1001+ Great Sex Tips for Couples

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CONTENTS Creating Desire Tips & Techniques ....................................................... 4 Setting the Mood Tips & Techniques ................................................... 10 Foreplay Tips & Techniques ............................................................... 15 Erogenous Zones Tips & Techniques ................................................... 20 Oral Sex Tips & Techniques ............................................................... 27 Multiple Orgasms Tips & Techniques ................................................... 31 Anal Sex Tips & Techniques ............................................................... 35 G-Spot Tips & Techniques ................................................................. 38 Aphrodisiacs Tips & Techniques ......................................................... 44 Supplements Tips & Techniques ......................................................... 47 Masturbation Tips & Techniques ......................................................... 52 Penetration Tips & Techniques ........................................................... 58 Female Ejaculation Tips & Techniques ................................................. 64 Fisting Tips & Techniques .................................................................. 67 Looking Sexy Tips & Techniques ........................................................ 73 Sex Games Tips & Techniques ........................................................... 76 Erotic Massage for Tips & Techniques ................................................. 82 How to End Premature Ejaculation Tips & Techniques ........................... 87 Romantic Tips & Techniques .............................................................. 92 Threesomes Tips & Techniques .......................................................... 94 Phone Sex Tips & Techniques ............................................................ 96 Role Playing Tips & Techniques .......................................................... 98 Food & Sex Tips & Techniques .......................................................... 100 Dirty Talk Tips & Techniques ............................................................ 102 Lubrication Tips & Techniques........................................................... 104 Sex Toys Tips & Techniques ............................................................. 106 BDSM Tips & Techniques .................................................................. 108 Sex in Public Places Tips & Techniques............................................... 111 Kama Sutra Positions Tips & Techniques ............................................ 113 Adding Spice Tips & Techniques ........................................................ 115 Kissing Advice Tips & Techniques ...................................................... 120 Adding Porn Tips & Techniques ......................................................... 125 Fragrances Tips & Techniques ........................................................... 130 Sexy Wardrobe Tips & Techniques..................................................... 134 Sex in the Car Tips & Techniques ...................................................... 138 Sexy Vacation Tips & Techniques ...................................................... 143

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CREATING DESIRE TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Stop One of the biggest mistakes couples make is not taking the time to just be together. Sometimes slowing down and really experiencing your partner is all you need to create desire. 2. Look The brain is the most powerful sex organ you have. The eye stimulates the brain. Admire your partner; look at his or her body, naked, but without touching. 3. Listen Listen while your partner tells you’re his or her sexual fantasies. Really listen to what your partner tells you, and then talk about it. Talking about sex can be very stimulating. 4. Speak Tell your partner your fantasies. Watch your partner get excited at your excitement, and then discuss your fantasy and how to use it in your sex life. 5. Kiss Kissing is often overlooked between couples. Spend some time just kissing and feeling each other's lips and mouths. 6. Touch Lightly touch each other with your hands. Caress each other gently but don't grab or grope. Feel each other's skin, curves and warmth. 7. Rub Use a little more pressure to rub each other's shoulders, stomachs, and legs. Try to stay away from genitalia for now to increase desire. 8. Tickle Using your fingertips, lightly tickle your partner's most sensitive body parts: the backs of knees, neck, back, belly, and elbows. Tell each other way feels good. 9. Massage Have your partner lie on his or her stomach. Rub and massage his or her back, moving form the neck down to the buttocks. Do this with gentle pressure. 10. Grope 4

Touch each other's private body parts: breasts, vagina, and penis. Do this gently to inspire desire but not urgency. 11. Lick Use your tongue to create desire. Run your tongue along your partner's naked body – avoid genitalia, concentrate on sensitive areas. 12. Nuzzle Using your nose and eyelashes, rub your face along your partner's naked body. Make little circles with your nose and brush your lips against sensitive areas avoiding genitalia. 13. Nibble Use your lips to gently nip at your partner's erogenous zones. Avoid the genitalia to create desire but not urgency. Necks, knees, elbows and bellies are good places to try. 14. Suck Using your mouth and tongue, lightly suck on your partner's erogenous zones like his or her neck, chest, belly and the backs of his or her knees and elbows. Try not to leave marks. 15. Play Play a sexy game that has the potential to lead to sex. For example, go to dinner as if you were on a first date; try to "pick up" your partner at a club. 16. Dress Up Dress up in costumes. Women can use lingerie, a cheerleader costume, a nurse's uniform. Men can use a doctor's coat, a football jersey, or silk underwear. Use your imagination! 17. Undress Undress each other very slowly. Start with your partner's shirt, then pants, then undergarments. Don't hurry – take a long time to build anticipation. 18. Feathers Purchase a large feather or several small ones. Run these very lightly over your partner's naked body. Touch them with the feather to find the most sensitive spots, and then concentrate on those spots. 19. Oils Use massage oils and rub your partner's back, neck, shoulders, legs and torso. Flavored massage oils can also add another dimension to mouth and tongue play. 20. Lube 5

Any kind of lubrication is terrific, and applying it to your partner's genitalia can be very stimulating. Use flavored lubes to add a special treat to oral play. 21. Toys Using sex toys to stimulate yourself while your partner watches or to use on your partner can lead to mutual orgasm now or later. 22. Vibrators Use a vibrator on all sensitive parts of your body or your partner's body. Avoid genitalia at first to increase desire and anticipation. 23. Dildos Dildos are not just for women, though they are the ones who use them most often. Run the dildo over all sensitive erogenous zones to build anticipation. 24. Strap On Dildos Again, strap on dildos are not just for women. Massage the strap on dildo with your hand while your partner wears it, or vice versa. Use your mouth or other body part to massage the dildo as well. 25. Pornography Watching pornography with your partner can be not only stimulating for you from what you see, but can also stimulate both of you as you watch each other's desire grow. 26. Movies Pornographic movies can benefit both sexes. Before renting or buying a video or DVD, discuss what kind of porn appeals to both of you, and then find something that works with your decision. 27. Magazines Purchasing a pornographic magazine can be as exciting as actually looking at the pictures inside. Go together to buy the magazine, and then look at the pictures together when you get home. Show each other what pictures you like the best. 28. Online Finding internet pornography is easier than going out to purchase it for some people who are shy about those things. Find a free site, or subscribe to a site that both you and your partner find arousing. Sit together and enjoy it, discussing your favorite parts. 29. Story-telling Take turns with your partner telling each other dreams or your favorite sexual memory with that person. Be creative – if you and your partner are comfortable with it, discuss sexual encounters with other people. 6

30. Bondage Bondage does not have to lead to whips and spankings, though this is another great option if you are interested. Tying your partner up is a way to take control of give up control. 31. Handcuffs Using handcuffs can inspire a cops and robbers sex game, or it can just add to the dominant/submissive aspect to foreplay. Use furry handcuffs for more comfort. 32. Ties Using men's dress ties can be a silky and comfortable way to encourage bondage play. Once you or your partner is tied up, tickle, nibble, lick or massage him or her to promote desire. 33. Straps When you are experimenting with bondage, you may want to buy leather straps to use to tie up your partner. Leather straps are a little more intense than softer materials, but just as erotic. 34. Scarves Scarves made of soft materials add another silky and sexy tactile aspect to bondage play. Tickle your partner with the scarf before tying him or her up. 35. Panty Hose After dressing up, the female partner can take off her stockings and use them to tie up her partner or have him tie her up. This is a great way to extend game play into bondage play. 36. Strip Poker Playing strip poker may sound cliché, but in fact it can be a great way to extend foreplay. Thinking about the game distracts you from the impending nakedness. 37. Strip Monopoly Playing any board game where the penalties involve stripping is a great way to spice up your relationship. Instead of paying for properties and hotels, unbutton buttons and flash body parts! 38. Strip Checkers While you are playing this game you strategy can be distracting your partner with sexy banter. Instead of "Kinging" the other person, remove an article of clothing! 39. Baths

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A hot, relaxing bath could be just the thing to relax both you and your partner and urge you towards desire and sex! 40. Wash Her Using a large, soft and soapy sponge, give your female partner a bath. Gently wash her body with the sponge, and then shampoo her hair, rubbing her scalp gently. Finish with a warm rinse and big warm towel. 41. Wash Him Use a large, sudsy sponge to give your male partner a long massaging bath. Rub his neck, back, shoulders and other areas before attending to his private areas. Finish with a gentle rinse and a warm towel. 42. Aromatherapy Using aromatherapy that is specially blended for romance or desire can be a wonderful way to bring on desire. Most bath stores will carry these items in oils, bath salts, and lotions. 43. Bubbles A bubble bath is a fun and exciting way to have a bath without seeing each other naked but while still being naked together. This leaves more to the imagination, and it can stimulate arousal. 44. Bath Oils Aromatherapy bath oils for romance or relaxation are a good way to relax or stimulate each other while still keeping arousal on the brain. Added to a hot bath, both partners can benefit from this technique. 45. Bath Salts Bath salts are fun because they are a different approach to a bath. They add smell and texture to a hot, relaxing bath. Many bath salts bubble as they dissolve, and this can add an exciting and stimulating aspect to your bath. 46. Soak Once you have run your bath and added any chosen oils or salts, get into the tub with your partner and sit as far away as you can get. Tease and gently touch each other with fingers and toes avoiding genitals. 47. Games – Physical Sometimes a good workout is all you need to work up a healthy dose of desire. Play soccer, football, tennis, or any other physical game with your partner that will work up a sweat and raise your yearning. 48. Watch Sit quietly in a corner of the room while your partner gets undressed, lies in the bed, and masturbates. You can touch yourself or just enjoy the show. 8

49. Join In Joining your partner in a mutual masturbation session can be highly erotic. Lay naked next to your partner and masturbate while he or she does the same. 50. Help Out While you are watching your partner masturbate, you may feel inclined to lend him or her a helping hand. Don’t fight this urge! Have him or her show you what he or she likes.

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SETTING THE MOOD TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Room Find a room both you and your partner are comfortable in. Remember that this choice needs to be somewhere that is private and that you can alter to fit the mood. 2. Space You will need some space to make alterations to the room and once the mood has been set. Be sure to move furniture if needed to provide an open floor space if applicable. 3. Lighting Lighting is very important to setting the mood for sex. Often, soft lighting is best. Try any variety of ways to adjust the lighting before you begin. 4. Candles Candles are the most popular way to create mood lighting. Scented candles can add another dimension to the mood as well. Be sure the candles are in an open place but out of the way. 5. Dimmers If you have dimmer switches for your lights, dim the lighting to a level that will enable you to see your partner but is much softer than normal. 6. Lamps Lamps are a great way to add a different lighting level to a particular room. Move soft lamps from other rooms into the one being used. Turn off overhead lights. 7. Smell Smell can really enhance the mood of love. Aromatherapy oils, lotions and incense can greatly change a mood and help your partner relax. 8. Oils Aromatherapy oils for relaxation or for romance are a great way to integrate smell into setting the mood. These can be burned or can be placed in receptacles to evaporate. 9. Incense Incense is in stick or cone form and is burned to give off a good smelling smoke. Find a scent that both you and your partner enjoy. Place the burning stick in an incense holder away from flammable objects and out of the way.

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10. Placement Placement of oils, incense, lamps and candles can make a big difference. Too much smell or light can be distracting while not enough can lead to accidents. Be sure burning objects are in a safe place away from you’re and your partner. 11. Sound Sound can really help to set the mood by taking your mind and your partner's mind off your busy lives. Music and other relaxing sounds are the best to use. 12. Music Find relaxing or exciting music. This can be anything that both you and your partner enjoy. Be creative – there are no limits! 13. Sound Machines Sleep machines and other sound machines can be a great way to add a relaxing aspect to your sexy mood. Water, birds, and other sounds are best. 14. Fountains If you have a small fountain in your home, move it to the room where you will be initiating your encounter. Fill it and turn it on to add a relaxing sound to the room. 15. Sight The human brain is a very powerful sex organ, and visual stimulation is a great way to arouse yourself and your partner. 16. Fire If you have a fire place, and you have chosen that room as your place of mood setting, start a fire and watch it with your partner. The sound of the fire also adds to the mood. 17. Water Watching a fountain, a river, a lake or an ocean is a wonderful aphrodisiac. Water is both calming and highly erotic, plus the sound adds another important quality. 18. TV/Movies While TV and movies can be distracting, if there is a special pornographic movie or a scene from a movie that arouses you and your partner, watch that together. 19. At Home Setting the mood at home is a lot easier than trying to set the mood when you are away. Find a room you both enjoy or one you have never made love in. 11

20. At A Hotel Sometimes a change in scenery can be just the added touch you need to set sparks flying on your sexual relationship. If you can afford it, get a hotel room for a night. Order champagne and strawberries! 21. At A Bed and Breakfast Again, changing the setting of love can help to set the mood. A Bed and Breakfast in a remote area can be a calming and exciting change for a weekend. 22. At A Motel If you want to add some kink to your life, try going to a seedy motel and getting a room. Renting the room by the hour can also be exciting and add a sex game aspect to the mood. 23. At A Restaurant Eat sexual foods like oysters, wine and chocolate. Describe the tastes and textures of the foods to each other. 24. In The Kitchen When you are at home, try different rooms in your home to change things up. In the kitchen, try cooking a meal for your partner to add to the mood. 25. In The Dining Room After cooking a meal for or with your partner, serve him or her the special meal on nice dishes. Light candles on the table and serve exotic aphrodisiac foods. 26. In The Living Room In the living room, utilize the things you have there: use the stereo, the television, and the couch to create a mood of romance or of eroticism. 27. In The Rec Room The recreation room can add a teenage feeling to your sexual encounter. Try kissing on the sofa while watching a movie! 28. In The Bedroom While the bedroom is the most typical place to set the mood, it is also the most private. Utilize candles, scented oils and music to set the mood here. 29. In The Bathroom Run a bath for your partner. Let him or her enjoy the bath accompanied by candles and music, or join him or her in the bath. 30. The Five Senses 12

When you are setting the mood, it is incredibly important to appeal to the five senses: sight, hearing, taste, touch, and smell. 31. Eyes Stimulating the eyes with erotic sights or romantic gestures is an important part of setting the mood. 32. Ears Have your partner listen to his or her favorite music or sounds in order to help him or her relax and enjoy your company. Audio stimulation is essential to setting the mood. 33. Tongue Stimulation of the taste buds can add a whole new level or eroticism to your sexual encounter. Set the mood by giving your partner a blind taste test of chocolates or other treats. 34. Skin The sense of touch is sometimes thought of as the ultimate way to set the mood. By wrapping yourself and your partner in soft materials when you are naked, arousal is raised tremendously! 35. Nose Appeal to your partner's sense of smell by using scents that he or she enjoys. Make sure that neither of you are allergic to any smells before you do this! 36. Talking Talking is the best way to know what your partner wants and how he or she wants you to set the mood. Find out what his or her favorite smells, tastes, and sounds are before you try to choose anything. 37. Acting Acting on your desires and passions is a good way to set the mood and to show your partner what turns you on. But don't forget to act on his or her desires as well. 38. Showing By showing your partner your pleasures and desires, you can not only set the mood, but you will also learn a little bit more about your partner! 39. Listening Listening to your partner's desires and pleasures is the only way to learn about your partner and please him or her. 40. Participating Participating in the process of setting the mood is a good way to show your partner that you are interested in setting the mood for sex. 13

41. Switch If you usually initiate sex or set the mood for sex, switch with your partner. Allow him or her to be the one to set the mood. This, of course, also works in reverse as well. 42. Take Turns Take turns setting the mood for love and sex. If you set the romantic atmosphere one weekend, let your partner do it the following weekend. 43. Encourage Encourage your partner to take the initiative to set the mood on his own or her own. Some people are shy and need encouragement! 44. Reassure If your partner is shy or is concerned that something may be wrong with the way he or she set up the romantic interlude, reassure him or her that everything is okay. 45. Correct If something is wrong, i.e. a smell makes you cough or the oil makes you break out in a rash, gently let your partner know what is wrong so it can be changed for the next time. 46. Express Yourself Tell your partner your feelings for him or her. Vocalizing your emotions is one of the best ways to set the mood! Never express and emotion that is not true. 47. Love Tell your partner how much you love him or her. Explain why you love him or her and describe the moment when you fell in love or knew that you were in love. 48. Desire Feeling desire can be very exciting. Tell your partner how much you desire him or her. Explain what it is that turns you on and why. 49. Lust Lust is an overpowering emotion and is often contagious. Telling your partner how much you want him or her can easily transfer to him or her lusting after you! 50. Passion Feeling tremendous passion for someone is another powerful emotion. Passion can translate into love or lust. Express this to your partner.

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FOREPLAY TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. What is foreplay? Foreplay means different things to men and women. To please a woman, you need to know "her" definition and obey those rules. The same holds true for men who have their own definition of foreplay. 2. For Women Foreplay for a woman is more about intimacy and communication than it is about getting "worked up" or turned on. 3. For Men Every man has his own idea of what foreplay is for him. In other words, what he likes the woman to do to him prior to sex. Learning what he likes is half the fun of getting to know him. 4. Lighting You can do a lot by simply getting the lighting level in the room right. Many people do not enjoy sex in the complete dark. Lower the lights to a comfortable level. 5. Aroma You might be surprised at how powerful aroma can be in helping both men and women unwind. Find out what your favorite scents are and use them to your advantage. 6. Ear Lobe Many men simply overlook the ear lobe as an erogenous zone on women. Sucking, nibbling, and soft licking on her ear lobe can turn a kitten into a tiger. What is more surprising is that men love this type of attention too. 7. Neck The side and back of the neck are two of the most sensitive places on the human body. Very light kisses or very light stroking on these areas will melt your partner in no time. You can also use items such as feathers on this area. 8. Lips There are as many ways to kiss your partner. Learn how to kiss your partner in various ways that he or she enjoys. Soft kisses are great, but hard kisses are often needed too. Know when to use the right type of kiss and your mate will swoon. 9. Shoulders Kissing and light licking on bare shoulders is an all time favorite of women and quite a few men. Pay more attention to each other's bare shoulders. 15

10. Elbow The inner elbow is a hot spot for sex, especially for women. Use your lips or your tongue to stimulate this area. 11. Wrist The inside of a woman's wrist is one of nature's secret hot spots. Hold her hand and very gently kiss or lick the inside of her wrist. Men, on the other hand, are so sensitive here. 12. Hands Hands are loaded with nerve endings and when you pay attention to your partner's hands they will notice. Be light and easy with kisses and licking in this area. 13. Breasts When it is time to touch her breasts, be gentle and understand that sucking on her breasts or squeezing them hard and deep can be painful. Start slowly and begin with light kisses and licks. 14. Nipples A man's nipples are not as sensitive as a woman's but they can be stimulated by touch or tongue. A woman's nipples are like two electric switches that are connected to her vagina. Think of a triangle. When you tease and delight her nipples properly a spark can run straight down to her lower parts. 15. Stomach Some men enjoy having their tummies rubbed or kissed, but this is usually not an overly sensitive or erotic area for the male. However, that does not mean the female should make some attempt to please in this area. 16. Belly Button Run the tip of your tongue around the circle of the belly button and watch each other squirm. 17. Pubic Area Whether she is shaved or not the pubic area is a great place to begin your tease with her. She knows where you are heading but that does not mean you have to be in a hurry to get there. Take your time, kiss her pubic area, run your hands over that area and lick her there. The anticipation will please her to no end. The same holds true for men. Men love it when their women run their hands over the pubic area. You do not have to touch his penis yet, make me wait a little bit.

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18. Thighs Kissing or lightly stroking the inside of the thighs is a sure way to help anyone relax and become aroused. You should spend a lot of time in this general area, allowing the top of your head or the back of your hand to gently brush against her partner's genitalia. Yes, this is teasing and both will love it. 19. Vagina Try licking, biting, sucking, and blowing on the skin around the vagina (never into the vagina, as this can cause a fatal air embolis) to see what happens. 20. Inner Thighs There is a line of nerve endings that run down the center of the inner thighs. It is well worth your time to locate this line and to spend some time gently licking your partner there. 21. Penis Of course the penis is an erogenous zone for men. But the penis has many areas, each of which provides its own distinct sensation when stimulated. During foreplay, the female should attempt to excite him but not cause climax just yet. 22. Scrotum The male scrotum is the sac that contains the testicles. This area can be highly sensitive to touch by fingers, lips, tongue, etc. Almost any attention paid to this area will be considered erotic by the male, but be gentle in this area. Pain can easily be inflicted here. 23. Glans Head The glans head is the top of his penis. This is the head of his penis and is often flared during erection. The glans is loaded with nerve endings and this area is highly sensitive to any kind of touching. It is a little known fact that stimulating the glans alone can bring a man to climax. That is how sensitive it is. Men who have foreskin attached are even more sensitive in this area. 24. Frenulum This is a very small area that is on the underside of the penis. It can look like a "Y" and this area is very sensitive to touch. Any light touching on this area will bring about pleasure to most men, but the touch should be light and gentle. 25. Calves Calves are great for kissing but they are best for light stroking. 26. Ankles The inside of the ankles can be a highly sensitive erogenous zone. Try very gently kissing and licking the ankle area. Stroke this area with very gentle touches and see what happens. 17

27. Feet Some people are too ticklish to enjoy having their feet played with. For the others, the key is gentle touching without being so gentle as to tickle (unless you plan to tickle which is okay at times). 28. Toes Toes can be very sensual, but as above, if your mate is super ticklish, you may need to bypass this one. If they are not, you may want to suck the toes or flick them with your tongue. Many women can actually have an orgasm if this is done correctly. 29. Rubbing, Touching, Caressing Everyone likes to be touched in that special way. There is no one rule that applies to everyone, so try them all! 30. Whispers Whispering something romantic or something sexy to your mate can go a long way in helping them get into the mood. Whispers are like tiny tickles to a woman. They love them and the more you give her the more she will like it. Men enjoy them too! 31. Invisible Fantasy—Blindfold Tell your partner to close his or her eyes and to not peek. Tell them they are blindfolded. Then spend time kissing and touching as mentioned above. Your partner will love the mystery of not knowing where you are going to kiss them next. 32. Invisible Fantasy—Hands Bound Love bondage is a favorite fantasy for many couples but some people may not be into it. Ask your partner to put her hands above her head, hold on to the head board of the bed, and tell her not to lower her hands. If she can get into this fantasy, she will love the naughtiness of this one. Many men enjoy this one as well as it allows them to be somewhat submissive. 33. Spooning Foreplay can include simple things like spooning. Hold her close, her back to your front, on your sides, and gently caress her. Kiss the back of her neck and shoulders and whisper to her. This technique can easily be reversed so that the male is held. 34. Communicate One of the best things you can do to improve your foreplay is to simply talk to each other. Ask her what she likes and what she does not like, but make this a two-way conversation. Tell him what you like and dislike as well. This dialog does not have to take place during the moment and probably should not.

