   place.

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10.22 Now  I’m  thinking,  when  is  my  next  solo  trip?  And  when  is  yours?  Clear  that   schedule,  book  those  tickets,  map  that  route,  and  get  ready  for  the  alone  time  of  your   life! -­‐Breanne,  22

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- Breanne

solo en sevilla

When are you going to set aside some time to travel alone? Where will you go? What do you want to see there? How will you clear some space to just be in your own head?

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happiness in haiti Make  helping  people  a  signiMicant  part  of  your  life.  Try  to  learn  about  the  world   around  you.  Travel.  Keep  a  positive  attitude.  These  pieces  of  advice  sound  simple,  but   we  do  not  live  in  a  simple  world.  Here  is  how  I  can  share  these  pieces  in  my  life. I  recently  graduated  from  law  school.  Law  school  breeds  competition.  Students  are   Miltered  out  during  the  Mirst  year.  Summer  jobs  are  determined  based  on  who  is  ranked   at  the  top  of  their  class.  Competition  fuels  ruthlessness—I  have  seen  1Ls  (Mirst  year   students)  hide  library  books  that  their  classmates  need  to  complete  assignments.  Upon   graduation,  only  the  best  and  the  brightest  obtain  the  highly  sought-­‐after,  well-­‐ compensated  large  law  Mirm  positions.  For  three  years  I  was  a  part  of  this  environment   where  everyone  was  constantly  Mighting  to  be  the  best.  But,  for  what  were  they  Mighting?   In  my  third  year  of  law  school,  I  joined  the  Human  Rights  Clinic.  I  had  always  been   interested  in  helping  people.  I  deemed  that  this  was  the  best  way  to  learn  about  the  law   and  to  Might  for  some  of  the  most  fundamental  human  needs—the  right  to  life,  health,   freedom  from  torture,  and  the  right  to  human  dignity—rights  that  were  violated  by   deportations  to  Haiti. 20

10.22 Our  clinic  and  partner  organizations  were  trying  to  stop  deportations  to  Haiti  due   to  the  ongoing  conditions  on  the  ground  through  litigation  and  advocacy.  For  our  work,   we  traveled  to  Haiti  to  interview  people  and  document  the  state  of  the  country.  We   visited  tent  camps  where  we  were  told  that  there  were  “babies  having  babies”—young   girls  were  being  raped.  There  was  no  security  to  protect  them.  We  saw  people  on   death’s  doorstep—lying  sick  in  tents  without  medical  care  or  medicine.  We  talked  to   deportees—individuals  who  had  lived  with  their  families  in  the  United  States.  After   being  deported  to  Haiti,  they  were  now  living  in  tent  camps  or  on  the  streets.  We  talked   to  bureaucrats  who  discussed  the  situation  academically  and  philosophically,  but  had   no  solution  to  ameliorate  the  devastation  and  human  suffering.   I  realized  that  for  what  most  people  had  been  Mighting  in  law  school  and  in  life— money,  the  corner  ofMice,  an  expensive  car—seemed  silly  after  meeting  people  in  Haiti.   Money  and  luxurious  possessions  are  not  bad;  however,  you  should  never  settle  for   meaningless  satisfaction.   The  people  I  met  in  Haiti  had  nothing,  but  were  some  of  the  kindest,  happiest   people  I  have  ever  encountered.  They  were  generous,  despite  the  death,  maltreatment,   and  torture.  They  lived  one  day  at  a  time,  trying  to  help  each  other  when  they  could  and   enjoying  the  tiniest  measure  of  happiness  that  came  their  way.  We  bought  a  child  some   21

10.22 fruit  in  the  marketplace  and  he  smiled  like  we  had  given  him  a  million  dollars.  I   attempted  to  speak  Creole  to  two  Haitian  women  and  they  grinned  and  patiently  spoke   with  me.  We  took  pictures  of  children  in  the  tent  camps  and  then  showed  them  and   they  shrieked  in  amazement.  Even  if  we  cannot  stop  all  deportations  to  Haiti,  we  can   tell  stories  of  the  voiceless  to  campaign  for  immigration  and  human  rights  law  reform.   So  to  sum  up,  here  are  some  quick,  memorable  statements  that  have  impact  on  me.   Make  your  life  worth  something.  Take  the  opportunity  to  make  society  better.  Use  your   skills  and  education  to  help  someone—as  many  someones  as  possible.  Go  somewhere   that  you  have  never  considered  going.  Talk  to  people  there—they  will  always  teach  you   something  invaluable.  Life  is  not  measured  by  possessions  or  titles—the  only  thing  that   will  be  remembered  is  how  we  spent  our  days  and  how  we  responded  when  life   brought  hardship.   Then,  open  your  mind  to  what’s  in  front  of  you.  Step  out  of  your  comfort  zone.   Volunteer.  Speak  out  for  what  you  believe  in.  Don’t  be  a  cynic—they’re  a  dime  a  dozen   and  contribute  little  besides  negative  energy.  Be  an  innovator—not  only  in  inventing   new  gadgets  but  also  in  improving  failing  systems  and  governments  and  Mighting  for  the   underdog.  Don’t  be  afraid  to  be  controversial—the  most  controversial  and  detested   Migures  in  history  are  the  ones  that  really  broke  down  barriers  and  made  societal   advancements.  And,  please,  please  don’t  hide  law  books.                    -­‐Drew,  25 22

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- Drew

happiness in haiti

Where will you have the courage to be controversial? What will you do to innovate and better the world that immediately surrounds yourself and others?