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35. Listen Talking to one another is wasted time unless you listen to each other. One thing a woman wants is to be listened to. When she is sharing her desires or fears with you, listen to her. Engage her in the conversation and then do as she asks. If you don't understand something, say so, and ask her to explain it to you. For men, talking about needs and desires is often difficult. Women can help in this matter by gently asking questions and then waiting for the answer. 36. Stop when needed Foreplay can be extended. By that, you do not have to move from foreplay straight to sex. 37. Show Me Game There is an old game that some people love to play during foreplay. It is a simple game. Tell your woman to point to the place she wants you to kiss. Then you kiss and lick her there. Then she points to the next place and so forth and so on. It can be very exciting to watch as she gets bolder and bolder. After a certain amount of predetermined time, he gets to point to his body and she kisses him. 38. Whipped Cream An old standby that never seems to fail. This is an old standby because it works. Grab a can of whipped cream and squirt some on her body. You can take turns with this one and, for some reason, women and men love it. 39. Feather Touch You can use a feather or just your fingertips for this one. Stroke and caress your partner as if he or she were delicate and fragile. Very light strokes can really turn on the heat. 40. Ice Baby Try stroking him or her with an ice cube. Again, use very light strokes, just barely touching her body with the cube. 41. Lose the Manual Understand that there is no right way to perform foreplay. Every person is different and it is up to you to learn your partner's secrets. You can start with the basics and move on from there, but never expect what worked on one person to work on all people.

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EROGENOUS ZONES TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Head A person's head is the first thing you should pay attention to. Not only is it far from their genitalia, but it is home to the most powerful erogenous zones: the eyes and brain. Rub the scalp and caress the sides of the face. 2. Brain The human brain is usually the first thing that a person knowingly or unknowingly appeals to when meeting and trying to attract someone else. Charm your partner with compliments and sexual talk. 3. Eyes Before you have even spoken to your partner, you have used your eyes to feel attraction or emit attraction. Dress in sexy clothing or move seductively to appeal to your partner's eyes. 4. Back Of Head The back of the head has a lot of sensitive spots. The base of the skull is sensitive, as is the top. Give your partner a scalp massage. 5. Face A person's face has tons of receptive areas. Kiss or touch your partner's eyelids, nose, mouth, and cheeks. 6. Lips Lips are a very prominent erogenous zone. Kissing, licking, nibbling and touching the lips can elicit arousal. 7. Ears Kissing or licking ears and earlobes are some of the most erotic and pleasurable ways to stimulate this erogenous zone. Sucking on your partner's earlobes is very popular as well. 8. Neck Both the front and back of the neck are important erogenous zones. Running your fingertips or tongue along your partner's hairline is a good technique. 9. Shoulders Rub your partner's shoulders. Kiss and nibble his or her shoulders towards the base of the neck as well. 10. Upper Back The upper back is another spot for massage. While the back is not a specific erogenous zone, many people feel massages are especially erotic. 20

11. Middle Back Again, the middle back isn't actually considered a major erogenous zone; however, using fingertips or fingernails on this body part can heighten arousal. 12. Lower Back The lower back is quite sensitive. By using your lips, tongue and fingers on this spot it is easy to arouse your partner. 13. Buttocks The buttocks can be massaged to produce a relaxing or arousing sensation. You can also kiss, lick or nibble the buttocks. 14. Arms Your arms and your partner's arms are full of nerve endings that often get ignored. Just lightly tickling your partner's arms is exhilarating. 15. Hands Touching your partner's hands with your fingertips, performing a hand massage, or kissing your partner's hand can be more erotic than you might think. 16. Fingers As part of a hand massage, start at the fingers, rubbing and gently pulling your fingers down your partner's fingers. Kiss, lick or suck your partner's fingertips, or put their fingers in your mouth. 17. Palms Palms have tons of nerve endings. Tickle, lick or kiss your partner's palms. Using your fingertips or fingernails, run your fingers over your partner's palms in a circular motion. 18. Wrists Kiss your partner's wrists. Run the tip of your tongue along the inside of your partner's wrists. End your hand massage at the wrists by rubbing them with your thumbs. 19. Forearms While the inside of the forearms are the most sensitive, don't forget to pay attention to the outside. Use your fingertips or fingernails to lightly tickle your partner's forearms. 20. Upper Arms Since the upper arms lead to the underarms, the inside of the upper arms are quite sensitive. Run the tip of your tongue along the inside of your partner's upper arms; tickle the outside.

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21. Elbows – Outside The outside of elbows aren't specific erogenous zones. Pay attention to them when giving a full body massage and tickle them when tickling your partner's arms. 22. Elbows – Inside The inside of the elbows are a fantastic area. This erogenous zone generally likes soft kisses and tickles. Using feathers on these parts works well, too. 23. Underarms The underarms can be too sensitive. Ask your partner first before tickling them there too much. Do not tickle hard – use soft, gentle touches to produce an arousing feeling. 24. Chest A woman's chest and a man's chest are essentially the same when talking about the area above the nipples. This area is sensitive to kisses and gentles touches. 25. Nipples Sucking, licking and pinching are three great ways to attend to this special erogenous zone. Be sure to be relatively gentle when pinching unless your partner requests otherwise. 26. Breasts A woman's breasts are very sensitive. This is a woman's most significant erogenous zone aside from her genitals. Licking, sucking, nibbling, touching and squeezing are all appropriate. Be careful as some women have very sensitive breasts. 27. Chest – Men A man's chest is generally less sensitive, so harder touches and caresses are generally acceptable here. Kisses, licking, and tickling are other good ideas. 28. Stomach Running your fingertips over your partner's stomach is a good way to gauge how sensitive they are. Tickling is a good choice, but never be too rough as it can be painful for those who are sensitive. 29. Belly Button The belly button is quite responsive, especially on women. Licking and tickling are good choices here. Some people even eat whipped cream or cherries from their partner's belly button. 30. Pubic Area

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The pubic area, or area above the genitals, is extremely sensitive. Even lightly running your tongue along this line of skin can make your partner very excited. 31. Hips A woman's hips are generally more susceptible to touches and tickles than a man's hips. Make your fingers into a "C" shape, grip your partner's hip and squeeze quickly. This will produce a tickling sensation. 32. Genitalia Male and female genitalia are, of course, the number one erogenous zones. There are different techniques for each area, and these techniques depend on the personal preferences of the receiver. 33. Vagina During oral sex, gently licking or sucking the different parts of the vagina can induce orgasm. Touching, fondling and fingering can also produce an orgasm. 34. Labia While the labia are fairly sensitive, women who have pubic hair sometimes cannot feel tongue play or light touches here. Woman who shave or wax can feel these better. Licking, sucking, and gentle stoking touches are best for the labia. 35. Clitoris There are many, many techniques to arouse a woman by attending to her clitoris. In general, touching, rubbing, licking, sucking and stroking are good choices. 36. Licking Licking the clitoris is most women's favorite techniques. There is a multitude of ways to do this. If you are a woman, tell your partner what feels good. If you are her partner, listen to what she says and pay attention to the way she responds to different techniques. 37. Circular Put your tongue on the clitoris. Moving your tongue or entire head in a circular motion, run your tongue in that direction over the clitoris. Don't be afraid to pay attention to the surrounding areas as well, but concentrate on the center. 38. Vertical Place your tongue on the clitoris and run your tongue up and down the clitoris. You can use just the tip of your tongue or you can use your entire tongue. Change speeds to see what she likes. 39. Horizontal 23

Move your tongue back and forth over the clitoris. You can move your tongue from the top to the bottom of the clitoris while you do this. Again, vary speeds to see how she responds. 40. Sucking Put your lips around the clitoris. Gently suck on the clitoris. Use your tongue to stimulate the clitoris while you are sucking on it. Only suck harder if she requests it. 41. Touching Using your fingers to stimulate the clitoris is also a great option. Gentle touches are very arousing, while harder touches can obtain an orgasm. Do not be too rough with a woman's clitoris until she requests rougher touches. 42. Rubbing Use the tips of your fingers to gently stroke the clitoris. You can rub in a vertical, horizontal, or circular motion. Vary the technique and speed to her responses. Be sure that your fingers are lubricated. 43. Anus – Women The anus is a very volatile area. Some women really enjoy anal play, while others do not. Ask your partner before starting anal play. Use your fingers to penetrate her anus. Lick or suck her anus during oral play. 44. Anus – Men Again, this is a very volatile area. Some men really like to have their partner put their finger into their anus. Some men like to have their anus licked. However, some men do not want this area attended to. Ask your partner before you do anything. 45. Penis This is a man's most sensitive erogenous zone. Licking, sucking, touching, rubbing and stroking are all acceptable forms of contact for the penis. Never be rough with a man's penis unless he requests it. 46. Massaging Gentle massage of the penis is done by using the fingertips to touch the penis in light or slightly firmer strokes. 47. Rubbing Gripping the penis with your fingers or your entire hand, gently rub the penis. Make sure your hand is lubricated. 48. Stroking Grip the penis with your entire hand. Close your hand around it. Gentle rub your hand up and down the shaft of the penis. Use a circular motion if you want. 24

49. Sucking Place the penis in your mouth. Pull your teeth back away from the penis and use your tongue to massage it. Move your mouth down the penis to a comfortable place in your mouth or throat. Repeat. Do not put the penis too deep in your throat. 50. Licking Run your tongue up and down and all over the penis. Use your entire tongue to stimulate the penis. You can even move down to the testicles if he requests it. 51. Teasing Using the tip of your tongue to tease your partner's penis is a popular technique to use to arouse him or create anticipation. Run the tip of your tongue over his penis paying special attention to the head. 52. Head of the penis The head of the penis is the most sensitive part. Pay close attention to this area whether you are using your tongue or hands. The underside of the head is often the most responsive spot. 53. Testicles Leave the choice of whether or not to touch a man's testicles up to the man. If your partner wants his testicles stimulated, use your tongue, mouth (move your teeth away from the testicles), and gentle caresses. 54. Perineum The space between the penis or vagina and the anus is a very sensitive spot. Using your tongue or fingers to massage this spot is often erotic. Some people do not like this so check with your partner first. 55. Thighs The thighs are extremely sensitive and responsive because they are so close to the genitals. Using your tongue or fingertips to stimulate this area before oral play is a good was to raise desire. 56. Knees – Front The front of your partner's knees may not be very sensitive, but you should not ignore them when giving a full body massage or tickle. 57. Knees – Back The backs of your partner's knees are highly sensitive. Just like the inside of the elbows, this area should be attended to with kisses, soft tickles and touches. 58. Calves

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When you are beginning oral play, the calves are a good thing to use to work your way up to the genitals. Use your tongue or fingertips to stimulate this area. 59. Ankles The ankles are very sensitive, especially on the insides. Use your tongue or gentle tickling strokes to arouse your partner. 60. Feet The feet are very susceptible to tickling. Tickle your partner's feet very softly until you know how he or she will react. 61. Toes Sucking or licking your partner's toes can be a very erotic sensation. This is a fetish for some people, both as the giver and the receiver. Discuss this with your partner before trying it.

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ORAL SEX TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Oral sex? Yes! Oral sex is a very popular way to express your love to your mate with your mouth on their genital parts. 2. The Clitoris The clitoris and the clitoral orgasm are probably best thought of as the "Main" type of orgasm that a woman can have. The clitoris is her love button and just about any other type of orgasm will only come about if the clitoris is first stimulated. In other words, you cannot bypass her clitoris to get to something more intense. 3. Clitoris Pressure Her clitoris is very sensitive with thousands of nerve endings in it, and hard pressure on the clitoris can be a turn off for her. On the flip side, too light a pressure can fail to bring about any sensation at all. There is only one way to discover the correct amount of pressure for her and that is to ask her for feedback. You can also keep an eye on her responses. You will know when the pressure is right, and let her be the one who decides on that. 4. The First is the Hardest Her first orgasm of the night may very well be the one that is the most time consuming to get to. This is why it is important that you slow down and take your time. Help her get to that first orgasm and the others will come more quickly and easily. 5. Doing What the Penis Cannot For most women, direct clitoral stimulation is what leads to fantastic orgasm. Unfortunately, the penis of a man is often unable to provide that stimulation. This can be especially true in the missionary style position of sex. Fingers and tongues, however, can provide excellent contact with her clitoris. 6. 69 This position has been around for a long time, which may account for why people think of it as being a good position. In fact, this is one of the worst positions for oral sex. The basics of this position are that she lies on top of you, working on your erection with her mouth and hands, as you work on her vagina. A couple of reasons why this is not ideal include the fact that you have to bear her weight on your chest. That can become uncomfortable. Another reason this position is not so good is that it is difficult to concentrate on what you are doing when she is distracting you with her attentions. And vice versa. There is a lack of focus with this position and that can hinder the pleasure for both of you. 7.

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Many men and women love this position. In this position, she straddles his face and presses down on his mouth. The problem most men have with this position is one of breathing but this problem can be overcome by simply telling her to rise or lower her hips. 8. On Her Back This is a good all-around position for performing oral sex on a woman. She lies on her back, legs apart, and you settle in between her legs. This position allows you to hold her vaginal lips open with your fingers and offers great access. 9. On Her Back Feet On Shoulders This is the same as above except she places her feet on your shoulders. For some people, this position allows deeper access and easier access for play that involves both tongue and fingers. 10. Sitting This is not the best method but it can be fun and will work as long as the man is patient. The woman sits on a chair or sofa or side of the bed with her legs open. The man kneels in front of her and does his thing. Access is a bit limited with this one. 11. Standing Performing oral sex on a woman while she is standing up may look good in the movies but it is all but a waste of time in real life. Try it for variety, but do not depend on it to bring her to climax. 12. From Behind Performing oral sex on her while she is on her knees and you are behind her can be tricky at best. You can experiment with this one, but be ready to move to another for the final climax. 13. Licking is Good You can start by simply licking her slit from bottom to top. Often this act alone is enough to get her to relax a lot. You need to be gentle with this licking, as with all that you do with her. 14. Tongue Action Use your tongue in various ways. You can lick, insert, flick and circle her inner parts. All of these actions bring about different sensations to her and each can help bring her to a more satisfying climax. 15. Sucking Be gentle with this. Take her clitoris into your mouth by sucking on it. Then gently flick and circle it with your tongue. This can drive her crazy in no time if done correctly. 26.

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You can learn to insert your wll-lubricated fingers inside of her as you also perform oral sex on her. Move the fingers in and out. 27. Anal Play You can also do some anal play with her as you are performing oral sex on her. Simply place your fingertip on her anus and tease it gently. Be careful to not put this same finger into her vagina later. That can lead to infections. 28. G Spot Stimulators You can purchase G Spot dildos and stimulators that are small enough that they can be used on her G Spot as you continue to perform oral sex on her. Many women find this to be the most intense form of oral sex.

For Him 29. Penis The penis is one of his most sensitive areas, but even the penis has different areas that bring about different sensations. Some of the more common areas on the penis that bring pleasure follow. 30. Glans Head The glans head is the top of his penis. This is the head of his penis and is often flared during erection. The glans is loaded with nerve endings and this area is highly sensitive to any kind of touching. It is a little known fact that stimulating the glans alone can bring a man to climax. Men who have foreskin attached are even more sensitive in this area. 31. Frenulum This is a very small area that is on the underside of the penis. It can look like a "Y" and this area is very sensitive to touch. Any light touching on this area will bring about pleasure to most men, but the touch should be light and gentle. 32. Scrotum The scrotum can be highly sensitive to touch as well. You may want to try this: fondle his testicles gently in one hand and then lightly suck or lick the scrotum (try getting one or both testicles in your mouth and humming), but be gentle in this area. 33. The Perineum The area between the scrotum and the anus is called the perineum. There are many nerve endings in this area, making it sensitive to any type of touching. You may want to use just a drop of oil in this area and touch or rub it for him as you use your mouth on his penis. 34.

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Some men will find that anal play is very erotic to them as you perform oral sex on them. Others will not enjoy anal play at all, or may need more time to get used to it. The area around the anus itself is very sensitive to touch. You do not need to penetrate his anus to bring pleasure to him in this area. On the other hand, some men enjoy anal penetration to a great degree. You should talk about this with him beforehand. 35. Prostate For those men who are not opposed to anal penetration, you may wish to stimulate his prostate gland as you perform oral sex on him. To do this you will need to insert a finger into his rectum and move it nearly straight back and downward. When you feel the prostate gland, gently massage it with your fingertip. Do not be surprised if he comes while you do this. 36. Combination Do not be afraid to use these tips in combination. You can, for example, use one hand to massage his prostrate gland while you also perform oral sex on him. 37. Glans and Perineum Another erotic combination is to use your tongue on his glans head as you gently stroke his perineum area. Again, do not be surprised if he ejaculates during this. 38. Practice Some women will gag when they try to take too much of him into her mouth; some men are not used to the wetness that a woman can produce when she is really turned on. A good way to overcome these obstacles is to practice on each other. 39. Books There are many books available (like this one!) that discuss the various forms of oral sex for both men and women. You and your mate may wish to look at some of these to get some ideas. 40. Videos There are tons of videos dedicated to oral sex for both men and women. You and your partner may wish to watch a few of these to get some pointers or to learn some new tricks. 41. Can't swallow Some women find it difficult to swallow a man's semen. If this is the case, try taking his semen into your mouth and then discreetly spitting it out afterwards.

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MULTIPLE ORGASMS TIPS & TECHNIQUES For Him: 1. Can men have multiple orgasms? Yes. But unlike women who can have several orgasms within a short period of time, men are usually limited to two or three. 2. Are multiple orgasms common in men? It depends on the male and on the circumstances. Like women, not all men will have multiple orgasms, all the time. This does not mean that anything is wrong with him, just that his seminal sac is empty. 3. Longer equals stronger In general, the longer you play with his erection before he comes, the more explosive the ejaculation will be, and the more semen will come out with that one ejaculation. 4. Shorter equals weaker By the same token, if you bring him to climax rather quickly, chances are that some of the semen will not be released allowing for another orgasm within a few minutes. This is not a hard and fast rule and, again, several factors can play into it. 5. Rest period Almost all men require some rest time between ejaculations. This is normal and the amount of time needed will depend on the man. There is no pat answer for how long is long enough. 6. Orgasm vs. Ejaculation Many men have learned that it is possible to ejaculate without having an orgasm (the so called wet dream), but men may not yet realize that they can also have an orgasm without ejaculating. This is a technique that many men should learn in order to prolong sexual pleasure. 7. Practice If multiple ejaculations are important to you and your partner, you can try practicing by masturbating him. When he comes the first time, quickly squeeze the bottom of his shaft. You will need to squeeze hard. This should cut off the current flow. Rest a few minutes and then masturbate him again. 8. Oral If you want multiple ejaculations while performing oral sex on him, do as above while your mouth is on him. You may also want to suck hard at the moment you squeeze his shaft.

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9. Diet Feeding him or suggesting that he feed himself a well balanced diet can help a great deal in the production of semen. In general, any healthy diet will allow for the production of semen, and conversely, an unhealthy diet can decrease the amount of semen that is produced. 10. Avoid alcohol Alcohol will not help produce semen, regardless of what you and he may have heard in the past. In fact, too much alcohol will decrease his performance level. 11. Man to man It is also very important to remember that men will vary in their ability to produce semen. As mentioned above, some men simply produce more than other men. This should not be a reflection, good or bad, on your man. 12. Age matters As men age they produce less semen. Some women who have been in long term relationships with the same man will begin to notice this. Again, it is not you. His body is changing and this is simply the law of nature at work.

For Her 13. Stimulation Methods She can be stimulated through clitoral stimulation and G Spot stimulation, as well as through fisting and anal play and penetration. 14. Clitoral Orgasms A woman can have a clitoral orgasm. This happens when her clitoris is stimulated either by your fingers, tongue, or penis. 15. Foreplay You cannot dismiss foreplay. Women need to be brought into the moment and this begins with foreplay. 16. Clitoris vs. G spot Do not be confused about this. The clitoris is separate from the G spot. They are two different areas of the vagina. The G spot is close to the clitoris but it is not the clitoris. 17. Finding the G Spot One of the best ways to locate a woman's G spot is to sit between her legs. Insert your middle finger into her vagina with your palm facing upwards. Crook your finger as if you are doing the "come here" gesture while running your fingertip along the top wall of her vagina. When you get close to the pubic bone area, you are at the G spot.

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18. Cumming and Squirting During an ejaculatory orgasm the women will release fluid. This "cum" can travel from a third of an inch to over three feet (known as squirting). The first time you see this happen it may surprise you. It may even frighten you! Be prepared for it. 19. Manual Stimulation Most women love to have their vagina's stroked. Some women enjoy having their vaginal lips stroked lightly while others prefer a more heavy touch. This depends on your woman. Regardless of which touch she prefers, spend some time stroking her and teasing her. 20. Oral Stimulation To help get her G spot aroused you can spend time kissing her and licking her vagina. Going down on her is a great way to get her to relax, which is a key to G spot arousal. 21. Finger Stimulation When she is moist and relaxed, you may insert your finger into her vagina and begin teasing and touching her G spot and the area that surrounds her G spot. You will often feel her arousal as the G spot begins to swell. 22. Direct Stimulation Once her G spot begins to swell (and you can usually feel this if you pay attention) you can begin to stroke the tissue. The pressure that you want to apply will depend on your woman. Some like to have the area stimulated lightly while others prefer a heavy touch. Some like the stimulation to be slow, others prefer fast. If you are not sure which she enjoys, ask her. 23. Finger and Tongue This one may take a bit of practice but it is a winner. As you are pleasing your woman with your tongue slip a finger inside her vagina and begin stimulating her G spot. This can feel a bit awkward but once you master this technique, she will adore you forever. 24. Prolonged Stimulation You must remember that in order for a woman to have a G spot ejaculation orgasm she needs to be stimulated for a prolonged period of time. Now, prolonged can have different meanings to different women. For some women a few minutes are long enough, while for others more time is necessary. Regardless of the amount of time it takes, investing in her pre-orgasm arousal will pay off for both of you. 25. On Her Back The woman lies on her back, legs spread apart, as the man sits between her legs. He can easily insert his fingers into her and he can also watch her expressions to see what is working and what is not working.

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26. On Her Knees The woman kneels with her knees apart. The man is in front of her. This allows for complete access into her vagina and it also allows for her to push against his fingers to help control the pressure that she is receiving. 27. Back and Side The woman lies on her back, legs apart as the man lies next to her. He reaches either over her thigh or under her thigh to gain access to her vagina. For some women, this closeness is important in her journey to complete surrender. Advanced Male Orgasm Tips

28. Prostate Glad Stimulation It is possible in some men to achieve multiple ejaculations through stimulating the prostate gland. This involves anal penetration with either finger or toys and it should be discussed before it is attempted. 29. Lubrication Before inserting a finger or toy in the anus, the finger or toy should be well lubricated with a water soluble lubricant. Do not use oil-based lubes for any type of penetration activity. 30. Where is it? The prostate gland is about the size of walnut. It is located toward the front of the male, if you are behind him. 31. How to touch it With your finger inserted into the rectum, you gently massage the area that is forward (toward his front). In most cases, he will be able to tell you when you are touching it. In healthy adult males, this can bring about ejaculation. 32. Using anal toys If you prefer to use an anal toy to touch his prostate, make sure that the head of the toy is blunt. No sharp objects allowed! In most cases, a vibrating toy is best for this purpose as it does not need to make precise contact in order to bring him to climax. 33. Glans Head Stimulation The very top of the penis is called the glans head. This is the most sensitive part of his penis. You can bring him to climax by stimulating this part of his penis with your tongue or with a gentle vibrator.

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ANAL SEX TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Anal sex is not for everyone Though you might want to have anal sex, your partner may not, and vice versa. But it can be a safe and pleasurable act to place objects, like penises or sex toys into the anal opening. 2. Sanitation Cleanliness is very important when it comes to anal sex. Be certain that both parties wash themselves thoroughly before beginning. If you are using a dildo for penetration, be certain to wash this as well. 3. Cleaning up the mess If you were giving, remove the condom and wash your penis thoroughly. If you did not use a condom, this is especially important. Urinate to force any bacteria from your penis. 4. The Traditional Missionary The missionary position, with the receiver on her/his back, and the giver on top between the receiver's legs is standard, but can cause the problem of too deep a penetration for a first timer. 5. Spooning is Fun This position with the giver laying behind the receiver, alongside the receiver's body, with both people on their side can give the receiver the added benefit of being able to squeeze her/his legs together to slow the penetration; also this will control the depth of penetration. 6. Spooning, Leg Up Again, both people lie on their sides; the giver lies behind the receiver alongside the receiver's body. Lifting the receiver's top leg can make penetration easier. 7. Lying Down The receiver lies on her/his stomach while the giver lies on top of the receiver. Penetration and depth control are similar to the spooning position. 8. On Her/His Back The receiver lies on her/his back and the giver kneels between the receiver's knees. This position makes penetration easy but allows the receiver little control. 9. On Her/His Back, Legs Elevated

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Again, the receiver lies on her/his back and the giver kneels below the receiver. In this version, the receiver puts her/his legs on the shoulders of the giver. 10.Doggy Style The receiver gets on her/his hands and knees and the giver positions himself behind the receiver. This is the optimum position for anal sex as it allows for easy penetrations and gives the receiver control over depth. 11.Sitting Upright The giver sits upright in a chair or on a couch and the receiver sits on the giver's lap. Gravity can cause deeper penetration this way, but experienced receivers have the control in this position. 12.Cowgirl/Cowboy The giver lies on the bed on his or her back. The receiver straddles the giver and faces him/her. Penetration is deep but the receiver has control. 13.Reverse Cowgirl/Cowboy The giver lies on the bed and the receiver straddles the giver facing away from him. Again, this position allows for deep penetration but is controlled by the receiver. 14.Lubrication For anal sex, lubrication is absolutely necessary. You can use any type of lube, included flavored lubes, but self-heating lubes are not recommended. If the anus is not lubricated, physical damage to the anal cavity can occur. 15.Penetration It is very important that the receiver be able to control penetration. The giver must be receptive to the receiver's suggestions about the depth and speed of penetration. 16.Vagina To Anal Penetration If you have been having vaginal sex and want to switch to anal sex, remove your current condom and put on a new one. If you are not using a condom, clean your penis or other apparatus thoroughly. 17.Problems Some receivers will have minor to intense discomfort. Some initial minor discomfort is to be expected, but something more severe is a sign of a problem that needs to be addressed. 18.Pain Mild to severe pain is not normal and anal penetration should not proceed in this situation.

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19.STOP! If the receiver is experiencing any problems with anal penetration, the act should stop immediately. The giver and the receiver need to agree beforehand that the receiver has the final decision about whether or not the act continues. 20.Sex Toys For male anal penetration or for female/female anal penetration, sex toys are a terrific option. There are many different options out there! Even female penetration by a male can be done with sex toys! 21.Dildos Dildos come in all different sizes and shapes. Pick one that is on the small side for first time users. These should be washed thoroughly before and after use. 22.Strap-Ons Strap-on dildos are a great way to switch roles or to provide penetration for lesbian couples. A strap-on dildo should be washed well before and after use. 23.Vibrators Vibrators add a new dimension to anal penetration. The vibrations can stimulate the entire anal area, including the prostate in men and the gspot in women. 24.Enemas Some people feel that the receiver should give herself or himself an enema before engaging in anal sex. This is a good idea, and provides a cleaner anal cavity.

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G-SPOT TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. What? The g-spot, or the Gräfenburg Spot, is a bundle of nerve endings located inside the vagina. Stimulation of this area creates powerful orgasms in women. 2. Where? The g-spot is located between 1"and 3" up inside the vagina on the back or anterior wall. 3. How? The g-spot is stimulated by penile, digital, or sex toy insertion. There are many ways to stimulate the g-spot through each type of penetration. 4. Why? It is not clearly understood why the g-spot works, only that some women experience powerful orgasms when this spot is stimulated. 5. When? Women experience g-spot stimulation induced orgasms during sex, foreplay and masturbation. 6. Knowledge It is important to know about your female partner's g-spot since g-spot stimulation can lead to sexual satisfaction. 7. What It Looks Like Scientists and researchers have not been able to actually see the g-spot. In fact, there are many doctors and researchers who do not believe it exists. This is highly debated, especially by women. 8. What It Feels Like The g-spot feels rougher or more ridged than the rest of the vagina. When the woman is aroused or when the g-spot is stimulated, it feels spongy. 9. What Happens To It When a woman's g-spot is stimulated, the g-spot not only changes texture (becomes spongy), but it can also grow. 10. Women Who Know Women who are very familiar with their bodies are often aware of their gspots and how to best stimulate them. Listen to your female partner and she will tell you how to please her.

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11. Women Who Don't Know Some women have never experienced an orgasm as a result of g-spot stimulation. In this case, research in the form of experimentation is best. 12. Women Who Can't Some women cannot achieve an orgasm through g-spot stimulation. There are many reasons why this might happen. 13. Why Not? – Relaxation Some women feel inhibited during sex. This can cause a mental block to having an orgasm. Relaxation is the best way to achieve orgasm in any form. 14. Why Not? – Incorrect Technique Some women have never used the correct stimulation techniques to stimulate their g-spots. Knowledge about what to expect and how to find the g-spot can help this problem. 15. Why Not? – Communication Women who feel inhibited during sex often feel awkward communicating what they like. Telling your partner what feels good, what to do, and how to do it can make all the difference. 16. Why Not? – Pain/Discomfort Some women experience pain or discomfort when their g-spot area is stimulated. This can be the result of many things, including mental block. However, if the pain is severe, she should see a doctor to be sure nothing is physically wrong. 17. Women Who Struggle When a woman is struggling with achieving orgasm through g-spot stimulation, she should not be made to feel deficient. She should be encouraged. If it cannot happen, that is completely normal. 18. Women Who Can Sometimes There are some women who can only achieve orgasm through g-spot stimulation every once in a while. Sometimes even using the same technique or position will not produce the orgasm again. This is also normal. 19. Women Who Always Can While some women struggle, a lucky few can orgasm from g-spot stimulation every time. These women usually orgasm through intercourse and other forms of penetration, as well as masturbation. 20. Women Who Ejaculate Female ejaculation is rare but real. This is the expenditure of fluid form the urethra as a result of g-spot stimulation. 39

21. Men Who Know Some men are very aware of the g-spot on their female partners. These men generally have a lot of experience with women who are familiar with their own bodies; or, they have researched the issue. 22. Men Who Don't Know Some men are not aware of the g-spot, or they have not had any experience with female partners who know their bodies. If they are willing, these men can learn. 23. Stimulation Stimulation of the g-spot can be done with any number of techniques and methods. A sex toy, penis, or fingers can produce an orgasm if applied correctly. 24. Touching Gently touching the g-spot can elicit and orgasm in some women who are extremely sensitive. However, in most women, further stimulation is required. 25. Rubbing Rubbing the g-spot is a much better way to produce orgasm. The rubbing can be done with a finger, penis or dildo. 26. Back and Forth Using your finger or a sex toy, come into contact with the g-spot and move back and forth over it. Vary speeds and pressure to produce an orgasm. 27. Up and Down Moving your finger, penis or sex toy up and down over the g-spot can produce and orgasm. Again, speed and pressure varies from woman to woman. 28. Massaging Massaging the g-spot is usually best performed by digital penetration, though a sex toy can also be used. This involves greater pressure directly on the g-spot. 29. Circular Using your fingers, place your fingertips on the g-spot and move then in a circular motion. 30. Poking Insert your fingers, penis, or desired apparatus into the vagina and come in direct contact with the g-spot. Push against the g-spot gently and then progressively harder. 40

31. Fingers By using the fingers, the g-spot can be more directly and accurately stimulated. There are several ways to do this. 32. "Cum Here" Insert two fingers into the vagina and find the g-spot. Crook your fingers as if you were beckoning someone, and then move them back and forth in the beckoning motion. 33. Jiggling Insert one or two fingers into the vagina. Find the g-spot and position your fingers in that area. Move your fingers back and forth coming into contact with the g-spot as you move. 34. Thrusting Place one or two fingers at the opening of the vagina. Thrust your fingers into the vagina connecting with the g-spot when you enter. Repeat until orgasm is reached. 35. Multiple Using multiple fingers to penetrate the vagina and stimulate the g-spot can be beneficial because a) many women like to feel the penetration and b) using more than one finger ensures that you will hit the g-spot. 36. Penis Using the penis is by far the most enjoyable way to penetrate the vagina and stimulate the g-spot for male partners. Some women prefer this to any other form of penetration as well. 37. Thrusting With penile penetration, thrusting is usually the most obvious way to stimulate the g-spot. 38. Thrusting – Direct Place the head of the penis at the opening of the vagina. Push the penis up and into the vagina coming into direct contact with the g-spot. Repeat this connecting with the g-spot every time. 39. Thrusting – Indirect During vaginal intercourse, penile penetration generally produces some kind of indirect contact with the g-spot. For some women, this indirect stimulation is enough to produce an orgasm. 40. Sex Toys For some women, masturbation using a sex toy is the only way to achieve orgasm from g-spot stimulation. This is also a great way to add variety to couples' sexual encounters. 41

41. Dildos Dildos are available in many different sizes and shapes. There are some dildos that have special curves that are designed to hit the g-spot directly. These are a good investment. 42. Strap-Ons Strap-ons are a great way to add penetration in a lesbian relationship. Many of these also are designed for g-spot stimulation. 43. Vibrators Vibrators can offer both g-spot and clitoral stimulation if used at the proper angle. Vibrations on the g-spot can produce an orgasm faster than other methods. 44. Sex Toys – Mutual Mutual use of sex toys is a great way to stimulate each other's g-spots. This is especially applicable to lesbian lovers, though it can apply to anyone. 45. Sex Toys – Simultaneous For lesbians, using a sex toy like a double sided dildo can make simultaneous masturbation and g-spot stimulation even more erotic. Or, you can both masturbate together using separate sex toys (this works for heterosexual couples, too). 46. Sex Toys – Watching Watching your female partner while she stimulates her own g-spot with a sex toy can be a great way to learn more about her body. It is also very erotic! 47. The Three Keys To G-Spot Stimulation There are three main keys to producing an orgasm from g-spot stimulation: pressure, speed, and rhythm. 48. Pressure The amount of pressure applied to the g-spot can determine how hard and fast your female partner orgasms. Some women only need a little pressure, while others need a lot. Some women experience pain with too much pressure. 49. Speed The speed at which you stimulate the g-spot can control how long it takes for her to orgasm. Again, it is mostly a personal preference, so regulate your speed according to her desires. 50. Rhythm

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APHRODISIACS TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. What Are They? Aphrodisiacs are foods, drugs, scents, or chemicals that supposedly produce an increase in sexual desire. 2. How Do They Work? In truth, no one knows if they do actually work. There are many conflicting theories about this. 3. Why Do You Need Them? If you or your partner is having difficulties raising your libidos, you could try aphrodisiacs to help encourage sexual feelings. 4. Where Can You Find Them? Most aphrodisiacs are readily available. Some are foods that can be purchased at drug stores. Others are drugs that can be purchased through specialty manufacturers. 5. When Should You Use Them? Aphrodisiacs are generally used before the moment of sexual encounter. Some are used for weeks before (i.e. over-the-counter drugs), while others can be ingested during foreplay. 6. Using Aphrodisiacs Using an aphrodisiac that is also a food product is the easiest way to integrate them into your sex life. These are readily available and can be used in creative ways. 7. Cooking Using aphrodisiacs that are food items are very exciting and delicious to use when cooking. 8. Dinner When you have made a meal that is made up entirely of aphrodisiacs, you will have a delicious and exciting meal. 9. Asparagus Using asparagus as a side dish is an easy and relatively inexpensive way to integrate an aphrodisiac. The phallic shape also adds to the desire. 10.Oysters The round shape of an oyster is often cited as being one of the main reasons why they are aphrodisiacs. 11.Chocolate 44

Chocolate has a small amount of certain chemicals that are present in the human brain when you are in love. There are studies that show this is why chocolate is an aphrodisiac. 12.Eggs The ovoid shape of an egg is thought to bring about thoughts of fertility, thus the aphrodisiac properties of eggs. 13.Garlic There are chemicals in garlic that are thought to promote and help maintain and erection. 14.Ginger Increasing blood flow to the groin area is the way that ginger can promote sexual feelings as an aphrodisiac for women. 15.Honey A chemical in honey is thought to increase testosterone levels. This can have the effect of promoting sexual arousal. 16.Spices Some spices are thought to increase sexual desire. Even the scents if some spices like cinnamon can create arousal. 17.Spicy Food Because spicy food has the effect of producing sweating and flushed skin – reactions that are similar to those that happen during sex – spicy food is thought to be an aphrodisiac. 18.Chili Peppers Along with the theory about spicy food, chili peppers and other spicy peppers can have a physical effect that mimics sexual response. 19.Soy A chemical in soy can have similar effects as estrogen. This can lead to arousal in women. 20.Saffron A chemical in saffron has the ability to affect neurotransmitters in the brains that affect mood, thus its reputation as an aphrodisiac. 21.Ginseng Some people feel that ginseng or chemicals in it produce an effect similar to that of sexual pleasure. 22.Truffles The chemicals in truffles that produce pheromone-like scents are those that also make them aphrodisiacs. 45

23.Foreplay Using aphrodisiacs during foreplay is particularly gratifying, especially if you are using them in the food or scent forms. 24.Scents Some scents are strong aphrodisiacs. The smells of some flowers are especially potent. 25.Musk Perfumes and colognes that have a musk scent can serve as excellent aphrodisiacs. Musk is a naturally occurring pheromone.

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SUPPLEMENTS TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Performance The benefit of most sexual supplements is to enhance a man or a woman's performance in the bedroom. The issues addressed by these supplements ranges in important bedroom aspects. 2. Lasting Longer For men who have a problem holding off on ejaculating until their partner has reached orgasm, supplements that enable them to last longer are beneficial. 3. Sex Drive Some men and women experience a lack of sex drive. This can cause serious tension in long term relationships and marriage. 4. Libido Libido enhancing supplements that boost sex drive work on various aspects of the human body to help stimulate the person and create arousal. These work differently in men and women. 5. Desire Desire can be boosted by certain sexual supplements, though this is one of the more questionable aspects of these supplements as it is almost impossible to measure desire. 6. Mood There are many different sexual supplements that address and boost a person's mood to create desire. However, as with any mood elevators, it is difficult to determine whether the supplement is causing the rise in mood as mood is impossible to measure. 7. Arousal Arousal is another major issue with both men and women that can be helped with supplements. It is easier to measure the effectiveness in men than it is in women. 8.

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The ability to reach orgasm and the duration of an orgasm are two very important aspects of a sexual encounter. Some supplements attempt to treat these two problems. 11. Duration The duration of an orgasm is thought to be able to be enhanced by certain sexual supplements. Again, these are mostly sought after by women, though some men purchase them as well. 12. Frequency The frequency of erection in a man may be very important, and there are several sexual supplements that can boost the amount of erections a man can obtain. 13. Duration The duration of time that a man's erection lasts is the most important factor in these types of sexual supplements. This can greatly affect his partner's enjoyment of sex. 14. Penis For some men, the size of their penises is a point of embarrassment. For these men, there are several penis enlargement supplements. 15. Length The length of a man's penis can affect his partner's enjoyment of sex by whether or not it reaches the g-spot. Penis enhancement supplements can help this problem. 16. Hardness The ability of a man to penetrate his partner depends in part on the hardness of his penis during erection. Certain supplements can help with this problem, though this is not generally the sole purpose of such supplements. 17. Breasts Some women feel they need larger breasts, and this feeling affects their sex lives. If they do not want breast augmentation surgery, they might try a breast enhancing supplement. 18. Acetylcholine This is a chemical that occurs in the human body; in men it facilitates the achievement of erection. 19. Nitric Oxide This is the chemical responsible for the engorgement of the human body's sexual organs such as the penis and the clitoris. 20. Dopamine 48

Dopamine is responsible for a person's mood. This can also affect the sexual desire, libido, sex drive, and alertness to sexual advances. 21. Serotonin Serotonin can actually inhibit a person's sex drive. In fact, a person's libido can be significantly decreased as the result of too much serotonin. 22. Epinephrine Epinephrine increases a person's mood and sex drive. However, the downfall of epinephrine is the decreased ability to achieve an erection. 23. Norepinephrine Increasing mood, sex drive and alertness are the main things that are affected by the presence of norepinephrine. It can decrease the ability to achieve and erection. 24. Drugs Certain drugs have been used to combat sexual dysfunction problems. Some of these drugs have been tested by the FDA of the United States, while others have not. 25. Natural Supplements There are several naturally occurring chemicals that are used in treating sexual dysfunction. Some of these are precursors to body chemicals and others are herbs. 26. Placebo Effect There has been a lot of speculation about whether or not sexual supplements work. Some people feel that these supplements merely convince the mind to fix the problem on its own, creating what is known as the placebo effect. 27. Enzyte A daily tablet that contains plant extracts to enhance the size of a man's penis. This product has not been tested by the FDA of the United States. 28. Elexia Elexia is an herbal supplement for men that claims to naturally enhance a man's sexual performance and stamina. It contains L-Arginine and Yohimbe. 29. Pro-Erex Pro-Erex is a supplement that enhances performance by boosting sexual desire and also helps with erectile dysfunction. It also claims to be a penis enlargement supplement. It has not been approved by the FDA of the US. 30. Vahard 49

A sexual supplement that claims to help erectile dysfunction; it also can boost a man's libido. 31. VasoRect VasoRect is a men's supplement that claims to increase stamina and hardness. It also says it boosts sexual desire and performance. It has not been approved by the FDA of the US. 32. Libido-Max This is a natural sexual supplement; Libido-Max is thought to increase libido in both men and women, though it has not been approved by the FDA. 33. Big Daddy This is a sex supplement that is for men. It is thought to treat all of the possible sexual dysfunction problems a man might encounter. It has not been approved by the FDA. 34. Vixen A sex supplement that is marketed toward women, this pill is said to treat problems with libido. It has not been approved by the FDA> 35. ProLab HGW This is an herbal sexual supplement that increases libido and sexual function. It has not been approved by the FDA. 36. Maxaman This is another sexual supplement for men that claims to increase desire and performance. It contains Arginine. It has not been approved by the FDA. 37. Arginine Arginine is an amino acid found in almost all foods. It is converted into nitric oxide in the human body. Supplements like Enzyte, VasoRect, and Maxaman contain this amino acid. 38. Yohimbe Elexia, Enzyte and Libido-max contain this bark that is a naturally occurring source of Yohimbine. 39. Yohimbine Yohimbine is a drug that was approved by the FDA to treat erectile dysfunction, but its primary use was to dilate pupils. 40. Ginseng Big Daddy, Enzyte, VasoRect and Vahard all contain this Asian plant that stimulates the release of nitric oxide in the body.

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41. Ginkgo Biloba VasoRect, Vixen and ProLab HGW contain the leaves from this type of tree which are thought to increase blood flow. 42. Maca Enzyte and Pro-Erex contain this traditional aphrodisiac that is actually a root vegetable. 43. Horny Goat Weed Libido-Max and Pleasure Pill are two supplements that contain this plant. In myth, it was said to make goats wild when they looked at it. It is an aphrodisiac that is used to treat libido problems and impotence. 44. Tribulus Terrestris Enzyte, Suregasm and Vahard all contain this herb. It treats impotence in men and libido problems in both men and women.