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speed play Sweat  bigger,  not  smaller.  You  will  be  surprised  by  what  matters. For  many  years  of  my  life,  I  used  to  “sweat  the  small  stuff.”  Even  things  that  were   silly,  like  what  clothes  to  wear,  or  what  party  to  get  invited  to,  or  the  part  in  the  school   play.  Hey,  I  am  a  good  Cinderella.  These  issues  seemed  largely  important  and  signiMicant   at  the  time.  I  would  get  myself  seriously  worked  up.  Although  my  mom  used  to  tell  me   not  to  worry  (and  I  even  read  those  “don’t  sweat  the  small  stuff”  books),  her  words   never  helped  to  ease  the  situation.   Over  the  years,  I’ve  learned  to  become  more  patient,  Mlexible,  and  conMident,  while   gaining  a  greater  understanding  of  myself  and  a  stronger  perspective  of  the  world.  At   some  point,  we  can  all  relate  with  a  small  case  of  sweating  the  small  stuff  or  StSS,  as   serious  medical  folks  know  the  illness. I  wish  that  I  had  known  to  ask  myself  the  fundamental  question,  “Will  this  matter   Mive  years  from  now?”  This  simple  question  is  something  small  that  helps  me  now,  even   with  situations  at  work  and  with  friends,  to  regain  perspective  and  conMidence.  I’ve   23

10.22 heard  that  conMidence  is  the  voice  in  your  head  that  tells  you  that  you  belong.   Remember  this  as  you  explore  new  paths  through  your  journey. My  StSS  case  began  with  a  desire  to  Minish  high  school  all  too  soon.  At  the  age  of  17,   I  skipped  my  senior  year  of  high  school  in  order  to  begin  college  a  full  year  ahead  of   schedule.  For  some  reason,  I  thought  the  answer  to  my  problems  would  be  to  just  keep   escaping  situations  in  which  I  felt  uncomfortable.  To  this  day,  I  still  believe  that  early   college  was  one  of  the  best  decisions  of  my  life  (there  are  also  others  that  rank  highly   on  that  list,  such  as  study  abroad!).  But  don’t  run,  like  I  did,  from  anything.  Meet   challenges  head  on,  again  asking  yourself  the  fundamental  question,  “Will  this  matter   Mive  years  from  now?”  Heck,  try  Mive  days  from  now  or  if  you  are  bold,  Mive  minutes. After  I  graduated  from  college,  I  was  pushed  by  a  desire  for  change,  leading  me  to   pursue  challenges  that  enhanced  my  journey  toward  becoming  a  well-­‐rounded   individual.  Through  the  Financial  Leadership  Development  Program  at  Lockheed-­‐ Martin,  I  capitalized  on  the  opportunity  to  move  once  each  year  for  the  Mirst  three  years   following  college,  experiencing  different  job  roles,  meeting  new  people,  and  exploring   new  places.  I  have  been  a  Minancial  analyst,  a  contracts  administrator,  and  will  soon   support  corporate  engineering  and  technology.  I  have  already  lived  in  New  York,   Florida,  and  Washington  D.C.  I  took  this  experience  as  a  chance  to  explore  the  world  at  a   young  age,  and  push  myself  to  step  out  of  my  comfort  zone  by  learning  and  growing  in  a   24

10.22 new  environment  each  year.  From  these  experiences,  I  learned  a  lot  not  only  about   myself,  but  also  about  others.  I  learned  to  value  those  important  in  my  life,  and  remain   Mlexible  when  times  get  tough.  For  me,  it  was  time  to  take  a  leap  of  faith;  I  was  no  longer   in  a  hurry  to  grow  up,  and  was  Minally  satisMied  with  where  I  was  going. I  had  done  something  that  scared  me.  You  should  try  some  things  that  scare  you   too.  In  keeping  with  my  scare  theme,  I  pushed  myself  to  study  abroad  while  in  college  (I   was  only  19!),  and  thought  that  I  knew  a  lot  about  the  world.  I  knew  nothing!  Exploring   and  touring  many  countries  in  Europe  was  an  awesome  and  humbling  experience.  Not   only  did  I  learn  about  many  cultures  and  see  many  amazing  sights,  but  I  learned  about   myself  and  developed  a  sense  of  independence  I  never  thought  possible—the  best  way   to  learn.  So  take  risks  and  take  advantage  to  do  as  much  as  you  can!  These  experiences   combine  to  help  form  the  person  you  become  along  the  journey. -­‐Nicole,  23

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Aquariums  are  a  common  and  intriguing  restaurant  Mixture.  I’m  not  exactly  sure   what  having  a  Mish  as  decoration  communicates.  Maybe  it’s  the  mesmerizing  way  a  Mish   swims,  or  that  sense  of  peace  that  washes  up  with  the  bubbles  that  draws  so  many   restaurant  owners  to  install  one.  Or  perhaps  it’s  merely  a  sense  that  “if  this  restaurant   can  keep  this  Mish  alive,  then  their  food  must  not  be  all  that  bad.” A  Thai  restaurant  I  frequent  features  a  large  gray  koi  Mish.  I  used  to  tap  the  glass   and  the  Mish  would  follow  my  Minger  (until  the  restaurant  posted  a  sign  asking  people   not  to  do  that).  The  koi  would  aggressively  bite  at  me  as  if  I  was  some  form  of  food  or   the  key  to  his  freedom  from  his  aquatic  cage.  When  I  go  to  the  restaurant,  I  like  to   pretend  that  we’re  old  buddies,  and  that  the  koi  is  merely  greeting  me.  I  often  wonder  if   what  people  say  about  Mish  is  true—That  their  memories  are  so  poor  that  they  don’t   glimpse  the  tangible  size  of  their  holding  cell.  They  only  remember  that  small  glimpse   of  existence  that  tells  them  who  they  are  and  what  they’re  doing  at  that  moment. I  am  reminded  of  the  many  Mish  throughout  my  childhood.  I  remember  goldMish.  I   remember  Michael  Jordan,  my  Siamese  Fighting  Fish  that  decided  to  commit  seppuku   26