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MASTURBATION TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Masturbation Masturbation is not just a great way to release sexual tension when you are alone. It can also be a great way to stimulate and arouse your partner. 2. Why? Watching your partner masturbate, learning what he or she likes, and even participating in the event can be a great way to connect to your partner and enhance your sexual encounters. 3. Learning Being present when your partner masturbates will further your knowledge of what he or she likes. The benefits of this being that you will know better how to please him or her in the future. 4. Showing The best way to help your partner learn your body and what you like is to show him or her. This is one of the great benefits to having your partner watch while you masturbate. 5. Watching It can be incredibly arousing to have your partner watch you or to watch your partner during such a private experience. 6. Participating While you are watching your partner pleasure himself or herself, you will probably be overcome with a desire to help him or her. This is a good way to get some "hands on" learning experience. 7. Where? Finding the right place to masturbate with your partner is a dilemma for some people. For first timers, try somewhere private and comfortable. For the pros, try somewhere kinkier and different. 8. Bedroom First timers will do best in the bedroom where most sexual encounters occur. This is the most private place in your home and is also where most people masturbate when they are alone. 9. Living Room The living room is a less private place that can add a real sense of adventure to a masturbation session with your partner. 10. Kitchen 52

The kitchen is not private at all, and aside from the thrill of being somewhere open, you can utilize items in the kitchen to facilitate the masturbation! 11. Bathroom The bathroom is still private but is not generally where most sexual encounters take place, which gives it a subtle sense of adventure. 12. In The Car This is a public place where the thrill of getting caught can really add to the thrill of watching your partner climax. 13. Where You Do It If you have a special place where you like to masturbate, try doing it there with your partner. He or she will enjoy knowing this intimate detail about your private life. 14. Where Your Partner Does It Find out if your partner has a specific place that he or she frequently masturbates. Joining him or her there will add to the spice of the experience. 15. Who? Any couple who is sexually active should try masturbating together, especially if they have been together for a while and are becoming bored with their regular sex acts. 16. How? How you want to masturbate is up to you and your partner. However, remember that the purpose of the experience is to let your partner watch or help you climax; use the same technique that you normally use to masturbate. 17. Manual Manual masturbation, or masturbation using the hands, is what most people prefer. Use fingers, hands, palms, and even fists if applicable. 18. Sex Toys Many people regularly use sex toys to masturbate. Even if you don't, if you and your partner have done this other times, you may want to spice things up by using sex toys for the first time together. 19. Dildos Dildos are very popular for women, and some men use them too. A dildo can be used for external stimulation or can be used for penetration. 20. Vibrators

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Many women like to use vibrators for masturbation because of the clitoral stimulation. Men use them to stimulate their testicles or anus. 21. Blow-Up Dolls Some men like to use inflatable dolls to masturbate. This can even be stimulating to their partner to watch the man penetrate and thrust into the doll. 22. "Flesh Lights" Another masturbatory aid for men is the Flesh Light, a product that is a soft plastic mouth that a man penetrates and thrusts into. 23. Makeshift Ideas Some people prefer to make up their own masturbatory aids. For men these involve tight, lubricated holes. For women they are often something that can be rubbed against the clitoris or inserted into the vagina. 24. When? When you decide to come together for a masturbation session is up to you and your partner. If you are first timers, the best time is when there is little worry about time constraints or interruptions. 25. Now As with any sexual encounter, if the time is right, do it now. Your excitement will rub off on your partner and he or she will probably be more than willing to participate. 26. Morning Not many people have a lot of free time in the mornings. But weekends can be different. Try masturbating together in the morning to start your day on an erotic note. 27. Night Nighttime is the time that most people have sex. For first timers, this may be the least intimidating time to try masturbating together. 28. Afternoon If you have a rainy day that you want to spice up, try an afternoon masturbation session. This could be a great way to add some excitement to your sex life and brighten your day. 29. Alone For first timers, this is the best way to try masturbating for your partner. Doing it yourself ensures that the job will be done properly. 30. Together

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Masturbating together but separately can be very erotic. You get to make yourself climax while you enjoy watching your partner climax while watching you. 31. Mutual For those who are more experienced in the dual masturbatory world, mutual masturbation is a good way to show your partner that you have been paying attention while you were watching. 32. Mutual Simultaneous Masturbating each other at the same time is a good endurance trial for those who are "professional" couple's masturbators. It can be distracting and tricky, but this is part of the fun. 33. One At A Time Masturbating your partner is the most often chosen method of mutual masturbation. It is not as distracting as mutual simultaneous masturbation, but is just as gratifying. 34. Problems First timers may have an initial problem masturbating in front of their partners. This is due to a multitude of reasons, but should never be considered a personal insult by the observing partner. 35. Inhibition Many people feel inhibited by new sexual experiences, and this can be true for masturbation in front of a partner. Shyness can be overcome, but should never be seen as a fault or insult. 36. Inability Sometimes, a person can begin masturbating but is unable to climax while their partner watches. This is related to inhibition in that the person may feel embarrassed to climax even if they have climaxed during sex with their partner. 37. Interruption Interruption is a problem for all sexual acts and encounters. For those who are not exhibitionists, interruption can cause loss of erection, arousal, or interest. 38. Fixing The Problem – Aphrodisiacs Aphrodisiacs are not necessarily the most reliable things to refer to, but even a placebo effect can get you or your partner to the point of relaxation and arousal. 39. Fixing The Problem – Discussion

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Discuss the problem with your partner. Find out why he or she is feeling inhibited and reassure him or her that you feel aroused watching or helping. If you have the issue, tell your partner what is troubling you. 40. Fixing The Problem – Pornography Sometimes, the only thing missing is what you or your partner uses when you/he/she masturbates: pornography. Find a video or online website that appeals to both of you. 41. Fixing The Problem – Relaxation Give your partner a massage or gentle body rub. Use lotion or aromatherapy oils to create a mood of relaxation to take your minds off the task at hand. Gradually begin the act when you are both ready. 42. Fixing The Problem – Going First If your partner is feeling shy, show him or her how turned on you are by going first. By taking the pressure off them and going first, your partner may feel more inclined to try, too. 43. Fixing The Problem – Encouragement Encouraging your partner is sometimes all that is needed to help him or her to not feel inhibited. Reassure your partner that you are turned on and that he or she is sexy and attractive. 44. Fixing The Problem – Drugs While some people use drugs to relax, many drugs can have the unfortunate side effect of making a person feel more inhibited or nervous. 45. Fixing The Problem – Alcohol Sometimes people use alcohol as a way to feel less inhibited. However, keep in mind that the more alcohol imbibed, the less chance of being able to perform and climax. 46. Fixing The Problem – Hotel If interruptions are your problem, try going somewhere else besides your home. Getting a hotel suite and putting out the "Do Not Disturb" sign can really help. 47. Fixing The Problem – Baby Sitters If you have children, instead of trying to squeeze in a new sexual act like masturbation while the kids are sleeping, take the kids to a baby sitter's house so you have the house to yourselves. 48. Fixing The Problem – Try Again Later You should never force your partner to do something that he or she does not want to do. Instead, try again later or another day. 49. Techniques – Him 56

Men masturbating for a partner should be completely naked and should lay or sit somewhere where it is easy for the partner to see. Hold your penis so your partner can easily see how you are pleasuring yourself. 50. Techniques – Her Women masturbating for a partner should be completely naked and should position herself in a way that her partner can see her genitals. The best way is to open her legs as far as possible and to have her partner sit close enough to see what she is doing.

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PENETRATION TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Heterosexual Penetration Penetration between a male and a female partner has many different aspects. Many people use different positions, devices or orifices to achieve a different feeling through penetration. 2. Male/Female Penetration A man penetrating a woman is the standard definition of heterosexual penetration. 3. Vaginal Penetration Vaginal penetration in heterosexual sexual encounters is the primary form of penetration. This is usually done with the penis, though other devices are often used. 4. Anal Penetration Anal penetration is also an option in heterosexual sexual encounters. While this is not a primary form of heterosexual penetration, it is very popular with some couples. Again, the penis is generally the commonly used device. 5. Penis The penis is usually the device used for penetration in heterosexual sexual encounters. It is that standard for both vaginal and anal penetration. 6. Fingers The fingers can be used to penetrate a woman's vagina or anus as a way to both bring change to the sex and to better pleasure the woman. 7. Fist Some couples experiment with fisting as a way to penetrate the woman's vagina or anus. This can be dangerous and painful, so the woman should be the one to decide whether or not the penetration should continue. 8. Sex Toys Sex toys are often used to bring a little spice or excitement to sexual intercourse or anal penetration. Some sex toys are designed to hot the gspot and bring the woman more pleasure. 9. Dildos Dildos are often used in both anal and vaginal penetration as a way to bring additional excitement to the sex. Some are shaped to precisely touch the g-spot and assist in reaching orgasm. 10. Vibrators 58

While vibrators are mostly used for vaginal penetration, they can be used for anal penetration as well. Some women do not like to have vibrators inserted because it can cause pain if done improperly. 11. Strap-Ons Strap-on dildos are rarely used in heterosexual sex, but some people do use them. Again, these are sometimes shaped to come into contact with the g-spot. 12. Female/Male Penetration Some men like to experience anal penetration at the hands of their female partners. Anal penetration for a man can lead to the stimulation of the prostate and bring about a powerful orgasm. 13. Fingers For beginners, a finger or two is the best option to try to see if the receiving man is stimulated by the anal penetration. As with women, anal penetration can be painful so the man should decide to continue in this situation. 14. Sex Toys For more experienced heterosexual couples, male anal penetration with a sex toy can be a great way to introduce more size to the penetration. 15. Dildos Dildos are the best way to start with sex toys. Use a small one for the first time since sudden introduction of large implements into the anal cavity can cause pain. 16. Vibrators Some men enjoy the vibrations from a vibrator in their anus as it stimulates the prostate. Other men do not like this sensation. 17. Strap-Ons Once you and your partner have tried other sex toys, you may want to try a strap-on dildo. This is especially pleasurable if the male has a fantasy of being penetrated by a penis but is not homosexual. 18. Homosexual Penetration Homosexual penetration is the primary means of homosexual sex between men. It is also used by homosexual women but not as commonly. 19. Male/Male Penetration There are many different types of homosexual penetration for male/male couples. First timers to anal penetration should always be aware of the possibility of discomfort.

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20. Penis Homosexual penetration between two men is usually done by using the penis. Some homosexual men like to receive or be penetrated while others like to give or penetrate. 21. Fingers Penetration using the fingers is often used to begin penetration for other devices or while performing oral sex. 22. Sex Toys While some homosexual men do not use sex toys for penetration, it is possible and many men enjoy it. 23. Dildos Dildos can be used for homosexual anal penetration in the same way they are used in heterosexual anal penetration. The goal is generally to stimulate the prostate. 24. Vibrators Most men do not like to be penetrated by vibrators, but there are some who enjoy the vibrations since they can easily stimulate the prostate. 25. Female/Female Penetration Homosexual penetration between two women will often include the use of penetration. While some methods are commonly used, others are not. 26. Fingers The use of the fingers to penetrate the vagina or the anus in homosexual female sex is the most common of all penetration methods. One or more fingers can be used. 27. Fist Fisting is not a common practice in homosexual female sex, though many lesbians do use this method from time to time. This is a severe form of penetration and caution should be used, especially with first timers. 28. Sex Toys Many homosexual women choose to penetrate their partners with sex toys. This adds a degree of ease and excitement to lesbian sex. 29. Dildos Homosexual female couples often use dildos for penetration. As with heterosexual female penetration, dildos are used to stimulate the g-spot. 30. Vibrators While vibrators are generally used on the clitoris, some homosexual female couples penetrate each other with vibrators. The vibrations can

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stimulate the g-spot, though some women do not like to be penetrated with a vibrator. 31. Strap-Ons Strap-on dildos are not as popular in homosexual female couples are they are for other couples, but they are still used in the same way as heterosexual couples use them. 32. Taboos There are many sexual taboos about penetration. The most common of these, aside from that of homosexual sex, is that of heterosexual penetration of the male partner. Ignoring taboos and acting on fantasies is the easiest way to rid yourself of sexual inhibition. 33. Problems There are a lot of problems that can arise during penetration. Most of these problems can be solved easily with a little patience. 34. Lubrication The biggest thing to remember about penetration is the importance of lubrication. Without lubrication, the vaginal or anal walls can be torn or injured. Use sexual lubricants, especially for anal penetration. Saliva is rarely enough for anal penetration. 35. Relaxation It is very important for the person being penetrated to relax. When you are not relaxed, your muscles tighten; penetration in this situation can cause injury to the vagina or anus. 36. Speed The person who is penetrating his or her partner should always begin the penetration slowly, unless responding to a request from an experienced partner. Quick, hard penetration can result in injury to the partner being penetrated. 37. Thrusting Thrusting is the basis of penetration, but this should begin slowly and then gradually build speed according to the desires of the person being penetrated. If something different has been discussed prior to the act faster thrusting is acceptable if in accordance with a request. 38. Depth The depth of the thrust needs to also be based on the comfort and preferences of the partner being penetrated. Depth should be gradual unless in accordance with something previously discussed. 39. Tightness

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Some people have unusually tight orifices. In this case, steps may need to be taken to facilitate penetration. 40. Looseness People with more sexual experience or women who have given birth may have looser orifices. Steps may need to be taken to tighten the orifice to create more feeling and sensation for both partners. 41. Tips To Tighten Have your partner keep his or her legs together when penetrating him or her. This utilizes the thighs to make the orifice seem tighter. 42. Tips To Loosen Your partner can open his or her legs wider when penetrated, or you can begin penetration by using one finger, then two, etc, until the orifice is more easily penetrated by the desired device. 43. Positions Any sexual position can be used for any type of penetration. Doggy Style is the easiest position for first time anal penetration and is also conducive to first timers with sex toy vaginal penetration. Vaginal penetration with penis or fingers is easiest when the woman is on her back. 44. STOP! As with any sexual act (but especially with penetration and even more so with anal penetration), if the partner being penetrated feels pain or emotional discomfort, the act should cease immediately. 45. Threesomes Any combination of threesome makes for interesting and exciting options for penetration. 46. Dual Penetration Penetrating the vagina and anus at the same time can be done in a threesome including a woman; in a one-on-one sexual encounter between a man and a woman; or between a woman and a woman. 47. Penis + Penis In a male/male/female threesome, both men can penetrate the woman simultaneously. One man should enter the woman's vagina from the front while the other enters her anus from the back. 48. Fingers + Penis In a heterosexual one-on-one encounter, both the vagina and anus can be stimulated. The penis can penetrated either orifice – usually the vagina is chosen – while the fingers penetrate the other orifice – in this case, the anus.

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49. Fingers + Sex Toys In threesomes, lesbian sex or heterosexual sex, a woman's anus and vagina can be penetrated by a sex toy and fingers. The use of each device is up to the couple or trio. 50. Penis + Sex Toys In a threesome or in a one-on-one heterosexual encounter, the penis can penetrate a woman's anus or vagina while a sex toy penetrates the other orifice.

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FEMALE EJACULATION TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Female Ejaculation A mystery in and of itself, female ejaculation is the expulsion of fluid from a woman's body during orgasm. 2. Who? Only some women ejaculate during orgasm and only a few can ejaculate every time. Specific stimulation is required to produce ejaculation. 3. What? Female ejaculation is essentially the same as male ejaculation: a response to intense sexual stimulation. 4. Why? There is no biological or reproductive need for female ejaculation as there is for male ejaculation. It is simply trapped fluids being expelled from the body. 5. Where? While it appears that female ejaculate comes from the vagina, it actually comes from the urethra, or, more specifically, the Skene's Gland or Paraurethral Gland. 6. When? Female ejaculate is expelled when intense sexual stimulation is experienced. This stimulation can be of the urethral sponge or g-spot, or of the clitoris. 7. How? Fluid builds in the Paraurethral gland during sexual stimulation and that fluid is expelled through the urethra during orgasm. 8. Squirting/Gushing Female ejaculation is often referred to as squirting or gushing. These are colloquialisms and are not technical terms. 9. Urethra The urethra is the tube that carries urine out of the human body. In a woman, this is where female ejaculate is expelled as well. 10.Skene's Gland/Paraurethral Gland The Skene's Gland or the Paraurethral Gland is a gland with a small opening inside the urethra. This gland is similar to the male prostate and fills with fluid during sexual stimulation.

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11.Source It is thought that female ejaculate comes from the Skene's Gland or Paraurethral gland. There is some controversy about this in the medical community. 12.Urethral Sponge/G-Spot Generally, female ejaculation is achieved through the stimulation of the urethral sponge or the G-Spot. 13.Clitoral Stimulation In some rare cases, female ejaculation can be achieved by stimulating the clitoris only. 14.Is It Urine? Much research has been done on female ejaculate and the general consensus of the medical community is that female ejaculate is not urine. 15.Creatinine/Urea Levels Analysis of female ejaculate shows that it has a different chemical make up than urine: the creatinine and urea levels are too low for the fluid to be urine. It is closer to male prostate fluid. 16.Size Of Opening The size of the opening of the Paraurethral gland may be so small that either only a small amount of fluid can be expelled at a time or no fluid is expelled at all. 17.Retrograde Ejaculation When a woman has a very small Paraurethral gland opening, or in other cases, she may not expel the fluid through ejaculation; but rather the fluid will travel to the bladder. 18.Amount Of Fluid Some women do ejaculate but the amount of fluid expelled may be so small that the ejaculation is not noticed. 19.Muscular Contraction The fluid is expelled as a result of muscular contraction around the urethra during orgasm. In some women these contractions force the fluid out faster than in other women. 20.Pornography In the pornography industry, female ejaculation is a very popular though not a common event. 21.Tricks Of The Trade The women who ejaculate on film are not always actually ejaculating. Some production companies fill the actress's vagina with a fake ejaculate 65

fluid and then film the false ejaculation as the actress expels the fluid. Some actresses urinate instead of ejaculating. 22.Real? Real porn ejaculations are hard to find, and it is very difficult to tell which ones are authentic because it is hard to see where the fluid is coming from at certain camera angles. 23.Fake? You can tell if a porn ejaculation is fake if the fluid is clearly not coming from the urethra. In real female ejaculation scenes, the camera will get a close-up of the vagina to film the urethra as the actress ejaculates. 24.Theories There are a lot of scientific theories about female ejaculation. Some researchers still doubt the existence of female ejaculation while others agree that it does exist.

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FISTING TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Fisting Fisting is a type of penetration that is perhaps the most intense of all. It involves one partner penetrating the other partner with his or her fist. 2. What? Fisting is very intense penetration. It can be done vaginally or anally. It is done to simulate the penetrated partner but can be very erotic for the penetrating partner. 3. Who? Any couple can take part in fisting. While vaginal fisting is obviously limited to heterosexual and lesbian couples, anal fisting can be done by or to either gender. 4. Where? Both the vagina and the anus can be penetrated by a fist. There are slightly different recommendations for each orifice. 5. Why? There is great pleasure that can be derived from fisting. Both the receiving partner and the giving partner can be aroused by fisting. 6. How? Fisting is a very slow process that involves incredible patience and trust on the parts of both partners. The hand is slowly inserted into the desired orifice to produce sexual pleasure. 7. Vaginal Fisting Vaginal fisting is slightly easier than anal fisting as the vagina is meant to stretch to accommodate the birth of a child. However, the process should still be addressed slowly. 8. Anal Fisting Anal fisting is a little more difficult than vaginal fisting since the anus is designed as an exit and not an entrance. It is possible to do it successfully, but it may take more time to achieve. 9. Warnings Remember that fisting is not a natural penetration. Where you can generally enter a vagina fairly quickly with a penis, you cannot do this with a fist, even after a lot of experience. 10.Problems

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There are a lot of problems that can come from or during fisting. Keep in mind that these can all be fixed if you and your partner are wiling to stop the act and work on the issue. Otherwise, more serious health concerns can arise. 11.Pain Pain is the biggest problem that a penetrated partner faces during fisting. There are two types of pain: mild and severe. Some mild pain should be expected. 12.Body Reactions There are many different reactions – most are involuntary – that the body can have to fisting. A sudden tightening of the muscles is common for both anal and vaginal fisting. 13.Fix – Pain Pain is the body's signal that something is wrong and the act should cease. If the pain is severe and does not go away after the act has stopped, see a doctor. 14.Fix – Physical Discomfort Since physical discomfort is to be expected during fisting, it is difficult to judge when it has become a problem. That decision should be left to the penetrated partner. 15.Fix – Emotional Discomfort Emotional discomfort should not be ignored but discussed. If the penetrated partner is uncomfortable, the act should cease. 16.Fix – Body Reactions The body's involuntary reactions like muscle spasms can only be fixed with patience. If this happens, wait until the spasm has stopped, then slowly remove the fist. Physical damage can be caused by sudden removal of the fist. 17.Taboos As with many alternative sex acts, there is a taboo surrounding fisting; this is especially true of anal fisting of a man. Keep this in mind but do not let it deter you from a fantasy. 18.Intimacy Fisting is a very intimate act. The intimacy of the act can add to your sexual relationship, but if you and your partner are not already emotionally intimate, you may not feel comfortable with this act. 19.Respect

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Respect is absolutely essential with an act like fisting. Respect on the part of both partners leads to trust, which is the most important aspect of the emotional side of fisting. 20.Patience The penetrating partner must be able to be very, very patient with the penetrated partner during the slow process of fisting. A lack of patience can lead to physical damage to the penetrated partner. 21.Who's In Charge? The penetrated partner is always the one who is in charge during the act of fisting. The penetrating partner must allow the penetrated partner to set the pace and decide when he or she has reached his or her limit. 22.Sanitation Sanitation and cleanliness is very important to fisting. This is especially true of anal fisting. Be sure that you are clean and use the proper precautions. 23.Health Problems Health problems can occur from fisting. This act should be reserved for only occasional times and should never be done quickly. Otherwise, severe muscular damage can result. 24.Pleasure – Vaginal Fisting Pleasure derived from vaginal fisting comes from both the penetration, the feeling of being full, and from stimulation of the g-spot. 25.Pleasure – Anal Fisting Pleasure during anal fisting is generally derived from the penetration and full feeling for women. In men, the prostate is stimulated by the penetration. 26.Birth Vaginal fisting is easier to perform on a woman who has given birth. This is because her vagina has stretched to pass the child making it a bit wider than average. 27.The Process The process of anal or vaginal fisting should be done very slowly. Some people require more time to adjust to each phase than others do. 28.Preparation Preparation for fisting involves cleaning, relaxing, and plenty of reassurance. The most important thing to remember is that sanitation is number one. 29.Enemas 69

For anal fisting, the penetrated partner will want to give themselves an enema before beginning. This will clean out the lower intestine and make for a cleaner anal cavity. 30.Washing For both anal and vaginal fisting, washing is incredibly important. The vagina and anus should be thoroughly washed before beginning. Also, the penetrating partner should wash his or her hands. 31.Fingernails It is important that the penetrating partner scrubs his or her fingernails and cuts them as short as possible. File your nails so they are smooth to prevent scratching the inside of the vagina or anus. 32.Lubrication Lubrication cannot be underestimated for this act. Plenty of lube should be used. The lube should completely coat the entire hand and vaginal or anal cavity; continue reapplying lube as you continue. 33.Protection Protecting yourself against sexually transmitted diseases should be a major concern during any sexual act, especially fisting. Use long latex gloves to protect the hand and vagina or anus from germs. 34.Start SLOWLY Never try to insert your entire fist directly into the vagina or anus. This will cause serious physical damage to the penetrated partner. Instead, use the following techniques and continue slowly using the penetrated partner's reactions as a guide. 35.Fingers Begin by inserting one finger at a time into the vagina or anus. As your partner adjusts to the sensation, add another finger until you have all four fingers inside. 36."Duck Bill" Fold your thumb into your hand to create a hand position that closely resembles a duck bill. Slowly push a little further to insert all four fingers and the thumb. Fold you hand as much as you can at assist in the insertion. 37.Knuckles The hand is the widest at the knuckles, so this will be the most difficult part of the hand to accommodate. Slowly push your hand into the orifice past the knuckles. 38.Entire Hand

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Once the knuckles have entered the orifice, slowly slide the rest of the hand into the orifice. Try not to scratch or hurt the penetrated partner's vaginal or anal walls. 39.Going Further After your entire hand has entered the vagina or anus, you can try to push up a little further if the penetrated partner desires it. 40.Making A Fist Slowly and gently, move your fingers down towards your hand being careful not to scratch the vaginal or anal walls. As your fingers touch your palm, make a fist. 41.Movements Make small movements with your fist inside the vagina or the anus. Do not make any fast movements as this can cause damage. Take cues from the penetrated partner to find out what feels good. 42.NEVER THRUST Never, ever thrust into the penetrated partner with your fist once your hand is inside the vagina or anus. This can cause serious physical damage. 43.Time Some people may not be able to accommodate an entire fist – or even more than a finger or two – on the first try. Take some time over the course of several sessions to open your partner up before "going all the way". 44.Communication Communication is key to any sexual encounter, but it is absolutely essential to fisting. The penetrated partner must tell the penetrating partner how it feels and if there is any pain. The penetrating partner must listen. 45."Good Hurt" A "good hurt" is the kind of sexual pain that some people feel during intense sexual acts. This is the kind of pain that is to be expected and enjoyed during fisting. 46."Bad Hurt" A "bad hurt" is bad pain that is not sexual in nature. This is a signal that fisting should stop. Only the penetrated partner can decide the difference between these two hurts. 47.Afterwards

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LOOKING SEXY TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Who? Either partner can try to look sexy for the other partner. This is definitely not limited to women, though typically it is women who take this burden solely on themselves. 2. Men Men can look sexy by taking care of themselves, making sure they pay attention to their appearance, and come across as happy and confident. 3. Women For women, coming across as confident is the hardest part of looking sexy. Other aspects like taking pride in her appearance are easier for women. 4. What? Looking sexy is the practice of the art of seduction. To look sexy, you must seduce with your body and not just your charisma and charm. 5. Where? You can look sexy at any time. Of course, lingerie should be left in the bedroom, but other ways to look sexy like dressing for your body size and being confident work everywhere. 6. At Home Home is the easiest place for most people to look sexy. For first timers, this is where you should start. The bedroom is the most commonly used place, though the bathroom works well, too. 7. On A Date On any date, you will want to be aware of your appearance and confidence. Looking sexy on a date can come in every aspect, from clothing to confidence. 8. At A Movie At the movies with your partner, try to dress in a way that is sexy but leaves something to the imagination. For women, low tops and good fitting jeans work well. For men, shirts that accentuate the shoulders and arms work well. 9. At A Restaurant Get dressed up to go out to dinner! This is one of the easiest ways to look sexy on any date, especially to a restaurant. Women should try skirts, men should try ties. 73

10.On A Picnic On a picnic, dress lightly and according to the weather. It will be warm if you are eating outside, so women should try a sundress and men should try shorts. 11.In The Bedroom It is slightly easier to look sexy in the bedroom for some people because the clothing is either something skimpy or nothing at all. Women should try lingerie; men should try silk boxers or nothing at all. 12.When? The best time to try looking sexy is when you are feeling sexy. Never try to force yourself to feel sexy. This can make it very hard to exude the necessary self confidence. 13.Right Now Look sexy right now! Nothing is sexier than surprising your partner with a sexy outfit at an unexpected time! 14.Tomorrow Take some time to plan your sexy outfit or encounter. Go out and buy some special undergarments or run a bubble bath and get in before your partner comes home from work. 15.Tonight Try planning something out quickly, and then surprise your partner when he or she comes home this evening. Fix a special dinner and put on a nice outfit! 16.Your Anniversary For your upcoming anniversary, plan a special night and find the perfect outfit. Buy special clothes from the undergarments to the shoes and surprise your partner with a sexy strip tease. 17.His/Her Birthday Fix the birthday boy or girl his or her favorite meal and serve it in a fancy outfit, a sexy costume, or special undergarments or lingerie.

18.Sex Appeal Sex appeal is the biggest thing that you can exude to get your partner's sexual attention. Looking sexy helps you with your sex appeal. 19.Appearance The first step in looking sexy is paying attention to your physical appearance. This does not mean that you have to be a supermodel to look sexy. Rather, you can play on your own best attributes. 74

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SEX GAMES TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Board games Board games are a lot of fun when you incorporate some stripping or sexual activity! 2. Checkers Take out your checkers board and start playing. As soon as you or your partner gets to the end of the board, in addition to "kinging" the piece, take off an article of clothing. 3. Trivial Pursuit You aren't playing for pieces of the pie here – you are playing for nudity! If you get a question wrong, you have to take off an article of clothing. If you get a piece of pie, your partner has to take off something! 4. Monopoly When you land on your partner's property, you have to pay with a piece of your clothing. Or to make the game last longer, start with flashes, move to stripping, and then proceed to sex acts! 5. Card Games Card games can be fun because they distract you and keep your hands busy the whole time! Strip poker, anyone? 6. Blackjack One person is the dealer; the other person is the player. After the dealer deals the first card, make a bet for a piece of clothing or sex act, then deal the next card. Whoever loses has to perform the act or lose the clothes. 7. Poker Deal the cards, assess the cards you have been dealt, and then make your bets. Bets start out low, with a flash being a low bet, a piece of clothing being a medium bet, and a sex act being a high bet. 8. Dice Games Dice games, like card games, keep your mind and hands busy while still providing plenty of nudity and sexuality. 9. Mix & Match Assign body parts numbers 1 through 6. Assign sex acts numbers 1 through 6. Roll two dice, and then determine what act will be performed on what body part. 10. Mix & Minutes 76

Assign sex acts numbers 1 through 6. Then roll two dice. Determine form one die what act has been rolled, then from the other die how many minutes it will go on. 11. "Drinking Games" Most college kids have played drinking games that involve some type of game where the loser drinks a shot or a beer as punishment. Substitute the alcohol for sex acts or articles of clothing! 12. Quarters Quarters involves bouncing a quarter off the table and into a glass. If you make the shot, your partner has to lose and article of clothing. If you don't make it, you lose some clothing. 13. Other Games Other games that many kids play can be turned sexual if you are creative. Below a few of these games are listed, but it is by no means an exhaustive list. Be creative! 14. Hang Man Decide on an article of clothing or idea for a sex act. Lay it out in blank lines à la Hang Man, and then have your partner guess letters as usual. If he or she guesses correctly, you perform the act on him or her. If not, you receive the act. 15. Tic Tac Toe Draw a tic tac toe board. Instead of X's and O's, use little penises or breasts! Decide beforehand what the "punishment" will be for losing: stripping, a sex act, whatever – be creative! 16. Red Light/Green Light Have your partner stand in front of you ready to strip. Say "green light" to allow him or her to start, and say "red light" to have him or her freeze. If he or she messes up, a sex act is performed. 17. Darts Play darts as usual (preferably in your own home and not in public). Make bets along the way about hitting certain numbers. A bull's-eye is intercourse; assign acts to other scores. 18. Staring Contest Both you and your partner take all of your clothes off. Stand right in front of each other but do not touch. Stare into each others eyes without looking at each other's bodies. If someone looks down, a sex act is performed. 19. TV/Movies

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TV shows and movies are great ways to inspire you. Use a TV show or movie you both know well, or one that you don't know! 20. Words Before watching the TV show or movie, decide on a word or phrase. Every time the word is said, you have to kiss, touch, lick, etc, another body part. 21. Actions Every time a certain character on the TV show or movie does a specific action, you and your partner have to kiss, touch, etc. Each of you can choose a different action, too. 22. Sports Scores If you and your partner are sports fans, bet on a game or a particular score. Or, each of you picks a team. When your team scores, your partner performs a sex act; when his or her team scores, you perform an act. 23. Porn Porn is a great inspiration for sexual encounters. Turn on a porno that both you and your partner find erotic. Act out the scenes together. 24. Scavenger Hunt Go out and buy some sex toys or other sexy objects. Hide them around the house and then have your partner search for them. Whatever he or she finds is used. 25. Happy Trail – Clothing, version 1 Before your partner comes home, arrange a long pathway of your clothing. Hide somewhere completely naked and let your partner find you by your clothing trail. 26. Happy Trail – Clothing, version 2 Hide somewhere naked before your partner comes home, leaving your clothes in a trail as described above. Leave him or her a note to take off the same article of clothing when he or she reaches yours. 27. Happy Trail – Rose Petals Leave a long trail of rose petals and very sexually explicit notes for your partner. The trail should lead to wherever you are hiding in some sexy outfit. 28. Alphabet Have your partner lie naked on the bed or floor. Starting with "A", massage body parts that start with that letter. Switch places. 29. Spelling Bee 78

Have your partner lie naked on the bed or floor. Trace words on his or her back or belly. The words should be sexual in nature. Have him or her guess the words. 30. Creative Writing Trace descriptive sentences about what you want your partner to do to you on your partner's naked body. 31. Questionnaire – Places Make up a questionnaire for your partner to answer. Ask about places to have sex, places he or she has had sex, and where he or she wants to have sex. 32. Questionnaire – Fantasies Create a questionnaire that asks about your partner's fantasies. Make suggestions and get his or her opinions on them. 33. Questionnaire – Body parts Write out a questionnaire that asks about different parts of his or her body and your body. Ask about activities having to do with these body parts. 34. Questionnaire – Activities Create a questionnaire that asks about different sexual activities. Ask about where these activities should take place and how. 35. "Once Upon A Time…" Begin a story, "once upon a time" and create a fairy tale about you and your partner that incorporates a fantasy. 36. "Once Upon A Time" version 2 Begin a story, "once upon a time" as described above, but stop in the middle of a scene and let your partner take over the storytelling. Switch back and forth. 37. Restaurant Make a meal for your partner. Before he or she comes home, lay naked on the table and put the food on your body. Have your partner eat the meal off your naked body. 38. Timers Set a timer for 5, 10, or 20 minutes. Start a sex act and continue it until the timer goes off. Start with kissing, and move to more exciting acts. 39. Food There are a myriad of possibilities when it comes to sex games involving food. Try real food, edible body paint, or edible underwear.

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40. Main Courses Take different types of food from your main course and eat it off of your partner's body. Soup can be licked off, as can peanut butter and jelly or any kind of spread. 41. Desserts Whipped cream. Ice cream. Chocolate sauce. Fruit. Pie filling. Icing. Marshmallow cream or fluff. Almost any type of dessert can be eaten off your partner's body. 42. Clothing Toss – Basketball Sit or stand a short distance from a laundry basket. Begin to take off your clothes and then toss each article of clothing into the basket. Bet sex acts on whether or not you will make it. 43. Clothing Toss – Bed post Like ring toss, find some post or something to catch your clothes. You have to get the article of clothing over the post to win. 44. Clothing Toss – Penis Have the man stroke himself (or the partner can stroke him) until he has an erection. The other partner then tosses undergarments at his penis and tries to get them to hang from his penis. 45. Shopping – Mall Decide before you leave the house what items you are looking for and what they mean. For example, finding a purple t-shirt means you receive oral sex. Finding a green hat means that your partner gets oral sex. 46. Shopping – Grocery Store The rules are the same as above, but this time the items should be things you can find in a grocery store. 47. Technology Technology has established all kinds of great ways to flirt with your significant other and provides great games to play. 48. Instant Messages Have a sexy and romantic conversation with your significant other on an instant messenger program. 49. Text Messages While you and your partner are at work, send each other provocative and sexually charged text messages on your cell phones. 50. Picture Mail Again, while you and your partner are at work, send each other sexually explicit photos. Be sure to erase these later! 80

51. Music Music is a great inspiration. Use music that you and your partner like to set the mood and to play sexy games. 52. Stripping Put on a song that you really like and that has a fun, fast beat. Put on a strip show for your partner. 53. Dancing Alone If you are embarrassed about stripping in front of your partner, try just dancing in a sexy way with your clothes still on. 54. Dancing Together Put on a piece of slow music and dance naked with your partner. Try not to touch each other's genitals but do a lot of kissing and body rubbing.

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EROTIC MASSAGE FOR TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. How? Doing an erotic massage on your partner involves a good deal of ease on both your parts. The most important thing is to find a relaxing and comfortable position. 2. Positions The position of both you and your partner are very important because you want to be sure that you are both relaxed and able to enjoy the massage. 3. Positions – Receiver The receiver generally wants to be laying down for their massage. Some people like to sit up, and this is fine, too. 4. On Belly The receiver should lie on his or her belly with his or her arms under his or her head to support the head and keep the face from being buried in the bed. 5. On Back When lying on his or her back, the receiver should lay however is most comfortable. Use a pillow if it helps. 6. Legs Open The receiver should have his or her legs open a little bit, especially when the giver is doing a leg massage. 7. Positions – Giver The giver's position is especially important because he or she will be doing all of the work. Try to find a way to sit that makes you comfortable. 8. Straddle For a back massage, the best way to sit is to straddle your partner and sit lightly on his or her buttocks. 9. Between Legs As you move down your partner's body, position yourself between your partner's legs so you can reach his or her buttocks and legs. 10. On the Side For front body massages, you may find it easiest to sit to your partner's side. This gives you easy access to all body parts. 11. Awkward Positions

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Remember that for both parties, sitting or lying awkwardly can lead to physical discomfort and the inability to relax. 12. Thumbs Use your thumbs to go a little deeper into the massage. If your partner has a core spot he or she would like you to rub, try using your thumb. 13. Fingers The fingers are the most often used parts of the hand for erotic massage. The fingers can give all different levels of pressure. 14. Fingertips Using your fingertips for erotic massage is the best way to give you partner little tickles or gentle, sexy touches. 15. Knuckles The knuckles are best used for areas where you partner wants more pressure. 16. Palms Use the palms of you hands to rub and massage any part of your partner. The pressure from the palms is harder than the fingers but lighter than the thumbs and knuckles. 17. Fists The fists offer a lot more pressure than any other part of the hands. They can, however, be used for medium pressure as well. 18. Tongue Once you and you partner are more "in the mood", try using your tongue to draw small circles on your partner's thighs, neck and lower back. 19. Scalp A scalp massage is best done with the fingers or fingertips. This should be done gently. 20. Neck The back of the neck can be a very erotic place for some people. Use your fingers to rub and your fingertips to tickle. Try suing your tongue here. 21. Upper Back The upper back requires a little more pressure; use your palms or knuckles to rub and then use your fingertips to tickle. 22. Middle Back The middle back generally doesn't need as much pressure – just some lightly tickles and some rubbing with the palms should work. 83

23. Lower Back The lower back may need some more pressure; use your knuckles or palms to rub, and then follow it up with some light tickles. Use your tongue here, too. 24. Shoulders Some people's shoulders get very tense. Rub with a lot of pressure using fists and knuckles. 25. Sides Some people are very ticklish on their sides. If you partner likes to be tickled, do so lightly. If not, you may want to avoid this area. 26. Bottom Depending on the person receiving the massage, you can rub the buttocks hard using your palms and fingers. Tickling feels good here, too. 27. Spine The spine should be massaged very gently. For most people, soft, gentle tickles are perfect here. 28. Legs The legs can be massaged gently or a little harder, depending on your partner's requests. Tickles or using your tongue on the thighs is very erotic. 29. Arms The arms can also be done hard or soft, according to your partner's wishes. Tickles feel great after a massage or as the massage. Use your tongue on the inside of the elbow. 30. Feet If your partner has very sensitive feet, you may need to avoid this area. Rubbing with the palms and fingers and tickling with the fingertips is great here. 31. Hands Use your fingers to rub your partner's palms and use your thumbs to rub the backs of their hands. Also massage their fingers. Tickles feel great on the palms. 32. Chest For men, the chest can be rubbed with the fingers. For men and women, the chest can be lightly tickled. Use your fingertips and tongue to tickle your partner's nipples. 33. Breasts 84

The breast should not be rubbed hard unless this is something your partner requests. Light, gentle touches are best, followed by gentle tickles or licks. 34. Belly Some people have very sensitive bellies, so try not to tickle if your partner is very ticklish. Run your fingertips over his or her belly; do not rub. 35. Pubic Area The goal of erotic massage is not orgasm, so try to avoid stimulating the genitals. Run your fingertips over your partner's hips and pubic area. 36. Tickles Tickles are quick fingertip movements that produce a ticklish reaction. This can be extremely erotic. 37. Light Tickles Light fingertips movements that are both more gentle and slower are light tickles. 38. "Run" Using your fingertips, run your fingers along your partner's body; this is like one long tickle sensation. 39. "Type" Use your fingertips to "type" on your partner's body. This provides many small pressure spots. 40. Rub Use any part of your hand to put a little bit of pressure on larger body parts. 41. Small Circles When you are rubbing your partner, use small circular motions to massage the muscles. 42. GENTLY! Be very gentle! If you are not a masseuse, you could hurt your partner if you are too rough. 43. Pressure Use gentle pressure on your partner's body unless he or she requests otherwise. Never put too much pressure on delicate body parts. 44. Oil

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Use oil on your partner's body to lubricate the massage. Some oils are made for erotic massage while others are aromatherapy oils for romance or relaxation. 45. Lotion Lotion also works very well to lubricate an erotic massage. Find a scent you both like. Look into aromatherapy lotions for romance or relaxation. 46. Communication Using good communication with your partner is the only way to successfully massage him or her. Have your partner tell you what he or she likes and what feels good. 47. Relaxation Relaxation for both people involved makes for a very sensual and erotic encounter. It also helps get both of you "in the mood"!

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HOW TO END PREMATURE EJACULATION TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. What? Premature ejaculation is when a man cannot wait to have an orgasm – instead he ejaculates almost immediately. It can be caused by a number of things, not the least of which are mental blocks. 2. When? Premature ejaculation happens in the bedroom during any sexual activities but is most inconvenient during intercourse. 3. Why? Premature ejaculation can happen for any number of reasons. These reasons can be different for every man. 4. Inexperience Inexperience can be a cause of premature ejaculation. Most men experience this problem the first time they have intercourse. Be more aware of your body during intercourse to combat this problem. 5. Youth Youth is another big factor in the cause of premature ejaculation. In general, the younger you are the less sexual experience you have. 6. Sensitivity Being aware of sensations can help you to beat your premature ejaculation problem. Over sensitivity can be a cause. 7.

Nervousness For men who do not have a lot of experience or for younger men, nervousness can really pose a problem in their staying power. Discuss your feelings with your partner.

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Anxiety Anxiety in general can be a cause of premature ejaculation. If you are feeling anxious about anything, even if it is not about the sexual act, you can have a problem.

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Performance Anxiety Performance anxiety can not only cause you to have a problem getting an erection, it can also cause you to ejaculate too soon. Talk to your partner about his or her likes to find out how to please him or her.

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Anything that takes your primary focus from sex will ultimately affect your performance in the bedroom. 11. Anger Any strong emotions can affect your sexual performance, and anger can have a surprisingly strong effect. Discussing your anger with the person you are angry with or with your partner can help with this scenario. 12. … With Your Partner If you are angry with your partner or you have just had a fight with him or her, you may experience issues with premature ejaculation. 13. … With A Coworker Problems at work or an argument with your boss can cause your mind to be elsewhere during sex, thus causing early ejaculation. 14. … With A Friend/Family Member Arguments with family members or friends tend to cause stress and this stress will often interfere with your sex life. 15. Fear If you are afraid of the consequences of sexual intercourse, you may very well experience some problems with premature ejaculation. 16. Pregnancy Getting your partner pregnant – or in the cases of some couples, not getting your partner pregnant – can be a cause for premature ejaculation. Use protection to combat this cause. 17. Getting Caught If you and your partner have decided to have intercourse in a racy or "dangerous" place, you may be afraid of getting caught. If you can't handle the heat, don't have sex in the kitchen! 18. Diseases/STDs Fear of contracting a disease can be a huge cause for premature ejaculation. Use a condom to help fix this problem. 19. Shame Some people, especially people who were raised in very religious families, may have some shame associated with sex. 20. Religious Guilt Religious guilt is the most common type of shame. Discuss your feelings with your religious leader and with your partner. 21. Creams

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Desensitizing creams are a little tricky. They go on your penis directly and are rubbed all over. Be sure to wear a condom or your partner may end up desensitized, too. 22. Sprays Desensitizing sprays are the same as creams, except they are a little easier to apply. Again, use a condom so your partner doesn't have to feel it, too. 23. Pills There are tons of different premature ejaculation remedies in pill form out there. The trick is finding the right one for you. 24. Herbs Some people like to rely on herbal supplements to cure their premature ejaculation problems. Keep in mind that these have not been reviewed by the FDA. 25. Rx Some doctors will write you a prescription for a drug that can help cure your premature ejaculation. There are side effects with any drug, so keep this in mind. 26. Hypnosis A lot of people rely on hypnosis to help them cure problems that are mental or emotional in nature. There are videos and CDs of these processes available almost anywhere. 27. Exercise Some people find that doing physical exercise helps them to beat their problems with premature ejaculation. It also helps lower your stress level which helps, too. 28. Kegel Exercises Squeezing and releasing your pubococcygeal muscle or PC muscle can strengthen this muscle and thus give you more control over your ejaculation. 29. Relaxation Relaxation techniques like yoga, meditation, and using aromatherapy oils and candles can really help you to relax and enjoy intercourse instead of feeling stressed by it. 30. Therapy For a lot of emotional problems and mental blocks, many men rely on professional help from a therapist. Therapy can at the very least help you to identify your underlying problem.

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31. Awareness Be aware of the sensations in your body during intercourse. Learning to know your body is the best way to prevent premature ejaculation. 32. Recognizing Your Status With awareness comes the responsibility to know where your body is at any given moment during sex. Knowing your status when moving toward orgasm will assist you in curing your problem. 33. Communication Communicating with your partner is a great first step in solving your premature ejaculation problem. Ask your partner to help you cure your problem. Working together can be erotic and successful. 34. Health Problems There are a few health problems that could be contributing to your problems with premature ejaculation. See a doctor if you think you may have a physical problem. 35. Prostate Problems A prostate problem or infection can lead to premature ejaculation. Have your doctor perform a prostate exam to ensure that you are healthy. 36. General Problems The biggest and most common problem you will face as a result of your premature ejaculation problem is the lack of sexual fulfillment. 37. Sexual Fulfillment – You You may not feel sexually fulfilled if you experience premature ejaculation because you are not enjoying the building of your orgasm. 38. Sexual Fulfillment – Your Partner Your partner may not feel sexually satisfied because you are not able to penetrate long enough to elicit an orgasm. 39. Helping Your Partner Helping your partner with his problem will not only assist him in curing the problem but will also let him know you are supportive! 40. STOP! If you feel you are getting close to orgasm too quickly, stop what you are doing immediately. This will help prolong your ejaculation. 41. Go SLOWLY! Start slowly. Continue slowly. As you progress through the sex act, take things one step at a time. Take time to feel your arousal. 42. Foreplay 90

The biggest mistake a lot of couples make is skipping foreplay. Foreplay can help prolong your arousal and can allow you more time in all three phases of arousal. 43. During Intercourse During intercourse, enter very slowly but do not start to thrust for a minute or so. Thrust once, and then stop. Thrust twice, and then stop. Build up to full thrusting like this. 44. Afterwards As a partner of someone with premature ejaculation problems, you need to be reassuring after sex. Even if the technique used that time didn't work, let him know it's okay. 45. Encouragement Encourage your partner to continue his efforts to cure his problem with premature ejaculation.