10.22 by  launching  himself  out  of  his  bowl  and  into  the  nearby  sink.  Most  of  all,  I  remember   owning  guppies  that  were  given  to  us  as  a  school  project  in  fourth  grade.  For  those   unfamiliar  with  guppies,  they’re  a  very  tiny  Mish,  no  larger  than  a  Mingernail.  The  male   Mish  are  often  multicolored  whereas  the  females  are  somewhat  larger.  (Fun  fact:   Guppies  also  possess  23  chromosomes,  the  same  as  human  beings.)  The  goal  of  the   project  was  essentially  to  keep  your  guppies  alive  for  as  long  as  you  could.  The  project   was  supposed  to  teach  us  a  sense  of  responsibility  for  a  living  thing. The  Mirst  few  weeks  with  the  Mish  were  magical.  I  remember  my  excitement  at   taking  my  guppies  home,  crumpling  up  the  orange  and  red  Mish  food  bites  in  my  Mingers   and  watching  my  Mish  attack  me  (not  to  mention  their  overpowering  smell).  After  some   long-­‐term  care,  the  guppies  died,  and  I  quietly  let  the  Minal  generation  fade  into  memory.   My  lesson  had  been  learnt. When  I  was  young,  that  lesson  was  one  of  responsibility  and  respect  for  life,  but   now  that  lesson  has  expanded  into  a  vision  of  time  and  the  universe.  It  is  a  vision  that   acknowledges  the  ways  in  which  we  view  passing  time.  When  I  Mirst  got  my  Mish,  a  day   seemed  like  an  eternity  watching  them  swim,  but  as  generations  passed  and  my   interest  waned,  time  seemed  to  leap  forward.  This  is  often  the  case  with  what  inspires   us.  Those  moments  of  inspiration  are  so  vivid,  whereas  those  moments  of  nothingness   seem  like  a  void  in  memory. 27

10.22 When  I  am  an  old  man,  I  won’t  remember  the  guppies  or  some  of  the  moments   that  built  me.  I  won’t  remember  the  generations  that  have  grown  up  after  me.  It’ll  just   be  those  crumbles.  Those  bits  and  pieces  of  life  that  stuck  out  the  most.  It’s  those  bits,   those  small  glimpses,  that  seem  to  stick  and  deMine  our  existence.  The  glimpses  that   inform  us  of  who  we  are  and  about  who  we  really  care  about.  And  though  our  vision   may  seem  so  much  broader,  perhaps  we  are  not  all  that  different  from  the  koi. -­‐Elliot,  26

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10.22 Mom…”  I  paused.  “I  just  got  Mired.”  I  winced.  Saying  it  out  loud  hurt. For  the  past  few  months,  I  had  been  working  for  a  company  doing  some  marketing   and  online  editing  work  for  their  website.  I  had  landed  the  gig  at  the  beginning  of  the   summer,  and  had  learned  a  ton  about  online  businesses  during  my  time  with  them.  I   had  learned  so  much,  in  fact,  that  I  had  been  toying  around  with  opening  a  business  of   my  own.  At  the  time,  however,  pursuing  my  own  business  venture  was  just  an  idea—a   small  wisp  of  a  daydream  that  lingered  in  the  gray  area  between  my  subconscious  and   my  constant  train  of  thoughts.  It  would  only  really  show  itself  every  once  in  a  while,  and   even  then  it  would  only  stay  for  a  few  minutes  at  the  most,  always  pushed  back  into  my   mental  Miling  cabinet  labeled  “Things  I  Would  Really  Like  To  Do  That  Will  Probably   Remain  Undone.”     I  kicked  a  pebble  and  watched  it  skip  down  my  driveway.  Kelly,  I  scolded  myself.   What  were  you  thinking?!  What  had  prompted  me  to  excitedly  share  my  strand  of  a   vision  with  my  boss  the  week  before?  I  searched  my  brain  for  an  answer.  All  I  could  Mind   was  the  resounding  feeling  that  I  had  done  something  stupid.  Now,  I  was  without  a  job —and  what  did  I  have  to  show  for  it?  A  tuft  of  an  unrealistic  dream?  I  was  18  years  old   and  about  to  go  to  college.  I  couldn’t  start  my  own  business…Could  I?

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10.22 … Three  months  later,  I  sighed  as  I  closed  a  book  geared  toward  budding   entrepreneurs.  “Stupid  idea,”  I  muttered  to  myself.  Had  I  known  what  trying  to  open  a   business  entailed,  I  certainly  wouldn’t  have  shared  my  silly  aspirations  with  my  boss  a   few  months  earlier.  I  would  probably  still  have  a  part-­‐time,  steady  job.  And  I  deMinitely   wouldn’t  have  spent  seemingly  every  single  hour  of  “free  time”  that  I  had  between   college  classes,  studying,  working  my  on-­‐campus  job,  and  all  of  my  extracurriculars   pouring  through  page  after  page  of  books  on  programming,  online  marketing,  and   business  legal  jargon.  What  was  I  thinking?   After  I  splashed  my  face  with  cold  water  later  that  night  before  bed,  I  stared  at  my   tired  expression  in  the  mirror.  Alright,  come  on  Kelly.  I  took  what  was  probably  my   millionth  deep  breath  since  I  had  Mirst  had  the  ambition  to  start  a  business  of  my  own.   You  can  do  this.  I  know  you  can.   It  was  going  to  be  a  lot  of  work,  but  I  knew  that  I  wasn’t  completely  crazy  for   wanting  to  start  a  business  while  I  was  in  college.  I  had  never  been  one  to  give  up  on   something  that  I  had  set  my  mind  on  doing,  and  I  didn’t  see  any  reason  why  I  should   start  giving  up  now.