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ROMANTIC TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Why Romance? Spending time with your partner in a romantic way or setting can invigorate a relationship and keep the sparks hot as time goes by. Romance is great not only for new relationships but also for long time relationships. 2. Anticipation Most people love to anticipate what is going to happen; they enjoy mystery. When you have something special planned for him or her, keep it a secret. Just give him little teasers that you have something in store for him but don't reveal everything. He will love it. Women, especially, love the thrill of anticipation. 3. Back Rubs A simple back rub can do wonders to bring someone back to life. One of the keys to good sex is relaxation. Back rubs can help in that area a lot. 4. Music Playing relaxing music can often lead to your mate wanting to be more intimate with you. Music has a way of relaxing a person be they male or female. 5. Wine and dine This romantic never gets old – wine and dine your partner. Take them out to eat, drink a little, laugh a lot, and you'll both be ready to come home. 6. Touch Trying to touch your partner as much as possible will help them start feeling those romantic feelings. Just brush her arm or shoulder as you walk by. 7. Massage Whether you rub their feet or their shoulders, a massage is always a romantic way to say that you care. 8. Dress up when they're not expecting it Try to show your partner that you care what they think – even if you're been together for decades. Wear his or her favorite outfit and then whisk them away for a date. 9. Kissing Game Tell your mate that you are going to kiss them 100 times. Kiss them softly, all over his or her body, paying particular attention to neck and ears and hands. 10.

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Nothing takes the place of sincerity and meaningfulness. Be playful whenever you like, but make sure to save some time for gazing into each other's eyes or for tender touching. 11. Take a Walk Another favorite that can be very romantic is to talk a walk together. If you have a special place, go there. Share your thoughts with each other as you stroll along and don't be afraid to bring up the subject of sex.

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THREESOMES TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. What are threesomes? Threesomes are sexual encounters where three people take part rather than the usual two people. In some cases there are two males and one woman, in other cases there are two women and one male.

2. Before a threesome Before a couple embarks on a threesome there are many things that need to be discussed. Here are a few of the more important ones. 3. Strengthen or Weaken Will being in a threesome strengthen or weaken your current relationship? For some couples, the introduction of a third party can be detrimental to the relationship and may even end the relationship. For other couples, the addition of another person may strengthen the relationship. The time to determine which may happen to your relationship is prior to the threesome. 4. Deciding on the other party You need to discuss with your mate if the added person will be male or female. It is good to discuss why this choice is being made. 5. Bi-Sexual Tendencies You should not be ignorant of the fact these arrangements often include some form of bi-sexual activities. This, too, needs to be discussed prior to the session. 6. Healthy Issues It is vital that all parties agree to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases and that all parties be free of any disease. 7. Finding the third person You and your mate should discuss how you will find the third person. You may already have someone in mind or you may not. This is an important decision and it should be discussed in as much detail as possible. 8. Temporary or Permanent Some threesomes are more or less one night stands. Other threesomes are more long term in nature. It is usually a good idea to at least talk about this beforehand. You may not be able to come to a definitive answer, but the subject needs to be brought up. 9. Live In or Out Some threesomes are more or less family units where they third person stays in the home. The better approach to this for most couples is that the 94

third person leaves after the session. It is vital that you and your mate decide which arrangement is best for you. 10. Other people It is imperative that you consider the other people in your life that may be affected by these arrangements. This might include children, parents, neighbors, etc. 11. Emotional vs. Sex It is often a good idea to discuss what the core reason is for having another person join the relationship. Is it purely for sexual reasons or is there an emotional need that someone needs to have filled by another person? These questions can be difficult to answer or even discuss, but they are important if you care about maintaining your current relationship later on. 12. Break Ups You may discover that your relationship cannot remain intact once another person has joined you and your mate. Many couples end up splitting over these encounters. Make sure you and your mate are both comfortable with this decision. 13. Jealousy There is also the possibility that one person will become jealous over another. This can lead to all kinds of problems. It is good advice to make clear the rules of the game to all parties concerned before you take the plunge. 14. Other Mates If the third person is married and his or her mate finds out about the threesome there can be problems. It is always best to bring in an unmarried third person. 25. Periodic Medical Checks It should be agreed upon at the onset that all parties will have periodic medical checks for STD's and other health issues. You cannot be too overly cautious in this area.

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PHONE SEX TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Why phone sex? Phone sex can be incredibly erotic for some couples. Much of that has to do with the fact that it is a forbidden gesture, something that we are not supposed to do. There are other reasons people enjoy phone sex as well. 2. Long distance relationships For couples who are separated by distance, phone sex may be the only avenue of intimacy that they have. While love letter and sex letters are great too, the voice of your partner on the line can make the experience more personal and enjoyable. 3. Two is better Masturbation is fine at times, but sometimes we want to be with someone else. Being on the phone with your partner is often more satisfying than being alone for sex. 4. Wrong number Make double sure that you are dialing the right phone number. This is important. 5. Wrong person It is always a good idea to make sure that it really is your partner on the other end of the line. This can be very important if there is any chance of someone else answering the phone. 6. Answering Machine Unless you know that it is perfectly safe to do so, you should not leave erotic messages on the answering machine. If your partner comes home with someone and plays it, it may embarrass them to no end. 7. Time Plan If you can, try to arrange a certain time for your phone sex. That way no one will miss the call. It also allows for the other person to ensure privacy if needed. 8. Budget If money is an issue, plan ahead to have a certain amount of time to talk and that is it. Your phone bill can become a monster if you are not careful with this. 9. Not at work It is advisable to avoid phone sex when one of you is at work. In this day and age many companies are monitoring phone calls, regardless of what they may say. Phone sex is not worth losing your job. 96

10. Start slow For most couples, it is better to spend a few minutes just talking. This allows each of you to settle in and move toward the sex itself. 11. Unless. . . You are planning a surprise type of call, which can be very erotic for some people. Some people enjoy the idea of "thinking" that they are talking to a stranger who has called them randomly. 12. Role Playing Phone sex is a great way to use role playing characters. You and your partner may need to discuss this beforehand and set up who is who. 13. You instruct your partner In this method, you basically tell your partner what you want he or she to do to themselves. This may involve touching, positioning, etc. 14. Partner instructs you In this model, your partner tells you what he or she wants you to do as they listen. They can tell you to touch yourself in some fashion or whatever else they want. 15. Blended This is when you and your partner share the instructions but it is good to try not to talk over one another. 16. Scripts You and your partner may want to spend some time writing a script for your phone sex. This works well if you have a fantasy that you want to act out. Your script does not have to be word for word. It can contain notes. 17. Cordless phones You should know that cordless phones can often be listened to by other people who are close to the phone base and listening on another phone. Use a land line whenever possible. 18. Permissions Make sure that you have permission from your partner before you just do a phone sex call on them. Some partners might be upset if you just spring this on them.

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ROLE PLAYING TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. What are role playing games? Role playing games, in this case, are adult games in which the man and the woman each assume the persona of a character. These are popular games today. 2. Role Games in General Role playing games can be very elaborate with costumes and settings or they can be very simple with nothing more elaborate than the people acting in character. 3. Personas Personas are games in which you take on a personality. If you like you can add costumes to the game to make it more fun, but you do not have to. 4. Master and Slave There are many variations of this type of role playing game and this is one of the most popular. There are entire fetish communities that base their games on this type of role playing. 5. Mistress and Slave This is similar to the above except the male is submissive in this one. Again, this is one of the more popular games that adults play. 6. Tutor and Student In this role playing game, one is the tutor and the other is the student. There is usually some form of discipline added to the mix to keep things interesting. 7. Doctor and Patient This is the old game of "playing doctor" in adult form. This can be a lot of fun if you have a few medical items available to use. Surprisingly, this is a very popular game for adults. 8. Cops and Robbers One is the cop and the other is the robber. This game can be a lot of fun as a "crime" is solved and the guilt apprehended. 9. Setting Games Setting games may or may not use personas, but the main difference is that they take place in some place other than the home. 10. Planning Most role playing games require some kind of planning in advance. The best way to accomplish this is to sit down with your mate and talk about what

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kinds of people or places you would find interesting as a role playing scene. Make notes of what each suggests and then pick one or two to try first. 11. Costumes While costumes are not mandatory you can find some wonderful costumes at local costume rental places. Think of your role playing game as a two-person masquerade party. 12. Books You may find it difficult to find books on adult role playing games but you can certainly find books about themes in general. For example, the American Civil War offers many possibilities; cowboy and cowgirls might be interesting for some people. Again, use your imagination. 13. Online Search You may have better luck finding details on particular role playing games by doing an online search. Many fetish type communities have online areas today and they often discuss role playing games. 14. Videos Adult videos are also a good way to get some ideas of what role playing games might interest you and your mate. You can always take the germ of an idea and then expand on it or customize it to fit your needs. 15. Groups There are also online groups that host role playing games in some communities. You may want to look into this for some ideas or to meet other like minded people.

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FOOD & SEX TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Food and Sex Food and sex have long gone together. Some foods have been consider aphrodisiacs over the centuries, but there has been no real evidence to prove that food alone produces better sex. 2. Aphrodisiacs Some foods, like bananas and asparagus were thought to be aphrodisiacs due to their manly shapes, while other foods such as honey were prescribed to newlyweds on their honeymoon. 3. Aphrodisiacs or Good Health You may notice that many of the foods and herbs that have been called aphrodisiacs are very healthy fruits, vegetables and nuts. There is the distinct possibility that the vitamins, minerals, enzymes and anti-oxidants contained in these aphrodisiacs are the real key to a healthy love life. 4. Bananas Bananas are a great source of potassium as well as other minerals and vitamins. Bananas also contain an enzyme called bromelain that enhances male sexual health. 5. Asparagus Asparagus contains folic acid, a B vitamin which is important for a healthy heart and for having healthy babies. This is also an ancient aphrodisiac that has been used by many different cultures. 6. Honey Honey is an easy sugar to digest and contains small amounts of vitamins and minerals that other sugars do not. You can use honey in many ways. Use your imagination. 7. Avocados Avocados contain vitamins, minerals, fiber and phytochemicals. In some cultures, the avocado is considered a love fruit. 8. Chocolate Chocolate is a classic aphrodisiac. Dark chocolate contains anti-oxidants and it also contains phenylethylamine, which is like the neurotransmitter that is stimulated when we fall in love. Chocolate may actually act as an antidepressant and it can be used in so many ways. 9. Figs Figs contain more minerals than most other fruits plus a good amount of fiber. The fig is almost legendary as an aphrodisiac. 100

10. Almonds Almonds are a source of healthy fats and vitamin E. Vitamin E is important for male sexual health. 11. Pine Nuts Pine nuts, like almonds, are a good source of healthy fats and vitamin E. These can be used in various ways and recipes. 12. Black Beans Black beans contain protein, fiber, and folic acid. Black beans also contain tryptophan, an amino acid that relaxes us. 13. Oysters Oysters have long been considered aphrodisiacs and still are. Oysters contain zinc, which is important for sexual health. 14. Strawberries Strawberries are loaded with vitamin C and anti-oxidants that may reduce the risk of breast cancer. When dipped in chocolate you have a very sexy item.

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DIRTY TALK TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. What is dirty talk? Dirty talk is exactly what it sounds like. It is when one or both people talk dirty to the other using words that are usually not allowed in polite conversation. 2. Why use dirty talk? Talking dirty to your mate can be a turn on for some people. It should be noted that some people, male and female, do not enjoy dirty talk. It is best to proceed with some caution if you are not sure about your mate. 3. Nasty words only? Some people think that dirty talk is restricted to using words like, "fuck, suck, bitch, and bastard" but that does not have to be the extend of it. You and your mate can decide what level of "nastiness" is appropriate for you two. 4. Using the pen You can also write down some dirty thoughts and present that to your lover. The shock may be what he or she needs to get the fires lit again. 5. Dirty talk on the phone Be careful about dirty talk on the phone with your partner. You need to know that the line is secure and that no one else is listening or monitoring your call. 6. Dirty talk in bed This is where most dirty talk takes place. For many couples, dirty talk of some form is a prelude to sex while others prefer that the words be used during climax. Again, this is up to the couple. 7. Taped dirty talk If your partner has to take a trip, you may want to record him or her some sexy talk on tape or CD. He or she can take it on the trip and have a reminder of you while away. 8. Communication One of the best ways to learn more about your partner's desire for dirty talk is to sit down and talk about it. This does not have to be a very serious talk; it can be somewhat playful, but it is a good way to get to the bottom of what she or he likes and dislikes. 9. Dislikes If your partner says something to you that you do not like at all, tell him about it. Chances are he or she did not realize that it was over the top. 102

10. Scripts One way to share your desires for dirty talk is to write down the words or phrases that turn you on and share that with your partner. Ask your mate to do the same for you. Exchange your notes and then talk about the words the two of you like.

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LUBRICATION TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Lubrication Uses Lubrication is used for massages and for sexual penetration purposes. It is very important that you use the right lubrication (lube) for the right purpose. 2. Types of Lubrication There are two broad categories of lube: Water-soluble and oil-based. Again, using the right lube is important to the health of you and your partner. 3. Oil Based For purposes of sexual activities you should never use oil based or silicon based oils or lubricants. These types of oils and lubes do not break down and they are often the cause of infections. You should avoid using them altogether. 4. Water Soluble Water soluble oils and lubes will break down within the body and cause no infection within the body when used properly. They are the oils and lube of choice for all sexual activities. They come in scented and unscented varieties. 5. Lubricants for Penetration It is important that you use lubes when you and your partner are planning certain sexual activities. Anal sex, fisting, and vaginal sex when the female is dry are the three most common lube uses. 6. Oil and Lube Change Up? Do not mix your oils or lubes when giving a massage. Whatever water-based oil you begin with is the one you should stay with throughout the entire massage. 7. Adding More Lube It is perfectly okay and advisable to add more lubricant to various parts of the body as you go. If you've been thrusting a lot, the lube can start to 'wear off.' 8. Heat It Up Before you apply the lube or oil put some in your hands and then rub your hands together to warm it up. The friction between your hands is all that is needed to warm the product to a comfortable level. Try to avoid putting cold oil on a person's body. 9. Be Prepared You will need lots of lubricant for a full body massage. Keep your oil close at hand and kept either in a dispenser bottle or in a small bowl. A good lube choice is Astroglide. 104

10. Warming It with Water An easy way to keep your lube warm is to place it in a bowl of warm water while not in use. Remember, however, that as the water in the bowl cools, the lube will cool also. 11. Don't use anything with sugar When you use sugar based products, they can cause a female to get yeast infections. Avoid them.

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SEX TOYS TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. What are sex toys? Sex toys are items that are used to bring about pleasure during sexual encounters. They can be store bought or they can be handmade at home. 2. Where to buy them You can buy sex toys in most sex shops and you can also buy them online. For health reasons, you should not buy used sex toys. 3. Gender toys For the most part, sex toys can be used on either males or females. There are a few exceptions to this, but not many. 4. Dildo There are dozens of types and shapes of dildos on the market today. Some of these are battery operated and some of them have no power source at all. These come in various sizes as well. 5. Clitoral Stimulators There are clitoral stimulators on the market today. These are usually smaller toys that are designed to be used on the clitoris. Most of these are battery operated. 6. G Spot Stimulators There are a lot of sex toys that you can buy that are designed for G spot play. These are designed with a certain shape in mind so as to be effective in reaching the G spot. Again, these come in various styles and some are battery operated. These are great for masturbation purposes when the man is not around. But they work well with couples too. 7. Vibrating Wands These are like the above except that they have a power source and will vibrate when turned on. Many women simply love these things. Couples can play with these or the woman can use it for solo masturbation. Their shape and width is usually much smaller than a regular dildo. 8. Vibrating Eggs These are usually made of metal and are shaped like eggs. Inside the egg are various components that will jiggle around when the toy is turned on. The egg is inserted into the vagina and when the power is turned on the entire egg will cause sensations. Many women find these particularly pleasurable. 9.

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There are a variety of anal play toys. Butt plugs are a popular toy used by many people in the fetish world. There are also anal dildos, which are somewhat smaller and thinner than vaginal dildos. And there are vibrating toys for anal play as well. 10. Discipline Toys There are sex toys designed for discipline as well. Nipple clips, restraints, cock rings are just a few. 11. Penis Stimulators For men there are penis stimulators of various types. Some of these require the penis to be inserted into a tube of some sort while others are used externally on the flesh. 12. Lubrication Most sex toys require some type of lubrication. If this is the case for your toys, make sure that you use only water soluble lubes. Oil based lubes and oils can lead to infections and should be avoided. 13. Cleaning Cleaning of sex toys is very important. Use antiseptic soaps whenever possible and allow your tools to dry completely before use. 14. Free Toys There are items found in most homes that can be used as sex toys. Ice cubes can be used to stimulate nipples and clitoris as well as male shafts. Certain foods such as cucumbers can be used to tease vaginas. Back massagers can be used as vibrators. Look around, you might be surprised at how many toys you already have. 15. Catalogs You can order sex toy catalogs from many reliable companies. This is a great way to spend some time with your mate as you go through the catalog and pick out those that interest you.

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BDSM TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. What is BDSM? BDSM is 'bondage, domination, sadism/submission, and masochism.' This can be a practice that incorporates sex or it can simply be an exchange of power or pain. 2. How do you get started? For most people, getting started in BDSM just means that they start trying out things like handcuffs and silk ties for some bondage scenes, while others like to try rougher sex and dirty sex talk. 3. Try a blindfold To get started in BDSM, you might want to have one partner wear a blindfold during some sexual exchanges. This will allow one person to be in power and the other person to receive whatever the other person wants to try. 4. Try some spanking Not limited to the schoolyard anymore, a few firm slaps on your partner's bottom can be a great way to spice up the bedroom. Try starting with lighter spanking and then progressing to harder spanking if your partner enjoys it. 5. Get out some ties and rope If you're interested in the use of bondage, you just need to try it out to see what works and what doesn't. There are also a lot of instructional books and classes you can take if you want more experience. 6. Domination and submission These kinds of power games involve one person giving over control to another person. Often this is done by having one person in bondage and the other not, but it can also be a mind control situation in which one person tells the other what to do. 7. Choose a safe word Many couples who use BDSM like to incorporate a safe word into their playtime. This allows both partners to have a chance to stop the things that are happening if they become uncomfortable or something hurts. 8. Safety comes first Whether you're tying someone up or spanking them, you need to make sure you are being safe at all times. If you enjoy pain or your partner does, this is fine, but you still need to be aware of what the body can handle and what it can not. 9. Gags

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Many people have seen pictures in which one person in a couple is wearing some sort of gag to bind their mouths. There are dozens of kinds of gags that you can choose from, or a simply piece of athletic tape or a bandana works well too. 10.Using rope You can start trying out bondage ties with rope, but be sure it's not too hard on the skin. Try looking for rope at a hardware store that's been treated with a smooth coating. Or you can also try to find thicker rope which tends to be more forgiving than thinner rope choices. 11. Role playing When you use role playing in a BDSM scene, it can be easier to 'get into' the idea of someone being in charge of someone else. Try the doctor and patient scene or a cop and robber type scenario. 12. Change it up If one of you is usually submissive (or the one being controlled) and the other is dominant, try to switch your roles every now and then if you like. It can help to create a new perspective for both partners. 13. Shop at online stores To get more ideas of what you can do with BDSM, try shopping or looking at online BDSM stores with your partner. They can give you a lot of ideas as well as access to the products you need. 14. No gothic music required. There is no 'right' way to do BDSM and no wrong way – just unsafe ways. You don't need to be serious during a scene and you certainly don't need to wear all black or leather if you don't want to. 15. Whips, crops, floggers If you're looking to change the sensations for your partner, you can try these other implements to give your hand a break during spanking sessions. Many of these items can be found online or at your local horse tackle store. 16. Electro-sex When you're looking to charge up your BDSM play, you can also look into buying a TENS unit for your bedroom. This is a machine that allows you to stimulate certain parts of the body with electricity. But make sure you read the instructions carefully before trying this out. 17. Be creative If you or your partner like to experiment with pain, be sure to look around your house for creative ways to spank or hit your partner. A sturdy kitchen spoon works well as does a clean fly swatter 18. Trust is key 109

If you don't trust your partner, BDSM can become a scary instead of exhilarating experience. Make sure that you talk beforehand about what you want and don't want from the experience to be sure you're both on the same page. 19. Watch your breath Some erotica books and sites will talk about breath play for a BDSM scene, but this should only be attempted if you have a lot of experience and training in the area. Cutting off oxygen to your partner can be dangerous and even deadly. 20. Slave and master? Many people simply use BDSM in their bedroom, but do not use it outside f the bedroom. Whether you want to extend your scene to your everyday life, that's up to you. But many couples do.

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SEX IN PUBLIC PLACES TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Why sex in public? Many couples find it very exciting to have some form of sex in public places. The fact that they might get caught is usually the big thrill. For others, it is the fact that they are doing something forbidden that turns them on. 2. Use caution Sex in public might be fun for some couples but it is often illegal as well. If you get caught, you might be cited or even arrested. Be prepared for that. 3. No kids allowed Performing sex in public where children are present is a big no-no. This is the kind of activity that can have very serious consequences if you are busted. Your names can appear in newspapers or on the local news. You can literally go to prison for this. 4. Communication It is always a good idea to discuss any plans for public sex activities with your partner. He or she may be completely opposed to the idea and you must respect his or her wishes. 5. Planning If you and your mate do wish to have sex in public, sit down and make out some type of plan. Discuss the places where you think you want to have sex, discuss whatever items you may need (such as blankets), and discuss what will happen if you get arrested. It is a good idea to have bail money readily available for both of you. 6. Don't be stupid Let's face it, if you and your mate are humping under a blanket on a crowded beach, chances are someone is going to be annoyed and called the police. What you and your mate find exciting others may find disgusting. If you have sex in public and get caught, don't whine about it. Take your lumps and be adults about it. 7. Seclusion You can have sex in public without actually being a public attraction. There are many places where you and your mate can enjoy each other while not being a spectacle to others. Wooded areas, lakeside beaches with private areas and other areas that offer at least some privacy are ideas that may work for you. 8. Masturbation For many couples, the act of masturbating the other partner is just as exciting as full blown intercourse. Masturbation is usually much safer as well. 111

You can masturbate your partner in many places that would otherwise be impossible to have sex. You will usually need something to cover him or her as you do this. 9. Planes, trains, and buses You can masturbate your partner on several forms of public transportation as long as you are careful about it. A blanket, towel, or newspaper can be used to cover the genitalia. 10. Automobiles Many couples have masturbated each other while in the car. While this is a popular way of doing things, it should be done carefully so as to avoid wrecking the car. The safest way to have sex of any form in a car is to pull over and park somewhere.