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10.22 I  decided  to  start  by  making  a  list  of  small  goals  that  I  knew  I  could  accomplish-­‐   each  within  perhaps  a  few  days.  Find  an  available  domain  name.  Check.  Solidify  basic   website  design.  Check.  Find  afMiliate  network  to  join.  Check.   A  few  months  later,  I  felt  like  I  was  actually  going  somewhere.  Instead  of  focusing   on  my  big  end  goal,  I  turned  my  attention  to  completing  smaller  tasks  that  built  on  each   other.  Just  like  any  big  goal  (graduating  with  honors  from  college,  for  example)  can  at   Mirst  seem  overwhelming,  I’ve  learned  it  never  seems  as  bad  if  you  take  everything  one   step  at  a  time. Slowly,  I  began  making  progress  on  my  list.  I  had  absolutely  no  programming   background,  so  I  bought  a  book  on  basic  HTML  and  CSS.  Before  long,  I  was  deciphering   source  codes  on  every  website  I  visited.  My  research  informed  me  that  I  would  need  to   hire  a  programmer  to  design  the  extensive  database  that  my  idea  would  need.  I  dove   into  the  project  and  made  the  decision  to  invest  the  money  I  had  received  for  my  high   school  graduation  into  my  business  plan.   By  the  fall  of  my  sophomore  year  of  college,  I  had  a  legitimate  business  up  and   running.  I  will  never  forget  the  feeling  of  logging  into  my  bank  account  and  seeing  the   Mirst  payment  from  a  sale  that  had  been  deposited  into  my  account.  Of  course,  monetary   rewards  were  only  half  of  it.  More  important  to  me  was  realizing  that  I  could,  and  did,   32

10.22 accomplish  something  that  seemed  virtually  undoable  a  year  before.   It  has  been  three  years  since  I  Mirst  voiced  my  aspiration  to  start  a  business  of  my   own.  Between  then  and  now,  I’ve  graduated  from  college,  started  another  business,  won   entrepreneurial  scholarships  and  awards,  received  a  call  from  the  producers  of  Shark   Tank,  and  have  spoken  at  business  conferences. Losing  my  Mirst  solid  part  time  job  as  a  result  of  my  entrepreneurial  goals  at  the   time  seemed  like  the  end  of  the  world.  Looking  back,  however,  I  know  that  it  was  that   Mirst  “failure”  that  ultimately  served  as  the  foundation  for  my  subsequent   entrepreneurial  successes.   Had  I  known  that  I  would  eventually  accomplish  what  had  started  in  my  head  as  a   far-­‐fetched  ambition,  I  might  have  actually  smiled  when  the  company  let  me  go.  What  at   Mirst  seemed  like  a  curse  turned  out  to  truly  be  a  blessing—I  was  thrown,  or  maybe  I   threw  myself—but  in  any  case,  I  was  suddenly  gasping  for  air  that  I  didn’t  know  how  to   make  show  up.  I’ve  screwed  up  a  lot.  I  spent  three  months  developing  something  that  I   later  trashed.  I  made  a  stupid  investment  that  ended  up  costing  me  $1,600.  Mistake   after  mistake,  I’ve  Mloundered  around  in  deep  water  without  a  life  jacket  more  times   than  I  can  count.

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10.22 But  I’ve  learned  that  hard  work  always  pays  off,  even  if  it  takes  a  little  sorting   through  the  marbles  to  realize  it.  If  I  could  talk  to  my  eighteen  year  old  self,  sitting   overwhelmed  with  my  head  in  my  hands  in  the  library,  I  would  shake  my  shoulders  and   tell  myself  that  it’s  often  the  times  when  everything  seems  the  hardest  that  you’ll  reap   the  most  out  of  in  the  long  run.  I  would  tell  myself  to  take  even  more  chances,  and  to   dream  up  more  seemingly  foolish  ambitions.  Every  success  story  once  started  as  a  silly   dream.   At  an  entrepreneurial  conference  I  spoke  at  during  my  junior  year  of  undergrad,  I   shared  what  I  had,  so  far,  found  to  be  one  of  the  most  applicable  quotes  to  life—in  the   wise  words  of  Dale  Carnegie,  “discouragement  and  failure  are  two  of  the  surest   stepping  stones  to  success.” “Success,”  however  you  deMine  it,  is  only  something  good  because  you  can  contrast   it  with  the  times  when  you  think  the  world  is  caving  in.  It  never  is—remember  the   shadows  are  only  there  because  behind  the  clouds  shines  the  sun. -­‐Kelly,  22

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jump in the water... often - Kelly

Everything you do in life-including helping and taking care of others-will mean a whole lot more if you also take care of yourself. What are you planning on doing today to take care of you?

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definitely someday stanford In  my  opinion,  the  best  thing  about  being  human  is  our  ability  to  time  travel.  For   instance,  think  about  tomorrow  morning.  You  can  place  yourself  there,  hitting  your   alarm  and  getting  out  of  bed.  You  might  not  know  exactly  how  you'll  get  there,  but,  with   fairly  high  certainty,  you  will.  And  if  you  wanted  to  get  up  at  a  different  time  or  on  the   other  side  of  the  bed,  you  can.  That  is,  you  can  see  into  the  likely  future  and  alter  it.  Now   think  about  yourself  next  week  or  next  year—next  decade,  even.  How  far,  and  with   what  certainty,  can  we  do  this?  What  side  of  the  bed  will  you  choose  when  you’re   thirty? I  started  thinking  about  this  my  junior  year  of  undergrad  when  I  Mirst  took   econometrics  (a  wildly  difMicult  class  for  me).  Late  one  night,  I  was  staring  at  a  page  of   foreign  Greek  symbols  and  thought,  if  I  was  able  to  travel  back  to  sixth  grade,  it  would   be  easy.  Those  classes  were  easy.  But  I  guess  “easy”  is  just  a  mindset  —something  that   happens  in  hindsight.  I’m  sure  I  thought  my  U.S.  Government  and  integrated  math   classes  were  difMicult  back  in  the  sixth  grade.  So,  maybe  next  year  I’d  think  this   econometrics  stuff  was  easy  as  I  moved  into  more  advanced  classes?  Then  I  realized   that  there’s  nothing  holding  me  back  from  that  future  hindsight.  We’re  humans.  We  can   35

10.22 time  travel.  If  it’ll  be  easy  next  year,  it  can  be  easy  now.  I’ll  essentially  be  the  same   person  then  as  I  am  now,  just  with  a  different  perspective.  I  could  make  hindsight  into   foresight  by  simply  changing  the  way  I  think  about  it.  I  got  an  “A”  in  econometrics.  It   was  about  senior  year  when  the  next,  and  probably  most  important,  epitome  changed   my  outlook.  I  traveled  through  time  to  try  to  envision  an  end  goal  that  felt  happy. A  professor  at  Stanford  University,  respected,  and  looked  up  to.  My  ofPice  hours   have  lines  of  students  waiting  in  the  hall.  They  come  to  talk  about  the  content  of   my  class,  but  stay  to  understand  how  the  content  and  my  inPluence  can  impact   them.  I  am  the  kind  of  professor  who  evokes  goose  bumps  in  lecture    and   inPluences  underclassmen  to  change  their  majors  and  focus. The  story  is  just  a  fairy  tale  I  made  up  at  age  20.  But  now  that  I  know  this  (made   up)  future,  I  can  play  a  little  scenario  in  my  brain  that  guides  real  world  decisions  every   day:  When  I’m  sitting  across  a  desk  from  a  future  Stanford  student  who  asks  “Professor   Skievaski,  how  did  you  get  to  where  you  are?”  How  will  I  respond?  Could  I  say,  “When  I   was  25,  I  started  my  own  consulting  company?”  Or  maybe,  “When  I  was  25,  I  went  back   to  graduate  school  for  an  MBA?”  Which  scenario  would  my  future  self  most  likely  tell   the  student?  Which  scenario  would  put  me  in  that  seat  across  that  desk?  Both  are  Mine,   but  I  have  to  choose  the  one  today  that  I  think  will  put  me  there  in  30  years.

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10.22 Now  I  know  the  future.  I  travel  there  every  day  when  I  choose  how  to  live  and   which  direction  to  move.  And  if  this  future  doesn’t  happen,  it’s  simply  because  I   consciously  made  the  choice  for  something  else—something  better.  The  fairy  tale   becomes  the  fall  back  plan  because  diverting  from  the  path  means  and  requires   something  better  to  come.    If  you  have  questions,  you  can  email  me  at   [email protected]  in  about  30  years. -­‐Niko,  25

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- Niko

definitely someday stanford

What makes you special, indispensable, and separate you from everyone, including the old you?  How will this affect your next big transition?

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10.22

a story with a twisted (tie) heart I  recently  discovered  something  obvious  that  I  should  have  always  known.  Life  is   about  stories.  Just  look  around;  stories  Mlood  our  TVs,  radios,  and  phones  in  the  forms  of   movies,  songs,  and  social  media.  They  entertain  our  minds  with  books,  magazines,  and   lectures.  Stories  bond  families  and  friends  around  campMires,  over  coffee,  and  at  holiday   dinners;  both  in  their  creation  as  well  as  their  recollection.  Life  is  a  story,  and  our   ability  to  share  and  listen  to  stories  is  directly  correlated  to  the  depth  that  we  are  able   to  appreciate,  make  meaning  from,  and  change  our  lives.  So  here’s  a  story  from  me  to   you,  that’s  about  both  me  and  you,  and  what  we  are  doing  here. During  the  Spring  Break  of  my  sophomore  year  in  college,  I  was  part  of  a  mission   trip  to  Mexico  where  student  volunteers  helped  build  a  church  and  facilitate  a  day  camp   for  children.  The  Mirst  morning  in  Mexico,  I  was  at  the  breakfast  table  and  reached  for  a   piece  of  bread.  I  happened  to  have  the  twist-­‐tie  from  the  top  of  the  bag  in  my  hand.  I   twisted  it  around,  shaped  it,  and  made  it  into  a  little  heart  on  one  end.  For  some  reason   unknown  to  myself,  I  didn’t  throw  it  away,  but  put  it  in  my  pocket.

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10.22 The  week  went  quickly  and  the  last  day  in  Mexico  arrived.  That  morning,  I  put  on   the  pair  of  jeans  that  happened  to  have  the  twist-­‐tie  in  the  pocket.  I  was  surprised   something  so  small  had  survived  the  manual  labor  of  the  week  without  getting  lost.  I   twisted  it  around,  shaped  it,  and  made  it  into  a  little  heart  on  one  end.  I  thought,   “Mandy,  why  did  you  keep  this?  You  should  throw  it  away,  you  don’t  need  it.”  And  I   almost  did,  but  then  for  some  reason  unknown  to  me,  I  put  it  back  in  my  pocket. We  went  to  the  Minal  Miesta  of  our  Mexico  experience,  and  there  was  this  little  girl  at   the  Miesta  I  knew.  She  carried  a  small  purse  and  wanted  to  show  me  something  inside,   When  she  tried  to  open  it,  there  was  no  zipper  pull  and  she  couldn’t  get  it  open.  All  of  a   sudden,  I  realized  why  I  kept  that  twist-­‐tie.  I  reached  into  my  pocket,  pulled  it  out,  and   twisted  it  around  the  zipper,  shaped  it,  and  made  it  into  a  little  heart  on  one  end.  My   little  friend  looked  up  at  me  with  a  smile  that  bridged  any  language  barriers,  and  said,   “Gracias!”. … The  twist-­‐ties  that  you  have  in  your  pockets  are  your  stories,  advice,  and  wisdom.   Sure,  they  may  be  small  and  seemingly  insigniMicant,  but  they  are  incredibly  versatile   little  tools  hidden  in  your  pockets  that  you  can  share  to  help  shape  another  person’s   experience.  Don’t  throw  them  away  or  keep  them  hidden.  Share  these  stories  with   39

10.22 anyone  that  will  listen;  and  in  doing  so,  you  may  not  only  transform  them,  but  also   yourself.  This  book  is  a  collection  of  many  “twist-­‐tie”  gifts  being  given  to  you.  I’m   honored  to  have  a  part  in  it,  but  you,  too,  have  incredible  wisdom  to  share.

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my notebook pg. 11 How have stories shaped or influenced your life and relationships? In what ways might you start to think about, listen, collect, and tell stories to assist you in achieving your goals? What story is your life currently telling? What kind of story do you want your life to tell? How can stories help make the answers to the last two questions identical?