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KAMA SUTRA POSITIONS TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Read the book Finding a book on Kama sutra is probably the easiest way to start adding these techniques to your bedroom time. You can simply flip to a new page everyday to see what else you can learn. 2. Where does Kama sutra come from? Ancient India seems to be responsible for the Kama sutra positions that are used often today. Intertwined with the practice of working with personal energy, the Kama sutra is meant to help two people become spiritually as well as sexually intimate. 3. Diamond position Have the female get on top of the male like you would normally in a reverse missionary position, but then have the woman either sit up as straight as possible on the penis or leaning slightly back. This will stimulate her g spot as well as give him the feeling of more friction. 4. On the side Have the woman lie on her side while the male takes her top leg and puts it on his shoulder, then he can thrust into her from this position while he is kneeling around her bottom leg. 5. Put her legs in the air Have the female partner lie on her back, but put her legs together on one of the man's shoulders. Then he can kneel in front of her as he thrusts into her from this tight and erotic position 6. Bend over Have the male stand behind the female and have her bend over as far as she can go, as though she were going to touch her toes. This creates the perfect position for deep and intense penetration. 7. Make up your own Kama sutra The real key to Kama sutra is that you simply try to move each of your bodies in as many positions as possible. Try bending out or entering from different angles to see what other new positions you can come up with. 8. Deep breathing goes along with it When many people are close to orgasm, they can slow their breathing in order to let the feelings of orgasm wash over them. But if you continue to breathe deeply at this point, you can cause the orgasm to last longer. 9. Up up and away

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Have the female lie on the edge of the bed as the man pulls her legs up to his hips with his hands as he enters her from behind. The woman should be facing downward on the bed and holding onto something so that she doesn't slide off. 10.Clench your muscles When you're doing any position, clenching your PC muscles (for women) is the best way to intensify the experience. Simply hold in the muscles that allow you to urinate as your partner is thrusting. Calling attention to what you are doing is the ultimate Kama sutra technique.

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ADDING SPICE TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. What? Adding spice to your sexual encounters involves experimentation. Whether you are a strictly missionary-style couple, or you have done some kinky stuff, you can find something new to try. 2. Why? Adding a little spice to your sexual relationship with your partner can reignite a flame of passion that you may have thought went out long ago. 3. Oral Sex For those who have never tried it, oral sex can be a huge experimental step. Using your mouth on your partner's sex organs is intimate and erotic. 4. Cunnilingus Cunnilingus is oral sex performed on a woman. A woman's partner will lick or gently suck her labia and clitoris to stimulate the woman and make her climax. 5.

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For those who have moved past the above activities, you can move on to trying different sexual positions for intercourse. 11. Sexual Positions Try rear entry positions like "Doggy Style" or "Reverse Cowgirl". Try having the female partner get on top for "Reverse Missionary", or try a standing position. 12. For The Kinky Once you and your partner are more comfortable with experimentation, you can move on to some other, more taboos activities. 13. Sex Toys Using sex toys like dildos, vibrators, strap-on dildos, or anal beads can add an interesting and kinky aspect to sex. Plus, it can help when one partner has difficulties achieving orgasm. 14. Dirty Talk During intercourse, graphically describe what you are doing to your partner or what you want to do to your partner. Ask if he or she likes what you are doing and what he or she wants. 15. Fisting Anal and vaginal fisting are very intimate and intense forms of penetration. Caution should be used since putting your entire hand inside your partner's vagina or anus can cause physical problems if it is not done correctly. 16. Anal Sex – Her Anal penetration is very intense but also very gratifying. The penetrating partner uses his fingers, penis or a sex toy to penetrate the woman's anus. 17. Anal Sex – Him Anal sex for men can be orgasmic since the prostate gland is stimulated during penetration. The man can be penetrated with fingers, a sex toy, or his partner's penis. 18. Phone Sex Calling your partner just to talk can be even more fun if you talk dirty. Describe a sexual encounter with your partner on the phone while both of you masturbate. 19. Porn Adding porn to your sexual encounter can be a great way to experiment safely. Find a type of porn you both enjoy and watch before or during sexual relations.

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20. For The Adventurous The following ways of adding spice to your sexual relationship may be over-the-top for some people. If you and your partner are very open in your relationship, try some of the options below. 21. Exhibitionism There are three basic types of exhibitionists: those who like to be seen doing sexual things, those who like to be seen with their partners doing something sexual, and those who like to have sex in public places but do not wish to get caught. 22. Self-Display For those who like to be naked in front of other people or who want to be seen doing sexual things, try leaving your bedroom windows open when you have sex, or perform oral sex on your partner in a crowded parking lot. 23. Couple-Display For couples who like to be watched while having sex, try having sex in a parked car in a busy lot; or try having sex in front of good friends. 24. Public Sex For those who like the thrill of getting caught without actually being seen, try a quiet public bathroom or a safe alley next to a bar or restaurant. 25. Voyeurism If you and your partner like to watch other people have sex, try using porn during sex. Or, ask good friends to have sex while you and your partner watch. 26. For The Curious Some couples have one partner (or both partners) who is curious about having sex with someone of the same gender. Include this in your sexual encounters with your partner. 27. Threesomes Having a threesome is an exciting and erotic way to explore your sexuality. Find a third party for your tryst and go to it! 28. Man/Man/Woman Two men and one woman can provide opportunities for male/male penetration and double penetration of the female. 29. Man/Woman/Woman Two women and a man in a threesome give the woman an opportunity to perform sexual acts on another woman. Activities include lesbian sex, and simultaneous cunnilingus and penetration.

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30. Man x 3 For gay men, having three men together can be very erotic and a great way to experience simultaneous oral sex and anal penetration. 31. Woman x 3 Threesome lesbian sex is a good way for lesbian couples to branch out and experiment. 32. Four Or More If you and your partner have already experimented with a third person, add a fourth or even fifth. Generally, a foursome leads to two sets of partners that trade off during the sexual encounter. 33. Finding The Third (or fourth) Find someone who is either a friend of yours and your partners, or find a stranger to join you. Be sure that you check a stranger's sexual history before inviting him or her to bed with you. 34. For The Imaginative For those couples who have a little talent for acting or just have vivid imaginations, costumes and role playing can be a lot of fun. 35. Role Playing Role playing involves both partners playing different parts that are not their normal professional roles. This can lead to taboo actions, such as sex between a "police officer" and a "criminal". 36. Cops & Robbers One partner pretends to be a burglar and the other partner catches him or her in the act. The police officer says he will let the thief go if the thief performs sexual favors for him. 37. Boss & Employee The employee approaches the boss for a raise. The boss responds by saying the employee can get a raise if he has sex with the boss on the boss's desk. 38. Doctor & Patient The doctor comes into the patient's room and begins and examination, gradually becoming more and more sexual and ending in intercourse. 39. Nurse & Patient The nurse comes in to give the patient a sponge bath. The sponge bath focuses on the patient's genitals and leads to sex. 40. Strangers Go to a bar separately from your partner. Try to "pick up" him or her at the bar as if you were strangers. 118

41. Costumes Using costumes for sexual encounters can make role playing more real; it can also add some simple spice to a regular sexual encounter. 42. Doctor/Nurse Get a long white lab coat and don't wear anything under it. Or, find a nurse's uniform with a short skirt and thigh high stockings. 43. Catholic School Girl Find a short plaid skirt and a button up white oxford shirt. Wear knee socks and penny loafers. Don't wear panties. 44. Cheerleader Find a cheerleader's skirt and top. Buy some pompoms and wear athletic socks and tennis shoes. "Forget" to put on panties and jump around a lot. 45. Professional Athlete Find a professional football or baseball player's uniform and put it on. Combine with the cheerleader costume and do some role playing. 46. Swinging Some couples belong to clubs where the couples in the club swap spouses to have sex for one night. This can be devastating to your relationship, so discuss it thoroughly before trying it.

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KISSING ADVICE TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Why Kiss? One of the lost arts of sex is kissing. Once a couple has been together for a long time, they tend to forget about kissing even though it is an intimate and erotic act. 2. When To Kiss You can kiss your lover or spouse anywhere, anytime, as long as it is tasteful. If you are looking for something a little more erotic, keep it private for the benefit of others. 3. In The Morning When you first wake up in the morning, you may be worried about your breath; but if your partner wants a kiss, lay one on him or her. If you are concerned about bad breath, do a quick brush first. 4. Before Work Before you leave for work in the morning, give your partner a kiss to say goodbye. This not only reassures your partner that you love him or her; it connects you for the rest of the day. 5. In The Afternoon Giving your partner a quick kiss during the day can let your partner know you are always thinking about him or her. 6. After Work A kiss hello after a long day at work can be a good way to reconnect before dinner and any other activities that are planned for your evening. 7. In The Bedroom In the bedroom you can get a little more intimate with your kisses. Since this is often the only alone time that some couples get, make the most of it! 8. Who To Kiss While you can kiss your children, your other family members or even friends, the kiss you give your partner is more intimate and can reconnect you after a long day or a fight. 9. Spouse After you have been married for a while, kissing can fall by the wayside. Surprise your spouse with a long passionate kiss during a free, more private moment. 10. Lover 120

While you and your lover probably have a lot of passion, you may be forgoing the intimacy of kissing. The next time you get together, start with some kissing before getting down to business. 11. Significant Other When you first start dating someone, you probably kiss frequently. Don't let that fire burn out – keep the kissing alive, or rekindle it with a make out session before sex. 12. Where To Kiss Kissing doesn't only involve the lips. You can kiss your partner anywhere; each place you try is more and more enjoyable for both of you! 13. Lip Smacker A peck on the lips is intimate. But, if you want passion, try a lingering, open mouth kiss. 14. Cheek Smooch While cheek kisses may seem impersonal, it is a great way to say thank you or to get a quick kiss in when the kids are around. 15. Erotic Kisses Knowing just where to kiss your partner takes a lot of practice, but no matter if you are a novice or a master, erotic kisses are exciting and enjoyable. 16. Neck Kiss along your partner's neck from his or her earlobe down to the shoulder. Then work your way around the front go his or her neck to the other side and go up to the other earlobe. 17. Shoulders Once you reach the base of your partner's neck, continue down along his or her shoulders. Kiss along the collar bone, or across the back of his or her shoulders from behind. 18. Chest Kissing a man's chest doesn't need to be gentle. You can kiss hard in several different spots, or you can cover every inch with little kisses. Use your tongue, too. 19. Breasts Kissing a woman's breasts takes patience and delicacy. Little, gentle kisses are perfect for the breasts. Feel free to use your tongue. 20. Hickeys

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Hickeys may sound like something that only high school girls need to worry about, but even adults get carried away. Before sucking on your partner's neck, get permission to leave a mark. 21. "Penguin Kisses" A cute, childish way of kissing that is completely new and different for a lot of couples is "Penguin kissing", which is when you rub the tips of your noses together. 22. "Butterfly Kisses" "Butterfly kisses" are a delicate, childish kiss that can be fun and flirtatious. Touch your eyelashes to your partner's and blink your eyes several times. 23. How To Kiss Knowing how your partner likes to be kissed is something that you will need to learn on your own through trial and error. But there are some things that are generally appropriate. 24. Lips Of course, using your lips is the way you kiss. Press your lips lightly to your partner's lips. You can add more pressure to the kiss as you get more comfortable. 25. Open Mouth Kissing Press your lips to your partner's lips. Open your mouth a little and tilt your head to the side so that one of your partner's lips naturally slips between yours, and vice versa. 26. Tongues Using your tongue in a kiss is often called "French kissing". While your lips are pressed to your partner's lips, open your mouth and touch your tongue to your partner's tongue. 27. Deep Tongue Kissing Once you are comfortable with touching your tongue to your partner's tongue while kissing, open your mouth wider and gently lick or rub your partner's tongue with your tongue. 28. Teeth Try to keep your teeth out of the way when kissing. Accidentally biting your partner's lip or tongue can be painful. 29. Spit Swapping When you are kissing with open mouths or French kissing, remember that you and your partner are exchanging body fluids. Be sure both you and your partner are healthy as viruses can be passed this way.

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30. Making Out Making out is basically an extended kissing session that involves using your hands to caress and fondle your partner's body. Even if you are married, making out can be a fun throw-back to high school. 31. Quickies If you and your partner don't have a lot of time to be together during the day, quick little pecks on the lips can be a great way to let each other know that you love each other. 32. Lipstick Women wearing lipstick are often concerned about transferring it to their partner's lips or faces. Try long lasting lipstick, or wear a neutral color. 33. Chapstick Chapstick and other types of lip balm are a great idea, especially if you are prone to dry lips. Kissing scratchy lips is never very fun. 34. Lip Gloss Some women and even some men use lip gloss. Use clear lip gloss if you don't want color to transfer. Or, try flavored glosses to add a sweet surprise to your lips. 35. Your Face Taking care of your face can have more of an effect on your kissing abilities than you know. Keep your face clean and hair free for your partner. 36. Shaving Stubble on a man's face is very uncomfortable for most women. The stubble can rub your partner's face until it is red and almost raw when kissing lasts a long time. 37. Waxing Some men and women like to get rid of excess facial hair by waxing their mustache areas. This is a good option, but remember that the hair has to grow back before it can be waxed again. 38. Close Your Eyes When kissing, you may feel the desire to close your eyes. This makes a kiss more romantic and sensual. 39. Open Your Eyes Opening your eyes during a kiss, or leaving your eyes open during a kiss makes the kiss more passionate and erotic. 40. Slobbering

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One of the biggest mistakes beginners make is drooling too much during kissing. Try not to let your mouth get too watery as slobbering on your partner is rarely a turn on. 41. Licking Some people like to have their lips licked very lightly while they are kissing their partners. However, this can be distracting, so ask your partner before you try it. 42. Sucking Sucking on your partners lips or tongue during kissing can be erotic, but some people find it uncomfortable. Ask your partner before trying it. 43. Sucking Lips If you want to try sucking on your partner's lips, take one of his or her lips in your mouth and lightly suck on it for just a few seconds. 44. Sucking Tongues During French kissing, take your partner's tongue in your mouth and suck gently on it for a second or two. 45. Breath Bad breath is the scourge of the good kisser. If you are a smoker or if you have a history of bad breath, brush your teeth and gargle with mouthwash before kissing. 46. Mints Breath mints can be a life-saving thing when you have bad breath on a date. Try to get sugar free mints, since sugar can cause your bad breath to return as soon as the mint is gone. 47. Gum Use sugar free gum to combat your bad breath when you are anticipating a kissing session. Sugar free gum is better for your teeth and better prevents bad breath returning. 48. Gum – The Don'ts When you are chewing a piece of gum, try not to start kissing while the gum is still in your mouth. Chances are good that your partner doesn't want your used gum in his or her mouth. 49. Sprays Breath sprays can have a great effect on bad breath. Keep a small bottle in your pocket or purse so you have it handy at all times. 50. Public Displays of Affection Many people find public make-out sessions to be a little raunchy. Try to keep passionate kissing out of public view. 124

ADDING PORN TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Pornography Pornography is filmed sex between two or more actors for the sexual pleasure of the observer. 2. What? Pornography is considered taboo or immoral in some places and sensibilities. In order for you and your partner to enjoy porn together, you must both agree that it is erotic and not wrong. 3. Types Of Porn There are many, many different types of porn available. It is important to understand all of these types in order to find the right type for you and your partner. 4. Man/Woman Heterosexual porn involves a man and a woman. This is the most basic type of pornography. Many different sex acts will occurs in these videos, including vaginal penetration, oral sex, and, possibly, anal penetration. 5. Gay Gay porn involves sex between two men. There are many different sex acts that take place, including anal penetration, masturbation and fellatio. 6. Lesbian Lesbian pornography is sex between two women. The sex acts included in these videos range from cunnilingus, penetration with fingers or sex toys, masturbation and some anal penetration. 7. Groups Group sex in porn is very common. This can happen in groups of three people or more. Lesbian and gay porn usually has only women or men, respectively, but some group porn has a mix of men and women. 8. Specialties There are a lot of niche porn categories. These are usually very intense: anal sex, fisting, "cream pies", urination, defecation, double penetration, stockings, costumes, foot fetishes, and many others. 9. Hardcore Hardcore porn is porn that has explicit actions and camera shots. This type of porn is the most popular and well known. 10. Softcore

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Softcore porn has softer action like masturbation or stripping. There is little full nudity and no explicit sex acts are shown closely. 11. Mutual Decision It is important to decide what kinds of porn you and your partner both enjoy. This will ensure that you both enjoy the video. 12. Who? Anyone 18 years old or over can rent or purchase porn. Anyone who finds porn arousing and has a partner who feels the same can enjoy using porn in their sex life. 13. You If you do not find porn arousing, or if you feel that porn is immoral or degrading, you should not attempt to use it in your sexual encounters. Explain your feelings to your partner. 14. Your Partner If your partner does not find porn arousing or exciting, do not try to force him or her into using it in your sexual encounters. Always respect your partner's choices. 15. Where? There are several places where you can find porn. You can purchase it in a store, or find it on cable TV or on the internet. 16. Adult Book Stores Adult book stores sell and sometimes rent porn. Finding the best video for you and your partner may take some time, so do a thorough search of the store. 17. Rental Some adult book stores rent porn; but your best bet is to find a video rental place that rents porn. You can call and ask, or you can just go to the store. Porn videos are usually in a walled off place in the back of the store. 18. Purchase Purchasing a porn video is a good idea if you have already found and watched one that excited you and your partner. They can be expensive, so be careful when buying one you have never seen. 19. Online Looking online for porn is a great way to find it if you are embarrassed about purchasing it or renting it from a store. 20. Finding Porn Online

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Do some research for porn you both like before the moment comes. Knowing what sites have the appropriate content saves you from spending too much time hunting. 21. Free Do an internet search for "free porn". Modify this with whatever type of porn you want; for example, "free gay porn". 22. Subscription Most internet porn sites require that you subscribe to the site to access their materials. Look at porn site reviews to determine if the site is worth your time and money. 23. When? You can use porn in your sexual encounters whenever you want. It can be used as an added bit of spice, or it can be used regularly. 24. Special Occasions Birthdays, holidays, and anniversaries are great times to try something new in the bedroom, and that includes trying porn! 25. Just For The Hell Of It If you and your partner have already decided to try porn, surprise him or her with a porn video any time you want. 26. Every Day Some people like to use porn regularly to spice up their sex lives and to add to the eroticism of the moment. However, try not to let porn be a crutch. 27. When The Kids Aren't Home You should probably not use porn in your sexual encounters when your children are at home. The noise and the arousal factor could be disturbing. 28. Why? Using porn can really add a much needed boost to your sexual encounters when you and your partner have been together for a long time. Or it can be an experiment for newer couples. 29. Fantasies Some people fantasize about having sex while other people are in the room. This allows that to happen but in a situation that can be stopped if a problem arises. 30. Arousal It can be incredibly arousing to watch someone else have sex. This in and of itself is a main reason why many couples like to use porn. 127

31. Education If you and your partner are interested in learning new techniques, porn can be a great tutor. 32. Experimentation Experimentation in your sexual encounters with your partner can be overwhelming. Porn allows you to experiment in a controlled environment. 33. How? The hardest part for most couples is actually using the porn. The best way to do this is to have an open line of communication. 34. Introducing The Topic Begin by introducing your partner to the idea of using porn in your sexual encounters. Explain your reasons and tell him or her how exciting you think it would be. 35. Discussion Be prepared for a serious discussion with your partner about why you want to add porn and how you want to incorporate it. Listen to your partner's opinions and concerns. 36. Opposition You partner might be very upset or hurt by your suggestion. Listen to what he or she has to say and address his or her concerns. 37. Respect Above all, respect your partner's final decision. If your partner doesn't want to use porn, do not force it on him or her. 38. Continuing Dialogue If your partner is unsure about adding porn to your sexual encounters, keep the dialogue open for future discussions. Approach your partner again in a few weeks. 39. Watching Watching porn together can be a very exciting thing even if you are not having sex. It can be a form of foreplay! 40. Listening Listening to porn during foreplay can be very arousing. Hearing someone else's ecstasy could launch your own. 41. Service With A Smile

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Let your partner watch the porn while you perform oral sex on him or her. This can be very erotic, especially if the act on the screen is the act being performed. 42. Watching While Doing Both you and your partner can watch the porn while you are having sex. Try to imitate the actions on the screens. See how long you can last while watching the porn. 43. Listening While Doing Just having the porn on the TV while you are having sex is stimulating, even if you can't see the screen all the time. 44. Watching Then Doing Watch the porn together while touching and fondling each other. Once the porn is over, ravage each other! 45. Internet Porn – Separately If you have more than one computer, each of you go to your own computer and watch porn online. Then meet up and have sex. 46. Internet Porn – Together Watching internet porn together is very exciting because you can select scenes and movies together and sit close to each other while you are searching. 47. Problems Sometimes problems can arise from adding porn to your sexual encounters. These problems can generally be addressed quickly. 48. Changing Your Mind If once you start the porn you realize that it is too uncomfortable for you, explain your feelings to your partner and turn the porn off right away. 49. Changing His/Her Mind Your partner may change his or her mind after the porn has already started. Allow your partner to turn off the porn and then ask what was bothering him or her. 50. Distraction Sometimes porn can be too distracting for the couple. If this happens, watch the porn first and then have sex.

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FRAGRANCES TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Sandalwood Known for its musky aroma, sandalwood is an aphrodisiac from India that's great as incense, cologne, an essential oil, or a candle. Remember that a little goes a long way though, so don't add too many sandalwood sources to your home. 2. Musk Perhaps it's something from our primal days, but musky scents instantly turn on both men and women. You can find these kinds of fragrances in your local retailers or in soaps and washes. 3. Plain soap If you don't want to spend any money on a high priced fragrance, you might want to try good old plain soap. This clean smell is certain to make your temperature rise between the sheets. 4. Cookies Studies have continued to show that men are more turned on by the smell of cookies than by anything else. In fact, many fragrance sellers are making products with this very scent. Or you can always bake some cookies to turn your partner on. The scent lingers in the house for hours. 5. Coconut If the thought of a beach turns you on, why not try a little coconut body oil or lotion to help take you away. Try using coconut bath gel in a shower for two to make your island fantasies come true. 6. Vanilla Men also seem to be turned on by the innocent scent of vanilla on their partner. By wearing just a spritz of the scent behind your ears, ladies, you will have him coming after you the second you walk in the door. 7. Patchouli A stronger scent, patchouli is highly erotic when used in massage oils and releases a strong scent that fills the nose as well as the mind. You can find patchouli often mixed with other scents as well or you can mix it with your favorite fragrances for a unique blend. 8. Ylang ylang Like patchouli, ylang ylang is very powerful by itself, but when mixed with sandalwood or vanilla, it's very sensual on the skin or in the air. Try giving your partner a foot rub with this hot fragrance.