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notebook nightmare

Rolling  over  with  a  start  two  nights  ago,  I  awoke.  I  had  an  idea,  a  good  idea.  I   should  write  the  idea  down,  but  where  was  my  notebook?  I  need  to  wear  my  notebook.   Off  went  the  covers  and  my  feet  scampered  down  the  stairs.  Luckily,  the  thought  did  not   escape  me.  I  captured  the  idea  with  my  pen  and  notebook.  Close  miss  there,  I  thought,  I   almost  missed  the  chance  to  share  my  idea.  Shame  on  me. Fortunately,  I  am  now  able  to  share  my  idea  with  you.  The  idea  is:  always,  always   carry  pen  and  paper.  You  will  get  your  ideas  at  the  oddest  times.  In  the  shower,  at   practice,  in  a  meeting,  or  right  before  bed  are  breeding  grounds  for  thought.  So,  Mind   yourself  a  notebook,  an  index  card,  or  scrap  paper.  Then,  destroy  the  medium.  Scribble   on  it,  convey  your  ideas  on  it,  draw  yourself  pictures,  and  write  notes  to  yourself   (people  think,  Reid  is  nuts,  when  he  does  this).  Example:  Dear  Reid,  Pick  up  pizza.  From,   Hungry  Reid. “Why  now?”  you  ask,  “Why  do  I  need  a  notebook?”  Answer  now  you  get.  If  I  Knew   Now  needs  your  ideas  on  paper.  We  need  you  to  share  your  ideas  with  us.  Who  is  us?   We,  the  readers  of  your  wisdom.  Your  neighbors  and  friends  are  part  of  us.  Get  going   41

10.22 and  pass  your  ideas. The  best  part  about  carrying  a  notebook  at  all  times  is  that  you  can  write  down  so   many  ideas  for  later.  You  can  write  down  ideas  for  later  in  the  day,  later  in  the  week,   later  in  the  month,  later  in  the  year,  and  way  later  in  life.  You  never  know  when  you  may   need  a  random  idea  to  start  a  project  or  an  assignment,  a  business,  or  a  book. It  is  so  hard  to  just  sit  around  and  conjure  up  ideas.  Ask  artists  or  writers  what   their  processes  are  for  creating  art.  They  will  probably  answer,  “First  I  get  inspired,   then  I  go  create.”  The  process  does  not  happen  the  other  way  around.  You  do  not  just   create  then  get  inspired.  You  have  to  Mind  something  that  moves  you. The  funny  things  about  the  somethings  that  move  you  is  that  you  cannot  plan  for   them.  They  just  pop  out  at  you  like  a  Jack-­‐in-­‐the-­‐box,  with  an  incredibly  mean  Jack.   Unexpected,  and  sometimes  frightening,  ideas  will  thump  you  on  the  head.  Ouch,  you   say?    You  can  win  this  battle.  The  best  way  to  Might  the  somethings  is  to  have  your  pen   and  paper  ready  to  write  them  down.  This  is  the  only  method  to  capture  them  and   defeat  them.  Otherwise,  ideas  are  quick  little  buggers.  They  sneak  away  into  the  depths   of  your  memory,  never  to  be  seen  again.  And  then,  you  are  that  gomer  who  is  looking   sideways  saying,  “Now  what  was  the  great  idea  I  had  Mive  years  ago?”  or  “Now  what  was   the  great  idea  I  had  Mive  minutes  ago?”  Embarrassing…

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10.22 This  whole  book,  10.22,  started  in  a  notebook.  The  Mlow  arrows  started  in  a   notebook.  The  great  writer  list  started  in  a  notebook.  The  art  started  in  a  notebook.   Here  are  the  times  that  these  ideas  were  recorded.  In  logical  order,  of  course,  and  at   logical  times,  like  I  have  described  above,  the  notebook  was  scribbled  and  scratched. June  7,  Chicago  rest  stop  5:30pm:  a  book  where  22  yr  olds  (approximately)  write  to  other   22  yr  olds  would  fun.  Of  course  other  people  can  read  it  too.  Call  Curt  with  hands  free  call   during  rest  of  drive…safe. June  14,  backyard  mowing,  11:30am:  I  should  call  Kelly.  She  would  have  a  great  idea   about  how  to  do  this,  and  she  should  write.  Oh,  other  writers.  Shane,  Breanne,  already   called  Curt. July  28,  apartment  staring  at  sunset,  8:30pm:  called  shane,  Lori  is  writing  too.  Nicole,   Drew,  Schwab,  Niko.  All  would  be  great.  Invite  them  now. October  10,  running,  7:00am:  a  creators  bonus  section.  Elliot,  Mandy,  me  (unfortunately) October  31,  sleeping  12:00am:  midnight  on  Halloween,  this  could  be  scary.  But,  I  need  to   draw  the  cowboy  comic. So,  there  is  a  little  chunk  of  my  notebook.  You  can  see  that  the  times  are  all  over,   the  activities  I  am  doing  have  no  pattern,  and  I  just  scribble  words  down  on  paper.  You   should  feel  fortunate  I  typed  my  notebook.  The  original  version  is  basically  unreadable   43

10.22 except  to  me.  Of  course,  I  can  read  hieroglyphics;  so  deciphering  the  symbols  of  my   notebook… …Egyptian  Pie  baby. Did  you  reach  for  a  notebook  yet?  Have  you  been  taking  notes  in  your  10.22   notebook?  At  least,  though  dangerous,  mental  notes?  I  hope  so.  We  need  you  to   remember  the  next  great  business,  project,  music,  or  art  idea  that  pops  in  your  head.   Get  that  down  on  paper  now  and  in  the  future.  You  won’t  regret  a  little  scribble  that  can   pay  dividends  in  the  future.

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- Reid

notebook nightmare

What are three ideas you have had that you think you can execute this year? Which random moments conjure up your greatest thoughts? Exercise, staring at the sun, drinking beer?

my notebook pg. 13

- Curt

brew a new you

Find something in which you can fully engage your mind in the learning process. Find something that could be just a hobby. Learn everything about that hobby. Thus,turning it in to one more skill you have and an area of expertise you can share.

In what new interest will you engage yourself this week? Which resources will you need to fully immerse yourself?

my notebook pg. 14

-Schwab (Jake)

wrangling life as cowboy

A few years ago I became quite convicted as to how I was choosing to live this short life I had been given. I didn’t have a near death experience; I just decided to make life more interesting. Life is short.

What are you choosing to do differently each day to make your life more exciting and less mundane?

my notebook pg. 15

- Lori

winners embrace the word us

Accepting support does not mean you are weak. It simply means you are smart enough to realize how much stronger you will be with the support of others. Alone one individual can survive, but with the support of others we thrive.

In what areas of your life can you welcome the support of others so that you may thrive?

my notebook pg. 16

- Shane

passion is not the pursuit, love is

Our society talks a great deal about passion, and passion is a critical element in discovering who you are and what you should pursue in life.  Often, we overlook balance, allow that passion to own us, and end up out of balance.  

Have you ever allowed your passion, or pursuit of a goal, to force you out of balance? How can you realign yourself and your goals to create better balance in your life?

my notebook pg. 17

- Breanne

solo en sevilla

Your legacy will not be a full bank account, stock options and life insurance. Hopefully, it is tales some might call “tall,” photos for the grandkids to stare at in disbelief and a smattering of foreign currency left in a bedside drawer. Everyday, I’m trying to decide. Have you decided?

What is the “photo” you want to share in the future?

my notebook pg. 18

- Drew

happiness in haiti

Open your mind to what’s in front of you. Step out of your comfort zone. Volunteer. Speak out for what you believe. Don’t be a cynic—they’re a dime a dozen and contribute little besides negative energy. Be an innovator—not only in inventing new gadgets, but also in improving failing systems and governments and fighting for the underdog. Don’t be afraid to be controversial— the most controversial and detested figures in history are the ones that reallybroke down barriers and made societal advancements.

Where will you have the courage to be controversial? What will you do to innovate and better the world that immediately surrounds yourself and others? Do you have the guts?

my notebook pg. 19

- Nicole

speed play

When I was young, I thought I knew everything, and I thought I wanted to grow up. But, in doing this, you’ll miss out on enjoying exactly where you are. Don’t be in hurry to get where you’re going; just enjoy the ride right here and now. Don’t settle, but don’t be too restless, and keep enough time and patience to enjoy the world around you and those close to you. Finally, pursue challenges, and seek to learn something new every day.

Will this matter 5 years from now? Are you too focused on getting there rather than enjoying your moment?

my notebook pg. 20

gone fishing

- Elliot

The hardest part of success is failure. Failure hurts. It leaves you writhing in purposeless, wondering how to accomplish your dreams. No one succeeded before they failed. Every failure is a preparation for success. The real challenge is having the gall to fail again.

If you could tell someone today how much they mean to you, who would you tell? Do it.

my notebook pg. 21

jump in the water... often - Kelly

Respect, always try to understand, and help others whenever you can. Never underestimate the reciprocal power of kindness. In the wise words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself. Serve and thou shall be served.”

Everything you do in life-including helping and taking care of others-will mean a whole lot more if you also take care of yourself. What are you planning on doing today to take care of you?

my notebook pg. 22

- Niko

definitely someday stanford

Your story is what you have uniquely done. Create a resume that tells your story.  Paint a picture with strokes no one else has.  Make it sans-tasks. Create future resumes that highlight goals and success.   Make room because you cannot attach to past accomplishments.  Instead, you must prepare for future achievement.

What makes you special, indispensable, and separate you from everyone, including the old you?  How will this affect your next big transition?

my notebook pg. 23

- Mandy

a story with a twisted (tie) heart

I can hardly believe I did not realize this sooner. Life is many a thing, but at its heart, life is about stories. Our ability to share and listen to stories is directly correlated to the depth that we are able to appreciate, make meaning, and change our lives.

How have stories shaped or influenced your life and relationships? In what ways might you start to think about, listen, collect, and tell stories to assist you in achieving your goals? What story is your life currently telling? What kind of story do you want your life to tell? How can stories help make the answers to the last two questions identical?

my notebook pg. 24

- Reid

notebook nightmare

Humans generate thousands of thoughts a day. Good job to you. But, humans lose thousands of thoughts a day. Be a contributor to your world by writing down thoughts that have substance, are engaging, and that you can act upon now or in the future.

What are three ideas you have had that you think you can execute this year? Which random moments conjure up your greatest thoughts? Exercise, staring at the sun, drinking beer?

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An After Word of Gratitude The  occurrence  that  11  amazing  people  will  write  for  you  seems  rare.  Thank  you   very  much  to  my  friends,  colleagues,  and  peers  who  wrote  for  10.22. Curt  -­‐  You  have  been  a  friend  since  pre  school,  the  Mirst  friend  I  can  remember.   Thanks  for  always  being  there  for  the  past  21  yrs,  being  exceptional  at  each  thing  you   do,  and  being  tall. Schwab  (Jake)  -­‐  You  are  a  cowboy  man!  You  make  us  all  want  to  shred  cheddar  and   spice  up  our  lives.  Thanks  for  coming  out  of  the  wild  west  for  a  moment  to  drop  some   playful  knowledge  on  us. Lori  -­‐  You  are  so  strong  -­‐  emotional,  spiritual,  physical,  mental  -­‐  you  are  all  there.   Especially,  physical  as  you  sat  on  cancer  (twice)!  Thanks  for  being  a  ball  of  fun  at  all   times  and  for  squatting  300lbs.  That  is  the  size  of  a  buffalo  or  something. Shane  -­‐  Since  we  were  smackin’  singles  in  the  6tu  grade  majors,  you  have  been  a   dominant  thinking  forces.  Thanks  for  teaching  me  to  drive  a  manual,  teaching  me  how   to  think,  and  how  to  pull  sh*tties  in  the  snow.