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9. Jasmine When you want something simpler, jasmine is an easy scent that smells good on most people and is liked by most people. Try a jasmine scented candle in your bedroom or perhaps in the bathroom next to a bubble bath or whirlpool bath. 10. Rose There's a reason why roses are so popular – their scent. When you fill a room with rose petals, you will make a hot setting for you and your partner, without having to put forth a lot of effort. 11. On the skin Fragrances can be put on your skin to intensify their effect. The hotter you get, the more fragrance will be released into the air. Start with smaller doses of fragrance first on the hot points of your skin – neck, wrists, between breasts, and ankles. 12. On your clothes To start intoxicating your partner before you hit the bedroom, try spraying some fragrance into the air and then walk through the spray. The scent will stay on your clothes and linger whenever you are in the room or as you leave the room. 13. Choosing the right candles There are hundreds of choices in fragrant candles, so how do you choose just one? Start by smelling the candle when you're in the store and if you like it, buy a small version of it. Try it at home to see just how strong and erotic the scent is. Happy with it? Buy the bigger sizes in bulk. 14. Incense bliss You don't have to be a hippie to enjoy incense. Try a few sticks of scents that sound good to you, then light them and blow out the flame to release the scent into the air. You will need to be careful with these if your partner is sensitive to smells. They can be quite strong. It can help to light a stick of incense in the room for a few minutes and then remove it. 15. Cedarwood A very masculine scent to try in your home is cedarwood. It's earthy and natural rugged smell is a great turn on for women that like the outdoors and their men rough and tough. 16. Sage Sage fragrances can be a bit strong for some people, but when mixed with lighter scents, they can be quite arousing. Simply light a leaf of sage and then blow it out, trailing the scent around the room. It will linger for a long time, so you can do this well before your partner is around. 17. Check your scent 131

A lot of people don't realize that everyone has a different body chemistry, thus they will react to certain fragrances differently, causing them to smell different when put on their skin. When you're trying a new cologne or perfume, place it on your wrist and then walk around for a few hours. Smell your wrist again to see if you still like the smell. 18. Lilac Flowers tend to be popular fragrances because of their simplicity. Try adding a little lilac essential oil to a bottle of unfragranced lotion a great body rub lotion for your partner. 19. Lily of the Valley If you're looking to have simple scents in your bedroom at all times, think about growing lily of the valley outside of your bedroom window. The light clean scent will come through the window with the morning breeze, causing an erotic scent to wash over you as you sleep. 20. Sweat Most of us wouldn't think of sweat as erotic, but it is. Women are attracted to men that are musky smelling after they work out – they just can't help it. But that doesn't mean that men should stop showering either. Just try to grab your partner when you're a little sweaty to see how she responds. 21. Deodorant Most of us use deodorant to mask odors instead of to create them. But there are many deodorants these days that have certain cologne and perfume scents added. This will help increase your personal fragrance. 22. Layering scents When you use cologne, deodorant, and aftershave that all contains that same fragrance, you are layering fragrances. This allows your body to always have some source of your liked fragrance in order to heat up with your body temperature and be released into the air. 23. In your bedroom Make sure that your bedroom always smells perfect for sex by using linen spray when you make the bed. These light fragrances will make your bed feel fresh and new every time you jump into it. 24. Not too much But there is such a thing as going overboard with cologne or perfume. If you're afraid that you may have overdone it, try using rubbing alcohol on the places where you sprayed the scent on your body. This will help to reduce the overall fragrance. 25. Drawer sachets If you just want to add a little fragrance to your intimate things, you can place a small bag of herbs or dried flowers into your dresser. It will gently 132

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SEXY WARDROBE TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Don't forget your suit. A sexy bathing suit can be the next best thing to being naked for your partner in public. For women, find something that's flattering for your body and men, try to find something that's revealing and comfortable at the same time. 2. New lingerie saves the day There's nothing like some saucy lingerie to spice up the sex life. By adding a new piece every now and then, modeling it for your partner, you will make sure that sex is always on his mind. 3. Pick your partner's outfit If you're interested in spicing up a date or a weekend, try buying each other outfits that you want each other to wear. Not only will you get some insight into your partner's tastes, but you'll also get to fulfill their fantasy of you. 4. Dress up for no good reason at all You don't need a reason to look good for your partner and whenever you do, it shows that you care about them and what they think. Try dressing up as though you're going out for dinner, even if you're just sitting at home watching movies. It's guaranteed to get their attention. 5. Tight can be good Instead of worrying about what your body looks like, why not embrace the body you have by wearing tighter clothes? This shows your partner that you're comfortable with your body, which is a strong indicator that you're ready for sex too. Try a tight top or a tight pair of jeans. 6. High heels always make an impact When you wear high heels, it causes your legs to look longer and leaner, which is a turn on for most any man. By stepping out in some high heels every now and then, you will get your partner's complete and undivided attention. 7. Show me some skin Try showing a little more skin than you're used to when you want to seduce your partner. This might mean wearing a shirt that's unbuttoned a little further than you would normally have it. Or you might wear a skirt that's a little shorter. 8. Try a little leather The raw smell of leather is hard to resist and almost guaranteed to be sexy. Try wearing a little leather for your partner, whether it's pants, a vest, or even chaps. The smell alone can turn on some folks. 134

9. Why not try a costume? With a costume, you can be someone else for a day – and that might just be the perfect remedy for your sex life. Try dressing up for role playing or ask your partner what they might like to see you wear. Head to the costume shop together to pick out some sexy attire. 10. Ditch the sweatpants While your life may be busy, if you want it to be sexy, you need to step away from the sweatpants and other loose clothing in your life. Try showing off your body for your partner, even if it's just in a pair of jeans and a t-shirt. By getting rid of the 'easy' clothes, you'll turn them on more often than not. 11. Clean your clothes This should be a no brainer, but when you're trying to seduce your partner, it's time to make sure your clothes are clean and fresh. If you've just worked out, change into something else. If you've been in a smoky bar, change into something else. 12. Get out the iron Now, you don't have to iron everything in order to increase your sex appeal, but it does show that you care about how you look to your partner. Try ironing your dress shirts and your regular shirts in order to show just how sexy you can look when you're all cleaned up. 13. The details do matter Even if it doesn't seem like a big deal, the details of your outfit will matter to your partner. This means you should make sure your buttons are lined up, your outfit matches and your tie is straight. Take time to look at yourself before you walk out the door. 14. Feel good fabrics Dressing for sex means finding fabrics that feel good when you touch them. Things like cotton, velvet, and cashmere are all wonderful on the body and will make your partner want to touch you more. Try feeling various fabrics before you buy them. 15. Try on the clothes you buy There's nothing like getting home and realizing that nothing you own fits you the way you want it to. To make sure you're showing off your sexy side at all times, you need to make sure you're trying on the clothes you are buying before they come home with you. 16. Add sexy touches to your outfit Even the most boring of outfits can be made sexier. If you're wearing a business suit, you can add a lacy camisole underneath it, for example. Or you can wear stockings with lines down the back. Men can wear shirts that are just a little tighter under their sports jackets. 135

17. Nice shoes really matter Sexy needs to be a head to toe endeavor. So, get rid of the flip flops and the tired old work boots when you're with your partner and slip into something a bit more refined and sexy. 18. A v-neck answer Whether you're a man or a woman, a v-neck shirt is a great way to draw attention to your face and to your chest. And that's just sexy. V-necks create a line from the 'v' to the neck and face, often highlighting delicate features at the same time. 19. Accessorize Whether you add a nice tie, some cufflinks or a pair of earrings, you need to accessorize your outfit to really 'sex' it up. Try wearing delicate pieces of jewelry or a nice watch. These items will make you look pulled together and often richer than you may actually be. 20. Guys can have hot drawers too While most of the attention for sexy underwear is given to women's lingerie, guys can have just as much fun with their briefs and boxers as well. Try wearing a tighter boxer brief or even something more risqué like a g-string or a thong. 21. Look at yourself You aren't vain if you take some time to look at yourself in the mirror. Before you head out on that hot date, look at your outfit and your face to see if you look the way you want to look. If not, change. 22. Try a new trend, but not every one It's easy to get caught up in the idea that you need to try every trend in order to be 'cool' for your partner. But that can just look overdone. Try one trend at a time to see what your partner says and if they respond positively, you'll know what to buy the next time. 23. Pay attention Some people complain that they just don't know what to wear to impress their partner or significant other. But if you simply stop to listen to what your friends and family have told you in the past, you'll find out what looks good on you. Hear a compliment? Pay attention to what they say. 24. Try going commando Just once, try going without underwear when you're out on a hot date. Even if you don't tell them what you've done, you will feel sexier and it will show. Of course, then you can tell them. 25. Play up your best assets

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We're not all going to look like supermodels or celebrities, so it's up to you to find out which assets are your best ones and play them up. Maybe it's your chest or your butt, maybe it's your hair or your neck – whatever it is, find your best feature and make sure to show it off. 26. Talk to a trusted friend If you really have no idea what you should wear to be sexy for your partner, talk to a friend that you trust. They will be able to help you find sexy outfits to wear and they'll be honest about what you shouldn’t ever wear too.

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SEX IN THE CAR TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Being safe Sex in the car should be limited to foreplay only when the car is actually moving. Anything else is a bit too risky and might get you in trouble with your local police officer. 2. When a man is driving Try stoking the penis through his pants as he is driving down the road. Rub up and down the insides of his legs to get him aroused and ready to pull over. 3. When a woman is driving Try rubbing her crotch area. If she's wearing a skirt, that's easier for access, so if you're thinking about getting frisky in the car, ask her to wear a skirt for you. 4. Going down Men and women can both be pleasured while they are driving, though it should be limited to quiet stretches of road if at all possible. Try going down on your partner when they're driving at night to really end the night on a high note. 5. How to park with your partner If you ever parked in high school, it's time to try parking again to rev up your sex life. Try parking at the back of a deserted neighborhood or somewhere out in the country to be completely alone. Lock all the doors and start making out like you used to do. 6. You need more room When you're having sex in the car, you're going to need more room if you want to be comfortable. Try pushing the seats down as far as you can to create a sort of bench for your sexual fun. You might also want to forgo the backseat as it's usually too cramped. 7. Try the front seat thrust One position for having sex in the car is to have the man sit in the seat while the woman sits on top of him, facing him. This will help the both of get a lot of face to face time as well as thrusting action. 8. Take sex outside of the car Instead of just having sex in the car, you can look at the hood as a great place to have some fun. Try leaning your partner against the front hood for either doggy style or missionary sex on wheels. 9. Put her legs in the air 138

You can also lay your partner on the car and then take her legs and put them on your shoulders for maximum penetration. This on the car position is hot and can even be done in your garage if you want. 10.Strong enough? Try putting your partner stomach down on the front of the car and then enter her from behind. She will need to hold onto something, but you will grab her legs to make sure she's supported. 11.69 miles per hour If you can slide into the backseat, why not try some 69 action? With either you or your partner on their backs, try some oral sex fun in the backseat. This is much easier to do in the car than any other sexual act. 12.Sit on my lap You can also have your partner sit on your lap as you're sitting in a front or back seat. She can bounce up and down on you as you're in a parked position. Never try this when driving. 13.Surprise your partner If you're looking to shock your partner and make them see your naughty side, why not leave a vibrator in the glove compartment? When they're least expecting it, you can pull it out and start pleasuring them as they're driving or sitting next to you. The only trick with this is that you need to hide it well so that no one finds it. 14.Pull over now When you're both feeling aroused, why not simply pull over to the side of the road and have some sex? The more deserted the road, the better. Just pull over, do your thing and then keep driving. 15.Bring a blanket Because your car probably isn't as clean as you'd like it to be, surprise your partner by bringing a blanket for comfort and privacy. You can throw it on the seats or the floor mats so that you're not grinding in any dirt or gravel into each other. 16.Doggy in the window You can do doggy style sex in the car if you get into the backseat. Just have your female partner get on her hands and knees in the back and then enter her from behind. You can also try this position from the front seat. 17.Go to a rest stop Park far away from anyone else in your local rest stop at night and have sex. It's hot and there's always the chance that you'll get caught, so it's exciting. But in the dark of night, you get a little privacy. 18.Don't take your clothes off 139

If you want to maintain some modesty, try having sex in your car with all your clothes on, except for your pants. Women, wear a skirt without panties and men just unzip your pants. This will be hot and steamy before you know it. 19.Role playing trouble You can really spice up car sex by playing 'cop' and 'bad guy.' Have one person masturbate or do something else that's naughty. And the other person will 'arrest' the person and tell them they can get out of the ticket if they just have sex with them. 20.Play with yourself If you're headed out on a long road trip, you might want to be the saucy partner and start masturbating when your partner is driving. While you don't want to distract them too much, it's certainly a great way to get them to pull over on the side of the road. 21.Play sex games Tell each other that you will do various sexual things at certain points of your road trip. For example, when you get off at an exit, you have to get off too. If you come to a certain city, you have to 'cum' too. 22.Make everything dirty To heighten the car trip, you might want to find everything dirty about everything you do in the car. Talk about your partner's stick shift or her headlights. Try to be as sexy as you can, it will make you all the more hungry for a side trip. 23.Where are we going? If you want to make the trip more interesting, you can try blindfolding your partner (the one that's not driving, of course) to make them unaware of where you are going. Touch them and fondle them to really make them aroused. Because they won't be able to see who sees them, it's all the more exciting. 24.Take a piece of clothing off You can take one piece of your partner's clothing off as you are driving to start making them aroused. For women, you might want to have her lift up her shirt as you're driving and men can slide down their pants. This is best done on the person that's not driving. 25.Keep it slow When you're going for sex in your car, you need to slowly build things up, especially when you're on a long trip. Slowly rub your partner until they start to quicken their breathing and then stop for a while. This will make them aroused more and more with every passing mile. 26.Take sexy pictures 140

Bring a Polaroid camera or a disposable camera with you when you're driving. Whenever you stop for some sexual fun, try taking pictures to make you more turned on. Polaroids are best, but developing the pictures later is hot too. 27.Lock the doors While it seems like common sense, many people don't lock the doors and end up getting a rude interruption. Before you start going at it, make sure you're all locked up and in a secluded area. 28.Listen to bass filled music at a high volume When bass of some music tracks thumps, it can cause your whole car to vibrate. As you're driving along, this is not only going to get you in the mood, but if you start rubbing your partner at the same pace, that's going to get you both aroused very quickly. 29.Bend over the seat Guys, have your partner lean on the front passenger seat with the seat down as far as possible. From this position, you can enter her from behind and get the maximum friction on her g-spot. 30.Rent a car to do it in If you're feeling particularly feisty, why not rent a limo or an SUV to have some fun in? If you have a smaller car at home, renting a larger car for a road trip is not only practical, but also a great way to have some feisty sex. Try something that has an ample backseat and lay down a blanket. 31.Want to ramp up the excitement? If you're more of an adventurous couple, you might want to try sex in your car when it's light out. You should just head to a deserted beach parking lot or a shopping center parking lot far from the cameras and the other cars. There's always the chance that you'll get caught, but that's kind of the point, right? 32. Turn off the car's engine If you're having sex in the car, you need to make sure it's turned off if you're going to be inside for a long time. Carbon monoxide can build up in the car and cause you to pass out or have other serious consequences. You don't want to ruin your night with a hospital trip. 33.Tie your partner down To be slight voyeuristic without being too obvious, tie your partner's hands together when they're sitting in the passenger seat. They will be seen by everyone around them and you can touch them to get them even more excited. 34.Put up some curtains

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In some states, having sex in your car is illegal, so try to put something up in the windows that will block you from the world. Even just putting your clothes in the windows and rolling them up is better than nothing. 35.Get on top If you can be in a private place, why not have sex on top of your car? You can do it in any position and even look up at the stars if you're out in the middle of nowhere.

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SEXY VACATION TIPS & TECHNIQUES 1. Surprise each other What's better than going on vacation? Going on vacation and not knowing that you are. Try surprising your partner with a romantic getaway for two. Plan everything without their knowing. 2. Blindfold your partner As you are driving to this romantic getaway, make sure you blindfold your partner to make it all the more exciting. This way, they won't have any way to find out where you're going and where they're going to end up. 3. Pack everything ahead of time To ensure the surprise stays a surprise, be sure to pack all the clothes for your partner ahead of time as well as anything else they might need along the way. That way, you can just get in the car and drive. 4. Do it once a year That is, go on vacation once a year. Every couple needs to get away from it all from time to time. Make sure you're getting away at least once a year on some surprise sexy trip. 5. Short is fine too A romantic vacation doesn't have to be weeks long in order to be fun. Just a few days away from the world is enough to recharge your sexual batteries and have some fun with your partner. Try leaving on a Friday afternoon and coming back on Sunday afternoon. 6. Have treats waiting in the room When you arrive at your romantic getaway, make sure you send ahead all the goodies you might want for the trip – foods, wines, etc. Have these left in your room so there's no reason for the two of you to leave. 7. Try a bed and breakfast If you like charming, quiet, and quaint, a bed and breakfast can be the perfect romantic and sexy setting for you. These small lodges will give you a lot of privacy, but also a comfortable room that feels more like home than a cheap motel. 8. Throw some flowers on the bed Even though it seems clichéd, spreading flowers all over the bed is certain to turn on your partner. If you can't do it yourself, have the hotel take care of this before you arrive. 9. Drape a scarf over the lights

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Since most hotels don't have a dimmer switch in their rooms, you will want to drape a few light scarves over the lights to create a sultry mood. This darker room is perfect for a sexy adventure. 10. Bring some sexy music If you want to drown out any noises you might make or just simply enhance the sexy mood, try bringing your own sexy music with you. This will help you and your partner forget about the rest of the world and focus on each other. 11. Spray cologne or perfume on the light bulbs By just adding a short spray of your partner's favorite cologne or perfume onto the lights in your hotel room, you will fill the room with a warm, sexy scent. Be sure to use as little as possible or else you may also overwhelm the room. 12. Sexy outfits are a must Since you're getting away from the ordinary, why not bring sexier outfits that you would never wear at home? Try bringing something that's a little dressier, shows a little more skin, or is a bit tighter. 13. Alcohol anyone? Since alcohol can be expensive when you head out of town, try bringing your own wine and other spirits with you. Along with a set of glasses, you can toast to each other in the comfort and privacy of your own room. 14. Bubble bath bliss Feeling relaxed is the name of the game when it comes to a sexy vacation. Try soaking with your partner in the bath tub with or without bubbles. You can also find many hotel rooms that come with their own whirlpool spas, so be sure to ask for that upgrade. It's worth it. 15. Massage oil anyone? Bringing along your favorite bottle of massage oil will open you both up to fun and exciting times on your sexy vacation. Try using oils with sandalwood or musk in them. 16. Turn off the alarm clock Many people don't realize this, but there's nothing more aggravating than hearing the alarm clock go off in the middle of your sexy vacation. When you get to your room, make sure you turn the alarm clock off. 17. Breakfast in bed Call ahead to see if the hotel has room service and then order breakfast in bed for each morning you wake up. By calling ahead, it's like a surprise for your partner and a reason to not get out of bed just yet. 18. Room service

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If the hotel has room service, make sure to use it. Sure, it's expensive, but if you don't want to change into clothes or you want to stay in your room until the last possible moment, it's worth every penny. 19. Ask for a quiet room When you want to escape away with your partner, you will want to have the most privacy you can, right? When checking in, talk with the desk clerk about getting a room far away from other rooms if you can. In most cases, they will be more than willing to accommodate. 20. Jacuzzi If the hotel offers you a Jacuzzi in the room, take it. There's nothing sexier than sitting in a hot tub that's jetting water along your muscles. Even if there aren't hot tubs advertised, it never hurts to ask. 21. Scented candles fill the air Bringing lightly scented candles into your room can further enhance the sexy mood you're trying to create. Everyone looks good in candlelight and they will help to envelop the senses. Just make sure you've tried the candles before you head on your trip to make sure they're not too overpowering. 22. Sunrise Heading outside before the rest of the world wakes up is a great way to start your vacation day. Hold your partner as you watch the sun rise from a remote location and then go back to the room to warm each other up. 23. Sunset Walking as the sun goes down is a great way to wind down from a day of vacationing and get you both in the mood for some late night fun. The darker it gets, the more touchy-feely you can get with your partner as well. 24. Try a new activity And we don't just mean sex. When you're off on a vacation with your partner, try to do something new together. It will bring you closer and help you both to be more in the mood later in the day. 25. Take turns planning your trips Though it's fun to be the one surprised, it's also fun to be the one doing the surprising. Try to take turns planning your romantic getaways so that you're both pleasantly surprised and aroused. 26. Try romantic cities Paris isn't just called the City of Love and romance for nothing. When you're planning your sexy vacation, why not try out some of the romantic hotspots around the world? Why not try to find out what the fuss is about? 27. Find a room with late check out

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Because you'll want to make your romantic vacation last as long as possible and you don't want to be rushing around to get things ready to leave, find a hotel with a late checkout time. This will ensure that you're not rushing around…just yet. 28. Room with a view There's nothing sexier than being able to see a beautiful skyline or a nature setting from your window. Talk to the hotel desk to see if there are any picturesque views available. It might cost more, but it will certainly be worth the extra payment. 29. Find out about sexy restaurants Being as prepared as you can be is a great way to ensure your vacation stays sexy. Call ahead to find out where the most romantic restaurants are - and whether they have private table areas for some private fun. 30. Only do one thing When you're on vacation, you shouldn't feel like you need to be doing a lot in order to get the most out of your time. You're supposed to be relaxing and having fun, remember? Instead, promise each other that you'll only plan one thing each day that you HAVE to do. 31. Try a tropical setting Heading to a beachside resort can be the perfect setting for romantic success. There's nothing like sunning during the day and rubbing lotion on each other at night. 32. Try something colder But if you're more interested in snow covered mountains and cozy lodges, try something that's tucked away in the mountains for your romantic getaway. You're certain to find a lot of ways to stay warm. 33. Avoid high crowd times While it might not seem like a big deal, avoiding Spring Break and other high crowd times is going to help you keep your romantic mood. Instead of listening to wild parties, you'll be able to relax and pay attention to each other. 34. Check their availability But a surprise vacation can only go so far. You will want to check your partner's availability first before you commit to a vacation. You don't want to overstep any of their important meetings or assignments. Talk with their work friends to see what you can schedule. 35. Gifts are always good No matter what your partner tells you, a small gift is always great for getting them in the romantic mood. And the more sexually flavored it is, the more sexy the mood.

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36. Relax Even though you might go into the vacation with the best of intentions, that still means that you need to relax and have fun along the way. Take some time to relax when you're on this romantic getaway. Don't try to do a lot or achieve a lot. Just be with each other. 37. Pamper your partner While some guys might scoff at spa treatments, once they try a deep tissue massage or a mud bath, they can be hooked. Why not try a few treatments together as a couple? You will be able to enjoy each other's company and then show off your polished bodies to each other later. 38. Take the train A very romantic and sexy setting for a vacation is on a train. You don't need to worry about anything but watching the scenery go by. Reserve a sleeper car and you'll have complete privacy for your trip. 39. Find a secluded shower In some tropical resorts, you can get a hotel room with an outdoor shower in the back. This is a great place to have a little sexy fun with your partner. Plus there's nothing sexier than feeling like you're bathing in the open air. 40. Be a tourist There's nothing more of a turn on than learning about a new place. By simply taking the time to walk around your new location, you will begin to feel excited while also becoming more excited about each other.

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