Breanne  -­‐  You  smarty  pants  sister  you.  You  bring  down  the  house  with  your   creativity,  willingness  to  grow,  and  your  attention  to  detail.  Thanks  for  putting  up  with   me  as  your  brother.  That  qualiMies  you  to  be  angelic  someday…but  only  someday. 45

10.22 Drew  -­‐  Your  passion  walks  ten  feet  in  front  of  you.  I  am  thankful  to  have  met  you   when  I  moved  to  Michigan  six  years  ago.  I  am  thankful  that  I  could  call  you  up  and  you   were  down  to  write.  Thanks  for  pursuing  such  a  deep  meaning  in  life  and  calling  on  the   rest  of  us  to  join  you. Nicole  -­‐  Water  skiing  doubles,  triples,  and  quadruples  around  the  lake  at  night   cemented  a  lifelong  friendship.  Your  desire  to  achieve  your  goals  inspires  me  to  keep   my  goals  in  front  of  me  and  attack  them  with  Mire.  Thanks  for  being  smart. Elliot  -­‐  You  have  supported  If  I  Knew  Now  from  the  beginning.  Thanks  for   sponsoring  the  website  and  getting  me  started  on  an  entrepreneurial  path.  Your   dedication  to  your  craft  is  evident  and  persuades  me  to  show  up  to  my  path  everyday.   You  are  an  incredibly  deep  writer  and  thinker.  I  look  forward  to  life  as  friends. Kelly  -­‐  Are  you  human?  A  couple  start  up  businesses,  the  willingness  to  push   through  failure,  and  a  top  student  all  at  once.  You  push  me  to  maximize  my  day.  Thanks   for  becoming  my  friend,  believing  in  my  work,  and  believing  in  yourself  each  and  every   day. Niko  -­‐  You  kick  my  ass.  I  could  stop  there.  But,  I  won’t.  We  met  on  the  Mirst  day  of  real   job  life.  I  am  so  thankful  to  have  met  an  incredible  man,  friend,  and  innovator.  Thanks   for  adopting  me  as  an  ofMice  mate,  encouraging  me  to  pursue  skill,  vision,  and  dreams,   and  always  willing  to  grab  some  coffee.  You  are  kick-­‐ass.

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10.22 Mandy  -­‐  You  will  say,  “Stop-­‐it!”  (with  a  hand  Mlick)  when  I  say  this  -­‐  you  helped  kick   off  this  idea  as  you  helped  me  formulate  thoughts.  You  inspired  me  to  try  graphic   design.  Thanks  for  designing  the  If  I  Knew  Now  signature  logo.  Also,  how  are  you  so   freakin’  fun?  Thanks  for  always  being  willing  to  laugh  and  party  rock. To  All  of  You  -­‐  The  words  for  each  of  you  could  be  traded  in  and  out.  Thank  you  for   being  willing  to  listen  to  my  ideas,  support  my  ideas,  and  create  my  ideas.  So  often  ideas   are  said,  but  there  is  no  action,  no  build.  You  all  are  creators  and  builders.  I  am  so   thankful  to  have  crossed  paths  with  each  of  you.  I  am  glad  we  could  all  come  together  to   create  this  book  together.  I  look  forward  to  seeing  where  we  go  together. To  Our  Readers  -­‐  You  picked  up  this  book.  Thank  you.  Now  share  with  a  friend,  a   family  member,  or  colleague.    What  story  and  advice  will  you  share?  Grab  your   notebook  and  get  to  scribbling.  Your  ideas  are  important.  Save  them,  develop  them,   share  them.  We  are  happy  to  share  our  content  with  you.  Enjoy  more  everyday  at  the  If  I   Knew  Now  website  -­‐  i2know.org.                                                                                -­‐Reid

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Writing Roster Name: Curt Greeley School: Minnesota State University Mankato, Pacific University College of Optometry Current Job: Student Your age: 25 Hometown: Newton, IA Current location: Hillsboro, OR Email: [email protected] Name: Schwab, Jake School: Anderson University Current Job: Cowboy Your age: 23 Hometown: Baroda, MI Current location: Sedaliam, CO Email: [email protected]

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10.22 Name: Lori Griffin School: Truman State University Current Job: Personal Trainer Your age: 25 Hometown: Newton, IA Current location: West Des Moines, IA Email: [email protected] Name: Shane Griffin School: Truman State University Current Job: Performance Consultant, Dale Carnegie Training Your age: 24 Hometown: Newton, IA Current location: West Des Moines, IA Email: [email protected] Name: Breanne Wilson School: Butler University, Universidad de Murcia Current Job: Job Searcher, Marketing Intern Your age: 22 Hometown: Newton, IA / Stevensville, MI Current location: Stevensville, MI Email: [email protected] 49

10.22 Name: Drew Aiken School: Michigan State University, University of Miami School of Law Current Job: Legal Fellow at The Center for Reproductive Rights Your age: 25 Hometown: Stevensville, MI Current location: Washington D.C. Email: [email protected] Name: Nicole Wilder School: Clarkson University, Syracuse University Current Job: Financial Leadership Development, Lockheed Martin Your age: 23 Hometown: Huntington, NY Current location: North Bethesda, MD Email: [email protected] Name: Elliot Trotter School: University of Puget Sound Current Job: Editor-in-Chief Skyd Magazine, Business/Marketing Director of RISE UP Ultimate, President/Founder of Moon Rock Creative Your age: 26 Hometown: Highland Park, IL Current location: Seattle, WA Email: [email protected] 50

10.22 Name: Kelly Dotseth School: Luther College, University of Cologne Current Job: German Congress Scholarship Fellow, Studying Law Your age: 22 Hometown: Colorado Springs, CO Current location: Cologne, Germany Email: [email protected] Name: Nikolai Skievaski School: Arizona State, Boston University Current Job: Principal - Words, Numbers, Images LLC Your age: 25 Hometown: Phoenix, AZ Current location: Madison, WI Email: [email protected] Name: Mandy Wubben School: Luther College, Minnesota State - Mankato Current Job: Residence Life - Hall Director Your age: 26 Hometown: Buffalo Center, IA Current location: Mankato, MN Email: [email protected] 51

10.22 Name: Reid Wilson School: Luther College Current Job: Residence Life - Hall Director, Coach, Creator - If I Knew Now Your age: 24 Hometown: Newton, IA / Stevensville, MI Current location: Decorah, IA Email: [email protected]

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